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This video was a huge eye opener, I have been isolating myself and making myself super lonely lately. I havent been sleeping well and all of a sudden keep buying clothing again. Connecting with people seems so hard, and im just so tired phusically and emotionally. I just want some friends again. Im gonna work on it, I just have to figure out where to start.
I mean true but also during the morning and just the day . Waking up , knowing that you would just repeat the day from yesterday , having no one to talk to or have fun with during work or school , and yeah finally night when you come back home alone , looking at your empty house/apartment , just feeling tired , mentally , emotionally and physically tired and you just eat a tiny bit before you go to bed to repeat the next day like today
It’s like that in school too. You think people would be open and friendly to beginning new friendships and everyone just wants to keep to themselves and you put yourself out there for people to connect with you and like no one wants to do you just eat away at your loneliness
Nope not everyone is lonely just like not everyone is starving plz stop generalizing it most people are happy even if they fake a smile that means they aren't depressed coz when you're depressed you forget to smile
@@saloni2244I am lonely and depressed and I smile all the freaking time, nobody can tell what’s going on within just from looking on the outside. @DekeRadio is right.
I can relate, I feel like I can't break in a conversation enough to really explain what I'm talking about. I also feel that people don't appreciate my humor.
Hurts more when your best friend just breaks out their phone during the middle of a conversation and just starts scrolling on their newsfeed because they’re bored.. yeah
@@adrianhans856 You should ask them a question that relates to the convo and if they don't look up to answer you or is lost in the convo you should directly ask them if they were listening. Then ask why. If they're your BF they shouldn't be doing that.
The part that sucks is the effort of reaching out and constantly not connecting. It's either there or it's not. There's nothing left to really do but to accept.
I am lonely and I'm aware that. I keep telling people how I feel, how unloved I feel by them but they continue to ignore. Idk I just wanna go far away.
Ikr same....I've been trying to get better and i thought I made progress recently but it's like I'm again at the starting position...am so sorry for being like this..uhhh life fucking sucks
This is me in university right now, I wish I had just that one friend I could talk to. I feel like I'm the only lonely person in the world, everyone has someone 😪
I really hope you are okay, loneliness is a horrible thing and it is more common than you think at university! I think most people at uni feel lonely sometimes so please please don’t feel alone in that! Like you say yourself, it only takes one friend to make a big difference so don’t give up and keep trying to meet people even when it feels difficult. I promise that if you open up to pretty much anyone at uni and explain how you feel they will have gone through a similar experience at some point! I’ve been there but it definitely gets better! Sending you hugs xxx
@Izzy Blois Thank you, Izzy. I really appreciate your message more than you know. I dont know if its just me but i just feel so stupid for being so pathetic about being lonely because im a guy, like when i go to uni i would be the strangest guy if i said i have no mates outside of uni. I've had a really bad week, and it's so hard when you can't share with someone. I really do hope it gets better soon. Thank you for your kind words. Love you ❤ ❤
@@LifeIsGood3444 trust me I know lots of boys at uni that feel the same way, it’s just not talked about enough! If you think about it uni is a very strange environment where you are surrounded by essentially a bunch of strangers and expected to make lots of friends and that is not easy! So give yourself a break!!! You need to be more kind to yourself, you are trying your best and that is amazing! From personal experience I know how quickly things can change, in my first year I was very lonely but I have now met some incredible people who I know will be friends for life! Don’t give up, keep your head up and keep smiling because you are more capable of making friends than you realise. Just take things one step at a time xxxxx
@Izzy Blois Hmm, I get you. Well, I'll try my best to keep my head up. Thank you for your kind words it really helps me - I wish all the other people that are suffering quietly get some motivation too - anyone who is reading this (including Izzy) You are amazing! Such a wonderful human being!
Yep there is .. I watched heaps last night.. all say the same thing. “Go outside say hello it starts there.. “ I call that as BS & coming from people who have all they need. One thing I did see was called cuddly huddle’s or something like that. On SBS TV CHANNEL ON UA-cam. About loneliness and it’s the silent killer. Different ways people are trying to connect. I might add every person that’s shown to be lonely have looked a lot like they live on streets or have some type of disability.. which is not the case.. it goes there after too long alone. Being alone & or loneliness is equally as bad for health as smoking 15-25 smokes a day.. heart attacks, skin issues.. makes sense to me.. My skin is crawling atm. I’ve always had company family partners .. Now it’s all gone. Just dog cat and self. I feel totally disconnected from my body. But I’m feeling the physical symptoms currently. I see my chiropractor 2x a week for this reason. For all of 5 mins .. So this cuddle group is really interesting..it’s all above board. Maybe check it out.. I wish I had the strength to set one up here .. Some days I dance with my dog talk to self in many voices sounds etc. oh and have brought everything I need to be set up in a new life.. but finding or meeting like minds 🌚🌝.. still searching . Leaving house is the hardest on a bad day.. Also they say it’s all oldies that feel this way.. BS .. I’m only just 50 !! In my Chiron return.. look that up also. I really hope life changes for us all for the betterment of each and every lonely soul alive.. it truely is the silent killer of the 20 th century.. why tho..?
Very true. When you try to put the effort into socialising and you feel you are not good enough for them. Or you always feel there is something wrong with you. I realised I've had these thoughts subconsciously throughout my whole life, and just noticing them now going into University. I don't know what to do anymore honestly
Yep im autistic, it takes a herculian effort to talk to a woman and then she just treaats you with scorn, or worse yet like a preditor who doesnt even deserve basic manners and your treated like a dirty wild dog ! if women knew how painful it is being alone they wouldnt treat men like that !
People make you feel like that coz they ignore when you talk or look distracted and then blame you that you're not putting effort. Conversation has to be mutual it can't be one sided
It’s hard because my mom is never here and every single day I am home alone at some point and when I’m not she’s always working and has no time for me and she comes home at about like 12 o’clock. She goes straight to our room and then he watches TV, and yet she still wonders why I am always on my iPad watching UA-cam shorts all day and why I am always crying in my bedroom with the door closed she also wonders why I never want to hang out with my friends anymore. Why I am such a hoarder and everything that I have. I love with my whole heart and can never seem to get rid of anything because it seems that those items are the only ones that care about me and can’t ignore me or move away from me. They’re the ones that listen. 😣
I still feel lonely sometimes, but I have great people in my life. One thing that I learned in therapy is that it’s ok to feel bad. Sometimes I feel lonely, but that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with me.
Been there done that. According to your video I apparently have already beaten the back and embraced my solitude. I welcome ppl daily but mostly hanging out by myself chilling watching self help, beginner exercises and more. It keeps me occupied and my mind doesn't wander as it used to back when I was lonely. My advice for ppl is try to find anything that requires you to get up and move around. Even if ur just walking in circles in your backyard or living room. It sounds incredibly stupid or boring but what will happen when you do it more and exercise more then your brain produces more chemicals and it can help get you out of your funk. Best life to all and may your love be insatiable.
I really hope I find a friend that I can really talk to and say how I feel. And if anyone else also needs a friend (who you can talk to, express your feelings to, ect.) I hope you find them soon!
Speak to the most quiet person in the room/office/party/class is my tip. Those people are your people because like you, they are not like the crowds, they are truly unique
Yeah it's me I feel lonely during my school days and now I'm in college final year it's a terrible feeling in this whole world, sometimes I consider loneliness and I try to distract my mind by watching tv and doing house chores 😢😢😢
Like the diverse topics mentioned in a captivating video, I embrace the rich tapestry of life's experiences, for within them, I find a reflection of myself!
How poetic. I think I’ll remember this observation. But ,respectfully, does it really apply to this video? I would appreciate an answer. And perhaps I missed the trees from the forest or vice versa.
wow.. this hit really hard.. i never really understood how alone i was i really needed this.. i really need to reconnect with people thank you so much..
Oh man this speaks volumes for me..I have no one to talk to on a daily basis and feel it’s only a matter of time before I give up completely, my quality of life is non existent and I would be much happier gone
Surfing helped me. If you can’t surf, find an activity that you can do and will enjoy. Also…turn off the television and READ. It requires far more effort. But, it’s so much more rewarding. You can do this, brother!!!
Yeah its a horrible feeling. Lack of frnds even after socializing well is a bad luck. Trying to be a frnd with myself, even if its very difficult, try more improve more
How easily you almost all my feelings in words that i have never been able to explain from years... Julie you are not only phsycatrist.. you are gifted..i don't believe nay school any book taught you what you share . It's you pure human inside you❤
Growing up, I used to feel lonely. I used to try everything I could think of, to fit into a society that hates me. Then I accepted myself, & embraced my fate. After that I learned to become detached, & apathetic towards such an abusive, & neglectful society.
You should have such people in the first place. In big cities now days no one cares unless you're extremely attractive or rich or powerful . When you're not conventionally attractive , rich or powerful no one would care even if you collapse and die infront of them Life sucks. This world sucks. Even God lets good people suffer
This is me. I have been doing these things for a long time. The reason - I have no one to talk to. Not even my parents. I just can't. Whenever I try to tell them anything, they aren't listening, it's like talking to myself. I have been doing all these things for a long time. I wish I had someone to talk to.
Thank you for helping me to realize why I've been doing the things I've been doing. I don't sleep well, I do binge watch TV, I have been buying a lot of stuff on Amazon. Things I don't need. I feel so tired most of the time. I have NO JOY in my life. I desire to be with friends & family, but I don't go and see them. 😢
The worst feeling is when you put in the extreme effort and go socializing, to get rid of the lonely feeling! You try to talk with everyone and yet you connect with nobody! The worst feeling is going home miserable after working so hard to go socialize, just to feel sadder than you begin with. It's a horrible cycle
I feel lonely right now but this video has described me so well I don’t like to interact with people irl if it’s online then I struggle a bit but I learn how to do it 😊
Loneliness is the worst feeling ever . The crazy part is that I do have friends and family that care about me but lately I’ve been feeling like no one understands me or try to understand me. Ever since I became a mom I feel so left out from a lot of stuff my friends do , granted I was the one saying no to many things so eventually they stopped asking, but in many occasions I had to go To work early and my lifestyle is different now and I feel like I’m slowly fading away from friends and my sons father is not around anymore I pushed him away too. I wish I found a spark with someone. Sometimes I want to go back to talking to my sons father again but I don’t want to fall back into that trap ever again I wasn’t happy, and I don’t want to use him only bc I’m feeling lonely, so I’m staying strong but I can’t lie it’s fkn hard sometimes not having someone to talk to and gives you butterflies , or friends who are into same things as you. 😢
you never stop to think ' hm.. I'm lonely, ' except when you go to parties, and you know everyone there, except you don't feel like socializing. i really want to vent to someone but i don't have any1.
The thing is that people tend to believe that they are the only one that feels this way, but truth is that others feel the same way and probably just better at hiding it or we don't realize. So (although easier said than done) just make an effort to talk to someone, you never know!🤷🏾♀️☺
If you can hide it that means you aren't having that much pain. When you're too depressed you can't hide it stop generalizing it. Others go watch movies go to clubs but depressed people only go out when needed coz they really don't have much energy left
i don’t notice these in my current life, actually rn i’m doing very well socially, but last year, i could relate to nearly all of these. i truly was lonely and it was killing me. luckily, i got great support and now i’m doing very well
It hurts more when you tried to connect to them talk to them for a while later they just criticize you to their friends about your story. I feel better safe with myself.
This is how you feel after depression you still feel little sad but it leads more in to emptiness inside you. Depression is very long and could be for life
Whenever I try to socialize, they just ignore me and start talking amongst themselves, tried telling my parents ABT it they just say "so ? U can study instead of wasting your time talking to others" that is true , but I cant study for like the whole day continuously, my best friends are all in different classes and so we only get to meet during the break so it's the worst when they're absent. That's why I gave up trying to socialize with my classmates and that's why I hate them so much :) But its not only about my classmates, i get ignored everywhere so i only talk to my family and best friends and no one else
I am lonely, and I'm sad because I feel like it's wasting my childhood away. I'm tired of people saying "just go get some friends lol". I'm tired of never being understood, I'm tired of trying. I'm tired of feeling my issues are unimportant. I'm tired of being around people who still make me feel lonely. I'm just tired.
Since you're lonely so take it as an advantage, you don't have many people to take away your time. You have your full time in hand, and use your time for self improvement. I'm also lonely, but we can always connect to people with a similar mindset or interest. Just make a move 👍
Fr.....I'm 16 and all of these apply to me. I legit am shy and socially awkward and have no friends.... And I don't want to tell my family that I feel lonely yet I don't make an effort to make friends..... I want friends, I really do, it's just that.... I don't know. I just don't feel like putting in the effort. I'm too tired and too shy to strike up a conversation with people.
Omg i need her finally someone who understands me no one understands me i stuffer alot with my life having adhd and a learning disability dealing with anxiety relationships socializing with people it is super hard for me
I used to watch your videos before I decided to go to psychotherapy. After 7 months of it I see so many changes. And when I first started watching your videos I was like it all fits but that knowledge doesn't give me anything. Now I feel like I've learned so much and your videos make even more sense to me
The hardest part of trying to get in touch with new people is keeping the balance of being yourself and don’t be ashamed for having no friends and don’t appear to needy. Since elementary school I‘m fascinated by those people who go into a room and everyone want to be friends with them even when they are not the nicest people. Now, I know it’s charisma and also self worth.
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This video was a huge eye opener, I have been isolating myself and making myself super lonely lately. I havent been sleeping well and all of a sudden keep buying clothing again. Connecting with people seems so hard, and im just so tired phusically and emotionally. I just want some friends again. Im gonna work on it, I just have to figure out where to start.
How do you deal with this?
Thank you for this video. You explain everything perfectly. Please also talk about the solutions.
Yeah, my whole life. I would love ❤ to get your book but won't be able to for awhile but if you happen to have an extra copy I would love that
Ok and what to do with loneliness? When you don't feel connected to others and can't connect, can't make friends??
YOU NEVER REALIZE HOW LONELY YOU ARE UNTIL IT'S THE END OF THE DAY AND YOU GOT A BUNCH OF THINGS TO TALK ABOUT AND NO ONE TO TALK TO.
So true ... Like I've got sooo many things to share but none to share with
I mean true but also during the morning and just the day . Waking up , knowing that you would just repeat the day from yesterday , having no one to talk to or have fun with during work or school , and yeah finally night when you come back home alone , looking at your empty house/apartment , just feeling tired , mentally , emotionally and physically tired and you just eat a tiny bit before you go to bed to repeat the next day like today
@@unknown-hn7ib sending virtual hugs 🤗, I know the feeling 🥺
Same.
@@vaishnavisinghchandel We should make a WhatsApp group or something. Seriously.
Feeling lonely in a crowd is the worst. I keep trying to make new friends but it’s so hard to make a real connection
SAME
I literally in the best place on earth, but feel so empty
i literally cannot keep a friend💀 they always move on
Awww. I'm sorry to hear. It's ok to no one like you. By the way, why are you in the crowd? Which crowd are you talking about?
It’s like that in school too. You think people would be open and friendly to beginning new friendships and everyone just wants to keep to themselves and you put yourself out there for people to connect with you and like no one wants to do you just eat away at your loneliness
I’m so tired of people telling me to “just open up and socialize”. They don’t understand they don’t even try to understand…
Exactly. It crushes me to feel like I’m victim of this, I don’t want to be. I don’t know how to take power of this issue.
I wish they knew how I feel be in my shoes I was once a socialize person but after my 2 nd marriage everything went to hell
thats so true
They never will, be an adult
I understand 😊
The biggest irony of loneliness is that we're all suffering it together.
Nope not everyone is lonely just like not everyone is starving plz stop generalizing it most people are happy even if they fake a smile that means they aren't depressed coz when you're depressed you forget to smile
@@saloni2244I am lonely and depressed and I smile all the freaking time, nobody can tell what’s going on within just from looking on the outside. @DekeRadio is right.
Another thing is that when I try to put in the effort to socialize, I feel like nobody cares about me and what I have to say, and that really hurts
I can relate, I feel like I can't break in a conversation enough to really explain what I'm talking about. I also feel that people don't appreciate my humor.
I can relate too. When I try to add on to a conversation or try to socialize I feel like whatever I say they don't really care about what I said
Hurts more when your best friend just breaks out their phone during the middle of a conversation and just starts scrolling on their newsfeed because they’re bored.. yeah
@@adrianhans856 You should ask them a question that relates to the convo and if they don't look up to answer you or is lost in the convo you should directly ask them if they were listening. Then ask why. If they're your BF they shouldn't be doing that.
I understand 💯. Can we be friends ❤
The part that sucks is the effort of reaching out and constantly not connecting. It's either there or it's not. There's nothing left to really do but to accept.
This is so true. This is another crap video. Pointing out a problem we know we have, offering no solution to the person who might be shocked by it.
"Here are the top 5 signs of loneliness"
Alright, let's see how many I get!
*describes me on a daily basis*
Oh dear.
Same
Me to..
Uhh same bro
My response at the end of the video was the same as yours, I said ”oh dear”, our minds will not be the death of us, we will find our people some day
Am I the only one who likes to be lonely
When being with others cost you more grief than it's worth lonliness becomes addicting. :)
I am lonely and I'm aware that. I keep telling people how I feel, how unloved I feel by them but they continue to ignore. Idk I just wanna go far away.
Hope you still here😕
Ikr same....I've been trying to get better and i thought I made progress recently but it's like I'm again at the starting position...am so sorry for being like this..uhhh life fucking sucks
Inshallah you feel better soon - it's because we are distant from the only One we really need.
Me too🥺! No one is there for when i need!
Hi.. just came to youtube is some one will talk to me🥺!
You never know how lonely youll be until there’s no one to talk to and no where to go anymore
This is me in university right now, I wish I had just that one friend I could talk to. I feel like I'm the only lonely person in the world, everyone has someone 😪
thats the thing....
there are so many "lonely" humans out there....
its just paradox!
I really hope you are okay, loneliness is a horrible thing and it is more common than you think at university! I think most people at uni feel lonely sometimes so please please don’t feel alone in that! Like you say yourself, it only takes one friend to make a big difference so don’t give up and keep trying to meet people even when it feels difficult. I promise that if you open up to pretty much anyone at uni and explain how you feel they will have gone through a similar experience at some point! I’ve been there but it definitely gets better! Sending you hugs xxx
@Izzy Blois Thank you, Izzy. I really appreciate your message more than you know. I dont know if its just me but i just feel so stupid for being so pathetic about being lonely because im a guy, like when i go to uni i would be the strangest guy if i said i have no mates outside of uni. I've had a really bad week, and it's so hard when you can't share with someone. I really do hope it gets better soon. Thank you for your kind words. Love you ❤ ❤
@@LifeIsGood3444 trust me I know lots of boys at uni that feel the same way, it’s just not talked about enough! If you think about it uni is a very strange environment where you are surrounded by essentially a bunch of strangers and expected to make lots of friends and that is not easy! So give yourself a break!!! You need to be more kind to yourself, you are trying your best and that is amazing! From personal experience I know how quickly things can change, in my first year I was very lonely but I have now met some incredible people who I know will be friends for life! Don’t give up, keep your head up and keep smiling because you are more capable of making friends than you realise. Just take things one step at a time xxxxx
@Izzy Blois Hmm, I get you. Well, I'll try my best to keep my head up. Thank you for your kind words it really helps me - I wish all the other people that are suffering quietly get some motivation too - anyone who is reading this (including Izzy) You are amazing! Such a wonderful human being!
What's more terrible is not even being able to do these things because you're broke, that's double deep loneliness.
Wow, You SAID it Brotha !!!
Being lonely and broke is intense !!!
There should be a video on how to deal with loneliness
Indeed! We've already identified it, so anybody, ideas?
Just cry it will warm your heart
@@rafinmehediaranno6917does it help?
@@rafinmehediaranno6917 geezzzus is that all u have for a broken soul.. why bother at all. Glad u didn’t write that on my loneliness post..
Yep there is .. I watched heaps last night.. all say the same thing. “Go outside say hello it starts there.. “ I call that as BS & coming from people who have all they need.
One thing I did see was called cuddly huddle’s or something like that. On SBS TV CHANNEL ON UA-cam.
About loneliness and it’s the silent killer. Different ways people are trying to connect.
I might add every person that’s shown to be lonely have looked a lot like they live on streets or have some type of disability.. which is not the case.. it goes there after too long alone.
Being alone & or loneliness is equally as bad for health as smoking 15-25 smokes a day.. heart attacks, skin issues.. makes sense to me..
My skin is crawling atm. I’ve always had company family partners ..
Now it’s all gone. Just dog cat and self. I feel totally disconnected from my body. But I’m feeling the physical symptoms currently.
I see my chiropractor 2x a week for this reason.
For all of 5 mins ..
So this cuddle group is really interesting..it’s all above board. Maybe check it out..
I wish I had the strength to set one up here ..
Some days I dance with my dog talk to self in many voices sounds etc.
oh and have brought everything I need to be set up in a new life.. but finding or meeting like minds 🌚🌝.. still searching .
Leaving house is the hardest on a bad day..
Also they say it’s all oldies that feel this way.. BS .. I’m only just 50 !! In my Chiron return.. look that up also.
I really hope life changes for us all for the betterment of each and every lonely soul alive..
it truely is the silent killer of the 20 th century.. why tho..?
Very true. When you try to put the effort into socialising and you feel you are not good enough for them. Or you always feel there is something wrong with you. I realised I've had these thoughts subconsciously throughout my whole life, and just noticing them now going into University. I don't know what to do anymore honestly
Yep im autistic, it takes a herculian effort to talk to a woman and then she just treaats you with scorn, or worse yet like a preditor who doesnt even deserve basic manners and your treated like a dirty wild dog ! if women knew how painful it is being alone they wouldnt treat men like that !
@@mcpartridgeboyit’s painful for women as well. Men are not the only ones alone.
People make you feel like that coz they ignore when you talk or look distracted and then blame you that you're not putting effort. Conversation has to be mutual it can't be one sided
Well this just attacked everything I do in my life
No one ever wants to talk to me. At this point I feel like my life is pointless.
That sounds seriously rough. How are you holdin up?
Never feel that way.
omg same like why am i here
Are u guys okay now
your scaring me out now!! everything you say in every video is actually my life!!! 🥺😔
Same
It’s hard because my mom is never here and every single day I am home alone at some point and when I’m not she’s always working and has no time for me and she comes home at about like 12 o’clock. She goes straight to our room and then he watches TV, and yet she still wonders why I am always on my iPad watching UA-cam shorts all day and why I am always crying in my bedroom with the door closed she also wonders why I never want to hang out with my friends anymore. Why I am such a hoarder and everything that I have. I love with my whole heart and can never seem to get rid of anything because it seems that those items are the only ones that care about me and can’t ignore me or move away from me. They’re the ones that listen. 😣
I still feel lonely sometimes, but I have great people in my life.
One thing that I learned in therapy is that it’s ok to feel bad. Sometimes I feel lonely, but that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with me.
Been there done that. According to your video I apparently have already beaten the back and embraced my solitude. I welcome ppl daily but mostly hanging out by myself chilling watching self help, beginner exercises and more. It keeps me occupied and my mind doesn't wander as it used to back when I was lonely.
My advice for ppl is try to find anything that requires you to get up and move around. Even if ur just walking in circles in your backyard or living room.
It sounds incredibly stupid or boring but what will happen when you do it more and exercise more then your brain produces more chemicals and it can help get you out of your funk.
Best life to all and may your love be insatiable.
Oh man! I didn’t even realise…
Same...
Same here
same
Same
Same 😥
When you do feel comfortable around someone they just push you away
Only if you are male ! women dont get pushed away
that's depressing af
yup that s the worst feeling
Indeed and then you repeat the same mistake once but never again and don't feel like opening up to someone
@@natalsheep8566 womens sexuality is the most depressing thing on this planet by a long way, its caused way more misery than aything else, even war !
I really hope I find a friend that I can really talk to and say how I feel. And if anyone else also needs a friend (who you can talk to, express your feelings to, ect.) I hope you find them soon!
i can be yo friend
Speak to the most quiet person in the room/office/party/class is my tip. Those people are your people because like you, they are not like the crowds, they are truly unique
Yeah it's me I feel lonely during my school days and now I'm in college final year it's a terrible feeling in this whole world, sometimes I consider loneliness and I try to distract my mind by watching tv and doing house chores 😢😢😢
Like the diverse topics mentioned in a captivating video, I embrace the rich tapestry of life's experiences, for within them, I find a reflection of myself!
How poetic. I think I’ll remember this observation. But ,respectfully, does it really apply to this video? I would appreciate an answer. And perhaps I missed the trees from the forest or vice versa.
This is so accurate! Wow!
wow.. this hit really hard.. i never really understood how alone i was i really needed this.. i really need to reconnect with people thank you so much..
Honestly this made me cry becoz I realized I am lonely 😔💜
Ever notice the ones that manipulate you and treat you badly always has friends
As I say most people aren't worth knowing.
When you can't be comfortable with friends is when it hurts the most
I look at that then as they are just really people I know.
Oh man this speaks volumes for me..I have no one to talk to on a daily basis and feel it’s only a matter of time before I give up completely, my quality of life is non existent and I would be much happier gone
I feel you man it’s hard it’s just constant pain
This is soo true....what the solution to let go that feeling
there isnt really one.
Therapy
@@majakorbacz3121 Oczywiście :)
Surfing helped me. If you can’t surf, find an activity that you can do and will enjoy. Also…turn off the television and READ. It requires far more effort. But, it’s so much more rewarding. You can do this, brother!!!
ikr
Yeah its a horrible feeling. Lack of frnds even after socializing well is a bad luck. Trying to be a frnd with myself, even if its very difficult, try more improve more
Right?
Can I add you like I also got no one ?
the moment you realize 'You literally have no one' feels like hell I'm going through that hell
How easily you almost all my feelings in words that i have never been able to explain from years... Julie you are not only phsycatrist.. you are gifted..i don't believe nay school any book taught you what you share . It's you pure human inside you❤
I feel bad knowing this I been strangling with this all my life but I can’t Change I don’t know what to do
Its up to you if you want to invite new people in your life.
I am so thankful for my sweet pup.
“Here are the top 5 signs of loneliness”
Ok I’m sure I won’t be any of the 5 things
*Me after watching the video*
So that’s me every day of my life-
Same bro
Almost all these can and would most likely be from other factors
Same here
Growing up, I used to feel lonely. I used to try everything I could think of, to fit into a society that hates me. Then I accepted myself, & embraced my fate. After that I learned to become detached, & apathetic towards such an abusive, & neglectful society.
I just found ur channel... think am gonna stay here a long time...
I personally think it’s important to be surrounded by people who make you not feel alone.
You should have such people in the first place. In big cities now days no one cares unless you're extremely attractive or rich or powerful . When you're not conventionally attractive , rich or powerful no one would care even if you collapse and die infront of them
Life sucks. This world sucks. Even God lets good people suffer
100% accurate, and it's completely worse when you are suffering from a medical condition.
Can't handle content that relatable.
Praying to overcome the loneliness in me ❤️🙏
God doesn't care about us otherwise we wouldn't be feeling lonely
This is me. I have been doing these things for a long time. The reason - I have no one to talk to. Not even my parents. I just can't. Whenever I try to tell them anything, they aren't listening, it's like talking to myself. I have been doing all these things for a long time. I wish I had someone to talk to.
Loneliness is epidemic. I seriously think about starting a company that let's you rent a friend.
They have one but still go for it
In Japan you can rent a girlfriend. They even have vending machines for this.
Thank you for helping me to realize why I've been doing the things I've been doing. I don't sleep well, I do binge watch TV, I have been buying a lot of stuff on Amazon. Things I don't need. I feel so tired most of the time. I have NO JOY in my life. I desire to be with friends & family, but I don't go and see them. 😢
The worst feeling is when you put in the extreme effort and go socializing, to get rid of the lonely feeling! You try to talk with everyone and yet you connect with nobody!
The worst feeling is going home miserable after working so hard to go socialize, just to feel sadder than you begin with. It's a horrible cycle
My smile dropped as it went on 😢
I feel lonely right now but this video has described me so well I don’t like to interact with people irl if it’s online then I struggle a bit but I learn how to do it 😊
Loneliness is the worst feeling ever . The crazy part is that I do have friends and family that care about me but lately I’ve been feeling like no one understands me or try to understand me. Ever since I became a mom I feel so left out from a lot of stuff my friends do , granted I was the one saying no to many things so eventually they stopped asking, but in many occasions I had to go To work early and my lifestyle is different now and I feel like I’m slowly fading away from friends and my sons father is not around anymore I pushed him away too. I wish I found a spark with someone. Sometimes I want to go back to talking to my sons father again but I don’t want to fall back into that trap ever again I wasn’t happy, and I don’t want to use him only bc I’m feeling lonely, so I’m staying strong but I can’t lie it’s fkn hard sometimes not having someone to talk to and gives you butterflies , or friends who are into same things as you. 😢
When you're living with these signs your whole life
You literally described me word for word
thats so truee. I do all these thinggs no one gets me i"m suffocating from the inside ughhhhh IT FEELS SO HEAVY AND TIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
❤Thank you very much for your TRUTHFUL advice and professional insight
Feel like I'm being called out with this one
I relate so much, work from home have really killed my inner joy , even with a therapist I struggle with my actual situation of full remote work
If those are hidden signs, then I’m dead
you never stop to think ' hm.. I'm lonely, ' except when you go to parties, and you know everyone there, except you don't feel like socializing. i really want to vent to someone but i don't have any1.
Damn, she just straight up called me out like that ! 😢
I'm not alone, just surrounded by people that remind me how alone I truly am
oh no! the mindless videos that I watch to block out reality have brought me back to reality!
You are the therepiist that we have needed for decades! Thank you
u can enjoy ur time alone.
but whoever say's
" I rather spend my time alone "
is lying to them self.
You never realise how lonely u are till its too late pple u care for dont care back even when u try everything
The thing is that people tend to believe that they are the only one that feels this way, but truth is that others feel the same way and probably just better at hiding it or we don't realize. So (although easier said than done) just make an effort to talk to someone, you never know!🤷🏾♀️☺
If you can hide it that means you aren't having that much pain. When you're too depressed you can't hide it stop generalizing it. Others go watch movies go to clubs but depressed people only go out when needed coz they really don't have much energy left
I am crying while watching this
I know I’m gonna be at least one or more of them but I still continue watching anyways 🙃 but communicating with ppl is just so hard let me just say 😫
So true.
You just described what I go through everyday it’s a horrible feeling that I need to get rid of 😔
i don’t notice these in my current life, actually rn i’m doing very well socially, but last year, i could relate to nearly all of these. i truly was lonely and it was killing me. luckily, i got great support and now i’m doing very well
It hurts more when you tried to connect to them talk to them for a while later they just criticize you to their friends about your story. I feel better safe with myself.
Without reading comments, can I safely assume that everyone identifies with the entire list?
Main phase begins when you understand that no one is coming for you and even if somebody came , they cant be yours truly
I've been lonely for so long that now I can't connect with people. And I just wanna isolate myself completely but I can't coz I've to work a job 😢
I feel like the loneliness is drowning me....
This is how you feel after depression you still feel little sad but it leads more in to emptiness inside you. Depression is very long and could be for life
Lol this is all me well off to watch some more tv I guess
that hit deep... i think i need new friends
How to deal with these!!!!!
Whenever I try to socialize, they just ignore me and start talking amongst themselves, tried telling my parents ABT it they just say "so ? U can study instead of wasting your time talking to others" that is true , but I cant study for like the whole day continuously, my best friends are all in different classes and so we only get to meet during the break so it's the worst when they're absent. That's why I gave up trying to socialize with my classmates and that's why I hate them so much :)
But its not only about my classmates, i get ignored everywhere so i only talk to my family and best friends and no one else
Try and use the lonely time to get to know yourself better. You might just find a connection you never knew existed ❤
That's bullshit empty words though, right?
I don’t have any friends so there is no one to talk to. Since I work from home, I can go for days and not see a single person
Welp I’m a lonely person
I am lonely, and I'm sad because I feel like it's wasting my childhood away. I'm tired of people saying "just go get some friends lol". I'm tired of never being understood, I'm tired of trying. I'm tired of feeling my issues are unimportant. I'm tired of being around people who still make me feel lonely.
I'm just tired.
How do we overcome loneliness?
I'm also wondering
Pray
Find a kind person.
Get yourself a 4 legged family member
Long term loneliness saps the confidence and you become so socially paralised that little or no change can be made...
Since you're lonely so take it as an advantage, you don't have many people to take away your time. You have your full time in hand, and use your time for self improvement. I'm also lonely, but we can always connect to people with a similar mindset or interest. Just make a move 👍
Poor people 🥺. Suffering everyday with hours. We are so cruel.
Now I know what it means to be lonely
Not having friend , being alone everywhere I go , having no one to talk to
being alone in the middle of a crowd is the worst feeling
I was so lonely, since I was a kid..it was so hurting..and by the time passes I started to love being alone...
Scrolling through to distract my self, now Im in tears again :(
I already know I'm lonely but this just proves it
Fr.....I'm 16 and all of these apply to me.
I legit am shy and socially awkward and have no friends....
And I don't want to tell my family that I feel lonely yet I don't make an effort to make friends.....
I want friends, I really do, it's just that....
I don't know. I just don't feel like putting in the effort.
I'm too tired and too shy to strike up a conversation with people.
That is the reasons I am no longer interested in people. I spend my time doing what I love and I do not care if people like me or not.
Omg i need her finally someone who understands me no one understands me i stuffer alot with my life having adhd and a learning disability dealing with anxiety relationships socializing with people it is super hard for me
This hits hard.
I used to watch your videos before I decided to go to psychotherapy. After 7 months of it I see so many changes. And when I first started watching your videos I was like it all fits but that knowledge doesn't give me anything. Now I feel like I've learned so much and your videos make even more sense to me
The hardest part of trying to get in touch with new people is keeping the balance of being yourself and don’t be ashamed for having no friends and don’t appear to needy. Since elementary school I‘m fascinated by those people who go into a room and everyone want to be friends with them even when they are not the nicest people. Now, I know it’s charisma and also self worth.