Why They Come Back After No Contact: The Truth You Need to Hear

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  • @cowboyofscience7611
    @cowboyofscience7611 Місяць тому +80

    If I go "No Contact," it's because I don't want them back....

    • @thecoachrico
      @thecoachrico  Місяць тому +7

      @@cowboyofscience7611 that's the best way to be.

    • @jennypenny6502
      @jennypenny6502 Місяць тому +13

      Naaa.. sorry boys but a real man will just speak up and communicate properly no matter what needs to be communicated. Running away, ghosting or a sudden no contact is called cowardly.

    • @cowboyofscience7611
      @cowboyofscience7611 Місяць тому +5

      @@jennypenny6502 A "Real Man" does whatever he wants to do.

    • @jennypenny6502
      @jennypenny6502 Місяць тому +10

      Naaa real men have respect dignity and have the ability to communicate!! They are NOT selfish and they have consideration for others while doing what is best for themselves. You create your own karma so do as you wish but a good man is NOT a coward and DOES communicate!! Good luck and take care!

    • @cowboyofscience7611
      @cowboyofscience7611 Місяць тому

      @@jennypenny6502 And how would you know anything about being a "real man," little girl?

  • @missbunerfly143
    @missbunerfly143 Місяць тому +48

    When god removes someone from your life thank him for it he saw and heard things you didn’t ❤

    • @thecoachrico
      @thecoachrico  Місяць тому +5

      @@missbunerfly143 Amen!

    • @AntoineFinch
      @AntoineFinch Місяць тому +1

      why did GOD let them in your life in the first place?

    • @vincentmawlong2899
      @vincentmawlong2899 28 днів тому

      True​@@AntoineFinch

    • @nowisee1644
      @nowisee1644 25 днів тому +5

      @AntoineFinch, maybe to show you the areas in your life that need healing. I.e. co-dependency, trauma bonding, low self esteem etc.

  • @Paleman100
    @Paleman100 Місяць тому +15

    No one wins. It's a lost no matter what. It's sad so all that you say does not matter. You can heal but it's still a lost.😢

  • @philipcrocker
    @philipcrocker Місяць тому +18

    You're right, my life is not a game...

  • @CreatedSpacespodcast
    @CreatedSpacespodcast Місяць тому +25

    This is by far one of the best no contact videos I’ve seen. No contact isn’t about them, it’s sooo much about you. (The individual person).. Everything you said in this video is so true. I’m in no contact currently!!! My only hope is for my silence to speak louder than my words ever could! And hopefully my ex will heal, grow and evolve from this unfortunate lesson. ✨🙏🏽🤞🏽

    • @thecoachrico
      @thecoachrico  Місяць тому

      @@CreatedSpacespodcast you both will heal and become a brand new better version of yourselves.

  • @SHAMILLAHHABIIBA
    @SHAMILLAHHABIIBA Місяць тому +8

    If no contact means it's over no need back

  • @emilytaylor1001
    @emilytaylor1001 23 дні тому +6

    No contact! Its possible. Have done it - now 4 years. left ex narcissist after 13 years of abuse. Life is beautiful again ☀️🌺🥰

    • @Hackedbydupiton
      @Hackedbydupiton 21 день тому +2

      💡💡💡💡💡 thank you for sharing

  • @fembot521
    @fembot521 Місяць тому +43

    Sometimes they don’t come back. I went no contact two years ago. He didn’t come back. Move on!!!

    • @michaelagiddings1520
      @michaelagiddings1520 Місяць тому +3

      mine went 6 years🥴

    • @yofolkdem1256
      @yofolkdem1256 Місяць тому +4

      4yrs and she came back saying she couldn't replace me.

    • @Bianca1114
      @Bianca1114 Місяць тому +4

      Mine 4 years later came back 🤢🤮

    • @snowyowlz5992
      @snowyowlz5992 Місяць тому +2

      Decades later just about the time they died, they were still trying.

  • @carlossoler-m4y
    @carlossoler-m4y 8 днів тому +23

    Astonishing video as always, at first i wasn't really into watching such relationship experts video, but it turned out to be a blessing in so many ways, 10 years ago i was with a narcissist and i broke things up 4 years ago, found someone who truly cared for me and i messed things up because i was trauma bonded. then i started watching a lot of you tube videos and some Christian videos about relationships and marriages, i learnt a lot, and something actually happened as well, i was able to get my ex back with the help of watching Matthew Hussey and Courtney Ryan videos and reaching out to a spiritual counselor.

    • @Joanmacduff
      @Joanmacduff 8 днів тому

      its difficult to let go of someone you love, i have been battling with a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended a year ago, and till now, i am still in the crossroads on what to do, it is really sad.

    • @carlossoler-m4y
      @carlossoler-m4y 8 днів тому

      it is always difficult to let go of someone you love , like i said, i watched so many helpful videos, but the key was the spiritual counselor.

    • @Joanmacduff
      @Joanmacduff 8 днів тому

      What spiritual counselor? how can i reach him or her?

    • @carlossoler-m4y
      @carlossoler-m4y 8 днів тому +1

      Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @Joanmacduff
      @Joanmacduff 8 днів тому

      Couldnt find her on youtube, but saw her website online, i will reach out. thank you

  • @Ruthyc671
    @Ruthyc671 28 днів тому +5

    This is true coach I’ve grown n healed from all past connections now im thriving on my own stronger than ever thanks god bless

  • @Rebornfromashesoncemore
    @Rebornfromashesoncemore 8 днів тому

    You are awesome! I needed this! Thank you! 7 years of “narc love” and I am just seeing the reality of what I thought was my soul mate! Thank you so much 🙏🏼💯

  • @Hannah2265
    @Hannah2265 Місяць тому +6

    One day I was so tired of listening to his b.s. & without warning I just blocked him. I didn't know I would be doing this. I had, had, enough. I didn't care and I felt free. After several months I undeleted him & he contacted me. I was completely surprised & shocked at what happened. He apologized for the way he treated me & told me I was his only & true friend. And, his only real love. Of course I loved it, him chasing me felt so good. After several months, i started not to care about him as someone I wanted to be with forever! It was a very strange thing that happened to me but I outgrew him. Knowing that he loved me, healed my heart. And thats all I really needed! I didn't need him, what I did need was to know that I was a person of value - I was loved! ❤

  • @MarySmith-xp6gd
    @MarySmith-xp6gd 14 днів тому +1

    Yep and now I’m healing and taking my power back

  • @OnboardingInformation
    @OnboardingInformation Місяць тому +8

    Great words of wisdom. I’m not the same person anymore

  • @maricrisonil7324
    @maricrisonil7324 Місяць тому +7

    ghosting, bare minimum, online dating, known him for 19 yrs...its been 4 months of no contact, i just left in silence.

    • @USNBLUE
      @USNBLUE 26 днів тому +1

      😢 God bless you.

  • @jigold22571
    @jigold22571 Місяць тому +3

    20 years plus no contact..Even through the deaths of parents..But I received a last message where a sibling is receiving a feeding tube and the abyss opened..but I had a parachute-Gd.❤

  • @GlenHoff-p2v
    @GlenHoff-p2v Місяць тому +3

    This guy's words are absolutely spot on. Spot on!

  • @KerrieWakeman
    @KerrieWakeman 26 днів тому +2

    Awesome advice 😊👍

  • @KathibffnwithGod
    @KathibffnwithGod Місяць тому +1

    Amen Rico!! I am done!! I'm reclaiming my peace, self-worth and dignity. My new beginnings await!!!

    • @thecoachrico
      @thecoachrico  Місяць тому

      @@KathibffnwithGod praise God! Stay on that path and be blessed, healed, and strengthened!

  • @jacksimons-o8q
    @jacksimons-o8q 17 днів тому +156

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

    • @DorothyAngers
      @DorothyAngers 17 днів тому

      its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

    • @jacksimons-o8q
      @jacksimons-o8q 17 днів тому

      Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him or her?

    • @DorothyAngers
      @DorothyAngers 17 днів тому

      Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex

    • @jacksimons-o8q
      @jacksimons-o8q 17 днів тому

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

    • @thecoachrico
      @thecoachrico  16 днів тому +1

      @@jacksimons-o8q I've walked in those sane shoes Jack. The truth is it is heartbreaking and it's supposed to hurt. You have to go through it every last muddy part to achieve real healing. Give yourself permission to let go and pull your energy back by detaching and cutting that cord. Forget about the notion of gaining her back. There are some real changes that you need to begin in your life. Focus in you, start shadow work, improve your fitness and mental health, get a counselor or life coach, start doing things you enjoy, lean on your full network of support, go through that grief process headfirst. You can do it! I'm here to help if you need it. Connect to God and know that you are not broken. You are worthy and you are whole. Now pick yourself up and learn how to live a new stronger better life. There will be other Juliets. But now you chase you and only you! God bless you Jack! Rico Enriquez

  • @leslieperkins2722
    @leslieperkins2722 Місяць тому +2

    This has happened to me far too many times. I don’t want to be hurt anymore. Lyrics from a Bob Dylan song, Like a Rolling Stone sums it up for me.
    Ain’t it hard
    When you discover that
    He really wasn’t where it’s at
    After he took from you
    Everything he could steal.

  • @RAJNOVA784
    @RAJNOVA784 17 днів тому

    Thanks! It's definitely been a moment of recovering for me! I lost alot of women I loved and they aren't coming back!

  • @josephl6289
    @josephl6289 Місяць тому +4

    Ur presentation raises alot of red flags for me. But your message was solid. You got it.

  • @jeremyreese9663
    @jeremyreese9663 Місяць тому +6

    I so needed to hear this.

  • @caterinadelgalles8783
    @caterinadelgalles8783 Місяць тому +1

    Thanks Coach Ricco ❤❤❤

  • @johnroberts4647
    @johnroberts4647 Місяць тому +4

    This was helpful. Thanks for the video

  • @sosoc2616
    @sosoc2616 Місяць тому +13

    The video has nothing to do with why they come back after no contact, and everything to do with healing during no contact.

  • @abby4-m4p
    @abby4-m4p Місяць тому +1

    You are so right.

  • @FeliSigagu
    @FeliSigagu Місяць тому +1

    Great message. Thanks 😊

  • @lukasbogel
    @lukasbogel Місяць тому

    This is what I needed! Thank you! 🙌

  • @wandasworldmoneyjourney5788
    @wandasworldmoneyjourney5788 25 днів тому

    Great Content And Advice

  • @virginiahess8959
    @virginiahess8959 9 днів тому

    I don't want someone I walked away from back in my life. I never look back when I'm done with someones BS.

  • @iamblessed1605
    @iamblessed1605 Місяць тому +1

    Absolutely 💯✨✨✨so true!

  • @marieestelle709
    @marieestelle709 18 днів тому

    Thanks

  • @evilstorm5954
    @evilstorm5954 Місяць тому +6

    Facts. Every no contact video says 99 days/3 months. That’s the the first minimum it takes to heal. After that you’ve moved on, they’ve moved on. Get on with your life.

    • @aquaman199
      @aquaman199 Місяць тому

      It’s because you had a poor upbringing with your parents,so you get this crappy attitude in you,you’ll never have a lasting relation lol,true story,so go find another and keep repeating itself,you thug

    • @davidsalo8397
      @davidsalo8397 Місяць тому +1

      Losing a narcissist is a win, not a loss. You will grow.

  • @flybyphil1361
    @flybyphil1361 Місяць тому

    True words thanks buddy from the uk 🇬🇧

  • @vivianalannefranque8505
    @vivianalannefranque8505 Місяць тому +1

    Hello from Chile . I suscribe . Thanks . I love the music . 👍👍👍🙏💛🕊🌟💐

  • @WhiteytheLab
    @WhiteytheLab 27 днів тому +2

    The sheer arrogance of thinking you can treat your wife like trash and then assuming I'd be waiting in the wings for my turn again?! It's all I can do to not say the obvious. Once I healed, I realized I honestly didn't care anymore. He was willing to leave me for dead - now we can leave it that way 🙂He's coming back because he didn't get his 1st or 2nd choice to work out. I've told him for years that I don't want to be the last man standing. The sheer arrogance of it...

  • @ShannonGonzalez-iq6so
    @ShannonGonzalez-iq6so Місяць тому +1

    Thank you
    I’m at the end of the storm.

  • @MarcyK-z3r
    @MarcyK-z3r Місяць тому +1

    Hell yeah.... true 💯

  • @ÖMD-q3y
    @ÖMD-q3y Місяць тому +2

    May Allah bless you Rico! Greetings from Türkiye...

  • @glorianomsazulu5448
    @glorianomsazulu5448 Місяць тому

    When they no contact, I am grateful I do more for me. They can be a distraction 😮

  • @sudiptabrahma2631
    @sudiptabrahma2631 15 днів тому

    100 % True

  • @karachivibez
    @karachivibez Місяць тому

    Thank you right on time

  • @emc_gamercats1897
    @emc_gamercats1897 Місяць тому

    I just want to clarify when you said “hoping they contact you back” thats not what all people think when they go no contact. Some people (im actually going to speak for myself because im going through something like this right now)
    I am not hoping for this person to contact me back. I’m waiting for this person to realize that they screwed up, they didn’t want to make peace and only wanted to play silly games. Since i went no contact with this person(s) i have been the target of attention. This person actually wants to do fun things with me now and let me just point out that while i was “in contact” with this person. they wanted nothing to do with me and i was about the same as well and basically still feeling that way after 2 years because of the BS that this person wanted to pull in-front of the world.
    I do agree that this is a chance for me to grow and achieve new things so i don’t completely disagree with everything your saying

  • @Jesus-e9v7g
    @Jesus-e9v7g Місяць тому +4

    They left me n went no contact but make up fake accounts like they are someone else saying they miss the man they left but won't talk to me bc i call them out on it every time but she got a new man but claims she still misses the the man she left..so im done trying ..yr and a half..is too long..i cry every day 😢

    • @paulbrown7158
      @paulbrown7158 Місяць тому +2

      Hey it'll be ok I went through like 7 breakups with one person for almost 2 years. I loved her so I thought. We both had psychological issues, I just didn't realize how many personalities I was dealing with. Now I'm happy af with a girl who meets my needs twice as much, and she has no kids from other men (just a little bitty bonus) lol jk never be a stepdad you don't know that kid lol

    • @Jesus-e9v7g
      @Jesus-e9v7g Місяць тому +1

      @paulbrown7158 how did you know I had step kids

  • @Hoppahoppa1
    @Hoppahoppa1 Місяць тому

    I do 100% let others do contact. I only do contact when i need something.
    But when people do contact, i give them a "scene" and a special space in their mind.
    Every day, i have my full of text list of people. I only text 2 times a day.

  • @AnjanaDunuwila
    @AnjanaDunuwila 24 дні тому

    Blessings

  • @EpicWomen78
    @EpicWomen78 23 дні тому

    Yes AMEN😊😊😊😊

  • @МирославаГарматій-ь9з

    Дякую! Я з Вами згідна!

  • @traceybiles2061
    @traceybiles2061 Місяць тому +7

    They come back to ise you again and torture you when they go back to whoever was mad..don't play vlock them

  • @justrose8363
    @justrose8363 Місяць тому

    I’d step back and they’d real me back in only to manipulate and gaslight me over and over again. Step away for yourself, forgive and live your life with no regrets. I’m talking about family who shut the door on my face one to many times in the moments I needed them most.

  • @nicholecornes1915
    @nicholecornes1915 Місяць тому +1

    We have been abused so dam bad

  • @BrokenBrain100
    @BrokenBrain100 Місяць тому +16

    Obvious: they have to be the one who rejects you. So, if you reject them with no contact, they'll win you back so they can be the one who leaves you. They have to have the last word. Narcissists and sociopaths have to be the one who leaves the relationship.

    • @lindasharp8523
      @lindasharp8523 Місяць тому +1

      Nope. Not anymore

    • @davidsalo8397
      @davidsalo8397 Місяць тому +3

      Don't give them the chance to leave. Get ahead of them. Some will attempt to hoover you back. Create a strong boundary. Move on from the toxicity.

  • @jamesroberts7115
    @jamesroberts7115 20 днів тому

    It been 4 years since I was hurt by this woman who I thought she was really in me so I found out she was in dating roster with multiple men. She trying to reach me I don’t open doors to women who don’t have good intentions.

    • @JaneTaber-u3e
      @JaneTaber-u3e 6 днів тому

      So sorry about that James, How are you doing today?

  • @vinburkard2858
    @vinburkard2858 Місяць тому

    Perfect

  • @Barbpriestley35
    @Barbpriestley35 Місяць тому +2

    This is About me Missing my Son I Miss my son in Wilmington North Carolina I am in Texas I feel Sad Thank you for Prayer's Father God bless you good morning to you from Texas Father God bless you keep praying in Jesus name bless you in YESHUA name Hebrew name please pray Thank you God Bless you I Appreciate all your prayers Thank you again please Pray For Restoration Between me and My Son Jason That Will back together I am in Texas And My son Jason in Wilmington North Carolina Lord Jesus Christ It That separate By States and can't get a hold of my son Jason Thank you for message Father God bless you 🕊️🙏🕊️🙏🕊️

    • @thecoachrico
      @thecoachrico  Місяць тому +2

      @@Barbpriestley35 Jason is in our prayers! Praise be to Yeshua!

    • @Barbpriestley35
      @Barbpriestley35 Місяць тому +1

      @@thecoachrico Thank you So Much Lord Jesus Christ bless you

  • @tiffany8957
    @tiffany8957 24 дні тому

    Hallelujah

  • @kozubart
    @kozubart Місяць тому

    Me and my mentor both behaved inappropriately. She opened up to me first. Telling me she was happy to receive all of my messages and she felt we were more than student and mentor, that we were friends as well.
    Things progressed naturally from there. Our bond grew. And I ended up feeling comfortable enough to open my heart at rock bottom and offer a relationship. She declined and told me she was willing to continue to mentor me after forgiving me.
    That online school put no contact between both of us silently. Buried me alive with smear campaigns when they were aware both of us behaved inappropriately. Slandering me mocking me humiliating me and embarrassing me. Pushing their agenda. I am simple done. She was the only person in this world who had faith in me. Now she is gone forever. Why?

    • @cindisowder2182
      @cindisowder2182 Місяць тому +1

      Sounds like a covert narcissist. And they did it as a power trip. Coverts don’t make sense because they don’t think and value things like a normal person.

    • @IAMinfiniteandfree.
      @IAMinfiniteandfree. 29 днів тому +1

      Because you made her your God. You need to learn to have faith in yourself and draw closer to God in yourself. Nobody else can give you this, if you don't value yourself others will never fill that void. It's harsh but true. The only true love is self love and God's love. The rest will always fade away. Why? Because you can't bind someone else to you, just because you lack confidence, self love, happiness by yourself and self empowerment. Many are trained to be codependent or narcissistic, when you become fully dependent on someone else, you will hurt yourself. Decenter others and learn to be happy and comfortable by yourself, before entering any other relationship. You need to learn to master your emotions in a way ,that nobody else can destroy your innerpeace ever again. With or without them, learn to be okay. Don't make it about another person, don't let anyone make you happy or unhappy. Be solid in yourself.

  • @Hackedbydupiton
    @Hackedbydupiton 21 день тому +1

    💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡 lol cant beat genuine ...

  • @martinzikovsky7112
    @martinzikovsky7112 Місяць тому

    TOP ...

  • @aquaman199
    @aquaman199 Місяць тому

    Nice video,true love can connect again,if 2 people are following God,and yes,he can reconnect people,it can make a couple stronger

  • @KarinaSearles
    @KarinaSearles 27 днів тому

    I want everyone to know that there is a community of people that pry into everyone else’s personal life and use their stories to create content online… this is a growing issue and yes they include neighbors and coworkers and anyone pretty much can be leeching off of you and your families personal drama…. I’m bringing awareness into this problem as they take on the personalities in a mocking way and it’s becoming an issue of harassment and invasion of privacy I and a group of other individuals will be notifying UA-cam of this so new regulations occur. It’s awful and horrific the way these people are leeching off the pain of others. I rebuke this evil in the name of the lord Jesus and please say something if you see something.

  • @bryantmaye3884
    @bryantmaye3884 Місяць тому

    Yes suh

  • @darrelloliver5919
    @darrelloliver5919 Місяць тому

    Real

  • @Longbeard2212
    @Longbeard2212 Місяць тому

    I didn’t know there was a title “no contact” for where I seem to end up lol 🤷‍♂️
    I thought I was just weird lol

  • @mabvutomwale4676
    @mabvutomwale4676 16 днів тому +1

    My ex narcissistic wife came back only to find new me and her mask 🎭🎭🎭is off 😈😈😈 exposed

  • @ellliamelli3867
    @ellliamelli3867 20 днів тому +1

    They don't come back

  • @enidybestcleaningservice2317
    @enidybestcleaningservice2317 24 дні тому +1

    I don't care what they do. I'm tired of wishy washy individuals.i. fo used on me and God.

  • @timothycadle1887
    @timothycadle1887 23 дні тому

    They can never handle the truth it's God

  • @sierraforever2954
    @sierraforever2954 Місяць тому +2

    Maybe found the goodness of “God”

  • @timdavis3260
    @timdavis3260 26 днів тому +1

    They better not

  • @TheDailySherpa
    @TheDailySherpa Місяць тому

    Thank you ❤