I had a miscarriage in 2017. I didn't brush or wash my hair for 4 months, I just used dry shampoo and tied it up. I admitted it to my mum one day, and she just sat me down on the floor in front of her and spent 2 hours sorting it, without passing comment. We need more people like you and my mum xx
De tangling hair is already a chore if you have thick, long hair. My brother needs to be careful and brush his hair regularly since he has the PERFECT hair type for dreads and locks.
@@monith9496 i have long and REALLYYYYY thick hair so if i don’t brush it at least 3 times a day it’s a knotted mess and such a pain to get de tangled.
Ikr my mom had to buy a lot of stuff to detsngle my hair like it took almost a 2 weeks to do it she had to cut my hair I think I didn't brush my hair for like 2 years gosh and didn't take baths or brush teeth it was bad for me.
Thank you for this. My mom died in December. I went to my stylist in January because I could not mentally deal with my hair. She detangled and deep conditioned me with nothing but kindness. I didn't tell her what happened, but she said, whatever you are going through, just know I'm praying for you and you will be alright." She have me an air hug and I left feeling human again just for a little bit. Kindness first. Always.
You know what this is called? Being a trauma informed hair stylist. The compassion and patience you showed is consistent with trauma informed therapist. You should add that to your marketing and highlight it. Your expertise is not only servicing people who may live with depression, but also survivors of abuse too. So happy to see this!
I agree, there are many reasons that might induce you NOT to do certain things as combing your hair. I have a severe arthritis problem and I can gurantee sometimes it's so painful that I struggle to do the most elementary things. Don't take health for granted!
She's trauma AWARE not trauma informed. Trauma informed = knows and uses the various psychological treatment modalities relevant to trauma in treatment of various mental illnesses. How to go about treating the illness with trauma present, how (ie what framework) to use to treat it, how to prevent abreactions, maintain safety for client and therapist etc.
Years ago I worked at a physical rehab hospital. A little 8 year old girl that had been in a bad car accident had long hair and after a month in the hospital it was one big rat's nest on the back of her head. Her aunt spent about 6 hours and a couple of bottles of detangling spray to get it out and her niece immediately started to engage in therapy better and just overall improved. All of the staff gave the aunt compliments and some of us chipped in for her to have a spa day.
This happened to me a few years ago. I was clinically depressed and literally didn’t wash or comb my hair for MONTHS. When you’re in that dark of a space your hair is the last thing on your mind. When I finally washed and conditioned my hair, I was a new woman! No judgement here, peace of mind and wellness to her 💕
when i was 12 i was homeless living in a truck w my dad and little brother and had no comb or even shampoo for almost a month. when i was sent to foster care (a white family who didnt know how to maintain black hair) they took me to a hairdresser who made fun of me the whole time she was cutting the big dreadlock out of my hair. it was a horrible experience, im glad theres ppl like you who dont judge and make someone feel bad for their hair, bc as you said you never know what someone is dealing w in their life
Hi, I hope your foster mother defended you.. I am a white lady and when I was 15 or 16 my cousin fostered some Nigerian children and I loved them to bits. Every chance I had I would always go and see them. I missed them terribly when they went back home to their parents but I knew they were happy to go back with their Mum and Dad. I feel very sorry for you how you felt. I hope you are happy now always remember you are a good person and I am sure you bring sunshine into someone's life every single day xx
That must have been so traumatic for you all...Homelessness is no fun. Hope you are all more settled and happier now, but early trauma leaves marks on the Soul.
@matt dingo that would be amazing but very few blacks adopt or foster children so I am just glad these children are taken to a home somewhere because most black families are leaving these kids to graduate out of an orphanage & rather gossip about them than help
My friend had depression for years, with no support system at home. Her hair also got completely entangled at one point. So she went to hair stylist and she criticized her badly and also chopped her hair short. Then she lost her father...and then few months later she took her own life. Please, please don't judge.
I am sorry if I made anyone sad, I just wanted to share so people don't judge so quickly. Truth is hard...and truth is that with no support we cannot survive. Some people can't get comfort from their family...so they depend on us as collective to at least not be hateful. Little kindness can indeed save lives. I remember all she had in last months was sharing stuff online, bacause she couldn't get outside...negative energy is hard on anyone...but can you imagine what it does to someone already on the edge. Please friends...be kind, even when others aren't...try to be brave and spread love.
You know what's funny? I'm a white girl with 2b hair. When I wasa kid I just never brushed it. My mother was single and working so she never noticed the giant knot that formed up against my scalp. Went to the hairstylist and they immediately chopped my hair off. I was devastated. You're over here untangling 4a,b,and c hair like it's no issue. You're awesome.
I have 2a/2b hair and I once got a round brush stuck in there and we considered cutting it off but I spent several minutes trying to pull my hair out of it. I'm happy it never had to happen again.
I'm white, I don't know what kind of curls mine are, but I don't brush them dry ever. I just spray them with water and plump them up. They start to lock on day 4-7 of not washing. Normally I wash my hair more often, but I've been having tons of health issues and I don't always have the strength. It hasn't been cut in 2 years, I'm a single moms and never want to spend the money on myself. I've never had my hair lock itself before....sometimes it's tempting to just let it do it, but at this length it would be too heavy for me I think.
a hairstylist should be patient with their clients, your hairstylist should have never chopped your hair if you didn’t want that. i hope you didn’t go back
@@mombythec girl, as a person who has had dreads twice, AND i'm a hairstylist, i wouldn't recommend it. people think dreads are going to be easy and not take any work, but it's actually the opposite. if you want your dreads to look nice, and not grow anything funky inside of them, (i knooow, rite?) they actually need LOTS of attention. also yes, they will be heavy asf. im sorry to hear about your health stuff..i have fibromyalgia and lots of issues with my hips and legs due to a genetic thing and being on my feet all day for many years doing hair. I totally understand. A wide tooth comb and a good detangler are your best friends. the main thing to know about curls is moisture. they need it, and lots of it... keep that in mind and it's a good place to start. Hang in there!!- xo
@@heathervee555 thank you :) I have fibro too and we still don't know what else, if only doctors would take as much time as this hairdresser! I actually got a gift certificate for mothers day yay!!! So I will get to go get all these dead ends off soon and then it won't be so hard to get through like it is now.
Took me 9 hours, but I finally detangled my hair; Thank you!!!! Whenever I got tired or discouraged, I would just rewatch this video. Game changer...I am so proud of myself! God bless you 🙏🏽 ❤
This video just shows the difference between a stylist that does the craft for the people vs a stylist that does it for the money. She looked amazing and left happy which is the best.
When you’re sick, depressed, bed ridden etc. even simple things like brushing your hair, brushing your teeth, doing skincare, and whatever else is SO HARD. I know first hand and having tight curls/thick hair makes it even harder. Poor woman, her hair is gorgeous tho❤️ Edit: everyone who is thinking/saying that you’re depressed and can do all of these things, AMAZING, great for u honestly! But not everyone is the same and some people’s depression is debilitating and we use self neglect as a /poor/ coping mechanism. Don’t come in this comment section invalidating other’s experiences✨✨
girl yes !! this is such a taboo topic as well, especially for the black girl community because all we see is women getting a new frontal, birkin bags, long nails and living their best life which is beautiful thing and I love to see it but us black women go through depression where were not taking car of ourselves the proper way as well knowing deep down we have a purpose and gift in this world but depression knocks us right back down. I guess we get ashamed of that topic because were females but it is very true. depression makes everything so hard to do things for yourself. Even to get up in the morning. it needs to be talked about more.
@@viceversa2515 both of you said that beautifully. No matter who we are, we all go through our own struggles. No one should ever be judged based on circumstance. ❤️
@@cynergy526 babygirl I didn’t, you’re reading it wrong which is ok lol. that’s why I said “especially” black girls where I’m talking about all women but it’s very taboo and not talked about in the black community. When folks talk about depression they stereotype it into “emo” or “white” people. It’s not really talked about and pushed under the rug about the black community. Mind you she’s doing a black womens hair. We all go thru depression. I was just stating the fact it’s a taboo thing to be talked about in the black community because as a black women were looked at into being “strong”.
I left my abusive ex-husband and one of his forms of abuse was complete control of my appearance. When I left him, I did nothing about my appearance, including showering, brushing my hair, anything, for several months. Eventually my friend convinced me to find a stylist to help and as she was helping me for 3 hours, I cried like a baby. It was one of the most healing experiences of my life and I will forever be grateful to my stylist who also became my friend that day. Thank you for helping this gorgeous woman and showing how much compassion you give.
I got misty-eyed when you said, “She’s going to be fine, she’s going to be just fine.” Thank you for being understanding to those suffering in silence. People like you make this world a better place.
As someone who has struggled with depression, you have no idea how big of a difference you're making in her life and her road to recovery. Sometimes simple displays of empathy can mean the world.
@@EsiriE Some (and actually most) people with depression and s**cidality lose trust in real people, even God doesn't matter to them. Do factor in that they may be atheist as well, meaning that they don't believe in God, in any force, realistic or not, to help them out. So yes, it can be insulting and deepening the mental pain of depressed people. It is with good intent, just inappropriate to use.
After my husband passed away last Dec. I didn't shower, brush my teeth, comb my hair or change my clothes. I just washed our bedding after 6 months. I'm just now up to showering daily. Depression will cause you to completely give up. 😔😢😓😔😔💔
I’m a young widow who lost my hubby 10 urs ago. It’s a pain I thought I’d never get over but you just take it one day at a time and create “a new normal” for your life. Sorry for ur loss (hugs) ❤️
The fact that you were drawn to it and not intimidated confirms that this is your calling. Keep up the great work and showing compassion the way you do.
🥺🥺 when my mom went into the hospital for the last time, they didn't do a thing for her hair. I tried to so hard to get her hair unlocked. She told me to cut it. I cried. She then told me "make sure you get a pretty wig for my funeral". I did. I'm so glad you got this lady's hair unlocked. It warmed my heart.
I’m so sorry you lost your mom, as women it’s a life changing moment to be there to help the woman who gave you life, as she is ending hers. I’m so glad you had that special time together.
I lost my mom in a sudden way and there was no funeral due to covid. her hair was so beautiful and near the end she was losing it due to illness. life feels meaningless now with no parents at a young age
@@pinkpugginz Yeah! I totally agree. I'm only 10 and 2 and a half years ago I lost my mom. She didnt die but it also made me lose a lot of other loved ones. I hope you feel better, losing someone you love very much is hard! Especially a parent...
@@pinkpugginz I'm so sorry. My mom didn't die from covid but during the craziness that was going on. We had to rush her funeral. She died on a Monday and had her funeral Saturday. I'm not sure your age but I thought I would be older and not in my 30s without both parents.
I didn't understand why this was recommended to me, but now I get it. You are not a hairdresser, you are a HAIR CARER who helps people who have stopped caring for themselves. God bless.
To me, this is truly a servant ministry. Loving on folks.💕 Now, I have a 5 yr old that absolutely fights to brush her hair and hair is fine and plentiful.i need that conditioner with lots of slip to comb it after its washed/ or while washing. We get so frustrated that we want to cut that baby girls hair🙄🙄
I made a very ignorant comment on tiktok a few weeks ago simply bc my depression wasn’t like someone else’s and my entire thought process was f’d up. Now I realize how people can get depressed enough to not think about themselves. Im happy God crossed her path with yours! 💜
The fact that you now realize that your previous TikTok comment was in poor taste, proves that you have grown. GOOD ON YOU FOR GROWING AND SHARING! The world needs more people like you; more who are not afraid to admit that they have made a mistake, and are sorry for it!
We all have done things we aren’t proud of. As long as you have recognized your mistake, owned it, and changed your thinking, you are winning honey!! Changed behavior is the best apology!! It’s the growth for me!! I love it!!❤️
Sis your openness and honesty of self awareness will be a blessing to someone who may have been walking in your shoes. Bless you queen hold your head high and smile with confidence 💘
I wish more people would just own up to mistakes and try to do better as you are doing. It isn't a sign of weakness, it's a huge sign of strength of character!
She was so okay with you just cutting it off to not inconvenience you, and putting herself second, BUT you did not allow that; for that I applaud you. Sometimes we forget about our selves that we expect others to do the same. I feel like most wouldve gone the easy route. You have the heart, and patience of an angel
It’s the patience for me because I can use a little more in some situations. I know I don’t have nearly enough patience for my hair as both these ladies have.
Thank you for sharing, people don't even think about the full impact depression can have on someone's life. The sheer weight of living with mental illness.
My sister has depression and once let her hair get pretty close to this. I sat there with her all night and used my fingers to detangle her entire head. We sat, watched movies, talked… this could happen to anyone. And you’re right, kindness and compassion goes such a long way.
Thank you for showing her love. You may never know the extent to which she appreciates you. My sister stood by me, too, and I was able to recover well.
Such a Long way. My parents and sister didn't know what to do with my hair growing up, so often it looked messy and terrible...as an adult I am trying so hard to support my son with his hair but he has autism and other diagnosis that you wouldn't know by just looking at him, and those have been such an obstacle when it comes to his hair. Passing judgment doesn't help anyone.
I was in a coma once. It was an emergency surgery so no time to worry with hair. I have very curly hair. Hospital bathrooms don't have mirrors. I could feel something was very wrong. I couldn't fully comprehend how long i had been unconscious. Before I went home my dad helped me limp into the stylist. Two kind stylists worked with me for hours. I thought they would have to cut it. They said my hair was in dred locks and I am white. I was sad because I had already lost so much. They only cut one tiny piece. For weeks I was too weak to manage my hair while I recovered. I went for a long time I went back and they would wash and style my hair. Its not just an art. It was pure human kindness. It was a boost to my soul. My husband of 30 years had left me just before I got sick. This reminds me to be grateful for kindness. May God bless you.
This is why I will either wash and detangle my patients hair who are intubated and under sedation or ask if their family would like to do something to maintain their hair as best as possible... care isn’t just about a person health but the body as well
This video broke my heart and then mended it. I'm a white-ass man with fine, thinning hair - but I know what it's like to stop taking care of yourself due to depression and trauma. It becomes very difficult to treat yourself well when it feels like the world doesn't - day in and out, you're receiving negative reinforcement that you don't deserve nice things. The really inspiring thing about this story is that she actually approached you for help. It is so, so courageous to ask for help sometimes - everybody needs it, but speaking up is damn hard. Really glad you were able to make this happen for her and I hope she's doing well today.
I have bipolar disorder. Depression manifests differently for everyone and every time. The happiest person you see may be the one struggling the most. As a stylist, I’ve sat for hours to help detangle someone’s hair because I may never know what they’re feeling, but I can understand. Hair isn’t always just hair. Not everyone has a support system so please do not judge. Love and light to you for your patience and understanding with this beautiful woman.
I totally agree with you. And you do a wonderful job. I suffer mental health issues and depression and I don't wash my hair weeks at a time just put it a ponytail and it's difficult to look after yourself at times. Thank you for caring ❤️❤️love from England
I don't know you but I felt some kind of way after reading your comment. I went through depression for many years, but today I am not bothered with it. Hang in there you will get through it. Peace & Love I will remember you in my prayers
Thank You for sharing. When I began reading the comments I was wondering if Bipolar Disorder would be mentioned. Too emotional to watch these videos but I appreciate the uploads and compassion. Sometimes I feel that I will be forever judged and misunderstood.
The courage it takes to visit a salon after having personal issues that your hair suffered, the compassion a stylist shows to get your hair looking 🔥, that shows so much. Glad the client is feeling good because she’s looking good too. Bless you.
That woman must’ve felt so much better. Depression messes with you more than most people think. To all the commenters saying this is not a big deal, it’s the small things like hygiene that make you feel like yourself again. The hair dresser/stylist did a great job. Thank you
I have depression and neglect things like hair a lot, not for this long, but several days mostly. It feels sooooo nice to just get that sorted out, to the point that it changes my outlook on the day, and many people don't understand that
Exactly I have to force myself to do basic things like shower, brush teeth, and eating.. basic stuff like that is mentally exhausting when you’re depressed.. however my body is incredibly sensitive so I have to stay on top of those things
@@KT-pw1cq I know that I am a random person on the internet, but I also have to force myself to do this stuff, I also have depression. I've found it to be quite helpful, though a bit embassing at first, to make yourself a daily checklist or chart of essential things you have to do each day, along with some self care activities. I have one with like, showering, getting dressed, having breakfast, brushing my teeth and doing my hair, that stuff along with like going outside and reading a book. And at the end of the week, or however long you choose, get youself a reward, like a nice dinner from your favorite restaurant, or whatever you want to reward yourself for doing good. It's really helped me take care of myself more and I hope that it might help you too, or anyone reading this.
When you said DEPRESSION you nailed it. We all have been through so much in the last 3 years. We really do need to be understanding and kind to each other.
I lost someone once and stopped taking care of myself. Going to a stylist and having her take care of my hair without judgement, letting me sit quiet as she brushed my hair, I actually cried. It felt so comforting. You are so sweet. Need more compassionate people like you in the world.
Covid was hard most people, so I can only image how hard it’s been for those with depression. Glad she felt well enough to see you. You are a true artist.
@@boiwhatthehellboi5102 nah bc shut the hell up u don’t understand what people go through and u never know what has happened for her hair to get like this so stop being all bougie bc this is reality
*****Only those who have gone through the abyss of depression know what it means to take care of themselves again!!! Congratulations on the initiative of treating your customers with so much affection 🥰🇧🇷🥰🇧🇷🥰🇧🇷🥰🇧🇷🥰🇧🇷
As a woman who's suffered and is suffering with depression I've had this happen a few times. My hairdresser was so kind to me when she brushed it out. She will forever be my friend and hairstylist
@@zinimini4516 sometimes when I'm in a deep depression brushing my teeth won't even happen. I just lau in bed. I also have chronic illnesses that cause me pain and stuff. So, sometimes i can catch it b4 and gonsee her and she cuts it all off for me. But also she has knotted my hair b4 as well. Shes willing to do both and is not judgey. She remembers my stuff even tho i only go in like once a year. I always try to tip her very well for her services as well.
It's definitely a vicious cycle. Get depressed, let yourself go, get depressed because you've let yourself go, want it fixed but are too upset to fix it/don't think it can be fixed, put it off, and the cycle repeats and repeats. So happy for her now and that she can walk around confidently strutting her stuff again!
The worst vicious cycle out there. My husband was severely abused as a child and has battled depression for 35 years. He just bought a bicycle and is now getting out of the house, getting in shape and socializing. I'm so happy to see him come back to life. ❤💗💖
And we have been through a war in my country in addition to pandemic this year. I am a white woman with straight fair hair. And I watch her for the kindness I find here. ❤
Depression is vicious. I went almost 3 months without a shower or washing my hair. I just couldn't do anything. My hair was extremely matted. It took about 90 minutes to detangle my hair which is very, very long and thin. There was some breakage and there was a lot of hair loss but it came out great. The shampooing was wonderful. I felt so much better, and having used a Moroccan scrub glove after my extremely long, soapy shower, my skin was soft and smooth. It wasn't the end of my depression but I did take regular showers and regularly washed my hair after that. No one has any idea how inert you get with depression. You're active in your head but you cannot do anything. With great therapy and kindness, I was able to come out of it. Gentleness and kindness are essential.
I'm sure there's many hair dressers who would have taken the easy way out, and cut it all off. I'm so glad that she has a big heart and wants what's best for the client
Yo, but real talk. This woman is strong af. Imagine going through this and still finding the courage to reach out to someone to do your hair after you’ve neglected it for so long.. That’s women’s magic. I wish her the utmost best 💜
Bro i completely forgot that your channel existed, but you made me wanna get a reptile a year or two ago and now i have my leopard gecko (who’s very well taken care of :) )
i hope you know now, that taking care of you is definitely not selfish, you deserve to feel self-love. also, im almost positive your son wouldn't want you to do that to yourself, love. (i understand it's easier said than done) but you deserve happiness. i am so sorry for your loss -sincerely, a boy mom, too.
Poor woman told you if it's too much to just cut it off. She was probably depressed for a long time and assumes she's a burden, good thing she found you.
No, she just doesn’t want to bother with her hair. It doesn’t mean she’s depressed. Not everyone thinks their hair is the most important thing & needs to always look perfect. Easy maintenance is key for many women.
@@can.du.8116 There's a difference between not wanting to put effort into your hair and straight up letting it get tangled for months. No one mentally sound does that.
I think the lady could’ve got the locks out quicker was by using a hot oil treatment on the bottom part then using a brush then going back over it with a comb she could’ve done it more effect. I’ve done it on my friends hair before.
As someone with clinical depression, I deeply appreciate your love and patience. I know she did. And she looks beautiful. I have periods of neglect, too.
I have an autoimmune disease and have been bedridden for weeks at a time. Unable to comb or wash my hair- or wash but not comb and after laying in bed the tangles build into a nest. I have a stylist who has taken 1hour to detangle me more than once. She never asked any questions. Dosen't even charge me extra. I leave feeling so renewed. With illness i have lost a lot in my life, but every few months I feel normal & alive again thanks to her. There really are still good people in this world.
Same here.... as soon as I saw the video I could totally relate. I don’t have African American hair, but my hair is naturally curly and gets really matted at the nape of my neck. I’ve had time when I just couldn’t detailed it on my own after weeks of being in a flare that kept me from showering or grooming at all. It’s embarrassing being a woman in my 40’s dealing with that, so it’s heart warming to see compassionate women helping out.
After she detangles it for you, can you get her to put it in a braid? If it's long enough to make a braid that will keep it from tangling. I had to do that when I had a serious back injury and couldn't get out of bed.
@@mygirldarby so true! After I got surgery my mom helped me get my hair in braids and it made such a huge difference. Lots of oil and a little bit of wax and my hair looked amazing once I was able to wash it.
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I'm not sure how this video ended up on my UA-cam. I'm a white woman who does not watch videos about hair but suffers from depression. I had to tell thank you for your patience when working on her hair. We all have difficult times and handle them differently. As women we should remind each other how important we are and not tear down each other. I know I get embarrassed about my hygiene when my depression gets bad. Her hair at the end was beautiful. Thank you again for your patience and reminding your customer that she deserves to feel important and beautiful.
@My debt free life : You are amazing!!! Depression shows up in many forms. I am not sure who the client is, but I am sure you appreciate your words of enlightenment and encouragement. All the best to you and I am sending prayers of peace and healing your way🙂
Another white lady checking in. I do watch hair videos though and have sometimes watched Black hair you tubers specifically. I never realized that there was so much to having Black hair and am fascinated. I'm also interested in learning about the very deep cultural role Black hair has in the community. So, I'm just hear to be inspired, fascinated and to learn. 🥰
I have worked in customer service for over 30 years so I understand the importance of servicing you client with respect and love. You have to be gentle, patient and understanding. You absolutely have to understand that each person you encounter is unique and have had a different journey. You have a gift to share. I'm proud to watch you! Keep doing what you're doing!
As a hairdresser I have mad respect for your skills, she looks 20 years younger, you can see the joy in her face! You cannot be in this industry if you don’t have a heart for people. Our hair tells our story , you can tell if someone is going through challenges (emotional, mental or physical) by the state of the hair. We never know what someone is going through, that’s why it’s important to hold love in your heart and not judgement. God bless you and your talent!
Also this is all so true... When your hair is a hot mess you've already *been* feeling bad about it, you don't need someone's professional opinion of how bad it is... so it's difficult to go to the stylist! I've had nothing but stylists who make disparaging remarks; it seems like they are always condescending and everything I do is wrong. I also cut my hair myself in like 1 minute when I was depressed and I dreaded going to get it fixed because I didn't want to deal with their comments. Like she said in the video, everyone deals with things differently and my mother always cut her hair off when she was going through it and so do I.
Poor lady! We’ve all dealt with depression and I’m still dealing with anxiety! I’m glad she’s now feeling better and starting to care for herself! Thank you for showing her compassion, kindness, and gentleness; the world needs more of you!
Yep. I have depression amd serious health issues. I keep my hair braided for these reasons. There are times I just let my braids grow out so bad and i just didn't care. You have no energy for it. Sometimes i have to force myself to just do it. So many hugs to everyone going through it.
@@1jazzyphae word it makes me feel better knowing there are ppl like me going thru things. Most of the time it’s hard for us to reach out because we don’t think anyone would understand. Prayers up to everyone..it’s hard at times, but we can elevate with 🙏🏽 STAY BLESSED EVERYONE..sending virtual HUGGIES🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
When I was a kid I got super depressed, like suicidal level done with happiness depressed, my grades dropped and i just didnt have the energy to comb my hair. My dad was so pissed that he just cut off all my hair unevenly while screaming at me. Was one of the worst feelings in the world. Thanks for reminding people there’s always another way to handle a problem
Sadly so many people don’t understand depression, they think you can just snap out of it.. If only it was that easy Smh I also experienced severe depression when I was a teen, thanks to my sister I got the help I needed. I truly hope you are in a good space now 💜
@@SLees-tv7gh thanks, I am doing slightly better now. I’m glad you got the help you deserved and hope nothing less than contentment for you from here on out.
We never know what people are going through, or have been going through. This person cared enough about their hair to come to you for help, and I think that speaks for itself. Thank you for helping them!
I know this video is a year old, and you probably won’t see this but this is the video I started watching that got me to get up, shower, and brush my hair after about 2 weeks. My depression is crippling me. But your commentary on this video was just pure kindness. I wish I could be a client.
I don’t know who you are, but I’m so glad that you were able to get up and find the motivation, because sometimes when things get out of control it feels like you can’t gain back control, but just remember that lost things are still yours even when you can’t find it, sometimes you just gotta look for it
You are not alone my dear - l understand- everyday is a battle with depression, l only just yesterday saturated my hair with water and conditioner and rinsed - shampoo and conditioner again - went to comb it out , it was full of knots , l neglected my hair for two months - as it’s winter have been covering it with a scarf and hat when l leave the house- it took me hours - still have a section left - but will tackle this later on today . I hope you are feeling better in spirits- bless you ❤
Im a 26 year old white woman with pin straight hair but I watch all of her videos. Her knowledge is astounding, I have learned so much from her videos. It helped me a lot regarding how to take better care of my hair, in terms of being gentle with it.
As a person who has suffered with crippling depression for over 15 years now... I literally cried with this video. Thank you for being so kind and lovely. I don't know why YT recommend this video to me, but I'm so glad it did. Lots of love 💜
@@JadaSchenckGarcia Let me tell you, sometimes you don't have the will to live but you don't have the will to die, either and that's a dark place. Depression is a real monster because it comes and goes in waves but many times we don't know each other's struggles because we are taught as a people and society not to show such 'weakness'. I've dealt with depression for more than 15 years and believe me, there have been times where but for the Grace of God go I...
@@JadaSchenckGarcia someone wants me to be. Tried 3 times no to, and failed all 3. Guess I just have to be here and try to fight it even though is really hard
@@DarlingNikki2 you're absolutely right, Nikki. We're together in this. I'm sending you all the strength I can and we'll find a way to keep our heads above the water. 💜
I’ve been there. Depression is a real barrier to doing your hair. I dream of helping other women near me who also struggle with depression and hair care ❤
My mom is in hospital right now, so when i visited I brought the hair grease and comb to tame the hair and her mood elevated. Our old hairdresser used to tell us grooming takes the mind away from the crap we gotta put up with, and it makes you instantly feel a lot better.
That’s a damn lie! If that were true, all of us with depression would just go to the beauty parlour or spa when we were having an « episode » and be cured... that thought stems from the idiotic trope that if a woman just gets her hair done she’ll feel so much better about EVERYTHING
People who have never dealt with depression have no idea how uplifting getting ones hair done an be. I know that when I’m depressed, I don’t want anyone going into my personal space.
as someone who has struggled with depression for years, I'm sure this made a HUGE difference in her life. a little bit of kindness and compassion can truly go a long way
My hair has been far worse in my most depressed moments. Took me and a friend 3 days to detangle it once, several hours each day. I’m so glad I finally got to a good place to get it healthy and well managed. You did such a great job. She has gorgeous hair and should get to show it off when she wants. 💜
Last year was the las time I went to a beauty salon. I lost her due to stress and my hair was short and thin. I went for a treatment and the girl was almost making fun of me. She was not interested in making me feel comfortable. She was talking to the other girls in the salon and not putting any effort on what she was doing. All the clients waiting were looking at me on a very contemptuous way. I just wanted to leave that place soon. She did a bad job drying my hair then I said to my mom I would never go to a hair salon again. I would like to be able to go to your salon. You look like a very nice lady who will make me feel comfortable and beauty.
I would have told her a word or two, ha! Same happened to me a couple of times in different salons. That's why I havent found my hairstylist yet...I highly value good customer service.
I feel and share her pain. Quarantine and Wfh left me with laziness, depression, no self care, health issues, and weight gain. I cut mine a few times because I just didn’t want to deal with it. I even have a few bald spots. I finally went to a stylist yesterday and I feel so much better. It was so relaxing and she made me feel good. It will be ok!!! We’re coming back this way.
I was having this conversation with my manager because just like yourself WFH has isolated and I gave up on many things and self-care being one of them. Sometimes to uplift ourselves we must hit rock bottom and I know I have and i'm finally picking myself up, one step at a time.
I love that she said "if you aren't equipped for this, put them in somebody's hands who is." We need to think like this about a whole lot of things. She drops gems 💎 in these videos, besides good hair care.
Love for humanity has not died. Everyone making a positive comment is proving that now. Blessings all and continue to elude compassion and passion for life.
Soooo sorry for this lady. I suffer from depression myself and the smallest task seems monumental. God bless her and God bless you for giving her the most beautiful and uplifting gorgeous hair. AND your a verrrry sweet lady.
My mom has severe arthritis and cannot lift her arms up to wash and comb her hair. She has help- but her hair could easily turn into this if she didn’t. Be kind. And this lady had the courage to ask for help!
I’m on the brink of tears because this is what my hair looks like under my wigs. I wear my wigs like a hat. Depression is real. Thank You for your kindness❤
my hair's never locked up like this, but it usually is in some state of disrepair despite me committing to natural hair in 8th grade (so about... four years ago, which is wild). i usually go without washing it for weeks, sometimes months at a time, thanks to depression and adhd among other things. at one point, it was severely matted and i picked bald spots into my head. it's recovered since. but i especially wanted to reply because i wear wigs as well. i cut my hair during the pandemic and my mom had me try out some wigs. i love them, but not only does it hurt the edges of my scalp to wear them, it makes me neglect my hair because i have more pride in my wigs... mental health issues are really something else.
I have been where you are. Always remember things WILL get better. Super cliche but there’s always light at the end of the tunnel, you just have to find it 😊…I always try to remind myself of that when things seem hopeless. Even though I don’t know you, I love you my sister. God bless you ❤
I, too have not done my hair this year. It's so locked n tangled. Depression is REAL MY PEOPLE. I just saw where tWitch just committed suicide. You never know what someone is going through. I'm embarrassed to even go get it done because of judgement. Please 🙏🏽 pray for me....
When my depression was bad I let my hair become completely matted more than once. It’s been years since then but this was really touching. You made all the difference for her.
same this happened to me i recently just untangled it only had to cut off one really matted spot it sucks to leave it all tangled up especially with my 4c hair!
I have straight hair, but when I was in middle school, I was going through the worst depression of my life. I remember having a naught at the back of my head towards the base of my neck that was so tight I later on needed to get it cut off. I was too embarrassed, and felt too alone for anyone to help me with it. My mom only found out one day when she felt it. Sometimes people just need this, to feel cared for again
If I could give this a million likes I would. Her saying “just cut it off” but you took your time and gave her the love and positive energy she needed. The look on her face at the end is priceless!
Ppl really underestimate just how powerful seemingly ‘little’ things like hair or skin or whatever can be when it comes to dealing and healing with mental illness
I know right. When you're depressed you don't have the energy to take basic care of yourself sometimes. Causing you to feel even worse in a vicious cycle.
@@violetta2964 thats exactly what you should do. Alot of people just tell them it's bugly or it can't been fixed. But instead they need to support and help that person be susceptible positivity and glow.
I'm a 41 year old white mom of 6 with the straightest blonde hair you've ever seen. Not sure how I ended up here...... But I'm glad I am here. You're an amazing woman! You had me at your intro, More kindness. Less judgment. What an amazing gift of service you are sharing. So much love, hope, and prayers to you 💕
Thank you for not judging this woman. As someone who struggles with depression and can neglect some aspects of my self care for months at a time I really appreciate that.
I am a healthcare assistant and I have worked on mental health wards. When people are depressed it is often all they can do to just get themselves up in the morning. Personal care is neglected because they just don't have the energy. We knew a patient was feeling better when they started to shower and take care of themselves.
After you got through the first lock, her hair is absolutely beautiful. I hope after this that she sustains it, because she has some gorgeous natural hair.
I have been stuck in intensive care for months at a time and obviously combing my hair at that time was not a priority. Fortunately my mom was there and she legit braided my hair with me on a ventilator but everybody doesn't have family to do that. Good on you for helping her and being kind about it.
@@renable7258 My mom prayed me through it. God has certainly blessed and kept me. The doctors said I'd die without a lung transplant. I'm pretty sure my mom said God was in control. I'm still here, I have a good life even though my lungs are not healthy.
After having twins, I showed up to a stylist looking like this five years ago. She wasn’t afraid, and she was patient. Now my hair is to my waist. She showed me how it was to be patient with my hair. I was breastfeeding twins while also raising my 3 and 4 year olds as a SAHM. When I say I was at my wits end, I mean it. Anyway, that stylist helped me in my darkest hour, and I am so thankful for her.
I was in the same situation after having my twins 3 years ago. My hair was almost tail bone length. I got so frustrated with it and just cut it shoulder length. My stylist was so mad at me. She said I should have called her and she would have detangled it for me.
No matter what the reason or how long it's been, she's making a positive change now. It doesn't matter how long a room was dark once the light is turned on.
This same thing happen to my family members, when she was a baby girl. Probably 3 years old, her mom struggled with mental illness and caring for her became overwhelming. One day she came over and i saw the state of her hair. We sat down with snacks, Disney movies, juice boxes, and love. I combed every single loc out and, washed and braided her hair into a beautiful little girl style with beads. It was like she was an all new baby. So happy, confident, and proud of herself. This sort of tender love and care really changes lives!
I'm a pasty white Eastern European gal who accidentally stumbled upon this video, but I just wanted to say that your mindset is beautiful and inspiring. "A little more kindness, a little less judgement". You seem like a wonderful person and I hope all the kindness you're putting out comes back to you. Edit: lol just to clarify because some people are getting worked up, I said pasty as a joke, I just wanted to say that I really liked the video and the hair stylist's mindset, despite not having the type of hair that the lady in the video does. Chill, guys.
@@casswashwash1070 Sure, but black people can still get lice. The real reason it doesn't happen as often is because it's difficult for eggs to reach the roots. Not to mention, lice prefer clean hair. It's a myth that someone with lice definitely has dirty hair.
IKR- I grew up n Philly about 30 years ago and u a definitely a kindred spirit- u have such an understanding heart 💜- I’m ordering some flat irons and serums n oil from u just based on ur heart
I watched this video about two hours ago. Afterwards I committed myself to not leaving the shower until my hair was detangled. When the water went cold, I turned it off and kept going. I'm now sitting here with two bantu knots, fully detangled with a deep conditioner and bag on. Thanks sis🤗
Thanks for all the good energy. I thought I should share what happened to my hair. I have been natural for 25 years. When the pandemic started I decided to grow it long. My mistake was Using Garnier Fructis in the green bottle. (I usually use natural products ) At first it worked well. One day I got in the shower and it was breaking badly. I got scared to comb it so I put it in a bun and left it up too long. Then it turned into a tangled mess. I have been working with it since my post, but now my hair feels like straw so I I'm just going to cut it off.
Please remain positive and have compassion for peoples circumstances! 💜🙏🏾 Love yall!
ily too! 💞
Respect to you for your approach. Beautiful process taking true *care* of her & her hair.
Thank God for you and for her courage.
@@mrssanfl right!
Any help for hair loss pls help
I had a miscarriage in 2017. I didn't brush or wash my hair for 4 months, I just used dry shampoo and tied it up. I admitted it to my mum one day, and she just sat me down on the floor in front of her and spent 2 hours sorting it, without passing comment. We need more people like you and my mum xx
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray you are better now. Nothing but loving vibes for you. ♥️♥️♥️
What a compassionate mother you have. You are fortunate, blessed to have her. I have learned a lesson about compassion from your story.
So sorry for your loss. You are truly blessed to have such a wonderful mother
So sorry for your loss. So hard. 👼
Been there. When you’re depressed, EVERYTHING is a task. Even getting out of bed. So imagine what a task detangling hair is.
De tangling hair is already a chore if you have thick, long hair. My brother needs to be careful and brush his hair regularly since he has the PERFECT hair type for dreads and locks.
I have frizzy/curly hair that’s down to my waist and I didn’t brush if for six months once...
@@monith9496 i have long and REALLYYYYY thick hair so if i don’t brush it at least 3 times a day it’s a knotted mess and such a pain to get de tangled.
I haven't even brushed my teeth, like it hard, idk if this sounds weird.
Ikr my mom had to buy a lot of stuff to detsngle my hair like it took almost a 2 weeks to do it she had to cut my hair I think I didn't brush my hair for like 2 years gosh and didn't take baths or brush teeth it was bad for me.
Thank you for this. My mom died in December. I went to my stylist in January because I could not mentally deal with my hair. She detangled and deep conditioned me with nothing but kindness. I didn't tell her what happened, but she said, whatever you are going through, just know I'm praying for you and you will be alright." She have me an air hug and I left feeling human again just for a little bit.
Kindness first. Always.
This comment brought tears to my eyes I don't even know why. Sending you hugs as well
This made me tear up! So grateful for your much needed pampering with your stylist. Take care and know God Got You!!
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So happy for her. Depression makes the “simplest” things so impossible
When you’re depressed, getting out of bed is a major chore let alone, self care. It takes a lot of work to crawl out of a deep depression hole.
So true. I hope I can crawl out someday. I’m tired.
You got that right! I'm trying to get out of a major depression myself. All praises be to God because I know my deliverance is coming. 😺
@@DaniHMcV I'm routing for you Sis.💜😺
How do you know shes depressed
@@DaniHMcV,Look into having your hormones checked via saliva test. Have faith, Blessings 👑🌟🤗
You know what this is called? Being a trauma informed hair stylist. The compassion and patience you showed is consistent with trauma informed therapist. You should add that to your marketing and highlight it. Your expertise is not only servicing people who may live with depression, but also survivors of abuse too. So happy to see this!
This is a great comment/compliment! I agree 💖
I agree, there are many reasons that might induce you NOT to do certain things as combing your hair. I have a severe arthritis problem and I can gurantee sometimes it's so painful that I struggle to do the most elementary things. Don't take health for granted!
You’re so right; this woman is amazing!!!
Thank you very much for recognizing this!
She's trauma AWARE not trauma informed. Trauma informed = knows and uses the various psychological treatment modalities relevant to trauma in treatment of various mental illnesses. How to go about treating the illness with trauma present, how (ie what framework) to use to treat it, how to prevent abreactions, maintain safety for client and therapist etc.
*I don’t know who you are, or why UA-cam took this long to recommend your content to me, but boy am I glad to be here to stay!*
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I feel the same ❤️
Cassandra 😊
omg cassandra
Wow I didn’t expect to find you here
Years ago I worked at a physical rehab hospital. A little 8 year old girl that had been in a bad car accident had long hair and after a month in the hospital it was one big rat's nest on the back of her head. Her aunt spent about 6 hours and a couple of bottles of detangling spray to get it out and her niece immediately started to engage in therapy better and just overall improved. All of the staff gave the aunt compliments and some of us chipped in for her to have a spa day.
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Wen u depressed the weight is a heavy burden, everything feels like a chore. The easiest thing to neglect is yourself.
You present a good point.
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So true
Yes.
It happened to me many times
It takes a lot of courage to admit that you need help. She went out and asked for help. That makes her a badass.
THIS!!
A bona fide Shero!😺
Exatclyyyyy
Amen to this 🙌🙌🙏🙏💜💜💯💯
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This happened to me a few years ago. I was clinically depressed and literally didn’t wash or comb my hair for MONTHS. When you’re in that dark of a space your hair is the last thing on your mind. When I finally washed and conditioned my hair, I was a new woman! No judgement here, peace of mind and wellness to her 💕
I hope you are feeling a lot better now! You're not alone.
Sending you love and light ✨❤️
Amen, you be blessed now ma'am, God is going to replace that mourning for joy in the morning. Beauty for Ashes❤
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God bless you dear!!💙💙
Love what you said about not judging people because you don't know what they're going through. We need more people like you in this world
when i was 12 i was homeless living in a truck w my dad and little brother and had no comb or even shampoo for almost a month. when i was sent to foster care (a white family who didnt know how to maintain black hair) they took me to a hairdresser who made fun of me the whole time she was cutting the big dreadlock out of my hair. it was a horrible experience, im glad theres ppl like you who dont judge and make someone feel bad for their hair, bc as you said you never know what someone is dealing w in their life
Awww 🥺 am so sorry I hope everything is going well with you
Hi, I hope your foster mother defended you.. I am a white lady and when I was 15 or 16 my cousin fostered some Nigerian children and I loved them to bits. Every chance I had I would always go and see them. I missed them terribly when they went back home to their parents but I knew they were happy to go back with their Mum and Dad. I feel very sorry for you how you felt. I hope you are happy now always remember you are a good person and I am sure you bring sunshine into someone's life every single day xx
That must have been so traumatic for you all...Homelessness is no fun. Hope you are all more settled and happier now, but early trauma leaves marks on the Soul.
This blessed my spirit. Thise are the things we forget about.
@matt dingo that would be amazing but very few blacks adopt or foster children so I am just glad these children are taken to a home somewhere because most black families are leaving these kids to graduate out of an orphanage & rather gossip about them than help
My friend had depression for years, with no support system at home. Her hair also got completely entangled at one point. So she went to hair stylist and she criticized her badly and also chopped her hair short. Then she lost her father...and then few months later she took her own life. Please, please don't judge.
Omg 😔! I am so sorry , people are so mean.
This makes me wanna cry... It's horribly hard to read this
I am sorry if I made anyone sad, I just wanted to share so people don't judge so quickly. Truth is hard...and truth is that with no support we cannot survive. Some people can't get comfort from their family...so they depend on us as collective to at least not be hateful. Little kindness can indeed save lives. I remember all she had in last months was sharing stuff online, bacause she couldn't get outside...negative energy is hard on anyone...but can you imagine what it does to someone already on the edge. Please friends...be kind, even when others aren't...try to be brave and spread love.
Wow that’s so heartbreaking !! 💔🙏🏾
I am so sorry.
You know what's funny? I'm a white girl with 2b hair. When I wasa kid I just never brushed it. My mother was single and working so she never noticed the giant knot that formed up against my scalp. Went to the hairstylist and they immediately chopped my hair off. I was devastated. You're over here untangling 4a,b,and c hair like it's no issue. You're awesome.
I have 2a/2b hair and I once got a round brush stuck in there and we considered cutting it off but I spent several minutes trying to pull my hair out of it. I'm happy it never had to happen again.
I'm white, I don't know what kind of curls mine are, but I don't brush them dry ever. I just spray them with water and plump them up. They start to lock on day 4-7 of not washing. Normally I wash my hair more often, but I've been having tons of health issues and I don't always have the strength. It hasn't been cut in 2 years, I'm a single moms and never want to spend the money on myself. I've never had my hair lock itself before....sometimes it's tempting to just let it do it, but at this length it would be too heavy for me I think.
a hairstylist should be patient with their clients, your hairstylist should have never chopped your hair if you didn’t want that. i hope you didn’t go back
@@mombythec girl, as a person who has had dreads twice, AND i'm a hairstylist, i wouldn't recommend it. people think dreads are going to be easy and not take any work, but it's actually the opposite. if you want your dreads to look nice, and not grow anything funky inside of them, (i knooow, rite?) they actually need LOTS of attention. also yes, they will be heavy asf. im sorry to hear about your health stuff..i have fibromyalgia and lots of issues with my hips and legs due to a genetic thing and being on my feet all day for many years doing hair. I totally understand. A wide tooth comb and a good detangler are your best friends. the main thing to know about curls is moisture. they need it, and lots of it... keep that in mind and it's a good place to start. Hang in there!!- xo
@@heathervee555 thank you :) I have fibro too and we still don't know what else, if only doctors would take as much time as this hairdresser! I actually got a gift certificate for mothers day yay!!! So I will get to go get all these dead ends off soon and then it won't be so hard to get through like it is now.
Took me 9 hours, but I finally detangled my hair; Thank you!!!! Whenever I got tired or discouraged, I would just rewatch this video. Game changer...I am so proud of myself! God bless you 🙏🏽 ❤
You rock! I'm so proud of you! ❤
This video just shows the difference between a stylist that does the craft for the people vs a stylist that does it for the money. She looked amazing and left happy which is the best.
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Ms. Gina looked absolutely gorgeous 😍
Yup this is absolutely her method of Healing ppl!
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When you’re sick, depressed, bed ridden etc. even simple things like brushing your hair, brushing your teeth, doing skincare, and whatever else is SO HARD. I know first hand and having tight curls/thick hair makes it even harder. Poor woman, her hair is gorgeous tho❤️
Edit: everyone who is thinking/saying that you’re depressed and can do all of these things, AMAZING, great for u honestly! But not everyone is the same and some people’s depression is debilitating and we use self neglect as a /poor/ coping mechanism. Don’t come in this comment section invalidating other’s experiences✨✨
girl yes !! this is such a taboo topic as well, especially for the black girl community because all we see is women getting a new frontal, birkin bags, long nails and living their best life which is beautiful thing and I love to see it but us black women go through depression where were not taking car of ourselves the proper way as well knowing deep down we have a purpose and gift in this world but depression knocks us right back down. I guess we get ashamed of that topic because were females but it is very true. depression makes everything so hard to do things for yourself. Even to get up in the morning. it needs to be talked about more.
@@viceversa2515 both of you said that beautifully. No matter who we are, we all go through our own struggles. No one should ever be judged based on circumstance. ❤️
So very true!! Praying for you all!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🤍🤍
@@viceversa2515 everyone suffers from this. Not just black girls. Whyre you isolating black girls into a group?
@@cynergy526 babygirl I didn’t, you’re reading it wrong which is ok lol. that’s why I said “especially” black girls where I’m talking about all women but it’s very taboo and not talked about in the black community. When folks talk about depression they stereotype it into “emo” or “white” people. It’s not really talked about and pushed under the rug about the black community. Mind you she’s doing a black womens hair. We all go thru depression. I was just stating the fact it’s a taboo thing to be talked about in the black community because as a black women were looked at into being “strong”.
I left my abusive ex-husband and one of his forms of abuse was complete control of my appearance. When I left him, I did nothing about my appearance, including showering, brushing my hair, anything, for several months. Eventually my friend convinced me to find a stylist to help and as she was helping me for 3 hours, I cried like a baby. It was one of the most healing experiences of my life and I will forever be grateful to my stylist who also became my friend that day. Thank you for helping this gorgeous woman and showing how much compassion you give.
This is what I need for myself. I've been beaten down and neglected for so long and I need serious help with my hair.
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@@micheleparker8123 if i was a stylist and near you i'd completely help you, i hope you feel better soon love
pop off queen live life the way you wanna just know you have my 1000% support although i may not know you i understand you from this story
"Instead of being intimidated by it, I was drawn to it." So much respect for this statement Sis.🙏🏾✊🏾
I got misty-eyed when you said, “She’s going to be fine, she’s going to be just fine.” Thank you for being understanding to those suffering in silence. People like you make this world a better place.
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@xWithEyesLikeSunsets I did cry, and I cried again posting a comment.
As someone who has struggled with depression, you have no idea how big of a difference you're making in her life and her road to recovery. Sometimes simple displays of empathy can mean the world.
@Ra'Mel Stokes that's not really something you should say to someone struggling with mental health tbh
@@junejuniejune what they said was beautiful actually
@@EsiriE Some (and actually most) people with depression and s**cidality lose trust in real people, even God doesn't matter to them. Do factor in that they may be atheist as well, meaning that they don't believe in God, in any force, realistic or not, to help them out. So yes, it can be insulting and deepening the mental pain of depressed people. It is with good intent, just inappropriate to use.
@@ObliviousVibes atheism doesn't automatically mean someone's depressed
@@ObliviousVibes well get out of that mindset, because you’re wrong, religion has no place in someone’s coping ways and emotions.
After my husband passed away last Dec. I didn't shower, brush my teeth, comb my hair or change my clothes. I just washed our bedding after 6 months. I'm just now up to showering daily. Depression will cause you to completely give up. 😔😢😓😔😔💔
I’m a young widow who lost my hubby 10 urs ago. It’s a pain I thought I’d never get over but you just take it one day at a time and create “a new normal” for your life. Sorry for ur loss (hugs) ❤️
Sending 💕..I hope you have a support system during this painful time.
God loves you so so much, he will comfort you
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ll be praying for you in these tough times. You can do this you’re a strong person :)
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The fact that you were drawn to it and not intimidated confirms that this is your calling. Keep up the great work and showing compassion the way you do.
🥺🥺 when my mom went into the hospital for the last time, they didn't do a thing for her hair. I tried to so hard to get her hair unlocked. She told me to cut it. I cried. She then told me "make sure you get a pretty wig for my funeral". I did. I'm so glad you got this lady's hair unlocked. It warmed my heart.
I’m so sorry you lost your mom, as women it’s a life changing moment to be there to help the woman who gave you life, as she is ending hers. I’m so glad you had that special time together.
I lost my mom in a sudden way and there was no funeral due to covid. her hair was so beautiful and near the end she was losing it due to illness. life feels meaningless now with no parents at a young age
@@pinkpugginz Yeah! I totally agree. I'm only 10 and 2 and a half years ago I lost my mom. She didnt die but it also made me lose a lot of other loved ones. I hope you feel better, losing someone you love very much is hard! Especially a parent...
@@roxanneservaddiso9853 thank you love. I feel so different now. But I'm glad I was able to take care of her.
@@pinkpugginz I'm so sorry. My mom didn't die from covid but during the craziness that was going on. We had to rush her funeral. She died on a Monday and had her funeral Saturday. I'm not sure your age but I thought I would be older and not in my 30s without both parents.
I didn't understand why this was recommended to me, but now I get it. You are not a hairdresser, you are a HAIR CARER who helps people who have stopped caring for themselves. God bless.
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This is SO WELL SAID! ♥
Or unable to care for themselves
To me, this is truly a servant ministry. Loving on folks.💕
Now, I have a 5 yr old that absolutely fights to brush her hair and hair is fine and plentiful.i need that conditioner with lots of slip to comb it after its washed/ or while washing. We get so frustrated that we want to cut that baby girls hair🙄🙄
Lol I call them hair care specialists 😂😂
I made a very ignorant comment on tiktok a few weeks ago simply bc my depression wasn’t like someone else’s and my entire thought process was f’d up. Now I realize how people can get depressed enough to not think about themselves. Im happy God crossed her path with yours! 💜
The fact that you now realize that your previous TikTok comment was in poor taste, proves that you have grown. GOOD ON YOU FOR GROWING AND SHARING! The world needs more people like you; more who are not afraid to admit that they have made a mistake, and are sorry for it!
It's the learning and character growth for me. I'm glad you've learnt to be more compassion and honest with your mistakes, Iyanna.
We all have done things we aren’t proud of. As long as you have recognized your mistake, owned it, and changed your thinking, you are winning honey!! Changed behavior is the best apology!! It’s the growth for me!! I love it!!❤️
Sis your openness and honesty of self awareness will be a blessing to someone who may have been walking in your shoes. Bless you queen hold your head high and smile with confidence 💘
I wish more people would just own up to mistakes and try to do better as you are doing. It isn't a sign of weakness, it's a huge sign of strength of character!
“A little more kindness and a lot less judgment” are words to live by!
You really changed her life. I’m sure she was scared and worried about sensing judgement from you. Thank you for helping her.
yep!
Kee is an ANGEL on earth!!!
Wow “Thank YOU for helping HER.” 💛✨
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I honesty don't think after watching Ke's videos anyone could think she'd judge them 💜
She was so okay with you just cutting it off to not inconvenience you, and putting herself second, BUT you did not allow that; for that I applaud you. Sometimes we forget about our selves that we expect others to do the same. I feel like most wouldve gone the easy route. You have the heart, and patience of an angel
Wow this spoke to me, made me cry. We need to remember to care about ourselves as we care about others. Thank you.
It’s the patience for me because I can use a little more in some situations. I know I don’t have nearly enough patience for my hair as both these ladies have.
That’s such a wise observation ❤️
Yahuah sent His Son Yahusha to die for you! DO NOT take the mark of the beast devil vaccine
As someone who struggles with self care during depression this gives me hope.
Me too. This is the video I needed.
Thank you for sharing, people don't even think about the full impact depression can have on someone's life. The sheer weight of living with mental illness.
Me too.
Blessings to you 🌷🙏🏽😊
I'm in a depressed state right now. I wash my hair but rarely comb it. Just don't have the energy. I have my good days and bad days.
The "Hair Angel"... your compassion for each of your client shines through...
My sister has depression and once let her hair get pretty close to this. I sat there with her all night and used my fingers to detangle her entire head. We sat, watched movies, talked… this could happen to anyone. And you’re right, kindness and compassion goes such a long way.
What a lovely sister you are.
Thank you for showing her love. You may never know the extent to which she appreciates you. My sister stood by me, too, and I was able to recover well.
She will never forget the love you showed her!
Such a Long way. My parents and sister didn't know what to do with my hair growing up, so often it looked messy and terrible...as an adult I am trying so hard to support my son with his hair but he has autism and other diagnosis that you wouldn't know by just looking at him, and those have been such an obstacle when it comes to his hair. Passing judgment doesn't help anyone.
It's very pleasant to see compassionate and hard worker like you
“She’s gonna be just fine.” I’m so touched. Impressed by her patience and skills. It felt more like therapy.
“hair therapy”
Same ❤️
I was in a coma once. It was an emergency surgery so no time to worry with hair. I have very curly hair. Hospital bathrooms don't have mirrors. I could feel something was very wrong. I couldn't fully comprehend how long i had been unconscious. Before I went home my dad helped me limp into the stylist. Two kind stylists worked with me for hours. I thought they would have to cut it. They said my hair was in dred locks and I am white. I was sad because I had already lost so much. They only cut one tiny piece. For weeks I was too weak to manage my hair while I recovered. I went for a long time I went back and they would wash and style my hair. Its not just an art. It was pure human kindness. It was a boost to my soul. My husband of 30 years had left me just before I got sick. This reminds me to be grateful for kindness. May God bless you.
That's horrible im sorry you had to go through that, those people are so amazing they deserve the world and so do you. Hope you are doing better now!
@ janet baird. A beautiful testimonial. God Bless You for all you've gone through. Wishing you the best. 😘
This is why I will either wash and detangle my patients hair who are intubated and under sedation or ask if their family would like to do something to maintain their hair as best as possible... care isn’t just about a person health but the body as well
❤❤❤ hugs
@@shaelovebeyonce144 dear ❤❤❤❤💋
This video broke my heart and then mended it. I'm a white-ass man with fine, thinning hair - but I know what it's like to stop taking care of yourself due to depression and trauma. It becomes very difficult to treat yourself well when it feels like the world doesn't - day in and out, you're receiving negative reinforcement that you don't deserve nice things.
The really inspiring thing about this story is that she actually approached you for help. It is so, so courageous to ask for help sometimes - everybody needs it, but speaking up is damn hard. Really glad you were able to make this happen for her and I hope she's doing well today.
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Hugs from a black woman in the southern US. I hope you're feeling better.
I have bipolar disorder. Depression manifests differently for everyone and every time. The happiest person you see may be the one struggling the most. As a stylist, I’ve sat for hours to help detangle someone’s hair because I may never know what they’re feeling, but I can understand. Hair isn’t always just hair. Not everyone has a support system so please do not judge. Love and light to you for your patience and understanding with this beautiful woman.
I'm one of those people for whom hair is not "just hair". I'm always glad to see someone else that understands that sentiment.
I totally agree with you. And you do a wonderful job. I suffer mental health issues and depression and I don't wash my hair weeks at a time just put it a ponytail and it's difficult to look after yourself at times. Thank you for caring ❤️❤️love from England
Bless your heart ma'am ❤you get it. Im.sure thar person was so happy to just have you around. Sending you love
I don't know you but I felt some kind of way after reading your comment.
I went through depression for many years, but today I am not bothered with it.
Hang in there you will get through it.
Peace & Love
I will remember you in my prayers
Thank You for sharing. When I began reading the comments I was wondering if Bipolar Disorder would be mentioned. Too emotional to watch these videos but I appreciate the uploads and compassion. Sometimes I feel that I will be forever judged and misunderstood.
The courage it takes to visit a salon after having personal issues that your hair suffered, the compassion a stylist shows to get your hair looking 🔥, that shows so much. Glad the client is feeling good because she’s looking good too. Bless you.
She is. This video is everything.
Yeah. I feel like most hair stylist are kind of mean. They judge you. I have yet to find a good stylist.
You're so right! It's like being overweight & going to a gym where you don't know how to use the equipment with people judging & staring.
@@LG-kx8xl Exactly! I don’t judge. I have no clue what someone is going through. I just hope they get through it safely.
@@adrianna5378 they are some of the meanest service providers out there.
That woman must’ve felt so much better. Depression messes with you more than most people think. To all the commenters saying this is not a big deal, it’s the small things like hygiene that make you feel like yourself again. The hair dresser/stylist did a great job. Thank you
I have depression and neglect things like hair a lot, not for this long, but several days mostly. It feels sooooo nice to just get that sorted out, to the point that it changes my outlook on the day, and many people don't understand that
Exactly I have to force myself to do basic things like shower, brush teeth, and eating.. basic stuff like that is mentally exhausting when you’re depressed.. however my body is incredibly sensitive so I have to stay on top of those things
What a wonderful job and I know you are a Christian.
@@KT-pw1cq I know that I am a random person on the internet, but I also have to force myself to do this stuff, I also have depression. I've found it to be quite helpful, though a bit embassing at first, to make yourself a daily checklist or chart of essential things you have to do each day, along with some self care activities. I have one with like, showering, getting dressed, having breakfast, brushing my teeth and doing my hair, that stuff along with like going outside and reading a book. And at the end of the week, or however long you choose, get youself a reward, like a nice dinner from your favorite restaurant, or whatever you want to reward yourself for doing good. It's really helped me take care of myself more and I hope that it might help you too, or anyone reading this.
@@angeljones965 thank you. You have such a kind soul 💕 continue to be you
When you said DEPRESSION you nailed it. We all have been through so much in the last 3 years. We really do need to be understanding and kind to each other.
I lost someone once and stopped taking care of myself. Going to a stylist and having her take care of my hair without judgement, letting me sit quiet as she brushed my hair, I actually cried. It felt so comforting. You are so sweet. Need more compassionate people like you in the world.
Absolutely 🤗❤️🙏
We Need More Compassion. Depression and Trauma is No Joke. I Love What You Do. Ty.🙏😊👍❤
You are So gentle when doing hair. What a gift You Have Honey...What a gift.😊
The stylist does have a beautiful spirit. ❤️
@@ashera324 WOW what a wonderful woman, we need more kindness in this world, thank you. Cheers.
Every video you share proves over and over that it's always been deeper than hair for you.
What she said ♥️
Well said.
Ver, very well said.
AMEN, we LOVE and have so much RESPECT for you!♥️☮️🙏🏻
I agree❤️
Covid was hard most people, so I can only image how hard it’s been for those with depression. Glad she felt well enough to see you. You are a true artist.
It's been really really rough. Thank you for your compassion. it means a lot
Whew it's been so hard. Videos like this get me emotional. 🤧💔 God bless this hairdresser, fr.
depression and COVID don’t give you an excuse to be musty 🤮
@@boiwhatthehellboi5102 Like shutup. Clearly you are fortunate enough to not have to suffer so just move on.
@@boiwhatthehellboi5102 nah bc shut the hell up u don’t understand what people go through and u never know what has happened for her hair to get like this so stop being all bougie bc this is reality
*****Only those who have gone through the abyss of depression know what it means to take care of themselves again!!! Congratulations on the initiative of treating your customers with so much affection 🥰🇧🇷🥰🇧🇷🥰🇧🇷🥰🇧🇷🥰🇧🇷
As a woman who's suffered and is suffering with depression I've had this happen a few times. My hairdresser was so kind to me when she brushed it out. She will forever be my friend and hairstylist
That is Good that your friend is a hairstylist!
Oh guess that explains my questions why don't just cut them instead of let them grow that way
@@zinimini4516 sometimes when I'm in a deep depression brushing my teeth won't even happen. I just lau in bed. I also have chronic illnesses that cause me pain and stuff. So, sometimes i can catch it b4 and gonsee her and she cuts it all off for me. But also she has knotted my hair b4 as well. Shes willing to do both and is not judgey. She remembers my stuff even tho i only go in like once a year. I always try to tip her very well for her services as well.
Wow! you struck gold with that! I tried to go to a stylist but she wanted to just cut it all off and that would have left me with a buzz cut. :(
It's definitely a vicious cycle. Get depressed, let yourself go, get depressed because you've let yourself go, want it fixed but are too upset to fix it/don't think it can be fixed, put it off, and the cycle repeats and repeats. So happy for her now and that she can walk around confidently strutting her stuff again!
Nailed it💯
This makes me so happy!!
The worst vicious cycle out there. My husband was severely abused as a child and has battled depression for 35 years. He just bought a bicycle and is now getting out of the house, getting in shape and socializing. I'm so happy to see him come back to life. ❤💗💖
Yes its swings and round abouts and you just can't get off
Me with my weight🤦🏿♀️
Fixing it now though. One day at a time
We are in a pandemic! This past year has been hard on everyone, and has impacted all of us differently. Sending love and light to everyone!
Well said.
Sending it right back to you sis!
This 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
True💗
And we have been through a war in my country in addition to pandemic this year. I am a white woman with straight fair hair. And I watch her for the kindness I find here. ❤
Depression is vicious. I went almost 3 months without a shower or washing my hair. I just couldn't do anything. My hair was extremely matted. It took about 90 minutes to detangle my hair which is very, very long and thin. There was some breakage and there was a lot of hair loss but it came out great. The shampooing was wonderful. I felt so much better, and having used a Moroccan scrub glove after my extremely long, soapy shower, my skin was soft and smooth. It wasn't the end of my depression but I did take regular showers and regularly washed my hair after that. No one has any idea how inert you get with depression. You're active in your head but you cannot do anything. With great therapy and kindness, I was able to come out of it. Gentleness and kindness are essential.
Her: "you can cut it all off"
You: *healing love*
I love how you determined you are to keep the hair!
Determined because it COULD BE kept, and a patient Hairstylist would recognize that. Sometimes it HAS to go and that would have been alright too.
I'm sure there's many hair dressers who would have taken the easy way out, and cut it all off. I'm so glad that she has a big heart and wants what's best for the client
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God so loved the world that He gave up His only begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life-John 3:16
Yo, but real talk. This woman is strong af. Imagine going through this and still finding the courage to reach out to someone to do your hair after you’ve neglected it for so long..
That’s women’s magic. I wish her the utmost best 💜
Right and she had such a beautiful attitude despite it all. She's gorgeous!
a hair video is the last thing i expected to watch but this transformation is insane, never expected something like that to be salvageable
Omg hi, I love your videos goherping!
Weird to see u here . Was just watching a video of yours lol
Bro i completely forgot that your channel existed, but you made me wanna get a reptile a year or two ago and now i have my leopard gecko (who’s very well taken care of :) )
I did not expect to see you here and I completely agree
Its the reptil men
After my son died caring for myself felt like a selfish luxury. I just couldn’t do it. Much love to you for your kindness. You’re special ♥️
i hope you know now, that taking care of you is definitely not selfish, you deserve to feel self-love. also, im almost positive your son wouldn't want you to do that to yourself, love. (i understand it's easier said than done) but you deserve happiness. i am so sorry for your loss -sincerely, a boy mom, too.
@aracelilcalles I am so sorry for your loss! 🤗🤗
@@roxannewilliams8702 thank you!♥️
Your son would want you to treat yourself like a "Queen"!
P.S. and it can be simple things like time to yourself, to meditate or soaking in a bath!
@@BaybAzzon you’re right. Thank you ♥️
What an amazing transformation performed with love.
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Poor woman told you if it's too much to just cut it off. She was probably depressed for a long time and assumes she's a burden, good thing she found you.
No, she just doesn’t want to bother with her hair. It doesn’t mean she’s depressed. Not everyone thinks their hair is the most important thing & needs to always look perfect. Easy maintenance is key for many women.
@@can.du.8116 There's a difference between not wanting to put effort into your hair and straight up letting it get tangled for months. No one mentally sound does that.
@@mkg2124 mentally unsound is unnecessarily harsh. Everyone gets depressed from time to time.
@@can.du.8116 can you maybe not??
I think the lady could’ve got the locks out quicker was by using a hot oil treatment on the bottom part then using a brush then going back over it with a comb she could’ve done it more effect. I’ve done it on my friends hair before.
As someone with clinical depression, I deeply appreciate your love and patience. I know she did. And she looks beautiful. I have periods of neglect, too.
I have an autoimmune disease and have been bedridden for weeks at a time. Unable to comb or wash my hair- or wash but not comb and after laying in bed the tangles build into a nest. I have a stylist who has taken 1hour to detangle me more than once. She never asked any questions. Dosen't even charge me extra. I leave feeling so renewed. With illness i have lost a lot in my life, but every few months I feel normal & alive again thanks to her. There really are still good people in this world.
Same here.... as soon as I saw the video I could totally relate. I don’t have African American hair, but my hair is naturally curly and gets really matted at the nape of my neck. I’ve had time when I just couldn’t detailed it on my own after weeks of being in a flare that kept me from showering or grooming at all. It’s embarrassing being a woman in my 40’s dealing with that, so it’s heart warming to see compassionate women helping out.
After she detangles it for you, can you get her to put it in a braid? If it's long enough to make a braid that will keep it from tangling. I had to do that when I had a serious back injury and couldn't get out of bed.
@@mygirldarby so true! After I got surgery my mom helped me get my hair in braids and it made such a huge difference. Lots of oil and a little bit of wax and my hair looked amazing once I was able to wash it.
Yes, I also suffer from an autoimmune disease. Wash day is such a chore for my hands. I have a hair stylist who does my wash/condition/braids.
God Bless everybody reading this God Loves y’all🙌🏽✝️❤️🙏🏽 God Bless you and your Family and make sure to give Glory to Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and put your Trust, Faith, and Love into him and believe Jesus Christ is Lord and is the Son of Our Most High God🙌🏽❤️✝️
I'm not sure how this video ended up on my UA-cam. I'm a white woman who does not watch videos about hair but suffers from depression. I had to tell thank you for your patience when working on her hair. We all have difficult times and handle them differently. As women we should remind each other how important we are and not tear down each other. I know I get embarrassed about my hygiene when my depression gets bad. Her hair at the end was beautiful. Thank you again for your patience and reminding your customer that she deserves to feel important and beautiful.
For my depression I tried Talkspace.com to match me to a certified therapist in 🇺🇸
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@My debt free life : You are amazing!!! Depression shows up in many forms. I am not sure who the client is, but I am sure you appreciate your words of enlightenment and encouragement. All the best to you and I am sending prayers of peace and healing your way🙂
Another white lady checking in. I do watch hair videos though and have sometimes watched Black hair you tubers specifically. I never realized that there was so much to having Black hair and am fascinated. I'm also interested in learning about the very deep cultural role Black hair has in the community. So, I'm just hear to be inspired, fascinated and to learn. 🥰
I have worked in customer service for over 30 years so I understand the importance of servicing you client with respect and love. You have to be gentle, patient and understanding. You absolutely have to understand that each person you encounter is unique and have had a different journey. You have a gift to share. I'm proud to watch you! Keep doing what you're doing!
As a hairdresser I have mad respect for your skills, she looks 20 years younger, you can see the joy in her face! You cannot be in this industry if you don’t have a heart for people. Our hair tells our story , you can tell if someone is going through challenges (emotional, mental or physical) by the state of the hair. We never know what someone is going through, that’s why it’s important to hold love in your heart and not judgement. God bless you and your talent!
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My jaw was on the floor when was straightening it, so I can imagine how joyful her client was. I would have been sobbing 😭
Also this is all so true... When your hair is a hot mess you've already *been* feeling bad about it, you don't need someone's professional opinion of how bad it is... so it's difficult to go to the stylist! I've had nothing but stylists who make disparaging remarks; it seems like they are always condescending and everything I do is wrong. I also cut my hair myself in like 1 minute when I was depressed and I dreaded going to get it fixed because I didn't want to deal with their comments. Like she said in the video, everyone deals with things differently and my mother always cut her hair off when she was going through it and so do I.
Not always. For example whenever I wear my hair natural I am treated like a criminal in shops even though I am not. So it is not always the case.
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Poor lady! We’ve all dealt with depression and I’m still dealing with anxiety! I’m glad she’s now feeling better and starting to care for herself! Thank you for showing her compassion, kindness, and gentleness; the world needs more of you!
And you too. Be blessed. 💗
Sending love, light, and healing to you sis❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Yep. I have depression amd serious health issues. I keep my hair braided for these reasons. There are times I just let my braids grow out so bad and i just didn't care. You have no energy for it. Sometimes i have to force myself to just do it. So many hugs to everyone going through it.
@@1jazzyphae word it makes me feel better knowing there are ppl like me going thru things. Most of the time it’s hard for us to reach out because we don’t think anyone would understand. Prayers up to everyone..it’s hard at times, but we can elevate with 🙏🏽 STAY BLESSED EVERYONE..sending virtual HUGGIES🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
My brother deals with anxiety and it's honestly heartbreaking when he's having one. Hope you can get through it one day!
When I was a kid I got super depressed, like suicidal level done with happiness depressed, my grades dropped and i just didnt have the energy to comb my hair. My dad was so pissed that he just cut off all my hair unevenly while screaming at me. Was one of the worst feelings in the world. Thanks for reminding people there’s always another way to handle a problem
Sadly so many people don’t understand depression, they think you can just snap out of it.. If only it was that easy Smh
I also experienced severe depression when I was a teen, thanks to my sister I got the help I needed. I truly hope you are in a good space now 💜
@@SLees-tv7gh thanks, I am doing slightly better now. I’m glad you got the help you deserved and hope nothing less than contentment for you from here on out.
@@jasminethegrayknight thank you and right back atcha.😊
So sorry you went through that sweetheart. I'm sure your dad probably didn't realize what he was doing....I hope...but God bless you ❤
I am so glad you are getting better. You didn't deserve that❤️.
We never know what people are going through, or have been going through. This person cared enough about their hair to come to you for help, and I think that speaks for itself. Thank you for helping them!
I know this video is a year old, and you probably won’t see this but this is the video I started watching that got me to get up, shower, and brush my hair after about 2 weeks. My depression is crippling me. But your commentary on this video was just pure kindness. I wish I could be a client.
I don’t know who you are, but I’m so glad that you were able to get up and find the motivation, because sometimes when things get out of control it feels like you can’t gain back control, but just remember that lost things are still yours even when you can’t find it, sometimes you just gotta look for it
You are not alone my dear - l understand- everyday is a battle with depression, l only just yesterday saturated my hair with water and conditioner and rinsed - shampoo and conditioner again - went to comb it out , it was full of knots , l neglected my hair for two months - as it’s winter have been covering it with a scarf and hat when l leave the house- it took me hours - still have a section left - but will tackle this later on today . I hope you are feeling better in spirits- bless you ❤
You did amazing! Sometimes it just needs a kind comment to bring us motivation to change things. You are awesome for fighting. You're not alone sis 🖤🫂
Sending you love and blessings 💜💕
Where are you located?
I'm a 35 yr old white woman and love watching you. Your voice is so calming and seem like you have a really sweet soul.
I love listening and watching her do hair. Her Voice is really calming and she really cares about her clients hair
Im a 26 year old white woman with pin straight hair but I watch all of her videos. Her knowledge is astounding, I have learned so much from her videos. It helped me a lot regarding how to take better care of my hair, in terms of being gentle with it.
I'm a 20 year old white guy and I love watching her
I'm 23 yo, live in Russia and I LOVE her videos. They are really calming like mother's hugs. Such a safe space for me😌🥰
Where is your shop located?
As a person who has suffered with crippling depression for over 15 years now... I literally cried with this video. Thank you for being so kind and lovely. I don't know why YT recommend this video to me, but I'm so glad it did. Lots of love 💜
Oh my goodness!! Crippling depression for over 15 years!!? How are you alive?
@@JadaSchenckGarcia Let me tell you, sometimes you don't have the will to live but you don't have the will to die, either and that's a dark place. Depression is a real monster because it comes and goes in waves but many times we don't know each other's struggles because we are taught as a people and society not to show such 'weakness'. I've dealt with depression for more than 15 years and believe me, there have been times where but for the Grace of God go I...
Stay strong Nina..
@@JadaSchenckGarcia someone wants me to be. Tried 3 times no to, and failed all 3. Guess I just have to be here and try to fight it even though is really hard
@@DarlingNikki2 you're absolutely right, Nikki. We're together in this. I'm sending you all the strength I can and we'll find a way to keep our heads above the water. 💜
I’ve been there. Depression is a real barrier to doing your hair. I dream of helping other women near me who also struggle with depression and hair care ❤
My mom is in hospital right now, so when i visited I brought the hair grease and comb to tame the hair and her mood elevated. Our old hairdresser used to tell us grooming takes the mind away from the crap we gotta put up with, and it makes you instantly feel a lot better.
I hope ur mom gets well soon
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Blessings to you and thank you so much❣️
Hope mom gets better real soon! Keep taking care of mom & God will take care of you !
Best wishes too your mom❤️
That’s a damn lie! If that were true, all of us with depression would just go to the beauty parlour or spa when we were having an « episode » and be cured... that thought stems from the idiotic trope that if a woman just gets her hair done she’ll feel so much better about EVERYTHING
People who have never dealt with depression have no idea how uplifting getting ones hair done an be. I know that when I’m depressed, I don’t want anyone going into my personal space.
I completely understand what your saying. For me I even struggle to go into a store to pick up basic necessities when my depression is at its worst.
as someone who has struggled with depression for years, I'm sure this made a HUGE difference in her life. a little bit of kindness and compassion can truly go a long way
That is right
My hair has been far worse in my most depressed moments. Took me and a friend 3 days to detangle it once, several hours each day. I’m so glad I finally got to a good place to get it healthy and well managed. You did such a great job. She has gorgeous hair and should get to show it off when she wants. 💜
Last year was the las time I went to a beauty salon. I lost her due to stress and my hair was short and thin. I went for a treatment and the girl was almost making fun of me. She was not interested in making me feel comfortable. She was talking to the other girls in the salon and not putting any effort on what she was doing. All the clients waiting were looking at me on a very contemptuous way. I just wanted to leave that place soon. She did a bad job drying my hair then I said to my mom I would never go to a hair salon again. I would like to be able to go to your salon. You look like a very nice lady who will make me feel comfortable and beauty.
That’s sad I’m so sorry
thats terrible🥺
That's not nice or professional. Hope next one they respect you .
Very unprofessional smh I’m so sorry you had to endure that.
I would have told her a word or two, ha!
Same happened to me a couple of times in different salons.
That's why I havent found my hairstylist yet...I highly value good customer service.
I feel and share her pain. Quarantine and Wfh left me with laziness, depression, no self care, health issues, and weight gain. I cut mine a few times because I just didn’t want to deal with it. I even have a few bald spots. I finally went to a stylist yesterday and I feel so much better. It was so relaxing and she made me feel good. It will be ok!!! We’re coming back this way.
Not laziness...it’s no desire no motivation and a feeling of being overwhelmed
I’ve experienced the same!! So happy you are feeling better😊
Your beautiful tho
I was having this conversation with my manager because just like yourself WFH has isolated and I gave up on many things and self-care being one of them.
Sometimes to uplift ourselves we must hit rock bottom and I know I have and i'm finally picking myself up, one step at a time.
Praying for you!
I love that she said "if you aren't equipped for this, put them in somebody's hands who is." We need to think like this about a whole lot of things. She drops gems 💎 in these videos, besides good hair care.
Agreed!! I love her way of thinking and the way she approaches people and problems. Anyone could learn from her. Especially in times like these.
Facts!!!!
Love for humanity has not died. Everyone making a positive comment is proving that now. Blessings all and continue to elude compassion and passion for life.
Soooo sorry for this lady. I suffer from depression myself and the smallest task seems monumental. God bless her and God bless you for giving her the most beautiful and uplifting gorgeous hair. AND your a verrrry sweet lady.
My mom has severe arthritis and cannot lift her arms up to wash and comb her hair. She has help- but her hair could easily turn into this if she didn’t. Be kind. And this lady had the courage to ask for help!
I’m sorry your mom has that. 😢
Most people don’t have help. 😭😭
I’m so so sorry :(
Its tough to ask for help. I have lupus and cannot hold my arms up long enough to wash or brush my hair. My husband helps but I hate to ask him.
When your severely depressed as easy as it seems but taking a brush to brush your hair is the hardest thing to do .
Even just taking care of yourself- I’m happy she helped her out though
Yeah I know how it feels.
@Randy Candelario did you just smh people diagnosed with mental illness or am I just dumb
thank you! the fact that some people dont understand and judge.. is kinda disappointing.
@@sunhopii8534 don’t think they meant it that way
I’m on the brink of tears because this is what my hair looks like under my wigs. I wear my wigs like a hat. Depression is real. Thank You for your kindness❤
You are a Queen created with purpose!! Wear your crown with pride, you deserve love and happiness 👑💜
@@Ksb88 Thank You So Much❤️❤️❤️
my hair's never locked up like this, but it usually is in some state of disrepair despite me committing to natural hair in 8th grade (so about... four years ago, which is wild). i usually go without washing it for weeks, sometimes months at a time, thanks to depression and adhd among other things. at one point, it was severely matted and i picked bald spots into my head. it's recovered since.
but i especially wanted to reply because i wear wigs as well. i cut my hair during the pandemic and my mom had me try out some wigs. i love them, but not only does it hurt the edges of my scalp to wear them, it makes me neglect my hair because i have more pride in my wigs... mental health issues are really something else.
I have been where you are. Always remember things WILL get better. Super cliche but there’s always light at the end of the tunnel, you just have to find it 😊…I always try to remind myself of that when things seem hopeless. Even though I don’t know you, I love you my sister. God bless you ❤
I, too have not done my hair this year. It's so locked n tangled. Depression is REAL MY PEOPLE. I just saw where tWitch just committed suicide. You never know what someone is going through. I'm embarrassed to even go get it done because of judgement. Please 🙏🏽 pray for me....
Omg she must have felt like a million dollars. What an amazing job you did and you were so compassionate and thinking of the client at all times
When my depression was bad I let my hair become completely matted more than once. It’s been years since then but this was really touching. You made all the difference for her.
Sometimes the smallest things can make the biggest difference 💖💗
same this happened to me i recently just untangled it only had to cut off one really matted spot it sucks to leave it all tangled up especially with my 4c hair!
I have straight hair, but when I was in middle school, I was going through the worst depression of my life. I remember having a naught at the back of my head towards the base of my neck that was so tight I later on needed to get it cut off. I was too embarrassed, and felt too alone for anyone to help me with it. My mom only found out one day when she felt it. Sometimes people just need this, to feel cared for again
God so loved the world that He gave up His only begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life-John 3:16
If I could give this a million likes I would. Her saying “just cut it off” but you took your time and gave her the love and positive energy she needed. The look on her face at the end is priceless!
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Ppl really underestimate just how powerful seemingly ‘little’ things like hair or skin or whatever can be when it comes to dealing and healing with mental illness
I know right. When you're depressed you don't have the energy to take basic care of yourself sometimes. Causing you to feel even worse in a vicious cycle.
@@violetta2964 thats exactly what you should do. Alot of people just tell them it's bugly or it can't been fixed. But instead they need to support and help that person be susceptible positivity and glow.
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This is probably my third or fourth time watching this video. She looks so youthful and radiant! Great job as usual!
I'm a 41 year old white mom of 6 with the straightest blonde hair you've ever seen. Not sure how I ended up here...... But I'm glad I am here. You're an amazing woman! You had me at your intro, More kindness. Less judgment. What an amazing gift of service you are sharing. So much love, hope, and prayers to you 💕
Can we normalize us discovering and watching things that don’t necessarily pertain to our own selves? It’s such a beautiful thing to see and learn!
I agree. She made it so beautiful too! Amazing!
She really set the tone with that quote.
@@moonycorn4914 facts!
37 y/o, mom of 4, you're not alone. Lol!
Thank you for not judging this woman. As someone who struggles with depression and can neglect some aspects of my self care for months at a time I really appreciate that.
Thank you for sharing that. I suffer from depression too. Self-care can be difficult when it’s bad.
I agree. We all have issues. This lady is awesome.
I suffer from depression as well thanks for sharing and stay encouraged ❤️
🙏🙏🙏🙏
Her hair as absolutely beautiful.
I am a healthcare assistant and I have worked on mental health wards. When people are depressed it is often all they can do to just get themselves up in the morning. Personal care is neglected because they just don't have the energy. We knew a patient was feeling better when they started to shower and take care of themselves.
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After you got through the first lock, her hair is absolutely beautiful. I hope after this that she sustains it, because she has some gorgeous natural hair.
I have been stuck in intensive care for months at a time and obviously combing my hair at that time was not a priority. Fortunately my mom was there and she legit braided my hair with me on a ventilator but everybody doesn't have family to do that. Good on you for helping her and being kind about it.
Glad your Mom was there too help you.
Hope you’re okay now. May God continue to hold you in his two hands.
wow. Am glad you are alive. Stay blessed sis
Live long and prosper, y’all!You have a great mom!
@@renable7258 My mom prayed me through it. God has certainly blessed and kept me. The doctors said I'd die without a lung transplant. I'm pretty sure my mom said God was in control. I'm still here, I have a good life even though my lungs are not healthy.
After having twins, I showed up to a stylist looking like this five years ago. She wasn’t afraid, and she was patient. Now my hair is to my waist. She showed me how it was to be patient with my hair. I was breastfeeding twins while also raising my 3 and 4 year olds as a SAHM. When I say I was at my wits end, I mean it. Anyway, that stylist helped me in my darkest hour, and I am so thankful for her.
@A Virgo thank you! Same to you 😊
@A Virgo my sister had twins and another kid and another kid but its her boyfriend kid so thats 4 in all
I was in the same situation after having my twins 3 years ago. My hair was almost tail bone length. I got so frustrated with it and just cut it shoulder length. My stylist was so mad at me. She said I should have called her and she would have detangled it for me.
I’m a twin my moms hair was falling out until we found a good hairdresser they made her hair healthy again
No matter what the reason or how long it's been, she's making a positive change now. It doesn't matter how long a room was dark once the light is turned on.
I'm gonna think about this light metaphor all the time now 😭💜
I love that comment it so refreshing n something different then "there light at the end of the tunnel"....
This is the positivity that I need, thank you! ♥️
I do not know who you are, but i love you for saying this. Beautifully stated.
You have no idea how much you have helped me.
Thank you.
Well said
This same thing happen to my family members, when she was a baby girl. Probably 3 years old, her mom struggled with mental illness and caring for her became overwhelming. One day she came over and i saw the state of her hair. We sat down with snacks, Disney movies, juice boxes, and love. I combed every single loc out and, washed and braided her hair into a beautiful little girl style with beads. It was like she was an all new baby. So happy, confident, and proud of herself. This sort of tender love and care really changes lives!
I'm a pasty white Eastern European gal who accidentally stumbled upon this video, but I just wanted to say that your mindset is beautiful and inspiring. "A little more kindness, a little less judgement". You seem like a wonderful person and I hope all the kindness you're putting out comes back to you.
Edit: lol just to clarify because some people are getting worked up, I said pasty as a joke, I just wanted to say that I really liked the video and the hair stylist's mindset, despite not having the type of hair that the lady in the video does. Chill, guys.
Pasty white? Are you embarrassed of your skin tone?
I am sure you are a beautiful toned white girl who also seems to have a beautiful heart from looking at ur comment
@@josmith5419 I think she means really really pale.
I think ur a beautiful person🍄☘️🍂 have a amazing day🍉🌻💐
U Romanian?
" I would NEVER resort to cutting it off... There is ALWAYS a way through this!"
Amen 🙏🏼
LICE!
@@michaelmullin3585 She dont got lice. Lice isnt common in the black community because of the products we put in our hair
@@michaelmullin3585 Black ppl don't get lice like that because of the products we use
@@casswashwash1070 Sure, but black people can still get lice. The real reason it doesn't happen as often is because it's difficult for eggs to reach the roots. Not to mention, lice prefer clean hair. It's a myth that someone with lice definitely has dirty hair.
You are such a BEAUTIFUL hairstylist & person! 💜
You also have the gentlest hands to take care of the hair in your hands
Hey gurl!!! Love your channel!!!
She really is! 🤗
I agree, this "Professional Hair Specialist & Stylist is "Amazing"! ❤😃
IKR- I grew up n Philly about 30 years ago and u a definitely a kindred spirit- u have such an understanding heart 💜- I’m ordering some flat irons and serums n oil from u just based on ur heart
Because of your love and care, I can imagine that she feels so much better about herself and about her life.
I like how you bring up mental health issues as a reason why someone may not be able to maintain their hair.
I watched this video about two hours ago. Afterwards I committed myself to not leaving the shower until my hair was detangled. When the water went cold, I turned it off and kept going. I'm now sitting here with two bantu knots, fully detangled with a deep conditioner and bag on. Thanks sis🤗
good job!!
Well done!!
Thanks for all the good energy. I thought I should share what happened to my hair. I have been natural for 25 years. When the pandemic started I decided to grow it long. My mistake was Using Garnier Fructis in the green bottle. (I usually use natural products ) At first it worked well. One day I got in the shower and it was breaking badly. I got scared to comb it so I put it in a bun and left it up too long. Then it turned into a tangled mess. I have been working with it since my post, but now my hair feels like straw so I I'm just going to cut it off.
@@beelove4111 thank you for the update, I'm really sorry you've got to cut it but in the long run it'll work out better without it !!
@@nevadaite I think you're right. Thank you 🥰
If "DEEPER Than Hair" was about just ONE video, this is it. You ministered to her. And to me. May the Lord give it all back to you, running over! 💝
Amen!
I agree 100%!
In Jesus name!
This is amazing. I am so happy to see such love and support for people who need this care!
Glad to see she chose to pick herself up and move forward-- she’s a fighter
Amen