Building Transman Sexual Confidence
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
- This discussion is between 2 trans guys who have had sexual experiences with new partners after transition-- it is to share feelings, information & success. Add your thoughts or questions, the fact is that the trans sexual experience is kept hidden & therefore is easily misunderstood or intimidating, by talking about it openly we help to deconstruct fears as well as misconceptions. This is simply two peoples perspective, but it's just the tip of the ice berg... Just the tip (lol)
Omg this is the most fucking awesome video! And so glad you mentioned that "oh Im not worried about pleasing the ladies, but what about..me". So many good points guys!:) Nail on the head
I'm so glad you are out there watching buddy! My sideburns still don't connect! I miss your face-- we gotta hang out one day.
Where the hell did you go man?!
I totally consider this a blessing- no child support, no stress or bookings on the Jerry Springer show
Thank-you, so much guys ! Being an older transman, I am 45 years old and began my transition at the age of 38. I was married with 2 children. For the last 7 years, I haven't been with anyone. And watching your video's, I am beginning to think it is time to go out and start dating and start living ! I have been on the T for 6 years and had top surgery Feb. 3 2011. Thank you, again in helping me realize that I have a lot to offer to the right person.
this gives me hope for the future. well done guys, this video takes the cake for sure! *fist bump
I'm glad you enjoyed it! It's scary putting something like this out there, but for trans people to share these perspectives is important sometimes! Educational.
Great vid guys. I was pretty settled in the thought of living my life alone and thinking even if someone would want to have sex with me It would make me too uncomfortable. Boy was I wrong. I an now engaged to the love of my life and she loves me just the way I am. In fact she keeps forgetting that I am Trans, and will moan about her period and be all " you don't know what it's liiiiike" that always cracks me up but also makes me feel so ..normal.We have great sex, having fun and trying new ways to make things work is half of the fun.
ThemCrookdVultures congratz! Happy for you
Thanks for sharing your success story here! It's very special and more common than not. I remember as a teenager being so frustrated about my body not feeling at home or making sense-- I thought: yeah, there's no point in having sex ever, I probably will be alone forever. Like you said-- boy was I wrong!!!!! Congrats for you man!
Great & informative video guys! They always are... Keep up the good work!
Why did you stop making vids? Keep going, even now.
I never had an issue meeting women and getting into relationships before I transitioned and I was quite butchy. But now that I'm seen as male all the women I date eventually have to be told I'm trans and then they usually tell me they can't date me anymore. I've told women right away and I've waited for a few dates but they always tell me I'm a great guy but they just can't do it. It's really getting depressing and beyond sexually frustrating!
This is a common occurrence. Women seemed to feel much more comfortable approaching me & flirting in that cute butch lady form, now it's like telling someone: I'm an alien, when I say I'm trans. It is fear that makes them think it's impossible, that they, "can't do it" but they are picturing it strangely is all-- or they can't picture it. If a woman is misled into thinking I have a "woman body" and that is her hesitation I correct it best I can. For romance and sex I got it all. Recently, a girl I know well in a moment of sexual tension mentioned she would like to get pregnant, and wouldn't want to start things with me. And that was a true feeling of helplessness, I could only agree and feel a little sorry for myself there in that moment. We'll just hang in there bro!
The way you describe the sexual anatomy is EXACTLY like trans women, but opposite. I mean the whole "wiring" thing. The brain says one thing, and the body underperforms. That's exactly how I feel about my body too!
I am LOVING your channel. Learning lots. Congrats! Y'all are adorable. Much love from this trans woman ;)
Thank you so much! I love the mirrors we are for one another. To me this is a very relatable experience both from a trans to trans perspective as well as trans to cis, I don't think our experience is difficult for anyone to relate to! Did this video give you some confidence too? I am thankful for your comment, I love that people are still checking out my videos even though I've been away for a while. I'll make a come back soon with some more good stuff. Come back to visit!
ClosetTransgender I definitely will! I found you by chance in the search.
I am also friends with Dana :) would be lovely to know you! XO
thank you guys this was really helpful. I've been trying to figure out my gender identity and this is one of the most helpful or reassuring videos I've seen.
Thanks for posting this video. I had been having some issues and I wasn't too sure how to vocalize them, this definitely helped me understand some of my own issues and what I can do to help myself with them. So, thanks again! You two are great :)
This is such a sweet comment! Thank you for taking the time to write that, it's very special to me to hear! Happy trails!
very educational. . :) thanks for sharing guys ♡
I'm feeling conflicted about this video. It's reassuring to know that the potential female partner won't mind the missing parts much, and that I'd still be able to please her, but the messengers are handsome, young white transmen - and I look nothing like that.
Yessss...trans* guys, talk about this more!!!
another good video,it was informative and also pretty funny the way you two sort of joke/play around a bit.Thankyou for being so honest :)
Thank you, it's scary to talk about intimacy publicly, but our experience is widely misunderstood and information needs to accumulate. There's all kinds of things happening!
Forest,
So many people look up to you and depend on you for the information you provide.People that you have never met and may never meet think the world of you.I have soo much respect for you.Thankyou for responding to my message.Take care&keep up the good work. :)
She still needs to work, who likes to have sex if you’re not attracted or turned on- the thing with the rubbers, we all still have to worry about STD’s- you guys are hysterical- good job on the video
The ending made me smile lol
Love hearing about the smiles! Glad you are out there!
Woooo love this full with cool energy
That was some great perspectives from two different guys. I liked the perspective approach of your guest and the means of extending what you've been blessed with. Perhaps more needs to be discussed about about why many cis guys assume that they need to make the first move with women. Also, perhaps more could be examined about why the expressed need to procreate on a planet that is headed towards a sixth mass extinction event.
Sex & sexuality open the door for many interesting, exciting & controversial topics, I hear ya Vern.
tobyr3 brilliant!! i'm so happy about this!!!
Thanks so much
Y'all are so cute ☺️☺️☺️
Once again, this is a great video. I swear you're like the nicest person on earth. It help us so much the info and the cheering you give us. And It's admirable how positive you always are. A lot of us feel or have felt sad, confused and having so much in our heads that lead us to think that we'll never be able to be happy. But we must embrace what we have and put it at its best use. We'll never have a real dick, but it's smth we have to accept as time goes. It's sad but does procrastinating our life worth it? Of course not. And I love what you replied to other comment. As we grow older, our body will change, and it won't be so importanr, so crucial for relations as we consider it now to be. We'll lose our young bodies, our fresh faces, and we'll only have left our minds and our personalities/hearts. And that'll be all that matters to the person/people that we love. This ended up being a very deep and meaningful video :')
LoveKorea4887 I am thankful for your comment, great points!!
great video!
GREAT Topic coverage. I was talking with my gender therapist about a similar topic and he gave me some brilliant advice. He said "No matter the size of your Penis, even if it is small, penises come in all shapes and sizes" This is a very empowering way to think. Just thought I'd share.
Great Video guys... thanks for that discussion. I'm a pansexual polyamorus guy currently looking to start a triad relationship.. This helps..
My story is one of a sad one.
Stacy Hjelle what do you mean, my friend?
Dudes great video
you're so cute Sid!
The realdoe is fucking awesome.
Hahaha 8" hahaha
It's actually a good topic to transguys that is really good conversation. To hear about , FTM IS alittle harder to complete transition, to MTF,
But thank you to you both for sharing !
How about ladyboys how do you feel about a transman with a Tgirl ?
That is an interesting question that takes time to answer and varies from person to person. I think for me women come in various shapes, sizes and colors and I'm attracted to femininity & feminine forms. There are different hidden struggles within every woman, one may have cancer, or may struggle with always giggling, and then a boyfriend has to ask--- am I strong enough to be with her through a difficult disease? Or in the lighter example: am I patient enough to tolerate this annoying giggle? There are many things that make or break a relationship. I don't chase transwomen, but if in a dance club I was drawn to a woman & we had amazing chemistry and it came to light that she was trans-- would I drop her like a fly? No way, I'd get to know her more and we'd learn as we went maybe she'd have a shrieking giggle and I'd have to say good bye. You never know !
Hot hot ur hotness.
Great video! T is poison :(
Yeah well what about if you're a gay trans guy. A top at that? Who wouldn't be comfortable ever bottoming. How the hell am I supposed to live with that? :|||
+Sete DiSangue don't worry, there are plenty of hot gay cis men who are happy to date or hook up with transmen. Gay men even marry gay transmen, so do not feel left out. Transguys are in demand by both cis men & women. My buddy in the video has had positive experiences with men & women. Love what you got, say what you want and that automatically makes you sexy. If you go to my channel, I've interviewed gay transguys in the past-- I just saw a great video about a transguys who hooked up with a gay guy and loved being topped, it was new for him & awesome. Just google some more, you will find inspiration.
Haha at the lot of kids comment
Giggly, pointless conversation of a woman's brain though.