Hey boss, didn’t quite get the ATAR I needed, and knocked me down a little, and although there is still a very clear pathway for me, I’m now wondering if they’re all youthful dreams that will die with age. Any advice on how to manage self-doubt and future goals? Love your work xx
Thanks Jordan, I feel like I needed to hear that. When you say you should challenge yourself do you mean in any particular ways/ do you have any examples?
@@jordanmckay6348 I got a shit ENTER/ATAR and now I’m working in defence research as a robotics engineer. The path I took to get there was long, atypical, and full of self doubt (still is). Life isn’t a plan, it’s opportunities. “Your job is not to figure out how it’s going to happen for you, but to open the door* in your head. And when the door opens in real life, just walk though it” ( ua-cam.com/video/cCDAiFrWNP0/v-deo.html ). *Jordie would probably call this door your ‘dharma’ or ‘the thing that brings you peace’.
It’s ok to cry, it’s ok to be emotional as a man… but you’ve gotta be strong too. I used to be someone who would be considered “weak”. I took criticism as an attack rather than as a way to improve. Changing my mindset and challenging myself has changed my life. I’ve become stronger, more well-rounded and overall I’ve grown into a true… man. I’m happier, women engage with me far more, I’m starting to care about myself more, I’ve been lifting weights and exercising more, going for walks etc. something so fucking simple that I wish I did so so very long ago has made me such a better person. If you’re in the position of the “weak” man… change. You’ll be better.
Your 'Weak man' definition is my ex exactly. Thanks. His dad still pack his lunch at 28 and he has same job as he did when he was 16. Cried for 6 hrs because he didn't get a job offer after applying for less than 20 jobs. Cant take any criticism and would become hyper defensive and use what-about-ism. When things don't go his way, he will just shut down and smoke weed and pretend it's not there. I needed this Jordan. Thanks.
Sounds like he has some emotional problems that won't get worked out by writing him off as a weak man. Protect yourself, that's fine, but recognise the pain, and consider how to heal such wounds.
i watched friendlyjordies for the longest time and only recently found out you had a whole other self help channel. the stuff you put out here are as helpful as your other channel is funny. cheers jordan, you’re a beautiful man mate
I cant argue with this assessment at all, Jordan out here being the Oz version of Jordan Peterson. As a kiwi I'm all for it! Love to the brothers across the ditch!
whaaaaaat? there's friendlyjordies? been watching jordan on this channel for months and had no clue friendlyjordies existed until right now i'm tripping the helll outttttt
Taking criticism is a life long skill because 'taking' it can mean being serious, joking with the person, being introspective, even getting angry if the context is appropriate to that! The appropriate way to handle criticism is very contextually heavy and well meaning people can fall short of the best action because they just lack the wisdom, which we all do to some degree.
I'm ASD, and I hate being touched and mocked. I've spent 40 years adjusting to human interactions, so I've become ok with all the ribbing etc, but it's not been easy. Chances are, when you've seen someone take personal offence at what others might call banter, it may be because they can't make the distinction between what is said and what is intended.
Jordan openly admits to believing hes on the spectrum. He learnt what he knows about life through reading books and by trying in life and not giving up. Ive been diagnosed on the spectrum, i can relate to what you wrote, my issue is conversation. You can try banter, but most of the time, I just dont have much to say, id rather go out and do things, if you got something to say its related to what we are doing and bounce ideas back and forth.
People describing experiences, i just dont know how to respond,, "the view of the city was breathtaking" I dont actually know what you are feeling, it winded you like a punch in the guts? What do I say?
@@BrendanBFree I can pretty much guarantee that Jordan isn't on the spectrum. Aside from an ability to focus his attention on a task, there's nothing at all visible from any of his interactions or content that would suggest he's likely ASD. I don't have issues with simile and metaphor, like a lot of ASD ppl, but if someone thinks they're making a joke, by having a go at me, I only hear what they're saying. I can't understand why someone would go out of their way to torment someone who was supposedly a friend. My sense of right and wrong tends to be set in stone, usually from taught/learnt experience, so when something doesn't fit, it's not just a simple matter of "roll with it", but is a major roadblock in thinking. The bottom line is that you're not alone, and there are a LOT of people in the same situation. I've seen so many people demonstrating the traits that Jordan speaks about that I wouldn't call "weak", because I understand what the world is like for them, and what it takes to get through all the day to day BS.
I've recently been brought out of my comfort zone, and certain situations have revealed some pretty ugly weaknesses and insecurities. The only reason they went unnoticed is because I was in a good position for so long and I remained unchallenged - or at least the challenges I did face aligned with my strengths. Now I'm starting to realise the most important thing you can do to overcome weakness is to recognise it and continue to push beyond your comfort zone. That might sound easy, but being that honest with yourself is really hard to actually do. I feel really bad when I see guys my age and younger clearly struggling with things but thinking they're top shit until they actually have to face something, or even worse, they get called out on their shit and their whole world just collapses. This video helped me understand my own emotions and weaknesses a little better, I really appreciate that.
Applies to women too. At a different and evolving level. Some of the most alpha people i know are women. Breastfeeding in board meetings (whether or not you realise it at the time) is 100% a power move. I consider myself a feminist and my dad gave me 12 rules for life one Christmas hoping to get a rise out of me and i was like "Thank you, i have been wanting to get this book for ages!" It actually brought my ultra conservative 1950s traditional daddio and myself closer together. He still tells me to *insert expletive* off when i tell him i hate Bruz and koala killer but hey, there's some love and respect there so what else matters?
Honestly, I believe it's not "women who don't like weak mean". I'd suggest it's "insecure people" you're really talking about. Interestingly, it's "insecure people" who usually find the most faults in others - and can rarely take criticism themselves.
I wonder if he'll see this. Most likely not, but if he does, I hope he gets angry at Jordan, then inspired to prove him wrong. And I don't think Jordan would mind that outcome
@@symbungee actually... No, no it doesn't. Probably wanna update your understanding of the advertising algorithms dude. Ads are channel targeted. They sell you based on where you are, not where you've been, they did, but they don't. No know what... Never mind lol.
UA-cam ads once gave me a bunch of weird self help ads. One was a huge shirtless buff black dude in a skyscraper screaming at the camera (you) to stop being such a bitch. It was pretty funny
Half and half on this one shanks. It's the rugged alpha male "just plough on through" meme, which can be good advice if you don't recognise that capability within yourself, but can also lead people to emotional isolation and psychosis. It's not like sensitive people can't contribute, or don't have a place, male or female. They can be like finely tuned instruments, vital for certain operations where other tools are useless, but delicate and requiring certain handling. Obv as the big man of your company you call the shots as to whether they are worth the arbitrage, so for your particular case maybe it was right. But the idea itself is questionable in a society where the main killer of men under 50 is suicide.
Masculinity is fine, toxic masculinity is not. In fact toxic masculinity is this hyperfocus on toughness outside of situations that require it. You know this insistence on men to like, be overly stoic. Stoicism is all fine and dandy but it's perfectly fine to feel sad or angry or depressed or whatever. Pobody's nerfect.
Dude,,, ummm, no offence but your barking up a different tree that has nothing to do with the subject matter?😆 Were you stoned or high af when you watched this? Super busy or highly distracted perhaps? I'm not trolling mate, but Obviously something has happened/distracted you during your viewing the video as your clearly no dumb dumb and seem to possess the necessary wisdom to think outside the box, but just reading your response to Jordans weak men video and the various points you've made, bro they were bizarre and I'm like this guy must be talking about another video surely? Although not my intent but if you feel disrespected and automatically need to torch me without thinking it thru 1st, I'd like to think you've first re watched the video uninterrupted?
No disrespect to Jordies at all here because I love the work he does on both this channel and the main one but I 100% agree with OP here. The shame that gets placed on men by societal messaging to just “get through it” without the proper support or tools or even just understanding and non judgmental environment to work though their challenges when they are struggling with their mental health is exactly what isolates them from seeking and getting the help they need and they can pay are paying for it with their lives. The pain of having to “tough out” life on their own without support or help because that’s considered as being “weak” or not being “strong enough” and “wussing out” is the reason why men’s suicide rates are frighteningly higher than female rates. It’s not necessarily about one gender experiencing suicidal thoughts more frequently than the other, but about all of the influences that contribute to the pain being so unbearable that the only way to be relieved from it besides receiving support is to just end their suffering and as a byproduct, their life. The way society is structured and so uncomfortable/unequipped to handle it when men let us know that they are struggling make this gap immeasurably worse and that’s so heartbreaking. If we can figure out how to push past feeling uncomfortable with the idea of men struggling mentally and be able to push discomfort aside in a conversation where someone is brave enough to share with you that they are struggling, I think we will begin to turn it around. You don’t have to know what specific resources are needed to help that person, you just have to be open and non-dismissive towards statements like “I’m just so exhausted” and “I just need a break from everything and I wish I could just press pause on the world for even a minute”. Any statement that indicates that someone is struggling or suffering, no matter how big or small you perceive their struggle to be can be that persons version of screaming for help and if they are dismissed (whether you mean to or not) it could be the last time they reach out for help because if they were brushed off, or worse, told to “man up and get on with it because we all have stuff going on that’s hard” then the only other way of getting relief from their pain besides trying to let someone know they are struggling and asking for help with their pain is to just look for another way to end their pain which will ultimately lead them down the road to taking their life where they wanted to live, but they couldn’t carry their the burden of their pain all by themselves any longer because it was so overwhelming and excruciating that sacrificing their life for it seems like a small price to pay for relief.
He is talking about a specific type of weak man where someone wants special treatment and can't stand up for themselves at the same time. Its basically just narcissistic entitlement.
I spent the first 20 years of my life under the boot of my older brother who just use to drill me into the ground. On top of that, I was always a happy and positive kid during high school who enjoyed connecting with people, and in this modern age its not cool to be positive so even though I wasn't unpopular, I was the pariah within my social circle if that makes sense. I was always a lot better with people in a 1 on 1 setting. I don't consider myself a victim or anything, but after the first half of my life was like that, I sort of promised myself that I wouldn't live my life under anyone else's standards ever again. If you aren't what people expect you to be, they either try to tear you down or ostracize you - why should you have to pay a price like that for their misconceptions? Screw all that - keep your lame nicknames & your childish shit tests, as long as I can look in the mirror and like what I see more than I did yesterday I feel like I'm on track
There is a personality trait..... a "loner". Knowing you would rather be alone is not unusual. Keeping your social/work contacts to with-in your comfort zone is an art...
Bruh im 35 and im single because i enjoy life. People who are married or anyone over 30 who are married look fkn miserable, many get divorced..anyway i dont even know if thats relevant, i kinda just got a lil offended when you said "if ur over 30 and single somethings wrong
Have to say it’s a harsh reality in many aspects here. Even being organized and motivated in other areas I recently started dating after 6 years being single and holy shit I was not expecting the baggage and insecurity it bought up (coupled with OCD it ain’t fun). It was scary but it was a pattern I needed to end so rather than just go back into my safety zone. I was open about it and sought therapy to understand it. Took a while but things are better now and I’m happier for it applying things I learnt to other areas of my life. Big ups Jordie.
I sometimes ask myself “what’s the least scary thing I can think of, that I still wouldn’t do?” And always make sure that’s something worth being scared of.
[EDIT: Jordie actually addresses my main criticism in another comment thread here and I wanted to acknowledge that] I think I've figured out what the problem with these kinds of arguments is; they can be argued both ways: -> Not going along with the crowd: (a) you're standing up for yourself / sticking to your guns (b) you're weak and nobody likes you / you're "uncomfortable" doing something you'd rather not do (i.e. not a "risk" taker). -> Haven't been in a romantic relationship for months/years: (a) Relationships are a bonus and you don't need one to be happy and/or successful, just focus on improving yourself (b) there is something wrong with you / you should be having sex with 3,127 people every second day or else you're just a waste of life. The problem is the line between what makes a man "weak" or "strong" is contrived based on how you want to frame it. There were a lot of things you said in this video that I related to, and it made me feel both reassured *and* uncomfortable. Pretty sure I had the same "stacks on" experience in high school and even though I hated it I would endure it because I wanted to get along and not be "that guy", but was I actually just being a pushover? Is it healthy to want everyone to like you all the time? My first few relationships were terrible. Could I have done things better? Sure! Could they, and others who I thought were my friends, been better? Absolutely! Do I care that I haven't had another serious/physical relationship in ages? It bothers me, but I don't blame anyone else except me because I haven't been trying; too busy completing my engineering professional placement. Am I a little sensitive when people ask me about it? Yeah, because I anticipate the automatic association that my sex life makes me a simp/incel. People who don't want to take *any* risks and are too sensitive / uncomfortable to talk to about *anything ever* are going to be "weak" social outcasts, but don't make the mistake that having personal boundaries / topics of discussion that are out of bounds as also being "weak".
It degrees. It’s grey, not black and white. There is no easy answer. Demanding one, or whining because there isn’t one, is a a sign of weakness. If you joined in on those ‘stack-ons’ just because you wanted to fit in, then that is weak, and just as bad as not joining in because your were afraid( of being hurt, looking bad, being a fool, what ever). I was never the masculine child, yet I joined in rough housing coz it was fun( and sometimes to try and fit in), but there were times when I didn’t want to. I didn’t whimper or whine. Looking back, I find that the most respect I got for not joining in was when done with confidence. But that was probably granted because there were times when I would join in. And you don’t ‘get respect’ or are seen ‘as strong’ just because you are willing to play a game we’re you will get hurt( unfortunately children, and some ppl are always children no matter how old they get, confuse that), but how you handle the social interactions. It’s the playing rats study. It isn’t just( as one of the thing the study states) how much to ‘loss’ to the smaller opponent, but how you play the social game. Always doing something you hate just so others will like you shows a social weakness, but never joining in even if you don’t always want to also shows a social weakness. Being your own person is important, but doing so at the expense of others is never good. Jordies mentioned having a girlfriend. Well that is right. Coz if you give in all the time, no partner who respects you as a person can stand to be around you, and, conversely, if you are not willing to ever compromise and do things just to fit in, no partner will want to be with a selfish prick. Balance. That is the key that most ppl have seemed to forget. That is why most advice sound contradictory. Because there is no one answer, no golden bullet, only grey areas. And that is Life. Messy and hard. And most ppl out there( at lest the noise portion that try to push their views onto others) see it as unfair and just want an easy way out
I might be wrong, but I think what you’ve said there can be summarised in my final paragraph; being averse to risk/discomfort 100% of the time is bad. I just needed to add ‘being open to risk/discomfort 100% of the time is also bad’. Jordie’s take rubbed me the wrong way mostly because it came across as “if you aren’t allowing others to pressure you into saying or doing things you don’t want to do then you’re weak”. You also made a good point in there about the importance of attitude, but it’s also a little irrelevant to the fundamental argument (I.e. you might have a bad attitude/reaction, but that doesn’t change your right to disagree / not participate).
I agree with your points and can acknowledge that there's work that needs to be done, but you've just talked about how being a weak man sucks for ~13 minutes and that you need to improve and work on it- while the only way to "work on it" that you mentioned was a basic 'challenge yourself' If you think this sort of logic actually applies to someone, what should they be doing to fix it?
Well for starters, take a fucking risk for once? If you have a passion for something, don't question it. To quote Danny Riccardo, "Sometimes you just gotta lick the stamp and send it."
@Adam Dewhirst Mad. Your point being? I had similar issues for years where I felt I wasn't good enough to like, go out there and do something I liked doing for a living. Then I realised that there's always going to be miserable little shitheads (ie, yourself) who are going to hate on you if you're going about living a better life for yourself. Like, okay. You're always going to suck at something when you first start it. For example, I do graphics and video work for a living. There was a point in my life where I didn't even know how to use a camera. It took about 10 years(ish) of consistently sucking at my hobby of making videos, but slowly getting better over time with every subsequent shoot before I got into a position where I could constantly make a living with my film and graphics work. Even then, I still suck at some stuff and I've stil got a fuckton to learn. The secret to getting mentally tough here is to remember. You suck, you'll always suck, but that's not a bad thing. You can get better. Stop comparing yourself to others thinking you'll never be that good. Work your way up. You've just gotta take that initial risk and do that first thing, and continue past that first step. Otherwise you could just join the AUWU. 😉
Jordan peterson talks about this. When you say "what should they be doing to fix it?", 9/10 the person already knows exactly what is is they should be working on. If they havent, then they need to take notice of their own behaviour. But usually, you already know exactly what youre afraid of, you just dont want to admit it to yourself.
Jordan ma bah, you’re the reason why I’ve been consistently improving on myself. We need more people like you in the world that speak nothing but the truth. Truly a legend 💪
As someone who used to be a 'weak' man and has gone on to become a somewhat stronger man, I feel like most 'weak' men won't actually get anything constructive out of this video. Not that what you're saying is incorrect, but just the way you talk about it will make 'weak' men do one of two things: 1. Get defensive from being called weak and not watch the whole video 2. Use it as ammunition for self deprecation without actually improving themselves as a person. Like most of the people here agreeing with you are already 'stronger' people, so your kinda just preaching to the converted without actually helping the people who really need to hear this message, so it's kinda pointless. Remember, Tony Robbins said that communication is only as good as how the receiver responds, otherwise you're not actually achieving anything. And if you are a 'weak' man, I've got two bits of advice for you: 1. Be kind to yourself: you don't become 'strong' by constantly bashing yourself up. Not saying to ignore your flaws, but only criticise yourself in a way that's constructive and will allow you to grow as a person. 2. Seek psychological help if you need to. Most of the 'strength' I have comes from seeing a psychologist for years and slowly building up my mental fortitude over time with the help of a qualified therapist.
Not to mention over the last decade we have had this influx of social trends where it is acceptable to be emotionally turbulent because it is "your emotions" and "your truth". Couple this with a refusal to push people out of their comfort zones and allow them to grow, we create these little pods where people stay in this larval state and use their ability to interact with people online to avoid these conflicts in person and perpetuate antisocial and vitriolic behaviours.
what would you say to men who actually aren't "weak" but rather not strong enough by their own standards and beat themselves up over it for being a "weak man"?
Its a tough line to ride, and I do believe a lot of it can be circumstantial for men. I grew up with a father whose version of being a man was incredibly toxic. I knew it wasnt right, but I didnt know how a real man should actually be. Its near impossible to not be a result of your environment without luck involved. Stoicism is a good practice, but in some cases can be a bit unhealthy. There are times when emotions need to be shown, and if you wall your emotions off for too long, you will eventually start having those same blow ups you talk about. I think what makes a man strong, is not necessarily if he has a girlfriend or not, or makes a lot of money, but by his emotional maturity. Having control over his emotions, but also knowing when it is appropriate to show them, etc. I feel sometimes weak men also band together. I was unknowingly excommunicated from a whole friend group, because one of them didn't understand how to show basic respect for me when I asked for it, and that person got really offended. He never apologized for his behavior, and I felt no need to apologize for standing up for my self respect. All in all, they still play video games, drink alcohol every night, and still dont have any girlfriends. I started watching Jordan Shanks, and I realized that I was simply growing up and moving on from them, which is why i felt no regret when it happened. I didnt want to sit in a room and play games all day, i want to grow and experience the world. I use to be a weak man, still am, but I am working on myself little by little every day. I personally decided to not date until I have grown into a man that can support a family.
Between the ages of 23 - 25, I consider myself to have been a weak man during that time. I'd just begun my teaching career in a small town in the middle of nowhere. It was an exhausting, demoralising job and a lot of things went badly outside of work. When I hit a wall in late 2017 and contemplated suicide, I realised things needed to change. It wasn't easy...but it did. 5 years later, I quit a toxic job at the end of 2021 (a school run by a VERY weak man), immediately found well-paying work afterwards and am the happiest I've ever been. Mark Manson's The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Dr Robert Glover's No More Mr Nice Guy and The Great Courses, all available on Audible, all helped immensely. Bottom line: growth is a choice.
I dated a guy like that once. I saw him explode on twitter because an icon that a friend drew for him had an orange/pink tint to it, and a few people (that i don’t remember their connection to him) started giving him heaps and called him gay and a ranga. Went ballistic and kept replying “I’M NOT A RANGA!!!!!!!” Funniest shit in retrospective
Not really in to the whole dating apps thing but I’m excited to be asking women out again, it’s fun. So far I asked the librarian, she said no, it was pretty funny and I got the number of a random Korean woman when I was walking from TAFE and that was fun. My goal between now and next year is to ask over a hundred women out. My goal is to get a hundred rejections because that how long it should take to completely eliminate that tiny nervousness I have in asking women out. If I end up with a girlfriend before then, well I guess that means I have a girlfriend then, don’t it 🎉
I think I struggle with the transition between stoicism and taking it on the chin, and bottling up thoughts and feelings and exuding a general air of petulance. Overall communication is key. There is a difficult balance in having the strength to hold your ground and having the strength to speak your mind when you genuinely have a legitimate grievance. But it takes the most strength and forethought to know when to do which. Must be something that sort of comes with age I guess.
You are so right! My solution was reducing the number of "contacts" in my life, (retiring helped), and this reduced the number of "decisions". I took the opportunity at the beginning of covid, and emailed nearly everyone to tell them I was "dropping out", and would see them on the other-side.(of covid). It is a mine-field!
The number one prescription to fix any weak male is lifting weights. It's the best way to challenge oneself because the challenge of weightlifting is a series of small incremental challenges that accumulate. Almost all of these "weak men" are skinnyfat and pathetic. Lift weights and you will get the confidence you need.
@@boltholemuse.2735 I'd say just participating in something greater than the sum of yourself is a great way to get mentally fit. Idk, go hiking, ride a bike, go swimming, etc. I love cycling because I can get to where I need to go without paying any money for fuel haha.
I’m lucky in the respect that I feel most comfortable when I’m “Bumping up against someone”. I enjoy the friction. I feel weird around people that agree with me constantly. When I was younger I thought this was a bad thing. Now I’ve embraced it in a healthy way and it’s proven to be advantageous. I need to be fighting against something, and there will always be something worth fighting for.
I completely agree. I work underground in a coal mine in NSW( money is good and setting my self up when 150k annual pay checks are no longer around due to coal not being used, bought my first home etc, refused to get in debt for any thins else than a home loan) . Not the greatest conditions and if you really don’t pay attention or have your head switched on you can be killed easily ( crushed, torn, high pressure injections.. plenty more but that just a few. When I first started work there I struggled as I was new to the industry, I was almost bullied to the point of either getting the job done right right or fuck right off out of the industry. It made you slow down think and do it right. I thought it was just me, then I realised they did it to everyone. I gritted it out and after about 14 months I became a reliable, competent and trusted worker, ; 99% of the shit I coped stop. But some couldn’t cope and left early or where put in other jobs in the mine that weren’t as high paced... very cushy jobs. I thought it was wrong but I realised this culture weeds out the weak, weeds out the ones that would kill/injure themselves or others through stupidity. The criticism is full on, more so than any other work force or job... but it’s needed. I enjoyed this video you gave me a new look on that experience.
@Adam Dewhirst I’m much more than a coal miner... you can call me mate. ... not sure if you’re being sarcastic, but I’m just agreeing and confirming his oil rig reference. And the poignancy of this video and the statement.
Hey mate, in a similar vain to this video: How do you be a good person when you're dealing with chronic pain? I have been dealing with physical pain while I'm waiting for dental surgery that has made me an asshole to deal with lately. Pointers about how to overcome this to be a good person could be super helpful. Thanks as usual for your work
First of all, understand that every that that you get closer to the surgery is one less day you have to feel that pain. Ie, you've got a hard date for when you're going in, that'll help you stick it out further. Also, letting people know about your pain gives you some leeway too. "Hey, if i come across as a bit of an asshole, i'm dealing with some horrendous dental pain, so i'm sorry about that" That in and of itself takes a fuckton of courage to admit, and it'll be a test of _their_ character. If people leave you as a result of that admission, that's a weakness in their character and shows their inability to deal with people who are not in the best situation. But yeah, hopefully you get that dental pain sorted soon man. It sucks, been there, done that, bought the goddamn t-shirt.
@@rtmpgt thanks man! Got it out ages ago. Actually have a video on getting the tooth out if you're curious. You'll see why it was painful with the thumbnail!
In my last workplace there were a couple of guys like this. One in particular was early 30s and had never had a relationship and was rumoured to be a virgin. He was actually a good-looking guy and I initially found him attractive but his lack of confidence and assertiveness put me off not to mention his lack of experience. I could tell by interacting with him that he was definitely hetero (some men of this age who have never had a relationship with a woman you get a gay vibe from although this is far less common these days with most gay people coming out and being mostly accepted into society) so it was not a 'closet case' situation more so a situation where he had a complete lack of confidence.
Is it more about learning from the pitfalls and not being scared rather than just not attempting shit at all? Accepting some people might find u weird?
Ugh, this video is so condescending and not helping anyone man. "Stronger" people can become weak and weaker people can become strong. Sometimes circumstances can change a person. And I don't agree with this overall characterising of people as weak or strong. People can be weaker or stronger in different circumstances, and I don't mean physically, I mean emotionally and mentally. For example, I consider myself as someone who is very emotionally strong for my family when someone dies, but conversely I also sometimes lack motivation and direction. When I have it, I am a leader, passionate about what I do and confident in my abilities, and I believe I am a positive influence to other people. When I am underappreciated or feel taken advantage of (criticism and appreciation are different) I rebel against authority to my own detriment which I see as a weakness because of my lack of control. My advice/opinion is twofold: 1) that there can be no courage without fear and courage is a form of strength eg: you'll never do that thing you've always wanted to do if you don't ever try 2) the other form of strength is to have enough control to know when to not be courageous or act in anger eg: not letting your pride aggravate a less than ideal situation You are really looking for a balance of these.
Not really. This has been addressed in another thread. It refers to a guy he knew about 8 or so years ago. You gotta remember how long he's been making vids for now!
Hey boss, didn’t quite get the ATAR I needed, and knocked me down a little, and although there is still a very clear pathway for me, I’m now wondering if they’re all youthful dreams that will die with age. Any advice on how to manage self-doubt and future goals? Love your work xx
By the sounds of it you haven't lost interest in this youthful dream, so pursue it. It's natural to question them, but if you don't have any strong feelings that it's not your path then you should stay on that path. If it is a youthful dream, that motivation will help you maintain perseverance. It will only die if you allow it to die, and you'll likely regret that you did. Book recommendation: The Laws of Human Nature, by Robert Greene.
For reasons I control and don't control I relate to this video too much... I love exchanging dark humor insults with my closest family and friends but at the same time also try being that sensitive upright religious man... strange paradox? Will definitely make the effort to challenge myself physically and socially this year! Time to review good ol' Jordan Peterson vids and reading! Thanks for the vid Jordies :)
Being supposedly weak is only a problem for other people. For the person, it's how they are. Working for a comedian isn't a military operation, so riding on a guy isn't necessary.
Not really. A weak man will never become what he could be and is doomed to a life of mediocrity and disappointment. That's a personal problem in my book.
my brother hasn't had a girlfriend in ages & his last gf was going through divorce & wanted him to give $10k to help her, the other ones had really protective 'be at home by 9pm' parents. He keeps saying he is focusing on buying a house, COVID-19 & doesn't want a relationship ATM. What should I tell him to do? I keep saying to use bumble and persevere but its been 1 year & he has gotten no where. He's 29
35 and have been single my whole life and not from a lack of trying. For years I have felt this is just the fact I am pretty ugly and my parents didn't really have the money to sort it out in my teens and I've never made enough money to try and fix those little issues (although I am planning to see a dentist again after a few years ago seeing one and basically being told they can't straighten my teeth because they don't know which ones need to come out first because i have a few extra teeth). More recently I think it may be more to do with the fact that I am not predictable because most men you can please with just beers and titties and letting them watch sport on a Sunday afternoon. As to work, I've walked away from 3 jobs in 15 years because I was getting paid less to do more and despite asking for help or trying to make life easier by pointing out problems, nothing came from it and so I could either work my hand to the bone for less money than what others who are doing less work are receiving or walk away and apparently be cheered on by those who remain in the company (well some of them) because they know I am right. So now I work for me (could change if something that wasn't just another admin job where upon realising how hard I work, eases up on everyone else because I am apparently here to take on the greatest burden and then call me a genius even though what I am doing is the exact opposite because a genius would be at the top issuing the orders, not at the bottom taking them)
Yeah, I found my partner mostly by concentrating on improving myself after a pretty raucous breakup from a long-term relationship I had. People naturally come to you when you focus on improving yourself, for the sake of yourself and not for the sake of anyone else.
Well it's not that I don't want to sleep around because who doesn't like sex but it's about being a high value male and just setting up my life so nothing bites me on the ass later on right now having a girlfriend isn't a must for me right now
Hello Jordan: I am one of the least "alpha" males you could possibly meet. However, I am great one for talking risks. In the early 2000's I was desperate for a job. When a job came up in Tokyo, I grabbed it. The hotel I stayed in when I first arrived had the restaurant on the top floor. On the first morning I was there, I looked out over the huge expanse of Tokyo and thought, "I have to build a life for myself in this place." I almost literally pooped my pants. While it was incredibly hard and lonely, 18 months later, I had created a life for myself. I came back a vastly stronger and better person. It was one of the best things I have ever done. The future really does belong to risk takers.
The fact that you managed to build a life for yourself in one of the most hostile environments to foreigners (honestly, Japan's a really hard place to live for foreigners due to a massive distrust of anyone other than Japanese in their society) is a massive fucking achievement in and of itself. You should try it again.
I disagree with your first point jordies, theres a difference between "ribbing between colleagues" and "being a shitcunt" and making everyone miserable. Whilst i agree that there are situations and circumstances where you either take the opportunities before you and with that comes risk, conflict etc or you fade into non-existence. But telling coworkers or colleagues that behaviour is not something you like is setting boundaries. Which, if you have issues with communication or public presence, is super important to being able to function within an environment that has issues or things that you dont agree with. The mentality of "oh its just a joke, calm down, you cant hack it, just harden up mate." Is fucking toxic and often only present as a defensive mechanism either to safeguard individuals against toxicity or to retroactively allow groups to belittle individuals (how often has someone been a total knob to you under the guise of "its just a joke bro!" And either attempted to use that to remove consequences or flat out succeed in avoiding consequences?) Big miss with some of the messages in here jordies, differing opinions are good but i feel youre off base with this one man.
He means weak people in general he means people who are cowardly,deceitful who don't really stand on their own two feet. He basically says weak people eventually begin to hate and manipulate and seek their revenge where they can because they have let things go and never really taken responsibly.
No. A lot of banter can be the higher ups passing their bad moods and emotions onto the lower downs. Either way, how you act perpetuates your environments. If you want banter then banter, if you want respect then demand respect.
Idk if this makes me a weak man but I’ll be quite my job soon cause other older guys want me to do stuff for them and are rude to me and when I stand up for Myself they get mad and don’t talk to me and I’m never on my phone constantly looking for something to do at my job if I’m wrong I’m open to some criticism just wanted to share
This is the first time I've said - yeah, nah. Your argument, in summary, 'if you don't go along with peer pressure, you're weak' based on the very narrow scope of "I know someone who...." I know someone who was that "weak" teen became a very successful and attractive public speaker. That well-rounded human being can develop - they don't 'just take it'. Not liking your idea of joking around isn't weakness. Comedy is subjective. You probably wouldn't like their idea of joking around either. Different tribes have different needs.
Not the point of the video obviously but, considering you repeated it like 10 times felt it necessary to point that not everyone is looking for the "opposite sex" in potential relationships, Jords.
I have learned I can't manage a relationship and also manage to be financially successful to the level that I want. I chose finance and in the span of a single year I went from 7k in savings and investments to 115k. I'm pretty happy with my choice so far. plus I don't want kids so telling a girl in her 30's that right out the gate results 90% of the time in not getting a 2nd date. it's fine, I will just cry into my wads of cash lol
@Adam Dewhirst it's just reality really. if in my case you want to become a millionaire by 40 you have to be willing to give up on shit. there is a reason why Michael Jordan was a great basketball player and just an ok baseball player. if you want to be in that top 1% you have to fully commit to it. Jordan couldn't fully commit to baseball because that would require him getting a time machine and going back to the point in his teenage years and picking baseball first over basketball if he wanted to be a great baseball player, but the catch would be if the became a great baseball player if he tried to switch to basketball mid career it would have failed too because he would have lost all those development years to baseball. sometimes you just have to pick a path. if you keep trying to do both you end up being mediocre at both things
Investment in general, regardless of your instrument is basically all about calculated risk taking. Whether you invest time or money or effort, it's all a risk, some risks cost more and some risks cost less. Depends what you're willing to tolerate really.
@@Stanthemilkman I was a multi millionaire for a very brief period in November-Dec. now I have a net worth of about 700-750k. so yeah, been better, been worse.
I'm having trouble finding passion in my life. Feels like I've been this way forever though... I have some stuff I'm interested in, but nothing that I could play off for a career. Background, 29year old Aussie, moved to Canada for a change and a chance to try something different, was in construction for 10 years, now I'm in manufacturing. It's nice to have change, but I just can't figure out where or what I want to do. I realize it's a broad issue and I'm sure sitting down and talking shit out with someone may make a difference. But it just goes full circle. I have tried different industries, not just construction and manufacturing, just to see if I like it, and I find my self, not minding things, or they are "okay". TLDR: no passion in life, feels like something is wrong with me, help me Obi-Wan Kenobi, you're my only hope! (Not really, but the meme's!).
Honestly i don't think the actual situation itself matters when it comes to defining weak behaviour, there's nothing wrong with having your own boundaries and enforcing them, regardless of the situation. What matters is *how* and why you enforce your boundaries What makes you look weak is what your underlying motivation is. If you're not taking risks because, in some way, you're scared of looking stupid or avoiding rejection or judgement then that's weak. If you're making decisions on your own values, then it's fine. If you're only making decisions it to fit in the group, maintain or seek approval, or out of your own insecurity or lack of confidence then *that's* weak. Doing things for yourself in line with your principles is what's strong, and that motivation is what separates percieved "weak" behaviour from confident behaviour, and that will come out in how you conduct yourself.
I’ve been in work groups like that and been the one who goes along and the one who can’t take criticism. There is however, a fine line between criticism and bullying in today’s workplace.
What would be considered risk-taking behaviour? For example, I spent half my years income on researching an ambitious project. It's a solid risk as I could be caught out with no free cash, but I'm confident enough in myself for me to not feel as if I'm taking a risk. On the other hand, if I was less confident, it would be a negative trait, but the risk taking is a positive trait? I feel like the only real difference is knowledge. So, in essence, what's stronger? Self confidence with a lack of risk, or risk taking with a lack of confidence?
Guys who don't get women wait for the women to come to them because they're too scared to make a move. This is due to fear of rejection. In turn, they go to dating apps and don't get the women they want from there and they grow resentful. _"Stupid bitches, all they want are good looking guys who have a lot of money and treat them like shit"_ - The "nice guy" mentality. These same men have female friends who they orbit for months or years before dropping the _"Hey I liked you all along, let's go on a date"_ bombshell. Little do they know that they were firmly placed into the friendzone from day 1 or 2 and she isn't interested. More resentment grows. I'm no Casanova, but a few things I've learned and changed in my life are quitting porn, learning to abstain and extensively researching women, men and relationship advice. - Quitting porn means you should also quit following hot women on Instagram/social media. This means the only hot women you should be seeing are out on the streets or in pubs/clubs. - Abstaining drives you crazy because it forces you to want to go out an meet women. How else are you gonna get off? - Knowing where you came from as man in previous generations and where women came from helps better understand what women like/don't like. Things like meditation and killing your ego go a long way as well. The guy who goes to the club and leans up against the wall trying to look cool just looks weird. The guy who's having a good fucking time dancing, smiling and chatting to everyone is a much more attractive prospect.
As I watch this further. I realise that I’m that guy right now. At this moment, I’m a fucking loser. I have abysmal stress tolerance. I still deeply fear failure and rejection. I’m 20 in May and I want great things from my life, things that are really fucking risky but I’m going to have to think deeply about my life. I hope I can figure it out one day. Even as I right this, I’m terrified about posting this
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Hey boss, didn’t quite get the ATAR I needed, and knocked me down a little, and although there is still a very clear pathway for me, I’m now wondering if they’re all youthful dreams that will die with age. Any advice on how to manage self-doubt and future goals?
Love your work xx
Thanks Jordan, I feel like I needed to hear that. When you say you should challenge yourself do you mean in any particular ways/ do you have any examples?
@@jordanmckay6348 I got a shit ENTER/ATAR and now I’m working in defence research as a robotics engineer. The path I took to get there was long, atypical, and full of self doubt (still is).
Life isn’t a plan, it’s opportunities.
“Your job is not to figure out how it’s going to happen for you, but to open the door* in your head. And when the door opens in real life, just walk though it” ( ua-cam.com/video/cCDAiFrWNP0/v-deo.html ).
*Jordie would probably call this door your ‘dharma’ or ‘the thing that brings you peace’.
@Adam Dewhirst sugma
@Adam Dewhirst panthera, panthera, ETS, panthera.
It’s ok to cry, it’s ok to be emotional as a man… but you’ve gotta be strong too. I used to be someone who would be considered “weak”. I took criticism as an attack rather than as a way to improve.
Changing my mindset and challenging myself has changed my life. I’ve become stronger, more well-rounded and overall I’ve grown into a true… man. I’m happier, women engage with me far more, I’m starting to care about myself more, I’ve been lifting weights and exercising more, going for walks etc. something so fucking simple that I wish I did so so very long ago has made me such a better person.
If you’re in the position of the “weak” man… change. You’ll be better.
In the words of Peterson: Find the biggest burden you can bear, and bear it.
That is your mission in life
Your 'Weak man' definition is my ex exactly. Thanks. His dad still pack his lunch at 28 and he has same job as he did when he was 16. Cried for 6 hrs because he didn't get a job offer after applying for less than 20 jobs. Cant take any criticism and would become hyper defensive and use what-about-ism. When things don't go his way, he will just shut down and smoke weed and pretend it's not there. I needed this Jordan. Thanks.
Can relate 😩
@@ap3he Dump him or set expectations. For some reason we live in a time were people forgot it's ok for women to expect something of men
I'm glad he's your ex!
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Sounds like he has some emotional problems that won't get worked out by writing him off as a weak man. Protect yourself, that's fine, but recognise the pain, and consider how to heal such wounds.
i watched friendlyjordies for the longest time and only recently found out you had a whole other self help channel. the stuff you put out here are as helpful as your other channel is funny. cheers jordan, you’re a beautiful man mate
I cant argue with this assessment at all, Jordan out here being the Oz version of Jordan Peterson. As a kiwi I'm all for it! Love to the brothers across the ditch!
whaaaaaat? there's friendlyjordies? been watching jordan on this channel for months and had no clue friendlyjordies existed until right now i'm tripping the helll outttttt
Taking criticism is a life long skill because 'taking' it can mean being serious, joking with the person, being introspective, even getting angry if the context is appropriate to that! The appropriate way to handle criticism is very contextually heavy and well meaning people can fall short of the best action because they just lack the wisdom, which we all do to some degree.
It's funny to me that the same people who say Jordan Peterson is pushing toxic masculinity also make fun of him for how often he cries.
I'm ASD, and I hate being touched and mocked. I've spent 40 years adjusting to human interactions, so I've become ok with all the ribbing etc, but it's not been easy. Chances are, when you've seen someone take personal offence at what others might call banter, it may be because they can't make the distinction between what is said and what is intended.
Yeah most people like this have some lack of social skills. Either from genetics or by nuture...
Jordan openly admits to believing hes on the spectrum. He learnt what he knows about life through reading books and by trying in life and not giving up.
Ive been diagnosed on the spectrum, i can relate to what you wrote, my issue is conversation. You can try banter, but most of the time, I just dont have much to say, id rather go out and do things, if you got something to say its related to what we are doing and bounce ideas back and forth.
People describing experiences, i just dont know how to respond,, "the view of the city was breathtaking" I dont actually know what you are feeling, it winded you like a punch in the guts? What do I say?
@@BrendanBFree I can pretty much guarantee that Jordan isn't on the spectrum. Aside from an ability to focus his attention on a task, there's nothing at all visible from any of his interactions or content that would suggest he's likely ASD.
I don't have issues with simile and metaphor, like a lot of ASD ppl, but if someone thinks they're making a joke, by having a go at me, I only hear what they're saying. I can't understand why someone would go out of their way to torment someone who was supposedly a friend.
My sense of right and wrong tends to be set in stone, usually from taught/learnt experience, so when something doesn't fit, it's not just a simple matter of "roll with it", but is a major roadblock in thinking.
The bottom line is that you're not alone, and there are a LOT of people in the same situation. I've seen so many people demonstrating the traits that Jordan speaks about that I wouldn't call "weak", because I understand what the world is like for them, and what it takes to get through all the day to day BS.
I would be suprised if Jordan doesn't have inattentive type ADHD, which shares some observable symptoms with ASD
I've recently been brought out of my comfort zone, and certain situations have revealed some pretty ugly weaknesses and insecurities.
The only reason they went unnoticed is because I was in a good position for so long and I remained unchallenged - or at least the challenges I did face aligned with my strengths.
Now I'm starting to realise the most important thing you can do to overcome weakness is to recognise it and continue to push beyond your comfort zone.
That might sound easy, but being that honest with yourself is really hard to actually do.
I feel really bad when I see guys my age and younger clearly struggling with things but thinking they're top shit until they actually have to face something, or even worse, they get called out on their shit and their whole world just collapses.
This video helped me understand my own emotions and weaknesses a little better, I really appreciate that.
Love you flower
@Adam Dewhirst what does this even mean?
@@fintanalexanderoag2487 love you too
@Adam Dewhirst ahhh you got me
I try to take my comfort zone with me wherever I go or have to do.
Applies to women too. At a different and evolving level. Some of the most alpha people i know are women. Breastfeeding in board meetings (whether or not you realise it at the time) is 100% a power move. I consider myself a feminist and my dad gave me 12 rules for life one Christmas hoping to get a rise out of me and i was like "Thank you, i have been wanting to get this book for ages!" It actually brought my ultra conservative 1950s traditional daddio and myself closer together. He still tells me to *insert expletive* off when i tell him i hate Bruz and koala killer but hey, there's some love and respect there so what else matters?
I don't get the breastfeeding thing. Yeah, it's "natural", but so is dropping a fat turd. It's still kinda uncomfy, and I'm sure you know that...
Honestly, I believe it's not "women who don't like weak mean". I'd suggest it's "insecure people" you're really talking about.
Interestingly, it's "insecure people" who usually find the most faults in others - and can rarely take criticism themselves.
'Life shrinks or expands in proportion to ones courage" - Anais Nin
Great video, Jordan! ... interesting thoughts, as always.
"A good anvil fears no hammer." - Italian proverb. :-)
When are you going to do a rice mask totorial
As an old bloke you make a lot of sense. Love your work
shoutout to the former friendlyjordies employee don't worry we all gonna make it brah
I wonder if he'll see this. Most likely not, but if he does, I hope he gets angry at Jordan, then inspired to prove him wrong.
And I don't think Jordan would mind that outcome
Lmao, why is zyzz making a comeback in the meme economy rn
@@jprojects91 it's ended up being a timeless sentiment and perhaps Zyzz's greatest contribution. Forever 'Mirin
@@mrsnrub282 that's not the only way to grow mate. wth
@@2ears1mouth786 He didn't say that.
UA-cam thinks you're a pick up artist. This is the third time they've run sketch adds on your channel. Lol
Your YT ads are targeting you based on YOUR search history.
So I guess this observation says more about you than it does about the channel 😂
@@symbungee actually... No, no it doesn't. Probably wanna update your understanding of the advertising algorithms dude. Ads are channel targeted. They sell you based on where you are, not where you've been, they did, but they don't. No know what... Never mind lol.
@@011001er ok. Thanks. Didn't know that.
UA-cam ads once gave me a bunch of weird self help ads. One was a huge shirtless buff black dude in a skyscraper screaming at the camera (you) to stop being such a bitch. It was pretty funny
This came at the right time for me
@Adam Dewhirst *Aca and Hamish and Andy. And he's talking about the format I would think.
Half and half on this one shanks. It's the rugged alpha male "just plough on through" meme, which can be good advice if you don't recognise that capability within yourself, but can also lead people to emotional isolation and psychosis. It's not like sensitive people can't contribute, or don't have a place, male or female. They can be like finely tuned instruments, vital for certain operations where other tools are useless, but delicate and requiring certain handling. Obv as the big man of your company you call the shots as to whether they are worth the arbitrage, so for your particular case maybe it was right. But the idea itself is questionable in a society where the main killer of men under 50 is suicide.
Masculinity is fine, toxic masculinity is not.
In fact toxic masculinity is this hyperfocus on toughness outside of situations that require it. You know this insistence on men to like, be overly stoic.
Stoicism is all fine and dandy but it's perfectly fine to feel sad or angry or depressed or whatever. Pobody's nerfect.
Dude,,, ummm, no offence but your barking up a different tree that has nothing to do with the subject matter?😆 Were you stoned or high af when you watched this? Super busy or highly distracted perhaps?
I'm not trolling mate, but Obviously something has happened/distracted you during your viewing the video as your clearly no dumb dumb and seem to possess the necessary wisdom to think outside the box, but just reading your response to Jordans weak men video and the various points you've made, bro they were bizarre and I'm like this guy must be talking about another video surely? Although not my intent but if you feel disrespected and automatically need to torch me without thinking it thru 1st, I'd like to think you've first re watched the video uninterrupted?
No disrespect to Jordies at all here because I love the work he does on both this channel and the main one but I 100% agree with OP here. The shame that gets placed on men by societal messaging to just “get through it” without the proper support or tools or even just understanding and non judgmental environment to work though their challenges when they are struggling with their mental health is exactly what isolates them from seeking and getting the help they need and they can pay are paying for it with their lives. The pain of having to “tough out” life on their own without support or help because that’s considered as being “weak” or not being “strong enough” and “wussing out” is the reason why men’s suicide rates are frighteningly higher than female rates. It’s not necessarily about one gender experiencing suicidal thoughts more frequently than the other, but about all of the influences that contribute to the pain being so unbearable that the only way to be relieved from it besides receiving support is to just end their suffering and as a byproduct, their life. The way society is structured and so uncomfortable/unequipped to handle it when men let us know that they are struggling make this gap immeasurably worse and that’s so heartbreaking. If we can figure out how to push past feeling uncomfortable with the idea of men struggling mentally and be able to push discomfort aside in a conversation where someone is brave enough to share with you that they are struggling, I think we will begin to turn it around. You don’t have to know what specific resources are needed to help that person, you just have to be open and non-dismissive towards statements like “I’m just so exhausted” and “I just need a break from everything and I wish I could just press pause on the world for even a minute”. Any statement that indicates that someone is struggling or suffering, no matter how big or small you perceive their struggle to be can be that persons version of screaming for help and if they are dismissed (whether you mean to or not) it could be the last time they reach out for help because if they were brushed off, or worse, told to “man up and get on with it because we all have stuff going on that’s hard” then the only other way of getting relief from their pain besides trying to let someone know they are struggling and asking for help with their pain is to just look for another way to end their pain which will ultimately lead them down the road to taking their life where they wanted to live, but they couldn’t carry their the burden of their pain all by themselves any longer because it was so overwhelming and excruciating that sacrificing their life for it seems like a small price to pay for relief.
He is talking about a specific type of weak man where someone wants special treatment and can't stand up for themselves at the same time. Its basically just narcissistic entitlement.
I spent the first 20 years of my life under the boot of my older brother who just use to drill me into the ground. On top of that, I was always a happy and positive kid during high school who enjoyed connecting with people, and in this modern age its not cool to be positive so even though I wasn't unpopular, I was the pariah within my social circle if that makes sense. I was always a lot better with people in a 1 on 1 setting.
I don't consider myself a victim or anything, but after the first half of my life was like that, I sort of promised myself that I wouldn't live my life under anyone else's standards ever again. If you aren't what people expect you to be, they either try to tear you down or ostracize you - why should you have to pay a price like that for their misconceptions?
Screw all that - keep your lame nicknames & your childish shit tests, as long as I can look in the mirror and like what I see more than I did yesterday I feel like I'm on track
There is a personality trait..... a "loner". Knowing you would rather be alone is not unusual. Keeping your social/work contacts to with-in your comfort zone is an art...
Bruh im 35 and im single because i enjoy life. People who are married or anyone over 30 who are married look fkn miserable, many get divorced..anyway i dont even know if thats relevant, i kinda just got a lil offended when you said "if ur over 30 and single somethings wrong
He didnt say that though. He said if you're over 30 and have never had a relationship with the opposite sex.
Have to say it’s a harsh reality in many aspects here. Even being organized and motivated in other areas I recently started dating after 6 years being single and holy shit I was not expecting the baggage and insecurity it bought up (coupled with OCD it ain’t fun). It was scary but it was a pattern I needed to end so rather than just go back into my safety zone. I was open about it and sought therapy to understand it. Took a while but things are better now and I’m happier for it applying things I learnt to other areas of my life. Big ups Jordie.
chad times make chad men.
I sometimes ask myself “what’s the least scary thing I can think of, that I still wouldn’t do?” And always make sure that’s something worth being scared of.
Sorry, but you need to choose between 'least scary" and 'worth being scared of'.....nonsensical.
[EDIT: Jordie actually addresses my main criticism in another comment thread here and I wanted to acknowledge that]
I think I've figured out what the problem with these kinds of arguments is; they can be argued both ways:
-> Not going along with the crowd: (a) you're standing up for yourself / sticking to your guns (b) you're weak and nobody likes you / you're "uncomfortable" doing something you'd rather not do (i.e. not a "risk" taker).
-> Haven't been in a romantic relationship for months/years: (a) Relationships are a bonus and you don't need one to be happy and/or successful, just focus on improving yourself (b) there is something wrong with you / you should be having sex with 3,127 people every second day or else you're just a waste of life.
The problem is the line between what makes a man "weak" or "strong" is contrived based on how you want to frame it. There were a lot of things you said in this video that I related to, and it made me feel both reassured *and* uncomfortable.
Pretty sure I had the same "stacks on" experience in high school and even though I hated it I would endure it because I wanted to get along and not be "that guy", but was I actually just being a pushover? Is it healthy to want everyone to like you all the time?
My first few relationships were terrible. Could I have done things better? Sure! Could they, and others who I thought were my friends, been better? Absolutely! Do I care that I haven't had another serious/physical relationship in ages? It bothers me, but I don't blame anyone else except me because I haven't been trying; too busy completing my engineering professional placement. Am I a little sensitive when people ask me about it? Yeah, because I anticipate the automatic association that my sex life makes me a simp/incel.
People who don't want to take *any* risks and are too sensitive / uncomfortable to talk to about *anything ever* are going to be "weak" social outcasts, but don't make the mistake that having personal boundaries / topics of discussion that are out of bounds as also being "weak".
He does say "Self help is a big contradiction" so I suppose you should apply what makes sense in making you a better human.
It degrees. It’s grey, not black and white. There is no easy answer. Demanding one, or whining because there isn’t one, is a a sign of weakness. If you joined in on those ‘stack-ons’ just because you wanted to fit in, then that is weak, and just as bad as not joining in because your were afraid( of being hurt, looking bad, being a fool, what ever). I was never the masculine child, yet I joined in rough housing coz it was fun( and sometimes to try and fit in), but there were times when I didn’t want to. I didn’t whimper or whine. Looking back, I find that the most respect I got for not joining in was when done with confidence. But that was probably granted because there were times when I would join in. And you don’t ‘get respect’ or are seen ‘as strong’ just because you are willing to play a game we’re you will get hurt( unfortunately children, and some ppl are always children no matter how old they get, confuse that), but how you handle the social interactions. It’s the playing rats study. It isn’t just( as one of the thing the study states) how much to ‘loss’ to the smaller opponent, but how you play the social game. Always doing something you hate just so others will like you shows a social weakness, but never joining in even if you don’t always want to also shows a social weakness. Being your own person is important, but doing so at the expense of others is never good. Jordies mentioned having a girlfriend. Well that is right. Coz if you give in all the time, no partner who respects you as a person can stand to be around you, and, conversely, if you are not willing to ever compromise and do things just to fit in, no partner will want to be with a selfish prick. Balance. That is the key that most ppl have seemed to forget. That is why most advice sound contradictory. Because there is no one answer, no golden bullet, only grey areas. And that is Life. Messy and hard. And most ppl out there( at lest the noise portion that try to push their views onto others) see it as unfair and just want an easy way out
Adam Dewhirst a whosit-whatsit?
I might be wrong, but I think what you’ve said there can be summarised in my final paragraph; being averse to risk/discomfort 100% of the time is bad. I just needed to add ‘being open to risk/discomfort 100% of the time is also bad’.
Jordie’s take rubbed me the wrong way mostly because it came across as “if you aren’t allowing others to pressure you into saying or doing things you don’t want to do then you’re weak”.
You also made a good point in there about the importance of attitude, but it’s also a little irrelevant to the fundamental argument (I.e. you might have a bad attitude/reaction, but that doesn’t change your right to disagree / not participate).
@Adam Dewhirst how many threads have you replied in?
I agree with your points and can acknowledge that there's work that needs to be done, but you've just talked about how being a weak man sucks for ~13 minutes and that you need to improve and work on it- while the only way to "work on it" that you mentioned was a basic 'challenge yourself'
If you think this sort of logic actually applies to someone, what should they be doing to fix it?
Well for starters, take a fucking risk for once? If you have a passion for something, don't question it. To quote Danny Riccardo, "Sometimes you just gotta lick the stamp and send it."
@Adam Dewhirst Mad. Your point being? I had similar issues for years where I felt I wasn't good enough to like, go out there and do something I liked doing for a living. Then I realised that there's always going to be miserable little shitheads (ie, yourself) who are going to hate on you if you're going about living a better life for yourself.
Like, okay. You're always going to suck at something when you first start it. For example, I do graphics and video work for a living. There was a point in my life where I didn't even know how to use a camera. It took about 10 years(ish) of consistently sucking at my hobby of making videos, but slowly getting better over time with every subsequent shoot before I got into a position where I could constantly make a living with my film and graphics work. Even then, I still suck at some stuff and I've stil got a fuckton to learn.
The secret to getting mentally tough here is to remember. You suck, you'll always suck, but that's not a bad thing. You can get better. Stop comparing yourself to others thinking you'll never be that good. Work your way up. You've just gotta take that initial risk and do that first thing, and continue past that first step.
Otherwise you could just join the AUWU. 😉
Jordan peterson talks about this. When you say "what should they be doing to fix it?", 9/10 the person already knows exactly what is is they should be working on. If they havent, then they need to take notice of their own behaviour. But usually, you already know exactly what youre afraid of, you just dont want to admit it to yourself.
Jordan ma bah, you’re the reason why I’ve been consistently improving on myself. We need more people like you in the world that speak nothing but the truth.
Truly a legend 💪
lunchbags are underrated.
As someone who used to be a 'weak' man and has gone on to become a somewhat stronger man, I feel like most 'weak' men won't actually get anything constructive out of this video. Not that what you're saying is incorrect, but just the way you talk about it will make 'weak' men do one of two things:
1. Get defensive from being called weak and not watch the whole video
2. Use it as ammunition for self deprecation without actually improving themselves as a person.
Like most of the people here agreeing with you are already 'stronger' people, so your kinda just preaching to the converted without actually helping the people who really need to hear this message, so it's kinda pointless. Remember, Tony Robbins said that communication is only as good as how the receiver responds, otherwise you're not actually achieving anything.
And if you are a 'weak' man, I've got two bits of advice for you:
1. Be kind to yourself: you don't become 'strong' by constantly bashing yourself up. Not saying to ignore your flaws, but only criticise yourself in a way that's constructive and will allow you to grow as a person.
2. Seek psychological help if you need to. Most of the 'strength' I have comes from seeing a psychologist for years and slowly building up my mental fortitude over time with the help of a qualified therapist.
damn bro you really have lot of time aye
@@recursion. I have too much time I'm afraid
In a nutshell. Be strong for yourself. Whatever gives you confidence and satisfaction, do it.
The 'general public' are fickle, not worth the worry.
@@boltholemuse.2735 100%
Not to mention over the last decade we have had this influx of social trends where it is acceptable to be emotionally turbulent because it is "your emotions" and "your truth". Couple this with a refusal to push people out of their comfort zones and allow them to grow, we create these little pods where people stay in this larval state and use their ability to interact with people online to avoid these conflicts in person and perpetuate antisocial and vitriolic behaviours.
what would you say to men who actually aren't "weak" but rather not strong enough by their own standards and beat themselves up over it for being a "weak man"?
btw i am literally asking for a friend. i on the other hand am most definitely a weak man. im working on it tho 👍🏻
UA-cam: For You - "Weak Men"
Me: ...T-thanks...
This channel makes me a better person
I agree with a lot of your points here. Watched the whole thing 👍
Its a tough line to ride, and I do believe a lot of it can be circumstantial for men. I grew up with a father whose version of being a man was incredibly toxic. I knew it wasnt right, but I didnt know how a real man should actually be. Its near impossible to not be a result of your environment without luck involved. Stoicism is a good practice, but in some cases can be a bit unhealthy. There are times when emotions need to be shown, and if you wall your emotions off for too long, you will eventually start having those same blow ups you talk about. I think what makes a man strong, is not necessarily if he has a girlfriend or not, or makes a lot of money, but by his emotional maturity. Having control over his emotions, but also knowing when it is appropriate to show them, etc. I feel sometimes weak men also band together. I was unknowingly excommunicated from a whole friend group, because one of them didn't understand how to show basic respect for me when I asked for it, and that person got really offended. He never apologized for his behavior, and I felt no need to apologize for standing up for my self respect. All in all, they still play video games, drink alcohol every night, and still dont have any girlfriends. I started watching Jordan Shanks, and I realized that I was simply growing up and moving on from them, which is why i felt no regret when it happened. I didnt want to sit in a room and play games all day, i want to grow and experience the world. I use to be a weak man, still am, but I am working on myself little by little every day. I personally decided to not date until I have grown into a man that can support a family.
I needed this right now man, I really needed this. Thankyou.
Between the ages of 23 - 25, I consider myself to have been a weak man during that time. I'd just begun my teaching career in a small town in the middle of nowhere. It was an exhausting, demoralising job and a lot of things went badly outside of work. When I hit a wall in late 2017 and contemplated suicide, I realised things needed to change. It wasn't easy...but it did. 5 years later, I quit a toxic job at the end of 2021 (a school run by a VERY weak man), immediately found well-paying work afterwards and am the happiest I've ever been.
Mark Manson's The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Dr Robert Glover's No More Mr Nice Guy and The Great Courses, all available on Audible, all helped immensely. Bottom line: growth is a choice.
I dated a guy like that once. I saw him explode on twitter because an icon that a friend drew for him had an orange/pink tint to it, and a few people (that i don’t remember their connection to him) started giving him heaps and called him gay and a ranga. Went ballistic and kept replying “I’M NOT A RANGA!!!!!!!”
Funniest shit in retrospective
People who lose their shit over twitter are the funniest cunts out there.
Like dude just fucking log off aye.
Why does the thought of working on The Project bring a shiver down my spine?
Not really in to the whole dating apps thing but I’m excited to be asking women out again, it’s fun.
So far I asked the librarian, she said no, it was pretty funny and I got the number of a random Korean woman when I was walking from TAFE and that was fun. My goal between now and next year is to ask over a hundred women out.
My goal is to get a hundred rejections because that how long it should take to completely eliminate that tiny nervousness I have in asking women out.
If I end up with a girlfriend before then, well I guess that means I have a girlfriend then, don’t it 🎉
I think I struggle with the transition between stoicism and taking it on the chin, and bottling up thoughts and feelings and exuding a general air of petulance. Overall communication is key. There is a difficult balance in having the strength to hold your ground and having the strength to speak your mind when you genuinely have a legitimate grievance. But it takes the most strength and forethought to know when to do which. Must be something that sort of comes with age I guess.
You are so right! My solution was reducing the number of "contacts" in my life, (retiring helped), and this reduced the number of "decisions". I took the opportunity at the beginning of covid, and emailed nearly everyone to tell them I was "dropping out", and would see them on the other-side.(of covid). It is a mine-field!
The number one prescription to fix any weak male is lifting weights. It's the best way to challenge oneself because the challenge of weightlifting is a series of small incremental challenges that accumulate. Almost all of these "weak men" are skinnyfat and pathetic. Lift weights and you will get the confidence you need.
Cant say I agree, been lifting for years. Still hate myself
Some women find gym junkies boring.
@@boltholemuse.2735 I'd say just participating in something greater than the sum of yourself is a great way to get mentally fit.
Idk, go hiking, ride a bike, go swimming, etc.
I love cycling because I can get to where I need to go without paying any money for fuel haha.
I’m lucky in the respect that I feel most comfortable when I’m “Bumping up against someone”. I enjoy the friction. I feel weird around people that agree with me constantly. When I was younger I thought this was a bad thing. Now I’ve embraced it in a healthy way and it’s proven to be advantageous. I need to be fighting against something, and there will always be something worth fighting for.
I completely agree. I work underground in a coal mine in NSW( money is good and setting my self up when 150k annual pay checks are no longer around due to coal not being used, bought my first home etc, refused to get in debt for any thins else than a home loan) . Not the greatest conditions and if you really don’t pay attention or have your head switched on you can be killed easily ( crushed, torn, high pressure injections.. plenty more but that just a few.
When I first started work there I struggled as I was new to the industry, I was almost bullied to the point of either getting the job done right right or fuck right off out of the industry. It made you slow down think and do it right. I thought it was just me, then I realised they did it to everyone. I gritted it out and after about 14 months I became a reliable, competent and trusted worker,
; 99% of the shit I coped stop. But some couldn’t cope and left early or where put in other jobs in the mine that weren’t as high paced... very cushy jobs. I thought it was wrong but I realised this culture weeds out the weak, weeds out the ones that would kill/injure themselves or others through stupidity.
The criticism is full on, more so than any other work force or job... but it’s needed. I enjoyed this video you gave me a new look on that experience.
@Adam Dewhirst I’m much more than a coal miner... you can call me mate. ... not sure if you’re being sarcastic, but I’m just agreeing and confirming his oil rig reference. And the poignancy of this video and the statement.
@@Nedskiee sounds tough as fuck, good on you i say
Fuckin good onya for getting out there and getting shit done mate.
Hey mate, in a similar vain to this video:
How do you be a good person when you're dealing with chronic pain?
I have been dealing with physical pain while I'm waiting for dental surgery that has made me an asshole to deal with lately. Pointers about how to overcome this to be a good person could be super helpful. Thanks as usual for your work
First of all, understand that every that that you get closer to the surgery is one less day you have to feel that pain. Ie, you've got a hard date for when you're going in, that'll help you stick it out further.
Also, letting people know about your pain gives you some leeway too. "Hey, if i come across as a bit of an asshole, i'm dealing with some horrendous dental pain, so i'm sorry about that"
That in and of itself takes a fuckton of courage to admit, and it'll be a test of _their_ character. If people leave you as a result of that admission, that's a weakness in their character and shows their inability to deal with people who are not in the best situation.
But yeah, hopefully you get that dental pain sorted soon man. It sucks, been there, done that, bought the goddamn t-shirt.
@@rtmpgt thanks man! Got it out ages ago. Actually have a video on getting the tooth out if you're curious.
You'll see why it was painful with the thumbnail!
In my last workplace there were a couple of guys like this. One in particular was early 30s and had never had a relationship and was rumoured to be a virgin. He was actually a good-looking guy and I initially found him attractive but his lack of confidence and assertiveness put me off not to mention his lack of experience. I could tell by interacting with him that he was definitely hetero (some men of this age who have never had a relationship with a woman you get a gay vibe from although this is far less common these days with most gay people coming out and being mostly accepted into society) so it was not a 'closet case' situation more so a situation where he had a complete lack of confidence.
if you dish out insults be prepared to take them
2:19 I'm going to clip this out of context
Honestly, this was the wake up I needed
Is it more about learning from the pitfalls and not being scared rather than just not attempting shit at all? Accepting some people might find u weird?
Ugh, this video is so condescending and not helping anyone man.
"Stronger" people can become weak and weaker people can become strong. Sometimes circumstances can change a person. And I don't agree with this overall characterising of people as weak or strong. People can be weaker or stronger in different circumstances, and I don't mean physically, I mean emotionally and mentally. For example, I consider myself as someone who is very emotionally strong for my family when someone dies, but conversely I also sometimes lack motivation and direction. When I have it, I am a leader, passionate about what I do and confident in my abilities, and I believe I am a positive influence to other people. When I am underappreciated or feel taken advantage of (criticism and appreciation are different) I rebel against authority to my own detriment which I see as a weakness because of my lack of control.
My advice/opinion is twofold:
1) that there can be no courage without fear and courage is a form of strength eg: you'll never do that thing you've always wanted to do if you don't ever try
2) the other form of strength is to have enough control to know when to not be courageous or act in anger eg: not letting your pride aggravate a less than ideal situation
You are really looking for a balance of these.
So a mostly weak man then
you sound pretty weak ngl
Can confirm. Butcher shops or meat rooms weed out “weak men” very fucking fast..
...(cough) Matt the editor (cough) ...
doesn't seem like theyre really on good terms after watching this lol
@@typicalhask it's pretty frosty ... bahahaha
Not really. This has been addressed in another thread. It refers to a guy he knew about 8 or so years ago. You gotta remember how long he's been making vids for now!
@@rtmpgt fair duce
@@rtmpgt what thread??? link?
Hey boss, didn’t quite get the ATAR I needed, and knocked me down a little, and although there is still a very clear pathway for me, I’m now wondering if they’re all youthful dreams that will die with age. Any advice on how to manage self-doubt and future goals?
Love your work xx
By the sounds of it you haven't lost interest in this youthful dream, so pursue it. It's natural to question them, but if you don't have any strong feelings that it's not your path then you should stay on that path. If it is a youthful dream, that motivation will help you maintain perseverance. It will only die if you allow it to die, and you'll likely regret that you did.
Book recommendation: The Laws of Human Nature, by Robert Greene.
those dudes were railway workers... shout out to the RTBU.
Needed this today man. Thank you. Well said.
very insightful, much love to you
For reasons I control and don't control I relate to this video too much...
I love exchanging dark humor insults with my closest family and friends but at the same time also try being that sensitive upright religious man... strange paradox?
Will definitely make the effort to challenge myself physically and socially this year! Time to review good ol' Jordan Peterson vids and reading! Thanks for the vid Jordies :)
Being supposedly weak is only a problem for other people. For the person, it's how they are. Working for a comedian isn't a military operation, so riding on a guy isn't necessary.
Not really. A weak man will never become what he could be and is doomed to a life of mediocrity and disappointment. That's a personal problem in my book.
I got a bumble ad right as Jordies said to use a dating app. Well played
my brother hasn't had a girlfriend in ages & his last gf was going through divorce & wanted him to give $10k to help her, the other ones had really protective 'be at home by 9pm' parents. He keeps saying he is focusing on buying a house, COVID-19 & doesn't want a relationship ATM. What should I tell him to do? I keep saying to use bumble and persevere but its been 1 year & he has gotten no where. He's 29
Jordie, what's your workout routine? asking for a friend...
he eats a fuckton of greens iirc
he eats lettuce in a bag like potato chips
Just pure soy straight into the bloodstream!
@@CODMODDERZ360 hey, there's no soy in those Coles salad bags. Just baby spinach and rocket babay!
Black men NEED you.Lord do they need you
this video hits waaaay to close to home.
35 and have been single my whole life and not from a lack of trying. For years I have felt this is just the fact I am pretty ugly and my parents didn't really have the money to sort it out in my teens and I've never made enough money to try and fix those little issues (although I am planning to see a dentist again after a few years ago seeing one and basically being told they can't straighten my teeth because they don't know which ones need to come out first because i have a few extra teeth). More recently I think it may be more to do with the fact that I am not predictable because most men you can please with just beers and titties and letting them watch sport on a Sunday afternoon.
As to work, I've walked away from 3 jobs in 15 years because I was getting paid less to do more and despite asking for help or trying to make life easier by pointing out problems, nothing came from it and so I could either work my hand to the bone for less money than what others who are doing less work are receiving or walk away and apparently be cheered on by those who remain in the company (well some of them) because they know I am right. So now I work for me (could change if something that wasn't just another admin job where upon realising how hard I work, eases up on everyone else because I am apparently here to take on the greatest burden and then call me a genius even though what I am doing is the exact opposite because a genius would be at the top issuing the orders, not at the bottom taking them)
Build on "working for me". It seems you could be very successful.
Yeah, I found my partner mostly by concentrating on improving myself after a pretty raucous breakup from a long-term relationship I had.
People naturally come to you when you focus on improving yourself, for the sake of yourself and not for the sake of anyone else.
HEY! It's not that we don't like to have a girlfriend... But we are all in for arranged marriages.
Jordan nose is really polished compared to the rest of his face
Love the vid tho mate, spot on.
I'm here for the Jordan Petersen impersonations
Talk about how self improvement is shitty
Well it's not that I don't want to sleep around because who doesn't like sex but it's about being a high value male and just setting up my life so nothing bites me on the ass later on right now having a girlfriend isn't a must for me right now
Eh, you do you. Mental toughness is basically about carving your own path and having the confidence to deal with your choices.
@@rtmpgt well I believe in stoicism so yeah
I can’t be the only one who noticed that head shake that he kept doing
Hello Jordan: I am one of the least "alpha" males you could possibly meet. However, I am great one for talking risks. In the early 2000's I was desperate for a job. When a job came up in Tokyo, I grabbed it. The hotel I stayed in when I first arrived had the restaurant on the top floor. On the first morning I was there, I looked out over the huge expanse of Tokyo and thought, "I have to build a life for myself in this place." I almost literally pooped my pants. While it was incredibly hard and lonely, 18 months later, I had created a life for myself. I came back a vastly stronger and better person. It was one of the best things I have ever done.
The future really does belong to risk takers.
So....you 'built a life for yourself in Tokyo', and left in 18 months......?
The fact that you managed to build a life for yourself in one of the most hostile environments to foreigners (honestly, Japan's a really hard place to live for foreigners due to a massive distrust of anyone other than Japanese in their society) is a massive fucking achievement in and of itself. You should try it again.
Joran Shanks: Disgruntled employee = self help lesson Yayyyyy!
Hey I like your title! You seem like my kinda guy! Hope you let me make your life heaps better ( I promise! ) You seem so confident and strong 💯🤪😍
Likability is literally crucial to survival. So get good.
Way to cut me like a knife. Gonna go eat some ice cream now. I can't believe I pay this man.
I disagree with your first point jordies, theres a difference between "ribbing between colleagues" and "being a shitcunt" and making everyone miserable. Whilst i agree that there are situations and circumstances where you either take the opportunities before you and with that comes risk, conflict etc or you fade into non-existence. But telling coworkers or colleagues that behaviour is not something you like is setting boundaries. Which, if you have issues with communication or public presence, is super important to being able to function within an environment that has issues or things that you dont agree with.
The mentality of "oh its just a joke, calm down, you cant hack it, just harden up mate." Is fucking toxic and often only present as a defensive mechanism either to safeguard individuals against toxicity or to retroactively allow groups to belittle individuals (how often has someone been a total knob to you under the guise of "its just a joke bro!" And either attempted to use that to remove consequences or flat out succeed in avoiding consequences?)
Big miss with some of the messages in here jordies, differing opinions are good but i feel youre off base with this one man.
u sounding kinda weak here bro
@@ruckuserizm elaborate?
Nailed it. ✅ ✅ ✅ yes yes yes yes yes
He means weak people in general he means people who are cowardly,deceitful who don't really stand on their own two feet. He basically says weak people eventually begin to hate and manipulate and seek their revenge where they can because they have let things go and never really taken responsibly.
No.
A lot of banter can be the higher ups passing their bad moods and emotions onto the lower downs.
Either way, how you act perpetuates your environments. If you want banter then banter, if you want respect then demand respect.
Fuck banter, your words are boring, show me something cool.
Respect is earned, not demanded
@@ChillyBite Not always.
@@kurenai5000 If you give your respect to people who demand it, you will end up respecting people who don't deserve it.
@@ChillyBite You're implying I do.
Idk if this makes me a weak man but I’ll be quite my job soon cause other older guys want me to do stuff for them and are rude to me and when I stand up for Myself they get mad and don’t talk to me and I’m never on my phone constantly looking for something to do at my job if I’m wrong I’m open to some criticism just wanted to share
If they stop talking to you that is good....let them leave you alone. Are you some kind of masochist....?
This is the first time I've said - yeah, nah. Your argument, in summary, 'if you don't go along with peer pressure, you're weak' based on the very narrow scope of "I know someone who...."
I know someone who was that "weak" teen became a very successful and attractive public speaker. That well-rounded human being can develop - they don't 'just take it'.
Not liking your idea of joking around isn't weakness. Comedy is subjective. You probably wouldn't like their idea of joking around either. Different tribes have different needs.
Not the point of the video obviously but, considering you repeated it like 10 times felt it necessary to point that not everyone is looking for the "opposite sex" in potential relationships, Jords.
Man I gotta get back into Racing. Man's gotta try take a State Title at some point.
jordan forgetting gay people exist for 13 minutes
I have learned I can't manage a relationship and also manage to be financially successful to the level that I want.
I chose finance and in the span of a single year I went from 7k in savings and investments to 115k. I'm pretty happy with my choice so far. plus I don't want kids so telling a girl in her 30's that right out the gate results 90% of the time in not getting a 2nd date. it's fine, I will just cry into my wads of cash lol
@Adam Dewhirst it's just reality really. if in my case you want to become a millionaire by 40 you have to be willing to give up on shit.
there is a reason why Michael Jordan was a great basketball player and just an ok baseball player. if you want to be in that top 1% you have to fully commit to it. Jordan couldn't fully commit to baseball because that would require him getting a time machine and going back to the point in his teenage years and picking baseball first over basketball if he wanted to be a great baseball player, but the catch would be if the became a great baseball player if he tried to switch to basketball mid career it would have failed too because he would have lost all those development years to baseball.
sometimes you just have to pick a path. if you keep trying to do both you end up being mediocre at both things
Investment in general, regardless of your instrument is basically all about calculated risk taking. Whether you invest time or money or effort, it's all a risk, some risks cost more and some risks cost less. Depends what you're willing to tolerate really.
What about now bruz?
@@kevinsmithfan37 lol crypto bro. How's that working out for you. Get a real skill
@@Stanthemilkman I was a multi millionaire for a very brief period in November-Dec. now I have a net worth of about 700-750k. so yeah, been better, been worse.
I'm having trouble finding passion in my life. Feels like I've been this way forever though... I have some stuff I'm interested in, but nothing that I could play off for a career.
Background, 29year old Aussie, moved to Canada for a change and a chance to try something different, was in construction for 10 years, now I'm in manufacturing.
It's nice to have change, but I just can't figure out where or what I want to do. I realize it's a broad issue and I'm sure sitting down and talking shit out with someone may make a difference. But it just goes full circle.
I have tried different industries, not just construction and manufacturing, just to see if I like it, and I find my self, not minding things, or they are "okay".
TLDR: no passion in life, feels like something is wrong with me, help me Obi-Wan Kenobi, you're my only hope! (Not really, but the meme's!).
Sounds like you're clinically depressed my guy, go see a therapist. You can't take this on alone :)
Jordan clearly referencing certain journalists
yilmaZ broke the stack
Honestly i don't think the actual situation itself matters when it comes to defining weak behaviour, there's nothing wrong with having your own boundaries and enforcing them, regardless of the situation. What matters is *how* and why you enforce your boundaries
What makes you look weak is what your underlying motivation is. If you're not taking risks because, in some way, you're scared of looking stupid or avoiding rejection or judgement then that's weak.
If you're making decisions on your own values, then it's fine. If you're only making decisions it to fit in the group, maintain or seek approval, or out of your own insecurity or lack of confidence then *that's* weak.
Doing things for yourself in line with your principles is what's strong, and that motivation is what separates percieved "weak" behaviour from confident behaviour, and that will come out in how you conduct yourself.
I’ve been in work groups like that and been the one who goes along and the one who can’t take criticism. There is however, a fine line between criticism and bullying in today’s workplace.
The line is not as fine as you make it sound. It's quite a clear line, in fact.
Bullies are weak individuals who use intimidation to hold onto power lest a stronger, more apt individual outclasses them.
What would be considered risk-taking behaviour? For example, I spent half my years income on researching an ambitious project. It's a solid risk as I could be caught out with no free cash, but I'm confident enough in myself for me to not feel as if I'm taking a risk. On the other hand, if I was less confident, it would be a negative trait, but the risk taking is a positive trait? I feel like the only real difference is knowledge.
So, in essence, what's stronger? Self confidence with a lack of risk, or risk taking with a lack of confidence?
Researching a project isn't doing work or risk taking.
Sack up and go for it
Guys who don't get women wait for the women to come to them because they're too scared to make a move. This is due to fear of rejection. In turn, they go to dating apps and don't get the women they want from there and they grow resentful.
_"Stupid bitches, all they want are good looking guys who have a lot of money and treat them like shit"_ - The "nice guy" mentality.
These same men have female friends who they orbit for months or years before dropping the _"Hey I liked you all along, let's go on a date"_ bombshell. Little do they know that they were firmly placed into the friendzone from day 1 or 2 and she isn't interested. More resentment grows.
I'm no Casanova, but a few things I've learned and changed in my life are quitting porn, learning to abstain and extensively researching women, men and relationship advice.
- Quitting porn means you should also quit following hot women on Instagram/social media. This means the only hot women you should be seeing are out on the streets or in pubs/clubs.
- Abstaining drives you crazy because it forces you to want to go out an meet women. How else are you gonna get off?
- Knowing where you came from as man in previous generations and where women came from helps better understand what women like/don't like.
Things like meditation and killing your ego go a long way as well. The guy who goes to the club and leans up against the wall trying to look cool just looks weird. The guy who's having a good fucking time dancing, smiling and chatting to everyone is a much more attractive prospect.
Your a good man jordan.... you shouldve put this on your main chanell as why bruz is a weak carnt 😆👍
Only Alpha men wear their business class PJs in public
This was some good shit
"If you don't have interactions with the opposite sex"... What about the same sex O.O
I love your stuff, but I kinda get a personal vendetta on this one. Which is fair enough from the limited knowledge I have on the situation.
How much does the job pay and what is the skill set required? Besides not being a "weak man". 😊
Imagine not referring to Kane and Able once during your lecturer on the dangers of children with dyed hair
As I watch this further. I realise that I’m that guy right now. At this moment, I’m a fucking loser. I have abysmal stress tolerance. I still deeply fear failure and rejection. I’m 20 in May and I want great things from my life, things that are really fucking risky but I’m going to have to think deeply about my life. I hope I can figure it out one day. Even as I right this, I’m terrified about posting this