I love Dr. Petersen…one of the smartest, arguably one of the most influential role models of boys and MEN today… Yet, the biggest S!MP and ideologue that has walked the Earth playing his candy-a$$ed washed up one time slave of socialist academia to become a better slave to the elites selling his “return to yeh plantation” b/c life is so great being a married Beta-Bux mile for soy-iety! Thank you Dr. Petersen for your take on masculinity but listening to advice of a married (plantation slave) man is like today’s women taking advice from their washed up DG fellow older C.C riders in the Femcel Consensus!
That is a personal preference, but not related to a uncontrolled temper. Like, I have little Tolerance for annoying ADULTS in general. I don't explode in rage and react impulsive and irrationally, I just remove and avoid them. The thing that is important is not "how tolerant are you towards people not respecting your boundaries", it's "how in control are you over your actions and emotions" Some fully grown adult that is being an asshole is not exactly like a child not knowing what it does and needing patient guidance.
@@ThatsSpectacular in fact I also believe that a woman who would hit or attack a man shouldn’t have a little boy to abuse either. Tell me more about where you went to school to study moral law and what you learned there?
I agree with that. I grow up with a violent/aggressive father and I don't want a man like that to be my partner either the father of my kids and I found one.
@@havoc3894Or an abusive mother. My mother found my extremely abusive father very attractive , she even admired that he could beat up anyone. While her father was lovely. I also know girls from wonderful backgrounds with no abuse that find these type of violent guys attractive.
@@Antonocon This isn't the norm. Almost all spousel abuse is intergenerational and in the majority of cases, the violence is both ways from both men and women. It is however the norm that women on average are attracted to dark triad personality types (bad boys) and on average they're more likely to be abusive.
@@PsychicRenegadeTarot - suicide, but as a survivor I can tell you I'm constantly bouncing back and forth from the ledge, to crying, to laughing, to dreaming about killing him myself. He's no nonger allowed in my life though. I'm trying.
Dude man this broke my heart to read, Im so sorry for what you’ve went through. Just by reading your comment I can somehow tell you have a really good heart, Stick in there, It always gets better if you keep trying. But also, remember to relax because trying too hard can make matters worse; you might know this but if you don’t trust me, I’ve been there. Remember to try to enjoy yourself and breathe and live life, go to therapy and keep trying and trying and one day you’ll dig yourself out of this hole for good
@@taplubambhos2869You learn to see the world through a different colored lens. I could have lived my whole life without children. The questions, love, and innocence are just something that raises a sense of duty in a man
@@taplubambhos2869 someone who loves you all the time for no reason. When you get home, they smile and jump on you, and are happy to see you no matter what. its great
@@midnightperformance528 perfect. That’s the most perfect answer. That’s all true. Among many other things to love my children over that reliving the childhood you always wanted but could never have is so rewarding as a father. My kids are extremely happy. I wasn’t as a child. Makes me proud.
A couple weeks into dating my husband, his new dishwasher overflowed with soap and within minutes his entire kitchen was covered in bubbles. He said, “oh no, I need some towels, let me soak this … I’m so sorry you had to see me get angry like that” when I tell you he had the calmest reaction I’ve ever seen (didn’t raise his voice, didn’t panic, just calmly assessed the situation and fixed it and labeled that as anger) I mean … I was instantly sold. Now I’m pregnant and have crazy hormones and he’s my perfectly calm helper
@@abigailelizabeth4729 thank you! Yes the temperament assessment is very important. My temperament didn’t hit his expectations though so he had me work on it for a few years 🤣 but it’s good now
@@clamsr8565 he has never given me any reason to not be overly appreciative though. He’s always trying his best and taking really good care of me. It’s wild to me. The other girls he dated didn’t like him because he was “too sweet” or they weren’t ready for husband material yet and I’m just in awe of how dumb women can be
True. No woman wants a violent man to father their kids. You want to know he will protect you from external threats, but never aggressive to you or children
There are a lot of woman who have turned down guys because they weren't aggressive enough, granted these women have some sort of bad past usually but they end up in relationships where the guy wears a white wife beater shirt. So you know.
@@nobodywatchesnoobywell I train muy Thai and condition my shins meaning there more dense and harder than everyday people it’ll hurt him more them more to hit me
@@nobodywatchesnooby As much as you wanna hit the kid, no matter who's the aggressor... unfortunately You'll be the one standing in court for "child abuse" So the smart move will be to either record his behaviour for your innocence... or to not get hit without attacking him (considering that kids are slower with short limbs compared to adults)
This makes me think 😅 my ex randomly freaked out one day and told me "what you wanna do? Hit me?" I was so damn confused and lost in why she would ask me that... I left the scene at the time and just sat on the couch thinking ..."what just happened!" Now this makes sense.
Absolutely. This man is great. Men wouldn’t like to hear that women need to do this, but it’s true. Even women don’t realize they do this, but they may indirectly do it. There needs to be the capacity for aggression but the absolute ability to control that. The control and even gentleness is necessary and makes makes that man very attractive and stand out from the rest. Kids and all humans around him are going to need that, and that man that can do that will excel.
Same I dont get it i fasted, so I would have more control and dont argue with my husband but then outta no where I answered him with attitude and we were both confused, he is my world so I apologized quickly and he forgave me quickly but its still not ok this man does everything to treat me like his queen and yet I test him for no good reason God help me 😅😅
yes for the purpose jb said though it isn't absolute .An outlier is present where the motive is intentional ,riling up and breaking the stoic shell giving the dopamine burst of superiority for the inducer.
@@mickethegoblin7167it definitely should... It sure has saved me from ever having to change a nappy, btw it's easy to spot the best part of it all is they play a game but expect you to put full emotion into it knowing full well the scenario she is making out is a problem is nothing but a test ie (game).. Don't play games with your partner or you lose your partner Idgaf if your with child or not! In the wise words of rasputia from the movie "Norbit" ("But your with child"), (She farts) ("Boom, there's ya child") 🤷😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
These tests actually mostly happen if she's not fully into you so just skip her I'd recommend there are other's who love you more and of course you can love them in exchange also better
yes pick-up artist community call it "shit test". it was introduced my Mystery and it's way more complex than this simplified explanation by Jordan. but it gives the idea!
Often subconsciously, "sh*t tests" happen in every early relationship. It goes both directions. Sometimes even on the first date! Light bulb went on for me recently that I totally did this. Had a great date, greater second date. Then two days later I totally did this. Was it fear of abandonment or subconscious doo doo test... then again, maybe it was a poor reaction to his own doo doo test too! It really cuts to the chase. Trigger deep seated reactions. Compatibility tests might be a better term than doo doo test.
Oh men do shit tests too. But it will be simple af. Hey I got family coming over. Don't have your tit out in front of my family while feeding. Hey can you make me something to eat? Or just seeing the way she talks to you. If she has more respect for her boss at work than her own man, that's a red flag
If you are testing a person solely to see what they do wrong rather than right then you are not ready for a relationship. Playing games is what children do.
Sometimes that provocation hits the wrong button cause it's done at the wrong time or crosses certain lines Just as the flirtation and persuasion from men goes wrong as it crosses certain lines of the women
When a woman is provocative it is because she is provocative. Quality women don’t fake being provocative to test a man. Quality people are genuine and they don’t fake or play games. They are straight with you. They are honest. They are free of deceit.
I disagree here with Jordan about women testing men - it’s really not about gender. But I think it’s a smart idea to see how any partner handles anger, stress, even being drunk or dealing with outside flirtation before they move in together.
Exactly the point. Things like this only happen in the beginning of a relationship, you don't want to be beaten or worse by your partner in the moment you go live together. When trust is established, the games end, but for women's safety (and children's too, eventually) the initial phase is always a test. Men subconsciously test women too. If at least one of them doesn't like the other, they won't end up together, period. Too bad, for antisocial disorders the mask tends to fall after months or years, so there is a possibility to have a shitty partner even if you test them, but that's misfortune.
I would say the same thing in reverse. I've seen many mothers who can't control their temper and suck at motherhood. Some people have no business at procreation
@@Jim-gyswry yeah who gets to decide that screwd either way but half sounds good I'm glad my procreation days are over. I wouldn't want to have kids now
Thats one reason why men tend to prefer kind, honest, optomitic women, beacuse women are in very close contact with new born babies which are extreamly vulnetable. An aggessive, impatient, cynical, dishonest woman is dangerious to infants.
@@donalddavid8199 I'm not even a parent, just a big brother and by a single look at my parents i already know how stressful it is, I forgot the last time I saw them laughing
Absolutely. Many women murder their own children. Men are obviously the most aggressive of the human species so it is important for women to assess their potential for harm before mating with them.
Actually staying cool has gotten me into trouble when the test is supposed to make me very angry or upset. Sometimes they want you to be in control and calm but not all women are smart or know wtf they want.
you know, the ability to "test" men and "get away with it" is actually a privilege they don't acknowledge, growing up I learned that testing older men was not a good idea, there's a big difference between knowing and understanding someone, and pushing them to see the ugly side of them and call it the real them.
@152 You have literally zero Idea what I said, the scope of your ignorance far exceeds any intellectual ability you have. Let me elaborate a little for you, good men put up with women's bullshit, that's a privilege, evil men retaliate, usually physically, this is not a privilege, it's a crime. Perhaps now you'll understand what I mean.
Because they like chaos and view that as tribulation as true love not because they want to avoid abusers. If that were so many situations wouldn't even exist
If you're talking about dating single mothers (no hate towards S mom's) they shouldn't be your first priority... Like bro, you can have a fresh start with a single woman
I don’t need to put people to the test. Just be observant of their actions and their words. People often reveal their flaws in a short amount of time. The point is determining which flaws is very severe and which is the nature of human. We are all flawed but if it gets to a degree that will impact our interpersonal relationships you need to leave them.
the trick is to remember this not just during but *after* it happens. because even after you pass the "test" youll have to deal with the uncomfortable bit of time afterwards until things settle back to normal, & in that moment you have to stand your ground as well.
True bro. There's a study that said normal & healthy IG dynamics is between 150-200 followers. Higher than that is not genuine interaction anymore. Its either full of bot accounts or these creepy stalkers. But even 200 followers count is not fully genuine interaction. There are only 25 -50 people that are doing genuine back and forth interaction with you.
It's more of a subconscious, instinctual thing he's describing I suppose. But yeah... I don't know any woman who consciously goes around provoking men to see how they react. Lots of them do it cause it apparently makes their relationship 'fun' though. To each their own ig.
True, its important to know, also if a man is mean with money in little ways then he'll be mean with his emotions especially intimes when she is sick or kids are sick or in bad times
@@Blefizcould also meam if he doesn't let his partner to work and pits her home with all the burden of parenting while he himself hide behind his work but also doesn't spend money in the household and the woman basically has to lut her dignity on the line and beg him to pay for basic things only for him to drop some. And when things get rough they know not to count on him because he's a creature with no empathy.
For those who don't know what 'mean with money' means, correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe it's when for example the woman and kids are broke (either because the man is the main provider or the woman spent more money on groceries and other necessities that month than usual etc etc, there could be a million good reasons). Meanwhile the man/father still has more than enough money left. But the man refuses to help the woman and kids when she asks for some money for something important, such as for medical purposes (not talking about buying toys for the kids or something unimportant like that). A surprising amount of men refuse to help in such situations and will even go so far as to accuse the woman of just wanting to use his money to buy unimportant things with it, such as makeup, clothes etc. Even though he knows the woman is not that kind of person and can see she or the kids need it/are sick or whatnot. Unfortunately I know all about it cause my father was that type of person, and even went so far as to refuse to pay child support with the same excuse. Hilarious, I know. He got away with it though, cause he moved to a different country where the law couldn't get to him. Safe to say I grew up pretty poor, food was usually scarce and occasionally we went a few months without water and electricity, cause my mother simply couldn't afford those things. My situation has improved since becoming an adult though, no worries. Otherwise I wouldn't be on the internet after all.😅 I have a bed, a smartphone, some internet and even a small work desk, complete with a chair that breaks my back. Life is great. The point is, a man like that would make for a terrible father and borderline verbally abusive partner. So if my life sounds like a** and you don't want the same life for you and your kids....stear clear of those types of guys (or women for that matter). Unless you fancy the idea of peeing and sh*tting in a toilet that's been collecting the whole families' pee and sh*t for the past week (sorry for the grotesque details).
Yeah one of the reasons I know I'm never going to have children because I have not patience for children. Wouldn't ever hurt children but I know I just don't have it in me to be a parent. I'm also extremely selfish with my.time.
@@hseindesignsthat's not always the case, Me for example i just don't want kids, It's as simple as that, and that doesn't make me selfish, i have my family and i will do everything to protect them, And friends as well,
@@Ronin-R410Awhy don’t you just you know,decide to stop being selfish? Selfishness is a choice. I know it’s not easy and it’s engraved in basically all of us. I’ve struggled my whole life with it. No one enters the world without having a selfish nature. All humans have some sort of selfishness in them. But you can decide how much of your life you are willing to give for your children. My honest advice is to seek God and lay down your life for him first. It’s not easy. Once you do that you will understand the beauty of giving up the things you want to do and it will fill you with a form of duty and then the things you did enjoy doing become things you don’t like anymore. Than you can focus on your family. Your life will be much more fulfilling. God bless ✌🏻
@@Elija.D.Artistwhat my friend did was went on a date with an expensive watch, a ring, branded car keys on a table and things like that. The girl showed impression to those things, looked at a watch and started talking about those things. So he didnt go on a another date with her.
@@marino5652 that's not common at all to do and just because she did that doesn't mean anything. She probably just saw it as something to have a conversation on. For him to just assume anything isn't smart because her intention may have been different.
YES he is. This is the God's Honest Truth. To provoke is to test before the commitment and sanctimony of marriage and parenting. The Manly Art of Fathering is absolutely necessary.
Hey Doc you're giving away the show. I'm willing to have a " FORMAL CONVERSATION. " Problems are (1) Most folks don't know themselves well enough. Most folks are (2) not honest enough to talk about these issues in a " formal conversation." (3) I am all those things just mentioned because i listen to you. I'm Mr. Perfect.
My husband has all the patience in the universe for children….but, he didn’t always have the patience with people who know better. He’s mellowed as we’ve gotten older.
My fiance tested my aggression one time too many, even using her own physical aggression to see how I'd respond. Not one shred of anger on my part. She's not my fiance anymore though. Hah.
This isn’t what he is saying. He isn’t saying that women will be terrible to a man. He is saying that it’s a thing that does to make sure the man is emotionally stable, not repeatedly. What your ex did was an indication that she is emotionally unstable. And sincere can be a danger to women and children, women have to be ok the lookout for those men when they’re getting to know them.
now let's check how a women response when you're getting fired, can't pay rent, or raking in debt. i bet you'll get an instant divorce and forced to pay for child support. who cares about your sadness and depression the moment you're going through a hard time, your wife and kids will be the one that leaving you. they don't want anything to do with you. she want you to be perfect, but she was full of red flag herself
@@michaelchaikoski9304 have you ever thought it might not be looking to ‘upgrade’ maybe she’s decided she’s not gonna settle for just anything. When little boys are out here pretending to be adult men it becomes a problem. I’m not saying there aren’t problem women. This is just my personal experience.
What if she ghosted on you? When you confront them, they tried to gaslight you back by saying "I was having busy days", "I don't use my phone everyday", etc... that drives me nuts
Yeah I mean they put you in a situation where if you confront them, it means you are not understanding how busy or bad their days were... but when you let them do that, they won't respond anyway 🙄
I need to confront them, obviously they are t interested…just keep it moving…if they ghost you the last thing you want to do is reach out to them…if you’re holding out hope “which you shouldn’t”…showing her you have options and are wanted by not responding is the only way she would want you.
If you tried contacting her and didn't hear from her for days, then I would keep it moving. She didn't think highly enough of you to make a priority, regardless of reason. You didn't have to be top priority, but days is inexcusable for the reasons she stated.
@@avasinha9764 I earn my own money, thank you very much. Don't need a man to finance anything for me. But a stable job with liveable income is important. Beauty on the outside is not really important. Same ideals, morals and values are.
That's far more likely the reason that she's doing it, to see if you'll refuse to tolerate her behavior. Not in a violent way, but letting her know you're alpha enough to call her out on being irrational and refusing to engage with her over it. Basically a test to see which men are alpha or beta as well as a test to see who can be aggressive rather than placating or submissive in a confrontation. It's a test to see if she can look up to him to be her leader. Not saying it's right, but it is the way it is. Peterson got it wrong: it's not about seeing if he's aggressive so as to avoid it, it is precisely about seeing if he's aggressive (again, not physically) because she wants that attribute.
Did that once by accident and was amazed at the change in demeanor. This bf was very laid back person. Until the wrong button was pushed. He crossed his arms and refused to continue the conversation. We then went to dinner and his driving was borderline scary. We ate in near silence as he refused to discuss the issue. I broke up with him that same week.
Exactly! I had a similar experience. In my case I just made a joke how he could wear pink shirt so we could match and he became furious that I was "testing his masculinity, alpha male status" and gave me a silent treatment and... some weird outburts. I realized I cannot be with someone who cannot take a silly joke and has such a fragile ego.
@@zeroounce8874 Nah driving in a way that makes you scared was a hundred red flags in itself, that's some psycho sh*t. I would've told him to pull over right then and there cause I'm not waiting to see of he intentionally or accidentally unalives me in a car crash.
@@beetea2886weak excuse for being a Bad Person. Saying a Woman wants to test you as a father. Imagine men would fuck Up Women to simulate her capacity of being a mother to puberty children. Shout Out to abusive husbands, testing the pain tolerance of His woman to See If she is capable to withstand giving Birth. But right, being annoying as an full grown Adult is the Same Like behaving with own Kids. Like trying to Take Off negative Emotions from your Partner would be to much to ask for. Its expected from men to Understand females Psychology and emotional needs while women are being praised to make Males emotions even more fragile, pushing them into Anger and destroying their emotional Balance? Because of what? Being to insecure If you man can handle Kids or Not... Like this wouldnt be the Same for women... Like your Kids wouldnt be good children If both Partners could Live in harmony...🤦♂️
@@stevenelson1456weak excuse for being a Bad Person. Saying a Woman wants to test you as a father. Imagine men would fuck Up Women to simulate her capacity of being a mother to puberty children. Shout Out to abusive husbands, testing the pain tolerance of His woman to See If she is capable to withstand giving Birth. But right, being annoying as an full grown Adult is the Same Like behaving with own Kids. Like trying to Take Off negative Emotions from your Partner would be to much to ask for. Its expected from men to Understand females Psychology and emotional needs while women are being praised to make Males emotions even more fragile, pushing them into Anger and destroying their emotional Balance? Because of what? Being to insecure If you man can handle Kids or Not... Like this wouldnt be the Same for women... Like your Kids wouldnt be good children If both Partners could Live in harmony...🤦♂️
As a psychologist myself, I find that “sick”. Provoking is not good. If you spend enough time with a man, he’s likely to be angry at some point as we all do. That’s when you will see how he deals with anger. Put people in their natural environment and pay attention to their behaviour. No deliberate provocation is necessary.
Otherwise its manipulation. You're reaction to an unathentic event designed for you to make a poor decision isn't cool. Like you said, your real self comes out in real situations.
Respectfully it is. Because you have to see how they would react if you don’t stop- like a child might not bcuz they don’t properly assess anger/danger/boundaries/etc. He is saying do it at least to see if they would potential “snap” at you or a child.
Yes, this. Its definitely a requirement to be with anyone to know how they handle anger in different situations. An overly aggressive parent is extremely harmful.
Sick perhaps from the moral standpoint of creating bad situation for the sole intention of seeing's someone's reaction.....but is it true! The truth of how the world is that is what matters, not how we wish it were. People are constantly testing the waters intentionally or unintentionally to gage their partners character. It's just human, a perfectly imperfect human behavior honed over thousands of years of evolution.
He’s ABSOLUTELY correct. I Love the fact that my man has the potential for aggression but keeps it under wraps until needed. He has ALWAYS made me feel safe. (48 years & going strong)
As I approach 60, I have concluded that a solid relationship with yourself is first and foremost. After that, build marketable skills. If anything, let them come to you. Friends and mentorship over fatherhood. Carpe diem!
Right on the money you don't bring men around kids until you know how they are going to react to other men's kids. Especially when kids are being kids testing the boundaries. Being brats or just onery and rumbunctious.
There are some great dad's and stepdad and some women who are not or should not be allowed to be around kids unfortunately some women aren't any better at parenting and can be worse.
Iv definitely done this. With exactly children in mind. If he has low tolerance he's not the one. It's a playful test but it's also one that is enough to annoy a person that is quick to anger.
A man's temper is perfectly valid. The worst trait in a person is not being able to control their emotions. A short temper keeps you from getting screwed by life and society. But if you get emotional from it instead of remaining logical you will have a problem
Yeah and you probably provoked him to anger witch is fucked up n vever play games and test a man any human could get angry if you're intentionally doing something foolish
That's why men should be smart and test women too... A lot of rich guys try to keep a low profile when they go on a date with woman to know if she's only after money or not. It's about a life long commitment but alot of brothers just choose beauty over her character unfortunately.
@@artemis7642 men are also suppose to teach and lead. If the woman has some weaknesses in character, man can help her to correct those weaknesses.. of course, it goes without question that the man must improve himself first before trying to improve others
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ITS CALLED SHIT TESTING AND IT MAKES WOMEN LOOK EVIL.
I love Dr. Petersen…one of the smartest, arguably one of the most influential role models of boys and MEN today…
Yet, the biggest S!MP and ideologue that has walked the Earth playing his candy-a$$ed washed up one time slave of socialist academia to become a better slave to the elites selling his “return to yeh plantation” b/c life is so great being a married Beta-Bux mile for soy-iety!
Thank you Dr. Petersen for your take on masculinity but listening to advice of a married (plantation slave) man is like today’s women taking advice from their washed up DG fellow older C.C riders in the Femcel Consensus!
You can test this by observing him around kids. If aren't smart enough to figure that out and you provoke him yourself, you deserve to be alone
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So damn true
Oh no, that's my weakest flaw
Many men have all the patience in the world with children, but very little tolerance for provocative women.
That is a personal preference, but not related to a uncontrolled temper.
Like, I have little Tolerance for annoying ADULTS in general. I don't explode in rage and react impulsive and irrationally, I just remove and avoid them.
The thing that is important is not "how tolerant are you towards people not respecting your boundaries", it's "how in control are you over your actions and emotions"
Some fully grown adult that is being an asshole is not exactly like a child not knowing what it does and needing patient guidance.
Yes, but do you see… that’s _appropriate._
Little girls can become combative or assertive young women, a man who will hit a woman definitely shouldn’t have a daughter
@@hwway4488 That’s terrific moralizing. Why did I go to school and study moral law? Swap the genders and see if you agree with the same statement.
@@ThatsSpectacular in fact I also believe that a woman who would hit or attack a man shouldn’t have a little boy to abuse either. Tell me more about where you went to school to study moral law and what you learned there?
I agree with that. I grow up with a violent/aggressive father and I don't want a man like that to be my partner either the father of my kids and I found one.
@@Nohandle369lol good question
@@Hexmod369people tend to be attracted subconsciously to people like their parents, so it does tend to happen generally.
Cap women usually find abusive husbands attractive if they have had an abusive father
@@havoc3894Or an abusive mother. My mother found my extremely abusive father very attractive , she even admired that he could beat up anyone. While her father was lovely. I also know girls from wonderful backgrounds with no abuse that find these type of violent guys attractive.
@@Antonocon This isn't the norm. Almost all spousel abuse is intergenerational and in the majority of cases, the violence is both ways from both men and women. It is however the norm that women on average are attracted to dark triad personality types (bad boys) and on average they're more likely to be abusive.
This shit hit too dam hard. RIP my brother and sister. He took his rage out on my siblings, mother and I. I'm still on the ledge.
May god bless you brother ❤
Step back.. take the knowledge learn and bring wisdom into practice.
@@PsychicRenegadeTarot - suicide, but as a survivor I can tell you I'm constantly bouncing back and forth from the ledge, to crying, to laughing, to dreaming about killing him myself. He's no nonger allowed in my life though. I'm trying.
Dude man this broke my heart to read, Im so sorry for what you’ve went through. Just by reading your comment I can somehow tell you have a really good heart,
Stick in there, It always gets better if you keep trying. But also, remember to relax because trying too hard can make matters worse; you might know this but if you don’t trust me, I’ve been there.
Remember to try to enjoy yourself and breathe and live life, go to therapy and keep trying and trying and one day you’ll dig yourself out of this hole for good
❤take courage
He’s not lying. Children are very good at testing a true man’s patience. But man are children the best to ever happen to me
What exactly would you say are some of those best things? I also want to start thinking about having kids
@@taplubambhos2869You learn to see the world through a different colored lens. I could have lived my whole life without children. The questions, love, and innocence are just something that raises a sense of duty in a man
@@taplubambhos2869 someone who loves you all the time for no reason. When you get home, they smile and jump on you, and are happy to see you no matter what. its great
@@taplubambhos2869it's like reliving your childhood but having the means to make it better. It's watching them grow and learn, it's pretty cool.
@@midnightperformance528 perfect. That’s the most perfect answer. That’s all true. Among many other things to love my children over that reliving the childhood you always wanted but could never have is so rewarding as a father. My kids are extremely happy. I wasn’t as a child. Makes me proud.
A couple weeks into dating my husband, his new dishwasher overflowed with soap and within minutes his entire kitchen was covered in bubbles. He said, “oh no, I need some towels, let me soak this … I’m so sorry you had to see me get angry like that” when I tell you he had the calmest reaction I’ve ever seen (didn’t raise his voice, didn’t panic, just calmly assessed the situation and fixed it and labeled that as anger) I mean … I was instantly sold. Now I’m pregnant and have crazy hormones and he’s my perfectly calm helper
Haha love it! I assessed the temperament of my husband too. Congratulations on you pregnancy!!
@@abigailelizabeth4729 thank you! Yes the temperament assessment is very important. My temperament didn’t hit his expectations though so he had me work on it for a few years 🤣 but it’s good now
Best of luck with y'all's pregnancy.
@@clamsr8565 he has never given me any reason to not be overly appreciative though. He’s always trying his best and taking really good care of me. It’s wild to me. The other girls he dated didn’t like him because he was “too sweet” or they weren’t ready for husband material yet and I’m just in awe of how dumb women can be
Seems like a man for us other men to look up to. Congrats! 🎉
Best practice is to travel together.
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Yes agree that’s the best way to
Gaby petito…..
True. No woman wants a violent man to father their kids. You want to know he will protect you from external threats, but never aggressive to you or children
This is an absolute lie😂
There are a lot of woman who have turned down guys because they weren't aggressive enough, granted these women have some sort of bad past usually but they end up in relationships where the guy wears a white wife beater shirt. So you know.
@nurgleschosen8145 no mentally sound woman wants a violent man. The mentally ill women are not the norm
Everything is true when it comes to women.
Unless the women has grown up with an abusive father or lack of a father, which accounts for millions of women
I have virtually boundless patience for children, I have less patience for adults who act like children just to annoy me.
What is virtual patience?😅
what if a kid kicked you in the shin because they can and refuse to listen
@@nobodywatchesnooby I suppose for most people it would depend on how old the kid is
@@nobodywatchesnoobywell I train muy Thai and condition my shins meaning there more dense and harder than everyday people it’ll hurt him more them more to hit me
@@nobodywatchesnooby As much as you wanna hit the kid, no matter who's the aggressor... unfortunately You'll be the one standing in court for "child abuse"
So the smart move will be to either record his behaviour for your innocence... or to not get hit without attacking him (considering that kids are slower with short limbs compared to adults)
If you want to get to know your partner, tell him NO and watch the reaction. Period.
If a guy asks u out and u "test" him by saying no, he's just going to leave. I don't think that's the ultimate test there...
@@SistoActivitatemAtmCan you try to think beyond the surface?
@@truth-om7izexcuse me? I will not fantasize about women's organs and bones etc, creep! Keep this kind of talk to yourself pal, really freaky shit...
So true !!!!
@@SistoActivitatemAtm "Know your partner" indicates that a relationship has already been established.
Always got to be able to say what’s on your mind and in 5 minutes be calm about it . Being able to control yourself is a blessing.
I don't have patience for adults that should know better, totally different with childs, old people or animals.
This makes me think 😅 my ex randomly freaked out one day and told me "what you wanna do? Hit me?"
I was so damn confused and lost in why she would ask me that... I left the scene at the time and just sat on the couch thinking ..."what just happened!"
Now this makes sense.
Absolutely. This man is great. Men wouldn’t like to hear that women need to do this, but it’s true. Even women don’t realize they do this, but they may indirectly do it. There needs to be the capacity for aggression but the absolute ability to control that. The control and even gentleness is necessary and makes makes that man very attractive and stand out from the rest. Kids and all humans around him are going to need that, and that man that can do that will excel.
How about those annoying women learn to control themselves? Women always test a man's temper just by being her. No need to make it harder on purpose
@@johnw9038you've got issues.
Well said!
test a woman by making them pay for their own meal. Equality goes both ways kiddo
@@johnw9038Uh oh Incel alert
It isn't intentional it's instinctive it's the game of life
Sadly some women do things like this intentionally, but even I've caught myself doing it unintentionally and wondered wtf I was doing lol
Same I dont get it i fasted, so I would have more control and dont argue with my husband but then outta no where I answered him with attitude and we were both confused, he is my world so I apologized quickly and he forgave me quickly but its still not ok this man does everything to treat me like his queen and yet I test him for no good reason God help me 😅😅
yes for the purpose jb said though it isn't absolute .An outlier is present where the motive is intentional ,riling up and breaking the stoic shell giving the dopamine burst of superiority for the inducer.
Sounds like an excuse to be an asshole.
Yes, yes, yes
Meanwhile, men with choices are filtering out provocative women.
That opening line had me thinking he was going in a very different direction. 😂
Right???
Jordie, it’s called a “shit test” 😂
Which shouldn't be a thing
@@mickethegoblin7167it definitely should...
It sure has saved me from ever having to change a nappy, btw it's easy to spot the best part of it all is they play a game but expect you to put full emotion into it knowing full well the scenario she is making out is a problem is nothing but a test ie (game)..
Don't play games with your partner or you lose your partner Idgaf if your with child or not!
In the wise words of rasputia from the movie "Norbit"
("But your with child"),
(She farts)
("Boom, there's ya child")
🤷😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
OK Lahey
These tests actually mostly happen if she's not fully into you so just skip her I'd recommend there are other's who love you more and of course you can love them in exchange also better
yes pick-up artist community call it "shit test". it was introduced my Mystery and it's way more complex than this simplified explanation by Jordan. but it gives the idea!
My husband would say, "get a man drunk, and then careully watch his behavior".
You’ll see me laugh a lot and get too talkative with people then
We test men even when we don’t know we are!
Often subconsciously, "sh*t tests" happen in every early relationship. It goes both directions. Sometimes even on the first date! Light bulb went on for me recently that I totally did this. Had a great date, greater second date. Then two days later I totally did this. Was it fear of abandonment or subconscious doo doo test... then again, maybe it was a poor reaction to his own doo doo test too! It really cuts to the chase. Trigger deep seated reactions. Compatibility tests might be a better term than doo doo test.
Everybody tests everyone all the time without realizing it. Men do it too. The sky is blue.
Oh men do shit tests too. But it will be simple af. Hey I got family coming over. Don't have your tit out in front of my family while feeding. Hey can you make me something to eat? Or just seeing the way she talks to you. If she has more respect for her boss at work than her own man, that's a red flag
If you are testing a person solely to see what they do wrong rather than right then you are not ready for a relationship. Playing games is what children do.
its pretty annoying negl
I check a man out by how he treats his waitress , who he hangs with and how must he drinks 🍺. ❤
I think I’d ace your test (maybe other than who I hang out with).
Peterson, the gladiator of psychology
Amen I hope you reply with another based reply. I also hope he enters heaven. Jordan
Sometimes that provocation hits the wrong button cause it's done at the wrong time or crosses certain lines
Just as the flirtation and persuasion from men goes wrong as it crosses certain lines of the women
True story! I do that straight!
"You don't check that out by having a formal conversation!!"✅️✅️✅️✅️✅️
When a woman is provocative it is because she is provocative. Quality women don’t fake being provocative to test a man. Quality people are genuine and they don’t fake or play games. They are straight with you. They are honest. They are free of deceit.
Thank you for this comment.
Peterson just constantly caping for women all the time.
As a boy, I love this comment
Yeah, most of the stuff he says is so weird. So many people have issues with clear communication and this shit is not helping.
Yes. What tricks? This testing theory is garbage.
Women be thinking: "do i do all that shit?"
Why are we teaching women to play more games with men💀
I disagree here with Jordan about women testing men - it’s really not about gender. But I think it’s a smart idea to see how any partner handles anger, stress, even being drunk or dealing with outside flirtation before they move in together.
I disagree with Jordan when he mentions smart women
There are no smart women
@@EricSmyth4Christ what a truly erudite man you must be 🤣🤣
@@judegrindvoll8467 it’s painful, but yes
Ecc 1:18
@EricSmyth4Christ Change your name.
And they worry about men being toxic!
Exactly the point. Things like this only happen in the beginning of a relationship, you don't want to be beaten or worse by your partner in the moment you go live together. When trust is established, the games end, but for women's safety (and children's too, eventually) the initial phase is always a test. Men subconsciously test women too. If at least one of them doesn't like the other, they won't end up together, period. Too bad, for antisocial disorders the mask tends to fall after months or years, so there is a possibility to have a shitty partner even if you test them, but that's misfortune.
I would say the same thing in reverse. I've seen many mothers who can't control their temper and suck at motherhood. Some people have no business at procreation
@@Jim-gyswry yeah who gets to decide that screwd either way but half sounds good I'm glad my procreation days are over. I wouldn't want to have kids now
Raising kids ain't no joke
Thats one reason why men tend to prefer kind, honest, optomitic women, beacuse women are in very close contact with new born babies which are extreamly vulnetable. An aggessive, impatient, cynical, dishonest woman is dangerious to infants.
@@donalddavid8199 I'm not even a parent, just a big brother and by a single look at my parents i already know how stressful it is, I forgot the last time I saw them laughing
Absolutely. Many women murder their own children. Men are obviously the most aggressive of the human species so it is important for women to assess their potential for harm before mating with them.
Actually staying cool has gotten me into trouble when the test is supposed to make me very angry or upset. Sometimes they want you to be in control and calm but not all women are smart or know wtf they want.
they feed on feelings and drama where is it the most? hour long argue about made up bs...
you know, the ability to "test" men and "get away with it" is actually a privilege they don't acknowledge, growing up I learned that testing older men was not a good idea, there's a big difference between knowing and understanding someone, and pushing them to see the ugly side of them and call it the real them.
No, the privilege is NOT having to worry about your and your children's safety. Yet men test women too, but in other ways.
@152 You have literally zero Idea what I said, the scope of your ignorance far exceeds any intellectual ability you have. Let me elaborate a little for you, good men put up with women's bullshit, that's a privilege, evil men retaliate, usually physically, this is not a privilege, it's a crime. Perhaps now you'll understand what I mean.
it’s called “shit testing” women purposefully will provoke to understand your reaction often subconsciously
Because they like chaos and view that as tribulation as true love not because they want to avoid abusers. If that were so many situations wouldn't even exist
But how do they provoke
No time for drama or bullshit . As long as there's communication and understanding that her kids listen. There's no drama or bullshit
Her kids? Theres your first mistake. Don't go after single mothers. They're alone with a kid for a reason.
If you're talking about dating single mothers (no hate towards S mom's) they shouldn't be your first priority... Like bro, you can have a fresh start with a single woman
Don’t date single mom’s. It’s not your job to pay for another man’s kids.
Find a single woman and start new.
I think hes talking about first relationships
Sounds like you should never have kids. Kids don’t listen and that’s why they require so much patience.
I don’t need to put people to the test. Just be observant of their actions and their words. People often reveal their flaws in a short amount of time. The point is determining which flaws is very severe and which is the nature of human. We are all flawed but if it gets to a degree that will impact our interpersonal relationships you need to leave them.
the trick is to remember this not just during but *after* it happens. because even after you pass the "test" youll have to deal with the uncomfortable bit of time afterwards until things settle back to normal, & in that moment you have to stand your ground as well.
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Women know in the first 5 minutes if they will be with you.
True bro. There's a study that said normal & healthy IG dynamics is between 150-200 followers. Higher than that is not genuine interaction anymore. Its either full of bot accounts or these creepy stalkers. But even 200 followers count is not fully genuine interaction. There are only 25 -50 people that are doing genuine back and forth interaction with you.
We test even when we don't
know We are 🌟🙏
Provoking him on purpose to test his patience for the sake of her future children. Don't you think we are overestimating things...🤔
It's more of a subconscious, instinctual thing he's describing I suppose.
But yeah... I don't know any woman who consciously goes around provoking men to see how they react. Lots of them do it cause it apparently makes their relationship 'fun' though. To each their own ig.
True, its important to know, also if a man is mean with money in little ways then he'll be mean with his emotions especially intimes when she is sick or kids are sick or in bad times
What do you mean by "mean with money" ?
@@artemis7642probably she means that if a man ain't a sucker paying for dine and dashers 304s he is 'mean with his money'.
@@Blefizcould also meam if he doesn't let his partner to work and pits her home with all the burden of parenting while he himself hide behind his work but also doesn't spend money in the household and the woman basically has to lut her dignity on the line and beg him to pay for basic things only for him to drop some. And when things get rough they know not to count on him because he's a creature with no empathy.
Wtf is mean with money?
For those who don't know what 'mean with money' means, correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe it's when for example the woman and kids are broke (either because the man is the main provider or the woman spent more money on groceries and other necessities that month than usual etc etc, there could be a million good reasons). Meanwhile the man/father still has more than enough money left. But the man refuses to help the woman and kids when she asks for some money for something important, such as for medical purposes (not talking about buying toys for the kids or something unimportant like that). A surprising amount of men refuse to help in such situations and will even go so far as to accuse the woman of just wanting to use his money to buy unimportant things with it, such as makeup, clothes etc. Even though he knows the woman is not that kind of person and can see she or the kids need it/are sick or whatnot.
Unfortunately I know all about it cause my father was that type of person, and even went so far as to refuse to pay child support with the same excuse. Hilarious, I know. He got away with it though, cause he moved to a different country where the law couldn't get to him. Safe to say I grew up pretty poor, food was usually scarce and occasionally we went a few months without water and electricity, cause my mother simply couldn't afford those things. My situation has improved since becoming an adult though, no worries. Otherwise I wouldn't be on the internet after all.😅 I have a bed, a smartphone, some internet and even a small work desk, complete with a chair that breaks my back. Life is great. The point is, a man like that would make for a terrible father and borderline verbally abusive partner. So if my life sounds like a** and you don't want the same life for you and your kids....stear clear of those types of guys (or women for that matter). Unless you fancy the idea of peeing and sh*tting in a toilet that's been collecting the whole families' pee and sh*t for the past week (sorry for the grotesque details).
not want to test. just observe. men and women are capable of doing these things. we live by much of your shared knowledge. thank you sir.
I'm a teacher and i have all the patience for children but none for manipulative women
If you incite someone to anger and expect them not to be angry, you're setting yourself up for failure.
Weak individuals can't control their anger.
Nah, what is being expectedis not being angry but being able to control it.
He clearly stated that it wasn't about whether or not he got angry, it's about how they reach to the anger.
@dll7658 I see that as counter intuitive and a lesson in anger is shared that's useless.
@@Metalmenace_ Then I guess you don't get it lol
Agree with the aggression check. Men (and women) who are provoked by children have no right having them.
Yeah one of the reasons I know I'm never going to have children because I have not patience for children. Wouldn't ever hurt children but I know I just don't have it in me to be a parent.
I'm also extremely selfish with my.time.
@@Ronin-R410A you will always be selfish until you have kids.
@@hseindesigns can't have em luckily ain't got a woman for that to happen
@@hseindesignsthat's not always the case,
Me for example i just don't want kids,
It's as simple as that, and that doesn't make me selfish, i have my family and i will do everything to protect them,
And friends as well,
@@Ronin-R410Awhy don’t you just you know,decide to stop being selfish? Selfishness is a choice. I know it’s not easy and it’s engraved in basically all of us. I’ve struggled my whole life with it. No one enters the world without having a selfish nature. All humans have some sort of selfishness in them. But you can decide how much of your life you are willing to give for your children. My honest advice is to seek God and lay down your life for him first. It’s not easy. Once you do that you will understand the beauty of giving up the things you want to do and it will fill you with a form of duty and then the things you did enjoy doing become things you don’t like anymore. Than you can focus on your family. Your life will be much more fulfilling. God bless ✌🏻
Fukin EXACTLY... Women tests men just like men tests women, if 1 can do it so can the other
How do men test women?
@@Elija.D.Artistwhat my friend did was went on a date with an expensive watch, a ring, branded car keys on a table and things like that. The girl showed impression to those things, looked at a watch and started talking about those things. So he didnt go on a another date with her.
@@marino5652that is extremely unusual and not a common practice for men at all but good for him 😂
@@marino5652 that's not common at all to do and just because she did that doesn't mean anything. She probably just saw it as something to have a conversation on. For him to just assume anything isn't smart because her intention may have been different.
And you should. Number 1 suspect in murder is ALWAYS the spouse.
“No one wants to talk about that..” I want to talk about that !!😂
Jordan Peterson is never late!
He arrives precisely when he means to!
Jordon Peterson doing god's work here
Oh so you mean everything coming out of his mouth is bullshit make believe
You mean satan work.
YES he is.
This is the God's Honest Truth.
To provoke is to test before the commitment and sanctimony of marriage and parenting.
The Manly Art of Fathering is absolutely necessary.
What has it got to do with your dillusional God lol the man admits hes agnostic 😅
@@holdencommodorehsv #AF #AgnosticFRONT
Absolutely. I studied my man diligently. He’s going to be a wonderful father ❤
"A man can be provoked by children." No truer words have ever been spoken.
True true, I definitely feel like my wife is testing and checking my patience
perhaps you test hers too?
Yes they are !
Not me.
Also the only test I know wemen are doing is the loyalty test.
Hey Doc you're giving away the show. I'm willing to have a " FORMAL CONVERSATION. " Problems are (1) Most folks don't know themselves well enough. Most folks are (2) not honest enough to talk about these issues in a " formal conversation." (3) I am all those things just mentioned because i listen to you. I'm Mr. Perfect.
LOVE YOU DR . PETERSON. THE MOST BRILLIANT MAN ALIVE!!!!
My husband has all the patience in the universe for children….but, he didn’t always have the patience with people who know better. He’s mellowed as we’ve gotten older.
well testosterone levels sink after being 21
He sure sounds dumb. Smart people listen to people who know better to get smarter.
Peterson is the Gandalf of this era
There’s only one Lord and HE DOES NOT SHARE POWER.
Na, just to you he is..
@@TheVoiceofTheProphetElizer No lord, no god no santa...bout time you knew..😊
Wiere how such an innocuous comment can trigger people. Grow up lol.
No, He just a Gandalf to morons..to me he is more like that annoying highschool student who wants to pretend he knows everything but doesn't.
You dont check that out by having formal conversation.
Trully valuable
"if a girl likes you, she'll be mean to you."
Pretty solid advice from my childhood apparently.
That's actually one of the glitched female AIs.
My fiance tested my aggression one time too many, even using her own physical aggression to see how I'd respond. Not one shred of anger on my part.
She's not my fiance anymore though. Hah.
Good teaching them
That’s why cause women don’t want pussies
She Likes it more rough .. and maybe she wont Feed her Kids ..
That's a sick thing to do to a man. You're going to instinctively defend yourself.
This isn’t what he is saying. He isn’t saying that women will be terrible to a man. He is saying that it’s a thing that does to make sure the man is emotionally stable, not repeatedly. What your ex did was an indication that she is emotionally unstable. And sincere can be a danger to women and children, women have to be ok the lookout for those men when they’re getting to know them.
Love the way you liable All women with blanket statements.
wish I would’ve heard this advice sooner
STAY COOL GENTLEMEN
Nah, be the badie as the kunts love bad boys
And never get laid..
Just walk away from any silly test.
@@Vivungisport you clearly didn't quite understood what Peterson implied
😂
Absolutely agree! You check for 'safety' before you even consider a relationship.
now let's check how a women response when you're getting fired, can't pay rent, or raking in debt.
i bet you'll get an instant divorce and forced to pay for child support. who cares about your sadness and depression
the moment you're going through a hard time, your wife and kids will be the one that leaving you.
they don't want anything to do with you.
she want you to be perfect, but she was full of red flag herself
Likewise with the woman. She's always looking to upgrade. Test that.
Exactly. Men worry about being ‘catfished’
Women worry about being attacked, r@ped or killed.!
@@michaelchaikoski9304 have you ever thought it might not be looking to ‘upgrade’ maybe she’s decided she’s not gonna settle for just anything. When little boys are out here pretending to be adult men it becomes a problem. I’m not saying there aren’t problem women. This is just my personal experience.
But you don't do that with your employer at work. 😂
Dr J.Peterson is a wise man
You gotta test the spirit so true
What if she ghosted on you? When you confront them, they tried to gaslight you back by saying "I was having busy days", "I don't use my phone everyday", etc... that drives me nuts
Yeah I mean they put you in a situation where if you confront them, it means you are not understanding how busy or bad their days were... but when you let them do that, they won't respond anyway 🙄
Keep walking until you find a woman who is jumping to text you back. Do be mindful of job hours though.
I need to confront them, obviously they are t interested…just keep it moving…if they ghost you the last thing you want to do is reach out to them…if you’re holding out hope “which you shouldn’t”…showing her you have options and are wanted by not responding is the only way she would want you.
No need *
If you tried contacting her and didn't hear from her for days, then I would keep it moving. She didn't think highly enough of you to make a priority, regardless of reason. You didn't have to be top priority, but days is inexcusable for the reasons she stated.
Very true Jordan. Another is she will check in most cases his financial status. That often will be the deciding factor as sad as that is.
It is sad for both sides. Women being financial dependent on men is asking for trouble.
They are not worth all the work.
Why it's sad....beauty , health, finances are important aspect...if u want to marry....for sustaining that u need other stuff...
@@avasinha9764 another person's finances should not be your concern
Relationships should not be based on how much money one of them has.
@@avasinha9764 I earn my own money, thank you very much. Don't need a man to finance anything for me. But a stable job with liveable income is important.
Beauty on the outside is not really important. Same ideals, morals and values are.
This is a very underrated video.
I wouldn't waste even a second on a woman who behaved like that for even a millisecond.
That's far more likely the reason that she's doing it, to see if you'll refuse to tolerate her behavior. Not in a violent way, but letting her know you're alpha enough to call her out on being irrational and refusing to engage with her over it. Basically a test to see which men are alpha or beta as well as a test to see who can be aggressive rather than placating or submissive in a confrontation. It's a test to see if she can look up to him to be her leader.
Not saying it's right, but it is the way it is. Peterson got it wrong: it's not about seeing if he's aggressive so as to avoid it, it is precisely about seeing if he's aggressive (again, not physically) because she wants that attribute.
Did that once by accident and was amazed at the change in demeanor. This bf was very laid back person. Until the wrong button was pushed. He crossed his arms and refused to continue the conversation. We then went to dinner and his driving was borderline scary. We ate in near silence as he refused to discuss the issue. I broke up with him that same week.
What a boy
But he wasn’t violent with you. He didn’t hit you or shout at you. He controlled his emotions. He is that type of a man you want.
did you apologize?
Exactly! I had a similar experience. In my case I just made a joke how he could wear pink shirt so we could match and he became furious that I was "testing his masculinity, alpha male status" and gave me a silent treatment and... some weird outburts. I realized I cannot be with someone who cannot take a silly joke and has such a fragile ego.
@@zeroounce8874 Nah driving in a way that makes you scared was a hundred red flags in itself, that's some psycho sh*t. I would've told him to pull over right then and there cause I'm not waiting to see of he intentionally or accidentally unalives me in a car crash.
This is the thing that most young men dont understand.... Shes not playing games, shes testing you.
Exactly. These comments are dumb
She doesnt know what she's doing, you gotta set the path.
Maybe subconsciously, if we're being generous.
Tolerating BS is not a good strategy for life
Right but being able to respond calmly is.
You don't need to tolerate it. The point of the video is how you face the BS
@@beetea2886weak excuse for being a Bad Person. Saying a Woman wants to test you as a father.
Imagine men would fuck Up Women to simulate her capacity of being a mother to puberty children. Shout Out to abusive husbands, testing the pain tolerance of His woman to See If she is capable to withstand giving Birth.
But right, being annoying as an full grown Adult is the Same Like behaving with own Kids.
Like trying to Take Off negative Emotions from your Partner would be to much to ask for.
Its expected from men to Understand females Psychology and emotional needs while women are being praised to make Males emotions even more fragile, pushing them into Anger and destroying their emotional Balance? Because of what? Being to insecure If you man can handle Kids or Not... Like this wouldnt be the Same for women... Like your Kids wouldnt be good children If both Partners could Live in harmony...🤦♂️
@@stevenelson1456weak excuse for being a Bad Person. Saying a Woman wants to test you as a father.
Imagine men would fuck Up Women to simulate her capacity of being a mother to puberty children. Shout Out to abusive husbands, testing the pain tolerance of His woman to See If she is capable to withstand giving Birth.
But right, being annoying as an full grown Adult is the Same Like behaving with own Kids.
Like trying to Take Off negative Emotions from your Partner would be to much to ask for.
Its expected from men to Understand females Psychology and emotional needs while women are being praised to make Males emotions even more fragile, pushing them into Anger and destroying their emotional Balance? Because of what? Being to insecure If you man can handle Kids or Not... Like this wouldnt be the Same for women... Like your Kids wouldnt be good children If both Partners could Live in harmony...🤦♂️
Little siblings will prepare you for that 😂
Exactly I have about two of them always getting on my nerves 😂😂
He's always SO right!
😊yes we are always checking them out.
This just made me check myself and now I'm making improvements
You are a great father I’m sure.
Thank you for telling me about something my dad should have... Again.
As a psychologist myself, I find that “sick”. Provoking is not good. If you spend enough time with a man, he’s likely to be angry at some point as we all do. That’s when you will see how he deals with anger. Put people in their natural environment and pay attention to their behaviour. No deliberate provocation is necessary.
Otherwise its manipulation. You're reaction to an unathentic event designed for you to make a poor decision isn't cool. Like you said, your real self comes out in real situations.
Respectfully it is. Because you have to see how they would react if you don’t stop- like a child might not bcuz they don’t properly assess anger/danger/boundaries/etc. He is saying do it at least to see if they would potential “snap” at you or a child.
Yes, this. Its definitely a requirement to be with anyone to know how they handle anger in different situations. An overly aggressive parent is extremely harmful.
Sick perhaps from the moral standpoint of creating bad situation for the sole intention of seeing's someone's reaction.....but is it true! The truth of how the world is that is what matters, not how we wish it were. People are constantly testing the waters intentionally or unintentionally to gage their partners character. It's just human, a perfectly imperfect human behavior honed over thousands of years of evolution.
Women test men as if they are devil and test Jesus Christ’s temptation! Not wise.
He’s ABSOLUTELY correct. I Love the fact that my man has the potential for aggression but keeps it under wraps until needed. He has ALWAYS made me feel safe. (48 years & going strong)
As I approach 60, I have concluded that a solid relationship with yourself is first and foremost. After that, build marketable skills. If anything, let them come to you. Friends and mentorship over fatherhood.
Carpe diem!
Said to perfection ❤
Do you have a wife and kids now?
@@jay-tl2un
No. But still open to it. Doubtful.
Carpe diem
@jay-tl2un marriage and kids aren't for everyone, it's time we officially say it
I have no tricks and abhor playing games. I’m genuine and know when someone’s not genuine.
That's right, Doctor Peterson!!!! Mind of this century!
When I went through "courting," if they antagonized me, I wouldn't get mad, I'd just write them off and leave lol
‘Ma, where’s pa?’
‘He went to buy milk a few years ago sweetie’
So what you’re saying is they aren’t honest and play all sorts of tricks.
That’s what I’m hearing. Sounds like a miserable time.
I wish I had known this 10 years ago. Genius.
This is SOOOOOO true.
This guy is just so intelligent, the more I listen to him the better he gets.
Right on the money you don't bring men around kids until you know how they are going to react to other men's kids. Especially when kids are being kids testing the boundaries. Being brats or just onery and rumbunctious.
Why the hell would any women bring a man around her kids without their father around? Typical western whores
There are some great dad's and stepdad and some women who are not or should not be allowed to be around kids unfortunately some women aren't any better at parenting and can be worse.
He never said anything about not bringing in around children?
@KevinRaymondJacksonJr. You are wise cuz women today are a different breed. Venomous.
@@DianaGreenland-qp6wk Statically mothers abuse children more often than fathers
Iv definitely done this. With exactly children in mind. If he has low tolerance he's not the one. It's a playful test but it's also one that is enough to annoy a person that is quick to anger.
We absolutely love you and your teaching thank you
He just described shit testing in the most clinical terms possible
Yeah this is a really ridiculous way of saying “I want to make sure men aren’t psychotic and going to kill me” before getting serious
I pass the test! I pass the test! I pass the test. They love me, they really love me!
This is 1000% correct
I never thought about that.
So true!!!! And I left him - the WORST trait in a man is the inability to control his temper. WORST
A man's temper is perfectly valid.
The worst trait in a person is not being able to control their emotions.
A short temper keeps you from getting screwed by life and society.
But if you get emotional from it instead of remaining logical you will have a problem
Yet, you want a bad boy don’t you my queen B?
Yeah and you probably provoked him to anger witch is fucked up n vever play games and test a man any human could get angry if you're intentionally doing something foolish
Question is, why was he always angry? You might have been doing him a favor by leaving.
Aggressive men always get partners, sometimes more than kind men.
There's no rule.
Yea woman are checking men all the time but don't let men to check on them and when a man realizes who she is that it's late and he's screwed.
That's why men should be smart and test women too... A lot of rich guys try to keep a low profile when they go on a date with woman to know if she's only after money or not. It's about a life long commitment but alot of brothers just choose beauty over her character unfortunately.
@@artemis7642 men are also suppose to teach and lead. If the woman has some weaknesses in character, man can help her to correct those weaknesses.. of course, it goes without question that the man must improve himself first before trying to improve others
@@yusufbest4475 obviously
@@yusufbest4475right, the man has to have His Life in Order + getting the Life of His Girlfriend in Order. While the women does what?
That is so true I analyzed my husband on multiple levels.
Which is reasonable!
He’s speaking of a motherly instinct… you got to feel people out, men and women.