Don’t try to be mindful | Daron Larson | TEDxColumbus
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2024
- Mindful Awareness Trainer Daron Larson says although mindfulness has been shown to help decrease stress and increase contentment, many who try it give up convinced they’re doing it wrong. Drawing from his daily practice since 2002, he helps people break through common obstacles and devises ways to address attention-related challenges everyone faces. Daron compares mindfulness practice to physical fitness to help distinguish the benefits from the exercises required to experience them. Just as regular exercise can improve your physical well-being, he argues that training your attention can transform the way you navigate the challenges of everyday life.
Daron Larson helps people feel more at home in their lives by encouraging them to habitually notice ordinary experiences in liberating ways. He has been practicing mindfulness daily to disrupt his own default narrative mode since his first silent meditation retreat in October 2002. He teaches mindfulness practice as attention training, using the challenges and benefits of physical fitness to help navigate similar aspects of developing attentional skills.
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I happened to do the same thing one day afternoon, I just try to pretend that I am not a human but a camera trying to record the details of present moment of external environment. A camera doesn’t talk to itself, doesn’t judge, it just observe the world. After I learn about mindfulness, I try to pretend that I am a camera observing both internal and external experience, I try to record the thoughts and feeling of myself without judgement, and I feel more at peace while being able to have regular emotions like a human.
I like your approach. Makes a lot of sense when you are trying to keep yourself out of what you are thinking
Wow this is really wonderful
this is really a good realization
Interesting technique. Will try it out.
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Literally the most practical explanation of mindfulness I've ever heard. Bar none.
"We look at the world once, in childhood. The rest is memory." ~Louise Glück - When he quoted this, I had to pause the video and have a "Oh my God, this is my problem" moment. Wow.
Literally the best Ted talk on mindfulness out there, and I've listened to them all.
It is a superb sentence. I started looking for who said that. Is there any book written by her!!
Well if you want to learn mindfulness meditation practice, try reading Mindfulness in plain English. It's audible version is freely available on UA-cam. Its beautiful book and the best book you will ever come across on mindfulness.
Mohak Londhe x
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I don’t understand what this means
This makes total sense. I knew for a fact that going on a vacation, going to the mountain for a week, or to the sea for a week, gives me so much creativity and relaxation. And the truth is, I thought it just wasn't a possibility in regular busy life. But listening to this, I've realized, when I'm in the nature, i am more in tune with it, with myself, more present physically, more mindful. I don't judge myself, nor the surroundings, i don't plan. I just am. And listening to this I've realized i can simulate the same thing here at home. It's not the same, but as you've said, even if it's just 15mins/24h, it matters. Thank you!
the daily reality of adult life makes me lose sight of what a pleasure it is to be alive
abso-fucking-lutely
Well that's cause it's not a pleasure.
Besides, pleasure is a judgment.
No pleasure, no pain. This is the game of mindfulness.
+ Jesse G ... So true. At some point the human race lost its way.
what a pleasure to be alive and to know that we are coming closer to death with every breath.
is it?
Isn’t it amazing how human beings actually need something called mindfulness to remind them that reality is always here and now? We’re so caught up in the dream of thought and make believe stories of our lives that we need a practice to actually live life as it actually is, right here, right now.
I honestly love this talk
Most of us constantly thinking about the future and worrying about the stuff that's gonna happen without even realizing that it's just thoughts and a battle on our mind that makes us anxious and trapped
We need to practice paying attention for the things that's happening in the present right now;)
Again it was a great lesson i love it
7:30 "Your strategy for living in the present will go a lot better when you accept how frequently the present sucks"
Buddha's "first noble truth"
You are Damn Right about that!!!!!
This is especially true in 2020.
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Corona is not the worst thing that is happening in the world. It is simply the one, we hear most of.
This is realistic. Yes. Life is messy but the way to encounter it by accepting it, and practice mindfulness not just to get rid of messiness of life but to improve life even if it's messy. Great message.
What a nice man. And one of the best TED talks I've ever seen.
We're definitely more present when we are kids. Not always though. Coming from a traumatizing childhood, whenever the present, as a kid, was nerve-wracking I'd simply think about the future as a way to block what was going on around me. So I think it does depend on one's childhood. Lately, I realized that whenever my mind starts thinking about the future frequently it's a good indicator that the present sucks and I need to do something about it.
I agree with you. We’re more present in our childhood, that is if we even had a “childhood” and it was not stripped from us through trauma.
I thought that this was going to be AGAINST mindfulness meditation... so I was curious, but, I was wrong.
+Faegir Volva that's the point, to drag you into this
+Nör Aldin Ha! That would be like trying to drag someone into piano lessons or training for a 5K. Better to provide encouragement to people who have ruled it out based on misinterpreting the experience of practicing.
I'm so down, but the title is click-bait. You got me in a good way, but that was a miracle. I'm going to watch this till it sounds like English bc I am that stressed out and potentially disciplined. Not quite yet.
The key is in the word "try". Don't TRY to be mindful, don't aim at the goals and ignore the process. I'm this sense it's not at all misleading :)
I made similar comment. He could use an accurate title to attract those who have tried mindfulness and "it didn't work for them" because they never really learned that it is a way of being with our moment-to-moment experience--5 senses, thoughts, feelings.
he's clumsy yet so calm and confident!
Once you seperate your ego from you're true self, you would not have any strong reactions such as embarrassment described. They just don't occur anymore, or only as a gentle feeling you can observe like a bubble and blow it on its way. No aversion or pushing occurs. No judgement
thanks
I really love this talk. There's an uplifting pessimism in it that speaks to me.The topic is something that I've known for a long time, but sometimes good ideas go over your head until someone puts it in terms you can personally relate to. Thanks Daron.
Or until you do it 100 times.
Totally agree with you.
Thank you for sharing and reminding me of what's it like to be me again.
You rock, buddy
I'm a little lost. I am trying to learn about mindfulness and I feel like this was a lot of words but he didn't say much. Maybe it's just me though, literally the first video on mindfulness I've seen.
Awesome explanation of live wisely In the world
This is great. Pretty much exactly the same as David Foster Wallace's thoughts. This is an excerpt from one of his creative writing classes - "It’s not that students don’t ‘get’ Kafka’s humour but that we’ve taught them to see humour as something you get - the same way we’ve taught them that a self is something you just have. No wonder they cannot appreciate the really central Kafka joke - that the horrific struggle to establish a human self results in a self whose humanity is inseparable from that horrific struggle. That our endless and impossible journey toward home is in fact our home. It’s hard to put into words up at the blackboard, believe me. You can tell them that maybe it’s good they don’t ‘get’ Kafka. You can ask them to imagine his art as a kind of door. To envision us readers coming up and pounding on this door, pounding and pounding, not just wanting admission but needing it, we don’t know what it is but we can feel it, this total desperation to enter, pounding and pushing and kicking, etc. That, finally, the door opens … and it opens outward: we’ve been inside what we wanted all along."
humour you dont get you have it or not.
ruzickaw that’s not what he said at all though. Are you adding your own thoughts?
So I had to pause it at 4:36, and at this point I realize that this guy is a genius. I know that I will definitely finish watching it, watch it again, and share it with others, many others.
That’s at 10.36
@@i.ehrenfest349 Thank you.
As Alan Watts said, "This is it". Making what trips so many so simple. Well done & with humour.
13 years of practice and still human. GG
One of the clearest and most straightforward explanations of mindfulness and meditation I've heard. Awesome talk.
Mindfulness is a modern day super power that all of us can learn.
+Steve McKinnon although it's not modern day! But yes, superpower definitely, in a way.
technically, a curse would be a judgment and thus the opposite of mindfulness, not that it matters.
tormentography technically, super power is a judgment too....putting things on a pedestal eh?
I'm not sure.
If I can sent and laser beam which instantly freezes you, or could fly anywhere, or lift anything, I don't think those are judgments just like my ability to type isn't a judgement. I could be wrong, but I think these types of "things" would be "nouns" and thus cannot be a sort of judgment.
Also, in our battle to avoid judgment I think it's fruitful to know what it is we are trying to avoid. That is, we ought to know what we mean by "judgment" such that we can train ourselves to avoid this.
But then again, it doesn't really matter.
Just like your judgment of me putting things on a pedestal is not a noun or a super power. Not that it matters, although it's helpful to know what it is we are actually doing when we are being mindful...
whatever!!!!
Some people having no serious prblem in life becomes so much stressed and anxious without any reason.and believe me it is a very big problem.
So as I.
Good talk. Just why the title?
Hao Yuan I think the title should have been "Don't try to be, mindful" that pause would have made it more clear but I agree this title is trash lol
mindfulness is about the self, no mind or muchin is about awareness of your surroundings, about your world. mindfulness feeds the ego. no mind defeats the ego. we are part of this existance, we are not on our own. awarness teaches us acceptance of all things that we know and don't know. mindfulness even though focused keeps you wrapped up in the self feelings, which are not reallly feelings because they are of the mind. if you are using your mind you can not be in a state of awareness, it is an impossibility.
Reverse engineering
Perfect. I never liked the term "mindfulness", when what you really seek is freedom from the mind...
mrpentium
Soo true!! 👌👏
It's totally not about freedom from the mind. I'd describe it more as acceptance but non-identification with the mind and being itself.
Yeah but the freedom of the mind is mindfulness..when the mind is not the boss of you then you have all of your mind for you..so when the mind is empty it is mindfulness..when the mind is empty you rest the mind and you also sharpen in the same time because it doesn’t making all this nonsense which everyone is going through
I didn't hear freedom from mind?
Mindfulness is from Buddhism right? Buddhists also believe mind is outside of us, ie, the universe is mind, the universe is mental. Now see it.
@@coughyfilter It's freedom from the mind in the context of freedom from the constant ruminating, worrying, criticism, mind chatter that takes place in the mind. I think that's what the person meant.
Runs along the lines of , Scott peck. Once we truly accept life is hard , life is then no longer hard because we transcend it. Noticing without judgments or criticisms is the message too .
Mindfulness made me who I used to be and whom I liked. :)
This is a short course in mindfulness. It is consistent with what I have found to be so. Ask yourself; Am I willing to do what those who say works to have what I want, even for a limited period of time. Who asker,s this question? And, who will do it?
This guy gets it.
I think this is one of the most realistic talks I've seen on how mindfulness can be applied, and how it is useful in every day life.
Sorry for bothering you. It's quite hard to understand the video for me. So i wanna ask you, does talking to your self in your mind is bad for you?
Great message behind this. More than just being mindful.
He's cute. And this talk really meant a lot to me
Over the past 5 years after discovering Daron's talk, I've watched it dozens of times and sent the link to dozens of my friends and family. The way he captures the essence of life is both accurate and insightful. And when Daron invites us to be understand what it means to be mindful in our lives - its a gift I'm truly thankful for.
listen to music as much as possible and you will optimize your brain capacity for beneficial development, and adding dancing amplifies the overall effects, Try different genres, the way you might try a buffet. Peace!
The Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle is a great deeper guide to this. Love it!
Beautiful! Noticing moments is fun, expands time, and can be a simple joy.
In a nutshell: observe whatever is there - the good, the bad and the indifferent- you are being mindful/meditating....
So basically... practice mindfulness, but call it something else?
Excelent! His way of presentation and the last sentence give me hope. If I understand what he is saying right, it means that I can stay a real person with likes and dislikes and also become more present.Sadly my experience (with vipassana Meditation) was very different from that. And a lot of long time meditators I´ve seen seem to me, like they have no personality anymore, like they conditioned themselves to be inhuman.So thank you for this.
7:29 "Your strategy to live in the present will get a lot better when you accept how frequently the present sucks" , lol, this had me.
This is a brilliant talk! Both funny and super insightful. I'm a longtime meditator, and this talk contained extremely helpful reminders for me. Well done, Daron--thank you!
I sort of pity you all who need to train yourselves to be mindful. It should be one's natural state of mind. I don't think primitive peoples need such training.
I do practice paying attention to one sense esp listening very carefully to natural sounds or seeing the scenery when out in the wood. Having practiced for more than a month yet my bad habit of dwelling in my inner narratives started to rise, becoming vulnerable to react certain emotions finally rendering mindfulness practice to go totally in vain. I noticed it is prerequisite to accept any states of mind and feelings, or negative ones. But I found myself engulfed by it many times. I have social anxiety driven by childhood and now I am able to lead a normal life compared to the past however even before anxiety occurs, my brain perceives social situations or events as a threat I had traumatised, making body manifestations like rattling voice, hand and irregular eye movements etc. Mindfulness for some ppl is easier said than done but surely enabling you to take baby steps.
What an amazing presentation. The man just gave the most descriptive insight into meditation with using the word once!
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Great talk, and I practice mindfulness every day. All due respect, though, why is it that everybody who endorses mindfulness seems to be perpetually anxious?
Anxious people probably benefit from mindfulness meditation the most.
He might look anxious from the outside but very calm from the inside. He's joking around and having fun, maybe he didnt have much experience as a public speaker..
Those that seek are looking for something.
quitters remedy. the simple answer to this is that mindfulness has got it back to front. we need to get away from thought at every opportunity. no mind muchin. our aim is to rid ourselves of the ego. mindfulness brings you closer to the ego, because it is about awarness of the self. the self is the ego. we are part of existance, and we need to become aware of existance which is all around us and in us. we need to understand nature in everything, including ourselves. if you believe everything is connected, then it is simple. your awarness and the awarness of all of nature are one and the same. if you fight with nature, nature fights with you. if you work in harmony with nature, nature works in harmony with you. what you look for you get.
@Largesse1000 A gimmick backed by decades of neuroscience.
very good
I think mindfulness helps bring simplicity back to life specially when minds are running so fast these days. If we all stopped for a few minutes a day and observed our mind, i'm sure the world would be on a better path. Or at least more positivity would spread, and the negativity would be cut substantially. That's in the scenario that a big percentage of us humans want peace , prosperity and mutual growth. That's my personal aim. Hit like if you have a similar vision #spreadconsciousness #savetheworld
+TheSingleLife Yes. Exactly! What I'm describing is simple, but not easy. It's about creating new habits in midst of our routines. And it happens at the individual level. More examples and details here: www.athomeinyourlife.com/blog/2014/8/26/disrupt-the-default-mode
Great talk!
I do agree, but once you are conscious, what do you with knowing that you're not feeling 100% right about what you feel, think and how you act? How to start changing when you don't know which direction to aim yourself at?
I have a simple life.
However, I get forced to do mindfulness at school; it gives me anxiety.
One of the best talks about Mindfulnee, more realistic and down to earth I’ve ever heard. Thank you!
When your teacher forces you to watch this, bruh this video is basically why i can't meditate. I can't even sit and watch for 11 minutes.
I really enjoyed this talk. taught me a lot.
The best benefit of mindfulness is the wisdom that there is no permanent self. What mentions is only by product. 😍 🙏 🙏 🙏 👀 👍
That's why you use biofeedback or neurofeedback training. I'm currently using HRV training, just started yesterday, and I already feel calmer, happier, and better able to pay attention to whatever I wish to pay attention to.
so good. underrated
Thank you for casting your gems...
Any moment we habitually "check out" is an opportunity to instead disrupt the narrative of our life and notice the details right in front of us....
what it feels like to notice....
the relaxation in my legs
anything resfull at all that we can savor
Your strategy for living in the present will go better when you accept how frequently the present sucks.
what it feels like to notice....
how slowly the line is moving
what it is like to run late
how cold my body feels
Your timed practice supports practice the rest of the day
Childhood
Set aside our unresolved story problems just a moment ( limit numbing , worrying and unconsciousness)
I wish that the title was different--it implies that you are against the mindfulness way of being. Actually, you are trying to correct misconceptions people have re what the mindfulness is, since it is actually "a way of being".
one thing i will never understand is how the speakers don't say um
Because every speaker is different?
If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.
Very insightful -really gets to the heart of what mindfulness is all about in a practical way.
Exactly what I thought after this video was not was I really expecting .
It doesn't seems annoying though and I m sure you r not the only one.
Dear Daron, I enjoyed every minute of your talk, thank you!
❤️ the message i needed... keep on practicing dont give up! ❤️
Along those lines, I could be about to die or have won the lottery. I'd feel unhappy in one situation briefly and happy about the other. Those feelings would arise and I'd accept them and they'd go away. However neither of them would effect what's really of importance-inner peace.We can choose this state if we have transcended identifying with an ego.
give me back my 10 minutes
You are talking about : the power of now 💪
I´m from Germany and I didn´t get the message of the video until i found out that "mindful" has a much better translation in German. It means something along the lines "pay attention"
This was so relatable ✨
Further, make adjustments to alter the moment. You wouldn't let the pain of a knife continue with your loving acceptance, you'd stop its movement or remove it.
This guy is amazing
New words for meditation practice. just noticing is an aspect of mindfulness.
I have problem in English
So plz anybody tell me exact conclusion of this
This was a really good talk. Great content and delivered well.
My therapist reccomend this video
The mindfulness book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels is good. It has 30 exercises for meditation and mindfulness that are helpful and practical.
6:01 😂😂😂 that's exactly what mindfulness is! Noticing the present. Mindful people notice, they aren't superhuman
Well - I do think you should be mindful. But people fail to realize how much is going on in there heads. Not even aware of how much resistance they are carrying in the subconscious. Becoming mindful is a very courageous thing to do because only then do you realize how fragile your little "self" really is.
The title is kinda misleading.
Mindfulness is being balanced and not run by emotions it really is as simple as that
true
I just got out of the Hospital and this "Mindfulness" Lady saw me for 3 days about this Mindfulness. It was a Psychological twist from Thankyou Dr. Lamoze. It did not help me at all.
Wow that was really helpful and interesting
Great, great video. Seriously this blew my mind
0.000000001 useful insightful and unselfish vidoes on youtube. and this is one of them, thankyou.
Anybody else can't watch because of the annoying mouth noises? Tried several times
Nice man but it didn't do much for me. I'm always anxious although I always look serene according to most people who know me.
Accent sounds like Inventing Anna in Netflix
One says be mindful, other says don't be mindful. Internet is full of crazy people 😮😢
What a truth! Problems are parts of the life. Just need to know how to see and take care of them. Easier said than done! Just start it! Thank you for your sharing.
The stairs analogy at the beginning is brilliant! This was an awesome talk.
Back a few years later for a second watch. Clearly one of the best talks on mindfulness ever. Every year I should watch Shauna Shapiro's TED talk, and this one as well. Brilliant. Thank you again Daron.
I love his talk! He's humorous, charming and what he said reminds me of things that I've forgot - to remember & to practice mindfulness. It's that moment-to-moment practice of pausing & picking a thing to notice, maybe what/how you're seeing or hearing, or feeling in a part of your body, etc. I had done that before & I remember it felt good, but I later failed to keep it as a habit & even lost touch of what to do to practice again when I wanted to. Thank you for reminding me. Once again, lovely talk! Thank you
Mindfulness is great, but just practising vipassana meditation is not enough you also need to combine some other things and when you do, that is when you just lose all suffering, as you know it is "not you, not yours and you are not it."
Sonpahien Gōnun what things should you combine meditation with?
I would Like to know that too ... :) Exercise, social contacts, meaning? Did this state continue for you or are you Back to normal?
@@aldoushuxley5953 I think that Sophyng means study and have a teacher to guide you. Vipassana is actually "awareness" which is one step deeper than "mindfulness".
@@outrageouszijigmailcom thank you :)
Love this! We have 5 basic senses and Daron reminded me to use them. So simple and practical.
He doesn't get enough stress. Therefore, he cannot benefit from escape.
He might as well have been speaking Chinese. But I will listen till it makes sense. Sad that we've let get capitalism get so far that everything is a giant, stressful challenge. Obviously going to get worse now, till it devolves.
I think that mindfulness will lead us to less stress, and more peace. One key may be to get away from our electronics, and "being connected all the time". Maybe / probably.
Its not just capitalism. Its mostly the modern day christian ideology
personally, i feel we all think too much. we’re always being distracted from everything and anything.
especially with these cellphones. we never really focus on what we’re doing.
if we’re not doing something we like and enjoy like woodworking for myself, we shouldn’t be thinking about anything.
always thinking, always thinking.....where does it get us? it brings us here, to TED talks and how to calm our minds.
back when my folks were young farming on mountains in italy, they didn’t have all these distractions.
it was simple, and they were simple, and it kept life simple so their brains weren’t all over the place like ours are.
life was physically challeibut their minds were clear and free.
TV, cellphones, computers, traffic, construction noise, etc etc. what would happen if we turned all those off for just a week?
it seems like he talks about a different way to be mindful rather than talking about 'dont try to be mindful'
really good content. helped a lot.
I agree, it's a mindfulness technique he's speaking of.
Try Meditation.
It's next stage of this game
i’m LIVING for his charisma
Isn't noticing the present being mindful ???
Guy Incognito. no, if you are present you cannot be mindful