How To Get A Narcissist REALLY MAD : THE TANTRUM🎬

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  • Опубліковано 1 вер 2016
  • The fastest way to teach a passive aggressive covert narcissistic manipulator a lesson is with counter manipulation! The narcissist will get mad when you don't react to their manipulation, the way they want you to. When the narcissistic manipulator is nasty to you, just pretend like nothing happened! Gaslight the narcissist into thinking that their evil techniques don't work. No matter how sad you might feel on the inside, put on a smile and fake it! :-) Passive aggressive manipulators will become ill and might even have diarrhea when you are not shrinking away into a corner.
    I highly recommend this Activism of Care Gaslighting video:
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  • @SachaSlone
    @SachaSlone  6 років тому +9

    Narc Vader vs Educated Empath : ua-cam.com/video/a0O8JAg1uzU/v-deo.html
    How Narcs Manufacture YOUR Social Isolation ua-cam.com/video/uhRyH2B41xI/v-deo.html
    Narcissism --Empty Shell or Strong Identity: ua-cam.com/video/k4-p85dmZv4/v-deo.html
    What Sparks A Narcissist's Revenge cycle?: ua-cam.com/video/udDakYr31hw/v-deo.html

    • @daddydeath5578
      @daddydeath5578 6 років тому +2

      Sacha Slone this stuff works I've caused my narcissist to literally choke his vocals into a tiny voice then he snapped at someone asking him to speak up it was hilarious

    • @daddydeath5578
      @daddydeath5578 6 років тому +2

      I've sent them into rage tantrums too

    • @christospatsilas8095
      @christospatsilas8095 5 років тому

      Thank you very much for all your videos 💜

    • @kaylabryson1932
      @kaylabryson1932 3 роки тому

      I needed this one .... it’s perfect !

  • @reallife828
    @reallife828 8 років тому +362

    There is a spiritual war going on between the empaths and the narcs. The tide is turning in favor of the empaths! There is still work to do but we are on our way to raise the victory flag!!!

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  8 років тому +20

      Your positivity is encouraging! ❤☺❤

    • @rockingraven1413
      @rockingraven1413 8 років тому +6

      is this something you just observe, or how else did you determine this? I agree. The YT videos are making this possible!!

    • @thothheartmaat2833
      @thothheartmaat2833 7 років тому +14

      people who tell you they are empaths are narcs.. it's in their self obsession to be seen as an empath. an empath doesn't care how they are seen.. because a person making a character judgment is not an empath because you're needing to put them down to make yourself feel better like a narc.. an empath would not need personal satisfaction at anothers expense and so would not judge someone in order to feel superior.

    • @blackprincess212006
      @blackprincess212006 7 років тому +17

      some of us have just figured out that we are empaths and we we are not perfect...we are people too

    • @roylangley76
      @roylangley76 7 років тому +1

      @reallife828....I totally agree.

  • @MrMadvoter1
    @MrMadvoter1 8 років тому +70

    someone needs to write a book on counter manipulation

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  8 років тому +14

      I first learned about 'counter controlling' narcissists from Activism of Care's channel 3 years ago! :-D // And if anyone does write a book about 'counter controlling' narcissists, I hope they give AoC credit for coining that term!! // It is so shady when a youtuber takes another channel's original content, publishes an e-book, and doesn't give credit to the person the idea originated from. // just sayin' .....

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  8 років тому +3

      I nwish I was abteer writer! :-p // lol //

    • @MrMadvoter1
      @MrMadvoter1 8 років тому +6

      not bragging but I think we all could write a book ... your grammar is better than mine and reads better too.

    • @rockingraven1413
      @rockingraven1413 8 років тому +4

      I am sure this has been written about in many books on war strategy.

    • @cynthialewis4906
      @cynthialewis4906 7 років тому

      GGa

  • @janethomas78
    @janethomas78 7 років тому +50

    When you are tempted to "Give People the Benefit of the Doubt" Always a sign you need to call Houston!

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 років тому +9

      *When you are tempted to "Give People the Benefit of the Doubt"* Sound advice ... that *I* need to listen to! Thank you for the reminder.

    • @janethomas78
      @janethomas78 7 років тому +6

      Every time I do this I am then the People Pleaser! UGH!

    • @TheRealMACA
      @TheRealMACA Рік тому

      Great point!! ✨️

  • @LimitlessThinker
    @LimitlessThinker 8 років тому +71

    You can even run into people like this at places where you do daily shopping, places at work, etc. Degrees of familiarity still can come with unexpected attitudes. If you can't avoid it, you are right- then one must 'nip it in the bud' and stand up for yourself. This can be done with body language without a word. Some people will never respect a nice person if they are miserable, anyhow. I was told by a coworker one time that they didn't like me because I was too nice. Needless to say, she was a chronic complainer. We can't waste too much time on trying to figure them out. They aren't worth the time.

  • @stever507
    @stever507 7 років тому +30

    I think my cat is a sociopath. He is charming, manipulative and has a powerful need for stimulation.

    • @bleachedbleach4106
      @bleachedbleach4106 7 років тому +3

      Same😺

    • @kyalucero7977
      @kyalucero7977 7 років тому +1

      Cute sociopathic fuzzy lil kitties lying around everywhere!

    • @KomalJhaOnline
      @KomalJhaOnline 7 років тому +3

      Steve R 🤣🤣🤣🤣😀😀😀😀😀😀😀🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @rainrush3484
      @rainrush3484 3 роки тому +1

      😹😹😹

    • @martincremin5659
      @martincremin5659 3 роки тому +2

      Dog: Wow, this person feeds, shelters and Loves me... I'm so grateful and Love my person.
      Cat: Wow, this person feeds, shelters and Loves me... I must be a God, come to me and pet me.

  • @mysticpizza02
    @mysticpizza02 6 років тому +20

    Be happy upbeat and say nice things about yourself and what others have said nice about you they will blow a gasket!

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  6 років тому +7

      You are right, they may even pee themselves! lol

  • @SISKENNIE
    @SISKENNIE 7 років тому +86

    it's like witchcraft...as if they want to transfer their illness onto you/us.

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 років тому +7

      So true. :-(

    • @shelly-annjohn9634
      @shelly-annjohn9634 6 років тому +1

      So true my sister death and life is in the power of the town

    • @peonyprashanti429
      @peonyprashanti429 6 років тому +2

      Get your poker stick and pop their bubble

    • @ak-47intelligence75
      @ak-47intelligence75 6 років тому +6

      They actually DO wanna infect you with their illness. Its a Luciferian tactic.

    • @rutgersmit6583
      @rutgersmit6583 5 років тому

      Kennie Ke exactly!!

  • @tonycellucci4942
    @tonycellucci4942 7 років тому +5

    First video I've watched, and I subscribed. Giving an abuser a taste of their manipulation medicine is sometimes the only way to save yourself. You are a charming, uplifting breath of fresh air.

  • @dianetippins8968
    @dianetippins8968 8 років тому +32

    If we were at a concert in a very dark venue, at this moment I'd be standing with my Bic lighter flaming and held aloft! As serious and dark as this recovery can be, you've never failed to give me a grin or a BWAHAHAHA while also giving me a great tool. Thanks Sasha.

  • @jenlovesjesus
    @jenlovesjesus 8 років тому +34

    Interesting. It would seem that pretending nothing happened serves to show a narc that he is incapable of hurting you which would offend his ego. I have to see a narc tomorrow that I haven't had to deal with in 2 months. I should try this.

  • @guinness77100
    @guinness77100 4 роки тому +7

    "Get toxic people out of your life."
    You can't hear this sort of message enough.

  • @juliem8656
    @juliem8656 7 років тому +7

    Great idea! One of mine quit speaking to me when I was kind and calm in the face of her BS. She loathed it.

  • @gabrielamcconnell9929
    @gabrielamcconnell9929 8 років тому +19

    Even my nice has turned up at my mums house and launched massive verbally abusive, aggressive, intimidating attacks on me telling me that I am the most evil person in the world (she is 27 and I am 57) and she spoke to me like I was a three year old she was tacking to task (incredible) !!! I sat quietly and listened I wasn't going to respond how they were trying to make me respond,I will NEVER lower myself to their type of behaviour no matter what they do to me! My sister knows that I am terrified of her and that I know the depths of depravity she has already fallen to in perusing her smear campaign and I know she will be focusing totally,at this meeting,on destroying my character with lies and not on the problem of my mums care plan. she is banking on me running away and not attending so she can say LOOK SEE HOW CRAP Gabby is she hasn't come,because I have had poison emails to that effect,but l will be there, I have to be there so I will do what you have suggested Sacha! Many thanks !

  • @thothheartmaat2833
    @thothheartmaat2833 7 років тому +81

    I feel like everyone in my life and everyone I meet is emotionally abusive. is that just how people are riffing around with eachother and everyone is a narc or what? i feel like the environment is telling me it's normal but theory says it's abusive and abnormal. the culture is narcissistic..

    • @Expose_bankers_and_auctioneers
      @Expose_bankers_and_auctioneers 7 років тому +12

      i believe its the lack of spirituality in the home

    • @SC-gp7kt
      @SC-gp7kt 7 років тому +7

      I feel that way too so you are not alone

    • @MrCrowsight
      @MrCrowsight 7 років тому +4

      ThothHeart Maat I been wondering that myself I think are society producing these empty people.

    • @aveleedeleon7694
      @aveleedeleon7694 7 років тому +3

      ThothHeart Maat We live in a narcissistic world now. It's the agenda they're pushing to bring in their self-righteous self-serving New World Order and it pisses me off that they're f-ing with my kids heads with political correctness and and all that jazz. My daughter says I'm a homophobe bc I don't like it shoved down my throat by the truckload. I have gay friends and a cousin. I like girls myself! I'm okay with the occasional person feeling they're stuck in the wrong body, but this is getting ridiculous and they're filling our children's minds with filth, Satanic filth! My kids may be deceived now, but I'm speaking truth to them and down the road when they can think for themselves they'll remember all the real truth I spoke of daily when they were kids and they will not be fooled for long. The good thing about these terrible kids today is that they don't respect their elders like we did and do. They aren't afraid to stand up to them to defend they're own beliefs. What they've taught our kids is going to come back and bite them in the ass. This battle has already been won and they lost 2,000 years ago so they're running out of time and they know it! Stay focused on love and doing kind things for people as you go about your day. That's the only way we're going to effectively change our world. Peace ✌🏻 (and now I can't even do that simple hand sign without thinking Illuminati. It is what you make it! Peace!✌🏻️✌🏻️✌🏻️)

    • @angell504
      @angell504 7 років тому +2

      Ditto

  • @Pfsif
    @Pfsif 8 років тому +20

    My Narc parents were not happy unless they were miserable.............and so was everybody else.

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  8 років тому +1

      I had to read that twice! // ...the logic is so ass-backwards.

    • @tranquility9325
      @tranquility9325 7 років тому

      Pfsif I say that all the time, and God knows I know ppl, too many ppl exactlyike that!

    • @therespectedlex9794
      @therespectedlex9794 7 років тому

      It's true that they want you to feel what they usually feel. They have a sort of anger under the surface all the time.

  • @reigningrubies1152
    @reigningrubies1152 7 років тому +16

    i had to pause this video because the sound of my own laughter mixed with snorting/hyperventilating was too loud for me to hear anything past....diarrhea bahahahaha! lol you're so hilarious and wonderful, anyone who is mean to you hates you for how cool and pretty you are!

  • @shineon4863
    @shineon4863 7 років тому +14

    If you're married and cannot make quick alternate living arrangements DO NOT let them see you crawl under covers and bawling for 6 months. (I did that first time spouse accused me of living a double life--insanity) I stopped trying to prove him wrong. One day, I just did a 180. I looked best I ever have and went about my day. I got the silent treatment for months. He was never mean except when he got caught and accused me of the most bizarre things ever.He divorced me after over a decade of marriage. I literally pretended I was not facing this hell and it made him nuts. Part of it I was in massive denial but to him it looked I wasnt phased at all on my end and it drove him nuts.He was narc injured because I didn't beg him to stay beyond the first few days he had me served with divorce papers. He said I was passive aggresive ( MORE PROJECTION) the ass kissing didn't happen until divorce was final oddly enough. His new supply was nowhere NEAR the crazy codependant peace loving/ spouse worshipping empath I am. I thought everyone wanted him. LOL he just made it seem that way (Somatic as HELL) and I was hoovered to point of almost taking him back POST DIVORCE.

  • @em1osmurf
    @em1osmurf 5 років тому +2

    i see the energy you put into each of these segments, but it is raw and apparent that you have suffered abuse and show the after effects. you go girl! love these vids!

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  5 років тому

      Thank you for watching, I appreciate your encouragement.

  • @eileenfuentes6975
    @eileenfuentes6975 4 роки тому +1

    I have to say something. Within the first 30 seconds of watching your video I had to pause it and subscribed and added this video to my playlist. What I loved right away is your video is started with a chipper exciting and optimistic tone. The "whoo hoo!" was all it took! 👐😂Not a serious voice at the very beginning like many other (very helpful as well) videos. Love it. Now I am going to binge watch!

  • @dianarosalindland1566
    @dianarosalindland1566 7 років тому

    Awesome! I really like you girl! I've been into this subject for a while now but only just found you. It is so refreshing to hear words like "manipulate" being used in a positive sense, from the p.o.v. of the person who is fighting back against emotional abusers! This is EXACTLY the kind of thing that those with no understanding of the Cluster B syndromes simply can never get. Standard wisdom, common sense, and even regular ethics, simply do not apply when you are fighting your psychological corner under heavy attack by narcissists, borderlines, and other personality disordereds (PDs).
    It drives me crazy when people try to apply conventional tactics to PD situations; these are all the well-meaning new-agers who tell you to "forgive your parents/ex/sibling/boss/friend!" and other such mind-numbing platitudes of no value (not to mention they never tell you HOW you are supposed to do this, nor what it even means to have done so, let alone how it is supposed to protect you against future injury); or else they say you should just be "honest and direct" with people whose whole M.O. is about covert motives, information(ammunition)-gathering, secrets, lies, and games. As if you haven't tried direct honesty and gotten double-shat on and betrayed for it, a million times. They tell you revenge/payback is bad and that you shouldn't try to play somebody at their own game. They act like you can heal a PD by being straight up and loving them unconditionally. They end up making US feel like it's on us to fix the relationship. That there is something we could be doing differently....
    Indeed there is, but it has nothing to do with being straight up and loving them unconditionally despite their cruelty, it has to do with beating them at their own game.
    Thank our lucky stars, and human invention, for the Internet. Now all of us, former victims can come together and share our stories, and our STRATEGIES, for defeating the vampires that would drain us dry and drag us down.
    Cheers for a good 'un!

  • @plum3542
    @plum3542 5 років тому

    Always on point. Picking up some valuable tips before I go to work. This is real.

  • @cirquedude123
    @cirquedude123 7 років тому +1

    Love your videos very helpful! People need to see this stuff so we can have a better future! Positive manipulators unite to fight abuse!

  • @katiespade8625
    @katiespade8625 7 років тому +1

    It's so enlightening to listen to how you deal with these nasty situations and the advice you give is excellent.

  • @Troyster94806
    @Troyster94806 7 років тому +49

    it's true, they do seem to get off on hurting people! I don't actually get it. I guess it's a mild form of sadism. Being genuinely happy and unphased by them, must really tick them off.

    • @Expose_bankers_and_auctioneers
      @Expose_bankers_and_auctioneers 7 років тому +5

      a LEGAL form of sadism

    • @Troyster94806
      @Troyster94806 7 років тому +4

      alexavlon1 Yes, that's an important correction, thanks.

    • @corsicanlulu
      @corsicanlulu 7 років тому +5

      it makes them feel important that someone can get upset over them

    • @mr.mayonnaise5488
      @mr.mayonnaise5488 7 років тому +2

      Troy Carpenter I'm a sociopath and I don't get off on that shit

    • @birdtopaz5627
      @birdtopaz5627 6 років тому +1

      Rin That makes you FAR more ethical than the narcissist!

  • @michellekatz3798
    @michellekatz3798 8 років тому +1

    What i a realizing is that we all meet these people every day, and get frustrated and annoyed with them, but u r able to figure out the narc traits more quickly then most of us

  • @feelingfeni4798
    @feelingfeni4798 6 років тому

    you have great energy in this video and I love the double dog down story!

  • @janethomas78
    @janethomas78 7 років тому +19

    Exactly. The Narcissists is betting on you to give them reaction they can play off of. They don't want you to up play them.

  • @mariacrespo988
    @mariacrespo988 5 років тому

    Thank you Sacha!!!! You really helped my daughter with your wit and right-on tips - she is now rid of her toxic partner.

  • @Kirky94
    @Kirky94 7 років тому +13

    I just wanna punch my narc's teeth out but I don't want to lose a good career ahead of me, I have been dealing with it for years now.

  • @timh9278
    @timh9278 7 років тому +7

    I like to brag about my new job and how much I love it, I think it makes my narcs very jealous because my job is better than their shitty job.

  • @alxa6421
    @alxa6421 3 роки тому

    Yep that's gonna be a bit of a challenge. Well done. I'm inspired. I'm going to do that. Love the video.

  • @iluvfigs4712
    @iluvfigs4712 6 років тому +1

    GOOD JOB! THANK YOU for ALL THE GREAT TIPS! IT HELPS JUST TO KNOW OTHERS ARE GOING THROUGH THE SAME HORRIBLE SITUATIONS!!!😊

  • @fruitoflifemyhoneybe
    @fruitoflifemyhoneybe 7 років тому

    narcs hate on people with positive energy because theirs is just the opposite.can i just say how inspiring your work is Sasha...your ball of energy is so contagious!stay awesome...

  • @pieterkeeve
    @pieterkeeve 3 роки тому

    Thanks for putting fun into dealing with the Narc!

  • @ta3970
    @ta3970 7 років тому +8

    I haven't watched your channel for quite sometime but I have to tell you this is halarious!! I tried something similar☺ I think my narc started thinking HE might be "Crazy" instead of me because it's so out of character for me. I just kept behaving like I always do. Thanks I'm still laughing 3 days later.

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 років тому +1

      Good for you! Thank you for watching and Thank you for your comment!

  • @whitneybridgesphotography8417
    @whitneybridgesphotography8417 8 років тому +4

    I love how empowered I feel after watching your videos! You're awesome!

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  8 років тому

      I'm happy to know you feel empowered!! :-)❤

  • @MonaMaguire
    @MonaMaguire 7 років тому

    You're awesome Sasha!!! Sending you Blessings from Canada! Thank you for all you do for us... I love how you tell your story!

  • @hilarymeehan6611
    @hilarymeehan6611 8 років тому +6

    Love your experiments & your attitude, Sacha!
    I have some training to take on with the various narcs floating out in social land. Each time you practice, you get stronger. But working inside on ourselves is the best way to keep that strength, in my opinion. Work in progress! I love your flair & spirit!!! :)

  • @sabreena1khalick
    @sabreena1khalick 6 років тому +5

    Love this advice, Sacha. I've tried to look carefree n happy after standing up to a manipulator at work.

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  6 років тому

      Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate it! :-)

  • @Dougwiser420
    @Dougwiser420 4 роки тому

    Dear Sacha: I always come back and review your videos when I do not engage the narcs to my satisfaction. Best wishes always I recommend you first to my fellow codependents, and one of the best parts of youtube that has remained untouched for some reason is the channels that discuss these and similar topics.

  • @curtiseagleeyemullin
    @curtiseagleeyemullin 7 років тому

    You're so funny; your art presentations, the little annoying things that you do on purpose to (obviously) annoy the worst of narcissists out there in You Tube land; the way that you become animated while on camera. Its all so very drôle, informative and entertaining. Merci, tu as beaucoups de talent, Madamemoiselle Slone.

  • @astroskyofficial
    @astroskyofficial 5 років тому +1

    I love your content! So much useful insights and info.

  • @eileenfuentes6975
    @eileenfuentes6975 4 роки тому

    When you said this person was already “Manufacturing problems“, wow, I had to chuckle because that is the best way I have ever heard it described.

  • @littlemisslady1638
    @littlemisslady1638 7 років тому

    You are such a sweetie and so fun to watch! Also, thank you for your videos. I can't speak for everyone, but they've certainly helped me :)

  • @martinthemartiann
    @martinthemartiann 7 років тому +19

    i notice a lot of times some people staring with hatred at me in the background of photos, when i'm having a great great time. what the hell is that about? so many times that has happened. when i haven't done a thing wrong to them. ????

  • @thayungflorist
    @thayungflorist 6 років тому +2

    I love you 🤣🤣🤣.. my abuser was in my work place manipulated me so badly, even got away with attacking me in front of others. Unfortunately I ended up loosing my job because I was also been harassed by a covert narcissist who disliked me and was threatened I would take her job. I let them win and fire me because the fight was too intense for me. As I left I made sure everyone was there and I outed Him. I will never forget the look on his face he turned grey it was as if all the blood inside of him left his body, he actually looked like he was about to pass out... unfortunately he still works at the company even thought 4 members of staff witnessed him attempt to head butt and strangle me for no reason at all, well the reason was because I was having a good time at the staff gathering.

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  6 років тому +1

      Oh, I'm sorry this happened to you.
      //Your story brings back bad memories of working with a group of manipulative liars. It was a nightmare going in to work everyday.//

  • @meshadickson9814
    @meshadickson9814 5 років тому

    Omg you have no clue how this channel has helped Identify the narcissist people in my life and there are a ton. What scares me is that I currently live with a covert narcissist and I constantly feel like I’m a detective trying to uncover his lies and motive behind them.and everyone loves him and he gives money out to everyone, so they immediately take his side. so I’m completely alone, but as an empath I pick up negative vibes very easily. With your channel I was able to finally recognize what was happening. Unfortunately I have many over narcissist in my life and symptoms are obvious and other people notice, no convincing needed, because they are overt Narcs, But I feel icky and that something is not quite right with this person. This person is so awesome with my kids and buys them everything. But gaslights me constantly. But I feel super duper duped and can’t help but to be angry and give him a taste of his own medicine. The silent treatment, and gaslighting right back. When I tell people what I’ve experienced they don’t believe me and I look even more crazy. No one is aware. His facial expressions are exactly as you stated in the facial expressions video. I fell on the floor and held my chest. Exactly as you stated. He is very sociable, quiet charming and I only ever remember 1 apology in 15 years. Yawns are not contagious for him. I did the test and asked him why yawns are not contagious. He stated that he gets plenty of rest. I give the silent treatment back to avoid confrontation because every conversation feels like a battle that I would rather avoid. It’s completely impossible to talk to him. It feels like he hates Me or women or something is just not right. I know without a doubt he is a narcissistic, but it’s impossible to win with him. Any advice?

  • @bleachedbleach4106
    @bleachedbleach4106 7 років тому

    I'm watching the video without sound and it's great how passionate and expressive Sacha is.w

  • @indiebaby
    @indiebaby 7 років тому +3

    I love you and your bright spirit. You're an inspiration at a time in my life when my "old" self is rediscovering her true self.

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 років тому

      Thank you! I'm happy you have gained value from watching! :-) ❤ much warmth.

  • @montelo555
    @montelo555 7 років тому +5

    I really laughed like hell. Really. When you said "this person might had diarrhea:....hehe this video was so helpful as always, Thanks Sacha.

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 років тому +1

      I am happy you liked it. Thank you for your comment!

  • @tameramayta276
    @tameramayta276 7 років тому +5

    Lady, you rock! And you seem to enjoy sharing your tips, even cooler. I tend to have 20/20 hind sight. Your words encourage. Thanks

  • @iluvfigs4712
    @iluvfigs4712 6 років тому +2

    Not that I want others to suffer, I just feel so VALIDATED!!!

  • @QuartuvLarry
    @QuartuvLarry 7 років тому +7

    If I cared about making some narcissist turd kiss my ass (as one wants a turd do), I'd say, "Why don't you tell me what your approval is worth and let me decide if I want to buy?"

  • @AnaRose13206
    @AnaRose13206 5 років тому

    Omgsh this happened to me yesterday, normally I’m very reserved and will just take it, but yesterday I woke up not in the mood, and the narc (female) started in on me and I stood up for myself, respectfully of course, an it led them to take their frustrations out on the building owner, who didn’t appreciate the abuse, and now she has to move out. I didn’t react that way with any intention but tbh I’m sick of the bullying, harassment, smear campaign, isolation, defamation etc.
    Standing up for yourself is not bad, it’s what’s best for you. Stay strong and put yourself first.
    I believe in you and send you prayers of protection and strength.

  • @elsacanelon462
    @elsacanelon462 7 років тому +13

    wow...seems like an exhausting work...better leave or keep'em away and far

    • @eunicemuturi5723
      @eunicemuturi5723 7 років тому +3

      Elsa Canelon leaving isn't the Sol. I guess as Sasha says the best thing is to stick around and be happy. That's what they need inorder to stop. After all you'll b helping them to change one day.

  • @Ihopeitsshittyattheblackdog
    @Ihopeitsshittyattheblackdog 6 років тому +1

    I love your attitude and your energy!! You're so awesome and inspirational!!

  • @marwaselim6969
    @marwaselim6969 6 років тому +1

    Hello Sacha, thanks for all your efforts and advice, regarding this specific video i would like to share that i have tried this technique at work with my supervisor ( the most narcissistic character i have ever seen) and out of the blue she suddenly pretended that she got sick and left for hospital check up ! so thanks a million =)

  • @iluvfigs4712
    @iluvfigs4712 7 років тому +1

    Such AWESOME ADVISE, as always!!!

  • @seancase1543
    @seancase1543 5 років тому

    It’s good to see the place you’re in now after suffering from Narcissistic abuse

  • @agnieszkalibera5809
    @agnieszkalibera5809 4 роки тому

    Thank you for all the advice. Your videos are one of the first that I watched on the topic. You and a few other people helped me realize what deep sh*t I've been in all my life. I still need to gain economic stability to leave all the toxies behind. Nevertheless, I have gotten out of my fear zone and I'm on the right track - step by step ;-) I would do a few things differently than you, however. I guess it all depends on a given situation and the outcome it can have. The "be cheeerful" method is the best. It gets ALL narcs to show their true colors, more or less. I've had the worst covert narcs go psycho on me in front of everyone when they saw me happy. I've also seen milder covert narcs be scared and ask me about my FB status "It's a beautiful day." The one who asked what my posts were all about had a voice as if she had asked about an army of killer soldiers roaming the streets and wanting to attack her. That's how upset she was about me being in a good mood. I'm no longer "friends" with her. The way we stopped being acquaintances is a funny story, showing how stupid and fake narcs really are. I think I might write a book about my life among toxies - in a couple of languages ;-)

  • @1framistan
    @1framistan 6 років тому

    Only feel guilty about MANIPULATING the narcissist if you fall into the TRAP of enjoying manipulating people!!! Then you will have become one of them, which is not the goal. Very excellent video Sacha. Thumbs up for you.

  • @brandyfolcarelli9469
    @brandyfolcarelli9469 5 років тому +1

    You have great goofy energy! I love it girl! I get a kick out of u so thank u very very much!!!!😉 I am a goofball as well. I have someone who makes me feel just like that. After an encounter I always feel so small not just short or thin like inside as well. I now carry crystals everywhere with me. Black Tourmaline is the best protection I've found against the abuse. I am standing up straight. Again Thank you so much. I am sending you good vibes and only the best for u. You should print out any compliments you get and carry them in ur purse when u know u'll see them. Just to remind u that they are nasty b.c. they aren't you they don't have spark or sass! Keep up the good work.

  • @mek7475
    @mek7475 8 років тому +1

    Thanks and great stuff! You are so sweet and happy, it rubs off and I am smiling now.😀👍🌱

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  8 років тому

      I appreciate your kind words. Thank you❤☺❤

  • @abdulc5726
    @abdulc5726 3 роки тому +1

    Loved that 'woo' at the beginning

  • @breakthroughmoment1647
    @breakthroughmoment1647 8 років тому +1

    That wouldn't happen to be Tina, would it? Lol! I'm so glad you didn't go into your shell (as many of us do). Woo hoo!! That's one for the team. I can live vicariously through you for a moment. Thanks Sacha. Way to go!

  • @soulprospers4110
    @soulprospers4110 7 років тому +8

    She probably had diarrhea later ROFL. You always makes me laugh!

  • @riseabove8673
    @riseabove8673 7 років тому +1

    I've been playing their game on them...which is how I'm able to deal with them without being affected by them.

  • @YorkieSpace
    @YorkieSpace 8 років тому +3

    I noted that when I tried this, my NARC immediately sent a letter to my lawyer and went in to his own NO CONTACT, which now means I can breath Oxygen again. Thank you for this!!!

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  8 років тому +3

      Thank you for sharing what happened when you used this counter manipulation tactic. // Knowing what has and hasn't worked for others is a great way to help each other figure out how to best handle future interactions with toxic people. // ❤

  • @jlondon2415
    @jlondon2415 5 років тому

    Hi Sacha,good on you well done.Taking it to them infuriates their mindset.I had to take one to court,it was heartbreaking to witness this person totally get younger the more my lawyer questioned them on the stand.Confident if not arrogant going to the witness box,turning to anger and desperation as time went by.On the stand they have no where to go and the untruths could not be sustained,not to a judge at least,which I knew.It was car crash tv in the presence of educated people,they understood the dynamics at play and made an order to repay money taken.Authority with consequence does frighten them,as it exposes them.BTW your nuts though your explanations are very funny though spot on.

  • @tenerifetimes
    @tenerifetimes 7 років тому

    You & HG Tudor have saved my life Sacha. I have turned my Super Nova Empath Powers into applications which have slowed my 60 year old Narc (I'm 62) of a husband right down. He has become totes confused. His triangulations which include his family, his parrot, his dog, his cat, his cars, a sad, needy woman in the next village & his ridiculously large collection of modern motorbikes....thank you from one lovable person to another ...I send you a virtual hug without your permission so there xxOxx

  • @fatimataslim8335
    @fatimataslim8335 7 років тому +3

    I love u so much, u made me wat I want to be. Keeping pple like that in my life would of just ruined me. I love ur energy. Please keep up the good work.

  • @kre8504
    @kre8504 3 роки тому

    Ironically I did that, she shortly thereafter turned away from me prior to me leaving. Thx for another good video.

  • @le808le
    @le808le 5 років тому

    I wish UA-cam was around when I was a teen and young adult...great resources for empaths ... awesome advise Sasha

  • @50plus2013
    @50plus2013 7 років тому

    THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL AND LOVING YOUR SMILE XOXO THERESA

  • @maggiecarreiro
    @maggiecarreiro 5 років тому

    You are a beautiful glowing radiant soul, keep shining lovely lady. Much love from 🇨🇦💕✨

  • @AsteriETERNAL
    @AsteriETERNAL 7 років тому +3

    So right! I use this on a 'friend' and it works every time.
    (poor puppy dog) lol

  • @ririhen9924
    @ririhen9924 7 років тому +1

    Your video made me laugh and clap of happiness!! Bravo!! Thanks for your advice!!!! Love to you!!

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 років тому

      I am happy you liked it. Thank you ❤

  • @eccesignumrex4482
    @eccesignumrex4482 8 років тому +1

    Oh ... you made me laugh with the Diarrhea ..slow-mo ...
    -
    //Quality advice(s) - that friend of yours gave! !! !//
    i (once) spent 3 hours being attacked by flying monkeys at a family get-together - all the while engaging in smiley conversation and drinking beer - carefully picking up clues from my environment and keeping my war-face on ... A targets lack of angst can't be explained in the npd brain ... they will ''go whacky/tantrum'' as you described!
    -
    Nice Video, Sacha!

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  8 років тому

      hint, It was not Bob who gave this brilliant counter manipulation pro tip ;-) It was a super cool cat and his homeboy Mr. pete. // the tantrum and the 'histrionic storming' out was freaking hilarious! I never imagined it would work so well!!

    • @eccesignumrex4482
      @eccesignumrex4482 8 років тому

      Sacha Slone Ha! Super! !! !

  • @avrilsimonen7314
    @avrilsimonen7314 5 років тому +1

    thanks for the video.helpful and hilarious

  • @arteisiacalvin6286
    @arteisiacalvin6286 5 років тому

    I looovvveee this tactic. And i share the same story. Riggght! when i started to counter manipulate it made my days easier

  • @dian-yd5ud
    @dian-yd5ud 6 років тому

    The three D's! Easy to remember when you feel like shutting down- Double Dog Down- in my case the 4D's! Thank you Mam, you are quite a charictor- I love your enthusiasm and the life skills are priceless!❤

  • @iluvfigs4712
    @iluvfigs4712 7 років тому +1

    Good for you, Sacha!!!

  • @curtiseagleeyemullin
    @curtiseagleeyemullin 5 років тому

    I love how full of life you are.

  • @MissVi
    @MissVi 7 років тому

    Amazing advice, thank you, it worked great!!!

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 років тому

      I am happy to know that you have gained value from watching! Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate it! :-)

  • @user-le6gi5yh2n
    @user-le6gi5yh2n 5 років тому

    Sacha Slone ~ I ABSOLUTELY LOVE LOVE LOOOVE YOU!! YOUR ENERGY, SMILE N JUS GREAT GREAT ADVICE!!! I BELIEVE SOME OF THESE TECHNIQUES R MAYBE NOT COMMON SENSE, BUT MORE UUMMM... AN OBVIOUS OF FEW REACTIONS ONE WUD RESPOND WITH, FROM A N'S ACTION....WE JUS ARE UNABLE TO RESPOND IN THESE WAYS CUZ OF OUR HUMILITY, OR INABILITY TO COMPREHEND A N'S ACTIONS IN A LOGICAL MANNER. MEANING WEVTHE VICTIMS MAY BE SO IDK "BLOWN AWAY" BY WHATS COMING TOWARDS US, IT FREEZES US IN DISBELIEF UNABLE TO. INTELIGENTALY REACT TIMELY. !!!
    YOUR MESSAGES R REFRESHING N TECHBIQUES R FUNNY N COMPLETELY SPOT ON!! I FEEL EXCITED AS U TO HEAR YOUR SUCCESSES OF DISARMING THESE ...IDK, POOR SOULS!!#
    KEEP IT COMING, UR A BEAUTIFUL PART OF OUR WORLD N HUMANITY!!!
    ❤😁😉

  • @annetteormond3477
    @annetteormond3477 7 років тому +1

    You're the best!!...I really enjoy your videos.

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 років тому

      Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate it! :-)

  • @yuriq8825
    @yuriq8825 7 років тому +2

    you're so funny! love your videos. so helpful

  • @helensmith4126
    @helensmith4126 5 років тому

    Awesome! I love your videos

  • @smithsmith9809
    @smithsmith9809 6 років тому

    Loved it!!!🤗

  • @kevinsanmateo4781
    @kevinsanmateo4781 3 роки тому

    Even though I would confuse it as just being annoying I completely support you and trying to piss off the narcissist they deserve it

  • @wanketta
    @wanketta 7 років тому

    Why is this woman so gleefully happy, no matter what is being said? I'm not happy to be here, which is why I'm here. I appreciate some 'gravity', if not just dignity. The big grin and overly expressive eyes make me feel like she thinks I'm an idiot who won't get the point unless she's over the top acting out. It's depressing.

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 років тому

      Maybe this is what you are looking for: ua-cam.com/video/b_Zu1hYBMRU/v-deo.html

  • @iluvfigs4712
    @iluvfigs4712 7 років тому +1

    That one might be a good one for me with my teacher, too! I already acted this way, because I had not figured it out yet, that she was purposely trying to 'hurt' me.

  • @susanschafer1248
    @susanschafer1248 7 років тому +3

    This was great! Thanks!

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  7 років тому

      I'm happy you liked it:-)❤

  • @laceyrose2636
    @laceyrose2636 6 років тому

    Lol "it was like a double dog down " nice !

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  6 років тому +1

      Thank You for watching!

  • @MonaMaguire
    @MonaMaguire 7 років тому

    I have to go to an event that I was dreading.. and I will do what you did.. I'll give it a shot anyway.. thank you Sasha!

  • @yraldapernett4005
    @yraldapernett4005 8 років тому +2

    you are great am happy I got to your channel I love it

    • @SachaSlone
      @SachaSlone  8 років тому

      Thank you Yralda, I am happy you like my vids! I appreciate you taking the time to watch and comment. :-)❤

  • @jesseg2141
    @jesseg2141 7 років тому

    I can't stop watching Sacha Slone. I LOVE her!!! here's a narcisist story: I loaned a person $100 who had been a good friend. A few years went by. When I asked her to return the money she was very offended that I would be so rude as to bring this debt up and so she broke off our friendship and even complained about this to a mutual friend who, to his credit, actually tried to explain to her how absurd her behavior was. She still avoids me and is officially now an ex-friend.

  • @garycameron5667
    @garycameron5667 7 років тому +1

    I'm chocked when it actually works it's funny!!

  • @vamosama
    @vamosama 7 років тому +12

    The only narcs who had the power to affect me were people I cared about. I wouldn' t give a damn about the whole issue if they were Just people at a social évent.