I need to embody this mantra. I am so anxious about having my 2nd baby. My first is now 7. But still, going back to the infant stage (which I thought I was done for) it is really causing me so much anxiety.. the stress of keeping your kids alive and well 😭 crazy
@@beboy19 I’ve just had my 2nd baby, she’s 6 days old today and my eldest is 3. I was an anxious wreck with my 1st baby and suffered post natal depression, but this time around it’s completely different. You’ve done it all before, and you’ll be amazed at how you manage the 2nd time around. It’s exhausting but trust me, you’ll get right back in to that newborn groove in no time. And remember, the long night feeds and early wakings are over so quickly, so don’t dwell on the shitty bits and soak up all the good bits, because it goes by in a flash.
You said you don’t put her in the carrier “because I’m afraid she will die on my chest” and then I felt seen. I had fears like this as a first time mom with postpartum anxiety, and when I tried to verbalize it, family just made me feel crazy and like I was over reacting. Emotions don’t have to be rational to be validated. I just needed to be heard and supported.
I felt a lump in my throat after reading your comment. It took me back to some dark memories of my earlier post partum time. You are soo right about the need to just feel heard and validated. I hope that you are doing better. I felt so alone and crazy.
I love you Jess😂 "The kid with the trash and the blood, not a dream come true." This is why I watch you. You make me feel not alone and I adore how real you are❤
"Embrace formula"👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I struggled with breastfeeding and I felt like I was a complete failure as a mom and cried so much at the thought of not being able to provide for my daughter and give her formula. Now going into my second baby I'm very open to whatever I need to do to keep my baby fed...if that's formula again then so be it, if breastfeeding works then great! Love how real and raw your channel is ❤️
Absolutely! And your mental health is imperative. I had a doctor tell me "formula doesn't kill babies, but post partum depression can kill their moms". It was one of the most supportive and reality-check statements that anyone could have told me at the time.
That was me with my first and my mentality with my second. It turns out, I couldn’t with my second either. I’m about to give birth to my third. I’m all for formula this time! I’m not even trying! Seriously, after colostrum, I’m done! Formula all the way!!! My kids are doing great and they both had formula. It really is whatever works for you and your baby!
@@alyupde9337 we have the same brain😂 we are trying for our third right now and I honestly just want to do formula right away. After exclusively pumping with my second idk if I can manage that again and I know breastfeeding isn’t for me!
@@kaitlynchase8061 It’s not for everyone! I physically and mentally do not want to go through that again! My son is in the ninetieth percentile for height and weight. I know babies can do great with formal! I also selfishly want my body back! I want some level of autonomy!
I never comment on videos, but I just love her realness. I have an 11 wk old baby at home, first time mama, and she has helped me to not feel so alone in this new journey. 💓 love her
Bless you! You got this mama💕 I have a 15 month old and 2 month old and it is stressful for awhile but you will fall into a routine. Accept any help you can get!
@@nmart4000 my toddler still takes a bottle for sleep and naps and I breastfeed the little man to sleep around 30 mins after she goes to sleep. He gets up every 2-3 hrs toddler sleeps 12 hr
Yes! I can’t say enough about getting set up the night before! This has been my formula for success since high school but has become even more important as a mom. I set up coffee, snacks/water for me during overnight feedings, my clothes, diaper bag, pumping bag, and I put my keys on whatever I need to remember to bring with me from the fridge.
Yes to the anticipation of the moment, rather than the moment! When my first was born I would have a panic attack every time my partner left for work...we survived each day and he’s now 2 and we have another one due in April. Thank you for always being honest ❤️
I have a 13 month old and currently 27 weeks pregnant so mine will also be 16 months apart! Thankful for this video that definitely encouraged me while also being real! 💕🥰 Congratulations on your little Angel, she's beautiful!!
Little Jules was due when my baby girl is due. I’m still pregnant 😬 so happy she’s home and healthy and doing so good. What a precious little lady. Thank you for your videos Jess ❤️
I had two under two! The going out part was definitely the hardest part. I found it easier to leave both carseats in the car all the time, I usually put my little baby in a safe spot, carry out my older baby get him buckled and give him a toy in the car while I go get the little baby!! It's quite the dance but you'll get used to it before you know!
Thanksgiving idea: order carry out thanksgiving food and have your husband pick it up! You all get a classic meal but don’t need to go through all the cooking hassle. Whole Foods has some great options
Only just watching this now but just wanted to say thanks for the video and being so real. Hearing someone else say "I don't know how to do that" feels so validating, when it can so often feel like everyone else has it together and copes just fine.
I just really appreciate how honest you are, and yet how peaceful and positive you are at the same time. There are so many moms who, like myself, have struggled in new motherhood, (my first is now 11 months) and they end up either blaming the kids or tossing around elements of toxic mommy culture, and I SO love that you don't do that. Praise God for encouraging moms like you! This season, the good and the bad, will pass. ❤ In the meantime, savor the good, and remember that the difficult times are only here for a moment in the grand scheme of things. You are doing great! ❤
I’m 17 weeks pregnant with my second girl 💕 they will be 15 months apart 😳 I’m nervous and get overwhelmed thinking about it but I’m trying to believe in myself and know I can do this 💪🏼❤️ they were both planned so I have done this to myself 😂🥰
You have helped me SOOOOO much! I have a 12 year, 10 year, 23 month old and am 16 weeks pregnant and have been so worried. I've done attachment parenting with my 23 month old and she is sooo attached to me as I am to her. I was nervous to introduce a new baby but you just made me see how possible it is. I still have a long road but you have helped tremendously! Thank you
You’re wonderful! I love how supportive, honest, and caring you are! You are a special gift to the world 🌍 keep on sharing and keeping it real so moms know that they are not alone ❤️
I definitely agree with 1 adult per kid! I have a 19 month old and a 3 week old. Thankfully, my husband works seasonally and he’s off until March so having him take over with the toddler has been amazing. I definitely spend one on one time with my oldest when my newborn is sleeping. Nursing is tough because my oldest gets jealous but we just keep him busy.
Hi Jess, I have one child and she is 7 and I still have not figured out if I am having another , but your videos are so comforting and encouraging. I enjoy how you state what your doing but you are so respectful of others choices. That's the kind of support we need as mothers. Thanks 🤗
YOU are incredible! I have a three week old and a 2.5 year old and am recovering from a cesarean and this was really relatable even though my big girl is relatively self sufficient in some ways. I also have no idea how to leave the house with the two of them and we are super behind on setting up the right stroller configuration and all that stuff - just going one day at a time here..!
I know this video is old, but we just found out we’re pregnant with #2 and we currently have a 12 month old. Your videos and demeanor are so helpful 💕 I’ve always wanted babies but I have pretty bad ADHD and have always struggled even organizing my life and since our disgusted came along, I tend to be surviving so much of the time. It’s just good to hear other moms who don’t need to be perfect. Things don’t have to be perfectly scheduled and healthy and all the things…as long as everyone is safe and fed, it’s okay.
Skip the Thanksgiving dinner. Your happiness and healthy state of mind are way more important. You always have next year or the years after that. The day is about being thankful. And clearly you are very thankful for your healthy family.😊
"I'm afraid she's going to die on my chest." I vibe this level of anxiety lol. I'm 36 weeks along (TODAY) with my first and I've enjoyed your videos since the oh-so-very helpful Baby 101. In it you said, "I didn't even know how to change a diaper confidently." That meant a lot to me!! I was gifted with a quarantine baby, and honestly I don't know if I would have had kids otherwise. I was never around them, in fact I would refuse to hold my friends' babies until they could hold their heads up 😅. It's nice to see someone out here that never had or had few motherly life plans kicking ass and taking names as a mom... even through the anxiety 😂❤
I know just about everyone here feels the same but THANK YOU for sharing your experiences, good and bad, and your advice. I also have a 16 month old, and my newborn was due October 19 but was a week late. It’s definitely been an experience. I worry about the time I give to each and to myself and to my husband, but your statement about the quality of the time being more important than the quantity definitely helps a lot. 💕 Putting the newborn in the car seat inside, and carrying them while holding the toddler’s hand out to the car is what has worked for me (still stressful, but it works), but since Wilson is not walking much for you yet just enjoy always having someone to help you leave the house with them for now, haha! :)
You are a super hero! I remember when my older son was 3, my middle one was 11 and my little one was just born it was a struggle. No one helped me with them, it was all on me. And it was super tough but I did it. Now my daughter is 5 months and I'm a month pregnant with my last one! HERE WE GO AGAIN! lol.
The holidays: I'd recommend ordering in if you can. We had Christmas with a two-week old last year. We ordered pie from one place, food from another (a nice Pakistani caterer who was open since he didn't celebrate Christmas anyway), wine from a local merchant. My mum sent over a batch of Christmas cookies. It was lovely, and honestly, I wasn't going to do a roast with a two-week old on my arm and a caesarian to recover from. You are doing great. I especially love how mindful you are about little Wilson. This must be a lot for him, and the lovely relationship you are fostering by being so careful is going to be a gift to your children for their entire lives. Being a mum of three may not have been your big dream, but you certainly are a dream of a mum! Love how your realness and your kind heart shine through in all of your content. Who cares about perfection when they can have that.
I have a 7.5 year old and a 16 month old as well as 23 weeks into my last pregnancy. My anxiety is so crazy right now. All girls too! My second is still not sleeping through the night but big sister is such a help, she wants to help a little more than she should though! It was so hard when the second was new because she wanted to help with everything. Once she gave 6 month baby peanut butter so we have to watch them closely. Its a little easier now so hopefully when baby gets here she will remember.
I had my son this past Saturday and I used SO many of your tips and suggestions for labor without an epidural. I turned into an absolute monster but I DID it, and I have a beautiful baby boy. Thank you for all your encouraging and down to earth videos. 💛 And I'm so so happy to see Jules.
You're such an inspiration, so blessed by your videos. Thank you for sharing and being so real and staying so positive!! My girls will be 14 months apart and after watching your video I finally feel positive and excited about it. Thank you again.
We tried so hard to do this😭 our first is so much of a momma's boy though. Nursing and bottles were all me. Wouldn't let dad, even as a newborn. My poor husband tries so hard😂😂
@@EveChantelle16 in my experience nipple confusion isn't a thing. There's nipple preference but if you make sure you're using the right nipple flow level all is well ;) we have our son a bottle right away coupled with breastfeeding and it was great :)
@@EveChantelle16 Nipple confusion happens in a very, very small percentage of babies. Most pediatricians don't see a case during their careers. I was shocked to learn this from my OB during my current pregnancy! I always thought it would cause confusion too and waited a couple of months with our first.
I don't think nipple confusion is a thing either. Feeding baby a bottle in a slow paced way helps baby not get frustrated at the breast if the milk doesn't come as quick and easily as a bottle. I have heard though that when you are first breastfeeding and building up a supply, breastfeeding or pumping in the night is crucial to boosting supply and keeping it up, due to hormones released at that time. So if you are going to feed a bottle in the night, you may still have to wake once to pump or do one feed to keep up supply, which is still better than multiple wakes in my opinion! Some women won't experience issues, but others might, so just putting this out there.
Thank you so so much for your videos. I cannot tell you enough how comforting it is watching them. I have a 10 month old babygirl and am pregnant with my 2nd..they will be 17 months apart..I am so happy to be a mommy again but also have so many moments of fear and anxiety on how I will manage with 2 under 2. Thank you for being so relatable and for being a positive resource. This video really help me. You are an amazing mom. I can tell because you have a loving heart..and that's the most important thing babies need, love.. you also remind me of my sister. God bless your family and you! 💜
I’m due in February with my second baby (my daughter is 23 months) and I’m very appreciative of this video. My daughter is very attached to me and she’s still co-sleeping with us. It’s been hard, we are sleep training her however she still crawls on our bed. We also live in Southern California but in a one bedroom so it’s a little hard for her to sleep on her own bed. Crossing fingers everything will be ok. Also having anxiety on who’s going to watch her while im in labor 😥
Jessica you are doing so great, my tip for leaving the house with three children is to give yourself plenty of time, and try to plan ahead have Eloise help you carry out stuff to the car for me the car is right outside the door so I make a lot of trips back and forth as I'm loading each kid in getting sweaters and water cups and diaper bags but just give yourself plenty of time. I leave all the car seats in the car it's just easier than me and caring them in and out.
Thank you so much for making this vid. I’m 21 weeks with our second. Our girl will be 15 months in March when baby #2 is born! I’m a lil scared but excited. This is just what I needed. :) 🤞
I have a twin sister and my mother explained to me how she put us in the car when we were babies: she put one child in the car seat and one in the baby carrier while inside. Then she would go to the car where the other baby seat was already there. So you only have to carry one baby seat (which are pretty heavy with a baby inside!) and strap the other child in when you're at the car. If you're more comfortable carrying your one year old in a carrier, I would opt to carry the newborn in the car seat and put the older child in their seat once at the car. Hope that helps!
You honestly made it all sound...ok. Like it’ll all be ok. Don’t have two under two but considering it and coming from a similar video that gave me anxiety, this was refreshing. Although life is what it is, you make it sound like it’ll work out despite the ugly parts. Thank you for being so positive. I needed to hear it.
Sending love & sisterhood Miss Jess-you are doing so well, your little people are so blessed by your intention, willingness & love ❤️ Mama is the the most demanding job no one can prepare for, no matter how many times we are born into it, for each time it makes us anew👼🏼💖
Jess, I have been following you for 3 years, I stumbled upon one of your videos when I first found out i was pregnant in 2017, I love that you are honest and just upfront about what works for you and what doesn't and how you're feeling. It has been so helpful. i just recently had boy #2 and it has been chaos learning how to juggle both boys (toddler & newborn) lol I so appreciate your videos and that you still make time to help other momma's like myself. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
This is so sweet! We'll have a 14mo gap between our two (amazing for you to have 3 but can't fathom that omg). Love how realistic and in detail you are being here. Thank you- I know you are exhausted in these videos. WOW. On tandem feeding- I weaned my first bc my supply dropped in pregnancy. He only nurses for comfort now, but I do plan on bringing him in to help my milk supply and plan on tandem feeding them unless it gets to be too much. I feel that this may help us in the transition, for comfort and connection with my first. I was also devastated that my supply cut out due to being pregnant again- I wanted to feed him forever and now just bask in our moments of him comfort sucking. The note on milk confusion makes sense, but I would venture to say if we are making antibodies for one child, it'll benefit both.
I'm so happy Jules is home! She's a perfect little thing. You're doing great! Thank you as always for taking the time to make these videos, it's always such a joy to see a notification from your channel. Love you, stay safe and happy
I always love how real you are. I’ve watched so many of your videos over the years and they always help me feel like I’m doing ok and it’ll be fine. Thank you for sharing your reality 🥰
Due in 4wks or less with number two.. & this was a breath of fresh. air. I think I just breathed deeply like five times during this video. Can’t express how lovely that felt! I’m so excited for baby number two. ❤️🥰 (my older will be about 22 months when new baby is born)
She is soooo sweet! Thanks for sharing your experience with two, two and under. I also have two, two and under and they're 17 months apart. Both are so different with different needs and challenges. But you're absolutely right! They're so worth it and it does get easier. Congratulations on your new little baby girl!
I don't yet have 2 under 2, but I will within the next few months. My plan for walks (for the first little while), is to baby wear the newborn and keep our current single stroller (for the oldest) until the baby has decent neck strength. We've purchased the city select double stroller that we'll be using for both kiddos after a few months! Looks like you're doing great, and that's so encouraging as someone who's about to be in the trenches!
City Select sells a kit to turn a second seat into a pram. Random piece of advice but I just got that stroller and now Google is advertising the pram kit to me.
I nanny for 3 kids (currently TTC as well) after years in a classroom and then nannying for 2 kids ... 3 kids is a whole separate ball game from anything else. Somebody always needs something. As a family you'll find your rhythm though. 💚
YESS!! thank youuu so much for this, I also recently became a mom of two under two and I NEEDED THIS VIDEO! makes me feel like I'm not the only one feeling this way!
We have the uppa baby vista - my oldest is 16 months and I’m due in 2 weeks. It took lots of figuring out 😂 but all you need is the rumble seat for the 16 month old (facing forward on the bottom) and the upper adapters up top to click the car seat in (facing you)! It’s exactly what I wanted, and sounds like what you’d need too!
Uummmm…… over one year later and the state of our world is in the exact same place 😩 it has not gotten easier and we have not and may not ever get through it! Sorry looking at the date this was posted made me sad. I love your honesty about this rather than showing just happy/easy put together mama.
I have my 1st baby in oct 2020. No help from India, no help whatsoever. As we live in Munich. I count the blessings as my husband is wfh. So we get 24/7 with her.
Jess, you are so encouraging...Thank you for being real. I am so thankful for your wisdom of the importance of quality time with your kids, not quantity. I so needed that. It is so important to be intentional, even if its just 5 minutes. It makes all the difference. And thank you so much for your encouragement about formula. I needed to hear that today! I had a sweet baby 8 weeks ago. She was 4 weeks early and only in the NICU a few days, but she has had some pretty rough digestive issues, including some bad choking spells because her reflux is so bad. We tried several things with my breastmilk to help her, but what has helped her the most far above everything else is a hypoallergenic formula. Even though I KNOW this is what is helping her and making her more comfortable and a more happy baby, I have felt "less than" for stopping breastfeeding. Anyway, I needed your encouragement. We love our sweet kiddos and we do the best we can :) Congratulations on your precious baby!
I love how honest and real you are in your videos! This is so helpful. Thank you for taking the time to make videos like these even when you have to be so extremely exhausted. Your hard work does not go unnoticed!!
We have a 1 month old and we are kinda skipping thanksgiving too. Just making stuffing because that’s our favorite! Gotta save what mental space we have! I’m just excited for 4 days that my husband is home full time!
Not even close to being a mom (I want to one-day), but binge watched all your videos because your babies are so cute and you content feels very true and lovely. Sending prayers for your little new born and your family. God bless :)
I’m so glad I found you! I have a 5 year old, a 16 month old and I’m 6 days overdue with my 3rd.... so basically I’m exactly the same boat and I’ve been so nervous about this third one!
I just love how honest and real you are! It makes me feel so normal! Haha I'm about to have my 2nd mid January and I'm already getting nervous on how I'm going to manage my 20month old and my newborn. Thanks for all your encouragement!
Leaving the house with 2 babies, what worked for me: getting really good at wearing a baby on my back. They have to be able to sit unassisted, so in your case your one year old. I followed youtube videos to practice at home until I felt good at it. It comes in handy all the time! When I need hands for one but the other one wants up, putting one to sleeping while knowing the other one won't destroy the house, walking out to the car, even shopping with the other one in a stroller or in a shopping cart. (I would also wear the second baby on my chest often, but no need to be that extra 😂)
Jess congrats on your newest baby!! Your videos got me through my first child and i am so thankful to have found this channel ❤️ thank u for all you do
I love the FB group! Thank you for your videos they are very up lifting and make me feel better. I am a first time mom of a sweet baby boy and I am overwhelmed. Thank you for your encouragement!
Oh man, I am so glad you talk about not being a natural at your mom role and kind of being overwhelmed by "all the things"! And it's cool that you have Eloise help out, I do that with my almost 4y/o and almost 2y/o, I have him kind of report to me what's going on when I have to be in the kitchen and they're playing :-)
I'm due in Aug and my son is going to be 19 months when the second baby is born everyone keeps saying your son needs to walk his 14 months 🥺 I still want to enjoy his baby stage untill the second arrives !! I'm so scared 😢 seems like you have such a supportive partner aswell
I haven't had my 2nd yet, I'm due on the 26.. I'm soooo glad I had to wean my son too bc of premature labor, he's also on a 7pm to 7am schedule! Glad I have that down, I'm sure that is going to make things easy for me!
I am 7 wks with our 2nd and if baby is born on time will be 16 months apart too. I love your point about the anticipation of the activity being more stressful than anything else.
Thank you for sharing 🙏 I have a 5 and 3yo and 30weeks pregnant with our third 😅 my husband and I are trying to mentally prepare for the upcoming craziness lol..
My baby is 9 months and I'm 13 weeks pregnant thanks for all the tips im really nervous this time round coz I'm in the UK and we are in full lock down my son was born In the first lock down now im worried that this one will be too
video lifesavior. i have a 5 year old a 20 month old and just had my son also 6 weeks early just brought him home from nicu a week ago. although life is easier so far out of nicu.
Question about bottle feeding at night letting you sleep. Don’t you have your pump when the baby is getting a bottle and so therefore you have to be awake anyway? Or are you doing formula at night?
Great question! Yes, if you’re exclusively breastfeeding and giving a bottle of expressed milk at night, you’ll usually still need to pump around the same time to maintain supply and prevent discomfort. However, some moms find that even if they need to pump, it can be quicker or easier to have someone else give the bottle and do the burping/diaper changing while they rest or focus on pumping without also feeding the baby. Eventually I didn't choose to pump during that feeding because my breasts regulated and I could entirely sleep through that bottle feeding. For those who are supplementing with formula at night, it can allow for more flexibility, as you don’t need to pump during that time if your goal is to get more uninterrupted sleep. Every mom has a different routine that works for them, and it’s all about finding what feels best for you and your baby. If sleep is a priority, some moms will skip the night pump here and there, but it depends on your breastfeeding goals and comfort level!
I also wanted to ask you how you handle nursing during the day and bottles at night? Do you pump right away in the morning or get up to pump at night? Would love to be able to get a little extra sleep and have dad help if possible!😅
I’m always pumping in the morning after I nurse. At the begging I was also pumping during the day when I felt that baby didn’t drink all the milk. I started pumping around two months in until then I BF during nights.
Yes skip it and do your favourite takeout!! Just do whatever makes you the happiest and least stressed. There will be many traditional holidays to come. Thanks for the videos! I'm just coming out of the blur as my third babe is 3 years old and it's getting so much easier. My best advice is just do the least amount possible LOL.
I lived by this mantra: ‘Everybody fed, nobody dead.’ If you’ve achieved that, you’ve survived the day.
I need to use this mantra... Sometimes we beat on ourselves so much it's crazy.
🤣😂 thats awesome 👏🏽
Mine is "No ER today."
I need to embody this mantra. I am so anxious about having my 2nd baby. My first is now 7. But still, going back to the infant stage (which I thought I was done for) it is really causing me so much anxiety.. the stress of keeping your kids alive and well 😭 crazy
@@beboy19 I’ve just had my 2nd baby, she’s 6 days old today and my eldest is 3. I was an anxious wreck with my 1st baby and suffered post natal depression, but this time around it’s completely different. You’ve done it all before, and you’ll be amazed at how you manage the 2nd time around. It’s exhausting but trust me, you’ll get right back in to that newborn groove in no time. And remember, the long night feeds and early wakings are over so quickly, so don’t dwell on the shitty bits and soak up all the good bits, because it goes by in a flash.
You said you don’t put her in the carrier “because I’m afraid she will die on my chest” and then I felt seen. I had fears like this as a first time mom with postpartum anxiety, and when I tried to verbalize it, family just made me feel crazy and like I was over reacting. Emotions don’t have to be rational to be validated. I just needed to be heard and supported.
I felt a lump in my throat after reading your comment. It took me back to some dark memories of my earlier post partum time. You are soo right about the need to just feel heard and validated. I hope that you are doing better. I felt so alone and crazy.
I love you Jess😂
"The kid with the trash and the blood, not a dream come true."
This is why I watch you. You make me feel not alone and I adore how real you are❤
"Embrace formula"👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I struggled with breastfeeding and I felt like I was a complete failure as a mom and cried so much at the thought of not being able to provide for my daughter and give her formula. Now going into my second baby I'm very open to whatever I need to do to keep my baby fed...if that's formula again then so be it, if breastfeeding works then great! Love how real and raw your channel is ❤️
Absolutely! And your mental health is imperative. I had a doctor tell me "formula doesn't kill babies, but post partum depression can kill their moms". It was one of the most supportive and reality-check statements that anyone could have told me at the time.
That was me with my first and my mentality with my second. It turns out, I couldn’t with my second either. I’m about to give birth to my third. I’m all for formula this time! I’m not even trying! Seriously, after colostrum, I’m done! Formula all the way!!! My kids are doing great and they both had formula.
It really is whatever works for you and your baby!
@@alyupde9337 we have the same brain😂 we are trying for our third right now and I honestly just want to do formula right away. After exclusively pumping with my second idk if I can manage that again and I know breastfeeding isn’t for me!
@@kaitlynchase8061 It’s not for everyone! I physically and mentally do not want to go through that again! My son is in the ninetieth percentile for height and weight. I know babies can do great with formal! I also selfishly want my body back! I want some level of autonomy!
@@alyupde9337 my son is also really small!! I also want my body back and have had a hard time losing the weight this time around😩
I never comment on videos, but I just love her realness. I have an 11 wk old baby at home, first time mama, and she has helped me to not feel so alone in this new journey. 💓 love her
Omg you would do so well in commercials and as an actor in general, you’re so expressive and genuine.
Just buckling into this.... I've just found out I'm pregnant with twins so come the summer I will have 3 under 2! Give me all the tips!
Congratulations! That’s a lot but you can do it! Trust your gut mama you got this. Praying for you 🙏🏾💞
Bless you! You got this mama💕 I have a 15 month old and 2 month old and it is stressful for awhile but you will fall into a routine. Accept any help you can get!
You will be amazing, they will all be fine and you will be fine even when you don’t feel like it. Congratulations xxx
@@cushkawalker5594 how did you do w their naps and putting them to bed at night?
@@nmart4000 my toddler still takes a bottle for sleep and naps and I breastfeed the little man to sleep around 30 mins after she goes to sleep. He gets up every 2-3 hrs toddler sleeps 12 hr
Yes! I can’t say enough about getting set up the night before! This has been my formula for success since high school but has become even more important as a mom. I set up coffee, snacks/water for me during overnight feedings, my clothes, diaper bag, pumping bag, and I put my keys on whatever I need to remember to bring with me from the fridge.
I set up my overnight snacks months in advance in my thighs...
I just want to thank you for still finding the time and energy to give us content, you are a real Queen ❤👑
Yes to the anticipation of the moment, rather than the moment! When my first was born I would have a panic attack every time my partner left for work...we survived each day and he’s now 2 and we have another one due in April. Thank you for always being honest ❤️
“The anticipation of the moments versus the moments themselves.” I feel so seen!
I have a 13 month old and currently 27 weeks pregnant so mine will also be 16 months apart! Thankful for this video that definitely encouraged me while also being real! 💕🥰 Congratulations on your little Angel, she's beautiful!!
Little Jules was due when my baby girl is due. I’m still pregnant 😬 so happy she’s home and healthy and doing so good. What a precious little lady. Thank you for your videos Jess ❤️
I wish you a easy and healthy childbirth!
I had two under two! The going out part was definitely the hardest part. I found it easier to leave both carseats in the car all the time, I usually put my little baby in a safe spot, carry out my older baby get him buckled and give him a toy in the car while I go get the little baby!! It's quite the dance but you'll get used to it before you know!
😭😭😭 You’re just the best! Thank you for being so real and honest. Your videos bring me so much peace.
Thanksgiving idea: order carry out thanksgiving food and have your husband pick it up! You all get a classic meal but don’t need to go through all the cooking hassle. Whole Foods has some great options
Only just watching this now but just wanted to say thanks for the video and being so real. Hearing someone else say "I don't know how to do that" feels so validating, when it can so often feel like everyone else has it together and copes just fine.
I just really appreciate how honest you are, and yet how peaceful and positive you are at the same time. There are so many moms who, like myself, have struggled in new motherhood, (my first is now 11 months) and they end up either blaming the kids or tossing around elements of toxic mommy culture, and I SO love that you don't do that. Praise God for encouraging moms like you! This season, the good and the bad, will pass. ❤ In the meantime, savor the good, and remember that the difficult times are only here for a moment in the grand scheme of things. You are doing great! ❤
I’m 17 weeks pregnant with my second girl 💕 they will be 15 months apart 😳 I’m nervous and get overwhelmed thinking about it but I’m trying to believe in myself and know I can do this 💪🏼❤️ they were both planned so I have done this to myself 😂🥰
You have helped me SOOOOO much! I have a 12 year, 10 year, 23 month old and am 16 weeks pregnant and have been so worried. I've done attachment parenting with my 23 month old and she is sooo attached to me as I am to her. I was nervous to introduce a new baby but you just made me see how possible it is. I still have a long road but you have helped tremendously! Thank you
I love your honesty. I don't have kids but hope to in the next 1-3 years and I learn so much from you.
The uppa baby vista is great for 2 babies! We bought a ours used as well and found the older model attachments on their website.
You’re wonderful! I love how supportive, honest, and caring you are! You are a special gift to the world 🌍 keep on sharing and keeping it real so moms know that they are not alone ❤️
I definitely agree with 1 adult per kid! I have a 19 month old and a 3 week old. Thankfully, my husband works seasonally and he’s off until March so having him take over with the toddler has been amazing. I definitely spend one on one time with my oldest when my newborn is sleeping. Nursing is tough because my oldest gets jealous but we just keep him busy.
Hi Jess,
I have one child and she is 7 and I still have not figured out if I am having another , but your videos are so comforting and encouraging. I enjoy how you state what your doing but you are so respectful of others choices. That's the kind of support we need as mothers. Thanks 🤗
YOU are incredible! I have a three week old and a 2.5 year old and am recovering from a cesarean and this was really relatable even though my big girl is relatively self sufficient in some ways. I also have no idea how to leave the house with the two of them and we are super behind on setting up the right stroller configuration and all that stuff - just going one day at a time here..!
I know this video is old, but we just found out we’re pregnant with #2 and we currently have a 12 month old. Your videos and demeanor are so helpful 💕 I’ve always wanted babies but I have pretty bad ADHD and have always struggled even organizing my life and since our disgusted came along, I tend to be surviving so much of the time. It’s just good to hear other moms who don’t need to be perfect. Things don’t have to be perfectly scheduled and healthy and all the things…as long as everyone is safe and fed, it’s okay.
I planned to breastfeed but it didn't work out for us, and your talking about formula was so kind, thank you.
Skip the Thanksgiving dinner. Your happiness and healthy state of mind are way more important. You always have next year or the years after that. The day is about being thankful. And clearly you are very thankful for your healthy family.😊
I am a single mom super scared about having two children under two not planned . This video gave me loads of comfort 💕 Thankyou
Wow. I watch a lot of these mom videos. I really appreciate how honest and authentic this comes across. Thank you.
"I'm afraid she's going to die on my chest."
I vibe this level of anxiety lol. I'm 36 weeks along (TODAY) with my first and I've enjoyed your videos since the oh-so-very helpful Baby 101. In it you said, "I didn't even know how to change a diaper confidently." That meant a lot to me!! I was gifted with a quarantine baby, and honestly I don't know if I would have had kids otherwise. I was never around them, in fact I would refuse to hold my friends' babies until they could hold their heads up 😅. It's nice to see someone out here that never had or had few motherly life plans kicking ass and taking names as a mom... even through the anxiety 😂❤
I know just about everyone here feels the same but THANK YOU for sharing your experiences, good and bad, and your advice. I also have a 16 month old, and my newborn was due October 19 but was a week late. It’s definitely been an experience. I worry about the time I give to each and to myself and to my husband, but your statement about the quality of the time being more important than the quantity definitely helps a lot. 💕
Putting the newborn in the car seat inside, and carrying them while holding the toddler’s hand out to the car is what has worked for me (still stressful, but it works), but since Wilson is not walking much for you yet just enjoy always having someone to help you leave the house with them for now, haha! :)
You are a super hero! I remember when my older son was 3, my middle one was 11 and my little one was just born it was a struggle. No one helped me with them, it was all on me. And it was super tough but I did it. Now my daughter is 5 months and I'm a month pregnant with my last one! HERE WE GO AGAIN! lol.
The holidays: I'd recommend ordering in if you can. We had Christmas with a two-week old last year. We ordered pie from one place, food from another (a nice Pakistani caterer who was open since he didn't celebrate Christmas anyway), wine from a local merchant. My mum sent over a batch of Christmas cookies. It was lovely, and honestly, I wasn't going to do a roast with a two-week old on my arm and a caesarian to recover from.
You are doing great. I especially love how mindful you are about little Wilson. This must be a lot for him, and the lovely relationship you are fostering by being so careful is going to be a gift to your children for their entire lives. Being a mum of three may not have been your big dream, but you certainly are a dream of a mum! Love how your realness and your kind heart shine through in all of your content. Who cares about perfection when they can have that.
I have a 7.5 year old and a 16 month old as well as 23 weeks into my last pregnancy. My anxiety is so crazy right now. All girls too! My second is still not sleeping through the night but big sister is such a help, she wants to help a little more than she should though! It was so hard when the second was new because she wanted to help with everything. Once she gave 6 month baby peanut butter so we have to watch them closely. Its a little easier now so hopefully when baby gets here she will remember.
I really needed this video. i have a 19 month old and i’m currently 30 weeks pregnant. i have no idea what to expect but this video was comforting
I had my son this past Saturday and I used SO many of your tips and suggestions for labor without an epidural. I turned into an absolute monster but I DID it, and I have a beautiful baby boy. Thank you for all your encouraging and down to earth videos. 💛
And I'm so so happy to see Jules.
Anna Rocha congratulations Anna! Great job momma!
You're such an inspiration, so blessed by your videos. Thank you for sharing and being so real and staying so positive!! My girls will be 14 months apart and after watching your video I finally feel positive and excited about it. Thank you again.
breastfeed during the day and bottle at night. MIND = BLOWN! i wish i had done this for my first omg life changer!
We tried so hard to do this😭 our first is so much of a momma's boy though. Nursing and bottles were all me. Wouldn't let dad, even as a newborn. My poor husband tries so hard😂😂
I’ve always heard this causes nipple confusion
@@EveChantelle16 in my experience nipple confusion isn't a thing. There's nipple preference but if you make sure you're using the right nipple flow level all is well ;) we have our son a bottle right away coupled with breastfeeding and it was great :)
@@EveChantelle16 Nipple confusion happens in a very, very small percentage of babies. Most pediatricians don't see a case during their careers. I was shocked to learn this from my OB during my current pregnancy! I always thought it would cause confusion too and waited a couple of months with our first.
I don't think nipple confusion is a thing either. Feeding baby a bottle in a slow paced way helps baby not get frustrated at the breast if the milk doesn't come as quick and easily as a bottle. I have heard though that when you are first breastfeeding and building up a supply, breastfeeding or pumping in the night is crucial to boosting supply and keeping it up, due to hormones released at that time. So if you are going to feed a bottle in the night, you may still have to wake once to pump or do one feed to keep up supply, which is still better than multiple wakes in my opinion! Some women won't experience issues, but others might, so just putting this out there.
Thank you so so much for your videos. I cannot tell you enough how comforting it is watching them. I have a 10 month old babygirl and am pregnant with my 2nd..they will be 17 months apart..I am so happy to be a mommy again but also have so many moments of fear and anxiety on how I will manage with 2 under 2. Thank you for being so relatable and for being a positive resource. This video really help me. You are an amazing mom. I can tell because you have a loving heart..and that's the most important thing babies need, love.. you also remind me of my sister. God bless your family and you! 💜
same!
I’m due in February with my second baby (my daughter is 23 months) and I’m very appreciative of this video. My daughter is very attached to me and she’s still co-sleeping with us. It’s been hard, we are sleep training her however she still crawls on our bed. We also live in Southern California but in a one bedroom so it’s a little hard for her to sleep on her own bed. Crossing fingers everything will be ok. Also having anxiety on who’s going to watch her while im in labor 😥
Jessica you are doing so great, my tip for leaving the house with three children is to give yourself plenty of time, and try to plan ahead have Eloise help you carry out stuff to the car for me the car is right outside the door so I make a lot of trips back and forth as I'm loading each kid in getting sweaters and water cups and diaper bags but just give yourself plenty of time. I leave all the car seats in the car it's just easier than me and caring them in and out.
Thank you so much for making this vid. I’m 21 weeks with our second. Our girl will be 15 months in March when baby #2 is born! I’m a lil scared but excited. This is just what I needed. :) 🤞
I have a twin sister and my mother explained to me how she put us in the car when we were babies: she put one child in the car seat and one in the baby carrier while inside. Then she would go to the car where the other baby seat was already there. So you only have to carry one baby seat (which are pretty heavy with a baby inside!) and strap the other child in when you're at the car. If you're more comfortable carrying your one year old in a carrier, I would opt to carry the newborn in the car seat and put the older child in their seat once at the car. Hope that helps!
You honestly made it all sound...ok. Like it’ll all be ok. Don’t have two under two but considering it and coming from a similar video that gave me anxiety, this was refreshing. Although life is what it is, you make it sound like it’ll work out despite the ugly parts. Thank you for being so positive. I needed to hear it.
Sending love & sisterhood Miss Jess-you are doing so well, your little people are so blessed by your intention, willingness & love ❤️ Mama is the the most demanding job no one can prepare for, no matter how many times we are born into it, for each time it makes us anew👼🏼💖
Jess, I have been following you for 3 years, I stumbled upon one of your videos when I first found out i was pregnant in 2017, I love that you are honest and just upfront about what works for you and what doesn't and how you're feeling. It has been so helpful. i just recently had boy #2 and it has been chaos learning how to juggle both boys (toddler & newborn) lol I so appreciate your videos and that you still make time to help other momma's like myself. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
This is so sweet! We'll have a 14mo gap between our two (amazing for you to have 3 but can't fathom that omg). Love how realistic and in detail you are being here. Thank you- I know you are exhausted in these videos. WOW.
On tandem feeding- I weaned my first bc my supply dropped in pregnancy. He only nurses for comfort now, but I do plan on bringing him in to help my milk supply and plan on tandem feeding them unless it gets to be too much. I feel that this may help us in the transition, for comfort and connection with my first. I was also devastated that my supply cut out due to being pregnant again- I wanted to feed him forever and now just bask in our moments of him comfort sucking.
The note on milk confusion makes sense, but I would venture to say if we are making antibodies for one child, it'll benefit both.
I'm so happy Jules is home! She's a perfect little thing. You're doing great! Thank you as always for taking the time to make these videos, it's always such a joy to see a notification from your channel. Love you, stay safe and happy
I always love how real you are. I’ve watched so many of your videos over the years and they always help me feel like I’m doing ok and it’ll be fine. Thank you for sharing your reality 🥰
I’m 21, from the UK and probably won’t have kids until I’m nearly 30. I love your videos, they are so relaxing. ✨💕 you’re looking and doing great!
Due in 4wks or less with number two.. & this was a breath of fresh. air. I think I just breathed deeply like five times during this video. Can’t express how lovely that felt! I’m so excited for baby number two. ❤️🥰 (my older will be about 22 months when new baby is born)
She is soooo sweet! Thanks for sharing your experience with two, two and under. I also have two, two and under and they're 17 months apart. Both are so different with different needs and challenges. But you're absolutely right! They're so worth it and it does get easier. Congratulations on your new little baby girl!
Ziptop and Stasher are the best!
I love watching these videos and so happy you're posting again, not for selfishness but because I know things are okay with your family!
I absolutely love how Jules is on the counter
I don't yet have 2 under 2, but I will within the next few months. My plan for walks (for the first little while), is to baby wear the newborn and keep our current single stroller (for the oldest) until the baby has decent neck strength. We've purchased the city select double stroller that we'll be using for both kiddos after a few months! Looks like you're doing great, and that's so encouraging as someone who's about to be in the trenches!
City Select sells a kit to turn a second seat into a pram. Random piece of advice but I just got that stroller and now Google is advertising the pram kit to me.
I nanny for 3 kids (currently TTC as well) after years in a classroom and then nannying for 2 kids ... 3 kids is a whole separate ball game from anything else.
Somebody always needs something. As a family you'll find your rhythm though. 💚
YESS!! thank youuu so much for this, I also recently became a mom of two under two and I NEEDED THIS VIDEO! makes me feel like I'm not the only one feeling this way!
We have the uppa baby vista - my oldest is 16 months and I’m due in 2 weeks. It took lots of figuring out 😂 but all you need is the rumble seat for the 16 month old (facing forward on the bottom) and the upper adapters up top to click the car seat in (facing you)! It’s exactly what I wanted, and sounds like what you’d need too!
Yep!!
As a new mom, your videos have been so helpful and reassuring. You make the chaos feel normal 💕
Uummmm…… over one year later and the state of our world is in the exact same place 😩 it has not gotten easier and we have not and may not ever get through it! Sorry looking at the date this was posted made me sad. I love your honesty about this rather than showing just happy/easy put together mama.
One Jess to another; thank you. I’m due in April, and my youngest turns 2 in February, but this will still help so much!!
I have my 1st baby in oct 2020. No help from India, no help whatsoever. As we live in Munich. I count the blessings as my husband is wfh. So we get 24/7 with her.
The anticipation of the moments.. its that..
Jess, you are so encouraging...Thank you for being real. I am so thankful for your wisdom of the importance of quality time with your kids, not quantity. I so needed that. It is so important to be intentional, even if its just 5 minutes. It makes all the difference. And thank you so much for your encouragement about formula. I needed to hear that today! I had a sweet baby 8 weeks ago. She was 4 weeks early and only in the NICU a few days, but she has had some pretty rough digestive issues, including some bad choking spells because her reflux is so bad. We tried several things with my breastmilk to help her, but what has helped her the most far above everything else is a hypoallergenic formula. Even though I KNOW this is what is helping her and making her more comfortable and a more happy baby, I have felt "less than" for stopping breastfeeding. Anyway, I needed your encouragement. We love our sweet kiddos and we do the best we can :) Congratulations on your precious baby!
I love how honest and real you are in your videos! This is so helpful. Thank you for taking the time to make videos like these even when you have to be so extremely exhausted. Your hard work does not go unnoticed!!
We have a 1 month old and we are kinda skipping thanksgiving too. Just making stuffing because that’s our favorite! Gotta save what mental space we have! I’m just excited for 4 days that my husband is home full time!
Not even close to being a mom (I want to one-day), but binge watched all your videos because your babies are so cute and you content feels very true and lovely. Sending prayers for your little new born and your family. God bless :)
The anticapations of the moments versus the moments themselves. That is well said. But I still dont enjoy the moments...they are stresful.
You are so sweet and sincere. You remind me so much of my husband's cousin ❤. Here's to be pregnant as a registered nurse during COVID 💥
I’m so glad I found you! I have a 5 year old, a 16 month old and I’m 6 days overdue with my 3rd.... so basically I’m exactly the same boat and I’ve been so nervous about this third one!
Thank you for this video. 2 under 2 here and encouraged.
I just love how honest and real you are! It makes me feel so normal! Haha
I'm about to have my 2nd mid January and I'm already getting nervous on how I'm going to manage my 20month old and my newborn. Thanks for all your encouragement!
Same!!!!
I love pastor Andy too ! God bless you!
You are fantastic Jess! Your videos make me feel so much better and reduce my anxiety so much. You are a gift!
Leaving the house with 2 babies, what worked for me: getting really good at wearing a baby on my back. They have to be able to sit unassisted, so in your case your one year old. I followed youtube videos to practice at home until I felt good at it. It comes in handy all the time! When I need hands for one but the other one wants up, putting one to sleeping while knowing the other one won't destroy the house, walking out to the car, even shopping with the other one in a stroller or in a shopping cart. (I would also wear the second baby on my chest often, but no need to be that extra 😂)
Jess congrats on your newest baby!! Your videos got me through my first child and i am so thankful to have found this channel ❤️ thank u for all you do
I love the FB group! Thank you for your videos they are very up lifting and make me feel better. I am a first time mom of a sweet baby boy and I am overwhelmed. Thank you for your encouragement!
I also have a 16mo right now and baby #2 will be here in the spring. This video is very helpful!
Oh man, I am so glad you talk about not being a natural at your mom role and kind of being overwhelmed by "all the things"! And it's cool that you have Eloise help out, I do that with my almost 4y/o and almost 2y/o, I have him kind of report to me what's going on when I have to be in the kitchen and they're playing :-)
Like, OH MY GOSH! SHE IS SO DARN ADORABLE!!!
I'm due in Aug and my son is going to be 19 months when the second baby is born everyone keeps saying your son needs to walk his 14 months 🥺 I still want to enjoy his baby stage untill the second arrives !! I'm so scared 😢 seems like you have such a supportive partner aswell
Thank you for sharing Jess! Deeply appreciated as always!
I haven't had my 2nd yet, I'm due on the 26.. I'm soooo glad I had to wean my son too bc of premature labor, he's also on a 7pm to 7am schedule! Glad I have that down, I'm sure that is going to make things easy for me!
I am 7 wks with our 2nd and if baby is born on time will be 16 months apart too. I love your point about the anticipation of the activity being more stressful than anything else.
Thank you for sharing 🙏 I have a 5 and 3yo and 30weeks pregnant with our third 😅 my husband and I are trying to mentally prepare for the upcoming craziness lol..
Love this so much! My first is 5yo and youngest is 3 weeks…this video is still relatable!
🙌🥲😂🙏🥰💞 Thank you Jess!
Thank you so much for this video! I will have the same age gap between my two. It’s been so encouraging.
You're so sweet, I love watching your videos. Youre doing amazing and your kids are lucky!
Thank you for all you advice! Side note, is that a new kitchen? It’s beautiful!
My baby is 9 months and I'm 13 weeks pregnant thanks for all the tips im really nervous this time round coz I'm in the UK and we are in full lock down my son was born In the first lock down now im worried that this one will be too
Who ever this can help there is a book called snuggle the baby its fantastic! Teaches young toddlers about newborns its a very interactive great book
video lifesavior. i have a 5 year old a 20 month old and just had my son also 6 weeks early just brought him home from nicu a week ago. although life is easier so far out of nicu.
Question about bottle feeding at night letting you sleep. Don’t you have your pump when the baby is getting a bottle and so therefore you have to be awake anyway? Or are you doing formula at night?
Great question! Yes, if you’re exclusively breastfeeding and giving a bottle of expressed milk at night, you’ll usually still need to pump around the same time to maintain supply and prevent discomfort. However, some moms find that even if they need to pump, it can be quicker or easier to have someone else give the bottle and do the burping/diaper changing while they rest or focus on pumping without also feeding the baby.
Eventually I didn't choose to pump during that feeding because my breasts regulated and I could entirely sleep through that bottle feeding.
For those who are supplementing with formula at night, it can allow for more flexibility, as you don’t need to pump during that time if your goal is to get more uninterrupted sleep. Every mom has a different routine that works for them, and it’s all about finding what feels best for you and your baby. If sleep is a priority, some moms will skip the night pump here and there, but it depends on your breastfeeding goals and comfort level!
You should be able to buy the attachment for the uppa baby separately to convert it into a double so you dont have to buy another stroller
I also wanted to ask you how you handle nursing during the day and bottles at night? Do you pump right away in the morning or get up to pump at night? Would love to be able to get a little extra sleep and have dad help if possible!😅
I was wondering this as well
I’m always pumping in the morning after I nurse. At the begging I was also pumping during the day when I felt that baby didn’t drink all the milk. I started pumping around two months in until then I BF during nights.
Yes skip it and do your favourite takeout!! Just do whatever makes you the happiest and least stressed. There will be many traditional holidays to come. Thanks for the videos! I'm just coming out of the blur as my third babe is 3 years old and it's getting so much easier. My best advice is just do the least amount possible LOL.
New subscriber here 🙋🏻♀️ I love how positive and calming you are