5 Steps to a Clean and Organized Home
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- How can you get organized for 2023? It's NOT running to the store to buy a bunch of containers! You need a PLAN first! In today's video, I break down the 5 Steps to an Organized Home for 2023!
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Organise
Have a written plan
Break it down into doable chunks
Brain dump into bite sized portions
In detail
Schedule a day and time
For each task
Five minutes matters
Get organised
Take everything out one thing at a time eg a drawer
Complete the cycle
Finish each project
Thank you for the breakdown!!! 😃
Thank you for sharing your notes 😉
Ack! I'm a stuff shuffler for sure!
Not in 2023! Thank you Cas
I am a VISUAL Learner . . . That's WHY I WATCH Videos . . however, as much as I Love Cas , her 5-second-flash of each step is NOT Enough for me ! Therefore, I truly appreciate Your Written (Typed ) LIST of EACH STEP !.. If you don't mind, I'd like to take a Screenshot of it and PRINT IT OUT.. that way I can : Put it in an 8" x 10" Acrylic Photo Frame . Start by Standing it on My NIGHTSTAND ( read it first thing in the morning ; Last thing I read before bed ) ; Start with Decluttering/Organizing both Inside & Surface of Nightstand ( Satisfying & Motivating ! ) .. Carry "The List" to Each Room/Area ! Also, I can slip my Brain Dump into the back of Photo Frame ; as well as my Detailed Decluttering Plan for Each Room/ Section ( plus my REWARD [ ie : ☕ 🌹 📖 🛁 ] for Completing Each big 'Chunk' of my Goals ! Perhaps a Mini-Vision Board w/ Photos / Sketches to Keep My Goal in Mind : 🛋️ 🌹 🖼️ 🪑 🪟 🍃 . Another thought . . . I might try using " Write On,Wipe Off Markers" to Check ✅ Off Each Step / Task, as I Complete it . When I'm all Done, I can just Wipe It Off and it's ready for the Next Room ! Happy New Year !
Thank you, Shoshana! Your list really helps me remember the points.
On the topic of the perfectionist having trouble starting until they have the perfect solution to the mess... one tip that has helped me in this area is telling myself, "I can always make a change." This helps me to get going and use whatever bin or organizational items I pick now, knowing if I don't like them later because of how they work, or look... or I see something on pinterest or at a friend's that I like more...I can change what I have & make it better at any time. This helps me to just get going& make perfectionist changes to it later.
That thought has helped me a lot, too!
@truebluestables, decluttering and organizing is a long term, life long process! Key for perfectionist to settle for “good enough” is to schedule 25 min a day (and must STOP after 25 min or you get burn out) working on a FIRST DRAFT of each area, and next day you MUST pick a DIFFERENT area than you have already worked on.
This is a good idea. I'm so tired with my obsession for a percect house and its never perfect. Its a never ending loop@marylut6077
When my two boys turned 15-16…we hired someone else to teach them and believe me when I say that was the best WIN-WIN decision for all of us especially the boys. There was zero pressure on all of us. DO IT! You won’t regret it. Raising a teenager is hard enough without having to teach them to drive. 😊
Same here! Find a good driving school and they'll teach her everything she needs to know to be safe, and to pass the road test. Best best best money you will every spend! Three seconds at the stop sign = tap your finger three times on the steering wheel before you move forward. Just so many little tips and tricks I would never ever think of! Then they'll re-teach you how to drive when they're in the car with you! lol
I hear that!
Agreed! And in Ontario, they will get a discount on their car insurance (or you will when you add them as an occasional driver) for doing a ministry-approved driver’s ed program. They can also get their G2 at 8 mos instead of 12, meaning they will be able to drive on their own sooner. You can also pay for a one hour refresher class before doing the road test for the G2 and/or full G license, to ensure they know all the tips and tricks to pass with flying colours the first time!
My husband taught both of our kids!
I hired someone to teach my son to drive as well. It was the best decision for my sanity. Unfortunately he isn't that great of a driver to this day. He has had quite a few accidents. 😔 Maybe he would have been better off if I taught him. I don't know. But for my sanity, it was the best decision.
We did a combo of driving instructions; both her dad and I (very different styles) and then she took a professional course. The course taught her a lot and even administered the final test. Just remember getting a license and gaining experience are two very different things. We are never Done learning 😉
Great video, Cas! Key for us when our kids were learning to drive was to find a business park or industrial park with real roads, and go there on evenings and weekends when there's no traffic. You drive there, and then let her drive once you're there. So much less stressful than out in traffic right away! Good luck!👍🏻
My Mother taught me to drive in the cemetery! There was no traffic (lol) and low curbs so if I made a mistake I knew it but no car damage. She also told me if I wasn't careful this is where I would end up. Funny but true.
THIS! Our local zoo (and attached park) has almost everything you'd encounter in real traffic (including railroad crossings - for the mini train ride). After hours very little traffic and a couple of parking lots to practice smooth starts and stops - getting that 'easy foot' is hard!
Yes. My dad drove to a stadium parking lot in the off season, and we practiced in a giant empty lot going in and out, parking, stopping, etc.
@@janiceyoung5958 I love this!
We are currently doing the exact same thing with our son. Practising parking in an empty business lot, three point turns in wide driveways, reversing into those driveways. There is housing right next to the industrial area so he can venture in there…narrower winding roads, parked cars, and a young girl on a bike adds to challenge! These quieter areas have really helped his confidence.
I love your show.
I’m a butterfly that sews, quilts, and machine embroiders. I also
paints (acrylic, acrylic pouring, and now added watercolor , makes my own air dry clay, create fairy trees and houses, create pinecone wreaths. Because of you my sewing/art room is super organized. Everything is stored in see through plastic containers. All have labels. Yes I downsized mostly fabric and patterns but also dried up paint, ugly artwork, used sketchpads and half finished products.
My dad had us get in the car, get familiar/comfortable being in the driver seat. He then made us repeatedly drive forward and backwards a sort distance until we were use to the gas and how sensitive it was, practicing braking. It helped me alot, as once I got on the road, I was comfortable with the car itself. Congrats to your daughter and good luck!🙂
Thanks!
This was very helpful - I am one of those perfectionists who can´t start and I appreciate the encouragement 🙂 Nothing happens if you don´t start the process.
So true!
Take a clue from a saying quilters use: Done is Better Than Perfect. 'Cause not being able to start is crippling you. Just dive in & accept imperfection in yourself, adopting Done is Better than Perfect & hopefully will get you out of your PARALYSIS.
My goal is to get rid of everything that has no purpose in my home, and put everything else in a permanent place. I'm tackling drawers, bins, cabinets and filling boxes with stuff. The one place I will likely not do much decluttering (getting rid of stuff) however is my craft space. I do a lot of different types of crafting and a lot of that includes taking random stuff and making something from it. BUT I really really want to get it organized with like items, so I can find things. Thanks for the push!
You are so funny and honest ! Love your organization tips., but always love the “talks” at the end ! Thank you for being so open and vulnerable!
The talks at the end are the best!
Thank you for these tips! They're just what I needed today! 😊 I am teaching my 4th child to drive, #5 is ready now, too! 1st step- have your child ficus on the center of the road, several car length ahead. Like bowling, or baseball and modeling on the cat walk, they're eyes will direct their hands! Focusing on the center of the lane will prevent "ping-ponging" from white line to yellow line! It will also keep them aware of all future activity ahead, such as cars entering the roadway, or squirrels darting into the road. If they are aware of their surroundings they can learn safer, quicker, and smoother responses! Also, warn against tailgating, and warn them not to depend on their brakes- in other words, start slowing down for stop light/signs, and slowing cars, sooner than later! If they see red lights ahead (traffic slowing for a red light) they should at least take their foot off the gas, giving you the idea that they are aware and preparing to slow down, easing your anxiety. It's the polite and responsible thing to do. Lol. Hope this helps!!
Also, you can do this! Breathe, and remember you raise your child, you can trust them! Talk to them calmly, teach rather than panic. You got this! Message me, call me, I'll talk you through it!!!
I'm so glad! And thanks for the tips!
All great advice!!
YES to teaching the importance of not tailgating!!! So many accidents--and deaths--could be prevented if people followed this one simple rule. It also helps reduce traffic jams, which is just good citizenship. ; - )
I would add never driving in anyone's blind spot, staying out of the far right merge lane unless you're merging, and always checking the bike lane and sidewalk just as diligently as any other lane of traffic.
All of that said, I definitely think Driver's Ed is worth the investment! ; - D
I have been watching you and a few other ladies ..I’m on a roll ..I have been purging my house ..1Room at a time ..donating plenty..today I organized part of my kitchen..so I need a box so I can take to the church
Loved the video. I'm the perfectionist waiting for the perfect place to put something. So it will sit where it landed until I find that place. Driving school was the best money ever spent on my kids. The sanity it saved was worth every penny. :)
Glad you enjoyed it!
"Stop the stuff shuffling"" Thank you! Sincerely, a perfectionist!
I also noticed that people with immaculate homes always put things away immediately after use, clean as they go and always do something every time they do something else. Example wipe the counter or appliances while they wait for water to boil for tea etc.
Don't teach her to drive. Get someone else to do it.
Agree
I agree. Someone taught me to drive when I was learning, and their vehicles have a break on their side of the vehicle for emergencies. Also, my dad wasn’t the best teacher and doesn’t have patience so it was nice to have someone else 😅
If you can afford it, a professional teacher is worth every penny. With the oldest kid, I was the nervous mom, it was not helpful. As the other kids took drivers Ed they reminded me of good driving practices, like head checking before changing lanes.
3 words: hire a professional! A lot of times they are retired police officers and have incredible patience with the kids!
I was just about to say that lol
Pay for Driver's Education. I did with both my daughters and it was so worth it. Happy 2023!
I have taught 3 drivers and I’m about to start with #4! Start out easy- I let them drive on streets with low speed limits. We drive to church going 25 MPH, or down Grandma’s street to her house. We gain confidence together and tackle the freeway in a few months. Find some friends with golf carts or riding lawn mowers- that helps a bunch. Good luck!
I was lucky and got out of teaching my 2 sons to drive. However my luck did don’t hold out.
My daughter, the late in life baby, didn’t want to drive until after high school. I learned you can teach old dogs (me) new tricks.
I started out by driving her to a sport complex near us where there was lots of empty parking spaces. There she got the hang of the accelerator and the brakes. We drove around, parked, backed up, etc. Then we headed out on the road. She was still nervous so I drove her to back country roads and we practiced on those. Basically it was baby steps. But she is a successful driver now.
Meditation, deep breaths and trying to remember how awkward driving feels when it was new to you will help. But mostly remember that this is an opportunity to have one on one time with your child. It’s something you both will remember for years to come. And maybe even share a laugh or two down the road. 😉
Thanks for sharing!
Pay or get your hubby to do it. My daughter kicked me out of car-lesson duty, saying I made her so nervous that she was sure we’d crash. Driving school. Plus then you get a discount on her car insurance. Good luck! 😅😊🚙😃
Hi Cas. I absolutely love your channel, I've learned so much about decluttering and organizing from you. My home still seems like an overwhelming mess, but it's gotten so much better since I found your channel. Getting started is usually my biggest road block because of adhd, depression, and anxiety. But breaking it into small chunks and doing 5 minutes at a time gets me started. Plus, watching your videos while I organize helps a lot, too!
Cas,
When my Mom taught me to Drive she took me to the Mall or a large empty parking lot like 5-6 am on Saturday and Sunday. She let me drive all over and get comfortable behind the wheel and she would sit in her lawn chair reading the paper, she also brought cones to practice stuff. Hope that gives you some help.
I've taught a few younger friends of mine and now my daughter also how to drive. Thing I like to do first is start with the absolute basics of using the car. All the instruments and get them comfortable even sitting behind the wheel. Then go somewhere isolated if you can, if not an empty car park after/before the shops open/shut and just get them to drive around it. Pretend there are traffic lights etc, other cars, giving way, and they can get used to using the accelerator/breaks calmly so its not all jerky or too heavy on the pedals.
Then once they are a pro at driving around, go out on to a quiet street so they can practice with other actual cars.
Save the busy streets until they are really confident and have quite a few hours under their belts.
My biggest tip though, is to be calm.. Panic on the inside but stay calm on the outside lol. As hard as that sounds. The last thing they need is the person teaching them to be a panicked mess. Then everyone is just anxious and they wont learn effectively.
Hope some of that helped :)
Needed the reminder to embrace "good enough"...thank you!! ❤🤗 Your Mom instinct about hiring a driving instructor is on point!! 😘
You're welcome!
Hi Cas, I started my decluttering journey with your videos more or less randomly.
Some time ago I watched videos of the minimal mom. First feeled shocked of her minimalism style.
But I watched and watched and learned the principles.
Now I take from both sytems what is fitting to my live. Short time ago I also started to watch videos of Dana K. White.
Think, "you three" are perfect and cover all possible aspects of getting a home that functions and makes feel well.
Thank you💚
Oh, should have written : I felt shocked😅
That really was a great video - the mention of perfectionism and being unable to commit to a system got me right in the kisser 😂😂😂😅 THANKS CAS!
You're welcome!
Omg you have helped me so much since I have adult adhd and things have been so overwhelming. Now that I have learnt to break things down in smaller tasks it has made my life so much thank you cas ur amazing 😊
LOL- I had to have my husband teach the kids as my anxiety was too high. Also- we paid for them to have classes at a driver's school so they took them around and let them drive. SO worth it! After my kid started driving I became a nervous car rider - I'm still way more anxious when my husband drives than I was before that- basically it never went away and my kids are 28 and 24 lol.
My mom was the same way. Which is why my dad was the one to teach us how to drive. He was much calmer.
When I began my decluttering journey in 2020, I called it All out August. I jotted on a notepad each room and what I wanted to declutter from that space. I was focusing on all my hidden clutter in my drawers, cupboards etc.. I only moved into the next area once I had ticked off everything in the area I was doing.
I followed it with Spring clean September ( I’m in the Southern Hemisphere) and organize October. I have never achieved the success I have in my home as I did then and it changed my way of doing things completely.
Seeing this video now, I can now see why it worked so well for me….I did your steps without even knowing that I was setting myself up for success. Everything you’ve said here is so true🙌🙌🙌
Thanks for sharing!
I love that idea: I'm now planning my Winter Makeover for various areas of my home. I do 5 minutes in each room (declutter/clean/organize) and a 1 hour better in a selected area. This idea of a seasonal focus will help me to be more focused and intentional. I get so many ideas that typically hit when I want to sleep.
Love your month labels! Started my brain going for themes for 2023...
@@sarahpopovczak4411 thank you. They really kept me on track and reminded me of my goal for the month.
Thanks for keeping it real, Cass. Your tips are encouraging, inspiring, and helpful.
In many places in the US, you can sign up for driving lessons through the school. Luckily my daughter's school offered it! Also, love that blue sweater on you!
I love your sweater. Where did you purchase it?
Even if you do the driving lessons through the school, you still have to have driving hours with a parent or a legal guardian.
@@Mysticsoul77 iirc, the driving hours can be with any adult over... 21? 18? one of those, with a valid drivers license themselves. Aunt Sally got balls of steel and a knack for gentle guidance? Hey, you should spend more time with her! 😂 My dad was often too busy working to go out with me, but whenever he wasn't, or we were going on family trips trying to get my driving hours up (you need a certain amount of both day driving and night driving hours), I would ask him if he would go with me instead of mom (or if they were both going, order mom to the back seat- I was told the driver has final say in anything happening in the car, was brought up to respect that, and made full use of it!). My mom was a grab-bar-clutcher and her stress showed in her voice whenever she questioned my (perfectly fine) speed which she couldn't quite see in that vehicle from the passenger seat, much less if she had any concerns or corrections, all of which my dad was able to do in a very casual sounding manner which was far more helpful and less stressful.
@@blaireshoe8738 I don't drive so no clue
I love your channel,I've watched you for years. I've taught many children to drive.My best advice is go to dead end streets and vacant parking lots start small....just like organization... then as both you and the child feel at ease you go on to more populated areas...At the end I treat myself and them to some professional lessons...worth every penny to cover highway driving and parallel parking...good luck!
Thank you for all the great tips Cas!! Also, I’ve been teaching my daughter how to drive since Aug 2022. My best advice is to ask her to drive in a way that her passengers feel safe. Also, give her as much feedback as possible, but, also it’s important to give her complements, like when she was younger. At the end of the drive, ask her what she can improve. More importantly…. I suggest paying for practice in the highway/freeway. I plan on paying for those lessons as well. Good luck 🍀
Thanks for sharing!!
I sent both of my kids to a driving school in a big city where their grandparents live. We live in a small town and I wanted them to learn how to drive in real traffic. The school was excellent. They are both really good drivers. My son just got his provisional and can drive on his own now. Choose the school. I think they feel less anxious and less defensive about their actions, because they had a different teacher and not mom or dad. We still instruct when in the car, but you can then see the good decisions they have learned to make. AND if their driving still causes you anxiety, sit in the back and let your husband sit in the front (especially if he is calmer.) I would sit in back and close my eyes (wearing sun glasses) so I didn't make them anxious.
my mom was not a teacher but she chose to teach me to drive...that lasted about 5 mins. we got to the corner and she wouldn't stop screaming at me so I got out and walked home. It was a stick so it wasn't easy. My dad a truck driver was home watching TV so I told him, you have to teach me because she can't. lol. He took me to where he worked on the weekends, an industrial area with little traffic. It was great, he was always the patient one anyway, he let me drive around, in and out of the parking lots. Then were we lived it was mandatory you take 6hrs of drivers training with a professional, (ya just 6) which was a few months later, 3 2hr sessions, they took me on the freeway since I'd already gotten a lot of practice in with my dad they were like, wow you're a good driver haha. Then I passed the test on the first try. After that I took my friends driving around where my dad worked, there wasn't much to hit and it wasn't busy so it was great. I was very much like him, calm and patient with the occasional, hit the breaks or grabbing the wheel but I taught a few of my friends to drive since their parents wouldn't. If you're to anxious when someone else is driving, ya pick a different person to teach them. having someone who's calm next to you really. helps. My mom eventually stopped screaming at me when I got the hang of stoping and going with a stick and then my gram let me use her car which was an automatic so that made driving even easier.
Pay the $$ to send her to driving school - totally worth it! Thank you for the organizing motivation, I am SO ready to purge and organize in 2023.
I taught 2 teens to drive at the same time. They are a year apart and one learned late. I had one anxious one and one over confident one.
Neighborhoods where they are building so there isn’t a lot of traffic were great for us after we mastered parking lots. Lots of deep breathing for me. It was stressful!
If you can afford to pay someone else to do it, I definitely recommend that. We could not afford that so keeping lessons and practice sessions short (around 30 minutes) is my only suggestion. It does get easier once they’ve been doing it for awhile.
Good luck!
Pay for an instructor that has a good passing rate of their students. We did, and it saved us all a lot of stress.
Apparently in our area to take the road test there were 2 instructors available, but you do not get to choose which one is in the car judging you for that test. One was a big guy who seemed to fail EVERYONE, EVERY TIME, and the other a skinny guy who would still fail you if you really deserved it but wouldn't for example take obnoxious amounts of points off for open-ended theoretical questions mid-drive, thus had a much higher pass rate. I actually couldn't remember which instructor at the time was the seemingly impossible one, so I was a bundle of nerves when I met him, and fumbled pretty bad on "what do you do if you're about to hit a deer" and I knew the answer was technically "slow down as much as possible and try to aim for something softer than the deer (ie not a tree or oncoming traffic)" but I think he specifically asked me "what do you try to hit instead of the deer" and my brain just bluescreened, like, there were no specific options and he didn't say to pick something on the side of the road we were on, so I just kind of went "????idk a deer is better than a tree tho????" (the answer he was looking for was an open area or bushes, apparently... I'm pretty sure the harsher instructor would have taken points off for that). Passed in one take, my cousin who got the big guy twice had to take it a third time to get the same person I had and finally pass, which ended up being pretty expensive- $45 each attempt. To do something he had been doing for years, except in a car (we lived on a farm, I think he started driving farm equipment including huge tractors at age 6, and on roads at 11-14ish, perfectly legal in our area). The guy who failed him also didn't tell him why iirc, so there was nothing he could have practically done to "improve" before his first retest. Everyone who had the big guy had issues, not just him! In hindsight with that low of a pass rate he probably should have been complained about and fired/retrained, but he was making the place money, so /shrug.
Best advice I got from my dad on driving was it should be smooth, like a ballet. That means planning ahead to time things out so your not last minute trying to get lined up to merge you can already be lined up. Or easing off the gas when coming up to a stop.
Lane transitions should be smooth etc.
All of it means planning ahead and being aware.
Teaching my daughter to drive-the most horrifying time of my life. I started carrying my rosary in my pocket every time I stepped into the car with her. I feel your pain, Cass.
Teaching someone to drive is stressful; it requires lots of patience and presence and being calm and non-judgemental, regardless. Practicing in parking lots and on low traffic roads and streets are helpful. Information overload is another thing to be aware of. Providing basic instruction before even starting the car is essential; where everything is, how to use it, etc. Then, slowly build on the basics after each step is conquered. This will build her confidence, and your calm. Oh yes, and positive encouragement, as well. Good luck. 😊
Here in Ireland you have to have 12 lessons from a professional instructor. But in between the lessons I went with my daughter for practice. I'm a terrible passenger at the best of times (even though I'm a confident driver myself) but I was very nervous and I was always glad to be back from our journey! I even went to get out of the car to berate someone who beeped at her for no reason 😂. She passed first time thank goodness ... Now I just worry every time she goes driving by herself. You don't think of this when you're having a baby!
IKR?!
Where we live, we were required to do driver's ed before we were allowed to get even our permits because we got them before we turned 18 (neither of us got our licenses before we turned 18, though - I was 19 and my sister was 20). If it's so stressful for you to teach her that all you're doing when she's driving is freaking out, it's perfectly okay to pass that responsibility off to driver's ed, _if the instructor's methods mesh with how she learns, that is_ (the one where my sister and I started, the instructor was good in the classroom but really terrible for the behind-the-wheel sessions, so we ended up switching to a different driving school for the behind-the-wheel) - it's about what's best for her and what will be the most effective way for her to learn that won't make her hate driving or shatter her confidence. I've had my license for almost 10 years, and I still hate driving when my parents are in the car because they both freak out at the tiniest things, which distracts me so much that I basically have a zero tolerance policy for it. I will probably never let my sister ride with me ever again, for sure in the winter, because not only does she not trust me as a driver for some really strange reason, but even the slightest feeling of skidding makes her absolutely panic, even though we grew up in MN with real winters, so skidding is just a fact of life in the winter - I (safely - I only do it when there's no chance of me hitting anyone or anything) like to sometimes skid around turns for fun in the winter so that I can refresh my muscle memory on correcting a skid so that I'm ready for when it happens when I'm not doing it on purpose (which is even harder to correct when the vehicle is rear wheel drive and the streets are plowed slick - I really hate the tires that are on my truck right now: they're my "summer" tires, and while they're technically winter rated, the tread pattern on them is definitely NOT designed for winter driving - I'll be getting my snow tires put on at the end of January (the shop is booked 6+ weeks out), so at least I'll have them for the rest of the winter after that).
Thanks for sharing!
How am i still learning new stuff from you after all these years?? Love it!
It is extremely satisfying to declutter and organize things. I have Multiple Sclerosis and one of the main side effects for me is chronic fatigue. I'm talking cannot lift my head off the pillow exhaustion. So, learning ways to organize, even at my almost empty nest stage of life, is important for me and my family. Keep teaching!
Another MS person here. Thanks so much, Cassie! Small steps are the key, doing a little something when I have energy.
I recommend professional driver training, for many reasons.
My issue right now is that I really need a dedicated home office, instead of using the built-in desk in my kitchen. The process has to begin elsewhere in the house to create a domino effect: Declutter and organize my storage room, move things there from the space I want to make an office, then move all my office stuff out of the kitchen. Which is why it hasn't gotten done yet.
I can't get out of the domino effect no matter how hard I try. Someday . . .
Same.
I invested in professional driving lessons. Best thing ever. Dual control car and a teacher who managed my anxiety in a lovely calm manner. Passed my practical first time because of her.
Awesome!
My daughter has a car fund and researched that 15 year olds who take drivers Ed can get their permit as soon as they demonstrate they’ve started the class and can pass the test. She paid for it! She was 15 and one month when she started with her permit and she couldn’t get her license in our state until she was 16 and 3 months so she had 14 months to practice and it was astonishing how much better she was just after the first one on one one-hour driving class with the instructor and besides something like 30 hours of study and tests, it included 6 hours with the instructor and the final driving test passing with the BMV…I recommend every parent find a way to do this for your child…find a reputable and well-referred school and it’s a real blessing!!
Give a person a gut wrenching feeling of goodness and satisfaction just buy watching, don't it?👍👍
Glad you think so!
Sign her up for drivers ed to learn the basics and it helps lower your insurance.
Thanks for this video. I hadn't realized that my perfectionism was blocking me from completing my organizing tasks but once you said that it made so much sense to me!
Teaching Driving: The best thing we did to take the stress from teaching our 5 kids to drive was spending 15 minutes in the driveway practicing "go" and "stop" maneuvers. We would give one of those directions and the kid would move their foot to the gas or break peddle. We did this until they felt confident in their muscle memory in finding the right peddle and we saw they could react quickly. This really kept the stress levels down for both the parent and the new driver when we got out on the road.
Love your videos! Very helpful even for single people w/o kids.
Re: driving: have another adult, not you if they're not able to hear this, explain to them that the goal of learning to drive isn't to get the DRIVER from point a to point b, but it's to learn how to be able to provide a safe, pleasant (non-carsick inducing) ride to the passengers, which is a huge responsibility and honor to drive others places. Starting and stopping slowly is the key to not making passengers carsick actually; the goal is to learn how to drive like a monorail -- smooth and effortless. Obviously there are certain situations, like merging, where flooring it matters, but the main quality of a good driver is to be in control and able to calibrate speed as needed. Good luck to y'all!
Other tip: teach kids on stick shift, then they'll be great on automatic as well and able to drive in Europe/globally should they ever need. Underrated skill.;)
Im glad we're done and I hate being a passenger!! Good luck!
A reminder of the importance of constant prayer.
Lol
We had it easy when we taught our three to drive since we're only about 15 minutes away from a huge state park which is like a ghost town in the cold weather months since almost no one goes to the lake then. So I would take them to those miles of deserted roads and parking lots, and we could practice almost every skill without the stress of any traffic around at all. Only after they were confident in handling the vehicle and getting it to do what they intended did we take them out into the real world to drive around other vehicles.
Oh my! This is one of my biggest setbacks is I seen to just “SHUFFLE” clutter from box, bag, and different room or space -rather than finding it a home! I’m gonna try that as far as just simply organize the One drawer and declutter it … letting it go. This should not be so hard… but it is! Thanks for your videos and all the encouragement!!! Love all your videos and you and the minimalist mom and slob comes clean Dana. Anyways you ladies are just amazing!!!
P.S. btw I always stay til I’ll the end.. and I love it! But how is your daughter??!! I really have been watching you for awhile! Lol
My parents avoided all that drama but hiring a driving instructor. And I’m glad we went with him because he would talk to me while I was driving. Once, I made some comment about not talking while I was driving (nothing rude) and response was he does it because when a person has their friends in the car they will need to know how to drive and talk without becoming too distracted by it. It was true for that time of my life. But now I am usually in the car alone when I drive and I usually listen to audiobooks. Lol.
Hi! Just wanted to say that I’ve been following your videos for quite some time. I love them all!!
Thanks for everything you share!
Love you r video as always. Lol My 2 early 20s daughters just took their test in the last 6 months. I realized and accepted that neither my husband or I could do the job of training either of the girls. We ended up hiring a local driving school...worth every penny, and we kept both relationships with our daughters in a positive vibe. I am learning to accept my strengths and weaknesses and ask for help when I need it.
Good for you!
yield to the person on your right when coming to the stop sign at the same time. Also tell her on a right hand turn at a red light the law is to come to a complete stop, and yield to traffic, and only turn when traffic is clear. I took my daughter to a back country road with a fairly straight road where she could practice without traffic and get a feel and control of the car. Thanks for the refresher video. I for one still need the help!
I agree with the "let someone else teach her" comments. My mom used to make me so nervous. I became a much better driver when I stopped letting my mom ride with me for a while. I was like 21.
My mom was a lot like you on the teaching to drive reflexes( her freaking out in the car), it caused too much tension with my parents so I had others teach me friends at school that drove well, my cousin's boyfriend, my boyfriend's neighbor was kind enough with the patience to cover everything eventually and let me use his car to take the test in also. I will say multiple teaches helped me learn different types of vehicles, manual and automatic and how to drive with different personalities with me in the car. I think the variety helped over all. I know its not the norm but it was awesome for me.
Thanks for sharing!
@@Clutterbug When my mother was freaking out about my driving I handed her a stuffed animal to squeeze.
Omg. Love your honest plea for help at the end hahaha. This is the first video of yours I’ve watched and that little glimpse into your life was so funny. I think you should take a driving safety class together. That way you’re both confident and won’t argue about the rules of the road :)
I have been teaching three teens to drive in recent months. I found it helped me a lot when I joined a volunteer driving mentor programme and received training on how to be a driving mentor (not an official instructor but someone who helps the teens get the practice they need). We did a road code refresher as part of the training and I was amazed how much had changed or that I had forgotten in twenty years of driving. We also had a one hour session with a driving instructor who took us around the test route and gave us tips on teaching driving. If you do pay for your daughter to have lessons but can’t afford it full time then it could help to sit in on the driving lesson and take notes
Thanks for sharing!
Using random cardboard boxes for storing items 1st has helped me control my bin and basket buying. So I have a place to put the items while organizing. It's alot of fun when you know the dimensions of the basket you're looking for, and having "permission," from yourself to buy it is great.
For sure!
@@Clutterbug Eeeeeeee! Love you Cass!
Thanks for all your needed and fun content.
I'm Finnish and here most people go to driving school and it's perfect! I think my relationship with my parents would be scarred for life if they tought me back in the day 😃😃 and my dad's a great driver 😃
Hi! I taught my daughter & most of my friends' kids to drive. I stay calm & engage the student driver in an easy pop-quiz on misc. driving laws & maneuvers (emphasis on EASY) to build confidence. I have found that the most successful strategy is to have a trusted adult friend, cousin, etc. practice with your kids. Most kids are much more relaxed with just about anyone else other than their own parents; I don't know why, they just are. Maybe they feel less likely to get "yelled at" or nagged by someone else, so there's less pressure. Maybe team up with other parents of student drivers and "trade", LOL!
Clutter Bug: I bought books, planners, storage items/found it didn't work. Yes, until, I added the butterfly method in specific areas in the home. Now, I'll set the timer to 5 minutes to help the cleaning. THANKS for your ideas ___________________________🖋🖊🖌🖍!
You're welcome!
Even after years of watching your UA-cam channel, I find this is the most concise explanation I have seen of the organizing steps that will pay off in the end. Thank you!
My old Mum used to say, "The fastest way to the divorce courts is teaching your spouce to drive!" This surely must apply in any family relationship. Dear Cassie, get your sweet girl professional driving lessons! I so get where You are coming from, as a fellow ADHD girl! Btw, thank you for all your encouragement sharing about your condition...I have found it so helpful having very recently been diagnosed myself - at 72 years of age! Keep going!!!
I’m in Germany and here it’s mandatory to learn driving from a professional. They use special cars where the teacher also has a set of pedals on their side to brake in an emergency. There is a mandatory minimum amount of lessons you have to take, training you for specific situations, like driving on the highway (we don’t have a general speed limit on highways, so it’s very important to know how to behave there), driving in big cities, driving at night, etc.
Going for a professional seems like a very good idea to me!
I didn't learn to drive until I was 20/21, and my dad was the main one to teach me, because my mom does this thing where if she thinks you're too close to something (this includes if someone who has been driving for years is actually the one driving) she makes this sound like she's sucking all the oxygen out of the vehicle and THAT sound alone makes whoever is driving jump more than the actual situation. So dad took over and my fiance (now husband) taught me to parallel park. We had to drive 2 hours away to take the actual driving test (because local DMVs were booked for out), so I made sure to pass the test on the first try. 🤣
I saw a video of yours recently in which you suggested writing down specific dates & times for getting things done around the house. (Scheduling) I have been doing this for a few days now, and it really works. Slowly but surely, things are getting done and I'm getting more organized. Thank you!
8:35 this literally SPOKE to me!!! Thank you for saying this. I love how motivational you are. You make me want to get up and clean!!
At the 3:55 marker you are organizing a closet and in this shot you can see 2 bamboo bins one with a divider and one without, in regards to the one with the divider, I saw your video that had you visiting the container store & you held up this bin & my mind just blew, because this is what I had been looking for to use at my job. So I went on the container store's website, for we don’t have one in my town & online shopping is the best, searching for the bamboo divider bin, not knowing it was a bamboo bin or what the name was exactly, needless to say, I found it and wow this has helped me at work in more ways than one. Thank you so much, you will never know how wonderful your website & videos help me. Still working on getting started in cleaning up my house.
You're so welcome!!
My parents took me to a country road. This way I could just practice without any other cars etc. Then when I had the basics down I would drive to an area where I could make turns, park, etc without a panicking parent or others around. By the time I drove in town I had enough confidence and knowledge to do very well.
Awesome!
Thank you so much for this video, especially admitting you used to be a slob lol I'm so horrible with tossing things in boxes that I don't know what to do with. I'm also a perfectionist and a lot of days, these tasks seem so overwhelming. I'm absolutely making my plan today to make each task a lot smaller and doable. With a 2 and 4 year old boy running around, having anything out is a hazard as they seem to gravitate toward anything that can kill or maim them lol! I can't wait to actually discipline myself enough to where it becomes a habit. I just hope my husband will follow suit!
Great video! YES! Hire someone to teach drivers training I promise you won't be sorry! We have three wonderful drivers today!
My youngest son (now in his 30's) was learning to drive, I took valium. He was like Mr. Magoo behind the wheel. Running stop signs or stop lights and driving extremely slow! He still has a hard time parking and will literally get out of the car and have the passenger park his vehicle. He failed his driving test 3 times for going too slow. We sent him to extra driving school and then he finally passed his exam. But valium was my friend during his practice driving!
Thank you for your advice! You inspired me to clean out some kitchen cabinets and then I got into the mood and continued to other areas of the kitchen.
Taugh my son how to drive in a giant parking lot at night. Then he graduated to country roads and neighorhoods at night. Then driving around town late at night. There were no arguments, tears or stress. He was a good driver BEFORE he had to deal with other drivers.
I had to laugh when you were talking about teaching your daughter to drive. Your too cute but it true. Lol.
I own a driving school and have taught thousands of kids the RIGHT, SAFE way to drive.
Think of it as teaching someone to declutter and organize. One small task at a time. Breathe and start with the very basics. We we not born knowing how to naturally declutter and organize our insane lives and homes and if we do not step back and do it right, we will never achieve our goals and always be living in chaos. Same woth driving, if we just get through the mechanics, we eventually crash or are always in stress because of the near misses we were not expecting.
Coach a new driver just like a client. One step at a time, breathe and start with the basics...declutter the stress by going into a parking lot and simply practicing smooth stops and starts until they are no longer an issue, then move on to a scarier task in small steps. This way they are not trying to process too much at once and can handle the next dangerous thing like being aware of the risks around them and not trying to focus on learning to stop smoothly because that task has been handled. I tell all my students to do their "stupid people checks" in their blind spots, by doing this they laugh and never forget to look. Keep it light and fun and they will have a better understanding of the bigger picture, which is to always be a safe driver and to be ready for anything and have the tools to handle each situation. Kind of like building up decluttering muscles. Also, us commentary driving, have your child tell you what they see. Ex. (I see that truck about to pull out, I am covering my brake just incase)(yes, I see that light changing to yellow, I am slowing down) this way you know their thought process and are not panicking thinking they may be missing important information and it helps put you both at ease.
I know this was ling, sorry :) but I hope it helps.
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I hope this helps a little.
I was anxious about learning to drive. Having Mom in the car was terrifying. My dad would nag, but he was calm. (Ok, I missed the stop sign. If you keep talking about it for 10 minutes, I can't concentrate on the road) My brother was the best. He was very calm and told me things like "you're going to want to change lanes soon" or "do you see that truck sign? It's for the trucks but it also tells you that there are curves coming and that all the trucks might be slowing down". It's not legal for 2 teens to drive together alone any more, but my practice sessions with my calm big brother were the best ones!
This has to be one of the most useful and practical organizing videos ever!!! Thanksssss Cas for all you do! Love ya!❤
You're so welcome!
Congratulations to your daughter. I taught my son to drive manual shift. It was awesome 😎
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Good tip!
LOVE,LOVE your channel! I am a stuff shuffler! Love hearing you say “It’s okay to get rid of it!”
My mom was the same way so Dad taught me to drive. Funny note, Granddad was just as anxious (as you are) so my Gram had to teach Mom to drive. Your daughter will tell her kids about learning to drive some day! And the cycle continues!😃
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LOVE, love, LoVe your 30 Day Boot Camp! You have helped me FINALLY get my house in order! Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Fantastic! I'm so glad you are enjoying it!!
Cass, you were my first UA-cam guru, and have taught me many things. The most important were do not ride your bike in split britches, LOL, and "if it takes less than a minute, do it!"
Breathe...I've taught my kids & many of my kids friends to drive & I admit that I am not a great driver myself but teaching them was a connection & memories
I studied the driver book to make sure I knew all the rules (and cut down on the confusion). I also only let my kid drive in places where there were no other cars until they got used to the vehicle and understood its quirks. This eliminated the hesitation at stop signs and the herky-jerky accelerating.
Thanks!
I thought my first child but I know that feeling exactly 💯
My other two children I pay for there classes.
That's the best way to do it.
I paid to have someone else help my daughter learn to drive. I was broke and working 2 jobs, but it was still the best money I ever spent.
Thank you for this video I will attempt to try this and will let you know how I went 😁🤭🙄. On the flip side regarding teaching our kids driving. I have found useful to take some lessons with an instructor and me being there. This not only helped and prepared me, but while their confidence grows I dont have to freak out. Also I could remind them of the instructions they were taught. I still freaked out here and there, but I have survived three children and the car is still in one piece LOL. All the best and you can do it. Give yourself time as well, because you did not do this or had any lessons how to deal with this before. So all good and you will learn yourself in the process. so its a win win 👍💝
I recommend Google keep notes and have a to do list and to buy list for example. Is very easy and useful.
This was probably the best video from Clutterbug! After watching it, I did my brain dump list, and scheduled dates and times for the items on my list. I keep the list short, so as to be able to complete each item daily. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VALUABLE INFORMATION!
Having a good planning system and a good schedule is important when organize
I have taught 2 kids and my niece and nephews. The best thing to do is to remain calm. Find a university or college area that has plenty of parking lots and closed roads with low speed limits. This will allow them a place to drive and become familiar with stopping/braking; winding roads and how to navigate without being in a lot of traffic. We have an area like this and it has been wonderful for driver's education. Overall, just be patient and have fun.
Five to 30 minutes at a time is all that I ever do. It has made a big difference.
I bet!