Women Are Checking Out Men All The Time | Jordan Peterson

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  • @mind.upgrading
    @mind.upgrading  11 місяців тому +64

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    • @soldieroftoughlove7635
      @soldieroftoughlove7635 11 місяців тому

      ITS CALLED SHIT TESTING AND IT MAKES WOMEN LOOK EVIL.

    • @Proj.A.Z
      @Proj.A.Z 11 місяців тому

      I love Dr. Petersen…one of the smartest, arguably one of the most influential role models of boys and MEN today…
      Yet, the biggest S!MP and ideologue that has walked the Earth playing his candy-a$$ed washed up one time slave of socialist academia to become a better slave to the elites selling his “return to yeh plantation” b/c life is so great being a married Beta-Bux mile for soy-iety!
      Thank you Dr. Petersen for your take on masculinity but listening to advice of a married (plantation slave) man is like today’s women taking advice from their washed up DG fellow older C.C riders in the Femcel Consensus!

    • @cosmictreason2242
      @cosmictreason2242 11 місяців тому +5

      You can test this by observing him around kids. If aren't smart enough to figure that out and you provoke him yourself, you deserve to be alone

    • @kintsugi2262
      @kintsugi2262 10 місяців тому +3

      full video link plz .. no link is working

    • @WhyHighC
      @WhyHighC 10 місяців тому

      @@kintsugi2262 check mine

  • @angelnemeth1831
    @angelnemeth1831 Рік тому +3146

    You learn a lot about someone by driving in a car with them during bad traffic. ...

  • @PhantomFilmAustralia
    @PhantomFilmAustralia Рік тому +10659

    Many men have all the patience in the world with children, but very little tolerance for provocative women.

    • @carlpanzram7081
      @carlpanzram7081 Рік тому +455

      That is a personal preference, but not related to a uncontrolled temper.
      Like, I have little Tolerance for annoying ADULTS in general. I don't explode in rage and react impulsive and irrationally, I just remove and avoid them.
      The thing that is important is not "how tolerant are you towards people not respecting your boundaries", it's "how in control are you over your actions and emotions"
      Some fully grown adult that is being an asshole is not exactly like a child not knowing what it does and needing patient guidance.

    • @ThatsSpectacular
      @ThatsSpectacular Рік тому +54

      Yes, but do you see… that’s _appropriate._

    • @hwway4488
      @hwway4488 Рік тому +316

      Little girls can become combative or assertive young women, a man who will hit a woman definitely shouldn’t have a daughter

    • @ThatsSpectacular
      @ThatsSpectacular Рік тому +162

      @@hwway4488 That’s terrific moralizing. Why did I go to school and study moral law? Swap the genders and see if you agree with the same statement.

    • @hwway4488
      @hwway4488 Рік тому +158

      @@ThatsSpectacular in fact I also believe that a woman who would hit or attack a man shouldn’t have a little boy to abuse either. Tell me more about where you went to school to study moral law and what you learned there?

  • @vivianc1006
    @vivianc1006 11 місяців тому +401

    I agree with that. I grow up with a violent/aggressive father and I don't want a man like that to be my partner either the father of my kids and I found one.

    • @GuardDog42
      @GuardDog42 7 місяців тому +4

      ​@@Nohandle369lol good question

    • @jaypaint4855
      @jaypaint4855 6 місяців тому +14

      @@Hexmod369people tend to be attracted subconsciously to people like their parents, so it does tend to happen generally.

    • @havoc3894
      @havoc3894 6 місяців тому +2

      Cap women usually find abusive husbands attractive if they have had an abusive father

    • @Antonocon
      @Antonocon 5 місяців тому +5

      @@havoc3894Or an abusive mother. My mother found my extremely abusive father very attractive , she even admired that he could beat up anyone. While her father was lovely. I also know girls from wonderful backgrounds with no abuse that find these type of violent guys attractive.

    • @loganblackwood2922
      @loganblackwood2922 5 місяців тому

      ​​@@Antonocon This isn't the norm. Almost all spousel abuse is intergenerational and in the majority of cases, the violence is both ways from both men and women. It is however the norm that women on average are attracted to dark triad personality types (bad boys) and on average they're more likely to be abusive.

  • @MrQuackalicious
    @MrQuackalicious 11 місяців тому +133

    This shit hit too dam hard. RIP my brother and sister. He took his rage out on my siblings, mother and I. I'm still on the ledge.

    • @shanksleroux1069
      @shanksleroux1069 10 місяців тому +15

      May god bless you brother ❤

    • @yohon5117
      @yohon5117 10 місяців тому +5

      Step back.. take the knowledge learn and bring wisdom into practice.

    • @MrQuackalicious
      @MrQuackalicious 9 місяців тому +15

      @@PsychicRenegadeTarot - suicide, but as a survivor I can tell you I'm constantly bouncing back and forth from the ledge, to crying, to laughing, to dreaming about killing him myself. He's no nonger allowed in my life though. I'm trying.

    • @gurg6950
      @gurg6950 9 місяців тому +22

      Dude man this broke my heart to read, Im so sorry for what you’ve went through. Just by reading your comment I can somehow tell you have a really good heart,
      Stick in there, It always gets better if you keep trying. But also, remember to relax because trying too hard can make matters worse; you might know this but if you don’t trust me, I’ve been there.
      Remember to try to enjoy yourself and breathe and live life, go to therapy and keep trying and trying and one day you’ll dig yourself out of this hole for good

    • @ayenadeng9334
      @ayenadeng9334 9 місяців тому +4

      ❤take courage

  • @rollen901
    @rollen901 Рік тому +800

    He’s not lying. Children are very good at testing a true man’s patience. But man are children the best to ever happen to me

    • @taplubambhos2869
      @taplubambhos2869 Рік тому +5

      What exactly would you say are some of those best things? I also want to start thinking about having kids

    • @ruslanl8844
      @ruslanl8844 Рік тому +25

      @@taplubambhos2869You learn to see the world through a different colored lens. I could have lived my whole life without children. The questions, love, and innocence are just something that raises a sense of duty in a man

    • @kingRukus39
      @kingRukus39 Рік тому +25

      @@taplubambhos2869 someone who loves you all the time for no reason. When you get home, they smile and jump on you, and are happy to see you no matter what. its great

    • @midnightperformance528
      @midnightperformance528 Рік тому +24

      ​@@taplubambhos2869it's like reliving your childhood but having the means to make it better. It's watching them grow and learn, it's pretty cool.

    • @rollen901
      @rollen901 Рік тому +18

      @@midnightperformance528 perfect. That’s the most perfect answer. That’s all true. Among many other things to love my children over that reliving the childhood you always wanted but could never have is so rewarding as a father. My kids are extremely happy. I wasn’t as a child. Makes me proud.

  • @BrookeDoesScience
    @BrookeDoesScience Рік тому +681

    A couple weeks into dating my husband, his new dishwasher overflowed with soap and within minutes his entire kitchen was covered in bubbles. He said, “oh no, I need some towels, let me soak this … I’m so sorry you had to see me get angry like that” when I tell you he had the calmest reaction I’ve ever seen (didn’t raise his voice, didn’t panic, just calmly assessed the situation and fixed it and labeled that as anger) I mean … I was instantly sold. Now I’m pregnant and have crazy hormones and he’s my perfectly calm helper

    • @abigailelizabeth4729
      @abigailelizabeth4729 11 місяців тому +25

      Haha love it! I assessed the temperament of my husband too. Congratulations on you pregnancy!!

    • @BrookeDoesScience
      @BrookeDoesScience 11 місяців тому +30

      @@abigailelizabeth4729 thank you! Yes the temperament assessment is very important. My temperament didn’t hit his expectations though so he had me work on it for a few years 🤣 but it’s good now

    • @ezekiel5687
      @ezekiel5687 11 місяців тому +8

      Best of luck with y'all's pregnancy.

    • @BrookeDoesScience
      @BrookeDoesScience 11 місяців тому +3

      @@clamsr8565 he has never given me any reason to not be overly appreciative though. He’s always trying his best and taking really good care of me. It’s wild to me. The other girls he dated didn’t like him because he was “too sweet” or they weren’t ready for husband material yet and I’m just in awe of how dumb women can be

    • @razterizer
      @razterizer 11 місяців тому +25

      Seems like a man for us other men to look up to. Congrats! 🎉

  • @charlesabernathy6331
    @charlesabernathy6331 11 місяців тому +387

    Best practice is to travel together.

  • @ant713m
    @ant713m 11 місяців тому +748

    True. No woman wants a violent man to father their kids. You want to know he will protect you from external threats, but never aggressive to you or children

    • @Helminthis
      @Helminthis 10 місяців тому +47

      This is an absolute lie😂

    • @nurgleschosen8145
      @nurgleschosen8145 10 місяців тому +38

      There are a lot of woman who have turned down guys because they weren't aggressive enough, granted these women have some sort of bad past usually but they end up in relationships where the guy wears a white wife beater shirt. So you know.

    • @ant713m
      @ant713m 10 місяців тому

      @nurgleschosen8145 no mentally sound woman wants a violent man. The mentally ill women are not the norm

    • @sanjaymajhi4428
      @sanjaymajhi4428 10 місяців тому +5

      Everything is true when it comes to women.

    • @vendeux
      @vendeux 10 місяців тому +13

      Unless the women has grown up with an abusive father or lack of a father, which accounts for millions of women

  • @georgeh5075
    @georgeh5075 Рік тому +2044

    I have virtually boundless patience for children, I have less patience for adults who act like children just to annoy me.

    • @randyholland2700
      @randyholland2700 Рік тому +9

      What is virtual patience?😅

    • @nobodywatchesnooby
      @nobodywatchesnooby Рік тому +21

      what if a kid kicked you in the shin because they can and refuse to listen

    • @vall182
      @vall182 Рік тому +12

      ​@@nobodywatchesnooby I suppose for most people it would depend on how old the kid is

    • @CareerSaver541
      @CareerSaver541 Рік тому +13

      @@nobodywatchesnoobywell I train muy Thai and condition my shins meaning there more dense and harder than everyday people it’ll hurt him more them more to hit me

    • @artemis7642
      @artemis7642 Рік тому +5

      ​@@nobodywatchesnooby As much as you wanna hit the kid, no matter who's the aggressor... unfortunately You'll be the one standing in court for "child abuse"
      So the smart move will be to either record his behaviour for your innocence... or to not get hit without attacking him (considering that kids are slower with short limbs compared to adults)

  • @sarahtheteacher
    @sarahtheteacher 11 місяців тому +1070

    If you want to get to know your partner, tell him NO and watch the reaction. Period.

    • @SistoActivitatemAtm
      @SistoActivitatemAtm 8 місяців тому +165

      If a guy asks u out and u "test" him by saying no, he's just going to leave. I don't think that's the ultimate test there...

    • @truth-om7iz
      @truth-om7iz 8 місяців тому +110

      @@SistoActivitatemAtmCan you try to think beyond the surface?

    • @SistoActivitatemAtm
      @SistoActivitatemAtm 8 місяців тому

      @@truth-om7izexcuse me? I will not fantasize about women's organs and bones etc, creep! Keep this kind of talk to yourself pal, really freaky shit...

    • @nrosa4051
      @nrosa4051 8 місяців тому +5

      So true !!!!

    • @jcrocks6698
      @jcrocks6698 8 місяців тому +81

      ​@@SistoActivitatemAtm "Know your partner" indicates that a relationship has already been established.

  • @Dalecasey884
    @Dalecasey884 11 місяців тому +20

    Always got to be able to say what’s on your mind and in 5 minutes be calm about it . Being able to control yourself is a blessing.

  • @daa6677
    @daa6677 6 місяців тому +3

    I don't have patience for adults that should know better, totally different with childs, old people or animals.

  • @ARTPLAYSGAMES86
    @ARTPLAYSGAMES86 Рік тому +17

    This makes me think 😅 my ex randomly freaked out one day and told me "what you wanna do? Hit me?"
    I was so damn confused and lost in why she would ask me that... I left the scene at the time and just sat on the couch thinking ..."what just happened!"
    Now this makes sense.

  • @jadegreen1554
    @jadegreen1554 Рік тому +252

    Absolutely. This man is great. Men wouldn’t like to hear that women need to do this, but it’s true. Even women don’t realize they do this, but they may indirectly do it. There needs to be the capacity for aggression but the absolute ability to control that. The control and even gentleness is necessary and makes makes that man very attractive and stand out from the rest. Kids and all humans around him are going to need that, and that man that can do that will excel.

    • @johnw9038
      @johnw9038 11 місяців тому +18

      How about those annoying women learn to control themselves? Women always test a man's temper just by being her. No need to make it harder on purpose

    • @apebass2215
      @apebass2215 10 місяців тому

      ​@@johnw9038you've got issues.

    • @dll7658
      @dll7658 10 місяців тому +1

      Well said!

    • @Amr_D
      @Amr_D 10 місяців тому

      test a woman by making them pay for their own meal. Equality goes both ways kiddo

    • @yoghurtania1025
      @yoghurtania1025 10 місяців тому

      ​@@johnw9038Uh oh Incel alert

  • @Ham_1982
    @Ham_1982 11 місяців тому +157

    It isn't intentional it's instinctive it's the game of life

    • @znoequeenvalentin8373
      @znoequeenvalentin8373 11 місяців тому +12

      Sadly some women do things like this intentionally, but even I've caught myself doing it unintentionally and wondered wtf I was doing lol

    • @staciegarcia7021
      @staciegarcia7021 11 місяців тому +1

      Same I dont get it i fasted, so I would have more control and dont argue with my husband but then outta no where I answered him with attitude and we were both confused, he is my world so I apologized quickly and he forgave me quickly but its still not ok this man does everything to treat me like his queen and yet I test him for no good reason God help me 😅😅

    • @otakuhunter4817
      @otakuhunter4817 11 місяців тому +1

      yes for the purpose jb said though it isn't absolute .An outlier is present where the motive is intentional ,riling up and breaking the stoic shell giving the dopamine burst of superiority for the inducer.

    • @epicmage82
      @epicmage82 11 місяців тому

      Sounds like an excuse to be an asshole.

    • @dll7658
      @dll7658 10 місяців тому

      Yes, yes, yes

  • @SandiegoRockstar
    @SandiegoRockstar 11 місяців тому +43

    Meanwhile, men with choices are filtering out provocative women.

  • @chanticleer0714
    @chanticleer0714 Рік тому +68

    That opening line had me thinking he was going in a very different direction. 😂

  • @SpaceForceRecon
    @SpaceForceRecon Рік тому +527

    Jordie, it’s called a “shit test” 😂

    • @mickethegoblin7167
      @mickethegoblin7167 Рік тому +22

      Which shouldn't be a thing

    • @joe-dirt697
      @joe-dirt697 Рік тому +17

      ​@@mickethegoblin7167it definitely should...
      It sure has saved me from ever having to change a nappy, btw it's easy to spot the best part of it all is they play a game but expect you to put full emotion into it knowing full well the scenario she is making out is a problem is nothing but a test ie (game)..
      Don't play games with your partner or you lose your partner Idgaf if your with child or not!
      In the wise words of rasputia from the movie "Norbit"
      ("But your with child"),
      (She farts)
      ("Boom, there's ya child")
      🤷😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣

    • @ZPS51491
      @ZPS51491 Рік тому +3

      OK Lahey

    • @COMOKKI
      @COMOKKI Рік тому +10

      These tests actually mostly happen if she's not fully into you so just skip her I'd recommend there are other's who love you more and of course you can love them in exchange also better

    • @SimowLabrim
      @SimowLabrim Рік тому +3

      yes pick-up artist community call it "shit test". it was introduced my Mystery and it's way more complex than this simplified explanation by Jordan. but it gives the idea!

  • @hilarymiles702
    @hilarymiles702 7 місяців тому +12

    My husband would say, "get a man drunk, and then careully watch his behavior".

    • @king_supreme1102
      @king_supreme1102 6 місяців тому +5

      You’ll see me laugh a lot and get too talkative with people then

  • @rebeccapauk4707
    @rebeccapauk4707 11 місяців тому +71

    We test men even when we don’t know we are!

    • @mustangmare
      @mustangmare 7 місяців тому +9

      Often subconsciously, "sh*t tests" happen in every early relationship. It goes both directions. Sometimes even on the first date! Light bulb went on for me recently that I totally did this. Had a great date, greater second date. Then two days later I totally did this. Was it fear of abandonment or subconscious doo doo test... then again, maybe it was a poor reaction to his own doo doo test too! It really cuts to the chase. Trigger deep seated reactions. Compatibility tests might be a better term than doo doo test.

    • @Gomba13
      @Gomba13 7 місяців тому +11

      Everybody tests everyone all the time without realizing it. Men do it too. The sky is blue.

    • @HypnotistKY
      @HypnotistKY 7 місяців тому

      Oh men do shit tests too. But it will be simple af. Hey I got family coming over. Don't have your tit out in front of my family while feeding. Hey can you make me something to eat? Or just seeing the way she talks to you. If she has more respect for her boss at work than her own man, that's a red flag

    • @jamescrosby3431
      @jamescrosby3431 6 місяців тому +31

      If you are testing a person solely to see what they do wrong rather than right then you are not ready for a relationship. Playing games is what children do.

    • @saint037
      @saint037 6 місяців тому

      its pretty annoying negl

  • @dianaaiello588
    @dianaaiello588 7 місяців тому +14

    I check a man out by how he treats his waitress , who he hangs with and how must he drinks 🍺. ❤

    • @king_supreme1102
      @king_supreme1102 6 місяців тому

      I think I’d ace your test (maybe other than who I hang out with).

  • @teamsuriname83
    @teamsuriname83 9 місяців тому +14

    Peterson, the gladiator of psychology

    • @IsraelCountryCube
      @IsraelCountryCube 7 місяців тому

      Amen I hope you reply with another based reply. I also hope he enters heaven. Jordan

  • @boogieman8827
    @boogieman8827 9 місяців тому +9

    Sometimes that provocation hits the wrong button cause it's done at the wrong time or crosses certain lines
    Just as the flirtation and persuasion from men goes wrong as it crosses certain lines of the women

  • @princesasolitos4583
    @princesasolitos4583 11 місяців тому +2

    True story! I do that straight!
    "You don't check that out by having a formal conversation!!"✅️✅️✅️✅️✅️

  • @mynewlife1911
    @mynewlife1911 Рік тому +1123

    When a woman is provocative it is because she is provocative. Quality women don’t fake being provocative to test a man. Quality people are genuine and they don’t fake or play games. They are straight with you. They are honest. They are free of deceit.

    • @percyvolnar8010
      @percyvolnar8010 Рік тому +36

      Thank you for this comment.

    • @illwitness
      @illwitness Рік тому +53

      Peterson just constantly caping for women all the time.

    • @diyema3434
      @diyema3434 Рік тому +10

      As a boy, I love this comment

    • @May04bwu
      @May04bwu Рік тому +42

      Yeah, most of the stuff he says is so weird. So many people have issues with clear communication and this shit is not helping.

    • @MimifromChicago
      @MimifromChicago Рік тому +21

      Yes. What tricks? This testing theory is garbage.

  • @tejasr9789
    @tejasr9789 Рік тому +20

    Women be thinking: "do i do all that shit?"

  • @walnud
    @walnud 11 місяців тому +58

    Why are we teaching women to play more games with men💀

    • @judegrindvoll8467
      @judegrindvoll8467 7 місяців тому +7

      I disagree here with Jordan about women testing men - it’s really not about gender. But I think it’s a smart idea to see how any partner handles anger, stress, even being drunk or dealing with outside flirtation before they move in together.

    • @EricSmyth4Christ
      @EricSmyth4Christ 7 місяців тому +16

      I disagree with Jordan when he mentions smart women
      There are no smart women

    • @judegrindvoll8467
      @judegrindvoll8467 7 місяців тому +8

      @@EricSmyth4Christ what a truly erudite man you must be 🤣🤣

    • @EricSmyth4Christ
      @EricSmyth4Christ 7 місяців тому

      @@judegrindvoll8467 it’s painful, but yes
      Ecc 1:18

    • @briskettacos
      @briskettacos 6 місяців тому +7

      ​@EricSmyth4Christ Change your name.

  • @forhadahmed538
    @forhadahmed538 7 місяців тому +11

    And they worry about men being toxic!

    • @notme8152
      @notme8152 5 місяців тому +3

      Exactly the point. Things like this only happen in the beginning of a relationship, you don't want to be beaten or worse by your partner in the moment you go live together. When trust is established, the games end, but for women's safety (and children's too, eventually) the initial phase is always a test. Men subconsciously test women too. If at least one of them doesn't like the other, they won't end up together, period. Too bad, for antisocial disorders the mask tends to fall after months or years, so there is a possibility to have a shitty partner even if you test them, but that's misfortune.

  • @josephjacobs1542
    @josephjacobs1542 Рік тому +204

    I would say the same thing in reverse. I've seen many mothers who can't control their temper and suck at motherhood. Some people have no business at procreation

    • @josephjacobs1542
      @josephjacobs1542 Рік тому +1

      @@Jim-gyswry yeah who gets to decide that screwd either way but half sounds good I'm glad my procreation days are over. I wouldn't want to have kids now

    • @donalddavid8199
      @donalddavid8199 Рік тому +13

      Raising kids ain't no joke

    • @177SCmaro
      @177SCmaro Рік тому

      Thats one reason why men tend to prefer kind, honest, optomitic women, beacuse women are in very close contact with new born babies which are extreamly vulnetable. An aggessive, impatient, cynical, dishonest woman is dangerious to infants.

    • @artemis7642
      @artemis7642 Рік тому +3

      ​@@donalddavid8199 I'm not even a parent, just a big brother and by a single look at my parents i already know how stressful it is, I forgot the last time I saw them laughing

    • @sm.9599
      @sm.9599 Рік тому

      Absolutely. Many women murder their own children. Men are obviously the most aggressive of the human species so it is important for women to assess their potential for harm before mating with them.

  • @arvidalexatsinch1163
    @arvidalexatsinch1163 Рік тому +10

    Actually staying cool has gotten me into trouble when the test is supposed to make me very angry or upset. Sometimes they want you to be in control and calm but not all women are smart or know wtf they want.

    • @tomast9034
      @tomast9034 Рік тому +5

      they feed on feelings and drama where is it the most? hour long argue about made up bs...

  • @Blak22390
    @Blak22390 11 місяців тому +5

    you know, the ability to "test" men and "get away with it" is actually a privilege they don't acknowledge, growing up I learned that testing older men was not a good idea, there's a big difference between knowing and understanding someone, and pushing them to see the ugly side of them and call it the real them.

    • @notme8152
      @notme8152 5 місяців тому +4

      No, the privilege is NOT having to worry about your and your children's safety. Yet men test women too, but in other ways.

    • @Blak22390
      @Blak22390 5 місяців тому

      @152 You have literally zero Idea what I said, the scope of your ignorance far exceeds any intellectual ability you have. Let me elaborate a little for you, good men put up with women's bullshit, that's a privilege, evil men retaliate, usually physically, this is not a privilege, it's a crime. Perhaps now you'll understand what I mean.

  • @kitog9172
    @kitog9172 10 місяців тому +12

    it’s called “shit testing” women purposefully will provoke to understand your reaction often subconsciously

    • @FencingMessiah
      @FencingMessiah 7 місяців тому +2

      Because they like chaos and view that as tribulation as true love not because they want to avoid abusers. If that were so many situations wouldn't even exist

    • @king_supreme1102
      @king_supreme1102 6 місяців тому

      But how do they provoke

  • @jeffvanderveen2890
    @jeffvanderveen2890 Рік тому +53

    No time for drama or bullshit . As long as there's communication and understanding that her kids listen. There's no drama or bullshit

    • @epicmage82
      @epicmage82 Рік тому

      Her kids? Theres your first mistake. Don't go after single mothers. They're alone with a kid for a reason.

    • @artemis7642
      @artemis7642 Рік тому +7

      If you're talking about dating single mothers (no hate towards S mom's) they shouldn't be your first priority... Like bro, you can have a fresh start with a single woman

    • @mitchellcole832
      @mitchellcole832 Рік тому

      Don’t date single mom’s. It’s not your job to pay for another man’s kids.
      Find a single woman and start new.

    • @Arvak777
      @Arvak777 Рік тому

      I think hes talking about first relationships

    • @racheltorres7231
      @racheltorres7231 Рік тому +5

      Sounds like you should never have kids. Kids don’t listen and that’s why they require so much patience.

  • @truth-om7iz
    @truth-om7iz 8 місяців тому +23

    I don’t need to put people to the test. Just be observant of their actions and their words. People often reveal their flaws in a short amount of time. The point is determining which flaws is very severe and which is the nature of human. We are all flawed but if it gets to a degree that will impact our interpersonal relationships you need to leave them.

  • @darkskinwhite
    @darkskinwhite Рік тому +8

    the trick is to remember this not just during but *after* it happens. because even after you pass the "test" youll have to deal with the uncomfortable bit of time afterwards until things settle back to normal, & in that moment you have to stand your ground as well.

  • @gandhiangles3213
    @gandhiangles3213 Рік тому +6

    Women know in the first 5 minutes if they will be with you.

  • @faithhopecharity2843
    @faithhopecharity2843 7 місяців тому +1

    True bro. There's a study that said normal & healthy IG dynamics is between 150-200 followers. Higher than that is not genuine interaction anymore. Its either full of bot accounts or these creepy stalkers. But even 200 followers count is not fully genuine interaction. There are only 25 -50 people that are doing genuine back and forth interaction with you.

  • @MadaTangdilallo
    @MadaTangdilallo 5 місяців тому +1

    We test even when we don't
    know We are 🌟🙏

  • @mccl37
    @mccl37 Рік тому +10

    Provoking him on purpose to test his patience for the sake of her future children. Don't you think we are overestimating things...🤔

    • @justmemyselfandi7760
      @justmemyselfandi7760 Рік тому +5

      It's more of a subconscious, instinctual thing he's describing I suppose.
      But yeah... I don't know any woman who consciously goes around provoking men to see how they react. Lots of them do it cause it apparently makes their relationship 'fun' though. To each their own ig.

  • @Brian-zn3ey
    @Brian-zn3ey Рік тому +27

    True, its important to know, also if a man is mean with money in little ways then he'll be mean with his emotions especially intimes when she is sick or kids are sick or in bad times

    • @artemis7642
      @artemis7642 Рік тому +4

      What do you mean by "mean with money" ?

    • @Blefiz
      @Blefiz 11 місяців тому +2

      ​@@artemis7642probably she means that if a man ain't a sucker paying for dine and dashers 304s he is 'mean with his money'.

    • @SensationalSeafairy
      @SensationalSeafairy 11 місяців тому +5

      ​@@Blefizcould also meam if he doesn't let his partner to work and pits her home with all the burden of parenting while he himself hide behind his work but also doesn't spend money in the household and the woman basically has to lut her dignity on the line and beg him to pay for basic things only for him to drop some. And when things get rough they know not to count on him because he's a creature with no empathy.

    • @IndepenisDay
      @IndepenisDay 11 місяців тому

      Wtf is mean with money?

    • @shibernyan2009
      @shibernyan2009 5 місяців тому

      For those who don't know what 'mean with money' means, correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe it's when for example the woman and kids are broke (either because the man is the main provider or the woman spent more money on groceries and other necessities that month than usual etc etc, there could be a million good reasons). Meanwhile the man/father still has more than enough money left. But the man refuses to help the woman and kids when she asks for some money for something important, such as for medical purposes (not talking about buying toys for the kids or something unimportant like that). A surprising amount of men refuse to help in such situations and will even go so far as to accuse the woman of just wanting to use his money to buy unimportant things with it, such as makeup, clothes etc. Even though he knows the woman is not that kind of person and can see she or the kids need it/are sick or whatnot.
      Unfortunately I know all about it cause my father was that type of person, and even went so far as to refuse to pay child support with the same excuse. Hilarious, I know. He got away with it though, cause he moved to a different country where the law couldn't get to him. Safe to say I grew up pretty poor, food was usually scarce and occasionally we went a few months without water and electricity, cause my mother simply couldn't afford those things. My situation has improved since becoming an adult though, no worries. Otherwise I wouldn't be on the internet after all.😅 I have a bed, a smartphone, some internet and even a small work desk, complete with a chair that breaks my back. Life is great. The point is, a man like that would make for a terrible father and borderline verbally abusive partner. So if my life sounds like a** and you don't want the same life for you and your kids....stear clear of those types of guys (or women for that matter). Unless you fancy the idea of peeing and sh*tting in a toilet that's been collecting the whole families' pee and sh*t for the past week (sorry for the grotesque details).

  • @robmckinney7340
    @robmckinney7340 11 місяців тому +1

    not want to test. just observe. men and women are capable of doing these things. we live by much of your shared knowledge. thank you sir.

  • @mugiwaranomohamed5955
    @mugiwaranomohamed5955 11 місяців тому +2

    I'm a teacher and i have all the patience for children but none for manipulative women

  • @Metalmenace_
    @Metalmenace_ 11 місяців тому +110

    If you incite someone to anger and expect them not to be angry, you're setting yourself up for failure.

    • @apebass2215
      @apebass2215 10 місяців тому +22

      Weak individuals can't control their anger.

    • @dll7658
      @dll7658 10 місяців тому +7

      Nah, what is being expectedis not being angry but being able to control it.

    • @dharling97
      @dharling97 10 місяців тому +18

      He clearly stated that it wasn't about whether or not he got angry, it's about how they reach to the anger.

    • @Metalmenace_
      @Metalmenace_ 10 місяців тому

      @dll7658 I see that as counter intuitive and a lesson in anger is shared that's useless.

    • @dll7658
      @dll7658 10 місяців тому +3

      @@Metalmenace_ Then I guess you don't get it lol

  • @susanfurlong4048
    @susanfurlong4048 Рік тому +173

    Agree with the aggression check. Men (and women) who are provoked by children have no right having them.

    • @Ronin-R410A
      @Ronin-R410A Рік тому +15

      Yeah one of the reasons I know I'm never going to have children because I have not patience for children. Wouldn't ever hurt children but I know I just don't have it in me to be a parent.
      I'm also extremely selfish with my.time.

    • @hseindesigns
      @hseindesigns Рік тому +7

      ​​​@@Ronin-R410A you will always be selfish until you have kids.

    • @Ronin-R410A
      @Ronin-R410A Рік тому +4

      @@hseindesigns can't have em luckily ain't got a woman for that to happen

    • @legendofmats2073
      @legendofmats2073 Рік тому +4

      ​@@hseindesignsthat's not always the case,
      Me for example i just don't want kids,
      It's as simple as that, and that doesn't make me selfish, i have my family and i will do everything to protect them,
      And friends as well,

    • @joshwaterman5526
      @joshwaterman5526 Рік тому +1

      @@Ronin-R410Awhy don’t you just you know,decide to stop being selfish? Selfishness is a choice. I know it’s not easy and it’s engraved in basically all of us. I’ve struggled my whole life with it. No one enters the world without having a selfish nature. All humans have some sort of selfishness in them. But you can decide how much of your life you are willing to give for your children. My honest advice is to seek God and lay down your life for him first. It’s not easy. Once you do that you will understand the beauty of giving up the things you want to do and it will fill you with a form of duty and then the things you did enjoy doing become things you don’t like anymore. Than you can focus on your family. Your life will be much more fulfilling. God bless ✌🏻

  • @TT-zu5pr
    @TT-zu5pr 11 місяців тому +8

    Fukin EXACTLY... Women tests men just like men tests women, if 1 can do it so can the other

    • @Elija.D.Artist
      @Elija.D.Artist 11 місяців тому

      How do men test women?

    • @marino5652
      @marino5652 10 місяців тому +2

      ​@@Elija.D.Artistwhat my friend did was went on a date with an expensive watch, a ring, branded car keys on a table and things like that. The girl showed impression to those things, looked at a watch and started talking about those things. So he didnt go on a another date with her.

    • @bromsherwood7739
      @bromsherwood7739 10 місяців тому +3

      ​@@marino5652that is extremely unusual and not a common practice for men at all but good for him 😂

    • @Hellenicheavymetal
      @Hellenicheavymetal 9 місяців тому +2

      @@marino5652 that's not common at all to do and just because she did that doesn't mean anything. She probably just saw it as something to have a conversation on. For him to just assume anything isn't smart because her intention may have been different.

    • @PsychicRenegadeTarot
      @PsychicRenegadeTarot 9 місяців тому

      And you should. Number 1 suspect in murder is ALWAYS the spouse.

  • @projects9069
    @projects9069 4 місяці тому

    “No one wants to talk about that..” I want to talk about that !!😂

  • @VeritechGirl
    @VeritechGirl Рік тому +3

    Jordan Peterson is never late!
    He arrives precisely when he means to!

  • @johnnytate69
    @johnnytate69 Рік тому +199

    Jordon Peterson doing god's work here

    • @NISSANZ33
      @NISSANZ33 Рік тому

      Oh so you mean everything coming out of his mouth is bullshit make believe

    • @ArabellaPottery
      @ArabellaPottery Рік тому

      You mean satan work.

    • @GODsCHILD-lm6df
      @GODsCHILD-lm6df Рік тому +3

      YES he is.
      This is the God's Honest Truth.
      To provoke is to test before the commitment and sanctimony of marriage and parenting.
      The Manly Art of Fathering is absolutely necessary.

    • @holdencommodorehsv
      @holdencommodorehsv Рік тому +3

      What has it got to do with your dillusional God lol the man admits hes agnostic 😅

    • @GODsCHILD-lm6df
      @GODsCHILD-lm6df Рік тому +1

      @@holdencommodorehsv #AF #AgnosticFRONT

  • @MadisonWestfield
    @MadisonWestfield 6 місяців тому

    Absolutely. I studied my man diligently. He’s going to be a wonderful father ❤

  • @chuckhoyle1211
    @chuckhoyle1211 6 місяців тому +1

    "A man can be provoked by children." No truer words have ever been spoken.

  • @davidkulangiyev8835
    @davidkulangiyev8835 Рік тому +4

    True true, I definitely feel like my wife is testing and checking my patience

  • @beachlifesandy-oc7nl
    @beachlifesandy-oc7nl Рік тому +19

    Yes they are !

    • @gigidotto9014
      @gigidotto9014 Рік тому

      Not me.
      Also the only test I know wemen are doing is the loyalty test.

  • @piehound
    @piehound 10 місяців тому +1

    Hey Doc you're giving away the show. I'm willing to have a " FORMAL CONVERSATION. " Problems are (1) Most folks don't know themselves well enough. Most folks are (2) not honest enough to talk about these issues in a " formal conversation." (3) I am all those things just mentioned because i listen to you. I'm Mr. Perfect.

  • @ivanaandric5703
    @ivanaandric5703 6 місяців тому

    LOVE YOU DR . PETERSON. THE MOST BRILLIANT MAN ALIVE!!!!

  • @pommiebears
    @pommiebears Рік тому +5

    My husband has all the patience in the universe for children….but, he didn’t always have the patience with people who know better. He’s mellowed as we’ve gotten older.

    • @thomas.thomas
      @thomas.thomas 11 місяців тому

      well testosterone levels sink after being 21

    • @clamsr8565
      @clamsr8565 11 місяців тому

      He sure sounds dumb. Smart people listen to people who know better to get smarter.

  • @sevicore
    @sevicore Рік тому +147

    Peterson is the Gandalf of this era

    • @TheVoiceofTheProphetElizer
      @TheVoiceofTheProphetElizer Рік тому +4

      There’s only one Lord and HE DOES NOT SHARE POWER.

    • @jujjuj7676
      @jujjuj7676 Рік тому +7

      Na, just to you he is..

    • @jujjuj7676
      @jujjuj7676 Рік тому +2

      ​@@TheVoiceofTheProphetElizer No lord, no god no santa...bout time you knew..😊

    • @bigsauce1116
      @bigsauce1116 Рік тому +1

      Wiere how such an innocuous comment can trigger people. Grow up lol.

    • @jujjuj7676
      @jujjuj7676 Рік тому

      No, He just a Gandalf to morons..to me he is more like that annoying highschool student who wants to pretend he knows everything but doesn't.

  • @Nathan-cc4gy
    @Nathan-cc4gy 11 місяців тому

    You dont check that out by having formal conversation.
    Trully valuable

  • @captainteamcarry3
    @captainteamcarry3 11 місяців тому +3

    "if a girl likes you, she'll be mean to you."
    Pretty solid advice from my childhood apparently.

    • @clamsr8565
      @clamsr8565 11 місяців тому

      That's actually one of the glitched female AIs.

  • @PrimeKeroHS
    @PrimeKeroHS Рік тому +128

    My fiance tested my aggression one time too many, even using her own physical aggression to see how I'd respond. Not one shred of anger on my part.
    She's not my fiance anymore though. Hah.

    • @xcept7355
      @xcept7355 Рік тому +11

      Good teaching them

    • @brycedanner9453
      @brycedanner9453 Рік тому

      That’s why cause women don’t want pussies

    • @bare1021
      @bare1021 Рік тому

      She Likes it more rough .. and maybe she wont Feed her Kids ..

    • @GUITARSTYLINGSSAMUELLETIZIA
      @GUITARSTYLINGSSAMUELLETIZIA Рік тому +11

      That's a sick thing to do to a man. You're going to instinctively defend yourself.

    • @brandiphillips5775
      @brandiphillips5775 Рік тому +3

      This isn’t what he is saying. He isn’t saying that women will be terrible to a man. He is saying that it’s a thing that does to make sure the man is emotionally stable, not repeatedly. What your ex did was an indication that she is emotionally unstable. And sincere can be a danger to women and children, women have to be ok the lookout for those men when they’re getting to know them.

  • @cindyeichman1514
    @cindyeichman1514 11 місяців тому

    Love the way you liable All women with blanket statements.

  • @nessaalexandra6887
    @nessaalexandra6887 11 місяців тому +2

    wish I would’ve heard this advice sooner

  • @davidkoon767
    @davidkoon767 Рік тому +107

    STAY COOL GENTLEMEN

    • @ReliableGuy-sb8fb
      @ReliableGuy-sb8fb Рік тому

      Nah, be the badie as the kunts love bad boys

    • @ReliableGuy-sb8fb
      @ReliableGuy-sb8fb Рік тому

      And never get laid..

    • @Vivungisport
      @Vivungisport Рік тому +2

      Just walk away from any silly test.

    • @Elder74
      @Elder74 Рік тому +2

      @@Vivungisport you clearly didn't quite understood what Peterson implied

    • @sm.9599
      @sm.9599 Рік тому

      😂

  • @faithm9284
    @faithm9284 Рік тому +56

    Absolutely agree! You check for 'safety' before you even consider a relationship.

    • @jensenraylight8011
      @jensenraylight8011 Рік тому

      now let's check how a women response when you're getting fired, can't pay rent, or raking in debt.
      i bet you'll get an instant divorce and forced to pay for child support. who cares about your sadness and depression
      the moment you're going through a hard time, your wife and kids will be the one that leaving you.
      they don't want anything to do with you.
      she want you to be perfect, but she was full of red flag herself

    • @michaelchaikoski9304
      @michaelchaikoski9304 Рік тому +8

      Likewise with the woman. She's always looking to upgrade. Test that.

    • @julzhunt7790
      @julzhunt7790 Рік тому +4

      Exactly. Men worry about being ‘catfished’
      Women worry about being attacked, r@ped or killed.!

    • @julzhunt7790
      @julzhunt7790 Рік тому +2

      @@michaelchaikoski9304 have you ever thought it might not be looking to ‘upgrade’ maybe she’s decided she’s not gonna settle for just anything. When little boys are out here pretending to be adult men it becomes a problem. I’m not saying there aren’t problem women. This is just my personal experience.

    • @ReadMyBioFirst
      @ReadMyBioFirst Рік тому +1

      But you don't do that with your employer at work. 😂

  • @Jacek_videos
    @Jacek_videos 6 місяців тому +1

    Dr J.Peterson is a wise man

  • @kristalliiite6408
    @kristalliiite6408 10 місяців тому

    You gotta test the spirit so true

  • @moobits2928
    @moobits2928 Рік тому +9

    What if she ghosted on you? When you confront them, they tried to gaslight you back by saying "I was having busy days", "I don't use my phone everyday", etc... that drives me nuts

    • @moobits2928
      @moobits2928 Рік тому +3

      Yeah I mean they put you in a situation where if you confront them, it means you are not understanding how busy or bad their days were... but when you let them do that, they won't respond anyway 🙄

    • @rdb4996
      @rdb4996 Рік тому +4

      Keep walking until you find a woman who is jumping to text you back. Do be mindful of job hours though.

    • @travlangley1
      @travlangley1 Рік тому +3

      I need to confront them, obviously they are t interested…just keep it moving…if they ghost you the last thing you want to do is reach out to them…if you’re holding out hope “which you shouldn’t”…showing her you have options and are wanted by not responding is the only way she would want you.

    • @travlangley1
      @travlangley1 Рік тому

      No need *

    • @ThisIsNotMyHome
      @ThisIsNotMyHome Рік тому +3

      If you tried contacting her and didn't hear from her for days, then I would keep it moving. She didn't think highly enough of you to make a priority, regardless of reason. You didn't have to be top priority, but days is inexcusable for the reasons she stated.

  • @paulfasse8032
    @paulfasse8032 Рік тому +54

    Very true Jordan. Another is she will check in most cases his financial status. That often will be the deciding factor as sad as that is.

    • @rdb4996
      @rdb4996 Рік тому +9

      It is sad for both sides. Women being financial dependent on men is asking for trouble.

    • @stephengilbert6474
      @stephengilbert6474 Рік тому +5

      They are not worth all the work.

    • @avasinha9764
      @avasinha9764 Рік тому +6

      Why it's sad....beauty , health, finances are important aspect...if u want to marry....for sustaining that u need other stuff...

    • @mickethegoblin7167
      @mickethegoblin7167 Рік тому +11

      @@avasinha9764 another person's finances should not be your concern
      Relationships should not be based on how much money one of them has.

    • @rdb4996
      @rdb4996 Рік тому +6

      @@avasinha9764 I earn my own money, thank you very much. Don't need a man to finance anything for me. But a stable job with liveable income is important.
      Beauty on the outside is not really important. Same ideals, morals and values are.

  • @BozzleyOfficial
    @BozzleyOfficial 8 місяців тому +1

    This is a very underrated video.

  • @gracefulhealer935
    @gracefulhealer935 11 місяців тому +8

    I wouldn't waste even a second on a woman who behaved like that for even a millisecond.

    • @unapologeticanti-feminist3205
      @unapologeticanti-feminist3205 6 місяців тому

      That's far more likely the reason that she's doing it, to see if you'll refuse to tolerate her behavior. Not in a violent way, but letting her know you're alpha enough to call her out on being irrational and refusing to engage with her over it. Basically a test to see which men are alpha or beta as well as a test to see who can be aggressive rather than placating or submissive in a confrontation. It's a test to see if she can look up to him to be her leader.
      Not saying it's right, but it is the way it is. Peterson got it wrong: it's not about seeing if he's aggressive so as to avoid it, it is precisely about seeing if he's aggressive (again, not physically) because she wants that attribute.

  • @cynthiachenard9792
    @cynthiachenard9792 11 місяців тому +1

    Did that once by accident and was amazed at the change in demeanor. This bf was very laid back person. Until the wrong button was pushed. He crossed his arms and refused to continue the conversation. We then went to dinner and his driving was borderline scary. We ate in near silence as he refused to discuss the issue. I broke up with him that same week.

    • @marino5652
      @marino5652 10 місяців тому

      What a boy

    • @zeroounce8874
      @zeroounce8874 10 місяців тому

      But he wasn’t violent with you. He didn’t hit you or shout at you. He controlled his emotions. He is that type of a man you want.

    • @freppie_
      @freppie_ 10 місяців тому

      did you apologize?

    • @missdm8137
      @missdm8137 7 місяців тому +1

      Exactly! I had a similar experience. In my case I just made a joke how he could wear pink shirt so we could match and he became furious that I was "testing his masculinity, alpha male status" and gave me a silent treatment and... some weird outburts. I realized I cannot be with someone who cannot take a silly joke and has such a fragile ego.

    • @shibernyan2009
      @shibernyan2009 5 місяців тому

      ​​@@zeroounce8874 Nah driving in a way that makes you scared was a hundred red flags in itself, that's some psycho sh*t. I would've told him to pull over right then and there cause I'm not waiting to see of he intentionally or accidentally unalives me in a car crash.

  • @TheDragonBloom
    @TheDragonBloom 6 місяців тому +9

    This is the thing that most young men dont understand.... Shes not playing games, shes testing you.

    • @racheltarentino3314
      @racheltarentino3314 6 місяців тому

      Exactly. These comments are dumb

    • @hithere748
      @hithere748 5 місяців тому +6

      She doesnt know what she's doing, you gotta set the path.

    • @alibabaschultz352
      @alibabaschultz352 5 місяців тому

      Maybe subconsciously, if we're being generous.

  • @Trizzer89
    @Trizzer89 Рік тому +87

    Tolerating BS is not a good strategy for life

    • @stevenelson1456
      @stevenelson1456 Рік тому +11

      Right but being able to respond calmly is.

    • @beetea2886
      @beetea2886 Рік тому +6

      You don't need to tolerate it. The point of the video is how you face the BS

    • @Milo-Mike
      @Milo-Mike 5 місяців тому

      ​@@beetea2886weak excuse for being a Bad Person. Saying a Woman wants to test you as a father.
      Imagine men would fuck Up Women to simulate her capacity of being a mother to puberty children. Shout Out to abusive husbands, testing the pain tolerance of His woman to See If she is capable to withstand giving Birth.
      But right, being annoying as an full grown Adult is the Same Like behaving with own Kids.
      Like trying to Take Off negative Emotions from your Partner would be to much to ask for.
      Its expected from men to Understand females Psychology and emotional needs while women are being praised to make Males emotions even more fragile, pushing them into Anger and destroying their emotional Balance? Because of what? Being to insecure If you man can handle Kids or Not... Like this wouldnt be the Same for women... Like your Kids wouldnt be good children If both Partners could Live in harmony...🤦‍♂️

    • @Milo-Mike
      @Milo-Mike 5 місяців тому

      ​@@stevenelson1456weak excuse for being a Bad Person. Saying a Woman wants to test you as a father.
      Imagine men would fuck Up Women to simulate her capacity of being a mother to puberty children. Shout Out to abusive husbands, testing the pain tolerance of His woman to See If she is capable to withstand giving Birth.
      But right, being annoying as an full grown Adult is the Same Like behaving with own Kids.
      Like trying to Take Off negative Emotions from your Partner would be to much to ask for.
      Its expected from men to Understand females Psychology and emotional needs while women are being praised to make Males emotions even more fragile, pushing them into Anger and destroying their emotional Balance? Because of what? Being to insecure If you man can handle Kids or Not... Like this wouldnt be the Same for women... Like your Kids wouldnt be good children If both Partners could Live in harmony...🤦‍♂️

  • @ScientObject40
    @ScientObject40 Рік тому +15

    Little siblings will prepare you for that 😂

    • @Lasbeth977
      @Lasbeth977 7 місяців тому

      Exactly I have about two of them always getting on my nerves 😂😂

  • @Jessica.8669
    @Jessica.8669 10 місяців тому

    He's always SO right!

  • @bronwynsmith2157
    @bronwynsmith2157 8 місяців тому

    😊yes we are always checking them out.

  • @t1nkuhtv863
    @t1nkuhtv863 Рік тому +10

    This just made me check myself and now I'm making improvements

  • @cynthiavogtmarr2440
    @cynthiavogtmarr2440 Рік тому +4

    You are a great father I’m sure.

  • @Conorouttheflesh
    @Conorouttheflesh 11 місяців тому

    Thank you for telling me about something my dad should have... Again.

  • @happilydivorced3235
    @happilydivorced3235 11 місяців тому +42

    As a psychologist myself, I find that “sick”. Provoking is not good. If you spend enough time with a man, he’s likely to be angry at some point as we all do. That’s when you will see how he deals with anger. Put people in their natural environment and pay attention to their behaviour. No deliberate provocation is necessary.

    • @ChileVerdeDavid
      @ChileVerdeDavid 10 місяців тому +6

      Otherwise its manipulation. You're reaction to an unathentic event designed for you to make a poor decision isn't cool. Like you said, your real self comes out in real situations.

    • @PsychicRenegadeTarot
      @PsychicRenegadeTarot 9 місяців тому +4

      Respectfully it is. Because you have to see how they would react if you don’t stop- like a child might not bcuz they don’t properly assess anger/danger/boundaries/etc. He is saying do it at least to see if they would potential “snap” at you or a child.

    • @katwilliams2950
      @katwilliams2950 9 місяців тому +2

      Yes, this. Its definitely a requirement to be with anyone to know how they handle anger in different situations. An overly aggressive parent is extremely harmful.

    • @richardtomaszewski3569
      @richardtomaszewski3569 8 місяців тому

      Sick perhaps from the moral standpoint of creating bad situation for the sole intention of seeing's someone's reaction.....but is it true! The truth of how the world is that is what matters, not how we wish it were. People are constantly testing the waters intentionally or unintentionally to gage their partners character. It's just human, a perfectly imperfect human behavior honed over thousands of years of evolution.

    • @thetruthsetsyoufree1492
      @thetruthsetsyoufree1492 7 місяців тому

      Women test men as if they are devil and test Jesus Christ’s temptation! Not wise.

  • @Patriotgranny
    @Patriotgranny Рік тому +21

    He’s ABSOLUTELY correct. I Love the fact that my man has the potential for aggression but keeps it under wraps until needed. He has ALWAYS made me feel safe. (48 years & going strong)

  • @jorgefiguerola1239
    @jorgefiguerola1239 Рік тому +51

    As I approach 60, I have concluded that a solid relationship with yourself is first and foremost. After that, build marketable skills. If anything, let them come to you. Friends and mentorship over fatherhood.
    Carpe diem!

    • @aaronpanesar
      @aaronpanesar 11 місяців тому

      Said to perfection ❤

    • @jay-tl2un
      @jay-tl2un 11 місяців тому +2

      Do you have a wife and kids now?

    • @jorgefiguerola1239
      @jorgefiguerola1239 11 місяців тому

      @@jay-tl2un
      No. But still open to it. Doubtful.

    • @gmr.7979
      @gmr.7979 11 місяців тому

      Carpe diem

    • @thecreativebusiness1316
      @thecreativebusiness1316 10 місяців тому +1

      ​@jay-tl2un marriage and kids aren't for everyone, it's time we officially say it

  • @gloria4506
    @gloria4506 11 місяців тому +1

    I have no tricks and abhor playing games. I’m genuine and know when someone’s not genuine.

  • @user-vz1rg6cs1r
    @user-vz1rg6cs1r 11 місяців тому

    That's right, Doctor Peterson!!!! Mind of this century!

  • @jbpeltier
    @jbpeltier Рік тому +20

    When I went through "courting," if they antagonized me, I wouldn't get mad, I'd just write them off and leave lol

    • @hwway4488
      @hwway4488 Рік тому +3

      ‘Ma, where’s pa?’
      ‘He went to buy milk a few years ago sweetie’

  • @wirefly1000
    @wirefly1000 Рік тому +15

    So what you’re saying is they aren’t honest and play all sorts of tricks.

    • @AppleJacksCereal
      @AppleJacksCereal 11 місяців тому +2

      That’s what I’m hearing. Sounds like a miserable time.

  • @dadbodkiller3174
    @dadbodkiller3174 6 місяців тому

    I wish I had known this 10 years ago. Genius.

  • @meliq13
    @meliq13 5 місяців тому

    This is SOOOOOO true.

  • @simonrowe5112
    @simonrowe5112 Рік тому +14

    This guy is just so intelligent, the more I listen to him the better he gets.

  • @DianaGreenland-qp6wk
    @DianaGreenland-qp6wk Рік тому +72

    Right on the money you don't bring men around kids until you know how they are going to react to other men's kids. Especially when kids are being kids testing the boundaries. Being brats or just onery and rumbunctious.

    • @erockstoenescu6171
      @erockstoenescu6171 Рік тому

      Why the hell would any women bring a man around her kids without their father around? Typical western whores

    • @DianaGreenland-qp6wk
      @DianaGreenland-qp6wk Рік тому +5

      There are some great dad's and stepdad and some women who are not or should not be allowed to be around kids unfortunately some women aren't any better at parenting and can be worse.

    • @CheapThrillz420
      @CheapThrillz420 Рік тому +2

      He never said anything about not bringing in around children?

    • @DianaGreenland-qp6wk
      @DianaGreenland-qp6wk Рік тому

      @KevinRaymondJacksonJr. You are wise cuz women today are a different breed. Venomous.

    • @wambamthankumam
      @wambamthankumam Рік тому

      ​@@DianaGreenland-qp6wk Statically mothers abuse children more often than fathers

  • @whatrtheodds
    @whatrtheodds 11 місяців тому

    Iv definitely done this. With exactly children in mind. If he has low tolerance he's not the one. It's a playful test but it's also one that is enough to annoy a person that is quick to anger.

  • @lisamiller2439
    @lisamiller2439 11 місяців тому

    We absolutely love you and your teaching thank you

  • @jeremyjeremy8795
    @jeremyjeremy8795 Рік тому +18

    He just described shit testing in the most clinical terms possible

    • @CookieCurls
      @CookieCurls Рік тому +4

      Yeah this is a really ridiculous way of saying “I want to make sure men aren’t psychotic and going to kill me” before getting serious

  • @jackfischer5153
    @jackfischer5153 Рік тому +3

    I pass the test! I pass the test! I pass the test. They love me, they really love me!

  • @JuliannFlavin
    @JuliannFlavin 7 місяців тому

    This is 1000% correct

  • @aaronkameric1419
    @aaronkameric1419 10 місяців тому

    I never thought about that.

  • @paolah1828
    @paolah1828 Рік тому +27

    So true!!!! And I left him - the WORST trait in a man is the inability to control his temper. WORST

    • @TheBrandonHazel
      @TheBrandonHazel 11 місяців тому +6

      A man's temper is perfectly valid.
      The worst trait in a person is not being able to control their emotions.
      A short temper keeps you from getting screwed by life and society.
      But if you get emotional from it instead of remaining logical you will have a problem

    • @xartimus18
      @xartimus18 11 місяців тому +5

      Yet, you want a bad boy don’t you my queen B?

    • @jaslee3235
      @jaslee3235 11 місяців тому

      Yeah and you probably provoked him to anger witch is fucked up n vever play games and test a man any human could get angry if you're intentionally doing something foolish

    • @edmondsaunders7165
      @edmondsaunders7165 11 місяців тому +5

      Question is, why was he always angry? You might have been doing him a favor by leaving.

    • @JoJo-vg8dz
      @JoJo-vg8dz 11 місяців тому

      Aggressive men always get partners, sometimes more than kind men.
      There's no rule.

  • @tabasdezh
    @tabasdezh Рік тому +37

    Yea woman are checking men all the time but don't let men to check on them and when a man realizes who she is that it's late and he's screwed.

    • @artemis7642
      @artemis7642 Рік тому +3

      That's why men should be smart and test women too... A lot of rich guys try to keep a low profile when they go on a date with woman to know if she's only after money or not. It's about a life long commitment but alot of brothers just choose beauty over her character unfortunately.

    • @yusufbest4475
      @yusufbest4475 Рік тому +2

      ​@@artemis7642 men are also suppose to teach and lead. If the woman has some weaknesses in character, man can help her to correct those weaknesses.. of course, it goes without question that the man must improve himself first before trying to improve others

    • @artemis7642
      @artemis7642 Рік тому

      @@yusufbest4475 obviously

    • @Milo-Mike
      @Milo-Mike 5 місяців тому

      ​​​@@yusufbest4475right, the man has to have His Life in Order + getting the Life of His Girlfriend in Order. While the women does what?

  • @hannelerantanen760
    @hannelerantanen760 10 місяців тому

    That is so true I analyzed my husband on multiple levels.

    • @Alex-bl8uh
      @Alex-bl8uh 9 місяців тому +1

      Which is reasonable!

  • @roxtherealtor-northcarolin3804
    @roxtherealtor-northcarolin3804 7 місяців тому

    He’s speaking of a motherly instinct… you got to feel people out, men and women.