Loved this! I use a walker/walking frame in my daily life right now (until I can afford a wheelchair), and BY FAR the most popular assumptions are: 1) I am OLD. So old. I am an ancient being that rose from the earth eighty centuries ago and now I am trapped here, and I must roam the earth for all of eternity, waiting for some kind, able-bodied soul to set me free from this young-looking mortal flesh prison by asking the critical question, "Aren't walkers just for old people in like... nursing homes?" 2) I can't or shouldn't be able to walk. This one is my favourite. I was at the gym last night waiting to use the leg press machine and the girl on the machine looked at her friend and was like, "How is she going to use the machine if she can't walk..?" Like.... y'all, it's a WALKer. You have to be able to WALK to use it. That is the entire pretense of the device. I don't know why, but able-bodied people get SO confused about this, as if it's absolutely defying the laws of time, space and physics that I can walk AT ALL, let alone walk unassisted if I don't have my walker, or use my lower body in other ways.
Have you been able to purchase a wheelchair? They are mighty expensive. People are weird asking those stupid questions. I don’t know if you’re in the USA but if you are and if you’re close by I could bring you my spare wheelchair.
I've just started using one because of pain and fatigue. Mostly in mammoth shopping malls, to get to health fund dentist, or hairdresser some shops. Only reaction so far is from a guy in a stand selling something who wanted to know where I bought it. He was quite nice about it and explained he wanted to get something for when his mother in law visited who had bad spinal arthritis. So I showed him a few things about it and discussed it. But I've only been using it two days. I've had crap for just using a cane!! Also a two wheeled scooter. But you get ignorant idiots everywhere including nurses. You'll probably encounter them when you get a wheelchair too.
When i have a good day, and i am out of my wheelchair. Even when i had good set of weeks where i rarely used my chair, people would see me, and they would congratulate me that i no longer need a wheelchair. It's a difficult task to explain that i am having a wonderful time not needing it, but that it will remain a part of my life likely all of my life.
Katlyn Constance Webber YES! I can totally relate. Sometimes I just have a good day where I can walk and it’s lucky and other days I can’t. Just because I am having a good day today doesn’t mean I’m “cured”
I am a single mum and I use a power wheelchair, I feel like I have to dress really nice when we go to the mall or some other place where there is a lot of people, because then all people understand that I’m not mentally handicapped. I really hate that assumption!
Yes, same here, or as I have to wear compression tights, I dress in sports clothes, just to confuse them even more, I have to wear pref high top sneakers or lace up shoes due to foot tendon transplant anyway. So add a tank top and I look like I'm on my way to the gym.
As a guy that slowly but steadily loose control of my legs(undiagnosed with Fibromyalgia), I feel as the people around me( except my wife, that is amazing!) Are judging me. I am soon getting my own char, and your videos does help me lots! You are a star that brightens up my days when my legs are at it's worst. Thank you! Lots of love from little me in Norway x3
Don’t forget to let me know the assumptions people make about you!!! I could go on and on…But these were the most popular ones some of you left. I know I did some stilly voices in this assumptions, but I’m not offened at all, and I hope your not. Thank you everyone who took part in this fun video.. 💗💗x
I hope you weren’t offended by my assumption, I just know I constantly get my long hair caught in EVERYTHING. In terms of assumptions about me, people seem to think that, as a harpist, I wish I played the piccolo every time I have to move my instrument. People (and many medical professionals upon meeting me) also seem to assume that, because I’m so thin, I must have an eating disorder. I actually have to eat more often than most to keep my energy from crashing due to my fast metabolism!
People think that because I'm shaven-headed, bearded and well-built (like Shauno on wheels) I'm some kind of hard-nut. I'm a big softie in real life. I once scared the obnoxious brother of an ex when he saw how big I was in a newspaper photo. Thankfully, he never hit her again (he was a weedy little bully).
People assume I need someone with me, and if I’m alone that I’m “lost” People assume I can’t drive Assume that I am mentally incompetent and must be spoken to like a child Some people assume that because I’m not able to work (I’m disabled by several chronic illnesses) that I’m lazy People assume that they can ask literally anything, no matter how personal and that they deserve an answer (this happens in the US a ton!)
Hey Gen , thank you for another fantastically informive video yet again. Another assumption that able bodied people have is that wheelchairs are just a fun means of transportation. I wish able bodied people were more aware of the costs associated with the equipment costs of any disability equipment that we disabled people may require the use of in their daily lives
Pulls in to handicap parking, gets out puts chair together and plops down in it.... Random person: if you can walk you don’t need that chair or space, move and give it to a person who needs it. 😑🧐 me smiling, thanks not all disabilities are visible have a good day. Assuming if you can walk you don’t need a wheelchair or the handicap space.
Silly question, but have you ever been told by a random person that they are proud of you for putting your wheelchair together? I had that happen and all I did was say thank you and move on but it stews in my head and I feel like maybe it was supposed to be positive but came across as condescending. Once I was waiting for my friend to come out of the restaurant we went to and I was in my car in the handicap accessible spot and this woman screams at me asking if I’m actually disabled and she doesn’t see a placard I said I am disabled and I got out of my car having to hug the side of it and showed her my disabled veteran license plates she shut up and drove around. It really angered me.
Dear Gem, this video was one of the best ever! Assumptions are made about everyone from everyone! I guess people need to assume things about their neighbors, co-workers, familymembers friends all the time. I was assumpted that I wasn't ill, cause in one store I stood up to grab something from a table, which was too high to grab from the wheelchair and no one wanted to help me, so, well I stood up, walked over to the table and grabbed that thing. I am faking....omg! No I am not. I am glad I can walk some little steps with holding on to furniture or walls or use my cane, but it's getting worse, so I am using the wheelchair more often to get used to it and learn how th handle it better. And yes, some people asked me if I went to the fitness studio to strengthen my arms..... no I don't. And there are situations where I cannot push myself alone and need help. Thanks for this video! It's been great! Thanks for sharing! SEnding you all my love for your family and you, Britta
Fairly recent wheelchair user here and new to your channel. The past few months I have been unable to walk due to a knee injury. Before the surgery and getting my brace, people always assumed I was faking it. Just because it’s not visible doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. I’ve also experienced people speaking to my husband instead of me even when I’m the one to ask the question. This one bothers me a lot because I am someone who believes in eye contact when speaking to someone. Sometimes it feels like I don’t exist. Lastly I get asked a lot if I need help and sometime multiple times by the same individual. Especially since after my surgery and having the full leg brace on. Thank you for asking but I’m ok. If I need help, I will ask.
I was feeding the ducks a few weeks ago, and I got loads of judgy and pitying looks. There were other adults doing similar things, but I was the only one with a mobility aid. No, I don't have an intellectual disability, I just really like ducks and have to use mobility aids.
I am not in a wheelchair but I use a cane. The big two assumptions about me are that I am faking it or im not trying hard enough to get better because its taking so long for me to walk better. I suffered from a herniated disk gone wrong, causeing my right leg to go numb and inmobile
I've had that too when some moron in the grocery store saw me walking without it. I use it for pain and fatigue due to OA, CPPD and hypermobile everything.
The only one that popped into my head was said to my gf when she was in primary school "you can't have read that, you're dyslexic. You must've just watched the film"
What a great post Gem 🙌🏻 I’m totally with you : Using wheelchair is easy - hell noooo, 🥴 fingers in spokes is so painful and the throbbing afterwards is horrible. It winds me up too the way people try to dumb down people in wheelchairs is just so so wrong🤗🤗Keep being you you’re a badass 💪🏻🤗🤗
I have an invisible fluctuating illness. People assume that i must be faking, or I'm overreacting. Also that I'm fat because I'm lazy... (nope, I'm not lazy, I'm chronically ill, and have other conditions which account for my weight). Also thank you for the clip of Shaun trying a wheelie, I needed that smile! X
I’m in a wheelchair and my friend is blind and we had to get somewhere. She has been there before but I hadn’t but the way she went used stairs. So she led the way while we figured out how to get there. When we arrived people assumed she didn’t know where to go and we were like um.... no she knows where she’s going I don’t... lol.
Hi Gem! I know this is an older video but I've just found your channel a few weeks ago. I want to tell you that you are amazing. You having mom guilt made me tear up because what I see is a mom that does everything in her might for her daughter! You travel with her and give her the best memories. My anxiety has kept me from doing a lot of traveling with my daughter. You are an amazing mom! Please never doubt that! If DB ever wants to have a pen pal in Florida my daughter is 11 and would probably enjoy it very much 😉 ! You are wonderful Gem and I look up to you a lot.
I have gotten that one too, the mentally incapable one. I've been out with my fiance and people will sometimes ask him things about me even if I'm the only one answering.
I was looking at make up with my friend and the sales assistant came over and said " what is she looking for?" Then because she couldn't find it then got very patronising and insinuating that I didn't know what I wanted. I was so angry
@@secretsquirrel7374 yeah, it's hard when people get like that. Firstly, however, just know that time catches up to all of us and karma is a butt and unforgiving. Secondly, if it was truly bad, most people aren't their own supervisors and they are supposed to be helping, not being condescending so... An eye for an eye, An as* for an a**? Lol I hope you and your friend experience better 😊
@@secretsquirrel7374 yeah? 🙁 In that case, I'm sorry you all went though that. The first time is always hard to deal with and usually the other person gets away with the mistreatment because most people aren't prepared to defend and stand up for themselves, mostly because they shouldn't have to so they're dumbfounded. But I'm glad you haven't experienced anything since 😊 almost gives me hope for a more understanding world
I’m not physically disabled but I do have autistic difficulties and epilepsy. I try to take a positive approach most of the time as if I just saw everything in a negative light then life would just be darn depressing. I agree there are days or things that just trigger bad feelings or worries but I just try to work through them. I have the same things with paperwork, bills, remembering certain things or how to do now as I also had dyslexia and dispraxia as a kid but I can get through life most of the time on my own.
Gosh. I am small because of my physical disability, and most of the times (when not at university or at work) I go around with my mom. So people always assume I'm either a child or assume that I have a mental disability. This leads for them to talk to me like I'm a baby. Weirdly enough, when I'm by myself I guess I carry myself differently because I've never had that type of issue.
That is awful. Condescension is really annoying. I don’t know how I would react if someone started cooing at me like I’m either mentally slow or whatever they have going on in their small minded brains. I’d probably look at them and ask if they were alright and wheel away.
I get that. Funnily enough despite the grey hair some young children also assume I'm a child. I don't mind, I think it's funny. But adults, that's another story.
I’m disabled n newbie to a chair. Skin care is my thing too! It’s something I can control that it’s easy to do. One thing that I’m just sane as everyone else in.
One assumption I get when I use my wheelchair or mobility scooter, is that I can’t walk at all, so when I get up , I get really strange looks, like they think I’m just being lazy or faking it. Yes I can walk, but only short distances.
the mom / dad guilt thing is a bit different for me since I spent years with that guilt before I started to use mobility aids. For very short walks I can still do it with crutches (if there is not more than one short trip from car and back again). But a wheelchair, when I decided it was time to start the internal process of accepting it and I started using one, has given me back a freedom I haven't enjoyed in a decade, and given my family back a husband and dad that hasn't been there like he should. So guilt? Yes I definitley had it before. Now? No WAY. Just happy that I can be as much as I can be now, which is a heck of a lot more than it used to be. ;)
Because I'm not paralysed and can stand and walk a few steps and because I am also overweight people assume I am just fat and lazy. I was nowhere near this fat until I ended up in my chair. As for the mum guilt, my children do know a difference as I've only been in my chair for just over a year but they are still amazing and they never make me feel guilty.
Stephanie Rigby, Yes, many people are overweight Because of their disabilities and illness! Hypothyroidism is just one cause of being overweight, and if you were born hypo, it can cause coordination problems and weak joints! People see me and assume I’m lazy because I’m overweight, they don’t know that I’ve always been uncoordinated and weak, even when I was too thin! When I was too thin, I had a problem with Conscience Fainting! That’s when you lose your sight and hearing, but are aware of it, it can be scary! No one (besides family) believed me when that happened either! 🙄
I have hidden disabilities and I get the days when you just think why me, I just wish I was normal etc. But thankfully nowadays (since I had open brain surgery) I do find things easier and life isn’t as bad as it used to be.
I remember being at college and when we had non disabled people over to play basketball against. The first thing they would do is get in the chair and pop a wheelie!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣....funniest thing ever!!!
I have very bad Fibromyalgia and it leaves me in so much pain some days that I can't walk so I use a powerchair to mobilise outside of my flat and people frequently say to me "Can't you just get out and walk?"
I have been using a chair for 7 years. I have several conditions and began having problems with my hips/legs as a child. After several surgeries and being in a coma in my later years I had to start to use my chair. Throughout my life (particularly pre-coma) the assumption was that I was a fake. Because some days I used crutches, some days I didn't and now when people see me stand, the almost pass out because they have assumed I cant. Definitely people think I get everything free...not true...I have purchased 6 out of 7 wheelchairs. The most shocking question I've ever been asked (I was at the Dr surgery) by a stranger was "If I'm still active"? when I queried what he meant he pointed to he genitals and said "you know" What has happen to the art of flattery...I was still married anyway lol
When my wife and I are together, people always ask her questions as if I'm incapable of making my own decisions. It also annoys the hell out of her when I make fun of people and act in accordance with thier expectations. It also annoys the hell out of my wife when I answer, "I'm just lazy" as a response to someone's asking why I'm in a chair. Further, people go up to my adult son in the same manner as they would with my wife. His answer: "I'm autistic, my father's not." My "favorite" is when I'm alone and all of a sudden an older person puts their hand on my head and prays for my health. People are people, not much you can do about it. Most of them mean well, but they have no idea how to interpret what they see.
I like "awe...I'll pray for you to get better" or when they'll ask the person I'm with in a low voice.." awe...how is she? Must be a lot for you to care for" Holly shit come on I'm fine.
Gem i honestly love your videos so much! Some of the assumptions i get told every day. My arms are weak not strong! Im very tempted to start building up big arm muscles xx
People constantly assume I use a wheelchair because I am overweight 🤦🏻♀️no, no, yes I am overweight but that literally has nothing to do with why I use a wheelchair!
The times ive had to say I'm not strong, just used to it after forty years of pushing a big piece of metal around. I can relate to all of these, except the hair one lol.
I have autism but people don't believe me so people always think I'm shy which I'm as well people always think I'm just a shy person not someone with autism so if I tell someone I have autism they are shocked because I don't show it in me it's hard to tell on the looks because autism can be hiden in people
I do also get the arm strength one often enough. They don’t seem to hear or believe me when I say no, I’m actually not strong. I just have ME and orthostatic intolerance which means standing is harder and so I have no choice but to push myself around in a chair. But now I have a SmartDrive so I get a different kind of attention. It’s all very uncomfortable!
I've had people assume I have a mental disability before, too. Another one I get is that I am paralyzed/cannot stand or walk. I'm not in my chair due to being paralyzed. I have a condition that makes it painful and difficult to walk. 👍
My answers 1. Yes I don't feel strong 💪 2. Wheelchairs ♿️ are not easy 😊 3. Never had my hair court thankfully 4. Yes I've needed my wheels pumping but my younger bro or grandad handle that 5. Yes I have had them court ouch 6. I try to be positive & my friends and family say I'm always happy & laughing 😂 7. I do get upset when I can't go somewhere with my family or friends & they don't care if they have to choose somewhere else for me they love me for me 8. Hair down always 9. Bad diet but I do eat a lot of chicken 👍 10. No thankfully they just see the wheelchair ♿️ & know lol 🤣 11. Not a tea or coffee drinker I'm a soft drinker 12. Very smart my friends & FAM say especially with my memory 13. No I can't unfortunately I can't but u never know what can happen in the future 👍😉😍 14. Love u sweetheart 💖♿️😉 inspiration to us all ♿️💖 Love kayla
Wrong assumptions I've gotten: 1) That because I use a wheelchair for longer distances means I can't just easily pop right up and walk on my own - of all people, it was a nurse that said this to me, and I know not everyone can do this, but my physical ability allows me to. 2) That because I can't stand for long means I can't walk, DESPITE ME TELLING THE PERSON SPECIFICALLY THAT I CAN - this caused a huge issue the last time I flew, and I almost missed my flight because the TSA officer, instead of having me walk through the metal detector (like she was supposed to), sent me to the wrong area and then I had to wait 15 minutes for an officer to come and do a patdown (thankfully, I've got a best friend on the inside, and she was able to help get it sorted after the fact, once she came on shift, but it was still infuriating). 3) That when going up a long steep hill, all I need is someone to keep me from rolling backwards, and that I don't need any help with propelling myself up - my dad just didn't get it, but once we told him, he actually helped me push. 4) That just because I wasn't using a wheelchair that morning but was that evening means I must have done something major to myself during the interim that made using one necessary - this came from a classmate, but she was honestly more curious/genuinely wanting to understand than just making the assumption (I couldn't use it while doing barn chores and riding - which most days was the only time she saw me - but I had to use it the rest of the day). 5) That just because I have to rest while going up a ramp means I'm not okay - got this so many times at college, because the people who asked me don't understand how hard wheeling a standard manual (axles attached directly below backrest) is on your shoulders, let alone going up a grade. I have gotten a few that are correct, though: 1) That because I'm in a wheelchair, I can do a wheelie - this question came from my cousin, and I had just recently mastered it (and found it fun), so I was happy to show it off. 2) That the slanted sidewalk on campus is really hard and exhausting to wheel over, particularly right after going up a long hill - I was grateful for the person with me to offer to lend a hand at that point. 3) That the heavy non-automatic doors that swing open towards you are difficult to open from a wheelchair (a standard - not custom - manual to be specific) - very true, so I was grateful for the hand when someone occasionally offered it (they didn't stand in the doorway).
Funny story (not really an assumption): when I was in my sophomore/junior of HS I was going to my ASL class when I saw a boy sitting in a “temporary wheelchair” (he had a broken leg) outside the door of the ASL class doing wheelies. I told him he shouldn’t do that because he could flip over as he didn’t have any anti tippers to which he basically responded with “what do you know” (I’m a full time wheelchair user and have been paralyzed since birth) before wheeling away. Annoyed, I just kind of rolled my eyes and looked away when all of a sudden I hear this loud “BANG!” Of course I immediately look toward the direction of the boy and almost started laughing when I saw him sprawled out on his back after having tipped to far back! That’s what you get for not believing a wheelchair user Buddy!
Not necessarily an assumption. But probably the worst thing I've had said to me in a long time. I use a walker. I'm 26. And an elder gentleman (60s+) walks past and says "you should have a babe in that"... Well thanks man, cause that's what I totally need on top of my condition right now. I couldn't bring myself to say anything back I just smiled and nodded. Ive had one guy come up to me after a concert (8hours) my mum asked for help as she was struggling to hold me up, as I was only using a crutch at the time. I was swaying and struggling to stand. I said something along the lines of yeah i can't hold myself up well.The guy (ages with me) lent in and said "that'll be the drink dear". My response. "No because I can't drink because it tries to kill me." (And some other things along the same line, I gave no fs my mum had to tell me to chill) He backed off pretty quick. - I have MS and yeah it can look like were drunk, but being patronising after we've asked for help, na. Thanks for the video.
Any time someone comes up to me to ask about my chair the first thing out of their mouth is when was your accident and ill say no i was born like this it really drives me crazy when people assume that because I'm in a chair i was in some sort of accident not everybody that's in a wheelchair was in an accident I actually found a website that sells stickers that I'm gonna get to put on my backrest and it says born this way just so people don't just assume. I'm a shy person so talking to people i don't know scares me and then on top of that I'm not one for going to in dept about my disability to strangers i know their curious and sometimes the middle of a busy grocery store is not a good place at ask
Nikki Matthys that’s the opposite people either think I was born this or or the one I hate that I have diabetes it’s like no i was hit by a drunk driver so don’t drink and drive then there upset but you come up to me making assumptions so y can’t I throw it back on you 😂😂😂
I may need one due to a spinal cord was brusied when i was hit by a car 18yrs ago! and broke few otheres in august 1, 2007. never healed right! but some doctor assumed we all are drug seekers if we had a TRAUMATIC BRAIN INJURES YEARS AGO!! HEAD ACHES AND IF ITS SERIOUS LIKE MINEGITIS MAY LIE WERE TRYING TO GET PAIN MEDS SO EXCED MIGRAINES OTC WORKS VERY WELL! MY MIGRAINES ARE DUE TO TBIS I HAD IN THE PAST!!
As a man who uses a wheelchair I got these questions during a conversation on a dating website: 'Can you have sex? Can you have children?' Her question before that?: 'Hi, how are you?' according to her profile she was a nurse
My mom uses a wheelchair. She also has neuropathy in her hands, so wheeling herself down the hall makes her hands hurt real bad. I also have to remind her to pull her elbows in ( narrow doorways) so she doesn’t bash her elbows
I feel like Motability is only a perk if you can get a wheelchair any other way. My only way to get my wheelchair is through motability which means I can't get a car. 😭
I didn’t know you could get a chair through motability. Does that include maintenance and services for the chair? And can you get a power chair through them? I’m just curious. I already have a chair but it’s good to know for the future 😊
I’m a veteran and honestly am so lucky that I have all my needs taken care of. I get my wheelchairs through them and any other aid that I could need. I recently got approved for the smart drive system for my manual wheelchair, but I was looking at the prices and was blown away at how much it would cost. There is zero chance that I could have the tilite chair that I have if not for the veterans affairs. So motability sounds good ,but not being able to have a vehicle? Damn.
Lots of people make the assumption that just because I use my wheelchair some of the time I am not ambulant. However I am ambulant and also a wheelchair user.
Weak as water? Someone told you that? Tell them that water is anything but weak. Tsunami, hurricanes, the tidal patterns people have become paralyzed by surfing. It’s just a strange analogy.
when we arrive at a new place and my partner has to help me out of my chair and fix it and everyone around is like what?? people just assume I fix my own. Im fully capable, but my partner just doing it for me.
By the way, that was ever such a strange beginning. :-) 1:44 "Easy" is a relative term. 2:31 That loud?! It's likely to scare your socks off! 3:36 How do you do that?! Unless you try to push yourself with your fingers straight, but...surely not! 3:49 I believe in the Law of Attraction as well. 5:56 "Shop brough hair mask?" 8:28 ...of doing what? You do remind me of something that happened to me some time ago. My mom and I were out in the capital city of our province, and we went to buy an ice cream. The man who wanted to serve us (not sure if I'm saying this correctly), politely insisted to hear my order from me and not my mom.
Bert Visscher I’m not sure what you’re trying to get at here. Everything she said does happen to wheelchair users. Our fingers do get caught in the rim, and sometimes the spokes, especially in tight spaces. People assume that physical disability equals mental disability, this happens all the time. People don’t think you can order food for yourself or be independent. It’s rude to pick apart someone’s video without knowing what it’s actually like to use a wheelchair, which if you did you would know that all of the things she said are true.
@@jamiesingleton2844 Far be it from me to claim that they're not true. As a wheelchair user myself, I'm just sharing my own experience and understanding. I am sorry if it was taken the wrong way.
Do not ever assume that I want a red powerchair... I am sick of seeing them in red! Also do not assume that I like the car chair looking seats lol I use complex rehab technology. I so hate those things, and would be soo pissed if anyone was trying to push that crap on me like this is what you are getting and you can't do anything about it.
I'm short. I could only find two brands of rollators for my size. Both red. No colour choice either. What is it with red? Only four wheeled ones, no three wheeled ones in my size. Maybe with long Covid and aging population things will improve.
Media Headz TV on my manual chair I had the hand rims adjusted so they are closer to the wheel. I push the wheel by holding onto the tyre and outer hand rim at the same time. It’s important for active chair users because you can potentially break your fingers if you get caught at speed. Another excellent solution is to have plastic wheel spoke guards fitted. You can get clear, patterned ones or even design your own. They are light weight and add an extra touch of glamour to your chair as well as being useful for safety.
The main assumption I’ve come across is “well, you get everything you need for free”. No! Just no! I’ve just had to pay £130 for a stairlift service and a further £35 for new a battery (this is through a local charity so I dread to think what it would cost without the charity). Being disabled is bloody expensive 😒
People who say using a chair is easy, only used one for a short period on an easy surface! Oh, and not to get gory, but I busted my pinky in a spoke a few years back! Not fun!!!
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I think the reason why they say you’re strong, is because you lift your own body weight a lot, transferring from seats and your bed. And I admire that myself because I’m abled bodied and I can’t lift myself XD Here an assumption my boyfriend always gets. They always speak really slowly to him, even though he says to them he can speak normal. If he tells them that they don’t have to speak to him like he’s a baby, then they speak even slower... that is just so annoying. Even I tell people here to stop speaking so slowly. They just assume because he’s in a wheelchair, he can’t talk.
I'm looking forward to seeing many more videos.... I'm Particularly, Interested in videos where you and your family are going on vacation/ holiday 🇺🇸👩🦽
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'Disability doesn't discriminate, people do.' 👍👍
Loved this! I use a walker/walking frame in my daily life right now (until I can afford a wheelchair), and BY FAR the most popular assumptions are: 1) I am OLD. So old. I am an ancient being that rose from the earth eighty centuries ago and now I am trapped here, and I must roam the earth for all of eternity, waiting for some kind, able-bodied soul to set me free from this young-looking mortal flesh prison by asking the critical question, "Aren't walkers just for old people in like... nursing homes?" 2) I can't or shouldn't be able to walk. This one is my favourite. I was at the gym last night waiting to use the leg press machine and the girl on the machine looked at her friend and was like, "How is she going to use the machine if she can't walk..?" Like.... y'all, it's a WALKer. You have to be able to WALK to use it. That is the entire pretense of the device. I don't know why, but able-bodied people get SO confused about this, as if it's absolutely defying the laws of time, space and physics that I can walk AT ALL, let alone walk unassisted if I don't have my walker, or use my lower body in other ways.
Have you been able to purchase a wheelchair? They are mighty expensive. People are weird asking those stupid questions. I don’t know if you’re in the USA but if you are and if you’re close by I could bring you my spare wheelchair.
I've just started using one because of pain and fatigue. Mostly in mammoth shopping malls, to get to health fund dentist, or hairdresser some shops. Only reaction so far is from a guy in a stand selling something who wanted to know where I bought it. He was quite nice about it and explained he wanted to get something for when his mother in law visited who had bad spinal arthritis. So I showed him a few things about it and discussed it. But I've only been using it two days. I've had crap for just using a cane!! Also a two wheeled scooter. But you get ignorant idiots everywhere including nurses. You'll probably encounter them when you get a wheelchair too.
When i have a good day, and i am out of my wheelchair. Even when i had good set of weeks where i rarely used my chair, people would see me, and they would congratulate me that i no longer need a wheelchair. It's a difficult task to explain that i am having a wonderful time not needing it, but that it will remain a part of my life likely all of my life.
Katlyn Constance Webber YES! I can totally relate. Sometimes I just have a good day where I can walk and it’s lucky and other days I can’t. Just because I am having a good day today doesn’t mean I’m “cured”
I am a single mum and I use a power wheelchair, I feel like I have to dress really nice when we go to the mall or some other place where there is a lot of people, because then all people understand that I’m not mentally handicapped. I really hate that assumption!
Yes, same here, or as I have to wear compression tights, I dress in sports clothes, just to confuse them even more, I have to wear pref high top sneakers or lace up shoes due to foot tendon transplant anyway. So add a tank top and I look like I'm on my way to the gym.
I've gotten this before, as well. I just say, "My disability is in my legs, not my brain!"
As a guy that slowly but steadily loose control of my legs(undiagnosed with Fibromyalgia), I feel as the people around me( except my wife, that is amazing!) Are judging me. I am soon getting my own char, and your videos does help me lots! You are a star that brightens up my days when my legs are at it's worst.
Thank you! Lots of love from little me in Norway x3
Naughty Gem - you made me blush 😘 - I wasn't expecting a namecheck!
Don’t forget to let me know the assumptions people make about you!!! I could go on and on…But these were the most popular ones some of you left. I know I did some stilly voices in this assumptions, but I’m not offened at all, and I hope your not. Thank you everyone who took part in this fun video.. 💗💗x
I hope you weren’t offended by my assumption, I just know I constantly get my long hair caught in EVERYTHING.
In terms of assumptions about me, people seem to think that, as a harpist, I wish I played the piccolo every time I have to move my instrument. People (and many medical professionals upon meeting me) also seem to assume that, because I’m so thin, I must have an eating disorder. I actually have to eat more often than most to keep my energy from crashing due to my fast metabolism!
Ah thanks for sharing!! No I wasn’t offended at all! Thank you for taking part. 💗
People think that because I'm shaven-headed, bearded and well-built (like Shauno on wheels) I'm some kind of hard-nut. I'm a big softie in real life. I once scared the obnoxious brother of an ex when he saw how big I was in a newspaper photo. Thankfully, he never hit her again (he was a weedy little bully).
I rather liked the sexy Russian woman who started the video.. 😘
People assume I need someone with me, and if I’m alone that I’m “lost”
People assume I can’t drive
Assume that I am mentally incompetent and must be spoken to like a child
Some people assume that because I’m not able to work (I’m disabled by several chronic illnesses) that I’m lazy
People assume that they can ask literally anything, no matter how personal and that they deserve an answer (this happens in the US a ton!)
Shaun is a really good husband. He wants to help you and also seems like he enjoys helping you as well.
Hey Gen , thank you for another fantastically informive video yet again.
Another assumption that able bodied people have is that wheelchairs are just a fun means of transportation.
I wish able bodied people were more aware of the costs associated with the equipment costs of any disability equipment that we disabled people may require the use of in their daily lives
Pulls in to handicap parking, gets out puts chair together and plops down in it....
Random person: if you can walk you don’t need that chair or space, move and give it to a person who needs it.
😑🧐 me smiling, thanks not all disabilities are visible have a good day.
Assuming if you can walk you don’t need a wheelchair or the handicap space.
Silly question, but have you ever been told by a random person that they are proud of you for putting your wheelchair together? I had that happen and all I did was say thank you and move on but it stews in my head and I feel like maybe it was supposed to be positive but came across as condescending. Once I was waiting for my friend to come out of the restaurant we went to and I was in my car in the handicap accessible spot and this woman screams at me asking if I’m actually disabled and she doesn’t see a placard I said I am disabled and I got out of my car having to hug the side of it and showed her my disabled veteran license plates she shut up and drove around. It really angered me.
Dear Gem, this video was one of the best ever!
Assumptions are made about everyone from everyone!
I guess people need to assume things about their neighbors, co-workers, familymembers friends all the time.
I was assumpted that I wasn't ill, cause in one store I stood up to grab something from a table, which was too high to grab from the wheelchair and no one wanted to help me, so, well I stood up, walked over to the table and grabbed that thing. I am faking....omg! No I am not. I am glad I can walk some little steps with holding on to furniture or walls or use my cane, but it's getting worse, so I am using the wheelchair more often to get used to it and learn how th handle it better. And yes, some people asked me if I went to the fitness studio to strengthen my arms..... no I don't. And there are situations where I cannot push myself alone and need help.
Thanks for this video! It's been great! Thanks for sharing! SEnding you all my love for your family and you, Britta
Fairly recent wheelchair user here and new to your channel. The past few months I have been unable to walk due to a knee injury. Before the surgery and getting my brace, people always assumed I was faking it. Just because it’s not visible doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. I’ve also experienced people speaking to my husband instead of me even when I’m the one to ask the question. This one bothers me a lot because I am someone who believes in eye contact when speaking to someone. Sometimes it feels like I don’t exist. Lastly I get asked a lot if I need help and sometime multiple times by the same individual. Especially since after my surgery and having the full leg brace on. Thank you for asking but I’m ok. If I need help, I will ask.
I was feeding the ducks a few weeks ago, and I got loads of judgy and pitying looks. There were other adults doing similar things, but I was the only one with a mobility aid. No, I don't have an intellectual disability, I just really like ducks and have to use mobility aids.
I am not in a wheelchair but I use a cane. The big two assumptions about me are that I am faking it or im not trying hard enough to get better because its taking so long for me to walk better. I suffered from a herniated disk gone wrong, causeing my right leg to go numb and inmobile
I've had that too when some moron in the grocery store saw me walking without it. I use it for pain and fatigue due to OA, CPPD and hypermobile everything.
The only one that popped into my head was said to my gf when she was in primary school "you can't have read that, you're dyslexic. You must've just watched the film"
What a great post Gem 🙌🏻 I’m totally with you : Using wheelchair is easy - hell noooo, 🥴 fingers in spokes is so painful and the throbbing afterwards is horrible. It winds me up too the way people try to dumb down people in wheelchairs is just so so wrong🤗🤗Keep being you you’re a badass 💪🏻🤗🤗
You are so uplifting Gem it helps me to forget that i have to depend on my chair and that it really does not take from me who I am
I love these videos! :). People always assume I don’t do anything (especially work!) and that I’m single!
I have an invisible fluctuating illness. People assume that i must be faking, or I'm overreacting. Also that I'm fat because I'm lazy... (nope, I'm not lazy, I'm chronically ill, and have other conditions which account for my weight).
Also thank you for the clip of Shaun trying a wheelie, I needed that smile! X
Yes, Shaun is a hoot, and a bit of a ham sometimes. But your lucky to have him. He kills maintaining your chair.
I’m in a wheelchair and my friend is blind and we had to get somewhere. She has been there before but I hadn’t but the way she went used stairs. So she led the way while we figured out how to get there. When we arrived people assumed she didn’t know where to go and we were like um.... no she knows where she’s going I don’t... lol.
Hi Gem! I know this is an older video but I've just found your channel a few weeks ago. I want to tell you that you are amazing. You having mom guilt made me tear up because what I see is a mom that does everything in her might for her daughter! You travel with her and give her the best memories. My anxiety has kept me from doing a lot of traveling with my daughter. You are an amazing mom! Please never doubt that! If DB ever wants to have a pen pal in Florida my daughter is 11 and would probably enjoy it very much 😉 ! You are wonderful Gem and I look up to you a lot.
I have gotten that one too, the mentally incapable one. I've been out with my fiance and people will sometimes ask him things about me even if I'm the only one answering.
I was looking at make up with my friend and the sales assistant came over and said " what is she looking for?"
Then because she couldn't find it then got very patronising and insinuating that I didn't know what I wanted. I was so angry
@@secretsquirrel7374 yeah, it's hard when people get like that. Firstly, however, just know that time catches up to all of us and karma is a butt and unforgiving. Secondly, if it was truly bad, most people aren't their own supervisors and they are supposed to be helping, not being condescending so... An eye for an eye, An as* for an a**? Lol I hope you and your friend experience better 😊
That's the first and only time it's ever happened in 10 years of being disabled.
@@secretsquirrel7374 yeah? 🙁 In that case, I'm sorry you all went though that. The first time is always hard to deal with and usually the other person gets away with the mistreatment because most people aren't prepared to defend and stand up for themselves, mostly because they shouldn't have to so they're dumbfounded. But I'm glad you haven't experienced anything since 😊 almost gives me hope for a more understanding world
@@secretsquirrel7374 Your lucky perhaps?!
I’m not physically disabled but I do have autistic difficulties and epilepsy. I try to take a positive approach most of the time as if I just saw everything in a negative light then life would just be darn depressing. I agree there are days or things that just trigger bad feelings or worries but I just try to work through them. I have the same things with paperwork, bills, remembering certain things or how to do now as I also had dyslexia and dispraxia as a kid but I can get through life most of the time on my own.
Gosh. I am small because of my physical disability, and most of the times (when not at university or at work) I go around with my mom. So people always assume I'm either a child or assume that I have a mental disability. This leads for them to talk to me like I'm a baby. Weirdly enough, when I'm by myself I guess I carry myself differently because I've never had that type of issue.
That is awful. Condescension is really annoying. I don’t know how I would react if someone started cooing at me like I’m either mentally slow or whatever they have going on in their small minded brains. I’d probably look at them and ask if they were alright and wheel away.
I get that. Funnily enough despite the grey hair some young children also assume I'm a child. I don't mind, I think it's funny. But adults, that's another story.
I’m disabled n newbie to a chair. Skin care is my thing too! It’s something I can control that it’s easy to do. One thing that I’m just sane as everyone else in.
One assumption I get when I use my wheelchair or mobility scooter, is that I can’t walk at all, so when I get up , I get really strange
looks, like they think I’m just being lazy or faking it. Yes I can walk, but only short distances.
the mom / dad guilt thing is a bit different for me since I spent years with that guilt before I started to use mobility aids. For very short walks I can still do it with crutches (if there is not more than one short trip from car and back again). But a wheelchair, when I decided it was time to start the internal process of accepting it and I started using one, has given me back a freedom I haven't enjoyed in a decade, and given my family back a husband and dad that hasn't been there like he should.
So guilt? Yes I definitley had it before. Now? No WAY. Just happy that I can be as much as I can be now, which is a heck of a lot more than it used to be. ;)
I do like your videos. You have a really good personality for videos.
Because I'm not paralysed and can stand and walk a few steps and because I am also overweight people assume I am just fat and lazy. I was nowhere near this fat until I ended up in my chair. As for the mum guilt, my children do know a difference as I've only been in my chair for just over a year but they are still amazing and they never make me feel guilty.
Stephanie Rigby, Yes, many people are overweight Because of their disabilities and illness! Hypothyroidism is just one cause of being overweight, and if you were born hypo, it can cause coordination problems and weak joints! People see me and assume I’m lazy because I’m overweight, they don’t know that I’ve always been uncoordinated and weak, even when I was too thin! When I was too thin, I had a problem with Conscience Fainting! That’s when you lose your sight and hearing, but are aware of it, it can be scary! No one (besides family) believed me when that happened either! 🙄
Just wanted to say that Your hair was beautiful in this video 👍
I have hidden disabilities and I get the days when you just think why me, I just wish I was normal etc. But thankfully nowadays (since I had open brain surgery) I do find things easier and life isn’t as bad as it used to be.
I've caught my thumbs and ripped nails off on my spokes before it's so painful!
Sam Morris yes so painful and I’m a nail technician and love wearing nails but being in a wheelchair I had to either do them short or none at all 😢
I remember being at college and when we had non disabled people over to play basketball against. The first thing they would do is get in the chair and pop a wheelie!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣....funniest thing ever!!!
I have very bad Fibromyalgia and it leaves me in so much pain some days that I can't walk so I use a powerchair to mobilise outside of my flat and people frequently say to me "Can't you just get out and walk?"
I have been using a chair for 7 years. I have several conditions and began having problems with my hips/legs as a child. After several surgeries and being in a coma in my later years I had to start to use my chair.
Throughout my life (particularly pre-coma) the assumption was that I was a fake. Because some days I used crutches, some days I didn't and now when people see me stand, the almost pass out because they have assumed I cant.
Definitely people think I get everything free...not true...I have purchased 6 out of 7 wheelchairs.
The most shocking question I've ever been asked (I was at the Dr surgery) by a stranger was "If I'm still active"? when I queried what he meant he pointed to he genitals and said "you know"
What has happen to the art of flattery...I was still married anyway lol
When my wife and I are together, people always ask her questions as if I'm incapable of making my own decisions.
It also annoys the hell out of her when I make fun of people and act in accordance with thier expectations.
It also annoys the hell out of my wife when I answer, "I'm just lazy" as a response to someone's asking why I'm in a chair.
Further, people go up to my adult son in the same manner as they would with my wife.
His answer: "I'm autistic, my father's not."
My "favorite" is when I'm alone and all of a sudden an older person puts their hand on my head and prays for my health.
People are people, not much you can do about it. Most of them mean well, but they have no idea how to interpret what they see.
I like "awe...I'll pray for you to get better" or when they'll ask the person I'm with in a low voice.." awe...how is she? Must be a lot for you to care for"
Holly shit come on I'm fine.
Gem i honestly love your videos so much! Some of the assumptions i get told every day. My arms are weak not strong! Im very tempted to start building up big arm muscles xx
People constantly assume I use a wheelchair because I am overweight 🤦🏻♀️no, no, yes I am overweight but that literally has nothing to do with why I use a wheelchair!
The times ive had to say I'm not strong, just used to it after forty years of pushing a big piece of metal around. I can relate to all of these, except the hair one lol.
My arms are huge! Everything seems to be uphill, both ways.
The assumption that gets me is that people think my husband is my caregiver.
I have autism but people don't believe me so people always think I'm shy which I'm as well people always think I'm just a shy person not someone with autism so if I tell someone I have autism they are shocked because I don't show it in me it's hard to tell on the looks because autism can be hiden in people
I do also get the arm strength one often enough. They don’t seem to hear or believe me when I say no, I’m actually not strong. I just have ME and orthostatic intolerance which means standing is harder and so I have no choice but to push myself around in a chair. But now I have a SmartDrive so I get a different kind of attention. It’s all very uncomfortable!
People assume I'm a bodybiilder. They don't realise how heavy a steel wheelchair is to push every day. 💪
I've had people assume I have a mental disability before, too. Another one I get is that I am paralyzed/cannot stand or walk. I'm not in my chair due to being paralyzed. I have a condition that makes it painful and difficult to walk. 👍
My answers
1. Yes I don't feel strong 💪
2. Wheelchairs ♿️ are not easy 😊
3. Never had my hair court thankfully
4. Yes I've needed my wheels pumping but my younger bro or grandad handle that
5. Yes I have had them court ouch
6. I try to be positive & my friends and family say I'm always happy & laughing 😂
7. I do get upset when I can't go somewhere with my family or friends & they don't care if they have to choose somewhere else for me they love me for me
8. Hair down always
9. Bad diet but I do eat a lot of chicken 👍
10. No thankfully they just see the wheelchair ♿️ & know lol 🤣
11. Not a tea or coffee drinker I'm a soft drinker
12. Very smart my friends & FAM say especially with my memory
13. No I can't unfortunately I can't but u never know what can happen in the future 👍😉😍
14. Love u sweetheart 💖♿️😉 inspiration to us all ♿️💖
Love kayla
1 yes, it's been said at least once in the last couple of weeks
Wrong assumptions I've gotten:
1) That because I use a wheelchair for longer distances means I can't just easily pop right up and walk on my own - of all people, it was a nurse that said this to me, and I know not everyone can do this, but my physical ability allows me to.
2) That because I can't stand for long means I can't walk, DESPITE ME TELLING THE PERSON SPECIFICALLY THAT I CAN - this caused a huge issue the last time I flew, and I almost missed my flight because the TSA officer, instead of having me walk through the metal detector (like she was supposed to), sent me to the wrong area and then I had to wait 15 minutes for an officer to come and do a patdown (thankfully, I've got a best friend on the inside, and she was able to help get it sorted after the fact, once she came on shift, but it was still infuriating).
3) That when going up a long steep hill, all I need is someone to keep me from rolling backwards, and that I don't need any help with propelling myself up - my dad just didn't get it, but once we told him, he actually helped me push.
4) That just because I wasn't using a wheelchair that morning but was that evening means I must have done something major to myself during the interim that made using one necessary - this came from a classmate, but she was honestly more curious/genuinely wanting to understand than just making the assumption (I couldn't use it while doing barn chores and riding - which most days was the only time she saw me - but I had to use it the rest of the day).
5) That just because I have to rest while going up a ramp means I'm not okay - got this so many times at college, because the people who asked me don't understand how hard wheeling a standard manual (axles attached directly below backrest) is on your shoulders, let alone going up a grade.
I have gotten a few that are correct, though:
1) That because I'm in a wheelchair, I can do a wheelie - this question came from my cousin, and I had just recently mastered it (and found it fun), so I was happy to show it off.
2) That the slanted sidewalk on campus is really hard and exhausting to wheel over, particularly right after going up a long hill - I was grateful for the person with me to offer to lend a hand at that point.
3) That the heavy non-automatic doors that swing open towards you are difficult to open from a wheelchair (a standard - not custom - manual to be specific) - very true, so I was grateful for the hand when someone occasionally offered it (they didn't stand in the doorway).
Funny story (not really an assumption): when I was in my sophomore/junior of HS I was going to my ASL class when I saw a boy sitting in a “temporary wheelchair” (he had a broken leg) outside the door of the ASL class doing wheelies. I told him he shouldn’t do that because he could flip over as he didn’t have any anti tippers to which he basically responded with “what do you know” (I’m a full time wheelchair user and have been paralyzed since birth) before wheeling away. Annoyed, I just kind of rolled my eyes and looked away when all of a sudden I hear this loud “BANG!” Of course I immediately look toward the direction of the boy and almost started laughing when I saw him sprawled out on his back after having tipped to far back! That’s what you get for not believing a wheelchair user Buddy!
Not necessarily an assumption. But probably the worst thing I've had said to me in a long time. I use a walker. I'm 26. And an elder gentleman (60s+) walks past and says "you should have a babe in that"... Well thanks man, cause that's what I totally need on top of my condition right now. I couldn't bring myself to say anything back I just smiled and nodded.
Ive had one guy come up to me after a concert (8hours) my mum asked for help as she was struggling to hold me up, as I was only using a crutch at the time. I was swaying and struggling to stand. I said something along the lines of yeah i can't hold myself up well.The guy (ages with me) lent in and said "that'll be the drink dear". My response. "No because I can't drink because it tries to kill me." (And some other things along the same line, I gave no fs my mum had to tell me to chill) He backed off pretty quick. - I have MS and yeah it can look like were drunk, but being patronising after we've asked for help, na.
Thanks for the video.
Any time someone comes up to me to ask about my chair the first thing out of their mouth is when was your accident and ill say no i was born like this it really drives me crazy when people assume that because I'm in a chair i was in some sort of accident not everybody that's in a wheelchair was in an accident I actually found a website that sells stickers that I'm gonna get to put on my backrest and it says born this way just so people don't just assume. I'm a shy person so talking to people i don't know scares me and then on top of that I'm not one for going to in dept about my disability to strangers i know their curious and sometimes the middle of a busy grocery store is not a good place at ask
Nikki Matthys that’s the opposite people either think I was born this or or the one I hate that I have diabetes it’s like no i was hit by a drunk driver so don’t drink and drive then there upset but you come up to me making assumptions so y can’t I throw it back on you 😂😂😂
I may need one due to a spinal cord was brusied when i was hit by a car 18yrs ago! and broke few otheres in august 1, 2007. never healed right! but some doctor assumed we all are drug seekers if we had a TRAUMATIC BRAIN INJURES YEARS AGO!! HEAD ACHES AND IF ITS SERIOUS LIKE MINEGITIS MAY LIE WERE TRYING TO GET PAIN MEDS SO EXCED MIGRAINES OTC WORKS VERY WELL! MY MIGRAINES ARE DUE TO TBIS I HAD IN THE PAST!!
As a man who uses a wheelchair I got these questions during a conversation on a dating website:
'Can you have sex? Can you have children?'
Her question before that?: 'Hi, how are you?' according to her profile she was a nurse
Nurses are sometimes the most ignorant arrogant people I've ever come across. Not all. But you really remember the ones who are.
My mom uses a wheelchair. She also has neuropathy in her hands, so wheeling herself down the hall makes her hands hurt real bad. I also have to remind her to pull her elbows in ( narrow doorways) so she doesn’t bash her elbows
I feel like Motability is only a perk if you can get a wheelchair any other way. My only way to get my wheelchair is through motability which means I can't get a car. 😭
I USED to have wheelchairs with with tyres that you had to PUMP UP ,, but not now as the tyres are SOLID take care Gem posting from LONDON ENGLAND X
I didn’t know you could get a chair through motability. Does that include maintenance and services for the chair? And can you get a power chair through them?
I’m just curious. I already have a chair but it’s good to know for the future 😊
I’m a veteran and honestly am so lucky that I have all my needs taken care of. I get my wheelchairs through them and any other aid that I could need. I recently got approved for the smart drive system for my manual wheelchair, but I was looking at the prices and was blown away at how much it would cost. There is zero chance that I could have the tilite chair that I have if not for the veterans affairs. So motability sounds good ,but not being able to have a vehicle? Damn.
Lots of people make the assumption that just because I use my wheelchair some of the time I am not ambulant. However I am ambulant and also a wheelchair user.
Not even an "able-bodied" person is happy all the time. We all have our good, and bad days. It's okay!
I get the “you must be really strong” comment. Others think I’m “as weak as water” so I don’t know 🤷🏼♀️ 😂
Weak as water? Someone told you that? Tell them that water is anything but weak. Tsunami, hurricanes, the tidal patterns people have become paralyzed by surfing. It’s just a strange analogy.
when we arrive at a new place and my partner has to help me out of my chair and fix it and everyone around is like what?? people just assume I fix my own. Im fully capable, but my partner just doing it for me.
Very good video x
The biggest assumption people make about me is that because I can move my legs I can walk. I can't walk because of leg tremmors.
Assuming that I would rather be in my mobility scooter than walking. No. Definitely not. I love being active before, and I miss it now
By the way, that was ever such a strange beginning. :-)
1:44 "Easy" is a relative term.
2:31 That loud?! It's likely to scare your socks off!
3:36 How do you do that?! Unless you try to push yourself with your fingers straight, but...surely not!
3:49 I believe in the Law of Attraction as well.
5:56 "Shop brough hair mask?"
8:28 ...of doing what? You do remind me of something that happened to me some time ago.
My mom and I were out in the capital city of our province, and we went to buy an ice cream. The man who wanted to serve us (not sure if I'm saying this correctly), politely insisted to hear my order from me and not my mom.
Bert Visscher I’m not sure what you’re trying to get at here. Everything she said does happen to wheelchair users. Our fingers do get caught in the rim, and sometimes the spokes, especially in tight spaces. People assume that physical disability equals mental disability, this happens all the time. People don’t think you can order food for yourself or be independent. It’s rude to pick apart someone’s video without knowing what it’s actually like to use a wheelchair, which if you did you would know that all of the things she said are true.
@@jamiesingleton2844 Far be it from me to claim that they're not true. As a wheelchair user myself, I'm just sharing my own experience and understanding. I am sorry if it was taken the wrong way.
Do not ever assume that I want a red powerchair... I am sick of seeing them in red! Also do not assume that I like the car chair looking seats lol I use complex rehab technology. I so hate those things, and would be soo pissed if anyone was trying to push that crap on me like this is what you are getting and you can't do anything about it.
I'm short. I could only find two brands of rollators for my size. Both red. No colour choice either. What is it with red? Only four wheeled ones, no three wheeled ones in my size. Maybe with long Covid and aging population things will improve.
Finger caught in the spokes is me
Media Headz TV on my manual chair I had the hand rims adjusted so they are closer to the wheel. I push the wheel by holding onto the tyre and outer hand rim at the same time. It’s important for active chair users because you can potentially break your fingers if you get caught at speed. Another excellent solution is to have plastic wheel spoke guards fitted. You can get clear, patterned ones or even design your own. They are light weight and add an extra touch of glamour to your chair as well as being useful for safety.
@@HighTen_Melanie thank you... it happened when I was getting used to my wheelchair
The main assumption I’ve come across is “well, you get everything you need for free”. No! Just no! I’ve just had to pay £130 for a stairlift service and a further £35 for new a battery (this is through a local charity so I dread to think what it would cost without the charity). Being disabled is bloody expensive 😒
Have you had people say things like "Don't hit me or don't run me over"?
People who say using a chair is easy, only used one for a short period on an easy surface!
Oh, and not to get gory, but I busted my pinky in a spoke a few years back! Not fun!!!
How does a disabled person look?
Assumptions:
0-60sec: 0-4mph Mrs W(h)eel's acceleration speed
0-60min: On Mrs W(h)eels becoming a blond(ie)
0-60h: Mrs W(h)eels took an incorrect, 5 degree turn in London, and accidentally joined MI5.
The result of which:
Hi, I am: Jenny, Jenny Bond (👀, 😎)
I think the reason why they say you’re strong, is because you lift your own body weight a lot, transferring from seats and your bed. And I admire that myself because I’m abled bodied and I can’t lift myself XD
Here an assumption my boyfriend always gets.
They always speak really slowly to him, even though he says to them he can speak normal. If he tells them that they don’t have to speak to him like he’s a baby, then they speak even slower... that is just so annoying. Even I tell people here to stop speaking so slowly. They just assume because he’s in a wheelchair, he can’t talk.
I have wheelchairs
i have cp
1:08 Goa'uld
Wondering ... Asking Mrs Hubbard. When out on your lonesome, have you ever been chatted up, asked for a date, etc?
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I'm looking forward to seeing many more videos.... I'm Particularly, Interested in videos where you and your family are going on vacation/ holiday
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