Support and financial aid are not automatic either. There are many stressed out wives with lazy jobless husbands, broke parents and in-laws, extra household work, and sometimes no friends. Let's not overlook their very REAL struggle just to argue a pro-marriage point. Women who want to get married will do so if they find someone who they want to marry. They don't need all those "well atleast..." comments, which hint at Low Standards. "Atleast he can think about maybe paying the light bill." "Atleast she gotta man." At. Least. Least as in, lowest possible. smh
@@candygirl1990 For women, not really. Medical personnel themselves will tell you that sick women often get ditched by their husbands, so even in a marriage, a sick woman won't get much support or aid and as far as finances, more men are becoming jobless while more women are becoming the marriage breadwinners and slowly out earning men, so we're financially aiding ourselves more than men are financially aiding us.
Women have went through pure hell because of men. My sister and I had to be adopted because of abuse of men in our biological family. And my sister just passed away. This is what toxicness does to bloodlines. It's best to be alone if you don't have a Righteous loyal Godly Provider spouse.
Just imagine!!…you later realised the Man U thought you love has a child somewhere during your relationship or is getting down with another man!! STD is real!!!😢😢😢😢😢
As a single woman, almost every conversation goes like this: Someone: "Why are you single?" Me: "Because I've had too many bad relationships." Someone: "Well you're choosing the wrong people! You need to be more selective." Me: "Okay. I want someone who's kind, healthy, financially stable, and shares the same interests with me." Someone: "Woah, slow down. Your standards are way too high! You need to start settling." Me: "...."
I hate that word, "choose". As if we have SO many choices. Also, financially stable doesn't mean he has to be a millionaire. It just means someone who manages the money he has in an intelligent, practical manner. In my experience, that IS asking too much. And as far as interests, they are only interested in your interests until they get with you. Then THAT ends....
@@elizabeetle13”they are only interested in your interests until they get with you and then that ends” THIS IS SPOT ON! The last guy that I dated, would continuously ask me what my hobbies were and I told him I like exercising in nature. (He also had a dog, so I figured this would be no problem since dogs do require daily walking). It wasn’t even a full month until I saw him for who he truly was. He was a lazy pos who expected me to be as desperate as the women in his family. He never walked his dog and started saying how his aunt is the only one who walks the dog. He said how he hated exercising and what was the point in exercising outside when you can drive anywhere. Welp, as soon as I heard that, I told him that we weren’t compatible and he needed to find someone else. This guy started crying and begging me to be his gf. He said: “But you liked me in the beginning. I don’t get why you’re like this” He was desperate and pathetic. These guys will lie about anything and everything to get next to you and then cry when you see them for who they are. They don’t even love themselves and expect others to love them.
I remember my mom telling me when I was in my late teens that my standards were too high and reality isn’t like my fantasy books. Then I cautiously brought a male friend home and she proceeded to tell me I could do better lol. I never settled and got my first bf when I turned 20. Next March will be our 6th anniversary and I cannot believe I found him. Also we did have a fairytale first kiss so SUCK IT MOM😂😂😂. Ladies, men, don’t settle. Know your worth and follow your heart. Find someone you feel emotionally safe with who you can lay your soul bare to who will support you and help you to be the best you you could ever be just by being with you❤ it’s possible, it exists and I’m so incredibly lucky to have found it.
I agree, but hear me out….I have heard those same standards come out of the mouth of really toxic females who won’t work, won’t treat people with respect, and God forbid they make any personal growth in their life. I do think that, men and women alike, need to do better as a species. I could NEVER blame men for all of my problems because that would make me a victim. A victim does not have to take accountability and continues believing that everyone else is the problem. There are GREAT men in the world that many women don’t even allow themselves to have access to because they blind themselves with the delusion that “men are the problem”. Women are NO BETTER. Women are human too. Women have more choices in this country now than ever before and it shows. SO MANY self disrespecting young would rather pay a man that she doesn’t even know money for the same services she could get for free by being and finding a decent person. They ARE out there, good men. I married one and I would NEVER go back to being single.
All these men out here trying to tell women “You’ll be single and miserable” well, we grew up watching our mothers, grandmothers and aunts pick relationships just to be ‘miserable and married’ so we we said “yeah, we don’t want that, so we aren’t going to make the same mistakes” x
Agreed... my father is a decent man, but not good enough for my mother, and she has had a lot of disappointment carrying his weight. It would be best for her to leave him, I never want to be stuck in a relationship like that. My one aunt was cheated on, my other aunt divorced... they all settled early because it was expected of them.
@@HybridMiranda When you say decent, in what way do you mean? My father was a good person in a societal manner, no crime, responsible with money, hard working, career military, etc. But he was a total bastard on a personal level. He did everything he could to make our lives miserable on a mental and emotional level.
When people say "you'll be lonely and miserable in the future, when you get old" Like you are, right now? At least I'm having fun and enjoying life for the time being. But you've been miserable and lonely this whole time. 💁🏾♀️
Being in a relationship isn’t my sole purpose in life, I still have friends, my parents, my brother, cousins, coworkers, so many people in my life to hang out with who value me and love me. I won’t be miserable and alone if I’m single. I never wanted kids anyway and I’m very satisfied with my beautiful clean home, extra money and getting to buy what I want and go where I want.
Idk Christians always seem to be doing this kind of thing. So I think it is very Christian. They don't follow their written scriptures in modern times. Most of them haven't even read them.
That was insane. You could tell he just loved having that power to degrade women. I would never return to that church. What ever happened to preaching community love and respect for other human beings?
That pastor has a reputation of being verbally abusive towards his congregation. My ex is a Christian man who sexually assaulted and harassed women, uses women and is now getting married to a 23 year old. He is 35. I was told I have trauma to heal from, but he was complaining about bad thoughts and bad dreams about his past. The mental gymnastics was insane. Everyone thinks he is so kind and Godly. It truly makes me sick. And what grown man asks someone to hookup. 🤦
Just got divorced after being married for 20 years. My workload has dropped by 75% and my joy has increased by 1000%. I am advising both my teen daughters to stay single!
😂😂😂 oh lord! So because marriage didn't work for you your kids have to suffer, what if they want to have kids of their own you still want them to be single as in single baby mama's? I guess its easier than teaching them to be good wives.
@@oyedejishobande7389did you not understand that the marriage she left was what society considers “working”.. she could have stayed and had a less happy life sure, but that’s not better.. it’s not better for her kids to see mom forfeit happiness for nothing. If you are unhappy married then your marriage is failed even if you stay married. The message to the younger women is demand happiness and always put yourself first.. because men always have!!
When that guy said " when a woman has been single for a veery looong time, like 1 to 3 years" I laughed. I've been single for 9 now , it's really so amazing and I don't even have anything against marriage or dating. Like many women have said, if it's not gonna improve my quality of life , why would I date?
For men being single for 1-3 years is a lifetime lol. They have a constant rotation of women because they are codependent and need to use women to meet their needs. Women are independent and self sufficient so 1-3 years is nothing for us.
I have never dated.. and im 31 XD I have seen the ugly side of the men from my parent`s marriage.. then my friend`s marriage.. then my sibling.. men like you as long as you look youthful.. then they start see you gross once you give them kids and they start to browse new women specially those who didnt get kids yet. I have seen some men look at me... while his wife is next to him just have no word they have no shame! I swear if he ever approach me I will say: dare to cheat... and I will tell your wife! my thoughts " I wont assign myself for this scam " and studies show that the country where I live.. most of the violence happens INSIDE FAMILIES! most of the sexual assaults happens in relationships.. solution? stay single! this happened close to where I live... woman tried to leave man and that jellyfish came to her house and killed her with shotgun and people still wonder why women decide to stay single? XD Id rather not join in human barbeque
You are so right!!! I've been single for around eight years now, and while I will admit there were a few years early on where I was depressed about it and thought my life was less because of it, I eventually realized it wasn't because I didn't have a partner that I was depressed, it was because I was struggling in all other areas of my life (school, family relationships, personal beliefs and identity). I guess in my young naivety spawned from reading too much fanfiction, I thought having a boyfriend would just magically fix everything. Now I know it would have just made things way worse! 😂 My life is a lot better now and while I wouldn't be opposed to dating and marriage if the right guy came along, I have too many other priorities to actively look. Besides, I'm happy without one, so why would I?
Which is ironic considering the Bible has women leaders like Deborah and Esther, strong women like Ruth, Mary, Ja’el, Abigail, Lydia, and that not only did women help fund Christ’s ministry but they also were the first to see and witness to Christ’s resurrection.
I will for once say, that I don't think this is the bible's fault... I'm not religious, but like, if a person like Jesus existed, that guy did not treat women like that. The bible says a lot of stuff, including the support of slavery, but people stopped excusing slavery, but they still hold onto the idea of women bein less valuable than men? That's not about being a christian or believing the bible, that is a choice these people make.
The number of times some male said, "I'm less lonely with..." to me, I'm surprised that I've still got air to breathe. A lobster can fill that role just as well as dude can fill a hole.
As the daughter, niece, and granddaughter of married women, I can confirm that you don't have to be single to be sad, lonely and miserable in your 50s 😂
I think the main reason as to why men are suffering so much being single is because they have no real friends. They have drinking buddies, yeah, but no deep emotional connection. No one they can cry without shame with-because that role is for the girlfriend /s. Gentlemen, make friends, and cut off the “friends.” You’ll suddenly ‘need’ a partner a lot less.
This is not a gender issue, but societal. You all hating on every single men will not change anything and just make everyone more miserable. Misandry is just as real as misogyny. I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over. I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism. My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly. One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped. I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once. So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ; she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“ She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way. All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on. That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine, you hypocrites.
@@nothingnewunderthesun4292 Tbh as a man, when i gave up looking for love, life became much better for me Glad that someone pointed out misandry being the actual issue. The whole idea of this channel basically being bunch of tt vids in yt vid is just lame Many women here seem to have beef with men Many people just need to go outside.
I dont know, why do you think? And do you support the idea that women should choose to be single as it has better health benefits? Should all men stop doing dangerous necessary jobs for the same reason?
Instead of threatening single women with cats, maybe these podcast dudes should ask themselves why they can’t compete with an animal who poops in a box as desirable life companions?! 🤔
Cats are cleaner than most men. They even cover up their poop and constantly groom and clean themselves. They even know how to hunt and get their own food 😂
Cats are amazing little gods of the underworld who protect us from evil spirits and purr and want to be pet :) I can’t wait to grow old with one or two.
It’s the STDs part for me! You know how many STDs a woman can get from being in a monogamist relationship with a dusty cheater! Or from her own husband! Stop it!
I know a woman who told me her mother died of aids because her husband gave it to her. He was cheating on her found out he had it and never told her. He made sure to get himself treatment and because she trusted him an never got tested she ended up dying before him. So sad. I’d rather be alone than deal with these horrible men. It’s a lot more trifling men than there are good ones.
I was searching for the source but I remember reading once that 1 of the 5 profiles who will get hiv is a MARRIED STAY AT HOME woman. That’s crazy, and people say cheating should be forgiven. Cheating isn’t just your partner disrespecting you but it’s also your partner exposing you to a myriad of STDS and diseases. And it’s so sad that a lot of women are told all their lives how they shouldn’t be promiscuous and how waiting for a husband is going to save them from all the trouble. Only for these women to end up getting STDS, some which have no cure, because their husbands were unfaithful. I don’t know how these women don’t end up doing anything to these guys cuz as soon as I got the HIV positive results I would make sure to ruin his life to the point he wants to move out of the country or the planet. Never forgive cheating, ladies, don’t buy into the bullshit all these “marriage counselors” spew, if he cheats he doesn’t care about your nor the risk he’s putting you in
Men are just worried they are going to be alone. Women can form real connections with friends, family. Love can come from anywhere. Men have “friends” but it tends to be very superficial and lack real connection. They are just projecting unhappiness on us. I am perfectly happy. I don’t foresee myself pursuing any type of relationship again. I just turned 36 the other day been single for a few years now. I could have pursued relationships. I’ve had two long term relationships. Both the same. I don’t care to raise another man child, cook and clean, and mother him. The more you love yourself and care for yourself the less you are willing to put up with.
I was looking for a comment like this. This is exactly what I was thinking because men are the real ones afraid of being alone. They want to try to flip it around and make women scared of what they fear.
But men don't have families?? Don't u think the loneliness will rather bring them closer to family? Men these days are avoiding marriage check the latest data. They prefer to be single than to go into marriage full of nagging argumentative narcissist masculine feminist woman
@@albertosei8788it's exactly the other way around. I think you should read some more data 😂.. also no. The main reason why there's a lonely men epidemic, is because they struggle to form bonds. Inform yourself before making it look like you can't read more than two sentences in a row.
been looking at so much content like this, feminist, redpill, blackpill, other and it really feels like men fear dying alone more than women do and they're unhappier when single rather than women.
You know what always gets me with these warnings from blogs and podcasts telling us young women that we're making a huge mistake and that we're going to be lonely when we're old? They never, ever come from older single women. The only people whose opinion I would trust on the matter - the people who have lived out my current and future experience - are never the ones telling us that we're making a huge mistake. It's always the men telling us that, the ones that stand to lose the most because of our decision to stay single.
Exactly! It’s the older, single ladies that are telling the truth that they’re not “crying in their wine with their pet”, and they’re demonstrating that they’re living fulfilled, rich and peaceful lives. This is why these angry podcast bros like to say that it’s “advice from bitter old women that are keeping young women single”. The “bitter old women” are telling the truth, which is forcing men to either level up and come correct or watch reruns eating Spaghetti-Os from the can and die alone.
I watched my mom, my grandmother, and both my aunts deteriorate in loveless marriages to useless manbabies. I swore it would never happen to me. 37 single and child free, and couldn’t be happier. I love my life, I love my career, I love my clean peaceful house, and I can dote on my cats and dogs. I get to spend quality time with my mom and grandmother, my (divorced) friends and their kids, and I get to travel and meet new people whenever I want. But even if I were miserable, I’d rather be alone and miserable than trapped in a miserable marriage having to raise a grown a$$ useless, whining, contemptible man. I will never sacrifice my peace on the alter of marriage.
I watched one aunt literally die… health and looks deteriorated drastically. At the end she was in a wheelchair and was only in her 60s when she died a “strange” death… he had girlfriends and a drug addiction throughout their marriage. Needless to say, it was a toxic marriage
@sisterlove2733 that was my mom too. She was 53 and died from cancer. Spent her last years continuing same routine of working full time as a nurse, working around the house without help, and managing ALL thr affairs of my stepfather. When she died the man didn't know how to pay any bills or where anything was. Completely useless. All he could do was bring a paycheck, punch holes in the walls and curse everyone out when he was mad. I begged her to leave him for years.
@@ksy4747 Same with my dad. He would whine about not being able to find towels, toilet paper, extra blankets, what have you, when they were in the SAME PLACE until the day he died. My mom would jump up and run like Edith Bunker to get it for him while he stood there. Even as a small child this rubbed me the wrong way. And THIS is what men think completes us?? Lol.
@@JakeLuke716You’re not old enough to have this conversation and your sentences are proof of that. You can’t even formulate your opinions in a grammatically correct manner. You need to get yourself a job and stop jacking off to h3ntai. Arguing with women mature enough to be your older is a personal L you need to eat in silence. Bite that babbling tongue of yours and focus on being a true man rather than worried about what women do.
I’ve been single and celibate for 9 years and in my late thirties. I don’t see an end to being single. Men are absolutely unkind and demanding. Marriage to me is exhausting
@@JakeLuke716that's what the popo is for.. That aside most men these days are selfish and cowards. I never have it in my mind that a man is looking to protect me... Because the average man's priority is to look for the quickest way to nut. 🤷♀️
There are two types of women in my extended family: married and miserable; or single and free. When I was a kid, I looked at my mom, depressed, unsupported by my dad, emotionally absent, exhausted - and compared her to my aunt, vibrant, fiercely single, fitness instructor, beautiful apartment with loving pets and a swimming pool, which might as well have been magic to my child self thirty years ago - there was no competition. I have so much respect for the women in my family who struck out and decided to live life on their own terms - and I’m happy more women are now doing the same. I’m proud to have become one of them. I spent my 20s in unfulfilling relationships with partners who ignored me, cheated on me, insulted me, physically and sexually abused me… I’ve been single now for almost five years and never been happier. As this video says, of course I still want companionship - but not at the cost of my own peace or sense of self. ❤ Enough is enough.
"She's going to be miserable at 50!!" Is the oldest gaslight ever. They stress that we are happy by ourselves and need to try and convince us that we will need someone. When women are single forever, they turn into the cool aunt! When men are single forever, they turn into the creepy uncle who isn't allowed around any of the teen girls.
Can't even count how many people kept telling me I'd regret having tattoos when I'm older. Almost two decades later I'm still waiting for this supposed "regret" to come. The whole "but when you're xx old" argument seems to be nothing more than the last ditch tactic to say "but I don't like what you did" when they run out of valid arguments.
Yep. I actually had to leave a church because the pastor wouldn't get off my back. He told me that I was setting a bad example for the young ladies. My crime? I was "going against God's will for my life." Translation: Daring to be 28, single, and happy. I wasn't actively looking for a husband and I seemed content. SMDH.
My mom’s single at 60 and is enjoying her kids and grandkids…. My dad is 63 with a girlfriend.. he’s miserable still now she’s miserable and her kids don’t come around because of him so they are both lonely and miserable….. My momma is winning…
I rather be alone than; - be a mother to a man, - be emotionally and physically abused, - feel single in a relationship, - raise my children alone while married - Disciple a man in God, because he won’t be the head he’s supposed to be - be sick because I’m stressed and unhappiness … now if a great MAN comes, I’m down for the ride 🙃
The problem you have is you cant know in advance whether the man meets your criteria or not, even being celibate until you find a good man is a good vetting method but in time things can change so the ultimate question to you is are you not going to bother trying to find what you want or will you still try?
@@YouYou-sm8tf how did you get to 1%? Did you use one of those programs where you put in your preferences and the results came out at that? What are your preferences? You can always share the 1% if thats the case.
@@h8h215 What's the point of sharing? Would you share yours if your type is rare? I know some people are into poly-open relationship...but I can't do that. Good and husband material men are definitly 1%. Standard: attractive, educated, good job to provide for a family, have ambition, hardworking, nice personality, open minded, supportive, loyal.......(within 10 years gap to the female). It's rare
It's disgusting that "pastors" are saying things like this and not even being called out when they should be being removed from their positions. It's horrifying that there are congregations willing to put up with this or worse, endorse it.
I was working with a woman who is in her 60’s and she FINALLY got divorced last year. She said she was done trying to please everyone…. Her husband, children, parents, and society. She also mentioned that she was glad that we are now living in a time where it’s ok to leave if you don’t want to put up with a controlling husband. The men are not happy that women have had ENOUGH and we’re not just settling.
@@MiaBellaxOx yop, right here. I'm waving over here in Texas. 50 and single and finally happy af!! It was just too much to deal with a man child. I sleep like a baby now.
@@MiaBellaxOxSo true! My former spouse and I split up in 1992, and I swore to never get married again. People told me that I would change my mind, especially men, but I never did, and I'm living happily ever after with no partner.
@@MiaBellaxOx and studies show it!! Majority of women who have been divorced 1 time NEVER want to get married again which is in stark contrast to the only 30% of first time divorced men who express the same sentiments. Marriage is for men but we as women got tricked into believing it was a prize for us.
My sister got an STD from her husband while pregnant. He could have disabled their baby girl. Luckily she was born healthy, but my sister was embarrassed to death. Of course she stayed with him. He also had a baby with one of her girlfriends. She stayed. When I caught my ex-husband cheating once, it was a wrap. My older sister taught me how not to be.
Yep. I'm the type to walk to while my sister isn't. But thankfully her husband isn't a cheater or abusive, just a bit of a man child. I think he's improving though.
I've never met a single woman who was single and in her 60s and was sad about it...for the most part they confirm that men aren't shit...they tell me about the peace they have.....makes me feel good... single 5 years now
Ok, my gma was one toxic, abusive woman. She was miserable but not miserably single. She did not care one bit about having a man. I found it funny that even her old evil ass felt she was better off without a man. Whether good or toxic, women that have been through abuse with men choose singleness over men that suck them dry.
I was also so stressed the last time I dated a man that I literally became chronically ill. I was only with him for about a year when I became sick. He didn’t show an ounce of empathy when he saw how sick I was getting (surprise, surprise!) This was a man who seemed like the sweetest, most caring man at the start. Don’t be fooled by them putting their best foot forward at the beginning. Pay attention to those behaviour changes and them slowly revealing their not so nice comments over time.
Women are statistically so much more likely to be left by their husbands when they get sick than with the roles flipped. It’s a terrible thing to even think about. And especially if we’re talking about older couples. Like you’re telling me you’ve been married to this woman for 30 years and now that she can’t “take care of you” like she used to you’re going to leave her? That is not okay. And this is probably a newer trend that we’re noticing now that people are living longer and illnesses tend to be more chronic instead of acute. Your husband can’t leave you if you cough once and you’re dead by the next week, or if he dies before you, or if you die suddenly during childbirth.
Not just romantic partners but friendships too - we can't hold on to who someone used to be and hope they'll change back, or that things will magically be like they used to. And get out once you know its not going to be healthy again. But sometimes thats easier said than done.
Single men: Single women are going to be lonely and sad without us. Single women: I’m enjoying my life! Woohoo! Notice the difference in reaction to singlehood?
Historically, women have needed men as providers and men have needed women as companions/emotional supporters. Now, a large number of women can provide for themselves and since men have never learned to bring any thing else to the table, except to emotionally drain or even abuse their companions, women opt out of relationships. It really isn't rocket science: men must adapt to provide something that women want from them, i.e. love, romance, emotional support, loyalty, etc.
@@RoRo07770 Oh yes, the totally real human, but not human, god, but not god, who died, but not really, Jesus that loves me so much he'll burn me alive for all eternity if I don't incessantly stroke his fragile ego. Ooh I'm shaking in my boots.
When someone asks you why you’re single, say, “ because I am not married”. When they ask you why you’re not married, say, “ because I am single”. Then, smile and just skip away😊.
As a 20 year old African girl who chose to be single by choice and opted out of marriage, I've had people go out of their way to try to make me change my mind, not just by family members and strangers alike it's irritating
As long as your happy with the choices you have made and accept them as your choices i support you, when women post tictoc videos of how feminism has tricked them and then now want a family but its too late they dont get my sympathy, make sure its what you want.
I'm 25 and African and saame. Honestly see so many previous generation of African women including my mother whose lives were ruined after marriage etc. I'm good. Don't bother with the ignorant people trying to force their ideal views on you. At the end of the day, as long as we are happy and have lives of peace, then we're making the best choice for ourselves ✨.
This is the only way that they can “scare” women to take them. I tell people all the time, you can be surrounded by 100 people and still be LONELY! Being alone, in your own peace, and having your money is Priceless.
I try not to go into gender wars but I will tell any man and any woman to make sure that they can take care of themselves and their kids in case their partner dies, divorces or becomes disabled. Don't depend on only one person.
It's true. Men and some women (the gender traitors) are gaslighting young women that they will end up alone and living with cats (which I am person they are describing and frankly my cat and I live in peace) as if that is the worst thing in life. I'm thrilled that younger women are fighting back and telling these alarmists to go punt!!! If men are lonely,them become a better person and to do your part so that you will attract a good woman. The answer should not be for women to lower their standards. Hell we just learned from that viral TikTok video that many men don't even like their girlfriends and want to be schmucks so their girlfriends will end relationship so those feckless men won't have to. No, women have learned that single, childfree women are happiest, and married women rearing their children and taking care of a grown man like he also is a child are most unhappy. Men are happier and live longer lives when married. It is the men who need women that is truth. Women have a choice now, which right-wingers are trying to do away with. Stay strong ladies. You don't want to end up divorced and rearing your child on your own like I did.
@@theteleisewilliamsexperience Woman weren't allowed to get bank accounts and own property without her father or husband's permission until the 70's. My grandma said that it was illegal for a woman to cross state lines with a man that wasn't her husband, father or brother. Women could not vote in the state of New York if they weren't married. Divorce was illegal back in the day. Thank God we are free at last!
Also technically, a husband could force himself on his wife legally, until the laws were changed! And it was only in recent American history that all 50 states overturned the legal marital rape exemptions. Men have always coopted women's bodies for their own use and abuse.
Anyone who uses the "you're gonna end alone with a bunch of cats" as a negative threat just know nothing of the world. I live with cats and I can confirm that life is 100% better with them than with any misogynistic men.
That “You’ll die alone!” line is such BS! Married women die without their spouses as well. Most husbands die long before their wives. There are a lot more 90 year old women than men..
They would again blame that on Woman 😅 "He worked so hard to provide for his wife, that's why the men dies before his wifes." Or "She sucked the life out of him by all her demands..." Or "Woman live longer because they had an easy life not working/less Stress..." They always find something...
Either the men die before their wives or trade her in for a younger woman. Either way, she still ends up old & alone. So why bother “getting a man” like they’re some prized possession. It’s not like winning the Nobel Peace Prize. What exactly is so special about achieving being coupled with abusive cheaters?
Whew, what you said! Cause that's me right now. I told my ex, when he asked if we could get back together, I felt like I was in a marriage by myself. He didn't know what to say.
Most woman I have met that are elderly 75+. Have said they are HAPPY they’ve never married or had children. I know an 86 year old who is incredibly healthy, did ballet professionally & travels twice a year. That woman is so happy. Her life is only one some can dream of. She has a nook in a sunroom that she reads in. She doesn’t have a car or a dog. A HUGE apartment with no one but herself to share it with. No one to reap benefits for what she’s earned. Happiest most innocent adult I know. She NEVER dated & focused on her career. She couldn’t lie to me with all the shopping & traveling she does. Her beauty convinced me child free & or single is a lifestyle that enriches you. Don’t do what you don’t want to do! He sounds so envious as if he actually does any child rearing… 😂
And ballet is one of those careers that would’ve been extremely difficult if not impossible to go back to after having a baby. Especially in the time period when she would’ve been having kids, like even if she got back in shape they probably wouldn’t have looked twice at someone with a baby.
To all my ladies that have been called a "modern woman" as if it's an insult, I'm glad you're a modern woman. I'm glad we get to be modern women together and live through this societal shift. I wish us all the best of luck, whether we end up enjoying our lives in our own company or sharing it with a man that understands us and considers us.
"They are gonna have a couple of STDS" Men tell us every day their own shortsightedness without even realizing it. They think a life of singlehood is full of hedonism and endless sexcapades. But in actuality a woman choosing to be single has probably been offered less than what she deserves and she made the brave choice to continue being on her own in peace. That would include not putting her body at risk for chance encounters with men who don't care about her. Also if she loves cats then having 7 of them is not a threat lmaoo. The single shaming needs to stop, there's a lack in worthy partners out there.
A few years ago I let my friends fix me up with single men. When they heard I was a nurse all of them told me they could quit their jobs and I could support them. The first man who told me that,I was so surprised I didn't say anything. After that I told them that they could quit their jobs ,but they'd starve because I wasn't going to support them. This was always on the first date!
My mom married her high-school sweetheart, my father, at 17 when she got pregnant. She had three kids and a life-long marriage based on Christian values with focus on being quality parents. Around 65 she nearly left my father when she realized she'd be facing old age with him. He wasn't a bad man, he was an exceptional father and I've kept a relationship with him. But he was never raised to view his wife as a whole equal person and to be her emotional partner. The "inconvenience" of a husband and children doesn't stop at 50 or even 60 if they were inconvenient up until then. They don't age into NOT being a drain on your emotional health and suddenly become supportive in your old age. My mom did everything a classic mother could be expected to do for the family, including making full meals while working a job. She was a superb, amazing, intelligent human being who also placed a lot of faith in the rhetoric of women needing a family to be fulfilled. She enjoyed the role and was the center of our household. When she got into her 70s and started to show signs of dementia, the men in the family she was living with didn't notice. Instead they complained she stopped cooking and cleaning for them. She lost a hundred lbs and they had to be talked into taking her to the doctor. (In fact they didn't take her, her granddaughter did.) They let her sit in her own urine and feces and complained that she wouldn't bathe for a year before someone finally stepped in and informed them she needed to be put into a home. These were not bad men. They were soft hearted, caring, family focused men that loved her. I'd consider them some of the better men society has to offer. But men have traditionally been raised to take from women, not give. Not care for or look after or worry about. You can't "protect" a woman from dementia so they didn't think it was their responsibility. They had "provided" her a home and after that stepped away from being involved in her well-being. I'm 45 and childless, married to a man who was raised in many of these same ideals but is uninterested in keeping them. We have to work daily at untangling the abuse he suffered as being viewed as a workhorse for his family growing up, where his feelings were constantly disregarded. He's extremely brave and has taking great strides to learn to be emotionally vulnerable so we can enter old age as partners who care for each other. It helps that he adored my mother and watched her end of life aside me, I am certain. That said I still have plans to move in with a few of my female friends in our old age. I won't rely on men to prevent my suffering at the end of my life.
I am so proud of my father in law. He is almost 90 - old school - now my mother in law has dementia etc he takes care of everything . It is sparkling clean everywhere . He cooks. Drive Her to appointments etc. He is fantastic He also takes care of his house and garden
Says the men in your life are "great men, the best" yet they left your mother in her own feces and urine for a year?? Yet they looked at her like that and complained about her not cooking & cleaning?? Yet you wont grow old with your husband who YOU say loved your mother and is changing his ways for you?? These aren't "great men" you're in denial because you were raised to see them as great men. You don't seem to realize that you are still being affected by misogyny.
This was so hard to read but very eye opening. I can't imagine being in my final years and the people around me do not even notice I need help because they are so used to seeing me as existing to provide FOR them and never needing help FROM them. I feel very fortunate that my husband is not like this. Heck I have been home with a cold for 3 days and he won't let me do anything around the house and keeps telling me to go back to bed. I can't imagine what other women out there are going through with partners who treat them like a domestic robot, it sounds terrible.
As someone who has been Asexual/Aromatic for the last 5 years whenever I get asked out and say that I have no interest in romantic relationships the first thing they say is, “we can fix that. I can make you love me” Like no…I am just not interested. Then they ask if I’m lonely and I said no I’m not, I love my friends and have people who have a connection with. I’m good.
My mom met her current partner of 8 years after she had 2 children, got a divorce and turned 50. He adores her. They constantly go on trips around the world together and when they're home, he cooks, cleans and does everything that needs to be done. He doesn't need to be asked, he just does it. Men can do it. They are fully capable of being like that.
"when they're home, he cooks, cleans and does everything that needs to be done. He doesn't need to be asked, he just does it." This is what women are asking/looking for. It is not that complicated.
There are good men and happy marriages. But many/most women would rather be at peace and happy. If that means marriage to a great man, fantastic! But if that means being single, great! Forcing a doomed marriage is not wise.
I remember my mom telling me when I was in my late teens that my standards were too high and reality isn’t like my fantasy books. Then I cautiously brought a male friend home and she proceeded to tell me I could do better lol. I never settled and got my first bf when I turned 20. Next March will be our 6th anniversary and I cannot believe I found him. Also we did have a fairytale first kiss so SUCK IT MOM😂😂😂. Ladies, men, don’t settle. Know your worth and follow your heart. Find someone you feel emotionally safe with who you can lay your soul bare to who will support you and help you to be the best you you could ever be just by being with you❤ it’s possible, it exists and I’m so incredibly lucky to have found it.
I'm a great cook and a fanatic house cleaner. I also excell at home improvement projects. If a woman wants to go to work, bring home decent money, and I won't even demand 100K, I'm all in. Especially if she's coming in with two extra expenses. FYI, I make close to 6 figures, own my own home outright, own my cars outright, have no debts, and have plenty of money stashed. I certainly don't want a leech. Especially a leech struggling with baggage from the past (ie: two children from a past relationship, and an ex she will never shake because they have children). I'm 56 single and happy. My future is bright as a single old man.
Marriage and parenthood is a HUGE inconvenience for women. It always has been, but we've been programmed to tolerate the misery, labor and stress. Gaslit into thinking if refuse to subject ourselves to the suffering, then somethings wrong with us. I'm so glad women are waking TF up. Let these men get their stuff together and focus on centering yourself.
Great video. Love your hair. I got married young myself, went straight from being with my best friend 24/7, to being with my fiance 24/7. Married at 23. Divorced at 39. 49 now on living peacefully on my own. Actually looking forward to a solo Christmas this year. No expectations. Just for me.
The “pastor” who told that lady to lose weight and spoke about her breast in front of the entire congregation disgusted me. The other man was beyond gross, but talking about that lady’s breasts crossed several lines.
I was a teen with a shaved head and the men of the church we went to called me by a man's name and snickered at me and made jokes in front of the entire congregation as well as my family every Sunday. I was their entertainment.
Exactly! When he said that I thought “oh, because he has caught multiple STDs…” Men are dirty, careless and disgusting when it comes to sex. They will sleep with anyone, anything at anytime and think we do the same 😅😅
True. Some guys would rather do everything but improve themselves. And then they get mad when you reject them. When you do put up with their behavior, they don't treat you well.
Patriarchy has always demonized anything women value or prize. Cats are related to witches and are strongly autonomous, unlike dogs. Men don’t value autonomy in women or anything they can’t control
That whole safety argument is such a mafia racket, seriously... "You gotta pay your dues for protection", "Protection from who?", "From us, of course". 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Thank you! I’ve been saying this. MAKE IT MAKE SENSE!! Wtf?! They don’t even realize what they say. We don’t owe them shyt and if I do bc you “protected” me no thanks I’ll protect my gdamn self before I let you throw that up in my face for the rest of my life. They make my fckn teeth itch.
Also, is anybody going to talk about how relationships with men lead to diastasis recti, vaginal prolapse, cervical cancer, alzheimers, urinary incontinence, heart attacks, obesity, chronic stress, postpartum depression, and a myriad of other diseases. Being single is the best antidote to all the health implications attached to dating men as a woman.
If being in a relationship and having children is hard work cant i just reason to not do it because its easier to live life without it? I can stack more on top of that about the problems women can create for men, would this be good advice in your opinion?
So true that the longer you are single and happy the higher your standards are for a man wanting to enter your world. Peace is so important to me. And let me tell you that dogs and cats are perfect companions. Plus, women tend to have intimate friendships.
If the stereotypical lonely/divorced women invest in cats, living beings that you can connect with and which require care and devotion and return that care with more love, and the stereotypical lonely/divorced men invest in sex dolls and p0rn subscriptions, I think that says EVERYTHING about who was actually the problem.
I remember when I used to be on social media in my teens I would see multiple posts from men and boys talking about how having partners was terrible and how marriage was a trap for men. I also saw this tacky photo where a couple got married on Friday because “Saturday is for the boys.” So why are they mad now that women are returning the same energy?
U are right. Men HATE to hear women are a lot happier & fulfilled without them. The truth is men CANNOT be alone. But women by nature can be single & xtremely happy
I find it ironic that a preacher is telling women that we'll die alone. If God is truly the God he is, then spiritually speaking you're never alone. I'd rather be with God than to be with any man on Earth. 🤷🏾♀️
These ungodly preachers are the reason why I left the church and will never go back. If I believe in a magnificent, omnipresent God how can i ever be alone? God isn't in males and God definitely isn't in the church ladies.
Facts. These brazen fools actually have no shame using God's name to push their own agendas... Everything these preachers said actually contradicts the Bible.
I would rather have 50 cats than get married. Why do people associate living with cats with being sad? Cats are intelligent, autonomous, affectionate, loving, funny, cute, sanitary (some man aren't), easy to care for and their purr is healing. Staring at your cats eyes and blinking triggers the production of oxytocin in our brains, because their faces resemble a baby's face. Cats are healing, man are not!!!
These men are upset that women are choosing to be single than to be with them because that means it’s harder for them to find a woman who is willing to clean after them, cook for them, do their laundry, etc. Men want their woman to contribute the same financially but they still expect their woman to do the housework etc.
“I went to the spa, I went to Belize” oh no, what a nightmare! LOL they’re so mad. Sometimes I think I want to date again, but honestly I’m afraid. My ex was such an angel and I know it’ll be unlikely that I’ll ever find a dude who is empathetic and not misogynistic again. I’d rather be alone than murdered by some unhinged freak.
I am a 70 year old woman. I gave up on live in relationships with men when I was 48, having had a series of unhappy relationships. My first partner used to follow me when I left his house. My next partner, my husband beat me up. My next partner fucked around. My next partner had a major drink problem. My next partner was a control freak, wanting to control who I was friends with, even what I should read. Yes clearly I chose badly, repeatedly. It seemed to me that there are a lot of damaged people out there, both male and female. It struck me that whilst living together was a lovely idea, it traps you and can allow the strongest partner (not always the man) to take advantage of that. So I haven't had a live in lover since. This has sadly meant I haven't had a long term relationship since, because the men in my life always wanted to move in. Been there done that got the T-shirt, so they have moved on. I have remained happy. Alone, but not lonely. I have many good friends. I have also had lodgers, male and female who I have chosen not to have sex with but to share my home and life with. There are other ways of living that encourage respect and I found ways that worked better for me.
My ex told me I had to do what he said because he's the man. We were 18 and 17 years old at the time. I laughed so hard and then played a bot all day. Oh yes darling. Anything you say darling in a monotone voice. He hated it and kept yelling stop it!!! Lol!!! Broke up with him. Within a year, he was a teenage Dad with some poor girl he knocked up. If I could go back I'd never mate. No man is worth all that stuff rotting in your body after they've used you as their dumpster. Keep your PH balanced.
I had s similar story but the guy said that he only believed in himself in a cocky tone when i asked him if he believed in anything. At the time i was doing soul searching trying to figure out myself spiritually. And his whole vibe threw me off. And get this, he was wanting to hurry up, get married and have kids with me but had no job and still living with his ra-cist father that did not like blk people. (I’m a blk woman, he was wht). He tried to break up with me through text saying, “I don’t think this is going to work out”. And i was actually relieved, didn’t care and was unbothered replying back, “k”. I was 19yo and he was 25yo. Fast forward like 6mths later, i saw him with this why girl, both looking a bum, looking stressed, dirty, barely making it, and she was pregnant. The time i saw them was when they were trying to make an appt for his babymama to get her hair done at the salon i worked at. But when they found out how much it cost, they said it cost too much, left and never came back. Needless to say, I definitely dodged a bullet. Because at the time this guy tried to feed me that scam of marriage and having kids with him is when i was doing my apprenticeship as a cosmologist (hairdresser who does hair and nails). Had i fell for that scam, I would’ve been stuck with a failed marriage, his ugly@ss babies and possibly never ended up working as a cosmologist, broke and trapped.
OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOh, I'm sooooooooooooooooooo proud of you!!!!!! Woo Hoo!!! 🤗 I'm not sure why we didn't programme. LOL!! It's like old swirling on the system and then the system shut down when it came for us. LOL!! It's like us against the stepford wives, cherry 2000. Barbie make men annoyed. Their doll movies no probs. LOL!! It makes no sense to me at all. It only makes them look and be weak, so why? Because they can? I don't know. Truly. And, like we all come from a woman, so why want to control that which you come from? Freud goes into it at length...still not a good enough esplaining. I just love that you went into a woman centered space. I watched Chris Rock's hair doc and was fascinated and I have a degree in marketing and I was like all making products etc. for BW to sell to BW. Oils, Oils, Oils!! I used to live on an island. LOL!! You need more of a portion of that market for real!! I have biracial in my fams through cousins etc. So, like the hair thing is REAL. I was getting the united nations of girls ready for a dance. Make up, no probs, had all colors etc. My friend's girl, gorgeous, super model perfection of 90s awesomeness, half German (Mom) and Trinidad (Dad). Her hair wouldn't curl, or take to any of the products I had and she was like so sad and I was like freaking out with so much sorrow. It wasn't like a common hair that has been catered too. I've since learned about the 4cs and studied what the grades are and why. I'm Norwegian, so I have A LOT of hair, breaks hair bands etc., that's super fine - won't curl. Like it's curly on it's own when weather just right. Otherwise super straight. Heat and hairspray it laughs at. LOL!! Anyway, like, you HAVE to get in and take your market. It's yours. LOL!!! I'm excited by hair and nail shows. LOVE the art and healthy competition. I've donated my hair and been a hair model. I'd let them do whatever at the time. LOL!! I can't say enough how proud I am of you, I know it wasn't easy - hair salons and barber shops need to make a huge come back for the people. Forgive me, I'm Gen X, from an entirely different planet it seems to now. Be the future for our girls, they need to own what is theirs. Have the power and authority to tell the truth and deal with problems head on, literally. I don't ever want another girl to not have hair products and ways to do her hair that makes her joyful and feel bouncy and free. I've seen the pain, it's no good. So pave that way girl!!!!!!!!!!!! Totally have to have like a spa/salon/barber shop one day. Think BIG!!😊@@anonnnymousthegreat
Two is bad enough lol, I have two dogs too and the cats are so much pushier and needier than the dogs, it’s hilarious and not at all what I was expecting as a lifelong dog person! They are charming though, I’m already contemplating getting a third.
something I like about the timeless story of "the princess in the tower" is that the man had to work his way up to reach the girl. He had to fight dragons, he had to climb to her level. And only when hes there, did she accept him. She does not come down to his level. But it feels like men no longer want to fight their dragons and climb the tower. They stay on the ground and whine that they cannot attain their princess
Over 65, unmarried no STD’s (I’m very careful), no cats, love my quiet life. I can go/stay home when I want. I enjoy my life. It’s as exciting or dull as I make it.
I love how people think we NEED a husband and children to not be lonely… sir, I have parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, and their kids. What do I need a husband and kids for when I already have a huge family? Give me a dog or two, and I’m straight. Being raised as an only child (super large age gaps between me and my siblings) prepared me for this.
@@beab8738 omg uwu no plzzzz forgive me for not seeing the error of my judgements! 🥺 so weak n smol n FEEBLE MINDED just like all women, so dumb of me 😩
I think the reason men hate single women enjoying their life is because that joy does not come from serving them (men) Women are finding more enjoyment in self improvement, enriching travel experiences, deep friendships, spirituality, loving their conpanion animals (yes, even the cold aloof cats) and being loving servers and supporters of their communities. None of these things requires a man or his phallus to be involved
It’s simpler than that. A lot of men just hate women. They straight up despise us and love to see female misery. Despite their hatred for us, they still need our emotional validation and emotional labour. They hate the fact that they rely on us. They can’t stand the female separatist movement because it consists of women thriving without men. It’s jealousy, plain and simple.
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way. All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on. That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine, you hypocrites. As if this all was EXCLUSIVE to womanhood. Mens suffering rly is a joke to you all, is it not?
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly. One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped. I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once. So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ; she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“ She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
I am so impressed with you young women these days. You are half my age but you have already figured out stuff that took me years longer to comprehend. You are independent, confident, very smart, articulate, and you don't take any shit from men. You are goddesses, and you share your awesomeness with the world which is fantastic. In my day, when I told another woman that I was happily single, she would make a pity-face and say "good for you, being brave" and pat my hand patronizingly. I sure hope that does not happen any more. You are more amazing than I can put into words. You go girls!
I sleep so peacefully knowing I don't have anyone lying in my face and cheating on me. Even wives get STDs from their husbands. So I think my chances are extreme low
I would rather be single than criticized, verbally abused, cheated on, punched in the face, coerced into sexual acts I am not okay with, sexually abused ect. I have experienced all the above and the safest thing for me to do is be single and have low tolerance for any behavior that makes me feel unworthy of love, respect, and care. A lot of men in this world are manipulative jerks using women for sex not giving a damn about loyalty or how they treat you. There are a lot of good looking monsters beating their gf's and wives behind closed doors. Be safe out here. Monsters are real.
This is not a gender issue, but societal. You all hating on every single men will not change anything and just make everyone more miserable. Misandry is just as real as misogyny. I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over. I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism. My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly. One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped. I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once. So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ; she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“ She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way. All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on. That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine, you hypocrites.
Monsters ARE real, and overwhelmingly christian and conservative. E.G. Peu Research Poll: divorce rates 2022. Peu Research Poll: Sexual Assault Convictions 2022. Peu Research Poll: Child Sex Crimes 2022. Peu Research Poll: Domestic Violence 2022. Spoiler; the evidence all confirms my intentionally controversial statement.
This is perfect. I’m happily married to a great guy and I love watching this tantrum from men just like my first husband who couldn’t fathom why I left.
▪️Studies show that the happiest social subgroup are single women over the age of 50 who’ve never married and have no children. I believe it. I’m one of them. ▪️I’m a heterosexual black woman. I’m single by choice and I’ve said no to marriage several times. I wouldn’t give up the freedom and peace I enjoy to serve a man with what’s going on in the world today. ▪️I consider my mental, emotional, physical, financial, and spiritual health priceless jewels, and wouldn’t sacrifice the value of any of these for the validation and acceptance of anyone. I say so unapologetically.
Me too, but I'm white. I knew, grin a very young age, I didn't want a man like good ol dad. The moment I saw any of his behaviors in a man I was dating, I'd try to talk about it to have the behavior changed. If that didn't work, I'd run. Even though I was told that beggers can't be choosers, I was and am, still choosey. I haven't settled and won't. I may not be the happiest, but at least I'm not miserable and abused.
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over. I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism. My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly. One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped. I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once. So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ; she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“ She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way. All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on. That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
The first guy nailed it. Being married is an inconvenience for many people. Women want a partner, not a pet, or a child. If the person you are dating, whether male or female, is not your equal and improving your life, they are not worth being with. No one should be with someone that drags them down.
Im childfree and single....i love the life i hv. I can go anywhere i want when i want. My house is clean, no big ass man to take over my personal space and spread himself out on my sofa. 😂. Would it be nice to have someone around on weekends and go do stuff and cuddle etc?? Yes of course. But my mental health, my peace is waaay more important.
The funniest part of the video is him saying that she is going to end up with STDs. When we all know that the main reason why women get STDs is from being in a relationship with an unfaithful partner, look at of all of the women who were married, and got HIV from their husbands. The whole narrative of relationships and marriage has completely changed in my perception. I was one of those girls who used to always want a partner always wanted to man and revolved myself around finding a man I have been single for two years. This has been the most peaceful two years of my entire 35 years of life I will never ever revolve my life around MEN again, I plan on continuing to remain single, because the only thing that I’ve ever experienced with dating men is anxiety, betrayal, and havoc !!
Right? And that’s more slut shaming. Doesn’t work anymore. Why isn’t he shaming single men and saying they’ll get STD’s? Right, because men can have sex and women can’t. 😂
Right! My life flourished when I decentered men. I could/would never go back. I don’t even look at women who have men at the center of their being the same. I avoid them as much as I do men.
As a lesbian I have always felt bad for straight women because it seems like it’s just so much harder to find a good man than a good woman (tho there’s good and bad people of any gender). I’m glad that some straight women have decided to prioritize themselves and fill their lives with supportive people that aren’t desperate and stuck up men. I do hope every straight woman finds a GOOD man who uplifts her and doesn’t drag her down if that’s what she wants, but being single is the next best thing.
I'm straight but I have often felt the same way as you do, that maybe my romantic life would be easier if I was lesbian. But that would be living a lie, because I'm not.
My parents asked me why I hadn't gotten married like the rest of my siblings. UMM... They married women. I, unfortunately, am very straight and swimming in a pool of mama's boys and losers.
Yeah true, but also y3ah be careful as anyone out there. My friend group has someone gone now because she moved too quickly with a very abusive woman, she couldn't get away in a normal route, so now she's running to the army. We all hope she makes it out to start her life again someday without that bitch.
Those men who try to shame and bully women into relationships are so nasty and toxic. They try to make women lose their sense of themselves and feel worthless because that is the only way women will date these type of nasty men. Our lives are our own. If we choose to be single or in a relationship then that is nobody else’s business. These type of men are not able to face their own loneliness and fear. All this trash talk about women is so off putting. I am encountering it more and more in my life with the result that I am less and less wanting to have a man in my life. I wish they would just shut up and mind their own business.
Exactly, I wish males would just respect people that don't want to deal with them and go away. men refuse to see anything,...only from their point of view. From their advantages and benefits. There is an epidemic of loneliness in men and men are developing cognitive impairments, mental instabilities at a faster rates. Connecting with Women is life affirming and life saving for men. Instead of challenging their toxic behaviors. I agree, men would rather try to shame and bully women into relationships. The more men talk, blame women, bully women, call women crazy, unstable and the more men blame feminism instead of themselves. The more I agree with divestment. Divesting from men is the best decision I ever made.
Exactly and them running their mouths still trying to tell women what to do and how to act is just making women even more turned off of them, they should just shut up and work to become better men.
Right, if they spent all that energy bashing single women into working on improving themselves and have actual emotional intelligence, they wouldn’t be fearing being single and alone. They refuse to see that their very mindset is what is pushing women away from them.
I'm single& child-free by choice. I refuse to be a baby mama. And I've known since age 17 that marriage doesn't benefit women, especially black women. And that romantic relationship with a man isn't guaranteed to last forever. I refuse to take the risk. I decided to listen to the people in my circle that was telling me that my standard was too high & unrealistic. So I made the horrible mistake of living with a man for the 1st time in my life at 48 years old. it was a nightmare. He refused to pay his part of the bills when I demanded he did. He started emotionally, and psychologically abusing me. I would have been better off with physical abuse than the stated abuse that I endured. The mental scars will never go away. I cooked, cleaned, washed clothes, and paid all the bills. I mean, he brought nothing but stress. The sex was mediocre. God gave me the strength to kick him out of my house. The experience only solidified my belief that being single is the best option for me. I'm happiest when I am not involved with a man, feel free and at peace. I don't have any cats either. Oh, btw, I am a nurse and 95% of my male patients have no one but us nurses to care for them. They hardly have any visitors. They are the lonely, depresed and miserable ones. Don't fall for their projections ladies
" I cooked, cleaned, washed clothes, and paid all the bills. I mean, he brought nothing but stress." that pretty much summarizes the life of a lot of married women. I knew my ex-bfs would act exactly like that if I ever married them, then I decided to be single and chilfree and it was the best decision in my life. Now I own my house, my car and my savings and the most important: PEACE OF MIND.
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over. I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism. My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly. One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped. I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once. So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ; she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“ She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
All of the negative things he mentioned can still happen to you in a marriage
True
Yeah, but the difference is at least you have some support and financial aid when you are married. More security than being single
Support and financial aid are not automatic either. There are many stressed out wives with lazy jobless husbands, broke parents and in-laws, extra household work, and sometimes no friends. Let's not overlook their very REAL struggle just to argue a pro-marriage point.
Women who want to get married will do so if they find someone who they want to marry. They don't need all those "well atleast..." comments, which hint at Low Standards.
"Atleast he can think about maybe paying the light bill."
"Atleast she gotta man."
At. Least. Least as in, lowest possible. smh
Only a handful of women have the financial aid and security most married women don’t have that.
@@candygirl1990 For women, not really. Medical personnel themselves will tell you that sick women often get ditched by their husbands, so even in a marriage, a sick woman won't get much support or aid and as far as finances, more men are becoming jobless while more women are becoming the marriage breadwinners and slowly out earning men, so we're financially aiding ourselves more than men are financially aiding us.
Saying women have been lied to is so dumb. As if we didn’t see what our mothers and grandmothers went through.
Sometimes you can’t trust your own feelings and eyes because you’re being gaslit by an entire community.
Right!? Like our foremothers weren't absolutely wrecked by men. We've seen it, and we are not going to experience the same thing.
Religion, culture, parenting all have lied to women. It’s a literal conspiracy against women’s freedom
So so true
Women have went through pure hell because of men. My sister and I had to be adopted because of abuse of men in our biological family. And my sister just passed away. This is what toxicness does to bloodlines. It's best to be alone if you don't have a Righteous loyal Godly Provider spouse.
I’m sorry that men are lonely. But that doesn’t mean it’s my responsibility to sacrifice myself to save them.
Exactly or happiness
I'm not even sorry, this is what a huge amount of them deserves.
@@ohmissbeliever2015I agree
Preach.
like if they wanna talk about being homies and being closer than women are with other women... then ok buddy, be there for each other then.
"More good women have been lost to marriage than to war, famine, disease and disaster....you have potential darling, don't waste it"
Cruella De Vil.
Brilliant.
Someone pointed out that Disney gave the line to a villain to make it seem like a bad thing.
@@harrisment7116Joke’s on them, villains are oftentimes much more iconic than the protagonists and thus quotes hit harder when uttered by them.
@@verasmith288dam right
This COMMENT!!!!!!!🔥🔥🔥
Facts
"you're telling women to pick better, and when they don't choose you, you get mad" 😂😂😂🔥🔥🔥
Well, my man, then BE BETTER. 🤣
Lmao😂
Just imagine!!…you later realised the Man U thought you love has a child somewhere during your relationship or is getting down with another man!! STD is real!!!😢😢😢😢😢
dammmmmm
No cap, be mad at yourself you overgrown child, not at the woman who is doing things to be happy
As a single woman, almost every conversation goes like this:
Someone: "Why are you single?"
Me: "Because I've had too many bad relationships."
Someone: "Well you're choosing the wrong people! You need to be more selective."
Me: "Okay. I want someone who's kind, healthy, financially stable, and shares the same interests with me."
Someone: "Woah, slow down. Your standards are way too high! You need to start settling."
Me: "...."
FR! It's almost like they expect women to just shut up and take it. They never challenge men to be better!
I hate that word, "choose". As if we have SO many choices. Also, financially stable doesn't mean he has to be a millionaire. It just means someone who manages the money he has in an intelligent, practical manner. In my experience, that IS asking too much. And as far as interests, they are only interested in your interests until they get with you. Then THAT ends....
@@elizabeetle13”they are only interested in your interests until they get with you and then that ends” THIS IS SPOT ON!
The last guy that I dated, would continuously ask me what my hobbies were and I told him I like exercising in nature. (He also had a dog, so I figured this would be no problem since dogs do require daily walking).
It wasn’t even a full month until I saw him for who he truly was. He was a lazy pos who expected me to be as desperate as the women in his family.
He never walked his dog and started saying how his aunt is the only one who walks the dog. He said how he hated exercising and what was the point in exercising outside when you can drive anywhere. Welp, as soon as I heard that, I told him that we weren’t compatible and he needed to find someone else.
This guy started crying and begging me to be his gf. He said: “But you liked me in the beginning. I don’t get why you’re like this”
He was desperate and pathetic. These guys will lie about anything and everything to get next to you and then cry when you see them for who they are. They don’t even love themselves and expect others to love them.
I remember my mom telling me when I was in my late teens that my standards were too high and reality isn’t like my fantasy books. Then I cautiously brought a male friend home and she proceeded to tell me I could do better lol. I never settled and got my first bf when I turned 20. Next March will be our 6th anniversary and I cannot believe I found him. Also we did have a fairytale first kiss so SUCK IT MOM😂😂😂. Ladies, men, don’t settle. Know your worth and follow your heart. Find someone you feel emotionally safe with who you can lay your soul bare to who will support you and help you to be the best you you could ever be just by being with you❤ it’s possible, it exists and I’m so incredibly lucky to have found it.
I agree, but hear me out….I have heard those same standards come out of the mouth of really toxic females who won’t work, won’t treat people with respect, and God forbid they make any personal growth in their life. I do think that, men and women alike, need to do better as a species.
I could NEVER blame men for all of my problems because that would make me a victim. A victim does not have to take accountability and continues believing that everyone else is the problem.
There are GREAT men in the world that many women don’t even allow themselves to have access to because they blind themselves with the delusion that “men are the problem”. Women are NO BETTER. Women are human too. Women have more choices in this country now than ever before and it shows. SO MANY self disrespecting young would rather pay a man that she doesn’t even know money for the same services she could get for free by being and finding a decent person. They ARE out there, good men. I married one and I would NEVER go back to being single.
All these men out here trying to tell women “You’ll be single and miserable” well, we grew up watching our mothers, grandmothers and aunts pick relationships just to be ‘miserable and married’ so we we said “yeah, we don’t want that, so we aren’t going to make the same mistakes” x
Agreed... my father is a decent man, but not good enough for my mother, and she has had a lot of disappointment carrying his weight. It would be best for her to leave him, I never want to be stuck in a relationship like that. My one aunt was cheated on, my other aunt divorced... they all settled early because it was expected of them.
@@HybridMiranda When you say decent, in what way do you mean? My father was a good person in a societal manner, no crime, responsible with money, hard working, career military, etc. But he was a total bastard on a personal level. He did everything he could to make our lives miserable on a mental and emotional level.
When people say "you'll be lonely and miserable in the future, when you get old"
Like you are, right now? At least I'm having fun and enjoying life for the time being. But you've been miserable and lonely this whole time. 💁🏾♀️
@@jandnoc LOL!!! Good one.
Being in a relationship isn’t my sole purpose in life, I still have friends, my parents, my brother, cousins, coworkers, so many people in my life to hang out with who value me and love me. I won’t be miserable and alone if I’m single. I never wanted kids anyway and I’m very satisfied with my beautiful clean home, extra money and getting to buy what I want and go where I want.
The pastor verbally abusing the women of his church is absolutely disgusting! He is NO Christian!
Idk Christians always seem to be doing this kind of thing. So I think it is very Christian. They don't follow their written scriptures in modern times. Most of them haven't even read them.
That was insane. You could tell he just loved having that power to degrade women. I would never return to that church. What ever happened to preaching community love and respect for other human beings?
Expecting the women to put money in the bowl he passes around after verbally degrading them. What a waste of space he is! 🚮
I STOPPED going to church!!!
That pastor has a reputation of being verbally abusive towards his congregation. My ex is a Christian man who sexually assaulted and harassed women, uses women and is now getting married to a 23 year old. He is 35. I was told I have trauma to heal from, but he was complaining about bad thoughts and bad dreams about his past. The mental gymnastics was insane. Everyone thinks he is so kind and Godly. It truly makes me sick. And what grown man asks someone to hookup. 🤦
Someone once said heterosexual women are proof that sexuality is not a choice and that struck me so deeply
Ouch. That one hit hard. ☹️
Whoah
I’ve no idea why; I think it’s an asinine statement.
I wish i was lesbian so bad
Forreal 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Just got divorced after being married for 20 years. My workload has dropped by 75% and my joy has increased by 1000%. I am advising both my teen daughters to stay single!
That's triple-good! I'm really happy for you all!
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😂😂😂 oh lord! So because marriage didn't work for you your kids have to suffer, what if they want to have kids of their own you still want them to be single as in single baby mama's? I guess its easier than teaching them to be good wives.
@oyedejishobande7389 And who TF is teaching men to be good husbands?
@@oyedejishobande7389did you not understand that the marriage she left was what society considers “working”.. she could have stayed and had a less happy life sure, but that’s not better.. it’s not better for her kids to see mom forfeit happiness for nothing. If you are unhappy married then your marriage is failed even if you stay married. The message to the younger women is demand happiness and always put yourself first.. because men always have!!
When that guy said " when a woman has been single for a veery looong time, like 1 to 3 years" I laughed. I've been single for 9 now , it's really so amazing and I don't even have anything against marriage or dating. Like many women have said, if it's not gonna improve my quality of life , why would I date?
For men being single for 1-3 years is a lifetime lol. They have a constant rotation of women because they are codependent and need to use women to meet their needs. Women are independent and self sufficient so 1-3 years is nothing for us.
I was single for 11 because I refuse to settle and IM NOW ENGAGED with someone I trust and love it's worth the wait
@@comedianpottymouth aww. I love that. He must be a great guy for you. You know what you want.
I have never dated.. and im 31 XD
I have seen the ugly side of the men from my parent`s marriage.. then my friend`s marriage.. then my sibling..
men like you as long as you look youthful.. then they start see you gross once you give them kids and they start to browse new women
specially those who didnt get kids yet. I have seen some men look at me... while his wife is next to him just have no word
they have no shame! I swear if he ever approach me I will say: dare to cheat... and I will tell your wife!
my thoughts " I wont assign myself for this scam " and studies show that the country where I live.. most of the violence happens
INSIDE FAMILIES! most of the sexual assaults happens in relationships.. solution?
stay single!
this happened close to where I live... woman tried to leave man and that jellyfish came to her house and killed her with shotgun
and people still wonder why women decide to stay single? XD Id rather not join in human barbeque
You are so right!!! I've been single for around eight years now, and while I will admit there were a few years early on where I was depressed about it and thought my life was less because of it, I eventually realized it wasn't because I didn't have a partner that I was depressed, it was because I was struggling in all other areas of my life (school, family relationships, personal beliefs and identity). I guess in my young naivety spawned from reading too much fanfiction, I thought having a boyfriend would just magically fix everything. Now I know it would have just made things way worse! 😂 My life is a lot better now and while I wouldn't be opposed to dating and marriage if the right guy came along, I have too many other priorities to actively look. Besides, I'm happy without one, so why would I?
These pastors SMH. The church has always been terrified of independent women.
I was shocked hearing the garbage they were spewing. Guess they’re big fans of the Old Testament and not Jesus?
Yup even when the bible says its GOOD to be single!
Which is ironic considering the Bible has women leaders like Deborah and Esther, strong women like Ruth, Mary, Ja’el, Abigail, Lydia, and that not only did women help fund Christ’s ministry but they also were the first to see and witness to Christ’s resurrection.
Yeah, they burned at the state some hundreds years ago.
I will for once say, that I don't think this is the bible's fault... I'm not religious, but like, if a person like Jesus existed, that guy did not treat women like that. The bible says a lot of stuff, including the support of slavery, but people stopped excusing slavery, but they still hold onto the idea of women bein less valuable than men? That's not about being a christian or believing the bible, that is a choice these people make.
Women would rather be single than be with someone we don't want. Men are the opposite, they rather be with someone they don't want than be alone.
Well said 💯
men are usually more desperate, that's why 😂
Absolutely. A+ for you.
The number of times some male said, "I'm less lonely with..." to me, I'm surprised that I've still got air to breathe. A lobster can fill that role just as well as dude can fill a hole.
That’s it right there!!!
As the daughter, niece, and granddaughter of married women, I can confirm that you don't have to be single to be sad, lonely and miserable in your 50s 😂
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Same here.
😂😂😂 thank you for sharing ❤❤❤ I thought I was going to be miserable since I’m single & childfree 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I think the main reason as to why men are suffering so much being single is because they have no real friends. They have drinking buddies, yeah, but no deep emotional connection. No one they can cry without shame with-because that role is for the girlfriend /s.
Gentlemen, make friends, and cut off the “friends.” You’ll suddenly ‘need’ a partner a lot less.
Tbh as a man i lost all my friends & don't really want to feel emotions anymore
look up "manic pixie dream girl". we're apparently supposed to fix their asses lol
This is not a gender issue, but societal. You all hating on every single men will not change anything and just make everyone more miserable. Misandry is just as real as misogyny.
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine, you hypocrites.
@@nothingnewunderthesun4292 Tbh as a man, when i gave up looking for love, life became much better for me
Glad that someone pointed out misandry being the actual issue. The whole idea of this channel basically being bunch of tt vids in yt vid is just lame
Many women here seem to have beef with men
Many people just need to go outside.
If single women are miserable, why do they have better health and a longer life span than any other demographic?
I dont know, why do you think? And do you support the idea that women should choose to be single as it has better health benefits? Should all men stop doing dangerous necessary jobs for the same reason?
@@h8h215chill. they aren't saying that, they're just providing a counter point to all the misogynists.
@@h8h215what women choose to do with their life is none of your business.
@@kanikakumari7219 i dont care what anyone do with their life, but if your going to make a claim it is open to questions.
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Instead of threatening single women with cats, maybe these podcast dudes should ask themselves why they can’t compete with an animal who poops in a box as desirable life companions?! 🤔
These women dont desire men thats why. A cat doesnt represent a man it represents a child.
I like this take.
Cats are cleaner than most men. They even cover up their poop and constantly groom and clean themselves. They even know how to hunt and get their own food 😂
"WhAt DoEs ThIs CaT hAvE tHaT I DoN't"
Cats are amazing little gods of the underworld who protect us from evil spirits and purr and want to be pet :) I can’t wait to grow old with one or two.
It’s the STDs part for me! You know how many STDs a woman can get from being in a monogamist relationship with a dusty cheater! Or from her own husband! Stop it!
I know a woman who told me her mother died of aids because her husband gave it to her. He was cheating on her found out he had it and never told her. He made sure to get himself treatment and because she trusted him an never got tested she ended up dying before him. So sad. I’d rather be alone than deal with these horrible men. It’s a lot more trifling men than there are good ones.
Hepatitis B is prevalent
I learned the hard way you have to say condoms always even in a long term monogamous relationship. :(
Say it one more time for the women in the back! 13 years abstinent and honestly, I'm fine with that.
I was searching for the source but I remember reading once that 1 of the 5 profiles who will get hiv is a MARRIED STAY AT HOME woman. That’s crazy, and people say cheating should be forgiven. Cheating isn’t just your partner disrespecting you but it’s also your partner exposing you to a myriad of STDS and diseases. And it’s so sad that a lot of women are told all their lives how they shouldn’t be promiscuous and how waiting for a husband is going to save them from all the trouble. Only for these women to end up getting STDS, some which have no cure, because their husbands were unfaithful. I don’t know how these women don’t end up doing anything to these guys cuz as soon as I got the HIV positive results I would make sure to ruin his life to the point he wants to move out of the country or the planet. Never forgive cheating, ladies, don’t buy into the bullshit all these “marriage counselors” spew, if he cheats he doesn’t care about your nor the risk he’s putting you in
Men are just worried they are going to be alone. Women can form real connections with friends, family. Love can come from anywhere. Men have “friends” but it tends to be very superficial and lack real connection. They are just projecting unhappiness on us. I am perfectly happy. I don’t foresee myself pursuing any type of relationship again. I just turned 36 the other day been single for a few years now. I could have pursued relationships. I’ve had two long term relationships. Both the same. I don’t care to raise another man child, cook and clean, and mother him. The more you love yourself and care for yourself the less you are willing to put up with.
I was looking for a comment like this. This is exactly what I was thinking because men are the real ones afraid of being alone. They want to try to flip it around and make women scared of what they fear.
Alot of girls are hella delusional, and they cry alot on social media.
But men don't have families?? Don't u think the loneliness will rather bring them closer to family?
Men these days are avoiding marriage check the latest data. They prefer to be single than to go into marriage full of nagging argumentative narcissist masculine feminist woman
@@albertosei8788it's exactly the other way around. I think you should read some more data 😂.. also no. The main reason why there's a lonely men epidemic, is because they struggle to form bonds. Inform yourself before making it look like you can't read more than two sentences in a row.
I prefer to be a single woman due to evil abusive violent demonic hateful man babies clown
"You need to lose weight"
Meanwhile he's fat himself. Lolol the audacity of these men I swear
I always find it ironic for the men who demand a size 2 wife while they themselves look like Bob the tomato swallowed a bowling ball…
The MEN are the ones worried about being alone. That was him admitting it OUT LOUD. “Every projection is an admission.”
And every accusation is a confession.
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been looking at so much content like this, feminist, redpill, blackpill, other and it really feels like men fear dying alone more than women do and they're unhappier when single rather than women.
Yep that’s exactly what it was 😂👏🏽
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Plot Twist: Married women get std's from their husband's all the time and not everyone celebrates Christmas.
Omfg their is no one more single than a married man
I’ll let you have that but just know that’s so far from the truth
THAT PART!!
@@RASTAGOOB that is true tho married women get used all the time
@@blossom1290 but somehow initiates 70-80% of divorces… anot all of those are due to men cheating
You know what always gets me with these warnings from blogs and podcasts telling us young women that we're making a huge mistake and that we're going to be lonely when we're old? They never, ever come from older single women. The only people whose opinion I would trust on the matter - the people who have lived out my current and future experience - are never the ones telling us that we're making a huge mistake. It's always the men telling us that, the ones that stand to lose the most because of our decision to stay single.
Bingo!
Exactly! It’s the older, single ladies that are telling the truth that they’re not “crying in their wine with their pet”, and they’re demonstrating that they’re living fulfilled, rich and peaceful lives. This is why these angry podcast bros like to say that it’s “advice from bitter old women that are keeping young women single”. The “bitter old women” are telling the truth, which is forcing men to either level up and come correct or watch reruns eating Spaghetti-Os from the can and die alone.
Ooooof facts!!!!
Correct! They know if younger women choose being single he will lose access to her sexually.
UA-cam videos have proved you wrong...many women have come out to complain of being lonely
I watched my mom, my grandmother, and both my aunts deteriorate in loveless marriages to useless manbabies. I swore it would never happen to me. 37 single and child free, and couldn’t be happier. I love my life, I love my career, I love my clean peaceful house, and I can dote on my cats and dogs. I get to spend quality time with my mom and grandmother, my (divorced) friends and their kids, and I get to travel and meet new people whenever I want.
But even if I were miserable, I’d rather be alone and miserable than trapped in a miserable marriage having to raise a grown a$$ useless, whining, contemptible man. I will never sacrifice my peace on the alter of marriage.
I watched one aunt literally die… health and looks deteriorated drastically. At the end she was in a wheelchair and was only in her 60s when she died a “strange” death… he had girlfriends and a drug addiction throughout their marriage.
Needless to say, it was a toxic marriage
@sisterlove2733 that was my mom too. She was 53 and died from cancer. Spent her last years continuing same routine of working full time as a nurse, working around the house without help, and managing ALL thr affairs of my stepfather. When she died the man didn't know how to pay any bills or where anything was. Completely useless. All he could do was bring a paycheck, punch holes in the walls and curse everyone out when he was mad. I begged her to leave him for years.
@@ksy4747 Same with my dad. He would whine about not being able to find towels, toilet paper, extra blankets, what have you, when they were in the SAME PLACE until the day he died. My mom would jump up and run like Edith Bunker to get it for him while he stood there. Even as a small child this rubbed me the wrong way. And THIS is what men think completes us?? Lol.
I am 53, intentionally child-free and I have no regrets whatsoever.
That's where I want to be! I have a couple of years to go (I'm 40), but I am single and without kids. I'm learning that the sky is the limit!
@NastassiaObazee I love that for us❤😘
I'm 50 and same. I am also intentionally single as well. I have never regretted either decision.
@@JakeLuke716You’re not old enough to have this conversation and your sentences are proof of that. You can’t even formulate your opinions in a grammatically correct manner. You need to get yourself a job and stop jacking off to h3ntai. Arguing with women mature enough to be your older is a personal L you need to eat in silence. Bite that babbling tongue of yours and focus on being a true man rather than worried about what women do.
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I’ve been single and celibate for 9 years and in my late thirties. I don’t see an end to being single. Men are absolutely unkind and demanding. Marriage to me is exhausting
@@JakeLuke716 don’t bring a knife to a gun fight. 😊
@@JakeLuke716 the robber will most likely be a man.
@@JakeLuke716that’s what guard dogs are for
Right... Why are they so mean and cruel.. Furthermore.. Why do they think that these are attractive qualities?
@@JakeLuke716that's what the popo is for.. That aside most men these days are selfish and cowards. I never have it in my mind that a man is looking to protect me... Because the average man's priority is to look for the quickest way to nut. 🤷♀️
"You didn't get that out of the Bible, pastor, but you did get that out of a podcast" ❤ you!
Yeaaaah I can’t find that in the Bible-maybe it’s in the book Second Opinions 6:66? 🤷♀️
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There are two types of women in my extended family: married and miserable; or single and free. When I was a kid, I looked at my mom, depressed, unsupported by my dad, emotionally absent, exhausted - and compared her to my aunt, vibrant, fiercely single, fitness instructor, beautiful apartment with loving pets and a swimming pool, which might as well have been magic to my child self thirty years ago - there was no competition. I have so much respect for the women in my family who struck out and decided to live life on their own terms - and I’m happy more women are now doing the same. I’m proud to have become one of them.
I spent my 20s in unfulfilling relationships with partners who ignored me, cheated on me, insulted me, physically and sexually abused me… I’ve been single now for almost five years and never been happier. As this video says, of course I still want companionship - but not at the cost of my own peace or sense of self. ❤ Enough is enough.
Now I'm starting to think single is better
"She's going to be miserable at 50!!" Is the oldest gaslight ever. They stress that we are happy by ourselves and need to try and convince us that we will need someone. When women are single forever, they turn into the cool aunt! When men are single forever, they turn into the creepy uncle who isn't allowed around any of the teen girls.
I mean….
Women*
Can't even count how many people kept telling me I'd regret having tattoos when I'm older. Almost two decades later I'm still waiting for this supposed "regret" to come.
The whole "but when you're xx old" argument seems to be nothing more than the last ditch tactic to say "but I don't like what you did" when they run out of valid arguments.
Yep. I actually had to leave a church because the pastor wouldn't get off my back. He told me that I was setting a bad example for the young ladies. My crime? I was "going against God's will for my life." Translation: Daring to be 28, single, and happy. I wasn't actively looking for a husband and I seemed content. SMDH.
My mom’s single at 60 and is enjoying her kids and grandkids…. My dad is 63 with a girlfriend.. he’s miserable still now she’s miserable and her kids don’t come around because of him so they are both lonely and miserable….. My momma is winning…
I rather be alone than;
- be a mother to a man,
- be emotionally and physically abused,
- feel single in a relationship,
- raise my children alone while married
- Disciple a man in God, because he won’t be the head he’s supposed to be
- be sick because I’m stressed and unhappiness
… now if a great MAN comes, I’m down for the ride 🙃
The problem you have is you cant know in advance whether the man meets your criteria or not, even being celibate until you find a good man is a good vetting method but in time things can change so the ultimate question to you is are you not going to bother trying to find what you want or will you still try?
@@h8h215 I will try. I’m taking accountability, and learning about what to look for and be intentional.
@@h8h215 It's useless to try. They are only less than 1%. And not enough for women.
@@YouYou-sm8tf how did you get to 1%? Did you use one of those programs where you put in your preferences and the results came out at that? What are your preferences? You can always share the 1% if thats the case.
@@h8h215 What's the point of sharing? Would you share yours if your type is rare?
I know some people are into poly-open relationship...but I can't do that.
Good and husband material men are definitly 1%.
Standard: attractive, educated, good job to provide for a family, have ambition, hardworking, nice personality, open minded, supportive, loyal.......(within 10 years gap to the female). It's rare
The whole point of having a relationship with someone is that they are supposed to enhance your life, not make your life worst!
Not to these guys. They think women exist to provide for them. 😕
I'm good on getting married
Agreed though
It's disgusting that "pastors" are saying things like this and not even being called out when they should be being removed from their positions. It's horrifying that there are congregations willing to put up with this or worse, endorse it.
I was working with a woman who is in her 60’s and she FINALLY got divorced last year. She said she was done trying to please everyone…. Her husband, children, parents, and society. She also mentioned that she was glad that we are now living in a time where it’s ok to leave if you don’t want to put up with a controlling husband. The men are not happy that women have had ENOUGH and we’re not just settling.
I have rarely met a divorced or widowed woman who desires
To get married again. That says a lot.
@@MiaBellaxOx yop, right here. I'm waving over here in Texas. 50 and single and finally happy af!! It was just too much to deal with a man child. I sleep like a baby now.
Good for her! Wishing her all the best!
@@MiaBellaxOxSo true! My former spouse and I split up in 1992, and I swore to never get married again. People told me that I would change my mind, especially men, but I never did, and I'm living happily ever after with no partner.
@@MiaBellaxOx and studies show it!! Majority of women who have been divorced 1 time NEVER want to get married again which is in stark contrast to the only 30% of first time divorced men who express the same sentiments. Marriage is for men but we as women got tricked into believing it was a prize for us.
My sister got an STD from her husband while pregnant. He could have disabled their baby girl. Luckily she was born healthy, but my sister was embarrassed to death. Of course she stayed with him. He also had a baby with one of her girlfriends. She stayed. When I caught my ex-husband cheating once, it was a wrap. My older sister taught me how not to be.
Oh wow, good job ! Praying for your sister to see her worth and have the strength to walk away one day ❤
@@cindyl760 Very kind of you, thanks. She's 67 now and not going anywhere.
Yep. I'm the type to walk to while my sister isn't. But thankfully her husband isn't a cheater or abusive, just a bit of a man child. I think he's improving though.
@@sunnysunshine6271I'm sorry, I hope her daughter was able to see her choices as a warning and not a life plan
The same with my Mom and my Father. Yes they were married. My sister almost died because of my Dad.
I've never met a single woman who was single and in her 60s and was sad about it...for the most part they confirm that men aren't shit...they tell me about the peace they have.....makes me feel good... single 5 years now
Ok, my gma was one toxic, abusive woman. She was miserable but not miserably single. She did not care one bit about having a man. I found it funny that even her old evil ass felt she was better off without a man. Whether good or toxic, women that have been through abuse with men choose singleness over men that suck them dry.
I was also so stressed the last time I dated a man that I literally became chronically ill. I was only with him for about a year when I became sick.
He didn’t show an ounce of empathy when he saw how sick I was getting (surprise, surprise!)
This was a man who seemed like the sweetest, most caring man at the start. Don’t be fooled by them putting their best foot forward at the beginning.
Pay attention to those behaviour changes and them slowly revealing their not so nice comments over time.
Women are statistically so much more likely to be left by their husbands when they get sick than with the roles flipped. It’s a terrible thing to even think about.
And especially if we’re talking about older couples. Like you’re telling me you’ve been married to this woman for 30 years and now that she can’t “take care of you” like she used to you’re going to leave her? That is not okay.
And this is probably a newer trend that we’re noticing now that people are living longer and illnesses tend to be more chronic instead of acute. Your husband can’t leave you if you cough once and you’re dead by the next week, or if he dies before you, or if you die suddenly during childbirth.
Not just romantic partners but friendships too - we can't hold on to who someone used to be and hope they'll change back, or that things will magically be like they used to. And get out once you know its not going to be healthy again. But sometimes thats easier said than done.
Single men: Single women are going to be lonely and sad without us.
Single women: I’m enjoying my life! Woohoo!
Notice the difference in reaction to singlehood?
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Exactly! Summed it up perfectly. Projecting
Study’s say otherwise
I'm at peace single and have been 12 years
@@KidRipablewhat studies? The male loneliness epidemic? The high male sui¢id€ rate? 😳
Historically, women have needed men as providers and men have needed women as companions/emotional supporters. Now, a large number of women can provide for themselves and since men have never learned to bring any thing else to the table, except to emotionally drain or even abuse their companions, women opt out of relationships. It really isn't rocket science: men must adapt to provide something that women want from them, i.e. love, romance, emotional support, loyalty, etc.
I wouldn't say "needed" so much as "were forced to" but, tomayto tomahto
@@luna-p Agreed. Would extend it to "were forced to need"
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@@RoRo07770 Rolls the eyes of the person who believes in fairy tales
@@RoRo07770 Oh yes, the totally real human, but not human, god, but not god, who died, but not really, Jesus that loves me so much he'll burn me alive for all eternity if I don't incessantly stroke his fragile ego. Ooh I'm shaking in my boots.
When someone asks you why you’re single, say, “ because I am not married”.
When they ask you why you’re not married, say, “ because I am single”.
Then, smile and just skip away😊.
I used to say "Because I apparently have some glaring fault that sends men running for their lives" That shut people up
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Good idea 😂
As a 20 year old African girl who chose to be single by choice and opted out of marriage, I've had people go out of their way to try to make me change my mind, not just by family members and strangers alike it's irritating
As long as your happy with the choices you have made and accept them as your choices i support you, when women post tictoc videos of how feminism has tricked them and then now want a family but its too late they dont get my sympathy, make sure its what you want.
@h8h215 Thanks for the valuable advice along with the support
I'm 25 and African and saame. Honestly see so many previous generation of African women including my mother whose lives were ruined after marriage etc. I'm good. Don't bother with the ignorant people trying to force their ideal views on you. At the end of the day, as long as we are happy and have lives of peace, then we're making the best choice for ourselves ✨.
Trust me Always choose yourself We saw the older generation of women suffer in the name of being married to a man who disrespects them constantly
@@abigaelmusyoka4413 or just dont choose a guy who is disrespectful to you.
This is the only way that they can “scare” women to take them. I tell people all the time, you can be surrounded by 100 people and still be LONELY! Being alone, in your own peace, and having your money is Priceless.
Hotdog ❤❤❤❤
Facts
I try not to go into gender wars but I will tell any man and any woman to make sure that they can take care of themselves and their kids in case their partner dies, divorces or becomes disabled. Don't depend on only one person.
It's true. Men and some women (the gender traitors) are gaslighting young women that they will end up alone and living with cats (which I am person they are describing and frankly my cat and I live in peace) as if that is the worst thing in life. I'm thrilled that younger women are fighting back and telling these alarmists to go punt!!! If men are lonely,them become a better person and to do your part so that you will attract a good woman. The answer should not be for women to lower their standards. Hell we just learned from that viral TikTok video that many men don't even like their girlfriends and want to be schmucks so their girlfriends will end relationship so those feckless men won't have to. No, women have learned that single, childfree women are happiest, and married women rearing their children and taking care of a grown man like he also is a child are most unhappy. Men are happier and live longer lives when married. It is the men who need women that is truth. Women have a choice now, which right-wingers are trying to do away with. Stay strong ladies. You don't want to end up divorced and rearing your child on your own like I did.
Amen!
We thrive without them. They need us. That’s why literal laws were put in place to keep us attached to them.
What laws? Because certain things I don't pay any attention to
@@theteleisewilliamsexperience Woman weren't allowed to get bank accounts and own property without her father or husband's permission until the 70's. My grandma said that it was illegal for a woman to cross state lines with a man that wasn't her husband, father or brother. Women could not vote in the state of New York if they weren't married. Divorce was illegal back in the day. Thank God we are free at last!
Also technically, a husband could force himself on his wife legally, until the laws were changed! And it was only in recent American history that all 50 states overturned the legal marital rape exemptions. Men have always coopted women's bodies for their own use and abuse.
@@godpilled9077You have been in control for years now and what have you done with it you ruined the country that gave you it.
Laws were put in place for the state not men, men gain nothing from modern women.
Anyone who uses the "you're gonna end alone with a bunch of cats" as a negative threat just know nothing of the world. I live with cats and I can confirm that life is 100% better with them than with any misogynistic men.
Cats are scientifically proven to be good for emotional and physical health. Especially when they purr near you.
Nothing more lonely than being in the house with a man who disrespects and diminishes you.
You may find the right one if you have standards for yourself and you are able to spot red flags in the potential partner over time
I’ve been married twice. First cheated. The next was abusive. Being married doesn’t mean you’re going to get any special treatment.
Or even decent, kind, respectful loving treatment, all normal by the way. Not special.
Unless you consider being abused and bullied to be special treatment.
They usually switch up too
After kids or marriage it’s sucks
Girl, you told No lie!
That “You’ll die alone!” line is such BS! Married women die without their spouses as well. Most husbands die long before their wives. There are a lot more 90 year old women than men..
For real
Not counting the jerks who leave their wives who fall ill.
They would again blame that on Woman 😅 "He worked so hard to provide for his wife, that's why the men dies before his wifes." Or "She sucked the life out of him by all her demands..." Or "Woman live longer because they had an easy life not working/less Stress..."
They always find something...
Statistics show most people die a lone.
Either the men die before their wives or trade her in for a younger woman. Either way, she still ends up old & alone. So why bother “getting a man” like they’re some prized possession. It’s not like winning the Nobel Peace Prize. What exactly is so special about achieving being coupled with abusive cheaters?
As a divorced, now single woman in her mid-40s, I can tell you I have never felt lonelier in my entire life than I did when I was married.
I try to tell my hubby that I am sooo tired of being the adult. He just have the fun and I have to do all the boaring things
Whew, what you said! Cause that's me right now. I told my ex, when he asked if we could get back together, I felt like I was in a marriage by myself. He didn't know what to say.
That is so true, these men don't see us as actual people I think. I hated marriage.
Most woman I have met that are elderly 75+. Have said they are HAPPY they’ve never married or had children. I know an 86 year old who is incredibly healthy, did ballet professionally & travels twice a year. That woman is so happy. Her life is only one some can dream of. She has a nook in a sunroom that she reads in. She doesn’t have a car or a dog. A HUGE apartment with no one but herself to share it with. No one to reap benefits for what she’s earned. Happiest most innocent adult I know. She NEVER dated & focused on her career. She couldn’t lie to me with all the shopping & traveling she does. Her beauty convinced me child free & or single is a lifestyle that enriches you. Don’t do what you don’t want to do! He sounds so envious as if he actually does any child rearing… 😂
And ballet is one of those careers that would’ve been extremely difficult if not impossible to go back to after having a baby. Especially in the time period when she would’ve been having kids, like even if she got back in shape they probably wouldn’t have looked twice at someone with a baby.
Also very many Windows Get a new life lol
To all my ladies that have been called a "modern woman" as if it's an insult, I'm glad you're a modern woman. I'm glad we get to be modern women together and live through this societal shift. I wish us all the best of luck, whether we end up enjoying our lives in our own company or sharing it with a man that understands us and considers us.
Yasss queen! Same here! We are thriving together. The shift is real.
Thank you dear! The best to you as well ✨
Yes🙌
@@robinnandersonstudentthe shift is very real I'm here with you guys ❤
Honestly take a luck loan out.
"They are gonna have a couple of STDS" Men tell us every day their own shortsightedness without even realizing it. They think a life of singlehood is full of hedonism and endless sexcapades. But in actuality a woman choosing to be single has probably been offered less than what she deserves and she made the brave choice to continue being on her own in peace. That would include not putting her body at risk for chance encounters with men who don't care about her. Also if she loves cats then having 7 of them is not a threat lmaoo. The single shaming needs to stop, there's a lack in worthy partners out there.
A few years ago I let my friends fix me up with single men. When they heard I was a nurse all of them told me they could quit their jobs and I could support them. The first man who told me that,I was so surprised I didn't say anything. After that I told them that they could quit their jobs ,but they'd starve because I wasn't going to support them. This was always on the first date!
Facts!
Truth! I'm 41, live alone with 4 cats and a dog and couldn't be happier 💓
They really think they're better than cats !! The audacity!!!
They're probably the dudes that know they don't pull their weight in a relationship and rather than change anything, they'll blame the partner.
My mom married her high-school sweetheart, my father, at 17 when she got pregnant. She had three kids and a life-long marriage based on Christian values with focus on being quality parents.
Around 65 she nearly left my father when she realized she'd be facing old age with him. He wasn't a bad man, he was an exceptional father and I've kept a relationship with him. But he was never raised to view his wife as a whole equal person and to be her emotional partner.
The "inconvenience" of a husband and children doesn't stop at 50 or even 60 if they were inconvenient up until then. They don't age into NOT being a drain on your emotional health and suddenly become supportive in your old age. My mom did everything a classic mother could be expected to do for the family, including making full meals while working a job. She was a superb, amazing, intelligent human being who also placed a lot of faith in the rhetoric of women needing a family to be fulfilled. She enjoyed the role and was the center of our household.
When she got into her 70s and started to show signs of dementia, the men in the family she was living with didn't notice. Instead they complained she stopped cooking and cleaning for them. She lost a hundred lbs and they had to be talked into taking her to the doctor. (In fact they didn't take her, her granddaughter did.) They let her sit in her own urine and feces and complained that she wouldn't bathe for a year before someone finally stepped in and informed them she needed to be put into a home.
These were not bad men. They were soft hearted, caring, family focused men that loved her. I'd consider them some of the better men society has to offer. But men have traditionally been raised to take from women, not give. Not care for or look after or worry about. You can't "protect" a woman from dementia so they didn't think it was their responsibility. They had "provided" her a home and after that stepped away from being involved in her well-being.
I'm 45 and childless, married to a man who was raised in many of these same ideals but is uninterested in keeping them. We have to work daily at untangling the abuse he suffered as being viewed as a workhorse for his family growing up, where his feelings were constantly disregarded. He's extremely brave and has taking great strides to learn to be emotionally vulnerable so we can enter old age as partners who care for each other. It helps that he adored my mother and watched her end of life aside me, I am certain.
That said I still have plans to move in with a few of my female friends in our old age. I won't rely on men to prevent my suffering at the end of my life.
Powerful
I am so proud of my father in law. He is almost 90 - old school - now my mother in law has dementia etc he takes care of everything . It is sparkling clean everywhere . He cooks. Drive Her to appointments etc. He is fantastic
He also takes care of his house and garden
Says the men in your life are "great men, the best" yet they left your mother in her own feces and urine for a year??
Yet they looked at her like that and complained about her not cooking & cleaning??
Yet you wont grow old with your husband who YOU say loved your mother and is changing his ways for you??
These aren't "great men" you're in denial because you were raised to see them as great men. You don't seem to realize that you are still being affected by misogyny.
This was so hard to read but very eye opening. I can't imagine being in my final years and the people around me do not even notice I need help because they are so used to seeing me as existing to provide FOR them and never needing help FROM them. I feel very fortunate that my husband is not like this. Heck I have been home with a cold for 3 days and he won't let me do anything around the house and keeps telling me to go back to bed. I can't imagine what other women out there are going through with partners who treat them like a domestic robot, it sounds terrible.
Thank you for your post. I intend to retire in a woman's home, too.
As someone who has been Asexual/Aromatic for the last 5 years whenever I get asked out and say that I have no interest in romantic relationships the first thing they say is, “we can fix that. I can make you love me”
Like no…I am just not interested.
Then they ask if I’m lonely and I said no I’m not, I love my friends and have people who have a connection with.
I’m good.
My mom met her current partner of 8 years after she had 2 children, got a divorce and turned 50. He adores her. They constantly go on trips around the world together and when they're home, he cooks, cleans and does everything that needs to be done. He doesn't need to be asked, he just does it.
Men can do it. They are fully capable of being like that.
"when they're home, he cooks, cleans and does everything that needs to be done. He doesn't need to be asked, he just does it." This is what women are asking/looking for. It is not that complicated.
There are good men and happy marriages. But many/most women would rather be at peace and happy. If that means marriage to a great man, fantastic! But if that means being single, great! Forcing a doomed marriage is not wise.
I remember my mom telling me when I was in my late teens that my standards were too high and reality isn’t like my fantasy books. Then I cautiously brought a male friend home and she proceeded to tell me I could do better lol.
I never settled and got my first bf when I turned 20. Next March will be our 6th anniversary and I cannot believe I found him. Also we did have a fairytale first kiss so SUCK IT MOM😂😂😂. Ladies, men, don’t settle. Know your worth and follow your heart. Find someone you feel emotionally safe with who you can lay your soul bare to who will support you and help you to be the best you you could ever be just by being with you❤ it’s possible, it exists and I’m so incredibly lucky to have found it.
I'm a great cook and a fanatic house cleaner. I also excell at home improvement projects. If a woman wants to go to work, bring home decent money, and I won't even demand 100K, I'm all in. Especially if she's coming in with two extra expenses. FYI, I make close to 6 figures, own my own home outright, own my cars outright, have no debts, and have plenty of money stashed. I certainly don't want a leech. Especially a leech struggling with baggage from the past (ie: two children from a past relationship, and an ex she will never shake because they have children). I'm 56 single and happy. My future is bright as a single old man.
This guy is an absolute idiot 😮
Marriage and parenthood is a HUGE inconvenience for women. It always has been, but we've been programmed to tolerate the misery, labor and stress. Gaslit into thinking if refuse to subject ourselves to the suffering, then somethings wrong with us. I'm so glad women are waking TF up. Let these men get their stuff together and focus on centering yourself.
Actually the reverse is true, your not men and time aint on your side.
@@tremayneestwick2561don’t worry about that
@@tremayneestwick2561a lot of us don’t care to have children… so what else do you want to scare us with?
@@tremayneestwick2561you are = you’re
I'm tired of their disrespect and sense of entitlement.
Also: Will Smith is not a puppet, Jada knows too much, that's what made him panic.
It's like I always say; you don't get to talk trash about someone and then complain that they don't like you.
Great video. Love your hair. I got married young myself, went straight from being with my best friend 24/7, to being with my fiance 24/7. Married at 23. Divorced at 39. 49 now on living peacefully on my own. Actually looking forward to a solo Christmas this year. No expectations. Just for me.
Thanks you and I have a lovely Christmas 💕💕
The “pastor” who told that lady to lose weight and spoke about her breast in front of the entire congregation disgusted me. The other man was beyond gross, but talking about that lady’s breasts crossed several lines.
I know right. That shocked me to my core.
That guy is trash.
I was a teen with a shaved head and the men of the church we went to called me by a man's name and snickered at me and made jokes in front of the entire congregation as well as my family every Sunday. I was their entertainment.
Really sick. Who can't see that evil standing in the form of a false prophet?
@@craffteI’m sorry “Christian” men in your church mistreated you. Their behavior was far from Christ. I hope your parents stood up for you.
It is interesting how men assume single women having sex and getting stds. Just cause thats what they would do doesnt mean women are....
Exactly! That shows how they really feel about themselves!
Having sex with who?! Sure in tf ain't them.
Exactly! When he said that I thought “oh, because he has caught multiple STDs…” Men are dirty, careless and disgusting when it comes to sex. They will sleep with anyone, anything at anytime and think we do the same 😅😅
Right. One more good thing about being single is exactly that you don’t have to have s.x. Funny, how they don’t get that..😆
Thank you!!!
It's so true, the longer your single, the more you recognize the bullshit.
Exactly 💯
True. Some guys would rather do everything but improve themselves. And then they get mad when you reject them. When you do put up with their behavior, they don't treat you well.
Why do people always criticize cat ownership? My two cats are a blessing!
Not people, males
@@ana-nim Says anime cartoon here how is most likely of the heavy lesbo.
Patriarchy has always demonized anything women value or prize. Cats are related to witches and are strongly autonomous, unlike dogs. Men don’t value autonomy in women or anything they can’t control
To them cats are feminine and weak. They also hate cats for being autonomous creatures that are selective with their affection. Sound familiar?
The idea that a woman would joyfully take care of an animal. But not be their servant for nothing in return, is too insulting 😂
That whole safety argument is such a mafia racket, seriously... "You gotta pay your dues for protection", "Protection from who?", "From us, of course". 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
men claiming to be protectors for women, while simultaneously being the biggest threat 🙄🤡
Thank you! I’ve been saying this. MAKE IT MAKE SENSE!! Wtf?! They don’t even realize what they say. We don’t owe them shyt and if I do bc you “protected” me no thanks I’ll protect my gdamn self before I let you throw that up in my face for the rest of my life. They make my fckn teeth itch.
Males ain’t even protectors by Nature.
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Ikr? Men are women's biggest predators and men are also men's biggest predators. 😂😂😂 not funny but it is funny
Also, is anybody going to talk about how relationships with men lead to diastasis recti, vaginal prolapse, cervical cancer, alzheimers, urinary incontinence, heart attacks, obesity, chronic stress, postpartum depression, and a myriad of other diseases. Being single is the best antidote to all the health implications attached to dating men as a woman.
If being in a relationship and having children is hard work cant i just reason to not do it because its easier to live life without it? I can stack more on top of that about the problems women can create for men, would this be good advice in your opinion?
Exactly I don't see my obgyn because I'm not having sex with them
So true that the longer you are single and happy the higher your standards are for a man wanting to enter your world. Peace is so important to me. And let me tell you that dogs and cats are perfect companions. Plus, women tend to have intimate friendships.
If the stereotypical lonely/divorced women invest in cats, living beings that you can connect with and which require care and devotion and return that care with more love, and the stereotypical lonely/divorced men invest in sex dolls and p0rn subscriptions, I think that says EVERYTHING about who was actually the problem.
Well said!
SAY IT AGAIN!!!
SPOT ON 🎯💯✨🙏🏼 STRAIGHT FACTS 🤯
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I remember when I used to be on social media in my teens I would see multiple posts from men and boys talking about how having partners was terrible and how marriage was a trap for men. I also saw this tacky photo where a couple got married on Friday because “Saturday is for the boys.” So why are they mad now that women are returning the same energy?
Yep, men just want to use women but not truly love and care what women want.
The issue here is trying to satisfy a misogynistic man if you are the woman in the equation. Basic algebra.
This whole time marriage was "taking the plunge" now women are like "okay, let us not 'FORCE' you to take the plunge", they are mad
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exactly!!
Living with cats instead of with an emotionally stunted man who doesn't pull his weight around the home? THE DREAM.
U are right. Men HATE to hear women are a lot happier & fulfilled without them.
The truth is men CANNOT be alone. But women by nature can be single & xtremely happy
I find it ironic that a preacher is telling women that we'll die alone. If God is truly the God he is, then spiritually speaking you're never alone.
I'd rather be with God than to be with any man on Earth. 🤷🏾♀️
Some of these supposed “men of God” don’t even have a relationship with God. They do it for themselves.
These ungodly preachers are the reason why I left the church and will never go back. If I believe in a magnificent, omnipresent God how can i ever be alone? God isn't in males and God definitely isn't in the church ladies.
Funny thing, since ive been single, god has been my provider and protector, funny enough.
Facts. These brazen fools actually have no shame using God's name to push their own agendas... Everything these preachers said actually contradicts the Bible.
What a great point.
I would rather have 50 cats than get married. Why do people associate living with cats with being sad? Cats are intelligent, autonomous, affectionate, loving, funny, cute, sanitary (some man aren't), easy to care for and their purr is healing. Staring at your cats eyes and blinking triggers the production of oxytocin in our brains, because their faces resemble a baby's face. Cats are healing, man are not!!!
And cats will at _least_ wait until you *die* before they start eating your face.😒
caring for pets is also weak girly/child stuff a lot of men won't involve themselves in even if it could improve their life
😂😂😂 most men will drain the f out of you no lie
I already have my car breeds picked out. I even share pictures with these men.
In a heartbeat ❤❤❤ I love cats.... 9 out 10 they behave better than most men lol
These men are upset that women are choosing to be single than to be with them because that means it’s harder for them to find a woman who is willing to clean after them, cook for them, do their laundry, etc. Men want their woman to contribute the same financially but they still expect their woman to do the housework etc.
“I went to the spa, I went to Belize” oh no, what a nightmare! LOL they’re so mad. Sometimes I think I want to date again, but honestly I’m afraid. My ex was such an angel and I know it’ll be unlikely that I’ll ever find a dude who is empathetic and not misogynistic again. I’d rather be alone than murdered by some unhinged freak.
I’m a happy single 80 year old woman. Still happy for my single decision. Not likely I will ever regret being single 💜👵🏾
I am a 70 year old woman. I gave up on live in relationships with men when I was 48, having had a series of unhappy relationships. My first partner used to follow me when I left his house. My next partner, my husband beat me up. My next partner fucked around. My next partner had a major drink problem. My next partner was a control freak, wanting to control who I was friends with, even what I should read. Yes clearly I chose badly, repeatedly. It seemed to me that there are a lot of damaged people out there, both male and female. It struck me that whilst living together was a lovely idea, it traps you and can allow the strongest partner (not always the man) to take advantage of that. So I haven't had a live in lover since. This has sadly meant I haven't had a long term relationship since, because the men in my life always wanted to move in. Been there done that got the T-shirt, so they have moved on. I have remained happy. Alone, but not lonely. I have many good friends. I have also had lodgers, male and female who I have chosen not to have sex with but to share my home and life with. There are other ways of living that encourage respect and I found ways that worked better for me.
:0 a cool granny in the wild!!
I’m 58 years old, no children, never married. This was my choice and I’m absolutely sure it was the right one. I love my life.
I hope to follow in your footsteps!! ❤
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My ex told me I had to do what he said because he's the man. We were 18 and 17 years old at the time. I laughed so hard and then played a bot all day. Oh yes darling. Anything you say darling in a monotone voice. He hated it and kept yelling stop it!!! Lol!!! Broke up with him. Within a year, he was a teenage Dad with some poor girl he knocked up. If I could go back I'd never mate. No man is worth all that stuff rotting in your body after they've used you as their dumpster. Keep your PH balanced.
Your ex figured out how to enslave and anchor a woman by impregnating her,,, 😮you are lucky you got away
I had s similar story but the guy said that he only believed in himself in a cocky tone when i asked him if he believed in anything. At the time i was doing soul searching trying to figure out myself spiritually. And his whole vibe threw me off. And get this, he was wanting to hurry up, get married and have kids with me but had no job and still living with his ra-cist father that did not like blk people. (I’m a blk woman, he was wht). He tried to break up with me through text saying, “I don’t think this is going to work out”. And i was actually relieved, didn’t care and was unbothered replying back, “k”. I was 19yo and he was 25yo. Fast forward like 6mths later, i saw him with this why girl, both looking a bum, looking stressed, dirty, barely making it, and she was pregnant. The time i saw them was when they were trying to make an appt for his babymama to get her hair done at the salon i worked at. But when they found out how much it cost, they said it cost too much, left and never came back.
Needless to say, I definitely dodged a bullet. Because at the time this guy tried to feed me that scam of marriage and having kids with him is when i was doing my apprenticeship as a cosmologist (hairdresser who does hair and nails). Had i fell for that scam, I would’ve been stuck with a failed marriage, his ugly@ss babies and possibly never ended up working as a cosmologist, broke and trapped.
OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOh, I'm sooooooooooooooooooo proud of you!!!!!! Woo Hoo!!! 🤗
I'm not sure why we didn't programme. LOL!! It's like old swirling on the system and then the system shut down when it came for us. LOL!! It's like us against the stepford wives, cherry 2000. Barbie make men annoyed. Their doll movies no probs. LOL!!
It makes no sense to me at all. It only makes them look and be weak, so why? Because they can? I don't know. Truly.
And, like we all come from a woman, so why want to control that which you come from? Freud goes into it at length...still not a good enough esplaining. I just love that you went into a woman centered space. I watched Chris Rock's hair doc and was fascinated and I have a degree in marketing and I was like all making products etc. for BW to sell to BW. Oils, Oils, Oils!! I used to live on an island. LOL!!
You need more of a portion of that market for real!! I have biracial in my fams through cousins etc. So, like the hair thing is REAL. I was getting the united nations of girls ready for a dance. Make up, no probs, had all colors etc. My friend's girl, gorgeous, super model perfection of 90s awesomeness, half German (Mom) and Trinidad (Dad). Her hair wouldn't curl, or take to any of the products I had and she was like so sad and I was like freaking out with so much sorrow. It wasn't like a common hair that has been catered too. I've since learned about the 4cs and studied what the grades are and why. I'm Norwegian, so I have A LOT of hair, breaks hair bands etc., that's super fine - won't curl. Like it's curly on it's own when weather just right. Otherwise super straight. Heat and hairspray it laughs at. LOL!!
Anyway, like, you HAVE to get in and take your market. It's yours. LOL!!! I'm excited by hair and nail shows. LOVE the art and healthy competition. I've donated my hair and been a hair model. I'd let them do whatever at the time. LOL!! I can't say enough how proud I am of you, I know it wasn't easy - hair salons and barber shops need to make a huge come back for the people. Forgive me, I'm Gen X, from an entirely different planet it seems to now. Be the future for our girls, they need to own what is theirs. Have the power and authority to tell the truth and deal with problems head on, literally. I don't ever want another girl to not have hair products and ways to do her hair that makes her joyful and feel bouncy and free. I've seen the pain, it's no good. So pave that way girl!!!!!!!!!!!! Totally have to have like a spa/salon/barber shop one day. Think BIG!!😊@@anonnnymousthegreat
The penis is a vessel for disease
I literally am sooooo happy I’ve never let a man finish inside me 💯🥳🥰
Tell them to stop the emotional and physical abuse. Tell them to stop killing us.
I like that women are choosing the selves. Good for them. There are worse things than being alone.
Whenever men get hysterical you know you are doing something right. Something that serves you and not them.
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The times were we would be their personal slaves are over
It's th undesirable ones that are complaining the loudest.
Testerical*
LOL!!! ❤️❤️❤️👍😂
when people say you’ll end up alone with 7 cats… have you been around 7 cats? you will never feel lonely
Two is bad enough lol, I have two dogs too and the cats are so much pushier and needier than the dogs, it’s hilarious and not at all what I was expecting as a lifelong dog person! They are charming though, I’m already contemplating getting a third.
And they are funny af.
@@Angel-od1btCat people are the definition of insanity. Coming from a cat person. 😂
Bruh I only have one cat and he already barely leaves me alone lol.
not really, I have six cats and two dogs and I still feel lonely as sh!t but I'd still never date
something I like about the timeless story of "the princess in the tower" is that the man had to work his way up to reach the girl. He had to fight dragons, he had to climb to her level. And only when hes there, did she accept him. She does not come down to his level. But it feels like men no longer want to fight their dragons and climb the tower. They stay on the ground and whine that they cannot attain their princess
This is an EXCELLENT analogy!
Over 65, unmarried no STD’s (I’m very careful), no cats, love my quiet life. I can go/stay home when I want. I enjoy my life. It’s as exciting or dull as I make it.
I love how people think we NEED a husband and children to not be lonely… sir, I have parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, and their kids. What do I need a husband and kids for when I already have a huge family? Give me a dog or two, and I’m straight. Being raised as an only child (super large age gaps between me and my siblings) prepared me for this.
But you nEEd a man to protect you and provide for you and show you the woORldd
@@beab8738 omg uwu no plzzzz forgive me for not seeing the error of my judgements! 🥺 so weak n smol n FEEBLE MINDED just like all women, so dumb of me 😩
@@beab8738lol
Right, I got sisters too and they have kids. I love those kids so much and as long as they're alive, I'll never be alone. I have my best friend too.
@@beab8738 that's what a father is for
I think the reason men hate single women enjoying their life is because that joy does not come from serving them (men) Women are finding more enjoyment in self improvement, enriching travel experiences, deep friendships, spirituality, loving their conpanion animals (yes, even the cold aloof cats) and being loving servers and supporters of their communities. None of these things requires a man or his phallus to be involved
It’s simpler than that. A lot of men just hate women. They straight up despise us and love to see female misery. Despite their hatred for us, they still need our emotional validation and emotional labour. They hate the fact that they rely on us. They can’t stand the female separatist movement because it consists of women thriving without men. It’s jealousy, plain and simple.
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cats aren't cold OR aloof. they can be very sweet if you get a good one.
AND they won't call you 'old milk' once you hit 30.
Exactly. Men are scared because they suddenly have to actually try
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine, you hypocrites.
As if this all was EXCLUSIVE to womanhood. Mens suffering rly is a joke to you all, is it not?
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
I am so impressed with you young women these days. You are half my age but you have already figured out stuff that took me years longer to comprehend. You are independent, confident, very smart, articulate, and you don't take any shit from men. You are goddesses, and you share your awesomeness with the world which is fantastic. In my day, when I told another woman that I was happily single, she would make a pity-face and say "good for you, being brave" and pat my hand patronizingly. I sure hope that does not happen any more. You are more amazing than I can put into words. You go girls!
I’m single at 59, been single since my late 20’s. Happy as a damned clam.
I sleep so peacefully knowing I don't have anyone lying in my face and cheating on me. Even wives get STDs from their husbands. So I think my chances are extreme low
Yep was in what I thought was a committed relationship. He still gave me an STD. I'm done
This no stds no cheating no heartbreak 💔 just PEACE
An elderly woman got AIDS from her husband and died..He's still alive 😢😢😢
@@nkreseknowledge2241 that's sad af
@@nkreseknowledge2241Damn! 💔
I would rather be single than criticized, verbally abused, cheated on, punched in the face, coerced into sexual acts I am not okay with, sexually abused ect. I have experienced all the above and the safest thing for me to do is be single and have low tolerance for any behavior that makes me feel unworthy of love, respect, and care. A lot of men in this world are manipulative jerks using women for sex not giving a damn about loyalty or how they treat you. There are a lot of good looking monsters beating their gf's and wives behind closed doors. Be safe out here. Monsters are real.
So sorry about what you had to go through... sexual abuse, among other things, is difficult to deal with from someone who claims to love you
This is not a gender issue, but societal. You all hating on every single men will not change anything and just make everyone more miserable. Misandry is just as real as misogyny.
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine, you hypocrites.
Monsters ARE real, and overwhelmingly christian and conservative.
E.G. Peu Research Poll: divorce rates 2022. Peu Research Poll: Sexual Assault Convictions 2022. Peu Research Poll: Child Sex Crimes 2022. Peu Research Poll: Domestic Violence 2022.
Spoiler; the evidence all confirms my intentionally controversial statement.
@@nothingnewunderthesun4292 Write this under every misogynist channel where men are hating women.
Its been mothers who have told me i made the right decision NOT to have kids!
I'm 58. I've been married (twice), and I've been single. I choose single. I've had husbands, and I've had cats. I choose cats.
I love watching the worldwide male tantrum. It’s hilarious and pathetic at the same time.
It is 😂
I want to thank you for giving it a name. Tantrum. It's perfect. When children can't get their way that's exactly how they act... foolish.
😂😂😂
I’ll share some of my popcorn with you lol
This is perfect. I’m happily married to a great guy and I love watching this tantrum from men just like my first husband who couldn’t fathom why I left.
▪️Studies show that the happiest social subgroup are single women over the age of 50 who’ve never married and have no children. I believe it. I’m one of them.
▪️I’m a heterosexual black woman. I’m single by choice and I’ve said no to marriage several times. I wouldn’t give up the freedom and peace I enjoy to serve a man with what’s going on in the world today.
▪️I consider my mental, emotional, physical, financial, and spiritual health priceless jewels, and wouldn’t sacrifice the value of any of these for the validation and acceptance of anyone. I say so unapologetically.
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Me too, but I'm white. I knew, grin a very young age, I didn't want a man like good ol dad. The moment I saw any of his behaviors in a man I was dating, I'd try to talk about it to have the behavior changed. If that didn't work, I'd run.
Even though I was told that beggers can't be choosers, I was and am, still choosey. I haven't settled and won't. I may not be the happiest, but at least I'm not miserable and abused.
Baggers can't be choosers, but who's to say I'm begging?
Watch *Wild Flower* by *C.GEANE* :)
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
The first guy nailed it. Being married is an inconvenience for many people. Women want a partner, not a pet, or a child. If the person you are dating, whether male or female, is not your equal and improving your life, they are not worth being with. No one should be with someone that drags them down.
Im childfree and single....i love the life i hv. I can go anywhere i want when i want. My house is clean, no big ass man to take over my personal space and spread himself out on my sofa. 😂. Would it be nice to have someone around on weekends and go do stuff and cuddle etc?? Yes of course. But my mental health, my peace is waaay more important.
The funniest part of the video is him saying that she is going to end up with STDs. When we all know that the main reason why women get STDs is from being in a relationship with an unfaithful partner, look at of all of the women who were married, and got HIV from their husbands. The whole narrative of relationships and marriage has completely changed in my perception. I was one of those girls who used to always want a partner always wanted to man and revolved myself around finding a man I have been single for two years. This has been the most peaceful two years of my entire 35 years of life I will never ever revolve my life around MEN again, I plan on continuing to remain single, because the only thing that I’ve ever experienced with dating men is anxiety, betrayal, and havoc !!
Same stress levels are too the roof
Right? And that’s more slut shaming. Doesn’t work anymore. Why isn’t he shaming single men and saying they’ll get STD’s? Right, because men can have sex and women can’t. 😂
Right! My life flourished when I decentered men. I could/would never go back. I don’t even look at women who have men at the center of their being the same. I avoid them as much as I do men.
Exactly. A single person can’t give oneself an STD.
Yes. Anxiety is 100 times worst when in a relationship. ❤
As a lesbian I have always felt bad for straight women because it seems like it’s just so much harder to find a good man than a good woman (tho there’s good and bad people of any gender). I’m glad that some straight women have decided to prioritize themselves and fill their lives with supportive people that aren’t desperate and stuck up men. I do hope every straight woman finds a GOOD man who uplifts her and doesn’t drag her down if that’s what she wants, but being single is the next best thing.
I'm straight but I have often felt the same way as you do, that maybe my romantic life would be easier if I was lesbian. But that would be living a lie, because I'm not.
My parents asked me why I hadn't gotten married like the rest of my siblings.
UMM... They married women.
I, unfortunately, am very straight and swimming in a pool of mama's boys and losers.
Yeah true, but also y3ah be careful as anyone out there. My friend group has someone gone now because she moved too quickly with a very abusive woman, she couldn't get away in a normal route, so now she's running to the army. We all hope she makes it out to start her life again someday without that bitch.
But being a Lesbian is against GOD
@@user-pg7cx9wo1mI was just going to type the Same Thing🎯💯✨
The single women with no children that I see look happy, healthy and glow like no other. UNBOTHERED FREEDOM looks good on them.
Friendly reminder that being alone doesn't mean you're lonely 👍
Those men who try to shame and bully women into relationships are so nasty and toxic. They try to make women lose their sense of themselves and feel worthless because that is the only way women will date these type of nasty men.
Our lives are our own. If we choose to be single or in a relationship then that is nobody else’s business. These type of men are not able to face their own loneliness and fear.
All this trash talk about women is so off putting. I am encountering it more and more in my life with the result that I am less and less wanting to have a man in my life. I wish they would just shut up and mind their own business.
The manipulation isn’t working anymore.
Exactly, I wish males would just respect people that don't want to deal with them and go away. men refuse to see anything,...only from their point of view. From their advantages and benefits. There is an epidemic of loneliness in men and men are developing cognitive impairments, mental instabilities at a faster rates. Connecting with Women is life affirming and life saving for men. Instead of challenging their toxic behaviors. I agree, men would rather try to shame and bully women into relationships. The more men talk, blame women, bully women, call women crazy, unstable and the more men blame feminism instead of themselves. The more I agree with divestment. Divesting from men is the best decision I ever made.
Exactly and them running their mouths still trying to tell women what to do and how to act is just making women even more turned off of them, they should just shut up and work to become better men.
Right, if they spent all that energy bashing single women into working on improving themselves and have actual emotional intelligence, they wouldn’t be fearing being single and alone. They refuse to see that their very mindset is what is pushing women away from them.
Exactly
I'm single& child-free by choice. I refuse to be a baby mama. And I've known since age 17 that marriage doesn't benefit women, especially black women.
And that romantic relationship with a man isn't guaranteed to last forever. I refuse to take the risk. I decided to listen to the people in my circle that was telling me that my standard was too high & unrealistic.
So I made the horrible mistake of living with a man for the 1st time in my life at 48 years old. it was a nightmare.
He refused to pay his part of the bills when I demanded he did. He started emotionally, and psychologically abusing me.
I would have been better off with physical abuse than the stated abuse that I endured. The mental scars will never go away. I cooked, cleaned, washed clothes, and paid all the bills. I mean, he brought nothing but stress. The sex was mediocre.
God gave me the strength to kick him out of my house. The experience only solidified my belief that being single is the best option for me. I'm happiest when I am not involved with a man, feel free and at peace.
I don't have any cats either. Oh, btw, I am a nurse and 95% of my male patients have no one but us nurses to care for them. They hardly have any visitors. They are the lonely, depresed and miserable ones. Don't fall for their projections ladies
Amen, lisa....
" I cooked, cleaned, washed clothes, and paid all the bills. I mean, he brought nothing but stress." that pretty much summarizes the life of a lot of married women. I knew my ex-bfs would act exactly like that if I ever married them, then I decided to be single and chilfree and it was the best decision in my life. Now I own my house, my car and my savings and the most important: PEACE OF MIND.
@@volkana1977 no complaints 24/7. Isn't it great??
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also: Stop it. Marriage doesn’t benefit women? You gotta be kidding lmfaoo. Well, the divorce surely does benefit you all quite a bit, doesn’t it?
Remember ladies: having pets and being single + childfree have been scientifically/statistically shown to improve women's lives.
What they actually don't understand is that cats are beautiful, soft, funny and clean unlike most of them. Celibacy can be addictive for women.