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  • @boucher0630
    @boucher0630 День тому +223

    This family is toxic, abusive, and entitled... the wife needs to file for divorce and run

    • @aliciacarstensen7904
      @aliciacarstensen7904 День тому

      Yeah this lady has 3 azzholes against her. When her husband chose his mom over her and the smirky smile on his mom's face was so creepy. I agree she needs to take her to son's and run. My ex's siblings and spouses hated me entreated me terrible for 25 years before I divorced him. It doesn't stop they will never stop

    • @marykathrinajudge8359
      @marykathrinajudge8359 12 годин тому +2

      Is there any resolution for this? The husband is the biggest wimp ever.

  • @Aluapay
    @Aluapay День тому +155

    His parents are going to ruin every relationship he gets into.

    • @Aluapay
      @Aluapay День тому +9

      Would love an update

    • @jennifermonfils4469
      @jennifermonfils4469 День тому +9

      He allows it

    • @Aluapay
      @Aluapay День тому +1

      @@jennifermonfils4469 i agree

    • @bbe3034
      @bbe3034 23 години тому +4

      I had a cruel mother-in-law. My husband was my only serious boyfriend. My sweet husband is an only child. We have 2 sons and a daughter. She showed such favoritism to our oldest son. Didn’t show any love to our second son or even our daughter. It absolutely broke my heart and my husband’s. I will never understand. 😢😢. My father-in-law was wonderful and very loving.

    • @crochet8172
      @crochet8172 22 години тому +4

      He is also complicit in the abuse and disrespect of his wife.

  • @Catholic64
    @Catholic64 День тому +203

    This guy needs to stop worshipping his mommy and man up.

  • @theresaeliasen7061
    @theresaeliasen7061 День тому +107

    The mom’s grin when her son said she is right

  • @kirstensopik5989
    @kirstensopik5989 День тому +64

    That mother-in-law is a piece of work....and you just know she is even holding back because she is on tv. She is NOT used to being called out for her behaviour.

  • @wendylynn7605
    @wendylynn7605 День тому +115

    I married a mama's boy. My MIL was intrusive, opinionated, and "always right." Her family was afraid of her temper, but I wasn't. One time, my husband told me his mom was too old to change so I should just go along with her. I asked him how old she was when she became too old to change (I knew she'd always been like that). I told him I was too old to change. We ended up divorcing and one of the main reasons was that he always put her first, above me and even above our child. I don't know if mama's boys can change.

    • @pixiefincham2291
      @pixiefincham2291 День тому +1

      You are describing my life in detail.

    • @Squid.163
      @Squid.163 День тому +1

      My parents marriage to a t lol

    • @jacquelinefroehle3583
      @jacquelinefroehle3583 День тому +4

      The husband's parents are bullies.

    • @marileew3375
      @marileew3375 День тому +1

      Hair grows back! Just laugh. Fix it the best you can. NP! This is just Drama. Stupid!

    • @marileew3375
      @marileew3375 День тому

      Sorry to hear that!​@@pixiefincham2291

  • @32minnieme
    @32minnieme День тому +82

    What an awful husband and his parents are just vile... Should get the kids away from them all....

  • @nsburnett
    @nsburnett День тому +66

    They are nasty and teaming up on her... get out and dont waste any more years.
    This will never change.

  • @Ann-sj4pt
    @Ann-sj4pt День тому +92

    4 or 5 times a day! That’s crazy! Old lady got to let go!

  • @dorothymcguire2105
    @dorothymcguire2105 День тому +61

    Those in laws are awful. That smug grin on the M inL's face is vile and the son's no better sticking up for his mother.

  • @christina_castelo_b
    @christina_castelo_b День тому +37

    I feel so bad for that woman being bullied by a whole family!!!

  • @mariaferreras4369
    @mariaferreras4369 День тому +157

    Run. He defends his mom? Ugh. Wife comes first.

    • @blertagjolena3817
      @blertagjolena3817 День тому +2

      There is place for everyone! When a wife comes doesn't necessarily need for everyone else to disappear!

    • @freefrenchhelp
      @freefrenchhelp День тому +3

      @@blertagjolena3817 "wife comes first" means that others are after her. means that there are others too.

    • @YemilonLaCagona
      @YemilonLaCagona День тому

      Ehh wife coming first is debatable

    • @jenniferhansen3622
      @jenniferhansen3622 День тому +10

      ​@@blertagjolena3817When someone gets married, their spouse should always be number one. That doesn't mean they forget about everyone else, but their spouse is number one. When you get married, your parents and siblings become extended family. They are still important to you and they are still loved by you, but your spouse comes first- always. In- laws need to learn their place.

    • @jenniferhansen3622
      @jenniferhansen3622 День тому

      @@YemilonLaCagona People shouldn't get married if their spouse won't come first in their life and heart.

  • @bhopeful5225
    @bhopeful5225 День тому +59

    Are you kidding, this is messed up. I would walk away and not look back
    Husband needs a backbone. In laws are abusive.

  • @Randysgirl
    @Randysgirl День тому +58

    This was a few years ago, I would hope that the wife has left this mamas boy by now,

  • @AnastasiaRomanov-w9x
    @AnastasiaRomanov-w9x День тому +46

    I forced my kids to eat what I made for dinner. I didn’t run a diner.

    • @kathimclaughlin6060
      @kathimclaughlin6060 День тому +4

      You monster! 😂😂😂

    • @Suzi64grad
      @Suzi64grad День тому +2

      I didn’t mind changing things for my son….I let him eat what he wanted! It was such a small thing! Of course I only had him to change things for and not a lot of kids! Some things weren’t a battle to me! Not a criticism of your rules though! 😊

    • @warrior4christx
      @warrior4christx День тому +4

      Im sure you didn't truly force them-- You gave them the option to eat what you made or be hungry!

    • @AnastasiaRomanov-w9x
      @AnastasiaRomanov-w9x 21 годину тому +3

      @ no it isn’t a small thing. My husband left my sons and me. Food was at a premium, and while I had a respectable job, I wasn’t going to coddle my kids because they wanted something different than I made them. They would never even have considered asking. You are creating a monster. I bet you never feed your kids leftovers either.

    • @AnastasiaRomanov-w9x
      @AnastasiaRomanov-w9x 21 годину тому +2

      @@kathimclaughlin6060 lol. My sons are in their 40s and 50s now and they eat pretty much anything and don’t waste food. So I did something right.

  • @noreenmcknight4664
    @noreenmcknight4664 День тому +93

    Wife needs to divorce. Husband is a bully

  • @leximarie3808
    @leximarie3808 День тому +28

    Not only a creepy husband, but he has a creepy family as well. Creepy.

  • @mieraye6190
    @mieraye6190 День тому +71

    Wow she’s being brutally bullied and holding face very well, I feel sorry for her

  • @neuberknight575
    @neuberknight575 День тому +33

    Tammy is an absolute example of a GREAT mother.

  • @dorothymcguire2105
    @dorothymcguire2105 День тому +42

    I bet she was the same with his first wife.

  • @pierreayotte9908
    @pierreayotte9908 День тому +41

    You chose your wife once you marry. What a pathetic husband!

  • @lesadefrain
    @lesadefrain День тому +24

    I’d divorce him. Unacceptable. WOW!

  • @callmeabeach
    @callmeabeach День тому +32

    The wife needs to leave this man . Horrible

  • @lindseyhavniear4548
    @lindseyhavniear4548 День тому +49

    That MIL is evil

  • @pepperrae36
    @pepperrae36 День тому +22

    This relationship between a mother and son strikes me as being almost obscene. Is she still breastfeeding him?

  • @pdig2963
    @pdig2963 День тому +27

    There is nothing worse than a mama's boy or a are daddy's girl 😢

  • @allison6783
    @allison6783 День тому +20

    That poor lady deserves so much better than those nasty and entitled people 😭

  • @duvessa2003
    @duvessa2003 День тому +11

    Idk what is going on here but what is very clear is that this is 3 against 1. They are ganging up on her. She should not stay in this marriage. It’s bad enough that the mother-in-law and father-in-law are attacking her, but her husband is totally in on the act. It is disgusting

  • @eroberts1818
    @eroberts1818 День тому +24

    He's still her puppet. He's married to his mama. Girl run

  • @adukegrant4057
    @adukegrant4057 День тому +16

    He can go marry his mother!!!!!

  • @carolokbrblol
    @carolokbrblol День тому +30

    Get rid of him.

  • @karlinsomers5360
    @karlinsomers5360 День тому +14

    Oh I hope Tammy left this family. They spent the whole time gas lighting her.

  • @MatthewsFav
    @MatthewsFav День тому +6

    That son is letting his parents ruin his marriage. The fact that he always takes mommy's side is disgusting.

  • @Uniquemum73
    @Uniquemum73 День тому +13

    God forbid a mother should have rules, wth is wrong with these inlaws?! They should appreciate her not raising ill equipped brats.

    • @nancymorris995
      @nancymorris995 12 годин тому +1

      Exactly! When I watched the tape piece showing her mothering/rules with the kids I was quite impressed! But she can’t win, if she’d been more loosey goosy they’d be knocking that as well. What awful people.

  • @alex95961
    @alex95961 День тому +25

    Dr Phil needs to see where these folk are now a days

    • @RachelLeMay-y9w
      @RachelLeMay-y9w День тому +11

      He could start a whole new show called where are they now

    • @jennifermonfils4469
      @jennifermonfils4469 День тому +8

      I hope she is remarried to somebody wonderful

    • @alex95961
      @alex95961 День тому

      @@RachelLeMay-y9w so true I would tune in for it.

  • @michellel564
    @michellel564 День тому +27

    She should divorce him take everything she can and run like the wind😂❤ She deserves it after everything that she's had to put up with.

  • @michelleliddle3488
    @michelleliddle3488 21 годину тому +3

    The husband is infuriatingly quiet.....
    And when he does speak he completely humiliates his own wife. I'd run if I was her.

  • @Ann-sj4pt
    @Ann-sj4pt День тому +24

    Horrible horrible,mother and father in law!

  • @raeannarodriguez9458
    @raeannarodriguez9458 День тому +14

    divorce this man! picking mommy over his wife when he should be picking his wife no matter what ! I hopes ran!

  • @girlperson1
    @girlperson1 День тому +12

    Wife needs to divorce that mama's boy and run.

  • @stylecr8r
    @stylecr8r 11 годин тому +1

    Tammy don't ever stop doing what's right for you and your children. You're doing a fantastic job. Your husband is blessed to have you.

  • @thomaslukowsky5121
    @thomaslukowsky5121 День тому +15

    Wife comes first. Period. Also NEVER EVER discuss marital issues with your parents or friends because they will almost certainly ALWAYS side with you and this isn‘t a good idea. This man is not a man, he is a mommy‘s boy. Yes, maybe his wife makes mistakes (forcing the kids to eat their food is wrong) but then, you DISCUSS it, maybe seek professional help from a counselor or therapist but running to your mommy to complain about your wife? Seriously?! 🤦🏻‍♂️

  • @MTTT19
    @MTTT19 День тому +15

    The only way to get through to this guy is to tell him that he’s Howard Wolowitz.

  • @pmeehan_3
    @pmeehan_3 День тому +6

    A mentally and emotionally mature parent would tell their adult married children not to talk about problems in the marriage with them

  • @SUN-it6rf
    @SUN-it6rf День тому +8

    The MIL is awful. Saying your son ,.not my grandson is ridiculous , even if the child maybe from a previous relationship.
    I have very bad vibes from her husband and his family.
    She would be better off by herself.

  • @maussie9942
    @maussie9942 19 годин тому +3

    Horrible people smiling whilst being accused of verbal abuse

  • @stefaniemontes4930
    @stefaniemontes4930 12 годин тому +2

    She said "Your child not my grandson", very telling of the kind of person she is.

  • @quinnlafleur6533
    @quinnlafleur6533 16 годин тому +3

    When my brother got married by our pastor who knew our entire family - Pastor pulled my brother aside afterwards with some advice - he told my brother to move as far away from parents. 😂😂😂

    • @nancymorris995
      @nancymorris995 12 годин тому

      That is completely awesome 😂😂

  • @tonimiller920
    @tonimiller920 День тому +15

    My mother in law is a cruel evil old hag. My mother in law took my dog because she was jealous over me hugging her husband because he was like a father to me til she rubbed off on him

    • @blertagjolena3817
      @blertagjolena3817 День тому

      maybe you did that to spite her?

    • @user-ft8ox2nf4u
      @user-ft8ox2nf4u День тому

      I can relate. My mil was worse than the devil. She had 4 sons and they all hated her. 2 of them stood away from her over 20 years until she died

    • @tonimiller920
      @tonimiller920 18 годин тому

      @@blertagjolena3817 if she felt that threatened over me then she should have been women enough to come to me and say something. She certainly has the balls to take my dog away

  • @mrzay237
    @mrzay237 День тому +18

    In Africa , her husband is a child in a man’s body . Allow your parents to pug into your family affair to the extent of making your wife feel like a stranger in her own home ?

  • @candacehandyside-qb3oi
    @candacehandyside-qb3oi 16 годин тому +2

    A mother in law can destroy a marriage. I believe it’s the second biggest reason after money, being a reason for divorce

  • @shrutefarms4741
    @shrutefarms4741 День тому +4

    Grow up mommas boy. Girl…run and give your weak husband a wake-up call. If he wants to marry his mother…let him

  • @madeleinekarlssonbengtsson
    @madeleinekarlssonbengtsson День тому +29

    Sorry for her.

  • @kerrydwyer1879
    @kerrydwyer1879 День тому +6

    A man leaves his father and mother and he and the female he has as a wife,become one flesh...
    Point blank

  • @kimberlyheibel8759
    @kimberlyheibel8759 17 годин тому +2

    The first woman needs to divorce her husband. He will never take her side and defend her.

  • @Claire-gv7pi
    @Claire-gv7pi День тому +4

    These people are absolutely abusive and narcissistic she needs to leave asap

  • @terrydomeier9252
    @terrydomeier9252 День тому +8

    He is a spoiled man raised by parents who kiss the ground he walks on... Wife >run for the hills! Any many chooses parents over wife is not good... He should NEVER tell his parents things about the marriage it only makes them hate her more because they only hear one side.

  • @NikulThote
    @NikulThote 20 годин тому +68

    there was a time when i kept wondering why some people seemed to naturally draw others in while i was just…there. no matter what i tried, i couldn’t figure out how they did it. then someone mentioned the book Vibrations of Manifestation by Alex Lane, and i decided to check it out. the way it explains how your aura affects everything around you? it blew me away. it’s like having a secret code to unlock your magnetic energy. this book is a game-changer.

  • @DawnChetty
    @DawnChetty 16 годин тому +2

    Bad in laws to call her dirty names. The daughter in law is too good for them

  • @CALawyer
    @CALawyer День тому +6

    WOW - I have the best family. Advice is only given when asked for. At the most I get "can I give you some advice?". If I say no thanks, it's accepted. My husband supports me 100%. IF, in the rare circumstance, he agrees with them, he and I will discuss it later. "Thanks. We'll talk about it."

    • @annegray800
      @annegray800 День тому

      My MILis the most beautiful amazing and my best friend from day dot,we were young 15 and 17 and so many times said that I was the best ever that happened to him,48yrs later, but unfortunately he passed away 3mths ago and we are grieving together, I feel so sad watching this and even alot of my girlfriends hate their MIL after 30-40yrs ! I'm 1 lucky daughter in law

  • @alimccreery755
    @alimccreery755 День тому +5

    My first husband’s parents were just like that and when I mentioned just out of the blue that I thought African Americans are good athletes I was calling a N lover. I was a young girl and never heard derogatory terms like that growing up so I was confused. They were all from Chicago and retired in Florida. That marriage only lasted a year and I moved far away.

  • @deannazandi1797
    @deannazandi1797 День тому +4

    RUN, RUN, DON'T LOOK BACK, HE HAS MOMMY ISSUES. SICKENING AACCKKK

  • @ZeroFrogsHere
    @ZeroFrogsHere 22 години тому +2

    What an absolutely miserable family. The husband did not stick up for her once. Girl, run.

  • @MartinJenkins2507
    @MartinJenkins2507 День тому +6

    What horrible in-laws. Run

  • @susieenglish302
    @susieenglish302 22 години тому +2

    Good grief! Rules in a household enforced by a present mother. I'm shocked

  • @NormalizeCriticalThinking
    @NormalizeCriticalThinking 14 годин тому +1

    The level of gaslighting here is off the charts omg girl run!!!!!

  • @rosiebrough8918
    @rosiebrough8918 22 години тому +1

    My son is a mommas boy, I try to get him to separate from me, but he refuses to believe I am my own person. He comes over, and calls constantly. "Don't you have a life son?" You need me mom, I want to show you I love you." Sometimes its not the mom..lol

  • @paulacasillas4772
    @paulacasillas4772 День тому +5

    She needs to run.

  • @antheairenedevilliers1657
    @antheairenedevilliers1657 День тому +3

    Toxic awful family. Poor wife should walk away. She's being slowly eroded

  • @maybebaby1112
    @maybebaby1112 День тому +4

    Ugh divorce that guy he is a POS let him live with his mommy

  • @lesadefrain
    @lesadefrain День тому +4

    What a horrible mother and son.husband. Too bad stick up for your wife. What a wuss.

  • @Suzi64grad
    @Suzi64grad День тому +4

    My husband defended me when I got hurt by my mother in law. Looking back I was young and got my feelings hurt easily but what I remember the most although it was silly my hubby still took my side! My mother in law and I became friends which was great but my hubby did stand up for me! 59 years married now!

  • @anshurani7514
    @anshurani7514 20 годин тому +1

    i remember this one time i felt like no matter what i did, people just didn’t notice me. i tried everything-confidence boosters, social tips, you name it-but nothing seemed to work. then i found this book, Vibrations of Manifestation by Alex Lane, and it completely shifted how i saw myself. it’s not just about being noticed; it’s about understanding the energy you project. honestly, this book made all the difference for me. if you’ve ever felt invisible, you need to read it.

  • @pattyperrott
    @pattyperrott 13 годин тому +1

    I can't believe husband does not defend wife😊😊

  • @mercedessaez1995
    @mercedessaez1995 День тому +3

    The only bully I see is the grandma.

  • @katievandaveer7624
    @katievandaveer7624 День тому +5

    Dude it’s weird and your wife is right

  • @bethfreeman7585
    @bethfreeman7585 День тому +8

    I had a wonderful mother in law, it was my sister's in law that have been my trouble. I no longer have a relationship with them. Don't care, don't care.

    • @Bellagirl5677
      @Bellagirl5677 День тому

      Ditto

    • @aliciacarstensen7904
      @aliciacarstensen7904 День тому

      Interesting cuz that's the same for me as well except I'm divorced. But my ex's siblings and spouses hated me and were terrible to me for the entire 25 years I stayed married to that jerk. Now that both of my kids are grown they can't stand the meanest ones because they experienced it firsthand during my divorce. In fact what's my ex's brother told him I hope your daughter doesn't turn out to be a whoring b**** like your ex-wife. My ex did not speak to his brother for a long long time

  • @mr__devam
    @mr__devam 20 годин тому +1

    i remember feeling like i was always the one fading into the background while others stood out effortlessly. it was frustrating and made me doubt myself a lot. then i came across this book, Vibrations of Manifestation by Alex Lane, and it showed me things i’d never even considered. it’s not just a self-help book; it’s like a guide to understanding your own energy and using it to connect with people. if you’ve ever felt like you’re not seen, this book might change everything.

  • @sanjayjain5813
    @sanjayjain5813 20 годин тому +1

    i used to think being magnetic was just about looks or confidence, but i couldn’t have been more wrong. i read this book called Vibrations of Manifestation by Alex Lane, and it totally changed my perspective. it breaks down the energy and mindset behind true attraction in a way that just makes sense. once i started applying what it taught, i noticed people reacting to me differently almost instantly. it’s seriously worth a read.

  • @cindymaggio6537
    @cindymaggio6537 День тому +6

    AWFUL PARENTS PERIOD WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE

  • @jokiep65
    @jokiep65 21 годину тому +1

    If your grown-up parenting child or grandchild does not have a question about things.... parent or grandmother should shut up and not interfere. Just make a deal: "If I want your opinion, I will ask, okay?"

  • @MagarkoMizza
    @MagarkoMizza 20 годин тому +1

    one night i was scrolling through my phone, feeling like i’d never figure out why some people just seem so magnetic. then i came across this book, Vibrations of Manifestation by Alex Lane, and something about it caught my attention. reading it was like turning on a light in a dark room. it’s not about pretending to be someone you’re not; it’s about unlocking the energy you already have. trust me, this book is worth every page

  • @donnamarafioti7274
    @donnamarafioti7274 17 годин тому +1

    My mother in law jumped in our car when we left the reception. Then she wouldn't go back home took me a month. Mind you, we lived together 18 months prior to the wedding.

  • @James-Johnson313
    @James-Johnson313 День тому +5

    He is a "Son Husband".... A son who fulfills the emotional needs or his mother that her husband would normally fulfill.

  • @TmblDryLo
    @TmblDryLo День тому +3

    So the entire family dislikes her. I'd get out.

  • @emiliaroma5543
    @emiliaroma5543 День тому +3

    My Goodness ...get a divorce

  • @whitefilly8802
    @whitefilly8802 17 годин тому +1

    Those poor kids... they're going to see this some day and watch grandma and papa laughing about cutting their mom down... Cringe. This is a good ole manipulative mama who can't let her manchild go. This isn't your family grandma, these aren't your children. GROW UP grandma, butt out and allow your manchild son to grow up. You do not know best, you are not always right and you do not belong in this situation the way that you are. You. Are. Wrong.

  • @NineNineOne
    @NineNineOne День тому +1

    I’m a 45 year old woman. Never married. I think men SHOULD be more loyal to their parents than their wives. Their parents will NEVER leave them. Their parents have been there for their ENTIRE LIVES. Wives and girlfriends come and go… MOST wives and girlfriends come and go. Statistically speaking it is much more sensible to be loyal to your parents than loyal to your spouse. … I would NEVER IN A MILLION YEARS prioritise my husband (if I had one) over my parents!

  • @user-ft8ox2nf4u
    @user-ft8ox2nf4u День тому +2

    Grandma is unstable in the 2nd case

  • @joeanneroberts8838
    @joeanneroberts8838 День тому +4

    Im raiseing my son hes 11 but hes grown already to have respect

  • @debbie4808
    @debbie4808 23 години тому +1

    Hey motherinlaw, In God's Hands 🙏❤️

  • @BrinisBrat
    @BrinisBrat День тому +1

    My ex husband did these same things and after 23 years he left with no notice and gave me no money or help he acts like I’m dead zero communication. He’s the devil

  • @AussieBrit
    @AussieBrit День тому +1

    There's a big difference between a man who respects and cares for his mother, helping her out when she needs it and one who is totally controlled psychologically by their mother.
    I talked to my two adult sons and daughter about this. No relationship will ever be emotionally sound if their interfering, controlling parents are overly involved in every aspect of their lives. That is not going to happen. Cheers.

  • @StrawberryJam806
    @StrawberryJam806 День тому +3

    Dr. Phil keeps uploading all these old episodes but it’s always the ridiculous ones. I wish he would upload the good ones like World’s Biggest Bride, or the one with Aimee the severely bulimic/anorexic girl who stole food from the store. Or the one where the stepmom said she hated her stepdaughter and wanted to unalive her after her biological mom was in a car accident and in a vegetative state.

  • @DawnChetty
    @DawnChetty 16 годин тому

    The mother in law is not teachable...it is not her business in how her grandkids are brought up

  • @Daleeather1975
    @Daleeather1975 День тому +1

    That mother in law needs
    to back off as she definitely over stepped the boundaries on numerous
    Occasions

  • @lornarobertson9948
    @lornarobertson9948 День тому +3

    Luv get out. Your husband is a Mummy's Boy, your MIL is vile. Your husband takes the side of his mother and father and doesn't support or care about you. Your fighting for your place as a wife and mother. You held your place in this interview, but seriously get out your husband shows you no respect nor does your in-laws. The smug look on all their faces was disgusting. Your MIL gaslights, belittles you, and disrespects you as does your husband he didn't even have one nice word to say about you. The minute he agreed with his mother that was it. You deserve so much better.

  • @judyduncan1852
    @judyduncan1852 День тому +4

    The husband is wrong

  • @sheree6542
    @sheree6542 21 годину тому

    I guess when you have been abused and your family because your spouse is not bio of one of your children it becomes very easy to see people like that .😮😢😮😢

  • @debrap947
    @debrap947 День тому +5

    Um...Tammy...RUN!!!