Hey! Thanks for making this video, and congratulations on finding a direction that works for you! I remember being in your shoes seven or so years ago and eventually just picked something (engineering) and stuck with it. There have been ups and downs and sides to sides, but I've noticed that with everyone I've talked to. Rarely do we get the direction right the first time, it's more about finding the "next right step" or "stepping on the next stone in a pond" rather than getting your whole life set from the get-go. As long as you're doing something where you can support yourself (in case your husband or parents die or God doesn't bless you with marriage), you're good to go. Secondly, I do want to push back a little bit. From someone who was raised in "homeschool culture" and then later moved into "secular culture", it just isn't true that marriage and motherhood aren't valued or encouraged or seen as worthy "goals" in the "secular world". Many, many women, not just Christian women, would love to stay home with their kids or want to have kids, etc. It's really not fair to make such broad generalizations about "culture today", and I wish we in the Christian community wouldn't do that. All that said, Hannah's Children by Catharine Pakaluk is a recently published book where women who have more than five children describe their wonderful lives and you might enjoy reading it. And finally, I remember being in this stage and idealizing Anna-Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin, Sarah Malley, and Elizabeth Elliot and what they taught about waiting for marriage, ideals for women, and the "true power of womanhood." Since then I've realized that Elizabeth Elliot grew up and lived in a wildly different time than me. Both Elizabeth Botkin and Sarah Malley didn't get married until their 40s and Anna-Sofia is now a realtor and asfaik is still unmarried. So basically, their advice and plans didn't work out, they did not become the discerning young mothers of many children, and I wish I hadn't put so much stock into what they said, especially of their criticisms of women who didn't think exactly as they did. Another woman in the same circle, Kelly Bradrick's husband divorced her after they had six kids together. ANYWAYS - sorry for being a random stranger on the internet and typing super long comments! I just remember thinking many of the same things you did more than a couple years ago but at the same time not forever ago. Good luck and you're going to do great! God will bring you things to make you more like Christ and that is the beautiful journey we are all on
I'm ultra grateful for living in the country where education is totally free. On every level, in every age. I didn't have to choose - I'm a nurse (for free) and I'm getting married soon.
I have a question: So today I was telling my mom I wanted to be friends with some kids outside of my drama troupe, she was fine with it but when she found out two were boys she freaked and said I couldn’t do that- because at their age “they’re going to start seeing girls as more than a friend” which is true but it’s not like he’s gonna go around trying to be weird with every girl he’s friends with especially my friend A. He is more mature than that and I know for a fact he doesn’t like me in that way. The point is- do you think girls and boys can’t ever just be in a friendship and not like eachother in that way and it’s still proper and fine or do you feel girls and boys being JUST friends shouldn’t happen especially kids under 16? It really ruined my day when she said I wouldn’t be allowed to talk to him or hangout with him ever just because of his gender 😕 I was really excited to get his number so we could hang…
Hi, I’m a 53 year old woman. Your Mom is trying to protect you. A lot of times when men and women become friends, especially if they really hit it off and become great friends, it DOES turn into something more than friendship. And if your Mom has actually met this boy, there’s probably some things she doesn’t like about him and she doesn’t trust you to be alone with him. She doesn’t want her daughter to get really hurt or to become a teen mom. Please respect your Mom and don’t sneak around with this person.
@@lynnmarieanderson1744 hello! I know she’s trying to protect me but I am a strong Christian teen and I set rules for myself and I won’t ever date till I’m 17 and even if I like a boy before I’m 17 I won’t date or anything whatsoever because I want to be mature enough to handle a relationship first before anything. I also have no need for a bf especially at my young age.. Even if he does like me or I like him I know we are both mature enough to say no to something like that so young :) I understand my moms concerns and for now I’ll js stay friends and we will hangout whenever we see each other instead of chat or try to meetup. But it did make me sad that I’d miss out on a good friend js cuz she doesn’t think I’ll keep it at friends 😕
Thank you for the video Kailey! I am in that stage at the moment, so it was helpful to hear how the Lord has been leading you! All the very, very best 🙂 Blessings from Australia! Jasmine.
Hey! Thanks for making this video, and congratulations on finding a direction that works for you! I remember being in your shoes seven or so years ago and eventually just picked something (engineering) and stuck with it. There have been ups and downs and sides to sides, but I've noticed that with everyone I've talked to. Rarely do we get the direction right the first time, it's more about finding the "next right step" or "stepping on the next stone in a pond" rather than getting your whole life set from the get-go. As long as you're doing something where you can support yourself (in case your husband or parents die or God doesn't bless you with marriage), you're good to go.
Secondly, I do want to push back a little bit. From someone who was raised in "homeschool culture" and then later moved into "secular culture", it just isn't true that marriage and motherhood aren't valued or encouraged or seen as worthy "goals" in the "secular world". Many, many women, not just Christian women, would love to stay home with their kids or want to have kids, etc. It's really not fair to make such broad generalizations about "culture today", and I wish we in the Christian community wouldn't do that. All that said, Hannah's Children by Catharine Pakaluk is a recently published book where women who have more than five children describe their wonderful lives and you might enjoy reading it.
And finally, I remember being in this stage and idealizing Anna-Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin, Sarah Malley, and Elizabeth Elliot and what they taught about waiting for marriage, ideals for women, and the "true power of womanhood." Since then I've realized that Elizabeth Elliot grew up and lived in a wildly different time than me. Both Elizabeth Botkin and Sarah Malley didn't get married until their 40s and Anna-Sofia is now a realtor and asfaik is still unmarried. So basically, their advice and plans didn't work out, they did not become the discerning young mothers of many children, and I wish I hadn't put so much stock into what they said, especially of their criticisms of women who didn't think exactly as they did. Another woman in the same circle, Kelly Bradrick's husband divorced her after they had six kids together.
ANYWAYS - sorry for being a random stranger on the internet and typing super long comments! I just remember thinking many of the same things you did more than a couple years ago but at the same time not forever ago.
Good luck and you're going to do great! God will bring you things to make you more like Christ and that is the beautiful journey we are all on
I'm ultra grateful for living in the country where education is totally free. On every level, in every age. I didn't have to choose - I'm a nurse (for free) and I'm getting married soon.
Congratulations! 🎉
Thankyou so much for that video! I am graduating next week and have the same dream for my future, this video is very appreciated!
Congratulations!!! I’ll be praying for you! 😊
@@kaileymentink Thanks, I will do the same for you! :)
Wise choice to think carefully about the future and not go to college. Thanks for sharing advice!
I am kind of in that season, less so than I was a year ago, but this was still helpful. Nice to know I'm not alone!
Kailey, thank you. I have a couple of daughters in this age bracket dealing with these questions.
What a lovely independent thinker. Follow your heart follow your angels... Always.
This sounds exactly like me!
❤️ Praying for wisdom! The Lord will lead!
I Feel the same way! I just graduated this year and I eventually want to be a wife and mom like you!
That’s wonderful! The Lord has a great plan for you 😊
Very inspiring and helpful!!!! Keep up the good work 😄
Thank you! ❤️
I have a question:
So today I was telling my mom I wanted to be friends with some kids outside of my drama troupe, she was fine with it but when she found out two were boys she freaked and said I couldn’t do that- because at their age “they’re going to start seeing girls as more than a friend” which is true
but it’s not like he’s gonna go around trying to be weird with every girl he’s friends with especially my friend A. He is more mature than that and I know for a fact he doesn’t like me in that way.
The point is- do you think girls and boys can’t ever just be in a friendship and not like eachother in that way and it’s still proper and fine or do you feel girls and boys being JUST friends shouldn’t happen especially kids under 16?
It really ruined my day when she said I wouldn’t be allowed to talk to him or hangout with him ever just because of his gender 😕 I was really excited to get his number so we could hang…
Hi, I’m a 53 year old woman. Your Mom is trying to protect you. A lot of times when men and women become friends, especially if they really hit it off and become great friends, it DOES turn into something more than friendship. And if your Mom has actually met this boy, there’s probably some things she doesn’t like about him and she doesn’t trust you to be alone with him. She doesn’t want her daughter to get really hurt or to become a teen mom. Please respect your Mom and don’t sneak around with this person.
@@lynnmarieanderson1744 hello!
I know she’s trying to protect me but I am a strong Christian teen and I set rules for myself and I won’t ever date till I’m 17 and even if I like a boy before I’m 17 I won’t date or anything whatsoever because I want to be mature enough to handle a relationship first before anything.
I also have no need for a bf especially at my young age.. Even if he does like me or I like him I know we are both mature enough to say no to something like that so young :)
I understand my moms concerns and for now I’ll js stay friends and we will hangout whenever we see each other instead of chat or try to meetup. But it did make me sad that I’d miss out on a good friend js cuz she doesn’t think I’ll keep it at friends 😕
Thank you for the video Kailey! I am in that stage at the moment, so it was helpful to hear how the Lord has been leading you!
All the very, very best 🙂
Blessings from Australia!
Jasmine.
Blessings to you too! I pray for wisdom and clarity for you 😊