tough love for small streamers
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- Опубліковано 22 тра 2024
- hi friends~! i'm very excited about today's video... I got bit by an inspiration bug and spent a good amount of time scripting + editing! Today I'm dishing out some Tough Love for Small Streamers! We'll be diving into the vicious cycle of burnout and fear that really gets in the way of a lot of creators along their journey. I know this is still something I struggle with myself, but especially the first couple of years I was trying to grow my brand on Twitch, I was stuck in this cycle to a very detrimental degree 🥴 I hope this chat helps motivate and inspire you a bit, if you need it!
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0:00 - intro
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3:08 - you're afraid
6:28 - you're boring
8:47 - you're trying too hard
11:45 - you're impatient
14:00 - you're flaky
15:44 - you're lazy
16:47 - break the cycle
18:57 - wrap up + channel updates
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you're such a refreshing voice in the streaming/content creation space. I've had similar conversations with people wanting to get into youtube/content creation feeling entitled to attention and views/viewers etc. and when I try to explain that a lot of this is a long-game and you have to sort of ... water it, nurture it like a plant ... they get discouraged. so glad I found your channel :) my only gripe is that I can never catch your streams since you're a night owl haha, but keep on doing your thing!
you're right, its exactly like a plant!! you cant put the seed in the ground, and the next day get angry because you dont have flowers!
and yeah, i'm a night owl and it's so FRUSTRATING lmaoo, i've tried to flip my schedule many times, but i think im just destined for the nocturnal life lmao
For real. You're content hit different. You taught me how to talk to stream and its the reason people like the stream. Keep it up!
Shady, you have no idea how helpful this was. You called me out with the "you're trying too hard" section, my mouth was wide open with shock when you mentioned overdoing the outfit and makeup! That is 100% me. And the part about watching other people blow up...definitely taking your advice and muting some people! The Minecraft creator community is volatile and toxic at times, gonna be conscious of how much time I spent being jealous of others and I'll devote that time to healthier practices. Thank you for your wisdom! :)
omg I was lurkin the minecraft category the last couple of weeks because I've been thinking of trying to get more involved in it, and you're totally right... there's a lot of toxicity hidden in the corners (and some on full display) 😩 I really feel like I'll have to keep my boundaries up strong once I get brave enough to attempt to break in over there hehehe
I'm glad you liked this video! 🥺
Alpen! YES YES YES! All of this. Such a crazy community that can be extremely awesome, but also can really tear you down if you let it.
Shady lady I loved your perspective on this topic. About a year ago I watched your how to start twitch in 2020 video and it helped me a lot to get into the right mindset. I started streaming in March and now in October I feel like I’ve gotten a lot of momentum going without overextending myself. I would just like to thank you for the amazing advice that you’ve given me now twice. ❤️❤️
You're so welcome! I'm really glad I can help out 🥺💜
You give me hope! I'm planning on getting everything together this weekend and do my first stream very soon. Congratulations on your success!
@@TheMrsarahanne90 congrats dude! Don’t get discouraged when the numbers are low, it take a long time to build an audience. Consistency really is key and keeping up with the community members is important too!! You got this
i'm not a streamer, dont use twitch or watch streamers, and i still come to your channel just to hear what you have to say! i started watching because i work with kids who want to be streamers when they grow up, and i wanted to have solid, positive talking points for our conversations :) on my end, im going back to school to be an xray tech and im so nervous, and you really made me tear up watching this. spot on. no matter how we make money or spend time, you have given us solid advice. keep doin what you do, how you do, we'll be here watching and supporting from all walks of life. your personality is just so nice to be with, and your diversity of content will just keep getting you random followers like me!
I really appreciate your kind words and encouragement, thank you so much 😭💜
“Are you in line with your actual passions, or are you chasing metrics that are leading you off of your path”
18:18
This one hits home for me as I fell into this trap for a long time and only recently found my way out. To anyone reading, don’t get lost in the numbers like I did. Take a step back and remind yourself that you (hopefully) started streaming because you love the things you stream, the community around them and wanted to share that passion with others. Keep your head up and do what makes you happy! :)
A lot of good advice in this video. I have told several smaller youtubers that I have talked with that the journey to 1000 subscribers is not the end of the road. They have it in their mind that they can amp it up and once they get there they start getting paid. I tell them it's a marathon not a sprint. One person in particular I was working with for a while, and trying to help him get that 1k, he finally made it, but didn't see the returns he thought he was going to get when he finally hit it, and has now taken a break for a while because he needed to earn money at a job again. I told him to keep doing the content on the side, on weekends etc, but he said he probably won't have time. People think you play video games, it's easy. It takes more work then they realize.
everything starting from flaky is 100% me roflll
i mean i also have some good reasons why my motivation has been bleh cus of work and physical health issues. but it has been hard to get back on that horse. which is why i started a vlog channel just to give updates on my personal life instead of gaming content. it's a diff direction, but it's keeping me in the groove of things again
That's an awesome way to adapt tho!! Go with the flow :D
This was really nice to watch. It's advice coming from a really heartfelt, sympathetic, and hugely REAL perspective. I've felt pretty much all of these things at one point or another! I recognize myself in the "lazy", in that me and my ADHD are in a constant war of Make My Cool Ideas versus Shake The Internet Until Fun Comes Out. I can only push so hard, and do so much, and in the end I have to admit that my day and my week only has so many functional work hours in it. I can be both easier on myself when I run out of those hours, and push myself to use those hours to the best effect.
I also have adhd 😊❗
ADHD and streaming could be such good partners, but its very easy to spiral out of control instead 😩 sending you love! Im glad to hear you're being easier on yourself!
@@HeyShadyLady ADHD is like a superpower with a terrible weakness built in! We've got brains that will go go go on an idea once we're in love with it, and we can come up with wild stuff, but that turbo state isn't sustainable. Or even always healthy! Aaaah....
When that hyperfocus kicks in tho!! lmaoooo
Oh my when you talked about muting peeps on Twitter I was like “yesssss” that has helped me so much to focus on “me” rather then what others’ metrics are.
I haven't started streaming yet, still in my planning stages for it but this gave me parameters to consider, and relaxed the self-pressure a bit. Thanks a ton!!
Oooooh I am feeling CALLED OUT by the self-sabotage/fear of success discussion! Not just with content, but with absolutely every part of my life.
Your authenticity is so comforting and relatable. Thank you for taking the time and putting in the effort to make such honest stuff
thank you so much, i appreciate that!
OMG when you said what if I fall but oh my darling what if you fly you made me cry thank you so much for bringing this to UA-cam I was going to give up but I'm going to press on you such a joy thank you again
It's a quote that gets me emotional from time to time, too! Glad to share that energy with you 🥺💜
You directly called me out on so many of your sections and I greatly appreciate it. I have been lazy, expecting too much, putting my energy into the wrong areas and not touching base with myself, my feelings and my life. Thank you for making this video, I have a lot to think about.
I really appreciate how balanced your message is for new streamers. Definitely resonated with the self reflection pieces.
This is so incredibly helpful!! It can sometimes be really difficult to look at yourself from an outside perspective. Now I'll be more able to recognize these patterns in myself and take the steps needed to improve and break those cycles!
You really do gotta have an out of body moment to assess some of the bad habits 😩
I feel so called out, but rightfully so! I am currently experiencing fear of success and failure before streaming and making excuses every time I open OBS (LOL). This was an inspiring video and I'll come back to this every time I feel this same feeling. Thank you :)
Doing just a few small tips you've provided I was able to go from 20 followers to over 300. Yes it took a lot of work, and time. But I'm happy to say it's worked thus far! Thank you for all your hard work, sharing tips, what to do, what not to do. It truly is helpful! Much love from Georgia, USA.
I’m just at the very beginning of my journey. I can’t tell you how valuable your tutorials are in my journey.
I’m working out real lighting/camera angles/access to upload speeds for live-streaming. I have to address these things before going live, as not doing so would render most of my live content unusable or against policy.
So I’m moving towards post production for longer videos.
Until I’m ready, I’m doing all the brand development and researching tools. But I’m closer daily because of the valuable information found here.
Impatience is my nemesis. A good example was this week, and how I overcame my impatient urges. My viewership was in the toilet Monday and Wednesday. I wasn't sure what was up, I was playing Monster Hunter Stories 2, and I'd had plenty (for me) of people watching before, so where was everyone now? I thought, perhaps Friday I will throw a new game in the mix, maybe that will help. I decided to stick to my guns and keep playing MHS2, and to abandon the panic/impatience. Well, things worked out and I had 8X more viewers on Friday. I've learned that it pays to not be too reactionary when things aren't going well. Definitely think critically about your stream, but make sure you don't let yourself start looking for that instant gratification!
P.S. Thanks for another excellent video
This is an awesome point and insight, thank you for sharing! It's so easy to be reactionary to the view count in the moment and let it throw you off
I always feel like I actually learn something from these videos. I feel like a lot of content educators have the same information in their videos and a cheesey inspirational tone. Thank you for being a really good teacher❤️
This whole video resonates so deeply with me. I just found your content through twitter (the 7 evil excuses blog post you wrote), and it's come at the best possible time for me I think. You have a really unique voice when it comes to giving commentary/advice/encouragement in this medium and I very much vibe with it.
thank you for this video, I def felt like you were talking right to me during a lot of this so I appreciate the tough love.
I literally use you as an example in all my convos and streams bc you really helped me keep going, I measure my success one follower a day is still something! I'm saving up for better equipment but I'll make the most of what I have now, and I really appreciate you for having faith in ppl that can't do it themselves sometimes.
I'm so glad to hear that 😭💜 thank you for the kind words!
Your perspective on this is so interesting! My husband and I both stream, and he started a little later than I do. Sometimes it's hard for me not to get frustrated about some of his insecurities...how soon I forget that I was insecure about the same thing a few months ago!
I can relate to this a bunch! You just want the best for them, but they gotta climb those hurdles on their own!
Yes! Same! I have to stop myself a lot, because my hubby is doing it as a hobby only. So he literally doesn't care about most of the advice I want to give him. XD
I just want to help people!
The other problem is that he seems to enjoy complaining about not having chatters, but doesn't care to DO anything to change that. So I still tell my viewers about him, but it's hard to be enthusiastic about it. He has to meet me/his viewers halfway, you know? LOL
You are such a good creator. I love how you edit, speak, and present the entire video itself. Ive had a lot of mental health issues that’s caused me to want to stream and create content on UA-cam. I’m anxious and I’ve started, but I’m about to just jump into it. I love animal crossing and Kirby and Minecraft and so much. I love your advice thank you 💖
This video is MASTERFUL! first time watching you and I will definitely be back and hoping into the archive! Keep up the great work lovely!!!!
Thank you so much! 😭🥺💜
Wonderful video.💕 I love how you always keep it real and sometimes tell hard truths. It's definitely necessary, keep up the great work!
I've literally just started streaming and happened to stumble onto your videos. It feels like perfect timing so I don't fall into bad habits. This is all great advice!
Thanks for the talk! Was pretty helpful🙏 good advice i think all small streamers should hear if they feel some burn out and a sense of being lost when it comes to content creation
This video was everything I needed while being on a mini hiatus from streaming. I felt like this was made specifically for me, lol. I appreciate your kind words, and will use this to help me reflect and finally take action. Thank you so much for your wisdom, and would love to see more videos like this in the future!
I'm glad you liked it, thank you for the kind words 🥺💜
You deliver your message with such care and warmth, I really enjoyed this video a lot! Thank you for the motivation. This definitely came at the right time!
This is honestly just really good advice for anyone in any field. These are some great lessons and love how you put them out there.
Thank you!
So happy I found this video and you. This is really helpful and the points you shared are so good. I really need this. Thank you.
This video is so great! I definitely needed to hear this! This motivated me to keep going thank you!
you're underrated and you have a voice that bless my ears its refreshing
omfg this is so good keep killin it Shady Lady I was so here for all of this! I have a lot of friends who need to see this now
I stumbled across your videos just scrolling through UA-cam and I've found a lot of the information you have provided super useful and helpful. I'm a small streamer and I've found my problem to be talking, I tend to be a quiet person as is and have been working to just keep talking. Thankyouu for the tips & advice!
I have just found your channel and videos today, your videos have been the most helpful I've came across. You are so honest and thats what I love about your videos on this sort of stuff. I've just recently got the motivation to seriously give streaming a shot, I've streamed a few times in the past but never really went anywhere.
Your videos have really helped me to keep at it and enjoy my self. I like how in depth to things you go with your videos, I'm excited to continue learning from you.
Much love, Pxtch
Wow I needed this. I’m currently in the “quit” faze with even my biggest and strongest supporter deciding to tell me “It’s just not right for me”. I kind of new it all but some how hearing another streamer talk about this makes me feel not so alone and perhaps I can get out of this. Thank you for making this!
Knew
You hit every nail on the head! This was so eye opening and I’m forever grateful for you and your videos 🦊❤️
Thank u fozzle 🥺🥺💜
Thank you for the excellent advice. I feel like this can be applied to so many things, and that's what makes this video so great. Your honesty and insightful thoughts is what keeps me coming back!
honestly I needed every single point I finally accept the fact that im self sabotaging myself so thank u haha
Interesting video! I think it's fascinating how one streamer can have all of these vices at various points, or just struggle with some of them. I actually find the Fear and Boring hurdles easier parts of the journey because I feel like when you're smaller with less viewers, there is less pressure on yourself. I think I struggle with Overscheduling (not even always streams, but just putting too much on my plate in general) and Flaky, but it's tough because sometimes your reasons for being Flaky or Lazy (it's hard to stream when tired! It's ok to treat yourself to a break!) seems valid. 🥺 Btw, I think a good topic for a video may be ads! Is it best to not roll them and let the pre-roll happen, only do them during breaks, schedule them super regularly to reduce pre-roll, try to do them both during breaks and during quiet moments (ie. Inventory management, loading something), and so on. Just an idea, thanks for the good video 💚
A video covering ads is a great idea!
And you're definitely right! We need to take care of ourselves, and sometimes laundry and a shower is WAY more important than a stream... its only when it becomes a pattern and an excuse instead of actual self care that it starts to create the flaky problem! Overacheduling and flaking are my biggest issues too 😩😩
Just stopping by (yet again) to say how much i adore you!!! you are so wise and well spoken, thank you for the time you put into your videos, they are so helpful and refreshing :) You truly give the best advice ~
Aw thank you so much 😭😭💜
I just celebrated 3 years on twitch and the last year on twitch was SO much stronger than my first two. But it's still hard b/c you want to be able to grow and you see your peers sometimes soar and you're stuck.
Aoutch >-< I am only 3 min and half through the video but I am already feel the slap for your very accurate description xD I am pretty much a no-one streamer, I don't even have the courage to play with the camera on since I feel pretty shy >_< Therefore I don't grow at all, + I like to play those big-ass games that already have plenty of streamers doing their stuff :3 But I don't give up ^-^ I promise I will do better ! Thank you for your videos, they are very inspiring and give us a bit more of courage and insight ♥
🥺🥺💜 it's OK to be shy and take your time on your journey!! Im glad to hear it's giving you insight and courage and not just demotivating you tho! 💜
What you said about comparing and how it hinders really hit me, as it’s something I’m going through right now 😭 I really feel uncomfortable raiding up only for “business moves” and making “friends” and going full on for all that just for business moves, but I’ve seen others do this and just starting out and my goodness the difference it makes, and it has definitely made me feel a certain way 😭
i 100% feel you on this; it's so hard for me to try to be "business savvy" when it comes to networking... it just makes me feel icky lmao - but i get the same feelings of looking at people making the "smart business" choices and the direct correlation to their growth .... its definitely a tough mental spot to get stuck in!
That cute meow at 10.36 is everything!!!!! also yet again a wonderfull video. thank you (edited) i dont like the word lazy... i dont believe in it, i think its a mix of feelings.. or situations and combination of loads of stuff that impedes us from doing stuff.
Agree! It's not gonna match for everyone, but when I reflect on my time trying to make twitch work, laziness has absolutely played a role
when I go to the part talking about talking in your stream, I can kind of understand, I either talk too much or too little but I also try and keep up a high energy, but I realized, if you keep a low energy and you don't talk too much, it actually works out a lot more. One of my favorite streams I did was when I was really tired and a little sleep deprived, so I was kind of funny to some people, and a lot more people started watching it then leaving. It's then I realised I need to calm down more in my streams and take it slow no need to have high energy all the time.
Exactly! You conserve more energy and can go for longer :D
Great and insightful video HeyShadyLady! Feels like you were speaking from experience and not only pulling out platitudes and clichés. Keep up the good work :)
thank you so much!! it was def what i wish i could tell myself a few years ago lmaoo
You helped me alot ♥ i just started and you are my inspiration and i learned alot from you and i also NEED TO SAY THAT : I love your makeup looks xD ♥
Aw thank you so much! 😂💜💜
Thank you for all your great content! Your channel is so helpful and informative.
Just curious, would you ever do a video on the pros/cons of focusing on different kinds of content? Twitch tends to be gamer heavy, but I'm curious how you'd recommend approaching podcast/live show style content, art channels, etc. I feel like there may be creative people on twitch who might get discouraged and feel they aren't growing because they're not gaming on the platform.
This was very informative and helpful. I can’t get enough of you Shady!
Thanks for the help, started streaming few weeks ago and I was really disoriented in wich direction I had to go, now I do it in both italian and english and I laugh about my accent while I play, thought more time to stream only in one language but I was always comfy with people all around the world... so I won't stop.
ive been streaming on and off for a little over 2 years. and I gotta say. this video made me feel quite a bit better about myself. when you said "you're afraid of success" that is my biggest issue. my partner tells me all the time, "why are you so afraid of being known? why does being good at something scare you so much?" and ive always came back with "im not good enough. i cant do what I want to do because, it wont matter" and he told me one day "you've dealt with negative people through people you've dated. and they've torn you down. im here, im pushing you to do things you want. DO IT...ENJOY IT" I still get in moments where I do that, but this video is helping me out. it put it all in a new prospective. when you were talking about how some creators just give up on the dream. Im literally at that point. and dont want to be.
I desperately needed this!! Thank you 🤍✨
Your videos are so helpful and encouraging! Thank you!!
I am a BRAND new streamer and I am SO HAPPY I found your videos! I am going to try to start today!
Glad to see this hustle is going well for you since the "office" years I knew you from!
I think it's safe to say a lot of this advice is good for other hobbies too! It's making me want to go back to writing.
omg it's been so long since we chatted last!!! how wild hahaha -- i hope you've been well!!
i'm hangin in there; it's certainly a big ol grind, but i'm trying to stick with it uwu
@@HeyShadyLady I wish you all the success in the world! And if that's too much then I at least hope it's enough success to pay the bills lol...
🌟 I was lying on my armchair and I felt the urge to get up and write. You have a huge talent. I been searching for ages videos on how to talk while vlogging, and all I could find was tips for the "technical side of it", then by chance I stumbled open one of your video on what to actually say, the internal dialogue etc. I immediately thought you are so talented and able to explain yourself well. even the squeezing lemon under the growth thing, wonderful. As I tip: make more content on how to vlog - how to talk on camera : but like inside the mind, how to find ideas, how to jump from a point to another mentally to keep the dialogue flowing .... there is no good content about that in the whole youtube
alright so that how to talk at yourself vid has 500-000 views ... guess what ... like next time I would name it differently cause how to talk at yourself sounds like you re a madman who speaks to itself ; a title like "what to say when you vlog/stream " or " 5 tips to never stop talking while shooting or something like that u see what i man
i hope
but yeah the point is do more of that How to talk at yourself stuff, double down on that. You could become il punto di riferimento - that's Italian - for people who wanna learn how to talk while streaming
vlog
I am enjoying all your how to videos and all the work you have done on YT.
I normally never comment (and I’m a bit late to the video) but I just wanted to thank you for prefacing this with a message to people who can’t hustle like others can. People with a chronic illness can almost get used to feeling ill, so subconsciously compare themselves to everyone else. This took a weight off my shoulders as I’m prepping to begin streaming! Thanks so much 🥰
This video was so lovely thank you sm I'm planning on becoming a streamer and all your videos helped me and this one is a very good one because my favourite streamer started to drop consistency and it really sucks and he's a small streamer so I'm going to send this video to him to help him a bit thank you and I'll be waiting on your next video bye♡!
love this! all these points hit home. i need to stop OVER scheduling.
honestly same! ;-;
I appreciate how real you are. Thank you for being you.
thank you so much!! 🥺🙏
I needed this, thank you!
The pep talk that we all need!!
This is a really well done video. I'm not very vocal about my mental health and really battle with it between the days I stream or between the days I get work done, or edit or anything that involves working on a hobby. I do agree with everything you said here. And sometimes I have to remind myself about a lot of these things. And most of the time when I'm having a mental struggle they aren't really my thoughts. So hearing this through your video definitely gave me a sigh of relief and was comforting really. Started something new and being somewhat uncomfortable just means your slightly unsure on what your doing, because it might be something you've never done before. I always hear people say, "Oh I could never draw that, " when looking at me Art. I don't think there is anything special about my art, but that mentality is what is stopping people from trying. And a lot of times that same mentality I try to tell people to not have, I have that with streaming. I try my best to never show it fully when I'm live, but also vocal if something is bugging me. I like the idea of a stream being a distractions from IRL, cus in some ways its my own distractions. But whenever I'm done with the week of streaming, I have to go through a few days of Self doubt & ideas of never being "Enough". So all in all thankyou for this :D ( I am rambling now XD) Also I think your doing extremely well for as long as you've done it!!
Thank you so much Mugz! I feel you, it's so easy to talk myself out of doing a lot of creative stuff I really want to bc I don't think I can... but when I talk myself into trying I overdo it SO MUCH lmao and then the burnout comes in
@@HeyShadyLady Your welcome! They have a really good flow to them. And yea I know what you mean, I have moments where I just need to just reset & relax. I usually do portrait Art, but I love doing anime, comic work and even emotes and such. So I'll sort of break that up so I dont get bored. I think everyone has an Artist in them, there's so many things you can create. In some ways Entertaining is an Art, your creating something out of nothing really.
This is a great video, thank you -- I'm definitely in that "I'm boring" phase (because, honestly, I really am... but I am working on it!)
Self awareness is everything, you got this!!
So good to see you again, thank you
This felt like a bestie sitting down to help talk through issues in a calm, caring, yet to the point manner. First time watching content about small streamer advise that didn't leave me thinking I need to be a content machine to succeed. I have two hurdles for streaming and content creating, my job and being consistent. The shifts I work change constantly, some times I work 5 days a week on lates, then maybe I'll do 4 days on earlies, making any kind of schedule tough. Consistency is something that just falls flat on me. The way my brain is, with its various and wonderful quirks, means I have recently learnt to take a different view of consistency. I like to be consistently inconsistent. By this I don't mean constantly saying I'll stream and then cancelling, but more I have no set schedule and will try to give a days notice (if possible) when I know I'm going to be able to stream. It also means that I create content for tiktok as and when I'm able to, rather than on a timeline that is detrimental to my mental health. This gives me so much freedom and puts less pressure on me. This won't work for every one but for me my goal really isn't growth and it's definitely been over a month since I last got a new follower, but the people who turn up and support as well as join in on my streams gives me all the warm fuzzies I could ever need. I've accepted at this stage of my content journey I won't go viral and be the next up and coming star, which is okay. I'm just trying to make my content creation process functional and maintainable for me, because at the end of the day if I approach this in a way that makes me stop enjoying the creation process then I'll end up not wanting to create. Sorry for long info dump type response. Hope you're having a great day and thank you for making this video.
LOVELY video, Shady Lady! The comfort zone makes me think of Centaurworld. Oh lord, that crazy show, yet too relatable. You can't stay in the comfort zone forever and be happy. :3
love that so much - made my day!
I love this. Thank you for this video. I always have a problem with authenticity but I just have to remind myself to accept the way that I am because I cant help it due to a ton of mental disorders including a personality disorder that keep me stuck and move on for the better. Very inspirational and not actually cringe at the very least. Best video I've seen so far
I struggle with a personality and mood disorder as well! It's definitely not easy, but its worth it in the long run to stick by yourself!
The thing I struggle with is my voice. I've always had a fairly deep voice for a Wan and it was never setting I was that self conscious about before but I hate the way I sound on recordings. I tried to sit down and practice talking while I was playing a game and set up a recording device just so I could look back on it. I stumbled through because the knowledge that I was recording combined with not being alone in the house made me feel really anxious about how I sounded and I stopped halfway to play back the recording and hated what I heard, so I stopped.
I made sure to do something productive by working on my channel graphics instead. I get so nervous about my voice every time I think about recording so it's hard to motivate myself to do it.
I needed this video. Thank you for this.
Excellent video, you hit on a lot of interesting points that these kinds of videos often skip past.
Thank you so much!
Such wonderful advice, thank you for helping me keep myself accountable lmao!
very awesome video. for me been not lazyness but self doubt at times or comparing myself to other streamers and there growth. i did schedule thing ill get back into it but started a new job with different hours i had to get used to. Talking to like when im alone at times i can admit i dont but always trying to get better at that. Ill take what you said thu i love thu when you said its not a sprint its a marathon. I used to think that i deserve this or that or first but changed my thinking process and just love working but making sure not to overload myself either.
I'm glad this video helped! Def be gentle with yourself and take it a step at a time!
@@HeyShadyLady i am got affliate on twitch only thing im puting some money in the logo and banners as well emotes(not putting in alot but want to kinda show a bit that im proud of such a accompliment ) but will do my schedule soon so that can get figure out
This is such a great upload!
thank u so much for this video, i could identify with so many points u brought up lol 🖤
I love video games, been playing and streaming Paladins lately but can’t get more than 2 avg viewers and 2 subscribers.. I don’t use my mic since there’s nobody anyways and actually I’m quite reluctant in doing that since I suffer from social anxiety. But I really love video games and would love having a community based on that..
I needed to hear this. thank you
also, *triggered* hahah
This was a great video and while I'm not a streamer and only do UA-cam videos I do recognize a few of those patterns with my own journey so far. I did a video every day for several months, and have recently hit a wall with all kinds of other things catching up with me. While I have not completely stopped I have certainly slowed down. The other huge danger I see is certainly the tendency to compare myself and my channel's growth to that of other creators who are doing things similar to myself. It is super toxic but very hard to fully leave behind and I am still very much struggling with it. That all being said, I believe just being reminded of all these pitfalls and forced to take a hard look at myself here will help, so thank you!
You're super welcome Raf!! I feel you for sure, the comparison thing for me is one of my biggest pitfalls as well. It's always lurking and ready to take over my brain 😩
I think the experiments of streaming (or posting youtube videos) every day for a month can give you some really awesome insight and data, though, that can help you build the best and most sustainable schedule!
@@HeyShadyLady For a while the video every day was also just a tool to deal with my mental health, a bit of structure imposed on my chaotic life. Now that real world chaos has returned with the plague slowly receding it is getting much harder to hold to any form of schedule for me. On the other hand with me mostly talking about books the schedule kinda makes itself, depending on how much reading I get done. Still, the comparison thing is a hard one, especially in small communities because it automatically leads to the question of why other creators get way more collabs and the likes and then questioning my ability to network and that really big one of whether other community members just really don't like me and that way lies utter madness and despair.
The flaky one hit hard, any tips for fixing this?❤ thank you for such a great video - I really felt seen!
Love & needed this
love these videos
Thank you for sharing. I’m literally just in the first few months of this and hoping to get to a point that I can retire and have a small income still coming in. You honestly touched on so many of my fears and insecurities and I just want to thank you for the time you put into sharing your knowledge with us.
You're welcome! I think thats a great goal,that sounds exactly like my dream as well! Sending you all the love for your journey 😊💜
great vid, really thoughtful and well spoken
Any advice on how to juggle wanting to become a streamer but having a demanding 9 to 5? love your tutorials. thanks for helping me grow!
This was an amazing and well thought out video, I'm super glad we have you in the community to help new creators to the platform instead of some company clickbait.
aw, thank you so much Eggie!! 😭😭
you are amazing thats all
im new and i like your videos. so your growing all the time
This was very helpful, you are very good at teaching.
I LOVE those earrings!! ❤️
Thank you! 🧡🧡 I've been in such a sunflower mood lately!
@@HeyShadyLady I love it! They just give off just a happy vibe. Also love your videos. They’ve helped me get somewhere with streaming. Thank you and keep them coming!
For me the biggest insecurity I have is the fear of being judged and exposing myself to the public. but thankfully Vtubers are a thing now and I don't have to show my face or reveal anything about myself!
Love this ❤️
Thank you Pasta 🥺💜
I love the growth in editing style you've been doing, the cut ins are great!
Also I feel extremely called out by a few things in here... >.
Thank you, friend!! It's rare I actually spend my time I the editing process anymore, but I really got inspired with this one 😂
i was subscribed on my personal channel! but i am here now, amazing video!
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@@HeyShadyLady Please, the only big POG NRG here is your vibe.
Thank you. 😊