Exploring the Emotions of Black Men With Keith Dent & Isaiah Gaymon
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- Опубліковано 2 лип 2024
- Welcome back to Across Generations. In this episode we uncover the intricate dynamics of modern dating and relationships, reflecting on how technology and social media have transformed the landscape. From traditional dating methods to the complexities of swipe culture, we explore how women have adapted their approaches and the implications for genuine connections. This conversation touches on the emotional suppression faced by men and the importance of self-work in fostering meaningful relationships. We also address the challenges Black men encounter, the impact of societal expectations, and the necessity of safe spaces for emotional expression.
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Great Stuff. I appreciated the opportunity to be one of the first Brothas on the show.
Job well done..your responses lined up well with your generation. Thank you for sharing your experiences with Across Generations viewers.
@@dablob68 Thank You very much. You just hope your responses can also relate with the younger viewers, too.
It is enriching to listen to articulate gentlemen from diverse generations and backgrounds.
As a black man I don’t want to be a trope. I don’t want to be “tough”. I don’t want to be your “man dingo”. I just want to be me and comfortable in my skin.
Shoutout to the podcast 💙
When he said "Black men have feelings", i got chills. People hear that but i'm not sure everyone understands. Super interesting conversation! My opinion is slightly different on some of these issues (Gen Z😅) but just the platform for this discussion is amazing.
I'm so glad you took this opportunity to bring men on. They have a safe space to share 😊. I really enjoyed this podcast Tiff!
Thank you so much for the opportunity! @lovestrong54 it was a pleasure getting to know you. Had so much more to say, but this was awesome. I appreciate you, Tiffany.
My favorite quote from Dr. Henry Louis Gates Jr. “If there are 40 million black Americans, then there are 40 million ways to be black,”
I’ll never forget the comfort that I felt arriving to my first assignment after boot camp and finding a handful of minorities mostly Mexican/Texican. The two of them closest to my age were instantly bringing me into the friend circle, but even the older ones were cool. Then one day I had that comfort and connection shattered by one of them calling me out at the lunch table for not talking “black” enough. He phrased it as a question, appearing curious, yet also seeking confirmation from the individuals seated at the table. That stuck with me for a long time, as I moved through my 20’s trying to play up to a character that people expected me to be. After reading Black authors like Baldwin, expanding my understanding of what it means to be Black in America became the pivotal factor that ultimately solidified my sense of identity.
I watched this episode by accident and was so glad i did. Hearing these men discuss their experiences was so eye opening and perspective shifting. I pride myself on being a more democratic parent of black boys, but i peeped that i say some of the same things to my boys that these gentlemen say stifled their emotional expression. "Stop cryin, fix ya face". Just goes to show that even when you are intentional, progressive, and seeking to break generational curses, there are still subconscious blind spots. This was an amazing episode. Thank you all!❤
Older black male here age 62 had gay friends and acquaintances. And Gay doesn't mean soft.
You couldn't have chosen better as the first men to appear on this channel. They need to come back.
Very good discussion!
Great discussion
I absolutely enjoy your shows! Both this one and native land!! Such great content, guests, and information!
I agree..I love both shows NLP and Across Generations..
Great discussion. Shout out to all our brothers no matter what generation. Thanks!!!
Awesome once again Tiff, when the young man said his mother would be
head over heels for his wife because of the way she loves him. That's was good and so refreshing, he loves her aww man.
Please get the brothers in the chair more.
#LOVEUS
Great Discussion! Black People Understanding each other across the spectrum.
This was such a good discussion. I really enjoyed hearing the Brothers speak!
Well done gentlemen. Ms. Cross, keep the Black Men in the Room conversations coming.
I have 5 brothers and 4 of them fathers.
They are all great wonderful black fathers living with their wives and children!
They are very involved in nurturing their children and raising their children!
They are out there !
Another great show..I liked how the younger gentleman honored his mom, wife and community with his responses. He had an old soul, yet he was relevant. The more seasoned gentleman addressed his generation well. Tiffany your team selected two great guest to address this topic. Can't wait until next week..
🎯 Key points for quick navigation:
00:43 *Absent black father myth debunked*
01:25 *Active black fatherhood stats*
06:14 *Black men's emotions*
22:14 *Parenting challenges evolve.*
23:59 *Learning new generational slang.*
26:18 *Navigating parent-child challenges.*
32:59 *Evolution of black men's fashion.*
40:45 *Changing views on gay black men.*
42:51 *Diversity in acceptance*
44:24 *Changes in dating*
50:22 *Intimacy and self-work*
01:03:54 *Eye contact in dating.*
01:04:36 *Discussing issues with black men fathering multiple children outside of relationships.*
01:06:00 *Importance of emotional involvement with children.*
01:07:38 *Impact of father's presence in the household.*
01:08:45 *Men marrying women different from their mothers.*
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I love Black men. It’s ok to use your full range of emotions that’s why God gave them to us. Also, I wholeheartedly agree with these single mothers raising these black sons not all but a majority acts out their trauma on the little boy that looks just like his dad but is defenseless. We have to let boys and men express their self’s.
Just conversation! Thank you for allowing Black Men to share their thoughts on #ACrossGenPodcast. I really enjoyed listening to their opinions.
This was so good and so timely !!! More black men on the show please.
Great conversation!!!! Another conversation that matters!
Excellent podcast
Amazing content!!! 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
Thank you Tiffany for doing this show highlighting the male perspective
Great episode! Yo', a lot of brothers needed see and hear this one, for real.
This was such a great conversation. I appreciated the perspectives. 😊❤
Great show!!
Really enjoyed it
Love this❤❤❤❤
Great show
Have to check you on something Tiff... I've had cross bags, clutch, etc since high school and I'm 58 so we have been doing this for some time now. It seem to me that everyone is now catching up to us fashion forward folk...LOL. With the major designers in the mail bag business now make it all acceptable now. I did get talked about because I carried a male bag from my friends all the time but now they are wearing them.
I am at work and my device does not give the option to edit after sending... I have a few parts of speech errors. Apologies. Multitasking too... Lol.
The narrative of absent black father came from none other than yours truly OPRAH WINFREY/ The Color Purple!!
That portrayal of absence fathers was done purposely to give negative picture of the Black man.
I love the conversation. So men older than you have always carry a bag. That’s not new. Nail painting is a no for me. I knew of the gay people in my community.
the conversation about "snow" takes place in 53:46
With fashion, we have evolved to understand that clothes are being de-gendered so that clothes are just clothes. It's a piece of fabric, not a gender.
53:47 your welcome 😉😉
You early in the game.
I apologize not knowing the sur names that match, but in real time the younger man did not address directly the emotion he might feel in being overlooked and how finding his partner might left him in a position that is different than large numbers of other Black men... Responding, with a solution of expanding the" pool" obscures the opportunity to relate to himself while showing that to the audience or creating more empathy for Black men. A few minutes before he talked about feelings then he went right for offering a come back of advice... That is a tactic of not being vulnerable and that is what we do as men and women. We use of intellect to solve problems rather than sit with the uncomfortable or say.." I am not sure... I do not know..." It might be unconscious but it spurs subtle acceptance of Black men can never be in position where they can rest... Invulnerability intermingled with Black excellence or Black community have a pause or the cord needs ritual severing... I hold these beautiful Black, honest men in empathy. Forgive me, if you feel offended, but thank you for your presence today.
And I'm from Seattle the capital of white women... still can't do it....
I was stationed in Seattle for 4 years only one out of the 7 women I dated was black. It was brief, because I got the feeling that I wasn’t the only one. Sometimes a couple weeks would go by between me actually seeing her, so I started to fill my schedule with other dates… and I got caught sending a reply to the wrong one. 😢
Spanking was so we would stay alive outside of the home. If kids acted up outside the home they would end up like Emmett Till. We didn't have the luxury of kids expressing their feelings. We didn't want them speaking up outside home.
@edgaston2242 THIS THEORY OF BLACK PEOPLE BEATING THEIR CHILDREN TO STAY ALIVE OUTSIDE THE HOUSE MAKES ZERO SENSE. Evidenced by your own example of #EmmittTill being murdered outside his house. Clearly being beaten at home DID NOT PROTECT HIM FROM OUTSIDE HARM.
Also thousands of Black people get murdered by police everyday SO CLEARLY BEING BEATEN AT HOME STOPPED NOTHING.
So that theory is unscientific and is just a weak ass excuse for Black parents to abuse their children with impunity because they don’t wanna step their parenting game up.