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Poignant video. I am in my 40s and have questioned a deeper existence since childhood. After having my son two years ago, and experiencing a child, simple things (seeing his face in the morning, or observing growth, preparing a meal) appear meaningful as if time slows down to observe the vivid details of the present, and has distracted my inner lifelong of longing of something special in myself. Because raising a child is incredibly difficult and time intensive, could my interpretation that ordinary life was somehow trivial faulty thinking? Sometimes life's challenges (care taking a child, planning a stable future) will slash the ego bit by bit because it is not exclusively about longing for something anymore with a little person needing every bit of attention sometimes long into the night. Not suggestion a child a solution. Just observing how the rules changed in myself of what meaning is. The superiority complex is gone because I do not have time to think in this way. It is not important anymore. This ego part has taken a backseat.
I have such little ego that I wouldn't even be writing a comment about it in the first place. Maybe someday just a cheeky reply to someone else's comment about it. Haha yeah that'd probably be funny.
I have had the exact opposite experience. I was so completely assured by my parents and everyone around me that I actually was special that I never really questioned it. Instead I felt like it was a burden of potential. I felt like being so special made it harder for other people to like me because they tended to put me on a pedestal. I have a LOT of natural talent in a very wide diverse group of endeavours, and honestly I never felt comfortable congratulating myself about it. I hid my skills from others. I never bothered to hone any of my skills to complete mastery either, because talent was something to hide, so I never learned true grit. I never learned to push myself, resting on my natural talent and hiding even that. People would know me for years and then suddenly scratch the surface and find out I did all these things and act like I betrayed them for not putting my skills at their disposal all along. For me, I had to let go of the burden of potential and give myself permission to be nobody without feeling like I was letting down the universe. The whole great power/great responsibility Spiderman catchphrase haunted me. Its very different. Sometimes I think there are an infinite number of ways to fuck up raising a child. And if you, as a parent, somehow manage to do everything right and they come out of childhood completely un-traumatized, the only thing you managed to do was make a human so rare that nobody on earth can relate to them, and so they'll spend their lives completely spiritually alone.
Same never been scared of power or superiority those are objectively good experiences I wish to promote. Hard part is realizing peers are north koreans and meeting them there
Fantastic analysis Reine. You really described me to a T when it comes to "proving myself" for others to like me. There is a related cycle that I wanted to share here. When I was younger, I was extremely religious and derived this feeling of being special or chosen from my intense belief. There was an expectation that things would work out or that others would like me if I fulfilled the wishes of the Christian god. At the same time, the religious text called pride a sin, so any feeling that I was better than someone else would count as a sin. I would bounce between feeling holier than thou to everyone, and self hate by having those feelings of pride. I've been going on an atheism journey in the past year or so, which has helped break out of that cycle. I.e. realized that the rule-set didn't have a strong foundation.
I recently started randomly going through UA-cam channels in pursuit of a desire to support good-hearted and authentic individuals who try to express themselves on this platform. That’s why I’m writing this. You are a great communicator - you tell a story but put zero pressure on the listener. This is somehow liberating and relaxing. You’re not selling anything, you’re simply sharing a story with whoever can relate to it. I really appreciate that. The topic you’ve chosen is great, and I deeply relate to it. I agree with your points. The ego vs ego frenzy that’s happening in spirituality is both amusing and sad. Society shames the ego and celebrate those who are free of it. But this only creates a desire in people to destroy the ego, which leads to even more cunning and dangerous versions of it. In the attempt to destroy the Shadow, people have decided to destroy the Light that casts it. If everything is darkness, there is no shadow, of course. But what’s the point? It’s stupid. A much wiser would be to embrace the Shadow, understand its origins, and in the end integrate it by becoming friends with that part of ourselves. Yet, religions have caused so much harm to people's minds that the idea of "befriending the darkness" sounds wrong instead of virtuous. I think there’s a great misunderstanding when it comes to the topic of the ego. People often confuse individuality (the intrinsic and natural “I”) with the part that pretends to be something it’s not (the fake “I”). I have a feeling that there are parts of yourself you think of as the ego, but in fact, they are your individuality. You are creative, intelligent, and charismatic. Is that your ego? I don’t think so. It doesn’t seem fake or forced - it feels authentic, natural, real. Perhaps instead of having a "superiority" ego, you now have an "inferiority" ego? And instead of running away from yourShadow, you are running away from your Light? In a sense, you’ve accepted the ego, but you’ve downgraded the deeper part of yourself to the level of the ego. Does it feels wrong to be who you truly are, which is enlightened/awakened/free (or whatever word to use)? I don't know. Maybe I’m wrong in my feelings, but it feels like you’re underestimating and undervaluing yourself. You are a special and unique being, and that’s true because we all are. Yet, our natural gifts are different, have different "value" and express themselves in unique ways. Don’t be afraid or shy of who you are. You are a beautiful soul. Your gifts are gold and fire (metaphorically speaking). The humanity will only raise if you bring them out. There’s nothing egotistical about that. You can heal the world simply by being yourself. That is what I feel. You either have the magic of a Phoenix or I’m delusional. You choose ;) In any case, thank you for being who you are and bringing that out into the world. Meow ^^ 🧡🐈⬛
Bloody hell, I absolutely have a superiority complex, and it's been shitting all over my life. This is the video that made me focus that. Thanks I guess 😭
Ah I had a very different experience with skill and superiority, I relied on my innate knowledge and quick learning most of my life to take care of things for me for so long that I never learned how to push myself. Then, in a turning point of median school grades, thinking on morality and the universe one night, the delicate balance shattered and gave me an ego death that's now evolved into a complete understanding of subjectivity, and a rejection of peer pressure, taboos, self loathing, and pessimism. Efficiency, truth, and pragmatism have become my goal and now my thirst for knowledge has become infinite. . Tho I find often that my ways being so disconnected with most people's irrationalities can trigger things in them, as if I'm brine water in their open wounds. Either because I display something they envy, or because my enjoyment of things fundamentally opposes some pessimism they're attached to.
I really enjoy how relatable your videos are, depending on the topic of course, but I'm glad you're just dropping your thoughts here for us socially shy but maybe-we'll-try-this-aswell people 💜
I feel like it's not a negative thing to know in which things you excel, where you stand in relation to others and to feel pride in that, as long as you don't put yourself above others or let it turn into arrogance. Don't let your ego stop you from being self-critical and open minded either. Great vid 👍
For me a "superiority complex" implies delusion. Because it's perfectly possible to be superior in certain aspects of life than other people and be aware of it. But it's also important to be aware of things that you are not superior in. "Superior" seems to be a bad word these days. I can be aware that some are better looking than me or I am better looking than others. And there are spectrums of competence/ fitness in so many aspects of life. For me, the pathology comes when delusion is at play. In a sense, not accepting loss gracefully, I mean in the short term and long term. You can strive to be above average "in life" but if you fail at that, then accept it and find something you can use to find meaning in smaller areas of life, like family, relationships or whatever. A lot of people try to win in too many realms and end up failing at them all
Acknowledging your intelligence/awareness/charisma/enlightenment is actually the humble way. With great knowlege comes great responsibility, that is to not to get angry over clueless idiots, and to teach them through love. I guess we superior beings may be modern day prophets, leaders, healers, etc. Our ego must not control us, but we need not deny our gifts.
We often tend to consider ourselves above the rest when we observe herd mentality and similar behavioural traits in people.We try to convince ourselves that we don't fall in that category on account of our different way of thinking and actions.
I remember seeing this tiktok about how we need to stop calling evil people “monsters” because dehumanizing them is how we remove ourselves from the fact that we could easily be just like them. It doesn’t take much to become a monster.
I understand shadow to be the characteristic of ourselves that protects us from the anxiety and pain of insecurity. I think it is most efficacious to find and understand our insecurities and work/self-parent them to be as little as possible. Then we can develop more fully and be secure enough to be a part of the greater good. One especially needs to catch themselves and re-parent themselves if their insecurities are easily provoked and they tend to be anti-social (covert or otherwise), damaging and destroying others along with themselves.
Hey there, in a bit of a scary Black Mirror episode, this popped up on my youtube as I had been obsessively thinking about it. I have a question I hope you can help me out with. For me, I've always been aware of my ego and ashamed of it ever since I was a kid.(I am in my mid twenties now). It stopped me from believing I was good at anything or even try and see. Now I'm at a point in my life where I am getting to know my real capabilities which were blocked by that shame, but I noticed a pattern of getting my self-worth and getting pleasure from my ego positioning itself above others. The kicker is now I also get great pain from it when I feel "humbled". How do we stop the power play? With what can I replace this dynamic which haunts all parts of my life? How does one tear down this framework and get their source of worth? Thanks for reading this far:)
Hi! I relate to what you’re saying here. Thanks for sharing your experience 😊 To me it seems the pain of getting humbled is directly correlated to how much you believe you need to be exceptional to deserve someone’s love, care and attention, because in that context, being humbled feels more like being rejected, discarded and unwanted, which triggers all sorts of survival stress for us humans, and is terribly painful. So part of the answer is letting go of this belief, which I understand is much easier said than done, and takes some time. For me, I’ve had to actually go out and seek to achieve the things I always assumed would earn me someone’s love and respect, only to realize that nothing changes 😂 These achievements don't magically make me more lovable, and don't change the way I’m treated by others in any real and meaningful way, as I might have expected. There’s nothing more effective than tangible experience to get you to change your belief systems. That said, my ego still often gets bruised, only when it does, I have this little mantra I like to tell myself: “what’s bad for the ego is good for the soul”. I forgive myself for having an ego, repeat this little mantra to myself and lean into the temporary discomfort of getting humbled in that moment. I trust that in accepting the invitation to grow in humility, I’m becoming a better, more loving and open-hearted version of myself, which will ultimately make life a more peaceful and enjoyable experience. There’s great peace on the other side of the pain you’re describing! Keep going.
My superiority is equal to your superiority, we're both gods in our own 'you'niverse, we are equal. Hierarchies, comparisons, competitions; I don’t engage in these narratives. They don’t resonate with where I’m at.
I think my way of coping with having a superiority complex was to assume that everyone else has one too. But maybe that's just my personal bias talking. And no, I'm not being glib, though it may seem that way. These are the sorts of thoughts that constantly rattle around in my brain.
Wow. Good on you for being aware of all the things you spoke about. I can relate to what you said about fantasizing about being great at the things that people compliment me on.
As far as a superiority complex goes, by biological fact, we are designed to become superior to our environment. Looking at what mankind has done to the environment, how do think that is going for any of us?
Makes a lot of sense and I also tend to like really look up to and worship people who I then think are special - another manifestation of this belief for me ❤
Virtue is no more than, as Plato noted, a thing which is doing its own work. I am now 74 years old, and have never, in my whole life, ever met a person of virtue. You make the mistake which is common among the simple minded, you think you know having never put forward the effort to make sure you know what you are talking or thinking about as to its truth. The virtue of the eyes is sight. The virtue of the ears is hearing. As Aristotle noted, taught by Plato, That which has a function exists for that function. Virtue is commensurate with function. What is the virtue of every human being? What is the work of a mind? How does it do its job? And, as Plato proved, can a person learn virtue? A mind is an information processor. All it can do is read using the bodies senses, called perception. It then processes those perceptions in order to determine the best life supporting response to the environment, when it has processes as far as it will go, it then writes back to bhe body producing one's own behavior, called human will, human personality, etc. In short, the whole process can be called literacy, reading processing and writing. There is not one correct grammar book used in educational systems today. A grammar book, by biological fact, is aimed at how one produces life supporting human behavior. You have never seen one Unless of course you have studied the JCS and the Works of Plato, However, did you ever suspect that both of these requires a minimum level of intelligence to comprehend? Language is Universal and Intelligible, Grammar is Particular and Perceptible. There are, as Plato noted only two parts of speech, and today, it is proven by the computer, Plato called it dialectic, today it is called binary information processing. Binary produces only four categories of Grammar, called a Grammar Matrix, Common Grammar, Arithmetic Algebra and Geometry, each of them is simply a method of utilizing binary to produce results. Intelligence is commensurate with one's ability to clime that four step ladder in order to produce, and know the truth, about our own behavior. You, have never even imagined it. Summing it all up: Psychology is commensurate with the principles of Language which are functionally resident in the mind as our Grammar Matrix. That above is a factual equation, by which both the Judeo Christian Scripture and the Works of Plato are based on. If you have never even sought it out, then you simply never had the intelligence to do so. So, I proven my words, I have never, in the whole of my life, met a person of virtue.
see i completely agree with u and think u have such an eloquent way of expressing yourself and this is a beautifully crafted video however i am still deep in this mindset and cant find it in myself to apply this mindset to my everyday life ahahahahahha
you probably want to interview me; but i'm so bright; you are ashamed; no wonder i don't have any friends; i'm too superior; the most superior; was it ever even close?;:
True enlightenment can only be reached by leaning into the ego. Ironically you are looking to hit a point of delusion where your own opinion becomes the most authoritative. This will allow you control over those aspects of your life that you have some sway on. This is because you value your own requirements over those of others. As a result you will choose what benefits you more often than not. In the best case scenarios what benefits you will also benefit others.
@@existentialgroove Cool, hope you find it interesting/helpful. I just discovered her work and am not sure why she isn't more well know regarding these existential questions.
Honestly I don't really understand what you mean by superiority complex? I'm pretty bad at understanding vague/abstract concepts - what would this mean in your day-to-day life? How would your ego/superiority complex affect your life or relationships for instance?
confusing difference with stratified value is a hell of a drug. what's most obnoxious and ignorant is asserting that "we all have" x experiences/ behavioral patterns. no we don't. individual differences are real. it's quite meaningless to dole out these pseudo-diagnostic analyses about 'people in general', no one in particular, but some imagined representation of humans amalgamated from your prior experiences and vague, speculative simulations.
@@real_pattern Hi :) I operate from the belief that I’m not that special, so if I’ve had a certain experience, there are definitely others who have also felt that way, and perhaps they might benefit from hearing someone speak about it. But you’re right, perhaps it’s unjustified for me to make blanket statements. In any case, I don’t expect these videos to be meaningful to everyone. Thanks for the feedback ☺️
Virtue signaling is only an illiterate phrase and easily debunkable myth. A person who is always ashamed of their own stupidity, and takes measures against it as a priority in their life, is the only person who has understanding of the good.
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Poignant video. I am in my 40s and have questioned a deeper existence since childhood. After having my son two years ago, and experiencing a child, simple things (seeing his face in the morning, or observing growth, preparing a meal) appear meaningful as if time slows down to observe the vivid details of the present, and has distracted my inner lifelong of longing of something special in myself. Because raising a child is incredibly difficult and time intensive, could my interpretation that ordinary life was somehow trivial faulty thinking? Sometimes life's challenges (care taking a child, planning a stable future) will slash the ego bit by bit because it is not exclusively about longing for something anymore with a little person needing every bit of attention sometimes long into the night. Not suggestion a child a solution. Just observing how the rules changed in myself of what meaning is. The superiority complex is gone because I do not have time to think in this way. It is not important anymore. This ego part has taken a backseat.
Can't relate. Never had an ego. My ego is the smallest of them all. I won the smallest ego competition. I'm the best.
@@the.kleyko😂😂
LOL
I once won an award for being the most humble... when I hung it on my wall, they took it back
I have such little ego that I wouldn't even be writing a comment about it in the first place. Maybe someday just a cheeky reply to someone else's comment about it. Haha yeah that'd probably be funny.
"Moses was the most humble man in the world." -Moses
I have had the exact opposite experience. I was so completely assured by my parents and everyone around me that I actually was special that I never really questioned it. Instead I felt like it was a burden of potential. I felt like being so special made it harder for other people to like me because they tended to put me on a pedestal. I have a LOT of natural talent in a very wide diverse group of endeavours, and honestly I never felt comfortable congratulating myself about it. I hid my skills from others. I never bothered to hone any of my skills to complete mastery either, because talent was something to hide, so I never learned true grit. I never learned to push myself, resting on my natural talent and hiding even that. People would know me for years and then suddenly scratch the surface and find out I did all these things and act like I betrayed them for not putting my skills at their disposal all along. For me, I had to let go of the burden of potential and give myself permission to be nobody without feeling like I was letting down the universe. The whole great power/great responsibility Spiderman catchphrase haunted me. Its very different. Sometimes I think there are an infinite number of ways to fuck up raising a child. And if you, as a parent, somehow manage to do everything right and they come out of childhood completely un-traumatized, the only thing you managed to do was make a human so rare that nobody on earth can relate to them, and so they'll spend their lives completely spiritually alone.
Wow 🥹 so beautifully written, thank you for sharing
Same never been scared of power or superiority those are objectively good experiences I wish to promote. Hard part is realizing peers are north koreans and meeting them there
Fantastic analysis Reine. You really described me to a T when it comes to "proving myself" for others to like me.
There is a related cycle that I wanted to share here. When I was younger, I was extremely religious and derived this feeling of being special or chosen from my intense belief. There was an expectation that things would work out or that others would like me if I fulfilled the wishes of the Christian god. At the same time, the religious text called pride a sin, so any feeling that I was better than someone else would count as a sin. I would bounce between feeling holier than thou to everyone, and self hate by having those feelings of pride. I've been going on an atheism journey in the past year or so, which has helped break out of that cycle. I.e. realized that the rule-set didn't have a strong foundation.
I am in my mid twenties and when you describe your life it feels like you are describing mine. Thanks for sharing!
I’m so glad it resonated! 😊
I recently started randomly going through UA-cam channels in pursuit of a desire to support good-hearted and authentic individuals who try to express themselves on this platform. That’s why I’m writing this.
You are a great communicator - you tell a story but put zero pressure on the listener. This is somehow liberating and relaxing. You’re not selling anything, you’re simply sharing a story with whoever can relate to it. I really appreciate that.
The topic you’ve chosen is great, and I deeply relate to it. I agree with your points. The ego vs ego frenzy that’s happening in spirituality is both amusing and sad. Society shames the ego and celebrate those who are free of it. But this only creates a desire in people to destroy the ego, which leads to even more cunning and dangerous versions of it. In the attempt to destroy the Shadow, people have decided to destroy the Light that casts it. If everything is darkness, there is no shadow, of course. But what’s the point? It’s stupid. A much wiser would be to embrace the Shadow, understand its origins, and in the end integrate it by becoming friends with that part of ourselves. Yet, religions have caused so much harm to people's minds that the idea of "befriending the darkness" sounds wrong instead of virtuous.
I think there’s a great misunderstanding when it comes to the topic of the ego. People often confuse individuality (the intrinsic and natural “I”) with the part that pretends to be something it’s not (the fake “I”). I have a feeling that there are parts of yourself you think of as the ego, but in fact, they are your individuality. You are creative, intelligent, and charismatic. Is that your ego? I don’t think so. It doesn’t seem fake or forced - it feels authentic, natural, real. Perhaps instead of having a "superiority" ego, you now have an "inferiority" ego? And instead of running away from yourShadow, you are running away from your Light? In a sense, you’ve accepted the ego, but you’ve downgraded the deeper part of yourself to the level of the ego. Does it feels wrong to be who you truly are, which is enlightened/awakened/free (or whatever word to use)?
I don't know. Maybe I’m wrong in my feelings, but it feels like you’re underestimating and undervaluing yourself. You are a special and unique being, and that’s true because we all are. Yet, our natural gifts are different, have different "value" and express themselves in unique ways. Don’t be afraid or shy of who you are. You are a beautiful soul. Your gifts are gold and fire (metaphorically speaking). The humanity will only raise if you bring them out. There’s nothing egotistical about that. You can heal the world simply by being yourself. That is what I feel. You either have the magic of a Phoenix or I’m delusional. You choose ;)
In any case, thank you for being who you are and bringing that out into the world.
Meow ^^ 🧡🐈⬛
Woah 🥲 You hit me in the feels with this one. Thank you! I’ve got lots more to think about with all this.
I know this wasn't directed at me, but I'm stealing "You can heal the world simply by being yourself" because that's simply wonderful
Bloody hell, I absolutely have a superiority complex, and it's been shitting all over my life.
This is the video that made me focus that. Thanks I guess 😭
Ah I had a very different experience with skill and superiority, I relied on my innate knowledge and quick learning most of my life to take care of things for me for so long that I never learned how to push myself. Then, in a turning point of median school grades, thinking on morality and the universe one night, the delicate balance shattered and gave me an ego death that's now evolved into a complete understanding of subjectivity, and a rejection of peer pressure, taboos, self loathing, and pessimism. Efficiency, truth, and pragmatism have become my goal and now my thirst for knowledge has become infinite.
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Tho I find often that my ways being so disconnected with most people's irrationalities can trigger things in them, as if I'm brine water in their open wounds. Either because I display something they envy, or because my enjoyment of things fundamentally opposes some pessimism they're attached to.
This is scarily relatable.
there’s been years and miles between us, but these words made me feel closer to you than ever ❤
🥹❤️
I really enjoy how relatable your videos are, depending on the topic of course, but I'm glad you're just dropping your thoughts here for us socially shy but maybe-we'll-try-this-aswell people 💜
I feel like it's not a negative thing to know in which things you excel, where you stand in relation to others and to feel pride in that, as long as you don't put yourself above others or let it turn into arrogance. Don't let your ego stop you from being self-critical and open minded either.
Great vid 👍
thank you❤ i really enjoyed listening and i feel you
What an insight. Thank for articulating this so clearly.
For me a "superiority complex" implies delusion. Because it's perfectly possible to be superior in certain aspects of life than other people and be aware of it. But it's also important to be aware of things that you are not superior in. "Superior" seems to be a bad word these days. I can be aware that some are better looking than me or I am better looking than others. And there are spectrums of competence/ fitness in so many aspects of life. For me, the pathology comes when delusion is at play. In a sense, not accepting loss gracefully, I mean in the short term and long term. You can strive to be above average "in life" but if you fail at that, then accept it and find something you can use to find meaning in smaller areas of life, like family, relationships or whatever.
A lot of people try to win in too many realms and end up failing at them all
Absolutely! Very well said.
Acknowledging your intelligence/awareness/charisma/enlightenment is actually the humble way. With great knowlege comes great responsibility, that is to not to get angry over clueless idiots, and to teach them through love. I guess we superior beings may be modern day prophets, leaders, healers, etc. Our ego must not control us, but we need not deny our gifts.
We often tend to consider ourselves above the rest when we observe herd mentality and similar behavioural traits in people.We try to convince ourselves that we don't fall in that category on account of our different way of thinking and actions.
Super interesting! Maybe it's a necessary evil in that way? So long as we're ultimately able to come back down to earth.
I remember seeing this tiktok about how we need to stop calling evil people “monsters” because dehumanizing them is how we remove ourselves from the fact that we could easily be just like them. It doesn’t take much to become a monster.
I understand shadow to be the characteristic of ourselves that protects us from the anxiety and pain of insecurity. I think it is most efficacious to find and understand our insecurities and work/self-parent them to be as little as possible. Then we can develop more fully and be secure enough to be a part of the greater good.
One especially needs to catch themselves and re-parent themselves if their insecurities are easily provoked and they tend to be anti-social (covert or otherwise), damaging and destroying others along with themselves.
Hey there, in a bit of a scary Black Mirror episode, this popped up on my youtube as I had been obsessively thinking about it. I have a question I hope you can help me out with. For me, I've always been aware of my ego and ashamed of it ever since I was a kid.(I am in my mid twenties now). It stopped me from believing I was good at anything or even try and see. Now I'm at a point in my life where I am getting to know my real capabilities which were blocked by that shame, but I noticed a pattern of getting my self-worth and getting pleasure from my ego positioning itself above others. The kicker is now I also get great pain from it when I feel "humbled". How do we stop the power play? With what can I replace this dynamic which haunts all parts of my life? How does one tear down this framework and get their source of worth?
Thanks for reading this far:)
Hi! I relate to what you’re saying here. Thanks for sharing your experience 😊 To me it seems the pain of getting humbled is directly correlated to how much you believe you need to be exceptional to deserve someone’s love, care and attention, because in that context, being humbled feels more like being rejected, discarded and unwanted, which triggers all sorts of survival stress for us humans, and is terribly painful. So part of the answer is letting go of this belief, which I understand is much easier said than done, and takes some time. For me, I’ve had to actually go out and seek to achieve the things I always assumed would earn me someone’s love and respect, only to realize that nothing changes 😂 These achievements don't magically make me more lovable, and don't change the way I’m treated by others in any real and meaningful way, as I might have expected. There’s nothing more effective than tangible experience to get you to change your belief systems. That said, my ego still often gets bruised, only when it does, I have this little mantra I like to tell myself: “what’s bad for the ego is good for the soul”. I forgive myself for having an ego, repeat this little mantra to myself and lean into the temporary discomfort of getting humbled in that moment. I trust that in accepting the invitation to grow in humility, I’m becoming a better, more loving and open-hearted version of myself, which will ultimately make life a more peaceful and enjoyable experience. There’s great peace on the other side of the pain you’re describing! Keep going.
My superiority is equal to your superiority, we're both gods in our own 'you'niverse, we are equal. Hierarchies, comparisons, competitions; I don’t engage in these narratives. They don’t resonate with where I’m at.
I think my way of coping with having a superiority complex was to assume that everyone else has one too. But maybe that's just my personal bias talking.
And no, I'm not being glib, though it may seem that way. These are the sorts of thoughts that constantly rattle around in my brain.
Wow. Good on you for being aware of all the things you spoke about. I can relate to what you said about fantasizing about being great at the things that people compliment me on.
As far as a superiority complex goes, by biological fact, we are designed to become superior to our environment. Looking at what mankind has done to the environment, how do think that is going for any of us?
Supposedly a superiority complex is an undercover inferiority complex. I think it was Adler that said there’s no such thing
@@amyscott9496 Totally! A superiority complex is usually a coping mechanism for an inferiority complex. They’re definitely two sides of the same coin.
Thanks Reine 🫰🙌🙏
Makes a lot of sense and I also tend to like really look up to and worship people who I then think are special - another manifestation of this belief for me ❤
Totally relate!
This is such a important video. Thank you🤍
Thanks for watching! 😊
Hey Reine, I appreciate what you're doing. Good job on the channel, and good luck! - An old Fleetist
@@joshuafischlin4734 Immediately recognized your name! Nice to read from you Josh 🫶
@@existentialgroove Likewise Reine ☺
Virtue is no more than, as Plato noted, a thing which is doing its own work. I am now 74 years old, and have never, in my whole life, ever met a person of virtue.
You make the mistake which is common among the simple minded, you think you know having never put forward the effort to make sure you know what you are talking or thinking about as to its truth.
The virtue of the eyes is sight. The virtue of the ears is hearing. As Aristotle noted, taught by Plato, That which has a function exists for that function. Virtue is commensurate with function.
What is the virtue of every human being? What is the work of a mind? How does it do its job? And, as Plato proved, can a person learn virtue?
A mind is an information processor. All it can do is read using the bodies senses, called perception. It then processes those perceptions in order to determine the best life supporting response to the environment, when it has processes as far as it will go, it then writes back to bhe body producing one's own behavior, called human will, human personality, etc. In short, the whole process can be called literacy, reading processing and writing.
There is not one correct grammar book used in educational systems today. A grammar book, by biological fact, is aimed at how one produces life supporting human behavior. You have never seen one Unless of course you have studied the JCS and the Works of Plato, However, did you ever suspect that both of these requires a minimum level of intelligence to comprehend?
Language is Universal and Intelligible, Grammar is Particular and Perceptible.
There are, as Plato noted only two parts of speech, and today, it is proven by the computer, Plato called it dialectic, today it is called binary information processing.
Binary produces only four categories of Grammar, called a Grammar Matrix, Common Grammar, Arithmetic Algebra and Geometry, each of them is simply a method of utilizing binary to produce results.
Intelligence is commensurate with one's ability to clime that four step ladder in order to produce, and know the truth, about our own behavior.
You, have never even imagined it.
Summing it all up: Psychology is commensurate with the principles of Language which are functionally resident in the mind as our Grammar Matrix.
That above is a factual equation, by which both the Judeo Christian Scripture and the Works of Plato are based on. If you have never even sought it out, then you simply never had the intelligence to do so.
So, I proven my words, I have never, in the whole of my life, met a person of virtue.
see i completely agree with u and think u have such an eloquent way of expressing yourself and this is a beautifully crafted video however i am still deep in this mindset and cant find it in myself to apply this mindset to my everyday life ahahahahahha
Haha I’m still very much working on it myself :)
you probably want to interview me;
but i'm so bright;
you are ashamed;
no wonder i don't have any friends;
i'm too superior;
the most superior;
was it ever even close?;:
You are really special ❤
And i sooo related with this
So glad to hear 🫶
Unrelatable but genuinely interesting.
This was really good! Thank you. I have lots to think about now. 😅
Haha happy to be of service 🫡
I guess i have an ego, but its not some superiority complex, i dont think..... yeah this discussion video been circling with me abit.
True enlightenment can only be reached by leaning into the ego. Ironically you are looking to hit a point of delusion where your own opinion becomes the most authoritative. This will allow you control over those aspects of your life that you have some sway on. This is because you value your own requirements over those of others. As a result you will choose what benefits you more often than not. In the best case scenarios what benefits you will also benefit others.
Thank You. Excellent Video.
Thanks for being here Paul!
I'd be curious if you have read Karen Horney's "Neurosis and Human Growth" where she discusses these exact issues and goes very deep with them.
I haven’t heard of it but I’ll do some research, thank you!
@@existentialgroove Cool, hope you find it interesting/helpful. I just discovered her work and am not sure why she isn't more well know regarding these existential questions.
Very good video, thank you!
Merit is good.
true, but is meritocracy?🧐
@@Ijbolivia I advocate democracy.
Great video
Honestly I don't really understand what you mean by superiority complex? I'm pretty bad at understanding vague/abstract concepts - what would this mean in your day-to-day life?
How would your ego/superiority complex affect your life or relationships for instance?
Oof, painfully relating hard to this :(
Hope this video could be of some solace :)
@@existentialgroove thanks, it's good to be validated :)
how do you think this relates to capitalism
confusing difference with stratified value is a hell of a drug. what's most obnoxious and ignorant is asserting that "we all have" x experiences/ behavioral patterns. no we don't. individual differences are real. it's quite meaningless to dole out these pseudo-diagnostic analyses about 'people in general', no one in particular, but some imagined representation of humans amalgamated from your prior experiences and vague, speculative simulations.
@@real_pattern Hi :) I operate from the belief that I’m not that special, so if I’ve had a certain experience, there are definitely others who have also felt that way, and perhaps they might benefit from hearing someone speak about it. But you’re right, perhaps it’s unjustified for me to make blanket statements. In any case, I don’t expect these videos to be meaningful to everyone. Thanks for the feedback ☺️
What have u done to have such a complex Nothing
Virtue signaling is only an illiterate phrase and easily debunkable myth.
A person who is always ashamed of their own stupidity, and takes measures against it as a priority in their life, is the only person who has understanding of the good.
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Calling out worshippers of characters and gods is considered as superiority complex now?