Never Confront A Narcissist (Here’s Why)

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  • @heiders8488
    @heiders8488 5 годин тому +26

    Silence is the best way to react to a narcissists tantrums. They want the reaction.

    • @tyford6252
      @tyford6252 16 хвилин тому

      man - if only I knew this BEFORE I confronted a former toxic boss after she played dumb/coy. I know now - she’s a textbook case.

  • @marwabahgat8380
    @marwabahgat8380 4 години тому +14

    I confronted my narcissistic husband of cheating with evidence and he went in a horrible rage like I've never seen him before he started calling me names accusing me of being injust to him he lost his mind totaly it was really such a craziness .thank you so much Lee.greetings from Egypt❤🌷

    • @phyllissanders6997
      @phyllissanders6997 Годину тому

      @@marwabahgat8380 They freakout because they fear that you will tell others what they did. Walk in silence, it will help you heal.

  • @kjohnson7219
    @kjohnson7219 6 годин тому +24

    Assess the situation and always be safe. If confronting them may mean danger for you, don't do it. You don't need closure, you need safety. Get out safely. They will NEVER admit their wrongdoings. Don't waste your energy trying to get them to. It only drains you, gives them power and lets them know where they slipped up, so they can cover their tracks better the next time.

  • @Ballpython77
    @Ballpython77 6 годин тому +26

    I confronted her and she made false allegations, i ended up in jail, homeless, im financially bankrupt, i lost everything. Lost my job I loved all because I confronted her with all the betrayals I found. NEVER CONFRONT THEM, THEY WILL DESTROY YOU and police won't care to believe you and believe all their lies.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  5 годин тому +7

      Oh man 😫

    • @Ballpython77
      @Ballpython77 5 годин тому +3

      @MentalHealness yup! I learned the hard way. And I'm struggling finding a divorce lawyer at the moment.

    • @LinMeulen
      @LinMeulen 5 годин тому +5

      Sorry to hear that. Its crazy how men and woman can do these things. Like they get away with everything the honest one gets all the blame and pain.

    • @Ballpython77
      @Ballpython77 4 години тому

      @LinMeulen well I no longer believe in our justice system, I will trust or have faith in the police system and will never fully trust a partner again. I want to be single till the day I die.

    • @ViralVortexX-ew3qt
      @ViralVortexX-ew3qt 3 години тому +3

      Sounds like my life if it was a movie and you watched it numerous... These exact things happened to me, and I'm rebuilding my life i lost everything no one believed me when I told them😢

  • @candicedoz704
    @candicedoz704 5 годин тому +6

    I confronted my narcissistic ex about his behavior ( new supply ) and how he wasn’t showing up as a dad. The way he bucked up at me then I knew and I just said ok and walked away. The way he responded to me I recognized for me to do my part as a mother.

  • @phyllissanders6997
    @phyllissanders6997 4 години тому +8

    Silence is Golden with a Narc😢

  • @Tinaj1715
    @Tinaj1715 5 годин тому +11

    Omg yes the last word!! I have a whole bullet point presentation of all his mess for 23 years and i be wasting my time. Anyway, thanks again for pushing out these videos they are such a blessing to me! I find courage in them and the comments of other people and there experience help know i am not alone!! Grateful!

    • @susanhenderson9739
      @susanhenderson9739 Годину тому +3

      You and I both…..20 years with my Nasty Narc husband…..

  • @pamelacave5515
    @pamelacave5515 6 годин тому +22

    Don't apologize you may have just saved my life

  • @parklady4233
    @parklady4233 5 годин тому +9

    Narc said he understood he was wrong and then went into paranoid delusions to make me the bad guy. So, sad! 😔

    • @harmonyvaneaton4101
      @harmonyvaneaton4101 2 години тому

      Ya, mine has had several moments where it looked like he was seeing the truth but a few days later he was trying to pin his crimes (literally crimes) on me and then on kids. I wish I was joking.

  • @parklady4233
    @parklady4233 5 годин тому +6

    I should have never told the narc he was a narcissist and told him to get help. Instead, he says I am the narcissist and then went paranoid and delusional to make it make sense to him!

  • @patrickbennett439
    @patrickbennett439 Годину тому +3

    I confronted my narc but that was like 20 years ago. I did it at a distance lol. ON the phone, id point out her shyt. She would hang up on me, because i was right. She didnt want anything to do with what i said. Hella funny. I still do that to any woman if she has bs going on she is presenting me with. Im like nope, bla bla bla, thats some bs. Whyd you do that, whyd you do this type shyt to her. They hate it. ALWAYS CALL EM ON THEIR SHYT. Lets em know your smarter than them which also really pisses em off. MISSION COMPLETE. Stay safe. Like he said do it later, or at a distance or when ducks are in row n stuff.

  • @debraskye6553
    @debraskye6553 6 годин тому +9

    Thank You So Much Mr. Lee!

  • @zoeykamikaze
    @zoeykamikaze 4 години тому +3

    the whole "truth is scarier than fiction" definitely applys to this vid.

  • @SistahJay27
    @SistahJay27 Годину тому +1

    Narc’s wouldn’t get rejected if they treat ppl with kindness. It’s draining and I’m tired. I really wish narc’s would get help. This is not the life I envisioned for myself or my kids.

  • @warofsouls9065
    @warofsouls9065 2 години тому +3

    I got one narcissist right where the most hurt. I stop full contact, move to another country get a new phone. Buy buy felicia 😂

    • @SistahJay27
      @SistahJay27 Годину тому

      Dang! Another country 😂😂😂😂😮

  • @susanhenderson9739
    @susanhenderson9739 47 хвилин тому +1

    I did make the mistake of confronting my Nasty Narc husband and every time I did he would put his hands on me…He kept stirring up so much drama by being a Chatty Patty…. He first started with his own father and myself (got mad because his father complimented me and he enjoyed chatting with me)… My Nasty Narc started telling his father some BS about me…. Trying to drive a wedge between us thank goodness his father wasn’t falling for his son’s BS! He still would talk to me and he always treated me with dignity and respect…When I confronted him about his own drama he first left without telling me anything ( he would always run from the confrontation) when he came back he was angry and I just ignored him afterwards he punched me in my stomach almost knocked the wind out of me…

  • @TheAmazingRandy
    @TheAmazingRandy 5 годин тому +13

    … and they likely don’t care what you think anyway!

  • @pinkiepromise242
    @pinkiepromise242 Годину тому +1

    And they will use it all against you it's easy for them to get over it they will become the victim... you right they will lead to hate life and call you ungrateful.. now I'm feeling he deserves better since i dont want to be happy with him while we Heal ...

  • @sharongomes7219
    @sharongomes7219 6 годин тому +17

    Because you're just wasting your time and you're just going to keep getting gas lit because they don't want to hear it so don't waste your strength

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  6 годин тому +4

      Protect your peace

    • @sharongomes7219
      @sharongomes7219 5 годин тому +4

      @MentalHealness yes!!!! It's NOT worth anything to give up!

    • @callmecon7105
      @callmecon7105 5 годин тому +2

      So annoying when ur being gaslit ,don't have proper proof I would have to follow him around, but it's lots of weird things happening, and inconsistency.

    • @callmecon7105
      @callmecon7105 5 годин тому +2

      He said he never lonely gets angry

  • @jeananncunningham8493
    @jeananncunningham8493 2 години тому +1

    Thank you Lee.

  • @bigboi301slg
    @bigboi301slg 6 годин тому +8

    I confronted one of the narcs in my life and he got his ass whooped. Was begging for someone to call 911. Might not be the smartest thing I've ever done but he asked for it lol.

  • @michellebusch7586
    @michellebusch7586 6 годин тому +8

    I have a pic of my ex in the shower with another woman, while we were video chatting and he denied that actual photo

  • @Lymm-r9h
    @Lymm-r9h Годину тому +1

    In undirected ways I tried to confront him about adultery, I told him that men who are sleeping with other women in our religion is very wrong and who does it will end up in hell, he got mad and I acted stupid asking him why he is mad and he said because he doesn’t like talking about religions things, I said then if religion can’t stop people from Adultery then HIV should although being in hell for ever in the afterlife is more horrible, and he hated me looking at me like Im the devil because I wanted to warn him about Adultery and it’s consequences at life and afterlife

  • @JennWest-Liberty
    @JennWest-Liberty Годину тому +2

    The world is super F-ed up!!!

  • @cherylarshaluys6079
    @cherylarshaluys6079 3 години тому +1

    We appreciate you more!🙏🏼

  • @harmonyvaneaton4101
    @harmonyvaneaton4101 2 години тому +1

    Shanan Watts had NO idea Chris was cheating. He just started an affair while she was on a business trip and decided he was done with her, the baby boy she was carrying (that HE wanted), and his poor baby girls.

  • @harmonyvaneaton4101
    @harmonyvaneaton4101 2 години тому +1

    Too late! Did that first. It WAS dangerous and pointless.

  • @scrappydappydoo
    @scrappydappydoo День тому +6

    This should be good. I look forward to hearing what you have to say on this tomorrow.👍

  • @user-sx9hq7qwert
    @user-sx9hq7qwert 4 години тому +2

    If it's a crime, report it to the authorities. If it isn't a criminal offense, say nothing n vanish in silence if u r leaving. The last word? Closure? Won't happen.

  • @alethiasingleton3109
    @alethiasingleton3109 2 години тому +2

    I'm itching😂 & scratching 😁 for the Last word can't help it!

  • @tylerallen6876
    @tylerallen6876 3 години тому +1

    The trick is to confront them but then play victim, soon enough everyone starts noticing the instability in the Narcissist... and BOOM! Everyone knows they're a Narcissist!! 😂

  • @cherylarshaluys6079
    @cherylarshaluys6079 3 години тому +1

    Excellent as usual.

  • @BelovedKB131
    @BelovedKB131 Годину тому

    Thank you Lee for this video 🎉❤

  • @jeananncunningham8493
    @jeananncunningham8493 2 години тому +1

    What if i confronted a family member of molesting me? Ruined my life. Walks are like hes this upstanding man and Christian

  • @parklady4233
    @parklady4233 5 годин тому +2

    Now you tell me!

  • @righteoustruth9096
    @righteoustruth9096 5 годин тому +4

    What would you recommend if your child's father is a narcissist and you are noticing the same toxic patterns in your 12 year old son?

    • @camarwalker5876
      @camarwalker5876 5 годин тому

      🙏🙏🙏

    • @Mimi-ui7du
      @Mimi-ui7du 4 години тому +2

      May I recommend the book "Why does he do that ?" by Lundy Bancroft. From chapter 10 on he describes the ugly dynamics how a boy is manipulated by an abusive father to despise and mock his mother. The book has some advice how to seek help. But it is tough. Wish you the very best stay strong.

  • @JelenaVeronika
    @JelenaVeronika 3 години тому +1

    Guilty of charge😁 i had to tell him.

  • @kathleenpowell4341
    @kathleenpowell4341 49 хвилин тому

    My brother said, "threat, this is not a threat, I will bury you." I believed him and have never gone back.

  • @andrewkeller5100
    @andrewkeller5100 15 хвилин тому

    I dated one I at least suspect was one. When the relationship I ended I was already I horrible financial debt and was in a severe depression. I had proposed to her a few months back giving my grandmothers ring. I had requested it back with a mailed letter. I received an email which was absolutely smearing me and every insecurity, vulnerability I have. My depression was so bad after that and I had the urge to flip out on her. After much contemplation, I decided to not reply to the email. It’s been three years and going on four in December. After not responding there was no looking back as I went no contact I knew she was craving a confrontation and looking to make it a lot worse.

  • @tautarpearce7576
    @tautarpearce7576 6 годин тому +4

    I’m one of these kids growing up

  • @cindylong624
    @cindylong624 45 хвилин тому

    Lee.,I have 2 narc neighbors who allowed their dogs to poop in my yard, late a night,so I called the animal control on them. I also had taken pictures/videos showing the locations-next to my house- of where the dogs pooped as well as security video footage of the dogs. Eventually , they put up a wooden fence. The narc neighbors also threw their junky furniture in my drive way which is between my house and theirs. I took photos of the furniture and heard them in their yard-so I told them get that s&it off my property--which they did. Yet they boo-hoo'ed about me being 'mean' and I told them I'm not playing their narcissistic games and get someone else who will.Both narc neighbors have extensive run-in with the police--assault/battery of family members, bad checks,dui-several times and one settled out of court for allegedly SA of a minor..

  • @michellecoleman1627
    @michellecoleman1627 5 годин тому +4

    Shoot I use to feel like I finally caught yo ass 😂😂😂 now I can leave you alone forever

  • @PantaRhei-wz5zn
    @PantaRhei-wz5zn День тому +4

    When non- responding creates legal/ moral issues for you...
    Don't take these on bc you are too timid to react

  • @michellecoleman1627
    @michellecoleman1627 5 годин тому +4

    He use to flip out 😂 I didn’t care I was ready for his reaction cause he fake I use to have facts too I use to be like you little Lier 😂😂

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  5 годин тому

      😂

    • @myra2090
      @myra2090 2 години тому

      Same 😂 I send a text calling them out read it over and over 😂

  • @sonyarattray7146
    @sonyarattray7146 26 хвилин тому

    Not only did I confront my ex Nat a couple of times I’m also on a mission to expose him. Fortunately for me, I know he’s way too much of a coward to do anything about it.

  • @parklady4233
    @parklady4233 5 годин тому +1

    Do the narcissist prayer 🙏🏾 Lee.

  • @latashahumphrey769
    @latashahumphrey769 5 годин тому +3

    Im not going to ask anything not when I know and I just don't allow that to slow me down once I c u for who u are I guess that's just what it is.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  5 годин тому +1

      💯

    • @latashahumphrey769
      @latashahumphrey769 5 годин тому +1

      @MentalHealness especially when I already know

    • @latashahumphrey769
      @latashahumphrey769 5 годин тому +1

      @MentalHealness not going to spend time asking y this y that not me not when u c what's unfolding right before ur very eyes.

  • @stars7461
    @stars7461 6 годин тому +3

    Right

  • @alethiasingleton3109
    @alethiasingleton3109 3 години тому +3

    I like to Smudge not "Smear it's a difference 1:46 🙂 DO Not NEED TO LET THEM know they going to get it I know 🙂 IM HAPPY!: basically they will poof be gone and disappear 🙂

  • @CassiesPetParent
    @CassiesPetParent 3 години тому

    The lady with the gambling addiction on the run sounds like it came directly from a movie!! 😲😬

  • @ArK--mh6ot
    @ArK--mh6ot 21 хвилина тому

    Its hard not to! Toxic coworker wanted to paint me as something I'm not. I just know how to operate around her and act dumb, but I'm fully aware of what she's trying to do. I still need my job, lol

  • @IleneTruitt
    @IleneTruitt 19 хвилин тому

    You want a confession because you want closure but you will never have closure with a narcissist

  • @christycallahan2819
    @christycallahan2819 6 годин тому +2

    🙌

  • @stars7461
    @stars7461 6 годин тому +3

    😮

  • @BIGdaDDYPaUL77
    @BIGdaDDYPaUL77 27 хвилин тому

    You should also not immediately judge a book by its cover and then maybe you’ll answer them. Still never got answers from you. Why don’t you teach people how to distinguish first before just following what it is you say because of what they think

  • @hershekissed
    @hershekissed 2 години тому +3

    Lee, with all due respect, a lot of these victims probably have PTSD and don't even know it. Rumination is a given when your reality has been distorted ❤