great video. I also hate all the pressure questions from bottom surgery. Recently someone asked me if I had the bottom surgery and I said no , the response was " well why now you're just a 3/4 man.." and that was probably most offensive thing anyones ever said to me. I don't think having that part is what makes a man and to make your partner happy.
Canuck390 WOW I can't believe that someone would say that. No, you're just a man, period. Who gives a crap what a guy is packing or not packing. ;P on the lighter/and fun side, you can choose what size you want to be if you did want to slap that person in the face, how many guys can say that hahaha. :D Stay strong, and don't let that negativity get you down. I can't believe some people though, that's completely ignorant, and rude.
I think the main thing is if you're happy. If you don't want the surgery, great! All the power to you, if you did, that's great too. The important thing is how you feel. Thanks for sharing your story :) Best of luck to you!
Be who you want to be hun, not how people what to see you to be. You seem like a very nice sweet guy. Dont worry about people, because at the end of the day, you are making yourself happy, not everybody else. Stay amazing hun. Dont change yourself for others, change yourself for you.
I am a gay man that in my younger days dated more than a few other gay men. A Penis does not make you a man. A penis is not what gets a person off. It is the brain and the way you feel about the person you are being intimate with. How he or she touches you and talks to you and so on. It boggles my mind that any human would think it was OK to ask another human about what your genitals look like. It only matters if the person is about to be intimate with you, and by that time I am sure you have clued them in on what you like or don't like and what to expect.
I feel like you don't need to defend yourself at all. Just do you, man. I really support your opinions on it. I'm a new subbie, but I've seen a lot of your videos through one of my best friends and I really enjoy your channel. On a side note, I could listen to you talk for hours, your voice is very nice and soothing. Something about it just makes me happy (:
I don't see why whether or not you have had or will ever have bottom surgery is such a topic of interest to people. You are a man no matter what and what you have downstairs is your business and yours only. Although I don't agree with the people who question and badger you I do admire your approach to the people with invasive questions because I'd probably have a hard time remaining so calm. You are a rad dude Sky!
misscoolishere A hysterectomy is the removal of the uterus and cervix etc, and the bottom surgery I am speaking of is to change the vagina into a penis. : )
You are the cutest little bugger I've ever seen, God bless you. Ignorance is bliss, mask their ignorance with your own. You're you for a reason, you shouldn't have to explain yourself because of a personal preference. Congratulations on your accomplishment, I'll be sure to raise a glass in your honor, dearest Sky.
I'm glad someone feels the same way. Really like the way you approached this Sky, very cautious of other people yet still bringing your point across. Don't feel like you need to elaborate on something like this more than you need to though, stay strong mate!
Yes indeed. I've seen some really happy guys who got metas - even though it's a long way away, I'm sure your journey will be worth it! One upside to the delay is that every day is another one where improvements can be made to each kind of surgery :) just something positive to keep in mind while you wait!
not a worry - i'm hardly offended at the individual questions, but it's the accumulation of questions daily that stabs a bit! i'm glad you discovered my videos too and that we could mutually help one another understand more things :)
i started watching your videos last night and i have to say one thing...i'm so happy for you! i can understand that your transition was not easy but i'm glad that you are finally happy with who you are!! i may not know you and probably never will but you seem like a great guy, keep it up dude :D
I really respect you for putting this out there and expressing your opinion on the topic while staying open-minded towards others. You are forever showing what an awesome person you are in your videos. I aspire to be as comfortable in my own skin as you are in yours.
Who cares what anyone else thinks you already seem like the perfect guy to me :) You have a fantastic laid back personality and that is what truly matters.
thanks alex! it's definitely a touchy subject, and it took me a long time to find a way i was comfortable with approaching it. excited for our collab brother!
Just want you to know, whoever has offended you in ANY sort of way, just don't give a single fuck. I will support every single decision of yours because you are who you are. You choose what you want to be and no one can judge you on those basis. Love you sky x
Everything you said, needed to be said. Good for you for being honest with your point of view. Even though (at this point) I'm planning on having lower surgery, I feel like all choices are valid choices and should be honored. The body doesn't make the man.
what you said from about 2:00 to 2:13 is so beautiful. seriously that is one of the greatest things I have ever heard and you should put that on a poster!
I could feel your discomfort through this video and it's a shame people hassle you about this topic. But I think you handled it very well - openly and honestly, as always. I'm so happy you're comfortable with who you are because you're a beautiful person - the world is lucky to have you.
I feel that same way about it.. Well, almost. I haven't started on hormones and I haven't done any surgery. I just feel like getting rid of the breasts is the biggest thing. I would feel so much more comfortable with myself, and I don't think I need the bottom surgery. I might change my mind in the future, but it's not really my biggest concern. Thanks Sky for talking about it, I think this could open peoples mind about what a "man" is and that as long as you feel complete, it doesn't matter. Stay strong and awesome man!
A month or so ago I looked more into bottom surgery, what if is and how it works etc. (I had looked before but not really found the information I was looking for and didn't know how to get more information, bc youtube really doesn't have any bottom surgery ftm videos as opposed to mtf where there are so many). Going through that made me extremely disphoric because there really is just no way to get a made penis to be like the real thing and that was a really rough realization and since then I've been trying really hard, and been more successful than I dreamed, of coming to terms with and even accepting my vagina, and that really helped and I'm really happy for you that you are also (at least seemingly, I won't force familiarity) happy and comfortable with yourself and that's a powerful and good message to be sending to trans people of today, worrying about their bodies and being told that their identities aren't valid, so thank you.
Note: I'm not at all closed to bottom surgery, it's likely it will progress through time and research and I may simply want it more later in my life. Also when I said I was becoming more comfortable with my vagina, I mean more than I was, I'm still far from completely comfortable, but it's better than it was and I'm very glad
This is a great video and I think it's awesome to emphasize that your identity as a masculine person is way too complex to be centred around a single procedure. Glad to hear you are happy in your body and your life, much love Sky
When you love the way you are and accept your own body, you feel happy and people notice it. That makes you an attractive person for others. I really like your voice and the way you express your thoughts, you're pleasent person to listen to :)
Agreed - it's totally on a person by person basis. There's a lot to not understand about another's preferences - but that is because they are another's preferences and not one's own ;]
I just wanted to say that I came across your videos by chance. To be honest, I originally clicked on one of your videos because I found you attractive without even having read the title. Thank you for being so open with your transition and answering all these tough questions because I can only imagine that it is difficult sometimes. There were a lot of questions I had when my friend discovered her bf was FTM that I knew were not appropriate to ask. I am thankful that you and others on the internet have provided an opportunity to ask questions but also learn respect and whatever understanding is possible. I agree with the person who said that the main thing is that you are happy and with your point that you feel comfortable in your body. I think that is a beautiful thing. +1 subscriber!
Once I asked you about this and you answered me. I noticed that I made you feel unconfortable and I apoligize for that. I really admire you and I'm glad I discovered your videos. I'm a gay man, not trans nor related to any trans person (as far as I know), but I've learnt so much from you... And for the B surgery... well, I'm very glad you shared this with us. You're a perfect man just the way you are because you feel good with yourself. I admire you and I like you.
I love how you're going on your OWN choice on this, keep being who you want to be, who you are, and keep doing what you love. Xx peace, love, & live adventures.
I would like to say thank you for making this video. I've recently been getting interested in learning about the surgeries trans people go through and I've seen videos about mtf surgeries but never really seen many about ftm. I'm not trans but this has really helped me understand things about this subject a lot better. I am so happy for you that you are comfortable with your body. Keep being you
If you're happy, everyone else should be. I find that a lot of people will be aggressive about an issue to compensate for their underlying insecurities about a choice they've already made. For a long time I felt very dysphoric about my chest, but eventually that resolved when I got involved with someone who made me feel positive about being female for the first time in my life. Sometimes it takes a little waiting and some mental work to get on an even keel. Thank you for the honest video Sky :)
I am totally with you, I am MTF and I made the decision of no op for my bottom. It doesnt make you anymore of a man than what you are . You are special just the way you a
I just thought you should know how helpful and informative your videos have been. Thank you so much for sharing your journey, who knows if I would of ever fully come to terms with myself had it not been for brave people like you.
Just wanted to say that you're an awesome guy Sky. I personally feel that identity plays more into a person's gender than what they have between their legs or their chests. I wish that more guys thought they were manly without focusing on their lower body or sexual prowess. For me it's how a guy treats other people that makes me see them as manly or not as manly. I like men that treat people with respect, or do things that are kind just because they can. That's what manly is to me, being strong mentally, physically and embracing your emotions. Now that's manly. :D Nothing wrong with being proud of what you've got but what you haven't got doesn't make you any less of a man or woman.
I would like to say watching this video got me thinking a lot about myself and I totally agree with you Skylar. You shouldn't have to tell people something you wouldn't have to if it makes you feel uncomfortable or any bad feeling. I like to say a big thank you for expressing yourself the way you did and it will now help me out on thinking when the time comes for me IF I really want bottom surgery or not.
I really love this video. I feel much the same, and it's really hard sometimes to balance and express the dissonance of not wanting X procedure but accepting others who have had it. And in the end it usually comes down to me trying to say that I think it's ALL superficial, but that that's OKAY, but then the other person gets aaaalllllll pissed off that I think it's superficial because it's so important to them. That's not what I mean to do. Like you said, I'm happy with what my body can do. It can do so much! And adding bits on won't, like, enhance my skills or anything. It's just superficial. That's what has lead me to accepting it so much better than I did before. I just wish I could spread that to others, because so many people are unhappy with what their body ISN'T, and I think they'd be happier if they focus on what it IS. But if they decide to change some stuff about it, that's just fine. That's part of their journey.
It's great that you feel comfortable in your body. If you're happy with it the way it is, don't alter it, it's that easy. Great explanation, great video. I love your voice.
This encompasses everything that I feel about bottom surgery. A hysterectomy is the extent that I want to go to as well. Thank you for this. p.s. I am talking to our Student Activities Director here at Salem College to see about you coming to speak and perform here like you did at Chatham!
Thanks for the honest opinion Sky, I do understand why you don't want to have surgery, it really is a personal choice for you, if your happy then your happy no one can change that for you, stay strong my friend, peace, Malachy.
I think it's great that you've made this video. I've always thought that every trans person would want bottom surgery. So it's awesome that you talk about it and let people know that that's not always the case. Love your videos. You're amazing.
I just found your videos and think you are an awesome and inspirational person. Although it's not fair that you were attractive as a female and now you are really attractive as a male. I wish you so much luck in whatever you chose to do and it is incredible that you can come on youtube and are willing to tell your story.
I'm so glad you have the ability to speak about this topic. I feel as though transgender men and women are too often coerced into bottom surgery just to be "normal," while in the process losing sensation and normal sexual function. Good for you that you are willing to just stick with the good you've got. Best regards, Katie
yes i did! :) glad you like it! i wrapped it up into a tight ball, twisting and folding it into a crazy shape, then held it together with rubber bands before squeezing the dye out onto it. also didn't have much dye, so that played a role ;]
I think I love you even more now Than I did already! :,) I wish you all the best luck in life and it really brings joy to me knowing that there are beautiful people like you here on this planet. Peace.
I can't help but think you are so cute. I know i've posted the same a few times, but... everyone's said such mean things.. and all I can't think of is how adorable and sweet you seriously seem.
Yes and no - I can't stop T because I've had a hysterectomy, meaning my body won't produce enough hormones for me to be healthy (at this age - think that I'd be in permanent menopause if I were to stop T.) So I'd need to be taking estrogen if not T, for hormone replacement therapy. Google "Hudson's FTM Guide" and it will tell you which changes on T are permanent - body fat, emotional cycles, menstruation (if not had a hysto,) among other changes will resume if one stops T.
I think you are amazing :) and at the end of the day it is your body so if you don't want the surgery to complete your transition, you don't have to :) all the matters is that you are happy and healthy with who you are now and that you find someone who loves you no matter what. :)
Every trans person is different - there is no video that will show you how to enter a relationship, sexual or emotional, with a trans person, only advice on it. My advice for if you are thinking about having a sexual relationship with a trans person, is have open communication, say what you like, ask them what they are comfortable with/like/want, discuss prosthetics/dysphoria, and then explore together consensually, mutual respect at all times. I'd say that for any relationship really.
I feel the same way you do. If you want it then yes then get it, but if dont then don't. We shouldn't let any other people's opinions bother us. We should only do something if we are really happy about it and really want it as a part of our transition.
you are an amazing person and really, really attractive guy! I have been watching your videos for the past hour now and am so inspired! You glow in and out, keep it up!
Thanks for this video. As with a lot of your videos it gave me a lot to think about. I agree with your response to that comment. Certainly, if the only thing that's going to make someone's girlfriend happy is what's in his pants then that relationship should be seriously questioned. What makes someone a man goes so much deeper. I have a lot of thoughts on this but just know that your journey is reflected in a lot of people in a positive way. You're a good man, Skylar.
I love you. I'm not going through anything like trans, but sometimes I still feel like I'm at war with my body b/c of my expectations and expectations of others. Hopefully one day i can be at peace with myself and my body as much as you are. Thank you for sharing. (:
I am so glad I found your videos. I am currently deciding a lot of things about gender and life, and your videos are really encouraging. Thanks for being so open with such personal things. I know this is an older video, but I just wanted to say thanks. So......thanks!
I want bottom surgery. But I can't afford it. It's very frustrating...and I try not to think about it to avoid spiraling into a deep depression. I am trying to save as much as possible, and am always looking for new opportunities that may help me. But realistically it will take a LONG time to get there, and maybe it won't happen at all. So I'm trying to be confident and happy without it, as you are. But omfg it's hard for me!
Great job sky! Just be who you are. You are amazing the way you are , being the way you want to be and have the great personality and everything about you is just great don't change or get that surgery for someone else do what you want so you can be happy. :) I love you
I'm comfortable with it but the reason I won't approach that subject is because I can only speak about my own sexuality and sex life. I have tons of FTM friends who go about sex and their relationships in entirely different ways - so sharing my own preferences really only shows one side of an unlimited-sided situation, and would only shed light on my own sexual life (something I don't see the need to share with the world, only with my partner/future partners.)
Good for you Skye (sooty if I misspelled that). I hate to admit it but there's a lot of social pressure within the trans community to want bottom surgery. So I'm happy for you that you're comfortable with being awesome just the way you are!!
I can't understand the people who "push" you. As long as you are happy with you and yourself it's totaly fine. Plus: every surgery is a danger.. By the way: I like your voice and your music, you are great.
Of course I would - I've had many attractive girl friends who were born otherwise :) I just happen to be in a relationship, so I'm not in the dating game, but when I say I'm primarily attracted to women - that includes mtf folks absolutely!
Wow...you literally make my day! Like you being happy with everything you've been going through,like makes me feel like maybe I can love myself for who I am. You are such an inspiration to me,haha it's kinda crazy,because I don't know you...is that weird? Oh well...but just wanted to say keep making videos and just keep keeping it real and I hope everything just goes awesome for you:)
I think you said this well, and were mindful of peoples feelings who have had, or want to have bottom surgery. So kudos to you on that.. Me, well, I never really wanted bottom surgery either. For me, I have had concerns about complications, and as you had said, there were no results I liked 100%, even after doing much research, looking at different surgeons results, etc. none of them would make ME feel 100% happy with the result. Granted, I have never had much bottom dysphasia. In most cases
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The voice, the incredible face, the body language, all I see is a man, 100% man, bottom surgery or not. A hot one i got to say!
great video. I also hate all the pressure questions from bottom surgery. Recently someone asked me if I had the bottom surgery and I said no , the response was " well why now you're just a 3/4 man.." and that was probably most offensive thing anyones ever said to me. I don't think having that part is what makes a man and to make your partner happy.
i cannot believe someone would say that to you. that broke my heart.
Canuck390 WOW I can't believe that someone would say that. No, you're just a man, period. Who gives a crap what a guy is packing or not packing. ;P on the lighter/and fun side, you can choose what size you want to be if you did want to slap that person in the face, how many guys can say that hahaha. :D Stay strong, and don't let that negativity get you down. I can't believe some people though, that's completely ignorant, and rude.
This is lovely to hear, great to see you're happy with yourself now x
I think the main thing is if you're happy. If you don't want the surgery, great! All the power to you, if you did, that's great too. The important thing is how you feel. Thanks for sharing your story :) Best of luck to you!
Be who you want to be hun, not how people what to see you to be. You seem like a very nice sweet guy. Dont worry about people, because at the end of the day, you are making yourself happy, not everybody else. Stay amazing hun. Dont change yourself for others, change yourself for you.
Love this dudes channel and how open he is.
I am a gay man that in my younger days dated more than a few other gay men. A Penis does not make you a man. A penis is not what gets a person off. It is the brain and the way you feel about the person you are being intimate with. How he or she touches you and talks to you and so on. It boggles my mind that any human would think it was OK to ask another human about what your genitals look like. It only matters if the person is about to be intimate with you, and by that time I am sure you have clued them in on what you like or don't like and what to expect.
I feel like you don't need to defend yourself at all. Just do you, man. I really support your opinions on it. I'm a new subbie, but I've seen a lot of your videos through one of my best friends and I really enjoy your channel. On a side note, I could listen to you talk for hours, your voice is very nice and soothing. Something about it just makes me happy (:
I don't see why whether or not you have had or will ever have bottom surgery is such a topic of interest to people. You are a man no matter what and what you have downstairs is your business and yours only. Although I don't agree with the people who question and badger you I do admire your approach to the people with invasive questions because I'd probably have a hard time remaining so calm. You are a rad dude Sky!
I completely understand what you mean, Sky. : 3 I'm a FtM myself and I have no plans at all to get bottom surgery... I'm just fine without it.
Ayyy, another ftm over here not considering getting bottom surgery either. :P
Astris Captor just curious, whats the difference between the hysterectomy that he has already gotten, and bottom surgery? :)
misscoolishere A hysterectomy is the removal of the uterus and cervix etc, and the bottom surgery I am speaking of is to change the vagina into a penis. : )
You're the most adorable guy I have ever seen, and I could listen to your voice for days, ugh, you're perfect ;-;
You are the cutest little bugger I've ever seen, God bless you. Ignorance is bliss, mask their ignorance with your own. You're you for a reason, you shouldn't have to explain yourself because of a personal preference. Congratulations on your accomplishment, I'll be sure to raise a glass in your honor, dearest Sky.
I'm glad someone feels the same way. Really like the way you approached this Sky, very cautious of other people yet still bringing your point across. Don't feel like you need to elaborate on something like this more than you need to though, stay strong mate!
Yes indeed. I've seen some really happy guys who got metas - even though it's a long way away, I'm sure your journey will be worth it! One upside to the delay is that every day is another one where improvements can be made to each kind of surgery :) just something positive to keep in mind while you wait!
not a worry - i'm hardly offended at the individual questions, but it's the accumulation of questions daily that stabs a bit! i'm glad you discovered my videos too and that we could mutually help one another understand more things :)
I think you are amazingly REAL. Thank you for being you.
I came into this channel wanting to hate you, but I can't. You have changed my opinion on the trans-gender community.
fox foxe gosh I really don't know what to think about this comment... "I came here to hate you" this is messed up
i'm so happy to hear about your emotional change there :) that's beautiful!!
i started watching your videos last night and i have to say one thing...i'm so happy for you! i can understand that your transition was not easy but i'm glad that you are finally happy with who you are!! i may not know you and probably never will but you seem like a great guy, keep it up dude :D
I really respect you for putting this out there and expressing your opinion on the topic while staying open-minded towards others. You are forever showing what an awesome person you are in your videos. I aspire to be as comfortable in my own skin as you are in yours.
Do what makes you happy. Not anyone else but YOU. You have the right to love yourself the way you are.
Who cares what anyone else thinks you already seem like the perfect guy to me :) You have a fantastic laid back personality and that is what truly matters.
thanks alex! it's definitely a touchy subject, and it took me a long time to find a way i was comfortable with approaching it. excited for our collab brother!
Just want you to know, whoever has offended you in ANY sort of way, just don't give a single fuck. I will support every single decision of yours because you are who you are. You choose what you want to be and no one can judge you on those basis.
Love you sky x
Everything you said, needed to be said. Good for you for being honest with your point of view. Even though (at this point) I'm planning on having lower surgery, I feel like all choices are valid choices and should be honored. The body doesn't make the man.
what you said from about 2:00 to 2:13 is so beautiful. seriously that is one of the greatest things I have ever heard and you should put that on a poster!
great poem! i can relate to a bunch of it, i think it's really raw and great of him to write and perform it! :)
anyone would be lucky to have a real honest person like you you are amazing and don't ever change you make my heart melt :)
I could feel your discomfort through this video and it's a shame people hassle you about this topic. But I think you handled it very well - openly and honestly, as always. I'm so happy you're comfortable with who you are because you're a beautiful person - the world is lucky to have you.
Thanks for sharing that you feel so comfortable with what you have now. You are a fine example of someone who's not swayed by other's assumptions.
Your happiness is all that matters.
I feel that same way about it.. Well, almost. I haven't started on hormones and I haven't done any surgery. I just feel like getting rid of the breasts is the biggest thing. I would feel so much more comfortable with myself, and I don't think I need the bottom surgery. I might change my mind in the future, but it's not really my biggest concern.
Thanks Sky for talking about it, I think this could open peoples mind about what a "man" is and that as long as you feel complete, it doesn't matter. Stay strong and awesome man!
A month or so ago I looked more into bottom surgery, what if is and how it works etc. (I had looked before but not really found the information I was looking for and didn't know how to get more information, bc youtube really doesn't have any bottom surgery ftm videos as opposed to mtf where there are so many). Going through that made me extremely disphoric because there really is just no way to get a made penis to be like the real thing and that was a really rough realization and since then I've been trying really hard, and been more successful than I dreamed, of coming to terms with and even accepting my vagina, and that really helped and I'm really happy for you that you are also (at least seemingly, I won't force familiarity) happy and comfortable with yourself and that's a powerful and good message to be sending to trans people of today, worrying about their bodies and being told that their identities aren't valid, so thank you.
Note: I'm not at all closed to bottom surgery, it's likely it will progress through time and research and I may simply want it more later in my life. Also when I said I was becoming more comfortable with my vagina, I mean more than I was, I'm still far from completely comfortable, but it's better than it was and I'm very glad
This is a great video and I think it's awesome to emphasize that your identity as a masculine person is way too complex to be centred around a single procedure. Glad to hear you are happy in your body and your life, much love Sky
When you love the way you are and accept your own body, you feel happy and people notice it. That makes you an attractive person for others.
I really like your voice and the way you express your thoughts, you're pleasent person to listen to :)
Agreed - it's totally on a person by person basis. There's a lot to not understand about another's preferences - but that is because they are another's preferences and not one's own ;]
I just wanted to say that I came across your videos by chance. To be honest, I originally clicked on one of your videos because I found you attractive without even having read the title.
Thank you for being so open with your transition and answering all these tough questions because I can only imagine that it is difficult sometimes. There were a lot of questions I had when my friend discovered her bf was FTM that I knew were not appropriate to ask. I am thankful that you and others on the internet have provided an opportunity to ask questions but also learn respect and whatever understanding is possible.
I agree with the person who said that the main thing is that you are happy and with your point that you feel comfortable in your body. I think that is a beautiful thing.
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Once I asked you about this and you answered me. I noticed that I made you feel unconfortable and I apoligize for that. I really admire you and I'm glad I discovered your videos. I'm a gay man, not trans nor related to any trans person (as far as I know), but I've learnt so much from you... And for the B surgery... well, I'm very glad you shared this with us. You're a perfect man just the way you are because you feel good with yourself. I admire you and I like you.
I love how you're going on your OWN choice on this, keep being who you want to be, who you are, and keep doing what you love. Xx peace, love, & live adventures.
I would like to say thank you for making this video. I've recently been getting interested in learning about the surgeries trans people go through and I've seen videos about mtf surgeries but never really seen many about ftm. I'm not trans but this has really helped me understand things about this subject a lot better.
I am so happy for you that you are comfortable with your body.
Keep being you
If you're happy, everyone else should be. I find that a lot of people will be aggressive about an issue to compensate for their underlying insecurities about a choice they've already made. For a long time I felt very dysphoric about my chest, but eventually that resolved when I got involved with someone who made me feel positive about being female for the first time in my life. Sometimes it takes a little waiting and some mental work to get on an even keel. Thank you for the honest video Sky :)
I am totally with you, I am MTF and I made the decision of no op for my bottom. It doesnt make you anymore of a man than what you are . You are special just the way you a
you too stacey :)
Intriguing haha
I just thought you should know how helpful and informative your videos have been. Thank you so much for sharing your journey, who knows if I would of ever fully come to terms with myself had it not been for brave people like you.
Just wanted to say that you're an awesome guy Sky. I personally feel that identity plays more into a person's gender than what they have between their legs or their chests. I wish that more guys thought they were manly without focusing on their lower body or sexual prowess. For me it's how a guy treats other people that makes me see them as manly or not as manly. I like men that treat people with respect, or do things that are kind just because they can. That's what manly is to me, being strong mentally, physically and embracing your emotions. Now that's manly. :D Nothing wrong with being proud of what you've got but what you haven't got doesn't make you any less of a man or woman.
I would like to say watching this video got me thinking a lot about myself and I totally agree with you Skylar. You shouldn't have to tell people something you wouldn't have to if it makes you feel uncomfortable or any bad feeling. I like to say a big thank you for expressing yourself the way you did and it will now help me out on thinking when the time comes for me IF I really want bottom surgery or not.
I really love this video. I feel much the same, and it's really hard sometimes to balance and express the dissonance of not wanting X procedure but accepting others who have had it. And in the end it usually comes down to me trying to say that I think it's ALL superficial, but that that's OKAY, but then the other person gets aaaalllllll pissed off that I think it's superficial because it's so important to them. That's not what I mean to do. Like you said, I'm happy with what my body can do. It can do so much! And adding bits on won't, like, enhance my skills or anything. It's just superficial. That's what has lead me to accepting it so much better than I did before. I just wish I could spread that to others, because so many people are unhappy with what their body ISN'T, and I think they'd be happier if they focus on what it IS. But if they decide to change some stuff about it, that's just fine. That's part of their journey.
It's great that you feel comfortable in your body. If you're happy with it the way it is, don't alter it, it's that easy. Great explanation, great video. I love your voice.
aw thank you my friend! :) feel free to posterize it if you'd like of course!
Whatever makes you happy, Sky! You're great as you are as long as you feel good about yourself. :)
This encompasses everything that I feel about bottom surgery. A hysterectomy is the extent that I want to go to as well. Thank you for this.
p.s. I am talking to our Student Activities Director here at Salem College to see about you coming to speak and perform here like you did at Chatham!
Thanks for the honest opinion Sky, I do understand why you don't want to have surgery, it really is a personal choice for you, if your happy then your happy no one can change that for you, stay strong my friend, peace, Malachy.
I think it's great that you've made this video. I've always thought that every trans person would want bottom surgery. So it's awesome that you talk about it and let people know that that's not always the case.
Love your videos. You're amazing.
I just found your videos and think you are an awesome and inspirational person. Although it's not fair that you were attractive as a female and now you are really attractive as a male. I wish you so much luck in whatever you chose to do and it is incredible that you can come on youtube and are willing to tell your story.
I'm so glad you have the ability to speak about this topic. I feel as though transgender men and women are too often coerced into bottom surgery just to be "normal," while in the process losing sensation and normal sexual function. Good for you that you are willing to just stick with the good you've got. Best regards, Katie
Good for you! Many ppl don't understand just how personal and individualistic our journey as trans men and women are.
you are just the most gorgeous human being.
I think it's great you feel happy with your body, you should do whatever YOU want cause it is YOUR body! keep going Sky you're awesome :D
You are a beautiful person
yes i did! :) glad you like it! i wrapped it up into a tight ball, twisting and folding it into a crazy shape, then held it together with rubber bands before squeezing the dye out onto it. also didn't have much dye, so that played a role ;]
super complex :) i appreciate this my friend!
I think I love you even more now
Than I did already! :,) I wish you all the best luck in life and it really brings joy to me knowing that there are beautiful people like you here on this planet. Peace.
I can't help but think you are so cute. I know i've posted the same a few times, but... everyone's said such mean things.. and all I can't think of is how adorable and sweet you seriously seem.
that's a so agressive surgery, if i were in your place, i won't take it, it left a big, really big scar on a side of a chest... love u!!!
that's so awesome joy! I'm glad to hear that :))
thanks shelby :) me too, and you too!
Yes and no - I can't stop T because I've had a hysterectomy, meaning my body won't produce enough hormones for me to be healthy (at this age - think that I'd be in permanent menopause if I were to stop T.) So I'd need to be taking estrogen if not T, for hormone replacement therapy. Google "Hudson's FTM Guide" and it will tell you which changes on T are permanent - body fat, emotional cycles, menstruation (if not had a hysto,) among other changes will resume if one stops T.
I think you are amazing :) and at the end of the day it is your body so if you don't want the surgery to complete your transition, you don't have to :) all the matters is that you are happy and healthy with who you are now and that you find someone who loves you no matter what. :)
That's so amazing that you love your body! That's a hard thing to feel and I'm happy you know how amazing you are!
You are a beautiful human being. Well said, brother. Love, peace, and good vibes..
Every trans person is different - there is no video that will show you how to enter a relationship, sexual or emotional, with a trans person, only advice on it. My advice for if you are thinking about having a sexual relationship with a trans person, is have open communication, say what you like, ask them what they are comfortable with/like/want, discuss prosthetics/dysphoria, and then explore together consensually, mutual respect at all times. I'd say that for any relationship really.
People need to love their bodies just the way they are . Love ya! You are such a beautiful human being just saying.
I completely agree with this. I don't feel dysphoric downstairs and just don't feel a need to have the procedure done.
I feel the same way you do. If you want it then yes then get it, but if dont then don't. We shouldn't let any other people's opinions bother us. We should only do something if we are really happy about it and really want it as a part of our transition.
you are an amazing person and really, really attractive guy! I have been watching your videos for the past hour now and am so inspired! You glow in and out, keep it up!
Thanks for this video. As with a lot of your videos it gave me a lot to think about. I agree with your response to that comment. Certainly, if the only thing that's going to make someone's girlfriend happy is what's in his pants then that relationship should be seriously questioned. What makes someone a man goes so much deeper. I have a lot of thoughts on this but just know that your journey is reflected in a lot of people in a positive way. You're a good man, Skylar.
I love you. I'm not going through anything like trans, but sometimes I still feel like I'm at war with my body b/c of my expectations and expectations of others. Hopefully one day i can be at peace with myself and my body as much as you are. Thank you for sharing. (:
Beautiful Ayden! I'd love to come to Salem! :)
I love your honesty in every video you did! i simply love you
Well said Sky, I'm glad that someone feels the same way.
I am so glad I found your videos. I am currently deciding a lot of things about gender and life, and your videos are really encouraging. Thanks for being so open with such personal things. I know this is an older video, but I just wanted to say thanks. So......thanks!
yes - in the past, i have altered my body to feel comfortable. i'm talking about the future tense - meaning future surgeries. :)
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this even though you didn't want to always talk about it! Appreciate your videos
thanks so much brent! i appreciate your insight!
I want bottom surgery.
But I can't afford it.
It's very frustrating...and I try not to think about it to avoid spiraling into a deep depression.
I am trying to save as much as possible, and am always looking for new opportunities that may help me.
But realistically it will take a LONG time to get there, and maybe it won't happen at all.
So I'm trying to be confident and happy without it, as you are.
But omfg it's hard for me!
Great job sky! Just be who you are. You are amazing the way you are , being the way you want to be and have the great personality and everything about you is just great don't change or get that surgery for someone else do what you want so you can be happy. :) I love you
I'm comfortable with it but the reason I won't approach that subject is because I can only speak about my own sexuality and sex life. I have tons of FTM friends who go about sex and their relationships in entirely different ways - so sharing my own preferences really only shows one side of an unlimited-sided situation, and would only shed light on my own sexual life (something I don't see the need to share with the world, only with my partner/future partners.)
Good for you Skye (sooty if I misspelled that). I hate to admit it but there's a lot of social pressure within the trans community to want bottom surgery. So I'm happy for you that you're comfortable with being awesome just the way you are!!
I like this video :) Well done Sky for putting this across
I don't understand why people would bother you sour bottom surgery if its not something they have to deal with. You're wonderful how you are sky!
Yes. A great personality is a way to make any girl happy :)
Skylar I think your an amazing person! Your changing the would! You make me so happy!
I can already - but yes, for some, the surgery is more for urinating standing up rather than sexual function.
i dont want to get bottom surgery EVER. yes i want top yes a hysterectomy? years later. but theres great prosthetics on the market! i want to get that
I appreciate your honesty and openness
I can't understand the people who "push" you. As long as you are happy with you and yourself it's totaly fine. Plus: every surgery is a danger..
By the way: I like your voice and your music, you are great.
I don't care what you have. Or what you don't have honestly. I think your awesome and whatever the hell you wanna do, do it.
Of course I would - I've had many attractive girl friends who were born otherwise :) I just happen to be in a relationship, so I'm not in the dating game, but when I say I'm primarily attracted to women - that includes mtf folks absolutely!
Wow...you literally make my day! Like you being happy with everything you've been going through,like makes me feel like maybe I can love myself for who I am. You are such an inspiration to me,haha it's kinda crazy,because I don't know you...is that weird? Oh well...but just wanted to say keep making videos and just keep keeping it real and I hope everything just goes awesome for you:)
It doesn't matter if you want bottom surgery or not your amazing just the way you are and you don't have to explain yourself
I think you said this well, and were mindful of peoples feelings who have had, or want to have bottom surgery. So kudos to you on that.. Me, well, I never really wanted bottom surgery either. For me, I have had concerns about complications, and as you had said, there were no results I liked 100%, even after doing much research, looking at different surgeons results, etc. none of them would make ME feel 100% happy with the result. Granted, I have never had much bottom dysphasia. In most cases