im not saying dont open up, do that, its nice to have people you can rely on with your problems, but dont let your emotions dictate you. Like hamza said, you must acknowlage your emotions, but you must not let them control you.
@@silentaimer It takes more than to “be aware of your emotion”. You have to know when to be be emotional. I was “aware” if my emotions all the time but it never fixed my problem until I just let it all out.
@@jjboss7896 Interesting point, I thought of mike tyson for example who says himself that hes a very emotional person. The key is to channel the emotions and use the powerful energy of your emotions for and not against you. Tyson for example didnt go out and stab people in Order to deal with his aggression. He chose to channel it to become one of the best in his sport. Nevertheless when you think about the "Kings" or "Leaders" of todays world like Putin, Biden or even Zuckerberg or Bezos you probably wouldn't say that these are emotional people, would you?
@@kiba7907 yea but actors also become leaders because they feed the sheep nice words everyone you listed os typical politician besides Putin be even he has good acting skills because he was a Russian spy at one point.
You don't have control over your emotions. Your emotions are defined by your beliefs, which you have no direct control over either. But you do have control over your rational faculty, helping you shape and change your beliefs consequently altering the emotions linked to these beliefs. I believe one should actively try to change his own beliefs triggering anger, frustration, jealousy and fear as they are not beneficial for the individual. And are certainly sign of weakness rather than strenght of character.
Emotions shouldn’t be controlled. Because it won’t solve the problems you face. If you’re trying to rehabilitate a prison do you build a stronger cell or try to understand them? Mammals were designed to think with their emotions; It’s apart of us, and we should be trying to understand why we feel the way we do. You have to guide your emotions. Your emotions shouldn’t rule over you but they shouldn’t be off to side. They should be with you in every decision you make. Sometimes your heart can do more thinking than your brain.
Me too! But there are days where I`m too tired of doing self-improvement and I give myself more time to rest, to return stronger and usually I procrastinate these days
You are so right. As a young man I’ve always been emotional. I’ve felt emotions very strongly and this has been mainly due to suffering from Asperger’s syndrome (autism spectrum). However, using this as an excuse would constantly limit me. Giving excuses are limitations, everyone has the chance to be THE man and emotions would get in the way of it. Being obsessed with goals and achieving them are the key to become a top tier masculine man flowing with testosterone through their veins.
as a teenager with autism who also used to be really emotional during school, I agree with this. It always felt like everyone was telling me that it was okay to be emotional, and no one tried to help me put the situation i was in into context and actually pull me out of it
Bro I was diagnosed with Asperger’s and something that helps is not view it as a suffering or a limitation but a superpower. Mindset is everything. Glad that you see that everyone regardless of their conditions can level up in their life. Much love.
Emotions will be there. What matters is how you react to them. Carl Jung termed this as our shadow self. The more we try to repress our emotions, more strongly they come back. To be complete we need to integrate with our shadow self Learn to detach yourself from your emotions. You are not your emotions. We have 2 minds a thinking mind(that has emotions and the one gets tempted, when we say we are over-thinking we are basically letting this one loose) and an observing mind (the part of our mind that we can control, the logical brain, that observes our thinking mind) So instead of thinking you are angry, think you are feeling anger. This will take some time but when you do this with grief, jealousy, hatred etc. You'll learn to act despite your emotions. Later try to journal why were you feeling that extreme emotion. Venting in any form goes a long way
This explains why I've never had much trouble with anger. I've felt detached from it from such a young age that I have a decade and a half of observing frustration without ever "feeling" it.
You're kind of right, but I'd like to specify. The problem is that we discriminate between emotions. When you are a child you are dependent on your parents for survival. But your parents have to condition you to function in a society - you can't still go around screaming in public as an adult for example. To build up on that example, Therefore you are told to shut it down in some situations. But because you can't comprend the reason why your parents don't want you to scream, you just feel like they don't love you if you show them this emotion - and your instinct is, that if your parents don't love you, they might abandon you resulting in your death. That is the point where a split is created in your personality, as you disowned the part of you that is angry, because you think it's unacceptable - It is now linked to the fear of death. This process happens with anger, fear and sadness,
So The complex thinking part of your brain has formed a core belief that that certain emotions may result in death if acted out. Therefore they are repressed over years and years and years. But resisting these emotions leads to not having an outlet and they build up, causing suffering in you. The bad feelings we have aren't the emotions but actually the suffering that results from resisting these emotions. Probably youve had moments where you were so stressed that you irationally lashed out at someone in anger for example. That is simply your body searching for an outlet because the repressed emotions are overflowing - that's the point where the need to let go of resistance is greater than the fear of feeling it. Back to the core belief - now you're an adult and know that your core belief from back then is irrational, but knowing it doesn't work to remove it. Rather then thinking your way out of the repressed emotions through thoughts, you need to take the physical approach. Every time you feel fear for example, there are sensations that come up in your body. You need to practice to be aware of these sensations when they come up. Allowing yourself to feel these sensations makes the resistance behind them disappear and you dive in deeper and deeper every time you do this, removing layer by layer, untangling all of the built up resistance, until one day you reach the core of that fear where it all started. You allow yourself to feel that original emotion and you are overflowed by bliss. Because you abondened such a wonderful and important part of you for so long. This is life changing stuff, I'm so grateful that I found all this knowledge. I had no hope in my life, and now Im crying tears of happiness while writing this
"Instead of think you are angry, think that you are feeling anger." ... You voiced that in such a way I didn't think possible, man, holy shit that's amazing. That is actually gonna go a long way for me. Thank you :)
Your not supposed to block out your emotions. The goal, especially if we are to become great fathers and husbands is to become emotionally intelligent. To understand and to work with your emotions throughout your life. To truly open up and feel visceral pain, but not let it stop you. To feel unyielding gratitude and joy but not let it blind you. To have guilt and regret tug at your heart, but to go back inward and to resolve the emotions that are causing it and to learn that lesson. If you are in emotional turmoil you can not resolve it by shoving it down under the guise of needing to be more masculine and non emotional. Our fore fathers have done this without the knowledge of mental health and phycology and it has fucked them up for generations. We need to learn how to conquer, love and accept our inner selves to get to a true peace that we can the pour out to our loved ones our spouse and most importantly our children. Learn about child phycology, Learn about the dangers of emotionally immature parents and don’t be so stuck in this ridged masculinity that you miss the flowers for the trees. Keep in mind you very well may have to raise a daughter and she along with your son will need to learn how to be emotionally mature, stable and loved form you and your partner. Pick carefully and learn thoroughly Good day to you
@@mrteco4236 That’s some loaded language there buddy. There are people that have unresolved issues that cause them to be mal-adapted emotionally and socially. But words have meaning, and calling someone trying to do their best to navigate the world a “nuisance” is never a pathos that I will subscribe to.
Not the silicon walley nerds are the problem nor the product they made. The problem is how we use it. For example: If i have an axe I can cut wood with it and ignite a fire. But I also can cut old Mary next door. And if I cut old Mary who will be inprisoned? The mindless tool, or me who used it? It depends on how we use a product we have.
being emotional was one of my biggest downfalls recently which caused me to hit a big rock bottom. i ended up quitting my job in a rage fit after being cheated on (again) by one of my coworkers. i was in a leadership position and everyone else knew about the whole thing, it was a mess, so i couldn't handle it and just quit. those were the hardest months of my life and only when i discovered about self improvement habits i managed to climb i out of the hole i digged myself into. I've always been extremely controlled by my emotions and it always put me in a state of anxiety where i act on impulse, and now i realise how much of a weakness this is, after losing the respect of everyone, even myself. first you need to put the effort and discipline to acquire back self respect and then you can apply rational and stoic practices. once you start and get a hold of yourself you feel unstoppable. trust me. be careful and take care mates. we're all gonna make it. also, i really appreciate the video, hamza. this is a message i needed for a long time now and it only reassures my purpose.
This goes hand in hand with the book: The way of the superior Man. I liked your conclusion in this video as it's easy to be followed up and i think, that controlling your emotions is one of the most important skills in life.
@@eliasconradsson5412 Some guy (looked like Mark Henry from WWE) was annoyed at me that I didn’t move up in the aisle (I was waiting for the lady in front to finish and there wasn’t really any room to move up). So he just got really angry about it and called me “a stupid goofy n&&&&” and he looked like he wanted to fuck me up for no reason. So I just looked him in the eyes and told him, calmly, to relax a few times. Then he turned around to his girlfriend and kept muttering to himself. Idk just a weird situation where that guy was like angry and let it dictate his actions while I calmly de-escalate it. Then this video pops up in the feed not an hour later. Odd coincidence I guess lol
Never forget that sometimes you have to let those emotions get out in some way, let them be, using art, manual skills work, walking, writing or go out in nature.
Hey, I just wanted to say that I found your channel just a week ago. I’m a teenager and I have been into self improvement for a while. I found your channel and I really love what you’re saying. My family and I have always hated social media like instagram. These videos have given me motivation to improve myself. Being emotional and being aware of your emotions are different. We should be able to control our emotions. These platforms are really a death trap. If you feel insecure, try to improve yourself. I used to play a lot of video games, and struggle with insecurity. Ever since I’ve broken away from that and started working out, I’ve begun to be more fulfilled with all of my days. I feel that I haven’t lived my life that I wanted to yet, but I firmly believe we can all change. And because of this, I’ve realized a lot of things. People nowadays have things all wrong. If you are weak, instead of embracing it, improve yourself. Thank you.
I‘m glad you put it this way cause I hate people who say „don‘t have emotions otherwise you‘re weak“. It‘s very healthy to be in touch with your emotions but what matters is how you deal with them. Take them seriously but don‘t let them cause your actions.
"Be in touch with your emotions" is completely different from being able to control your emotions and not let it dictate your day to day behavior. I don't feel like going to the gym most days. If I give into those emotions I would become a weak man.
I heard this from andrew tate and it got stuck in my head He said "it doesn't matter what I feel, sad, angry, happy- no matter what I feel it has 0 effect on what I'm doing" Really inspired me, I think it's important to be aware of your feelings yet still have this kind of objective thinking of "it doesn't matter how I feel I have to do x y z"
No offense, but if your counselor is Andrew Tate.... let's just say you should try to widen up your youtube views so recommendations aren't utter shit.
@@rayres1074 im not a fan of andrew tate, but atleast this guy got part of the message, can't say its all negative, but atleast this somehow brought him to Hamza
@@comradeskipper5232 He is indeed very moneyed, considering he's a champion kickboxer. That's it though. Being rich doesn't make your opinion any more valid. If he was a minimum wage worker? Nobody would listen to his dumb shit. Heck, he'd be an average redditor in r/incel rather than an """"influencer"""".
i really appreciate those uncut/not edited pauses you do in your videos. in an ocean of videos in youtube, this feels like.. it's real. it hits close. it's like a reality check. a moment of clarity. a moment to think..
I need Hamza to read this: I LITERALLY NEEDED THIS TYPE OF VIDEOS IN YOUR CHANNEL!!! I needed that natural pause after EVERY sentence to realise myself. Cuz your edited videos do have information overloaded and i can't take it all at once. This feels so natural that i feel like someone is advising me for good. Your other videos make me feel like full of both information and quick edits. Please make videos like this. To the editor: The Jeffery and Adonis edits are too good for an intro to start. But if he talks with pause after that, the audience may feel bored. You take the decision bro ❤️
“Emotion can be the enemy, if you give into your emotion, you lose yourself. You must be at one with your emotions, because the body always follows the mind.” -Bruce Lee
I'm 22 years old, I dropped all social media out of my life at age 16, I'm living a life where I don't understand other people's problem caused by social media...my life is so calm...I push with the movement✊️ but also respect the business some of yall build on smplatforms
My Key Notes “Progress towards your mission creates happiness and fulfillment and sense of freedom” “Self-love is attained through self-respect by doing the right things”
Wow, this is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen. Holy shit, totally relatable. It’s funny how he says your emotions change all the time. Well mine changed swiftly as I was watching this content.
I will speak from experience. I was literally the opposite. I was unhealthily unemotional. I was dull, emotionless and absolutely senseless. That was the worst time of my life. This January I met a girl straight out of my dreams at the very right time, meters away from slipping away to a deep pit inside the deep pit i already was in, and I am changed forever in a good way. She softened my heart, she made me regain my emotions and my senses, but the pendulum swung too strongly, which made me accidentally make her get further from me now. I finally balanced it out now after skating around a bit, and I am currently putting all my efforts to regain her (seriously, she is worth that, and I don't have a shadow of doubt about it because we already discussed everything to convince me to know that she is the one I will bs the happiest with when I marry her, pray for me bros that I do it). If, God forbid, I don't regain her, then at least I will gain myself for me, so I still would go away with one win of the many battles. Now, I know that a lesson on own experience is learned much better, and me teaching a lesson to y'all wouldn't probably be learned by you guys good enough, but just so you guys don't walk in the path I went in as blindly as I did, here are a couple critical tips on emotionality: • NEVER, seriously, no matter how much you love a person, NEVER EVER share too much about your deepest feelings to a person that you aren't actually tied to in a way (eg. marriage). You might just say too much. • ALWAYS keep your emotions in check. Let them out once in a while, but NEVER in front of someone who could make a talk about it (eg. mom) • It is okay for you to cry over serious stuff. If you don't cry from your grandma's death, especially if you actually loved your grandma, then your heart is freezing, and you need to melt it before it makes it take a crack to reach it* • You can be very emotional about something or someone when you're on your own, but use the torque the emotions give you to actually fix the things that make you feel pain you have, rather than simply waste it on crying over the thing, or even worse, on idolising it, making it the uncreachable goal. It is reachable, just get your two round pieces of flesh off your seat/bed/whatever else, and START WALKING. Every journey, be it a trip to school, or literally the way to the moon, starts with a footstep. Take the footstep, your engine starts, and you do footstep after a footstep, eventually reaching your destination. • Use your emotions to analyse your life choices. This must be self-explanatory. • Lastly, feel. Turn on your feelings. Turning them off makes the battle tougher, not yourself. Go and feel, but control what you feel. Filter it, analyse it, evaluate it. *sorry for the bad wording, but here I meant that you should fix your heart, or metaphorically, unfreeze it, before it gets so cold in the ice form, it starts requiring a crack to be done in order to reach your heart.
Your ending motto "Do the hard work, especially if you don't feel like it" made me a much better man already. It's nailed in my head, and it made the suck so much easier to endure. Thank you Hamza. I'm trying every day to get better and better.
As someone who’s been through an absolutely devastating breakup I can confirm what this dude spits is the truth and you ain’t gonna move past it until you control your emotions and turn it into something productive, fun, or both. For me I chose forging and welding. Choose something you love and stick to it.
Thanks for this, I have been blinded by my emotions lately. It's been controlling my life only recently because of a certain event. I needed this, Thanks for calling me out. Great stuff
This is true! I was doing so well in my routine, but then I got sad for overeating and instead of keeping going forward, I stopped doing any of the good habits just because I was too sad to do it so…
@Martin Og Same thing with me, 6th grade I was like, the weirdest kid in school. Now going into 8th I am starting on my schools football team and one of the strongest kids in weightlifting class. Keep up the grinds brothers
I consider myself an emotional man; however, I see it as a positive thing as it allows for me to interact with others at a higher level. I believe I have high emotional intelligence and so I am able to navigate awkward situations and feel comfortable in otherwise uncomfortable scenarios. My point is, I believe you should own up to how you are and rock it. Confidence is key and that's what being a man is all about. Nice video, Hamza!
you are coping. from experience, being soft and emotional, while it may help you "interact with others at a higher level" will also affect you in a negative way.
@@pedro4154 i think it does good to recognise that these things can be nuanced. you can be selectively soft and emotional or whatever at the right time with the right people. i feel that people just misunderstanding each other when talking about this subject.
"Emotional" can be missunderstood, but there is some wisdom to what you are saying. You shouldn't be ruled by your emotions, be mindfull of them and most importantly : know what thought makes it happen
This video was an eye opener for me. This whole summer, I have been feeling bad and lonely since things were not going my way. I wasn't being consistent with my mission which ultimately resulted in me getting made fun of and bad mouthed. There are 10 days left until my school starts, and I will no longer let my emotions control me. I will continue to focus on my goals and accept the fact that there will always be people trying to make fun of me. Even if you reach the state of success, there will always be negative and toxic people. Thank you all for reading this comment and if you are going through a similar experience, I wish you all good luck. Good luck on your self-improvement journey!
Turn that bad mouthing and negative energy into something positive bro! If people throw rocks at you, don't throw them back--build something with it. Nothing will upset them more than seeing the person they hate succeed.
@@cheekcake779 I will certainly do that bro. I won't focus on the hate. Instead, I will focus on my mission. I've noticed that many people I know go through the same thing. Do you realize how many potential successful people there would have been if their negative emotions didn't take control over them? I have seen many smart people in the past that gave up because of how emotional they were. It is indeed a self-improvement trap that sadly many people fall into. Luckily this video opened my eyes, and I will spread this information to people who need it, and like you said, I will use that negative energy to motivate myself to achieving my goals! Thank you for this comment. It really means a lot. Also, I wish you the best luck on your self-improvement journey!
Yes their are those people who wants to put you down but did they know what made them change? Love beats all and then you say that it tolerant that man are weak to express there self before they be vulnerable to it and that some women see a man cry not cuase he is weak but to control himself to do better things if you say you never cried once or did how will you realize your self from the buble you kept yourself in and never know what real pain is when you see others make fun to those guys who was nice and kind before there be no more of them even if they don't get notice to it but what made you come this far we have our own perspective and ideas but some point we should not fight with us but improve us and the people to know how love comes from when you never received love from any one who never say there story and make fun of them but know this in life if there so way you felt like it's weakness but then there are others guy who cry not cause they weak bit something tragic happen to there life to make them that way even think of a poor homeless person who lost his job then lost his house or kids or someone important to them they become homeless who live in the street and they never got treated with love but people treat like they nothing if you see a poor person homeless who didn't eat for days and gave him a warm food and the he shows appreciation and cry as a old man who once have a life before he came poor no one should judge any one by the book of their cover and some homeless wants to die and also they have nothing like others who show no respect to ther elders and been discipline by those who brought him this far in life being rich yes i have money then say yeah i rich but all the money what do you o with it? Then say that men are weak when a homeless cry when they never had a meal for a longtime then how then they say weak when a man cry when. Homeless crybso many time and trybto work or fond Jon and they see they don't hire them not cause who they are but what there capable of doing I say this Generation needs guidance on what true pain for a manly guy to cry when they never saw what made him the way he is then he do things that he love and started make others happy then you Willie's what kindness is like
Thank you Hamza for making this video I listened to my emotions and instead of researching for my business I just watched youtube. I'm glad this one was the first video I clicked I really needed to hear this. Stay Strong everyone you got this
Hi, Hamza I just want to say thanks for this video because it was really useful. My birthday was yesterday and it would mean so much if you could wish me Happy Birthday because you have been so influential in my self-improvement journey. If you see this please boost it so Hamza can see it!
I'm 17 and I admit that unfortunately I'm very emotional. Things for me don't work exactly like you described, Hamza, but I am indeed very emotional, which is, probably my main flaw. It is indeed holding me back and I started working on it not too long ago. Hope to become more of a man for the better
@@stayawayfromthewoke3412 Well, then either you're asking why is it bad on a personal level and I didn't understand the question or you didn't pay attention while watching the video
,,You know what else let’s their emotions control their life? Toddlers and dogs. And you know what both of them do? They shit on the carpet” - Mark Manson
You have helped me so much, im trying to become more like adonis. My friends make fun of me for trying to fix my life, and its just sad to see people acting like that. Ive been emotional most of my life and ive hated myself for it, thank you for helping me
Hamza, I honestly think the title should be renamed into “who’s in charge: you or your emotions?” Because the topic at hand is much less about how emotions are generally bad and more about how losing control of your emotions is bad. You can cry like a man, or you can cry like a bitch. That was a lesson I learned on my journey of self discovery
Very well put Diego. I was disappointed by the video title but ok with the content of what Hamza is saying. Emotions don't mean weakness. That's the same screwed up thinking as 'men don't cry' that has led to repression and male suicide. But that's not what Hamza is saying anyway, he just went for a bit of a clickbait title....
This is pretty true lately ive been trying to feel more positive,but I saw my family yesterday and all they did was talk behind each others backs and talk about random people (saying bad things) and moaning about them,like who gives a shit. 😂
@@ICEcoldtristan2.0 No. I heard that saying before. I think average people discuss current events or something. But I'm sure strong and average people don't discuss the same thing, otherwise they would be on the same table. 🤣
A reactive person makes decisions based on their feelings and emotions, A proactive person makes decisions based on their values and they are thought out, we must all strive to be proactive not reactive
any time i begin to feel sad for myself, i quite literally slap myself out of it and think about what i need to do in that day. im not sure when i really started pushing myself to not let anything get in my way (including emotions), but im so grateful that im able to do so. i have little time to cry since i need to get a lot of things done like studying, working, exercising, etc, so i dont waste my time on that shit. if im really upset then ill just start thinking about something i like (food, my gym progress, and games lol). ive seen what being emotional gets you as a guy and all it does is get you laughed at or ignored. im not saying bottle that shit up, definitely talk about it with close friends once in a while, but it shouldnt be something that youre talking about every day. find ways to cope with it and push through to the next day. if you have no friends to talk about it, go to family. if theres no family, then vent to yourself. you only got yourself when it feels like the entire world is against you. no excuses no matter what. thats all i gotta say
I think we should still express our emotions, because emotions allow us to remember events, it is essential to learn new skills. If you remember when you did great or poorly, because you've been happy or sad, you'll be able to tell what to do or not to excel at this skill. However, I still believe that you need to re-take control of yourself when you get emotional, because when you're emotional you're not relax so you're not in a state of flow which is necessary to improve at any skills.
Emotions doesnt make you weak as long as these dont separate you from your goal. Strong emotional men exist, and they target their emotions in the way they want to. He knows what actions to take in order to get back any feeling from it, and what actions to avoid because those will get back the feelings that separate him from his goals. This way a man can be emotional and fullfilling his purpose. That asociation of strong man with cold man is honelsty wrong and bs, because peoples goals are full of emotions. Moreover emotions dont relate at all with this social media adictions, its more of the chemicals released due to pleasure, not emotions at all.
I have always been asked: ,, Do you even have emotions?" Now my answer is a smile and the words: ,,I do not have the luxury to let myself be guided by emotions. That´s why you don´t see any."
I think the title of this video is misleading. Emotional men are some of the strongest as long as they understand how to control themselves. Hamza makes a point on labeling emotions and keeping in touch with them, learning to accept how you feel about a situation and proceeding that situation with caution is necessary in life. However, that does not mean what you feel is invalid. As someone who is emotional, I have found balance with my feelings. I will not label my emotions in a way that escalates a situation that benefits only one side, I instead find out how and why I feel the way I do and then find compromise to the opposition. To all the emotional men in this channel, you are not weak unless you let your emotions prove you so. Harness how you feel, take notes from influential people in your life, and find balance if you wish to become the top 1%. Stay well my brothers.
7:24 disagree after learning and practicing meditation I looked up some research, tips and stuff like that, I realized that self love is an emotion just like anger, therefore you can change it to whatever you want. The brain is weird, evolution doesn't produce perfection... most of the times it makes random shit that works surpisingly well with the other garbage. You can easily change your emotions at will (I usually imagine a scene that gives that emotion) in a few minutes. So you can actually love yourself even if you are a walking trashcan BUT it's very hard to do. It's just easier if you have rational motivations to love yourself.
I think I got the message of the video and I have to disagree with some things Being emotional first of all shouldn't be labeled as feminine, same thing goes for other labels we give, like why is being strong a masculine trait, why is being weak seen as feminine? "Oh because most men are stronger than women" fine, most, but not all and I'm talking physically here, when we go to other potential meanings of strong we can see the problem here as well, women can be emotionally strong as well and suppress emotions, just like a lot of men do What I'm saying is, labels are dumb and if we want a true society where men and women are equal we need to stop associating weakness in men with being feminine or a woman who can't communicate their feelings well as being a masculine trait, no, they're just that, traits, not associated with any gender, they're just traits, that man is weak, maybe he should work on that, because it's seen as a negative trait, or that woman can't communicate her emotions really well, maybe she should go see a psychologist, because not being able to communicate your emotions is not good for you Same goes for the issue here, I don't think being emotional is a feminine trait, but it's a bad trait to have, men and women alike can have it, it's bad, in my opinion, because it can blind your judgment for example. On the other hand, being able to control your emotions is not a masculine trait in my eyes, but a good trait, because you are able to recognize your emotions, but you don't let them blind your judgment, this also helps you, like you said, understand why you feel like you do
@@megatron828 if you say so, I don't consider myself weak or too emotional, I like to see a balance in all things in life all I said in my comment is that traits are just that, traits, I personally feel that it's stupid to say good or bad traits are feminine or masculine, no, to me they are just good or bad traits, a man can be weak just as a woman can, a man can bottle up his emotions, just like a woman can
@@BestieBearLover Rn you deserve to be judged. Anime fan + most likely insecure that your traits have been called out in the vid. Use the video to accept what's wrong and improve yourself instead of saying corny shit on youtube comments 💀
Dude...society doesn't encourage "emotional men" in the way you're portraying it. In fact, most of what you said is valid and that's usually what people mean when they tell you to be in tune with your emotions. Sometimes however it is valid to actually feel an emotion entirely while processing it. Things like sadness and depression. It's something you have to voluntarily allow. But of course no one with a brain would tell you to act out if you're angry. Anger is usually a mask for some other feeling anyway. All this to say, most of what you're saying is valid but it's not neccessary to frame it in a way where it seems like modern society is encouraging and perpetuating fragility.
Accept your emotions, but don't let them dictate your life. Be disciplined and stay on the grind. Trust the process
True.
@@hcuoplwl6120 be aware of ur emotions
Just like Rick Grimes.
im not saying dont open up, do that, its nice to have people you can rely on with your problems, but dont let your emotions dictate you. Like hamza said, you must acknowlage your emotions, but you must not let them control you.
@@silentaimer It takes more than to “be aware of your emotion”. You have to know when to be be emotional. I was “aware” if my emotions all the time but it never fixed my problem until I just let it all out.
Weakness is when emotions control a man and strength is when a man control his emotions to achieve in his life
@@jjboss7896 Interesting point, I thought of mike tyson for example who says himself that hes a very emotional person. The key is to channel the emotions and use the powerful energy of your emotions for and not against you. Tyson for example didnt go out and stab people in Order to deal with his aggression. He chose to channel it to become one of the best in his sport. Nevertheless when you think about the "Kings" or "Leaders" of todays world like Putin, Biden or even Zuckerberg or Bezos you probably wouldn't say that these are emotional people, would you?
@@kiba7907 yea but actors also become leaders because they feed the sheep nice words everyone you listed os typical politician besides Putin be even he has good acting skills because he was a Russian spy at one point.
Alchemical Transmutation
You don't have control over your emotions. Your emotions are defined by your beliefs, which you have no direct control over either. But you do have control over your rational faculty, helping you shape and change your beliefs consequently altering the emotions linked to these beliefs. I believe one should actively try to change his own beliefs triggering anger, frustration, jealousy and fear as they are not beneficial for the individual. And are certainly sign of weakness rather than strenght of character.
Emotions shouldn’t be controlled. Because it won’t solve the problems you face. If you’re trying to rehabilitate a prison do you build a stronger cell or try to understand them? Mammals were designed to think with their emotions; It’s apart of us, and we should be trying to understand why we feel the way we do. You have to guide your emotions.
Your emotions shouldn’t rule over you but they shouldn’t be off to side. They should be with you in every decision you make. Sometimes your heart can do more thinking than your brain.
"Raise hand those of you who are tired of your procrastination habit"
eh, I'll raise my hand tomorrow
@@twoheadsup2636 💀💀💀
Me too! But there are days where I`m too tired of doing self-improvement and I give myself more time to rest, to return stronger and usually I procrastinate these days
Sounds like an attempt to organize an INTP gathering lol
@@twoheadsup2636 lmao
You are so right. As a young man I’ve always been emotional. I’ve felt emotions very strongly and this has been mainly due to suffering from Asperger’s syndrome (autism spectrum). However, using this as an excuse would constantly limit me. Giving excuses are limitations, everyone has the chance to be THE man and emotions would get in the way of it. Being obsessed with goals and achieving them are the key to become a top tier masculine man flowing with testosterone through their veins.
God I swear like 90% of 'Red Pill' men have autism.
as a teenager with autism who also used to be really emotional during school, I agree with this. It always felt like everyone was telling me that it was okay to be emotional, and no one tried to help me put the situation i was in into context and actually pull me out of it
Bro I was diagnosed with Asperger’s and something that helps is not view it as a suffering or a limitation but a superpower. Mindset is everything. Glad that you see that everyone regardless of their conditions can level up in their life. Much love.
Ah yes
Bro I'd love to talk to you more as a man with Aspergers, glad you came to that realisation
Emotions will be there. What matters is how you react to them. Carl Jung termed this as our shadow self. The more we try to repress our emotions, more strongly they come back. To be complete we need to integrate with our shadow self
Learn to detach yourself from your emotions. You are not your emotions. We have 2 minds a thinking mind(that has emotions and the one gets tempted, when we say we are over-thinking we are basically letting this one loose) and an observing mind (the part of our mind that we can control, the logical brain, that observes our thinking mind)
So instead of thinking you are angry, think you are feeling anger. This will take some time but when you do this with grief, jealousy, hatred etc. You'll learn to act despite your emotions. Later try to journal why were you feeling that extreme emotion. Venting in any form goes a long way
Very good explanation.
This explains why I've never had much trouble with anger. I've felt detached from it from such a young age that I have a decade and a half of observing frustration without ever "feeling" it.
You're kind of right, but I'd like to specify.
The problem is that we discriminate between emotions.
When you are a child you are dependent on your parents for survival. But your parents have to condition you to function in a society - you can't still go around screaming in public as an adult for example. To build up on that example, Therefore you are told to shut it down in some situations. But because you can't comprend the reason why your parents don't want you to scream, you just feel like they don't love you if you show them this emotion - and your instinct is, that if your parents don't love you, they might abandon you resulting in your death. That is the point where a split is created in your personality, as you disowned the part of you that is angry, because you think it's unacceptable - It is now linked to the fear of death.
This process happens with anger, fear and sadness,
So The complex thinking part of your brain has formed a core belief that that certain emotions may result in death if acted out. Therefore they are repressed over years and years and years. But resisting these emotions leads to not having an outlet and they build up, causing suffering in you. The bad feelings we have aren't the emotions but actually the suffering that results from resisting these emotions.
Probably youve had moments where you were so stressed that you irationally lashed out at someone in anger for example. That is simply your body searching for an outlet because the repressed emotions are overflowing - that's the point where the need to let go of resistance is greater than the fear of feeling it.
Back to the core belief - now you're an adult and know that your core belief from back then is irrational, but knowing it doesn't work to remove it. Rather then thinking your way out of the repressed emotions through thoughts, you need to take the physical approach. Every time you feel fear for example, there are sensations that come up in your body. You need to practice to be aware of these sensations when they come up. Allowing yourself to feel these sensations makes the resistance behind them disappear and you dive in deeper and deeper every time you do this, removing layer by layer, untangling all of the built up resistance, until one day you reach the core of that fear where it all started. You allow yourself to feel that original emotion and you are overflowed by bliss. Because you abondened such a wonderful and important part of you for so long. This is life changing stuff, I'm so grateful that I found all this knowledge. I had no hope in my life, and now Im crying tears of happiness while writing this
"Instead of think you are angry, think that you are feeling anger."
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You voiced that in such a way I didn't think possible, man, holy shit that's amazing. That is actually gonna go a long way for me. Thank you :)
Your not supposed to block out your emotions.
The goal, especially if we are to become great fathers and husbands is to become emotionally intelligent. To understand and to work with your emotions throughout your life.
To truly open up and feel visceral pain, but not let it stop you.
To feel unyielding gratitude and joy but not let it blind you.
To have guilt and regret tug at your heart, but to go back inward and to resolve the emotions that are causing it and to learn that lesson.
If you are in emotional turmoil you can not resolve it by shoving it down under the guise of needing to be more masculine and non emotional. Our fore fathers have done this without the knowledge of mental health and phycology and it has fucked them up for generations.
We need to learn how to conquer, love and accept our inner selves to get to a true peace that we can the pour out to our loved ones our spouse and most importantly our children.
Learn about child phycology,
Learn about the dangers of emotionally immature parents and don’t be so stuck in this ridged masculinity that you miss the flowers for the trees.
Keep in mind you very well may have to raise a daughter and she along with your son will need to learn how to be emotionally mature, stable and loved form you and your partner.
Pick carefully and learn thoroughly
Good day to you
Wisest words written on here.
Couldn’t have said it any better.
Thank you, for sharing!
Akribws magka mou
@@mrteco4236 That’s the point
@@mrteco4236 That’s some loaded language there buddy.
There are people that have unresolved issues that cause them to be mal-adapted emotionally and socially.
But words have meaning, and calling someone trying to do their best to navigate the world a “nuisance” is never a pathos that I will subscribe to.
@@mrteco4236 Also I still have no idea what you disagree with?
Big up Elisha Long
hi
Appreciate what your doing bro 👊
“I don't want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.”
― Oscar Wilde,
Hamza starting a movement to take down the silicon valley nerds
wait what are you doing here
@@elboel5526 bro is a millionaire be can be anywhere
The only reason you have any $ is cuz the Silicon Valley nerds
Not the silicon walley nerds are the problem nor the product they made. The problem is how we use it. For example: If i have an axe I can cut wood with it and ignite a fire. But I also can cut old Mary next door. And if I cut old Mary who will be inprisoned? The mindless tool, or me who used it? It depends on how we use a product we have.
@@catofculture8562 bruh 💯😂
Anyone reading this Good luck on your self improvement, this is just the beginning it’s only up from here, stay ambitious! 💪🏽📈🚦
Bro 💀
@@user-wt6cp7cg7h bro 🦍
@daboi00h7 vector gotchu homie, keep grinding 💪🏽💪🏽
thanks bro
Lets gooooo
being emotional was one of my biggest downfalls recently which caused me to hit a big rock bottom. i ended up quitting my job in a rage fit after being cheated on (again) by one of my coworkers. i was in a leadership position and everyone else knew about the whole thing, it was a mess, so i couldn't handle it and just quit. those were the hardest months of my life and only when i discovered about self improvement habits i managed to climb i out of the hole i digged myself into. I've always been extremely controlled by my emotions and it always put me in a state of anxiety where i act on impulse, and now i realise how much of a weakness this is, after losing the respect of everyone, even myself. first you need to put the effort and discipline to acquire back self respect and then you can apply rational and stoic practices. once you start and get a hold of yourself you feel unstoppable. trust me.
be careful and take care mates. we're all gonna make it. also, i really appreciate the video, hamza. this is a message i needed for a long time now and it only reassures my purpose.
Bro literally exact same thing happened to me I have been struggling for months cause of my anger I left my job
This goes hand in hand with the book: The way of the superior Man.
I liked your conclusion in this video as it's easy to be followed up and i think, that controlling your emotions is one of the most important skills in life.
Had an altercation at the market today. And this video is making me realize how grateful I am for how I handled the situation.
Spill the beans! I want to hear about it!😊
@@eliasconradsson5412 Some guy (looked like Mark Henry from WWE) was annoyed at me that I didn’t move up in the aisle (I was waiting for the lady in front to finish and there wasn’t really any room to move up). So he just got really angry about it and called me “a stupid goofy n&&&&” and he looked like he wanted to fuck me up for no reason. So I just looked him in the eyes and told him, calmly, to relax a few times. Then he turned around to his girlfriend and kept muttering to himself. Idk just a weird situation where that guy was like angry and let it dictate his actions while I calmly de-escalate it. Then this video pops up in the feed not an hour later. Odd coincidence I guess lol
@@elpapisaint me personally I wouldn't let that slide.
@@BackBeater 😂
Love you so much man, you don't know how much you've changed the lives of so many young people ❤️
Lets go
oh he knows
No
Love is an emotion, stop being a betch, go to the gym
Love you Hamza thanks for doing what you do man mashallah
Never forget that sometimes you have to let those emotions get out in some way, let them be, using art, manual skills work, walking, writing or go out in nature.
Thank you hamza because of you I started self improvement and now I am documenting my journey on UA-cam thanks man 🔥🔥
your beef with sneako was emotional and ego driven
Hey, I just wanted to say that I found your channel just a week ago. I’m a teenager and I have been into self improvement for a while. I found your channel and I really love what you’re saying. My family and I have always hated social media like instagram. These videos have given me motivation to improve myself. Being emotional and being aware of your emotions are different. We should be able to control our emotions. These platforms are really a death trap. If you feel insecure, try to improve yourself. I used to play a lot of video games, and struggle with insecurity. Ever since I’ve broken away from that and started working out, I’ve begun to be more fulfilled with all of my days. I feel that I haven’t lived my life that I wanted to yet, but I firmly believe we can all change. And because of this, I’ve realized a lot of things. People nowadays have things all wrong. If you are weak, instead of embracing it, improve yourself. Thank you.
I'm from France and I'm very glad to be in the Cult. Thanks for all Hamza.
bv
WE TOGETHER 💪🏽💪🏽🖤 I'M SUFFERING SO HARD RECENTLY BUT I WILL NEVER GIVE UP.. SALUTATIONS DEPUIS LA FRANCE
I‘m glad you put it this way cause I hate people who say „don‘t have emotions otherwise you‘re weak“. It‘s very healthy to be in touch with your emotions but what matters is how you deal with them. Take them seriously but don‘t let them cause your actions.
"Be in touch with your emotions" is completely different from being able to control your emotions and not let it dictate your day to day behavior. I don't feel like going to the gym most days. If I give into those emotions I would become a weak man.
Nobody loves a loser. Even the loser hates himself.
I am going to improve myself.....Love you Hamza..you are like an elder brother to me ♥️
Dating an emotional man is hard! There is no space for the woman to be her natural emotional self and conversations turn into a "cat" fight.
Oh my gosh….thank you, you took the words right out of my mouth. It’s so hard, it puts the woman then in the place of masculinity.
“You have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” - Marcus Aurelius
I heard this from andrew tate and it got stuck in my head
He said "it doesn't matter what I feel, sad, angry, happy- no matter what I feel it has 0 effect on what I'm doing"
Really inspired me, I think it's important to be aware of your feelings yet still have this kind of objective thinking of "it doesn't matter how I feel I have to do x y z"
No offense, but if your counselor is Andrew Tate.... let's just say you should try to widen up your youtube views so recommendations aren't utter shit.
@@rayres1074 im not a fan of andrew tate, but atleast this guy got part of the message, can't say its all negative, but atleast this somehow brought him to Hamza
@@rayres1074 ain't my counselor
I don't agree with everything he says, but you still can't deny he's very successful whether you like him or not
@@comradeskipper5232 He is indeed very moneyed, considering he's a champion kickboxer. That's it though. Being rich doesn't make your opinion any more valid.
If he was a minimum wage worker? Nobody would listen to his dumb shit. Heck, he'd be an average redditor in r/incel rather than an """"influencer"""".
i remember that quote too, good ass quote. 25% of the time tate was happy when he trained, and the rest pure discipline.
i really appreciate those uncut/not edited pauses you do in your videos. in an ocean of videos in youtube, this feels like.. it's real. it hits close. it's like a reality check. a moment of clarity. a moment to think..
I need Hamza to read this:
I LITERALLY NEEDED THIS TYPE OF VIDEOS IN YOUR CHANNEL!!! I needed that natural pause after EVERY sentence to realise myself. Cuz your edited videos do have information overloaded and i can't take it all at once. This feels so natural that i feel like someone is advising me for good. Your other videos make me feel like full of both information and quick edits. Please make videos like this.
To the editor: The Jeffery and Adonis edits are too good for an intro to start. But if he talks with pause after that, the audience may feel bored. You take the decision bro ❤️
“Emotion can be the enemy, if you give into your emotion, you lose yourself. You must be at one with your emotions, because the body always follows the mind.”
-Bruce Lee
Bro always comes through with that golden knowledge. Youre litereally the only UA-camr I follow for self improvement. Keep sharing the good stuff bro.
Don't let your emotions control you,
You control your emotions.
I'm 22 years old, I dropped all social media out of my life at age 16, I'm living a life where I don't understand other people's problem caused by social media...my life is so calm...I push with the movement✊️ but also respect the business some of yall build on smplatforms
Detaching from emotions shouldn't be the goal. There's a difference between being emotionless and being emotionally strong.
I get the emotion of being humble and my head goes down while listening to hamza ❤️🙏🏻 real senpai
This man hazma exposing my whole life its 3am i cant do this shit rn
My Key Notes
“Progress towards your mission creates happiness and fulfillment and sense of freedom”
“Self-love is attained through self-respect by doing the right things”
sir... this is a wendys
Amen brother!!!! I am that weak man! I F**ken hate it.
I agree. I feel at my best when a UA-cam video does well and I have a good session in the gym on the same day. Feels so empowering.
Wow, this is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen.
Holy shit, totally relatable.
It’s funny how he says your emotions change all the time.
Well mine changed swiftly as I was watching this content.
I will speak from experience. I was literally the opposite. I was unhealthily unemotional. I was dull, emotionless and absolutely senseless. That was the worst time of my life. This January I met a girl straight out of my dreams at the very right time, meters away from slipping away to a deep pit inside the deep pit i already was in, and I am changed forever in a good way. She softened my heart, she made me regain my emotions and my senses, but the pendulum swung too strongly, which made me accidentally make her get further from me now. I finally balanced it out now after skating around a bit, and I am currently putting all my efforts to regain her (seriously, she is worth that, and I don't have a shadow of doubt about it because we already discussed everything to convince me to know that she is the one I will bs the happiest with when I marry her, pray for me bros that I do it). If, God forbid, I don't regain her, then at least I will gain myself for me, so I still would go away with one win of the many battles.
Now, I know that a lesson on own experience is learned much better, and me teaching a lesson to y'all wouldn't probably be learned by you guys good enough, but just so you guys don't walk in the path I went in as blindly as I did, here are a couple critical tips on emotionality:
• NEVER, seriously, no matter how much you love a person, NEVER EVER share too much about your deepest feelings to a person that you aren't actually tied to in a way (eg. marriage). You might just say too much.
• ALWAYS keep your emotions in check. Let them out once in a while, but NEVER in front of someone who could make a talk about it (eg. mom)
• It is okay for you to cry over serious stuff. If you don't cry from your grandma's death, especially if you actually loved your grandma, then your heart is freezing, and you need to melt it before it makes it take a crack to reach it*
• You can be very emotional about something or someone when you're on your own, but use the torque the emotions give you to actually fix the things that make you feel pain you have, rather than simply waste it on crying over the thing, or even worse, on idolising it, making it the uncreachable goal. It is reachable, just get your two round pieces of flesh off your seat/bed/whatever else, and START WALKING. Every journey, be it a trip to school, or literally the way to the moon, starts with a footstep. Take the footstep, your engine starts, and you do footstep after a footstep, eventually reaching your destination.
• Use your emotions to analyse your life choices. This must be self-explanatory.
• Lastly, feel. Turn on your feelings. Turning them off makes the battle tougher, not yourself. Go and feel, but control what you feel. Filter it, analyse it, evaluate it.
*sorry for the bad wording, but here I meant that you should fix your heart, or metaphorically, unfreeze it, before it gets so cold in the ice form, it starts requiring a crack to be done in order to reach your heart.
Thank you Hamza. ❤️
Your ending motto "Do the hard work, especially if you don't feel like it" made me a much better man already. It's nailed in my head, and it made the suck so much easier to endure. Thank you Hamza. I'm trying every day to get better and better.
I cant lie, Hamza ever since he made that Delete instagram vid, He just seems locked in, He is just locked in rn, Hamza Keep going hard man
As someone who’s been through an absolutely devastating breakup I can confirm what this dude spits is the truth and you ain’t gonna move past it until you control your emotions and turn it into something productive, fun, or both. For me I chose forging and welding. Choose something you love and stick to it.
True Introspection is what’s missing in a lot of young mens lives keep spreading your wisdom g, big inspo for my content
Thanks for this, I have been blinded by my emotions lately. It's been controlling my life only recently because of a certain event. I needed this, Thanks for calling me out. Great stuff
This is true! I was doing so well in my routine, but then I got sad for overeating and instead of keeping going forward, I stopped doing any of the good habits just because I was too sad to do it so…
Thank you hamza, you are changing so many lives of this and the next generations. vive le renouveau masculin (Long live the masculine revival)
As a 13 Year old he actually IS changing the next generation
@Martin Og Same thing with me, 6th grade I was like, the weirdest kid in school. Now going into 8th I am starting on my schools football team and one of the strongest kids in weightlifting class. Keep up the grinds brothers
@@JohnSmith-ko7nl damn you really put in the grind and got the rewards
This felt so good to Watch bro. It is Nice to sometimes hear things about Yourself that you haven’t really realized. Appreciate the video
This video hits so hard bruh
I consider myself an emotional man; however, I see it as a positive thing as it allows for me to interact with others at a higher level. I believe I have high emotional intelligence and so I am able to navigate awkward situations and feel comfortable in otherwise uncomfortable scenarios. My point is, I believe you should own up to how you are and rock it. Confidence is key and that's what being a man is all about. Nice video, Hamza!
you are coping. from experience, being soft and emotional, while it may help you "interact with others at a higher level" will also affect you in a negative way.
@@pedro4154 Thanks for the response. Interesting perspective. I’ll take it in account!
@@pedro4154 bro i work in healthcare. We are supposed to have an emotional side to excel at what we do. Of course the majority is logical
@@pedro4154 i think it does good to recognise that these things can be nuanced. you can be selectively soft and emotional or whatever at the right time with the right people. i feel that people just misunderstanding each other when talking about this subject.
@@pedro4154 Being soft and emotional doesn't exclude having boundaries and being assertive.
Thank you Hamza, everyone in my family is so emotional I thought something might be wrong with me wtf
Being in touch is good, being in control is better
Thank you so much bro this helps alot
"Emotional" can be missunderstood, but there is some wisdom to what you are saying. You shouldn't be ruled by your emotions, be mindfull of them and most importantly : know what thought makes it happen
This video was an eye opener for me. This whole summer, I have been feeling bad and lonely since things were not going my way. I wasn't being consistent with my mission which ultimately resulted in me getting made fun of and bad mouthed. There are 10 days left until my school starts, and I will no longer let my emotions control me. I will continue to focus on my goals and accept the fact that there will always be people trying to make fun of me. Even if you reach the state of success, there will always be negative and toxic people. Thank you all for reading this comment and if you are going through a similar experience, I wish you all good luck. Good luck on your self-improvement journey!
Turn that bad mouthing and negative energy into something positive bro! If people throw rocks at you, don't throw them back--build something with it. Nothing will upset them more than seeing the person they hate succeed.
@@cheekcake779 I will certainly do that bro. I won't focus on the hate. Instead, I will focus on my mission. I've noticed that many people I know go through the same thing. Do you realize how many potential successful people there would have been if their negative emotions didn't take control over them? I have seen many smart people in the past that gave up because of how emotional they were. It is indeed a self-improvement trap that sadly many people fall into. Luckily this video opened my eyes, and I will spread this information to people who need it, and like you said, I will use that negative energy to motivate myself to achieving my goals! Thank you for this comment. It really means a lot. Also, I wish you the best luck on your self-improvement journey!
Yes their are those people who wants to put you down but did they know what made them change? Love beats all and then you say that it tolerant that man are weak to express there self before they be vulnerable to it and that some women see a man cry not cuase he is weak but to control himself to do better things if you say you never cried once or did how will you realize your self from the buble you kept yourself in and never know what real pain is when you see others make fun to those guys who was nice and kind before there be no more of them even if they don't get notice to it but what made you come this far we have our own perspective and ideas but some point we should not fight with us but improve us and the people to know how love comes from when you never received love from any one who never say there story and make fun of them but know this in life if there so way you felt like it's weakness but then there are others guy who cry not cause they weak bit something tragic happen to there life to make them that way even think of a poor homeless person who lost his job then lost his house or kids or someone important to them they become homeless who live in the street and they never got treated with love but people treat like they nothing if you see a poor person homeless who didn't eat for days and gave him a warm food and the he shows appreciation and cry as a old man who once have a life before he came poor no one should judge any one by the book of their cover and some homeless wants to die and also they have nothing like others who show no respect to ther elders and been discipline by those who brought him this far in life being rich yes i have money then say yeah i rich but all the money what do you o with it? Then say that men are weak when a homeless cry when they never had a meal for a longtime then how then they say weak when a man cry when. Homeless crybso many time and trybto work or fond Jon and they see they don't hire them not cause who they are but what there capable of doing I say this Generation needs guidance on what true pain for a manly guy to cry when they never saw what made him the way he is then he do things that he love and started make others happy then you Willie's what kindness is like
Thank you Hamza for making this video I listened to my emotions and instead of researching for my business I just watched youtube. I'm glad this one was the first video I clicked I really needed to hear this. Stay Strong everyone you got this
Smiling is a sign of happiness, and happiness is an emotion💀so stop smiling bro
Hi, Hamza I just want to say thanks for this video because it was really useful. My birthday was yesterday and it would mean so much if you could wish me Happy Birthday because you have been so influential in my self-improvement journey. If you see this please boost it so Hamza can see it!
happy birthday 🎂
Hbd bro
happy bday bro, keep grindin
Happy birthday bro
Happy birthday bro.🎉
I'm 17 and I admit that unfortunately I'm very emotional. Things for me don't work exactly like you described, Hamza, but I am indeed very emotional, which is, probably my main flaw. It is indeed holding me back and I started working on it not too long ago. Hope to become more of a man for the better
Why is it bad
@@stayawayfromthewoke3412 Did you watch the video?
@@odysseasandroutsos1821 yeah
@@stayawayfromthewoke3412 Well, then either you're asking why is it bad on a personal level and I didn't understand the question or you didn't pay attention while watching the video
@@odysseasandroutsos1821 on a personal level
I love myself, therefore I will better myself.
I love the unfiltered videos!
,,You know what else let’s their emotions control their life? Toddlers and dogs. And you know what both of them do? They shit on the carpet” - Mark Manson
Bravery isn't the lack of fear, bravery is accepting the fear, and still taking that step or action and going through the obstacles.
I dont Play video games anymore and i can think of My emotion and actions and i workout almost everyday, you have my respect Hamza.👍🏻
I needed to hear this
You have helped me so much, im trying to become more like adonis. My friends make fun of me for trying to fix my life, and its just sad to see people acting like that. Ive been emotional most of my life and ive hated myself for it, thank you for helping me
I agree im really thankful for people like hamza. Helping men in need of improving in aspects of their lives
Hamza, I honestly think the title should be renamed into “who’s in charge: you or your emotions?” Because the topic at hand is much less about how emotions are generally bad and more about how losing control of your emotions is bad. You can cry like a man, or you can cry like a bitch. That was a lesson I learned on my journey of self discovery
Very well put Diego. I was disappointed by the video title but ok with the content of what Hamza is saying. Emotions don't mean weakness. That's the same screwed up thinking as 'men don't cry' that has led to repression and male suicide. But that's not what Hamza is saying anyway, he just went for a bit of a clickbait title....
Thank you Hamza. Your what the youth needs ⭐️
I needed this.
Strong people discuss ideas
Average people discuss ideas
*Weak people discuss people*
This is pretty true lately ive been trying to feel more positive,but I saw my family yesterday and all they did was talk behind each others backs and talk about random people (saying bad things) and moaning about them,like who gives a shit. 😂
Average and strong people discuss the sane thing? 🤣
@@allwillberevealed777 that's because weak people gossip and say shit about other people behind their backs for some reason
@@ICEcoldtristan2.0
No. I heard that saying before. I think average people discuss current events or something.
But I'm sure strong and average people don't discuss the same thing, otherwise they would be on the same table.
🤣
A reactive person makes decisions based on their feelings and emotions, A proactive person makes decisions based on their values and they are thought out, we must all strive to be proactive not reactive
i needed this video thank you!
any time i begin to feel sad for myself, i quite literally slap myself out of it and think about what i need to do in that day. im not sure when i really started pushing myself to not let anything get in my way (including emotions), but im so grateful that im able to do so. i have little time to cry since i need to get a lot of things done like studying, working, exercising, etc, so i dont waste my time on that shit. if im really upset then ill just start thinking about something i like (food, my gym progress, and games lol). ive seen what being emotional gets you as a guy and all it does is get you laughed at or ignored. im not saying bottle that shit up, definitely talk about it with close friends once in a while, but it shouldnt be something that youre talking about every day. find ways to cope with it and push through to the next day. if you have no friends to talk about it, go to family. if theres no family, then vent to yourself. you only got yourself when it feels like the entire world is against you. no excuses no matter what. thats all i gotta say
We don’t want safe nice calm men. We want strong dangerous men who can control that power.
I think we should still express our emotions, because emotions allow us to remember events, it is essential to learn new skills. If you remember when you did great or poorly, because you've been happy or sad, you'll be able to tell what to do or not to excel at this skill. However, I still believe that you need to re-take control of yourself when you get emotional, because when you're emotional you're not relax so you're not in a state of flow which is necessary to improve at any skills.
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Thanks Big Bro Hamza
Keep up the work
Everything you preach I've always preached. My whole life it's so refreshing to see you speak like this. Keep it up man
Hamza is Giga chad 🗿
Emotions doesnt make you weak as long as these dont separate you from your goal. Strong emotional men exist, and they target their emotions in the way they want to. He knows what actions to take in order to get back any feeling from it, and what actions to avoid because those will get back the feelings that separate him from his goals. This way a man can be emotional and fullfilling his purpose. That asociation of strong man with cold man is honelsty wrong and bs, because peoples goals are full of emotions. Moreover emotions dont relate at all with this social media adictions, its more of the chemicals released due to pleasure, not emotions at all.
Honestly anger even makes me focus much better on my work
Hamza and andrew rate are saving this generations men
Bro I'm first place in my age at my country at swimming 💀
@Faith thanks
Tell me your country, asking for a friend.
@@YahyaOnYT Israel
I have always been asked: ,, Do you even have emotions?"
Now my answer is a smile and the words: ,,I do not have the luxury to let myself be guided by emotions. That´s why you don´t see any."
Lol Hamza jewlery coming along nicely
It's cool seeing how your videos are moments where you meditate
I think the title of this video is misleading.
Emotional men are some of the strongest as long as they understand how to control themselves. Hamza makes a point on labeling emotions and keeping in touch with them, learning to accept how you feel about a situation and proceeding that situation with caution is necessary in life.
However, that does not mean what you feel is invalid.
As someone who is emotional, I have found balance with my feelings. I will not label my emotions in a way that escalates a situation that benefits only one side, I instead find out how and why I feel the way I do and then find compromise to the opposition.
To all the emotional men in this channel, you are not weak unless you let your emotions prove you so. Harness how you feel, take notes from influential people in your life, and find balance if you wish to become the top 1%.
Stay well my brothers.
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after learning and practicing meditation I looked up some research, tips and stuff like that, I realized that self love is an emotion just like anger, therefore you can change it to whatever you want. The brain is weird, evolution doesn't produce perfection... most of the times it makes random shit that works surpisingly well with the other garbage. You can easily change your emotions at will (I usually imagine a scene that gives that emotion) in a few minutes. So you can actually love yourself even if you are a walking trashcan BUT it's very hard to do.
It's just easier if you have rational motivations to love yourself.
Some people are Stoic and some which is better can turn on and off emotions on command kinda like the Stoic Sociopath
im so happy he took out the jeffrey vs adonis intro finally
My emotions when Hamza gives me the kissy: 🥵💦😩
Do the hard work especially when you don't feel like it.... mwah
I think I got the message of the video and I have to disagree with some things
Being emotional first of all shouldn't be labeled as feminine, same thing goes for other labels we give, like why is being strong a masculine trait, why is being weak seen as feminine? "Oh because most men are stronger than women" fine, most, but not all and I'm talking physically here, when we go to other potential meanings of strong we can see the problem here as well, women can be emotionally strong as well and suppress emotions, just like a lot of men do
What I'm saying is, labels are dumb and if we want a true society where men and women are equal we need to stop associating weakness in men with being feminine or a woman who can't communicate their feelings well as being a masculine trait, no, they're just that, traits, not associated with any gender, they're just traits, that man is weak, maybe he should work on that, because it's seen as a negative trait, or that woman can't communicate her emotions really well, maybe she should go see a psychologist, because not being able to communicate your emotions is not good for you
Same goes for the issue here, I don't think being emotional is a feminine trait, but it's a bad trait to have, men and women alike can have it, it's bad, in my opinion, because it can blind your judgment for example. On the other hand, being able to control your emotions is not a masculine trait in my eyes, but a good trait, because you are able to recognize your emotions, but you don't let them blind your judgment, this also helps you, like you said, understand why you feel like you do
Being emotional is a weak feminine trait. You are coping and trying to come up with excuses because you yourself are an effeminate emotional male
@@megatron828 if you say so, I don't consider myself weak or too emotional, I like to see a balance in all things in life
all I said in my comment is that traits are just that, traits, I personally feel that it's stupid to say good or bad traits are feminine or masculine, no, to me they are just good or bad traits, a man can be weak just as a woman can, a man can bottle up his emotions, just like a woman can
hamza, this is great
this man's videos have been pretty good lately. i don't regret being subscribed to him since i found him 6-7 months ago.
mom:drugs wont affect my child
the child:
Stay weak lil bro
stay judging people@@PixT
@@BestieBearLover Rn you deserve to be judged. Anime fan + most likely insecure that your traits have been called out in the vid.
Use the video to accept what's wrong and improve yourself instead of saying corny shit on youtube comments 💀
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@@BestieBearLoverthe commentator judged first, think before you speak. Now I'll tap out. 🧚♂️✨
hazma > sneako any day
For me, this is the best video Hamza ever put out.
Hamza is really good at pointing out the shit you do without trying to offend you.
It's really eye opening.
Dude...society doesn't encourage "emotional men" in the way you're portraying it. In fact, most of what you said is valid and that's usually what people mean when they tell you to be in tune with your emotions. Sometimes however it is valid to actually feel an emotion entirely while processing it. Things like sadness and depression. It's something you have to voluntarily allow. But of course no one with a brain would tell you to act out if you're angry. Anger is usually a mask for some other feeling anyway. All this to say, most of what you're saying is valid but it's not neccessary to frame it in a way where it seems like modern society is encouraging and perpetuating fragility.