Life Update Moving Back To America. Dealing With Isolation. The Journey Continues.
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- Опубліковано 29 лют 2024
- I just wanted to update my subscribers on what is going on in my life right now and how I am navigating though the process. This video is mainly for myself to look back and reflect on.
I know a lot of people are in isolation with their lives. They say humans are creatures who need social interaction, but is it better to be isolated if you don't have any positive social influences? That's where I have been the past 3-4 years of my life. Isolated because I knew I had a lot to give, but didn't quite know how to give it or what arena to give it in in terms of a career.
I can say first hand that being isolated to figure out what your goals and aspirations are while seeking to improve every day is a good thing. The problem is when you get addicted to the isolation and start to shut people out. This is what I did for a long time. I shut people out. Then I got LOST in what I was even doing and what I wanted to accomplish in this life.
Drifting away from your purpose is easier now more than ever with all of the tools and technology we have that can either build upon our strengths or destroy our motivation and drive with sheer mindless distraction.
Habits are everything, and I am in need of some MAJOR habit changes in my everyday life in order to obtain a level of self mastery that I know I am capable of.
My advice to you is to get around people who have what you want. Mentally, Physically, Spiritually, Financially, and Emotionally. Momentum is a hell of a thing. A human being with positive momentum behind a focussed vision is a very dangerous organism.
I have experienced bits and peices of this over a very strong mind state for certain things mixed with consistent regimen, but now I have to be smarter with the aim of this mind state and how I can use my gifts to make this wolrd a better place while simultaneously making a living and bettering myself everyday. The journey continues.
Wow. Mad respect and gratitude to you for posting this. It takes a deep degree of courage to share something like this. Be proud of yourself, it’s a huge step in your journey.
Don’t mind me, but this is gonna be a long comment. I’ve dealt with pretty much the exact same thing as you. Binge eating bc I felt like food was some kind of relief/release from suffering. Or a nice way to distract myself from whatever was troubling me.
Then fasting bc I felt ashamed of what I had done, sometimes even making myself throw up bc I didn’t want to deal with the discomfort of an extremely full belly. Wasting time with random distractions during the day because I felt kind’ve aimless. Visiting countries on savings but with some kind of plan to make money online just to find out I’m not all that into whatever that income idea was or it was just difficult to get myself to focus. Then working out like crazy bc I felt like I had to.
Literally bro I watched this video and was like holy shit, this was me 1000% percent. Pls know it’s not all that bad bro. You’re not the only way who feels lost and wondering wth they should do with their life. You’ve gotten radically honest with yourself, and that’s massive progress.
Most people haven’t gotten very far past their own delusions of reality.
Not trying to be your therapist here, but I’d really like to share what’s helped me.
Learn to become your own best friend in the deepest way possible. When you get triggered and wanna binge eat, know that that path will always bring much more suffering than it will give you relief.
So as much as you can, slow things down. Get really quiet. Notice what’s going on with your thoughts, and talk yourself through your difficulties like you would to your younger self.
Here’s an example of what I do that has been helping so much: if something is making me tense, I will say it out loud to myself.
So I’ll go, “I’m feeling tense and afraid about this situation. I don’t know what to do. Im afraid of failing, I’m afraid of letting people down. I wanna binge eat bc it’s bothering me and I feel pressured.”
And just be with that. Give it some space. Let the authenticity of whatever you’re feeling to be fully acknowledged by you. You will find so much more freedom in those moments of tension. You can relax more and more when you bring up to yourself what’s bothering you and give it room to breathe and be felt.
Deep down when we do these things to ourselves, abuse ourselves, or judge ourselves…all we really crave is our own embrace and self-acceptance.
Being 30 and going back home w mom is no biggie homie. Most 40-50 yr olds don’t have it figured out. Just bc they’ve got jobs and a mortgage don’t mean nothing. You’re own your own journey of self-discovery and self-love. That’s real talk. Full on authenticity and self-honesty will bring you so much joy if you commit to taking that path.
Much love and admiration to you man.
My name just happens to be Tyler as well and I’m in nhà trang 🙃 trippy ass world were living in 👾
Wow that's a trip for sure!
Any one taking time out of there day to give me what they see to be true words from the heart whether it hurts or feels good is a friend of mine.
This is an amazing input you have here Tyler. Your advice on saying allowed what is going on in the mental space in real time is something I am DEFINITELY going to implement when things start to spiral. That's some real ish bro and I am grateful for you taking the time to watch and leave the heart filled details you did just now. Truly bro thank you. And make sure you ENJOY Nha Trang to the fullest. Please get a ripe mango for me. It's a blizzard in Colorado right now.
Much Love T.
Your the realest bro! You gon get where your going, "Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced" - Soren Kierkegaard
Thanks P. Thank you for that quote. We both gon get there you are right about that! Love you bro. We need another call soon lol
Respect man for keeping your intergrity which is the key foundational importance
Thank you brotha.
I’m 38 and I still couldn’t find any purpose. To be honest, I’ve lost it all. And now I’m in Nha Trang and walking around like you did 😬
Everyone has a different and unique journey. I don't think it's so much about finding our purpose but rather creating it. And that's takes mental and physical effort for everyone on this earth. Much love. Enjoy Nha Trang and be safe.
@@tylerowenfit Thank you 😊
Hey man i started watching your videos last year october when you moved to vietnam. Just wanna say these videos are really introspective for a young guy like me. Helps out a lot. Keep doing what your doing. Hope you find your path with this new fitness thing 🙏
I am glad I can provide value for you bro. Take what you can and apply or get rid of what you need to from your own life to set yourself up for the future! Much love brother.
Thanks for your story 🙏🏻
No need to thank me.
Love your videos. Looking super fit. Love what you do and do what you love
Thank you for your support Al!
Isolation is a beautiful gift from God ❤ your purpose is through him. He’s literally knocking on your spirit ❤ You got it!
Thank you Elana! Beautiful words.
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Hey Tyler. Listening to your circumstances seems to me you are giving yourself a hard time . Breathe take a step back recharge your body and your mind you deserve to love yourself first. Your young and full of ideas and just now you need to put things into perspective. Why don’t you reach out for some professional guidance regarding your life goals both short term and long term as this support may help to alleviate some personal concerns and put clarity around your structure concerns. Stay positive your struggle with mixed emotions is not unusual at any age and your honesty is an refreshing change to the world at large. ❤
Thank you Eileen for the input I really appreciate it. Taking a step back can be difficult but sometimes it is needed to take two steps forward. Hope you have a great week this week! Much Love.
@@tylerowenfit you are most welcome. You have come so far and encountered challenges along your journey and you have dealt with them not always as we would like but the fact remains you are not afraid to sếp out of your comfort zone. Unlike many people who I suspect would be saying I wish i was as courageous and spontaneous but that’s why Tyler you are unique because you have rejected the traditional structure of 9 to 5 because it doesn’t make you happy so accept that life is meant to be lived the way you want too. Some of the most interesting people in the world are the ones who have made different choices in life and that’s fine. So don’t give up doing what you love albeit at time a struggle but that’s life and you have so much to give and the fact you share your ups and downs is helping others realise thay are on the same journey and isolation is temporary and we all experience this but it’s underlying purpose is to be introspective and put the strengths as the priority and avoid the many toxic people in the world. Keep on keeping doing what you love and part of that is you sharing videos about your many adventures and don’t get bogged down with the concept of structure first things first fulfil your short term goals and be around positive friends acquaintances family who support your lifestyle. I for one thing you are amazing out there showing and sharing your videos about what makes you tick so to speak. I look forward to hearing about your next enlightening video. I am always contactable if you ever decide to return to Đa nang or other areas of beautiful Vietnam
@@eileenstill Wow what an amazing comment. Thank you so much for offering an ear to listen and a heart to talk to. I will remember this! I can't thank you enough :)
Would you consider being a Yoga teacher?
Good question Jennifer. I am currently getting certified for personal training. Yoga wouldn’t be something right now that I would coach but possibly in the future.
@@tylerowenfit yoga is very effective if you feel upset that’s why I mention…
@@jenniferjlin I appreciate the referral for yoga! I definitely would benefit from taking the time to perform more yoga. I just view it as more of homework instead of being fun, so I usually don't make the time for it.