9 GREEN Flags Men Reveal In Dating
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In this video, dating coach Ryan Patrick calls out 9 green flags men reveal in dating and how you should consider prioritizing them.
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My main green flag is "His words match his actions"
I feel exactly the same way.
💯💯💯
Same
Absolutely that’s number one. I had met someone I really had a connection with but once his words starting not matching his actions I’ve realized I’m done. I’m usually one to end guys who display that behavior anyway, but this one was hard bc I actually really felt something more with him I hadn’t felt with anyone in a long time. You always have to choose yourself.
Also: if he wants to do something, he will
Green flag: when he plans out future dates that’s catered upon your interest. It shows that he wants more time with you and he remembers little details of your preferences.
I am dating a man that does all 9 green flags! I am so blessed to have found someone with great values, respect and kindness.
That's great! How long have you known him, though? It happened to me as well but after 3 months he changed totally. Now I'm more careful and wait more time to check the reactions of a man and be more sure.
@@sandracarli1110 this is the thing I am so much scared. I can see he really likes me and I really like him too and it has been 2 months since we started dating but I get scared that I am going to lose him or his feeling will change towards me one day. (Tho I found solution which is to be a strong woman and have life,not to be an orbit.)Other than this I dont have any problem. Does anyone else feel like this?
@@aslgurcan741 I can relate to that and you know what? When I lost a boyfriend, some time later I could see that it was better like that. It would have been the wrong person for me. I learnt from the experience and moved on.
Since men can change within some months, I would advise you to just be patient and to check his behaviour.
Once I liked a boy so much. He shared a lot of personal information with me, made a whole lot of compliments and sent me many pictures of flowers in his area, birds, his dogs, his stone collection, videos and music he liked etc. and I felt so special. After 2 months, when he suddenly disappeared, I felt I was going to have a heart attack.
We lived very far apart so in the end he decided to give up and search for someone near him. He had met a girl in his neighbourhood and he told me this after 10 days of silence.
Since then, I always try to have my life and not be an orbit as you wrote :D. It can be really bad for health otherwise.
Men often start like a rocket and then disappear in the universe. I've always found that really mean also because I was not looking for compliments or for so much information from him. It could have been all slow but steady.
Anyway, I wish you luck and happiness
Shandra Steed.. That's wonderful! I'm so happy for you 💓 Dies he have a brother 😆
My late husband was all the green flags and we started out as friends. He was only 37 when he passed from cancer 🥺 Such a terrific guy in every way. That was 11 years ago.
Here's to my future 🥰 although I'm not sure if I'll ever have that kind if love and friendship again?!? One can only hope and pray 🙏. How long have you been with your green flag guy?
Great! Does he have a single brother/friend? LOL
Wow!! I'm at a loss for words. The gentleman I've been dating for 8 weeks, possesses ALL 9 green flags. As a 44-year-young woman, THIS is the very thing I've ALWAYS desired and it's a first for me. It feels absolutely amazing and I'm here for it all!
Ladies...don't lose hope 💜
wow hope you two are doing well in life & in the future!🤗
how are you 2 doing nowadays??
@@nandawramosz Girl...lol...we're not.
He has an issue with communicating and I do not. Say, I'm direct, forward and sometimes blunt. He's reserved, goes with the flow, doesn't want to step on any toes.
I offered him the space to tell me what was bothering him and he lied saying nothing was wrong, but my intuition and awareness of the change in his pattern said otherwise. He finally confessed and I decided to not move forward with him from there.
Can't be dating 40-60 year old dishonest cowards out here. We're adults. I live by the Golden rule: "A closed mouth doesn't get fed."
I dated for a year, with about 18 first dates under my belt. I had a blast!! Some were great dates, others were...lackluster. What I've learned, along with many other women, particularly us 'seasoned' women, is GROWN ADULT men are still hurt little boys who refuse therapy & accountability. One man, at 51, was still bothered being called a '2' on a scale of 1-10 from some Little Suzie Q in 1979 😳😂 I am NOT making this up! I've been told that I have a "very strong personality" by another 😂
With that said, I've taken a hiatus from dating men to focus fully on me again. Frankly, the men of today aren't worthy, which SM has proven this.
my green flag: i can stand by him not talking and i feel comfy abt it
How are you doing 🙏🙏🙏
That he asks about me. He does not talk about himself all the time. That he does what he tells you he will do concerning our relationship. Being caring and loving to show feelings. Thank you
Ahw, I love that! I'm happy for you! 🥺💞
My favourite green flag is that he acts the same way around his friends as he does when he’s with you. As in his personality doesn’t change. Another one in the same vein would be when you meet his friends for the first time, they already know a little bit about you. Which means he’s been talking about you to them and is wanting you to like one another. For example, the guy I’m dating told the friends we were spending New Years with that I was vegan in conversation so they made sure things were suitable for me to eat.
Ahh sweet. Love your story Jayde. 😍
Sweet story, anyways no offense but you're a vegan yet you are chubby?
@@rapidjerkytumblingmovement4340 rude! You do not know this young lady. If you are harboring presumptions, kindly keep them to yourself! Thoughtless words are needlessly cruel.
That's a two-for-one! He was thoughtful enough to include your dietary needs in his planning. Considerate!
Also; Ignore impolite comments. They are irrelevant to who you are. Hope it all works out!
What’s wrong with being chubby? Also, who said I was vegan to be society’s exception of beautiful?
Green Flag: He remembers the little things I share with him that matters to me.
He doesn’t push your boundaries that you communicated clearly- that shows respect and is a green flag! Another way to phrase this would be that if he’s unsure about your boundary he checks in with you to make sure he’s treating you right.
So true!
My current bf got all! I'm so lucky to be able to find a man like him and he thinks the same about me as well. When the person is right it's just easy. We both have our own insecurities and guard which caused several misunderstandings, but we always communicate it well. He brought up the relationship, said L-word first. Before him, I've been through all kinds of bad dating scenarios, and I was so done, my expectation was extremely low. Even before the first date, he told me he's my friend first before anything else
His relationship with his mom, sisters and other women in his family.
When he has all of these green flags but you're just friends :')
Unless he is gay, there is high chance he is dying to share more a than friendship with you. The problem is that because of all the recent, modern social constructs where masculinity is pretty much regarded as “misogynistic” everywhere you turn, most good guys have been diluted into acting as male girlfriends, meanwhile the girls who are the object of their affection and beauty are being rammed by the cool, bad boys. Think about it!
@@CarlosGaviriaM Damn, made me realize I'm ramming the cool bad boy instead of a good one.
Yess
Relationship with Mom can be tricky. What appears to be close can actually be dysfunctional enmeshment...fallen for that a couple times
Pay attention to how he talks about his exes. I asked, "so tell me about your ex" he said " oh I loved her so much ..."
i agree with this. A guy that I'm interested does not talk bad about his ex. Another guy I was interested in had NOTHING good to say about his ex (who he was with for 25 years). He called her the worst names. There are always 3 sides to a story. Yours, theirs and the truth. In his stories, she was always wrong.
If he says his exes are crazy... RUN! If you actually see his ex and him be platonic friends without putting each other down, that is good. Knowing his friends, being able to hang out with all of them while doing things all of you love... that is just so great.
Actions not words. Don't believe anything that he says. Watch what he does. How he treats you is all that you need to look at
Very true. Took me much too long to realize my ex was gaslighting me. In the beginning, his words seemed to match his actions. But as time went on, he wud say one thing, then do the exact opposite, and get mad if I called him on it. Wish I had ended things sooner.
These were so helpful, I also look for a guy who can discuss controversial topics without getting personal, catty or immature about it. If we disagree but still have a nice chat and discuss about it, still happy together, huge green flag that he is very mature and respectful of others :D
That's the best!!! 🥺💞
Haha well this is refreshing to see Green flags for once instead of Red flags!
Yes, definitely
My Main green flag is words matching actions.
I feel that so many men, have mastered the art of "Sweet talk " but I have yet to see the things they keep saying.
I am 53, divorced and been single for about 8 years. You would think I should know about this stuff. I think dating is difficult at any age.
I'm 45, and re-joined the dating field. I feel like it's changed so much. The guys in out age range seem so burned out with "trying" in general....and set in their ways. I'm so open to talking with you on this.
I am 56 and single for 6 and it's a different world for dating. I agree it's difficult but I am living my life and handling the lonely times the best way possible. I would rather be alone than with a loser.
@@jacquelinemosley3298 Oh hell yea. I have had my share of losers and I have come to recognize the red flags....Next lol. What state do you live in? I'm in PA
@@stacydavis1682 New Hampshire and it's rural ... Most men are married or alcoholics.
For you it probably is 🤣
My new boyfriend just ticked all the boxes, and I was able to find him because I really listened to your videos Ryan! Thank you for all your advices!! ♡♡♡
Asking about his intentions sounds like something my father would ask a guy! I laughed so hard. You're funny as hell, Ryan!
Actions meets words and shows compassion/empathy
I alwaaays ask the intention question in person because I want to see how they react to the question. Body language says a LOOOT and you cant really figure out whats going through someones mind via text. You have too much time to craft a response
Good point!
100%. texting as a form of main communication is a big NO.
The one green flag I became aware of, thanks to this great guy I’m date (who passes all of the green flag signs so far) is; accepting input on kissing. Situation - we all have preferences on how we like to kiss, so with “French kissing” most men think the faster they move their tung the better, mine included. So I softly said, as we were kissing, slow that down (as seductively as possible by the way) and he did. He actually thanked me for saying something and said, “that how I get to know what you like.” I think this one’s a keeper. Thank you so much for all the great dating advice, this video especially. We always hear about what to watch out for, so this video is wonderfully refreshing and positive!!
It’s so important to consider how he treats the other women in his life. My soon to be ex-husband always spoke to his mother in a way that upset me. I wish I’d recognised it as a sign of things to come. He has no respect for women. In his eyes, we exist to cook, clean and bring up children.
Sounds like he has no respect . I’ve never had a boyfriend yet . But I’m not a hurry . I’d rather take My time
When with my ex I overlooked and made excuses for him missing number 8...and I paid a VERY high price for that mistake! Never again.
Ryan, two MAJOR green flags for me are a Great Sense of Humor AAAND... The ability to laugh at Himself. Without those two things, I don't want to get involved.
I agree 100%!
The relationship with women in his life are soooo telling. Especially if he values you having a great relationship with your mother
I’m getting so over all the guys I talk to, from meeting online, just talk about themselves for like an hour. 🙄 Seems I’m the one doing all question asking. Tired of wasting my time.
John Grey says to not be the listener and just talk about yourself a lot. Very counter intuitieve for a woman and it might help you
Actions matching words for sure. Going through the effort to meet for real is major.
I've been seeing a guy since December and we've known each other for a year (we met online during lockdown), and I really like him. He's kind, funny and caring. I even talk to him about my anxiety and he always listens to me. And he seems to like me as well, he said that I was important to him. But we're still not together, still not a couple. He never mentioned it. One time, just a few days after he presented me to his best friend, I discovered that he's been talking to another girl. I told him that it made me really sad and angry, and he told me that him talking to that girl was nothing serious and that I shouldn't take that as a sign of disinterest, he even told me that he would show me screenshots from their conversations. But for me things have changed from that moment. We continued to see each other and it was fun every single time but still nothing. I'm afraid that I am wasting my time with him, that I might be one of his girls.
You should talk to other guys too. Fair game 🤷🏻♀️
@@DarleneA111 yes I could but I can’t think of anyone but him, like I’m bored with other men
@@fsd9315 When men really like you, they will seal the deal and won't dilly dally. For whatever reason he's not sure about you right now. And that's why he's talking to other girls. Give him space to miss you. And I know it's really hard coz you really like him. But whatever is meant for you won't pass by you. Give it space, live your best life and the right man will be attracted to you.
@@DarleneA111 yes your right and all my friends told me the same exact thing! I’ll try my best. It’s been only 9 hours but it’s hard
I know it's hard to move on because you invested time and have a connection. But be truthful to yourself you want something different and you deserve to be happy and get what you want from a relationship. Don't settle and waste your time with what you don't like.
He follows all of these and I am just amazed by him. His female bonds are strong with his family and even female friends. Normally I wouldn’t trust a guy that has a close female friend (bad history with that), but he sometimes sends her photos of us or will have me respond to her on his phone if he can’t reach it for some reason. The trust he placed in me is just insane and I love it. Also like you said, it’s easy. I never have to think when I spend time with him
I take that back.
I really take it back
I don't apreciate men who are arogant but if he's too shy I feel like he's lacking confidence :(
I see a green flag when I get a long text or call telling me how much he enjoyed meeting me.
When he talks respectfully to me, is nice to me, makes me laugh and SHOWS me he genuinely cares about me and my well being. I am totally convinced when his talk and walk match most of the time...sometimes, he deserves the benefit of the doubt if they don't match 🙂. Overall, if he has proven himself to be a humble and honest sweetheart man 😊🙂🙃, then he's a winner!!!! Ladies, if you've met such a man, then hold on to your pot of gold/silver 👏👍👌😁😁. A man like that is too hard to come by!!!!
Ryan...an update...I’ve been going out with a guy for the past 6 weeks who meets all of the green flags! We’re going slow but we both seem to feel so excited about the possibilities for us. And best of all...it just feels easy!!! Your advice was such a game changer. Can’t thank you enough.
Thank you for making this video! I’ve been dating a man for almost 3 months now and things seem to be going well, but I’m new to dating again and my confidence in correctly interpreting things he says and does isn’t great. We are both a little quirky, so many of the “normal” things just don’t apply to us. These green flags, however hit home, especially the one about his relationships with the women in his life. He even calls his sister his best friend. Doesn’t elaborate on any bad things about exes, either. After watching this video, I am 1,000,000x more confident in how things are progressing. Thank you!!!!!
I seem to have found all of these green flags. First time ever in my 40-some years.
The connection to women in his life. My ex-husband had never showed proper appreciation to his own mom, my mom, my sister oder my female friends. So "He treats the women in his life well" is sort of my favorite. Greetings from Germany, Michael
This is something different that ive not really seen a video on before. Thanks Ryan for some great points. I will definitely look for these in my future.
Actions match words and Friendship matters most
The facial expressions are hilarious! They make me laugh! 😄👍
My biggest green flag is when man actually CARES about me. Will tell you a very recent funny story, which is about a very small detail that means a bunch. I had an allergy and been sneezing a lot, but I'm not comfortable to do it out loud, so I was holding in my sneezes. And my boyfriend was always mad at me, because he thinks holding in can lead to damage of eyes, ears or even to aneurysm. So the other day we were walking down the town and I sneezed three times holding all in. And he literally yelled at me: I TOLD YOU DON'T HOLD IT!!! At the same time some other guy was passing by and he said in a nice manner: bless you! My boyfriend made fun of situation - like he was yelling at me and some random dude was nice.
But for me what he did was worth a thousand nice words. Because he was real to me and he ACTUALLY CARES.
My heart! 💞🥺
Presenting himself as an imperfect human being and not like a robot - I was talking to a guy like this recently and I got SO BORED😴 he wouldn't stop talking about himself, even his texts were like a Shakespeare creation.. OMG! He wouldn't show any fault or ability to laugh at himself, I need humor in my life and to mess up in a funny way sometimes without it being a big deal 😅 I thought it must be so tiring being so perfect all the time! Thank you but not for me! Plus, he had zero interest in my life... is just people bored with lockdown? 😆 I stopped texting obviously 🙄
I've been chatting with strangers out of boredom also xD
I’ve told this guy I like him a lot after he initiated conversation with me online and we have met up a couple times and hung out. We have gotten along really well. We are silly together and comfortable. He’s always calls me beautiful and tells me how much he likes me and wants me to be his girlfriend. I told him that since I just got out of a relationship recently I wanted to wait and he is completely understanding so he’s waiting for me. I’ve been screwed over a lot and I get anxious so idk if I’m just being paranoid.
My ex had a very strong female bond with a married woman. Yeaaaah. Opposite of green flag lol. He’s my ex for very good reasons.
Oh yeah my ex was very close and attached to his mother and sister, kind and respect them. Enough to make him follow whatever they asked him to do even he never took my side whenever his sister and mother talked rudely and disrespectful towards me in front of his face. I just kept silent and cried while he was just standing peacefully next to his sister who was scolding me at our house. He even behaved and talked exactly like his sister and mother. The last msg I got from him was a voice message of his mother (he recorded it for me) telling me that she was the one who asked her son to run away from me , it wasn't his own decision. Until now I'm not yet legally divorced bcoz I have no idea where he is for 2 years 8 months. He said he wanted to go for a holiday and visit his illness mother but he never comes back ever since.
Oh no D: it was probably better not dating him if his mother and sister were doing that to you :/
@@judithyeoh_isjudify he is still my legal husband although we have been living separately since July 2018. He ran away, disappeared. He was completely different when we were dating and before married (LDR for 2,5years). We visited each others family and my parents loved him same goes with his parents and family loved me too. He was a very sweet genuine person, caring loving towards me and my family too and he was madly in love with me. I never did the chase etc. Only after we moved to another country where his sister lived in, we lived nearby, used to visit his sister like 2x a week (as he And his sister asked me to do it) and I was happy to get close to his family besides I tried to think positive. But who knows when did he start changing his behaviors, day by day he became the same as his sister, he just followed whatever his sister told him to do, as well as his mother, he started keeping secrets from me but not with his sister and mother. His sis had a marriage issue with her husband like not talking each others for a year, etc too many clashes between her and her husband. I noticed that after I married him and visited his sister place. Sometimes I used to think, she got hurt in her marriage that's why she wanted me to feel the same. 🙄
@@yoonji1369 my heart breaks for you D: sometimes people like to project their pain onto others to make themselves feel better :( this sounds like what your sis in law might be doing
I am not even worried about boundaries because he never pushes them, nor is he ever about to be. Can’t believe my blessing🇬🇷❤️
Ryan, you don't need to beg for subscribers, people are going to subscribe to you anyway because your content is good.
For the 28 people that dislike this video the truth can sting sometimes but ryan knows he stuff .. another great video you're always spot-on
This was a good one, Ryan. There were some definite red flags, & not enough green ones with the last guy I was dating, & I didn't see it right away. My #1 green flag is his ability to listen, which I've commented on another video about. This screens out most men.
Woohoo! Just in time. I took the leap this week...wish me luck! Thanks Ryan!!
I love the positive spin on this!
Two main green flags. That he can laugh at himself. and that his words match his actions.
In my last relationship, the first 8 were there, but the 9th one wasn’t. 😓
Now I know I definitely found the one for me, thank you so much
Green flag big time: he is kind and cares about animals😍
Action matches to his words, this is also my most important green flag :-)
Because, sometimes men can be good...
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Ryan Patrick, you're GREAT!
Love your videos!
All of them are important, words and actions matching, asks questions about you, being friends first
#9 is so true, things will naturally flow like its just a natural thing especially if you’re with a right man, mine is an LDR type and with a fairly huge age gap, so its specifically hard especially now but we started with him telling me straight away what he wanted and what he expects of the relationship if we so end up being together, so currently were just enjoying what we have and take things slow
but like on the first few messages we exchanged together we just instantly connected as if we knew each other for years, so what he basically do is what Ryan has talked about in this video, well minus the date part since we can’t physically do that because of the very huge distance
I miss his coaching videos. Lol Ryan, you crack me up.
Well I think... Action matches his words... I met this guy on Instagram who just throw breadcrums... He said he'll be visiting me here in Philippines and get married... But his actions shows the opposite... Always with work... In my next guy, I will be more observant and no more social media love coz that did not worked for me... Thanks Ryan..
Saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Basically, your word is your bond. I am upfront about this, so if a guy can’t keep his word about us going out, like what happened recently, then it shows to me his character, or lack of, towards me... I recently unfortunately had this experience.
or if he just cut you off every time you mention why have you been ignoring me, or why are you avoiding me, avoiding the emotional attachment, or admitting of feeling, or emotional avoidance, general coldness, low energy, not interested, and the like, you can never enterwith him and his conversation, you get cut out right away! like he is putting you down, and telling the rules, this is why I had my ex...it's a do not cross. it's a relationship dead end before it ever started.
Yeah, his words does match his actions. Unfortunately, he's not so expressive in chat, but thank Heavens, he's ten times better every time I get to see him.
My green is when we fight, he is try to explain to me reasonably. He is patient to explain, explore another option until we come to agreement. Exes, they just don’t care, they just agree everything to me none sense, or tell me I’m too sensitive or tell me to shut up🤮🤮🤮
When you are dating someone who posses all these ,so lucky 💕💕💕🤣
Consistency and actions are the most important green flags for me!
For me #1 is ( if i mute him,will i still think he loves me) and focrs not to mention how easy being in a relationship with him is,the less i need to overthink his actions the better my choice is
Its been while i tuned in your videos..My last relationship didmt work but i found someone new..Most of the green flags i can relate to my new guy..Its a long distances relationship due to covid tho, He does know how to take ownership for his mistakes and he respect his mum very much. Thanks for this video Ryan🙂
To bo honest it needs to feel natural and easy as you said. No brain surgery over how I should asnwer to the text I just got because I feel comfy to be myself without over-thinking. I guess it also falls into friends first category too! 🤔
Great Video! Definitely a major green flag when his actions back up his words or even take over for them. Effort and consistency are my number 1 & 2 for sure! This confirms I have FINALLY met my match! 🤩
WE LOVE YOU RYAN & ALL THAT YOU DO FOR US LADIES 😝
love your videos it is sooo helpful keep up the AMAZING work
He has a goal for his future, not just want to have fun and a very easy life. MAKES ME GIVE HIM A CHANCE
You are such a wonderful coach and thank you for all you do for us. Have a blessed year from a Thankful fan from California :-)
I'm going to reach out to you on other platforms you've mentioned for a couple of weeks. It's about single parents dating each other, or single parents dating, in general. It's tougher fish to tackle, if you ask me! And I'm trying to get it right.
A .spot on..list Ryan. It reinforced and clarified .both. thanks fr ur sheer Efforts...
My ex had 2 through 9 but not 1...which was huge...said he'd text or call, but wouldn't...said he'd come over on a Friday, it be on Saturday...it got really annoying and he just couldn't change even though I told him how it makes me feel
Thanks good and helpful advice. I noticed how interested he is in what I am doing and asks how I am.
Thank you Ryan 😎! You brought more clarity to this topic!
He response within a few minutes whenever I text him first, he never text me first! Is it red flag or green flag since text between us two weeks ago?🙄
I am a new subscriber and I am in love with your channel, with your msg, your straight forward no games way.💕💕💕💕❤️
Emotional support!
you NEED to collab with ask Kimberly
When he is both green and red at some point. lol 😂😂😂
Ryan, I love your videos, not only for the great info, but you are funny! It's entertaining to watch you! I love your "woman" voice: :)
All of this was great! Thank you!
Definitely #7 & # 8 thanks Ryan!
My tip: always keep an eye how he treats people, make sure he really really has RESPECT to himself and to you.
You're so handsome in this video Ryan.. 🙂
Maturity & Honesty
Hey Ryan. First I want to thank you for your words of wisdom.
Second, there’s a subject I’ve not heard you or your colleagues address and I’d like advice on how to deal with being a widow in the dating world and how to address the late spouse in conversation. Help? It’s far different than having an ex. Been there too.
I agree with you. I too am a widow.
Acetrace, I’m truly sorry for your loss. I know your pain. We’re sisters cuz we lost our misters? I often wonder if men are afraid of us for some reason. Like they’d be battling a ghost. Mine wanted me to find love again, we talked about it. From my heart, I hope you find the love you seek.
What do I do if my man is an orphan and he lived most of his life in a home? His parent died and none of his relatives wanted him so they only girls he can talk about is his exes and they're exes for a reason. He's super nice and I don't notice any red flags (mostly that he thinks he isn't good enough for me. I have no idea what to do with that). I can tell you though that he doesn't like my mom and aunt, but for the reasons he doesn't like them is the same reasons why I don't like them and I never told him how I felt about them.
Number 1 green flag is consistency.
Thank you 😊❤️🙏
you are funny and inspiring! i like your chanel!
so I've become slightly obsessed and commented on the channel, trialling some examples:
I used the word No
He doesn't talk about sex, but other things
I stopped talking to him in a comfortable silence- he messaged
When I was considering saying NEXT he said,"Let's just chill and be friends first."
and thank you thank you thank you