Hamza is right. You’re more selfish than you think

Wanting to help others is good, at least on the surface. But what happens when you (knowingly or unknowingly) help others more to help yourself than to help them?
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Note: I'm not advocating for greed or pure selfishness. I don't think you should put yourself first with complete disregard for others. I just wanted to make these three points:
1) We should stop lying to ourselves and to others and admit that we do things transactionally more often than not, which is usually fine.
2) Helping others just so you look good or at least so that you don't look as bad as you would otherwise isn't altruistic, it's selfish. The bad kind of selfish.
3) Putting yourself first is often times the least selfish thing you can do. For example, rather than people-pleasing or over-extending yourself to keep others "happy," prioritize your needs and desires. Only when you're at your best can you effectively show up for others.
Note #2: It's doesn't always have to get to the point of being transactional, but I do think relationships (ideally all, but realistaclly at least long-term ones) have to be reciprocal to be healthy and for everyone involved to feel fulfilled.
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Timestamps:
00:00 You're More Selfish Than You Think
00:04 Two Questions You Should Ask Yourself
00:11 We Don't Always Help Others for Altruistic Reasons
00:25 Ways You Could Be Selfish Without Realzing It
00:52 You're Not a Bad Person, You're Just a Human
01:20 A Lot of the Things We Do are Transactional
01:41 The REAL Reasons We (usually) Help Others
02:13 Always Question Your Intentions
02:36 Why Billionares Love Charity
02:50 Jake Tran Clip
03:54 Do You Ever Feel Like This?
04:15 Being A Good Person Shouldn't Make You Feel Bad
04:50 Golden Rule
05:24 It's Okay To Put Yourself First
06:18 Change Yourself, Change Others
06:44 Finding Out for Yourself Why You REALLY Help Others
08:06 Quote
08:16 Outro
08:32 Questions for You Guys
08:59 End Card
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Music:
"American Vernacular" by RAGE. Licensed under YT Audio Library.
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[@nowuc]

Let's get a conversation going! I'd love to know: Do you think most of the things we do secretly (or openly transactional)? And is that okay?

[@dbuck1964]

Thank you for contributing to the availability of truth online.

[@nowuc]

The truth will set you free

[@repairstudiogh3549]

i agree most of the things we do are transactional even if we can’t articulate why

[@nowuc]

Do you think we would be better off as a society if they weren't?

[@repairstudiogh3549]

@@nowuc no