My ex moved out, after 7 1/2 years of marriage, saying “We had gotten married too young,and we needed time to enjoy being single.” The biggest issue was we had 3 month old baby. No matter, off he went leaving me with his debts, no job, and no financial support. What a relief it was to see him leave. After 4 1/2 years later I remarried and have had a happy life for the last 41 years. I can still see the ex leaving complaining I wasn’t crying. I did have, “ I am finally divorced party”. His brother and wife were there to help me celebrate. My In-laws were very supportive. I am very good friends with my ex sister-in-law. I dropped husband but still maintain his family. Life is so good. My advice is mourn the death of who you thought your spouse was and find the joy of being free of the imposter.
I showed this video to a male friend who is getting a divorce. He found out his wife of 5 years was cheating on him with a work mate. He said it's the best advice he's had. And yes he has moved back in with Mom and Dad. Mind you it's her Mom and Dad. They sort of disowned there daughter after her life choices. We will see what happens. Thanks Sarah. You are brilliant. Cheers from the pacific northwest. Canada side.
One of things I love about Sarah other than her fantastic shows, is that she seems to LOVE life, even when she doesn't, if that makes sense. She makes me happy :)
Spooky, my divorce after 25 years is looming, pretty heartbroken as it wasn’t what I wanted but he decided that he and the truth are no longer friends. 😢 Thanks for cheering me up lovely ❤❤❤❤
You poor thing 😢 I’m sorry it didn’t go as planned 25 years ago. But, I know some things that will help you. For example, you WILL be ok. Period. Just go through the paces with a good lawyer, get your paperwork filled out and turned in on time, know that it’s completely ok to beat the steering wheel and/or the dashboard of your car to shite and back - turns out they are built pretty strong and I highly doubt you’ll damage the car. Your hands might be another story so protect them … especially if you’re a pianist, violinist, car mechanic, and so on if you know what I mean. Your new mantra: I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. You will be ok. You’re in my thoughts and prayers. 🫂
Bless ya, I divorced mine of 34yrs, 10yrs ago, its very hard after being married for so long, however, the day will come when you say to yourself 🎉life is bloody wonderful, I promise, I have stayed friends with my ex, my daughter doesn't get why, and I say revenge comes in many forms, any jobs, gardening, building a shed guess who ls always available much to the "B" he left me fors annoyance 😂😂😂 life is good, So hang in there 😊
this is a very brave and strong way you deal with your divorce, your extreme change in life, love, future planning... I wish you all the best and much inner power to go your way and hope you feel all the love from your audience when you make them laugh and brighten up their lifes.
Oh Sarah, thank you for mentioning the dreaded head tilt! Years ago I had to have a lump removed from my breast, and only my husband & daughters knew. I bound them to secrecy just to avoid the head tilt!
Sarah, you are brilliant. I just love everything you just said.... and some sayings are right: you will find another one who is worth it - but when you want it and not when others want you to.
I'm glad you were able to get through your divorce. I'm struggling now with mine, in that my ex isn't doing the things she agreed to in the divorce, like making the house and car payments, despite the state taking more than double our arranged support out of my paycheck every month. Not having kids makes the process easier, for sure.
One thing I do believe in; All the good times you had, before it went bad, they still happened, and they were still good. Don't rip up the good memories, just because of bad ones.
I can’t help wondering if Sarah nailed it when she didn’t live with him but had a long term part time relationship. I watched the clip about the dog sitting when she sings, which was funny. But before she got to that bit, she said she’d stopped singing because her husband told her she sounded dreadful and to stop singing. I’m still processing that. “Don’t relax and enjoy yourself *dear*, because I don’t like the sound of it”. Then Sarah sang. OMG my husband might envy the fact that she can actually hold a tune. If I sing solo accapella I sometimes nail it and sometimes just slip and slide somewhere in the vicinity of the correct notes but not necessarily sticking to the correct tune (even accounting for missing notes and singing off-key). If my husband wants to hear good music he puts his airpods in, which I think is the very definition of good boundaries. (Especially as we have some overlapping taste in music but I do love me some 70s and 80s where he’s more into 21st century symphonic metal.)
Mostly ur right. But it depends what that person ended up doing to you. Physically abused people generally didn't have many good times. But the abuse cancels them out.
Perfect timing.... my husband of 15 years has told me he wants a divorce. No warning, no attempt at ANY communication and then says it is all my fault. I asked him to get a job and he said I broke him,took his manhood and his dignity.
Think you have doged a narcissistic bullet there, it's painful but you will come out the other side better off. I'm 5 years down the line, he blamed me for everything, accused me if being mental and mad...yet he walked and left me with full custody of the children and we are all doing fabulously now without the negative narcissist holding us back
I had one like this. After years of asking him to step up and get a job, he did… then promptly started an affair with some girl he worked with! Two years later, I’m much happier without him 🤷🏼♀️
My best friend, as she hugged me straight after it happened “you look like you’ve lost 12 stone! Oh that’s right you fucking have! 12 stone of useless flab! 😂. In the next breath she offered me and the children a place to live. Bill and rent free for as long as we needed. I hope you have friends like that too.❤
"I never liked her" lmao I got that a few times. Who are you saying that for, exactly? Do you feel Vindicated? Isn't this your greatest I Told You So ever?
I'm sorry to hear this. If I can give my experience. You talk about it to everyone, you repeat the stories in your head, you evaluate every issue over and over again. At times you wonder if these thoughts can't get out your head, will you ever be normal again..... . . . One day you wake up and think about the other person and suddenly another thought occurs, "Gawd I'm so tired and bored of these thoughts..... " . That's the moment you are recovering and on your way out of the mental trap. I truly wish you luck Sarah.
Every action...every experience...every painful moment, brought us to the place we are today. I went through terribly dark times; and never thought I would meet the most amazing woman I could ever hope for at the other end! I might not be here now if I didn't know the pain! xx
Sarah, I’m an expert on divorce 😂. Having been married 6 times to 3 men 🤣. I’m not the sharpest knife in the drawer at times but, I was never heartbroken 💔 over the 5 divorces I went through. The only reason it wasn’t 6 divorces was because the last one had the good sense to drop dead! My house was paid off, most of the bills were paid off and I was was a Merry Widow 😂
Twice divorced, first time my fault for falling out of love. Second time definitely NOT my fault. It sucks when it happens. But life goes on. I figure divorce is only really bad (in the long term) if you end on really bad terms and can’t respect each other as humans. If you can, then you can work through the issues to the other side.
Devastatingly insightful …. Just another one of a thousand reasons to love and embrace Sarah. Willing to speak truth to pain. Season 14 of Taskmaster is 700 of a thousand reasons to love Sarah.
*hugs* Sounds evil and that is weird about the curtains. I wish you the best. You are a brilliant & funny woman. I'm sure you'll find what's best for you in no time. 😊
My ex wanted the lined curtains I made for our bedroom, surreal. I offered to make him a made to measure set for his new gaff, as we the old ones were unlikely to fit another window, but he declined.
*Hey, Sarah! After watching this video, I’m of the opinion that you should change your name. We’ll all support your descision, and we will all support you.* *You’ll become, “Sarah, The Artiat Formerly Known As Sarah Millican”. And in a year or two, you can drop the ridiculous part because saying, “Sarah, The Artist Formerly Known As Sarah Millican” sounds cheap and tacky, two things which you are most definitely NOT.* *So, hmmm … who should you become? “Sarah … With An H!”* *IF you should change your name, whatever name you choose, wear it with a great deal of pride because it will be the real you!!*
You are brilliant. I was ghosted by most of my "friends" after finally leaving a violent man, and then having a break down because it was finally safe to do so.
Dear Sarah, I wish you years of real happiness with your new partner… and thank you for bringing some ‘light’ into the lives of others stumbling along the path to divorce. Sarah, you are really appreciated!!! ❤
Skull, I remarried and have been so happy. I married the person who the grownup me needed and love. The younger me had a different ideas on a husband and I found was not practical. Just like the China I picked out at 21 not what I liked at 34. Now at 73, I have the perfected husband for me and the perfect the life.
The video was just posted today and it sounds like Sarah is going through a really hard time. We should be supportive and should not expect anything in return and certainly not the same day!
Divorce is one of those nasty situations that makes you doubt yourself as well as others. Finding humor can be a lifeline in finding your way back to life again. I'm so glad you were able to keep yours! 🫂
My ex moved out, after 7 1/2 years of marriage, saying “We had gotten married too young,and we needed time to enjoy being single.”
The biggest issue was we had 3 month old baby.
No matter, off he went leaving me with his debts, no job, and no financial support.
What a relief it was to see him leave.
After 4 1/2 years later I remarried and have had a happy life for the last 41 years.
I can still see the ex leaving complaining I wasn’t crying.
I did have, “ I am finally divorced party”. His brother and wife were there to help me celebrate. My In-laws were very supportive. I am very good friends with my ex sister-in-law. I dropped husband but still maintain his family. Life is so good.
My advice is mourn the death of who you thought your spouse was and find the joy of being free of the imposter.
I showed this video to a male friend who is getting a divorce. He found out his wife of 5 years was cheating on him with a work mate. He said it's the best advice he's had. And yes he has moved back in with Mom and Dad. Mind you it's her Mom and Dad. They sort of disowned there daughter after her life choices. We will see what happens. Thanks Sarah. You are brilliant.
Cheers from the pacific northwest. Canada side.
Moving in with her Mom and Dad is truly creative revenge. Please send regards.
A cardiac rehabilitation Nurse told me that married men live longer than single men.
I assured her it only seems longer...😅
Sht , thats just weird 😱
you showed your vulnerable nature yet also your spirt. I think you are amazing.
One of things I love about Sarah other than her fantastic shows, is that she seems to LOVE life, even when she doesn't, if that makes sense. She makes me happy :)
I had to mention how cute Sarah's hairstyle is!
She even found a way to say like And subscribe without sounding annoying!! Love her so much, you go girl!!
Funny suggestions
Spooky, my divorce after 25 years is looming, pretty heartbroken as it wasn’t what I wanted but he decided that he and the truth are no longer friends. 😢 Thanks for cheering me up lovely ❤❤❤❤
You poor thing 😢 I’m sorry it didn’t go as planned 25 years ago. But, I know some things that will help you. For example, you WILL be ok. Period. Just go through the paces with a good lawyer, get your paperwork filled out and turned in on time, know that it’s completely ok to beat the steering wheel and/or the dashboard of your car to shite and back - turns out they are built pretty strong and I highly doubt you’ll damage the car. Your hands might be another story so protect them … especially if you’re a pianist, violinist, car mechanic, and so on if you know what I mean.
Your new mantra: I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok. I WILL be ok.
You will be ok. You’re in my thoughts and prayers. 🫂
I never liked him
I'm so sorry. My best wishes for you to wring as much joy and contentment as you possibly can out of this new chapter of your life. 🤗
I’m sorry you had such a rough time 😥
Bless ya, I divorced mine of 34yrs, 10yrs ago, its very hard after being married for so long, however, the day will come when you say to yourself 🎉life is bloody wonderful, I promise, I have stayed friends with my ex, my daughter doesn't get why, and I say revenge comes in many forms, any jobs, gardening, building a shed guess who ls always available much to the "B" he left me fors annoyance 😂😂😂 life is good,
So hang in there 😊
this is a very brave and strong way you deal with your divorce, your extreme change in life, love, future planning... I wish you all the best and much inner power to go your way and hope you feel all the love from your audience when you make them laugh and brighten up their lifes.
I’ve heard it said that pain is the foundation of humor. Clearly, there is some truth to that.
First comes the marriage, then comes the pain.
Yep. Today's tragedy is tomorrow's comedy gold. Well, it might take a little longer than 24 hours, but the sentiment is there.
I think a lot of us use humour as a defence mechanism. If we can't manage it. We always have Sarah!
You have not lost everything! You gained you.
"Freelance" - thanks, Dad!
Oh Sarah, thank you for mentioning the dreaded head tilt!
Years ago I had to have a lump removed from my breast, and only my husband & daughters knew. I bound them to secrecy just to avoid the head tilt!
This made my day, thanks Sarah for the honesty and humor! Much needed ❤
Dear Queen, good job speaking up about all these things. The good, the bad, the ugly crying and insensitive commentary of others!
Sarah, you are brilliant. I just love everything you just said.... and some sayings are right: you will find another one who is worth it - but when you want it and not when others want you to.
I can't believe you missed out on those lined curtains, though. 😢🤷🏻🤣♥️♥️♥️
Divorce is so expensive, because it's worth it.
I'm glad you were able to get through your divorce. I'm struggling now with mine, in that my ex isn't doing the things she agreed to in the divorce, like making the house and car payments, despite the state taking more than double our arranged support out of my paycheck every month.
Not having kids makes the process easier, for sure.
One thing I do believe in; All the good times you had, before it went bad, they still happened, and they were still good.
Don't rip up the good memories, just because of bad ones.
I can’t help wondering if Sarah nailed it when she didn’t live with him but had a long term part time relationship. I watched the clip about the dog sitting when she sings, which was funny. But before she got to that bit, she said she’d stopped singing because her husband told her she sounded dreadful and to stop singing. I’m still processing that. “Don’t relax and enjoy yourself *dear*, because I don’t like the sound of it”. Then Sarah sang. OMG my husband might envy the fact that she can actually hold a tune. If I sing solo accapella I sometimes nail it and sometimes just slip and slide somewhere in the vicinity of the correct notes but not necessarily sticking to the correct tune (even accounting for missing notes and singing off-key). If my husband wants to hear good music he puts his airpods in, which I think is the very definition of good boundaries. (Especially as we have some overlapping taste in music but I do love me some 70s and 80s where he’s more into 21st century symphonic metal.)
Sometimes you have to, to make a clean break.
Mostly ur right. But it depends what that person ended up doing to you. Physically abused people generally didn't have many good times. But the abuse cancels them out.
A heart of gold with the voice of doom. Are all dads like that?
Love these tips lol
Another rule for divorce is "if it'll make you happy, do it"
If it's only about you, you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.
Incredibly raw and honest - and the reason you are the brilliant comic that you are ❤🩹
You are fabulous Sarah!! I’m on marriage three and I’m pretty sure I finally got it right. You will be just fine!
Your Dad is a gem.
Freelance 😂😂😂
Perfect timing.... my husband of 15 years has told me he wants a divorce. No warning, no attempt at ANY communication and then says it is all my fault. I asked him to get a job and he said I broke him,took his manhood and his dignity.
Think you have doged a narcissistic bullet there, it's painful but you will come out the other side better off. I'm 5 years down the line, he blamed me for everything, accused me if being mental and mad...yet he walked and left me with full custody of the children and we are all doing fabulously now without the negative narcissist holding us back
@@the_dark_queen It's not a dodged bullet after 15 years.
So what was his complaint? LOL
Get a woman lawyer and even if he has no money, she can at least make him miserable. You’ll be ok. You will. We are, you will be, too.
I had one like this. After years of asking him to step up and get a job, he did… then promptly started an affair with some girl he worked with! Two years later, I’m much happier without him 🤷🏼♀️
This was special. Honest, vulnerable and charming. ❤
My best friend, as she hugged me straight after it happened “you look like you’ve lost 12 stone! Oh that’s right you fucking have! 12 stone of useless flab! 😂. In the next breath she offered me and the children a place to live. Bill and rent free for as long as we needed. I hope you have friends like that too.❤
love you so much, you are the best
"I never liked her" lmao I got that a few times. Who are you saying that for, exactly? Do you feel Vindicated? Isn't this your greatest I Told You So ever?
I certainly got that, but took it as, "consider the remote-seeming possibility that you're better off now". Which took me another decade to realize.
@@AllenKnutson that's a good way to look at it
I'm sorry to hear this. If I can give my experience. You talk about it to everyone, you repeat the stories in your head, you evaluate every issue over and over again. At times you wonder if these thoughts can't get out your head, will you ever be normal again.....
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One day you wake up and think about the other person and suddenly another thought occurs, "Gawd I'm so tired and bored of these thoughts..... "
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That's the moment you are recovering and on your way out of the mental trap. I truly wish you luck Sarah.
Why anyone would want to divorce you is beyond me. He must be a total idiot, you are a wonderful person and the best comedian I've listen to.
Oh, come now. It's obvious that Sarah could easily be unbearable to live with for some people. And vice versa.
ROFL - my mum also told me she never liked my wife. Thats not earth shattering love, you don't like anyone
👍 My favourite! I found ketamine worked too!
Every action...every experience...every painful moment, brought us to the place we are today. I went through terribly dark times; and never thought I would meet the most amazing woman I could ever hope for at the other end! I might not be here now if I didn't know the pain! xx
Number 4 made me laugh the most. All of the video is funny.
Sarah, I’m an expert on divorce 😂. Having been married 6 times to 3 men 🤣. I’m not the sharpest knife in the drawer at times but, I was never heartbroken 💔 over the 5 divorces I went through. The only reason it wasn’t 6 divorces was because the last one had the good sense to drop dead! My house was paid off, most of the bills were paid off and I was was a Merry Widow 😂
fucking brilliant ❤
People don’t think what they are saying anymore.
I keep my nose out unless I’m asked but always positive.
Twice divorced, first time my fault for falling out of love. Second time definitely NOT my fault. It sucks when it happens. But life goes on. I figure divorce is only really bad (in the long term) if you end on really bad terms and can’t respect each other as humans. If you can, then you can work through the issues to the other side.
That line from her Dad! I’m actually crying with laughter. Real out loud tears down my face crying!
Devastatingly insightful …. Just another one of a thousand reasons to love and embrace Sarah. Willing to speak truth to pain. Season 14 of Taskmaster is 700 of a thousand reasons to love Sarah.
So true. So true.....
Lol.....omfg I love your honesty Sarah.,... your a rock star....so funny 🤣
I always wanted to figure out WHY my ex did all the mad things he did. Finally developed a mantra: Don’t look for the logic, cuz it’s not there.
Comedy is often not pretty
1. Define Marriage
2. I am happy to have divorced him without ever having had to truly meet him.
3.Bon voyage!
*hugs* Sounds evil and that is weird about the curtains. I wish you the best. You are a brilliant & funny woman. I'm sure you'll find what's best for you in no time. 😊
I'm so Glad you say how You feel!
Very Fun topics you pick!
My ex wanted the lined curtains I made for our bedroom, surreal. I offered to make him a made to measure set for his new gaff, as we the old ones were unlikely to fit another window, but he declined.
Can someone please explain what is here meant by "family planning"??
planned parenthood in the US
Birth control.
Ahaaa, that makes sense, @@brendacarmichael3180thanks a lot!
You know that stuff that’s illegal in the land of the free 😂😅
It’s not really funny but if I don’t laugh I’ll cry
Ahaaa, that makes sense, @@brendacarmichael3180thanks for that!
When did she get divorced??!! I thought she just got married!!
Amazing...
... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... how are you?
When I split from my lass in twenty sixteen I forgot she existed after a few pints.
DID THE HOT LADY SAY SINGLE... Noo righ nooohmmm
"You've lost everything.
You've got nothing left."
😂
Omg my councillor told me to get how to mend a broken heart 😂 good book
Genuinely sorry to hear this. All strength to you.
🤎
Divorce looks good on u
Totally agree about the dancing.
*Hey, Sarah! After watching this video, I’m of the opinion that you should change your name. We’ll all support your descision, and we will all support you.*
*You’ll become, “Sarah, The Artiat Formerly Known As Sarah Millican”. And in a year or two, you can drop the ridiculous part because saying, “Sarah, The Artist Formerly Known As Sarah Millican” sounds cheap and tacky, two things which you are most definitely NOT.*
*So, hmmm … who should you become? “Sarah … With An H!”*
*IF you should change your name, whatever name you choose, wear it with a great deal of pride because it will be the real you!!*
What are you on about, mate.
You're assuming that Millican was his name. I've been married 38 years. I never changed my name and my husband never presumed to ask me to do so.
@@bluewren65 His name is Millican. Andrew Millican.
@@talastra It still surprises me that women choose to take a man's name.
@@bluewren65
His name is Miilican
Oh, Sara. Why are you so lovely?
I didn’t know you were married before… is that the ex-partner that said you can’t sing (from the singing Taskmaster task)? Just curious
Hugs
WAIT IS sarah getting divorced for 2x? because if this is so i will be crying a salty river from now until the end of time
Agree with you with what you say, very much similar things that I experienced.
I am sorry you have been hurt as well 💐
You are brilliant. I was ghosted by most of my "friends" after finally leaving a violent man, and then having a break down because it was finally safe to do so.
After 41yrs , lived on my own for 10ys now couldn’t be happier and no cats btw 😂
To be fair I’d go with the curtains too.
People, on the whole, are berks.
❤️❤️❤️
I bet he wishes he still had a joint account with you now Sarah!!
i promise that you will prevail, Lx
Thank you.
Love you Sarah, just the way you are love!
Wait are you and Gary getting divorced ? :(
Love ur life is the best 😊
always sad when couples break up but you need to learn to look after your own heart. 41 years and still adjusting trying to stay together.
I'm not sure I feel any better after this.
Sarah works much, much better with a live audience.
Dear Sarah,
I wish you years of real happiness with your new partner… and thank you for bringing some ‘light’ into the lives of others stumbling along the path to divorce.
Sarah, you are really appreciated!!!
❤
When did you find out about the history of the curtains? Or is this all a sketch?
And this why you do not marry in the first place, just saying.
Skull, I remarried and have been so happy. I married the person who the grownup me needed and love. The younger me had a different ideas on a husband and I found was not practical. Just like the China I picked out at 21 not what I liked at 34. Now at 73, I have the perfected husband for me and the perfect the life.
@@constancepeterson6156 I still have the husband and dinnerware that I chose at 20 and I'm still in love with both.
@@constancepeterson6156 so happy you have the right person to share this life with. Good on you.
Aghhhhhhhhhh, this sucks. So sorry, Sarah.
This Doesn't apply to Me.
Lots of positive comments to Sarah but NOT ONE reply from her. Shows she doesn't give a rats about your comments. Divorce isn't funny.
The video was just posted today and it sounds like Sarah is going through a really hard time. We should be supportive and should not expect anything in return and certainly not the same day!
never marry a comedian. They do not have a sense of humor about life.
Very cynical
@@ingridhaughney3645 or ironic.
Is this referring to your first marriage?
Do I have it correct that you eventually married again?
I don't know about that? The emotions she was expressing seemed pretty raw.
Yes, she did.
Yes. This is an old video. She is referring to her first marriage which ended in divorce. She is happily remarried now.
@@vickyrun8796 Good to know.
Divorce is one of those nasty situations that makes you doubt yourself as well as others. Finding humor can be a lifeline in finding your way back to life again. I'm so glad you were able to keep yours! 🫂