@@latoyasykes1 Yes but I'm reading these comments and it's like all you women are saying it's someone else's personal problem why they dont want to be around you and none of you are saying I'm the problem. None of you is saying that you're the problem and sense nobody is perfect that just means alot of you women are in denial that you're the problem and the reason ppl avoid you..
Proverbs 20:19 - “He who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets, therefore do not associate with a gossip.” Ephesians 4:31: “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice (malicious gossip).” Proverbs 10:18 says, “Whoever conceals hatred with lying lips and spreads slander is a fool.” Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. [30] And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.
I don't hang out with women who gossip and never compare myself with anyone. I love your videos Woman of Elegance ❤ I believe some people dislike others because they are jealous of that person. They have something going on with them and they are taking it out on others.
There are 4 groups of people: 1) people who like you for the right reasons, 2) people who like you for the wrong reasons, 3) people who dislike you for the wrong reasons, and, 4) people who dislike you for the right reasons. It's only the last group of people that I need to concern myself with. So says my Nana.
I got rid of two neighbors. Jealous, smarty mouthed. They claim they don't know why ? Really ? They KNOW 🤪. They thought I was too dumb to notice I guess. I gave those two old hens the boot 👏👏
I was told that years ago.. eeek.. I still talk.. not as much.. I am learning to sit comfortably w silence. Without the need to clutter up the moment w words that are not essential.
I had 2 bosses at my old job who hated me as I wasn't I to drinking and partying like they were. They had the whole department get involved in their drinking and nights out. They turned everyone against me because of it, it made life so difficult. As I got to know people, they were confused as they were told I was an awful person that couldn't be trusted, yet I worked hard, kept my head down and was professional. One team member worked with me previously, she told me straight out that everyone hated me, even people who hadn't actually met me declared they hated me because of them. When everyone saw I wasn't the monster I was portrayed as, it created a huge shifting of mindset and trust within the department. I think my old bosses were threatened as I didn't hero worship them like everyone else did, to me they were just my bosses. Their huge ego's didn't appreciate it. When their bosses figured out what they were doing to me, my life got so much easier, I had fewer general duties and some of those duties were actually given to my bosses and their girlfriends.
What if you don’t gossip and you don’t possess none of the toxic traits you mentioned. We can’t control how people feel about us. Sometimes people just don’t like you because they don’t like themselves
Though most of the points in this video are true however, it is not the case for most people. For instance: I’m an introvert has the same daily routine all my life yet, people go out their way to bully and hate on me for no reason. Unfortunately we humans are becoming more and more evil. Sadly that’s the world we live in.
People ALWAYS have reasons for what they do. Just because we don't know the reasons, or know but don't approve of the reasons, doesn't mean the reasons don't exist. And if they don't tell us what their reasons are, then we're just making it up when we say what their reasons are or aren't. That's not mature or classy.
Plus, regarding jealousy think what if she was not your sister or your friend. There are lots of people in the world more accomplished than you, as well as less accomplished. Its no reason to feel bad. It is what it is. You are on your own journey. Besides, being in the circle of such an exciting person will bring opportunities you would not otherwise have had if you seize them. ❤
8 very good point's. I work in the female dominated field of nursing. I'm a man and realize I'm not for everyone. These videos are very good for everybody not just women. You remind me of my wife you are both very high quality women.
All of the points made were excellent! For anyone who wants to be the best version of themselves/ live authentically, looking inwards and asking yourselves the correct questions is important. Growing up many a times we learn these negative traits or have picked them up along the way to be liked/defend yourself/protect yourself emotionally so looking inwards and healing yourself is crucial.
😂❤😊 these 8 rules were truly necessary , might sound a bit harsh at times, but made me laugh😅 sometimes your unaware of tactlessness or crassness bad habits develope over time and it takes at least 30 days to make a conscious effort to change. It takes love to encourage someone to be better for their own good or benefit. Thanks once again for these helpful and direct comments and advice. 💃👏👏👍 thanks for these videos its an eye opener 😊
Been there, I learnt the hard way that being nice is a kind version of being a people pleaser. I've learnt to limit my expectations as well as being kind instead, there's a difference between nice and kind, nice is passive while kind gives room for boundaries if you get what I mean.
I felt that my ex boyfriend always made me jealous. He would low key flirt with other women and would seek their attention. I felt crazy for feeling this way and I couldn’t handle it.
It's not necessary to put effort into achieving being liked. No human can control how another thinks of and behaves toward them. After all humans will dislike another for no reason whatever. Simply be you however likes you good, however doesn't it doesn't matter. At the end of the day Nobody really cares!
Good morning Vivian. I always enjoy your content. I believe what. people think of you is none of your business. God did not design us to be people pleasers. We are designed for God. Basically Please all, please none. You will never please everyone and it is draining to do so. The best way to live is to Treat people how you want to be treated. Dislike people for what they have done to you personally. Ask God to help you forgive them, but stay away from them bad company corrupts good morals. If you go after someone, prepare for war that you started. As a descendant of Maryland we were taught to live free, not be controlled by others like computers. Harriet Tubman’s spirit of freedom will always live amongst our descendants.
Great video! Ladies really need to watch the aimless women-shaming. May I say, your audio has a big echo and your video background with plants and other items is quite distracting. You content is so delightful, and really deserves the best audio/video setup. Have you thought about hiring a professional videographer? Audio/video is really a complicated endeavor, and extremely difficult for a lay person to master. In one appointment, they could recommend the equipment needed and set up a background for you. Wishing you continued success!
Sometimes people don't like you because of themselves and not the actual person.
@@latoyasykes1 that was powerful due it being truer than people realize. The accountability of our own feelings needs to in practice often.
@@HH-dp2vt I concur.
or you're just not pleasant to be around
@devonjenkins6829 people who are not pleasant to be around are the very people who start and surround themselves in drama .
@@latoyasykes1 Yes but I'm reading these comments and it's like all you women are saying it's someone else's personal problem why they dont want to be around you and none of you are saying I'm the problem. None of you is saying that you're the problem and sense nobody is perfect that just means alot of you women are in denial that you're the problem and the reason ppl avoid you..
Sometimes people don’t like you because of the light God put in you 💯
Or, because you force your beliefs on everyone else who all have their own.
What you said.
@@LoralLeeEither you believe or you don’t however you will find out.
REAL!!!
Agreed 💯
I distance myself from people who gossip. If a person gossips about another, that person will gossip about me.
Same here! I’m glad to see more women who feel this way
Nothing but the truth
Yes, same here! It's also says it in the Bible, I'm not sure what verse but God doesn't like gossip. It's of a evil spirit.
Yes, same here! It's also says it in the Bible, I'm not sure what verse but God doesn't like gossip. It's of a evil spirit.
Proverbs 20:19 - “He who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets, therefore do not associate with a gossip.”
Ephesians 4:31: “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice (malicious gossip).”
Proverbs 10:18 says, “Whoever conceals hatred with lying lips and spreads slander is a fool.”
Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. [30] And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.
You look elegant and beautiful, Vivían!
I don't hang out with women who gossip and never compare myself with anyone. I love your videos Woman of Elegance ❤ I believe some people dislike others because they are jealous of that person. They have something going on with them and they are taking it out on others.
There are 4 groups of people: 1) people who like you for the right reasons, 2) people who like you for the wrong reasons, 3) people who dislike you for the wrong reasons, and, 4) people who dislike you for the right reasons. It's only the last group of people that I need to concern myself with. So says my Nana.
Very well put
Your nana👍🏽🥰
Don't compare one self to others . God is in me and I am enough.🎉 Thanks for sharing these points Ms. Vivian ❤
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Excellent points. I've cut off relationships with such negative jealous secretly sabotaging people.
Amen Absolutely 💯
I got rid of two neighbors. Jealous, smarty mouthed. They claim they don't know why ? Really ? They KNOW 🤪. They thought I was too dumb to notice I guess. I gave those two old hens the boot 👏👏
You look stunning with long hair.
"You talk too much" Ouch that hurts but I'm changing 😊 Thank you Ms Vivian
I was told that years ago.. eeek.. I still talk.. not as much.. I am learning to sit comfortably w silence. Without the need to clutter up the moment w words that are not essential.
@@melindaferreira9879 Me too.
I had 2 bosses at my old job who hated me as I wasn't I to drinking and partying like they were. They had the whole department get involved in their drinking and nights out. They turned everyone against me because of it, it made life so difficult.
As I got to know people, they were confused as they were told I was an awful person that couldn't be trusted, yet I worked hard, kept my head down and was professional. One team member worked with me previously, she told me straight out that everyone hated me, even people who hadn't actually met me declared they hated me because of them.
When everyone saw I wasn't the monster I was portrayed as, it created a huge shifting of mindset and trust within the department. I think my old bosses were threatened as I didn't hero worship them like everyone else did, to me they were just my bosses. Their huge ego's didn't appreciate it.
When their bosses figured out what they were doing to me, my life got so much easier, I had fewer general duties and some of those duties were actually given to my bosses and their girlfriends.
What if you don’t gossip and you don’t possess none of the toxic traits you mentioned. We can’t control how people feel about us. Sometimes people just don’t like you because they don’t like themselves
💯right ✅️ 👌 as an introvert i hate it when someone talks a lot 😒 especially when the story isn't sensible or productive 😑
Though most of the points in this video are true however, it is not the case for most people. For instance: I’m an introvert has the same daily routine all my life yet, people go out their way to bully and hate on me for no reason. Unfortunately we humans are becoming more and more evil. Sadly that’s the world we live in.
People ALWAYS have reasons for what they do. Just because we don't know the reasons, or know but don't approve of the reasons, doesn't mean the reasons don't exist. And if they don't tell us what their reasons are, then we're just making it up when we say what their reasons are or aren't. That's not mature or classy.
Plus, regarding jealousy think what if she was not your sister or your friend. There are lots of people in the world more accomplished than you, as well as less accomplished. Its no reason to feel bad. It is what it is. You are on your own journey. Besides, being in the circle of such an exciting person will bring opportunities you would not otherwise have had if you seize them. ❤
8 very good point's. I work in the female dominated field of nursing. I'm a man and realize I'm not for everyone. These videos are very good for everybody not just women. You remind me of my wife you are both very high quality women.
All of the points made were excellent! For anyone who wants to be the best version of themselves/ live authentically, looking inwards and asking yourselves the correct questions is important. Growing up many a times we learn these negative traits or have picked them up along the way to be liked/defend yourself/protect yourself emotionally so looking inwards and healing yourself is crucial.
All 8 reasons are indeed so true to real life! Especially, negativity and complaints. Thank you again for a great reminder!
Everyone needs to know this.
Thank you for always sharing👌
Being grateful makes your life a lot easier. Thank you for this great content
All of us should watch this and heed the advice.
Can you please make a video about how to protect yourself during conflict, if you are well mannered person.
I'd love to see that!
Gorgeousness ❤❤❤. Wow, that's incredibly beautiful, flexible indeed.
I like this. It makes me realise I have come a long way since my twenties. :)
Wonderful advice from an elegant woman! God bless you Viv❤
😂❤😊 these 8 rules were truly necessary , might sound a bit harsh at times, but made me laugh😅 sometimes your unaware of tactlessness or crassness bad habits develope over time and it takes at least 30 days to make a conscious effort to change. It takes love to encourage someone to be better for their own good or benefit. Thanks once again for these helpful and direct comments and advice. 💃👏👏👍 thanks for these videos its an eye opener
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This was really great video and 100% accurate. Thank you ❤
Yes! We are bless.
I'm the one who tries the hardest to be nice and be the most liked person. But ironically it had the opposite affect
Been there, I learnt the hard way that being nice is a kind version of being a people pleaser. I've learnt to limit my expectations as well as being kind instead, there's a difference between nice and kind, nice is passive while kind gives room for boundaries if you get what I mean.
Omg ms. vivian i love your great points and all hit with a young lady that i hangout with i just cant take 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️she's ALWAYS COMPLAINING
Do a new video on setting personal boundaries please❤️
Excellent points,thank you vivian.
Love the new background!
Excellent video! Thank you!
Good to know. Thank you👏❤️
I think this is all really good advice, and it would be good for me to focus on the tips about jealousy and being happy for others in my own life.
I felt that my ex boyfriend always made me jealous. He would low key flirt with other women and would seek their attention. I felt crazy for feeling this way and I couldn’t handle it.
Have changed My live . God 🙏 bless u
It's not necessary to put effort into achieving being liked. No human can control how another thinks of and behaves toward them. After all humans will dislike another for no reason whatever. Simply be you however likes you good, however doesn't it doesn't matter. At the end of the day Nobody really cares!
This is so helpful... love you Vivian and looking fabulous 💞
Me personally have tried to please people nothing change so yeah people they always have something to say 😢 it doesn't mean we have to be rude to them
Lots of excellent advice in this video 🙂
Let's change the narrative, Ladies ❤
God, this is me. Kindly have mercy on me. Help me change
Thanks 🎉🎉🎉alot informative message
I realize that people dislike me for no reason ...😢
Some people don't like u because of one's achievements.
Some people still hate even when they have more than you.
because sometimes you women aren't perfect or always likeable
perfect for shadow work
Thank you❤
my queen!
Thanks ma😊
I need to change
You looking beautiful and i love your dress.❤
Blue really suits you
Awesome
Good morning Vivian. I always enjoy your content. I believe what. people think of you is none of your business. God did not design us to be people pleasers. We are designed for God. Basically Please all, please none. You will never please everyone and it is draining to do so. The best way to live is to Treat people how you want to be treated. Dislike people for what they have done to you personally. Ask God to help you forgive them, but stay away from them bad company corrupts good morals. If you go after someone, prepare for war that you started. As a descendant of Maryland we were taught to live free, not be controlled by others like computers. Harriet Tubman’s spirit of freedom will always live amongst our descendants.
Sorry but I'm not designed for your god, nor do I need him to help me with anything. Goddess bless.
GIRL WHERE YOU BEEN😅
I love your blue blouse.
Thank you! It's from Karen Millen
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I’m. A chosen one ❤
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Great video! Ladies really need to watch the aimless women-shaming. May I say, your audio has a big echo and your video background with plants and other items is quite distracting. You content is so delightful, and really deserves the best audio/video setup. Have you thought about hiring a professional videographer? Audio/video is really a complicated endeavor, and extremely difficult for a lay person to master. In one appointment, they could recommend the equipment needed and set up a background for you. Wishing you continued success!
What part of her presentation are you criticizing?
You look pretty
Hello my dear 🌹
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