You’re a good lad and you’re definitely not alone. Fair play for coming out and saying what you did. You will inspire other people to do the same. Best of luck to you mate
well done mate its hard at the start if you are wanting to stop but keep at it that excuse for me oh ill just drink at the weekend wont work cause having the drink would make me want more so had to stop it completely anyways keep it up man :)
you are a good man.. obviously dedicated to your family.. alcohol is a poison and a sure fire way to an early grave. realization is a good step to sorting it out.. but it`s upto you my lad. i love your food reviews, please keep them up
I'm 60 , been an alcoholic for 40 years, been off the booze for 6 days, can't believe this video just came on at random, I'm indoors as I speak scared to go outdoors, wish me luck anybody. 😢. God give me strength. If I can get by another 6 days i think I might just make it.
Keep fighting bud, it will be difficult but worth it, you'll start to feel healthy and eventually start finding hobbies to spend your money on,there's so many interesting things out there to keep you occupied, be strong, all the best mate
My dad is an alcoholic. Breaks my heart to see him slowly kill himself. Now he has cancer and has had to sober up for surgery. He’s 5 days sober. He doesn’t want to stay sober so I know it won’t last. God bless you and give you strength each day to beat this.
Keep going minute by minute if you have to. Keep yourself as safe as you can in the early days and your strength will come. Good luck and much love to you.
Laying yourself bare to all is very very brave. You didn't have to do that. Gareth , thousands of people watch your informative and funny videos, you are a likeable chap with many blessings . More power to you, you have taken the first and hardest step, now stop beating yourself up and concentrate on your health and wellbeing. Good luck we are all with you. X
I hope it all good well I been off the beer for 6 months now I been drinking from the age of 16 and iam 48 now so I have stop hope it go ok for you and you family hope to see some food video soon
@@MrAntsdad Look for an alternative stress reducer. An evening run or brisk walk, alternative health such as meditation, hypnosis CDs/downloads, an absorbing hobby. Good luck.🧡
Was randomly served up this video. I have 290 days without alcohol, and I am down 55 lbs. The first few days sucked, but I was sick and tired of all the lies, deception, money being spent, memory lost, and all the negativity that goes along with being drunk all the time. I was completely unreliable to my loved ones, and I just woke up one day and knew that I had enough. I cannot recommend enough that you take up walking/running/bike riding etc, and do it every day. The change you will see in your body serves as a support in keeping you off the booze and shitty food. There were a couple of times that I have craved a beer and had a 0% Non-alcoholic beer, and it honestly does the job. It tastes like a beer, and that is about it. I've quit drinking many times (often for a month+ at a time), but this last time was completely different for me. There isn't a shred of my being that wants to go back to being a drunk, and I finally feel like there isn't baggage that I am having to carry around. You have to want to quit.
usually when a man is told he's being a "real man" its something that benefits women. I agree, this lad has some balls and is doing a lot of people a favour making this public.
I know a fine young man. Who id live to forward this to him. He really needs to listen to this. But I'm afraid he won't watch it. I wish he could learn from your experience. Good luck with your uphill struggle. May you have the strength to succeed.😊
You got this Brother! I drank a gallon of whiskey a day for almost 15 years. Thats when I was an Executive Chef. I quit in 2011, and soon after got a Masters Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and now help others for a living. Go with the Flow. You will end up somewhere Beautiful!!!
Good on you. My father quit in 1997 when I was 14. It was the best choice he ever made. We're very close now, and I can't thank him enough for choosing us over Budweiser.
30+ years for me, and I agree, it's the best thing I ever did, for myself and my loved ones. I joined AA terrified that I'd have to lay my soul bare to all those drunks (lol) but never have I been among such understanding, loving and HONEST people. I feared I'd find out I was really a horrible person deep down - instead I found out I'm just a person - and not a bad one at all. I made stupid mistakes because of alcoholic thinking, but being honest with myself about all that set me free. I've had a great life with much love and joy. You're very courageous for sharing your self-discovery. Hang in there, there will be hard and painful moments but there will come a time when you marvel at what good this decision has done for you. Best wishes!
60 years ago, my grandmother pointed out a woman in the street and said 'That's the landlord's wife from the Black Swan, and she's wearing my fur coat'.
What a message to people struggling with alcohol!! I too was a beer drinker all of the things you said were what I was!! I am free from it thanks to the Lord Jesus Christ he can and will change your life if you ask! I did ask and I am free from the chains and bondage of alcohol. I am 60 years old and drank for many years and I am struggling with the consequences of my actions. Please remember everyone out there that even when you change you still have the consequences!! That was a choice I made and there are consequences to OUR choices!
13 years ago I admitted to myself that my life had become unmanageable and quit the drink. I’m truly happy at last. Your kidneys and liver will thank you.
I lost my Father at 58, his Father I never knew died in the streets. My 38 yr old nephew lost his battle! I pray for strength and peace for you. God Bless you🙏
Your blunt honesty, wow. I wish strength for you as you get sober. As a child of an alcoholic parent, I say with certainty that your sobriety is the best gift you’ll ever give yourself and your family. ❤
That took guts to stand in front of everyone and bare your soul, use the same strength and fortitude of your character to see yourself through the breakup of your relationship with booze and always remember you have myself and 95.4K subscribers watching you very very closely. Mr BFG you a a legend.
Takes alot of guts to do this. Chinese Proverb A man who blames others has a long journey to go. A man who blames himself is halfway there. A man who blames no one is already there. I wish you all the best sir.
'Only God can make a drunk sober' I heard this after suffering for 14 yrs. I finally met Jesus in 1987 at a condemned building. Straitgate Church rented rooms here for services having no main base. A big blue bus brought us there. It was myself, spouse and two children. I was fresh brought back from a hospice bed , and did not die. Univesity of Minn Hospital gave up on me and sent me home to die. Anyway after some time we arrived at this condemned building and I did not want to go in there. It was all boarded up with broken doors and windows. I said God wouldn't be here. Then I heard a small prompting and it said 'Wasn't you condemned when I found you?' Yet I visited you, come'. So I changed my mind and we went in. I found my Savior at this place. I was never so glad in all my life! Sober since 1987! Thank you brother,
I clicked on the video because of the thumbnail, you have wounds I recognise so well from looking in the mirror. Although I did lose everything, my first marriage, my business and my career as a chef. Then the doctor told me with a straight face that I wasn’t going to live to be forty. That was Monday 23/01/95 and the day after was my first sober day of 29.5years. If I can do this you can, it doesn’t matter if you’re a 24/7 drinker like I was or a binge drinker like it sounds you could be, when it’s messing up your life quit. There’s lots of support out there, I did it with AA but there’s many other methods like AVRT. I've a brilliant relationship with my daughters, my now wife and adult grandchildren have never seen me drink, I got a law degree, an amazing career in welfare and disabilities and I’m still alive at 64. You got this, you’ve took the toughest step and you’ve bravely done it publicly. I wish you well.
Hey brother, professional addict. I was 7 years sober. Hopped back on the wagon. Now again, two years with no more alcohol. Still breaks my heart when I drive past the liquor store. Love and miss it every day. ❤
42 years old (Dutch guy, Iraq and Afghanistan vet) here and within the first few sentences I knew this was about alcohol. Been struggling a lot the past 2 decades but almost 3 weeks sober now. Stay strong brother, I also have a 7 year old and I know what you're talking about.
You can do this. Please, call on the name of Jesus. Give this to God. He is there to help us and promises never to leave us. God is SO good. Keep the faith, read the bible, pray and believe. Keep going!!
I read a lot of comments from people who do carnivore diet, it’s easy for them to quit any thing that makes them in bondage. Include prayers too, it’s a pride when you need help and you don’t ask God for help. God’s love you
I am in exactly the same place at 52yrs old only I am 45days no drinking. Enough is enough. Once you honestly look at yourself and decide I don't wanna do that any more, it makes it so much easier to get on with learning how to do life without it. I am awed at your courage to be so open about it.
I quit drinking after I started having bad heartburn everytime. After a night hovered over the toilet and puking uncontrollably, I asked God to forgive me and to take away the desire to drink as I wanted nothing to do with it anymore. After that looking at alcohol disgusts me. Ask God from the heart and he'll free you from bondage. Blessings brother.
Lost my best friend 2 years ago to alcohol related liver failure and heavy fatty deposits in the brain, he was 35 years old, there isnt a day that goes by without thinking about him in some way.
Any man that bears their soul and has the strength to stand up to their demons has my respect. You’ve shown you’re a man of principle you can do this. All the best
You’ll do it. You’re strong enough. Say a Prayer every morning and every evening. Get used to coco cola. Contact Trevor…you know him. He’s a good bud and support guy.
@@cathynewyork7918 ….MORE RESPECT?…..no. I didn’t know you were perfect w/ no faults. It’s what you are doing NOW, IN THE MOMENT to make yourself better. We all fall down, in different ways. Bald Foodie Guy is bearing his guts and has to climb a mountain EVERY DAY to keep his soul in joy. I RESPECT his dedication to be doing the right thing. Yesterday is gone……..Today is why we live.
@@winkieblink7625 I have NEVER been weak enough to use drugs, alcohol or cigarettes, so NO, NO RESPECT for a man 51 years old who cannot control himself.
The hardest part is saying all this out loud to yourself, even harder saying it to the world. We're here now, and we have your back. Stay strong, there is a much better life on the other side of this.
My deepest respect for standing up like this, I love you do this and this will benefit others too. Speaking of addiction, 93% of the population are addicted to something, so it is lets say at least pretty normal. I was thinking about stop smoking for almost 20 years. Then suddenly I got cancer, and stopped the same second I was diagnosed - and ever since. It is hard to do if you don't have motivation, mine was the anxiety for an early death. Beside of your children's possible bad experiences before, they also need a loving dad, that's a positive motivation. To have a loving dad includes making the right choices for yourself food-vise for both physical and mental health. Do it for yourself, and others will benefit.
I'm a 51 year old male. Been drinking for 30 years. A bottle of red wine every night for the last ten years. Got a fatty liver and desperate to quit. Today is 15th June. I have managed 7 dry days in June so far. Not perfect, no. But a step in the right direction. It's difficult. Good luck to everyone fighting this fight.
I was you mate. At 64, I had a massive heart attack. This was caused by lifestyle, including drinking. It woke me up. I knew I couldn't just give up, so I decided to eliminate drinking Sunday to Friday. I meet a few mates in the pub at the weekend and stick to two pints. I will have a bottle of lower alcohol red over the weekend as well. I wish I had done it years ago, but I am happy I have now. I also changed my diet, so no sugar snacks sweets processed food. I have joined a gym as well. My weight is down, and I feel much healthier. The money I saved on booze buys better quality food. If you can't stop completely, put your own boundaries in place and stick to them. Change your lifestyle not just your drinking. Good luck
Just to clarify, I personally don’t watch your videos for your ‘food reviews’ I watch to see your reactions, your mannerisms, an ordinary bloke being very open and honest. In short I think many of your subscribers are like me, we watch because of you. We are all rooting for you xx
Keep Fighting Graham, I've been watching your foodie clips for sometime now but have never left a comment but after that honest real life clip I just had too show my support along with plenty of others. The hardest part you've already done,admitting you have a problem to 90k+ u-tube followers, I have respect for you.
My dad drank for 40 years but he managd to get 10 sober years before passing. I wish you and everyone quitting all the strength in the world. You got this!
Admitting it is the first step to beating it. I was drinking the equivalent of THREE bottles of spirits a DAY until I ended up in hospital having been given months to live. In December I hope to celebrate thirty one years of total sobriety. Proud of your admission, good sir. Keep up and never refuse any offers of genuine help. Drink robs you of your dignity. Asking for help is you taking back that dignity.
I've never seen your channel before but I admire your strength. I'm an alcoholic in my 20's. i might be young but I call a spade a spade. Havent had a drink since October.
I’m 57 words have power!! Beer and booze sucks. Yes it was a blast at 27 but not now. I quit drinking because it costs money it’s not worth the consequences too many to mention. If you’re having trouble reach out get help. I’ll be rooting for you. You’re now wearing it in on your face. We’re half way in life you will love it just give it time ok. I love being sober. It’s the best feeling more energy more love more joy and More peace. Again therapy AA rehab prayers. You’ve got this!!! God bless you
Right but it doesn't affect everyone the same way. I can easily control the amount I drink. However if you put cookies or donuts in front of me, I will eat them all or sur tortured looking at them. 🤷♀️
@Boltbacker83 right but it's not recognized like that and people who are addicted to food are not supported and not treated. They're looked at as second class citizens and weak individuals by the ppl who don't have the issue with food. So if I cam drink without issue, is it OK if I treat alcoholics like they're just too lazy and selfish to stop drinking? No. It's all bs
@@jbwb_12369 LOOOL um yeeeeah... "Overweight people are second-class citizens, and alcoholics are celebrated." LOOOOL girl you overweight people love appropriating struggles you don't have. Almost every president and politician, banker, CEO, manager, etc. we've ever had has been obese or extremely obese. Yet, here you are playing empathic queen to distract from the ole switcharoo to try to steal compassion undue to you. Give up your food addiction; you aren't dehumanized or treated like second class people in America. You are granted the same rights, occupy jobs and wealth. Are you exemplified as models for fitness and health (beauty)? No. You are not. That isn't oppression, it's called reality.
This is coming from a 38 year old Arabic female and I can relate to everything you said. From not being able to stop when I start (I drink spirits), missing days at work and wasted days sleeping off hangovers, not to mention my energy levels and health. Hope you share your journey with us if you feel comfortable doing so. It'll be inspiring! Wish you a speedy recovery! "The origins of the word "alcohol" come from the Arabic term "al-ghoul," which means "body-eating spirit" - I think they're right
Good job! one of my friends said to me "Live day by day, don't think "I'm going to be without alcohol for the rest of my life." If you think that way, relapsing will hurt more mentally. It's much easier to live day by day with the thought "Today, I won't drink."
You're on the right path, sir. I'm the son of a long line of hardcore alcoholics & I promise you your kids may rememeber some of the chaos but they'll rememeber you getting sober much more clearly. You're doing the right thing & I'll be praying for you.
your honesty and transparency is admirable bud, be proud you've been able to spot and correct yourself. some people never get there, even after a lifetime.
May the good lord bless you and keep you and me too. I’ve had a bit of a head start on this and I can tell you that a man’s man like you will do great. More power to you and remember that that we who have left the drink are proud to have you, have faith in you and look to be inspired by the good life you live
@@cyberash3000 It happened to me. I went through some kind of psychological trauma in 2021. It changed my nervous system and could drink a bottle of whiskey just to feel something. Didn't really get me drunk after a while.
Quick story. When my 2 girls were about 5 and 7 my wife told me I would eventually regret all the time I spent in the pub instead of being with the girls. Boy was she right. Although I now have a great bond with my daughters, when I'm with the grand kids and bursting my sides laughing at their antics I sadly reflect on what I should have been doing 25 years ago. All the best Gareth. You have made a life changing great choice.
Well done, Gareth. You have taken the first step. The important thing is that you realise where you are, where you need to be and what you have to do to get there. I had a brother who was an alcoholic and I could tell you some horror stories believe me. You have a lovely family and a lovely home use that as your inspiration on your journey. I wish you all the best and you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Take care Gareth
I had three middle-aged alcoholic neighbours living on my estate. One lived next door, and I used to see him in the lift at 5.30am with empty 2l bottles on his way to fill them up. He'd often spend nights shouting obscenities at his mother. He was a trained lawyer. Another I once helped get off the floor and cleaned up his head wound after he'd hit his head on a rock. He was a trained economist. Another used to scream at his family all day, and then lie on the bench in the courtyard, screaming at anybody who came near him. I don't know what job he used to do. All three are now dead. The latter died on that bench.
im 27 and you still said all the right words, ive been 2 weeks sober and feel amazing but as you mentioned its extremely hard not to relapse, finally getting treatment because i cant control it either. keep up the good work and stay strong mate your kids will be proud
I love that saying (don’t know the origin) - “First the man takes a drink, then the drink takes a drink, then the drink takes the man”. Giving up is hard, but definitely, definitely worth it.
Gareth, everyone will be behind you. I have a son in his 40s who was exactly the same, 4 children at home, but once he started, he couldn't stop till he was drunk. I'm glad to say he got help and has been free from drinking for 10 years. Good luck, and don't stop reviewing food. We are all behind you. X
Gaz i admire your total honesty, courage and admittance that you have a problem. My son is 52, has been dry for 14 years, it took a car accident for the truth to hit home. Followed the AA programme which he kept up rigidly. You will get there. I send love and support to you and your family . ❤
Congratulations, on your decision to take your life back. I have quite the same history, and am around 4 years sober now. I hope all those who are around you are as proud of you for facing this challenge, and being brave enough to expose yourself to what are usually a persons most judgmental peers. I was randomly shown this on my timeline, and being that myself and my wife were both drawn to it, I had to follow that inner voice. I wish you the best of luck, and we are subscribing in hopes to see you achieve a sober and love surrounded future.
@@BaldFoodieGuy People come to this channel because it's down to earth and honest. Your honesty and openness is fantastic. None of us are 21 anymore (unless you're 21 of course lol!!) You could tackle that slope with no issues without the demon spirit 😄 Just do a series of 'battered' products and go with the flow mate lol! Wishing you well x
This is a huge step up. The accountability that comes with your open honesty means to me that these steps are real steps. I want to say your choice of action helps inspires me to take accountability in struggles of mine. Be good, be well, and love thyself.
I'm a recovering alcoholic, I recently got into a spot of bother. I've stopped for the same kind of reasons. At my worst I was drinking a litre of vodka a day. I went through a torturous week of withdrawal from 29th April. I had to take a long hard look at my life and say to myself that I can't live like this or I'm going to lose everything. It's now been a month and 20 days without a drink and I intend to keep it that way. That's me done with the drink. I feel better physically and mentally. You can do it too Gareth. It won't be a walk in the park initially but it gets easier. Be strong for yourself and your family. You can do it.
@@stevecooper6515 Complete & utter garbage. According to AA, the long term success rate, is between 35 & 50% WHERE did you get 5-8% from...??? Cite your source, or it's meaningless...!!!
Good luck my friend. Wishing you every success. This is not a taboo as it's been in the past so keep talking to people who understand and if you fall back it's just a get up, step forward... It's only steps forward you can concentrate on and any falls back are history.
I’ve been there, brother it takes a lot of courage and inner strength to recognize an issue and change it for the better of you and your family. I’m actually going through it right now and I have mad respect for you posting this. You got this brother the most important thing in life is familyand not drinking anymore is what keeps that most valuable asset in your life then you do whatever it takes to get there. Good luck to you, brother. I have nothing but love and wish you the best you got this.
Our 46 y/o son died of alcoholism on 10/30/23. He was 46. He'd been a severe alcoholic for 31 yrs. He drank 2 bottles of vodka a day. He was getting dementia, had 4 heart attacks, had heart, liver failure and kidney failure, and had WET BRAIN and Werneke-Korsakoff syndrome when he died. We tried to intervene 1000's of times. We had him committed dozens of timed. QUIT DRINKING NOW.
Huge respect and admiration for you to open up about this. I'm not even a subscriber, but it couldn't have come up in my feed at a better time! I've also decided not to be a slave/prisoner to my escape mechanism (alcohol). Only done 8 days now, but I'm inspired to know others are facing the same. We can do this!!
This post really hit home for me. I’m 65. My amazing dad loved to drink socially or after a hard days work he would sit outside and enjoy a cold beer or two. Then, it turned into every day. He was never abusive…just different when he drank too much. After I had my daughter, his first grandchild…I told him that I would not bring her over if he was drinking. He quit cold turkey that day. For the next 35 years, he was the absolute best husband…father, grandfather and great grandfather ❤ Sadly, we lost him to Dementia in 2015. But, what a beautiful gift he gave us all on the day he quit drinking…we have so many loving and fun memories to hold us close and bring us joy. Not only are you setting a good example, but you are giving your family the best gift ever by making them a priority in your life…YOU! 🤗
I'm not really sure why, but I started crying half way thru your comment. I am still somewhat crying. Don't know why, but anyways, thanks for your comment it was lovely.
My husband has been sober for more than 15 years. You can do it, it won’t be easy and you will discover a strength you didn't know you have. If you slip, dust yourself off and keep going.
God bless you, man! Addictions are the most human thing there is. Most people dont realise that this is just another way to cope with trauma, insecurities or a feeling of "not being good enough or not doing enough or not meeting expectations, your own or from the outside".
Stay strong brother. I’ve been battling with it my whole life. Last couple of years have gotten bad. Multiple trips to hospitals. I feel for ya man. I completely understand.
@@BaldFoodieGuygareth gaz you are doing the right thing asking to be held accountable and baring your soul being so very real; i am proud of you for taking this first step on the ladder and journey to sobriety
My Dad died at 47 years old, he was an alcoholic. He left behind three children and a wife he beat every single day. As children we hated our father. Best thing was when my mother decided to eventually divorce him, against the Catholic Church advice, as in their eyes they told my irish mother that in in the eyes of God we’d be seen and known as ba*st@rd children. Our mum was strong, and said that no man would be her judge, only God. Gareth you do what you feel is right for your family. God bless ❤️
Good story, but just because he likes a beer doesn’t mean he’s at that level so let’s not get our stories crossed shall we? If your old man was beating your mum each night, I’d suggest there were deeper issues than drink. Drink doesn’t make you attack people. People who are violent, who then drink, beat people.
There has to be a cut off. My father died of septicemia and in a lot of pain despite the morphine and my only thought was stop wasting the morphine. My mother now probably close to 90 I have not spoken to in maybe 15 years. Sounds terrible and nasty, but despite all the old age ailments I have never felt so well. She has her favourite and told me to my face after a morning of doing her repairs I was a 4th class citizen and I just thought enough is enough and never looked back. I have a great wife and kids its all I need.
Your honesty is beautiful, and I respect you for it. My father died from a lifetime of drinking alcohol. The acidity had worn away the small veins inside of his throat and causes him to have esophageal varices. The veins in his throat became so weak that one night they burst. He choked to death on his own blood and was bleeding out internally at the same time. Terrible, terrible way to go. That's just one more reason or piece of motivation for everyone to quit alcohol. God bless you Brother, you're making the right decision.
I'm 70 years old I've been sober for 30. I had to go to rehab for a month and I followed with AA for just over a year. I went to an AA meeting every day in the beginning and as I started getting my feet under me not as often. It's been a couple of decades since I've needed to go to an AA meeting but it's good to know it's always there and welcoming if needed. Wishing you the best.
I'm a 53-year-old alcoholic and drug addict. I showed addictive, compulsive behavior since I was about 12 or 13, a few years before I ever touched drugs or alcohol, or cigarettes. It was like I was born to be an addict. From about age 17-32, I smoked cigarettes and cannabis, snorted cocaine, gobbled MDMA and washed it all back with plenty of booze. At age 32, I realized I was on a bad path. So I quit cigarettes, I quit cannabis, I quit cocaine and MDMA. Alcohol has been a bit trickier, though. I quit for 5 years, then fell off the wagon. Then I quit for 1.5 years, and fell off again. I'm booze-free again now for over 3.5 years, and I'm doing my best. Even though I've fallen off the wagon before, I've given my body windows of recovery. The important thing is to be honest with yourself and always stay in the ring. Even if you slip up, stay in the fight. Give yourself a chance to recover, even for a little while, and see if you can build on it. I stay out of bars and my social life is pretty dull these days, but I'm 53, so who cares, really? Now is the time in my life to be reflective and mindful, and to just slow down and breathe the air. Self-preservation is the key. Concentrate on a few healthy and wholesome things that you enjoy and tune out the tsunami of noise and nonsense that is just waiting to crash on your head, if you let it. I'm not 100%, I haven't figured it all out. But I'm harnessing my pathologies by making a compulsive addiction out of trying to preserve my life.
That’s just a huge paragraph to say your weak and have no self control. You don’t care about yourself or others so don’t sit on the high horse. It’s pathetic.
Your not alone, I'll be 54 in a couple months. Your struggle sounds like me explaining my own. It's hard learning to live again, after years of including alcohol in everything you do. I wish you the best, at least your aware and trying.
I'm the same age as you mate and have a near identical story. Maximum respect for your honesty and wise words. Your still in the war but your winning battles . Good on you.
I feel like you're telling my story as well. Really appreciate you. I'm struggling pretty bad. Tuning out the noise is SO hard. I hear constant negative hateful comments in my head. Can't sleep unless I "pass out". Thank you for sharing. I hope you feel much better
For some people or most, Substances are like a "Big Comforting Hug" they can't get anywhere else. But it eventually takes out your health and everything around you. Congrats on your sobriety!!!!
I was raised by an alcoholic father and I was terrified of him and so were my brothers and sisters. None of us drink as adults either because of watching our Dad. Your children will really love you for getting off it ❤. I will say that as an adult looking back on it I understand it was his way to cope but it stopped working as a way to cope when he woke up one morning addicted to it. My Dad did stop drinking and it turned out he was a pretty awesome guy when he wasn’t drunk. He’s gone now and I miss him terrible, love him so much.
totally get where your coming from. i lost everything. but now been clean and sober over 4 years. every day im tempted. youve got this, you know this road only leads one way. i know its so hard.
cunning and baffling…you can do this mate! im 34 and have just over 100 days sober..my body is finally healing. this is the hardest thing ive ever dealt with..i understand your pain. thank you for posting this and reminding me of why im staying sober..we can do this together bro. ❤ God bless.
Gareth my daughter is 14 years sober. She lost years in the 'fog' of alcoholic misery. Lost everything then built her life back sober. But as a mother I can tell you that the hell of those years robbed us of our daughter. Thankfully I got my daughter back. You can do this Gareth please believe me and I wish you all the strength, best wishes.
Controlled drinking. I know proffessional folks who do it. I quit for 5 years, it’s the best you will ever feel. There are two ways around this. Either stop forever or drink intermittently . I drink now and again, i guess that’s controlled drinking.
I have been drunk since I was 13, I'm 59 now, I have lost my kids, job, car, frindships, respect and self esteem and am about to be kicked out of my home. Your message was truly poignant and timely. I go with you on this difficult journey.
@@BaldFoodieGuy thank you, like you I just had a fall, one of several recently but put my head through my wifes glass cabinet door, it belonged to her grandma so it's time to wake up and be a better man. When I'm sober I am more engaged and useful so here we go.😶
You should be proud of yourself, mate! I don't even know you and this is the first video I've seen of yours, and I'm proud of you. I needed to see this. I'm an alcoholic/addict and very unwell. I've been battling with addiction for many many years now. I have tried and failed time and time again but I'm so tired. I wanna thank you for sharing this with the masses. you may not know it but you are helping others with your story, mate. stay strong, stay positive
Thank you for posting this... It takes guts to admit we are no longer in control. I've been on and off booze for 20 years, and I feel everything your saying very strongly. Thanks and good will.
I'm ex forces. Father of 2 boys. Husband to my amazing wife. I've never boozed. Never smoked. Never touched drugs. Your words remind me of the what my late dad would say after, crashing a car, getting in a fight, smashing his face in, battering my mum, losing a job, crashing a bus, getting hospitalised, getting jailed, developing thromobosis. The thing that really got to me when I got older and became a dad myself was, why did he put me and my mum through all of that? Did he just not care enough? I came to the conclusuon my dad loved the buzz it gave him. Pure and simple. I grew up in a wider family that had many alcoholics in it. It really impacts you as a kid. I've no idea how my mum coped. I hope you change sir.
I am Autsitic and was off it ten years bullied by a neghbour Police failed me, the reason was no confidence and calmed me down, no excuse but it calmed me down from anxiety
You’re thinking of it as a scale of what they “love more” brother - when the truth is they don’t even love themselves enough to stop. If that isn’t the definition of a true “addiction” or “illness” I don’t know what is. Almost always you find how desperate addicts are to stop. Please don’t think your father loved drink more than you (not knowing you of course so just an outsider looking in based on your comment). But like you I have experience of this and how much it damages a family - the ONE thing I know without doubt was how she wanted to stop yet never succeeded. I will love her for trying forever and I’m so sad i was too young to help her make sense of it all Is what it is - but it isn’t about love brother. I mean it from my heart and hope maybe it’s enough to see your dad differently. Got bless you.
@@sandydogy Bullying really is DREADFUL, even on very small levels & it is Everywhere and you know the police just can't, don't or won't,.. but especially for a person with autism, Try to keep safe and live well and always know & speak the "truth".. A lot of/most people, low intelligence/low vibration..
The fact that you had a "wider family that had many alcoholics in it" should tell you this is a genetic disease/condition. I'm 64, I was a drinker, weed smoker and it never affected me like it does Alcoholics. No blackouts, no drunk driving, no beating my GF or wife. But alcoholics have to fight it every day, every hour. It's like being hungry and trying not to eat or thirsty and trying not to drink water. And I don't know how old you but many years ago, Drinking wasn't frowned upon in society. Not drinking was seen as a weakness and domestic abouse was just a family secret. "oh he just had a little too much to drink" kinda thing Fortunately things are better now. More people understand that it'sa disorder/disease/genetic and there are more opportunities to get help, more encouragemebt to seek help and a wider understanding of the situation. But it's still a problem.
Respect. I’ve been down that path. Still do time to time. But nothing fruitful ever comes from it. Stay strong my man. I too will be battling along side you from the other side of the pond.
I understand. I battle the same demon and will for my entire life. It’s a hard road to be on. Good for you for calling it out. Remind yourself daily how bad it is and tell your story when you can. Stay strong man. When you fall, get right back up and shake it off. Don’t look back, and make no mistake, it is a demon.
Hey mate, I'm super proud of you. I have been a heavy drinker since early teens and have just been diagnosed with Chronic Pancreatitis. I always thought I was invincible, until the pain kicked in. It was enough to make me stop drinking immediately. I'm now 6 weeks alcohol free( and will continue for the rest of my life). Keep strong, onward and upward.x
You are very brave putting this out there, I'm hoping that you can change the habit one day at the time and with time it becomes the new normal!! I made the change 20 year ago and it was the best thing I have ever done because i mucket up everything else.. Good luck and may God give you the perseverance that you need!!
You are NOT alone. There are thousands and thousands of people going through the same painful process that you are right now. We strengthen each other and we support each other. I have been sober for nearly five years and if I can succeed so can you. I wish you all the best and I believe in you! Stay focused my friend.
Huge respect to you. I was previously in the same position, as your Wife, for 12yrs. I’m so pleased you’ve recorded this video. It’ll be great to look back on, when things get tough. As you know - they WILL. All the very best to you & your family during your recovery. One day at a time. xxx
Hi, my name is Alex. I’m 22. I’ve got a 4 month old daughter and she is amazing. My mother has been a drinker for as long as I can remember. Subjugating me to all forms of abuse. She still drinks to this day and our relationship is on a tightrope. She doesn’t get to see her granddaughter at all. Not until she gets a grip of her self. She’s on the spirits. Trust me mate, you can do this. If not for yourself then for the ones you love. Massive respect for the fact you just openly admit it. That is the first step to getting help, and beginning your journey to quitting.
@@BaldFoodieGuy never apologise on the actions of someone else mate. You’re your own person and that’s what makes you individual. Each have their own path, and everyone walks at their own speed. You got this Gary mate.
@@scottneil1187 subjugation is the correct term as she controlled my finances and would call in my work that often saying she was going to commit suicide that I had to leave due to embarrassment. Not only that she would get me arrested whenever I didn’t allow her to drink/didn’t buy her a drink. So it’s subjugation. Attempting to bring me under control.
Gareth don't beat your self up !!! Your story is my story ! I am 59 . Ex Royal Navy . Messed up on the booze to many times !! I am hard working guy like you . Last year I did three nights in the cells . Drink driving (massive shame) .Trying to look after mum with dementia and with my PTSD . Came off one of those electric scooters last year pissed up !! I looked worse than you !! I been in your part of the world Barrow many times . Ex submariner .Your good people . Seems like your doing the soul searching that we all have to do from time to time .Pick yourself up mate you dont have to explain anything . Your a good bloke !!!
I'm absolutely overwhelmed with the responses and lovely comments. I'm not alone and thank you all for sharing your stories. Respect to you 🙏
You’re a good lad and you’re definitely not alone. Fair play for coming out and saying what you did. You will inspire other people to do the same. Best of luck to you mate
well done mate its hard at the start if you are wanting to stop but keep at it that excuse for me oh ill just drink at the weekend wont work cause having the drink would make me want more so had to stop it completely anyways keep it up man :)
you are a good man.. obviously dedicated to your family.. alcohol is a poison and a sure fire way to an early grave. realization is a good step to sorting it out.. but it`s upto you my lad. i love your food reviews, please keep them up
Well done, mate, you can do it you're a good man 😊😊😊
Lose everything? You've already lost your hair. :)
Same boat pal, it's not like I'm crowing about it.
I'm 60 , been an alcoholic for 40 years, been off the booze for 6 days, can't believe this video just came on at random, I'm indoors as I speak scared to go outdoors, wish me luck anybody. 😢. God give me strength. If I can get by another 6 days i think I might just make it.
Keep fighting bud, it will be difficult but worth it, you'll start to feel healthy and eventually start finding hobbies to spend your money on,there's so many interesting things out there to keep you occupied, be strong, all the best mate
My dad is an alcoholic. Breaks my heart to see him slowly kill himself. Now he has cancer and has had to sober up for surgery. He’s 5 days sober. He doesn’t want to stay sober so I know it won’t last. God bless you and give you strength each day to beat this.
You can do it
Keep going minute by minute if you have to. Keep yourself as safe as you can in the early days and your strength will come. Good luck and much love to you.
Keep fighting, you can do it, it’s a hard path, but you can do it
Takes a man to put his wife and kids above it all. My respect to you
Well said
Laying yourself bare to all is very very brave. You didn't have to do that. Gareth , thousands of people watch your informative and funny videos, you are a likeable chap with many blessings . More power to you, you have taken the first and hardest step, now stop beating yourself up and concentrate on your health and wellbeing. Good luck we are all with you. X
First thing is what you’ve done ..admitting you have a problem . Good on you .
I hope it all good well I been off the beer for 6 months now I been drinking from the age of 16 and iam 48 now so I have stop hope it go ok for you and you family hope to see some food video soon
@@MrAntsdad Look for an alternative stress reducer. An evening run or brisk walk, alternative health such as meditation, hypnosis CDs/downloads, an absorbing hobby. Good luck.🧡
Was randomly served up this video. I have 290 days without alcohol, and I am down 55 lbs. The first few days sucked, but I was sick and tired of all the lies, deception, money being spent, memory lost, and all the negativity that goes along with being drunk all the time. I was completely unreliable to my loved ones, and I just woke up one day and knew that I had enough. I cannot recommend enough that you take up walking/running/bike riding etc, and do it every day. The change you will see in your body serves as a support in keeping you off the booze and shitty food. There were a couple of times that I have craved a beer and had a 0% Non-alcoholic beer, and it honestly does the job. It tastes like a beer, and that is about it. I've quit drinking many times (often for a month+ at a time), but this last time was completely different for me. There isn't a shred of my being that wants to go back to being a drunk, and I finally feel like there isn't baggage that I am having to carry around. You have to want to quit.
It takes serious conviction to broadcast this to the world in pursuit of a better life for you and your family. Much love from a Kendalian
It takes a real man to make this public. Total respect mate.
My thoughts exactly.
So men who bottle it up and feel they can't tell anyone are fake ?.
Yep 👍👍👍👍 stay strong 💪💪💪💪
usually when a man is told he's being a "real man" its something that benefits women. I agree, this lad has some balls and is doing a lot of people a favour making this public.
Agreed. 👍
It took a lot of courage and humility to put this out, confronting your demons in public. Hats off to you on your sobriety journey.
This 👆 one million %
I agree I wish I was that brave, I’ve just buried everything and isolated myself..This takes courage believe me ❤
I know a fine young man. Who id live to forward this to him. He really needs to listen to this. But I'm afraid he won't watch it. I wish he could learn from your experience.
Good luck with your uphill struggle.
May you have the strength to succeed.😊
The first step to change is realizing there is a problem. Bravo!
You got this Brother! I drank a gallon of whiskey a day for almost 15 years. Thats when I was an Executive Chef. I quit in 2011, and soon after got a Masters Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and now help others for a living. Go with the Flow. You will end up somewhere Beautiful!!!
I've been sober 15 years... best thing I ever did.❤❤❤
I have 15 years sober, as well. I turned 60 in April and I am so grateful for it. Cheers to another 15 years! 🎉❤
Good on you. My father quit in 1997 when I was 14. It was the best choice he ever made. We're very close now, and I can't thank him enough for choosing us over Budweiser.
30+ years for me, and I agree, it's the best thing I ever did, for myself and my loved ones. I joined AA terrified that I'd have to lay my soul bare to all those drunks (lol) but never have I been among such understanding, loving and HONEST people. I feared I'd find out I was really a horrible person deep down - instead I found out I'm just a person - and not a bad one at all. I made stupid mistakes because of alcoholic thinking, but being honest with myself about all that set me free. I've had a great life with much love and joy. You're very courageous for sharing your self-discovery. Hang in there, there will be hard and painful moments but there will come a time when you marvel at what good this decision has done for you. Best wishes!
Almost 14 years sober ♥️♥️ so grateful to God and the people in the program who loved me when I didn’t love myself 🙏💯
Same here. Best thing I ever did. I don't drink or smoke any more (I have COPD). I have a weed brownie every week and that's it for me. 😀
I wise man once said “ if drinking ever starts to cost you more then just the price of the drink then its time to stop “
First the man takes the drink, then the drink takes the man.
Wise words those. x
60 years ago, my grandmother pointed out a woman in the street and said 'That's the landlord's wife from the Black Swan, and she's wearing my fur coat'.
Godspeed. I struggle with the drink too. I drink pretty much everyday, I hate it. You’ve given me the nudge to stop. I’m 41
"Addiction is an increasing desire for an act that gives less and less satisfaction." - Aldous Huxley
I’ve been sober 6 1/2 years. I didn’t think I could do it but here I am. God bless you. You’ll get through this
What a message to people struggling with alcohol!! I too was a beer drinker all of the things you said were what I was!! I am free from it thanks to the Lord Jesus Christ he can and will change your life if you ask! I did ask and I am free from the chains and bondage of alcohol. I am 60 years old and drank for many years and I am struggling with the consequences of my actions. Please remember everyone out there that even when you change you still have the consequences!! That was a choice I made and there are consequences to OUR choices!
Amen 🙏
13 years ago I admitted to myself that my life had become unmanageable and quit the drink. I’m truly happy at last. Your kidneys and liver will thank you.
Thank you I'm still sober
I lost my Father at 58, his Father I never knew died in the streets. My 38 yr old nephew lost his battle! I pray for strength and peace for you. God Bless you🙏
Your blunt honesty, wow. I wish strength for you as you get sober. As a child of an alcoholic parent, I say with certainty that your sobriety is the best gift you’ll ever give yourself and your family. ❤
Anyone who has the strength to make a video like that is a force to be reckoned with. You've got this. 👍
That took guts to stand in front of everyone and bare your soul, use the same strength and fortitude of your character to see yourself through the breakup of your relationship with booze and always remember you have myself and 95.4K subscribers watching you very very closely. Mr BFG you a a legend.
Yes. 💜
Well said mate ❤
Very Well said, Thanks.
Totally agree, every one on here is backing you 😉
Well said
Takes alot of guts to do this. Chinese Proverb A man who blames others has a long journey to go. A man who blames himself is halfway there. A man who blames no one is already there. I wish you all the best sir.
*a lot
"alot" isn't a word
'Only God can make a drunk sober' I heard this after suffering for 14 yrs.
I finally met Jesus in 1987 at a condemned building. Straitgate Church rented rooms here for services
having no main base. A big blue bus brought us there. It was myself, spouse and two children.
I was fresh brought back from a hospice bed , and did not die. Univesity of Minn Hospital gave up on me
and sent me home to die. Anyway after some time we arrived at this condemned building and I did not want to go in there. It was all boarded up with broken doors and windows. I said God wouldn't be here. Then I heard a small prompting and it said 'Wasn't you condemned when I found you?' Yet I visited you, come'. So I changed my mind and we went in. I found my Savior at this place. I was never so glad in all my life! Sober since 1987! Thank you brother,
Well done 👏
11. ‘I’m not telling you it is going to be easy, I’m telling you it’s going to be worth it’ ...Respect x
You can do it mate. Been there myself. Lost my wife, my job and my home. Been dry now for nearly 5 years. Life's so much better sober.
Thanks 👍 well done mate 👍
Well done on kicking the demon 🙏
@SteveAngel-ns3qp Well done for been sober and staying dry :)
Well done
Same here, been sober 10 years after losing everything. Got a great life now. Telling people no matter who they are keeps you accountable. Much love 💕
I clicked on the video because of the thumbnail, you have wounds I recognise so well from looking in the mirror. Although I did lose everything, my first marriage, my business and my career as a chef. Then the doctor told me with a straight face that I wasn’t going to live to be forty. That was Monday 23/01/95 and the day after was my first sober day of 29.5years. If I can do this you can, it doesn’t matter if you’re a 24/7 drinker like I was or a binge drinker like it sounds you could be, when it’s messing up your life quit. There’s lots of support out there, I did it with AA but there’s many other methods like AVRT. I've a brilliant relationship with my daughters, my now wife and adult grandchildren have never seen me drink, I got a law degree, an amazing career in welfare and disabilities and I’m still alive at 64. You got this, you’ve took the toughest step and you’ve bravely done it publicly. I wish you well.
Cheers Mark
Hey brother, professional addict. I was 7 years sober. Hopped back on the wagon. Now again, two years with no more alcohol. Still breaks my heart when I drive past the liquor store. Love and miss it every day. ❤
42 years old (Dutch guy, Iraq and Afghanistan vet) here and within the first few sentences I knew this was about alcohol. Been struggling a lot the past 2 decades but almost 3 weeks sober now. Stay strong brother, I also have a 7 year old and I know what you're talking about.
Consider micro-dosing mushrooms, best of luck to you sir
You can do this. Please, call on the name of Jesus. Give this to God. He is there to help us and promises never to leave us. God is SO good. Keep the faith, read the bible, pray and believe. Keep going!!
Stay the course brother. You can, are doing it.
Good luck man.
I read a lot of comments from people who do carnivore diet, it’s easy for them to quit any thing that makes them in bondage. Include prayers too, it’s a pride when you need help and you don’t ask God for help. God’s love you
Only true men admit their weaknesses so much respect to you.🙏
Very well preserved
@@PaulMalone-pm8qk What the hell does "preserved" have to do with anything?
@@shoutatthesky probs meant 'observed'
I am in exactly the same place at 52yrs old only I am 45days no drinking. Enough is enough. Once you honestly look at yourself and decide I don't wanna do that any more, it makes it so much easier to get on with learning how to do life without it. I am awed at your courage to be so open about it.
I quit drinking after I started having bad heartburn everytime. After a night hovered over the toilet and puking uncontrollably, I asked God to forgive me and to take away the desire to drink as I wanted nothing to do with it anymore. After that looking at alcohol disgusts me. Ask God from the heart and he'll free you from bondage. Blessings brother.
lost my dad to alcoholism in 2011. Your kids need you! great work man
I almost lost my dad. I am sorry to hear that, I hope you're doing the best you can be.
me too
Lost my husband to it in 2021.
Lost my best friend 2 years ago to alcohol related liver failure and heavy fatty deposits in the brain, he was 35 years old, there isnt a day that goes by without thinking about him in some way.
Any man that bears their soul and has the strength to stand up to their demons has my respect. You’ve shown you’re a man of principle you can do this. All the best
Very well said big_gooch.
You’ll do it. You’re strong enough. Say a Prayer every morning and every evening. Get used to coco cola. Contact Trevor…you know him. He’s a good bud and support guy.
But don't you have MORE respect for a man who was NEVER an addict in the first place???? I do.
@@cathynewyork7918 ….MORE RESPECT?…..no. I didn’t know you were perfect w/ no faults. It’s what you are doing NOW, IN THE MOMENT to make yourself better. We all fall down, in different ways. Bald Foodie Guy is bearing his guts and has to climb a mountain EVERY DAY to keep his soul in joy. I RESPECT his dedication to be doing the right thing. Yesterday is gone……..Today is why we live.
@@winkieblink7625 I have NEVER been weak enough to use drugs, alcohol or cigarettes, so NO, NO RESPECT for a man 51 years old who cannot control himself.
The hardest part is saying all this out loud to yourself, even harder saying it to the world. We're here now, and we have your back. Stay strong, there is a much better life on the other side of this.
My deepest respect for standing up like this, I love you do this and this will benefit others too. Speaking of addiction, 93% of the population are addicted to something, so it is lets say at least pretty normal. I was thinking about stop smoking for almost 20 years. Then suddenly I got cancer, and stopped the same second I was diagnosed - and ever since. It is hard to do if you don't have motivation, mine was the anxiety for an early death.
Beside of your children's possible bad experiences before, they also need a loving dad, that's a positive motivation. To have a loving dad includes making the right choices for yourself food-vise for both physical and mental health. Do it for yourself, and others will benefit.
I'm a 51 year old male. Been drinking for 30 years. A bottle of red wine every night for the last ten years. Got a fatty liver and desperate to quit. Today is 15th June. I have managed 7 dry days in June so far. Not perfect, no. But a step in the right direction. It's difficult. Good luck to everyone fighting this fight.
One day at a time x
7 dry days are 7 more than 0. Good on you, it will get easier and your health will thank you.
yes get yourself to AA, it is so hard to do it alone. Get to AA, it works.
I was you mate. At 64, I had a massive heart attack. This was caused by lifestyle, including drinking. It woke me up. I knew I couldn't just give up, so I decided to eliminate drinking Sunday to Friday. I meet a few mates in the pub at the weekend and stick to two pints. I will have a bottle of lower alcohol red over the weekend as well. I wish I had done it years ago, but I am happy I have now. I also changed my diet, so no sugar snacks sweets processed food. I have joined a gym as well. My weight is down, and I feel much healthier. The money I saved on booze buys better quality food. If you can't stop completely, put your own boundaries in place and stick to them. Change your lifestyle not just your drinking. Good luck
7 dry days is massive! Don’t ever think you’re not doing well. In my prayers xxx💜🧡🩶
Just to clarify, I personally don’t watch your videos for your ‘food reviews’ I watch to see your reactions, your mannerisms, an ordinary bloke being very open and honest. In short I think many of your subscribers are like me, we watch because of you. We are all rooting for you xx
I appreciate that
well said :)
Definitely 1,000 %. You better not go anywhere, Gareth. We need you in our lives you bring light ro the darkness xx
Keep Fighting Graham, I've been watching your foodie clips for sometime now but have never left a comment but after that honest real life clip I just had too show my support along with plenty of others. The hardest part you've already done,admitting you have a problem to 90k+ u-tube followers, I have respect for you.
I've been on the sparkling water train for awhile. It gets easier.
"I didn't get into trouble every time I was drinking but every time I did get into trouble it was because of my drinking."
Stay strong man.
My dad drank for 40 years but he managd to get 10 sober years before passing. I wish you and everyone quitting all the strength in the world. You got this!
Admitting it is the first step to beating it. I was drinking the equivalent of THREE bottles of spirits a DAY until I ended up in hospital having been given months to live. In December I hope to celebrate thirty one years of total sobriety. Proud of your admission, good sir. Keep up and never refuse any offers of genuine help. Drink robs you of your dignity. Asking for help is you taking back that dignity.
Love this. 31 years is a huge achievement well done.
Brilliant James, well done mate 👍
@@susymanoosyamen i second this well done james
James my man!!, inspirational
Realisation is the biggest challenge.....change is the next biggest challenge......once these are done.....it will get easier......well done 😊
I've never seen your channel before but I admire your strength. I'm an alcoholic in my 20's. i might be young but I call a spade a spade. Havent had a drink since October.
Many here wish they learnt this lesson in their 20’s. Well done.
Great pal keep it up 👍
Great. KEEP IT GOING!
Well Done! Every healthy day counts over your life. Count the healthy days ❤❤❤
Yay! 🎉
I’m 57 words have power!! Beer and booze sucks. Yes it was a blast at 27 but not now. I quit drinking because it costs money it’s not worth the consequences too many to mention. If you’re having trouble reach out get help. I’ll be rooting for you. You’re now wearing it in on your face. We’re half way in life you will love it just give it time ok. I love being sober. It’s the best feeling more energy more love more joy and More peace.
Again therapy AA rehab prayers. You’ve got this!!! God bless you
Been sober for a good bit. Stand strong brother. Get help, find people similar to you. It saved my life, it can save yours. You are in my prayers.
The culture: celebrating? Have a drink.
Feeling Low? Have a drink. Part of it is culture. I pray for your PEACE and RECOVERY. Sending LOVE to YOU. ❤️🙏
Right but it doesn't affect everyone the same way. I can easily control the amount I drink. However if you put cookies or donuts in front of me, I will eat them all or sur tortured looking at them. 🤷♀️
@@jbwb_12369 those donuts and cookies are killing you almost as fast as the drink! Im with you on that, my food addiction is bad.
@Boltbacker83 right but it's not recognized like that and people who are addicted to food are not supported and not treated. They're looked at as second class citizens and weak individuals by the ppl who don't have the issue with food. So if I cam drink without issue, is it OK if I treat alcoholics like they're just too lazy and selfish to stop drinking? No. It's all bs
@@jbwb_12369 LOOOL um yeeeeah... "Overweight people are second-class citizens, and alcoholics are celebrated." LOOOOL girl you overweight people love appropriating struggles you don't have. Almost every president and politician, banker, CEO, manager, etc. we've ever had has been obese or extremely obese. Yet, here you are playing empathic queen to distract from the ole switcharoo to try to steal compassion undue to you. Give up your food addiction; you aren't dehumanized or treated like second class people in America. You are granted the same rights, occupy jobs and wealth. Are you exemplified as models for fitness and health (beauty)? No. You are not. That isn't oppression, it's called reality.
This is coming from a 38 year old Arabic female and I can relate to everything you said. From not being able to stop when I start (I drink spirits), missing days at work and wasted days sleeping off hangovers, not to mention my energy levels and health. Hope you share your journey with us if you feel comfortable doing so. It'll be inspiring!
Wish you a speedy recovery!
"The origins of the word "alcohol" come from the Arabic term "al-ghoul," which means "body-eating spirit" - I think they're right
I wish you all the best 👍
Body eating spirit? Really? I did some research and that is supposed to be a false origin of the word.
Yeah err.. that's not true.
Thank you for sharing that part part of your life it means so much ❤
@@dublinsfaircityit’s means body eating spirit al khul she’s right
Good job! one of my friends said to me "Live day by day, don't think "I'm going to be without alcohol for the rest of my life." If you think that way, relapsing will hurt more mentally. It's much easier to live day by day with the thought "Today, I won't drink."
I quit alcohol 17 months ago after drinking heavily on a daily basis .... Life has been amazing ever since , you got this mate 👍👍
Well done mate
You're on the right path, sir. I'm the son of a long line of hardcore alcoholics & I promise you your kids may rememeber some of the chaos but they'll rememeber you getting sober much more clearly. You're doing the right thing & I'll be praying for you.
your honesty and transparency is admirable bud, be proud you've been able to spot and correct yourself. some people never get there, even after a lifetime.
May the good lord bless you and keep you and me too. I’ve had a bit of a head start on this and I can tell you that a man’s man like you will do great. More power to you and remember that that we who have left the drink are proud to have you, have faith in you and look to be inspired by the good life you live
Every credit to you by realising alcohol is a problem in your life. It’s a massive issue for alot of people out there. 💪🏻
i drink 7 pints every day and it doesnt get me drunk anymore
a lot. Two words.
@@alastairgreen2077 FFS
@@cyberash3000 It happened to me. I went through some kind of psychological trauma in 2021. It changed my nervous system and could drink a bottle of whiskey just to feel something. Didn't really get me drunk after a while.
@@vikvegas8593 *"changed my nervous system"?* 🤣🤣🤣
Quick story. When my 2 girls were about 5 and 7 my wife told me I would eventually regret all the time I spent in the pub instead of being with the girls. Boy was she right. Although I now have a great bond with my daughters, when I'm with the grand kids and bursting my sides laughing at their antics I sadly reflect on what I should have been doing 25 years ago. All the best Gareth. You have made a life changing great choice.
All the best to you too. 😊
@@BaldFoodieGuygareth I can provide trauma support and some counselling should you desire it or even coaching
Good luck mate
💪 you can see it so you will do it
Well done, Gareth. You have taken the first step. The important thing is that you realise where you are, where you need to be and what you have to do to get there. I had a brother who was an alcoholic and I could tell you some horror stories believe me. You have a lovely family and a lovely home use that as your inspiration on your journey. I wish you all the best and you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Take care Gareth
I had three middle-aged alcoholic neighbours living on my estate.
One lived next door, and I used to see him in the lift at 5.30am with empty 2l bottles on his way to fill them up. He'd often spend nights shouting obscenities at his mother. He was a trained lawyer.
Another I once helped get off the floor and cleaned up his head wound after he'd hit his head on a rock. He was a trained economist.
Another used to scream at his family all day, and then lie on the bench in the courtyard, screaming at anybody who came near him. I don't know what job he used to do.
All three are now dead. The latter died on that bench.
Oh I'm sorry 😞
im 27 and you still said all the right words, ive been 2 weeks sober and feel amazing but as you mentioned its extremely hard not to relapse, finally getting treatment because i cant control it either. keep up the good work and stay strong mate your kids will be proud
I love that saying (don’t know the origin) - “First the man takes a drink, then the drink takes a drink, then the drink takes the man”. Giving up is hard, but definitely, definitely worth it.
How can 'the drink take a drink" though. Makes no fuckin sense.
It's a Japanese proverb
@@bvfgfvbgch4853 meaning the addiction seeks itself through you
Gareth, everyone will be behind you. I have a son in his 40s who was exactly the same, 4 children at home, but once he started, he couldn't stop till he was drunk. I'm glad to say he got help and has been free from drinking for 10 years. Good luck, and don't stop reviewing food. We are all behind you. X
Well done to your son. 👍
Cheers Sue, yes my mum had just been round she worries so much. Not anymore I hope. 😊
Gaz i admire your total honesty, courage and admittance that you have a problem. My son is 52, has been dry for 14 years, it took a car accident for the truth to hit home. Followed the AA programme which he kept up rigidly. You will get there. I send love and support to you and your family . ❤
@@normacoope8239 Your son has done very well. Sending blessings. 🙏🏼
@@denisemotley6639 thank you.
Congratulations, on your decision to take your life back. I have quite the same history, and am around 4 years sober now. I hope all those who are around you are as proud of you for facing this challenge, and being brave enough to expose yourself to what are usually a persons most judgmental peers. I was randomly shown this on my timeline, and being that myself and my wife were both drawn to it, I had to follow that inner voice. I wish you the best of luck, and we are subscribing in hopes to see you achieve a sober and love surrounded future.
That’s very brave what you just did here and I wish you all the best for a better life. Big hug mate.
This is the sign of a man. To publically confess and make the pledge to quit is commendable. There is help. Take it. You can do it. Well done.
I need to get it out for my sake too
@@BaldFoodieGuy People come to this channel because it's down to earth and honest. Your honesty and openness is fantastic. None of us are 21 anymore (unless you're 21 of course lol!!) You could tackle that slope with no issues without the demon spirit 😄 Just do a series of 'battered' products and go with the flow mate lol! Wishing you well x
@@BaldFoodieGuy
Hi
100% truth
It takes guts to open up to people, especially to your followers like this. I'm proud of you and wish you luck for the future.
This is a huge step up. The accountability that comes with your open honesty means to me that these steps are real steps. I want to say your choice of action helps inspires me to take accountability in struggles of mine. Be good, be well, and love thyself.
You got this! I was an alcoholic/drug addiction for 30 years. I'm 52 and have been sober for 8.5 years now. I KNOW you can do it. God help you. 🙏
I'm a recovering alcoholic, I recently got into a spot of bother. I've stopped for the same kind of reasons. At my worst I was drinking a litre of vodka a day. I went through a torturous week of withdrawal from 29th April. I had to take a long hard look at my life and say to myself that I can't live like this or I'm going to lose everything. It's now been a month and 20 days without a drink and I intend to keep it that way. That's me done with the drink. I feel better physically and mentally. You can do it too Gareth. It won't be a walk in the park initially but it gets easier. Be strong for yourself and your family. You can do it.
Well done mate ❤
This is all unnecessary. Please research "The Sinclair Method". Abstinence is NOT the only way and has an extreme poor long term success rate of 5-8%.
@@stevecooper6515 Complete & utter garbage. According to AA, the long term success rate, is between 35 & 50%
WHERE did you get 5-8% from...??? Cite your source, or it's meaningless...!!!
👍🙏keep up the good work
Good luck my friend. Wishing you every success. This is not a taboo as it's been in the past so keep talking to people who understand and if you fall back it's just a get up, step forward... It's only steps forward you can concentrate on and any falls back are history.
I’ve been there, brother it takes a lot of courage and inner strength to recognize an issue and change it for the better of you and your family. I’m actually going through it right now and I have mad respect for you posting this. You got this brother the most important thing in life is familyand not drinking anymore is what keeps that most valuable asset in your life then you do whatever it takes to get there. Good luck to you, brother. I have nothing but love and wish you the best you got this.
I appreciate that
You deserve a lot of respect for beeing this honest.
Best review you've done Gareth. An honest review of yourself. Very brave & upmost respect back at you. You've got this
Our 46 y/o son died of alcoholism on 10/30/23. He was 46. He'd been a severe alcoholic for 31 yrs. He drank 2 bottles of vodka a day. He was getting dementia, had 4 heart attacks, had heart, liver failure and kidney failure, and had WET BRAIN and Werneke-Korsakoff syndrome when he died. We tried to intervene 1000's of times. We had him committed dozens of timed. QUIT DRINKING NOW.
I'm so sorry! Can't imagine how incredibly hard that has been and is for you.
Hate vodka. Killed my dad recently.
So sorry for your loss,blessings and love to you and yours❤
Sorry for your loss
its an illness and you tried your very best. some parents dont even try help at all. 💙
Huge respect and admiration for you to open up about this. I'm not even a subscriber, but it couldn't have come up in my feed at a better time! I've also decided not to be a slave/prisoner to my escape mechanism (alcohol). Only done 8 days now, but I'm inspired to know others are facing the same. We can do this!!
Praying for your recovery 🙏! Proud of you!
This post really hit home for me. I’m 65. My amazing dad loved to drink socially or after a hard days work he would sit outside and enjoy a cold beer or two. Then, it turned into every day. He was never abusive…just different when he drank too much. After I had my daughter, his first grandchild…I told him that I would not bring her over if he was drinking. He quit cold turkey that day. For the next 35 years, he was the absolute best husband…father, grandfather and great grandfather ❤ Sadly, we lost him to Dementia in 2015. But, what a beautiful gift he gave us all on the day he quit drinking…we have so many loving and fun memories to hold us close and bring us joy. Not only are you setting a good example, but you are giving your family the best gift ever by making them a priority in your life…YOU! 🤗
I'm not really sure why, but I started crying half way thru your comment. I am still somewhat crying. Don't know why, but anyways, thanks for your comment it was lovely.
@@Brucebod Acts of love will have that effect, and what he did was just that. I know, cause my eyes are wet too lol
I'm so sorry 😞
My husband has been sober for more than 15 years. You can do it, it won’t be easy and you will discover a strength you didn't know you have. If you slip, dust yourself off and keep going.
Well done
God bless you, man! Addictions are the most human thing there is. Most people dont realise that this is just another way to cope with trauma, insecurities or a feeling of "not being good enough or not doing enough or not meeting expectations, your own or from the outside".
Stay strong brother. I’ve been battling with it my whole life. Last couple of years have gotten bad. Multiple trips to hospitals.
I feel for ya man. I completely understand.
4 yrs sober gaz its the best I've ever felt, from a 55 year old who's going to keep watching.❤
Well done mate
@@BaldFoodieGuygareth gaz you are doing the right thing asking to be held accountable and baring your soul being so very real; i am proud of you for taking this first step on the ladder and journey to sobriety
My Dad died at 47 years old, he was an alcoholic. He left behind three children and a wife he beat every single day. As children we hated our father. Best thing was when my mother decided to eventually divorce him, against the Catholic Church advice, as in their eyes they told my irish mother that in in the eyes of God we’d be seen and known as ba*st@rd children. Our mum was strong, and said that no man would be her judge, only God. Gareth you do what you feel is right for your family. God bless ❤️
I'm sorry for your loss 😢
Good story, but just because he likes a beer doesn’t mean he’s at that level so let’s not get our stories crossed shall we?
If your old man was beating your mum each night, I’d suggest there were deeper issues than drink.
Drink doesn’t make you attack people.
People who are violent, who then drink, beat people.
There has to be a cut off. My father died of septicemia and in a lot of pain despite the morphine and my only thought was stop wasting the morphine. My mother now probably close to 90 I have not spoken to in maybe 15 years. Sounds terrible and nasty, but despite all the old age ailments I have never felt so well. She has her favourite and told me to my face after a morning of doing her repairs I was a 4th class citizen and I just thought enough is enough and never looked back. I have a great wife and kids its all I need.
Take one day at a time
@@yyy-875 thank you and God Bless you ❤️
Your honesty is beautiful, and I respect you for it.
My father died from a lifetime of drinking alcohol.
The acidity had worn away the small veins inside of his throat and causes him to have esophageal varices.
The veins in his throat became so weak that one night they burst. He choked to death on his own blood and was bleeding out internally at the same time.
Terrible, terrible way to go.
That's just one more reason or piece of motivation for everyone to quit alcohol.
God bless you Brother, you're making the right decision.
God bless you man. Every day is a school day and I hope you come through this.
I'm 70 years old I've been sober for 30. I had to go to rehab for a month and I followed with AA for just over a year. I went to an AA meeting every day in the beginning and as I started getting my feet under me not as often. It's been a couple of decades since I've needed to go to an AA meeting but it's good to know it's always there and welcoming if needed. Wishing you the best.
I'm a 53-year-old alcoholic and drug addict. I showed addictive, compulsive behavior since I was about 12 or 13, a few years before I ever touched drugs or alcohol, or cigarettes. It was like I was born to be an addict. From about age 17-32, I smoked cigarettes and cannabis, snorted cocaine, gobbled MDMA and washed it all back with plenty of booze. At age 32, I realized I was on a bad path. So I quit cigarettes, I quit cannabis, I quit cocaine and MDMA. Alcohol has been a bit trickier, though. I quit for 5 years, then fell off the wagon. Then I quit for 1.5 years, and fell off again. I'm booze-free again now for over 3.5 years, and I'm doing my best. Even though I've fallen off the wagon before, I've given my body windows of recovery. The important thing is to be honest with yourself and always stay in the ring. Even if you slip up, stay in the fight. Give yourself a chance to recover, even for a little while, and see if you can build on it. I stay out of bars and my social life is pretty dull these days, but I'm 53, so who cares, really? Now is the time in my life to be reflective and mindful, and to just slow down and breathe the air. Self-preservation is the key. Concentrate on a few healthy and wholesome things that you enjoy and tune out the tsunami of noise and nonsense that is just waiting to crash on your head, if you let it. I'm not 100%, I haven't figured it all out. But I'm harnessing my pathologies by making a compulsive addiction out of trying to preserve my life.
That’s just a huge paragraph to say your weak and have no self control. You don’t care about yourself or others so don’t sit on the high horse. It’s pathetic.
Your not alone, I'll be 54 in a couple months. Your struggle sounds like me explaining my own. It's hard learning to live again, after years of including alcohol in everything you do. I wish you the best, at least your aware and trying.
I'm the same age as you mate and have a near identical story. Maximum respect for your honesty and wise words. Your still in the war but your winning battles . Good on you.
I feel like you're telling my story as well. Really appreciate you. I'm struggling pretty bad. Tuning out the noise is SO hard. I hear constant negative hateful comments in my head. Can't sleep unless I "pass out". Thank you for sharing. I hope you feel much better
For some people or most, Substances are like a "Big Comforting Hug" they can't get anywhere else. But it eventually takes out your health and everything around you. Congrats on your sobriety!!!!
Bloody well done to be able to share your struggles. I’m wishing you the very best, keep the faith.
God bless you. The struggle is very real. It’s a hard struggle with any kind of addiction. Wishing you success and peace on your journey.
I was raised by an alcoholic father and I was terrified of him and so were my brothers and sisters. None of us drink as adults either because of watching our Dad. Your children will really love you for getting off it ❤. I will say that as an adult looking back on it I understand it was his way to cope but it stopped working as a way to cope when he woke up one morning addicted to it. My Dad did stop drinking and it turned out he was a pretty awesome guy when he wasn’t drunk. He’s gone now and I miss him terrible, love him so much.
totally get where your coming from. i lost everything. but now been clean and sober over 4 years. every day im tempted. youve got this, you know this road only leads one way. i know its so hard.
I almost lost everything, for different reasons, this being one of them.
Well done mate
@@BaldFoodieGuy Thankyou! sending you lots of postive energy. you can do it
I see you, When I stopped in 98, I craved alcohol every day for 7 years, till one day I didn't. stay strong...........................
@@paulthomas3889 Thankyou! thats great news for you!
cunning and baffling…you can do this mate! im 34 and have just over 100 days sober..my body is finally healing. this is the hardest thing ive ever dealt with..i understand your pain. thank you for posting this and reminding me of why im staying sober..we can do this together bro. ❤ God bless.
Gareth my daughter is 14 years sober.
She lost years in the 'fog' of alcoholic misery.
Lost everything then built her life back sober. But as a mother I can tell you that the hell of those years robbed us of our daughter. Thankfully I got my daughter back.
You can do this Gareth please believe me and I wish you all the strength, best wishes.
Cheers for sharing good luck too
❤🙏
@@BaldFoodieGuyall I've got to say is mate is stay strong and stay well clear of the devil's juice..
Controlled drinking. I know proffessional folks who do it. I quit for 5 years, it’s the best you will ever feel. There are two ways around this. Either stop forever or drink intermittently . I drink now and again, i guess that’s controlled drinking.
@steveambrose5580 the only way to control it is not to do it at all mate..
I have been drunk since I was 13, I'm 59 now, I have lost my kids, job, car, frindships, respect and self esteem and am about to be kicked out of my home. Your message was truly poignant and timely. I go with you on this difficult journey.
Oh I'm so sorry mate 😢
@@BaldFoodieGuy thank you, like you I just had a fall, one of several recently but put my head through my wifes glass cabinet door, it belonged to her grandma so it's time to wake up and be a better man.
When I'm sober I am more engaged and useful so here we go.😶
Stay strong mate. I know that's a shitty thing to hear but the same happened to me. It will get better, the guilt will subside. You can do it.
Drinking when you really don't want to ,try a day at a time,it works,without setting impossible goals❤
You have my respect mate stay strong 💪💪💪💪 I'm with you
You should be proud of yourself, mate! I don't even know you and this is the first video I've seen of yours, and I'm proud of you. I needed to see this. I'm an alcoholic/addict and very unwell. I've been battling with addiction for many many years now. I have tried and failed time and time again but I'm so tired.
I wanna thank you for sharing this with the masses. you may not know it but you are helping others with your story, mate.
stay strong, stay positive
God bless you my brother. You have so much love and strength for you here. Thank you for your bravery and compassion for others in making this video.
I appreciate that
Thank you for posting this... It takes guts to admit we are no longer in control. I've been on and off booze for 20 years, and I feel everything your saying very strongly. Thanks and good will.
Good on you! If nothing changes, nothing changes. 13 years sober - best thing I ever did
13 years, yesssss 💪well done 👏
I'm ex forces. Father of 2 boys. Husband to my amazing wife. I've never boozed. Never smoked. Never touched drugs. Your words remind me of the what my late dad would say after, crashing a car, getting in a fight, smashing his face in, battering my mum, losing a job, crashing a bus, getting hospitalised, getting jailed, developing thromobosis. The thing that really got to me when I got older and became a dad myself was, why did he put me and my mum through all of that? Did he just not care enough? I came to the conclusuon my dad loved the buzz it gave him. Pure and simple. I grew up in a wider family that had many alcoholics in it. It really impacts you as a kid. I've no idea how my mum coped. I hope you change sir.
I am Autsitic and was off it ten years bullied by a neghbour Police failed me, the reason was no confidence and calmed me down, no excuse but it calmed me down from anxiety
Well said.
You’re thinking of it as a scale of what they “love more” brother - when the truth is they don’t even love themselves enough to stop.
If that isn’t the definition of a true “addiction” or “illness” I don’t know what is.
Almost always you find how desperate addicts are to stop. Please don’t think your father loved drink more than you (not knowing you of course so just an outsider looking in based on your comment).
But like you I have experience of this and how much it damages a family - the ONE thing I know without doubt was how she wanted to stop yet never succeeded. I will love her for trying forever and I’m so sad i was too young to help her make sense of it all
Is what it is - but it isn’t about love brother. I mean it from my heart and hope maybe it’s enough to see your dad differently.
Got bless you.
@@sandydogy Bullying really is DREADFUL, even on very small levels & it is Everywhere and you know the police just can't, don't or won't,.. but especially for a person with autism, Try to keep safe and live well and always know & speak the "truth".. A lot of/most people, low intelligence/low vibration..
The fact that you had a "wider family that had many alcoholics in it" should tell you this is a genetic disease/condition. I'm 64, I was a drinker, weed smoker and it never affected me like it does Alcoholics. No blackouts, no drunk driving, no beating my GF or wife. But alcoholics have to fight it every day, every hour. It's like being hungry and trying not to eat or thirsty and trying not to drink water. And I don't know how old you but many years ago, Drinking wasn't frowned upon in society. Not drinking was seen as a weakness and domestic abouse was just a family secret. "oh he just had a little too much to drink" kinda thing
Fortunately things are better now. More people understand that it'sa disorder/disease/genetic and there are more opportunities to get help, more encouragemebt to seek help and a wider understanding of the situation. But it's still a problem.
Respect. I’ve been down that path. Still do time to time. But nothing fruitful ever comes from it. Stay strong my man. I too will be battling along side you from the other side of the pond.
I appreciate that
I understand. I battle the same demon and will for my entire life. It’s a hard road to be on.
Good for you for calling it out. Remind yourself daily how bad it is and tell your story when you can. Stay strong man. When you fall, get right back up and shake it off. Don’t look back, and make no mistake, it is a demon.
I quit nine years ago when I was forty. Best thing I've ever done. Wish you all the luck in the world in your journey.
Well done 😊
Hey mate, I'm super proud of you. I have been a heavy drinker since early teens and have just been diagnosed with Chronic Pancreatitis. I always thought I was invincible, until the pain kicked in. It was enough to make me stop drinking immediately. I'm now 6 weeks alcohol free( and will continue for the rest of my life). Keep strong, onward and upward.x
Cheers pal 👍
You are very brave putting this out there, I'm hoping that you can change the habit one day at the time and with time it becomes the new normal!! I made the change 20 year ago and it was the best thing I have ever done because i mucket up everything else.. Good luck and may God give you the perseverance that you need!!
Former drug addict here. Hats off to you fella, you can do it. Never den your channel before but i’ll follow now and i’ll be rooting for you👍
You are NOT alone. There are thousands and thousands of people going through the same painful process that you are right now.
We strengthen each other and we support each other.
I have been sober for nearly five years and if I can succeed so can you.
I wish you all the best and I believe in you! Stay focused my friend.
Brother I'm 51 and 18 . months sober . Sober forever. It happens when you decide. Here for you dude 😎😁😶🌫️🙏
Late 40s jacked it in 4 years ago best decision I've made
how did you do it? x army drink is all we did. 55 and still on it, got a wife that's put up with it
Wonderful. Well done you. 👍
Cheers pal
@@lcp2237THANK YOU for YOUR HEROIC 🎖️🪖 service
Big respect brother, you are halfway there!!!! this is a big step, acknowledging the problem is a huge huge step. good luck and God bless!!
Much appreciated
Huge respect to you. I was previously in the same position, as your Wife, for 12yrs. I’m so pleased you’ve recorded this video. It’ll be great to look back on, when things get tough. As you know - they WILL. All the very best to you & your family during your recovery. One day at a time. xxx
Cheers yes I'm still Sober now
Hi, my name is Alex. I’m 22. I’ve got a 4 month old daughter and she is amazing. My mother has been a drinker for as long as I can remember. Subjugating me to all forms of abuse. She still drinks to this day and our relationship is on a tightrope. She doesn’t get to see her granddaughter at all. Not until she gets a grip of her self. She’s on the spirits. Trust me mate, you can do this. If not for yourself then for the ones you love.
Massive respect for the fact you just openly admit it. That is the first step to getting help, and beginning your journey to quitting.
I think you meant subjecting. Subjugation is something quite different.
Oh I'm so sorry mate 😢
@@SpeccyManNot the time or the place for correcting a person, you knew what he meant.
@@BaldFoodieGuy never apologise on the actions of someone else mate. You’re your own person and that’s what makes you individual. Each have their own path, and everyone walks at their own speed. You got this Gary mate.
@@scottneil1187 subjugation is the correct term as she controlled my finances and would call in my work that often saying she was going to commit suicide that I had to leave due to embarrassment. Not only that she would get me arrested whenever I didn’t allow her to drink/didn’t buy her a drink. So it’s subjugation. Attempting to bring me under control.
Gareth don't beat your self up !!! Your story is my story ! I am 59 . Ex Royal Navy . Messed up on the booze to many times !! I am hard working guy like you . Last year I did three nights in the cells . Drink driving (massive shame) .Trying to look after mum with dementia and with my PTSD . Came off one of those electric scooters last year pissed up !! I looked worse than you !! I been in your part of the world Barrow many times . Ex submariner .Your good people . Seems like your doing the soul searching that we all have to do from time to time .Pick yourself up mate you dont have to explain anything . Your a good bloke !!!
Cheers brother all the best 👍