It’s crazy! I am Afro Latina and I am having a baby by my African American fiancé. My mother is Afro Latina all but was told by her mother she was white her whole life. She has told me that I am suppose to date lighter skin men to continue to better our race/features. My father is a white facing PR man and she used to tell me she worked hard to give me nice hair and features and I am going to ruin it dating black man. It breaks my heart but I have had to set boundaries with her on visiting my children if she thinks she’s going to bring that bullshyt mentality and her own insecurities with her. I won’t allow anyone to give my children a complex or make them feel insecure about their features. And don’t get me started on Latinos from the Bronx saying the n word. I have also had to that conversation with a lot of my family. You won’t be saying the n word casually around my children or you won’t be around us. Pray for me 🙏🏽 I feel like I am fighting an uphill battle most days.
Im AfroCuban who happens to be very light skin and i have never denied my Blackness. My Malian African ancestry is a source major pride to me and my entire family. Not all of us Afros Latinos are dumb.
As a 46 year old Black man that is a veteran I learned that everyone can hate of love black people when the opportunity arises. The Latin word for black is “Negrios”. Whenever I hear someone say that word in a foreign language all you have to do is pay attention to their demeanor and body language and you will if they are talking bad about you. I’ve heard this when I was in Texas and I heard this when I was in Iraq. You just have to pay attention to the audience you are among
Dating at 14?!?!? Where was her father? My father would NEVER have allowed me to date at that age. My parents didn't want me dating in college, for heaven's sake.
I am a black woman(identify)who grew up in NYC and I get mistaken for Afro Latina most of my life. When they speak Spanish to me and I tell them I’m not Spanish, I immediately get the nasty looks or they start speaking in their language and I’ve definitely heard the word “Negra”
I had an Afrolatino colleague who said as a small boy he walked a fairskin schoolgirl home. On sjght of him, her mother pulled her inside, slammed the door and lectured her to "Uplift Her Race". Decades later, he returned home to stock and manage the business he had established when a crackhead begged him for money to buy a bowl of rice. He looked at her, and recognized her as that mother who had crushed his feelings. He asked her "Mama Did YOU Uplift Your Race?" Touché
These racist attitudes used to bother me, but not anymore. I just wish they would leave us in peace. However, I also think that too many of us want to be in their spaces. If someone doesn't like you, why are you pushing up on them? I will never understand how some of us think, and I don't feel any sympathy when people like that experience the hate.
My Puerto Rican friend described this perfectly and it goes way beyond just black men. This is a huge problem in the entire Caribbean and the reason why my dark skinned Jamaican grandmother pushed a move to the US with my Chinese Jamaican grandfather. Colorism is rampant in the islands. My Puerto Rican said this and it’s true. As soon as the lady starts talking about her Columbian friend I knew where it was going. Colombians look down on Puerto Ricans, Puerto Ricans look down on Dominicans and Dominicans look down on Haitians. Funny how it’s based on who has the most dark skinned people. It’s a big problem. I also have a Dominican friend who is pretty dark. Among other black people he calls himself Dominican. But among white people he calls himself black.
The thing is Afro Latino people distinguish themselves culturally from Black Americans because they are different culturally and ethnically. They have more in common with a white Cuban man than black man from South Carolina. No different than Ethiopians having little in common with black people from brooklin.
WHEN "I'm not BLACK I'm DOMINICAN" goes wrong. 😂
It’s crazy! I am Afro Latina and I am having a baby by my African American fiancé. My mother is Afro Latina all but was told by her mother she was white her whole life. She has told me that I am suppose to date lighter skin men to continue to better our race/features. My father is a white facing PR man and she used to tell me she worked hard to give me nice hair and features and I am going to ruin it dating black man. It breaks my heart but I have had to set boundaries with her on visiting my children if she thinks she’s going to bring that bullshyt mentality and her own insecurities with her. I won’t allow anyone to give my children a complex or make them feel insecure about their features. And don’t get me started on Latinos from the Bronx saying the n word. I have also had to that conversation with a lot of my family. You won’t be saying the n word casually around my children or you won’t be around us. Pray for me 🙏🏽 I feel like I am fighting an uphill battle most days.
When she said that she was 14 and he was 22, that lost me.
I love being black.❤❤❤❤
Im AfroCuban who happens to be very light skin and i have never denied my Blackness. My Malian African ancestry is a source major pride to me and my entire family. Not all of us Afros Latinos are dumb.
I just love the "Negro Wakeup Call"! It always hits the ones that work SO hard to dismiss their own
As a 46 year old Black man that is a veteran I learned that everyone can hate of love black people when the opportunity arises. The Latin word for black is “Negrios”. Whenever I hear someone say that word in a foreign language all you have to do is pay attention to their demeanor and body language and you will if they are talking bad about you. I’ve heard this when I was in Texas and I heard this when I was in Iraq. You just have to pay attention to the audience you are among
He was mixed and not completely white, bit he thought he was better because he was lighter.
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Dating at 14?!?!? Where was her father? My father would NEVER have allowed me to date at that age. My parents didn't want me dating in college, for heaven's sake.
I am a black woman(identify)who grew up in NYC and I get mistaken for Afro Latina most of my life. When they speak Spanish to me and I tell them I’m not Spanish, I immediately get the nasty looks or they start speaking in their language and I’ve definitely heard the word “Negra”
I had an Afrolatino colleague who said as a small boy he walked a fairskin schoolgirl home. On sjght of him, her mother pulled her inside, slammed the door and lectured her to "Uplift Her Race". Decades later, he returned home to stock and manage the business he had established when a crackhead begged him for money to buy a bowl of rice. He looked at her, and recognized her as that mother who had crushed his feelings. He asked her "Mama Did YOU Uplift Your Race?" Touché
These racist attitudes used to bother me, but not anymore. I just wish they would leave us in peace. However, I also think that too many of us want to be in their spaces. If someone doesn't like you, why are you pushing up on them? I will never understand how some of us think, and I don't feel any sympathy when people like that experience the hate.
My Puerto Rican friend described this perfectly and it goes way beyond just black men. This is a huge problem in the entire Caribbean and the reason why my dark skinned Jamaican grandmother pushed a move to the US with my Chinese Jamaican grandfather. Colorism is rampant in the islands. My Puerto Rican said this and it’s true. As soon as the lady starts talking about her Columbian friend I knew where it was going. Colombians look down on Puerto Ricans, Puerto Ricans look down on Dominicans and Dominicans look down on Haitians. Funny how it’s based on who has the most dark skinned people. It’s a big problem. I also have a Dominican friend who is pretty dark. Among other black people he calls himself Dominican. But among white people he calls himself black.
I am Afrocuban. Very proud of my ancestors. Blessings to all my sisters and brothers. Ache. Babalu Aye.
It’s been known how deep self hatred is popular in the Latin Hispanic community.
I always say come to America theses yt folks will let you know who you really are 🤣
"I no black"..... cool just remember "I no white" as well 😂😂😂
Try that 'I'm not black, I'm Dominican' spiel in a sundown town.😂
The thing is Afro Latino people distinguish themselves culturally from Black Americans because they are different culturally and ethnically. They have more in common with a white Cuban man than black man from South Carolina. No different than Ethiopians having little in common with black people from brooklin.