Q&A TRANSITIONING TO A SINGLE MOM OF 2!
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- Опубліковано 30 лип 2024
- Today's video is all about becoming a single mom of 2. I answer your questions and share the ups and downs of divorce and taking care of two young kids on my own. I just want to also say thank you for all the support you guys have given me over the years; especially the last year. I truly has helped with this new transition and life changing event. Thank you Millersquad!
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When Madison mentioned the word betrayal, wow did that hit home for me. I was with my spouse for 23 yrs and 2 kiddos. In hindsight I don’t know how I missed those red flags/signs. Our marriage wasn’t perfect, he wasn’t very attentive to the kids and that was always what we argued about.. if we ever did at all. Over the yrs I just got used to holding down a job and coming home to take care of the rest. Like Madison said, you figure out how to balance your time. The hubby kissed me at the front door one morning, said he loved me and even asked what we were having for dinner that night, the last part was odd bc he never asked about menu plans. LoL Later that day a woman came into my workplace while I was training a new employee, I asked if I could help her, she replied “no.” She stood around for awhile and then began crying. I stopped everything and went to her aid, she was so distraught that I couldn’t understand her and I hugged her until she calmed down. She handed me a large brown envelope and told me that she could tell I was a nice person and that she was so sorry, it was divorce papers. I laughed at first and said “oh honey, this must be a mistake.” She was new at her job, just wanted to make extra cash for Xmas. The lawyer told her ahead of time that I’d be in the dark (what a snake, both hubby and lawyer) and while observing me at work she told me I was so kind and patient with my trainee and again told me I was a nice person and I didn’t deserve what was happening to me. To this very day I find that encounter to be sort of odd but I appreciate that she had a conscience. To make this long story shorter, let me move forward.. he too (my ex) traveled for work a lot. We didn’t see him much which is why I wanted him to pay attention to the kids instead of running off to play golf every time he returned. Our youngest was 15 and he could have taken him with but he never wanted to. Well if you haven’t guessed by now, he had a mistress and not someone he met during his travels but she lived in our town! Oh how naïve I was, I never thought in a million yrs that he had it in him to be a cheater. Here was the confusing kicker for me, he filed for sole custody of our son! The judge denied him and said he had 3 wks to move out of our home bc she thought he was playing games, you can’t have your cake and eat it too she said. I reported to my lawyer that I made him sleep on the couch bc he was under the impression that we were still going to have sex.. haha, um no! He moved in with his mistress who kicked him out 6 mos later bc she didn’t like him having visitation with our son, he sure picked a winner. I never met the woman and I’m glad. How did I find this out? Bc he called me apologizing and asked to come home! So what Madison said rings true, had he asked me a month earlier I would have told him to pack his bags and I’d meet him at the front door.. but I had crossed a line, something just clicked within me and I knew I was stronger than I thought and I didn’t need him anymore, I knew I could make it on my own.. when previously I was sooo hurt that I just wanted to crawl into a ball and never wake up. The finale’ to this story is still funny to me. I excepted the ex’s apology over the phone, told him to have a good life and I had no desire to be with him anymore so my answer was NO to coming back home, he didn’t have one with me anymore. In all the years, not once had he ever sworn at me but his sweet apology was taken back (like a child) and he called me every name in the book. Teehee.. my last words to him were, “I’m sure you’ll find another sucker to take you in.. until you expect her to take care of ALL your needs bc in this day and age (we marriage in 83) women are not taught to cater to men the way I was, they aren’t old fashioned and backward like that anymore.. I’m finally free of you and you’ll never find another woman like me again so good luck.” I laughed into the phone before hanging up and that was the end of it. I never saw him again, not even in passing. Divorce is sad even in the best of circumstances, if you are going through one right now (male or female) I promise you it’s not the end of the world and you’ll be okay, you will soon discover that you are much stronger than you think. 👍🏼😊
wow. One thing that man had was audacity!
How was your son?
😊thanks
Thank you for this!
I’m so grateful for your comment. I read the whole thing. I’m going through a divorce right now. I’m 100 confident in my decision to leave and hopeful that everything will be alright. But I must admit it’s a headache knowing that there’s no exact end date I can anticipate. It’s been days shy of 6 months since I left. A month ago just before we were set to finalize uncontested he hired an attorney and filed an answer. I’m told it has to be at least a year for them to push it to trial. And he’s showing he’s the type that just wants to fight and win since he’s upset that I had the hall to leave after years of abuse. So we’re wasting resources that could go to establishing a bright future for our two toddlers and he couldn’t care less. He said “if you want a divorce you should be willing to pay no matter the cost.” and he’s proven he meant every word of that. Nonetheless, thank you for your encouraging words; it’s a reminder that though there’s no resolve yet one is coming and all will be well.
You are showing your girls, that you don’t stay with a man who doesn’t respect you. That is a valuable lesson. Keep up the great work Mama!
Hello
It's one thing if a man or a woman can't get along, but they still have equal responsibility in raising the kids .... And nobody gets child support.
But I don't understand why a woman would lower her standards and disrespect the goddess that she is by laying with a boy who doesn't have a good soul.
A man will still participate in his children's lives regardless of the relationship with the mother.
I get that. If the marriage isn’t strong before the pregnancy, it’ll definitely break. These guys switch up when we need them the most.
You are so strong Maddison! It’s inspiring to hear how you moved past that and not settling for less than you deserve! 💕
Madison, you continue to amaze me with your strength. I wish I could give you a big hug!!! Those girls will always know their momma cared and did her absolute best. You’re doing an amazing job! Give yourself grace during this transitional period. God has plans for you. And I can’t wait to see where you are in life 5 years from now. Sending love ❤️💕
I love this video. Pls do more of these videos. Being a single mom is a struggle. It’s funny how we have these fairytale ideas of what our family looks like vs what reality is. My family now consists of my two year old daughter, large dog, and myself, not perfect but it’s a blessing.
I had no idea that there was some betrayal in your marriage. All I can say is that I get it.
I just want to tell you how incredibly proud I am of you. You are rocking it! You are the best mom, dog mom, daughter, and sister anybody could ever ask for. You are doing such a great job, and I'm so incredibly proud of you. You can do this!
If you ever want to talk, I'm here!❤❤
Hello there
Omg I love these videos! Yes mama! So I separated from my kids dad about a year ago. I have been looking for Tik Toks or UA-cam videos that talk about the transition from a separation! Glad I came across your video. Especially for us moms who have the kids majority of the time! Struggling to figure out custody agreements and child support is a nightmare. The awkward dates you go to. All the dating apps you download because you just want to know if you still got it! And then you question yourself, “am I even ready to date?” . Dealing with the behavioral change that your kids go through. My son is 10 and I got him a counselor who meets with him once a week. Not only that but when the kids come back from their dads, they act very spoiled. Sometimes dad goes through emotional roller coaster , one day I’m blocked and hated, the next day everything is ok! It’s stressful and I don’t see content on this. Also just staying ok through all of this is hard! 97% I’m not ok! 😅 So yes please make more videos like this, I like them! I’m so happy for you! I want to hear more about your dating stories! I know it’s been hard but you got this mama!
Maddy, my heart aches for you as I have no idea how you do what you do and still stay sane, you are a strong and absolutely stunning girl and I truly admire you. I love watching your videos now more that ever as I just recently went through a break up after trying so hard to make the relationship work and I’m still trying to find my own happiness and you’re truly an inspiration to me❤️
I’m praying for you Madison….I’m also very proud of you 🥺💜💜💜
Wow- a podcast!! Yes- I would love to hear that!! Sending much ❤❤❤❤ from Texas!!! SOOO sorry for what you are goin through but you are mot alone! We can only want the best for our children and nobody can stop us!!❤👌💯
This was such a relatable video as myself became a single mom 2 years ago. I felt the part where you said "you just make it work". Rooting for you, hope it all works out x
Amen Madison I feel like your telling my story. That having to do EVERYTHING in your own!! If I’m doing everything on my own what do I need you for. An YES…YOU JUST DO IT!! YOU HAVE NO CHOICE!!! Praying for you hun.
You described that let go moment perfectly. I knew for years my marriage wasn't right and I wanted out. It wasn't until I hit that wall it was time. As hard as single mom life is it's almost easier. We had 2 daughters and I had 90% of the time time as well as working full time.
Hello there
Going through the same thing Madison both my girls are 1-2 . But now I feel like a weight lifted off my shoulders and happier. We have the strength to push through! Lots of hugs for you and your babies 💕
Hello friend
You are amazing Madison!! Being a single mum is so hard but you will get through it because your an amazing soul and an amazing mum!!
Hello there
I am also going through a divorce. I honestly haven’t felt this good in a long time. Like you said I lost myself for many years, unhappy, broken promises, I felt like I was the only trying, and trying and trying. But it needed to happen and I am happy now. Being in a marriage and feeling alone, is the worst feeling ever. Best wishes in you new journey of life and don’t forget you are not alone! ❤️
Awww man, “I have some storieees….” *jump cuts to next question* Lmao. I was like “Wait!!! What’s the stories???” 🤣🤣🤣
No, for real though, I could tell that you are happier. I know exactly what you mean about it feeling freeing. It’s not that it’s necessarily “toxic” per se, it’s just that you change so much of yourself with that person without even realizing it that when they’re gone you start to see how much you lost yourself along the way. I’ve honestly noticed how happy you seem lately. I definitely don’t think you’ll have a problem meeting anyone when you are ready. And, absolutely YES to a Podcast. It would be cool if you could film it for UA-cam too though (like Laura Lee and Manny MUA’s Podcast, Fool Coverage). 💕💕
No matter what you do, I'll always support you.. you are a strong mommy.. I know it's hard being a single mom but you manage to keep it real & do what's best for the girls...
I just recently became a single mother of 2 girls again sadly enough. And I hate the fact won’t be big family but what’s best for my girls ( small) creation family matters more. A lot of this had me thinking more about contentment and soothed me about being ok doing it alone and within the lord by my side is all I need for the girls and myself to be ok. That’s what makes me happier ❤❤❤❤❤
This is the most real video I have seen from you! I appreciate it. ❤️
I am now a single mom of a 2 year old and a 8 month old. Listening to you speak truly inspired me as this is exactly what I feel the “survival mode” to care and provide for my babies. Even my ex was never reliable with full of fake promises and this is like the darkest time for me. Thankfully, my parents are nearby and helping me to be stronger for my kids but my gosh this is tough. Stay strong to all the single moms doing this all alone 💗
From 8:00 mins on you and I went through the same exact thing. The exact same timeline, I did the same exact thing and asked the same questions and got the same response. I really sympathize with you. *big hugs* from single mom to single mom.
Sending you so much love and positive vibes!💕
You're so strong Madison! Tysm for sharing this. I too am a single mom and we are the same age. It's Def tough, but not impossible! Hearing your thoughts on this is so helpful and I'm so glad that you've shared this part of your life with us. You're such a beautiful soul and your girls are just so precious 💗💗💗💗💗
Hello jean
That sentence “you just do it” is definitely a single mother’s main sentence!
Thank you for sharing your story. It’s encouraging to a newly single mama that’s going through divorce.
You are amazing!!!! Your story gives me strength. You deserve better and will find better!!!
Hey beautiful! As always hope everything is good! You & your family are always in my prayers!🥰
Aww thank you! we are doing good 🥰
I always appreciate your videos, I’ve been watching you since you started in Florida. you’re so real on life and you having that type A personality really helps the type B flow in life lol. Thank you for always being you and sharing your triumphs and opinions because I truly look up to your opinions and advice!! Keep up the true you!
Wow girl you have said it! How do you do it. When you don’t have a choice, you do things you never thought you could handle. You become another more powerful version of yourself which is extremely important when you have girls! Your doing great! Keep up the good work!
I have missed a lot by not being addicted to social media. I have seen this happen to even a person that was my best friend. You will make it hun, you will be an amazing mom regardless. Sending you just love and support.
Hello Sarah
Would love for you to do a podcast. I am so glad you are happy and the girls are so lily so have an amazing strong mom and role model. They will see how much you do for them. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I am not a single mom but I feel like one most days. I work for myself, kid is with me 24/7. I may get one day where my husband keeps her and I take care of everything at the house. Your videos help me know I can do it no matter how hard it is. Wether I totally know your feelings or not. Its hard but we all find our way through it.
Going thru the same. Luckily my mom lives with me now so I’m blessed to have great help. To all my fellow single mom… WEGATTHIS!
Hello my lady
I truly needed this!
What I can see in you is the resilience that many women who come out of something like this have. Even from the get-go it sounds like you had it. I commend you and feel blessed to have found your channel. I'm in the same boat. Married with a 2-year-old but my husband recently left me. We just cowgirl up and get it done. Onward and upward. Onward and upward. :)
Hello
You are doing great! Hugs to you and your girls!
OK a podcast, or even segments centered around sit-down real talk would be fantastic. You could even do a wine review in them or talk about books you're reading, catching up on popular shows you might be watching. It could work - and I think you'd be great at it. Keep hustlin' and taking care of yourself and those two great kids.
Great ideas!!! Thank you Cristina 🥰💕
We’re all so proud of you and how you handled this. Your a great Momma!❤️
Hello friend
Girl felt all of this. This was me back in 2016. Six years removed now and life is nearly everything I could of wanted and then some. Praying for you. You’ve got this
Hello
Best video ever. Thank you!❤️ so well said
Thank you so much for sharing this I’m currently pregnant and have a 1 year old and me and their dad separated he was never home helping and I was so scared of leaving because I didn’t want to have to split time with the kids or take care of a child dog and being pregnant on my own but my parents and friends are helping me so much through it but this was very helpful for me to not be scared
Loved this. So honest and positive god bless you on your journey👏🏼👏🏼
You're so pretty 😘 I was on the channel for the new born stuff and I end up watching this. I wish you the best 🤗
I'm sure this won't be a popular opinion, but the first video I saw of yours was Kinsley's birth video, and i thought he seemed overly critical of you, even in your most vulnerable moments. He had something negative to say about everything. You don't need that kind of crap in your or your kiddos' lives. There are so many better, loyal, loving, and supportive men out there. Not that you need a guy, you are a badass woman! Just subscribed, I really think having real/raw content like this, and sharing your journey and wisdom will only serve to grow your audience and community. Mama's gotta stick together!
Thank you so much for this video, i really needed to listen to this and your experiences. You have given me hope that i will be okay xx
Hello lady
Am so happy to hear that ur doing good n that ur happy. U r an amazing woman n mother. U got this there is no doubt about that!! N since like u said if u were already doing it alone, then u don't need to be with a man. Yes there r those times where u will feel lonely n very stressed out. But remember that u need to take care of urself to be there n take care of ur girls. Well said n u will find love again. U r a beautiful person both inside n out. God Bless u n keep on giving u the strength u need. Love u😘🙏❤❤
you’re literally a BOSSLADY ❤️🔥
Hey Madison. Never seen your channel before but I am in the process of leaving my marriage and becoming a single mom. Thank you so much for this.
Yes would love a podcast!!!
Yes ma’am. I’m at my let go moment. Apartment application has begun. Hoping it’ll get approved this next week here. 🙏 I’m so ready. I’m content. Happy. Ready to find myself again like you said. I’ve been in survival mode for the last few years and I’m TIRED. AS. HELL.
I literally was a single mom then I found my fiancé thank god 💗💗being a single mom is awesome but definitely hard . You got this all my love goes to you . Someone will love you endlessly and that’s your kids most of the time . But your person will also come to you eventually 💗💗but when you know you know
thank you 💕💕 Congrats on your engagement 🥰💕
@@THEMILLERS thank you love ❤️❤️
I know you know my thoughts on you from our little DM's and so I'll leave it there. I think a podcast would be good, just make sure you don't over stretch yourself however. Maybe you and Samantha could revamp her podcast and talk about divorce, kids(I know you doesn't have any), managing work and throw in a little makeup talk. You two have so much in common I could see it being a golden ticket for you both and maybe even bringing in other people on them. #MillerSquad #UnitedWithUkraine Loads of Love!
I remember watching your baby must have videos in the beginning of 2020 bc I was pregnant with baby #1. Now I’m a single mom to 2 yr old and 3 month old and watching your single mama videos. You are a strong mama. We got this 💜
I was in the same boat. You got this! Stay strong and use this time to make yourself a priority. It really helps through this transition. Kins was only 4 months old when he moved out. Always ask for help and take some time for yourself and do something you love 💕
@@THEMILLERS thank you 💜. You also give me hope that there are good guys out there for the future. So glad to see you happy!
Hello Madison! You're going to have no problem at all when it comes to meeting someone in the future because you're drop dead gorgeous!!! You're doing amazing momma & you're going to continue to do amazing I just know it! Love ya ~ ❤ :)
I agree she is very pretty….lol
You are beautiful! You are so strong! You are so intelligent!!!… everything is gonna be ok
Wow, you are the meaning of strong! You are inspiring.
I’m so sorry 😢 to hear your going your divorce. It’s a difficult time on this transition. But you see how strong 💪 you are and your going to be amazing 🤩 and your going to become out a lot better. To me divorce is like a death in the family.yes please do a podcast
Glad you're happy. When I went through a divorce, which was not the same as yours, when it was done I was happy. Now that I'm remarried it's a lot better. Now I have a child too.
How did you know you should leave? I'm struggling with this.
@@subekennedy9554 Well I was getting tired of being alone all the time and being controlled. I just finally said I'm done and I wanted a divorce. Then I found new place and moved out. I hope you get the nerve soon.
Yes ma'am, when you learn to live without that person. You begin to see your own strength.
Im so sorry that you have went through hell and back in the last few years with your relationship, over a decade with someone is a long time and to start over is really hard and i can only imagine the way you felt asking if him if he was sure of you filing for divorce. Its so true once your done girl you are done and their is no going back once you get to that point. Ive had a really rough year with my own relationship and we split for a little while after 6 years and it really was hard and put things into perspective of what i wanted and fortunatly he did what was needed to make me feel alot more confident in our relationship but i most defiantly still have so many doubts of if this is the right thing and i guess only time will tell. Your very resilent and never settle for less then what you deserve, your a fantastic mother your girls are very blessed to call you mom.
I had 4 kids when I got divorced, he was never there and when he was, he wasn’t a husband or father . It was hard it was a dark time but I did it . I’m remarried now happy so happy. Even tho I was sad and heart broken if that never happened I wouldn’t have the love of my life now . So to all those women who are struggling it gets better ♥️.
I’m in that situation. I reach my let go emotionally. I’m done with him. But I’m stuck and struggling with the financial part. I can’t afford to pay rent by myself so it’s hard. Not sure what to do.
A podcast would be awesome! 💕
You are a very strong person Madison.....you are an amazing mom to your two daughters... keep your head up high.....you should go four it Madison make a postcast......you are not alone Madison ..I'll keep you and your family in my prayers also.
Thank you Taysha! We appreciate all your support 💕 Definitely want to do the podcast and hope I can get it going later this year 🥰
@@THEMILLERS your welcome Madison...I'll definitely tune in Madison ♥️❤️😊🥰
Sending you love and light 💖
❤️❤️❤️*virtual hugs -always advocate for your happiness no matter what it is!!!!!!
A podcast would be amazing!
Oooohhh I thought you were a Single single mom but you are mom that is now single. Either way it’s hard time but you are a great mom we all know you got this.
I wish you all best God bless you and your girls
Thank you for the insight
Can I ask were u got ur necklace?
I am really afraid cuz I just got divorce from a toxic relationship and I am pregnant and I am so worried cuz I don’t know how I am gonna manage all this it’s my 1st time and I am in my 20s and he didn’t let me complete my degree I am working on that and all but it feels very hard any advice how I should handle the situation and I am not financially stable as well so it really worries me
You’re great mama!
Thank you 🥰💕
Sending lots of love ❤️ I am not a mom, but I am a child of divorce. I was older than your girls when it happened (10) it was very hard on everyone in my family as there also wasn’t any divorce in the family. But after 10 years my mom has remarried and is super happy:) so remember through the hard times the future is going to be so bright. As much as it sucks, somethings are not meant to be but they help you grow as a person ❤️❤️
You are amazing
When she said nanny I knew our situations were not the same
Your blue top or sweater makes your eyes really pop!
Aw thank you!
Just became a single Mom, txx for this video 💔💔he treated me so badly qnd abused me for past 2 years, but I couldn't take it anymore 😭😭😭😭oh God, I have to take care of myself and my baby. Have no family in this country
Soo nice
Sadly, it takes three to create a marriage Nd two to destroy it. I was a single mom, we were not married. I did not have your support system or child support. i was given an ultimatum, him or the child...I left. Dating and relationships, came and went. I would not vring anyone around my child until I knew we had something abd had been together about 4 to 6 months. Be extremely careful who you choose to be in your life and your family's life. Listen to your instincts, always follow your intuition. I was 47, when i finally married for the first time and was a grandmother. Never settle to please others. Best wishes.
Been there with 5 kids married then divorced and it was very hard my x was never around . I don’t know how I ever done it but u can do ur. I’m shocked u r divorced but yes ur right how can u be with a man who’s never there. Ur a beautiful girl and men would be falling at ur feet . But do u and kids. Any man that isn’t there seeing kids grow up is awful. Ur amazing and keep doing u to huni x
I feel like there needs to be a different term for “single mom who gets child support and her kids see their dad like normal” vs “single mom doing everything on her own never has support money or time to herself”
I had no choice to my ex abandon us so I had to figure things out for myself. Through separation and divorce and trying not let the kids see me a wreck to was hard as well.
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Hi love. One day at a time love. Give yourself a hug n a pat on the back. Your doing great. ❤ if you need to cry scream get mad.. do that too.
It is a journey love. This life we live ❤
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I’m a single mom. I have a ten year old❤️his father is not here for my son. Don’t know where he is.
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Are you happier?
Is so sad to hear your marriage didn’t work out that you were alone with the kids most of the time while your husband was away with his job. Especially having your second child while you were both trying for another baby. I don’t think i would be able to cope being a single mum I would try to keep giving the marriage a try. And be supportive of my husband job aswell too. I find is harder on the kids more and never want them to experience that. Since i have experience it my parents split up when i was 8 was not easy especially when you have two mums or two dads or both. I would love to have your energy and being strong and a great mum to your daughters.
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Im childfree by choice after watching this video
A new model of marriage may make sense. This Nom is gorgeous and intelligent - I can’t see her with some guy who treats her as a pretty thing. She deserves a man, not a boy-man
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Also a newly single mom. Sucks
Dating is one thing, but it's no reason to shack up with a man. No man will love another man's babies. Don't be like 95% of these women and choose a man over your own kids.
I want to know why you have to put “single mom” in your video descriptions? Like, is that a way for you to get clicks? Feel sorry for yourself? Like, why? You’re a mom, just be a mom. I did the single mom thing too but damn, I didn’t drag it out like that. Just be a mom.
It’s because other single moms search for videos to find content to help and relate to. If you don’t put it in the the title then they can’t find the content. When you title a video it’s what the video is about and in the description you describe what the video is about. This is a Q&A about being a single mom. It’s not “dragging” it out. Also being a single mom isn’t to be ashamed of or to hide. It’s what I am. I’m sure being a single mom you appreciate support rather than someone negatively critiquing your job, parenting and etc. so instead of trying to tear another mom down, why not instead support each other? We have enough negativity in this world. Be better and do better. Thank you.
Because she’s literally a single mom….. and wants to share with other single moms… jeeez