Finding Your Personal Style: Start with Asking Yourself these Brutally Honest Questions
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In my experience it's very important to try on different clothes in the stores, even if you're not sure it's 'your style'. You might discover so many fits and options, and actually get inspired. Also it will help better understand what clothes will look good on you when you will shop online in the future. The feeling of 'what a weird funny garment I'll try in for funs' turning into 'wow it actually looks cool on me' is priceless. Can be dangerous for impulsive buyers though xd
Haha pros and cons as always! I totally agree with you though, thanks for the suggestion! ❤️
I agree! For that reason I am really very concerned about the slow disappearance of physical stores in favor of online
I used to wear a lot of black and grey, thinking it was an edgy and sophisticated look. I went for a lot of striking/captivating clothes because I liked the style, but in the last 2-3 years after realizing that black/grey/bright colors don’t actually look that great on me, so I’ve stopped buying them. Edgy styles are usually too much on me, when I actually feel more like myself when I dress slightly softer. Less like a costume, if that makes sense. I’m also a soft autumn, but can wear many soft summer colors so now I wear a lot of dusty colors and stopped coloring my hair dark, and I feel good 😊
Thank you for sharing your experience! ❤️
This is very interesting! When we use ower best color vs the colors that we use at first we could be boring or "too much, but with time we learn to love our colors bcs suit us and this make us happy!
My problem is twofold: (1) my body is changing profoundly after menopause, and (2) I don’t “dress” very often (I stay home a lot). At home, I dress 100% for comfort.
I’ve fallen out of practice, both with clothes and makeup.
Don't give Up! I also stay at home a lot and I kind of stick to casual clothes and lounge wear. But even those clothes can be nice and make you feel good! Style is not only for business attire or evening dresses. It can be a soft knited jumper, some leggings and warm socks or some jeans with a cool tshirt and a cardigan.
It is a matter of selfcare, selfrespect and self-love (I think that is not a word)
@@irnalonso THANK YOU! You seem to completely understand my circumstances. 💚
💯!!
That’s really hard. I agree with the previous suggestion about comfortable clothes for self care.
I’m outside a lot in quite scruffy situations, eg dog walk in mud or on the beach. But it helps if my colours are right for me physically and mentally, even if it’s just my hat and scarf.
Post pandemic i realised that i was wearing shitty (comfortable) clothes at home and only nice ones outside. I decided that i also want to look cute and nice (and be comfy) at home *just for me*. And goodness it does make a difference in my mood and self-confidence!!
Also because of this and working from home often, i started to dread wearing my old “outside” clothes bc i realised how UNCOMFORTABLE they were!!!! I couldn’t believe how much time in a day i would let my body feel uncomfortable just to look good!! Now i refuse to wear clothes that are too tight (bye bye skinny jeans, tight crop tops, thongs etc). I’ve even started to buy shirts that are a size bigger so they feel more snuggly and are not ‘tattooed’ on my skin.
I refuse to believe that dressing to get out of the house, or dressing and looking nice have to be equal to feeling uncomfortable (also, if you start looking at this topic from a feminist perspective you will find even more reasons to support this :) ).
Why should dressing “100% for comfort” be a bad thing? Why do we (specially as women) have to ditch “comfort” to be made to feel pretty or fashionable?
Nah. I refuse to be uncomfortable on my own clothes ever again. I refuse to be made to feel unpretty or unstylish for choosing to spend the majority of my time not thinking about how uncomfortable i feel.
Having my color season worked and finding out that I am a bright spring was a total game changer for me. I used to think that bright colors are not for me and stick to neutrals. I still love and wear them but now I can dare to wear strong colors. Sometimes external validation is a way out of your comfort zone.
Many people think that bright colors are not for that specially there in western where the trend now is autumn colors(earth tones ) and maybe winter colors dark colors . I think color season is a very helpfull tool to improve in style bcs this is one of the thing that mathers a lot!
Wish I could work mine out😂 I’m thinking winter but that’s as far as I got…
@@Agnaevi That's the thing, I was sure I was a winter too
I truly appreciate your videos. The way you discuss sensitive issues like weight, health (both physical and mental) and getting your viewers to ask questions and truly think about motivations is very sincere and kind. I agree with you about buying from sources that offer clothing which actually fits your body properly. Blindly following an fashion stylist/influencer and expecting to look exactly like theirs never works for me. Your advice on identifying the key elements that I are drawn to in a photo goes a long way in learning how to create my own version in my journey towards a more defined personal style.
Thank you so much for the kind comment as always Andrea! Glad you enjoyed the video ❤️ Happy new year! 🥳
Working in healthcare makes it super easy to dress up. Blue scrubs all day every day.😂
"You already know what works!" So true. You just need to observe what you already have been doing or lean naturally towards.
I really don’t ever take the time to comment on videos but I have to say you are easily one of my most favourite channels to follow for this topic! There is so much consideration for the person you’re speaking to in your videos, they are also so concise and realistic and person-focused. Thanks so much for creating this content, I haven’t been a long time subscriber but I feel like I’ve gained so much. Especially when it comes to colour season and Kibbe body types - I’ve been on a deep dive of those topics for months and months, and your videos have easily been the most helpful resource I have found!
Thank you so much for this kind comment Megan ❤️ it makes my day to hear that you’re finding my content useful and informative!! 🙏
Hi miss Jenny could you please make a video about Mcjimsey sistem and compare with the kibbe for see what are the diferences and the pros and cons on both of them?@@stylemejenn
And if you live in Vancouver you need to have a winter coat and snow boots that you might only wear every 3 years but then you really need them! So the "throw it out if you haven't worn it in a year" rule doesn't really work! 😊
💯!! The weather for the last few days proves this point entirely!
And then some years I never get to wear my swimsuit or shorts!
Similar on the Isle of Wight, UK.
can u talk about jewlery and face shapes ?
I really like how you mentioned weight being related to health. Weight changes was one of my first symptoms of an autoimmune disorder that could have killed, or at least more severely damaged my kidneys if not treated early. It’s like a car light going on. It could be nothing, it could be a simple little thing, or it could be something big. Only way to find out is to bring the car in and get it checked out
Great video, thank you! I love fall and winter sweaters and scarves but winter and fall are very brief where I live. I keep trying to remember no more warm clothes for me , 😅 even though we're in a cold snap right now.
Glad you liked the video! ❤️
Riding myself of the idea that think or reflect about fashion and style is frivolous has helped me a lot in the search of my style.
Since the birth of my daughter and my decision to quit my job, I have invested quite a bit of time in reading and watching videos (a lot of there were yours) about this topic.
I wouldn't say I'm sure about my style yet, who is? But I think now I am better at buying things (less things) and I have tried new trends because I'm more open to discover new styles. Mostly I have rejected them, but I tried!
So I'm in absolute agreement with everything you said. For me it sums up in this old idea: know yourself. And take time to do it!
Glad you liked the video! You’re right - I don’t think that finding your style ever truly ends so it’s a journey ❤️
Thank you for bringing up the health aspect! I also used to love wearing heels but unfortunatly I got really bad arthritis in my ankles and it's become a big no for me. Luckily nowadays wearing comfortable sneakers with occasion wear is pretty mainstream and also I like the more casual touch that it brings to the outfit 😊
You cant even use short heels?
I'm getting into sneakers these days!! I agree that it's become quite trendy and it definitely adds a more relaxed feel to the outfit which I'm loving as well ❤
My brutally honest answer is.... stay away from thrift stores!! Lol it's an easy and inexpensive way to try different styles but its also a way to justify my purchases with the excuse "it's only 2$" or "it's 75 cents! I can't leave it behind" Also, I'm going to weed out some black from my closet. And no more velvet. Let's see if I succeed ;)
Haha I totally agree with this - the snowball effect of thrifting can easily overcrowd the closet for sure!
I shop for clothes online now. I find most stores to carry clothes that are only flattering to certain body types. I like round hem long shirts for example (pear shape so this is very flattering) and everything in stores is short and straight hem. I just don't bother wasting time looking around when I can easily search exactly what I'm looking for.
So true! I struggled with online shopping at the beginning because of certain fits, but I've gotten a much better hang of predicting how the clothes would fit! I'm learning that jeans is one item that I will never purchase online though - I MUST try them on in person to see the fit, length, etc.!
I wish I could try jeans on in the store - but I am short waisted and look horrible in high waisted styles. That's literally all there is in the stores, so until mid rise cycles back around, it's online only for me. It's challenging!
I love it when a new video of yours appears on my subscriptions page 😍😆
😆 Thank you!! ❤️
So true, I have stopped buying stuff based on whether I like it or not. I know there are styles, colors that I love but that I don't like on myself (red, grey, purple 😢...) even though it's supposed to suit my "season".
I had gotten into a default of everything black rut, and then got curious about my "seasonal" color palette, and it was a really fun and helpful tool for choosing colors I wouldn't have necessarily opted for. I also found that particular colors/shades/tones can really bring out the best in my features annndd that harsh blacks really aren't the best on me. I think there's def something about having a sense of what works for you before playing with getting into more "expert" perspectives...
Excellent suggestions Jenn! ❤
Glad you liked the video Linda! Happy new year 🥳
You wouldnt catch me dead in a light summer.
I have just realized that my favorite thing to wear is a black maxi tank dress with a high neckline or maxi ivory tank dress also with a high neckline. These serve as canvas for the colorful jewelry, long cardigans or kimono like toppers as second layer. I live in this in this during the summer. I always reach for this but continue to buy other things that I don’t wear. I also love jumpsuits but find the bathroom challenging. I only seem to understand my style in warm weather. The jumpsuit was suppose to fix the cold season but it is too much work. I still have not figured out what to wear in cold weather so I feel like my self.
Excellent considerations. Thanks!
Glad it was helpful! ❤️
All things we know but need to be to,d ! Thanks Jen ! Waiting to book an appointment with you
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Thank you!
You’re welcome! ❤️
you're so helpful 💞💞
Glad you found the video helpful! ❤️
Hello from Vancouver. I love the content.
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I work in a dirty landscaping environment and have a hard time dressing and feeling attractive. Most people will see me and be surprised when I'm not dressed in work clothes. 😅 I make up for it when I'm not working, but it would be nice to look a little bit nicer and still functional. I have found styling with bandanas has been fun and yet still functional.
Loved how you treated the topic of weight, self acceptance and health!
Aw thank you! Glad you liked it ❤☺
Each of your videos is so on point! So relatable! When you said that we subconsciously know what works for us and what looks off - that clicked with me! Also the part about post-pandemic reality. I used to be that girl who always gets dolled up for work, and has her clothes, makeup, hair and accessories on point. Now I work from home and have hardly any occasion to dress up nice. That's quite hard for me 'cause things I wear now don't really reflect my personality, but why would I dress up if I spent most of the day home alone... ;) you get my point.
I can't relate more!! Ever since I started working from home I went through a phase of feeling so lost about my style and it took me a while to get around to feeling good about it again :P
❤ Beautiful logic.
I’m glad you like it! ❤️❤️❤️
This video is very helpful to understand my style! Thank you for posting this! Could you make a video on how to part hair? I'm struggling to figure out what hair part suits me. I would really appreciate it! 😊
I have a video on middle part vs side part if you haven’t checked it out yet! ❤️
@@stylemejenn Oh okay! Thank you so much! 😊
I'm here first!
Happy New Year Jenn 🎉
Happy New Year!! 🥳🎉
Me looking in my wardrobe seeing spring/summer clothes (I have small closet): Why aren't I wearing this?? BC IT'S COLD (-25), I'll try those clothes in the summer lol
But I'll definitely try this on my winter clothes now!!
Jenn could you maybe make another video about being olive? :) my skin is a soft sand olive colour and I lean slightly warm but my natural lip colour is a soft purple colour, so soft purple lipstick looks very nicely. It’s confusing being olive. There are so many videos suggesting hair colours and lip colours, and makeup colours for all the colour types but i really struggle because they somehow never really fit too well. I tried to grow my hair out but my natural hair is so ashy. I actually don’t know if it would be better to add more red to my hair again (as I did for yeeearss) or just let it live it’s mousy brown life as everyone suggests natural always looks better. I feel like i look older, lifeless and more grey with my natural hair, it’s hard to resist the urge to colour it again. How can we olive girlies make something pop? :D
My problem is that my 10 personalities all have their own preferences so I don't know what I like :(
Wonderful video as always, Jenn ❤ I passed the last year studying the Kibbe, 7 essences and seasonal color systems, and fell in love of how they inclusive they are, in the sense that they dont require that you fit into a trend, they look who you are and recognize your own unique characteristics. What you do with that knowledge, if you follow or not their recommendations is up to you, at least you know why something don't work for you the same way it does for someone else.
One advice I can give for people interested in learning these systems are to study the personal color system first, it will make the other systems easier to understand and apply for you. Like, most exemples of Kibbe Natural ID and Natural Essence outfits on internet have an Autumn palette (warm and muted), if you have an Cool palette (winter or summer) you may think that those clothes would look bad on you, therefore you are not a Natural. Or you may have Kibbe Classic and/or Classic Essence, whose examples tend to have neutral colors like beiges/blacks/whites, if your palette is a Bright type (Bright winter/bright Spring) you may think you're not a Classic, when in truth the silhouette and aesthetic fit, you just need to add more vibrant colors!
Once you know your color palette it becomes easier to adress why an item that fit you very well feel "off" and not mix up the reason to why it does. Your judgment becomes clearer 😊
Thank you for sharing the suggestion ❤️ so helpful!
I knew a girl once who told me that in the summer she would weigh around 10kg less compared to the winter. So each year she lost weight till summer, then gaining till winter and then losing again till summer just because she was more active in the summer and going out more while rather staying in in winter. Even without health reasons our weight can flucuate quite a bit naturally so It makes sense to have a little leeway with the fitting of your clothes
Fair enough, but 10kg sounds like a huge fluctuation based on seasons!! She must have a VERY active lifestyle in the summer time 😅
@@stylemejenn I mean that's what she had told me so she could've just rounded up for the nice round number. Although some people fluctuate a lot more while others are a lot more stable with their weight so who knows.
I find this all to be too confusing/overwhelming/strange, and makes it even more disappointing that tailors are not really a thing anymore otherwise this wouldn't be as much of a problem.
I still get my clothes tailored :D
@@stylemejenn I think that's probably the only way you're going to have the PERFECT anything clothing-wise. Store-bought will just never provide the YOU factor. Fit, style, quirks, durability, etc.