You are so-o right. Early on when my husband first started confusing me with other people, I focused too much on the dementia trying to "fix" him and he wouldn't cooperate with me. One day he shocked me by saying "Maybe if you act more like my wife I will remember you are my wife." It suddenly hit me that I wasn't acting like his loving and caring wife anymore. No wonder he thought I was a stranger. When I backed off on trying to control him and focused on being a loving and caring companion things got so much better. He needs a lot of help these days with things. He appreciates and accepts my help as long as I remember to be his loving wife.
Just wow! Sweetheart, we ALL become different when we are caring for an immediate family caregiver. No matter what your relationship WAS, you now become the mother….if you are female, and father…if you’re male…”God bless us everyone!”
Yes, I tried and it worked! Our relationship became so much better and he accepted my HELP easier. What a difference if I could remember to do it. I was able to keep him in our home of 45 years until the end. Made even more good memories.
Thank you so much for offering these lessons on youtube. You have no idea how calmer and more assured after I watch them. Whenever I’m really stressed , you’re there, so thank you very much!
My loved one (a friend with a strong personality) is practically bed-bound, can't perform any of the ADLs, hasn't been officially diagnosed and refuses help. Knowing they live like this is heart-breaking, and it's affecting my health.
Your channel is so important and while I'm not caring for anyone at present, someday I may need/want to...it's nice to know people like you are here with good advice and help. Thank you for what you do.
The key word is perseverance ! I’ve had success following your advice so everything you are saying is the best advice to follow relationship is the key to succeed!
I so agree with you. Sometimes I find myself thinking he should understand I need some time or why can't he understand something I am doing or talking about. I know he can't help it but, he has been my hubby for 51 years now and, I miss talking to him about everything ! He doesn't want to eat now, or bathe etc. I get more done though by being sweet and kind. He would never do what I ask if I was harsh with him. He wants to cling to me like my shadow. (95 % of the time I don't mind but, it is hard. So I just let things go and be with him as he needs me. Everybody, remember they cannot help it ! the brain is changing and there is very little you can do about that. Love them while you can and if you can't deal with all of it get help ! God bless us all and I wish you all a wonderful and blessed New Year !
Sometimes just listening to them with renewed interest helps a relationship. All very good tips to improve the relationship, it’s a process and takes time. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for all of the invaluable information. It has already helped VERY much in our Family situation. You're videos have been an incredible help.
Good morning to Dr thank you for your advice on dementia,I usually read them to my husband who has dementia,I am trying to Cope with the situation .quite a few things he is doing so I try to correct him.i am only hoping he would not get any worse.he gets confused with putting his clothes on for instance putting the pyjama pants on as his night shirt , or putting his T-shirt on as his underwear and them put the shorts on top.i usually peep at him while he is dressing so as to help.He just don't like going up,lately he stared to come out with me but he just don't like crowds.His dinner he picks out spinach from his rice, I have to buy vanilla ice cream not he will pick the nuts ,of raisins etc out.we have our children and grands photos on the wall,he said they are laughing with him,and they are sleeping in his house i told him that is our family.our children born in UK When they comes on video he is asking who they are and if they lived here.they are a few more things as well.i am wishing you a prosperous and blessed New year for 2022.God bless,My husband name is Arthur ,and I am Gloria. Thank you. In Barbados.
I am so fortunate to have always had a very close relationship with my daddy before he lost his mind ( even before dementia showed up😏) and he divorced my mom after 39 years of marriage 😔. But i am happy to say that in spite of all the turmoil my mother and my siblings and i have worked through it and have forgiven dad and said what needed to be said while we had the chance . It has been tough to see him suffer the heartache of .” Walking away from a beautiful woman”, as he is going back through the divorce over and over again as he is reliving his long term memories 😢. It is painful to relive those sad months😔. But as I promised him from the first diagnosis, I am on this journey with him to the last breath ❤️.
As always, the interventions with the rational that supports what is recommended is motivating and eye opening. Thanks and warm regards. Happy New Year to all Careblazers 💚💯
Thank you for sending me the email with a link to this video. I care for my husband and we still have a good relationship. I am signed up to your ten day challenge and looking forward to that journey. Happy new year to you and all care blazers.
Great analogy about the person in a coma. I’ve been using several of these strategies and they’ve been working well, for me and for my loved on with dementia. Both of us!!
My loved one is continuously getting angry with the government and his health care team. Spends much time on the phone telling people that they need to do this or that. Many people he calls do not know him so they try to talk with him but he doesn’t believe they are treating him well. For months I tried to convince him of what was really happening in a situation but now I have given up. If I don’t get involved in these skirmishes he just keeps it up and calls others to rant his opinion.
Seasons Greetings Dr. My LOWD is also a substance addict, and while I have been trying to make sure she takes her meds as prescribed, her addiction is most often the trigger for an outburst! I am seriously considering MC?!
I will never have a great relationship with my mom because I have a bipolar sister who my mom has totally forgotten is bipolar and I have picked up the pieces for my mom regarding caring for my sister for the past 43 years since my dad died at the age of 48. My mom is now 91, and seems mad at me because my sister everyday is asking her for money and help and now I am the bad guy for not giving it to her in her eyes. Seriously, is anyone out there who can relate to this on any level?
Can you please tell me how to take care of my Mom as she has dementia and is a paranoid schizophrenia (developed after four botched breast cancer surgeries). She is violent has hit me with her metal cane and left bruises. I can’t retire to take care of her full time as I am only 58 years old and have to work full time to support us. She refused to take her medication for the paranoid schizophrenia and refuses to see a psychiatrist. I am trying my best to keep my Mom out of the nursing home. Any assistance you can provide will be greatly appreciated.
I don't believe all of these things work. I know they do. I keep on doing these things and more, there is a but... A thing to remember, she is sliding, regressing. Keep doing these things anyway. I like the idea, and fact, that I am making her life better by letting go of what she has no choice of letting go of. I revisit her regressions, with her, most of them are permanent. Just part of the process, holding on, to let go.
Hello, I would really like to try this, but I do not have a FB account. Is there a website where I can take this class or is it only through facebook. Please let me know.
Its not always possible to improve the relationship. The dementia patient can often be obstinate and nasty and unbending. Trying very hard with my mother inlaw with whom I never really had much of a close relationship.Not working
You are so-o right. Early on when my husband first started confusing me with other people, I focused too much on the dementia trying to "fix" him and he wouldn't cooperate with me. One day he shocked me by saying "Maybe if you act more like my wife I will remember you are my wife." It suddenly hit me that I wasn't acting like his loving and caring wife anymore. No wonder he thought I was a stranger. When I backed off on trying to control him and focused on being a loving and caring companion things got so much better. He needs a lot of help these days with things. He appreciates and accepts my help as long as I remember to be his loving wife.
Just wow! Sweetheart, we ALL become different when we are caring for an immediate family caregiver. No matter what your relationship WAS, you now become the mother….if you are female, and father…if you’re male…”God bless us everyone!”
Yes, I tried and it worked! Our relationship became so much better and he accepted my HELP easier. What a difference if I could remember to do it. I was able to keep him in our home of 45 years until the end. Made even more good memories.
Thank you so much for offering these lessons on youtube. You have no idea how calmer and more assured after I watch them. Whenever I’m really stressed , you’re there, so thank you very much!
My loved one (a friend with a strong personality) is practically bed-bound, can't perform any of the ADLs, hasn't been officially diagnosed and refuses help. Knowing they live like this is heart-breaking, and it's affecting my health.
You are right it is a "hard pill to swallow" that WE have to change when the relationship was already not dealt fairly.
Your channel is so important and while I'm not caring for anyone at present, someday I may need/want to...it's nice to know people like you are here with good advice and help. Thank you for what you do.
Thanks for sharing this information.
The key word is perseverance ! I’ve had success following your advice so everything you are saying is the best advice to follow relationship is the key to succeed!
Thanks for your support
I so agree with you. Sometimes I find myself thinking he should understand I need some time or why can't he understand something I am doing or talking about. I know he can't help it but, he has been my hubby for 51 years now and, I miss talking to him about everything ! He doesn't want to eat now, or bathe etc. I get more done though by being sweet and kind. He would never do what I ask if I was harsh with him. He wants to cling to me like my shadow. (95 % of the time I don't mind but, it is hard. So I just let things go and be with him as he needs me. Everybody, remember they cannot help it ! the brain is changing and there is very little you can do about that. Love them while you can and if you can't deal with all of it get help ! God bless us all and I wish you all a wonderful and blessed New Year !
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Sometimes just listening to them with renewed interest helps a relationship. All very good tips to improve the relationship, it’s a process and takes time. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for all of the invaluable information. It has already helped VERY much in our Family situation. You're videos have been an incredible help.
This is so right on in my experience.
Thankyou for this seed of hope❤️🇨🇦
I’m just at the beginning of my journey and I want to thank you! My mom has just had her MRI
Good morning to Dr thank you for your advice on dementia,I usually read them to my husband who has dementia,I am trying to Cope with the situation .quite a few things he is doing so I try to correct him.i am only hoping he would not get any worse.he gets confused with putting his clothes on for instance putting the pyjama pants on as his night shirt , or putting his T-shirt on as his underwear and them put the shorts on top.i usually peep at him while he is dressing so as to help.He just don't like going up,lately he stared to come out with me but he just don't like crowds.His dinner he picks out spinach from his rice, I have to buy vanilla ice cream not he will pick the nuts ,of raisins etc out.we have our children and grands photos on the wall,he said they are laughing with him,and they are sleeping in his house i told him that is our family.our children born in UK
When they comes on video he is asking who they are and if they lived here.they are a few more things as well.i am wishing you a prosperous and blessed New year for 2022.God bless,My husband name is Arthur ,and I am Gloria. Thank you. In Barbados.
Sorry for you and your husband but take care of him my prayers are with you
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Thank you for your excellent advice.
I am so fortunate to have always had a very close relationship with my daddy before he lost his mind ( even before dementia showed up😏) and he divorced my mom after 39 years of marriage 😔.
But i am happy to say that in spite of all the turmoil my mother and my siblings and i have worked through it and have forgiven dad and said what needed to be said while we had the chance .
It has been tough to see him suffer the heartache of .” Walking away from a beautiful woman”, as he is going back through the divorce over and over again as he is reliving his long term memories 😢.
It is painful to relive those sad months😔.
But as I promised him from the first diagnosis, I am on this journey with him to the last breath ❤️.
Please contact Doctor Akhigbe to get his herbal medication to cure dementia
Message him on Whats App
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Amazing..I wish you both well on your journey
As always, the interventions with the rational that supports what is recommended is motivating and eye opening. Thanks and warm regards. Happy New Year to all Careblazers 💚💯
Wonderful message today! Let's have a great year!
I am going to try.
Thank you for sending me the email with a link to this video. I care for my husband and we still have a good relationship. I am signed up to your ten day challenge and looking forward to that journey. Happy new year to you and all care blazers.
I think this is good advice for all relationships
Thank you, Dr. Natalie...I so needed this video today. Happy New Year!
Happy New Year!!!
Thank you, thank you, thank you
Happy New Year Dr. Natalie! You give very good advice! You are spot on!👍
I know what you said does work did it with my hubby!
This past year was the beginning of this journey with my spouse. Thank you for your help.
Thank you for this, it shows me that I have been doing the right things.
Very helpful
Great analogy about the person in a coma. I’ve been using several of these strategies and they’ve been working well, for me and for my loved on with dementia. Both of us!!
Contact Doctor Akhigbe get yourself a Herbal medicine for your cure.
Message him on Whats App
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My loved one is continuously getting angry with the government and his health care team. Spends much time on the phone telling people that they need to do this or that. Many people he calls do not know him so they try to talk with him but he doesn’t believe they are treating him well. For months I tried to convince him of what was really happening in a situation but now I have given up. If I don’t get involved in these skirmishes he just keeps it up and calls others to rant his opinion.
Praise God 🙌
I am definitely going to try this.
I'm so glad you will give this a try! 💖
Very good
Seasons Greetings Dr.
My LOWD is also a substance addict, and while I have been trying to make sure she takes her meds as prescribed, her addiction is most often the trigger for an outburst! I am seriously considering MC?!
I will never have a great relationship with my mom because I have a bipolar sister who my mom has totally forgotten is bipolar and I have picked up the pieces for my mom regarding caring for my sister for the past 43 years since my dad died at the age of 48. My mom is now 91, and seems mad at me because my sister everyday is asking her for money and help and now I am the bad guy for not giving it to her in her eyes. Seriously, is anyone out there who can relate to this on any level?
Please contact Doctor Akhigbe to get his herbal medication to cure these diseases
Message him on Whats App
✝️ 2348140126449🇳🇬🇳🇬⏭️⏭️❤️❤️❤️
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Can you please tell me how to take care of my Mom as she has dementia and is a paranoid schizophrenia (developed after four botched breast cancer surgeries). She is violent has hit me with her metal cane and left bruises. I can’t retire to take care of her full time as I am only 58 years old and have to work full time to support us. She refused to take her medication for the paranoid schizophrenia and refuses to see a psychiatrist. I am trying my best to keep my Mom out of the nursing home. Any assistance you can provide will be greatly appreciated.
I'm no expert but your Mom seems like a prime candidate for a nursing home. Sorry you are experiencing this.
I don't believe all of these things work. I know they do.
I keep on doing these things and more, there is a but...
A thing to remember, she is sliding, regressing. Keep doing these things anyway.
I like the idea, and fact, that I am making her life better by letting go of what she has no choice of letting go of.
I revisit her regressions, with her, most of them are permanent.
Just part of the process, holding on, to let go.
Do you not use Pay Pal for billing ?
Hello, I would really like to try this, but I do not have a FB account. Is there a website where I can take this class or is it only through facebook. Please let me know.
If you don't have facebook, replay links (off of FB) are emailed out daily starting on day #2. :)
@@DementiaCareblazers okay, thanks!
How can I support this channel with a donation?
Everything is good till it’s bath time, someone visits, we are in public, or I’m having conversation on the phone.
My wife was diagnosed with dementia three years ago and she wants nothing to do with me
My heart understands how hard that must be for you. I hope 2022 is better.
Very good knowledge! Thanks so much for your videos. They help me so much with my husband who was diagnosed 3 years ago.
BUT WHAT IF THEY DON'T NO MATTER WHAT????????
Its not always possible to improve the relationship. The dementia patient can often be obstinate and nasty and unbending. Trying very hard with my mother inlaw with whom I never really had much of a close relationship.Not working
I can’t get him to take his medication
Can you grind it up and put it in some apple sauce or pudding or a fruit smoothie?
Thankyou and Happy New Year!