Thank you so much for sharing my videos. I truly love what I do. It’s a pleasure to help these beautiful souls regain their confidence and life back. 🥰 BTW I love your reactions videos and told myself one day he will react to my videos and you did 🥹 manifestation at its finest. Thank you for bringing awareness to this situation and being so understanding. ❤
You are literally an angel! These videos brought tears to my eyes. I'm a nurse and have met so many people with matted hair. It was so helpful to see your process.
I love that the hairdresser tries to keep the privacy of the client with the floral face covers. It’s so thoughtful and I have a lot of respect for her for doing that!
All I can say is the awesome person who took on this task is nothing LESS than an ANGEL 👼🏻 to take the time it took to de tangle that hair in my opinion is the TRUE meaning of love your neighbor as you love yourself!!!
My mom is a hairdresser. Went to school for it. It just so happens that when I’m in a bad depressive episode, my hair is the first thing to get neglected. My worst time was after 6 months of not brushing my hair. I was in hell. I felt so bad. Nothing was interesting. Nothing felt right. And seeing my hair set into the shape of my ponytail just made me so angry with myself. Eventually, I was up and doing things, but I couldn’t even look at myself. My mom spent… about 6-7 hours just untangling my hair. I just sat there in silence. But after that grueling experience… I’ve started to feel so much better. Now my hair is healthy. I brush it every day. We do treatments on it. I’m learning how to care for it. Sometimes, there’s just that one thing.
@@taeko3508 I’m doing a lot better now, thankfully. I still have my days, but now I have better ways to cope with my stress and I understand how to take care of myself better.
I am the same, I recently went through the single most horrible situation in my life and fell into a months-long depressive episode, I didn't brush my very curly hair for two months, so my aunt, a retired hairdresser of 60 years, came out of retirement just to cut the massive and unwanted dreadlock that had formed in my hair. It's true thda as a depressive, my hair is the very last thing I care about, it's all the struggle I can handle just to get out of bed and take my dog out. The hair becomes meaningless to me.
In the rock bottom of my depression last year I didn’t wash my hair for three weeks and it became one giant knot and it was when I sat there crying and trying to brush it out that I realised how bad my mental health had become. I’m so glad this lady is helping others with zero judgement and out of the kindness of her heart. We all deserve another chance and we all deserve hair we can be happy with.
When I was in rehab, I met a woman that had matted hair. She told me her story, and said no one could get it untangled, or no one wanted to take the time to help. I told her I could do it for her (we didn't have any rattail combs, just flimsy ones) and it took about 3 hours but was very rewarding for the both of us. This is just one reason why I want to be a hairdresser.
What a labor of love! Thank you for taking the time to care for someone and allowing them to to hopefully continue on a positive path to bettering themselves. I can only imagine how her hair was holding her back, and taking away from her sense of self. I hope that you continue to work towards your goal! It sounds like you would be really good in that profession. Also, I hope whatever led you to rehab, that you are continuing on that journey of recovery. And be proud of your self, rehab and recovery is no joke. Wishing you all the good things, it sounds like you definitely deserve good things.
I love this and thank you for sharing ❤️ Studies have showed that women confide in trusted stylists about substance & domestic abuse more than anyone else in their lives. Some areas offer free training to stylists to be able to help women.
When I was a teenager my mom took me to one of those walk in hair salons because I had a big mat of hair and we just wanted it gone so figured go somewhere where they could hopefully chop it off but make it look somewhat decent. I have thick curly hair and the mat was tucked up by my skin instead of further down near the ends so we were at a loss of what to do. Anyway we go in and the amazing woman who got saddled with me as her client said no, we’re not cutting it. She detangled my hair for nearly 4 hours. She was amazing.
That’s amazing. I go through depressive episodes where it gets hard to brush my hair, teeth (have had to have complete implants as they rotted out), take a shower and/or shave. If you see leg hair you know why.
When I went to rehab at 17, we spent 18 hours taking out my matts. We salvaged all that we could and I could see a part of myself come alive again. The hairdresser that saved my life, her name is Kelly, those 18 hours stripped me of the shame I had on my head, thank you forever Kelly💕💞🙌🏼
This is the part of depression, trauma and/or addiction that people truly don’t understand. It’s so nice to see so much compassion towards people who are just trying their best to survive. ❤
My MIL had the same problem - depression hit her hard for months, and she started wrapping her hair just to get it out of the way. It got so matted and she's tender-scalped. It took short bursts over weeks, but we finally got her hair prettied up again. It means so much that she didn't have to cut it.
i once took care of a girl with anorexia and her hair was really long and matted. i was in nursing school at the time, so i asked my instructor if i could skip other stuff that day and work on her hair. my instructor allowed it, so i spent a while detangling and gently brushing her hair out while talking to her. we then washed it, dried it, and i braided it for her. people were so focused on what she was eating, they forgot the person in front of them. i hope she's doing okay.
Hi! As someone who had matted hair for almost 5 years (from my 8th grade year till I graduated high school) I can truly say without a doubt this woman has helped so many people gain their confidence back and helped them feel a sense of relief. I was severely depressed and just didn’t brush my hair. Once it got bad I started to feel bad about myself and wanted to brush it out, it wasn’t that simple. It’s a very painful long process and no matter how long I brushed and what methods I tried on myself it took so long and was just too much for me to do on my own as a teenager. I felt trapped and that made my depression spiral. So I felt upset and was bullied over it all throughout school. My senior year right before I was about to graduate I finally had someone reach out and offer to help me with my hair. She took me to a hair stylist and paid a pretty penny to help me get my hair back to normal hair, and for her and the hair stylist both I am so grateful. They truly were a light in my life because I would have never got to fix it, and was set on shaving it off. You feel so trapped and upset when you have matted hair, it’s almost impossible to be happy. For anyone reading this having matted hair, you’re not alone. I wish more people understood the circumstances people go through. I thought I was the only person in the world who had gone through what I did, and having my hair matted like that as a high schooler. When I saw this video it brought a lot of joy to me to see these people get their hair fixed. If you are struggling with hair matted please don’t give up, please know you’re not alone, and please focus on loving yourself because you are so important, and you are so much more than just your hair. Your hair doesn’t define you, but don’t beat yourself up over it. Things happen and life is hard. You are strong. You are amazing. You are so deserving of happiness.
You are amazing, hun. I'm so sorry that you have gone through so much but I'm overjoyed that you got help and you have learned some really important lessons. Much love and many blessings upon you 💙
This was me! Ive been going back and forth between either super gorgeous hair or depressive birds nest. Always at least a year of matting when it was bad. Im mixed race so also have super curly hair...i swear it tangles if I sneeze🤣 (black, native, european curly) My mom would try to help but my scalp is super sensitive so i rarely let people touch it. ... My mom found a salon where the owners were an interracial couple both black and Europan partners had curly hair and their sons hair texture was like mine. I finally figured out how to do my hair from them! .... The last time it was bad was before my wedding (depresson from in law problems) now my husband reminds me to detangle my hair in the mornings and ive been good ever since ... It sucks though cuz of my sensitive scalp it can make me cry But id rather tear up daily than have that matting again .... And aragon oil had become my best friend🤣
I did this for a friend who was in an abusive situation and extremely depressed. Took a few days of her coming over and me working through it, but we saved her hair! She had hair down to her butt which made it extra challenging. Definitely a long but rewarding process.
Hadassa is a modern day Saint. I've been watching her for years, knowing the exposure she will get from this warms my heart. So many people in need (she helps men too!) will learn of detangling services. This is probably one of Brad's most positively impactful videos for the amount of people who will be helped.
What she said about depression manifesting in different ways, is so true! Mine came out in the form of picking my skin. My legs are covered in scars that look like mosquito bites, some are pretty deep too! I love this womans attitude, she is awesome! ❤
@@mama_b_7525 😢 i was in the same boat two years ago… scars all over my legs and arms, but things really do get better. I think finding a reason to live is the most important thing. Mine is my cat and my little brothers. I would never leave them, so now i look on the bright side. Just wanted to let you know, you’re not alone!
Yikes, dermatillomania is a horrifying BFRB. Not meaning that people with dermatillomania or other BFRB’s are horrifying. But the conditions are. They (in most cases) make you feel ashamed of yourself, often even disgusted, yet you can’t help but pick at your skin (in this case with dermatillomania). Feeling these bad feelings about yourself because of the BFRB, while not judging others with dermatillomania or another BFRB at all. It is such a crazy vicious circle. Trichotillomania is a little more known (as far as I know at least) than dermatillomania. Not sure if it is true. But these BFRB’s being so unknown doesn’t help either. People don’t know how to help. So they often keep saying to (just) stop it (while they “catch” you doing it) which has the complete opposite effect and only makes you feel worse. I am so happy for and proud of you and anyone who overcame it! Or is just working on it, just working on it is a big step already. Personally I am still working on it myself. While I have the most realizations, I still am not able to stop (yet). Hopefully somewhere in the near future. You are strong, you are beautiful, you are amazing!!! ❤️ Sending love!
Girl, same. My back and face are a MESS! I finally got on antibiotics to help calm things down but I have to avoid mirrors at all costs when things are bad. I ran out of meds for 2 months about a year ago and I bloodied my face. I could not walk away. Things are much better now but it's a daily struggle. Body makeup helps but hey, it's almost jeans and tights weather! Stay strong 💜🌈
I'm obsessed with that woman's channel. She's so sweet and obviously amazing at what she does. She's so positive, and never ever shames her clients for their hair's condition, and urges empathy from her viewers. As I'm getting older, and the world is just more and more messed up, I really enjoy watching all of these positive videos, it's part of MY self care!
I have a friend who was in a depressive episode and couldn’t shower because it scared her. She would go weeks without showering and the amount of hair she pulled out when she did shower freaked her out. I just talked to her about how much hair you lose on a daily basis and it’s ok to lose hair. It changed her whole outlook.
@@FireFang97 First, remember that it’s not going to last forever. I like to have a podcast or a movie to listen to while I’m in the shower. Sometimes I have to just do the bare minimum and know it’s ok that my legs are hairy but I always feel better afterwards. Sometimes washing up in the sink is ok too.
I must say, it is fun watching you learning about a side of hair dressing that you don't know much about. The whole detangling thing is often a very emotional process. People get in these situations because they've been through something huge. Trauma, loss, depression, so having someone put so much time into helping you get back to your best self is a big moment. Even if you are paying them.
i love that brad always admits and is excited that there's always more he can learn about the craft that he loves so much! thats honestly super inspiring to me
I have to say to Brad watching your video of the detangling hair is giving me some hope. My hair is past my buttocks & 1 length. I wouldn't be in this circumstance had I just settled on a Super Cuts or Cost Cutters hair appointment per what my BF said he'd pay for, although in the past visits w/ him paying for my haircut & color at these places, I end up leaving w/ not at all what I asked for & I heard you on 1 of your videos Brad...."Dont cut hair dry." I know this & I'm not even a hairdresser. God Bless you. He gave you a talent. Thank you for the detangling Video. This hairdresser that you shared w/ many viewers should feel blessed. Educating others is powerful. You do a fabulous job at it. My daughter & I will continue to watch you as well as the hairdresser who detangled those women's hair. God Bless her as well. The 2 of yo should team up! But everytime I go to 1 of those less expensive hair cutting places, I end up w/ a messed up longer hair on 1 side of my head than the other side. The hair color has turned out wrong & splotchy. Due to being physically ill & taking time away from my career in life, I have been left dependent on my BF's financial help, which is grueling to me. Always been financially independent & a helper. Im a Nurse. If my friends or family saw my mess on top of my head, they would cringe & say what is happening to you??? Yes, nothing but judgement. Lately due to very stressful situation in my relationship, I have been pressured up-and-down for numerous things which leads be no time to take care of myself. After a shower or washing my long long hair I twisted up in a bun and clip it. And it's not just one hair clip it's 4 or 5 clips holding my heavy hair up. Within 3 weeks I realized I need to call my hair out. This is how fast hair tangles. It was so tight in the bun on my head it as I've gotten sick for one of the 3 weeks. Yes the constant motion of rubbing your head back-and-forth on a pillow and/or doing nothing but Pinning up loose ends of hair around the bun I eventually realized I'm not gonna get this out at all. Halloween weekend was the 2nd week it was tangled and by the 3rd week I was sick in bed. I feel hopeless helpless no self esteem and a boyfriend Whose city help me get the tangles out But after sitting down And my daughter watching him she said mom haven't stopped cause hes ripping your hair out and I did feel it you do become tender headed with very long hair and when it knots up like this. I would post a picture but I'm very embarrassed of what I look like at this point. I am thanking you from the bottom of my heart For posting not just the butterfly cut that my daughter and I watch this weekend but as well as putting this leather hairdresser up and educating the public. I'm kindly asking people please don't judge like my doctor judged me. She told me Last month please do not come in my office with a towel wrapped around your head again I don't wanna see that. Never mind asking me what is going on or what happened? People please don't judge nobody knows why people's hair get wrapped up Into large knots. I can say this it's cost me over a $100 just in over the counter conditioners and some of these tips with the vinegar baking soda salt water all is gonna help since I live in Colorado and we do have lime build-up in our water. Thank you to all of the comments I read all of thank you Brad For displaying the video and adding your professional comments and having the empathy. Empathy is so important and so many people lack it in this world. Could you imagine if there was more people with empathy would there be as many of us with knots all our heads? Maybe it like I read in one comment Another woman helped another woman Get out of the mess she felt like she was in and trust me you feel like you're a little miniature you in the middle of that knot on your head. Wish me luck guys I'm going to tackle some of it today but I must get off this comment Thread or I could write forever. Love always God-bless those who help others.
Sorry, all In my comments read above I do have some typos. I'm a quick typer and I should have proof Read it Before Posting it. My bad. There's nothing Worse and trying to figure out what someone's trying to say but I think everybody Can put the senses together to figure out what I was saying. OK going to do docs to find my hair to start yes I'm going to add that step and then go back in With some of The good Detangling sprays & conditioners......🤕Pray for Me 🙏, please.
This video confirms that Hadassa and Brad are the kind of people that you want as your friends. Supportive, non-judgmental, ready to learn and help when they aren't the experts, and ready to step in and show how it's done when they are.
As someone who works at a rehab center, we see a lot of matting from long hospital stays. Being unable to get out of bed and only move your head, matts form on the back and work their way up. Most recently, a woman came in with the back of her head super matted and a coworker and I spent a long time detangling so that they wouldn’t shave her head when she got back to her ALF. Imagine out surprise when it turned out she had waist long hair!
Hospital staff members are supposed to bathe and clean patients in hospitals but they're typically under staffed so it's a hard thing to do for some hospitals
I’m in that EXACT situation right now! Stroke survivor, about 1.5 years, and waist length hair. I don’t want to cut it off, I’ve managed to brush through some, but I get so tired. This tiredness from moving is still wayyy better than only being able to move my eyes though 😅.
When I was in cosmetology school i had a husband who brought his wife in (both old enough to be my grandparents (late 60s early 70s). She had suffered a stroke and could no longer do self care and this poor man tried his best to take care of her but couldnt take care of her hair and when she came in her entire head was matted and there was all kinds of debris in it because he had issues washing it with all the knots. I spent 2 sessions (about 4-5 hours each time detangling her hair, shampoo and conditioning, and re-dying her roots and the look on her face made me feel like i did something special. People go through all kinds of trauma and life situations and the amount of joy that can come from just the basics is amazing. This woman is amazing for the help she is giving people
I remember finding this woman when I got my extensions taken out and 2 hairdressers refused to help me with my matting… She actually gave me the confidence and patience to sit there and do it myself. She’s saved more heads of hair then she even knows! ❤
I don't ever talk about this, but given the topic of this video and the fact that these women shared their stories and put themselves out there, I just want other people who may experience or have experienced a similar journey to know that they are not alone like I thought I was. I went through a time where I was living out of a car with a friend, struggling with addiction. I didn't shower for a few weeks and had given up on life. I was extremely depressed. I had long, thick curly hair and not maintaining it, it ended up where I couldn't brush it out. I covered my hair and was so embarrassed and ashamed. My hair started to fall out and I ended up having to come to the realization that I had lost my long curly hair, which was the one thing I actually liked about myself. I felt so alone like who lets this happen to them I thought? I eventually realized that I needed to not let this weigh me down and accept whatever I had to do to let it go even if it meant shaving it off. I cut off my hair myself and luckily at that point, my hair had grown back in the parts it had fallen out. It's been almost 2 years since I cut my hair and it's back to how it was before. It was a very long, lonely journey. So to those of you who are going through something similar, I know it is hard to have to let go, face yourself and be vulnerable to the world, but I promise you, it is worth it in the end. You don't have to be alone. There are people that care and who won't judge even though it may seem like there's nobody at all who understands. I know I went through this for a reason. I've learned so much by having to confront myself. It'll be okay. If someone like me can go through it, then I know you can.
Being a new mom , and having curly hair…. It’s so easy to “neglect “ one’s locks . Life gets in the way . And my hair got so matted when I detangled it so much of it broke off. So don’t ever judge people… it’s not intended to get that far . I’m so glad these ladies managed to get their hair saved by a hair angel.
Fully agree! I have naturally 3c hair and infant twins. I've been having to keep my hair braided up because I don't have time for normal maintainence on it.
Between hair loss and dead skin cells, it's not difficult to see how these clumps can develop. Hadassas's patience, compassion, and determination are so admirable.
Omg I am a CNA at a LTC/rehab facility and I can't tell you how many patients I've had admitted in the last 2 years with their hair looking this way after a long hospital stay due to COVID-19. Some had been intubated and in ICU definitely hair wasn't the priority while they were understaffed in the hospitals trying to save lives. Some I was able to untangle, and unfortunately I have given many haircuts myself. No training. Just a caring nursing staff doing our best. Much love to anyone helping these people save their hair
@@rebelamanda yes! They are always so grateful, and I'm happy to say I'm now in cosmetology school. I've been inspired to change careers. I love doing hair.
I’m glad there are people out there like Hadassa. She is a blessing. I had severe weight-loss related alopecia after losing 140lbs, and had to shave my whole head. It was demoralizing but soon after, it became my source of power. A symbol of starting a healthy, new life. I don’t regret it and would buzz it again.
I have a very short ( about 1 inch length)because of obsessive hair cutting. Started during Covid just got worse and i kept chopping felt like a compulsion, till my hair was very messed up. Though my hair is super short i feel peace of mind i hope to be able to grow it out now without the obsession that i had before.
This is EXACTLY why I am going into this industry. I want to help people feel good, comfortable and safe while lifting them up and helping them feel like themselves again, AND CONFIDENT 🥰
@@youparejo thank you! I've been doing my own hair and friends and family for 20 years now ( since 11 ) and I'm just now finally committing to this profession. I want to open an art studio and salon combo and open my doors to local artists ( of all types) who don't have studio space. I'd like to use it as a creative space as well as a place to host art galas, exhibits, and work / network with other professionals within the industry. The end goal would be using my influence and creative space as a means to branch into charity work and anthropology 🥰
@@catherinemobbs5916 sending all my good vibes for your project 🥰 You know why you re doing it and you have a vision. You should definitely write it down or make a vision board to remind you of your end goals!
This woman is out here literally changing these women's lives. As someone who is tender-headed and also used to get knots when I was a teenager and hated brushing my hair, I can only imagine the amount of patience Hadassa must have. I detangle my daughter's 2C hair and it's SO time-consuming.
as someone with severe depression that waxes and wanes - THANK YOU. Sometimes, its suddenly been 3 weeks and you haven't brushed your hair or teeth. It's so embarrassing for us and to have people be so understanding and kind probably meant A LOT to these people.
I truly understand! I have 2 kids and they are kept almost too clean but I have really severe depression too, so my hair especially, just isn't a thing I want to tackle! Just know you're not alone and I'm so proud of you for opening up and speaking about something that we both know, could get a ton of hate. You're amazing 🥰💛😁
I’ve been in bed for one month now. I know exactly what you mean. I can’t seem to bring myself to do anything for myself right now. I’m drowning in sadness
@@ketokronik9769 - Keto, my hair is long and matted too. I hate it. Last week I made myself wash it and use conditioner. I sat down in front of the TV and watched a good old movie. I didn’t last long on the detangling because my head and arms were hurting. Then I tried it again, same thing happened. I have lots of matting from sleeping in a bun and I don’t have anyone to help me. I am getting desperate now because it’s so ugly. But now I am going to try Olive Oil instead of conditioner. I heard if we use oil and sleep in a shower cap, the oil will soften our hair and make it easy to untangle. Please try some kind of oil and sleep with it in your hair. I’ll try to find this place again and tell how it works! If it doesn’t, next I will try another oil. Good Luck 🍀 to us all!
@@ketokronik9769 - Well here I am and still have not started on my hair yet, again. I have such a mental problem with beginning to work out the matting problem in my hair. But I did see an encouraging video about mixing Olive Oil or Vegetable Oil with water in a spray bottle. I finally found a small spray bottle I can use so I am going to attempt it again. 🍀 All I need is a good old movie to watch and to make up a mixture and begin. I just need to force myself to get started but I’m very afraid of failure yet I’m tired of not being able to even scratch my head. Plus, it’s cold here and I don’t want to get a cold. It’s a daunting, scary thing and I am mad at myself for letting my hair get this messed up. I am ashamed and I know my mother would never have allowed this to happen. But you have inspired me to attempt it again, so thank you. My hair is long and straight and I won’t mind cutting it some as soon as I get enough tangles and matting out to cut it shorter. Thank you again for your inspiration and Good Luck 🍀 to all of us! 😘
As I watch this video, I am detangling a huge knot in my hair, i watch these to make me feel better about it as i have just come out of a huge depression and have been lacking motivation to take care of myself. I know how hard it is to deal with this and im so glad that their are people to help.
I relate to the first lady so much, I was so deep into my addiction & depression that I kept my hair in a bun for probably at least a month or two. (Can’t remember exactly) Eventually I went to a salon & they told me they couldn’t do anything. I felt absolutely horrible. I just went home & ended up having to cut most of it off. I am SO proud of her, it takes a lot of courage & strength to ask for help like this because I know exactly how embarrassing it can be. I’m wishing her the absolute best. ❤️🩹
I’ve lost a lot of hair bc of my eating disorder, due to lack of vitamins and not washing or combing my hair for days. Also diagnosed with depression and anxiety, and I keep losing a lot of hair I don’t even want to comb my hair anymore. I’m on an antidepressant pill for over a month, I don’t know how long will I have to take it. But I feel better now, eating disorders could take years to cure but my anxiety and depression are better than before. Last year I couldn’t even manage to wake up and go to the bathroom, this year I made some friends and can manage to go to school every day. Maybe these are so normal for other people, but all of these meant a lot to me. I believe that we will be better and happier soon. 🌸💕
@@lila5137 I’m so glad to hear that you’re feeling better! I know for me it took years to finally start feeling normal again. I still have those depressive episodes where I feel pretty anxious & depressed, but it’s definitely better than before. Keep doing what you’re doing & try to keep that positive mindset, you got this! I’m really proud of you. 🫶🏻💗
I’m a stylist and this is one of the things that people are referred to me for. It takes hours but you can save their hair! I’m always so happy for the client when we get done!
I went through a depressed stage where I didn't wash or brush my hair for two weeks, I would just throw it up in a bun. When I finally brushed it out I had a lump of hair the size of my palm. You don't know what people are going through, always be kind. ♥️
The woman whose channel he's featuring is one of the sweetest people on YT period. I've followed her since the beginning and shes really the kind of person that I'd aspire to be more like. Shes nonjudgmental and does this from a place of love. Wishing her nothing but the best as well as her clients. It takes a special person to do the things shes doing for these women.
I'm gonna be honest, I'm so impatient, when I realized I was letting my long hair get all matted, I just shaved everything to let it grow all new. So good job for all those people who take the time and energy to battle those knots, it's incredible!
Ha! Not the only one! Just started watching and with the first woman I was like "Omg, that she's willing to go through this ... at this point I would've just cut it all of and went with an undercut for a while, until it regrows ...
My daughter went through this. She had anxiety so thank you Brad for disclaiming the “no judgment”. My stylist went through 2, two hour sessions to detangle not including the time went we spent to to detangle. 😢
I have really severe depression and Love518 has genuinely meant so much to me with how she tackles these situations with compassion and, well, love. She brings me tears and is an amazing person 💙
Currently untangling my own matted hair that has been matted for months and needed a video that made me not feel so alone in this. The hair falling out is really disheartening 😭
The irony that I’m watching this while on day 7 of brushing out my severely matted depression hair (4 months of matting)! 👀👀👀 I’m making good progress though! 💖 To anyone in a similar position - yes it is difficult, painful, and extremely time consuming, but you can save your hair without cutting it. I’ve been in this situation countless times (20 years of depression) and I’ve always managed to save my hair (with hair loss admittedly). You’ve got this! 💖💖💖
You can do it! I’ve been there and it’s hard and feels shameful but you have no need to feel ashamed. You are sick and you’re doing what you can to help yourself get better however little at a time. You’ll get through it and feel much better after and just know you are definitely not alone and there are people out here who care 💛
can you tell me what you do to get the matts out? do you do that apple cider vinegar rinse and then im assumng soak it with conditioner... i too have about 4-6 months of matted hair that i really need to tackle.
I have had my hair in knots before from being on meth and twisting my hair for hours at a time. This woman is truly amazing and such a true hero for doing this for others! She needs an award!!
Takes a long time to get back to our true selves. A little step in the right direction is simply building without breaking. So impressed with your strength!!❤
i havent done mine for at least 8 wks. its hard because my pwnic disorder n depression do not care. positive n love to everyone who sees this. you deserve it.... not the person. next to u or behine .. YOU AS U DESERVE ALL THE B3ST LIFE HAS TO 0FFER ❤❤❤❤
That final client's finished reveal made me cry. I cannot imagine the RELIEF she felt at being free from her hair again. The world needs more compassionate people like Hadassa. Thank you for sharing her with your audience, Brad. I'm so glad you learned from her and can take that into your work too
I immediately got up from bed and brushed my hair while watching this video. I would never judge any of the women in this video or anyone else suffering from this, depression is real. I hope everyone feels better in whatever situation they’re in, as well as myself 💞
I struggle to maintain my hair, it’s so hard, so matting has happened to me a lot. I try to keep my hair shorter so it happens less. I’m grateful to people like this hairdresser who don’t sensationalise, and just do their best to just make people feel better.
I had hair down to my waist....when I finally pulled myself out of the addiction and depression I was in, I ended up having to get most of it cut off....I was able to get clean and pull myself together by myself so my hair being gone was kind of liberating and made me feel like I was a completely new person who was proud of herself for the first time in her life.
There are so many reasons someone might end up with their hair in this state, she shouldn’t be embarrassed! She should be so PROUD of how far she has come. What a monumental struggle she has gone through, I wish her all the best.
That woman deserves an award!!! She is a saint!!!!! The fact that anyone else would just say "cut it off" and she's like no, I can save your hair!!! Beyond awesome!!! God bless those hands!!!
At the lowest point of my life my hair was extremely matted. I will forever be grateful to my mom, who was always there to help me brush through the matted clumps. ❤ this hairdresser is doing so much more than just detangling hair she is helping people through the process of healing.
It is so interesting bc my daughter and I suffer from tender heads and brushing can be almost a traumatic experience, but my daughter's hair tangles easy, like SO EASY! If I don't brush it 2x a day and braid her hair after each brush, her hair will have a huge knot and ball of hair in the back just like the first women you see. And me having severe depression I don't brush my hair as often as I should sometimes as I am just making sure that my kids are taken care of... But it will also do this now... But I can sympathize with her as addiction is usually fueled by depression or other mental health issues. So proud she is getting help and she found this lady!
I haven't finished the video so I'm not sure if they mentioned it but I'm going through the same with my daughter and read rubbing the scalp helps 4 minutes daily, I also read it could be from oily or dry scalp but I think for us its dry so I'm going to rub in coconut oil. Someone mentioned vinegar down below for matted hair as well.. some things to look into. Are yall doing any better with a hair routine? I'm struggling to even start
The flylady program reminded me that our kids are watching what we do and our attitude, too. We aren't perfect, but at least our kids can see that we didn't give up on them... or ourselves
A while back my psychologist told me that most of the psychologists take DHA instead of the prescriptions. That was a while back so maybe they found something better but meanwhile it does still work.
She's so kind and caring and giving people their dignity back,I'm sure these people have been judged unkindly by strangers. The acid in the vinegar would break down the oils,dirt and debris in hair,without damaging the actual hair, as the baking soda acts a neutralizer,never soak your hair in straight vinegar alone. I hope these ladies are all doing better emotionally❤🙏❤
As someone who has personally been here, I would also love to help anyone that is going through this awful situation. I contemplated getting my hair cut off and buying extensions or a wig. I decided to try saving my hair first and after a week of detangling it by myself, I got it done. It was a terrible experience but that hard work deterred me from going down that path again. Depression sucks and it’s sucks worse when you realize not only the mental damage but the physical as well. Detangling my hair was the first step towards healing my depressive state. After I freed my hair, the rest of me started to become free from the bondage of depression as well.
While institutionalized for severe depression, the founder of Flylady got into a habit of fixing her hair, dressing, and putting on makeup and shoes. So that's one of the first things she teaches now, to get other people into the habit taking care of themselves and their house and family. My psychologist studied her program and thought that it looked like it would be helpful to a lot of people and I think it has. There's more to it, but I guess the whole thing started with one lady taking care of her hair when she really didn't feel like it.
Oh my goodness ❤️ Bless these people - they are so brave for sharing their journey. I’m so glad that Brad is showing this & addressing the subject with such compassion and empathy.
This stylist must be an angel. So skilled, so patient, and so encouraging! I’m inspired. Imagine how much these ladies lives were changed through her kindness and healing ❤
My hair used to get tangled a LOT as a kid. This brought back memories of sitting down with my mom, a brush, and detangling spray. Luckily I brush my hair a lot more frequently as an adult. Unfortunately, there are days where my depression gets the better of me and it gets knotted again. This woman is amazing and has incredible patience. She has bettered the world in a way many people may not be able to understand.
@@nikkivanzanen Thanks for the advice! I have never used braiding as a preventative measure before. I will be sure to keep that in mind next time this happens.
@@mars_thee_star I second that. Keeping it in braids and twists, will keep your hair stretched out so it won't kink up and get knotted. I recently had to have my very lovely niece detangle my hair as I had a hand injury and I could not detangle it myself. Due to this, when I went to detangle it weeks later my hair was still stretched and nearly tangle free. Good health fellow folk. 🙂🤘🏾
Brad, thank you for checking your own biases and owning up to things you don’t know. I’m a trauma therapist and many of my clients struggle on a daily basis with some of the things Haddasah’s clients describe, and the amount of shame a person in these situations puts on themselves is already debilitating. Add to that the fear of judgment from a hair dresser who might say something insensitive or not take them seriously when they share they are tender headed… and they may never reach out for help again… you never know if your kindness is the only kindness they have experienced in many years. Women in particular are already told explicitly and through implicit biases on a regular basis that they are overreacting about their own experiences. Or are shamed and blamed for calling people out who treat them poorly…. My point is you never know what any person has gone through or is currently going through and you showing compassion and empathy can literally save someone’s life. I hear stories from my clients about that one person who didn’t pass judgment when everyone else had and helped them rebuild their own belief in themselves.
I had a client when I was new in the business, she came in late at night and I was about to close up shop but I took her to my chair. She had been in the hospital, spare you the details but she had waist length hair and it was up in a bun completely knotted! I tried the best I could to get as much of it detangled but I was so new and that was my first experience with a situation like hers. Eventually I ended up cutting it into a cute bob, I’ve never felt so defeated! She cried but was thankful that I was even willing to try to help. Now I know what I am capable of and I learned a lot from this video!
I love how you can tell that Brad is someone who genuinely loves trying to make people’s hair better and that’s why I trust that whenever I do get his products that I’m putting my money in the right place
The compassion in this comment section is so heartwarming, i teared up a few times scrolling through while I watched the video. I feel like we’ve come such a long way in the last several years when it comes to discussing and understanding mental health issues-it’s hard to believe that it was ever a taboo topic!! We all struggle to some degree and it can feel so isolating…people deserve to know they aren’t alone…that others WANT to help and are more understanding than you might think 🖤
I have extremely curly hair and it gets super matted in just 3 days. Seeing this makes my heart warm and I’m grateful for people like this lady. Mad respect for her
When I was about 13 or 14, I was struggling with basic hygiene tasks, like brushing my hair, due to my Adhd and depression. I have quite thick hair and back then it was also very long, so after maybe half a year I ended up with a matted knot in the back of my head. I could still brush through the top layer and could wear it open pretty normally so I ignored the problem for a while. In the end, it took my mum and me a whole sunday to detangle. I didn't want to cut it out either, so I really appreciate what these detangling angels are doing
Omg I needed this! I had went through a huge depression after my best friend passed away to the point I didn’t have any motivation for anything. Just slept, and worked. And even then, I only talked when I had to. I didn’t brush my hair. At. All. I’m still trying to get the hair situation fixed. I had even tried oils of all kinds and even tried kitchen grease. However, it dried up and basically became a brick in my hair. It was painful and it’s made my head even more sensitive and has made my scalp bleed when trying to get this out. I have now gotten most it out except for the left side of my head. It’s been a journey to say the least. I’m slowly getting out of my depression, but the loss I feel I’m sure will never go away. But I can’t continue to stop living my life, no matter how difficult everything has become.
I’m so sorry, you’re not alone. My best friend also passed away 8 years ago in 2014. I struggled with hair pulling/trichotillomania, and have finally gotten to a point where I can say i have overcame it. Loosing your best friend is so incredibly painful
I love how Hadassa gives her clients such a beautiful face cover so they can feel comfortable with showing off their hair without giving up all anonymity
I love her channel. Many of her clients are people who have let hair maintenance fall by the waist side because they've gone through some very tough times. She transforms them from the inside out and I appreciate you shining some light on her channel. Would love to see you react to some more of those videos. They're so satisfying and you just get that warm fuzzy feeling after watching them.
This video made my heart full and nearly brought me to tears. It’s so beautiful watching these women gain themselves back after going through such dark times. Thank you Hadassa for being a badass. Thank you Brad for bringing attention to her magic. You’re looking like a punk rock Ken today and I’m living for it. 💜
The person who got that hair freed from the dead weight of that shed matted mess is PHENOMENAL & has such immense patience! Whomever you are, you are so wonderful! Thank you for being there to help that woman get through that last leg of her race to overcome the struggle she had been dealing with.
What a beautiful soul this hairdresser has. She’s so caring and understanding and I love how she treats her clients. Sometimes all a person needs is reassurance and an ear to vent to, just to make them feel more better than they did before they talked to that person. ❤
I just found this video and am currently trying to detangle 3 weeks worth of transitional depression matting in order to save my hair for a half wolf, half short pixie cut since the left side of my head is the most severely matted and thus most damaged. This video inspired me to brush through even though I am tender headed with autism and I am already in very deep with my issues, but one all-nighter and early morning later, I feel ready to take the shower that will change me. Brad, thanks for sharing this lady. You helped give me things to watch as I bite on a cloth and brush.
I've been homeless, sometimes you just can't afford to take care of your hair at the moment. So glad there's people out there trying to help people heal like this. Very emotional video ❤️
Man, I have been there. Sometimes depression is so bad and so physically (on top of emotionally) exhausting. It's debilitating. Sometimes taking a shower is too much. Washing your hair is too much. What a wonderful hairdresser and brave lady to face this! 💙
This gave me chills! That woman is a gift. And so much love and positive energy to the clients as well, I know how it is to suffer from depression and just not f#ck with it and it gets out of hand fast. This is so freaking heart warming.
I am so glad to see you share her videos! I have very severe chronic illnesses and I run a chronic illness support group and not being able to brush hair is very common. So many of us have either had to cut our hair off or end up with hair like this. I had an incredible hairdresser help me with mine and tell me what products I could use so I could keep my hair long even if I couldn't always brush it. A little compassion without judgements goes a really long way. So many of us have been shamed at the hairdresser.
I lost my daughter to taking her own life, 1 day before my 50th birthday. My hair is like this. I did go into a deep depression and barely am coming back to life. It will be 5 years this December. Now I am dealing with this. I have for weeks been putting coconut oil, detanglers, and Castor oil. It is as greased up for a few weeks and just taking it one day at a time. Thank you Brad for your compassion at the very beginning. We truly have no idea what others are through. I love you and pray for everyone suffering through life.
What Hadassa does is true compassion and love. She works so hard to help give people back a piece of themselves. Makes my heart feel so warm to know that she shows such kindness to people, and spreads awareness without judgement.
I was going through some stuff and used the wrong product combo on my hair. It immediately tangled really badly and I couldn't handle it so I ignored it for just a week. It took me two hours and a lot of tears to get the matts out. Knowing how horrible that experience was makes this video hit so much harder because it was absolutely nothing compared to what these women had to go through!! I absolutely understand how it got as bad as it did for them because it doesn't take long before it feels impossible to deal with. This woman is a gift of a human and I'm so moved by her kindness and understanding. As a little tip for anyone who has hair that tangles very easily, I found that k-18 has made a huge difference for me, with this problem.
I have anxiety and depression. When I go through a bad spot my hair is the first thing to get neglected. I ended up chopping it off at one point cause I was too embarrassed to ask for help. It’s nice to know there are people out there who don’t judge and are willing to at least try to understand the situation.
Love that you gave some exposure to this. My sister suffers from pretty severe depression and didn't brush her hair for 9 months. It took me 4 hours to cut and detangle it. Gave her a wash and condition and a final cut and she felt so good after.
I’m someone with extremely tangle prone hair. No amount of product would help it keep from being tangled, it would just create rat balls for no reason daily. But then I realized that sleeping in a protective style such as a braid really helps to prevent the knots from happening.
My daughter’s hair is the same way, my hair is thin and fine and so I never knew that hair could tangle like this. We are getting on a good schedule of brushing multiple times daily with detangling products but sleeping in a braid is also a great idea, we will have to try this! Her thick thick hair is gorgeous and all I want is to help her manage it.
I have naturally curly hair that’s down to my waist:) and I can promise you it mats up so easily! I only detangle it with a special wet brush (with like a million gentle bristles) while I am in the bath with conditioner in:) I also sleep with it in a protective style. You can get sprays with silicone, that makes your hair more slippery and easier to untangle 🙃 but the biggest thing I learned was that hair stays in the texture you dry it in! So I’ve become dedicated to blow drying it when I’m done washing it;) it still turns into waves, but it’s no longer clusters of curls waiting every moment for their opportunity to mat 😬
Same, I'm surprised the hairdresser didn't try a deep conditioning mask and heat after clarifying the hair. That's usually the easiest way for me to detangle, the heat helps it penetrate and there's lots of shedding, but at least I could get a comb through. This video is inspiring me to try to detangle my hair, but it's 10pm right now 😢. Maybe tomorrow.
I get what I call "depression hair" which when you go through a spell of depression and you don't brush your hair properly because you can't even get out of bed for weeks at a time, I completely sympathise. Everybody has their problems and it's so sad if you get judged for this. Good for those who understand, and help! X
One of my depressive episodes made me not wash my hair for four weeks, so I'm quite familiar with tangled hair and it makes me so happy that people like her exist
I've always wanted for you to react to this. I had matted hair for about 6 months and it got big and hard, and when i finally got better and went to a hairdresser she said that nothing could be done and just chopped a big chunk of my hair. It has been about a year and a half after that and my hair grew back nicely, but that visit to the hairdresser made me even more depressed. I'm so happy that there's a hairdresser out there (and even more, according to the comments!) who make the effort to spend hours detangling hair
I haven’t washed or combed my hair in almost a month… I was embarrassed but I was just so depressed and drained I just couldn’t motivate myself to do the most basic things. I just combed it for the first time and literally cried because of how much of my hair fell out because of it😢 some days are better than others but I know that I won’t always feel that way forever and watching these videos help me feel like I’m not alone
I go through the same thing when I get depressed. I have bipolar and agoraphobia so I get stuck in bed during depressive episodes. You are not alone and have nothing to be ashamed of!
The hair detox is great if you’re having an allergic reaction and need to get it OUT. When I found out that my scalp was bleeding because of the coconut in shampoo, I did it twice in a week and it helped SO MUCH.
I absolutely love that there is someone out there doing this kind of work for people! She is helping to breath new life into people. When you can feel good about something like your hair, it really can help you to get through some of the difficult things that people are going through sometimes.
Sometimes taking care of yourself is so overwhelming when you're dealing with so much already. It's so wonderful that Hadassa is there to help people who can't manage and get them to a place where they can.
This is heartwarming! I value people like this hairstylist who are judgement free with immense understanding. We all have battles in our lives. You never know what someone’s story is. Much love & appreciation ❤❤❤
Thank you so much for sharing my videos. I truly love what I do. It’s a pleasure to help these beautiful souls regain their confidence and life back. 🥰 BTW I love your reactions videos and told myself one day he will react to my videos and you did 🥹 manifestation at its finest. Thank you for bringing awareness to this situation and being so understanding. ❤
Thank you Hadassa!
You're so awesome !! I am so happy to see all those people leaving with a huge rock off their chest. Again, thank you for being so awesome.
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You are literally an angel! These videos brought tears to my eyes. I'm a nurse and have met so many people with matted hair. It was so helpful to see your process.
God. Bless. You. ❤️
I love that the hairdresser tries to keep the privacy of the client with the floral face covers. It’s so thoughtful and I have a lot of respect for her for doing that!
@@felinemoonchild the woman also probably didnt want her face shown
@@madiannc we know what they mean is they wish there wasn’t judgemental ppl out there
Same
It's fucking stupid of them to hide their faces 😒😑
All I can say is the awesome person who took on this task is nothing LESS than an ANGEL 👼🏻 to take the time it took to de tangle that hair in my opinion is the TRUE meaning of love your neighbor as you love yourself!!!
My mom is a hairdresser. Went to school for it.
It just so happens that when I’m in a bad depressive episode, my hair is the first thing to get neglected. My worst time was after 6 months of not brushing my hair. I was in hell. I felt so bad. Nothing was interesting. Nothing felt right. And seeing my hair set into the shape of my ponytail just made me so angry with myself. Eventually, I was up and doing things, but I couldn’t even look at myself.
My mom spent… about 6-7 hours just untangling my hair. I just sat there in silence.
But after that grueling experience… I’ve started to feel so much better. Now my hair is healthy. I brush it every day. We do treatments on it. I’m learning how to care for it.
Sometimes, there’s just that one thing.
I need your mom 🙏🏻
That's great for you.
How are you now ?
@@taeko3508 I’m doing a lot better now, thankfully. I still have my days, but now I have better ways to cope with my stress and I understand how to take care of myself better.
@@systemiclizard3101 So how do you copes with stress?
I am the same, I recently went through the single most horrible situation in my life and fell into a months-long depressive episode, I didn't brush my very curly hair for two months, so my aunt, a retired hairdresser of 60 years, came out of retirement just to cut the massive and unwanted dreadlock that had formed in my hair. It's true thda as a depressive, my hair is the very last thing I care about, it's all the struggle I can handle just to get out of bed and take my dog out. The hair becomes meaningless to me.
In the rock bottom of my depression last year I didn’t wash my hair for three weeks and it became one giant knot and it was when I sat there crying and trying to brush it out that I realised how bad my mental health had become. I’m so glad this lady is helping others with zero judgement and out of the kindness of her heart. We all deserve another chance and we all deserve hair we can be happy with.
I hope you are doing better. I know how depression goes and its not easy to get through.
@@ravenrose6672 I really am, thank you!!
Proud of you for getting through that time. Depression is very hard and so very real. Stay strong, you are worth it!!
This is a very sweet comment 😊 and I hope your mental health is getting better!
I hope your mental health is improving. Self care it overwhelming when you are struggling with depression
When I was in rehab, I met a woman that had matted hair. She told me her story, and said no one could get it untangled, or no one wanted to take the time to help. I told her I could do it for her (we didn't have any rattail combs, just flimsy ones) and it took about 3 hours but was very rewarding for the both of us. This is just one reason why I want to be a hairdresser.
Hi that was kind of you, I hope you are looking after yourself and attempting your dreams….🌸🌹🌺
What a labor of love! Thank you for taking the time to care for someone and allowing them to to hopefully continue on a positive path to bettering themselves. I can only imagine how her hair was holding her back, and taking away from her sense of self.
I hope that you continue to work towards your goal! It sounds like you would be really good in that profession. Also, I hope whatever led you to rehab, that you are continuing on that journey of recovery. And be proud of your self, rehab and recovery is no joke.
Wishing you all the good things, it sounds like you definitely deserve good things.
You are an angel
Ok you're amazing. You probably changed that woman's entire life by such a kind gesture. Keep being the light you clearly are!
I love this and thank you for sharing ❤️
Studies have showed that women confide in trusted stylists about substance & domestic abuse more than anyone else in their lives. Some areas offer free training to stylists to be able to help women.
When I was a teenager my mom took me to one of those walk in hair salons because I had a big mat of hair and we just wanted it gone so figured go somewhere where they could hopefully chop it off but make it look somewhat decent. I have thick curly hair and the mat was tucked up by my skin instead of further down near the ends so we were at a loss of what to do.
Anyway we go in and the amazing woman who got saddled with me as her client said no, we’re not cutting it. She detangled my hair for nearly 4 hours.
She was amazing.
Awh thats amazing, im glad she was able to save your hair
That’s amazing. I go through depressive episodes where it gets hard to brush my hair, teeth (have had to have complete implants as they rotted out), take a shower and/or shave. If you see leg hair you know why.
When I went to rehab at 17, we spent 18 hours taking out my matts. We salvaged all that we could and I could see a part of myself come alive again. The hairdresser that saved my life, her name is Kelly, those 18 hours stripped me of the shame I had on my head, thank you forever Kelly💕💞🙌🏼
I hope you are doing well 🙏🏻
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No shame. You've got this, hun 💕
What did you go to rehab for?
This is what we need more of in this world humans helping humans - I hope you are doing well now
This is the part of depression, trauma and/or addiction that people truly don’t understand. It’s so nice to see so much compassion towards people who are just trying their best to survive. ❤
I haven't washed my hair in 3 months😥.
My MIL had the same problem - depression hit her hard for months, and she started wrapping her hair just to get it out of the way. It got so matted and she's tender-scalped. It took short bursts over weeks, but we finally got her hair prettied up again. It means so much that she didn't have to cut it.
Yeah 😮🥺
@@joy7218 treat yourself to a relaxing shampoo
i once took care of a girl with anorexia and her hair was really long and matted. i was in nursing school at the time, so i asked my instructor if i could skip other stuff that day and work on her hair. my instructor allowed it, so i spent a while detangling and gently brushing her hair out while talking to her. we then washed it, dried it, and i braided it for her. people were so focused on what she was eating, they forgot the person in front of them. i hope she's doing okay.
❤ thank you for doing that
Hi! As someone who had matted hair for almost 5 years (from my 8th grade year till I graduated high school) I can truly say without a doubt this woman has helped so many people gain their confidence back and helped them feel a sense of relief. I was severely depressed and just didn’t brush my hair. Once it got bad I started to feel bad about myself and wanted to brush it out, it wasn’t that simple. It’s a very painful long process and no matter how long I brushed and what methods I tried on myself it took so long and was just too much for me to do on my own as a teenager. I felt trapped and that made my depression spiral. So I felt upset and was bullied over it all throughout school. My senior year right before I was about to graduate I finally had someone reach out and offer to help me with my hair. She took me to a hair stylist and paid a pretty penny to help me get my hair back to normal hair, and for her and the hair stylist both I am so grateful. They truly were a light in my life because I would have never got to fix it, and was set on shaving it off. You feel so trapped and upset when you have matted hair, it’s almost impossible to be happy. For anyone reading this having matted hair, you’re not alone. I wish more people understood the circumstances people go through. I thought I was the only person in the world who had gone through what I did, and having my hair matted like that as a high schooler. When I saw this video it brought a lot of joy to me to see these people get their hair fixed. If you are struggling with hair matted please don’t give up, please know you’re not alone, and please focus on loving yourself because you are so important, and you are so much more than just your hair. Your hair doesn’t define you, but don’t beat yourself up over it. Things happen and life is hard. You are strong. You are amazing. You are so deserving of happiness.
Love this comment so much💜 Yes yes yes to everything you said👏
You are amazing, hun. I'm so sorry that you have gone through so much but I'm overjoyed that you got help and you have learned some really important lessons. Much love and many blessings upon you 💙
I hope that throughout your lifetime, you will always be able to reach out to others who are struggling. You are a beacon of hope ❤
i hope bots don’t find this comment :/ i’m so happy for you and that you got your life back 🫂
This was me!
Ive been going back and forth between either super gorgeous hair or depressive birds nest. Always at least a year of matting when it was bad.
Im mixed race so also have super curly hair...i swear it tangles if I sneeze🤣 (black, native, european curly)
My mom would try to help but my scalp is super sensitive so i rarely let people touch it.
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My mom found a salon where the owners were an interracial couple both black and Europan partners had curly hair and their sons hair texture was like mine.
I finally figured out how to do my hair from them!
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The last time it was bad was before my wedding (depresson from in law problems) now my husband reminds me to detangle my hair in the mornings and ive been good ever since
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It sucks though cuz of my sensitive scalp it can make me cry
But id rather tear up daily than have that matting again
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And aragon oil had become my best friend🤣
I did this for a friend who was in an abusive situation and extremely depressed. Took a few days of her coming over and me working through it, but we saved her hair! She had hair down to her butt which made it extra challenging. Definitely a long but rewarding process.
Aw, what a great friend you must be :)
I understand your ego was not part of the process, but you are awesome for helping your friend feel awesome!!❤
Wow! Definitely hard work there. Good job!
missolivehead
I can relate I did the exact same thing the hair was thick curly and down to the butt length that was murder lol
I had a friend who brushed my hair every time we got together. Honestly, I appreciated it so much. Depression hair is no joke!
Hadassa is a modern day Saint. I've been watching her for years, knowing the exposure she will get from this warms my heart. So many people in need (she helps men too!) will learn of detangling services. This is probably one of Brad's most positively impactful videos for the amount of people who will be helped.
What she said about depression manifesting in different ways, is so true! Mine came out in the form of picking my skin. My legs are covered in scars that look like mosquito bites, some are pretty deep too! I love this womans attitude, she is awesome! ❤
Aw, honey! 😢 I feel so sad for you :(
Its ok, I'm on a very good path now! But thanx 🧡
@@mama_b_7525 😢 i was in the same boat two years ago… scars all over my legs and arms, but things really do get better. I think finding a reason to live is the most important thing. Mine is my cat and my little brothers. I would never leave them, so now i look on the bright side. Just wanted to let you know, you’re not alone!
Yikes, dermatillomania is a horrifying BFRB. Not meaning that people with dermatillomania or other BFRB’s are horrifying. But the conditions are. They (in most cases) make you feel ashamed of yourself, often even disgusted, yet you can’t help but pick at your skin (in this case with dermatillomania). Feeling these bad feelings about yourself because of the BFRB, while not judging others with dermatillomania or another BFRB at all. It is such a crazy vicious circle. Trichotillomania is a little more known (as far as I know at least) than dermatillomania. Not sure if it is true. But these BFRB’s being so unknown doesn’t help either. People don’t know how to help. So they often keep saying to (just) stop it (while they “catch” you doing it) which has the complete opposite effect and only makes you feel worse.
I am so happy for and proud of you and anyone who overcame it! Or is just working on it, just working on it is a big step already.
Personally I am still working on it myself. While I have the most realizations, I still am not able to stop (yet). Hopefully somewhere in the near future.
You are strong, you are beautiful, you are amazing!!! ❤️ Sending love!
Girl, same. My back and face are a MESS! I finally got on antibiotics to help calm things down but I have to avoid mirrors at all costs when things are bad. I ran out of meds for 2 months about a year ago and I bloodied my face. I could not walk away. Things are much better now but it's a daily struggle. Body makeup helps but hey, it's almost jeans and tights weather! Stay strong 💜🌈
I'm obsessed with that woman's channel. She's so sweet and obviously amazing at what she does. She's so positive, and never ever shames her clients for their hair's condition, and urges empathy from her viewers. As I'm getting older, and the world is just more and more messed up, I really enjoy watching all of these positive videos, it's part of MY self care!
Same Tina
I'm so glad I found it
I have a friend who was in a depressive episode and couldn’t shower because it scared her. She would go weeks without showering and the amount of hair she pulled out when she did shower freaked her out. I just talked to her about how much hair you lose on a daily basis and it’s ok to lose hair. It changed her whole outlook.
i'm in that state rn any tips to get back on track
@@FireFang97 First, remember that it’s not going to last forever. I like to have a podcast or a movie to listen to while I’m in the shower. Sometimes I have to just do the bare minimum and know it’s ok that my legs are hairy but I always feel better afterwards. Sometimes washing up in the sink is ok too.
@@GwynneDear thank you I'm gonna try that when I get off work
@@FireFang97I hope you’re doing well❤
@@Wgg132I'm doing better not quite out of it and a cold certainly doesn't help but I'm getting there
I must say, it is fun watching you learning about a side of hair dressing that you don't know much about. The whole detangling thing is often a very emotional process. People get in these situations because they've been through something huge. Trauma, loss, depression, so having someone put so much time into helping you get back to your best self is a big moment. Even if you are paying them.
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i love that brad always admits and is excited that there's always more he can learn about the craft that he loves so much! thats honestly super inspiring to me
I have to say to Brad watching your video of the detangling hair is giving me some hope. My hair is past my buttocks & 1 length. I wouldn't be in this circumstance had I just settled on a Super Cuts or Cost Cutters hair appointment per what my BF said he'd pay for, although in the past visits w/ him paying for my haircut & color at these places, I end up leaving w/ not at all what I asked for & I heard you on 1 of your videos Brad...."Dont cut hair dry." I know this & I'm not even a hairdresser. God Bless you. He gave you a talent. Thank you for the detangling Video. This hairdresser that you shared w/ many viewers should feel blessed. Educating others is powerful. You do a fabulous job at it. My daughter & I will continue to watch you as well as the hairdresser who detangled those women's hair. God Bless her as well. The 2 of yo should team up! But everytime I go to 1 of those less expensive hair cutting places, I end up w/ a messed up longer hair on 1 side of my head than the other side. The hair color has turned out wrong & splotchy. Due to being physically ill & taking time away from my career in life, I have been left dependent on my BF's financial help, which is grueling to me. Always been financially independent & a helper. Im a Nurse. If my friends or family saw my mess on top of my head, they would cringe & say what is happening to you??? Yes, nothing but judgement. Lately due to very stressful situation in my relationship, I have been pressured up-and-down for numerous things which leads be no time to take care of myself. After a shower or washing my long long hair I twisted up in a bun and clip it. And it's not just one hair clip it's 4 or 5 clips holding my heavy hair up. Within 3 weeks I realized I need to call my hair out. This is how fast hair tangles. It was so tight in the bun on my head it as I've gotten sick for one of the 3 weeks. Yes the constant motion of rubbing your head back-and-forth on a pillow and/or doing nothing but Pinning up loose ends of hair around the bun I eventually realized I'm not gonna get this out at all. Halloween weekend was the 2nd week it was tangled and by the 3rd week I was sick in bed. I feel hopeless helpless no self esteem and a boyfriend Whose city help me get the tangles out But after sitting down And my daughter watching him she said mom haven't stopped cause hes ripping your hair out and I did feel it you do become tender headed with very long hair and when it knots up like this. I would post a picture but I'm very embarrassed of what I look like at this point.
I am thanking you from the bottom of my heart For posting not just the butterfly cut that my daughter and I watch this weekend but as well as putting this leather hairdresser up and educating the public. I'm kindly asking people please don't judge like my doctor judged me. She told me Last month please do not come in my office with a towel wrapped around your head again I don't wanna see that. Never mind asking me what is going on or what happened? People please don't judge nobody knows why people's hair get wrapped up Into large knots. I can say this it's cost me over a $100 just in over the counter conditioners and some of these tips with the vinegar baking soda salt water all is gonna help since I live in Colorado and we do have lime build-up in our water. Thank you to all of the comments I read all of thank you Brad For displaying the video and adding your professional comments and having the empathy. Empathy is so important and so many people lack it in this world. Could you imagine if there was more people with empathy would there be as many of us with knots all our heads? Maybe it like I read in one comment Another woman helped another woman Get out of the mess she felt like she was in and trust me you feel like you're a little miniature you in the middle of that knot on your head. Wish me luck guys I'm going to tackle some of it today but I must get off this comment Thread or I could write forever. Love always God-bless those who help others.
Sorry, all In my comments read above I do have some typos. I'm a quick typer and I should have proof Read it Before Posting it. My bad. There's nothing Worse and trying to figure out what someone's trying to say but I think everybody Can put the senses together to figure out what I was saying. OK going to do docs to find my hair to start yes I'm going to add that step and then go back in With some of The good Detangling sprays & conditioners......🤕Pray for Me 🙏, please.
This video confirms that Hadassa and Brad are the kind of people that you want as your friends. Supportive, non-judgmental, ready to learn and help when they aren't the experts, and ready to step in and show how it's done when they are.
Unless you're tenderheaded lmao (or we call it headsore in the UK!)
@felixhenson9926 I know really cold water can help with scalp pain if Tenderheaded & u're trying to detangle hair..😊😊
What a wonderful person the hairdresser is 💕She treats all of her clients with such kindness and respect
Agreed
As someone who works at a rehab center, we see a lot of matting from long hospital stays. Being unable to get out of bed and only move your head, matts form on the back and work their way up. Most recently, a woman came in with the back of her head super matted and a coworker and I spent a long time detangling so that they wouldn’t shave her head when she got back to her ALF. Imagine out surprise when it turned out she had waist long hair!
Hospital staff members are supposed to bathe and clean patients in hospitals but they're typically under staffed so it's a hard thing to do for some hospitals
Thank you for the work you do! It truly takes a special person to work in that field and to help people.
I’m in that EXACT situation right now! Stroke survivor, about 1.5 years, and waist length hair. I don’t want to cut it off, I’ve managed to brush through some, but I get so tired. This tiredness from moving is still wayyy better than only being able to move my eyes though 😅.
wow, that's so kind ♡ may I ask what ALF means?
@@addie1080 I assume ALF is Assisted Living Facility. At least that is the acronym we utilize at my work.
When I was in cosmetology school i had a husband who brought his wife in (both old enough to be my grandparents (late 60s early 70s). She had suffered a stroke and could no longer do self care and this poor man tried his best to take care of her but couldnt take care of her hair and when she came in her entire head was matted and there was all kinds of debris in it because he had issues washing it with all the knots. I spent 2 sessions (about 4-5 hours each time detangling her hair, shampoo and conditioning, and re-dying her roots and the look on her face made me feel like i did something special. People go through all kinds of trauma and life situations and the amount of joy that can come from just the basics is amazing. This woman is amazing for the help she is giving people
I remember finding this woman when I got my extensions taken out and 2 hairdressers refused to help me with my matting… She actually gave me the confidence and patience to sit there and do it myself. She’s saved more heads of hair then she even knows! ❤
I‘d break down if hairdressers would reject me after I build up the courage to go there.
I don't ever talk about this, but given the topic of this video and the fact that these women shared their stories and put themselves out there, I just want other people who may experience or have experienced a similar journey to know that they are not alone like I thought I was. I went through a time where I was living out of a car with a friend, struggling with addiction. I didn't shower for a few weeks and had given up on life. I was extremely depressed. I had long, thick curly hair and not maintaining it, it ended up where I couldn't brush it out. I covered my hair and was so embarrassed and ashamed. My hair started to fall out and I ended up having to come to the realization that I had lost my long curly hair, which was the one thing I actually liked about myself. I felt so alone like who lets this happen to them I thought? I eventually realized that I needed to not let this weigh me down and accept whatever I had to do to let it go even if it meant shaving it off. I cut off my hair myself and luckily at that point, my hair had grown back in the parts it had fallen out. It's been almost 2 years since I cut my hair and it's back to how it was before. It was a very long, lonely journey. So to those of you who are going through something similar, I know it is hard to have to let go, face yourself and be vulnerable to the world, but I promise you, it is worth it in the end. You don't have to be alone. There are people that care and who won't judge even though it may seem like there's nobody at all who understands. I know I went through this for a reason. I've learned so much by having to confront myself. It'll be okay. If someone like me can go through it, then I know you can.
Thank you for posting x
So raw, so honest. I wish I had the courage to be me. Not enough words to say how you have inspired me to try. Thank You.
Thank you for this 💛
So glad you made it through 💛 Good job at bettering yourself and keep up the good work 💛
Thanks for sharing, I'm in recovery myself. So happy and proud of you! 😊
Being a new mom , and having curly hair…. It’s so easy to “neglect “ one’s locks . Life gets in the way . And my hair got so matted when I detangled it so much of it broke off. So don’t ever judge people… it’s not intended to get that far . I’m so glad these ladies managed to get their hair saved by a hair angel.
Fully agree! I have naturally 3c hair and infant twins. I've been having to keep my hair braided up because I don't have time for normal maintainence on it.
This hairdresser is incredible! 💗 She is not just detangling hair, she is giving her clients a fresh start, and helping them heal. Yes queen! 💞
Between hair loss and dead skin cells, it's not difficult to see how these clumps can develop. Hadassas's patience, compassion, and determination are so admirable.
Omg I am a CNA at a LTC/rehab facility and I can't tell you how many patients I've had admitted in the last 2 years with their hair looking this way after a long hospital stay due to COVID-19. Some had been intubated and in ICU definitely hair wasn't the priority while they were understaffed in the hospitals trying to save lives. Some I was able to untangle, and unfortunately I have given many haircuts myself. No training. Just a caring nursing staff doing our best. Much love to anyone helping these people save their hair
Thank you for all you do…
That's really sweet of you. They must appreciate it more than they can say
@@rebelamanda yes! They are always so grateful, and I'm happy to say I'm now in cosmetology school. I've been inspired to change careers. I love doing hair.
I’m glad there are people out there like Hadassa. She is a blessing. I had severe weight-loss related alopecia after losing 140lbs, and had to shave my whole head. It was demoralizing but soon after, it became my source of power. A symbol of starting a healthy, new life. I don’t regret it and would buzz it again.
Congratulations on your weight loss! You’re amazing
I have a very short ( about 1 inch length)because of obsessive hair cutting. Started during Covid just got worse and i kept chopping felt like a compulsion, till my hair was very messed up. Though my hair is super short i feel peace of mind i hope to be able to grow it out now without the obsession that i had before.
Yes I love that attitude! I bet you looked amazing with it.
This is EXACTLY why I am going into this industry. I want to help people feel good, comfortable and safe while lifting them up and helping them feel like themselves again, AND CONFIDENT 🥰
This is amazing !
@@youparejo thank you! I've been doing my own hair and friends and family for 20 years now ( since 11 ) and I'm just now finally committing to this profession. I want to open an art studio and salon combo and open my doors to local artists ( of all types) who don't have studio space. I'd like to use it as a creative space as well as a place to host art galas, exhibits, and work / network with other professionals within the industry. The end goal would be using my influence and creative space as a means to branch into charity work and anthropology 🥰
@@catherinemobbs5916 i absolutely love this. i hope it happens for you because i would love to visit someday!
That is so awesome ❤
@@catherinemobbs5916 sending all my good vibes for your project 🥰 You know why you re doing it and you have a vision. You should definitely write it down or make a vision board to remind you of your end goals!
This woman is out here literally changing these women's lives.
As someone who is tender-headed and also used to get knots when I was a teenager and hated brushing my hair, I can only imagine the amount of patience Hadassa must have. I detangle my daughter's 2C hair and it's SO time-consuming.
as someone with severe depression that waxes and wanes - THANK YOU. Sometimes, its suddenly been 3 weeks and you haven't brushed your hair or teeth. It's so embarrassing for us and to have people be so understanding and kind probably meant A LOT to these people.
I truly understand! I have 2 kids and they are kept almost too clean but I have really severe depression too, so my hair especially, just isn't a thing I want to tackle! Just know you're not alone and I'm so proud of you for opening up and speaking about something that we both know, could get a ton of hate. You're amazing 🥰💛😁
I’ve been in bed for one month now. I know exactly what you mean. I can’t seem to bring myself to do anything for myself right now. I’m drowning in sadness
@@ketokronik9769 - Keto, my hair is long and matted too. I hate it. Last week I made myself wash it and use conditioner. I sat down in front of the TV and watched a good old movie. I didn’t last long on the detangling because my head and arms were hurting. Then I tried it again, same thing happened. I have lots of matting from sleeping in a bun and I don’t have anyone to help me. I am getting desperate now because it’s so ugly. But now I am going to try Olive Oil instead of conditioner. I heard if we use oil and sleep in a shower cap, the oil will soften our hair and make it easy to untangle. Please try some kind of oil and sleep with it in your hair. I’ll try to find this place again and tell how it works! If it doesn’t, next I will try another oil. Good Luck 🍀 to us all!
@@holidays4825 thank you so much for the encouraging words. Means more than you’ll ever know. Thanks for the hair detangling tips also 🙏🏾
@@ketokronik9769 - Well here I am and still have not started on my hair yet, again. I have such a mental problem with beginning to work out the matting problem in my hair. But I did see an encouraging video about mixing Olive Oil or Vegetable Oil with water in a spray bottle. I finally found a small spray bottle I can use so I am going to attempt it again. 🍀 All I need is a good old movie to watch and to make up a mixture and begin. I just need to force myself to get started but I’m very afraid of failure yet I’m tired of not being able to even scratch my head. Plus, it’s cold here and I don’t want to get a cold. It’s a daunting, scary thing and I am mad at myself for letting my hair get this messed up. I am ashamed and I know my mother would never have allowed this to happen. But you have inspired me to attempt it again, so thank you. My hair is long and straight and I won’t mind cutting it some as soon as I get enough tangles and matting out to cut it shorter. Thank you again for your inspiration and Good Luck 🍀 to all of us! 😘
Mad respect for Hadassa and her clients. ❤️
And a big thank you to Brad for bringing this to our attention. 💙
As I watch this video, I am detangling a huge knot in my hair, i watch these to make me feel better about it as i have just come out of a huge depression and have been lacking motivation to take care of myself. I know how hard it is to deal with this and im so glad that their are people to help.
I relate to the first lady so much, I was so deep into my addiction & depression that I kept my hair in a bun for probably at least a month or two. (Can’t remember exactly) Eventually I went to a salon & they told me they couldn’t do anything. I felt absolutely horrible. I just went home & ended up having to cut most of it off. I am SO proud of her, it takes a lot of courage & strength to ask for help like this because I know exactly how embarrassing it can be. I’m wishing her the absolute best. ❤️🩹
@Bingus Yes we are! Much love to you & thank you so so much. That means the world 🥲💗
I hope you're doing okay. Much love to you ❤
@@camillefaith2005 I’m doing much better now thankfully! :) I hope you’re doing good as well ❤️
I’ve lost a lot of hair bc of my eating disorder, due to lack of vitamins and not washing or combing my hair for days. Also diagnosed with depression and anxiety, and I keep losing a lot of hair I don’t even want to comb my hair anymore. I’m on an antidepressant pill for over a month, I don’t know how long will I have to take it. But I feel better now, eating disorders could take years to cure but my anxiety and depression are better than before. Last year I couldn’t even manage to wake up and go to the bathroom, this year I made some friends and can manage to go to school every day. Maybe these are so normal for other people, but all of these meant a lot to me. I believe that we will be better and happier soon. 🌸💕
@@lila5137 I’m so glad to hear that you’re feeling better! I know for me it took years to finally start feeling normal again. I still have those depressive episodes where I feel pretty anxious & depressed, but it’s definitely better than before. Keep doing what you’re doing & try to keep that positive mindset, you got this! I’m really proud of you. 🫶🏻💗
I’m a stylist and this is one of the things that people are referred to me for. It takes hours but you can save their hair! I’m always so happy for the client when we get done!
You're an angel you know that right ✂️💕
I went through a depressed stage where I didn't wash or brush my hair for two weeks, I would just throw it up in a bun. When I finally brushed it out I had a lump of hair the size of my palm. You don't know what people are going through, always be kind. ♥️
The woman whose channel he's featuring is one of the sweetest people on YT period. I've followed her since the beginning and shes really the kind of person that I'd aspire to be more like. Shes nonjudgmental and does this from a place of love. Wishing her nothing but the best as well as her clients. It takes a special person to do the things shes doing for these women.
I'm gonna be honest, I'm so impatient, when I realized I was letting my long hair get all matted, I just shaved everything to let it grow all new. So good job for all those people who take the time and energy to battle those knots, it's incredible!
Ha! Not the only one! Just started watching and with the first woman I was like "Omg, that she's willing to go through this ... at this point I would've just cut it all of and went with an undercut for a while, until it regrows ...
I’m definitely thinking to cut it all off I don’t like hair lol
...i would love to shave my head. some women look beautiful bald but i have a big nose & a chubby face and worried about looking worse...lol
@@donnadayle3762I know I’m like, what if looks weird
My daughter went through this. She had anxiety so thank you Brad for disclaiming the “no judgment”. My stylist went through 2, two hour sessions to detangle not including the time went we spent to to detangle. 😢
I have really severe depression and Love518 has genuinely meant so much to me with how she tackles these situations with compassion and, well, love. She brings me tears and is an amazing person 💙
Currently untangling my own matted hair that has been matted for months and needed a video that made me not feel so alone in this. The hair falling out is really disheartening 😭
Use lots of conditioner on dry hair with a detangeling brush😊
I hope you’re doing so much better. Jesus loves you💕
It's hair that would've naturally fallen out, it just couldn't fall so it stuck in the mat. Hope you're doing better now ❤
The irony that I’m watching this while on day 7 of brushing out my severely matted depression hair (4 months of matting)! 👀👀👀 I’m making good progress though! 💖
To anyone in a similar position - yes it is difficult, painful, and extremely time consuming, but you can save your hair without cutting it. I’ve been in this situation countless times (20 years of depression) and I’ve always managed to save my hair (with hair loss admittedly). You’ve got this! 💖💖💖
You can do it! I’ve been there and it’s hard and feels shameful but you have no need to feel ashamed. You are sick and you’re doing what you can to help yourself get better however little at a time. You’ll get through it and feel much better after and just know you are definitely not alone and there are people out here who care 💛
can you tell me what you do to get the matts out? do you do that apple cider vinegar rinse and then im assumng soak it with conditioner... i too have about 4-6 months of matted hair that i really need to tackle.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️. So much love to you!!
@@codi4537 I used olive oil, I let my hair soak up the oil and used a tangle teezer type brush and started brushing
Hope you made it to the end!
I have had my hair in knots before from being on meth and twisting my hair for hours at a time. This woman is truly amazing and such a true hero for doing this for others! She needs an award!!
Hope you are doing better hun. 💗 love to you✨
Takes a long time to get back to our true selves. A little step in the right direction is simply building without breaking. So impressed with your strength!!❤
I hope your doing better 😭😭😭😭
i havent done mine for at least 8 wks. its hard because my pwnic disorder n depression do not care.
positive n love to everyone who sees this. you deserve it....
not the person. next to u or behine .. YOU AS U DESERVE ALL THE B3ST LIFE HAS TO 0FFER ❤❤❤❤
That final client's finished reveal made me cry. I cannot imagine the RELIEF she felt at being free from her hair again.
The world needs more compassionate people like Hadassa. Thank you for sharing her with your audience, Brad. I'm so glad you learned from her and can take that into your work too
I immediately got up from bed and brushed my hair while watching this video.
I would never judge any of the women in this video or anyone else suffering from this, depression is real. I hope everyone feels better in whatever situation they’re in, as well as myself 💞
I struggle to maintain my hair, it’s so hard, so matting has happened to me a lot. I try to keep my hair shorter so it happens less. I’m grateful to people like this hairdresser who don’t sensationalise, and just do their best to just make people feel better.
I had hair down to my waist....when I finally pulled myself out of the addiction and depression I was in, I ended up having to get most of it cut off....I was able to get clean and pull myself together by myself so my hair being gone was kind of liberating and made me feel like I was a completely new person who was proud of herself for the first time in her life.
There are so many reasons someone might end up with their hair in this state, she shouldn’t be embarrassed! She should be so PROUD of how far she has come. What a monumental struggle she has gone through, I wish her all the best.
That woman deserves an award!!! She is a saint!!!!! The fact that anyone else would just say "cut it off" and she's like no, I can save your hair!!! Beyond awesome!!! God bless those hands!!!
U're right, she literally is saving hair & lives doing what she's doing!! God Bless Those Hands, Most Definitely!!!!!
She is freaking AMAZING I wish there were more people out there like her to help.... Because soo many people just don't know where to go for help
At the lowest point of my life my hair was extremely matted. I will forever be grateful to my mom, who was always there to help me brush through the matted clumps. ❤ this hairdresser is doing so much more than just detangling hair she is helping people through the process of healing.
Hugs!
It is so interesting bc my daughter and I suffer from tender heads and brushing can be almost a traumatic experience, but my daughter's hair tangles easy, like SO EASY! If I don't brush it 2x a day and braid her hair after each brush, her hair will have a huge knot and ball of hair in the back just like the first women you see. And me having severe depression I don't brush my hair as often as I should sometimes as I am just making sure that my kids are taken care of... But it will also do this now... But I can sympathize with her as addiction is usually fueled by depression or other mental health issues. So proud she is getting help and she found this lady!
I haven't finished the video so I'm not sure if they mentioned it but I'm going through the same with my daughter and read rubbing the scalp helps 4 minutes daily, I also read it could be from oily or dry scalp but I think for us its dry so I'm going to rub in coconut oil. Someone mentioned vinegar down below for matted hair as well.. some things to look into. Are yall doing any better with a hair routine? I'm struggling to even start
The flylady program reminded me that our kids are watching what we do and our attitude, too. We aren't perfect, but at least our kids can see that we didn't give up on them... or ourselves
A while back my psychologist told me that most of the psychologists take DHA instead of the prescriptions. That was a while back so maybe they found something better but meanwhile it does still work.
She's so kind and caring and giving people their dignity back,I'm sure these people have been judged unkindly by strangers. The acid in the vinegar would break down the oils,dirt and debris in hair,without damaging the actual hair, as the baking soda acts a neutralizer,never soak your hair in straight vinegar alone. I hope these ladies are all doing better emotionally❤🙏❤
I’ve been watching Hadassa for a while. She changes hearts, souls, and hair. She also runs a successful salon.
As someone who has personally been here, I would also love to help anyone that is going through this awful situation. I contemplated getting my hair cut off and buying extensions or a wig. I decided to try saving my hair first and after a week of detangling it by myself, I got it done. It was a terrible experience but that hard work deterred me from going down that path again. Depression sucks and it’s sucks worse when you realize not only the mental damage but the physical as well. Detangling my hair was the first step towards healing my depressive state. After I freed my hair, the rest of me started to become free from the bondage of depression as well.
While institutionalized for severe depression, the founder of Flylady got into a habit of fixing her hair, dressing, and putting on makeup and shoes. So that's one of the first things she teaches now, to get other people into the habit taking care of themselves and their house and family. My psychologist studied her program and thought that it looked like it would be helpful to a lot of people and I think it has. There's more to it, but I guess the whole thing started with one lady taking care of her hair when she really didn't feel like it.
Oh my goodness ❤️ Bless these people - they are so brave for sharing their journey. I’m so glad that Brad is showing this & addressing the subject with such compassion and empathy.
This stylist must be an angel. So skilled, so patient, and so encouraging! I’m inspired. Imagine how much these ladies lives were changed through her kindness and healing ❤
My hair used to get tangled a LOT as a kid. This brought back memories of sitting down with my mom, a brush, and detangling spray. Luckily I brush my hair a lot more frequently as an adult. Unfortunately, there are days where my depression gets the better of me and it gets knotted again. This woman is amazing and has incredible patience. She has bettered the world in a way many people may not be able to understand.
Have you tried to braid your hair? Maybe it'll help on the days you can't get out of bed
@@nikkivanzanen Thanks for the advice! I have never used braiding as a preventative measure before. I will be sure to keep that in mind next time this happens.
@@mars_thee_star I second that. Keeping it in braids and twists, will keep your hair stretched out so it won't kink up and get knotted.
I recently had to have my very lovely niece detangle my hair as I had a hand injury and I could not detangle it myself. Due to this, when I went to detangle it weeks later my hair was still stretched and nearly tangle free.
Good health fellow folk. 🙂🤘🏾
Brad, thank you for checking your own biases and owning up to things you don’t know. I’m a trauma therapist and many of my clients struggle on a daily basis with some of the things Haddasah’s clients describe, and the amount of shame a person in these situations puts on themselves is already debilitating. Add to that the fear of judgment from a hair dresser who might say something insensitive or not take them seriously when they share they are tender headed… and they may never reach out for help again… you never know if your kindness is the only kindness they have experienced in many years. Women in particular are already told explicitly and through implicit biases on a regular basis that they are overreacting about their own experiences. Or are shamed and blamed for calling people out who treat them poorly…. My point is you never know what any person has gone through or is currently going through and you showing compassion and empathy can literally save someone’s life. I hear stories from my clients about that one person who didn’t pass judgment when everyone else had and helped them rebuild their own belief in themselves.
I had a client when I was new in the business, she came in late at night and I was about to close up shop but I took her to my chair. She had been in the hospital, spare you the details but she had waist length hair and it was up in a bun completely knotted! I tried the best I could to get as much of it detangled but I was so new and that was my first experience with a situation like hers. Eventually I ended up cutting it into a cute bob, I’ve never felt so defeated! She cried but was thankful that I was even willing to try to help. Now I know what I am capable of and I learned a lot from this video!
I love how you can tell that Brad is someone who genuinely loves trying to make people’s hair better and that’s why I trust that whenever I do get his products that I’m putting my money in the right place
The compassion in this comment section is so heartwarming, i teared up a few times scrolling through while I watched the video. I feel like we’ve come such a long way in the last several years when it comes to discussing and understanding mental health issues-it’s hard to believe that it was ever a taboo topic!! We all struggle to some degree and it can feel so isolating…people deserve to know they aren’t alone…that others WANT to help and are more understanding than you might think 🖤
I have extremely curly hair and it gets super matted in just 3 days. Seeing this makes my heart warm and I’m grateful for people like this lady. Mad respect for her
When I was about 13 or 14, I was struggling with basic hygiene tasks, like brushing my hair, due to my Adhd and depression. I have quite thick hair and back then it was also very long, so after maybe half a year I ended up with a matted knot in the back of my head.
I could still brush through the top layer and could wear it open pretty normally so I ignored the problem for a while. In the end, it took my mum and me a whole sunday to detangle. I didn't want to cut it out either, so I really appreciate what these detangling angels are doing
Omg I needed this! I had went through a huge depression after my best friend passed away to the point I didn’t have any motivation for anything. Just slept, and worked. And even then, I only talked when I had to. I didn’t brush my hair. At. All. I’m still trying to get the hair situation fixed. I had even tried oils of all kinds and even tried kitchen grease. However, it dried up and basically became a brick in my hair. It was painful and it’s made my head even more sensitive and has made my scalp bleed when trying to get this out. I have now gotten most it out except for the left side of my head. It’s been a journey to say the least. I’m slowly getting out of my depression, but the loss I feel I’m sure will never go away. But I can’t continue to stop living my life, no matter how difficult everything has become.
I’m so sorry, you’re not alone. My best friend also passed away 8 years ago in 2014. I struggled with hair pulling/trichotillomania, and have finally gotten to a point where I can say i have overcame it. Loosing your best friend is so incredibly painful
Sending you love ❤
I was not ready to cry today! The patience she has. The care, the kindness, the effort. It's all so impressive and inspiring.
I love how Hadassa gives her clients such a beautiful face cover so they can feel comfortable with showing off their hair without giving up all anonymity
I love her channel. Many of her clients are people who have let hair maintenance fall by the waist side because they've gone through some very tough times. She transforms them from the inside out and I appreciate you shining some light on her channel. Would love to see you react to some more of those videos. They're so satisfying and you just get that warm fuzzy feeling after watching them.
This video made my heart full and nearly brought me to tears. It’s so beautiful watching these women gain themselves back after going through such dark times. Thank you Hadassa for being a badass. Thank you Brad for bringing attention to her magic. You’re looking like a punk rock Ken today and I’m living for it. 💜
That woman deserves the world she’s giving people their lives n confidence back people don’t truly get how much that means
The person who got that hair freed from the dead weight of that shed matted mess is PHENOMENAL & has such immense patience! Whomever you are, you are so wonderful! Thank you for being there to help that woman get through that last leg of her race to overcome the struggle she had been dealing with.
What a beautiful soul this hairdresser has. She’s so caring and understanding and I love how she treats her clients. Sometimes all a person needs is reassurance and an ear to vent to, just to make them feel more better than they did before they talked to that person. ❤
I just found this video and am currently trying to detangle 3 weeks worth of transitional depression matting in order to save my hair for a half wolf, half short pixie cut since the left side of my head is the most severely matted and thus most damaged. This video inspired me to brush through even though I am tender headed with autism and I am already in very deep with my issues, but one all-nighter and early morning later, I feel ready to take the shower that will change me. Brad, thanks for sharing this lady. You helped give me things to watch as I bite on a cloth and brush.
I've been homeless, sometimes you just can't afford to take care of your hair at the moment. So glad there's people out there trying to help people heal like this. Very emotional video ❤️
this woman breathes life into these women. its above and beyond and we all deserve it. im so happy for them
Man, I have been there. Sometimes depression is so bad and so physically (on top of emotionally) exhausting. It's debilitating. Sometimes taking a shower is too much. Washing your hair is too much. What a wonderful hairdresser and brave lady to face this! 💙
The love she pours into people that may have forgotten how to love themselves❤️❤️❤️
the respect she has for these clients it’s so heartwarming and seeing these people making that step to come in
Yeah she is amazing. She is a major blessing to these ladies.
This gave me chills! That woman is a gift. And so much love and positive energy to the clients as well, I know how it is to suffer from depression and just not f#ck with it and it gets out of hand fast. This is so freaking heart warming.
I am so glad to see you share her videos! I have very severe chronic illnesses and I run a chronic illness support group and not being able to brush hair is very common. So many of us have either had to cut our hair off or end up with hair like this. I had an incredible hairdresser help me with mine and tell me what products I could use so I could keep my hair long even if I couldn't always brush it. A little compassion without judgements goes a really long way. So many of us have been shamed at the hairdresser.
I lost my daughter to taking her own life, 1 day before my 50th birthday. My hair is like this. I did go into a deep depression and barely am coming back to life. It will be 5 years this December. Now I am dealing with this. I have for weeks been putting coconut oil, detanglers, and Castor oil. It is as greased up for a few weeks and just taking it one day at a time. Thank you Brad for your compassion at the very beginning. We truly have no idea what others are through. I love you and pray for everyone suffering through life.
What Hadassa does is true compassion and love. She works so hard to help give people back a piece of themselves. Makes my heart feel so warm to know that she shows such kindness to people, and spreads awareness without judgement.
I was going through some stuff and used the wrong product combo on my hair. It immediately tangled really badly and I couldn't handle it so I ignored it for just a week. It took me two hours and a lot of tears to get the matts out.
Knowing how horrible that experience was makes this video hit so much harder because it was absolutely nothing compared to what these women had to go through!! I absolutely understand how it got as bad as it did for them because it doesn't take long before it feels impossible to deal with.
This woman is a gift of a human and I'm so moved by her kindness and understanding.
As a little tip for anyone who has hair that tangles very easily, I found that k-18 has made a huge difference for me, with this problem.
Thank you I'm working with my teen to help her hair stop tangling so easily because she has a sensitive head too.
I have anxiety and depression. When I go through a bad spot my hair is the first thing to get neglected. I ended up chopping it off at one point cause I was too embarrassed to ask for help. It’s nice to know there are people out there who don’t judge and are willing to at least try to understand the situation.
My heart is full for that first woman. That final reveal? I can only imagine her emotions in that moment. Profound and powerful. ❤
Love that you gave some exposure to this. My sister suffers from pretty severe depression and didn't brush her hair for 9 months. It took me 4 hours to cut and detangle it. Gave her a wash and condition and a final cut and she felt so good after.
I’m someone with extremely tangle prone hair. No amount of product would help it keep from being tangled, it would just create rat balls for no reason daily. But then I realized that sleeping in a protective style such as a braid really helps to prevent the knots from happening.
My hair gets knotted and matted easily when it’s down, straight, curly in a bun you name it, knotted
My daughter’s hair is the same way, my hair is thin and fine and so I never knew that hair could tangle like this. We are getting on a good schedule of brushing multiple times daily with detangling products but sleeping in a braid is also a great idea, we will have to try this! Her thick thick hair is gorgeous and all I want is to help her manage it.
I have naturally curly hair that’s down to my waist:) and I can promise you it mats up so easily!
I only detangle it with a special wet brush (with like a million gentle bristles) while I am in the bath with conditioner in:) I also sleep with it in a protective style. You can get sprays with silicone, that makes your hair more slippery and easier to untangle 🙃 but the biggest thing I learned was that hair stays in the texture you dry it in! So I’ve become dedicated to blow drying it when I’m done washing it;) it still turns into waves, but it’s no longer clusters of curls waiting every moment for their opportunity to mat 😬
@@michelleblank2199nice to know I am not the only one. I pull my hair up at night and still have a knot in the back in the morning.
Same, I'm surprised the hairdresser didn't try a deep conditioning mask and heat after clarifying the hair.
That's usually the easiest way for me to detangle, the heat helps it penetrate and there's lots of shedding, but at least I could get a comb through.
This video is inspiring me to try to detangle my hair, but it's 10pm right now 😢. Maybe tomorrow.
I get what I call "depression hair" which when you go through a spell of depression and you don't brush your hair properly because you can't even get out of bed for weeks at a time, I completely sympathise. Everybody has their problems and it's so sad if you get judged for this. Good for those who understand, and help! X
Hugs!
Something I do for those times is keep a comb, baby wipes, and those chewable toothbrush things next to my bed so I can keep some basic hygiene
Same girl...Ive had my hair matted 3 times over the last 5 years. I am extremely tender headed as well so getting it fixed was hell.
Yes ❤️👍
I'm going through it now I haven't washed my hair in 3 months 😥
One of my depressive episodes made me not wash my hair for four weeks, so I'm quite familiar with tangled hair and it makes me so happy that people like her exist
Hugs!
This hairdresser is an angel! Miracle worker, therapist, calming soothing & understanding. That's what all these people need 🥹🥰😍
Hadassa is just full of love. I love how respectful she is to her clients.
More power to this amazing lady!!!! I have seen some crazy matted hair in person and I never thought it was possible for it to actually be untangled!
omg we need more people like this woman in our world ~ bless her to the ends of the earth xx
I've always wanted for you to react to this. I had matted hair for about 6 months and it got big and hard, and when i finally got better and went to a hairdresser she said that nothing could be done and just chopped a big chunk of my hair. It has been about a year and a half after that and my hair grew back nicely, but that visit to the hairdresser made me even more depressed. I'm so happy that there's a hairdresser out there (and even more, according to the comments!) who make the effort to spend hours detangling hair
Hugs!
I haven’t washed or combed my hair in almost a month… I was embarrassed but I was just so depressed and drained I just couldn’t motivate myself to do the most basic things. I just combed it for the first time and literally cried because of how much of my hair fell out because of it😢 some days are better than others but I know that I won’t always feel that way forever and watching these videos help me feel like I’m not alone
I go through the same thing when I get depressed. I have bipolar and agoraphobia so I get stuck in bed during depressive episodes. You are not alone and have nothing to be ashamed of!
Are you ok now tho ? I’m sorry that you where having hard time I hope your ok now
@@catloowitlatkla6116 I hope both you guys Are ok and get threw it and see happier days and really good things happen you guys ❤
The hair detox is great if you’re having an allergic reaction and need to get it OUT. When I found out that my scalp was bleeding because of the coconut in shampoo, I did it twice in a week and it helped SO MUCH.
I absolutely love that there is someone out there doing this kind of work for people! She is helping to breath new life into people. When you can feel good about something like your hair, it really can help you to get through some of the difficult things that people are going through sometimes.
Sometimes taking care of yourself is so overwhelming when you're dealing with so much already. It's so wonderful that Hadassa is there to help people who can't manage and get them to a place where they can.
This is heartwarming! I value people like this hairstylist who are judgement free with immense understanding. We all have battles in our lives. You never know what someone’s story is. Much love & appreciation ❤❤❤