God do I relate. And then you think, why not just go ahead and say cus I need to get over this meaningless anxiety anyway? And then when I say it and everyone looks at me and there's no reaction.... I'm just like..... frick. No. I shouldn't have said anything. I want to crawl into a hole and die and get rid of my existence.
@@derpy4335 And this is not how the world works too , ik ppl die alone but im sure that these ppl wanted someone to be with them but they just couldn't say it , i couldn't say it too , everyone thinks that I'm the happy calm person but i battle with myself everyday just to seem like everything is good when it's not . I want someone to find me even if i didn't ask for it , i don't want to look alone and sad because i love the ppl around me and i don't want to hurt them cuz ik i will if i said that . I posted this comment 6 months ago and i know the exact feelings that i felt in there and now i feel better which is good , and i did that without telling anyone that i feel like that , but trust me it would've been amazing if someone noticed it but this is what I got . Anyways ik i talked alot 😂 so Have a good day ❤️
Psych2Go i mean i wish i got to actually see my 4 friends once in a while and it makes me feel like they just have me around to pity me and that they talk about me behind my back
RIGHT! Then there’s always fucking JACOB who’s over there yelling out “ReAdY SpAgGhEtTi” or some shit with all his friends laughing and I’m over here like... “if only I could say that without internally dying of embarrassment and thinking everyone hated me right after”
Does anyone else over analyze small convos that they just had with people? Like they go over it over and over just to make sure it wasn’t horribly awkward or something??
Not everybody who has social anxiety is an introvert (*waves* as living proof). It doesn't mean you can't still be an introvert and have social anxiety. It just means the two aren't particularly linked, or the same thing. You can be either an introvert or an extrovert and have social anxiety.
Exactly. And even if I know what are their topics of interest , I know that I am not interested in that topic so I would not want to compromise and kill my mind and have that conversation. I hardly find people interested in the topics I like such as contemplating on the behaviour and process of mind , how to grow in life, how we can improve ourself, how to support each other and be kind, humanity or just talk about nature and gratitude or what new intellectual or creative thing one learnt. No one is interested . Everyone wants to talk about what’s happening in the world and give endless opinion!
@@Mal0406 god, do I relate!! It frustrates me so much! It's like they don't even want to talk to me!! So, I've stopped texting people, and guess what? They've stopped too..
I do both the things you two are talking about lol. Either I delete it or try not to offend anyone and go neutral even though I have a different opinion.
Usually when I talk in the chat a silence suddenly appear and no one answered me at all. But that's ok it's not like I wanna interact with them or anything.
But then you worry that someone saw you typing and then you worry if they are judging you for being indecisive. So you feel more pressured to do something...ANYTHING. Ultimately ending in you just sending a complete mess of thoughts or living with the shame of not sending anything at all then you just stop messaging the group entirely.
I remember every time I texted in a class group chat I would close the messenger and turn off the internet on the phone because I was scared to see what would they answer .... :D
When I get anxiety attacks, one of the things that crosses my mind is “Are you making yourself feel this way so that you can say you have anxiety?” It’s such a horrible feeling. It makes me feel empty and fake. Edit: Your feelings are valid. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t been diagnosed by a professional, you have the right to feel what you’re feeling.
where’s the “im the cousin that isnt close to anyone because you’re too scared to converse with relatives at family gatherings and usually hide in your room until someone knocks on your door or yells for you to come out and say hi” team? 😌 very specific, yes i know.
That’s fine. I do it too. If you stay silent for too long you almost lose your ability to speak properly. Speaking is a skill too you know. If you go on a hiatus don’t be surprised if you have a hard time reading your voice or pronouncing words properly when you do decide to open you mouth again. I encourage talking to yourself if you don’t have anyone else to talk to.
Puppymia Bramblepelt Just type fuck you guys on every group chat as long as it’s on internet then it’ll be ok, I always want to be alone but when i’m on youtube ? LET ROCK BOIII
I didn't really get rid of it, it just got a little better and I never got therapy I was just really hoping to please my mom is all. Still got anxiety and it is still generally bad but it had been slowly getting a little better over time, it may take years for it to be comepleatly gone I think that I've done pretty well just by myself
Aden Carlton That's pretty impressive man I'm really happy for you, the symptom I mentioned above is generally the last phase of SAD and stuff can't really get worse beyond that. In fact recovering from a severe SAD by yourself is very unusual yet so hard to impossible.
i get so anxious to the point where when someone approaches me, i end up sounding cold and uninterested, like i’ll just mumble a “hi” and not even make any eye contact. i feel bad afterwards but it just feels like something i can’t control
When I was in 8th grade, The teacher called me out because im in the few people who doesnt attend first day of school so I need to introduce my self, When she called me out and keep insisting what is my name i just stood there and whisper to her my name,age,and school i came from, she laugh and say "tell them not me" I was so embarassed and sat there quitely the whole time
Omg yes! I’d have to rehearse it and clear my throat a billion times just to quietly say “here” and felt so much relief after I saying it. I always felt like all my classmates would just stare at me and point and laugh¿ even though we all had to say the same thing
Ok I'm probably just weird but hear me out. I am an introvert, and sometimes I can talk to people and start conversations in a heartbeat...but sometimes I feel nervous and scared how people think of me. It also happens when I'm around judgemental people. The weird thing is this happens RANDOMLY. I could be loud and obnoxious and then chill and very quiet.
I'm an introvert with social anxiety and I have the same thing. Asked my therapist about it, but it's nothing weird. We all have different sides of ourselves and we never wake up feeling like we felt yesterday. I can be loud and obnoxious on good days or around people I feel comfortable at. I might be anxious the next time I see them, depending on my mental health that day. Anyway, it's not weird at all so don't worry (:
I always thought I was an introvert, but recently I realised I have social anxiety. I would always get super nervous going to my English class because I would have to speak on that class. The whole time my palms would be sweaty, I would get a really dry mouth and I'm sure everyone thought I was weird. Goings to maths class I would be fine. I get scared going to the library at university in case all the seats are taken and I'll walk around looking stupid. In the past I would make plans with my friends and just before I would cancel or want to cancel because I suddenly felt kinda scared and that everyone hated me and didn't want me to come. I take ages to become comfortable with people as well and hate meeting new people, I like them once I'm comfortable with them. Whenever I goto the shop or restaurant I rehearse my order multiple times. I would never go to the gym by myself for fear of looking stupid or being watched. I would thunk about every conversation afterwards and how I should have said this and that. I remember a lot of the times when I made a fool of myself rather than the times I was happy and liked. I was super comfortable with my ex boyfriend but it turned out he was narcissistic and abusive. So now my social anxiety is so bad and my self esteem. I stopped talking to my friends because I felt that everyone hated me while saying they liked me like my ex and that they wanted me to go and stop bothering them with my existence like my ex while telling me they like me and want me around. Woe is me. I feel too messed up to go to a therapist because I have too many problems but I can't really cope with life. So now I'm just writing this in a random UA-cam video and no one will read this comment but hey at least I got my feelings out.
@@maureen3122 seriously. My anxiety is so bad I sit there and think if I should leave to go to the bathroom or not. But it's only people I'm not close to
This happened to me!! I was practicing what I would do if someone said something to me and someone approached me and asked a simple question. Me: *ignores* them: “hello?” Me: “huh?😳” them: *ask question again* me: stutters a lot for no reason* “I- u-uhhhhh t-the um” my cousin with a actually stuttering problem: I-it’s right there 😐👉 *points* them: “thanks” me: *zones out* my mind: *OH MY GOD YOUR SO EMBARRASSING YOU PRACTICED THIS!! 😭😭😭*
recently happened to me. there was something so simple that i wanted to ask to someone close to me and i just completely froze up about it, even though i got a little confident over being able to ask if they could help out with something that wouldn’t take that long and is something a little obvious. man social anxiety is truly the worse sometimes, especially because i know that it’s bad and not normal to think like this 🤡
Me: "dad, I don’t know how I should introduce myself to others, I'm kinda nervous" My dad: "just don’t be shy..." Me: "mhm... yeah thanks, never heard that before." When someone says to an introverted person, or someone that has social anxiety, something like: "don’t be shy“, "just talk more" etc. Then it's like saying: "oh you can’t see ‚cause you are blind? *just see* "
That’s also the reason why I hate school. They treat ppl that are introverts or ppl that have anxiety like someone who can’t work right. Like, why do I have to speak to my whole class if I am really scared of it and it makes me feel really uncomfortable? That’s so dumb. Why do i have to pretend like an extrovert just to have better grades. They keep telling me that I have to speak more in class. And I’m really trying but it’s still not enough for them. That stresses me so much. I love learning new things but the social part makes me hate school and I don’t want to go there anymore.
Hahaahahah because of your algorithm and things that you write on the internet + your openness on google or other search engine platforms are being analysed and heard . Our parents barely hear us though
Dude, that's not what the title is referring to, the person who made the video has both of these problems as well, but she's trying to help others pinpoint whether or not a CERTAIN situation that happened to you, was because of social anxiety, or whether it was introversion.
@@nununana2596 I feel you. A former crush liked me back and I was going to do a promise I kept for him (its too embarrassing to even mention online) but because I was so afraid of the fact that he might be mad at me or too busy to make time for the promise Ive never been able to do it and now we're going to be in different schools now :< ANd now I feel so guilty that I made him wait for so long and so mad that I kept making excuses not to do it when he's done so much for me..
so i told my mom i have social anxiety like a month ago and she just laughed at me. and now she comes up to me like, "oh why dont you talk to me about your problems." "i can tell you are stressed about something." "why are you sad?" i mean... maybe because you kinda make fun of me?? like, tf.
My parents make fun of me all the time, that's why I never talk to them about my problems and that's why I can't go to a psychologist (because they wouldn't take it seriously and tell me that I'm dumb and I don't have anything).
I kinda feel the same I stopped telling my problems to my mom cuz she always makes fun of me and starts comparing her genaration to mine and it feels weird cuz shes supposed help its not a competition...I can be stressed too.. so now I don't tell anyone what I'm going through or how I feel I have friends its just that I can't tell them anything like I'm scared would if they take it as a joke or make them in a weird situation cuz they don't know what to do Or why would they care anyway my family doesn't
@@fahima1024 Ya it's littlerally me. My parents think that I'm just exaggerating things and that my just confidence level is low and it happens with many people. When I'm around people they always say oh she's just shy and tell me that I should increase my confidence level by interacting with people more. Like many people are shy but not this extreme why can't u see or why are u ignoring
Experienced this before but, the time when you're having a silent anxiety attack and you start to think "Am I only behaving like this for me to say that I have social anxiety and attention?" Makes the situation worse😀
Oh em gee.....yes. I tell myself that I have to just be faking it all the time because I want attention. I'm not sick, I'm just faking it. Like I don't even believe my own stupid self. (I have several mental illness diagnosis).
They're probably not gonna believe it since they're going to say your already lucky and privilege,your just trying to act and fake it, that's why people hide things, people do not believe it unless it's too late,the social anxiety already cause depression and paranoia
Keren Ray and I'm one of those people. I did not realise that! Forgive me for being rude, but how exactly does that work? Sorry, just dumb and curious 😂
@@dragonfire8873 when I'm in control of a social situation, I'll talk to anyone, and I prefer to be with other people then by myself, but I'm always over thinking everything, and when certain things happen I can get really anxious real fast. I hoped this helped!
Talking on the internet is the best form of communication. Discussions often only go as far as your willing to go and you can usually take your time thinking through what you want to say. Plus you can't feel the other persons eyes staring into your soul while they await your response to a typically simple question that should not feel like your answer will make or break your entire relationship.
I remember when I was 6 years old and one girl who was older ask me: "Why don´t you talk?" I remember clearly how my heart rate went up, I felt so scared at the moment. Finally, I gathered all the courage I had just to say "It scares me..."
Me when Im alone: I wish people would pay attention to me :(. Me in a social situation: AAAAAAAHHH oh no ohno oh no what do I do ohno dont look at meplease look at someone else
Me when I’m alone: I wish someone would talk to me Me when I’m in my group of friends: They’re making fun of me and shipping me with my crush, but still put me down in her presence Me when I’m on my way home with classmates (which I don’t do often because of this reason): No one talks to me everyone chooses their phone and social media over talking to me (There’s only one person who doesn’t... my crush)
I get so scared when someone stares at me when I go out. I feel like they are judging the way I walk or the way I look and every single detail. I know they are probably not but the fear has been there since I was little. I have talked about this with my mom and she says it will stop if stop caring about what they say but it's not that easy. I also get super red whenever I talk to somebody and my hands start sweating a lot. I'm super akward
I am 100% like this too. Looking like a damn sweaty tomato close to tears when the teacher makes me answer questions in front of the class. I’m seriously awkward. I have siblings who could care less about what people think of them and so do my parents so they all just tell me I’m overthinking. NO SHIT SHERLOCK I KNOW IM OVERTHINKING THATS MY ISSUE!!!
If I have to go out like buy food or materials I will have to spend like half an hour with my heart pounding to prepare myself to be seen at broad daylight or peep at the window to see if there's no people nearby before going out. It usually ends up me not going and reschedule it in the night or the day after.
Yes! Or I buy other things that I completely don't need just so that the cashier doesn't judge me for what I'm buying. And I have to beg someone to go to the store with me, bc standing face to face with a cashier makes me feel anxious. And many more.
Man these comments really make me feel more comfortable, knowing there are more people here like me, also i wish i was invited places, or messaged. I can go days wtout getting a single "whats up" or anything
same, my friends always ask me why i am so terrified of talking with other people, i feel better for knowing there are more people like this, even though no one deserves it
My anxiety after a good time with my friends: Anxiety: They definitely _hate you_ and think _you are weird_ Me: But why? Give a more logic explanation Anxiety: because you talk too much/too little Me: But... when our best friend does it, it’s normal... she’s really nice actually Anxiety: YeEEEeeaaAAAh BUT IS WEIRD WHEN _YOU_ DO IT
I was at a Sunday school meeting, and the teacher told us to introduce ourselves. She pointed at the person infront of me (but I didn’t see because my vision isn’t the best) and everyone looked at me so I stood up and walked to the front. The teacher was still talking to the person infront of me and i was stand at the front confused. The class then laughed and said that I wasn’t suppose to go but let me anyways. Lemme tell you I had the worst panic attack and couldn’t breath, I couldn’t even talk properly when introducing myself. I felt like crying and you could hear it in my voice. When I was done I sat down put my hood on and didn’t talk the whole class like I usually do. I never went back again.
Yeah, it's embarrassing and makes you not want to speak and when you're trying to wipe away tears because you feel so embarrassed and then your just left feeling terrible and longing to go home.
Don’t be too hard on yourself man. Similar thing happened to me. Be strong. Even presidents have embarrassing moments but don’t let it get to you and carry on 💪
This hits hard when you're starting to lose touch with your friends that were special to you because you're picky on who to be friends with since you're also an introvert
Things I struggle with due to social anxiety: 1) Wearing my own clothes, especially in school. In England we have school uniforms, so non-school uniform days are always nerve wracking. ‘What if it’s the wrong day’ ‘Are my clothes weird?’ But when I forget I also freak out. 2) Buying things at the store, or even going to the store. I get scared I will buy something and get judged for it, I get scared I’ll lose something, I get scared of being followed around the store, I get scared of seeing someone I know etc etc.. 3) Ordering food at fast food restaurants. I tend to edit my meals as I don’t like most of the stuff in it, so when I’m with other people I either just order a drink, or get the same thing they get even if I don’t like it and just force myself and pretend I like it. At restaurants I also tend to poke the person next to me, tell them what I want and beg them to order it for me. 4) Meeting up with my friends at the mall. I’ve been asked so many times to go to the mall with my friends. Hell no. I get scared I’ll get lost/they’ll take me somewhere unfamiliar, we’ll stay out too long, I’ll lose them, I won’t be able to make my way home etc. 5) Getting on buses. Every time I try and get on a bus, even with someone else, i worry so much that I always mess it up. I also get scared of someone sitting next to me that I don’t know and trying to talk with me. Please go away.. There are so so many more I can list, so if you’re interested in more just ask and I can list a few more, but just know for you with out social anxiety, how much it really does affect people’s daily life. If your friend always turns down your invitation to go places, don’t be scared that it’s because they don’t like you, there’s a really big chance they are too scared. Instead, perhaps invite them to your house, or ask to go round their house. You still spend quality time together, in a place you both can feel comfortable. 💕
Why does it feel like it's deeper tho. Like, I'm not afraid of people, I just don't want to hurt them or their feelings. If I'm not worrying abt that, I overthink if I'm being clingy or annoying or dumb or weird. It's like someone's always watching and judging no matter what I do. As long as I'm in a social setting or public in general, it's like the judgement never ends. And don't even get me started on thinking abt how you made someone feel or how you hid your feelings or how you came off in conversations hours and even days ago.
This may sound strange but whenever I go to school I can go a whole 6 hours without saying a single word if the teacher calls on me my heart always sinks immediately I sometimes stutter and other times I say the quickest response right or wrong just to get out of the situation, There's three people that I can properly socialise with because I've know them for so long (Two are my family and the other my mum's friend) but socialising with people in general scares me I always say "I need friends" but then when it comes to making them I'm a complete cowered I over analyse everything and it's gotten to the point where a single "Hello" scares me...
I try to answer as quickly as possible too. When I answer wrong, I'm humiliated in front of my class and walked through the question like a baby. Teachers are literally the worst people I've ever met smh
I’m an introvert with social anxiety, and its hard because I’m more prone to wanting to stay home, and being ok with it. I feel so much better when I’m completely alone. But I’m afraid this will lead me to becoming a hermit. Sometimes I think I want to be. I want to stay home forever, and I never want to talk to anyone again. But I know deep down that’s not what I truly want. I want to be alone, but not lonely. I care about my friends and family, and I want to do things with them. I want to go out and experience things, but I’m usually too scared to try, and when I actually do its very exhausting. With that said, I think social anxiety is just as hard for extroverts. They feel the best around people, but they are too scared to interact. They desperately want and need to be around others, but sometimes they are too scared to leave their house, or even talk to people. Anxiety sucks >:(
I always thought I was shy because people told me that, I was quiet and never had many friends. But as I grew older I understood that I was scared of socializing and it was so hard for me to do anything, I could even go to the store like wth I'm still struggling with that but when I entered college I had to start doing something about it. I'm still socially awkward and a complete loner and all of that but I've manage to do things that before I wouldn't even think on doing :)
I understand, I'm the same way too. Even I have social anxiety and still try to do things that may not be comfortable, even when is worth passing out for. 😅
Hi same! I joined one club in university. Went on a day trip. Working as a volunteer in retail and for the vision-impaired. And I finally got a casual job as a tutor even if I only have one student. I can also finally grocery shop by myself (self-serve checkout ftw) and I've gotten better at handling calls.
It made me cry too... Mainly because I don't know if I have social anxiety or if I'm just overreacting, but I keep telling myself that I'm just overreacting because I haven't been diagnosed and I'm just so confused and scared...
i'm so jealous of everybody else, they find making friends so easy. some girls will just walk up to me in school, talk to me, and call me their bff. they have huge friend groups, and are even dating. then there's me, so afraid of being judged, one friend, and kind of "acquainted" with other people. but i honestly am so fucking scared of being with people. edit: ik this is kind of annoying but- 2.2 k likes? oh my god i've never gotten that much thank you so much!!
While what everyone here said is true, the thing for some people is that they can't do it with just a simple video or pep talk. Plus theres also the image you've made of yourself at school/ work, if you wait to long it becomes nearly immposible to try and 'fix' your anxiety, that was likely built up over time and hard to break down
well then its me (btw im a girl xd) i have a short time in my new school but i remember that when i first enter to be so scared i wanted to cry,then,i became more introverted when we are not doing anything i just feel so sad because i dont have any friends (well i have but i dont really feel ok),for being alone and im very scared of things like answering or even stand up from my chair,when i always feel fear i cry on the bathroom,but i stand up and try to live and to improve thanks to read (i dont have anyone to tell this)
I just think they're people too with flaws and they poop like I do. And thinking that helps to remember that they're at my level too, and I don't worry about others judging my weirdness.
Psych2Go well it’s like a “I don’t want the guys but they’re kind of a package deal” situation, so I’m gonna go with the social anxiety. Plus it’s what I’m used to soooo-
I can’t even say Merry Christmas to someone without thinking that they’ll judge my voice or something (My voice has always been high pitched). I just overthink about everything related to socializing.
Oh my god me too I was at chirstmas party and there was a bunch of people I didn't know, like friends of my parents and I just wanted to disappear because I felt like I needed to be this specific person around them... in truth I don't really know who I am. :/
Ahahah this is literally me. I didn’t know other people worried about this. Basically any sort of like.. congratulatory sentence makes me feel uncomfortable, merry Christmas, happy holidays, happy birthday, I feel awkward saying it, overthink my tone of voice or if I sound genuine enough, etc...
Elena Boycheva and receiving the message is a problem for me too because I never know how to respond. I’ll then go home and think about how I responded to what the person said (like Merry Christmas, good job, or even hey/hi/sup. Sup is the absolute worst bc I never know how to respond to it :/) and think, “wow that was so stupid I should have said something else” and cringe for the rest of eternity whenever I think about what I said, even if it was a perfectly normal response. Like, I could say something to someone today and still be cringing about it next week, even if it’s completely irrelevant and trivial. It’s a problem.
Sometimes I feel suffocated for having social anxiety and how it hold me back from anything. Sending texts in a group chat, being in the center of attention, gatherings, etc. I feel suffocated because its like I don't fit in, and I'm worried it will cause problems for me in my professional life. On the internet I see a lot of people like me. Where are you guys in my real life?!! Why all i see are happy and self confident people?
Defominvous I couldn’t relate anymore to this. When I go out everyone looks like they are having a great time. Don’t let it bother you about your professional career because you can always work from home. There are tons of ways to make money from home. I currently work from home and love it. I don’t have to talk to anybody and it is perfect!
Having social anxiety is like having multiple choices on how to deliver a sentence and predicting the type of outcome it will get. Theeen you just decide to say nothing.
I have to mentally prepare before I can ask the staff in a shop if they have something that I need. I need more than a half hour to make a phonecall to strangers....etc. etc. I could puke every time I have to stay up and go to work in the mornig because I want to work as a teacher and have to overcome my greatest fears for it every day. It is so hard. But every morning it gets a little bit better. Maybe sometime I am not afraid anymore.
Making phone calls is the worst. Especially when nobody picks up and I have to leave a barely coherent message. Then I get to worry about how stupid I sounded for the rest of the day.
I've mostly set up my whole life to avoid having to use the phone. I can just about text, but phoning anybody other than my husband is very challenging. On the getting better - it can. I was agoraphobic as a teenager. and while the immediate thought of avoiding going outside has never fully gone away, I can control it now, and get on top of it. I sometimes describe it as a little like being an addict - you have to keep on it every day. Occasionally you might have a small relapse, but you get back on it again.
Me talking to my mom in the car MONTHS ago: mom, I think I might have social anxiety My mom: I was shy when I was younger too Me quietly to myself: that’s not what I was saying Edit (Dec 16, 2020): today I was diagnosed with anxiety and panic and preparing to begin weekly appointments with a therapist because I worked up the courage to mention it to my mom a few more times
Same not only with that but with my health when i finally hace the courage to speak to her about something and i dont becouse she scares me she just brushes it off im like the lower part of my belly hurts badly sometimes and she either ignores it or says it probably nothing so i just dont say anything
1) You are turning down to social events because it scares you ------->2:05 2) You aren't enjoying the introverted activities anymore -------> 3:17 3) You are not doing necessary things anymore -------> 4:09 4) You don't enjoy the social activities that you used to -------> 5:05 5) You don't maintain relationships as well you used to -------> 6:06 (◍•ᴗ•◍)❤
i’m personally terrified to call and make the appointment (i have to do it myself since i’m 18 now). even then i may not like the therapist !! it’s ironic the reason i need therapy is the reason i’m scared to go LMFAO. hope that made sense
Toby TheKiller Something my big brother talk to me about, about one week ago... because I opened up to him... we had like a 2 hour discussion about our problems and he explained to me while he doesn’t fully understand my situation that he understands feeling lonely and feeling like you’re missing out on girlfriends, fun activities etc... and he told me all I could do is just not let social anxiety control me and that with time and a positive Attitude is the best I could do At first I was thinking “he just gave me the usual be positive don’t worry youre fine” advice but I really thought about it And then he said when you wake up the next morning Tell yourself: “I am in control of social anxiety, not the other way around” In which I did, after doing so it’s been about a week and I have improved a lot it’s crazy to realize simply minipulating your mind to think that social anxiety does not control you and that you have full control over it and when it needs to act up helps a fuck ton I’ve already lost a few symptoms such as I always had a eye contact problem and felt judged while walking by people and having someone in my peripheral vision But I started saying “I am in control” and for the first day it didn’t work immediately but I kept saying it over and over meaning it everytime and I felt immediate results, I was able to concentrate on things other than my eye contact, was able to feel safe and comfortable around people, and i just couldn’t stop laughing and feeling good through the the day... I’m one week in and the eye contact problem is almost completely gone, I’ve also learned to control my body movement, from saying “I am in control “....I don’t wave my arms around awkwardly trying to calm my nervousness The milisecond I feel some negative or bad/ nervous thoughts Literally I’m talking immediately as I feel those thoughts coming while approaching some sorrow social interaction such as going to the bathroom at school or getting a tissue in front of the class I say “I am in control of social anxiety” I even cuss at social anxiety as if it was a person I’ll go as far to act as if I’m fucking punching the shit out of it and curb stomping its teeth in because it’s not bossing me or controlling me around soon And this has really helped me DONT BE A VICTIM TO YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES this is the most important lesson I’ve learned recently You don’t need meds you don’t need treatment Just simply realize you are in control Dont get any doubts BECUASE YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF SOCIAL ANXIETY Tell it to go away and never come back YOU are the boss of it now enjoy life and kick back , this is coming from a 16 year old almost 17 year old who has dealt with the bullshit since about 7 years old
I always feel nauseous on the first day of school. Like I’ll tremble just by entering the school bus and making a fool of myself by just taking a seat. And introducing ourselves? Why bother if I’m not going to talk with anyone in class. Wearing my earbuds at lunch somewhat eases me. I’ll just buy a bag of chips and scroll through my phone to make it seem that I’m intrigued with what I’m looking at. Okay I’m going to stop now.
First day of school makes me have anxiety, not about ppl anymore, what if i go to the wrong classroom? What if im late and they make fun of me? What if I go in the wrong school door? What if Its not my group? Am i in the right group? Why arent they saying my name yet, am i not on the list?
I remember the phrase that helped me to cope with social anxiety having convos with people - “You are not the clown to entertain them”! 👌 besides think how little or none we actually think of others but ourselves. Switch the focus, care about your well-being (for example say “I’m going to this party for MYSELF” etc)
I’ve always classified myself as an introvert but secretly thought I had social anxiety. After watching this I’m almost 100% sure I have social anxiety, I think along with other anxiety disorders. But I feel like I’m always afraid and embarrassed to tell my doctor about everything I’m struggling with and they can’t properly diagnose me.
Finally found one! Good for you! To heal you first have to be honest with yourself. No more BS! It doesn’t do you any good pretending you don’t have a problem. Ain’t no shame in admitting your flaws.
@@KnotAnOwl not gonna lie that’s some shit that comes to my mind. But if your worried about those things I wouldn’t be surprised if you had anxiety. Sometimes you just have to go for it because if you do have it you can get help.
@@KnotAnOwl I mean if you break your leg you need medical attention. Why should we treat mental disorders any differently? If you need help then you need help. There shouldn’t be any shame in asking for help. Humans are biologically programmed to be selfish but we’ve evolved to also feel love which is displayed when someone offers help to someone in need without the expectation of receiving anything in return. Plus you can’t know until you’re diagnosed. Getting a diagnosis is a form of getting help. I have a hunch that OP does actually have social anxiety. The keyword in his comment was “secretly”. Lots of people are shamed for their social anxiety and so they feel vulnerable admitting that they have it just like I did. I didn’t start healing until I stopped excusing my social isolation for introversion. I didn’t start healing until I confronted my fear through exposure therapy. I became a cashier and It’s insane how much it’s helped. Although now I face a new disorder…..AVPD.
Anyone else have uncontrollable smiling when you're forced to talk to someone? I get it some days really badly but other days im fine for the most part.
Rave I do, I also laugh uncontrollably too, like I can’t help it, because laughing or smiling helps me calm down because my whole body is so tense you have no idea lol 😂
Avanitia ikr, like it makes me calm down, but if I do smile or laugh then the person who I’m talking too like gets a more serious look on their face and it’s like ughhhhhh u dontttt unddderrrstandndddd
As an introvert, I don’t feel anxiety or any other negative things while talking to people. I can talk easily to stranger and even be funny sometimes, but I prefer spending time alone, that’s all. I just think « Maybe I am a weirdo, but if they don’t like me, screw it, they just have to find someone else. » I didn’t have any bf or gf cuz I just didn’t look for it and that’s not one of my main objective. Please, if you have one or several symptoms from up here, go find someone that can help you. You aren’t having a healthy life.
Atownic Pepperoni thank you for your input. i’ve always been blaming these issues on my introversion because i don’t know what it’s like for another introvert or another person with social anxiety.
damn this is eye opening haha. I thought everything was normal until just a couple months ago. recently my bf pointed out that the quickened breathing, heart rate, etc I experience are panic attacks and not just “being slightly worried about an event like anyone else does.” it’s super strange to find out this isn’t just.. something everyone does.
Same, especially with the relationship with bf/gf. Only difference is that I cant suddenly talk to strangers. Not even if I want to ask an older person if they want my seat
I frequently need to spend time by myself and feel tired after being around others. but when I am out especially alone I’m always worrying about people judging me or thinking I’m crazy or annoying.
ive got problems with texting, talking, pleasing people, etc. i act differently per social scenario like most people, but it always makes me feel guilty/act in a way that i don’t like. ill be louder around people i don’t know or like to gain their attention or make a good impression. ill be sullen and angry and experience a lot of mood shifts with my family. ill be flirty and bubbly with people im friends with. problem is, that isn’t me. well, im not really sure who i am tbh. i partake in a lot of behaviours to get out of my thoughts, bc they’re always mocking me. at night i get into physical conversations of me putting myself down, for hours at a time, just arguing with myself about why im a horrible person and essentially getting that same treatment back. i laugh and fill the silence when im uncomfortable, or even when im not uncomfortable, but just anxious or doing something im ashamed of. like reading comics; my emotions are always amplified during that time bc i always feel so stupid despite knowing that nobody is here with me. i like being alone and i can’t text, call, or email. i overthink to the point of crying sometimes, or my responses are clipped, never genuine unless it’s late at night when my emotions are typically looser or i know the intent. likely something to do with me not being able to see body language. im generally pretty anxious/uncomfortable, even in places where i know im in my element. it’s not uncommon for people to tel me i look terrified, scared, or nervous when im at my workplace or at sports practice, even though i enjoy being there and feel comfortable. part of my need to please others, or my heightened emotions bleeding into an anxious energy that keeps me moving? i don’t know. i can never sit still and when i get my heart rate up, my thoughts get louder, except when im at the gym. it’s almost impossible for me to maintain willpower bc my thoughts are always screaming at me to stop. it’s hard to do much tbh, and even in social situation where im in my element, i often regret and overthink myself afterwards or even during the moment. it sucks, and ive got a habit of turning to my self-loathing voice whenever im alone or not socializing, so that only amplifies it. simply put, i doubt i have social anxiety. i don’t know why im here, honestly. i only know that being alone, while preferable, makes me feel like shit and only by doing things constantly do i get out of my own head/thoughts, like socializing, though i always feel like shit afterwards. i think im just emotionally stunted or didn’t pick things up. my younger self was a mess, which is clear for me to see, and i think a lot of that has to do with me not having a social background. ive learned most of my social skills from books and by emulating those around me, to the point where i don’t know who my genuine self is. quarantine has led to me staying up more, which means more self-loathing debates, wild bursts of anxious energy, and mad giggling/flailing/humming or noise making to alleviate that. ive looked into female autism and adhd, but im not sure anymore, and i can’t exactly get a diagnoses either. so it sucks. idk why im here. ive found that it’s so much easier to talk to the void of youtube comments instead of taking to people i know or want to gain the respect of. talking to my friends that im not super close to, or talki NV to teachers, or even talking to close friends, is a chore and it’s incredibly stressful, but this is somehow okay. makes sense for a lot of people tho. anyway, this had very little to do with the video and was primarily me ranting about symptoms that most people generally encompass, and trying to connect dots so that i can potentially help myself/understand myself. it’s not helping. i had to change my channel name which is great bc i don’t want anybody finding this. aight. Gotta go. bye, good luck on your mental health journeys ya’ll
I know everone's journey is their own, and that nobody can judge us but ourselves... But for what little it's worth, I think saying this and putting it out there makes you SPECTACULARLY brave. Keep talking. Maybe to the void, maybe to yourself. Try not to be as hard on yourself as you previously were and focus on the positives. And if you don't know what those positives are, make a concious effort. Go back down Memory Lane as detailed as you can. You've done something good at some point. Hold on to that. You are MUCH MORE than your faults or insecurities. You just have to learn to accept that... I hope you find what you're looking for. I personally think you've taken the first step already...
I can feel so much what you're saying, it's the same in many ways for me too I just wanted to make sure you know you're not alone and that I feel the same So good luck with everything, be brave and much love
are you.... me? im a transwoman with tourettes, adhd ocd & autism but... its like youre describing exactly the parts of how this video fails to describe me. im 6 foot tall and my tourettes has a symptom thats not exactly uncommon called Sudden Explosive Rage (read *6. ‘RAGE’* on this page: tourette.org/resource/understanding-behavioral-symptoms-tourette-syndrome/ ) and the way it leads me to act... well, i mean, thats the problem really... is it me? is it this disorder i was born with, with no choice in the matter? or... is there really a difference that matters, considering the things i do and have done. i might as well qualify for being locked in highsecurity prison... and yet so many of the friends ive pushed away/lost say that they dont like me simply because i apologize way too intensely & way too much, constantly interpreting/assuminh their actions to be an indication that they were offended by my actions, when im really just overly-reading-into/getting-offended-by THEIR actions as being indications that i fricked-up really bad. do u think we have something similar? if so, what do u think it is? if not, sorry if im being creepy... i might just be assuming connections between myself & someone else’s life again. is there a cure/treatment/therapy/medication? ive tried everything; my mom & dad have spared no expense trying to help me. i feel like i.... i must be too lazy.... but then i think back to what ive been thru & what happens everytime i actually try something new and wonder if my lack of hope is justified... or if im only suspecting tjat to justify more laziness!!! i dont want to be like this anymore. i wish i could replace my mind with someone else’s, or make myself 10x weaker so i dont pose a threat
My friends/relatives at the Karaoke: *pressures me to sing infront of a crowd or doing any kind of activity that is out of my comfort zone* Me: *denies them, then overthingking things like (they will never like me, or they'll think I'm a party pooper and won't let me join in anything, etc.) then having a panick attack* Edit: this took me over 6 minutes just by correcting and overthinking it 😅
*you're not alone* i used to be a socially anxious extrovert but have been healing myself for a while. i can proudly say that i'm a normal extrovert again, but it wasn't easy! don't be hard on yourself for being human, and if you want to heal, don't force yourself to take big steps ❤️❤️
I am a nearly 40 year old woman and I just realised today that I've suffered from social anxiety all my life. From childhood till today. I've always thought it was an extreme case of shyness. This is so heart breaking because I have lost so many life changing opportunities just from running away from social situations. If I knew earlier my life would be different. I hope its not too late. I remember when i was a child and i went with my mom to see her friend, i sat somewhere very quite as always and I overheard my mom's friend saying " your daughter is too shy" I remember feeling like I had a disease and that feeling has stayed with me till date. Thank you for this video.
Have you ever talked excitedly to a friend about a topic you’re interesting and then slowly realize they’re not interested in it nearly as much as you or at all so you gradually stop talking?
I don't mind talking to people but there are some people. I find hard communicating with and I would get scared talking to them, it's hard to explain. I hope I was more social and happier. It's weird because I don't get scared talking to people and I will open up easily, but I am insecure about how others think of me. When I think someone is losing interest with me, I will distance myself from them and I get anxious when I have to interact with them. My small anxiety period will end in a while and I will be more hopeful when the people I'm scared to talk to show no signs of dislike. I wished I was more social and didn't need to care about what others think of me, I want to be happier
Me: Writes E-mail so I don’t have to call. Them: Reply with a phone number telling me to call them. Me: Prepares mentally for 30 minutes, calls them, stutters while speaking way too fast for the other end to understand me, hangs up and still shames myself for my incompetence a year later. Also, if I should ever live alone I’d probably starve because shopping is just way too much for me xD. I don’t know why but I’m somehow afraid of it. Can anyone relate?
I. 31 and I'm still scared to go into a store alone. It's better with my gf but it's still horrible. Everyone is staring at me and i just look towards the wall or down. Fukkk
I really wish ppl wouldn't mix up introversion with anxiety bc so many ppl want to "fix" introverts. Like, dude, ppl are stupid and I will not put up with small talk with ppl I know will only be around for 5 minutes at a grocery store and I'll never see them again but now I gotta hear about some random product they were buying or their kid who I don't know or care about. And bc ppl conflate the two, there are perfectly healthy introverts thinking something is wrong with them and there are people with actual anxiety calling themselves introverts. Basically, I'm glad you made this video and I hope more people become more educated about the topic.
Being an extrovert with social anxiety: going out makes you have an anxiety attack, staying in makes you feel empty inside and emotionally exhausted. And GOD that last one is so true, I’ve kept so many messages unopened for fear of an unwanted conversation.
Has anyone ever avoided asking someone something for the fear of sounding stupid or annoying and then immediately regret it?
God do I relate. And then you think, why not just go ahead and say cus I need to get over this meaningless anxiety anyway? And then when I say it and everyone looks at me and there's no reaction.... I'm just like..... frick. No. I shouldn't have said anything. I want to crawl into a hole and die and get rid of my existence.
Hey There me
Yes! 😞
@@mehek8387 bruh here is where I found my soulmate
My everyday struggle
"introversion or social anxiety?"
_b o t h_
Silvia C I can relate
Silvia C I am in the same boat
Same man
Word!
Same! Although I’m happy to report that [I feel] like my social anxiety, which was mild to begin with, is getting better with time.
*_This is such a BIG misconception so many people have_*
Being introverted does NOT mean having social anxiety
I thought I was an introvert with social anxiety.
I’m introverted with sa, it can happen, but it’s not always
Hi, I am an introvert with social anxiety. Nice to meet you.
No
@@Edenistics wdym no lmao. You say you have social anxiety and is introverted and you say no when someone says the same?
Plus : You love being alone but deep down you want someone to find you !
Sameee
SAME VIBES
The World does not work in that way, people die alone every day.
@@derpy4335 And this is not how the world works too , ik ppl die alone but im sure that these ppl wanted someone to be with them but they just couldn't say it , i couldn't say it too , everyone thinks that I'm the happy calm person but i battle with myself everyday just to seem like everything is good when it's not . I want someone to find me even if i didn't ask for it , i don't want to look alone and sad because i love the ppl around me and i don't want to hurt them cuz ik i will if i said that .
I posted this comment 6 months ago and i know the exact feelings that i felt in there and now i feel better which is good , and i did that without telling anyone that i feel like that , but trust me it would've been amazing if someone noticed it but this is what I got .
Anyways ik i talked alot 😂 so
Have a good day ❤️
So true
“Introversion or Social Anxiety?”
Me: *yes*
Me:yes but actually no
Me: yes but actully maybe no don't judge me sorry I'm sorry don't judge me
I personally think that social anxiety is your brain forcing you to be an introvert when you don’t want to be one. Idk maybe I’m wrong tho 🤷♀️
Same
I fell y'all I'd prefer to have my own time and spend it home alone without my fam
“you’re turning down invitations to social events” i dont get any
You are one lucky person.
Psych2Go i mean i wish i got to actually see my 4 friends once in a while and it makes me feel like they just have me around to pity me and that they talk about me behind my back
GaykingSoda same 😂
2:55
Same bro
I literally have prepared conversations and things to talk about just in case I’m forced to have a conversation with someone
Woawi
Turbo Vlogs same!
I DO THIS ALL THE TIME
Sometimes I feel like thats why I get so many deja vus
Before I talk to someone I go over the same sentence I’m going to say to them in my head. over and over
Things such as?
(i have none though i need)
I practice how to say "present" in class in my head like every time.
RIGHT! Then there’s always fucking JACOB who’s over there yelling out “ReAdY SpAgGhEtTi” or some shit with all his friends laughing and I’m over here like... “if only I could say that without internally dying of embarrassment and thinking everyone hated me right after”
Then after saying present I will overthink if they were thinking I have a funny or weird voice or something
I searched 'How to say present confidently'
I decide in my head if to say "present " or "here" and get ready for my name to be called
Deadass
Does anyone else over analyze small convos that they just had with people? Like they go over it over and over just to make sure it wasn’t horribly awkward or something??
Every fucking time
Only for about a decade or so... (Not always, sometimes, but yes, I occasionally still replay minor conversations that pop into my head from c 2005).
I'll look at somome because they were looking at me, now I wonder if they think I was staring.
No I have the exact opposite problem: social obliviousness.
Almost any time I speak to someone
Not gonna lie but even sending a message to a group chat scares me.
And the fact that they put it on seen
Exactly 😭
I’ll send a message to a group chat and if they leave it on see I delete the message
And the fact that people see it
Me too
Ikr
Me: wants love and affection
Also me: the fear of being known
Mood xd
Moooood
Relatable
Your profile says it all
Mood
Now imagine being a shy, social-anxiety ridden introvert
That's me
Me
Me
*WE
I’m a ambivert so life is shit
"5 signs it's social anxiety and not introversion"
Me, an introvert with social anxiety: *Confused screaming*
Not everybody who has social anxiety is an introvert (*waves* as living proof).
It doesn't mean you can't still be an introvert and have social anxiety. It just means the two aren't particularly linked, or the same thing.
You can be either an introvert or an extrovert and have social anxiety.
@@debbielough7754
Never said that
@@debbielough7754 You can be an introvert and have social anxiety
@@Random-yd8df All they said was you can be an extrovert and have social anxiety, they never said they can't be introverted and have SAD.
@@euphoricmind7616 I was answering the comment above
I just dont talk to people because i physically cant find a topic i think they would find interesting
y e s m e
The volume in this comment
@@ben-jamminyt2683 and what are the other ones?
Thank-you! This is exactly me! I don't know about politics, sports, etc.
Exactly. And even if I know what are their topics of interest , I know that I am not interested in that topic so I would not want to compromise and kill my mind and have that conversation. I hardly find people interested in the topics I like such as contemplating on the behaviour and process of mind , how to grow in life, how we can improve ourself, how to support each other and be kind, humanity or just talk about nature and gratitude or what new intellectual or creative thing one learnt. No one is interested . Everyone wants to talk about what’s happening in the world and give endless opinion!
“And you leave new messages unread”
Bold of you to assume people message me
let’s be friends
Felt that, the only time people talk to me is when I text them first and they only respond with a small text that can’t keep the conversation going
Indeed.
@@Mal0406 god, do I relate!! It frustrates me so much! It's like they don't even want to talk to me!! So, I've stopped texting people, and guess what? They've stopped too..
niharika jagdish same here :(
Group of friends: **laughing**
Me: *they’re definitely laughing at me*
I feel you
I can relate
I feel you x2
yes.
haha lol
*says something in public chats*
*deletes the messages because you think they will judge you for being yourself*
_someone asks a question in group chat_
*replies in the most neutral way as possible*
I do both the things you two are talking about lol. Either I delete it or try not to offend anyone and go neutral even though I have a different opinion.
I used to do this but my group chat would make fun of it. I still do it to specific people just not them..
I never talk in the group chat, and when I do I worry about whaf if they judge me? What if they think my response was wierd?
Usually when I talk in the chat a silence suddenly appear and no one answered me at all. But that's ok it's not like I wanna interact with them or anything.
Me: writes something in a group chat and is about to send it
My brain: what if no one likes it or makes fun of you for it
Me: better not send it
Maddie1296 % Me, but in the end I send it anyway
Yep, thats me every time i ask if we have homework in group chat
But then you worry that someone saw you typing and then you worry if they are judging you for being indecisive. So you feel more pressured to do something...ANYTHING. Ultimately ending in you just sending a complete mess of thoughts or living with the shame of not sending anything at all then you just stop messaging the group entirely.
I remember every time I texted in a class group chat I would close the messenger and turn off the internet on the phone because I was scared to see what would they answer .... :D
yes i don’t talk in group chats lol
When I get anxiety attacks, one of the things that crosses my mind is “Are you making yourself feel this way so that you can say you have anxiety?” It’s such a horrible feeling. It makes me feel empty and fake.
Edit: Your feelings are valid. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t been diagnosed by a professional, you have the right to feel what you’re feeling.
ouh damn - same. I keep thinking I'm making myself feel this way and I feel really guilty about it.
I do this all the time! I didn’t ask for help for years because I thought that I was being overly dramatic.
same omg
Ben-jamminYT yesterday i had another one! don’t worry, you’re not alone.
Chef Obi-Wan Kenobi i hope you are better now🤍
Anxiety: See these people over there? They actually hate you.
Me: What? No! They probably don't even think about me!
Depression: Ever.
Same
Wow that hit hard but I also laughed in kind of an awkward, nervous laugh way
way too accurate honey
~nervous laugh~
Lmao f
Same :(
😭😔
where’s the “im the cousin that isnt close to anyone because you’re too scared to converse with relatives at family gatherings and usually hide in your room until someone knocks on your door or yells for you to come out and say hi” team? 😌 very specific, yes i know.
Yep, this sums up me!
Angie MontoyaCuri it’s okay, i 100% feel that & have had similar situations, you’re not alone ❤️
Felt this on a spiritual level
Hereeee
Meeee
Teachet: Please tell us a bit about yourself.
Me: *I was born at a very young age.*
😂 😂 😂
😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 my stomach honestly you made my day
Yup, I dont even know how to talk like a normal human 🙂👌🏻
i literally talk to myself 24/7 and i would think of scenarios on what would happen if i do go outside and i practice it
That’s fine. I do it too. If you stay silent for too long you almost lose your ability to speak properly. Speaking is a skill too you know. If you go on a hiatus don’t be surprised if you have a hard time reading your voice or pronouncing words properly when you do decide to open you mouth again. I encourage talking to yourself if you don’t have anyone else to talk to.
Oh my god that's so meeee
yep. I do that alll the time.I run through convos in my head
sameeeeeeeeeeeee
Maybe ur an INFP. Take an mbti test and understand yourself ❤️
love how people in this comment section is talking about their own problems and I relate to all of them tbh
Even this comment is relatable...
@@Eda_the_owl_lady haha, you're right!
same
Same bro
Yea
I avoid texting people back because I’m also awkward in text messages too :/
same... sometimes i feel bad cause it takes me like 10 minutes just to type and send a 1 word text because of how much i overthink it
Same I always feel bad when my friend texts me like three 10 word messages and then I reply with an "Ok" because I dont know what to say
@@ketchuppp2499 exactly same
@@alliemonroe2476 Omg same
I dont really have friends so I dont really text anyone sadly.
Me: *starts typing in a group chat*
Anxiety: THIS IS AN AVENGERS LEVEL THREAT
And then u get left on read....
Puppymia Bramblepelt Just type fuck you guys on every group chat as long as it’s on internet then it’ll be ok, I always want to be alone but when i’m on youtube ? LET ROCK BOIII
Yup :(
Angie MontoyaCuri mainly on Snapchat. Where it send a notification to everyone 0-0
@@Florthy yh that's why I plan out what I'm gonna wriye before I type it
You know It's gotten bad when severe social anxiety hunts you even while sitting with your own family...
That was me in like 1st-5th grade is was so bad
Aden Carlton I'm glad you got rid of your social anxiety by 5th grade, how was the therapy ?
I didn't really get rid of it, it just got a little better and I never got therapy I was just really hoping to please my mom is all. Still got anxiety and it is still generally bad but it had been slowly getting a little better over time, it may take years for it to be comepleatly gone I think that I've done pretty well just by myself
Aden Carlton That's pretty impressive man I'm really happy for you, the symptom I mentioned above is generally the last phase of SAD and stuff can't really get worse beyond that. In fact recovering from a severe SAD by yourself is very unusual yet so hard to impossible.
I actually have social anxiety becouse of my mom so im always the most scared to sit with my family
i get so anxious to the point where when someone approaches me, i end up sounding cold and uninterested, like i’ll just mumble a “hi” and not even make any eye contact. i feel bad afterwards but it just feels like something i can’t control
same. i hate this
I love your dp
This is way too relatable and probably the reason my friends hate me lmao
Same,
I get too nervous to even say hi :((
Teacher: *introduce yourself*
*Me having panic attack*
Exactly me, i have a problem with introduci ng so much
When I was in 8th grade, The teacher called me out because im in the few people who doesnt attend first day of school so I need to introduce my self, When she called me out and keep insisting what is my name i just stood there and whisper to her my name,age,and school i came from, she laugh and say "tell them not me" I was so embarassed and sat there quitely the whole time
Yes oh my goodness. Its the worst
Lmaooo meee
@@dirkxen9369 oh noo, I literally felt this )):
when you get scared because the teacher says "say here" in attendence and then gets to your name
SweetTeaX
YES-
I Have to repeat “here” in my head
Ohh I felt that
Another me?!
Omg yes! I’d have to rehearse it and clear my throat a billion times just to quietly say “here” and felt so much relief after I saying it. I always felt like all my classmates would just stare at me and point and laugh¿ even though we all had to say the same thing
I thought I was the only one.
Ok I'm probably just weird but hear me out. I am an introvert, and sometimes I can talk to people and start conversations in a heartbeat...but sometimes I feel nervous and scared how people think of me. It also happens when I'm around judgemental people. The weird thing is this happens RANDOMLY. I could be loud and obnoxious and then chill and very quiet.
Holy shit... MEEEEEE!!!!!
Omg that’s meeeee!!
Yeah I can understand that.
Me. Too.
I'm an introvert with social anxiety and I have the same thing. Asked my therapist about it, but it's nothing weird. We all have different sides of ourselves and we never wake up feeling like we felt yesterday. I can be loud and obnoxious on good days or around people I feel comfortable at. I might be anxious the next time I see them, depending on my mental health that day. Anyway, it's not weird at all so don't worry (:
I always thought I was an introvert, but recently I realised I have social anxiety. I would always get super nervous going to my English class because I would have to speak on that class. The whole time my palms would be sweaty, I would get a really dry mouth and I'm sure everyone thought I was weird. Goings to maths class I would be fine. I get scared going to the library at university in case all the seats are taken and I'll walk around looking stupid. In the past I would make plans with my friends and just before I would cancel or want to cancel because I suddenly felt kinda scared and that everyone hated me and didn't want me to come. I take ages to become comfortable with people as well and hate meeting new people, I like them once I'm comfortable with them. Whenever I goto the shop or restaurant I rehearse my order multiple times. I would never go to the gym by myself for fear of looking stupid or being watched. I would thunk about every conversation afterwards and how I should have said this and that. I remember a lot of the times when I made a fool of myself rather than the times I was happy and liked. I was super comfortable with my ex boyfriend but it turned out he was narcissistic and abusive. So now my social anxiety is so bad and my self esteem. I stopped talking to my friends because I felt that everyone hated me while saying they liked me like my ex and that they wanted me to go and stop bothering them with my existence like my ex while telling me they like me and want me around. Woe is me. I feel too messed up to go to a therapist because I have too many problems but I can't really cope with life. So now I'm just writing this in a random UA-cam video and no one will read this comment but hey at least I got my feelings out.
Just like me😔
Sending both of you some hugs 🤗
Same bro i love you♥️🥺
You not alone, bro
Little did you know that there are people who saw this, and don’t worry, no one’s gonna judge. And if they do, then shame on them.
Where's my "I hide in bathrooms during parties" team at?
Captain Ninjoy
Here! But I’m more of a show up and the suddenly vanish until someone finally sees me outside kind of person
Pfff parties. I don't go to party's and when people come over I stay in my room. Life is.... 🙁
@@jasonc5931 We can't always escape lol
@@maureen3122 seriously. My anxiety is so bad I sit there and think if I should leave to go to the bathroom or not. But it's only people I'm not close to
@@jasonc5931 I definitely hope it will get better with time :(
I literally plan conversations in my head, but as soon as those become a reality I freeze
This happened to me!! I was practicing what I would do if someone said something to me and someone approached me and asked a simple question. Me: *ignores* them: “hello?” Me: “huh?😳” them: *ask question again* me: stutters a lot for no reason* “I- u-uhhhhh t-the um” my cousin with a actually stuttering problem: I-it’s right there 😐👉 *points* them: “thanks” me: *zones out* my mind: *OH MY GOD YOUR SO EMBARRASSING YOU PRACTICED THIS!! 😭😭😭*
Same I always practice but then as soon as it doesn’t go as planed or they something i didn’t plan I freak out
Me too
recently happened to me. there was something so simple that i wanted to ask to someone close to me and i just completely froze up about it, even though i got a little confident over being able to ask if they could help out with something that wouldn’t take that long and is something a little obvious. man social anxiety is truly the worse sometimes, especially because i know that it’s bad and not normal to think like this 🤡
yup-
Me: "dad, I don’t know how I should introduce myself to others, I'm kinda
nervous"
My dad: "just don’t be shy..."
Me: "mhm... yeah thanks, never heard that before."
When someone says to an introverted person, or someone that has social anxiety, something like: "don’t be shy“, "just talk more" etc.
Then it's like saying: "oh you can’t see ‚cause you are blind? *just see* "
this happens to me too
“why don’t you just talk more?” cause i think you’re judging me CONSTANTLY
ashley ann
I can painfully relate to that 😬😂
That’s also the reason why I hate school. They treat ppl that are introverts or ppl that have anxiety like someone who can’t work right. Like, why do I have to speak to my whole class if I am really scared of it and it makes me feel really uncomfortable? That’s so dumb. Why do i have to pretend like an extrovert just to have better grades. They keep telling me that I have to speak more in class. And I’m really trying but it’s still not enough for them. That stresses me so much. I love learning new things but the social part makes me hate school and I don’t want to go there anymore.
Nea R
I can relate so much and a lot of other people here can also relate. You're not alone :/
Why does the UA-cam algorithm know me better than my parents?
Cant blame them, they've never been thru things like we did.
I think it's because we spend more time with UA-cam than our Parents
@@sussy7764 deep.
Cause there are lots of people who know better the world than only two persons
Hahaahahah because of your algorithm and things that you write on the internet + your openness on google or other search engine platforms are being analysed and heard . Our parents barely hear us though
"Anxiety or introversion?"
How about both
Kashima Kuujuudan why you have both
@@lord_khufu people can have both
They can be socially anxietic and introverted too
Dude, that's not what the title is referring to, the person who made the video has both of these problems as well, but she's trying to help others pinpoint whether or not a CERTAIN situation that happened to you, was because of social anxiety, or whether it was introversion.
Thinking about the amount of opportunities I missed because I have both smh
@@nununana2596 I feel you. A former crush liked me back and I was going to do a promise I kept for him (its too embarrassing to even mention online) but because I was so afraid of the fact that he might be mad at me or too busy to make time for the promise Ive never been able to do it and now we're going to be in different schools now :< ANd now I feel so guilty that I made him wait for so long and so mad that I kept making excuses not to do it when he's done so much for me..
me: i have anxiety
my anxiety: u just want to say u have anxiety to be quirky
me: oh phew i dont have anxiety
my anxiety: well yes but actually no
i know right! people have turned it into a “trend” and i’m afraid to even say i do.
So very accurate
god I hate this quirky word
my god, same. i’ve literally been diagnosed with anxiety and i often wonder, “am i just faking this?”
sooo trueeee
so i told my mom i have social anxiety like a month ago and she just laughed at me. and now she comes up to me like, "oh why dont you talk to me about your problems." "i can tell you are stressed about something." "why are you sad?" i mean... maybe because you kinda make fun of me?? like, tf.
My parents make fun of me all the time, that's why I never talk to them about my problems and that's why I can't go to a psychologist (because they wouldn't take it seriously and tell me that I'm dumb and I don't have anything).
I kinda feel the same I stopped telling my problems to my mom cuz she always makes fun of me and starts comparing her genaration to mine and it feels weird cuz shes supposed help its not a competition...I can be stressed too.. so now I don't tell anyone what I'm going through or how I feel
I have friends its just that I can't tell them anything like I'm scared would if they take it as a joke or make them in a weird situation cuz they don't know what to do
Or why would they care anyway my family doesn't
@@fahima1024 Ya it's littlerally me. My parents think that I'm just exaggerating things and that my just confidence level is low and it happens with many people. When I'm around people they always say oh she's just shy and tell me that I should increase my confidence level by interacting with people more. Like many people are shy but not this extreme why can't u see or why are u ignoring
Wow, I'm sorry. I think parents should take their children's mental health seriously instead of making fun of them/laughing at them.
it be like that
Experienced this before but, the time when you're having a silent anxiety attack and you start to think "Am I only behaving like this for me to say that I have social anxiety and attention?" Makes the situation worse😀
Oh em gee.....yes. I tell myself that I have to just be faking it all the time because I want attention. I'm not sick, I'm just faking it. Like I don't even believe my own stupid self. (I have several mental illness diagnosis).
@@MijaCoyote frr😭
Me, it's worse when others think that to
They're probably not gonna believe it since they're going to say your already lucky and privilege,your just trying to act and fake it, that's why people hide things, people do not believe it unless it's too late,the social anxiety already cause depression and paranoia
@@joliejarina1696 Fact
"You don't maintain relationships as well as you used to"
*jokes on you, I've always been this bad at maintaining then*
Big mood
You guys are getting relationships
@@XpdX-mp5sd lmao missed opportunity
ᴜsʜᴜ 。 LOL SAME
Can't be worse at maintaining relationships if you don't have friends to begin with. Big brain
I'm an extrovert with social anxiety, a LOT of people don't realise that they can go together.
Keren Ray and I'm one of those people. I did not realise that! Forgive me for being rude, but how exactly does that work? Sorry, just dumb and curious 😂
@@dragonfire8873 when I'm in control of a social situation, I'll talk to anyone, and I prefer to be with other people then by myself, but I'm always over thinking everything, and when certain things happen I can get really anxious real fast. I hoped this helped!
It did, thanks!
Hey me too!
That must suck, hope you get better...
I love how people express themselves in the comments section
Amrani taha haha yeah
I like Oreos
@@treett4268 probably lol
It might be someone with the same pfp though
@@omlette question, why do so many people have that pfp?
Talking on the internet is the best form of communication. Discussions often only go as far as your willing to go and you can usually take your time thinking through what you want to say. Plus you can't feel the other persons eyes staring into your soul while they await your response to a typically simple question that should not feel like your answer will make or break your entire relationship.
Does anybody else think of how to say “here” during attendance but then sound like a dying frog 😭😭
Me
Or you don't speak to someone till they speak first even if it's your friend
Luckily, I don't have to say it in my school and just raise my hand. But I don't want to jinx it.
This is way too relatable
I practice in my mind so much and then when it's my turn it say it my voice cracks😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I remember when I was 6 years old and one girl who was older ask me: "Why don´t you talk?" I remember clearly how my heart rate went up, I felt so scared at the moment. Finally, I gathered all the courage I had just to say "It scares me..."
I get asked that too, I normally just shrug or say "Just because" I have never ONCE given a straight answer to that.
Natalia Zúñiga Wait a girl talk to you, oh wait i think I already talk to one, maybe leave school make my memories about it less clearly
when people ask me that it makes me not want to talk more xD because usually i'll be about to say something then someone says that
That happens to me all the time
And thats when the awlward part comes, I just keep thinking about what I should say in my brain without fucking uo but I end up sounding weird
I found my people 😂
Reading all these comments make me feel less lonely and better about myself ♥️
Me too 😁
same, i can relate to everything xD
same we should found our own little city with only introverted residents that would be fun
same, I rlly feel happier now that I know it’s not just me ☺️
yes :) I wish we had like a group chat or something that we can rant in haha.
Me when Im alone: I wish people would pay attention to me :(.
Me in a social situation: AAAAAAAHHH oh no ohno oh no what do I do ohno dont look at meplease look at someone else
THATS EXACTLY ME😭
U PUT IT INTO WORDS THANK YOU
@@crazywhale6737 no problem :3
Me when I’m alone: I wish someone would talk to me
Me when I’m in my group of friends: They’re making fun of me and shipping me with my crush, but still put me down in her presence
Me when I’m on my way home with classmates (which I don’t do often because of this reason): No one talks to me everyone chooses their phone and social media over talking to me (There’s only one person who doesn’t... my crush)
Feel the same dude
me sending a message
message: seen
*no typing on other side*
me: *s c r e a m s*
your profile pic is cute
Me too-
convo moved to spam, notifications turned off
Same. I feel ignored and unwanted.
@@l0remipsum991 lmao I thought I was the one and only that does this
Me: writes a joke in the comments
Also me: what if people don’t like it? I’d better delete it
Don't delete it. Every comment helps ;)
And people are so fucking mean these days..
Mr Fish M E
I do that too,but sometimes I'm really proud of some comments,Some times,I really get a confidence boost when i get a positve response,or likes
lol at first i didn’t dnt get it
Am i the only one that starts walking weird when someone is watching me like my leg just stops working and i cant control it.
omg that’s literally me lol
Me too
Me too lmao
i feel i’m walking in zig zag😆
That’s so me LOL
I get so scared when someone stares at me when I go out. I feel like they are judging the way I walk or the way I look and every single detail. I know they are probably not but the fear has been there since I was little. I have talked about this with my mom and she says it will stop if stop caring about what they say but it's not that easy. I also get super red whenever I talk to somebody and my hands start sweating a lot. I'm super akward
I am 100% like this too. Looking like a damn sweaty tomato close to tears when the teacher makes me answer questions in front of the class. I’m seriously awkward. I have siblings who could care less about what people think of them and so do my parents so they all just tell me I’m overthinking. NO SHIT SHERLOCK I KNOW IM OVERTHINKING THATS MY ISSUE!!!
If I have to go out like buy food or materials I will have to spend like half an hour with my heart pounding to prepare myself to be seen at broad daylight or peep at the window to see if there's no people nearby before going out. It usually ends up me not going and reschedule it in the night or the day after.
@@saddays8694 SAME, my heart skips a beat, its stressful feeling like this
I literally can’t go to the store without someone cuz I’m to scared to buy things infront of a cashier
Yes! Or I buy other things that I completely don't need just so that the cashier doesn't judge me for what I'm buying. And I have to beg someone to go to the store with me, bc standing face to face with a cashier makes me feel anxious. And many more.
The cashier asked me my name once but I was so scared I froze and forgot my name. Never again.
@@lordgrimixb I feel you
@@agnieszkaa2779 At least there's self checkouts at some stores.
self service is my lifeline at this point
Man these comments really make me feel more comfortable, knowing there are more people here like me, also i wish i was invited places, or messaged. I can go days wtout getting a single "whats up" or anything
Wait, people messaging you only when they need something is not normal?
@@communist4life630 not lately, was usually just for homework but even then its rare
same, my friends always ask me why i am so terrified of talking with other people, i feel better for knowing there are more people like this, even though no one deserves it
I don't even have friends who "what's up" me.
Whats up! How you been!?
Me: **all social anxiety signs hit and are extremely strong**
Also me: eeh, I'll be fine **proceeds to cry 7 times because of a small party**
Me 😔
My anxiety after a good time with my friends:
Anxiety: They definitely _hate you_ and think _you are weird_
Me: But why? Give a more logic explanation
Anxiety: because you talk too much/too little
Me: But... when our best friend does it, it’s normal... she’s really nice actually
Anxiety: YeEEEeeaaAAAh BUT IS WEIRD WHEN _YOU_ DO IT
Had to take a screenshot. Way too accurate to miss it
my anxiety is much more irrational than yours, mine doesn't even try to make up excuses, it just shows up for no reason
LMAO
Omg i had never felt so understood by someone 😂
relatable
I was at a Sunday school meeting, and the teacher told us to introduce ourselves. She pointed at the person infront of me (but I didn’t see because my vision isn’t the best) and everyone looked at me so I stood up and walked to the front. The teacher was still talking to the person infront of me and i was stand at the front confused. The class then laughed and said that I wasn’t suppose to go but let me anyways.
Lemme tell you I had the worst panic attack and couldn’t breath, I couldn’t even talk properly when introducing myself. I felt like crying and you could hear it in my voice. When I was done I sat down put my hood on and didn’t talk the whole class like I usually do. I never went back again.
Yeah, it's embarrassing and makes you not want to speak and when you're trying to wipe away tears because you feel so embarrassed and then your just left feeling terrible and longing to go home.
Don’t be too hard on yourself man. Similar thing happened to me.
Be strong. Even presidents have embarrassing moments but don’t let it get to you and carry on 💪
Same thing happened to me, I was super embarrassed, my class didn't laugh at me, but I still wanted to cry.
That’s why I always say “me?” And wait for them to either say another persons name or “yes you"
I wouldn’t put my hood on because I would think that I’m trying to be a
My anxiety: **exists**
My dog: I’m about to end this man’s whole career
- goldenJay - that’s so cute omg
That's frickin cute
Wholesome 🥺
Aww atleast we have dogs in our lives 😔💜
Aww
Being extroverted but also having social anxiety is almost a literal curse.
Same it’s painful 😣 and this quarantine shit made it worse
@@vissuuu69 Omg Omg Same
Ikr so I socialize online..
@@vissuuu69 rightt
Ikr
This hits hard when you're starting to lose touch with your friends that were special to you because you're picky on who to be friends with since you're also an introvert
Sometimes even when I’m alone, I feel like someone’s watching me and there are cameras everywhere
Omg same
Or that they can read your mind
bro I sang a song 2 days ago and YT recommended it the next day
SAME
yeah like theres ghosts following me around judging my every move
The worst thing about social anxiety is that it will likely lead to depression aswell
Exactly
Yep
Exactly
happened to me bruh .
Things I struggle with due to social anxiety:
1) Wearing my own clothes, especially in school. In England we have school uniforms, so non-school uniform days are always nerve wracking. ‘What if it’s the wrong day’ ‘Are my clothes weird?’ But when I forget I also freak out.
2) Buying things at the store, or even going to the store. I get scared I will buy something and get judged for it, I get scared I’ll lose something, I get scared of being followed around the store, I get scared of seeing someone I know etc etc..
3) Ordering food at fast food restaurants. I tend to edit my meals as I don’t like most of the stuff in it, so when I’m with other people I either just order a drink, or get the same thing they get even if I don’t like it and just force myself and pretend I like it. At restaurants I also tend to poke the person next to me, tell them what I want and beg them to order it for me.
4) Meeting up with my friends at the mall. I’ve been asked so many times to go to the mall with my friends. Hell no. I get scared I’ll get lost/they’ll take me somewhere unfamiliar, we’ll stay out too long, I’ll lose them, I won’t be able to make my way home etc.
5) Getting on buses. Every time I try and get on a bus, even with someone else, i worry so much that I always mess it up. I also get scared of someone sitting next to me that I don’t know and trying to talk with me. Please go away..
There are so so many more I can list, so if you’re interested in more just ask and I can list a few more, but just know for you with out social anxiety, how much it really does affect people’s daily life. If your friend always turns down your invitation to go places, don’t be scared that it’s because they don’t like you, there’s a really big chance they are too scared. Instead, perhaps invite them to your house, or ask to go round their house. You still spend quality time together, in a place you both can feel comfortable. 💕
Ditsy I relate to every one of these.
omg me too, I do everything of those too :(
I'm the exact same.
The third and fifth one is definitely me:"
Non-school uniform days would totally make me lose my mind, that would be hell, feel bad for you
Why does it feel like it's deeper tho. Like, I'm not afraid of people, I just don't want to hurt them or their feelings. If I'm not worrying abt that, I overthink if I'm being clingy or annoying or dumb or weird. It's like someone's always watching and judging no matter what I do. As long as I'm in a social setting or public in general, it's like the judgement never ends. And don't even get me started on thinking abt how you made someone feel or how you hid your feelings or how you came off in conversations hours and even days ago.
When you realize you have introversion and social anxiety.
My parents' worst DNA: *No need to thank me*
Lmfao me
If I become president, social anxiety and self-hate will be strictly forbidden by lifetime.
(...does this help or is this just stupid?...)
No sis, all my siblibgs are extroverts and get friends EASILY! and here I am sitting in my room with my phone all day afraid to talk to anyone
@@wordupcameo5019 you cant ban social anxiety it wont go it will always be dere like autism(i used something i have myself)
@@namjoonslostpassport2145 relatable
Mom: Just talk to people
Me: 😑
Radias 258 LITERALLY MY MOM
same, she thought it's that easy 😩
Cured
Not my mom but my friends ;-;
Whooow, what an idea. Why didn't I think of that?
This may sound strange but whenever I go to school I can go a whole 6 hours without saying a single word if the teacher calls on me my heart always sinks immediately I sometimes stutter and other times I say the quickest response right or wrong just to get out of the situation, There's three people that I can properly socialise with because I've know them for so long (Two are my family and the other my mum's friend) but socialising with people in general scares me I always say "I need friends" but then when it comes to making them I'm a complete cowered I over analyse everything and it's gotten to the point where a single "Hello" scares me...
I completely felt that.
Me in school
IKR T-T
I try to answer as quickly as possible too. When I answer wrong, I'm humiliated in front of my class and walked through the question like a baby. Teachers are literally the worst people I've ever met smh
YES! that's SOO me
I’m an introvert with social anxiety, and its hard because I’m more prone to wanting to stay home, and being ok with it. I feel so much better when I’m completely alone. But I’m afraid this will lead me to becoming a hermit. Sometimes I think I want to be. I want to stay home forever, and I never want to talk to anyone again. But I know deep down that’s not what I truly want. I want to be alone, but not lonely. I care about my friends and family, and I want to do things with them. I want to go out and experience things, but I’m usually too scared to try, and when I actually do its very exhausting.
With that said, I think social anxiety is just as hard for extroverts. They feel the best around people, but they are too scared to interact. They desperately want and need to be around others, but sometimes they are too scared to leave their house, or even talk to people. Anxiety sucks >:(
I always thought I was shy because people told me that, I was quiet and never had many friends. But as I grew older I understood that I was scared of socializing and it was so hard for me to do anything, I could even go to the store like wth I'm still struggling with that but when I entered college I had to start doing something about it. I'm still socially awkward and a complete loner and all of that but I've manage to do things that before I wouldn't even think on doing :)
I understand, I'm the same way too. Even I have social anxiety and still try to do things that may not be comfortable, even when is worth passing out for. 😅
M s s nobody. That is great! It is hard but you just have to keep pushing. Definitely easier said then done
I'm proud of u. Also I relate.
Hi same! I joined one club in university. Went on a day trip. Working as a volunteer in retail and for the vision-impaired. And I finally got a casual job as a tutor even if I only have one student. I can also finally grocery shop by myself (self-serve checkout ftw) and I've gotten better at handling calls.
I know I’m being oversensitive but this made me cry
Sarah Berres Cortez Same, I will literally cry at the smallest of things even if it isn’t that sad
Ella Rose I’m the same way..
I’ve always been told
I’m overly sensitive ☹️
But what is when you are so fu*king used with this condition and you don't be even surprised or sad, but just very frustrated?.. 😒
It made me cry too... Mainly because I don't know if I have social anxiety or if I'm just overreacting, but I keep telling myself that I'm just overreacting because I haven't been diagnosed and I'm just so confused and scared...
Sameee
i'm so jealous of everybody else, they find making friends so easy. some girls will just walk up to me in school, talk to me, and call me their bff. they have huge friend groups, and are even dating. then there's me, so afraid of being judged, one friend, and kind of "acquainted" with other people. but i honestly am so fucking scared of being with people.
edit: ik this is kind of annoying but- 2.2 k likes? oh my god i've never gotten that much thank you so much!!
Strawberry .. no need to be jealous .. just love yourself for who you are and know that there are many of us, like you, who suffer social anxiety...
@@christinelawrence4315 easy for you to say
While what everyone here said is true, the thing for some people is that they can't do it with just a simple video or pep talk. Plus theres also the image you've made of yourself at school/ work, if you wait to long it becomes nearly immposible to try and 'fix' your anxiety, that was likely built up over time and hard to break down
well then its me (btw im a girl xd) i have a short time in my new school but i remember that when i first enter to be so scared i wanted to cry,then,i became more introverted when we are not doing anything i just feel so sad because i dont have any friends (well i have but i dont really feel ok),for being alone and im very scared of things like answering or even stand up from my chair,when i always feel fear i cry on the bathroom,but i stand up and try to live and to improve
thanks to read (i dont have anyone to tell this)
I just think they're people too with flaws and they poop like I do. And thinking that helps to remember that they're at my level too, and I don't worry about others judging my weirdness.
Me: shy + introvert + social anxiety =
Combo set
Myeslf
@@lavender3509 yeh me🥰
Also armyy🥰
@@lavender3509 blackpink is fine but the community is almost shit
@@lavender3509 I think replacing it with BTS Army Community
(the bts community is really shit tho)
Replace introvert with extrovert and it’s worse. You guys still don’t get it.
Psych2Go: Do you have social anxiety or introversion?
Me: I’m gonna say I’m a mix
If you could pick one, which one?
Psych2Go well it’s like a “I don’t want the guys but they’re kind of a package deal” situation, so I’m gonna go with the social anxiety. Plus it’s what I’m used to soooo-
Same
@@Psych2go 3:23 sometimes they're enjoyable, sometimes it really does make me feel guilty
I’m afraid of What people think of me so i limit myself to the things that make me seem basic asf and i also prefer being alone so whats going on here
I can’t even say Merry Christmas to someone without thinking that they’ll judge my voice or something (My voice has always been high pitched). I just overthink about everything related to socializing.
Oh my god me too I was at chirstmas party and there was a bunch of people I didn't know, like friends of my parents and I just wanted to disappear because I felt like I needed to be this specific person around them... in truth I don't really know who I am. :/
Ahahah this is literally me. I didn’t know other people worried about this. Basically any sort of like.. congratulatory sentence makes me feel uncomfortable, merry Christmas, happy holidays, happy birthday, I feel awkward saying it, overthink my tone of voice or if I sound genuine enough, etc...
Everything here, me too.
Or when it's someones birthday and you are struggeling with wishing them a happy birthday🥴
Elena Boycheva and receiving the message is a problem for me too because I never know how to respond. I’ll then go home and think about how I responded to what the person said (like Merry Christmas, good job, or even hey/hi/sup. Sup is the absolute worst bc I never know how to respond to it :/) and think, “wow that was so stupid I should have said something else” and cringe for the rest of eternity whenever I think about what I said, even if it was a perfectly normal response. Like, I could say something to someone today and still be cringing about it next week, even if it’s completely irrelevant and trivial. It’s a problem.
Sometimes I feel suffocated for having social anxiety and how it hold me back from anything. Sending texts in a group chat, being in the center of attention, gatherings, etc. I feel suffocated because its like I don't fit in, and I'm worried it will cause problems for me in my professional life.
On the internet I see a lot of people like me. Where are you guys in my real life?!! Why all i see are happy and self confident people?
Defominvous I couldn’t relate anymore to this. When I go out everyone looks like they are having a great time. Don’t let it bother you about your professional career because you can always work from home. There are tons of ways to make money from home. I currently work from home and love it. I don’t have to talk to anybody and it is perfect!
Having social anxiety is like having multiple choices on how to deliver a sentence and predicting the type of outcome it will get. Theeen you just decide to say nothing.
I have to mentally prepare before I can ask the staff in a shop if they have something that I need. I need more than a half hour to make a phonecall to strangers....etc. etc.
I could puke every time I have to stay up and go to work in the mornig because I want to work as a teacher and have to overcome my greatest fears for it every day. It is so hard. But every morning it gets a little bit better. Maybe sometime I am not afraid anymore.
Making phone calls is the worst. Especially when nobody picks up and I have to leave a barely coherent message. Then I get to worry about how stupid I sounded for the rest of the day.
I've mostly set up my whole life to avoid having to use the phone. I can just about text, but phoning anybody other than my husband is very challenging.
On the getting better - it can. I was agoraphobic as a teenager. and while the immediate thought of avoiding going outside has never fully gone away, I can control it now, and get on top of it. I sometimes describe it as a little like being an addict - you have to keep on it every day. Occasionally you might have a small relapse, but you get back on it again.
Me talking to my mom in the car MONTHS ago: mom, I think I might have social anxiety
My mom: I was shy when I was younger too
Me quietly to myself: that’s not what I was saying
Edit (Dec 16, 2020): today I was diagnosed with anxiety and panic and preparing to begin weekly appointments with a therapist because I worked up the courage to mention it to my mom a few more times
Omg my dad too! It sucks when they kinda just put down those things
Same not only with that but with my health when i finally hace the courage to speak to her about something and i dont becouse she scares me she just brushes it off im like the lower part of my belly hurts badly sometimes and she either ignores it or says it probably nothing so i just dont say anything
My mom doesnt say that thankfully
Edit: I've been a lot less socially anxious lately :)
omg same, every time i want to tell my mum anything she always says im wrong, even after i spend hours reseaarching to make sure im right
I have stopped telling my mom now....she still asks me to open up and be confident....
1) You are turning down to social events because it scares you ------->2:05
2) You aren't enjoying the introverted activities anymore -------> 3:17
3) You are not doing necessary things anymore -------> 4:09
4) You don't enjoy the social activities that you used to -------> 5:05
5) You don't maintain relationships as well you used to -------> 6:06
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Kyoko Saikou :P I do all the above!
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When you think you might have social anxiety but also don't want to go to therapy because you're afraid of your parents judging you :)))
i’m personally terrified to call and make the appointment (i have to do it myself since i’m 18 now). even then i may not like the therapist !! it’s ironic the reason i need therapy is the reason i’m scared to go LMFAO. hope that made sense
@@lexi_may it makes too much sense to me lol
@@lexi_may same . Am 18 now and I have do all things by my own . Like phone calls . It’s so scary 😮💨😮💨
I was diagnosed with social anxiety by my phycologists and I was like 'that explains a lot"
Toby TheKiller 😊
Have they shown you how to overcome it?
@@Liisaabby no but they did give me medicine that does kinda help
they want me to try “exposure therapy” and it’s absolutely terrible
Toby TheKiller
Something my big brother talk to me about, about one week ago... because I opened up to him... we had like a 2 hour discussion about our problems and he explained to me while he doesn’t fully understand my situation that he understands feeling lonely and feeling like you’re missing out on girlfriends, fun activities etc... and he told me all I could do is just not let social anxiety control me and that with time and a positive Attitude is the best I could do
At first I was thinking “he just gave me the usual be positive don’t worry youre fine” advice but I really thought about it
And then he said when you wake up the next morning
Tell yourself:
“I am in control of social anxiety, not the other way around”
In which I did, after doing so it’s been about a week and I have improved a lot it’s crazy to realize simply minipulating your mind to think that social anxiety does not control you and that you have full control over it and when it needs to act up helps a fuck ton
I’ve already lost a few symptoms such as I always had a eye contact problem and felt judged while walking by people and having someone in my peripheral vision
But I started saying
“I am in control” and for the first day it didn’t work immediately but I kept saying it over and over meaning it everytime and I felt immediate results, I was able to concentrate on things other than my eye contact, was able to feel safe and comfortable around people, and i just couldn’t stop laughing and feeling good through the the day...
I’m one week in and the eye contact problem is almost completely gone, I’ve also learned to control my body movement, from saying “I am in control “....I don’t wave my arms around awkwardly trying to calm my nervousness
The milisecond I feel some negative or bad/ nervous thoughts
Literally I’m talking immediately as I feel those thoughts coming while approaching some sorrow social interaction such as going to the bathroom at school or getting a tissue in front of the class
I say “I am in control of social anxiety”
I even cuss at social anxiety as if it was a person I’ll go as far to act as if I’m fucking punching the shit out of it and curb stomping its teeth in because it’s not bossing me or controlling me around soon
And this has really helped me
DONT BE A VICTIM TO YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES
this is the most important lesson I’ve learned recently
You don’t need meds you don’t need treatment
Just simply realize you are in control
Dont get any doubts
BECUASE YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF SOCIAL ANXIETY
Tell it to go away and never come back YOU are the boss of it now enjoy life and kick back , this is coming from a 16 year old almost 17 year old who has dealt with the bullshit since about 7 years old
When you have both and only realised it years later.
I'm so f**ked up
That's meee!
Yeapp...l have both...😔
I think--55% anxiety
45% introversion
No one:
Literally no one:
*FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL*
Teacher: lets introduce ourselves shall we?
My Anxiety: *HELL NAH!*
Air Vlog I am so glad I don’t have to introduce myself anymore 😅
OMG. Whenever we had tasks like that. I would have an internal MELTDOWN.
I always feel nauseous on the first day of school. Like I’ll tremble just by entering the school bus and making a fool of myself by just taking a seat. And introducing ourselves? Why bother if I’m not going to talk with anyone in class. Wearing my earbuds at lunch somewhat eases me. I’ll just buy a bag of chips and scroll through my phone to make it seem that I’m intrigued with what I’m looking at. Okay I’m going to stop now.
I'll just ask to go to the bathroom
First day of school makes me have anxiety, not about ppl anymore, what if i go to the wrong classroom? What if im late and they make fun of me? What if I go in the wrong school door? What if Its not my group? Am i in the right group? Why arent they saying my name yet, am i not on the list?
I remember the phrase that helped me to cope with social anxiety having convos with people - “You are not the clown to entertain them”! 👌
besides think how little or none we actually think of others but ourselves. Switch the focus, care about your well-being (for example say “I’m going to this party for MYSELF” etc)
I’ve always classified myself as an introvert but secretly thought I had social anxiety. After watching this I’m almost 100% sure I have social anxiety, I think along with other anxiety disorders. But I feel like I’m always afraid and embarrassed to tell my doctor about everything I’m struggling with and they can’t properly diagnose me.
Finally found one! Good for you! To heal you first have to be honest with yourself. No more BS! It doesn’t do you any good pretending you don’t have a problem. Ain’t no shame in admitting your flaws.
@@chris7285 But what if you're wrong? Then you look like you were just looking for attention, and you've caused so many people a hassle.
@@KnotAnOwl not gonna lie that’s some shit that comes to my mind. But if your worried about those things I wouldn’t be surprised if you had anxiety. Sometimes you just have to go for it because if you do have it you can get help.
@@KnotAnOwl I mean if you break your leg you need medical attention. Why should we treat mental disorders any differently? If you need help then you need help. There shouldn’t be any shame in asking for help. Humans are biologically programmed to be selfish but we’ve evolved to also feel love which is displayed when someone offers help to someone in need without the expectation of receiving anything in return. Plus you can’t know until you’re diagnosed. Getting a diagnosis is a form of getting help. I have a hunch that OP does actually have social anxiety. The keyword in his comment was “secretly”. Lots of people are shamed for their social anxiety and so they feel vulnerable admitting that they have it just like I did. I didn’t start healing until I stopped excusing my social isolation for introversion. I didn’t start healing until I confronted my fear through exposure therapy. I became a cashier and It’s insane how much it’s helped. Although now I face a new disorder…..AVPD.
Anyone else have uncontrollable smiling when you're forced to talk to someone? I get it some days really badly but other days im fine for the most part.
Rave I do, I also laugh uncontrollably too, like I can’t help it, because laughing or smiling helps me calm down because my whole body is so tense you have no idea lol 😂
Tealquoise arts dude. same
yeah, it creeps out some of my family members, especially when there's an argument or something similar going on
_why the hell are you smiling_
weenus peenus yeah, and it happened yesterday at my family’s Christmas party 😬 when my cousin was giving me like life advice
Avanitia ikr, like it makes me calm down, but if I do smile or laugh then the person who I’m talking too like gets a more serious look on their face and it’s like ughhhhhh u dontttt unddderrrstandndddd
As an introvert, I don’t feel anxiety or any other negative things while talking to people. I can talk easily to stranger and even be funny sometimes, but I prefer spending time alone, that’s all.
I just think « Maybe I am a weirdo, but if they don’t like me, screw it, they just have to find someone else. »
I didn’t have any bf or gf cuz I just didn’t look for it and that’s not one of my main objective.
Please, if you have one or several symptoms from up here, go find someone that can help you. You aren’t having a healthy life.
Atownic Pepperoni thank you for your input. i’ve always been blaming these issues on my introversion because i don’t know what it’s like for another introvert or another person with social anxiety.
damn this is eye opening haha. I thought everything was normal until just a couple months ago. recently my bf pointed out that the quickened breathing, heart rate, etc I experience are panic attacks and not just “being slightly worried about an event like anyone else does.” it’s super strange to find out this isn’t just.. something everyone does.
thank u so much this helped me so much because im an introvert but this is really not me
Guess i’m not healthy
Same, especially with the relationship with bf/gf. Only difference is that I cant suddenly talk to strangers. Not even if I want to ask an older person if they want my seat
Definitely dealing with social anxiety. I’ve been avoiding for years. I’m tired of trying to cope with it alone.
And then there’s the people who have a mix of both like me 😂
Which points did you relate to most?
And me :)
@@Psych2go I feel productive when I am alone but also have useless questions in social situations
I frequently need to spend time by myself and feel tired after being around others. but when I am out especially alone I’m always worrying about people judging me or thinking I’m crazy or annoying.
Same here I have both lol
ive got problems with texting, talking, pleasing people, etc. i act differently per social scenario like most people, but it always makes me feel guilty/act in a way that i don’t like. ill be louder around people i don’t know or like to gain their attention or make a good impression. ill be sullen and angry and experience a lot of mood shifts with my family. ill be flirty and bubbly with people im friends with. problem is, that isn’t me. well, im not really sure who i am tbh.
i partake in a lot of behaviours to get out of my thoughts, bc they’re always mocking me. at night i get into physical conversations of me putting myself down, for hours at a time, just arguing with myself about why im a horrible person and essentially getting that same treatment back. i laugh and fill the silence when im uncomfortable, or even when im not uncomfortable, but just anxious or doing something im ashamed of. like reading comics; my emotions are always amplified during that time bc i always feel so stupid despite knowing that nobody is here with me. i like being alone and i can’t text, call, or email. i overthink to the point of crying sometimes, or my responses are clipped, never genuine unless it’s late at night when my emotions are typically looser or i know the intent. likely something to do with me not being able to see body language. im generally pretty anxious/uncomfortable, even in places where i know im in my element. it’s not uncommon for people to tel me i look terrified, scared, or nervous when im at my workplace or at sports practice, even though i enjoy being there and feel comfortable. part of my need to please others, or my heightened emotions bleeding into an anxious energy that keeps me moving? i don’t know. i can never sit still and when i get my heart rate up, my thoughts get louder, except when im at the gym.
it’s almost impossible for me to maintain willpower bc my thoughts are always screaming at me to stop. it’s hard to do much tbh, and even in social situation where im in my element, i often regret and overthink myself afterwards or even during the moment. it sucks, and ive got a habit of turning to my self-loathing voice whenever im alone or not socializing, so that only amplifies it.
simply put, i doubt i have social anxiety. i don’t know why im here, honestly. i only know that being alone, while preferable, makes me feel like shit and only by doing things constantly do i get out of my own head/thoughts, like socializing, though i always feel like shit afterwards. i think im just emotionally stunted or didn’t pick things up. my younger self was a mess, which is clear for me to see, and i think a lot of that has to do with me not having a social background. ive learned most of my social skills from books and by emulating those around me, to the point where i don’t know who my genuine self is. quarantine has led to me staying up more, which means more self-loathing debates, wild bursts of anxious energy, and mad giggling/flailing/humming or noise making to alleviate that. ive looked into female autism and adhd, but im not sure anymore, and i can’t exactly get a diagnoses either. so it sucks.
idk why im here. ive found that it’s so much easier to talk to the void of youtube comments instead of taking to people i know or want to gain the respect of. talking to my friends that im not super close to, or talki NV to teachers, or even talking to close friends, is a chore and it’s incredibly stressful, but this is somehow okay. makes sense for a lot of people tho. anyway, this had very little to do with the video and was primarily me ranting about symptoms that most people generally encompass, and trying to connect dots so that i can potentially help myself/understand myself. it’s not helping. i had to change my channel name which is great bc i don’t want anybody finding this.
aight. Gotta go. bye, good luck on your mental health journeys ya’ll
I know everone's journey is their own, and that nobody can judge us but ourselves... But for what little it's worth, I think saying this and putting it out there makes you SPECTACULARLY brave. Keep talking. Maybe to the void, maybe to yourself.
Try not to be as hard on yourself as you previously were and focus on the positives. And if you don't know what those positives are, make a concious effort. Go back down Memory Lane as detailed as you can. You've done something good at some point. Hold on to that. You are MUCH MORE than your faults or insecurities. You just have to learn to accept that...
I hope you find what you're looking for. I personally think you've taken the first step already...
I can feel so much what you're saying, it's the same in many ways for me too
I just wanted to make sure you know you're not alone and that I feel the same
So good luck with everything, be brave and much love
are you.... me? im a transwoman with tourettes, adhd ocd & autism but... its like youre describing exactly the parts of how this video fails to describe me.
im 6 foot tall and my tourettes has a symptom thats not exactly uncommon called Sudden Explosive Rage (read *6. ‘RAGE’* on this page: tourette.org/resource/understanding-behavioral-symptoms-tourette-syndrome/ ) and the way it leads me to act... well, i mean, thats the problem really... is it me? is it this disorder i was born with, with no choice in the matter? or... is there really a difference that matters, considering the things i do and have done. i might as well qualify for being locked in highsecurity prison... and yet so many of the friends ive pushed away/lost say that they dont like me simply because i apologize way too intensely & way too much, constantly interpreting/assuminh their actions to be an indication that they were offended by my actions, when im really just overly-reading-into/getting-offended-by THEIR actions as being indications that i fricked-up really bad.
do u think we have something similar? if so, what do u think it is? if not, sorry if im being creepy... i might just be assuming connections between myself & someone else’s life again. is there a cure/treatment/therapy/medication? ive tried everything; my mom & dad have spared no expense trying to help me. i feel like i.... i must be too lazy.... but then i think back to what ive been thru & what happens everytime i actually try something new and wonder if my lack of hope is justified... or if im only suspecting tjat to justify more laziness!!! i dont want to be like this anymore. i wish i could replace my mind with someone else’s, or make myself 10x weaker so i dont pose a threat
Research bipolar disorder and see if all of your symptoms match
My friends/relatives at the Karaoke: *pressures me to sing infront of a crowd or doing any kind of activity that is out of my comfort zone*
Me: *denies them, then overthingking things like (they will never like me, or they'll think I'm a party pooper and won't let me join in anything, etc.) then having a panick attack*
Edit: this took me over 6 minutes just by correcting and overthinking it 😅
*you're not alone*
i used to be a socially anxious extrovert but have been healing myself for a while. i can proudly say that i'm a normal extrovert again, but it wasn't easy! don't be hard on yourself for being human, and if you want to heal, don't force yourself to take big steps ❤️❤️
I am a nearly 40 year old woman and I just realised today that I've suffered from social anxiety all my life. From childhood till today. I've always thought it was an extreme case of shyness. This is so heart breaking because I have lost so many life changing opportunities just from running away from social situations. If I knew earlier my life would be different. I hope its not too late. I remember when i was a child and i went with my mom to see her friend, i sat somewhere very quite as always and I overheard my mom's friend saying " your daughter is too shy" I remember feeling like I had a disease and that feeling has stayed with me till date. Thank you for this video.
"won't stop talking about Naruto"
Anyone else feel like they've just been called out
Y e p
Lol! Maybe cause the founder himself is a fanatic of Naruto too ;)
Yep
Aaron Nehman YUP
Aaron Nehman Naruto run ENGAGE
“And - You won’t stop talking about Naruto”
Me: You know me so well...
DarioAnimation YT
It’s called “unlisted”
It’s where you can’t view it unless someone sends you a link or if it’s in a playlist
ミルズMiruzu Oh lol 😂
Y E S 👌🏻
It seems you wrote this comment 3 weeks ago...you time traveler
That flying arrow hit me quite literally. lol
Have you ever talked excitedly to a friend about a topic you’re interesting and then slowly realize they’re not interested in it nearly as much as you or at all so you gradually stop talking?
always.
Yeah..
I got anxiety watching this and reliving moments all over again.
I don't mind talking to people but there are some people. I find hard communicating with and I would get scared talking to them, it's hard to explain. I hope I was more social and happier. It's weird because I don't get scared talking to people and I will open up easily, but I am insecure about how others think of me. When I think someone is losing interest with me, I will distance myself from them and I get anxious when I have to interact with them. My small anxiety period will end in a while and I will be more hopeful when the people I'm scared to talk to show no signs of dislike. I wished I was more social and didn't need to care about what others think of me, I want to be happier
Me: Writes E-mail so I don’t have to call.
Them: Reply with a phone number telling me to call them.
Me: Prepares mentally for 30 minutes, calls them, stutters while speaking way too fast for the other end to understand me, hangs up and still shames myself for my incompetence a year later.
Also, if I should ever live alone I’d probably starve because shopping is just way too much for me xD. I don’t know why but I’m somehow afraid of it. Can anyone relate?
yeah, I hate going shopping on my own. That's where my anxiety hits the most.
I can relate, I'm more a texter than a caller
Definitely can relate!
I. 31 and I'm still scared to go into a store alone. It's better with my gf but it's still horrible. Everyone is staring at me and i just look towards the wall or down. Fukkk
Lol just order food to your house and put a note on the door saying “just set down the food, ring the doorbell, and leave.”
I really wish ppl wouldn't mix up introversion with anxiety bc so many ppl want to "fix" introverts. Like, dude, ppl are stupid and I will not put up with small talk with ppl I know will only be around for 5 minutes at a grocery store and I'll never see them again but now I gotta hear about some random product they were buying or their kid who I don't know or care about. And bc ppl conflate the two, there are perfectly healthy introverts thinking something is wrong with them and there are people with actual anxiety calling themselves introverts. Basically, I'm glad you made this video and I hope more people become more educated about the topic.
Being an extrovert with social anxiety: going out makes you have an anxiety attack, staying in makes you feel empty inside and emotionally exhausted. And GOD that last one is so true, I’ve kept so many messages unopened for fear of an unwanted conversation.
Jennis Angel I couldn’t write this any better. This is spot on