My husband has choked me a total of 5 times. 3 of those times I had a seizure. Now I have epilepsy from the abnormalities caused by the choking. But I can't leave. He always beats me or chokes me or tries to kill me, when I try to leave. I tried to call the cops but he took video of me after I had the seizures. And told them that I had epilepsy and that's how I got hurt. The cops just laughed. He also took video of me trying to defend myself after he whiped me with his belt and told me "no one is going to believe you, now. I can probably put YOU away in prison for spousal abuse." Any way, I know no one will ever read this, but I just wanted to get this off my chest.
The cops laughed?😱, that's really mean😥. Strangulation might of affected your brain, Traumatic brain injury. Have u been feeling nausea,vomiting, unpleasant headaches, after the assault? You need a stem cell therapy. I do not believe western medicine would work
You said no one would read, well I read your story. For some reason you touched my heart. ACTUALLY I know the reason your story touched my heart is because it sounds soooo familiar. I cant tell you how many time my husband has done the same to me. Choking until pass out or just to the point of unconsciousness then the crazy-making starts like I did something to him or even that I deserved it and should be GRATEFUL to him for allowing me to keep my life. More than once he said I deserved to get my a** whipped a long time ago,
I broke his car from bring strangled trying to tell myself am I still alive moving my hands to try and break free now he says if I leave he will tell his car insurance and get me arrested
Less than 1 year ago I was strangled to unconsciousness and "woke up" in a different position than I was when the strangulation began... disoriented with initial hearing loss...I now know that what I had was a 'near death experience' and that I am fortunate to be living today. I had to read a lot and look at several videos like this one before fully understanding what has happened to me, and I'm so grateful that even one medical professional has made this information available to the public so that those of us with limited resources can be prepared, moving forward. It took 24 hours after the incident for the whites of my eyes to fill with blood..(patikiae)..my voice has still not returned to it's former (normal, to me) state...and as soon as 2 months - 60 days! - after nearly losing my life to strangulation, I had onset of what could be neurological damage symptoms, or, it looks like, maybe even brain trauma symptoms showing up. I had the opportunity to ask my offender, "how long was I unconscious?" His answer? "About a minute." I will never be able to know the truth. This woman is correct though...I would like to believe that I am the same person I was before this occurred, but it may not be physically possible. ~thank you for reading~
@@veronicareynolds372 what happened with pressure headaches what does it mean ? I think I'm having anxiety attacks from it...I was fine I belive for like 2 weeks and then it hit me and I started having anxiety attacks for about 3 weeks straight it seems to be getting better but idk
Met my husband almost 40 years ago. One night I woke in the middle of the night, didn't know why. I thought maybe there was a noise, so I tried to listen carefully. Silence so I figured it was nothing and relieved, went to take a breath and go back to sleep. But, no air came in. I was confused, tried to adjust my eyes to the darkness, I could just start to make out a shadowy figure straddling over my body with their hands around my throat. Pressing thumbs into that small hollow space between my collarbones., Just over my thyroid gland. An intruder!!! Omg. So i reached over to my husband's side of the bed because I couldn't call out. I wanted to wake him so he could save me. My hand reached for him and frantically grasped at the sheets.....he wasn't there. And then the full horror hit me. He's not there because there is no intruder, he's the one on top of me. Which means that I am dead. I feebly tried to pull his hands away, he knew that I knew it was him. But he did not stop. And then I was out. The next thing I knew it was many hours later and the sun was out, I was disoriented and confused how did so much time pass? He was yelling at me and I don't even know what about. I thought it was a one time thing, I never told anyone. Did not research it until last year and the whole "I can't breathe" saga. I was in denial for decades I suppose. I sure couldn't talk for minutes when I couldn't breathe. Now I know that I lost consciousness within seconds, and most likely had a seizure. I was diagnosed with Epilepsy when I was 14, grand mal seizure where i lose consciousness and twitch, I Lose hours of time before my brain comes back online. I may appear to others to be awake, but I'm so tired and need sleep after one. If I am not asking questions I am not back yet. He never told me I had a seizure I just figured it out. And now I know how close to death I was. I don't know if he woke up and decided to kill me or if he waited for me to fall asleep. Been going through divorce over a decade now. Too old to work. He stole my house, all my stuff inside, my children who are afraid of him, claiming I abused him. The same judge who knew he threatened to kill me signed the papers to make me homeless. On the day of trial when I was finally going to testify, be dropped his restraining order. So the court has never heard my story. Haven't seen my poor kids in over 9 years, he even turned my siblings against me. My email is hacked, phone is somehow cloned (it tells me I am in a different city than where I am when my phone has never been there and my location is turned off). I get text messages and calls for him, his replacement slave and my kids still. Been through 6 or 7 useless lawyers. Feels hopeless. It only takes one strangulation to instill lifelong terror and obedience into someone. I've been burglarized and it took 4 years to learn that he knew my address in direct violation of the court order that he not allowed to know. Four years after the burglary when I suspected him immediately. Then one night I woke and walked around, noticed my front door was unlocked and someone had opened the door. The latch at the top caught and they left. Broke the door first time, picked the locks next time. There's nothing left to steal. Found his brand of cigarette butt outside my back door in a non smoking unit. He will Kill me one way or another. It will be the only promise he ever kept
My soon to be ex-husband strangled me and it was the singular most terrifying incident of my life. The panic and sense of knowing that I was so close to death was immeasurable. I have suffered from extreme stress and anxiety since the event in addition to physical damages to my body. and lingering problems that I believe are life-long. The knowledge of how close to death I was coupled with his repeated violations of restraining orders (stalking) has been very hard to deal with especially because he has worked very hard to hide this from the other people in his life who think he is wonderful and could never hurt anyone. Thankfully, knowledgable court advocates, doctors, prosecutors, judges and others were more educated in my case. And thank god my daughter was home at the time. Hearing her come running in was the only thing that stopped my ex - had she not been there is something I often think about and the conclusion i come to is sickening. This video is so important. Thank you for making it. It should be required watching for anyone working with DV and in all criminal (and family) courts.
Any man that strikes or hurts a woman is a coward ! Not a husband , friend or a companion . Stand and leave the battle ground . I did ..Be WISE about how to proceed. HAPPY for over 30 yrs. !!
My father strangled me when i was 14 years old as my mother watched . I fully blacked out and lost conciousness . When i came to everyone pretended it didn't happen . I was gaslit and manipulated into not aknowledging it as anything severe . I have body trauma symptoms still 15 years later . Struggles breathing , talking , swallowing , thinking , i feel so much anger . He got away with attempted murder. He did the same thing to my sister the next day .
My boyfriend strangled me on Sunday and today i have severe neck pain... and no i didnt make a police report. Atm i am ignoring all of his call... some how he has a way of making me feel guilty for it.
Get out because I live tru tbi I have incontinence an my kidneys were shutting down an I can't remember things that I could before an I now have over 20 cat scans please get out an they will try an make u guilty becuase they are guilty an u need to leave I know u still love him but he's not worth your life I'll be praying for you
We would suggest you go to a Family Justice Center or community based domestic violence agency near you: www.familyjusticecenter.org/affiliated-centers/family-justice-centers/
This is heartbreaking to hear about. My incident was quite different. I was in a jiu jitsu class, having told the teachers that I was brand new. I ended up in a choke hold where my throat was completely closed off for several seconds. Long story short, no one ever told me about “tapping out” and the other guy didn’t know that and just assumed that he didn’t have a good hold, so it actually wasn’t his fault. He felt terrible. The facility tried to downplay it all. It wasn’t just painful and traumatic, but I had to quit my career as a professional trumpet player due to the permanent damage. Still don’t know what to do about it.
I had similar experience in jiu jitsu class with stagulation that left me out with many symptoms such as abdominal bloating (possible gastro paresis), brain fog, unilateral hearing reduction. It was fund that superior thyroid cornu was displaced causing me a disturbance on air intake and a globes sensation, 35% carotid artery stenosis but I suspect that further damage is there such as nerve or vein injuries. As a result I have quite job as I have troubles with concentration and understanding due to brain fogs. I have been strangled 100 of times but the last one has caused me the damage. To all of you reading this it doesn't mean because you were struggled once that you will be injured. But for sure staggulation is not harmless and cells are burned out forever.
I still wake up in panic attacks. and have extreme anxiety and hyperventilate when I think about this abuse and control and manipulation that I experienced for a year and a half. I experienced a miscarriage as well, though I did not know I was pregnant while being strangled. I also experienced the hormonal fallout and shame and self questioning of how could I stay? I had been abused as a child, and in other abusive relationships and I was hungry. It’s amazing what we will put up with in times of despair. How long does the resulting terror usually last? I am four months away from the miscarriage, the tragedy and away from the terror, but I still feel traumatized and terrorized.
Years unfortunately, it's been years since my ex husband strangled me and tried to rape me with a crowbar, I was willing to die that die I had no fight, I still suffer PTSD and having to watch this video to get a no contact dropped to save my relationship with someone I love who was just protecting me is so hard, the flash backs are so vivid. I'm shaking again. But my other half now is worth reliving my past to save him.
Here to educate myself after learning about the Gabby petito autopsy report 😔sharing and hoping this can help someone in the future . I'm heartbroken seeing these comments and how common this is
I knew if they found Gabby that it would be strangulation. Almost every woman in my domestic violence support group has been strangled. Some have been beaten, raped, guns pointed at them, forced into group sex. It's not for the faint of heart. So many horror stories, so much trauma
Wow you just shock me to my core. My ex of 23 yrs did it min of three time a week during fighting.. I fought back so he did always get to get me unconscious. But damn close other time most definitely he did. I finally left him we had on child still small only 3 at the time brothers was grown her and my youngest son 12years older. So I had to try and co- parent with him. He had me believing after about 2 or so years after he finally excepted I was truly dine. He was moving during his time with our lil one. Didn't wanna forfeit his time with her so I sat at his new place cared for our daughter. While him and my 16 yr maybe 17 buy then youngest son was there. Fyi he's 6Ft 8inch then he was 6ft 4inxh. So I believed between all those thing I was ok and safe. He knows mma and got me in a rear chokehold witch consisted of it doing a few thing at the same time. It allowed him to completely immobilize all of me arm legs torso. At the same time of strangling me from behind in this position he was arch way back. You could literally hear my neck snapping loudly. The pain was the worst ever and everything was going fuzzier by the sec. When he heard my neck going to the breaking point his mouth being right near my ear. He said into my ear witch sounded so very loud . Even though it was not this is the last night of your life. My daughter moving around cause she was had been asleep woke. It distracted him enough I got one leg free and one of my hands could now move behind me. I flipped the coffee table with free leg and grab so hard with the iui intent to rupture his manhood. My sin comes out and freezes up poor boy. The he rolled me over stand over me. Spread my li eggs stomped my last area with steal toe boots. Drug me to the door I fought for another 20min for my life. He was trying to toss me off a 15 ft balcony to a parking lot. Somehow I kept grabbing on to something each time he undid one grip I found another.Thak God truly hes why I'm alive. The neighbors finally woke to my lil ones and my screams. He stopped. Drug me back in so I played along. Got my daughter myself her bag all by the door. When he look away for just a moment we ran. He chanced us tried kicking me down the stairs with I caught myself because my baby was in front of me. We got in my car I back up to go out of the lot there his truck blocking it. So I through my Altima in drive and took a car over a cement stopper for parking through side walk hit the street made it home so fast. We got their I knew my neck was broke or something. Went to a dr after3wk it was severely dislocated it looked borked on 4 vertebrates. They did another set from different angels it was very dislocated they reset it I wore a c collar for 4 months. I haven't been alone with him since. 4 years later I need my neck and the rest of my spine fussed. Was fused Pryor car L5 S1 so this tells me I did do the right thing.
I have been strangled and choked more than once and told my doctor and they didn’t care. It’s been over a year now and I just left the relationship recently but still struggle with health issues from it. It left bruises behind my ear the last time and I got severely sick for weeks from it dizzy, nauseous and almost fainting every time I got up and moved around like not tired or woozy feeling just like I was going to close my eyes and drop to the floor and I was too sick to leave him at the time because of it.
A month ago, I was strangled , since then my voice is changed and tired, I have to put lot of efforts to speak a small sentence, when I speak more my throat pains , initially I had headaches and dizziness only but it went away with time but my voice has never been the same , please help me
This is something that is just not spoken about and beyond life threatening! Oh my God to think some people working in an ER are not trained to spot the signs
@@veronicareynolds372 I had a MRI. I was told they only see arthritis. CT scan caught all the bruising in my throat. I see a Medical Evalator next week.
Update almost 9 months later. Strangulation with whiplash diagnosis..Neck still sore in the front. Pain in the back of my neck and upper back runs down my back sometimes. Can not walk after 20 to 30 mins without resting. Finally getting more X-rays, MRIs soon. Get to see a ENT. Have to see a Psych for PTSD. Diagnosis recently something with my vertebrae, stenosis, and more :( I'm still scared. . Bengay extra strength, biofreesze, my heating pad are my best friends. Recieved about 4 neck pillows for Christmas
I survived strangulation with a metal bar. What she says about panic at 2:20 is true. The key to surviving is pull chin to neck. There’s another good UA-cam video on 3 tips to survive strangulation. I recommend it.
My sister abused me as a baby and child and at various other times. Her strategy was to find that which frightened and affected me the most to damage my psychology. Suffocating me with pillows or using blankets to remove my ability to breathe was the main stay until I adapted and learned to hold my breathe for a very long time. I was 4 or 5. Unfortunately as I adapted to this, she sought other ways to abuse me which included getting am male to orally rape me to suffocate me to thee point of convulsions and passing out. I was so afraid of dieing I trick my nurse mother to teach me to "Save a life" (CPR) he used it twice to bring me back. So he switched to straddling me on the floor and holding his hand over my mouth and nose while her master bated with again my convulsions being that which brought him to climax. I used to beg him to kill me. She then got another male involved and all three used to do things but the worst was high jacking me somewhere, covering my mouth to prevent my alerting screams, hold me down while no3 would use the CPR to stop my heart and keep me dead long enough (and then bring me back with CPR) for oxygen levels to fall enough that I might be brain damaged or preferably have "locked in Syndrome" it's harder than you might think to stop someone's heart that way. When I was 9, I was terrified and brainwashed into accepting my fate, my lot. I couldnt stop them so I shouted at no 3 (a former friend "All I did was love you, how dare you do this to me!) he was obviously pissed off with me and I realised I had opportunity to goad him into killing me and putting me out of my misery, so I kicked him, punched him and shouted" Kill me,, kill me, just kill me" alas I passed out first time which enraged him as he had tried so hard and put so much effort into it, he went even more psycho. I was aware of my sternam pounding my spine and as his had was over my mouth, I thought I would die because my lungs exploded with the massive breath I took before. He managed to do it three times. I can only rember because I remember him doing "Goal dance" type thing after as he puffed and beat his chest like a gorilla " 3 times! 3 times! 3 TIMES!, I'm like a doctor" the other two were in bits,, sbitts, tears and eyes wide in horror. She and no 2 carried me up to bed to recover and as we went up I said "Don't worry, I'll have forgotten it by the time I wake up" I then sneaked in agony and wiped out and went to friends to find safety. They knew I was off but just thought I was ill and I slept for hours in my friend's bed until my mother came looking for that evening. I remembered those first ten years from April to October last year. In therapy now. Evil people live normal lives while mine was ruined. I may go afyer them with law but their is no evidence.
On 8/31/21 got choked three or four times and now about six weeks later i am having pains in my carotid area... not sure if it is related but am thinking it is, especially since that incident was only one of many incidents over last couple of years... glad i left him about a week ago.
He picked me up by my throat like my feet were off the ground. Is that the same thing? One min I was in the air then I was on the ground. I hate myself. I used to feel so beautiful
I was strangled by my ex boyfriend the day before Xmas Eve with a dressing gown belt. I was sat on the sofa and he came behind me and put the belt round my neck lifting me off the sofa. On Christmas Day I urinates pure blood. My neck was very sore and I’ve got bruises on my chest and shoulders and I don’t know where they’ve came from. I passed out. I think he strangled me then when I gained consciousness he did it again. I went to the hospital on Christmas Day and told them what happened. Is it possible that the bleeding came from the strangulation as the nurse there was unsure 😐
Please answer if someone did suicidal strangulation and survived but now she has difficulty swallowing food could it be dangerous for her health ?what can be investigated to be sured of her health ?
My ex his favourite thing to do was strangle me and one time I don't know wot he did at my throat but for few wks after I struggled to breath and wen I lay down I cudnt breath it was as if my throat collapsed 😢
Husband choked me today. Not the first time, won’t be the last. I’m afraid to leave and split custody of our kids. They can’t be alone with him and whatever substitute he tries to replace me with. I’m numb and everyone knows if something ever happens to me it was him.
Get a few small spy cameras u can get them pretty cheap or Roku cameras and make sure you get memory cards in them and have it set up to where u can get a trusted family member or friend to also view it and when you get recordings of him doing it again file a restraining order and file for divorce and u can use the video evidence to make sure your kids Dad won't be able to get them
i was playing with my brother i accidentally strangled him for about 6 to 7 seconds and i found that he started losingbhis consiousness and i immediately stopped and soon he get normal in 1 minute what should i do??? Please help me i am feeling guilty right now
Hi, i'm not from the states, i was robbed and strangled for almost 3 minutes, i lost unconscious, after that incident i felt dizzy, confused,flashbacks , nausea and vomiting, headaches, hot flushes and cold flushes at night, seizures i couldn't sleep at night. I think your brother might of had a brain injury, there is a treatment for it a stem cell therapy, pure oxygen therapy, brain scan. Please Don't feel guilty everyone makes mistakes.
It would be best if you can get to a hospital and get looked at. Please view this resource: www.familyjusticecenter.org/resources/strangulation-assessment-card/
I was strangled last night until I passed out for the second time in 2 years. My life is so messed up right now so I'm just preparing myself for death. God failed me long time ago.
puddin cup I was right where you are 2 years ago. God has not given up on you. He has been saving you. He has spared your life in every domestic violence attack. Please seek help by any means possible. You were not meant to be treated like this. You are deserving of a life without fear and suffering. Please know-Your partner will not change, no matter how sorry or remorseful they seem to be after the incident. This person does not love you, nor do they even love themselves. If you survive this relationship and get out, you will be able to see the truth about that person. Your partner will not ever take accountability and will leave you empty, broken, and alone. Take the upper hand now! Get out and start the process to finding happiness and healthy relationships. No one deserves to have to experience the type of pain and fear of fighting for your next breath. Love does not hurt or kill. Put all your trust in the lord. Step out on faith and not on fear. God will provide to those in need.
What imaging scan should I get? It's been about a year and I'm still having mini-stroke symptoms, insomnia, pain in the front of my neck in my arteries, and headaches. Is ultrasound enough or do I need a CT scan?
ices woods get away from the person doing this to you. You’re too good for that. Tell your family or call the police. Don’t give someone chances when they’re hurting you.
It would be best if you can get to a hospital and get looked at. Please view this resource: www.familyjusticecenter.org/resources/strangulation-assessment-card/
I'm a survivor but don't feel like it because I went tru a strangulation not to long ago an Im going tru tbi an inconvenience becuase my kidneys where shutting down an I have blurred vision an many problems even remembering where I put things an I'm always angry I feel I can't get tru he strangled me over 4 times I passed out all these times an I have servir depression and bipolor1 an many days just want to end it all docs now found mass on my liver I don't drink or do drugs I live in Texas an tried get trans. Housing but they said it would take years I'm now homeless an live in my truck with my babies
So sorry to hear about what you went through. Not sure where you are in Texas but you can reach out to One Safe Place in Fort Worth (817) 916-4323 or look here: www.familyjusticecenter.org/affiliated-centers/family-justice-centers/
Ma'am my mother has been strangled nearly 2 months ago and also she had consulted with ENT doctor four times but still she is having ear and throat pain what to do ma'am please reply 🙏🙏 I absolutely want my mother to be normal ma'am please help a daughter please😭😭
@@manishamani2800 I don't think any doctors or specialists can detect a strangulation injury, because it is an internal damage not external, shami might of had a oxygen supply cut off on brain
@@anshdhanawat5574 yes strangulation doesn't just cut oxygen and changes the heart rhythm and cause headaches , vomiting, dizziness, sore throat, it's very painful , there are few treatments: Ask a neurosurgeon, inderals, antihistamine injection (steroid injections), iv fluids , potassium and magnesium pills, 100% Boost oxygen in a can , mannitol, diuretics , paracetamol drips or tablets Alternative expensive treatment: stem cell , low light laser therapy, if serious brain surgery, hyperbaric oxygen ventilation, angiogram, brain scan
This hit home hard. The most relatable video I’ve ever seen on this subject. Thank you 🙏
My husband has choked me a total of 5 times. 3 of those times I had a seizure. Now I have epilepsy from the abnormalities caused by the choking. But I can't leave. He always beats me or chokes me or tries to kill me, when I try to leave.
I tried to call the cops but he took video of me after I had the seizures. And told them that I had epilepsy and that's how I got hurt. The cops just laughed. He also took video of me trying to defend myself after he whiped me with his belt and told me "no one is going to believe you, now. I can probably put YOU away in prison for spousal abuse." Any way, I know no one will ever read this, but I just wanted to get this off my chest.
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The cops laughed?😱, that's really mean😥. Strangulation might of affected your brain, Traumatic brain injury. Have u been feeling nausea,vomiting, unpleasant headaches, after the assault? You need a stem cell therapy. I do not believe western medicine would work
You said no one would read, well I read your story. For some reason you touched my heart. ACTUALLY I know the reason your story touched my heart is because it sounds soooo familiar. I cant tell you how many time my husband has done the same to me. Choking until pass out or just to the point of unconsciousness then the crazy-making starts like I did something to him or even that I deserved it and should be GRATEFUL to him for allowing me to keep my life. More than once he said I deserved to get my a** whipped a long time ago,
I'm having the same issue
I broke his car from bring strangled trying to tell myself am I still alive moving my hands to try and break free now he says if I leave he will tell his car insurance and get me arrested
Less than 1 year ago I was strangled to unconsciousness and "woke up" in a different position than I was when the strangulation began... disoriented with initial hearing loss...I now know that what I had was a 'near death experience' and that I am fortunate to be living today. I had to read a lot and look at several videos like this one before fully understanding what has happened to me, and I'm so grateful that even one medical professional has made this information available to the public so that those of us with limited resources can be prepared, moving forward. It took 24 hours after the incident for the whites of my eyes to fill with blood..(patikiae)..my voice has still not returned to it's former (normal, to me) state...and as soon as 2 months - 60 days! - after nearly losing my life to strangulation, I had onset of what could be neurological damage symptoms, or, it looks like, maybe even brain trauma symptoms showing up. I had the opportunity to ask my offender, "how long was I unconscious?" His answer?
"About a minute."
I will never be able to know the truth. This woman is correct though...I would like to believe that I am the same person I was before this occurred, but it may not be physically possible.
~thank you for reading~
I had the same experience yesterday with my ex.
I had the same experience. Did you get pressure headaches afterwards? Did they do a brain mri after?
@@veronicareynolds372 what happened with pressure headaches what does it mean ? I think I'm having anxiety attacks from it...I was fine I belive for like 2 weeks and then it hit me and I started having anxiety attacks for about 3 weeks straight it seems to be getting better but idk
Met my husband almost 40 years ago. One night I woke in the middle of the night, didn't know why. I thought maybe there was a noise, so I tried to listen carefully. Silence so I figured it was nothing and relieved, went to take a breath and go back to sleep. But, no air came in. I was confused, tried to adjust my eyes to the darkness, I could just start to make out a shadowy figure straddling over my body with their hands around my throat. Pressing thumbs into that small hollow space between my collarbones., Just over my thyroid gland. An intruder!!! Omg.
So i reached over to my husband's side of the bed because I couldn't call out. I wanted to wake him so he could save me. My hand reached for him and frantically grasped at the sheets.....he wasn't there. And then the full horror hit me. He's not there because there is no intruder, he's the one on top of me. Which means that I am dead. I feebly tried to pull his hands away, he knew that I knew it was him. But he did not stop. And then I was out.
The next thing I knew it was many hours later and the sun was out, I was disoriented and confused how did so much time pass? He was yelling at me and I don't even know what about. I thought it was a one time thing, I never told anyone. Did not research it until last year and the whole "I can't breathe" saga. I was in denial for decades I suppose. I sure couldn't talk for minutes when I couldn't breathe. Now I know that I lost consciousness within seconds, and most likely had a seizure. I was diagnosed with Epilepsy when I was 14, grand mal seizure where i lose consciousness and twitch, I Lose hours of time before my brain comes back online. I may appear to others to be awake, but I'm so tired and need sleep after one. If I am not asking questions I am not back yet. He never told me I had a seizure I just figured it out. And now I know how close to death I was. I don't know if he woke up and decided to kill me or if he waited for me to fall asleep. Been going through divorce over a decade now. Too old to work. He stole my house, all my stuff inside, my children who are afraid of him, claiming I abused him. The same judge who knew he threatened to kill me signed the papers to make me homeless. On the day of trial when I was finally going to testify, be dropped his restraining order. So the court has never heard my story. Haven't seen my poor kids in over 9 years, he even turned my siblings against me. My email is hacked, phone is somehow cloned (it tells me I am in a different city than where I am when my phone has never been there and my location is turned off). I get text messages and calls for him, his replacement slave and my kids still. Been through 6 or 7 useless lawyers. Feels hopeless. It only takes one strangulation to instill lifelong terror and obedience into someone. I've been burglarized and it took 4 years to learn that he knew my address in direct violation of the court order that he not allowed to know. Four years after the burglary when I suspected him immediately. Then one night I woke and walked around, noticed my front door was unlocked and someone had opened the door. The latch at the top caught and they left. Broke the door first time, picked the locks next time. There's nothing left to steal. Found his brand of cigarette butt outside my back door in a non smoking unit. He will Kill me one way or another. It will be the only promise he ever kept
@@recoveringsoul755 holy shit that sounds like a lot to deal with I hope that you are ok?
My soon to be ex-husband strangled me and it was the singular most terrifying incident of my life. The panic and sense of knowing that I was so close to death was immeasurable. I have suffered from extreme stress and anxiety since the event in addition to physical damages to my body. and lingering problems that I believe are life-long. The knowledge of how close to death I was coupled with his repeated violations of restraining orders (stalking) has been very hard to deal with especially because he has worked very hard to hide this from the other people in his life who think he is wonderful and could never hurt anyone. Thankfully, knowledgable court advocates, doctors, prosecutors, judges and others were more educated in my case. And thank god my daughter was home at the time. Hearing her come running in was the only thing that stopped my ex - had she not been there is something I often think about and the conclusion i come to is sickening. This video is so important. Thank you for making it. It should be required watching for anyone working with DV and in all criminal (and family) courts.
Any man that strikes or hurts a woman is a coward ! Not a husband , friend or a companion . Stand and leave the battle ground . I did ..Be WISE about how to proceed. HAPPY for over 30 yrs. !!
My father strangled me when i was 14 years old as my mother watched . I fully blacked out and lost conciousness . When i came to everyone pretended it didn't happen . I was gaslit and manipulated into not aknowledging it as anything severe . I have body trauma symptoms still 15 years later . Struggles breathing , talking , swallowing , thinking , i feel so much anger . He got away with attempted murder. He did the same thing to my sister the next day .
My boyfriend strangled me on Sunday and today i have severe neck pain... and no i didnt make a police report. Atm i am ignoring all of his call... some how he has a way of making me feel guilty for it.
I feel you love. Stay strong and please don't be afraid to tell someone. You are worthy of being in a loving relationship. Blissings
Get out because I live tru tbi I have incontinence an my kidneys were shutting down an I can't remember things that I could before an I now have over 20 cat scans please get out an they will try an make u guilty becuase they are guilty an u need to leave I know u still love him but he's not worth your life I'll be praying for you
We would suggest you go to a Family Justice Center or community based domestic violence agency near you: www.familyjusticecenter.org/affiliated-centers/family-justice-centers/
Seek support! It's not your fault... you need help getting out from under his manipulation and gaslighting
i hope you’re out of that manipulative relationship
I always thought I was more affected by the blows to the head. Of course I'm different after being strangled 50 times. It makes sense.
Do you get pressure headaches after?
This is heartbreaking to hear about.
My incident was quite different. I was in a jiu jitsu class, having told the teachers that I was brand new. I ended up in a choke hold where my throat was completely closed off for several seconds. Long story short, no one ever told me about “tapping out” and the other guy didn’t know that and just assumed that he didn’t have a good hold, so it actually wasn’t his fault. He felt terrible. The facility tried to downplay it all. It wasn’t just painful and traumatic, but I had to quit my career as a professional trumpet player due to the permanent damage. Still don’t know what to do about it.
I had similar experience in jiu jitsu class with stagulation that left me out with many symptoms such as abdominal bloating (possible gastro paresis), brain fog, unilateral hearing reduction. It was fund that superior thyroid cornu was displaced causing me a disturbance on air intake and a globes sensation, 35% carotid artery stenosis but I suspect that further damage is there such as nerve or vein injuries. As a result I have quite job as I have troubles with concentration and understanding due to brain fogs. I have been strangled 100 of times but the last one has caused me the damage. To all of you reading this it doesn't mean because you were struggled once that you will be injured. But for sure staggulation is not harmless and cells are burned out forever.
Oh no that's terrible
Hi did you experience any pain when your eye became red?
I still wake up in panic attacks. and have extreme anxiety and hyperventilate when I think about this abuse and control and manipulation that I experienced for a year and a half. I experienced a miscarriage as well, though I did not know I was pregnant while being strangled. I also experienced the hormonal fallout and shame and self questioning of how could I stay? I had been abused as a child, and in other abusive relationships and I was hungry. It’s amazing what we will put up with in times of despair. How long does the resulting terror usually last? I am four months away from the miscarriage, the tragedy and away from the terror, but I still feel traumatized and terrorized.
Girl I have anxiety and panic attacks as well and sometimes I can't do anything about it...feels like my throat is closing up at times.
Years unfortunately, it's been years since my ex husband strangled me and tried to rape me with a crowbar, I was willing to die that die I had no fight, I still suffer PTSD and having to watch this video to get a no contact dropped to save my relationship with someone I love who was just protecting me is so hard, the flash backs are so vivid. I'm shaking again. But my other half now is worth reliving my past to save him.
Thank God I am alive today
Hi
Here to educate myself after learning about the Gabby petito autopsy report 😔sharing and hoping this can help someone in the future .
I'm heartbroken seeing these comments and how common this is
I knew if they found Gabby that it would be strangulation. Almost every woman in my domestic violence support group has been strangled. Some have been beaten, raped, guns pointed at them, forced into group sex. It's not for the faint of heart. So many horror stories, so much trauma
Wow you just shock me to my core. My ex of 23 yrs did it min of three time a week during fighting.. I fought back so he did always get to get me unconscious. But damn close other time most definitely he did. I finally left him we had on child still small only 3 at the time brothers was grown her and my youngest son 12years older. So I had to try and co- parent with him. He had me believing after about 2 or so years after he finally excepted I was truly dine. He was moving during his time with our lil one. Didn't wanna forfeit his time with her so I sat at his new place cared for our daughter. While him and my 16 yr maybe 17 buy then youngest son was there. Fyi he's 6Ft 8inch then he was 6ft 4inxh. So I believed between all those thing I was ok and safe. He knows mma and got me in a rear chokehold witch consisted of it doing a few thing at the same time. It allowed him to completely immobilize all of me arm legs torso. At the same time of strangling me from behind in this position he was arch way back. You could literally hear my neck snapping loudly. The pain was the worst ever and everything was going fuzzier by the sec. When he heard my neck going to the breaking point his mouth being right near my ear. He said into my ear witch sounded so very loud . Even though it was not this is the last night of your life. My daughter moving around cause she was had been asleep woke. It distracted him enough I got one leg free and one of my hands could now move behind me. I flipped the coffee table with free leg and grab so hard with the iui intent to rupture his manhood. My sin comes out and freezes up poor boy. The he rolled me over stand over me. Spread my li eggs stomped my last area with steal toe boots. Drug me to the door I fought for another 20min for my life. He was trying to toss me off a 15 ft balcony to a parking lot. Somehow I kept grabbing on to something each time he undid one grip I found another.Thak God truly hes why I'm alive. The neighbors finally woke to my lil ones and my screams. He stopped. Drug me back in so I played along. Got my daughter myself her bag all by the door. When he look away for just a moment we ran. He chanced us tried kicking me down the stairs with I caught myself because my baby was in front of me. We got in my car I back up to go out of the lot there his truck blocking it. So I through my Altima in drive and took a car over a cement stopper for parking through side walk hit the street made it home so fast. We got their I knew my neck was broke or something. Went to a dr after3wk it was severely dislocated it looked borked on 4 vertebrates. They did another set from different angels it was very dislocated they reset it I wore a c collar for 4 months. I haven't been alone with him since. 4 years later I need my neck and the rest of my spine fussed. Was fused Pryor car L5 S1 so this tells me I did do the right thing.
I got strangled severely on the 13th February 2019 it destroyed my entire life and caused me so much damages.
I have been strangled and choked more than once and told my doctor and they didn’t care. It’s been over a year now and I just left the relationship recently but still struggle with health issues from it. It left bruises behind my ear the last time and I got severely sick for weeks from it dizzy, nauseous and almost fainting every time I got up and moved around like not tired or woozy feeling just like I was going to close my eyes and drop to the floor and I was too sick to leave him at the time because of it.
my mom was strangled by her boyfriend and now i’m scared. he’s in jail now
I hope that everything worked out for your mother and for you too.
A month ago, I was strangled , since then my voice is changed and tired, I have to put lot of efforts to speak a small sentence, when I speak more my throat pains , initially I had headaches and dizziness only but it went away with time but my voice has never been the same , please help me
I was strangled over 10 years ago by my husband 😢I never told the police
This is something that is just not spoken about and beyond life threatening! Oh my God to think some people working in an ER are not trained to spot the signs
That's a scary thought isn't it
Mine happened while I was at work about a month ago. In the last couple of days I've been having severe throat and neck pain again.
I'm sorry you're going through this. I was strangled too. Do you get headaches too?
@@veronicareynolds372 Thank you. No I don't get headaches. Almost 7 months and still neck pain
@@Rosesweet20 I'm sorry about that have you done a mri of your cervical spine?
@@veronicareynolds372 I had a MRI. I was told they only see arthritis. CT scan caught all the bruising in my throat. I see a Medical Evalator next week.
Update almost 9 months later. Strangulation with whiplash diagnosis..Neck still sore in the front. Pain in the back of my neck and upper back runs down my back sometimes. Can not walk after 20 to 30 mins without resting. Finally getting more X-rays, MRIs soon. Get to see a ENT. Have to see a Psych for PTSD. Diagnosis recently something with my vertebrae, stenosis, and more
:( I'm still scared. . Bengay extra strength, biofreesze, my heating pad are my best friends. Recieved about 4 neck pillows for Christmas
I survived strangulation with a metal bar. What she says about panic at 2:20 is true. The key to surviving is pull chin to neck. There’s another good UA-cam video on 3 tips to survive strangulation. I recommend it.
My sister abused me as a baby and child and at various other times. Her strategy was to find that which frightened and affected me the most to damage my psychology. Suffocating me with pillows or using blankets to remove my ability to breathe was the main stay until I adapted and learned to hold my breathe for a very long time. I was 4 or 5. Unfortunately as I adapted to this, she sought other ways to abuse me which included getting am male to orally rape me to suffocate me to thee point of convulsions and passing out. I was so afraid of dieing I trick my nurse mother to teach me to "Save a life" (CPR) he used it twice to bring me back. So he switched to straddling me on the floor and holding his hand over my mouth and nose while her master bated with again my convulsions being that which brought him to climax. I used to beg him to kill me. She then got another male involved and all three used to do things but the worst was high jacking me somewhere, covering my mouth to prevent my alerting screams, hold me down while no3 would use the CPR to stop my heart and keep me dead long enough (and then bring me back with CPR) for oxygen levels to fall enough that I might be brain damaged or preferably have "locked in Syndrome" it's harder than you might think to stop someone's heart that way. When I was 9, I was terrified and brainwashed into accepting my fate, my lot. I couldnt stop them so I shouted at no 3 (a former friend "All I did was love you, how dare you do this to me!) he was obviously pissed off with me and I realised I had opportunity to goad him into killing me and putting me out of my misery, so I kicked him, punched him and shouted" Kill me,, kill me, just kill me" alas I passed out first time which enraged him as he had tried so hard and put so much effort into it, he went even more psycho. I was aware of my sternam pounding my spine and as his had was over my mouth, I thought I would die because my lungs exploded with the massive breath I took before. He managed to do it three times. I can only rember because I remember him doing "Goal dance" type thing after as he puffed and beat his chest like a gorilla " 3 times! 3 times! 3 TIMES!, I'm like a doctor" the other two were in bits,, sbitts, tears and eyes wide in horror. She and no 2 carried me up to bed to recover and as we went up I said "Don't worry, I'll have forgotten it by the time I wake up" I then sneaked in agony and wiped out and went to friends to find safety. They knew I was off but just thought I was ill and I slept for hours in my friend's bed until my mother came looking for that evening.
I remembered those first ten years from April to October last year. In therapy now. Evil people live normal lives while mine was ruined. I may go afyer them with law but their is no evidence.
On 8/31/21 got choked three or four times and now about six weeks later i am having pains in my carotid area... not sure if it is related but am thinking it is, especially since that incident was only one of many incidents over last couple of years... glad i left him about a week ago.
This video is so important !
This is very touching... Wow! 750%
He picked me up by my throat like my feet were off the ground. Is that the same thing? One min I was in the air then I was on the ground. I hate myself. I used to feel so beautiful
Same. I hope you are well. Lots of love ❤🙏
Been tru this my eyes where bleeding now I have all kinds of problems I cant even remember anything
I was strangled by my ex boyfriend the day before Xmas Eve with a dressing gown belt. I was sat on the sofa and he came behind me and put the belt round my neck lifting me off the sofa. On Christmas Day I urinates pure blood. My neck was very sore and I’ve got bruises on my chest and shoulders and I don’t know where they’ve came from. I passed out. I think he strangled me then when I gained consciousness he did it again. I went to the hospital on Christmas Day and told them what happened. Is it possible that the bleeding came from the strangulation as the nurse there was unsure 😐
Please answer if someone did suicidal strangulation and survived but now she has difficulty swallowing food could it be dangerous for her health ?what can be investigated to be sured of her health ?
Blue Sky that’s a bad sign. I’m here for similar information. Are you okay?
How is she doing now?
Are all these neurological symptoms permanent and how does someone overcome things like memory loss and other symptoms?
They are permanent
My ex his favourite thing to do was strangle me and one time I don't know wot he did at my throat but for few wks after I struggled to breath and wen I lay down I cudnt breath it was as if my throat collapsed 😢
Husband choked me today. Not the first time, won’t be the last. I’m afraid to leave and split custody of our kids. They can’t be alone with him and whatever substitute he tries to replace me with. I’m numb and everyone knows if something ever happens to me it was him.
Are you okay
Get a few small spy cameras u can get them pretty cheap or Roku cameras and make sure you get memory cards in them and have it set up to where u can get a trusted family member or friend to also view it and when you get recordings of him doing it again file a restraining order and file for divorce and u can use the video evidence to make sure your kids Dad won't be able to get them
i was playing with my brother i accidentally strangled him for about 6 to 7 seconds and i found that he started losingbhis consiousness and i immediately stopped and soon he get normal in 1 minute what should i do???
Please help me i am feeling guilty right now
Hi, i'm not from the states, i was robbed and strangled for almost 3 minutes, i lost unconscious, after that incident i felt dizzy, confused,flashbacks , nausea and vomiting, headaches, hot flushes and cold flushes at night, seizures i couldn't sleep at night. I think your brother might of had a brain injury, there is a treatment for it a stem cell therapy, pure oxygen therapy, brain scan. Please Don't feel guilty everyone makes mistakes.
@@idrewthetable4you306 thanks a lot and have a great life 💛💞 from India (tripura)
@@itsd2388 wish u the best, keep well from South Africa🇿🇦
@@idrewthetable4you306 nice bro
@@idrewthetable4you306what is the treatment for strangulation survivor?
Right I didn’t have marks and until the next day or three I can’t remember I had bruises
I was strangled and have terrible throat pains daily....I'm afraid to tell anyone. What do i do?
It would be best if you can get to a hospital and get looked at. Please view this resource: www.familyjusticecenter.org/resources/strangulation-assessment-card/
I'm sorry you're going through this. Me too, do you get headaches too?
Thanks joanna
I will seek help now
How are you right now?
I was strangled last night until I passed out for the second time in 2 years. My life is so messed up right now so I'm just preparing myself for death. God failed me long time ago.
God hasn't failed you don't give up!! There's hope
Please seek help... 18007997233 thehotline.com
I know exactly how you feel about "God failing you".. 💔
puddin cup I was right where you are 2 years ago. God has not given up on you. He has been saving you. He has spared your life in every domestic violence attack. Please seek help by any means possible. You were not meant to be treated like this. You are deserving of a life without fear and suffering. Please know-Your partner will not change, no matter how sorry or remorseful they seem to be after the incident. This person does not love you, nor do they even love themselves. If you survive this relationship and get out, you will be able to see the truth about that person. Your partner will not ever take accountability and will leave you empty, broken, and alone. Take the upper hand now! Get out and start the process to finding happiness and healthy relationships. No one deserves to have to experience the type of pain and fear of fighting for your next breath. Love does not hurt or kill. Put all your trust in the lord. Step out on faith and not on fear. God will provide to those in need.
Nope that there is Satan himself puddin.
Hello,I have some questions about this,it's for learning purposes only,please write me back,I will be waiting,thank you.
What imaging scan should I get? It's been about a year and I'm still having mini-stroke symptoms, insomnia, pain in the front of my neck in my arteries, and headaches. Is ultrasound enough or do I need a CT scan?
CT scan /CAT scan
What do I do?
ices woods get away from the person doing this to you. You’re too good for that. Tell your family or call the police. Don’t give someone chances when they’re hurting you.
It would be best if you can get to a hospital and get looked at. Please view this resource: www.familyjusticecenter.org/resources/strangulation-assessment-card/
My x chok me I leave him for that.Cause I was catching him playing with this girl.
I'm a survivor but don't feel like it because I went tru a strangulation not to long ago an Im going tru tbi an inconvenience becuase my kidneys where shutting down an I have blurred vision an many problems even remembering where I put things an I'm always angry I feel I can't get tru he strangled me over 4 times I passed out all these times an I have servir depression and bipolor1 an many days just want to end it all docs now found mass on my liver I don't drink or do drugs I live in Texas an tried get trans. Housing but they said it would take years I'm now homeless an live in my truck with my babies
So sorry to hear about what you went through. Not sure where you are in Texas but you can reach out to One Safe Place in Fort Worth (817) 916-4323 or look here: www.familyjusticecenter.org/affiliated-centers/family-justice-centers/
Ma'am my mother has been strangled nearly 2 months ago and also she had consulted with ENT doctor four times but still she is having ear and throat pain what to do ma'am please reply 🙏🙏 I absolutely want my mother to be normal ma'am please help a daughter please😭😭
Do u find any solution i also have throat and ear pain
@@manishamani2800 I don't think any doctors or specialists can detect a strangulation injury, because it is an internal damage not external, shami might of had a oxygen supply cut off on brain
@@icecoolaid2003 is there any option to regain oxygen supply
@@anshdhanawat5574 yes strangulation doesn't just cut oxygen and changes the heart rhythm and cause headaches , vomiting, dizziness, sore throat, it's very painful , there are few treatments: Ask a neurosurgeon, inderals, antihistamine injection (steroid injections), iv fluids , potassium and magnesium pills, 100% Boost oxygen in a can , mannitol, diuretics , paracetamol drips or tablets
Alternative expensive treatment: stem cell , low light laser therapy, if serious brain surgery, hyperbaric oxygen ventilation, angiogram, brain scan
Dude .. :/