Hey Steve: Breaking the News to Dad

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  • She’s moving in with her boyfriend without getting married. How does she break it to her pastor father?
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  • @anwandamanfred8498
    @anwandamanfred8498 6 років тому +2505

    Girl if you move in with him, I bet that topic of marriage will hardly come up.

    • @NBaBall3r26
      @NBaBall3r26 6 років тому +161

      exactly, because he alrdy has the milk why buy the cow.

    • @KingdomInnovate
      @KingdomInnovate 6 років тому +2

      Typical hornball PK Rebel.

    • @ccroberts2640
      @ccroberts2640 6 років тому +72

      As my daddy always say, why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free.
      Lol!!

    • @rebecca4829
      @rebecca4829 6 років тому +13

      @Nadia Nazare
      Try not to think to deep into it. You should know the intent if the message.

    • @rebecca4829
      @rebecca4829 6 років тому +22

      @@tianamiller6820
      Stop thinking too deep into the Analogy. No one compared women to animals. Coming from a woman.

  • @coolmoe3289
    @coolmoe3289 6 років тому +1499

    Yo Dad took care of you his whole life..
    "You Just Gone Hurt Cho
    Daddy Like Dat?"
    🤣😂🤣😂 Got her!!

    • @lifeworthliving6195
      @lifeworthliving6195 6 років тому +2

      Maurice Brodie t

    • @mominor6913
      @mominor6913 5 років тому +2

      Ooooh

    • @R.O.T.C._SEEM
      @R.O.T.C._SEEM 5 років тому +8

      Then when he do exactly what her father warned her he would do she go be looking for daddy to help her financially

    • @AlejandroSanchez-pl6jw
      @AlejandroSanchez-pl6jw 5 років тому +4

      Corey Parker lets the dad know they’re serious

    • @lifeisbeautiful9455
      @lifeisbeautiful9455 2 роки тому

      I wish my father would have taken care of his children and wife and my mom would be alive. Instead of using us for government assistance. But he was abusive everyday like a slave master. My sister and brother would be alive too! He tried to marry me off at 15 and was abusing everybody. He used to always tell me I could have a boyfriend at 8 or 11. I’m a kid you sick SOB. I’ve cut ties with him.

  • @reginaphalange6035
    @reginaphalange6035 6 років тому +2680

    Steve looks like a disappointed father

    • @estellabutler5424
      @estellabutler5424 6 років тому +97

      I think he tried to give her a vision about how disappointed her dad would be. Steve's daughters aren't gap-legged like most females. His daughters are well versed women of dignity. I think the disappointed look is aimed at how he can't believe women are still naive after he's been giving advice all these years.

    • @hlengiwezungu8152
      @hlengiwezungu8152 6 років тому +103

      He knows she's gonna be waiting for that ring forever

    • @user-zx5xw4yw2e
      @user-zx5xw4yw2e 6 років тому +7

      @@hlengiwezungu8152 yep!

    • @DeeFitnessLifeBze
      @DeeFitnessLifeBze 6 років тому +37

      Regina Phalange cause he wants the best for beautiful black young ladies and knows the game.

    • @joycecunningham8785
      @joycecunningham8785 6 років тому +17

      I don't care to much for Steve, but he's right, we as woman have to stop compromising with our man, it's been four years, wow, how long before she may or may not get a ring. Let's stop being the cow and stop giving our milk away for free.

  • @andstan21
    @andstan21 6 років тому +359

    She was smiling so hard expecting Steve to give her a funny response, she wasn't expecting serious mode Steve😂😂 Steve took that like she was his daughter

    • @jesse1211
      @jesse1211 2 роки тому +2

      🤣 the funniest comment i've ever read

  • @butyoucancallmesam
    @butyoucancallmesam 6 років тому +739

    She ain’t get the answer she wanted 😂

    • @butyoucancallmesam
      @butyoucancallmesam 6 років тому +8

      MM E right! Like she must not know what Uncle Steve was going to say.

    • @i_am_b1anca_207
      @i_am_b1anca_207 4 роки тому +3

      I don’t understand how she didn’t see that coming.

    • @troybradley2575
      @troybradley2575 4 роки тому +1

      Most girls don’t,that’s why they just do it without care

    • @chinemeremudoh3732
      @chinemeremudoh3732 4 роки тому

      @@salaudeenilyas3680 worrrd!

    • @Kakaaransevyann
      @Kakaaransevyann 3 роки тому +1

      How she knows he will marry her ? Dude gon eat all Day no marriage now

  • @humanitarianharjot402
    @humanitarianharjot402 6 років тому +334

    "I just told my daughters that ain't the way we gonna do it "- 👏Well said Steve.🤔

  • @lovemanier.6172
    @lovemanier.6172 6 років тому +2838

    That’s how people stay dating for 12 years

    • @taliyafaith
      @taliyafaith 6 років тому +47

      U right sis!

    • @Deefinewhine
      @Deefinewhine 6 років тому +155

      Yess people wanna do EVERYTHING but get married these days smh

    • @thepizzaelf
      @thepizzaelf 6 років тому +91

      what is the purpose of getting married if you are already happy

    • @autobotdiva9268
      @autobotdiva9268 6 років тому +9

      You aint lying

    • @hanuka3292
      @hanuka3292 6 років тому +62

      @@thepizzaelf to get happier

  • @cherylthomas235
    @cherylthomas235 6 років тому +498

    After 4 years of being together its time for them to marry and then plan their life and live together so listen to your pastor daddy

    • @cpwwjd69
      @cpwwjd69 6 років тому +13

      Right. 4 years. What are they waiting on.

    • @LazyKingAus
      @LazyKingAus 6 років тому +7

      cpwwjd69 getting your lives together.

    • @themadlass5584
      @themadlass5584 6 років тому +6

      Austin Smith If they’re getting their lives together, then they don’t need to move in together.

    • @LazyKingAus
      @LazyKingAus 6 років тому +1

      Jessica Sims like she said bills is expensive. They are roommates who just happen to be together

    • @themadlass5584
      @themadlass5584 6 років тому +9

      Austin Smith Like Steve Harvey said, “Roommates don’t sleep together.” The bills are just an excuse, she could easily move back in with her parents or get a roommate that’s not her boyfriend. More than likely, he expects to be in a relationship with no strings attached. And if they’re not mature enough and still need to get they’re lives together, then they shouldn’t be sleeping together because sleeping together can bring a child into the world, and protection is not foolproof.

  • @EveryDayPray
    @EveryDayPray 6 років тому +377

    This "testing the waters" mentality is so tired. If you don't know that you want to marry someone after a few years of dating, move on.

    • @NBid-rp9ch
      @NBid-rp9ch 4 роки тому +2

      Facts

    • @LetsPlayWalkers
      @LetsPlayWalkers 4 роки тому +7

      I hate the mentality of dating to marry. You either marry them or not. It's called getting to know someone. Getting to know someone while dating is only touching the surface of knowing another person, let alone a significant other.
      I wouldn't say don't take Steve's advice because everyone has their own experiences and perspectives. Good for him if marrying someone before living together worked better for him. Despite, being married multiple times.
      You do get to know someone better if you live together prior to marriage. I have two friends who are in their thirties and have been together for about ten years. Recently, they got engaged to each other after being with each other for so long and living together for two years, probably more. Personally, I think that is how I would determine if whether or not I would want to marry my significant other. Having love solely and unconditionally for someone doesn't mean you'll be happy together in marriage, let alone living with them.
      That's why relationships are testy and shaky. It does take work and progress and cudos to couples who got married before living with each other, as well as to those who lived with each other prior to marriage.
      Like Steve said "People live together, that happens. But it is not the way I would do it."

    • @ladennayoung2939
      @ladennayoung2939 3 роки тому +4

      People want to live that type of lifestyle, because they want their cake and eat it too. They don't want to fully make a commitment at that moment, but want all of the benefits that comes with it. Men that are not in Christ have came up with this type of mindset, and society have encouraged women to settle. And teaching them to not know their worth. Women must learn their worth and value, and know that they have options, and that they don't have to settle. That they can be happy, blessed, and single if need be until God send the one that He have for them. If it is apart of His will. Things would be so much better for us if we would believe in and trust God, His will, His timing, and develop a healthy relationship with Him and self before we worry about doing anything else.

    • @tjaspire
      @tjaspire 2 роки тому +1

      It uses only takes a few months of dating for me, and then I cut them off once I see the red flags. Of course, during this time I keep my legs closed, so the red flags are easier to see. But he is wasting her time IMO.

  • @TURBOBEATZZZ
    @TURBOBEATZZZ 6 років тому +208

    I got mad love for Steve on this one! On behalf of all fathers trying to do their best I say THANK YOU BROTHA!

  • @HappyHeritage
    @HappyHeritage 6 років тому +780

    She has her mind made up. She’ll learn whatever lesson is meant for her. We must seek wise counsel but also, make our own decisions- accepting our own consequences.

  • @김동진-k5b8y
    @김동진-k5b8y 2 роки тому +76

    Steve made me cry reminding of my dad.
    I could feel his sincere advice for her

    • @xyz-tv4om
      @xyz-tv4om 2 роки тому +2

      Oh am sorry .....Steve does remind me of my dad as well, I miss him so much .... lately I have been watching most of Steve's videos...

    • @idioma9716
      @idioma9716 2 роки тому

      ♡♡

  • @rahmeelawright486
    @rahmeelawright486 6 років тому +83

    Move In and you won’t get married cuz he ain’t tryna marry you.. 4 years and you can’t distinguish if you can live with him ... he ain’t the one 🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @furahinibahati8347
    @furahinibahati8347 6 років тому +751

    Get married first, I think it’s the right thing to do

    • @EveryDayPray
      @EveryDayPray 6 років тому +6

      @@6ancerpi9 it looks like you copied and pasted the same comment from the thread right above this one.

    • @6ancerpi9
      @6ancerpi9 6 років тому +3

      @@EveryDayPray Yes

    • @EveryDayPray
      @EveryDayPray 6 років тому +1

      @@6ancerpi9 why?

    • @6ancerpi9
      @6ancerpi9 6 років тому +5

      @@nigel4184 Good point, however, it's more of a precaution message to every young Black-American girls who're on this path, but you're right.

    • @furahinibahati8347
      @furahinibahati8347 6 років тому +5

      Life Power, I think you miss the fact. There talking about moving together, not black baby.

  • @marymesk577
    @marymesk577 3 роки тому +61

    i love how steve really cares for the younger audience members who are about to make mistakes he treats them and answers them like he would his own kids .

  • @drewpamon
    @drewpamon 6 років тому +1785

    If after four years you're not ready to get married what are you still in a relationship for?

    • @kevindupree7482
      @kevindupree7482 6 років тому +133

      drewpamon she could be 20 years old rn my guy lol think 20 way to young for marriage

    • @shawnnemo1962
      @shawnnemo1962 6 років тому +15

      drewpamon exactly

    • @clintonadinkrah
      @clintonadinkrah 6 років тому +90

      U don’t jxt marry....you take your time

    • @drewpamon
      @drewpamon 6 років тому +91

      @@clintonadinkrah 4 years is beyond taking your time.

    • @highlyfavored2434
      @highlyfavored2434 6 років тому +74

      @@kevindupree7482 then why not continue dating without living together until you're ready for marriage. If it's to cut costs find a roommate or live at home with your folks

  • @itsyaboi1846
    @itsyaboi1846 6 років тому +1075

    Get married first, even I as a man wouldn't let a woman move in with me before marriage. Don't work like that

    • @hlengiwezungu8152
      @hlengiwezungu8152 6 років тому +64

      I wish all men think like u

    • @petittall557
      @petittall557 6 років тому +32

      Where I'm from, there's no such thing as moving in with a man or woman before marriage. I hope I will never get an opportunity to live a girl I haven't married yet.

    • @itsmav9862
      @itsmav9862 6 років тому +20

      You lame asf

    • @MEGAHELLATRONKOLBEAN
      @MEGAHELLATRONKOLBEAN 6 років тому +48

      I think it’s important to live with some one you want to marry, bc what if In that process you find out something things you’re not willing to live with that are absurd? That you never knew about, and regardless if your living with this person or not and you’ve been together for 4 years you know good and damn well there having sex.

    • @itsyaboi1846
      @itsyaboi1846 6 років тому +11

      +goti life oh yeah...last time this happened it took us months to get my sister back home. her ex bf kick her out. yet im closed minded

  • @msdblackwood
    @msdblackwood 6 років тому +208

    I think most ppl are simply afraid of finding out about bad habits of their significant other which is why they want to live with them first but the truth is we all have bad habits and a lot of them are correctable..I agree with Steve. Why is it ok for her to share her body with him and they can't make it official? (What type of investment is that) See, she's young, I don't have time for foolishness like that. (In my other language patwa: Mi nah mek nobody son tek mi fi fool eva again 🇯🇲 🤨)

    • @meltonchambers8067
      @meltonchambers8067 6 років тому +3

      Jus a rep the flag

    • @__kiki__3842
      @__kiki__3842 6 років тому +7

      Yaaassss mummmaa!!! I agree with you totally..Nah tun we ina no man clown

    • @joycecunningham8785
      @joycecunningham8785 6 років тому +4

      She's seen his bad habits already, she feel like if she move in she'll get him to marry her. That's not guilt that God.

    • @flamingrage100
      @flamingrage100 4 роки тому

      Delisha B I don’t get it there are official they’re girlfriend and boyfriend people with less status still share their bodies I didn’t know you have to get married just to have sex.

    • @dgenral7
      @dgenral7 4 роки тому

      🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲

  • @EAO-ql8hk
    @EAO-ql8hk 6 років тому +318

    I prefer to get married before moving in together too 🤔. I just feel moving in together before marriage kills this interest between the two of 'em.

    • @Kekekepeeps
      @Kekekepeeps 6 років тому +39

      Esperanza. A. Owens if it kills the interest then u know not to marry that person

    • @pedroroque8681
      @pedroroque8681 5 років тому +1

      @@Kekekepeeps precisely

    • @ladennayoung2939
      @ladennayoung2939 5 років тому +1

      Not really!

  • @JadeBlackWolf
    @JadeBlackWolf 6 років тому +19

    I wish I had, had a father like you Steve. My life would have been so much better.

  • @nathanmeyers8838
    @nathanmeyers8838 6 років тому +162

    Like Steve I’m a Christian, and I don’t just agree with him because s we share the same values. A lot of society makes it look okay to play house and have a family without it being official. She said they’ve been together for four years, so if they have a strong relationship and are ready to live together put a ring on her

    • @rja9797
      @rja9797 5 років тому +3

      Get with the times and move and stop forcing religion on everyone no one wants marriage anymore because it’s a failing thing I thinks it’s fine BF and GF live together you shouldn’t force someone to marry

    • @rowenaramsaran4256
      @rowenaramsaran4256 3 роки тому +10

      @@rja9797 Marriage is failing because people have abandoned the principles upon which it was created. But there are countless families who Do make it work because they Commit to live by the principles on which marriage was built. If U use anything not according the makers manual then of course it's goning to break down.

    • @rodniegsm1575
      @rodniegsm1575 2 роки тому

      But in the other and. I know a lot of people who got married and are now deforce.and single mom. You learn to know someone when your living together. Just becouse you begin living togheter after the marriage doesn't mean its going to last. It's then that you will learn what it takes to live togheter. By doing it.

    • @wrightandrea9465
      @wrightandrea9465 2 роки тому +2

      That’s not true, everyone wants a happy marriage but very few are ready to commit

    • @makobooslajabless570
      @makobooslajabless570 2 роки тому +3

      @@rodniegsm1575 did you read the comment by @rowena ramsaran? I guarantee you that every car owner who ignores the owner's manual and does whatever they feel will have a broken down car. Marriage is the very same. Ignore the owner's manual, and you will have a broken down marriage. It's not rocket science.

  • @somedaysoon9551
    @somedaysoon9551 6 років тому +131

    I'm 20 and the whole "live together first and get married later (if ever)" argument sounds like Wimpy. Wimpy is a character in Popeye that's famous for saying, "I'll gladly pay you on Tuesday for a hamburger today." The problem is that he famous for that line because he never did pay it back.

    • @SupreemTeam
      @SupreemTeam 6 років тому +2

      I don't know this to he true. I've never lived with a gf of mine and I'm currently engaged and still not living with her but to say that people don't live together first and then get married later is false.

    • @barbilove1698
      @barbilove1698 5 років тому +3

      Plus, dude going to move on anyway

    • @reuben2327
      @reuben2327 5 років тому +1

      Missy Vintage Esq. idk why but I love this comment 😂

    • @tjaspire
      @tjaspire 2 роки тому +1

      Good analogy. You are a wise, now 23 year old, I'm guessing. Don't let people sell you a dream.

  • @weahbettytwum9448
    @weahbettytwum9448 5 років тому +65

    He broke it down to her gradually and then, shot her in the end.😂😂

  • @tboykin13tb
    @tboykin13tb 6 років тому +55

    Don't DO IT!!! IT DOESN'T WORK, PLZZZZ BLIVEVE!!! Speaking from a very Experienced Lady.... PLZZZZZZ take Uncle Steve's Advice, he is tell U nothing but Truth. 😊😃😊

    • @followGreatness
      @followGreatness 6 років тому

      But why are you telling her.
      She already knows the body language speaks volumes

  • @sibusisiwemalinga7217
    @sibusisiwemalinga7217 6 років тому +70

    Oh I love this advice! Girl, NEVER give a man free wifely benefits. Don't play wife with him, he must marry you FIRST. Your body, mind and soul is too precious, don't give it away without saying "I do".

  • @yasminalzayer7779
    @yasminalzayer7779 6 років тому +24

    I really like Steve point of view about this things . I have been doing the same thing if we are not going to get married there will be no shaking! No move in together! I am ok to be alone and single than hurt my dad feelings. My dad just passed away last week and I am going to keep my promises to him because I know he is watching me now

    • @yasminalzayer7779
      @yasminalzayer7779 6 років тому +1

      thank you so much.
      I do understand the fact I am super under pressure, the guy I was talking to I actully had a feeling for him but he wanted to shake it first so I had to say bye to him. My dad always tell who love you by his heart will do the impossible to get you. so I am now I am under bigger pressure to really make dad happy when I come to his grave and tell him how I made a right chose

    • @tmmedia9600
      @tmmedia9600 6 років тому +1

      Wow Yasmin you're a good girl, I'm sure your dad is proud right now :') I don't know you but I feel proud too. You're strong, and you'll find the one who is worthy, even if it you don't you'll never lose you. Keep it up! :)

    • @elizabethtimothy4776
      @elizabethtimothy4776 5 років тому +1

      Awee Yasmin, how are you doing now? So sorry for the loss if your daddy. Keep being that beautiful princess he and God will always be proud of. Sending you lots of hugs and kisses.

  • @912deborah
    @912deborah 6 років тому +153

    When she moves in with him, he won’t marry her

  • @Lovelyminidonuts
    @Lovelyminidonuts 6 років тому +33

    Both my parents told me not to. I did years ago twice big mistake lol listen to your parents

  • @AnjaliComedy
    @AnjaliComedy 5 років тому +51

    LOL Steve isn’t playing games with this one 😂

  • @holashelah
    @holashelah 4 роки тому +18

    Steve you're an amazing human being. Thanks for getting the message through to her for her daddy😉😁

  • @robertmills3476
    @robertmills3476 2 роки тому +3

    She needs to respect her father's wish. Steve always gives the best advice for her. But you're not sleeping with them. Love this.

    • @ryanryan997
      @ryanryan997 2 роки тому +2

      And you don't want your daughter to be the person who doesn't stand up for herself and get pressured into doing things she doesn't want to, like marriage - a legal binding life-changing commitment. She's an adult she can make decisions for herself. The job of a parent is not to control their kids but teach them and guide them, and they need to accept the fact that once their kids become adults they have their own set of principles and values that may not always align with them

  • @lyndellemodeste2439
    @lyndellemodeste2439 4 роки тому +4

    He spoke to her like a caring loving concerned father to a daughter👍

  • @lawcorp
    @lawcorp 5 років тому +3

    Thank you for this Steve! Thanks for being mainstream and still promoting marriage

  • @ocubex
    @ocubex 6 років тому +13

    I'm a dad, I think the same way... I did't ask my wife to move in until I put a ring on it and committed to her in front of many witnesses.

    • @andrewmathews1431
      @andrewmathews1431 2 роки тому

      Ok. So what? Just because you did that doesn’t give you the right to force your kids to do the same.

  • @markhardiman1179
    @markhardiman1179 3 роки тому +21

    She's right about not really knowing a person til you live with them.
    I moved in with my friend & now I'm heading out tomorrow morning.I thank God that's all we were.🙏🏿

    • @lifeisbeautiful9455
      @lifeisbeautiful9455 2 роки тому

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @lifeisbeautiful9455
      @lifeisbeautiful9455 2 роки тому

      Even though my ex did some foul stuff by trying to live with me, I’m glad I saw the light and put him out. He tried to call it “spending the night” had no clue he lost his place and had a family behind my back. He didn’t want to grow up. He was trying to use me and thought this was a convenience store.
      He got put TF out. He had an amazing job and quit and turned in his car and thought I loved him enough to take care of him talking about he wanna be in the music industry 😐43 years old and wanting to be in that industry. He didn’t want to go to school, start a business nothing…

  • @Kriyena
    @Kriyena 3 роки тому +5

    I hate how fathers can be hypocrites. If a son wanted to move in with a girl friend then it would be a totally different response.

  • @kstayblessed
    @kstayblessed 2 роки тому +7

    She is blessed to have a daddy who cares about her.

  • @okaygworl
    @okaygworl 6 років тому +4

    I’m 23, black, female and from a self-protective measure-I’m glad that I didn’t move in with my ex and I won’t be moving in with anyone until I’m married.

  • @elovesp1
    @elovesp1 6 років тому +37

    She's a pretty young lady. I hope she make the right choice by not moving in with boyfriend.

    • @pjpj3416
      @pjpj3416 3 роки тому

      I was thinking the same thing, I really hope she changes her mind about the "shacking up".

  • @luaipouomalopritchard4818
    @luaipouomalopritchard4818 5 років тому +1

    Thank you for that Mr Harvey that is pure love telling the truth although it hurts her but is for her own good. GOD BLESS YOU Mr Harvey..

  • @johnhoward6631
    @johnhoward6631 6 років тому +7

    This one right here is the best one I've seen this year Steve know how to really get inside of a person and snatch them out to have a out of body out of mine experience best advice ever damn Steve is the man for the job I love it

  • @Lovelyminidonuts
    @Lovelyminidonuts 5 років тому +1

    my dad gives the best advice in the world ❤️ listen to your dad.

  • @ruyaabd2538
    @ruyaabd2538 5 років тому +6

    I just adore Steve's dad rules

  • @Magdalena-lg7jv
    @Magdalena-lg7jv 2 роки тому +1

    From the way she asked the question, she is not ready to cohabit🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @powerman6952
    @powerman6952 6 років тому +233

    It's a shame that sex has been reduced to just an ordinary activity like eating, if u love him get married I don't understand this behaviour of moving in first before marriage it's like you don't expect marriage to work

    • @LazyKingAus
      @LazyKingAus 6 років тому

      Donatus Oboh well sex is

    • @gloriamutoni5137
      @gloriamutoni5137 6 років тому

      Me too

    • @powerman6952
      @powerman6952 6 років тому +1

      Austin Smith I'm sorry you see it that way, it isn't to me

    • @LazyKingAus
      @LazyKingAus 6 років тому +10

      Donatus Oboh its literally built in every animal to reproduce. Sex is a big thing just not as big as people make it. Humans are not creatures that have to mate for life they can move on if they no longer want their partner. Sex is just an activity we are capable of. And the idea of moving in before marriage isn’t to avoid marriage its to get to know the other persons habits and learn things you wouldn’t normally learn. Staying apart. There are a lot of deal breakers you should know before getting married.

    • @powerman6952
      @powerman6952 6 років тому +8

      Austin Smith I'm actually a Christian so the way we view things will always be different , I see sex as special I don't support things many people do but I shouldn't be bothered by other people's choices

  • @aigerimsadykbekova4421
    @aigerimsadykbekova4421 4 роки тому +2

    Aaah how I love Steve's philosophy about relationship.I'm from East culture and these things that he explains are very true and valuable.No matter in which century we live these things always stay relevant.People will never respect you until you teach them how to treat you.

  • @MsRae-ev9hs
    @MsRae-ev9hs 6 років тому +292

    Girl respect yourself and get married first. As black women people will try to disrespect us enough as it is. Respect yourself and get married first.

    • @raksmeyps9740
      @raksmeyps9740 6 років тому +6

      yes correct sister

    • @sleepy-peepy
      @sleepy-peepy 6 років тому +14

      Why do I have to perform weird meaningless rituals to get respect?

    • @user-zx5xw4yw2e
      @user-zx5xw4yw2e 6 років тому +10

      @@sleepy-peepy Do it your way then.

    • @sleepy-peepy
      @sleepy-peepy 6 років тому +2

      sean parker I’m sure your wife, that I’m sure you have because you did it all the “right” way; would be very proud to see you talking to women like that :)

    • @sleepy-peepy
      @sleepy-peepy 6 років тому +1

      USA Life Facts

  • @lailahlyn9428
    @lailahlyn9428 6 років тому +6

    She's so beautiful

  • @rhyrhydrum
    @rhyrhydrum 5 років тому +4

    Yes Steve! You literally match everything that I think! 🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @rebeccafelscia
    @rebeccafelscia Місяць тому

    Loved the way uncle Steve handled it ! Hats off ❤❤❤to

  • @janetkeen8280
    @janetkeen8280 2 роки тому +3

    Steve I wanted to cry for her daddy. Good job!

  • @arigamovsesian3425
    @arigamovsesian3425 5 років тому

    Steve is the best. Like him and his advise. Amazing Steve .

  • @ARSC24
    @ARSC24 5 років тому +12

    Lol you going to hurt yo daddy like that 😂 nice. That's right steve

  • @samanthamajesty9079
    @samanthamajesty9079 3 роки тому

    Steve harvey I need this show again. Start one on UA-cam please

  • @theebonyqueend6526
    @theebonyqueend6526 6 років тому +49

    Ha! No man can't even breath the same air as me unless my father approves of him 😁😁😁

    • @petittall557
      @petittall557 6 років тому +5

      Good for you and your father!

    • @theebonyqueend6526
      @theebonyqueend6526 6 років тому +3

      @@petittall557 yeah he's great and I am super thankful to have him in my life 😊

  • @swordchild0013
    @swordchild0013 6 років тому +1

    Hats off Mr Harvey, nobody tells this to people these days!!!! Not popular but the right way to do things

  • @StrongnBeautiful
    @StrongnBeautiful 6 років тому +13

    Somebody pass this girl a copy of Steve's book! 😔 Girl, where are your big sisters??! The "move in" is the oldest con out here!

  • @ladynottingham89
    @ladynottingham89 6 років тому +145

    I never bought the whole excuse about getting to know who someone really is by moving in together. I have news for some people: you're going to find a deal-breaker somewhere, even after you're married. There are going to be times you're going to hate each other so much the sight of their face makes you sick. The difference is people that are married have a reason to stick it out and get through the hard times. From what I've seen happen with people who move in and aren't married is that they discover those things about each other they hate, and it's an easy out because there's nothing tying them together. They could stay living together because it's convenient. Usually the woman is waiting for that ring hoping for things to change, but the guy is just taking advantage of the situation if she's cooking, cleaning, and sleeping with him. Eventually five years, ten years go by and a better option comes along (usually for the guy, because a woman's value in the dating market decreases the older she gets) and all the woman is left with is the wasted years of her prime and bitterness about being used. Don't do it girl. Don't be naive.

    • @estellabutler5424
      @estellabutler5424 6 років тому +25

      I need you to stand up, say it again - this time with a microphone so the people in the back can hear you.

    • @ladynottingham89
      @ladynottingham89 6 років тому +20

      Estella Butler I can't tell you how many times I've seen things play out in that sequence when people I've known moved in together.

    • @v6953
      @v6953 6 років тому +6

      You’re so right!!

    • @kellyempress6943
      @kellyempress6943 5 років тому +2

      ladynottingham89 what if after marriage we finally move in together and he is very dominant and abusive he just hid it for years to get what he want?

    • @KelleyBroussardMackaig
      @KelleyBroussardMackaig 3 роки тому +2

      @@kellyempress6943 Either way - that is a relationship that needs to end - whether you are married or not.

  • @samatehlamin9611
    @samatehlamin9611 6 років тому +5

    what a beautiful message 👂👍

  • @michaelamegatcher7855
    @michaelamegatcher7855 4 роки тому +1

    I love this word Fitna.

  • @karlwilliams8625
    @karlwilliams8625 6 років тому +69

    Get a marriage licence and move in, have the ceremony later. You've been together 4 years, 4 more and You've lasted more than most marriages.

  • @josephpnjasme8189
    @josephpnjasme8189 2 роки тому +1

    He knows the way to talk to people, even the baddest news😅😅😄. And be serious at the same time.

  • @ble22eda86
    @ble22eda86 6 років тому +15

    Steve told the truth! This young woman needs to stay home, get married and then move out to live with her husband!

  • @endebtedone
    @endebtedone 5 років тому +6

    if I'm with someone for 4 years I'm putting a ring on it.

  • @thisuser1580
    @thisuser1580 6 років тому +439

    Why are children of pastors so rebellious?

    • @ProductiveChi
      @ProductiveChi 6 років тому +34

      Ikr..And that always seems to be the case.

    • @wcm7135
      @wcm7135 6 років тому +116

      I think it depends on the child and also some pastors are so invested in the church that they don't take care of home first that's what i think.

    • @keino111689
      @keino111689 6 років тому +119

      Ife Uchime it’s not that they are rebellious. It’s that they don’t get a chance to be themselves and they live for their parents and uphold their parents reputation. Now as they grow and their minds and personalities develop, they want to feel life for themselves, they want to explore(as we all should), and simply because they want to explore....people classify it as being rebellious. WELL ITS NOT. people should be free to explore in order to know what you want, what you like, what you passions are and what drives you in life. Living they way someone wants you to live is mental prison. You will never know your true self.

    • @AirFouly
      @AirFouly 6 років тому +17

      If you get indoctrinated with religious stuff growing up you might develop an antipathy for religion matters. Of course it depends on the individual personality as well.
      My bro and I had the same upbringing. He is super into it and I'm on the verge of atheism. Just fed up with all the god and prophet stuff

    • @bryanbeeman5256
      @bryanbeeman5256 6 років тому +5

      People don’t think there is a problem with pleasure, but there is. Don’t overindulge or you’ll die or become an addict. Where is the moral compass? Should there be a moral compass. What consequences lie ahead? Are the consequences not bad enough so I can continue to do what I enjoy? It’s not rebellious to not do what you clearly told me what to do. Are word games words or just games? I don’t get to do what I want to do so now I borderline on atheism. Without a theism if you will.... all because the theology doesn’t add up to how the person that believes in the theology lives... if a drunk tells you not to be like him and not be a drunk is that ignorant advise? Or is there wisdom in the drunk that states don’t end up like him? How did he get there? We as people usually end up in the same place someone else did that we didn’t want to end up as because we took the advice, the wisdom, the Bible, whatever you want to call it and then wonder later in life .... how in the world did I get here???

  • @jg5693
    @jg5693 6 років тому +2

    She’s so pretty 💓🌸

  • @AmandySue
    @AmandySue 3 роки тому +3

    I think couples should experiencing living together. You learn a whole other side to them and what if you realize you don't want to marry them?

    • @lynne709
      @lynne709 2 роки тому +1

      Living together before marriage doesn’t help. Studies show that couples who live together before getting engaged are more likely to her divorced than those who don’t. Couples who movie together after they get engaged are just as likely to divorce as couples who didn’t like together before marriage at all.

  • @demalyamatthews-james2454
    @demalyamatthews-james2454 6 років тому +2

    That is so spot on...go Steve

  • @genlowe3453
    @genlowe3453 4 роки тому +7

    I want steve to be my dad wtf he seems like such a great father and husband. I WISH I had some stability growing up

  • @medicinetoministry7169
    @medicinetoministry7169 Рік тому

    Steve is dope so authentic. That's love

  • @MUK-yf2sw
    @MUK-yf2sw 5 років тому +7

    im 22.. completely agree with steve...
    Never gona do the dating thing... so superficial... u love a girl.. make her your queen... make her yours...
    If u cant do dat U AINT A MAN. period

  • @zone_luck5242
    @zone_luck5242 3 роки тому +1

    He knew, he nailed it

  • @philswifeforever1156
    @philswifeforever1156 6 років тому +8

    She had to know Steve was not going to be on her side?!?! 🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @jasminehouston-burns1691
    @jasminehouston-burns1691 2 роки тому +2

    The statistics for divorce are much higher for people who move in together before marriage.

  • @Shewas-kathybates
    @Shewas-kathybates 6 років тому +4

    LMAO that guys laugh right after her reaction at 1:14 killed me

  • @agnesrivera7649
    @agnesrivera7649 2 роки тому

    Not just a dad wants there children to be married especially daughters
    They look absolutely beautiful
    Saw my Third child who is my daughter get married and she looked amazing
    Best moment for me
    Also my son's when the got married They looked better than I ever thought of had the best time in my life seeing them grow and following through with advice and love AMEN and AMEN

  • @cyndiclaire2708
    @cyndiclaire2708 4 роки тому +3

    I hurt my Dad like that 42 years ago. I am not proud of it, in fact when I saw this video I cried... My Dad disowned me, and a couple weeks later he was diagnosed with inoperable cancer. We made up and I got married...My Dad passed away 3 months later... I spent the next 7 years getting physically beaten up on a regular basis. I stayed because I did not get married to get divorced, and I guess a big part of me felt like maybe I deserved to be punished... When my husband put a Colt 45 to my head, I finally realized I had to get out. I made a plan and after a couple of months I did get out. I never ever meant to hurt my Dad like I did.. I will regret that until the day I die... I thought I was doing the right thing, but I was wrong..We got divorced and I am now married to a wonderful man. We have been married for 33 years now. Daddy, I am about to become a great grandmother in 2021, but I still remember that time in our lives.. I regret so many things, but hurting you is what I regret the very most... I love and miss you so very much... Rest in Peace, Daddy, Your Mad Cap First Born....

    • @rohazee8367
      @rohazee8367 2 роки тому

      this made me tear up like a baby

  • @xo_fattie
    @xo_fattie 6 років тому

    Come on Steve!!!!! You told her right #noshackingup 🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

  • @littlestepperspreschool3278
    @littlestepperspreschool3278 6 років тому +8

    Girl! You are worth so much more than that! He has no reason to marry you if you are willing to play house with him. Btw 4 years is too long to give yourself away to a man without marriage.

  • @djlairom1090
    @djlairom1090 4 роки тому +2

    😂😂😂😂 i can't stop watching this episode

  • @christianclarke2113
    @christianclarke2113 6 років тому +110

    All that pretty chocolate, but honestly listen to uncle Steve on this one though

  • @Moiselle555
    @Moiselle555 Рік тому +1

    I feel the world is changing these days, people are different nowadays. They don't show their true colours until and unless you live with them. Some people just live in a live-in relationship and some people live in a live-in relationship and then they get married. Once your an adult you have to make and take your own decisions whether your parents are on the same page or not and you have to keep in mind the consequence too. But it's your life and your decision afterall, your not a robot and nobody has the right to control you and your life. Your life your decisions, no matter who took care of you

  • @MsButterflyheaven
    @MsButterflyheaven 5 років тому +12

    I moved in with my first bf a long long time ago about 20 years ago and I still remember that my dad had disowned me because he felt like I disappointed him and he probably thought I was going to ruin my life! I ended up being finding out who this person was it was all fun and nice the first 3 months and then things went very wrong! We both worked full time and I still was going to college part time and my dad didn’t want my little sister she was 13 at the time to go and visit me and I had to go home and make up an excuse said she was going to the library to see me and then I would drive her back home a couple times! Well this guy person ended up eventually cheating on me with the ex and then he was abusive I never told my dad about it because I was embarrassed and then he had done it all to my mother as well growing up! I became very sick later on and I guess he forgave me but until today I had to learn on my own what was good for me and I don’t know if I want to get married or not based on my family upbringing on domestic violence 💔and my own. I rather be alone then end up being with a person who doesn’t respect me and be unhappy for the rest of my life!😭❤️

  • @shyyproductions15
    @shyyproductions15 5 років тому +2

    Im 22 and I rather get married before moving in together. I rather do like a weekend sleepover at each others place kinda thing, to get a feel on how my bf live. Instead of taking a big step in moving in with each other

  • @nickierasberry6376
    @nickierasberry6376 6 років тому +58

    Marriage first. She's headed for heartbreak hotel SMH

    • @R.O.T.C._SEEM
      @R.O.T.C._SEEM 5 років тому

      @Error Report When you don't marry her it leaves y'all on even standing ground but the moment you say I do, you are practically a slave to her and women know this, that is why they stop watching their weight, being respectful and care about your happiness Because they know you can't just leave and if you do they can divorce rape you into being homeless

    • @bryanreed7216
      @bryanreed7216 5 років тому

      @Error Report it is scary for guys out here. We do have to truly rely on God and that's IF were saved. Guys do view it cynically it's why mgotw is here but I trust in God more then man.

  • @HaloHamster
    @HaloHamster 6 років тому +1

    I'm pleasantly surprised by the amount of people in the comments who agree with Steve 😊. People of nowadays freak out when I say I won't live with my man until we're married.

  • @erikhopkins9488
    @erikhopkins9488 6 років тому +5

    Steve looked at that young lady like her dad will look at her.

  • @harmonygodess99
    @harmonygodess99 3 роки тому

    Steve knows how to talk to women. That's why I luv him so much 😌

  • @WW-nh5pv
    @WW-nh5pv 6 років тому +9

    Marriage doesn’t magically stop cheating or other bad things BUT she should wait til they married because just dating and living together, anything could happen 🤷🏾‍♂️ rather be secure and valued.

    • @StrongnBeautiful
      @StrongnBeautiful 6 років тому +1

      Thank you sir! I love that, secure and valued. 😊😊

  • @pjpj3416
    @pjpj3416 3 роки тому +1

    She's such a beautiful girl with hair to match, I'm feeling bad for her Dad myself. Wow!!

  • @Tailoredwright
    @Tailoredwright 6 років тому +62

    I don't get it. If you can live together get married. I know they are having sex together. If she profess to be a believer then she know better

    • @theofcoursetv583
      @theofcoursetv583 6 років тому +3

      Theron Wright ...I have two questions for u (1) are u married? (2) were u a virgin before u got married?

    • @jadapattersonlove
      @jadapattersonlove 6 років тому +1

      @@theofcoursetv583 💀

    • @tianamiller6820
      @tianamiller6820 6 років тому +2

      She didnt profess to be a believer tho did she? Her father is, doesnt automatically make her one

    • @Osteen529
      @Osteen529 6 років тому +4

      The ofcourse TV Does it matter? What Theron said is correct. Even if the answer is no to both questions at least he’s kind enough to point someone else the right way.

    • @holymoses1137
      @holymoses1137 6 років тому

      @@Osteen529 Yes it matters. Don't preach what you haven't practiced.

  • @hasan.alalshaikh
    @hasan.alalshaikh 6 років тому +1

    I really respect Steve.

  • @chukwudiekezie8250
    @chukwudiekezie8250 6 років тому +7

    Young lady, listen to Uncle Steve. He has given you the right advice...

  • @jongbong
    @jongbong 5 років тому +1

    This video made me subscribe SteveTVShow. That was a great advice. Straight to the point!

  • @ladennayoung2939
    @ladennayoung2939 5 років тому +3

    She thought Steve was going to side with her. Lol.

  • @SABAHTARIQJANJUA
    @SABAHTARIQJANJUA 3 роки тому

    Its the guy crackin up loud in the audience for me 😆😆😆😆😆

  • @journeywithjesus
    @journeywithjesus 6 років тому +27

    Steve is right...

    • @phillipswatson3452
      @phillipswatson3452 6 років тому

      Myoma Kapya 😎
      SWEETIE...SHE DIDN'T ASK HER PASTOR DAD CAN SHE HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE!!!

  • @SnookisParanormal
    @SnookisParanormal 6 років тому +1

    I love you Steve Harvey

  • @abigailgarcia3599
    @abigailgarcia3599 6 років тому +9

    She said I respect him but there’s nothing respectful about her question

    • @pjpj3416
      @pjpj3416 3 роки тому

      I believe she truly loves and respects her Dad, but she's young and just wants to have her way. She'll probably have to learn the hard way. Unfortunately

  • @lucasisreal6128
    @lucasisreal6128 2 роки тому +1

    Intelligent one Steve...