Great focus guide. Again....Be in the past, be depressed. Be in the future, be anxious. Be in the present, be at peace. Focus on the good in the past, be happy. Focus on the good in the future, be happy. Focus on the present, be at peace with it all.
This morning at the bird feeder there was a rufus sided towie, a ruby crested house finch, a sparrow some chickadees and several others. Each and every one carried a message of joy assuring me of a wonderful day!
Another great tip and skill for a caregiver. I have been practicing this for about 2 year already. This is great reinforcement to remind myself to be kind. To keep doing the best I can in my role as a caregiver. I am grateful for people who are going above and beyond to support caregivers. Keep up the great work.
Dr. Natali, THANK YOU! You are a most insightful person. All my life I have been plagued by childhood admonitions that "Tim, you can do better". As a result, I still sabotage myself with procrastination and 'laziness'. Clearly this is not serving me well and I am resolved to counteract this thought with actual evidence of my successes in all areas of my life (financial, friends, service work, life outlook, etc.).
I really love the fact that you used the term ‘realistic’ instead of ‘positive’. I have bad experience with ‘positive’ people because they often refuse to see reality, and when you try to explain them your situation, they shut you down with ‘don’t be so negative, just be positive.’ I prefer to think realistic thoughts that are helpful. And sometimes the realistic, helpful thought is: This is not going to be easy, things are going downhills from here, but I can do this and that to deal with it, and if I am able to do that, I will handle the situation in a good enough way. Look forward, be real about the obstacles in front of you to try to manage them, instead of pretending they’re not there and crash into them with your eyes closed.
Looking back at my years of helping mom and caring for her, I surprise myself how I was able to do it all. Even though she was in a hospital, rehab and memory care, I had to be there daily because staff was limited and understaffed. I got to know them by being there everyday, and they told me things about procedures and helped me navigate problems better. When I needed things they knew me enough to get my mom things that would have been ignored. I made friends with a few of them and have been involved in their lives outside the facility. The more I poured into mom the more I poured into the facility and staff.
I feel bad for my Dad who is taking care of my Mom who is pretty deep into dementia. He was never much of a social person, my Mom was. So now he kooks himself away with her and the few non insane people he interacts with is me and my wife. I can't imagine what life is like when 95% of your waking day is spent ONLY with a person completely disconnected from reality. Can't even imagine what that does do your own psyche day after day, week after week, month after month with no end in sight except death for either one of them. We just do what we can to bring some joy back to both of their lives.
All things bright and beautiful, all creatures great and small, the Lord God made them all. We must count our blessings every day. A grateful heart will set us free. We are stronger than we think. Thanks for your insights.
Thank you for sharing this. I didn’t see your course in good time and it looks really helpful and great. I hope I see it in time next you do this type of course. It is amazing. A big thank you to you for all that you are doing for caregivers. Love to all - Dawn
Thank you for answering my post, have no idea when you sleep! CAught my wife in very animated conversation with her own image in our bathroom mirror; she even introduced me to her ‘ friend’
I cannot thank you enough for this video. I believe it will be life changing and saving. I can use the truths in my bible and my faith in Jesus to magnify this positive thoughts and care better for my mom and family. Bless you for your videos. I feel less alone in this journey❤️
Thank you Dr. Natali for this amazing reminder. You are giving us great info. Got my questions and my answers written and continuing to practice these realistic thoughts. 🥰 whatsoever thoughts are good and true. 💝😊
Yes I am dealing with these same thoughts, was never bitter before in my life. Now that I am taking care of my Mom, those bitter thoughts are right there every day.....
This video applies to all aspects of life, family discord, a divorce, manipulative and blaming friends or family, widow hood, aging, job stress, COVID, injury, making ends meet and THAT LITTLE VOICE IN YOUR HEAD.
Quality of Life...a phrase we banter about yet we do not have an answer to. My wife is in a memory care facility. She has been there for the past 10 months. Every one tells me that she will only get worse.Nothing will make her good again.currently she comunicates with me she will ask the same thing very often and she mostly remembers her history enough to seemingly understand when you talk to her.BUT next visit I can go over the same things I told her the last time and she seems to accept it as new information. And its only going to get worse........So what is her current quality of life?how does she see her life today...if at all? Jubs being alive I do not think is enough!
Looking at it through your eyes and brain that understands completely what is happening, you may not think she has much quality of life. But from her eyes, she doesn't see the situation as you do. Each day sounds like a new day to her. She might very well have quality of life in that interaction with you or at other times during the day, even if she forgets about it moments later. To get a better idea of her qualify of life reflect on how she seems vs you you see her doing. Hope that makes sense
I am so sorry you do not have good support right now. Sometimes your local area agency on aging can assist in finding good resources that you may qualify for. Wishing you the best.
Great focus guide. Again....Be in the past, be depressed. Be in the future, be anxious. Be in the present, be at peace.
Focus on the good in the past, be happy. Focus on the good in the future, be happy. Focus on the present, be at peace with it all.
This morning at the bird feeder there was a rufus sided towie, a ruby crested house finch, a sparrow some chickadees and several others. Each and every one carried a message of joy assuring me of a wonderful day!
Beautiful that you were able to appreciate these little messengers bringing you possible thoughts! ♥️
Another great tip and skill for a caregiver. I have been practicing this for about 2 year already. This is great reinforcement to remind myself to be kind. To keep doing the best I can in my role as a caregiver. I am grateful for people who are going above and beyond to support caregivers. Keep up the great work.
Great video. Very helpful tips.
Dr. Natali, THANK YOU! You are a most insightful person. All my life I have been plagued by childhood admonitions that "Tim, you can do better". As a result, I still sabotage myself with procrastination and 'laziness'. Clearly this is not serving me well and I am resolved to counteract this thought with actual evidence of my successes in all areas of my life (financial, friends, service work, life outlook, etc.).
Life is short, be loving. You never know when it will come to an abrupt end.
I really love the fact that you used the term ‘realistic’ instead of ‘positive’. I have bad experience with ‘positive’ people because they often refuse to see reality, and when you try to explain them your situation, they shut you down with ‘don’t be so negative, just be positive.’ I prefer to think realistic thoughts that are helpful. And sometimes the realistic, helpful thought is: This is not going to be easy, things are going downhills from here, but I can do this and that to deal with it, and if I am able to do that, I will handle the situation in a good enough way. Look forward, be real about the obstacles in front of you to try to manage them, instead of pretending they’re not there and crash into them with your eyes closed.
Absolutely, Tilla! ❤️
Looking back at my years of helping mom and caring for her, I surprise myself how I was able to do it all.
Even though she was in a hospital, rehab and memory care, I had to be there daily because staff was limited and understaffed. I got to know them by being there everyday, and they told me things about procedures and helped me navigate problems better. When I needed things they knew me enough to get my mom things that would have been ignored. I made friends with a few of them and have been involved in their lives outside the facility. The more I poured into mom the more I poured into the facility and staff.
Thank you for what you shared here. I am in the same situation and I thought I am doing something wrong.
And Yes-Jesus IsGod
Natalie I cant tell you how much this has helped me. Thank you!
I feel bad for my Dad who is taking care of my Mom who is pretty deep into dementia. He was never much of a social person, my Mom was. So now he kooks himself away with her and the few non insane people he interacts with is me and my wife. I can't imagine what life is like when 95% of your waking day is spent ONLY with a person completely disconnected from reality. Can't even imagine what that does do your own psyche day after day, week after week, month after month with no end in sight except death for either one of them. We just do what we can to bring some joy back to both of their lives.
It is wonderful that you and your wife are able to provide them with this support.
All things bright and beautiful, all creatures great and small, the Lord God made them all. We must count our blessings every day. A grateful heart will set us free. We are stronger than we think. Thanks for your insights.
Thank you for sharing this. I didn’t see your course in good time and it looks really helpful and great. I hope I see it in time next you do this type of course. It is amazing. A big thank you to you for all that you are doing for caregivers. Love to all - Dawn
No one is helping my mom and me , my sister has turned her back on us. I endure to the end.
Thank you for answering my post, have no idea when you sleep!
CAught my wife in very animated conversation with her own image in our bathroom mirror; she even introduced me to her ‘ friend’
I don’t know how much longer I can do this.
I found telling myself to just get thru the next 10 minutes helped me. I am sorry. You are doing an amazing job ❤
evidence for the joy set before me, I will look back at this time with joy. Mom and I did it!
What can I do to be happy today17:30. Thank you these reminders to think more realistically and presented In a teachable way ❤
This is practical and really helpful, thank you!
Thank you 🍀
I cannot thank you enough for this video. I believe it will be life changing and saving. I can use the truths in my bible and my faith in Jesus to magnify this positive thoughts and care better for my mom and family. Bless you for your videos. I feel less alone in this journey❤️
excellent video. I will try to apply these to my own life.
That I am a good caregiver and I do a good job!
I can enjoy her without resentment. She won't be here forever and I don't want any regret.
I LOVE that new though, Judith! So much more empowering than feeling like you must be resentful.
Powerful stuff Thanks
Thank you Dr. Natali for this amazing reminder. You are giving us great info. Got my questions and my answers written and continuing to practice these realistic thoughts. 🥰 whatsoever thoughts are good and true. 💝😊
I'm glad you went through the exercises!
I resent giving up my life even though I love my mother and want to be with her.
Yes I am dealing with these same thoughts, was never bitter before in my life. Now that I am taking care of my Mom, those bitter thoughts are right there every day.....
Im doing the best I can....
where do you go to assist a senior that is not placed in the proper facility we need help and Social Service will not talk with us?
Maybe call alzheimers assoc? You will get a live person at almost any time of day.
Very good.
practice, practice, practice .... 👍
This video applies to all aspects of life, family discord, a divorce, manipulative and blaming friends or family, widow hood, aging, job stress, COVID, injury, making ends meet and THAT LITTLE VOICE IN YOUR HEAD.
Quality of Life...a phrase we banter about yet we do not have an answer to. My wife is in a memory care facility. She has been there for the past 10 months. Every one tells me that she will only get worse.Nothing will make her good again.currently she comunicates with me she will ask the same thing very often and she mostly remembers her history enough to seemingly understand when you talk to her.BUT next visit I can go over the same things I told her the last time and she seems to accept it as new information. And its only going to get worse........So what is her current quality of life?how does she see her life today...if at all? Jubs being alive I do not think is enough!
Looking at it through your eyes and brain that understands completely what is happening, you may not think she has much quality of life. But from her eyes, she doesn't see the situation as you do. Each day sounds like a new day to her. She might very well have quality of life in that interaction with you or at other times during the day, even if she forgets about it moments later. To get a better idea of her qualify of life reflect on how she seems vs you you see her doing. Hope that makes sense
thank you it does@@DementiaCareblazers
Being an unpaid caretaker is the worst.
Yep!!!!
Your rewards will be more than financial. You will have no regrets, knowing you did your best. 🕊
Are you wearing the new Apple 7 watch?
No, it's a Garmin watch
I feel trapped. Have had no time away for over two years and there is no help from the so called age well.
I am so sorry you do not have good support right now. Sometimes your local area agency on aging can assist in finding good resources that you may qualify for. Wishing you the best.
@@DementiaCareblazers The agency has no one . There are two other family's looking for help.
Thank you!