To be honest, real people love honesty. It’s only people who are afraid to be real who can’t handle truth. You can’t run from the truth. It will show up everywhere you go. It is why Peter walked in denial 3 times until he had the wake up call from a rooster.
I came across this video and i think its good that you can be very transperant and share your own marriage experieces that others can relate to, identification and going to the root of the whys is so important. Praying for your marriage, and your family🙏
When I first started listening to this podcast, my first thought was omg Lindsey is doing the most trying to be so perfect. Then the more I kept watching I was like, OMG I do the same thing with my son and my husband! I’m trying to be so perfect and cook everything from scratch and packing the best lunches and making sure my son has the best clothes. All the while my husband is like, we’re fine! Everything is fine! Why? 😭
😂😂 Sis, we're all cut from the same performance clothe. The idea of trying to be the perfect spouse is a product of the definition of marriage we've believed. We're only married to God and he serves us. The marriage we have here on earth is really just a holy friendship and we're in it to discover how to have great sex and help each other heal😹🍻. Take it easy Sis 😘
I don't believe when you get to the point of divorce that you don't love your spouse. I loved my ex-husband very much. But it was clear that he didn't like me and I began to not like him. That dislike festered into resentment and separation. And only one person doing to work to try and fix the relationship. And if it's anything, just a little Godly advice keep an individual and martial relationship with God! Him and I lost sight of that. Do not allow for the mistakes, anger, resentment, etc to build up and boil over. Because I do believe many relationships could be fixed and restored if issues were addressed and too much time has not gone by. The longer you wait to fix something the harder it is to fix. Development and practice of emotional and spiritual maturity. Baby you have to arm yourself to protect your marriage at ALL COST. Both of you all can't be petty, someone has to be the bigger person. Also remember that your spouse is NOT the ENEMY, the DEVIL is! Stop giving him power in your marriage. Send every seed of destruction back to hell: infidelity, lust, disrespect, unforgiveness, porn, blinded vision, etc. Send it all back, if it does not glorify God and your marriage it HAS TO GO, PERIOD. And lastly be open to evolving and learning. Many of us are stuck in our ways where you can't tell each other nothing. Sweetie lean in, you don't know it all and that's ok. It's hard to be with someone you can't talk to. The relationship won't last. And never stop remembering why you said "I Do". I pray this blesses someone. Great Episode, thank you for sharing this with us your journey and story.
I’m 8 months pregnant and we about to be 1st time parents with hubby. This conversation has broaden my mind & has gave me ease towards this parenting journey. I know I will be a brutally honest mom to my kids but I thank God my husband will help me tame the “brutally”. 😅
I love this for you guys. This space you both are in after the break, is just wonderful to behold. Keep going.💪🏽 Wishing you many years of love, authenticity and growth ❤
Heather is ✨glowing ✨right here. Looking very 🌷🌸 vibrant and beautiful! 🌷🌸 But, Heather - I completely see you. I am so much like that. I do THE MOST for my family and by doing that - I always feel under appreciated. And, they say - “but, nobody asked you to do all that!” By hearing this conversation, I realize that I project my pain and trauma onto them and then get mad when they don’t see that I’m trying to give them what I never got. But, hearing your husband say it causes anxiety. I can see how I also make them uncomfortable. And, in return - they make me uncomfortable because I feel rejected and I still end up feeling unseen. And, even when you speak of your husband’s silence. My dad was like that. I always tried to get his attention. I have it now at age 28 but he lives out of state and my parents are divorced now and we once went like 10 years without speaking so now he has more of a need for my presence. But, it DOES create a sense of rejection. I always felt unseen by him. Now, that I’m older - I realize he was unhappy. And, as a child, I did believe I was also a large portion of his unhappiness. I also was secretly resentful to my mom for not making him feel happy at home. His energy always said that he wanted to be somewhere else. The weekend I went to college and when I turned 18 - he left. But, wow. You are growing. I know when he says that him and the kids get anxious when you come around, your initial feeling may be extreme rejection and sadness. But, I love that you let him say it and you don’t argue that perspective. And, by you letting him say that - I fully understand what my brother has been saying to me now. I didn’t before. I was just angry that he said something similar. It hurt me so much to hear because I put so much effort into being a family member for him that I never had. We haven’t spoke in weeks because he said “you’re too demanding!” And yes, he said it in a very mean delivery so that didn’t help. But, I see now that I got upset that he didn’t see the extreme effort I did for him. But, like your husband said, I try too hard 😔 and, instead of it making me appreciated, which is what I aim for - it makes the ones I love feel like I’m doing too much 😔 Thank you for this. I just grew a lot. Also, I’m learning that married couples are most likely OPPOSITE. People who are ignorant to marriage would think this means your not equally yoked. But, I’m realizing God is very strategic about this. He will likely bring you the partner that’s going to constantly trigger the parts of your personality that needs the most work. Even though it may be annoying for the day to day - you two are exactly what the other needs.
I love y’all marriage! God bless you both! Godly marriages are the best ❤I hope to hear more content & more things for us single folk out here lol. Also would love to hear content on deliverance & prophecy if it’s God will for you guys to speak on it (spirit lead). I love that y’all keep it real. Thank you guys 🙏🏾🙏🏾
6:00 I think that that's the pressure of the vows and witnesses causing us to feel guilty in the moment when we don't feel loved, love or like our friend in the marriage. Those things that have captured our imagination through religion, music, mush culture make it impossible to say certain things without looking like a bad person and we bottle them in. The devil then uses all that data to build a trend and a case against our spouse and one day we explode and all the data spews out and are too many to work through. Hurt and heal in installments. Tell each other the truth often and work through the feelings because that's what builds evidence for and of love and friendship. That's what says I'm for you and not against you. I feel like this culture of finding the right one blinds us to the reason why we're born again and in Christ. We're called to mind renewal and that means that there is a lot of relearning and growth to do and we need that grace from one another to thrive while doing it
Lol 🤣 girrrrrl! I was with you until you said you are a big Elon fan. He stated in an interview that he wants to implant his chip technology into everyone and track us all. Lol. Lawwwd he is a hot mess. 🤣
This is probably the healthiest marriage advice I’ve seen on the internet. Because it’s very transparent and relatable. Thank you both for putting your personal matters on display for the sake of edifying others 🫶🏽
6:00 I think that that's the pressure of the vows and witnesses causing us to feel guilty in the moment when we don't feel loved, love or like our friend in the marriage. Those things that have captured our imagination through religion, music, mush culture make it impossible to say certain things without looking like a bad person and we bottle them in. The devil then uses all that data to build a trend and a case against our spouse and one day we explode and all the data spews out and are too many to work through. Hurt and heal in installments. Tell each other the truth often and work through the feelings because that's what builds evidence for and of love and friendship. That's what says I'm for you and not against you. I feel like this culture of finding the right one blinds us to the reason why we're born again and in Christ. We're called to mind renewal and that means that there is a lot of relearning and growth to do and we need that grace from one another to thrive while doing it
To be honest, real people love honesty. It’s only people who are afraid to be real who can’t handle truth. You can’t run from the truth. It will show up everywhere you go. It is why Peter walked in denial 3 times until he had the wake up call from a rooster.
I came across this video and i think its good that you can be very transperant and share your own marriage experieces that others can relate to, identification and going to the root of the whys is so important. Praying for your marriage, and your family🙏
You two have grown so much and it's beautiful!
When I first started listening to this podcast, my first thought was omg Lindsey is doing the most trying to be so perfect. Then the more I kept watching I was like, OMG I do the same thing with my son and my husband! I’m trying to be so perfect and cook everything from scratch and packing the best lunches and making sure my son has the best clothes. All the while my husband is like, we’re fine! Everything is fine! Why? 😭
😂😂 Sis, we're all cut from the same performance clothe. The idea of trying to be the perfect spouse is a product of the definition of marriage we've believed.
We're only married to God and he serves us. The marriage we have here on earth is really just a holy friendship and we're in it to discover how to have great sex and help each other heal😹🍻.
Take it easy Sis 😘
I love this! Love the transparency and vulnerability of it😊
I don't believe when you get to the point of divorce that you don't love your spouse. I loved my ex-husband very much. But it was clear that he didn't like me and I began to not like him. That dislike festered into resentment and separation. And only one person doing to work to try and fix the relationship. And if it's anything, just a little Godly advice keep an individual and martial relationship with God! Him and I lost sight of that. Do not allow for the mistakes, anger, resentment, etc to build up and boil over. Because I do believe many relationships could be fixed and restored if issues were addressed and too much time has not gone by. The longer you wait to fix something the harder it is to fix. Development and practice of emotional and spiritual maturity. Baby you have to arm yourself to protect your marriage at ALL COST. Both of you all can't be petty, someone has to be the bigger person. Also remember that your spouse is NOT the ENEMY, the DEVIL is! Stop giving him power in your marriage. Send every seed of destruction back to hell: infidelity, lust, disrespect, unforgiveness, porn, blinded vision, etc. Send it all back, if it does not glorify God and your marriage it HAS TO GO, PERIOD. And lastly be open to evolving and learning. Many of us are stuck in our ways where you can't tell each other nothing. Sweetie lean in, you don't know it all and that's ok. It's hard to be with someone you can't talk to. The relationship won't last. And never stop remembering why you said "I Do". I pray this blesses someone. Great Episode, thank you for sharing this with us your journey and story.
We love you guys, we love you so much Heather, you are seen and we appreciate your sharing ❤
I’m 8 months pregnant and we about to be 1st time parents with hubby. This conversation has broaden my mind & has gave me ease towards this parenting journey. I know I will be a brutally honest mom to my kids but I thank God my husband will help me tame the “brutally”. 😅
Great conversation… married and these conversations are needed
You two are BEAUTIFUL!
I love this for you guys. This space you both are in after the break, is just wonderful to behold. Keep going.💪🏽 Wishing you many years of love, authenticity and growth ❤
Heather is ✨glowing ✨right here. Looking very
🌷🌸 vibrant and beautiful! 🌷🌸
But, Heather - I completely see you.
I am so much like that. I do THE MOST for my family and by doing that - I always feel under appreciated. And, they say - “but, nobody asked you to do all that!” By hearing this conversation, I realize that I project my pain and trauma onto them and then get mad when they don’t see that I’m trying to give them what I never got. But, hearing your husband say it causes anxiety. I can see how I also make them uncomfortable. And, in return - they make me uncomfortable because I feel rejected and I still end up feeling unseen.
And, even when you speak of your husband’s silence. My dad was like that. I always tried to get his attention.
I have it now at age 28 but he lives out of state and my parents are divorced now and we once went like 10 years without speaking so now he has more of a need for my presence.
But, it DOES create a sense of rejection. I always felt unseen by him. Now, that I’m older - I realize he was unhappy.
And, as a child, I did believe I was also a large portion of his unhappiness. I also was secretly resentful to my mom for not making him feel happy at home. His energy always said that he wanted to be somewhere else.
The weekend I went to college and when I turned 18 - he left.
But, wow.
You are growing.
I know when he says that him and the kids get anxious when you come around, your initial feeling may be extreme rejection and sadness.
But, I love that you let him say it and you don’t argue that perspective.
And, by you letting him say that - I fully understand what my brother has been saying to me now. I didn’t before. I was just angry that he said something similar. It hurt me so much to hear because I put so much effort into being a family member for him that I never had.
We haven’t spoke in weeks because he said “you’re too demanding!” And yes, he said it in a very mean delivery so that didn’t help.
But, I see now that I got upset that he didn’t see the extreme effort I did for him.
But, like your husband said, I try too hard 😔
and, instead of it making me appreciated, which is what I aim for - it makes the ones I love feel like I’m doing too much 😔
Thank you for this. I just grew a lot.
Also, I’m learning that married couples are most likely OPPOSITE.
People who are ignorant to marriage would think this means your not equally yoked.
But, I’m realizing God is very strategic about this.
He will likely bring you the partner that’s going to constantly trigger the parts of your personality that needs the most work.
Even though it may be annoying for the day to day - you two are exactly what the other needs.
Wow I really enjoyed this episode
Love how Cornelius comforts and supports you 🫶🏾. You guys are so necessary 🔥
Really enjoyed this topic and convo
I love y’all marriage! God bless you both! Godly marriages are the best ❤I hope to hear more content & more things for us single folk out here lol. Also would love to hear content on deliverance & prophecy if it’s God will for you guys to speak on it (spirit lead). I love that y’all keep it real. Thank you guys 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I might need to see this twice y'all.
Heather 😢 Thank you
Cornelius is funny "Chill chill just chill out y'all are intense" 😂😂😂😂
I wonder if you guys know Tim Ross. He speaks a lot about vulnerability as well. It would be so cool to see you guys collaborate.
Thank you. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
6:00 I think that that's the pressure of the vows and witnesses causing us to feel guilty in the moment when we don't feel loved, love or like our friend in the marriage.
Those things that have captured our imagination through religion, music, mush culture make it impossible to say certain things without looking like a bad person and we bottle them in. The devil then uses all that data to build a trend and a case against our spouse and one day we explode and all the data spews out and are too many to work through.
Hurt and heal in installments. Tell each other the truth often and work through the feelings because that's what builds evidence for and of love and friendship. That's what says I'm for you and not against you.
I feel like this culture of finding the right one blinds us to the reason why we're born again and in Christ. We're called to mind renewal and that means that there is a lot of relearning and growth to do and we need that grace from one another to thrive while doing it
I love all of this❤❤❤❤
I love this so much
Wow amazing video❤
Wowzer Wowzer
Please explain Matthew 16v25 to me in such a way that a 5year old will understand please?
Lol 🤣 girrrrrl! I was with you until you said you are a big Elon fan. He stated in an interview that he wants to implant his chip technology into everyone and track us all. Lol. Lawwwd he is a hot mess. 🤣
Lol you’re not gonna 100% agree with everyone.
❤️❤️❤️
This is probably the healthiest marriage advice I’ve seen on the internet. Because it’s very transparent and relatable. Thank you both for putting your personal matters on display for the sake of edifying others 🫶🏽
Indeed
6:00 I think that that's the pressure of the vows and witnesses causing us to feel guilty in the moment when we don't feel loved, love or like our friend in the marriage.
Those things that have captured our imagination through religion, music, mush culture make it impossible to say certain things without looking like a bad person and we bottle them in. The devil then uses all that data to build a trend and a case against our spouse and one day we explode and all the data spews out and are too many to work through.
Hurt and heal in installments. Tell each other the truth often and work through the feelings because that's what builds evidence for and of love and friendship. That's what says I'm for you and not against you.
I feel like this culture of finding the right one blinds us to the reason why we're born again and in Christ. We're called to mind renewal and that means that there is a lot of relearning and growth to do and we need that grace from one another to thrive while doing it