How To Get Your Husband or Wife Back During Separation or After
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- Опубліковано 11 гру 2023
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How to get your husband or wife back during separation. Coach Lee provides invaluable guidance for those wanting to win their husband or wife back after separation. Drawing on years of experience and numerous success stories, Coach Lee delves into the complexities of marital discord and the journey towards reconciliation during separation.
The video opens with Coach Lee discussing the common reasons that lead to separation, emphasizing the importance of understanding the root causes. This initial segment sets the stage for a deeper exploration of the emotional landscape that couples navigate during separation. Coach Lee underscores the significance of empathy and self-reflection in this process, guiding viewers through the introspective journey necessary for healing and reconnection.
Following this, Coach Lee introduces his unique approach to rekindling love and trust in a marriage even during separation. He shares his methodology, which has been honed over years of coaching and helping couples. This includes practical steps such as ways to rebuild trust and techniques for reigniting the spark in the relationship. Coach Lee’s approach is not about quick fixes but rather focuses on sustainable, long-term solutions that address the underlying issues in the relationship.
A significant portion of the video is dedicated to discussing the psychology of separation. Coach Lee explains how both partners typically experience a range of emotions, from anger and sadness to hope and longing. He offers advice on how to navigate these emotions healthily and constructively, both as individuals and as a couple.
One of the key highlights of the video is the section on common mistakes to avoid during separation. Coach Lee points out the pitfalls that many couples fall into, such as ineffective communication, allowing resentment to build, or rushing the process of reconciliation. He provides practical tips on how to avoid these mistakes and how to handle situations when they arise.
In the latter part of the video, Coach Lee shares real-life success stories of people he has worked with who got their spouse back during separation or after. These stories not only provide hope and inspiration but also serve as learning examples of how applying the principles and techniques discussed can lead to successful reunification.
Coach Lee encourages viewers to maintain a positive outlook and to commit to the process, reminding them that it takes time and effort to win your spouse back after separation.
Throughout the video, Coach Lee's compassionate and understanding approach shines through. His expertise and genuine desire to help couples overcome separation and to rebuild their relationships make this video a must-watch for anyone going through marital separation who wants to rekindle with their husband or wife. Whether you're at the beginning of the separation journey or have been navigating these waters for a while, Coach Lee's guidance offers a beacon of hope and a roadmap towards a renewed, stronger, and more loving relationship.
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Hopefully this helps. We’re meeting up tonight. Thank you.
I’m not even married yet but I resonate with this so much. Thanks Coach Lee. God bless!
This is exactly my situation. My fiancé of 16 years broke up with me recently I do no contact I don’t contact her at all but we do conversations frequently because she has a lot of her stuff at my house. Plus we share a dog together plus we have the same friend group, I keep my interactions with her very positive and just try to be as helpful as possible. I don’t know if I’m doing the right thing. Honestly, I’ve been helping her move a couple things just because they’re extremely heavy. She told me recently that she was proud of me and then I looked good because I have been working on myself fairly a lot. Of course I got me a little excited but I had to be strong. I’m not sure if I’m doing good but it’s really hard to stay in to no contact with her when she reaches out pretty frequently to pick up things and ask questions.
Why are they a fiance for 16 years?
@@CiluhStyle1because marriage is a gamble, I married after a 4 year long distance and 4 years together, we got married July 19th 2023 by the end of September she had an affair and left me. Marriage has become a crapshoot. I regret ever wasting 8 years of my life for her because this pain of betrayal has thoroughly fucked me up
@@therai300 man I feel for you...if it ever takes that long to make a decision, dont marry. My ex wife premeditated an affair when we were falling out so she "broke up" with me to be with someone else that only last for 2 months. Called me crying to take her back but naw...live your life and level up
TO MY COMMENT READERS:I know the pain but don’t lower your value for the ones who walked away that easily.HOLD THE DOOR FOR THEM TO WALK OUT because they will regret their decision and will be too late to come back in future.
My wife is anti-classical marriage. She just wants her career and independence, thus left 4 months ago. I’ve been in NC for 2 months now after begging and pleading. I have my own place now and it’s chilled out. Not sure when she’ll reach out again but it will most likely be when she drops divorce papers.
I feel everything you mentioned are very relevant ❤ and its really best ways to apply ❤❤❤❤
Broke up with my partner of 6 years , 2 months ago.
She moved out for about 3 weeks and has since moved back in but she says that's purely to see more of our son.
She still wants to push through the sale of the house and move on but isn't dating etc.
Been quite good friends in the last 2 weeks since I committed to loving her from a far and I have to say.. there's a clear difference.
She still adamant she doesn't want to work on it.. but I can't see her feeling this way forever.
Coach Goat
I’ve had to commit to being “friends” with my separated wife. I can’t see her keeping this up forever as well. It will take time and I just need to focus on myself.
This sounds good advice but also seems very contradictory to the no contact rule.. when we started the no contact rule we parted on quite good terms but she unsure about recommitting yet often reaches out and we always have positive interaction and now after watching this video I'm wondering if no contact is the best option as it gives space but doesn't allow us to keep finding ways to bond and become close again.. so which is better? No contact or good contact?
Moving back in is impossible. 😂
Down to the point …..
weve been separated for 2 and a half months. She moved out and we are in no contact. The longer the separation the more distant she becomes. I did break no contact one time but i didn’t beg even tho i wanted to. I wont break it again. We are still married but my mind tells me i need to file for a divorce if she doesn’t come back. I dont know how much longer i should wait, should i wait for her to file it or should i just do it. We’ve been together for 9 and a half years first love lived together for 7 years been through alot of pain stress and love. I regret every mistake i made in the relationship deeply, and i hope that i can find inner peace one day and just move on. I still miss her and love her deeply i just have to stay strong.
If you love her...dont file....
33 yrs ago my husband and I then were given bad advice and and eventually I filed for divorce....a yr plus he contacted me..I didnt respond until recently...were at least talking...if theres something to be said, let GOD have it all
Well I'm currently living this however my wife had an affair and also left to be with him. I'm considering filing for divorce rather than waiting for her to make up her mind. She broke her vows of working through every little problem. Ultimately the decision rests in our own hands. But I suggest finding a way to take your power back. I will file for divorce and take my power back because once it is final I will never be accessible to her again.
thank you guys please keep the replies coming it helps to get an outaide opinion sometimes, because i never speak to anyone about my problems.
@@JeromeShakur any update on this. i am in a similar position
Hi! Could you please help me with my question
Should I reject meeting with my ex during no contact period, if he is initiator of it?
I’m mostly on the positive interaction stage - after no contact, then afterwards limited contact stages. But I feel that they look so comfortable in the current situation and totally friend zoned me. I feel like they call me everyday for either co dependancy or they r bored at work. In some occasions I even tried to push them away by having little scuffles over the kids. I have the emergency break up kit but feel like maybe I’m doing something wrong. I really hate that Christmas is fast approaching and our children will ask for all of us spend it together. On the back of my head I’m saying ‘I’m not ur friend stay away’..
It’s hard to stay casual in times like this. It’s awkward. Keep watching the videos and sort your feelings out. Maybe just don’t be too available and keep things in the necessary contact stage. Wait for your ex to reach out first. Have time with the kids without your ex. I hope you get thru this. Be strong and keep praying.
Not any jealous with his children I. Like the classical marriage. He should not say when you sitting alone ,I feel good
Currently 1 month in separation I worked on myself and started making my business to maintain my frame during her tests and making sure every interaction is positive. We are slowly starting to talk again. I found out she into this show and I offered to start watching it and we discuss it. She went from closed off to excited to talk. I think shes worried about I am going to talk about relationship stuff.
Good luck🙏🏽
@@johnscott4197 thanks still separated but things are neutral. We actually hung out for the first time in 3 months the other night. I want real change so I don’t mind taking it slow as long as she stays faithful to me.
@@S1lverspike Absolutely man. Mine came back home after 1 month of separation, still telling me she wanted to work on the marriage. She’s back now but has told this isn’t what she wants anymore. I’m still determined even if she wants out. Keep fighting the good fight brother.
Now we’re just going to be sleeping in separate rooms like roommates, but she’s encouraged enough to be around me.
I’ve felt very lonely throughout this all I’m sure you might have too. Keep patient brother
@@johnscott4197 it’s easier to sleep alone at night but still don’t want to. We have a 4 year old so we have to be around each other and I get to show my changes pretty much everyday. She’s been stubborn but it’s definitely opening up more each day as long as I stay away from being needy. Even though she says it’s over and she’s moving on I don’t believe her but I respect her wishes like it is. This has allowed me to step away so she becomes very curious and stalks my social media page.
@coach Lee. Could u please do a vid on rebounds that our exes have had a child with and can we still get them back. Thank you
0:18 reestablish positive interaction
2:27 commit to peace
4:20 Move back in together
5:43 try a classical marriage
7:43 commit to sexually fulfilling each other
Plz coach lee make a vedio on wife regret aftet divorce n how make my ex wife regret their decision and reliazed mistake for divorce
I want to book a session with Coach Lee and I do not have PayPal. Is there an email or a phone number that I can call to process a credit card payment?
If my husband who moved out? Do I try to attract him back to move back in?
What if my ex is asking to go out during no contact period? I know what to do if he texts or calls, but should I go out with him if he wants? He hugs me often and wants intimacy, saying how good I am and beautiful, buying me things. But he doesn't want relationships. Should I reject him? I am so confused. We were together for 8 years.
I would go out with him once for coffee or dinner, and I think it’s ok kiss and hug but talk to him first and tell him what you want. I would not have sex with him until he wants to try again with the relationship, but it’s up to you. Be firm with him that you want commitment, don’t give him too many relationship benefits until he is committed to you.
I'd love a classical marriage but I don't know how I could have one without being labelled a lazy golddigger by modern men? It usually takes two incomes to buy property now. Any ideas how to overcome this?
If they feel bad its cuz they messed up really bad. I realised my ex just wasn't the one for me. Too much disrespect and spitefulness
What if i moved away and moved in with my son who detest my husband but we want to reconcile and be together.
Don’t EVER make such an important decision such as reconciliation based on what others think or feel. It’s your life! You must decide for yourself what’s best for you not what’s best for anyone else.
My questions for you over affairs.
1 is it turth that Not every affair involves sex. ARE still affair or do people need sex for affair or cheating to happen ur not.
2 are you really sure it affair without having no no sex
3 What another ways to have affair or cheat on someone without having no sex .x.
Coach Lee are you ENFJ or INFJ?
My wife separated and moved out to her parents. I moved back out as well and I'm in no contact. I'm having a hard time trying to move to "positive engangement" as I can't find any reason to do so. I tried reaching out to discuss some important things but she ignored it and I've been in no contact since then. I don't want things to get worse, should I continue to remain in no contact?
Grim, for the situation you are describing (a marriage crisis where she is not engaging in conversation), I suggest you book a free discover call right away with Johnny on my staff about my Relationship Reignite workshop. You can do that at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite/
I really need your help Coach.
My husband left me 3 monts ago. I am doing no contact. Everytime I ask him for the keys he is ignoring me. We are not talking, but he refuses to give me the keys.
I am hopeless what to do.
ooohh sounds bad. May be he is still experiencing relief and you need to stop even asking for the keys and grant him that space. I don't know, just saying
@@codewithluq Im doing a strict no contact. But I really need the keys lol
It hurts that I didnt get some closure.
He did something very bad and left. I didn‘t get it.
Need help what if your 2 months in no contact… and then she buys a membership at the same gym you work out at? Do you approach her ignore her or break no contact and text her?
She seen me in the distance and just left the gym idk what to do?
Just act like nothing new has happened. Definitely don’t confront her about it. Do you have my Emergency Breakup Kit yet? If not, here is a discount code that takes 25% off of the price. The code is 2A53FC. Just go to myexbackcoach.com/checkout/?level=1
What should you do when you're separated and your wife is dating someone but denies it to me. She claims he's just a friend but I know for a fact it is much more. She still tells me she misses and loves me regularly. She comes over to have dinner and visit me and the dogs once a week or so which she initiates herself. She texts me frequently throughout the day to talk about her day, check in on mine and vent about any issues. She balls her eyes out before she leaves each visit and talks about how much she wants to be home but chooses not to be. Her last visit here she said was her best day in months but proceeded to stay with him the rest of the week. Her relationship with this other guy is progressing quickly despite what she says to me. I feel like I'm enabling her to have the best of both worlds by being available and supportive even though I'm not initiating the conversations or visits. I did purchase and complete the emergency marriage kit but I feel like my situation is unique in this way.
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@@RealCoachLeeI did watch that as well and a ton of your videos, all great stuff. I just don't know whether I'm enabling her to have the best of both worlds by keeping everything positive and being available while she gets deeper into a relationship with someone else. To ignore or not ignore her other relationship? If it wasn't for a small world connection with people telling me what she's up to, I'd have no idea and I'd think things were improving between us but as she's seemed to be coming back towards me, she's also getting deeper into this new relationship.
I’m kind of in a similar situation with my husband by what you are describing. He’s been out of the house for 16 months. We know this 3rd party is keeping him away.
I would say focus on improving the things about you that she feels she is getting from this 3rd party. They are just a distraction. Eventually she may come around. Don’t get angry even if you want to. The time she is spending with you will annoy this 3rd party and they may ruin things with her.
Something has shifted with my husband and he asked me for a coffee. This is progress from being adamant he wanted a divorce a number of months ago. My situation felt dire.
Yes she is getting the both of best worlds right now but it will take time for her to realize what is best. The new relationship may lose its shine. She may or may not be confused.
And it’s not easy waiting this out. My family has suffered. Stay strong…
@@user-ee1mz7ht3d I appreciate you sharing your experiences. I have been very understanding and supportive these past 5 months but a week ago today I found out some hurtful things in regards to this other relationship. I sent her a text saying I was removing myself from this love triangle and to not come over, call or text me. She sent me a pretty cold reply that I didn't respond to. The following day she sent me a much more softly worded email but attached unsigned divorce papers as well. She also said to let her know if I have a change of heart and would like to discuss in person and that she would wait to hear from me. I feel this was to attempt to get a response that I didn't give her. I haven't heard from her since and I have been considering messaging her to have that talk in an effort to deescalate the situation. My only concern is that I will essentially be showing her that I'll be here waiting for her while she's out dating other people.
@@dragstang86you need to start ignoring every attempt she tries to keep you in the corner. You’re not a place holder. Backup let her decide. Because you make it easy for her to move on.
Don’t get someone who didn’t value you before he or she left relationships close that chapter heel and move on for better relationships. Fact
For some people, they do not need a new partner, they just need a new relationship with the same spouse.
Man I just feel hopless, I wish i could just move on mentally
The mental and the physical are connected. In order to effect changes on one, you must initiate the same changes on the other...
Have been separated for 3 months now and we do have contact almost daily because of our 2 kids but he still doesn’t live here and we don’t have sex. Should I try to start it? Plus I don’t know if he has some else.
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Yes. How do you know until you try. Wife and I have been separated for over a month.3 kids. I wish she would try. I miss her so much and love her deeply. Would love to have my family back once and for all.
Hey Coach Lee. My Ex broke up with me and I spent 5 weeks in no contact. She started reaching out 2 weeks ago and so far she has made 3 check-in(How are are you? and related small talk, the last one was a little more than how are you. She asked if I was okay with her texting me and I was sure, it is aright) initiated by her. Do you advise me to also do a check-in at this level or I continue in my no contact? Or like you always say, these are just bread crumbs, I should just wait for a full address of the issue? Thanks in advance
Let them come to you, Coach lee has stated they need to fix what they broke. Not you. Continue as you are it seems ro be working but it could also be bread crumbing
@@therai300 Thank you very much
Hi Lee, I was wondering if no contact works if your girlfriend left you for another guy? Because I'm not sure she's gonna be thinking about me, when she's getting dicked. I'm sure limerence will wear off, but that could take years.
No contact is definitely what you should do in that situation. Chasing after someone who is with someone else is the worst thing that you could do. Do you have my Emergency Breakup Kit yet? If not, here is a discount code that takes 25% off of the price. The code is 2A53FC. Just go to myexbackcoach.com/checkout/?level=1