This is not what most nursing homes are like. They’re usually understaffed patients barely get the care they need and they are lonely most of their days and the caregivers are exhausted or awful people.
Understaffed mostly. Only handful I ever meet shouldn’t do the job. Today we were short at work. My whole body is sore because even when there two less workers to do the work. People still need to be cared for and assisted with what everyone else takes for granted. So you do your best.
Yes we follow government outlines that lead us to this. It sucks we want to do more but the new "health care" has cut our Medicare from when I started 15 year ago from $2.75 an hour patient charge to $0.75 when it took over. Try to figure what you can do at that rate.
I work as a CNA at a nursing home and that’s all the residents want is visitors. They want people to talk with them. I’ve seen many of them bawl their eyes out because they miss their families. So if you have someone in a nursing home call them, make time to see them even just once a week. It means the world to them.
I volunteer in a nursing home! I absolutely love talking to the residents there, they have so many stories to tell me :)! Even if you don't have a family member, I'd HIGHLY recommend volunteering a few hours a week at your local nursing home.
Callie D yeah I’m 11 and we go to see my grandma 👵 once a week and call her 5 times a week and on Christmas 🎄 eve we take her to church then to our house for the night and that morning (btw she is in a nursing home 🏡).
Absolutely! I work as a residential counselor and residents who don’t have family to visit or support them have an extremely hard time compared to those who have that support. It’s difficult when you see people struggling without that family support knowing that you as a nurse or counselor cannot fill that void completely for them is heartbreaking.
I agree. I have seen in a family of 5+ the same person coming over every day. Nobody else. When the person died. The same lady showed up. But when her belonging need to be moved everyone showed up.
Some times it’s better if a professional takes care of them. Like if the resident had dementia and u don’t know how to work with someone with that a nursing home is the best option. There is so much a person can do if they don’t have the proper training
Nursing homes often treat their residence horribly. I used to work as an EMT delivering patients in nursing homes and I've seen a lot of abuse in there.
UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS well my facility actually treats our residents really well, as I CNA I can say that some people don’t deserve jobs but the people that do are ANGELS ❤️ we do everything to make our residents day to day life as great as possible
UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS me too. I've seen a lot of things. It's terrible. I told my parents and grandparents that if I can help it they will not ever enter the doors of a nursing home.
I believe it. The one near my apartment closed right before they did it was plagued by ambulances, now word is the owner is changing the building into an apartment complex.
Woah, Elsie‘s beading is absolutely amazing. I’ve honestly never seen something like that. All of the residents seem so happy. Funnily enough life in the nursing home reminds me a lot of my schedule in the daycare I work at. Everyone seems so full of joy and we play loads of games! I hope the elders there will all live the rest of their lives as happy as they are now!
My grandfather was in a “nursing home” and he was never allowed outside. He tried to escape multiple times as he was used to the going out on a walk up a mountain casually, it was absolute torture for him nit to go outside and I still feel guilty that it’s where he died.
Sherz 21 Sometimes people cant take care of them no time, if they have a wheel chair you can’t take care of them, and etc. my pawpaw is in a nursing home and he kinda likes it
This is heartbreaking. Its as if they all became toddlers again, reversing their age. They are all so precious. Really is a reality check and makes you appreciate where you are in your life right now. ❤️
Emma van der Merwe isn't that life? You're young and don't care what others think, you grow up care what others think, then you're old and don't care anymore.
I used to volunteer at a nursing and it was such a humbling experience. When I heard one of my favorite lady died, I cried for days but yet I was so happy to that I’ve got to spend time with her and make her last days happy/memorable.
My husband works in nursing at a care facility. He works 60+ hour weeks doing overnight nursing shifts. He rarely gets breaks and only gets 1 half hour lunch break a night and comes home exhausted every morning. But he was voted last week by all the residents in the facility as their favorite nursing staff member and was given an award for it by the residents. He ditched out on our anniversary just to cover a shift tonight so that they wouldn't be understaffed and the residents would be cared for. It breaks his heart when families never visit their elderly loved ones and he comes home a wreck when a resident passes away. He makes time to go to their funerals and share memories of the loved one with their families. Not all nursing facilities are great and not all nurses and cna's are good, but there are many, like my husband, who really love their residents and would do anything to make their lives better, happy and more fulfilled. So before you say how terrible these nursing staff member are, just remember that they are caring for the loved ones you either can't or won't care for yourself and they are doing it for 48-60+ hours a week and most are lucky if they make $11 an hour to do so. They don't do that job for the money, guys, they do it because many of them actually care for these people as if they were their own loved ones. I am very lucky to be married to a man with that much love, kindness and patience because nursing is not a job many people are capable of doing and they aren't appreciated enough.
HA! I found this quite humorous. This is NOT what a nursing home is like. Hoawever this one is very nice and ot looks like they actually care for their patients. Most of the elderly are abused in nursing homes, so this was very nice to see.
Cecilia Burtton not all! I can assure you that where I work it is very similar to this! When you love your job there is no need to even back talk to the residents.
as an stna who works in a nursing home facility, it is sad to read the comments of everyone saying how the elderly are abused in nursing homes. most of us work really hard to take care of them and make sure everything is okay and goes as needed. it’s our goal to help not hurt. though i know not every stna is great just like all professions.
I agree! I am a CNA in a nursing home and we work as hard as we can, but we are usually understaffed, under paid, and over worked. Many of us work 16 hour shifts and want to love our patients/residents always but it's all about management and how many staff we have on hand!!
Coming from a younger patient who did suffer neglect - I appreciate what you are saying, but you have no idea what it feels like to be on the patient side. Hearing someone say that you can’t get your shower because they have too many people to change. Having a call light go unanswered for hours when you are bladder training...it is horrendous.
The main problem is that nursing homes are privately owned. The profit margin comes first, while in Japan all nursing homes belong to the government. The Japanese nursing homes are the best. I saw a video, I was stunned!
@@lizzyd5158if your call light was unanswered for hours, you could’ve easily sued for negligence. our call bells aren’t allowed to be on for more than 8 minutes
I find it sad to think their own children don’t come and visit them. Before my grandma passed away and got more ill, my mom, aunts, and uncles would always take care of her. She lived primarily with my aunt in Colorado, but before her health had gotten bad, she would always travel to the PNW and visit all her children (11 alive today). And trust me, when my grandma was in town, she was the Queen. When she stayed with my mom, my mom and I would take shifts at night to make sure my grandma got the proper medications and tucked her in bed. Bless her heart. Never would I want to put my mom in a nursing home. It’s hard to trust people these days with our most precious gifts.
Wow, this really hit me. I once volunteered at a nursing home for a few weeks for my church about 2 years ago when I was 13. I remember not really wanting to do it because I was worried about school and homework and other selfish reasons but also because all of my grandparents had died and I didn't want it to remind me of them. It was especially hard thinking of my maternal grandpa because he was the last grandparent I had and he was the only one I really got to know. Towards the end of his life, his Parkinsons medicine started affecting his perception of reality and he started to see things that weren't there and it really sucked, even though he was still his same old goofy self, he wasn't completely sane. When he died, it really hit me how real age can be and how much changes as you get older(sorry, i realize this is kind of a tangent, back to the retirement home). So when the time came for volunteering at the retirement home, I was worried I would see things i didn't want to see, such as people who aren't completely there. The truth is, I did have multiple experiences where people had mental problems, but I also saw many seniors who where fine, kind and gentle people who honestly, had no reason for being there which i felt bad about. The good thing was that this was during the holiday season so it was really great that us children could come and cheer them up during the time of the year when they should be with family. It's especially great that they would light up when they saw us because they enjoyed our company and it's nice to know you're helping someone. During my time there, really learned a lot about what a retirement home is like and how age affects you. I remember we used to play with them during physicaly therapy games and it was interesting to see how hard it was for them to kick a ball around a circle and how much easier it was for me and the other volunteers(however, the one thing my grandpa could do at his old age was kick a ball so high it would hit you in the face). Now, of course a retirment home is all the cliche things people say it is, but it's also much more than that and I would recommend everyone volunteer at a retirement home at some point in their life because you never know how it will change you. It's all really about bringing joy to other peoples lives. **sorry, this is very poorly worded and all over the place, but what I'm trying to say is just volunteer at a retirement home, it's a great experience
@@bbygrlpt2 my grandpa was 81 when he died but he died because he got a really bad illness that killed him, he probably would have lived longer had it not been for that because he was in good health otherwise
This is so awesome. My mom has been a hospice nurse for thirty years and from her I’ve learned how important it is to care for the elderly. The littlest interactions can bring so much more joy to their days. Sit and talk with the elderly, you’d be surprised how much you’ll laugh and learn ♥️
My great grandma got abused by a home aide. She was 99 with dementia and they treated her like dirt. She ended up declining extremely fast and had to go into hospice in a nursing home facility. They were so lazy with her care. She passed away almost a month ago. Im glad this woman cares for her residents. Wish my grandma had the same care 😞 I miss her
I WISH the nursing/rehab center I was in right now was like this! The food is completely inedible here! I’m only 42 and stuck here for another 2 weeks, thank God it’s only 2 weeks!
I once volunteered in a rehab center and had an amazing experience with all the seniors there. Even though they were suffering with so much pain, they always shared their wisdom, encouragements and life stories. When you spend time with them, you will get to learn so many precious things. Seriously, it's not a waste of time and it changed my life completely. Right now, I am studying to become a rehab nurse for elders.
I worked in a nursing home and I urge everyone to research and visit every home that is an option for your loved one. In large homes there is a problem typically with being short staffed and often people are pushed to the side lines and don’t receive the best care. There are people who care, there are people who love their jobs, but there are people who don’t. And it can be hell on earth for residents who are in homes that aren’t a good fit for them and their needs. And please above all else. Visit your family. In my entire 2 years of work at the Home, I saw very very few visitors. My Home had 50 some residents. And I hardly ever saw family and friends. They ask where you are, they ask when you will come. And they wait for you. Your company is the most important thing in the world. There is nothing worse than hearing how much they miss their kids and grand kids.
This is the nicest nursing home I have ever seen. The staff seem lovely. In all of nursing school I nit once did I do a rotation where the patients were treated like parents.
I'm an intern at a nursing home. It's a pretty nice one. The residents are really sweet and seem to be cared for well by the nurses and volunteers/interns, but I know there are other ones that aren't as nice and treat their residents poorly. I'm just grateful that I'm part of one of the good ones.
Much easier said then done though, it's great that you'd want to be your grandmas carer, but most people who get put in care homes with dementia, etc, need 24 hour care, because they can't be trusted to be alone. My grandma was the last person who wanted to put her mother into a care home, but she had to, because she couldn't look after her 24/7, she couldn't go out and work and support her children, because she was scared that my great grandma would hurt herself by forgetting to turn the stove off or by leaving the house and forgetting the way back, etc. Care homes are unfortunately sometimes needed :/
Euphoric Dreamer I get that sometimes nursing homes are needed, but from my personal life, my grandma as done so much for me that if she ever needed care I would do everything I could to provide that. She’s currently going on 86 and is still doing pretty darn well.
My grandmother works at a nursing home. And I always loved going over just to talk to the people there. They have a piano and I would play it for them. It's the little things that mean so much to them, like music, or a conversation. ❤️
When my parents get old I’m not going to put them in the nursing home, they can live in my house and I will take care of them, like they took care of me when I was a baby. 😀❤️
You’d better hope they don’t have dementia or Alzheimer’s. When my great grandfather died, we knew that my great grandmother with dementia couldn’t live alone because she could fall or not take her meds are not eat, etc. so my dad and I lived with her in her house (to make her comfortable). We lived there for a little over 6 months. But because she had dementia, it sucked being there. She didn’t know who we were so she would talk about how she hated us and how she didn’t want to see us. But we stayed with her because we didn’t want her put in to a nursing home. We did it from March to August and before we knew it, we had lost our entire summer. We didn’t get to do anything the entire summer because we were taking care of her. I think in situations like mine, it’s okay to put someone in a nursing home. Especially when you visit them every week like my family does.
There can be 5 star nursing homes with horrible workers.. there are a lot of nursing assistants and nurses that don't do right. I've seen it because I worked as a CNA for 5 years. I've witnessed workers treat residents poorly and I confronted them and corrected them. There are few people that actually have compassion and are in the job for the right reasons. I have a grandma in a nursing home and I have a grandma and grandpa in an assisted living facility so I take abuse to heart. Theres bad people no matter what the profession is but there are still some good ones.
Did you guys experience the part where your great grandma has to whisper to you they abuse her? Or when they say they aren't allowed to help as your grandpa falls out of bed and fatally injured himself?
Unfortunately if someone falls, the protocol is to let them fall. If we try and catch them we risk hurting ourselves in the process. There are preventative measures we take to make sure that residents don't fall, particularly out of bed. In my nursing home, for high falls risk residents, they have beds that touch go right to the ground, as well as mats to make sure they don't get hurt. Some even have mattresses with raised edges to prevent them rolling out of bed. If anything does happen, then from there we have to treat the injury in any way we can. I'm so sorry your grandpa was hurt. I hope you're okay and your grandpa is okay.
I had multiple roommates who fell. I am well under 40 and was the youngest patient in the facility. If patients fell they didn’t report the fall or treat it much less tell the family. I was given incorrect meds and was left unresponsive...
This is so beautiful to see how so many people work so hard to help the elderly!! It’s so heartbreaking to know that so many kids leave their own parents after they worked so hard to raise them, the least one can do is just be there for their parents. To anyone reading this, please love, value, respect, and spend time with your parents, even if it’s just visiting them for an hour or so! And I hope you all have a great rest of your day!!!
I was a caregiver at different nursing homes and I saw SO MUCH ABUSE other caregivers were doing to the elderly, like hitting, pinching, mocking them, leaving their bed soaked for HOURS , leaving there depends soaked for hours even if it’s diarrhea, pushing, sexual assault, omg the list could go on. And they would only clean up the elderly if their family was coming to visit. I spoke up every single time and the manager or owner would often ignore it. I would call APS (Adult Protective Services) anonymously and tell them what was going on and they would visit the facility and would do nothing about it. There was a lot of turning your head about what other people were doing and I had to leave so many facilities because of that. So many occasions I cried when I got home because there was nothing I could do and there were times I got threatened to be fired if I said anything or I did get fired. Not to mention I worked at a facility where people got high in the back on there break and would still try to work. So much abuse was going on I want to cry just thinking about it. I’ve wanted to do storytimes about being a caregiver and what goes on behind closed doors but I always feel like I would get hate or get in trouble for speaking up. Sorry if this was too long to read, please don’t hate
Hi I know your comment was 4 years ago. I'm currently a student in a CNA program of 2 months, and soon I will certify and volunteer at a LTC facility around mid August. I feel very anxious like I might fail the board exam to be certified as a CNA. I don't know what entirely to expect, besides trying not to mess up, until I read this comment section. But I decided to reply to yours particularly because I was wondering if you could share any tips, stories, advice for a newbie like me 🙂
This brought tears to my eyes. It is true, we as a society neglect the elderly. They took care of us when we needed them, the least we could do is visit them. I will visit my Nana today, she is 90 and still lives at home.
This is such a great thing you guys are doing. The current generation (me included) need to get their eyes open and see this aspect of life too. These aspects of life tend to increase compassion and sensitivity in the mind, which is a amazing!
I've worked at a nursing home and assisted living facility and things of that sort and I enjoy working with the elderly. It breaks my heart seeing how some of these older people are treated by not only their families but by the the other workers in the facility. Seeing how they operate was actually what motivated me to get my licensing to work in the medical field. Some of the people in those facilities are the sweetest people you'll ever meet in your entire life.. you get some mean ones every now and then lol they all need a little love and to know somebody cares for them
"it takes one parents to look after ten kids but ten kids cant see one parent"....thats so true...love what yous are doing...thank you for your work...an hospitality...god bless... #livelifetothefullest #respect
So many people in the comments say that they would take in their parents before sending them to a nursing home, but besides the "It's harder than you think" argument, I don't think you guys considered the very real possibility that they don't want to leave their home at all (and older people can be really stubborn about this). Would you also be willing to give up the life that you built for yourself to move BACK IN with your parents in order to take care of them? To quit your job or make your partner and kids move with you? It's a nice thought and I know that I'll do everything to take care of my parents when they're old, but I also know that they would never want me to give up everything WE as a family have worked for, to do so. Then I'd rather choose to actually spend some money on a decent care facility (because they DO exist)
you are still making them move anyway, your argument doesnt make much sense. either way, if you took care of them in your own home, or put them in a nursing home; you are going against their wishes
Whoops, yeah sorry, I wrote this late at night :D I meant in-house care. I guess, ultimately it's up to them anyway, I wouldn't force any specific solution.
To those people who are saying that nursing homes are full of abuse, they don’t get treated properly etc, it’s not always the case. I work at a nursing home and I get abused all the time and there are difficult people, nonetheless we do our best to ensure each individual is given the care they need and the staff I work with are literally the nicest people ever- we even have singers and dancers come over and the elderly love it!
As a CNA I find it interesting that nobody talks about the abuse towards the staff in skilled nursing facilities or assisted living places. It is so hard to work as a health care provider and keep the kind, friendly, and helpful personality everyone expects you to have. I’ve been hit, groped, kicked and more by residents, but if I complain guess who things get worse for? Me. In my state if you report abuse from a resident, you have to stay extra, fill out a ton of paperwork, and your pay (which is already less than a McDonald’s worker makes) gets docked. That’s right, you get attacked, and you pay for it. Nobody should ever abuse their patients. But no patient should ever abuse their caretakers. Its not hard to understand why some people snap when they’re overworked, underpaid, and under appreciated.
welp, I just cried my eyes out. they are doing so amazing by caring for them. Everyone please so visit your grandparents and love them even if they are not around anymore
Reading all these comments, I vow to never put my parents in a nursing home. I’m 20, studying, but my parents are in their 60s with health challenges already. I don’t know how, but i will give everything and work hard to let them spend their retirement on comfort and happiness, miles away from a nursing home.
Starting my clinical soon at a skilled nursing facility and this brought prospective into my eyes. I will definitely take note of this and give my patients the best care I could provide.
this made me actually cry I don’t know why! This was a beautiful video, I’m sure not all nursing homes are like this as I have seen in the comments, I have never been to one so I cannot comment but I’m sorry if you have experienced otherwise, but this looks like a wonderful service, all the elderly people seem so pure and talented with their amazing beaded flowers and singing! made me think of my grandma ❤️
I used to work as a CNA in a nursing home for over a year and I can confidently say that this is not an accurate portrayal at all. Nursing homes are always understaffed and we would constantly work 16 hour days because there was nobody else. I could have made more money at Walmart and not have to deal with the emotional and physical labor that working as a CNA does. The family of the resident always treated the workers like trash, as if it was our fault that their parent was dying. We would be on our feet for hours, constantly running around and sweating our asses off. Not to mention so many of the residents that are confused would try to beat us and refuse their medication. I am never going back.
I was in my 30s when I was placed in a nursing home. It was horrendous as a patient being constantly made fun of and put down by staff. For every older person who is dying, there is someone like me...and trust me, it is terrible to be trapped in a facility full of people who do not care and do not wish to be there.
and this shows that you are just not the correct type of person to be working at a nursing home. I worked at one for over two years and the experience I had was great. I realize nursing homes aren't all sunshine and butterflies but the experience you have is what you make it. If you have a negative attitude it won't be a good experience.
I'm very proud that my parents made the decision to move in with my grandma when her husband died. They changed jobs, sold their house and most of their belongings to go and live in her house to care for her so she didn't have to go to a nursing home yet. It was hard for all of us, especially since I was in college at the time and never got to go back to my old house, but making sure she feels loved is more important.
This nursing home shows how much love and care they have for their patients. I remember going to a nursing home to visit my grandfather and once I entered the building an elderly woman stopped me and told me to call the ambulance because she was feeling sick. I got worried and quickly walked towards the front desk to let them know what’s going on. While I was explaining the situation the lady from the front desk told me to ignore her and walk away. She added that the elderly woman is crazy and wants attention. I was shocked of what I was hearing. I’m glad my grandfather was there temporarily stationed there.
Not all nursing homes are the same! In my experience (I have a lot), most people who work in nursing homes seem to just be there to collect paychecks. Nursing homes are notorious for elderly abuse.
Your parents gave birth to you, payed for your education, gave up their personal lives for you, spent time looking after you teaching yoy how to walk and talk and being there everyday of your life. It's sad how one can forget all the sacrifices that parents, grandparents have ever made. People who leave their parents need to realize that they wouldn't exist and be where the are if it weren't for their parents. And to anyone who reads this, if you have the heart, go to such places with your friends and kids along with some gifts. Ive visited nursing homes since i was little and it has always been an amazing experience, just knowing that the smile on the face of these people are because of me. If their kids aren't there for them, the least we can do as a society is to visit them, talk to them, give them a sense of belonging so that they can live their last days in peace.
I hope I've instilled this in my children. I care for my mother. I hope when I'm 90, I can have a couch to lay on in watch TV and teenage children to annoy :). I fear being trapped in an evil nursing home. I could NEVER imagine placing my parents in any facility... ever.
Then, maybe be a good parents and it won’t happen The reason why some people end up in nursing homes is because they must’ve treated their children like crap
Not what a nursing home is like. I work at a nursing home and residents are charged 10k a month. We are understaff, residents are forced to wait, management takes cost cuts, low quality food, we charge our residents for supplies, most of the staff are on phones and dont care, or we treat residents as objects. Most of us try to get the residents in bed as fast as we can so we can relax later. Also we are assigned 10 residents and only 6 if we are lucky on the floor with 42 residents.
It's so incredibly sad reading the comments and most of then talking about now "notorious" nursing homes are for abusing the elderly, and I work in a nursing home in Canada and have volunteered at a separate nursing home as well as a retirement home, and I've never once seen in my life anything about the elderly being abused, all the seniors are treated with the upmost respect and although the facility isn't anything like living at home, it still isn't bad. The food is catered to each individual resident based on their dietary needs and restrictions, which is why some may consider it 'bland'. The programs are there intended to add a little umph or excitement in their days, and call bells and bed raises are for the residents safety. The ministry of health also comes in periodically to make sure everything is in check and their statistics and findings are posted online for everyone -including new and potential residents and family members- to view. All in all it's a safe secure and comfortable place not only to work at but to trust that your elderly loved ones receive the care they deserve.
just because you havent seen it doesnt mean it isnt rampant. there are stats that show a lot of elderly are abused and my mom worked in a care home- she was nice to them but admitted to me she knew there was bad people in the work place, and there was a lot of problems in the facility.
@@Neverseenstars oh I completely understand that, please don't take my experience as complete erasure of the fact that elder abuse is still an issue, I was only speaking on behalf of my home and felt the need to shine some light on the fact that not all nursing homes treat their residents like dirt
Luckily I live less than 5 minutes away from my grandparents house, so we visit them all the time and on Sundays we all have dinner at their house as one big family. I LOVE my grandparents. ❤ And they're so funny too
When i was in hs i would go and volunteer at the nursing home and in my time there it has tought me that the elderly deserve our respect and kindness because one day we will be there
In my experience, this is not what elder care looks like in Amerrica. When my grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's, she was severely neglected and died weighing 80 pounds in a facility in California. So tragic. Its is good to see that there is at least one hood place out there.
I understand why their family don't visit them. I don't think I'll go to the funeral of neither of my parents. I used to judge those who didn't visit their elderly parents but now I get it.
I worked in a Nursing home as a CNA and from experience, I can report that the residents are nowhere near treated as well as these people are. I was terminated on suspected abuse and neglect unfairly because a patient had an accident on my watch. But the real source of neglect is when the patients are not fed good food, changed immediately after soiling their briefs, or even being bathed properly or with care. They only want respect and care and they don't get it which is very sad.
I worked and volunteered in nursing and residential homes and it is so sad seeing someone deteriorating. it happens so quick and there is nothing you can do, you really do feel hopeless!! but the worst is when someone passes away: even tho you are not related and you are not their friends it leaves a hole in your heart so different from anything. I worked in place with 12 residents, I cannot imagine having 24! people that work in care are really blessed when they do it right it is such a rewarding job. I miss my home everyday!!
Thank you for doing all that you do , and it's true my friends grandpa wanted away in a using home but when we wld go see him it's like he was back to normal lk nothing g had ever happened he just wanted to go home and it breaks my heart that many ppl forget about there loved ones and just dump them into a nursing home or elderly living center it's so sad 😞
I would normally say the same, except in the situation I was put in. (Also some nursing homes are pretty good) When my great grandfather died, we knew that my great grandmother with dementia couldn’t live alone because she could fall or not take her meds are not eat, etc. so my dad and I lived with her in her house (to make her comfortable). We lived there for a little over 6 months. But because she had dementia, it sucked being there. She didn’t know who we were so she would talk about how she hated us and how she didn’t want to see us. But we stayed with her because we didn’t want her put in to a nursing home. We did it from March to August and before we knew it, we had lost our entire summer. We didn’t get to do anything the entire summer because we were taking care of her. I think in situations like mine, it’s okay to put someone in a nursing home. Especially when you visit them every week like my family does.
When my mother had brain cancer, I made a lot of sacrifices to help out my dad so she could stay at home as long as she could. Eventually, the cancer ate her brain to the point to where she could no longer be taken care of at home. She was paralyzed. She had to go to a facility, because sadly, we couldn't take care of her. Whenever she was at the facility, my dad visited every day and stayed late into night. I visited as often as I could, at least once a week, since I did live some distance away. I was there for here and even holding her hand as she took her last breath.
Being 20 and working in a nursing home is one of the toughest and best things I have done so far. I love my elderly people dearly and making there day can simply be offering a hug. A lot of workers are there simply for their pay check. Each resident has a story, has something to say and often forgotten is that they are a person. Yes it’s your job but to them it’s their life.
Firstly, I am not demeaning or speaking ill about the other cultures and secondly I am not boasting or comparing my culture with rest of the world. So, please don't be offended. My comment was that in our culture, there is no such thing as retirement/nursing home. Elderly have always been a part of the family, no matter how sick they get. Now, it is changing a little bit and we are witnessing few nursing/retirement homes. But personally for me it's very difficult to do this with any of the elderly. And I have witnessed how hard it is to care for them (My grandpa was 90 years old), specially when dementia kicks in and you are a middle class family who can't afford 24 hour help in your house. I really don't know how and what will I do when I have to make such decision. The very thought of it scares me to death.
As a cna for the past 5 years I can’t begin to explain how heartbreaking it is to not see family visit not even on a birthday or holiday. What gets me angry is when they come just to eat and then quickly leave. Maybe they aren’t the person you remember but you still have the ability to be there for them.
People in the comments say the workers abuse them I don’t agree with that at all my mom is a nurse and has been doing it for 40 years and has had 12 jobs in nursing homes and everytime she comes home saying all the workers are so nice to her and to all the elderly and have partys every Sunday and have desert every Tuesday.
My God I’m literally in tears. I been doing this with my parents who unfortunately dont have such great health and my grandma who is 90 yrs old. Old people needs as much love and care as kids I just dont get how can some ppl abandon their elders!! This government needs to do more for old people who are alone and dont have the means to pay for someone to help them. And we as a society must also look out for them and help in any way possible.
About 2 weeks ago, I found out my last grandparent still alive, my grandma, would be put into a nursing home. I got really sad because I know what those places do to the elderly. They just want to be surrounded by people they love and have nice interactions. I'm really scared for my grandma, but luckily I was told that the nursing home she's being put in, is a nicer one.
This nursing home seems like a nice place, the residents look happy and cared for. Unfortunately this not the case for majority of nursing homes, as most are more “institutional” and not homey like you see here. Some are very good, some are terrible.
Quick tips to ensure the best experience for your family in a nursing home. Granted I am no expert but I do spend my entire working day around the elderly and in nursing homes. 1) The further the nursing home is from you the nicer you need to choose. The further it is the less likely you are to visit so you need it to be as good as possible. 2) Visit often. As in more than you really want to. Even if it's just a short 10 mins or something. It makes a world of difference. 3) The more you visit the better the care they will receive. Your not going to let Betty sit in that soiled diaper if you know that her son/daughter visits everyday.
This is not the average nursing home. My father lived in two during his battle with Alzheimer's and both places were cash strapped, understaffed, and the staff they did have were overworked. Even if the nurses and LNAs cared about the residents, they could only do so much, and as a result residents were neglected. I could not count how many times my father got hurt since he was a fall risk and they couldn't have someone watch him one-on-one. It was a necessity to visit him multiple times a week to make sure he got the care he deserved.
This is so sweet that these normal people take ther time to do this for people who dont have people to talk to that are just alone and could possibly be abused. and that they help them and are nice to it just makes world better I deeply thank anyone you does this it's so nice ❤❤
I worked as a careworker in Japan before. I love my patients and I always talk to them because I learn a lot of things from them. I was away from my family (working abroad) but some patients made me feel like I was their family and I really appreciated that. It's so sad to see some of them pass away, but I'm somehow also relieved that they could no longer suffer from Dementia.
This places is always talking about the quality of life when in fact family and the nursing facility takes away they quality of life.They put so many restrictions on these elderly in these places it might as well be prison.
The kids of our world treat the elders horrible Thats why I go to the elderly homes and sing for them In my old-schooled family us as kids have to respect our elders and always help them My family also believes that the grand parents have special power to pray to god to forgive our sins This is what i believe - a 10 year old
This is not what most nursing homes are like. They’re usually understaffed patients barely get the care they need and they are lonely most of their days and the caregivers are exhausted or awful people.
Understaffed and the nurses who work there are underpaid. We do not get paid enough for all the work we do.
Understaffed mostly. Only handful I ever meet shouldn’t do the job.
Today we were short at work. My whole body is sore because even when there two less workers to do the work. People still need to be cared for and assisted with what everyone else takes for granted. So you do your best.
Yes we follow government outlines that lead us to this. It sucks we want to do more but the new "health care" has cut our Medicare from when I started 15 year ago from $2.75 an hour patient charge to $0.75 when it took over. Try to figure what you can do at that rate.
It's a very very rare case to find an awful person working in a nursing home.
My mum works in a care home for the disabled and she takes care of them wonderfully even though they shout abuse at her
I work as a CNA at a nursing home and that’s all the residents want is visitors. They want people to talk with them. I’ve seen many of them bawl their eyes out because they miss their families. So if you have someone in a nursing home call them, make time to see them even just once a week. It means the world to them.
Callie D Help them out please you can
I volunteer in a nursing home! I absolutely love talking to the residents there, they have so many stories to tell me :)! Even if you don't have a family member, I'd HIGHLY recommend volunteering a few hours a week at your local nursing home.
Callie D yeah I’m 11 and we go to see my grandma 👵 once a week and call her 5 times a week and on Christmas 🎄 eve we take her to church then to our house for the night and that morning (btw she is in a nursing home 🏡).
Absolutely! I work as a residential counselor and residents who don’t have family to visit or support them have an extremely hard time compared to those who have that support. It’s difficult when you see people struggling without that family support knowing that you as a nurse or counselor cannot fill that void completely for them is heartbreaking.
Fellow cna here, I agree!
" 1 mom can take care of 10 kids... 10 kids can't take care of 1 mom"
Damn
She said "parent", not specifically "mom"
I agree. I have seen in a family of 5+ the same person coming over every day. Nobody else.
When the person died. The same lady showed up. But when her belonging need to be moved everyone showed up.
Some times it’s better if a professional takes care of them. Like if the resident had dementia and u don’t know how to work with someone with that a nursing home is the best option. There is so much a person can do if they don’t have the proper training
noob Schnapp Because that mom that had those 10 kids, no longer had anytime to take care of her own mother by taking care of all those 10 kids.
You don't know she was a good mom
Nursing homes often treat their residence horribly. I used to work as an EMT delivering patients in nursing homes and I've seen a lot of abuse in there.
I didn't work at a nursing home long enough. But I am sure that you are right
UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS well my facility actually treats our residents really well, as I CNA I can say that some people don’t deserve jobs but the people that do are ANGELS ❤️ we do everything to make our residents day to day life as great as possible
UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS me too. I've seen a lot of things. It's terrible. I told my parents and grandparents that if I can help it they will not ever enter the doors of a nursing home.
OP - this one seems like they don't.
I believe it. The one near my apartment closed right before they did it was plagued by ambulances, now word is the owner is changing the building into an apartment complex.
Woah, Elsie‘s beading is absolutely amazing. I’ve honestly never seen something like that. All of the residents seem so happy.
Funnily enough life in the nursing home reminds me a lot of my schedule in the daycare I work at. Everyone seems so full of joy and we play loads of games!
I hope the elders there will all live the rest of their lives as happy as they are now!
My grandfather was in a “nursing home” and he was never allowed outside. He tried to escape multiple times as he was used to the going out on a walk up a mountain casually, it was absolute torture for him nit to go outside and I still feel guilty that it’s where he died.
Yeah because we are liable if he got lost and died. We try people
Family are allow to take them outside you know.
# Lucie Panda # i am so so so so sorry
Awww i feel bad
Sherz 21 Sometimes people cant take care of them no time, if they have a wheel chair you can’t take care of them, and etc. my pawpaw is in a nursing home and he kinda likes it
Not being funny but if my parents looked after me growing up. I’m damn sure I’m looking after them when they grow old
Same
Good for you
That’s sweet :)
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Same
This is heartbreaking. Its as if they all became toddlers again, reversing their age. They are all so precious. Really is a reality check and makes you appreciate where you are in your life right now. ❤️
Emma van der Merwe isn't that life? You're young and don't care what others think, you grow up care what others think, then you're old and don't care anymore.
A resident at the nursing home I work at told me "Once a man, twice a child."
Lies again? Old Home USD SGD
I used to volunteer at a nursing and it was such a humbling experience. When I heard one of my favorite lady died, I cried for days but yet I was so happy to that I’ve got to spend time with her and make her last days happy/memorable.
My husband works in nursing at a care facility. He works 60+ hour weeks doing overnight nursing shifts. He rarely gets breaks and only gets 1 half hour lunch break a night and comes home exhausted every morning. But he was voted last week by all the residents in the facility as their favorite nursing staff member and was given an award for it by the residents. He ditched out on our anniversary just to cover a shift tonight so that they wouldn't be understaffed and the residents would be cared for. It breaks his heart when families never visit their elderly loved ones and he comes home a wreck when a resident passes away. He makes time to go to their funerals and share memories of the loved one with their families.
Not all nursing facilities are great and not all nurses and cna's are good, but there are many, like my husband, who really love their residents and would do anything to make their lives better, happy and more fulfilled. So before you say how terrible these nursing staff member are, just remember that they are caring for the loved ones you either can't or won't care for yourself and they are doing it for 48-60+ hours a week and most are lucky if they make $11 an hour to do so. They don't do that job for the money, guys, they do it because many of them actually care for these people as if they were their own loved ones.
I am very lucky to be married to a man with that much love, kindness and patience because nursing is not a job many people are capable of doing and they aren't appreciated enough.
Devon Warner started tearing up, you’re husband is a fighter!!
Your husband is loving 🥰
I was in my school choir and we went to go sing to the elders.when I started singing and saw them so happy i was tearing up☹️
The elderly are my weakness. Really hitting me where it hurts today, buzzfeed.
Mariela SAME
Me too, it gets me all in my feelings 🙁
HA! I found this quite humorous. This is NOT what a nursing home is like. Hoawever this one is very nice and ot looks like they actually care for their patients. Most of the elderly are abused in nursing homes, so this was very nice to see.
Cecilia Burtton Boi wtf is going on the "land of freedom"
not all of them are horrible, I work for an agency and visit a range of nursing homes
Cecilia Burtton not all! I can assure you that where I work it is very similar to this! When you love your job there is no need to even back talk to the residents.
@@kikitaa1ify but you're one of the token few. Most nursing homes aren't like yours
It's a residential care home
as an stna who works in a nursing home facility, it is sad to read the comments of everyone saying how the elderly are abused in nursing homes. most of us work really hard to take care of them and make sure everything is okay and goes as needed. it’s our goal to help not hurt. though i know not every stna is great just like all professions.
I agree! I am a CNA in a nursing home and we work as hard as we can, but we are usually understaffed, under paid, and over worked. Many of us work 16 hour shifts and want to love our patients/residents always but it's all about management and how many staff we have on hand!!
Coming from a younger patient who did suffer neglect - I appreciate what you are saying, but you have no idea what it feels like to be on the patient side. Hearing someone say that you can’t get your shower because they have too many people to change. Having a call light go unanswered for hours when you are bladder training...it is horrendous.
The main problem is that nursing homes are privately owned. The profit margin comes first, while in Japan all nursing homes belong to the government. The Japanese nursing homes are the best. I saw a video, I was stunned!
@@lizzyd5158if your call light was unanswered for hours, you could’ve easily sued for negligence. our call bells aren’t allowed to be on for more than 8 minutes
I find it sad to think their own children don’t come and visit them. Before my grandma passed away and got more ill, my mom, aunts, and uncles would always take care of her. She lived primarily with my aunt in Colorado, but before her health had gotten bad, she would always travel to the PNW and visit all her children (11 alive today). And trust me, when my grandma was in town, she was the Queen. When she stayed with my mom, my mom and I would take shifts at night to make sure my grandma got the proper medications and tucked her in bed. Bless her heart. Never would I want to put my mom in a nursing home. It’s hard to trust people these days with our most precious gifts.
Wow, this really hit me. I once volunteered at a nursing home for a few weeks for my church about 2 years ago when I was 13. I remember not really wanting to do it because I was worried about school and homework and other selfish reasons but also because all of my grandparents had died and I didn't want it to remind me of them. It was especially hard thinking of my maternal grandpa because he was the last grandparent I had and he was the only one I really got to know. Towards the end of his life, his Parkinsons medicine started affecting his perception of reality and he started to see things that weren't there and it really sucked, even though he was still his same old goofy self, he wasn't completely sane. When he died, it really hit me how real age can be and how much changes as you get older(sorry, i realize this is kind of a tangent, back to the retirement home). So when the time came for volunteering at the retirement home, I was worried I would see things i didn't want to see, such as people who aren't completely there. The truth is, I did have multiple experiences where people had mental problems, but I also saw many seniors who where fine, kind and gentle people who honestly, had no reason for being there which i felt bad about. The good thing was that this was during the holiday season so it was really great that us children could come and cheer them up during the time of the year when they should be with family. It's especially great that they would light up when they saw us because they enjoyed our company and it's nice to know you're helping someone.
During my time there, really learned a lot about what a retirement home is like and how age affects you. I remember we used to play with them during physicaly therapy games and it was interesting to see how hard it was for them to kick a ball around a circle and how much easier it was for me and the other volunteers(however, the one thing my grandpa could do at his old age was kick a ball so high it would hit you in the face). Now, of course a retirment home is all the cliche things people say it is, but it's also much more than that and I would recommend everyone volunteer at a retirement home at some point in their life because you never know how it will change you. It's all really about bringing joy to other peoples lives.
**sorry, this is very poorly worded and all over the place, but what I'm trying to say is just volunteer at a retirement home, it's a great experience
You said it very well!
That was a good thing you did.
@@PJ_the_tortie thank you
@@leilam.g.1875
U r welcome! 👍
Wow your comment really touched me! Hopefully I’ll volunteer soon. What age did your grandpa died? I know somone with Parkinson and Im so worried 😔
@@bbygrlpt2 my grandpa was 81 when he died but he died because he got a really bad illness that killed him, he probably would have lived longer had it not been for that because he was in good health otherwise
This is so awesome. My mom has been a hospice nurse for thirty years and from her I’ve learned how important it is to care for the elderly. The littlest interactions can bring so much more joy to their days. Sit and talk with the elderly, you’d be surprised how much you’ll laugh and learn ♥️
That's nice . How are you doing today my Dear ?
Our elderly population is so so so important and have so much to offer
My great grandma got abused by a home aide. She was 99 with dementia and they treated her like dirt. She ended up declining extremely fast and had to go into hospice in a nursing home facility. They were so lazy with her care. She passed away almost a month ago. Im glad this woman cares for her residents. Wish my grandma had the same care 😞 I miss her
im sorry
Sorry to hear that.
I WISH the nursing/rehab center I was in right now was like this! The food is completely inedible here! I’m only 42 and stuck here for another 2 weeks, thank God it’s only 2 weeks!
I work and do internship at a nursing home and it's a really thankful job.
Kind of the same
Bless you man
Same and I love it!
aww that lady looks so sweet and so full of life!
I once volunteered in a rehab center and had an amazing experience with all the seniors there. Even though they were suffering with so much pain, they always shared their wisdom, encouragements and life stories. When you spend time with them, you will get to learn so many precious things. Seriously, it's not a waste of time and it changed my life completely. Right now, I am studying to become a rehab nurse for elders.
I had no idea, this is a real eye opener for me. I’m going to try to volunteer at a nursing home now after watching this video
The thumbnail is the cutest lady i have ever seen❤️
Mhm!!
Loella💞
Agree
She absolutely beautiful
That thumbnail scared me
I worked in a nursing home and I urge everyone to research and visit every home that is an option for your loved one. In large homes there is a problem typically with being short staffed and often people are pushed to the side lines and don’t receive the best care. There are people who care, there are people who love their jobs, but there are people who don’t. And it can be hell on earth for residents who are in homes that aren’t a good fit for them and their needs. And please above all else. Visit your family. In my entire 2 years of work at the Home, I saw very very few visitors. My Home had 50 some residents. And I hardly ever saw family and friends. They ask where you are, they ask when you will come. And they wait for you. Your company is the most important thing in the world. There is nothing worse than hearing how much they miss their kids and grand kids.
This is the nicest nursing home I have ever seen. The staff seem lovely. In all of nursing school I nit once did I do a rotation where the patients were treated like parents.
Poor lady. God bless them.
I'm an intern at a nursing home. It's a pretty nice one. The residents are really sweet and seem to be cared for well by the nurses and volunteers/interns, but I know there are other ones that aren't as nice and treat their residents poorly. I'm just grateful that I'm part of one of the good ones.
My grandma would come live with me before I’d ever put her in a nursing home.
Good. I am glad
Much easier said then done though, it's great that you'd want to be your grandmas carer, but most people who get put in care homes with dementia, etc, need 24 hour care, because they can't be trusted to be alone. My grandma was the last person who wanted to put her mother into a care home, but she had to, because she couldn't look after her 24/7, she couldn't go out and work and support her children, because she was scared that my great grandma would hurt herself by forgetting to turn the stove off or by leaving the house and forgetting the way back, etc. Care homes are unfortunately sometimes needed :/
Euphoric Dreamer I get that sometimes nursing homes are needed, but from my personal life, my grandma as done so much for me that if she ever needed care I would do everything I could to provide that. She’s currently going on 86 and is still doing pretty darn well.
albert7139 it’s best to invest in some special insurance to help to help her! Are you will pull your hair out!
So your
I took care of my grandma for eight years, best years of my life getting to know such a wonderful person!
this scares me about getting old... 😔😔
My grandmother works at a nursing home. And I always loved going over just to talk to the people there. They have a piano and I would play it for them. It's the little things that mean so much to them, like music, or a conversation. ❤️
When my parents get old I’m not going to put them in the nursing home, they can live in my house and I will take care of them, like they took care of me when I was a baby. 😀❤️
That’s great, but honestly it’s harder than taking care of a child. It’s not always easy.
people know its not easy..
Xochitl Rizo I don’t think they fully understand how hard it is. There’s a lot more then what people know.
You’d better hope they don’t have dementia or Alzheimer’s. When my great grandfather died, we knew that my great grandmother with dementia couldn’t live alone because she could fall or not take her meds are not eat, etc. so my dad and I lived with her in her house (to make her comfortable). We lived there for a little over 6 months. But because she had dementia, it sucked being there. She didn’t know who we were so she would talk about how she hated us and how she didn’t want to see us. But we stayed with her because we didn’t want her put in to a nursing home. We did it from March to August and before we knew it, we had lost our entire summer. We didn’t get to do anything the entire summer because we were taking care of her. I think in situations like mine, it’s okay to put someone in a nursing home. Especially when you visit them every week like my family does.
Julie is in too many fandoms sundowners is even tougher
There can be 5 star nursing homes with horrible workers.. there are a lot of nursing assistants and nurses that don't do right. I've seen it because I worked as a CNA for 5 years. I've witnessed workers treat residents poorly and I confronted them and corrected them. There are few people that actually have compassion and are in the job for the right reasons. I have a grandma in a nursing home and I have a grandma and grandpa in an assisted living facility so I take abuse to heart. Theres bad people no matter what the profession is but there are still some good ones.
Lee Golden some people are so disgusting! I cannot understand how someone can abuse them 😰
Did you guys experience the part where your great grandma has to whisper to you they abuse her? Or when they say they aren't allowed to help as your grandpa falls out of bed and fatally injured himself?
Eric King oh my goodness 😭how are they
Unfortunately if someone falls, the protocol is to let them fall. If we try and catch them we risk hurting ourselves in the process. There are preventative measures we take to make sure that residents don't fall, particularly out of bed. In my nursing home, for high falls risk residents, they have beds that touch go right to the ground, as well as mats to make sure they don't get hurt. Some even have mattresses with raised edges to prevent them rolling out of bed.
If anything does happen, then from there we have to treat the injury in any way we can.
I'm so sorry your grandpa was hurt. I hope you're okay and your grandpa is okay.
My grandfather told me the same thing before they gave him too much medicine and he overdosed and passed away.
My mom tried to catch a guy once and fucked up her wrist. He was okay though.
I had multiple roommates who fell. I am well under 40 and was the youngest patient in the facility. If patients fell they didn’t report the fall or treat it much less tell the family. I was given incorrect meds and was left unresponsive...
This is so beautiful to see how so many people work so hard to help the elderly!! It’s so heartbreaking to know that so many kids leave their own parents after they worked so hard to raise them, the least one can do is just be there for their parents. To anyone reading this, please love, value, respect, and spend time with your parents, even if it’s just visiting them for an hour or so! And I hope you all have a great rest of your day!!!
I was a caregiver at different nursing homes and I saw SO MUCH ABUSE other caregivers were doing to the elderly, like hitting, pinching, mocking them, leaving their bed soaked for HOURS , leaving there depends soaked for hours even if it’s diarrhea, pushing, sexual assault, omg the list could go on. And they would only clean up the elderly if their family was coming to visit. I spoke up every single time and the manager or owner would often ignore it. I would call APS (Adult Protective Services) anonymously and tell them what was going on and they would visit the facility and would do nothing about it. There was a lot of turning your head about what other people were doing and I had to leave so many facilities because of that. So many occasions I cried when I got home because there was nothing I could do and there were times I got threatened to be fired if I said anything or I did get fired. Not to mention I worked at a facility where people got high in the back on there break and would still try to work. So much abuse was going on I want to cry just thinking about it. I’ve wanted to do storytimes about being a caregiver and what goes on behind closed doors but I always feel like I would get hate or get in trouble for speaking up.
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Hi I know your comment was 4 years ago. I'm currently a student in a CNA program of 2 months, and soon I will certify and volunteer at a LTC facility around mid August. I feel very anxious like I might fail the board exam to be certified as a CNA. I don't know what entirely to expect, besides trying not to mess up, until I read this comment section. But I decided to reply to yours particularly because I was wondering if you could share any tips, stories, advice for a newbie like me 🙂
@@val9095it’s fun!
Respect your elders family members and love them now because we they are gone it's would be too late for you 😭 👴👵💙
Beautiful people taking care of elderly 🌞
This brought tears to my eyes. It is true, we as a society neglect the elderly. They took care of us when we needed them, the least we could do is visit them. I will visit my Nana today, she is 90 and still lives at home.
This is such a great thing you guys are doing. The current generation (me included) need to get their eyes open and see this aspect of life too. These aspects of life tend to increase compassion and sensitivity in the mind, which is a amazing!
I love working at a residential facility the residents are so nice and grateful!!
Anyone else tear up and called they're grandmother, booking a ticket home now.
I've worked at a nursing home and assisted living facility and things of that sort and I enjoy working with the elderly. It breaks my heart seeing how some of these older people are treated by not only their families but by the the other workers in the facility. Seeing how they operate was actually what motivated me to get my licensing to work in the medical field. Some of the people in those facilities are the sweetest people you'll ever meet in your entire life.. you get some mean ones every now and then lol they all need a little love and to know somebody cares for them
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Why didn’t u just say it like a normal person?
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"it takes one parents to look after ten kids but ten kids cant see one parent"....thats so true...love what yous are doing...thank you for your work...an hospitality...god bless...
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So many people in the comments say that they would take in their parents before sending them to a nursing home, but besides the "It's harder than you think" argument, I don't think you guys considered the very real possibility that they don't want to leave their home at all (and older people can be really stubborn about this). Would you also be willing to give up the life that you built for yourself to move BACK IN with your parents in order to take care of them? To quit your job or make your partner and kids move with you? It's a nice thought and I know that I'll do everything to take care of my parents when they're old, but I also know that they would never want me to give up everything WE as a family have worked for, to do so. Then I'd rather choose to actually spend some money on a decent care facility (because they DO exist)
you are still making them move anyway, your argument doesnt make much sense. either way, if you took care of them in your own home, or put them in a nursing home; you are going against their wishes
Whoops, yeah sorry, I wrote this late at night :D I meant in-house care. I guess, ultimately it's up to them anyway, I wouldn't force any specific solution.
And so your kids will throw u out like garbage too... Don't u forget that.
To those people who are saying that nursing homes are full of abuse, they don’t get treated properly etc, it’s not always the case. I work at a nursing home and I get abused all the time and there are difficult people, nonetheless we do our best to ensure each individual is given the care they need and the staff I work with are literally the nicest people ever- we even have singers and dancers come over and the elderly love it!
As a CNA I find it interesting that nobody talks about the abuse towards the staff in skilled nursing facilities or assisted living places. It is so hard to work as a health care provider and keep the kind, friendly, and helpful personality everyone expects you to have. I’ve been hit, groped, kicked and more by residents, but if I complain guess who things get worse for? Me. In my state if you report abuse from a resident, you have to stay extra, fill out a ton of paperwork, and your pay (which is already less than a McDonald’s worker makes) gets docked. That’s right, you get attacked, and you pay for it. Nobody should ever abuse their patients. But no patient should ever abuse their caretakers. Its not hard to understand why some people snap when they’re overworked, underpaid, and under appreciated.
welp, I just cried my eyes out. they are doing so amazing by caring for them. Everyone please so visit your grandparents and love them even if they are not around anymore
Reading all these comments, I vow to never put my parents in a nursing home. I’m 20, studying, but my parents are in their 60s with health challenges already. I don’t know how, but i will give everything and work hard to let them spend their retirement on comfort and happiness, miles away from a nursing home.
Starting my clinical soon at a skilled nursing facility and this brought prospective into my eyes. I will definitely take note of this and give my patients the best care I could provide.
this made me actually cry I don’t know why! This was a beautiful video, I’m sure not all nursing homes are like this as I have seen in the comments, I have never been to one so I cannot comment but I’m sorry if you have experienced otherwise, but this looks like a wonderful service, all the elderly people seem so pure and talented with their amazing beaded flowers and singing! made me think of my grandma ❤️
This is not a nursing home. This is a care home.
I used to work as a CNA in a nursing home for over a year and I can confidently say that this is not an accurate portrayal at all. Nursing homes are always understaffed and we would constantly work 16 hour days because there was nobody else. I could have made more money at Walmart and not have to deal with the emotional and physical labor that working as a CNA does. The family of the resident always treated the workers like trash, as if it was our fault that their parent was dying. We would be on our feet for hours, constantly running around and sweating our asses off. Not to mention so many of the residents that are confused would try to beat us and refuse their medication. I am never going back.
I was in my 30s when I was placed in a nursing home. It was horrendous as a patient being constantly made fun of and put down by staff. For every older person who is dying, there is someone like me...and trust me, it is terrible to be trapped in a facility full of people who do not care and do not wish to be there.
and this shows that you are just not the correct type of person to be working at a nursing home. I worked at one for over two years and the experience I had was great. I realize nursing homes aren't all sunshine and butterflies but the experience you have is what you make it. If you have a negative attitude it won't be a good experience.
@@lizzyd5158 :(
you shouldn’t work in a home
I'm very proud that my parents made the decision to move in with my grandma when her husband died. They changed jobs, sold their house and most of their belongings to go and live in her house to care for her so she didn't have to go to a nursing home yet. It was hard for all of us, especially since I was in college at the time and never got to go back to my old house, but making sure she feels loved is more important.
Nursing homes are hell to old people it’s kinda sad
Its kinda nothing. Its hella sad
Not just old people. I am in my 30s and was placed in a nursing home. It was terrible.
We used to visit my great grandpa in a nursing home until he passed away, I used to love going there.
This is not how 90% of nursing homes are. The elderly are often abused and mistreated but are unable to communicate that to their families...
This nursing home shows how much love and care they have for their patients. I remember going to a nursing home to visit my grandfather and once I entered the building an elderly woman stopped me and told me to call the ambulance because she was feeling sick. I got worried and quickly walked towards the front desk to let them know what’s going on. While I was explaining the situation the lady from the front desk told me to ignore her and walk away. She added that the elderly woman is crazy and wants attention. I was shocked of what I was hearing. I’m glad my grandfather was there temporarily stationed there.
I used to work at a nurse home
Doing laundry, half of the nurses in there used to hit the elderly patient 😭
Maybe relatives personal visit help them
I hope you reported the home :(
if you didn't report it, you were just as big a problem
You're just as bad as they are if you didnt report it to the state. Shame on you.
Elida Rodriguez I hope you reported them. You are a mandated reporter!
it seems like they genuinely care and love for their patients, which is so amazing. sadly, most nursing homes aren’t even close to this.
Not all nursing homes are the same!
In my experience (I have a lot), most people who work in nursing homes seem to just be there to collect paychecks.
Nursing homes are notorious for elderly abuse.
GGBABE that’s why I said not all nursing homes are the same
I mean don't you go to work just to collect a paycheck?? like what? nobody would work at all if they didn't have to
hah! If you became a CNA for the money, you will be sorely disappointed! I never made more than $10/hr.
Your parents gave birth to you, payed for your education, gave up their personal lives for you, spent time looking after you teaching yoy how to walk and talk and being there everyday of your life. It's sad how one can forget all the sacrifices that parents, grandparents have ever made. People who leave their parents need to realize that they wouldn't exist and be where the are if it weren't for their parents.
And to anyone who reads this, if you have the heart, go to such places with your friends and kids along with some gifts. Ive visited nursing homes since i was little and it has always been an amazing experience, just knowing that the smile on the face of these people are because of me. If their kids aren't there for them, the least we can do as a society is to visit them, talk to them, give them a sense of belonging so that they can live their last days in peace.
You’re just ignorant
I hope I've instilled this in my children. I care for my mother. I hope when I'm 90, I can have a couch to lay on in watch TV and teenage children to annoy :). I fear being trapped in an evil nursing home. I could NEVER imagine placing my parents in any facility... ever.
My most embarrassing encounter, was in a retirement home. 🥵🥶
Then, maybe be a good parents and it won’t happen The reason why some people end up in nursing homes is because they must’ve treated their children like crap
some people cannot take care of their parents full time
Not what a nursing home is like. I work at a nursing home and residents are charged 10k a month. We are understaff, residents are forced to wait, management takes cost cuts, low quality food, we charge our residents for supplies, most of the staff are on phones and dont care, or we treat residents as objects. Most of us try to get the residents in bed as fast as we can so we can relax later. Also we are assigned 10 residents and only 6 if we are lucky on the floor with 42 residents.
It's so incredibly sad reading the comments and most of then talking about now "notorious" nursing homes are for abusing the elderly, and I work in a nursing home in Canada and have volunteered at a separate nursing home as well as a retirement home, and I've never once seen in my life anything about the elderly being abused, all the seniors are treated with the upmost respect and although the facility isn't anything like living at home, it still isn't bad. The food is catered to each individual resident based on their dietary needs and restrictions, which is why some may consider it 'bland'. The programs are there intended to add a little umph or excitement in their days, and call bells and bed raises are for the residents safety. The ministry of health also comes in periodically to make sure everything is in check and their statistics and findings are posted online for everyone -including new and potential residents and family members- to view. All in all it's a safe secure and comfortable place not only to work at but to trust that your elderly loved ones receive the care they deserve.
just because you havent seen it doesnt mean it isnt rampant. there are stats that show a lot of elderly are abused and my mom worked in a care home- she was nice to them but admitted to me she knew there was bad people in the work place, and there was a lot of problems in the facility.
@@Neverseenstars oh I completely understand that, please don't take my experience as complete erasure of the fact that elder abuse is still an issue, I was only speaking on behalf of my home and felt the need to shine some light on the fact that not all nursing homes treat their residents like dirt
Bless the people who do this job with all their heart, because they really care about the others ❤️
Luckily I live less than 5 minutes away from my grandparents house, so we visit them all the time and on Sundays we all have dinner at their house as one big family. I LOVE my grandparents. ❤ And they're so funny too
I’ve seen it I’ve lived with it and I never want to live that long ever
Hello Wendi, how are you doing ?
Uhhhh they all act kind when there are cameras lol 😂👍
When i was in hs i would go and volunteer at the nursing home and in my time there it has tought me that the elderly deserve our respect and kindness because one day we will be there
I don't know if anyone else noticed but Eilat and Miriam are jewish, makes me proud to be a jew 😄
Im Jewish ❤
Mina Solomon are they mother daughter
I saw the girls nose lmao
I’m 15 and volunteer at one sometimes I feel bad but often times it’s so fun and the residents are so nice!
Nursing homes would be much more fun with loads of me’s running around
So I take it that you have a lot of energy
tina andersen ofc I do, I’m a puppy!!
In my experience, this is not what elder care looks like in Amerrica. When my grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's, she was severely neglected and died weighing 80 pounds in a facility in California. So tragic. Its is good to see that there is at least one hood place out there.
Beautiful video
Very insightful
I understand why their family don't visit them. I don't think I'll go to the funeral of neither of my parents. I used to judge those who didn't visit their elderly parents but now I get it.
My most embarrassing encounter, was in a retirement home. 🥵🥶
I’m glad you do and I hope more people understand that
I worked in a Nursing home as a CNA and from experience, I can report that the residents are nowhere near treated as well as these people are. I was terminated on suspected abuse and neglect unfairly because a patient had an accident on my watch. But the real source of neglect is when the patients are not fed good food, changed immediately after soiling their briefs, or even being bathed properly or with care. They only want respect and care and they don't get it which is very sad.
I worked and volunteered in nursing and residential homes and it is so sad seeing someone deteriorating. it happens so quick and there is nothing you can do, you really do feel hopeless!! but the worst is when someone passes away: even tho you are not related and you are not their friends it leaves a hole in your heart so different from anything. I worked in place with 12 residents, I cannot imagine having 24! people that work in care are really blessed when they do it right it is such a rewarding job. I miss my home everyday!!
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Thank you for doing all that you do , and it's true my friends grandpa wanted away in a using home but when we wld go see him it's like he was back to normal lk nothing g had ever happened he just wanted to go home and it breaks my heart that many ppl forget about there loved ones and just dump them into a nursing home or elderly living center it's so sad 😞
They should be with their families not in some prison
Agree
I would normally say the same, except in the situation I was put in. (Also some nursing homes are pretty good) When my great grandfather died, we knew that my great grandmother with dementia couldn’t live alone because she could fall or not take her meds are not eat, etc. so my dad and I lived with her in her house (to make her comfortable). We lived there for a little over 6 months. But because she had dementia, it sucked being there. She didn’t know who we were so she would talk about how she hated us and how she didn’t want to see us. But we stayed with her because we didn’t want her put in to a nursing home. We did it from March to August and before we knew it, we had lost our entire summer. We didn’t get to do anything the entire summer because we were taking care of her. I think in situations like mine, it’s okay to put someone in a nursing home. Especially when you visit them every week like my family does.
When my mother had brain cancer, I made a lot of sacrifices to help out my dad so she could stay at home as long as she could. Eventually, the cancer ate her brain to the point to where she could no longer be taken care of at home. She was paralyzed. She had to go to a facility, because sadly, we couldn't take care of her. Whenever she was at the facility, my dad visited every day and stayed late into night. I visited as often as I could, at least once a week, since I did live some distance away. I was there for here and even holding her hand as she took her last breath.
Being 20 and working in a nursing home is one of the toughest and best things I have done so far. I love my elderly people dearly and making there day can simply be offering a hug. A lot of workers are there simply for their pay check. Each resident has a story, has something to say and often forgotten is that they are a person. Yes it’s your job but to them it’s their life.
Firstly, I am not demeaning or speaking ill about the other cultures and secondly I am not boasting or comparing my culture with rest of the world. So, please don't be offended.
My comment was that in our culture, there is no such thing as retirement/nursing home. Elderly have always been a part of the family, no matter how sick they get. Now, it is changing a little bit and we are witnessing few nursing/retirement homes. But personally for me it's very difficult to do this with any of the elderly. And I have witnessed how hard it is to care for them (My grandpa was 90 years old), specially when dementia kicks in and you are a middle class family who can't afford 24 hour help in your house. I really don't know how and what will I do when I have to make such decision. The very thought of it scares me to death.
As a cna for the past 5 years I can’t begin to explain how heartbreaking it is to not see family visit not even on a birthday or holiday. What gets me angry is when they come just to eat and then quickly leave. Maybe they aren’t the person you remember but you still have the ability to be there for them.
People in the comments say the workers abuse them I don’t agree with that at all my mom is a nurse and has been doing it for 40 years and has had 12 jobs in nursing homes and everytime she comes home saying all the workers are so nice to her and to all the elderly and have partys every Sunday and have desert every Tuesday.
just because your mom and her co-workers have not doesnt mean it doesnt happen..
My God I’m literally in tears. I been doing this with my parents who unfortunately dont have such great health and my grandma who is 90 yrs old. Old people needs as much love and care as kids I just dont get how can some ppl abandon their elders!! This government needs to do more for old people who are alone and dont have the means to pay for someone to help them. And we as a society must also look out for them and help in any way possible.
I've decided not to grow old.
Nick Tokar lmao
So what are you going to do instead?
Idk. Genetic engineering maybe?
@@nicktokar2459
Good luck with that.
About 2 weeks ago, I found out my last grandparent still alive, my grandma, would be put into a nursing home. I got really sad because I know what those places do to the elderly. They just want to be surrounded by people they love and have nice interactions. I'm really scared for my grandma, but luckily I was told that the nursing home she's being put in, is a nicer one.
Why do many westerners do this? Take care of your parents, your grandparents!
Red Curtis, maybe some of these ppl don’t even have a family anymore... 🙁 maybe lost them in accidents, never had kids, who knows..
Red Curtis Why do kids leave their children with their parents !!
And honestly it’s NOT that easy
For some households with parents with health problems, it's just not an option.
americans like to waste money, get in debt, and dont honor their parents
This nursing home seems like a nice place, the residents look happy and cared for. Unfortunately this not the case for majority of nursing homes, as most are more “institutional” and not homey like you see here. Some are very good, some are terrible.
Makes me so happy😊💜 I work in memory care and we do all of these things in the facility that I work in.
Hello dear , how you doing today ?
Quick tips to ensure the best experience for your family in a nursing home. Granted I am no expert but I do spend my entire working day around the elderly and in nursing homes.
1) The further the nursing home is from you the nicer you need to choose. The further it is the less likely you are to visit so you need it to be as good as possible.
2) Visit often. As in more than you really want to. Even if it's just a short 10 mins or something. It makes a world of difference.
3) The more you visit the better the care they will receive. Your not going to let Betty sit in that soiled diaper if you know that her son/daughter visits everyday.
This is not the average nursing home. My father lived in two during his battle with Alzheimer's and both places were cash strapped, understaffed, and the staff they did have were overworked. Even if the nurses and LNAs cared about the residents, they could only do so much, and as a result residents were neglected. I could not count how many times my father got hurt since he was a fall risk and they couldn't have someone watch him one-on-one. It was a necessity to visit him multiple times a week to make sure he got the care he deserved.
This is so sweet that these normal people take ther time to do this for people who dont have people to talk to that are just alone and could possibly be abused. and that they help them and are nice to it just makes world better I deeply thank anyone you does this it's so nice ❤❤
I worked as a careworker in Japan before. I love my patients and I always talk to them because I learn a lot of things from them. I was away from my family (working abroad) but some patients made me feel like I was their family and I really appreciated that. It's so sad to see some of them pass away, but I'm somehow also relieved that they could no longer suffer from Dementia.
This places is always talking about the quality of life when in fact family and the nursing facility takes away they quality of life.They put so many restrictions on these elderly in these places it might as well be prison.
The kids of our world treat the elders horrible
Thats why I go to the elderly homes and sing for them
In my old-schooled family us as kids have to respect our elders and always help them
My family also believes that the grand parents have special power to pray to god to forgive our sins
This is what i believe - a 10 year old