1. Have integrity 2. Take care of themselves (inside and out, healthy habits) 3. Dress for success, grooming 4. Even-tempered, keeps cool in stressful situations 5. Manners - gentlemanly gestures, kind to others 6. Passion/drive/purpose, skillset
6 things men would like about attractive women: 1. Have integrity 2. Have integrity 3. Have integrity 4. Have integrity 5. Have integrity 6. Have integrity
@@Haha_Haha_Ha Right, at this point it shouldn’t even be a question! We are living in a time in history where the worst, most selfish, promiscuous, disloyal, most entitled women that ever lived exist!
I thank my Mom for constantly telling me (when I was a kid) to stand up straight, be courteous, and be respectful to both women and men...and it has paid off in spades throughout my life.
Being genuine is part of having integrity. When you have integrity you don't change who your are or your values based on the people or women around you. You present your genuine self.
@@CourtneyRyan doesn't matter, unless its courtney.... then she is only with mega stars... not a waiter...see its all a lie... just get used to women belittling you , just tell em some Bullshit like a dumb lady wants to hear...
As a girl originally from Miami I agree with what you said about girls who will look elsewhere if the guy is making less than a desirable salary. It's so so sad how many people there are so shallow. The funny thing is you know people are struggling but they will not admit it and will have a lifestyle outside of their means. I had several friends whose cars were repossessed. 🤦🏻♀️
6:28 exactly! You don't be nice to women or others to try to attract them. You do it because it's the right thing to do. All these characteristics are things you need to do all the time even by yourself. They are not to trick people. You need to become this person all the time.
Doing the right thing only leads to falling short, Cobra Kai season 4 emphasized this This is something I need to get better at but be nice to an extent, but don’t be afraid to be mean to her. If she gets offended and pissed off, just realize it’s subjective, and that you just aren’t her type
Happy Sunday Courtney! I had commented on a video you did last week about how a lot of guys lack self confidence because they tend to overlook or undervalue virtues they already possess, like the ones you mention here. People in general, both men and women, have a tendency to prioritize qualities that are more apparent to others on the surface. I think having integrity is the most important virtue that support all the other qualities on your list to complete a high value individual.👍🏻
@@CourtneyRyan thanks and that’s very encouraging, Courtney! Btw, I also follow Teddy’s watch channel and you both have the best content in your respective fields of interest on YT.😎👍🏻👍🏻
3:50 "know what is appropriate for specific situations;" yes, because women like men who just 'get it.' Men should always be growing, which includes learning something new daily. Style is fun, fads are stressful. Learn what is "appropriate!"
"Be a man with a plan", as well as a man of integrity, takes cares of himself, looks his best, well-mannered, and even-tempered! When I was in the military, it was drummed into us to act with integrity and remain cool in stressful situations. Good list Courtney... these traits can apply to women as well.
Have all these things and still not even be considered date worthy to most modern women because you don't meet their insane shallow physical body standards of being at least 6ft, or this penis size, or not being bald, blah blah blah Easy way to go from a 8 out of 10 confident genuine guy to a worthless 5 out of 10 all because of your height bro, didn't you see courtneys other video where the women were shame rating men based on things they can't change lol
The problem with these traits is that it takes time for a woman to notice them. That's probably why (back when we worked in offices), women thought of their office mates as attractive, because that's when these qualities can show. These aren't things you'd notice just meeting someone in a bar. I think of this advice is more for guys that want to keep a girl, than get a girl.
I don't agree. If you dress for success like myself. Even though I'm not good looking. I barely hit 7 on a scale of ten. However, dressing well, being well mannered, listening and being kind makes women get attracted to you. If you follow her advice, trust me women will be attracted to you. Have good intentions. Women notice all these subtle things she mentions and trust me it gets your foot in the door. She'll ask you out to get some coffee to get to know one another. That doesn't mean she'll be your girlfriend or you manage to get her. It just means these traits get your foot in the door.
I can see where manners when addressing people around you are important. Being a respectful man in charge and in control obviously shows respect and confidence. I didn’t agree with the opening doors, helping you take your coat off stuff though, especially not with someone you just met. Women want what they can’t have and a man who is falling all over a women they just met will crash and burn. Women fantasize about this type of stuff, but in the dating game it doesn’t work. You gotta have looks and, or money to attract women, It’s just the way it is, and nice, guys, and girls finish last.
Happy Sunday Courtney! I think myself as a confident guy in mid 30s, nice relationship with a good woman who supports me and vice versa, and a well mannered, mellow. Just by the best version of you and only allow the people who bring value to you and the ones who are toxic, don't bring value, cut them out. Sending love from Florida
I simply have to say something here. It is not to offend you. But by calling other human beings "toxic" and having the need to "cut them out" it only shows that you are insecure and lack of latitude. That is the straight opposite of being a well mannered guy. ;)
Hey Courtney, thanks for the content! I’ve found it to be really helpful. You actually remind me a lot of my grandmother. She was always a southern lady with poise and class, and I’m sure she was a lot like you when she was younger.
All the things my father and grandpa, and mom and grandma too, taught me while growing up! Too bad much of the last one or two generations have stopped teaching and the young have stopped learning. You are making a difference Courtney!
My girlfriend goes absolutely crazy because she thinks I am too calm and collected. I like to be in absolute control of my actions and reactions and she goes crazy... lol
Me according to gf: *calm emotionless robot that likes cuddles and makes her feel safe* Me in reality: "I can't sleep, their voices never stop screaming, and she's the only innocent thing left in my life"
@@Razor-gx2dq Yeah...am now. Thanks to her the voices are slowly dissapearing, and sleep is better. Also she's trying to teach me these things called 'feelings', which I think I forgot how to operate a decade ago, so it's been pretty scary, but she's been there to reassure me every time. I'm blessed to have such a creature in my life...cause I cannot make many people happy, usually I make them sad or horrified...she was genuinely curious and happy...so strange, but here we are, me(20), a kid who was fighting not to die since he was born, and it never stopped, just got more trouble added, and a little abused girl(21), who just wanted to be treated like a human being. We ain't perfect people with perfect lives, but we've paid our dues. I'll be there to beat down on whatever life throws at us, and she'll be there with me
@Laura UK Yeah, you're right...I plan on getting that sorted, it's just that sometimes you fall in so deep you don't even know how to reach out until you got someone who needs you.
I find "confidence" a really vague and unhelpful thing people are "attracted" to, like whenever I see a woman say a guy is confident, they usually just mean he's a poser, whereas to me I see those guys as very low confidence, but then I don't actually know what to do in any situation to evoke confidence, and think "what does that word even mean?"
all these comedown to one mindful though... "love yourself" mentally and physically ..then all 6 points will follow .. love your post Courtney ..be safe
My ex fiance has some attachment issues and everything on this list was magnified ten-fold. I'm pretty even tempered, was working towards goals, etc etc but anytime I slipped even a little she never forgot it. Like, I think I swore at a car one time with good reason imo and it made her feel unsafe. At the same time, I can't blame myself for the breakup. Men, you're going to slip on occasion. As long as you aren't being abusive, yelling at them, emotionally unstable, etc etc and yet you're being blamed for your partner's unhappiness, it could also be that your woman has attachment issues to work through. Yes maybe there's things you need to work on but don't blame yourself for everything. You also need a woman who can forgive and communicate her needs with you
@Laura UK that makes sense, but honestly I don't think almost getting killed and having a brief emotional reaction is something only emotionally unstable people do and if a woman or a man for that matter can't read that I can't blame their partner
Yeah, it's not stressed enough the difference between what attracts a healthy woman and an unhealthy one. I've known women that dislike even tempered men, for example, seeking out wild passionate flings instead. In the wrong environment you can have all of these qualities and still struggle.
Thank you I have been going through a divorce and your videos have helped me a way better person. Realized that I lost myself in this marriage for the last 11 years and that can't happen again. Thank you again for making a better person. I have eating healthy, working out, and bettering myself in many ways. So far have lost 30 pounds and want to for sure lose another 20.
@@evidence-basedhealthuk5271 Hey I know that sometimes you can feel down. I have started talking to women again and have had a few people ask me out. I have told them I am not ready for dating yet. I am bald and have been since I was 25 when I met my soon-to-be ex-wife. There are many woman that aren't shallow, the ones that are you don't want to be with them. Just have to be confident in yourself, be honest, and be a great person. I believe in you, you will find a special someone.
#2 is a big struggle for me. I'm allergic to a lot of things (corn, gluten, soy, white rice, sugar, milk), so I'm forced to eat healthy. But genetics fight against me and I have to work doubly hard to maintain any kind of physique. It's a constant struggle, especially since I work physically active jobs as well. My other fear is that when/if I ever get the body I really want then I'll just attract more shallow women. It's probably a silly thing to worry about, but I worry nonetheless. I don't have time or emotional energy to sift through shallow women. All the other items on the list are things I've maintained for a long while (not bragging, but I do prioritize being a good, contributing member of society). So it's not like I have trouble attracting women. But I think being even more physically attractive will help me look how I portray myself as, otherwise I feel kind of like a phony. I do enjoy being active (hikes, walking around the city, playing basketball, etc), but I don't 100% look the part due to ongoing health struggles since birth. The struggle is real. 😆 Anyway, thanks for the checklist! All of them are very important to keep in play.
I feel the same way, but for different reasons. I’m one of those “hard-gainers” who has such a high metabolism it’s nearly impossible for me to gain muscle and look like the Greek god I’ve always wanted to be like.
I’ve been playing the violin for 10 years. Just got Corrective exercise certification a few months ago. Hitting instructor. Certified personal trainer. Play in a hardball league. Love working out.
All the points you brought up are very helpful. The points alone are good, but your subtle emotions and feelings that come out while explaining the points are what really make the points memorable. Thank you for the video. 🙏
Integrity is also another way to be respected by your peers and neighbors which is something women want in their man. If you respect yourself and have the integrity humility and discipline to end up respected by others, there is a better chance she will respect you
Piece of advice for the guys. Be friendly to every girls u see treated them how u want to be treated but if u attracted to the girl than give those chivalrous traits towards her like holding the door carrying something heavy for her help her out in anyway ask her questions about her.
Thanks Courtney 😊 I think thinking of your actions, re development, in the context of the three basic desires from a partner (from your channel or maybe Rebecca Barret's) for men and women is helpful. Men: (a) Honour/respect; (b) Nurturing/supportive; and (c) Love (more physical than emotional). Women: (i) Security; (ii) Protection; and (iii) Love (more emotional than physical). So being physically fit and emotionally balanced ties into (ii). Having a passion, and learning mindset ties into (i), etc. Though in the first instance, you should be doing these things for yourself!
People who say that women don't appreciate gentlemen miss the whole point of being one. You do it because you believe it's the right way and not to be approved by anyone. Great material Courtney!
where do you get your "believe right way" handbook? Courtney is on a popular subject but I don't even think the girls she calls hot to interview on her show are hot. Take a few layers of "help" off of Courtney and she is just average.
@@richknisley9287 it's right in there -"believe". Let me rephrase - you do it because it's who you are and you have a strong conviction (by definition subjective) that this is the right way. And that's the whole point.
@@bartekw6970 im just wondering if you made it a teachable subject what would it look like because just saying "believe" only speaks to your depth and not about the accuracy of your content of the belief itself. Either you have something people can or will follow or you have something only you follow in which no one obviously will care
Lmao. Being attractive makes you attractive. Symmetrical face, either your parents took care of your teeth or you have fake ones, 6 + ft, car that cost what you make in a year, simple things guys.
I take care of myself by avoid the 3 things which can age you horribly ( Stress,conflict and Arguing) also nagging, those 4 things age you horribly, so avoid them at all costs
And men who are self respecting, take care of themselves and have passions will hold similar standards for women and be thinking "is she good for me" rather than laying all his cards out because of her attractive exterior. I absolutely need mental stimulation with a person I'm going to spend time with. There's an abundance of ladies that don't even know what they like, let alone cultivate passions of their own.
You have very valid points, Courtney. The problem is that too many women have the "nice guys finish last" mentality. They also think that being loud, obnoxious, and disrespectful is cool. Many women need to change their KARDASHIAN WANNABE or CARDI B WANNABE mentalities.
Nahhh that isn't true. There is a portion of women who find that attractive but most of the time that isn't what making them happy in the long run. The Nice guys finish last mentality comes from guys who are not confident enough to move through life with purpose. My advice is find something other then women to invest your time and energy into like working out, a career, a passion, or cause. Women will notice and see you have drive and confidence. Being rude, disrespectful, obnoxious are not traits I find attractive in women and I know they don't find attractive about us. (Maybe for a couple years in college but that is about it.)
@@Ziip47 thats how I remember it use to be, back when I was 20-40 years old.....now....with modern woman....YIKES !!! they think, and act like their shit don't stink, trust me, it stinks just like mine does. LOL
@@Ziip47 These men are perfectly confident moving through life in all different aspects from business to the gym/sports etc. To say these men "move through life with no purpose" when some of them dominate their sports or are accomplished businessmen/millionares etc, makes no sense. It's just that they aren't confident with women and/or cannot back up said confidence due to not having some shallow vain body "standard" that most modern women DEMAND such as penis isze. Women can smell a confident massively endowed great in bed guy and they can smell an average insecure guy who's not confident in the bed room a mile off and they hate that. Most women will not even waste their time these days when they realize that your body count is low and you don't have much experience etc. No matter how confident or well mannered you are. Which just gets you perceived to largely be a "simp" these days anyway or a "nice guy".
I need HELP! There is a girl im talking to. One time we were talking over the phone and she was quiet. I told her if she doesnt speak im coming over to her house. She stayed quiet and i drove to her house late at night. She didnt want to come out in the beginning but she did eventually. We hugged and talked for 10 mins. While i was driving home she texted me to never to that again. She called me and started crying that i ruined her weekend and then told me that shes keeping me over the phone. Because if she cant sleep i shouldnt be able to😂 Im not the only one talking to her. And one time i was pissed of with everything. For 2 weeks i was thinking about what she wants with us. She noticed me at work and she knew i was pissed. She started to text me and call me. Didnt answer. At about 11 pm i texted and called her back because she was begging me to answer. I told her that maybe its best for her to move on with someone she feels comfortable with and forget about me. She told me before that she feels uncomfortable around me and she doesnt know what to say and that im hard to read and that im complicated. When i said that she should move on she started crying/sobbing. I asked her why shes crying. She said because youre saying you not going to talk to me. My question is: is she interested and what do i do?
Guys manners maketh man always remember. Just to make you guys full proof I went to my best friends wedding they got married to each other. Was well dressed and smelled good. I also had to help to the bride and the groom setup some of the small items for their wedding as well as coordinate their event which attracted a lot of attention. Plus I was respectful to both sides parents introducing myself and saying who I am and why I came 3 hours before the wedding. Got a lot of female attention that night and a lot of wanted to be near me. So what Courtney saying is very true. Also I come from an Indian family so I bow my head to my elders especially if they are grandparents and such so knowing these things if you ever are dating from another culture puts you in big props.
No bragging but this is so me, they all apply to me. And I’ve been very consistent with these key points the past few years. Thanks for the encouragement Courtney! Generally speaking.
I am learning to play guitar. I built one myself and bought one from the store. Funny thing is I walked away from a woman learned harmonica moved to guitar and she pursues me a little now. Took your advice 8 months ago and it works every time.
What's the dynamic for men looking at a womans income? If the expectation is for a guy to make more than 6 figures in Miami to even look at his direction? Should men expect the same or maybe 80% or more of what he makes to look at the womens direction?
Your channel is growing rapidly. Congrats. You've been getting a lot more viewers on your videos. Congrats. How do decide on what content to make sure you don't get repetitive? Always great content.
Thank you so much for your kind comment! I appreciate it 🥺 I keep a long list of ideas, I have so many! There will be times when I mention similar points in videos that I think are important but I really try my best to frame it in a different way so my viewers get something new out of it. Thank you again!
Everything in this video checks out alright except for the part about potential. While she did say that not ALL potential is sexy, that is being too nice. The truth is that the lion share of women don't care about the "potential" and would rather go after a guy who already faced the tests, passed, and is successful. Just remember the quote "women don't care about your struggles they are waiting at the finishing line" and that's all you did to know. They don't which winner they just want a winner and potential for most women translates to "this guy MIGHT make it but he can also fail too & I prefer someone who I know is a winner rather than someone who is a potential loser."
Many people will say this is the mindset of an incel, but my thoughts and mindset, perspective has changed recently towards life and the world or reality,, and as i'm sure you know already, people and society will always say that the world or nature, reality, doesn't owe us anything, owes us nothing, that we are not entitled or owed a date or relationship, sex, i like to believe or think that is far more true for men than for women, or just males of almost every animal species on the planet, i like to feel that women or just female animals, are the only gender that are owed or entitled to a date or sex, relationship, mating, relations, companions, etc., because when you are the gender that gets approached or gets advances made on you, gets asked out, hit on, pursued, its like nature, the world, reality is basically handing you dates or relationships, companionship, sex. Women or female animals of most species are guaranteed attention and options from the other sex for simply just existing, men or male animals are not. Many people will disagree and say this is the wrong mindset to have, but thats sure how the world or nature seems or looks like, its like women or female animals are the only gender that are guaranteed or owed, obligated chances at having dates or relationships, sex, mating, companionship, etc. I copied and pasted that from another user and I completely agree with what he said
You can guarantee that if someone like Johnny Depp was making less than 30k a year there would be women who were attracted to him... because he is passionate about his art.... However the way he looks and the fact that he has a passion for his art and is talented helps... lol Personally I speak 8 different languages to a reasonable level of proficiency and I sing opera and am a passionate pro-Palestinian advocate.... I am a confident person but NONE of these things were what attracted my girlfriend initially... but that's a different story...
@@Luemm3l Communication is the key to everything. Genuine 2 way communication, be a GOOD listener, and don't speak unless you have something really important to say. It is better to remain silent and be thought an idiot than to talk bollocks (as they say in Great Britain) and remove all doubt.... to butcher an expression. If people have a similar interest perhaps, even if it is from different perspectives, or from different ends of the spectrum that is a key. Be honest about what you want and what you need and what you are looking for. Be honest with yourself and with others. Be open to things be open minded. There are times however when honesty has to be tempered with diplomacy and discretion so bear that in mind.
This is to answer your question you asked at the end of the video. My skillset is vehicle maintenance (mechanic). It's interesting to some women, yet not all. Being a mechanic has its advantages such as working on her car when asks. Giving her advice on automotive things she can handle on her own. Maybe some conversation about automotive stuff if she likes car shows & such. Yet the disadvantages can be, my weathered and beat up hands (it comes with the job). My normal off duty attire reflects that I am a mechanic. You know, the shirts and hats with automotive murals on them along with a pair of blue jeans and work type shoes. It's all clean and crisp though. I do clean up well and keep my beard and mustache groomed nice. I'm just not one to wear all those latest men's fashion trends. I stick with the timeless stuff. By the way, I like your channel. Thanks for a good video.
1:56 “I don’t know any super attractive man who eats McDonalds every day” May I introduce you to Warren Buffett, Courtney? 🤪 Jk, I totally agree with you. I take pride in having McDonalds a total number of 3 times my whole life!
Crazy part is there are alot of great men with many if not all of these traits, and they are just overlooked and blatantly ignored by the women. I think honestly we should be asking women instead as to why exactly this is
Courtney: I have a PhD, no debt, make 90K, have a pension and benefits, car paid off, I am fit and active, I dress well, have good hygiene (nice beard), I can cook, bake, play multiple instruments, speak multiple languages, lived and worked in several countries, study emotional intelligence, and keep a clean well decorated house. I also do swing dance and lindy hop classes twice a week, and I'm an organizer for 3 different meetup groups. I go kayaking, running and hiking. I achieved all my goals except buying a house which will take a year or so to save the down payment. I can only find women who want a FWB with me. I always used to just focus on myself, but I've hit a wall. I don't know ho much more I can build. I'm the guy parents want their daughters to marry. I keep up my confident exterior and I'm happy with myself, but I don't know what else I can do.
Serious question for you, I’m genuinely intrigued by your experience. Are you too nice? See I ask because I was once too nice. I’m older and have been married and divorced, top of my career, educated and in great physical shape. I married in my early twenties and divorced in my forties. Entering back into the dating scene was an eye opener. I had lots of dates that went nowhere. Being tall, athletic, decent looking and successful went far attracting women but none stuck around. I wound up sleeping with a coworker after a party and while I had always been attracted to her never pursued anything because we worked for the same company. I was a bit smitten with her and asked her out. She immediately replied, oh hell no. Dejected I asked why? She was brutally honest, I was the nice guy that all the ladies liked but a complete pushover and it showed. She told me it was a topic of conversation with some of the other company women. I was embarrassed and felt humiliated. She said I was an attractive guy but had no backbone and easily manipulated by women. Looking back their assessment was on point. I went out of my way for women and most of the time got nothing in return. A simp. I had no idea how to change. The next woman I asked out tried jerking me around on a second date and I calmly and respectfully told her I was no longer interested. It felt good to stand up for myself. That same woman chased me for two weeks looking for a second date but I refused. She disrespected me and if I accepted her treatment it wouldn’t get better with time. I had to work on having a spine around women for a few years but it’s paid off because you can be too nice. Just a suggestion.
You seem to have everything, I really don't know, maybe change where you're looking for women? Your Social circles may be a good place to find a woman.
@@Razor-gx2dq I the admin for three different meetup groups and go to multiple social dance groups. I even went to a 3 day swing dance retreat last weekend. I'm doing the things I enjoy so I think I'm in the right social circles. I've already changed what I look for in women. My standards have dramatically lowered over the years. All I want is an average woman.
@@Razor-gx2dq My ex girlfriends mom once told her she was lucky to be with me because I "had it all". She met a tall guy with a sailboat on tinder and left me.
Haha Bingo thank you. You become one of the average "nice guys", that they only start considering for dating once they hit their late 35s-40s typically as single mothers vocally and loudly professing that they are now very desperate and willing to ""lower their insane ridiculous previous body standards that they used to bully and overlook you for" and "settle" for a nice caring loser average guy like us lol But even then if you are lucky to get used by these women, they spend all day dreaming about their former previous massively endowed ex-boyfriends all day until they end up inevtiably cheating on you anyway and destroying the family unit.
Being even tempered. Me: nervous sweating. Even though I tend to be a lot better out in public, when I'm at home I can get wound up and angry at some of the stupidest things, like sporting results going badly, or raging at a video game. This sort of thing sometimes ends up in me throwing anger and hate onto someone who doesn't deserve it, and it negatively affects my outlook on the world which can really hurt my attitude. I really do want to be more positive and optimistic, but due to the amount of crap I have been through, I find it a lot harder to be like that compared to other people. I just know that in the back of my mind, if a woman wants to be with me then they're going to have to have a good level of understanding and mental strength to deal with how I can get sometimes because I have been struggling to find ways of dealing with my temper my whole life.
Courtney i started watching your videos. Enjoy all of them. You seem wise beyond your years. I thought you were older than you are only because of your knowledge on most subjects
Depends on what she is looking for. It is the same for men. If all they are looking for is physical attraction then yes the more attractive/hot person will be their choice. The traits she talks about are more about presenting yourself in the best way overall. Women do pick up on it.
@@Ziip47 every woman and every man needs physical attraction to start with. Don't get me wrong...I'm not ugly, most women check me out when I walk outside. I have good posture, good manners, dress well, smell good, impeccable skin etc. I have a friend that is handsome like myself, same height too but he has skin issues and has a few traits...not ambitious at all. He is jacked however and has a stunning girlfriend but cheats on her with lots of women. I just think the traits mentioned is a question of "are you an adult or still a kid".
Men I have a question for you. Do you prefer a women that 1. Have integrity/honest 2. Take care of themselves: both physical and mental well-being 3. Dress right and grooming there hair, face, etc 4. Even tempered; keeps cool in hot situations 5. Manners; says thank you and such 6. Passion, driven, has skills to offer
This is great advice for what you prefer in a good honest world, the world I use to know 20+ years ago..... And I completely understand as I try to be my best, probably the best dam 66 year old you'd ever know.... however the ones I've been meeting lately, act like they are the prize, they are little princess's with an attitude, don't care so much about these things, as they are more attractive to more about the buy me, bring me, take me, and the latest exciting thing you can do for them, your a circus act, and/or an entertainment director....
Then how come they marry an unemployed biker dude with sleeves of jailhouse tatts, a drug and alcohol problem, STDs, prior arrests and restraining orders, 2 ex-wives, 3 baby momma's, 4 kids and the child support court dramas that come with them....and 3 evictions.
Purpose promotes passion Too many men are too lazy to chase what fuels their desire and sets their soul ablaze Women have insanely keen intuition, they are designed this way, you do not have to tell them what you do or what you're passionate about for them to pick up if you're a guy with purpose and lust for life. Have goals and actively work towards them and the women will certainly take notice.
This is such a refreshing take to hear right now. Especially since there seems to be a theme of bitter men dominating the conversation about what women find attractive. Guys listen to this shit. It takes time, self awareness and growth to really become/practice these things, but I am here to tell you it is soooo worth it. It will not only change how women see you but also they type of women that find you attractive. Also you might find you look at yourself in a who new way.
with respect, ask yourself, why do you think there are negative comments here? Because men are speaking directly from their own experiences in the real world, probably most are older or well older and more experienced than you. me being one of them.
Some topics you addressed to are more like a "hive mind" most likely known as culture and in every State and/or Country has its own "behavior". I personally see countries/states or even some areas as people (the wealthy one, fitness one, chill one, etc.) so I can prepare myself and set my mind to act (not lying of course, if someone asks I tell the truth, it's always better bc at some point they'll catch the lie and look soooo bad at the end) accordingly to that so I can feel secure, confident in any way and I have or don't have a comfort zone bc all places are my comfort zones depends on how you see it haha. 🤷🏻♂️
I've come from being in relationships with men who were homeless without a job car ID DL HS diploma and jail. Through all that I'm a lot more open minded, understanding, humble at the same time I am a lot more mature and have limits now. I want someone on the same page as me but if a man happens to be making less money as me or does not have everything I have it would be nice to date a man that at least is able to still handle his business take care of himself as if I weren't in his life, like he does not heavily rely on me for everything no matter how much love involved thatis so draining on one person to bare everything. If your grown you gone find a way to survive. A man lived his whole life making it before he met you so he should be able to do the same while with you. 💗
Watching this video I learned why some middle age women dealing with me for a few minutes in a while clearly melt for me. Because of my manners. If only I had this same outcome with girls of my age.
Speaking as an old school boomer, my parents instilled in my older brother and me strong values, e.g., integrity, good manners, being considerate of others, honesty. Everything you listed makes total sense. These values should apply to all generations. There’s a Yiddish word that captures all of the qualities you listed: mensch (applies to all genders). Be a mensch and you’ll do fine. Alternatively, don’t act like a jerk or an a-hole.
Anyone born in the 80s-90s also got heavily sold this narrative of women are princesses and that you should be a gentlemen who is kind, caring, loving, empathetic blah blah blah blah. Look how that worked out for the men of our generation, who the modern women prefer serial womanizing aggressive dominant over 6ft, massively endowed "alpha chad" douchebags, who treat women like crap but get away with it because they are mr super hunk in the bedroom. Whilst the nice, caring guys who got fed this narrative, get bullied, body shamed and publically humiliated by these women to all their friends for parts of your body you can't even help the size of. That's how far your good manners gets you with modern women.
I think 2 - 5 are valid only if u are a good looking guy in general. There are plenty of men who have these traits but women are not interested in them.
At 37 i've realized its gotten me nowhere being kind and modest and timid- especially being 6'4. Walking around with confidence and not taking BS really commands a room. If someone is pushy or buzzing around me like a fly, i'll let off a powerful pushing energy that makes them scour and go to the corner of the room- hard to explain. But I know it's attractive lol.
Being a photographer and cinematographer has worked out for me. Lucky enough to be able to pursue my craft and have some interesting stories along the way. Regardless of what you’re passion is, it is important for men to have a purpose.
And MOST IMPORTANTLY - he accepts her just as she is… while tirelessly working on his fitness, career, and personality. Gentlemen… anything wrong with this picture?
6:28 What a bold statement to make, your basically justifying women behavior so that all men should be gentlemen regardless of the women behavior towards them. Zero accountability from a women is a turn off for any man, women should be held accountable for their rude behavior towards men when men are trying to be gentlemen. Women should be put to their place when she is being rude, such action should not be tolerated by men just for the sake of “it’s always a win when your a gentlemen regardless of what women attitude towards you”, hold women accountable will you, or is it against your incentive to do so?
You certainly exposed your bias and thoroughly misinterpreted what Courtney conveyed in that passage. Basically, she is NOT excusing bad behavior of women; Courtney is simply saying two wrongs do not make a right. So when confronting a woman who would act badly with drama perhaps, the last thing a gentleman should do is elevate the drama with more anger, screaming, or belligerence; staying on point yet calm without yielding to bad behavior is far better while rewarding the behavior if the other changes by calming down and participates reasonably in negotiating or solving a problem. As for the women who are horrible and permanent pieces of work, never to get better, stop talking and reward them with your disappearance from their lives. Regardless, Courtney was never implying to kowtow nor humor bad behavior of women let alone men.
She isn't saying that. She's saying that you should do it for yourself. The right women who are well mannered will notice. The women who aren't well mannered won't notice. That's the key. So you attract the women with good manners and the ones without won't care and you should be happy.
I get your point mr. cation.....the women I've been meeting lately act like they are so entitled, like they are the prize, regardless of their shit poor personality.
@@johnkeller5163 I understand what your saying and I get your point. But she could've explain that on the moment giving that fact the she have a long history of thoroughly taking into every view point in an accommodating way in every topic that she discuss or make a video about. And quite frankly this her way of communicating from what I observed watching her videos. However, in this video and regarding this matter she couldn't give two fucks about further explaining the point, which entails that she's avoiding to make women accountable and in contrast, she makes the men take full responsibility; which boils down to the innate problem of entitlement that are embedded in females. Listen man, I like her and her videos but I call bulshit when I see it, and at the end of the day I hope I am wrong and I hope women do take accountability for their actions.
@@shaybs Brother Mohammad, It's a matter of respect. I am not chasing girls for a quick hookup while being a gentlemen to them. The only reason I am being a gentlemen is because I respect people when I interact with them regardless of their gender. If I am being a gentlemen to a girl, this does not mean I want to get in her pants; which is always the case with women if your a man and acted nice to them, they think your hitting on them because they have this inferiority/intention seeking complex. What is really happening is that It's so happens that your a girl and I am being a gentlemen, no more and much less. In conclusion, the only reason I am being a gentlemen is that I respect people. However, I will not tolerate other people being rude in return regardless of their gender.
It is funny how some of these are so culture-dependable. Here in the modern Scandinavia where the women are independant human being, you would pretty sure get a slap in the face, if you tried to hold the door, took out the chair or held the jacket for a girl. At least she would very hardly let you know that YOU are not her dad, and she can do things herself. :D
Wow! You are beautiful but have great advice. I appreciate the honest truth and advice. It’s much appreciated. This channel seems legit and I appreciate the true advice. Thank you 🙏
I'm not blessed in very many areas, but I AM blessed with a high metabolism. I stay thin and trim no matter what I eat or how many cokes I pour into my body lol
I'd take the passion thing with a grain of salt, or put it in the "hobby" section not the job section. A woman might like passion and potential, but when a baby comes along that baby needs the best life that can be provided. For most guys, that will mean working at jobs that suck the life out of you. Even if you can build a solid business, there will be many times when practicality means compromise over passion. Be passionate about your hobbies and dreams for when your kids can take care of themselves but be practical when it comes to the bank account and food on the table.
Nice video & work. Thank you. I keep faith to our Creator God to be attractive. No one needs to attract the world, only a few who will deeply appreciate you (including a soulmate).
6 things attractive guys always do: 1. Being good looking (face, physique, hair) 2. Being tall 3. Being extroverted yet unfathomable, confident verging on cocky, never vulnerable 4. Being well endowed and good in bed 5. Having high socioeconomical status 6. Having a large social circle and possibly exciting hobbies That's why they're attractive to women after all. That, and only that, is what makes for an attractive man today. Anything else is a nice bonus but doesn't really matter as long as a man doesn't meet at least 4, better 5, of the above criteria.
Thank you, at least someone talking truth around here. Modern women will destroy and publically humiliate, body shame you to mental illness if you aren't massively endowed etc. It's sick, but Courtneys advice is so helpful lol
Re water: I’ve pretty much been drinking a gallon + of water everyday for around 20 years. I’m not saying it’s the reason I always get mistaken for 30 when I’m 40…. I’m sure it doesn’t hurt.
What made you attracted you your future husband? How did you meet? What sets him apart in your eyes from other men? Could you do a video based on your experiences with love and how you found your dream man? It could be very motivational for some of us
The most common New Year’s resolution is “I want to lose weight”. I wish American society was as accepting, or more accepting, of men saying, “I’m going to start talking to a therapist”. I wish taking care of one’s mental health was as acceptable as taking care of one’s physical health.
1. Have integrity
2. Take care of themselves (inside and out, healthy habits)
3. Dress for success, grooming
4. Even-tempered, keeps cool in stressful situations
5. Manners - gentlemanly gestures, kind to others
6. Passion/drive/purpose, skillset
we need space to caress our junk too
Skill set=things you could do for them
@@Dman425 it’s not like that.. women are impressed with all kinds of things.. like if you are good at chess, or can juggle etc etc
@@12233445566abc probably not. But, it sure doesn’t hurt, does it?
Thank you
6 things men would like about attractive women:
1. Have integrity
2. Have integrity
3. Have integrity
4. Have integrity
5. Have integrity
6. Have integrity
Men of integrity attract women of integrity. It's automatic. Women of integrity notice men of integrity and automatically gravitate towards them.
@@shaybs 🧢
You ever notice that the list of what women would want is what men would also want in women?
@@shaybs bullshit site your source or its just your hot air opinion
@@Haha_Haha_Ha Right, at this point it shouldn’t even be a question! We are living in a time in history where the worst, most selfish, promiscuous, disloyal, most entitled women that ever lived exist!
Most men love an even-tempered woman too. Not the belligerent ones who fly off the handle over every little thing.
Absolutely! 🙌🏼 as they should
Storm, you are the man! Finally we have somebody who can tell Courtney ryan that she shouldn’t live in Disney world of her own imagination
@@CourtneyRyan really? you always talk about how men MUST behave but you have NEVER talked about the other side
@@zwollekira8202 actually she made plenty of videos about how women should or shouldn’t behave
@@zwollekira8202 I talk about this a lot, actually. Go watch Fridays video as an example lol
I thank my Mom for constantly telling me (when I was a kid) to stand up straight, be courteous, and be respectful to both women and men...and it has paid off in spades throughout my life.
Courtney does sound like a mom, and as we know moms know best when it comes to getting laid, right guys? LOL!
Confidence and Genuine. Respects others and treats everyone as an equal, doesn't matter if this person is a waitress or CEO.
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Being genuine is part of having integrity. When you have integrity you don't change who your are or your values based on the people or women around you. You present your genuine self.
Courtney won't reply, bc she is very busy and above you....
@@CourtneyRyan doesn't matter, unless its courtney.... then she is only with mega stars... not a waiter...see its all a lie... just get used to women belittling you , just tell em some Bullshit like a dumb lady wants to hear...
chess proves that ladies are not as smart as men... just get over it... women are the ones that can create life...
As a girl originally from Miami I agree with what you said about girls who will look elsewhere if the guy is making less than a desirable salary. It's so so sad how many people there are so shallow. The funny thing is you know people are struggling but they will not admit it and will have a lifestyle outside of their means. I had several friends whose cars were repossessed. 🤦🏻♀️
Ouch its even better to buy second hand cars though just for utility but don't buy it actually if you just want to show off
Wow, that is really sad. It's awful that many women only look at the bank account and not all the other lovely qualities a guy may have.
Atractive men are also the ones who are humble, and do not brag about their achievments. Great video, your content is gold.
🙌🏼 agreed! Thank you so much!
6:28 exactly! You don't be nice to women or others to try to attract them. You do it because it's the right thing to do. All these characteristics are things you need to do all the time even by yourself. They are not to trick people. You need to become this person all the time.
Doing the right thing only leads to falling short, Cobra Kai season 4 emphasized this
This is something I need to get better at but be nice to an extent, but don’t be afraid to be mean to her. If she gets offended and pissed off, just realize it’s subjective, and that you just aren’t her type
Happy Sunday Courtney! I had commented on a video you did last week about how a lot of guys lack self confidence because they tend to overlook or undervalue virtues they already possess, like the ones you mention here. People in general, both men and women, have a tendency to prioritize qualities that are more apparent to others on the surface. I think having integrity is the most important virtue that support all the other qualities on your list to complete a high value individual.👍🏻
I love this comment! 🥰
@@CourtneyRyan thanks and that’s very encouraging, Courtney! Btw, I also follow Teddy’s watch channel and you both have the best content in your respective fields of interest on YT.😎👍🏻👍🏻
3:50 "know what is appropriate for specific situations;" yes, because women like men who just 'get it.' Men should always be growing, which includes learning something new daily. Style is fun, fads are stressful. Learn what is "appropriate!"
Thank you for sharing these helpful tips, Courtney! Having integrity is so important.
“Girls want guys with incredibly good skills” -Napoleon Dynamite
@KCBOBX “they’re really big”
Bow hunting skills… computer hacking skills… girls want guys with skills!
Nunchuck skills
"Be a man with a plan", as well as a man of integrity, takes cares of himself, looks his best, well-mannered, and even-tempered!
When I was in the military, it was drummed into us to act with integrity and remain cool in stressful situations.
Good list Courtney... these traits can apply to women as well.
but it won't apply to women, bc of double standards...
Have all these things and still not even be considered date worthy to most modern women because you don't meet their insane shallow physical body standards of being at least 6ft, or this penis size, or not being bald, blah blah blah
Easy way to go from a 8 out of 10 confident genuine guy to a worthless 5 out of 10 all because of your height bro, didn't you see courtneys other video where the women were shame rating men based on things they can't change lol
@@againstdrivingdrunk614 , you don't have to date someone you're not into. Same goes for women.
@@andrebaxter4023 haha its 75% luck... you have to get lucky with timing / location / scheduling etc... to meet the right person.
The problem with these traits is that it takes time for a woman to notice them. That's probably why (back when we worked in offices), women thought of their office mates as attractive, because that's when these qualities can show. These aren't things you'd notice just meeting someone in a bar.
I think of this advice is more for guys that want to keep a girl, than get a girl.
Exactly, these traits mean nothing if the woman isn't attracted to you at all.
Looks are 80% of what makes a man attractive.
Was going to say the same. This more like tips for keeping a partner
I don't agree. If you dress for success like myself. Even though I'm not good looking. I barely hit 7 on a scale of ten. However, dressing well, being well mannered, listening and being kind makes women get attracted to you. If you follow her advice, trust me women will be attracted to you. Have good intentions. Women notice all these subtle things she mentions and trust me it gets your foot in the door. She'll ask you out to get some coffee to get to know one another. That doesn't mean she'll be your girlfriend or you manage to get her. It just means these traits get your foot in the door.
@@coolnut99 SMV not looks
I can see where manners when addressing people around you are important. Being a respectful man in charge and in control obviously shows respect and confidence. I didn’t agree with the opening doors, helping you take your coat off stuff though, especially not with someone you just met. Women want what they can’t have and a man who is falling all over a women they just met will crash and burn. Women fantasize about this type of stuff, but in the dating game it doesn’t work. You gotta have looks and, or money to attract women, It’s just the way it is, and nice, guys, and girls finish last.
Nice guys finish last, that doesn’t apply to women though. Nice women finish first
Happy Sunday Courtney! I think myself as a confident guy in mid 30s, nice relationship with a good woman who supports me and vice versa, and a well mannered, mellow. Just by the best version of you and only allow the people who bring value to you and the ones who are toxic, don't bring value, cut them out. Sending love from Florida
Happy Sunday John! Thanks for the comment! ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan You're welcome, Courtney! 😘
I simply have to say something here. It is not to offend you. But by calling other human beings "toxic" and having the need to "cut them out" it only shows that you are insecure and lack of latitude. That is the straight opposite of being a well mannered guy. ;)
Hey Courtney, thanks for the content! I’ve found it to be really helpful. You actually remind me a lot of my grandmother. She was always a southern lady with poise and class, and I’m sure she was a lot like you when she was younger.
All the things my father and grandpa, and mom and grandma too, taught me while growing up! Too bad much of the last one or two generations have stopped teaching and the young have stopped learning. You are making a difference Courtney!
My girlfriend goes absolutely crazy because she thinks I am too calm and collected. I like to be in absolute control of my actions and reactions and she goes crazy... lol
Me according to gf: *calm emotionless robot that likes cuddles and makes her feel safe*
Me in reality: "I can't sleep, their voices never stop screaming, and she's the only innocent thing left in my life"
@@rockytom5889 you good man?
@@Razor-gx2dq
Yeah...am now.
Thanks to her the voices are slowly dissapearing, and sleep is better. Also she's trying to teach me these things called 'feelings', which I think I forgot how to operate a decade ago, so it's been pretty scary, but she's been there to reassure me every time. I'm blessed to have such a creature in my life...cause I cannot make many people happy, usually I make them sad or horrified...she was genuinely curious and happy...so strange, but here we are, me(20), a kid who was fighting not to die since he was born, and it never stopped, just got more trouble added, and a little abused girl(21), who just wanted to be treated like a human being. We ain't perfect people with perfect lives, but we've paid our dues. I'll be there to beat down on whatever life throws at us, and she'll be there with me
@Laura UK
Yeah, you're right...I plan on getting that sorted, it's just that sometimes you fall in so deep you don't even know how to reach out until you got someone who needs you.
@Laura UK I agree wholeheartedly, I think it is extremely important for a person to be in the right place mentally.
I really like how genuine you are and I think you have a very good perspective on just how to be a good person. Thank you.
I find "confidence" a really vague and unhelpful thing people are "attracted" to, like whenever I see a woman say a guy is confident, they usually just mean he's a poser, whereas to me I see those guys as very low confidence, but then I don't actually know what to do in any situation to evoke confidence, and think "what does that word even mean?"
Hard to believe people have to be reminded about having good manners. Great video Courtney. 👍🏾
Thank you ❤️
all these comedown to one mindful though... "love yourself" mentally and physically ..then all 6 points will follow .. love your post Courtney ..be safe
My ex fiance has some attachment issues and everything on this list was magnified ten-fold. I'm pretty even tempered, was working towards goals, etc etc but anytime I slipped even a little she never forgot it. Like, I think I swore at a car one time with good reason imo and it made her feel unsafe.
At the same time, I can't blame myself for the breakup. Men, you're going to slip on occasion. As long as you aren't being abusive, yelling at them, emotionally unstable, etc etc and yet you're being blamed for your partner's unhappiness, it could also be that your woman has attachment issues to work through.
Yes maybe there's things you need to work on but don't blame yourself for everything. You also need a woman who can forgive and communicate her needs with you
@Laura UK that makes sense, but honestly I don't think almost getting killed and having a brief emotional reaction is something only emotionally unstable people do and if a woman or a man for that matter can't read that I can't blame their partner
Integrity is a must and rightfully #1 on the list! I used to stress over this, but in hindsight, they're just weeding themselves out
🙌🏼 exactly
Tommy, you dropped something
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Yeah, it's not stressed enough the difference between what attracts a healthy woman and an unhealthy one. I've known women that dislike even tempered men, for example, seeking out wild passionate flings instead. In the wrong environment you can have all of these qualities and still struggle.
Loyalty would seem to be a #1 need then integrity
@@LatimusChadimus lol love it!
Thank you I have been going through a divorce and your videos have helped me a way better person. Realized that I lost myself in this marriage for the last 11 years and that can't happen again. Thank you again for making a better person. I have eating healthy, working out, and bettering myself in many ways. So far have lost 30 pounds and want to for sure lose another 20.
Woohoo! Rooting for you! ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan Thank you it means a lot that you responded to my post! :)
@@evidence-basedhealthuk5271 Hey I know that sometimes you can feel down. I have started talking to women again and have had a few people ask me out. I have told them I am not ready for dating yet. I am bald and have been since I was 25 when I met my soon-to-be ex-wife. There are many woman that aren't shallow, the ones that are you don't want to be with them. Just have to be confident in yourself, be honest, and be a great person. I believe in you, you will find a special someone.
#2 is a big struggle for me. I'm allergic to a lot of things (corn, gluten, soy, white rice, sugar, milk), so I'm forced to eat healthy. But genetics fight against me and I have to work doubly hard to maintain any kind of physique. It's a constant struggle, especially since I work physically active jobs as well. My other fear is that when/if I ever get the body I really want then I'll just attract more shallow women. It's probably a silly thing to worry about, but I worry nonetheless. I don't have time or emotional energy to sift through shallow women.
All the other items on the list are things I've maintained for a long while (not bragging, but I do prioritize being a good, contributing member of society). So it's not like I have trouble attracting women. But I think being even more physically attractive will help me look how I portray myself as, otherwise I feel kind of like a phony. I do enjoy being active (hikes, walking around the city, playing basketball, etc), but I don't 100% look the part due to ongoing health struggles since birth. The struggle is real. 😆
Anyway, thanks for the checklist! All of them are very important to keep in play.
I feel the same way, but for different reasons. I’m one of those “hard-gainers” who has such a high metabolism it’s nearly impossible for me to gain muscle and look like the Greek god I’ve always wanted to be like.
genetics? excuses. you're fat cause you eat too much and don't work out enough. period.
I’ve been playing the violin for 10 years. Just got Corrective exercise certification a few months ago. Hitting instructor. Certified personal trainer. Play in a hardball league. Love working out.
Her voice omg I could listen all day
All the points you brought up are very helpful. The points alone are good, but your subtle emotions and feelings that come out while explaining the points are what really make the points memorable.
Thank you for the video. 🙏
Integrity is also another way to be respected by your peers and neighbors which is something women want in their man. If you respect yourself and have the integrity humility and discipline to end up respected by others, there is a better chance she will respect you
Yes!!!!
@John Grigg never heard of it 🤔 I will write it down
Follow your passion and purpose gentlemen. Things will fall into place.
I feel this list goes both ways
Yep !
Piece of advice for the guys. Be friendly to every girls u see treated them how u want to be treated but if u attracted to the girl than give those chivalrous traits towards her like holding the door carrying something heavy for her help her out in anyway ask her questions about her.
Thanks Courtney 😊 I think thinking of your actions, re development, in the context of the three basic desires from a partner (from your channel or maybe Rebecca Barret's) for men and women is helpful.
Men: (a) Honour/respect; (b) Nurturing/supportive; and (c) Love (more physical than emotional).
Women: (i) Security; (ii) Protection; and (iii) Love (more emotional than physical).
So being physically fit and emotionally balanced ties into (ii). Having a passion, and learning mindset ties into (i), etc.
Though in the first instance, you should be doing these things for yourself!
People who say that women don't appreciate gentlemen miss the whole point of being one. You do it because you believe it's the right way and not to be approved by anyone. Great material Courtney!
where do you get your "believe right way" handbook? Courtney is on a popular subject but I don't even think the girls she calls hot to interview on her show are hot. Take a few layers of "help" off of Courtney and she is just average.
@@richknisley9287 it's right in there -"believe". Let me rephrase - you do it because it's who you are and you have a strong conviction (by definition subjective) that this is the right way. And that's the whole point.
@@bartekw6970 im just wondering if you made it a teachable subject what would it look like because just saying "believe" only speaks to your depth and not about the accuracy of your content of the belief itself. Either you have something people can or will follow or you have something only you follow in which no one obviously will care
@@richknisley9287 it's the latter.
@@bartekw6970 maybe english isnt your primary language never mind. I asked if you made it a teachable subject. Its the latter makes no sense
Lmao. Being attractive makes you attractive. Symmetrical face, either your parents took care of your teeth or you have fake ones, 6 + ft, car that cost what you make in a year, simple things guys.
I take care of myself by avoid the 3 things which can age you horribly ( Stress,conflict and Arguing) also nagging, those 4 things age you horribly, so avoid them at all costs
And men who are self respecting, take care of themselves and have passions will hold similar standards for women and be thinking "is she good for me" rather than laying all his cards out because of her attractive exterior. I absolutely need mental stimulation with a person I'm going to spend time with. There's an abundance of ladies that don't even know what they like, let alone cultivate passions of their own.
You have very valid points, Courtney. The problem is that too many women have the "nice guys finish last" mentality. They also think that being loud, obnoxious, and disrespectful is cool. Many women need to change their KARDASHIAN WANNABE or CARDI B WANNABE mentalities.
Yep !! The women I've been meeting lately act like they are so entitled, like they are the prize, regardless of their shit poor personality.
Nahhh that isn't true. There is a portion of women who find that attractive but most of the time that isn't what making them happy in the long run. The Nice guys finish last mentality comes from guys who are not confident enough to move through life with purpose. My advice is find something other then women to invest your time and energy into like working out, a career, a passion, or cause. Women will notice and see you have drive and confidence. Being rude, disrespectful, obnoxious are not traits I find attractive in women and I know they don't find attractive about us. (Maybe for a couple years in college but that is about it.)
@@Ziip47 thats how I remember it use to be, back when I was 20-40 years old.....now....with modern woman....YIKES !!! they think, and act like their shit don't stink, trust me, it stinks just like mine does. LOL
@@Ziip47 , Wow! That's a lot of hot air. That was a very fluffy response.
@@Ziip47 These men are perfectly confident moving through life in all different aspects from business to the gym/sports etc.
To say these men "move through life with no purpose" when some of them dominate their sports or are accomplished businessmen/millionares etc, makes no sense.
It's just that they aren't confident with women and/or cannot back up said confidence due to not having some shallow vain body "standard" that most modern women DEMAND such as penis isze.
Women can smell a confident massively endowed great in bed guy and they can smell an average insecure guy who's not confident in the bed room a mile off and they hate that.
Most women will not even waste their time these days when they realize that your body count is low and you don't have much experience etc.
No matter how confident or well mannered you are. Which just gets you perceived to largely be a "simp" these days anyway or a "nice guy".
I'm in 3 bands. I love music/art it's my passion.
I need HELP!
There is a girl im talking to. One time we were talking over the phone and she was quiet. I told her if she doesnt speak im coming over to her house. She stayed quiet and i drove to her house late at night. She didnt want to come out in the beginning but she did eventually. We hugged and talked for 10 mins. While i was driving home she texted me to never to that again. She called me and started crying that i ruined her weekend and then told me that shes keeping me over the phone. Because if she cant sleep i shouldnt be able to😂
Im not the only one talking to her. And one time i was pissed of with everything. For 2 weeks i was thinking about what she wants with us. She noticed me at work and she knew i was pissed. She started to text me and call me. Didnt answer. At about 11 pm i texted and called her back because she was begging me to answer. I told her that maybe its best for her to move on with someone she feels comfortable with and forget about me. She told me before that she feels uncomfortable around me and she doesnt know what to say and that im hard to read and that im complicated. When i said that she should move on she started crying/sobbing. I asked her why shes crying. She said because youre saying you not going to talk to me.
My question is: is she interested and what do i do?
Guys manners maketh man always remember. Just to make you guys full proof I went to my best friends wedding they got married to each other. Was well dressed and smelled good. I also had to help to the bride and the groom setup some of the small items for their wedding as well as coordinate their event which attracted a lot of attention. Plus I was respectful to both sides parents introducing myself and saying who I am and why I came 3 hours before the wedding. Got a lot of female attention that night and a lot of wanted to be near me. So what Courtney saying is very true. Also I come from an Indian family so I bow my head to my elders especially if they are grandparents and such so knowing these things if you ever are dating from another culture puts you in big props.
No bragging but this is so me, they all apply to me. And I’ve been very consistent with these key points the past few years. Thanks for the encouragement Courtney! Generally speaking.
Woohoo! You should be proud of yourself. Doesn’t sound like bragging to me 🙌🏼 keep it up!
@Joseph Thaletas sounds like you lack minding your own business : Ego 🤣
I am learning to play guitar. I built one myself and bought one from the store. Funny thing is I walked away from a woman learned harmonica moved to guitar and she pursues me a little now. Took your advice 8 months ago and it works every time.
Hey Courtney love your videos keep up the awesome content 😁❤️
What's the dynamic for men looking at a womans income? If the expectation is for a guy to make more than 6 figures in Miami to even look at his direction? Should men expect the same or maybe 80% or more of what he makes to look at the womens direction?
Your channel is growing rapidly. Congrats. You've been getting a lot more viewers on your videos. Congrats. How do decide on what content to make sure you don't get repetitive? Always great content.
Thank you so much for your kind comment! I appreciate it 🥺 I keep a long list of ideas, I have so many! There will be times when I mention similar points in videos that I think are important but I really try my best to frame it in a different way so my viewers get something new out of it. Thank you again!
Everything in this video checks out alright except for the part about potential. While she did say that not ALL potential is sexy, that is being too nice.
The truth is that the lion share of women don't care about the "potential" and would rather go after a guy who already faced the tests, passed, and is successful. Just remember the quote "women don't care about your struggles they are waiting at the finishing line" and that's all you did to know. They don't which winner they just want a winner and potential for most women translates to "this guy MIGHT make it but he can also fail too & I prefer someone who I know is a winner rather than someone who is a potential loser."
Nahh my guy. The right women will be there running along side you. I know it sounds corny but it is true.
Integrity= Doing the right thing even when no one is looking!!
Many people will say this is the mindset of an incel, but my thoughts and mindset, perspective has changed recently towards life and the world or reality,, and as i'm sure you know already, people and society will always say that the world or nature, reality, doesn't owe us anything, owes us nothing, that we are not entitled or owed a date or relationship, sex, i like to believe or think that is far more true for men than for women, or just males of almost every animal species on the planet, i like to feel that women or just female animals, are the only gender that are owed or entitled to a date or sex, relationship, mating, relations, companions, etc., because when you are the gender that gets approached or gets advances made on you, gets asked out, hit on, pursued, its like nature, the world, reality is basically handing you dates or relationships, companionship, sex.
Women or female animals of most species are guaranteed attention and options from the other sex for simply just existing, men or male animals are not. Many people will disagree and say this is the wrong mindset to have, but thats sure how the world or nature seems or looks like, its like women or female animals are the only gender that are guaranteed or owed, obligated chances at having dates or relationships, sex, mating, companionship, etc.
I copied and pasted that from another user and I completely agree with what he said
You can guarantee that if someone like Johnny Depp was making less than 30k a year there would be women who were attracted to him... because he is passionate about his art.... However the way he looks and the fact that he has a passion for his art and is talented helps... lol
Personally I speak 8 different languages to a reasonable level of proficiency and I sing opera and am a passionate pro-Palestinian advocate.... I am a confident person but NONE of these things were what attracted my girlfriend initially... but that's a different story...
So what did? I mean these are all traits you can bit see from the outside, so you gotta get to know someone first a little deeper
@@Luemm3l Communication is the key to everything. Genuine 2 way communication, be a GOOD listener, and don't speak unless you have something really important to say. It is better to remain silent and be thought an idiot than to talk bollocks (as they say in Great Britain) and remove all doubt.... to butcher an expression.
If people have a similar interest perhaps, even if it is from different perspectives, or from different ends of the spectrum that is a key. Be honest about what you want and what you need and what you are looking for. Be honest with yourself and with others. Be open to things be open minded. There are times however when honesty has to be tempered with diplomacy and discretion so bear that in mind.
I've got all 6 traits you mentioned and no luck w the ladies. heck im such a gentleman that even my college professors would compliment me on it. 🙅♂
This is to answer your question you asked at the end of the video. My skillset is vehicle maintenance (mechanic). It's interesting to some women, yet not all. Being a mechanic has its advantages such as working on her car when asks. Giving her advice on automotive things she can handle on her own. Maybe some conversation about automotive stuff if she likes car shows & such. Yet the disadvantages can be, my weathered and beat up hands (it comes with the job). My normal off duty attire reflects that I am a mechanic. You know, the shirts and hats with automotive murals on them along with a pair of blue jeans and work type shoes. It's all clean and crisp though. I do clean up well and keep my beard and mustache groomed nice. I'm just not one to wear all those latest men's fashion trends. I stick with the timeless stuff. By the way, I like your channel. Thanks for a good video.
1:56 “I don’t know any super attractive man who eats McDonalds every day”
May I introduce you to Warren Buffett, Courtney? 🤪
Jk, I totally agree with you. I take pride in having McDonalds a total number of 3 times my whole life!
And who told you that Warren Buffet was an attractive man? :O
Courtney
You are the best wingman for us guys! Love all your content!
Crazy part is there are alot of great men with many if not all of these traits, and they are just overlooked and blatantly ignored by the women. I think honestly we should be asking women instead as to why exactly this is
Men described like this tend to be “boring”
Courtney: I have a PhD, no debt, make 90K, have a pension and benefits, car paid off, I am fit and active, I dress well, have good hygiene (nice beard), I can cook, bake, play multiple instruments, speak multiple languages, lived and worked in several countries, study emotional intelligence, and keep a clean well decorated house. I also do swing dance and lindy hop classes twice a week, and I'm an organizer for 3 different meetup groups. I go kayaking, running and hiking. I achieved all my goals except buying a house which will take a year or so to save the down payment. I can only find women who want a FWB with me. I always used to just focus on myself, but I've hit a wall. I don't know ho much more I can build. I'm the guy parents want their daughters to marry. I keep up my confident exterior and I'm happy with myself, but I don't know what else I can do.
Serious question for you, I’m genuinely intrigued by your experience. Are you too nice? See I ask because I was once too nice. I’m older and have been married and divorced, top of my career, educated and in great physical shape. I married in my early twenties and divorced in my forties. Entering back into the dating scene was an eye opener. I had lots of dates that went nowhere. Being tall, athletic, decent looking and successful went far attracting women but none stuck around. I wound up sleeping with a coworker after a party and while I had always been attracted to her never pursued anything because we worked for the same company. I was a bit smitten with her and asked her out. She immediately replied, oh hell no. Dejected I asked why? She was brutally honest, I was the nice guy that all the ladies liked but a complete pushover and it showed. She told me it was a topic of conversation with some of the other company women. I was embarrassed and felt humiliated. She said I was an attractive guy but had no backbone and easily manipulated by women. Looking back their assessment was on point. I went out of my way for women and most of the time got nothing in return. A simp. I had no idea how to change. The next woman I asked out tried jerking me around on a second date and I calmly and respectfully told her I was no longer interested. It felt good to stand up for myself. That same woman chased me for two weeks looking for a second date but I refused. She disrespected me and if I accepted her treatment it wouldn’t get better with time. I had to work on having a spine around women for a few years but it’s paid off because you can be too nice. Just a suggestion.
You seem to have everything, I really don't know, maybe change where you're looking for women? Your Social circles may be a good place to find a woman.
@@scottp2462 Yes, I am told I'm too nice but that's been something I've been working on for years.
@@Razor-gx2dq I the admin for three different meetup groups and go to multiple social dance groups. I even went to a 3 day swing dance retreat last weekend. I'm doing the things I enjoy so I think I'm in the right social circles. I've already changed what I look for in women. My standards have dramatically lowered over the years. All I want is an average woman.
@@Razor-gx2dq My ex girlfriends mom once told her she was lucky to be with me because I "had it all". She met a tall guy with a sailboat on tinder and left me.
Hey Girl. You are going places. You seem intelligent, feminine and well spoken. Keep it up!
This is the silliest title ive ever seen yet courtney
If a woman is not attracted to you, none of these things matter. You’re a nice guy…
Haha Bingo thank you.
You become one of the average "nice guys", that they only start considering for dating once they hit their late 35s-40s typically as single mothers vocally and loudly professing that they are now very desperate and willing to ""lower their insane ridiculous previous body standards that they used to bully and overlook you for" and "settle" for a nice caring loser average guy like us lol
But even then if you are lucky to get used by these women, they spend all day dreaming about their former previous massively endowed ex-boyfriends all day until they end up inevtiably cheating on you anyway and destroying the family unit.
Being even tempered.
Me: nervous sweating.
Even though I tend to be a lot better out in public, when I'm at home I can get wound up and angry at some of the stupidest things, like sporting results going badly, or raging at a video game. This sort of thing sometimes ends up in me throwing anger and hate onto someone who doesn't deserve it, and it negatively affects my outlook on the world which can really hurt my attitude. I really do want to be more positive and optimistic, but due to the amount of crap I have been through, I find it a lot harder to be like that compared to other people. I just know that in the back of my mind, if a woman wants to be with me then they're going to have to have a good level of understanding and mental strength to deal with how I can get sometimes because I have been struggling to find ways of dealing with my temper my whole life.
Courtney i started watching your videos. Enjoy all of them. You seem wise beyond your years. I thought you were older than you are only because of your knowledge on most subjects
The sponsor for this video was actually pretty cool 💪
I have all of these traits but it means nothing. Women will choose the hot guy even if he has non of these traits or only a few.
Depends on what she is looking for. It is the same for men. If all they are looking for is physical attraction then yes the more attractive/hot person will be their choice. The traits she talks about are more about presenting yourself in the best way overall. Women do pick up on it.
@@Ziip47 every woman and every man needs physical attraction to start with. Don't get me wrong...I'm not ugly, most women check me out when I walk outside. I have good posture, good manners, dress well, smell good, impeccable skin etc. I have a friend that is handsome like myself, same height too but he has skin issues and has a few traits...not ambitious at all. He is jacked however and has a stunning girlfriend but cheats on her with lots of women. I just think the traits mentioned is a question of "are you an adult or still a kid".
I love your honesty and how u bring the content
Men I have a question for you. Do you prefer a women that
1. Have integrity/honest
2. Take care of themselves: both physical and mental well-being
3. Dress right and grooming there hair, face, etc
4. Even tempered; keeps cool in hot situations
5. Manners; says thank you and such
6. Passion, driven, has skills to offer
Yep, where are they ???/ Haven't seen any in the last 20 years.
God forbid you use common sense and rational thinking, man!
@@Martin-jk2ng rare trait these days
@@greg33770 check on the general personality of the people you have chosen to date. THERE is your answer.
@@josesantana770 at my age, i don't really have many options...whats left in the dating world at ppl in their 60's ?????
This is great advice for what you prefer in a good honest world, the world I use to know 20+ years ago.....
And I completely understand as I try to be my best, probably the best dam 66 year old you'd ever know....
however the ones I've been meeting lately, act like they are the prize, they are little princess's with an attitude, don't care so much about these things, as they are more attractive to more about the buy me, bring me, take me, and the latest exciting thing you can do for them, your a circus act, and/or an entertainment director....
Just be a good man, been teaching that as much as possible
Then how come they marry an unemployed biker dude with sleeves of jailhouse tatts, a drug and alcohol problem, STDs, prior arrests and restraining orders, 2 ex-wives, 3 baby momma's, 4 kids and the child support court dramas that come with them....and 3 evictions.
Purpose promotes passion
Too many men are too lazy to chase what fuels their desire and sets their soul ablaze
Women have insanely keen intuition, they are designed this way, you do not have to tell them what you do or what you're passionate about for them to pick up if you're a guy with purpose and lust for life.
Have goals and actively work towards them and the women will certainly take notice.
This is such a refreshing take to hear right now. Especially since there seems to be a theme of bitter men dominating the conversation about what women find attractive. Guys listen to this shit. It takes time, self awareness and growth to really become/practice these things, but I am here to tell you it is soooo worth it. It will not only change how women see you but also they type of women that find you attractive. Also you might find you look at yourself in a who new way.
with respect, ask yourself, why do you think there are negative comments here? Because men are speaking directly from their own experiences in the real world, probably most are older or well older and more experienced than you. me being one of them.
Some topics you addressed to are more like a "hive mind" most likely known as culture and in every State and/or Country has its own "behavior". I personally see countries/states or even some areas as people (the wealthy one, fitness one, chill one, etc.) so I can prepare myself and set my mind to act (not lying of course, if someone asks I tell the truth, it's always better bc at some point they'll catch the lie and look soooo bad at the end) accordingly to that so I can feel secure, confident in any way and I have or don't have a comfort zone bc all places are my comfort zones depends on how you see it haha. 🤷🏻♂️
When I left the military I've learned this the hard way on numerous occasions that integrity has no place in the civilian world.
I've come from being in relationships with men who were homeless without a job car ID DL HS diploma and jail. Through all that I'm a lot more open minded, understanding, humble at the same time I am a lot more mature and have limits now. I want someone on the same page as me but if a man happens to be making less money as me or does not have everything I have it would be nice to date a man that at least is able to still handle his business take care of himself as if I weren't in his life, like he does not heavily rely on me for everything no matter how much love involved thatis so draining on one person to bare everything. If your grown you gone find a way to survive. A man lived his whole life making it before he met you so he should be able to do the same while with you. 💗
Watching this video I learned why some middle age women dealing with me for a few minutes in a while clearly melt for me. Because of my manners.
If only I had this same outcome with girls of my age.
Speaking as an old school boomer, my parents instilled in my older brother and me strong values, e.g., integrity, good manners, being considerate of others, honesty. Everything you listed makes total sense. These values should apply to all generations. There’s a Yiddish word that captures all of the qualities you listed: mensch (applies to all genders). Be a mensch and you’ll do fine. Alternatively, don’t act like a jerk or an a-hole.
Anyone born in the 80s-90s also got heavily sold this narrative of women are princesses and that you should be a gentlemen who is kind, caring, loving, empathetic blah blah blah blah.
Look how that worked out for the men of our generation, who the modern women prefer serial womanizing aggressive dominant over 6ft, massively endowed "alpha chad" douchebags, who treat women like crap but get away with it because they are mr super hunk in the bedroom.
Whilst the nice, caring guys who got fed this narrative, get bullied, body shamed and publically humiliated by these women to all their friends for parts of your body you can't even help the size of.
That's how far your good manners gets you with modern women.
Times changed manh
I think 2 - 5 are valid only if u are a good looking guy in general. There are plenty of men who have these traits but women are not interested in them.
At 37 i've realized its gotten me nowhere being kind and modest and timid- especially being 6'4. Walking around with confidence and not taking BS really commands a room. If someone is pushy or buzzing around me like a fly, i'll let off a powerful pushing energy that makes them scour and go to the corner of the room- hard to explain. But I know it's attractive lol.
Being a photographer and cinematographer has worked out for me. Lucky enough to be able to pursue my craft and have some interesting stories along the way. Regardless of what you’re passion is, it is important for men to have a purpose.
Photographer ?! Could you rate my Instagram pics please ?
How do you got into that line of work ?
@@David-vt9hr I went to film school but there are many different paths. Anyone can buy a camera and learn
And MOST IMPORTANTLY - he accepts her just as she is… while tirelessly working on his fitness, career, and personality. Gentlemen… anything wrong with this picture?
6:28 What a bold statement to make, your basically justifying women behavior so that all men should be gentlemen regardless of the women behavior towards them. Zero accountability from a women is a turn off for any man, women should be held accountable for their rude behavior towards men when men are trying to be gentlemen. Women should be put to their place when she is being rude, such action should not be tolerated by men just for the sake of “it’s always a win when your a gentlemen regardless of what women attitude towards you”, hold women accountable will you, or is it against your incentive to do so?
You certainly exposed your bias and thoroughly misinterpreted what Courtney conveyed in that passage. Basically, she is NOT excusing bad behavior of women; Courtney is simply saying two wrongs do not make a right. So when confronting a woman who would act badly with drama perhaps, the last thing a gentleman should do is elevate the drama with more anger, screaming, or belligerence; staying on point yet calm without yielding to bad behavior is far better while rewarding the behavior if the other changes by calming down and participates reasonably in negotiating or solving a problem. As for the women who are horrible and permanent pieces of work, never to get better, stop talking and reward them with your disappearance from their lives. Regardless, Courtney was never implying to kowtow nor humor bad behavior of women let alone men.
She isn't saying that. She's saying that you should do it for yourself. The right women who are well mannered will notice. The women who aren't well mannered won't notice. That's the key. So you attract the women with good manners and the ones without won't care and you should be happy.
I get your point mr. cation.....the women I've been meeting lately act like they are so entitled, like they are the prize, regardless of their shit poor personality.
@@johnkeller5163 I understand what your saying and I get your point. But she could've explain that on the moment giving that fact the she have a long history of thoroughly taking into every view point in an accommodating way in every topic that she discuss or make a video about. And quite frankly this her way of communicating from what I observed watching her videos. However, in this video and regarding this matter she couldn't give two fucks about further explaining the point, which entails that she's avoiding to make women accountable and in contrast, she makes the men take full responsibility; which boils down to the innate problem of entitlement that are embedded in females. Listen man, I like her and her videos but I call bulshit when I see it, and at the end of the day I hope I am wrong and I hope women do take accountability for their actions.
@@shaybs Brother Mohammad, It's a matter of respect. I am not chasing girls for a quick hookup while being a gentlemen to them. The only reason I am being a gentlemen is because I respect people when I interact with them regardless of their gender. If I am being a gentlemen to a girl, this does not mean I want to get in her pants; which is always the case with women if your a man and acted nice to them, they think your hitting on them because they have this inferiority/intention seeking complex. What is really happening is that It's so happens that your a girl and I am being a gentlemen, no more and much less. In conclusion, the only reason I am being a gentlemen is that I respect people. However, I will not tolerate other people being rude in return regardless of their gender.
Thanks Courtney for the video !
Thank you for your videos Courtney. This was somewhat helpful. E-Hugs.
It is funny how some of these are so culture-dependable. Here in the modern Scandinavia where the women are independant human being, you would pretty sure get a slap in the face, if you tried to hold the door, took out the chair or held the jacket for a girl. At least she would very hardly let you know that YOU are not her dad, and she can do things herself. :D
Wow! You are beautiful but have great advice. I appreciate the honest truth and advice. It’s much appreciated. This channel seems legit and I appreciate the true advice. Thank you 🙏
I'm not blessed in very many areas, but I AM blessed with a high metabolism. I stay thin and trim no matter what I eat or how many cokes I pour into my body lol
The ultimate blessing lol I want that one 😅
@@aaronkk2316 Although, I will say, at 43 the cokes are STARTING to have a slight effect lol.
I'd take the passion thing with a grain of salt, or put it in the "hobby" section not the job section. A woman might like passion and potential, but when a baby comes along that baby needs the best life that can be provided. For most guys, that will mean working at jobs that suck the life out of you. Even if you can build a solid business, there will be many times when practicality means compromise over passion. Be passionate about your hobbies and dreams for when your kids can take care of themselves but be practical when it comes to the bank account and food on the table.
I always dress well and dress to impress and would mostly wear a suit and waistcoat for myself and women.
Take care of yourself and dress well guys.
Nice video & work. Thank you.
I keep faith to our Creator God to be attractive. No one needs to attract the world, only a few who will deeply appreciate you (including a soulmate).
6 things attractive guys always do:
1. Being good looking (face, physique, hair)
2. Being tall
3. Being extroverted yet unfathomable, confident verging on cocky, never vulnerable
4. Being well endowed and good in bed
5. Having high socioeconomical status
6. Having a large social circle and possibly exciting hobbies
That's why they're attractive to women after all. That, and only that, is what makes for an attractive man today. Anything else is a nice bonus but doesn't really matter as long as a man doesn't meet at least 4, better 5, of the above criteria.
How true. All that is required of men, and yet a woman need only have a vagina and we better be damn grateful for that right?
Thank you, at least someone talking truth around here.
Modern women will destroy and publically humiliate, body shame you to mental illness if you aren't massively endowed etc.
It's sick, but Courtneys advice is so helpful lol
Best youtuber out there!
🥺 you’re so kind, thank you!
Keep up the good work Courtney! Great video as always
Most of the "passion" and "purpose" are those which get you money (;
Re water: I’ve pretty much been drinking a gallon + of water everyday for around 20 years. I’m not saying it’s the reason I always get mistaken for 30 when I’m 40…. I’m sure it doesn’t hurt.
I will be 50 in a few weeks. I easily look no older than 35. And, I eat mostly like shit. It comes down to genes sometimes
@@Dman425 damn lucky you!
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Let’s go Brandon!
Still the best part in all of your videos is the way you pronounce your name😍
No matter how much personal grooming we do, all of us have liabilitys we are trying to hide and/or work around.
What made you attracted you your future husband? How did you meet? What sets him apart in your eyes from other men? Could you do a video based on your experiences with love and how you found your dream man? It could be very motivational for some of us
It’s not about finding him… it’s about attracting him. Have the qualities that attract the men you want.
Her husband is rich af so go get some money then you'll get an attractive girl 👍
@@alexthebest5661 amen
The most common New Year’s resolution is “I want to lose weight”. I wish American society was as accepting, or more accepting, of men saying, “I’m going to start talking to a therapist”. I wish taking care of one’s mental health was as acceptable as taking care of one’s physical health.