Not exactly the "reset" I intended, but maybe we don't have to always be "behind". Maybe we get to create our own momentum. Sending you all the good vibes if your year didn't start off the way you hoped! We got this!!!
So far the year has felt like a giant reminder that I'll "never" be able to x, y and z. But I'm choosing to look at it differently - as a reminder of all I'm already doing, congratulating myself for that, and looking to the rest of the year as if I'm building a bridge. One brick (or habit) at a time. Once I do that, the burden of expectation dissolves and I feel free to just DO the things I need to. Thanks for the video! It was perfectly timed and so deeply needed by so many of us. Hugs and love!
Thank you for doing this! I got sick last week and am so brain fogged I don't know when I will feel like me again. The shame spiral has been pretty intense. I really appreciate your offering such an open honest video on this. P.S. we didn't even do a tree this year cause it's in storage and we kept forgetting to go get it. But I've known folks who just kept tree up year round and changed decorations for each holiday so don't feel bad *hugs*
There are plenty of "new years" sprinkled across the Gregorian calendar when you look at other cultures or traditions. Beyond Jan 1st - there's the Lunar New Year which starts on Jan 22nd in 2023. April 1st/Q2, Beltane, equinox, or Nouruz are all springtime fresh starts too if you need them to be.
I did manage a new vision board this year and at the top it says: _A plan is just a rough draft. The goal is to edit as you go. To Think. To engage. Don't stick to it ... work it_ . This has given me such mental ease. Also, I'm a trad pubbed author who just got rights back to 9 (!!!) novels so P&T is so timely. Our mutual friend Rachael Herron speaks highly of it, and you, so I can't wait to learn the indie biz from you.
"No plan survives first contact with the enemy." The real brilliance is in being able to flex and adjust when "the enemy" (whatever form that takes) impacts our plan. Great video, Sarra! These are perfect tips for being able to flex and move forward with intention and momentum! Thanks so much as always!
Such a mentally healthy and strong approach! Why allow yourself to feel overwhelmed because your kids got sick? That deprived you of the same comfortable run-up to the New Year reset that everyone gets on 1 January, but you couldn't control that, and I love that you are telling yourself you're exactly where you're meant to be. Because you are! And you deserve a pat on the back for keeping all those balls in the air at the same time. Thank you for this excellent reminder.
I have really bad depression. I live in a group home so I don't get the fresh start I've had in 2 yrs, I haven't written in the 2 yrs but I found how much I liked another hobby and relaxing into has made me think of characters and that helps with settings and setting will lead to plots
I felt the same way about my tree being up, unlit, I decorated, but still up. It was driving me crazy! But I got going and took it down, and got the restart. You CAN restart whenever you need to!!!
First part of the year started out with a mercury retrograde the redo, rethink, reprioritize vibe. So the slow starts where completely normal for soooo many of us.
My tree is still up, too! Just like you I got the ornaments down, but the tree is still haunting me...haha. 😄 Don't feel alone. You're living your life, and you can't do it all. Fresh starts can happen at any point. You've got this!
Thank you so much Sarra! I needed to hear this today. My last week of Q4 and first 2 weeks of Q1 were NOT what they were supposed to be. Urgh. But like you said, we get to choose. I'm going to give myself grace and plan for a time to do that reset when I can. Oh, yeah on the "I don't have to do absolutely everything when I put an arbitrary date on it." Jeeez. Wrote down "Remember to allow yourself to receive joy no matter how few things you've checked off."
In true alignment with this video, I’m watching it in April because I haven’t been keeping up with UA-cam! The end really stuck with me: what do you have that 5 years ago you were only dreaming about? And what could you have in 5 years?! Love that!
Holy moly. You just explained EXACTLY why I have been in the rut since Christmas. I went away this year, and I was not at home, getting ready for the new year. I do have a lot of projects in the air, and I know I need to work on getting things done. But I have been dragging my feet ever since we got back from a lovely holiday at my Mother in Law's. Yes, it was very relaxing until we were getting ready to leave. Then it was kind of rush to get ready to go home, but not me, at my pace, and it really threw me off my game. I am just now getting back into the swing of things. No blame, just a realization. That and missing my family so much. I have only seen one part of my family since 2019, and I am REALLY needing to get to see them. It is going to be so nice to get together in August. But I can't just plan for the trip only. I need to start taking action, and this is what I am doing. Knowing why I have been so far off my game helps put a different perspective on it. I need to reset myself before I can fully be present in August with my family. This is just what I needed today. Thank you!
I had a bit of a moment today when I noticed I was anxious about something but could not figure out why. Then i realized I was anxious about future tasks instead of just focusing on the current one. I took a 15 minute break then came back to it refreshed and focused.
I love this, a beautiful reminder to be kind to yourself. I think having compassion for yourself is something most of us need to embrace. I've been telling myself this month to remember that you once dreamed of being where you are now. ♡
I posted a day or two ago about some planning I've been putting off. It's a planner that I want to start where i corral all the tutorials and courses and master classes and ebooks that I buy and don't finish. I want to use this traditional planner the way a student uses a planner, setting up days for which "courses" I'm working on right now. The goal is that having this written down somewhere will help prevent me from starting something new and shiny before I've finished the last thing. And I'm gonna eat this book up TODAY. No more excuses. :) I'm gonna take it out with me, sit down, do the brainstorming I need to make this happen, and start setting plans for the year.
My tree stays up till Candlemas (2/2/23) every year so not behind on that, but yes this is exactly how I feel - pushed and really scattered, so thank you for this, and helping pull me out of it!
This is exactly what I needed. My beginning of the year was full of fear and uncertainty. I started chemo Jan 3 (I have Lupus) and have spent the past 5 weeks in and out of the hospital, doctor's office, blood lab, etc. It didn't feel like a fresh start; January felt overwhelming and uncertain. I'm 5 weeks in now and seeing the light at the end of my tunnel. No writing got done. No Q1 planning. No SM posts were completed. All I did was sit and let medical poison do its job. I listened to true crime podcasts and crocheted. I rested when I needed to. I was quiet and soft and gentle with myself. I'm so glad you posted this because that negative voice in my head was trying to tell me that I had already failed. The truth is, it is never too late to start. I'm not behind. I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be. ❤️ Thank you, Sarah. This video is giving me life.
It's been a rough start for me too. I tested positive for COVID on Christmas Eve. I still don't feel well. I'm just taking one day at a time right now. Great video! Thank you. 🙂I'm looking forward to the Publish & Thrive reboot. It helped me so much last year.
I've been slow on the draw to get much done. I swear I look at things that need done and my brain just goes 'nope' and I find something else to do. A good reset may be what I need.
Rest and restart when your heart is up to it. Noone should tell you to reset and restart when they set a time.Sometimes talking through an experience is good thank you for your feelings thoughts and advice,
Oh my, I too was sick the week of Christmas. My poor hubby, Cliff had to make Rosalee's birthday cake because I couldn't get out of bed. Wrapping presents was done on my bed with me wrapped up in the blankets. I so feel you. Then I got better for Rosalee and Cliff got sick.
I'm going to sit down with some green tea (I'm doing a 3 day fast) and do my journals and planners I got tons of washi tape pens and stickers. It will be fun I just haven't sat down to do it. If I wake up in the wrong "headspace" I usually sit outside in the fresh air and make a playlist put on my wireless headphones 🎧🎶 and start over. It usually works. 💞
It took me about a week of January to finish setting up my regular planner, but there's some things I want to plan that I STILL haven't really started.
I can relate! With Mars and Mercury in retrograde, it's been a slow start for me too! I'll be participating in the Writers retreat weekend and finalizing my manuscript by 1/31 so my reset will be Feb 1st.
Absolutely what I needed to hear. Cleaned out and reorganized my office. Now I'm feeling the fresh vibes. It's comforting to know I'm not the only one with a difficult start to 2023.
Still working on the bootcamp course from December. I've made it to day 5. Also went out of town after Christmas so I missed that "reset week" too. Thank you for this video.
I started my new year with your virtual writing retreat and it went way better than I had expected. So I am very happy to finally be on the right track again and it's all thanks to you!
Instead of crossing things off my to do list, I like to highlight them to show that they are done. I can even put down the date and time that I completed them, if I like, so that I know what's been done and when. Then, whatever is NOT highlighted, sticks out like a sore thumb to remind me to get it done. Also, if I do this in a particular program, such a Notion, I can move around what has not been completed from one place to another so that I know all past pages are done, and I'm only working on the ones coming up. I used this method when I was in college. by just highlighting whatever was on my syllabus (not when I completed it, but once I handed it in). I also added those assignments to my school calendar so that I knew what was coming up in each class. I was always ahead on my assignments because I did them in the order in which they were due.
I absolutely love your Notion colour scheme! And also so excited for your Notion video, literally my WHOLE life is in Notion, and I've actually been looking for a way to implement your system into Notion. So happy you'll help with that ☺️ 💕
We had a very similar experience this year, Sarra. Worst colds we have ever had. I basically put everything on hold and am now going through my plans and whittling them down to accommodate the days we lost.
I did my plan, I set my goals, I was set for a good year, and then I found out some news that was a surprise but not unwanted. I need to have a little more info before I change things up, but yeah my year is starting with a bumpy road.
I just want to say that I think that you are amazing. I watch all your videos and I have become addicted to stickers, notebooks and stationary. I use it to relax. I also have followed your program to work on the outline for my series and novels that I am working on. I understand how you feel about missing the best fresh start. I also fell behind this new years. I have decided to "restart" in February. I work at Sam's club and they start their year in February and they also break up the year into quarters. (That's another reason I relate to your videos.) I hope you and the family feel better and thank you for what you do.
Yes! This week is my reset week, through the end of this weekend. I just could not get motivated while the Christmas decorations were still hanging around. As soon as I got it all taken down and put away last Sunday...relief! I started the next day getting things back in order. So, like you said, I've just been doing micro resets here and there all week. May stop by the writing retreat while I'm working on plotting notes. Thanks for always being both inspiring and a cheerleader...and good luck with your reset. 💜
I watched this...didn't think it applied to me...but then multiple times in the last couple of days, I think about this: just because I didn't get "it all" done doesn't mean that I'm "behind." I guess I really needed to hear that and didn't even realize it. I hope anyone else who needed to hear that too, really HEARD it and will remember it. Thanks Sarra.
There’s always room for a fresh start! It’s a mindset that isn’t determined by a date on the calendar. There’s a newness to every day, there are new and full moons, there are Mondays…so many opportunities to take advantage of. 😊
my xmas tree is also still up - fully decorated and all and I don't let myself feel bad about it. Its dreary as heck outside and that small little 4 foot tree with its shiny glass ornaments and twinkling lights is the perfect pick-me-up every evening when I'm done with the day and sit down to read or relax or just veg out with some tv.
I SO want a Notion setup like this. I’ve started but WOAH there’s a learning curve to it. Looking forward to your detailed walkthrough of your Notion workspace.
I was full of big plans to start my youtube channel in January...then my dog suddenly sprouted a belly full of pups, and my sons operation that's been pushed back for 18 months got scheduled for next week 😱 I did start my tiktok though so, yay! 😆 I really enjoy these videos. I'm not even a writer, but I LOVE your channel, haha!
I had goals and knew they weren't going to get started right on January 1, my mom was still here and even at the beginning of February we have a big shake up at work and my hours may change. Now....I could keep pushing and pushing but my word of the year is Progress so even baby steps count.
My friend just died at the age of. 40, and i am living the delay because I don’t want to do anything at all! I am eating bad and gained all the weight i lost. 😢 i am struggling to do everything…. My anxiety is heightened again. I feel like I am crumbling but will try the micro- successes today. I already done 3 things off my morning routine and with some “islamic meditation” ( saying لا حول و لا قوة الا بالله)i can do this. Thank u very much for another real video.
I feel this. I didn’t get the started due to a family emergency that has long-term effects on my productivity. So my new plan is to get ONE video up & use February 1st as my actual “reset.” Life happened & I can’t let it ruin another minute of my life.
I appreciate this video, as I am in the same boat. It is the momentum that feels different. However, having a reset every three months on the date you choose is the beauty of a “12-week year!” Thanks for the pep talk! And I am so glad to know I’m not alone. My reset begins on January 23.
You are not alone!! its been a tough January and from what I understand, astrologically, the planets held many of us in limbo for the first few weeks of January but should be much better going forward
Thank you. I'm finding myself really having to question it a lot, like is this real? Or am I punishing myself? Or just falling into old habits of hustle?
@@HeartBreathings I saw it for myself as a multi-layered set of questions. 1. Is this something I am putting on myself (like you said in the video)? Then can I change the timing or the content of the stress? 2. Is this a true "deadline/emergency/etc" coming either from me or from the outside? Family, illness, etc - Move the priority up, and see if I can get help with it. 3. Is this something being put on me, and can I delegate it to someone else, or even say "no". Day job boss, volunteer jobs, etc - sometimes no is the best answer. 4. Is this even a thing? Is it my anxiety/worry/perfectionism making up problems that don't even exist? 5. Is this something that I could actually accomplish in 5-10 minutes? Set a timer and find out! 6. Am I hungry, thirsty, tired, hurting? Take care of the need, and that stress may go away, or at least be dealable with. I don't have the Hustle habit, nor do I usually punish myself (usually)...but these other questions are my "interview ideas", now. Other people may have other questions that they need to ask the stress, instead.
You're always so real about what your life is actually like, rather than cutting out anything that isn't Instagram-perfect. It gives me hope that my hot-mess self can have the life of my dreams, too.
Normally my Christmas decor is away on Boxing Day. This year it’s likely to be up till feb. that’s ok. It’s a super busy year away from the house. So home life is welcome to be slow. It’s time needed to be spent with family that is normally put off because I’m busy. This is the year to slow track. I have already seen that path and that’s ok. Because life will get busy, and stressful this year. So the slow home life is sooo needed. Don’t be hard on you. Be graceful for you.
Thank you for this! I had surgery on January 4, so my year can't start until I have recovered my brain cells! I have been feeling "behind", so appreciate your video. I am where I am supposed to be.
I feel like this video is likely more beneficial now than the 1st because from what I've read most people have given up on all their January 1st goals by now so it's the perfect time to reset.
This video resonated with me so much. I'm from Ukraine and so there is a war going on in my country, I relocated to Thailand for winter to keep working fulltime without electricity blackouts. But I've moved from winter climate to summer and in general this whole thing really messed up my perception of time, I feel like I'm stuck in one moment but the world around me moves on. It didn't even feel like Christmas or New year, I didn't celebrate, didn't make a year wrap up or plan for the next one. And now I really want to catch up but it feels too late. My kanban board is back at home and I miss it dearly and I'm just drifting here. But your video gave me some hope to reset and keep trying to reach my goals, thank you!
Definitely resonates with me, I feel like I put myself back to square one with setting up goals and systems for this year.... I'm trying to institute too many habits at once. Looking forward to P&T and HB90! 💖
When we decided to move to SC from NC, we decided to get rid of a lot of stuff that we'd been hanging onto forever. Since we've been in SDC, we've continued to get rid of lots of stuff. I find this to be an allegory? of my life right now. that the more we (my husband and I) get rid of, the more we can hone in on the things we need to do and the things we need to let go of. Hope that makes sense.
Thank you so much for this! This month was way busier than I expected so I feel behind already, but this is helping so much. And it also helps to know I'm not alone.
I'm glad I came across this video! My year hasn't started off the way I wanted as I'm in a place in my life that isn't ideal. Your video gave me a little more hope to take my life into my hands. I needed to see this. I've been beating myself up cause I want to start on my writing journey but I've been feeling super behind
This happened to me both last year and this year. Last year,myself and my daughter got covid right before Christmas. I was down until about 1 week into the new year. This year, we traveled to visit family and we came back about a week into the new year. I had a great, productive year last year. One thing that helped me was that I read the 12 week year right before I was ill. It helped me to see that the dates and deadlines that we set are completely arbitrary. I know that when I start my systems and routines, I will be well on my way to a great, productive year.
I needed this video today! I have been giving myself crap because I haven't done the goal setting that I was hoping too because I have been doing other important things. It's so true that we put our own list and then we become slaves to those.... instead of just realizing that the list doesn't control us we control the list!
I had a stressful few hours when I really wanted to be working on writing tasks that adult stuff took over. Hate it. I wanted to watch a Sarra's video. I even mentioned it during Diane's Sprint. I needed this. Thanks. We are never behind💓
This is appropriately timed. I thought I would get my second book in my series completely plotted by the end of Q4 and be drafting it in Q1, but my health didn’t allow me to get much done with plotting that book in December. Plus, I also realized a couple big changes that need to be made to book one, plus some other details that don’t work in book one, so I’m researching and plotting by hand every plot detail of book one so I can rewrite it and then find beta readers for it. Once book one’s third draft is done, I will move back to plotting book two and then draft that book. Shortly after nanowrimo ended last year I learned a great way for me to plot novels so I can hopefully avoid having multiple rewrites, but all in all I’m happy for the lessons I’ve learned since I started drafting book one of my series until now. I was new to novel writing when I first started this book series and I have learned so much about writing and learned multiple life lessons. Thanks for sharing this video to remind me to not stress out too much about things not happening the way I would’ve preferred initially for them to. Sometimes when we want something to go a certain way and it doesn’t, the way it went was a lot better than what we thought we wanted.
This came at such a perfect time. I have been in the exact same situation: I felt like I "missed the momentum" of new-years. THANK YOU SO MUCH! You are my biggest inspiration these days
Hi, Sarra, This video has helped me so much! I had been thinking that this is the second time I've 'messed up' my HB90 schedule and I'm behind - again. I've been quietly mentally punishing myself up for not getting started when I was supposed to. This video was made just for me. 😄 'A plan is just an intention of how we hope it's going to go'. Thank you for the advice and for sharing your personal journeys. I feel a lot clearer - and have a much lighter mindset about it all. I've set my intentions and have created a better personal mental space in which to carry them out. 💖
Thx Sarra - so happy to have found you around last October. I’m a CliftonStrengths Context>Learner so it’s taken me forever to process and consider and massage your wonderful HeartBreathings plan to make it what will work for me, but today I’m putting PostIts for 1Q/2023 on my Kanban (I’m an analog person for stuff like this) and I decided that my quarter starts on Monday (happy birthday), which makes it a tidy 10-week quarter. Congrats on pushing 61k subscribers and best wishes always. You’re appreciated.
As always, you are a wonderful blend of inspiration and comfort. ❤ Thank you. You ARE right on time. I’m proud of you for working on believing this, and grateful to you for reminding me to believe it, too. Lastly- that color looks lovely on you. :) That Christmas tree? Just a hit of nature indoors. ;) 🌲 ❤
Thank you so much for this. I fell Christmas morning and fractured my knee. I haven’t been able to catch up since. This is my very first HB 90 planning quarter as well so I am trying to give myself grace while I turn this ship!!
I wasn’t able to reset but I wrote with colored markers a few words for each day on our wall calendar. I’m going to photograph, print out and paste into my planner because it’s a creative way to honor those days (even if one day just says, sleepy 😂).
My word for 2023 is "progress,." Every small step forward is progress and something to be celebrated. If that one step is simply getting out of bed, I'll take it and be thankful! My year began with covid so I definitely understand getting a later reset than preferred. That's OK! Every morning is a good time for a new reset, or for that matter, every Thursday at 11:06 p.m. if that's what works for someone. Why not? I wish you a very happy birthday and a great time at Disney next week. January is a wonderful month! My grandson's birthday was Jan. 7 and mine is Jan. 25.
THANK YOU very much!! I always find you inspiring but this video in particular was very much needed here. My brother passed away 10 days ago and that totally unbalanced me. I just don't seem to find a good reason to keep going with my work and my plans. After seeing your video I decided to give myself some time and to set a new "New Year's" to start over 2023. It'll do me much good, so thank you, thank you!! You never know whom you may reach with your videos and how much you can help. May your year be blessed and full of joy
This really resonated with me as someone who started January behind right off the bat. It’s so easy to get down on ourselves for not being prepped and ready for a fresh start on January 1st. But what really got my attention was when you said “is this serving me?” And the answer is clearly no. So I have shifted my “new year” to February 1st and that’s okay. Thank you for a much needed and timely video ❤
This totally resonates with me! We got a puppy in December and that has flipped my whole world upside down. And honesty I’m grieving my old life. Super cute pup. But I need to get my groove back!
This happened to me last April. My pup is coming up on a year, and if you told me a mere dog would have upended so much (esp. mentally) I would have laughed. So I feel you!
Thank you for this positive and motivating video! My reset date is Feb 4th and I’m excited for it! Right now it’s daily lists in my Hibonichi Days-Free, and this is also fun and workable, although not quite what I need to happen to keep to my goals on track.
Your videos are always on point and exactly what I need to hear. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. I have ADHD and find your videos super helpful when I feel overwhelmed. I’d love to learn more about Notion, I’ve been leaning into digital planning and that looks amazing for wrangling all the things!
I'm starting Q1 this year but haven't been on top of it so far in January. A lot has happened in my life so far and has been super busy. I got married in January so I'm going to be organising my HB90 soon and get myself into a routine before my kids return to school end of this month.
Not exactly the "reset" I intended, but maybe we don't have to always be "behind". Maybe we get to create our own momentum. Sending you all the good vibes if your year didn't start off the way you hoped! We got this!!!
So far the year has felt like a giant reminder that I'll "never" be able to x, y and z. But I'm choosing to look at it differently - as a reminder of all I'm already doing, congratulating myself for that, and looking to the rest of the year as if I'm building a bridge. One brick (or habit) at a time. Once I do that, the burden of expectation dissolves and I feel free to just DO the things I need to. Thanks for the video! It was perfectly timed and so deeply needed by so many of us. Hugs and love!
Thank you for doing this! I got sick last week and am so brain fogged I don't know when I will feel like me again. The shame spiral has been pretty intense. I really appreciate your offering such an open honest video on this.
P.S. we didn't even do a tree this year cause it's in storage and we kept forgetting to go get it. But I've known folks who just kept tree up year round and changed decorations for each holiday so don't feel bad *hugs*
There are plenty of "new years" sprinkled across the Gregorian calendar when you look at other cultures or traditions. Beyond Jan 1st - there's the Lunar New Year which starts on Jan 22nd in 2023. April 1st/Q2, Beltane, equinox, or Nouruz are all springtime fresh starts too if you need them to be.
I did manage a new vision board this year and at the top it says: _A plan is just a rough draft. The goal is to edit as you go. To Think. To engage. Don't stick to it ... work it_ . This has given me such mental ease.
Also, I'm a trad pubbed author who just got rights back to 9 (!!!) novels so P&T is so timely. Our mutual friend Rachael Herron speaks highly of it, and you, so I can't wait to learn the indie biz from you.
"Colorful ghosts of goals past." Best line ever! So true! Love shifting mindset to being positive instead of stuck or behind.
That line hit me right in the feels.
A true testament to Sarra’s brilliance
Becca Syme said recently - and I had to laugh so hard, I wrote it down - "Calendars are just a guideline. Today is MY new year." So true.
Becca Syme is so Awesome.
"No plan survives first contact with the enemy." The real brilliance is in being able to flex and adjust when "the enemy" (whatever form that takes) impacts our plan. Great video, Sarra! These are perfect tips for being able to flex and move forward with intention and momentum! Thanks so much as always!
Haha, yes so true!
I agree. You have to create your momentum. I know the calendar new begins on January 1st, but my new year begins in my birthday month, March. 😄
I needed to hear this! Looking forward to the Notion walkthrough! 💖
Such a mentally healthy and strong approach! Why allow yourself to feel overwhelmed because your kids got sick? That deprived you of the same comfortable run-up to the New Year reset that everyone gets on 1 January, but you couldn't control that, and I love that you are telling yourself you're exactly where you're meant to be. Because you are! And you deserve a pat on the back for keeping all those balls in the air at the same time. Thank you for this excellent reminder.
I have really bad depression. I live in a group home so I don't get the fresh start I've had in 2 yrs, I haven't written in the 2 yrs but I found how much I liked another hobby and relaxing into has made me think of characters and that helps with settings and setting will lead to plots
I felt the same way about my tree being up, unlit, I decorated, but still up. It was driving me crazy! But I got going and took it down, and got the restart. You CAN restart whenever you need to!!!
First part of the year started out with a mercury retrograde the redo, rethink, reprioritize vibe. So the slow starts where completely normal for soooo many of us.
My tree is still up, too! Just like you I got the ornaments down, but the tree is still haunting me...haha. 😄 Don't feel alone. You're living your life, and you can't do it all. Fresh starts can happen at any point. You've got this!
Thank you so much Sarra! I needed to hear this today. My last week of Q4 and first 2 weeks of Q1 were NOT what they were supposed to be. Urgh. But like you said, we get to choose. I'm going to give myself grace and plan for a time to do that reset when I can. Oh, yeah on the "I don't have to do absolutely everything when I put an arbitrary date on it." Jeeez. Wrote down "Remember to allow yourself to receive joy no matter how few things you've checked off."
In true alignment with this video, I’m watching it in April because I haven’t been keeping up with UA-cam! The end really stuck with me: what do you have that 5 years ago you were only dreaming about? And what could you have in 5 years?! Love that!
I think youyou have some good reasons to be offline lately haha. Hope you are settling in well after the move!
I love this ! Yes we get to be the ones to decide. Sometimes we put too much pressure on ourselves. I feel you on this so much! I love this!!
Holy moly. You just explained EXACTLY why I have been in the rut since Christmas. I went away this year, and I was not at home, getting ready for the new year. I do have a lot of projects in the air, and I know I need to work on getting things done. But I have been dragging my feet ever since we got back from a lovely holiday at my Mother in Law's. Yes, it was very relaxing until we were getting ready to leave. Then it was kind of rush to get ready to go home, but not me, at my pace, and it really threw me off my game. I am just now getting back into the swing of things. No blame, just a realization. That and missing my family so much. I have only seen one part of my family since 2019, and I am REALLY needing to get to see them. It is going to be so nice to get together in August. But I can't just plan for the trip only. I need to start taking action, and this is what I am doing. Knowing why I have been so far off my game helps put a different perspective on it. I need to reset myself before I can fully be present in August with my family. This is just what I needed today. Thank you!
I had a bit of a moment today when I noticed I was anxious about something but could not figure out why. Then i realized I was anxious about future tasks instead of just focusing on the current one. I took a 15 minute break then came back to it refreshed and focused.
I love this, a beautiful reminder to be kind to yourself. I think having compassion for yourself is something most of us need to embrace. I've been telling myself this month to remember that you once dreamed of being where you are now. ♡
Talking positive to yourself always help.
I’m blundering my way forward.
I thought the same thing; don’t focus on being behind, just keep in motion.😅
Happy BDAY 🥳 and have fun at Disney!
Reset is my word for the year. I am behind, too, but I'm trying to get there!
Your living room windows are beautiful! I feel like you so I am grateful for this post. Love and respect for you and your channel.
I posted a day or two ago about some planning I've been putting off. It's a planner that I want to start where i corral all the tutorials and courses and master classes and ebooks that I buy and don't finish. I want to use this traditional planner the way a student uses a planner, setting up days for which "courses" I'm working on right now. The goal is that having this written down somewhere will help prevent me from starting something new and shiny before I've finished the last thing.
And I'm gonna eat this book up TODAY. No more excuses. :) I'm gonna take it out with me, sit down, do the brainstorming I need to make this happen, and start setting plans for the year.
My tree stays up till Candlemas (2/2/23) every year so not behind on that, but yes this is exactly how I feel - pushed and really scattered, so thank you for this, and helping pull me out of it!
This is exactly what I needed. My beginning of the year was full of fear and uncertainty. I started chemo Jan 3 (I have Lupus) and have spent the past 5 weeks in and out of the hospital, doctor's office, blood lab, etc. It didn't feel like a fresh start; January felt overwhelming and uncertain. I'm 5 weeks in now and seeing the light at the end of my tunnel. No writing got done. No Q1 planning. No SM posts were completed. All I did was sit and let medical poison do its job. I listened to true crime podcasts and crocheted. I rested when I needed to. I was quiet and soft and gentle with myself. I'm so glad you posted this because that negative voice in my head was trying to tell me that I had already failed. The truth is, it is never too late to start. I'm not behind. I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be. ❤️ Thank you, Sarah. This video is giving me life.
It's been a rough start for me too. I tested positive for COVID on Christmas Eve. I still don't feel well. I'm just taking one day at a time right now. Great video! Thank you. 🙂I'm looking forward to the Publish & Thrive reboot. It helped me so much last year.
Your compassion and encouragement come through so well in this post. You’ve tapped precisely into how I feel! Thanks.
I've been slow on the draw to get much done. I swear I look at things that need done and my brain just goes 'nope' and I find something else to do. A good reset may be what I need.
Rest and restart when your heart is up to it. Noone should tell you to reset and restart when they set a time.Sometimes talking through an experience is good thank you for your feelings thoughts and advice,
Such a beautiful reminder! It's about choosing progress over illusory perfection. 💜
Due to mental health challenges, I’m constantly having to hit reset throughout the year. This year is no exception. Thank you so much for this!
Oh my, I too was sick the week of Christmas. My poor hubby, Cliff had to make Rosalee's birthday cake because I couldn't get out of bed. Wrapping presents was done on my bed with me wrapped up in the blankets. I so feel you. Then I got better for Rosalee and Cliff got sick.
I'm going to sit down with some green tea (I'm doing a 3 day fast) and do my journals and planners I got tons of washi tape pens and stickers. It will be fun I just haven't sat down to do it. If I wake up in the wrong "headspace" I usually sit outside in the fresh air and make a playlist put on my wireless headphones 🎧🎶 and start over. It usually works. 💞
Music is so powerful. I hope you enjoy your journal time!
It took me about a week of January to finish setting up my regular planner, but there's some things I want to plan that I STILL haven't really started.
I can relate! With Mars and Mercury in retrograde, it's been a slow start for me too! I'll be participating in the Writers retreat weekend and finalizing my manuscript by 1/31 so my reset will be Feb 1st.
Thanks, I needed to hear this ! My bump happened and I am rallying myself now! You have been a great motivator for me! We got this!
Yes we do!!
I really needed to hear this. Thank goodness I am not alone (or feeling like I am failing).
Absolutely what I needed to hear. Cleaned out and reorganized my office. Now I'm feeling the fresh vibes. It's comforting to know I'm not the only one with a difficult start to 2023.
Still working on the bootcamp course from December. I've made it to day 5. Also went out of town after Christmas so I missed that "reset week" too. Thank you for this video.
I started my new year with your virtual writing retreat and it went way better than I had expected. So I am very happy to finally be on the right track again and it's all thanks to you!
Instead of crossing things off my to do list, I like to highlight them to show that they are done. I can even put down the date and time that I completed them, if I like, so that I know what's been done and when. Then, whatever is NOT highlighted, sticks out like a sore thumb to remind me to get it done. Also, if I do this in a particular program, such a Notion, I can move around what has not been completed from one place to another so that I know all past pages are done, and I'm only working on the ones coming up. I used this method when I was in college. by just highlighting whatever was on my syllabus (not when I completed it, but once I handed it in). I also added those assignments to my school calendar so that I knew what was coming up in each class. I was always ahead on my assignments because I did them in the order in which they were due.
I absolutely love your Notion colour scheme! And also so excited for your Notion video, literally my WHOLE life is in Notion, and I've actually been looking for a way to implement your system into Notion. So happy you'll help with that ☺️ 💕
We had a very similar experience this year, Sarra. Worst colds we have ever had. I basically put everything on hold and am now going through my plans and whittling them down to accommodate the days we lost.
I did my plan, I set my goals, I was set for a good year, and then I found out some news that was a surprise but not unwanted. I need to have a little more info before I change things up, but yeah my year is starting with a bumpy road.
I just want to say that I think that you are amazing. I watch all your videos and I have become addicted to stickers, notebooks and stationary. I use it to relax. I also have followed your program to work on the outline for my series and novels that I am working on. I understand how you feel about missing the best fresh start. I also fell behind this new years. I have decided to "restart" in February. I work at Sam's club and they start their year in February and they also break up the year into quarters. (That's another reason I relate to your videos.) I hope you and the family feel better and thank you for what you do.
Yes! This week is my reset week, through the end of this weekend. I just could not get motivated while the Christmas decorations were still hanging around. As soon as I got it all taken down and put away last Sunday...relief! I started the next day getting things back in order. So, like you said, I've just been doing micro resets here and there all week. May stop by the writing retreat while I'm working on plotting notes. Thanks for always being both inspiring and a cheerleader...and good luck with your reset. 💜
Definitely relate to the feeling of always being behind… it’s a weird mindset and not actually with any hard dates/facts for me 😅
I watched this...didn't think it applied to me...but then multiple times in the last couple of days, I think about this: just because I didn't get "it all" done doesn't mean that I'm "behind." I guess I really needed to hear that and didn't even realize it. I hope anyone else who needed to hear that too, really HEARD it and will remember it. Thanks Sarra.
There’s always room for a fresh start! It’s a mindset that isn’t determined by a date on the calendar. There’s a newness to every day, there are new and full moons, there are Mondays…so many opportunities to take advantage of. 😊
my xmas tree is also still up - fully decorated and all and I don't let myself feel bad about it. Its dreary as heck outside and that small little 4 foot tree with its shiny glass ornaments and twinkling lights is the perfect pick-me-up every evening when I'm done with the day and sit down to read or relax or just veg out with some tv.
I SO want a Notion setup like this. I’ve started but WOAH there’s a learning curve to it. Looking forward to your detailed walkthrough of your Notion workspace.
There is! It's fun but it's a lot of decisions to make, which I think can be overwhelming
I was full of big plans to start my youtube channel in January...then my dog suddenly sprouted a belly full of pups, and my sons operation that's been pushed back for 18 months got scheduled for next week 😱 I did start my tiktok though so, yay! 😆
I really enjoy these videos. I'm not even a writer, but I LOVE your channel, haha!
I had goals and knew they weren't going to get started right on January 1, my mom was still here and even at the beginning of February we have a big shake up at work and my hours may change. Now....I could keep pushing and pushing but my word of the year is Progress so even baby steps count.
My start has been bumpy but productive in certain areas. I treat each new week as my restart - Happy birthday enjoy your trip.
My friend just died at the age of. 40, and i am living the delay because I don’t want to do anything at all! I am eating bad and gained all the weight i lost. 😢 i am struggling to do everything…. My anxiety is heightened again. I feel like I am crumbling but will try the micro- successes today. I already done 3 things off my morning routine and with some “islamic meditation” ( saying لا حول و لا قوة الا بالله)i can do this. Thank u very much for another real video.
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
I feel this. I didn’t get the started due to a family emergency that has long-term effects on my productivity. So my new plan is to get ONE video up & use February 1st as my actual “reset.” Life happened & I can’t let it ruin another minute of my life.
I appreciate this video, as I am in the same boat. It is the momentum that feels different. However, having a reset every three months on the date you choose is the beauty of a “12-week year!” Thanks for the pep talk! And I am so glad to know I’m not alone. My reset begins on January 23.
My tree is still up, too! I got all the decorations off, as well, but there the tree sits...thank you for this video ❤️
You are not alone!! its been a tough January and from what I understand, astrologically, the planets held many of us in limbo for the first few weeks of January but should be much better going forward
This video was something I needed. Thank you for making me not feel alone at not starting off the way I wanted.
Thanks, a great video. I'm retired so I have goals without deadlines. No, reset needed as everything is a smooth slide.
That's wonderful!
Oooh ! Love the quote, and I'm stealing it! "Question the Stress".
Thank you. I'm finding myself really having to question it a lot, like is this real? Or am I punishing myself? Or just falling into old habits of hustle?
@@HeartBreathings I saw it for myself as a multi-layered set of questions.
1. Is this something I am putting on myself (like you said in the video)? Then can I change the timing or the content of the stress?
2. Is this a true "deadline/emergency/etc" coming either from me or from the outside? Family, illness, etc - Move the priority up, and see if I can get help with it.
3. Is this something being put on me, and can I delegate it to someone else, or even say "no". Day job boss, volunteer jobs, etc - sometimes no is the best answer.
4. Is this even a thing? Is it my anxiety/worry/perfectionism making up problems that don't even exist?
5. Is this something that I could actually accomplish in 5-10 minutes? Set a timer and find out!
6. Am I hungry, thirsty, tired, hurting? Take care of the need, and that stress may go away, or at least be dealable with.
I don't have the Hustle habit, nor do I usually punish myself (usually)...but these other questions are my "interview ideas", now. Other people may have other questions that they need to ask the stress, instead.
You're always so real about what your life is actually like, rather than cutting out anything that isn't Instagram-perfect. It gives me hope that my hot-mess self can have the life of my dreams, too.
Normally my Christmas decor is away on Boxing Day. This year it’s likely to be up till feb. that’s ok. It’s a super busy year away from the house. So home life is welcome to be slow. It’s time needed to be spent with family that is normally put off because I’m busy. This is the year to slow track. I have already seen that path and that’s ok. Because life will get busy, and stressful this year. So the slow home life is sooo needed. Don’t be hard on you. Be graceful for you.
Thank you for this! I had surgery on January 4, so my year can't start until I have recovered my brain cells! I have been feeling "behind", so appreciate your video. I am where I am supposed to be.
I love, love, love this video. I too was sick for new year and it’s my very favorite reset. Love you!
I feel like this video is likely more beneficial now than the 1st because from what I've read most people have given up on all their January 1st goals by now so it's the perfect time to reset.
This video resonated with me so much. I'm from Ukraine and so there is a war going on in my country, I relocated to Thailand for winter to keep working fulltime without electricity blackouts. But I've moved from winter climate to summer and in general this whole thing really messed up my perception of time, I feel like I'm stuck in one moment but the world around me moves on. It didn't even feel like Christmas or New year, I didn't celebrate, didn't make a year wrap up or plan for the next one. And now I really want to catch up but it feels too late. My kanban board is back at home and I miss it dearly and I'm just drifting here. But your video gave me some hope to reset and keep trying to reach my goals, thank you!
Definitely a rough start this year. The idea of just picking a day is great :)
Definitely resonates with me, I feel like I put myself back to square one with setting up goals and systems for this year.... I'm trying to institute too many habits at once. Looking forward to P&T and HB90! 💖
When we decided to move to SC from NC, we decided to get rid of a lot of stuff that we'd been hanging onto forever. Since we've been in SDC, we've continued to get rid of lots of stuff. I find this to be an allegory? of my life right now. that the more we (my husband and I) get rid of, the more we can hone in on the things we need to do and the things we need to let go of. Hope that makes sense.
Thank you so much for this! This month was way busier than I expected so I feel behind already, but this is helping so much. And it also helps to know I'm not alone.
I'm glad I came across this video! My year hasn't started off the way I wanted as I'm in a place in my life that isn't ideal. Your video gave me a little more hope to take my life into my hands. I needed to see this. I've been beating myself up cause I want to start on my writing journey but I've been feeling super behind
This happened to me both last year and this year. Last year,myself and my daughter got covid right before Christmas. I was down until about 1 week into the new year. This year, we traveled to visit family and we came back about a week into the new year. I had a great, productive year last year. One thing that helped me was that I read the 12 week year right before I was ill. It helped me to see that the dates and deadlines that we set are completely arbitrary. I know that when I start my systems and routines, I will be well on my way to a great, productive year.
I needed this video today! I have been giving myself crap because I haven't done the goal setting that I was hoping too because I have been doing other important things. It's so true that we put our own list and then we become slaves to those.... instead of just realizing that the list doesn't control us we control the list!
I had a stressful few hours when I really wanted to be working on writing tasks that adult stuff took over. Hate it. I wanted to watch a Sarra's video. I even mentioned it during Diane's Sprint. I needed this. Thanks. We are never behind💓
I love the reframing statements. I’m not behind, I just didn’t get everything completed that I wanted to.
Ha..ha.. I had to double check that was subbed to you when I Listened to the start of your video. Actually quite rocky and unsure start.. I hear ya!!
A health issue set me back, so this video was just what I needed! 🖤
This is appropriately timed. I thought I would get my second book in my series completely plotted by the end of Q4 and be drafting it in Q1, but my health didn’t allow me to get much done with plotting that book in December. Plus, I also realized a couple big changes that need to be made to book one, plus some other details that don’t work in book one, so I’m researching and plotting by hand every plot detail of book one so I can rewrite it and then find beta readers for it. Once book one’s third draft is done, I will move back to plotting book two and then draft that book. Shortly after nanowrimo ended last year I learned a great way for me to plot novels so I can hopefully avoid having multiple rewrites, but all in all I’m happy for the lessons I’ve learned since I started drafting book one of my series until now. I was new to novel writing when I first started this book series and I have learned so much about writing and learned multiple life lessons. Thanks for sharing this video to remind me to not stress out too much about things not happening the way I would’ve preferred initially for them to. Sometimes when we want something to go a certain way and it doesn’t, the way it went was a lot better than what we thought we wanted.
This came at such a perfect time. I have been in the exact same situation: I felt like I "missed the momentum" of new-years. THANK YOU SO MUCH! You are my biggest inspiration these days
Hi, Sarra,
This video has helped me so much! I had been thinking that this is the second time I've 'messed up' my HB90 schedule and I'm behind - again. I've been quietly mentally punishing myself up for not getting started when I was supposed to. This video was made just for me. 😄
'A plan is just an intention of how we hope it's going to go'.
Thank you for the advice and for sharing your personal journeys. I feel a lot clearer - and have a much lighter mindset about it all. I've set my intentions and have created a better personal mental space in which to carry them out. 💖
Thx Sarra - so happy to have found you around last October. I’m a CliftonStrengths Context>Learner so it’s taken me forever to process and consider and massage your wonderful HeartBreathings plan to make it what will work for me, but today I’m putting PostIts for 1Q/2023 on my Kanban (I’m an analog person for stuff like this) and I decided that my quarter starts on Monday (happy birthday), which makes it a tidy 10-week quarter.
Congrats on pushing 61k subscribers and best wishes always. You’re appreciated.
I completely agree that we should allow ourselves to be ok with where we are right now. Happy Birthday!!
As always, you are a wonderful blend of inspiration and comfort. ❤ Thank you. You ARE right on time. I’m proud of you for working on believing this, and grateful to you for reminding me to believe it, too. Lastly- that color looks lovely on you. :) That Christmas tree? Just a hit of nature indoors. ;) 🌲 ❤
Thank you so much for this. I fell Christmas morning and fractured my knee. I haven’t been able to catch up since. This is my very first HB 90 planning quarter as well so I am trying to give myself grace while I turn this ship!!
I'm so sorry to hear this!!! I wish you healing
I wasn’t able to reset but I wrote with colored markers a few words for each day on our wall calendar. I’m going to photograph, print out and paste into my planner because it’s a creative way to honor those days (even if one day just says, sleepy 😂).
Love this. And yes sleepy sometimes is the best we can do! 😂
My word for 2023 is "progress,." Every small step forward is progress and something to be celebrated. If that one step is simply getting out of bed, I'll take it and be thankful! My year began with covid so I definitely understand getting a later reset than preferred. That's OK! Every morning is a good time for a new reset, or for that matter, every Thursday at 11:06 p.m. if that's what works for someone. Why not? I wish you a very happy birthday and a great time at Disney next week. January is a wonderful month! My grandson's birthday was Jan. 7 and mine is Jan. 25.
Happy early birthday!
I have never needed this video more than this year. Thank you. 💖
THANK YOU very much!! I always find you inspiring but this video in particular was very much needed here. My brother passed away 10 days ago and that totally unbalanced me. I just don't seem to find a good reason to keep going with my work and my plans. After seeing your video I decided to give myself some time and to set a new "New Year's" to start over 2023. It'll do me much good, so thank you, thank you!! You never know whom you may reach with your videos and how much you can help. May your year be blessed and full of joy
I'm so sorry for your loss
I am so behind this year too. We still have bags that haven't been unpacked from Chr.
This really resonated with me as someone who started January behind right off the bat. It’s so easy to get down on ourselves for not being prepped and ready for a fresh start on January 1st. But what really got my attention was when you said “is this serving me?” And the answer is clearly no. So I have shifted my “new year” to February 1st and that’s okay. Thank you for a much needed and timely video ❤
This totally resonates with me! We got a puppy in December and that has flipped my whole world upside down. And honesty I’m grieving my old life. Super cute pup. But I need to get my groove back!
This happened to me last April. My pup is coming up on a year, and if you told me a mere dog would have upended so much (esp. mentally) I would have laughed. So I feel you!
@@VickiPetterssonAuthor I appreciate the validation :) Please tell me it gets easier :)
Thank you for this positive and motivating video! My reset date is Feb 4th and I’m excited for it! Right now it’s daily lists in my Hibonichi Days-Free, and this is also fun and workable, although not quite what I need to happen to keep to my goals on track.
As a Witch my "New Year" doesn't start until Imbolc when the world starts again. Maybe you are just preparing to start with Brigid 🔥
Thank you! This message was perfectly timed for me.
Another perfectly timed, inspirational post. Thank you.
Sarra your notion dashboard is beautiful! is there any way we can get a template of it ? 🥰
Your videos are always on point and exactly what I need to hear. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. I have ADHD and find your videos super helpful when I feel overwhelmed. I’d love to learn more about Notion, I’ve been leaning into digital planning and that looks amazing for wrangling all the things!
I'm starting Q1 this year but haven't been on top of it so far in January. A lot has happened in my life so far and has been super busy. I got married in January so I'm going to be organising my HB90 soon and get myself into a routine before my kids return to school end of this month.
This couldn't come at a better time for me!