How to find your Direction in Life (a guide)
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- Опубліковано 15 гру 2021
- 5 exercises to help you find your direction & 3 things to cultivate to make this process easier.
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Thanks for watching :)
Thanks everyone for all your lovely comments! Genuinely. This video is one of my favourite videos that I've ever made so it means a lot.
Here are the main exercises:
Direction (for me) can be a byproduct of the following three things:
1. Feeling like your timeline is finite
2. Understanding that compromise is inevitable
3. Cultivating self-belief
Exercises for cultivating those three things:
FINITE TIMELINE:
(Both corny questions, but they work)
1. What would you do if you had X amount of time to live?
X Can be 6 months, 5 years, or 20. Whatever time amount gets you excited.
2. What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail?
COMPROMISE IS INEVITABLE:
What does the __(see list)__ side of you want for your life?
• Sensible
• Lifestyle-orientated
• Relationship-orientated
• Ambitious
• Altruistic
Write down any commonalities.
SELF BELIEF:
Recognise the unconscious rules you live your life by and question them until you find their root.
PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER:
1. Write down everything you wanted 5 years ago.
2. Write down everything you want now.
3. Write down everything you think you'll want in 5 years
Now write a small description of your ideal life, covering what you do, who you're with, and where you are - and don't overthink it. You can change it whenever, but for now, it's a pretty good guess at your direction in life.
Hope that helps!!
I also think this is one of your best videos, everything about it is amazing! Thank you so much :)
Love your work, man! I am one of those people who paused the video on my phone and opened up the notepad app to do the exercises. Your videos are truly helping people and changing lives ❤️
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Thank you 💗
thank you for writing it down in such a structured way, that really does help :)
Its really hard to find someone who talks about self improvement without making it feel that cringy / unrealistic
Just wholesome content
It's hard to find someone who talks about self-improvement without promoting the idea that you just need to force yourself to do things and have more "discipline." These kinds of exercises are so similar to what I already do/what has worked for me, so it's nice to find content that gives me more ideas and expands on what I already know is constructive.
I wanted to like your comment so bad, but then the ammount of likes is "222" Didn't want to break the sequence so here I am.
@@ericksebastianquimbayoboni1494 now it‘s at 242, you can give thumbs up again
@@uluomu T.U. :3
look for the channel better ideas, his videos are also really good and not at all cringy/unrealistic
In the "everything that you want now" exercise I just wrote out of the blue:
"Learn that self love is something that I should give myself unconditionally and that it's not reward or something that I have to earn" and idk I find it weirdly inspirational.
So if you read this, you are worthy of loving yourself❤
💛
Thank you, that’s very true and also lovely xx
So true, thank you so much for sharing it
Thanks for sharing - it’s dawned on my self that I know only one person that knows my every hardship, every success, and every mundane moment in life - me. My self may try to ignore my love but can never deny of its omnipresence. At some point, hopefully with practice, my self opens up and accepts all of my love.
I hadn’t reflected on this deeply enough, but my love is unconditional in those I care about. I’ve always given them my patience and understanding for their failures and successes. I know that they will strive and stumble through moments at various stages in life. My unconditional love is there for others whether they need it or not. Likewise, if my family and friends express their love, I can’t deny it. It’s not mine to deny. And the same goes for my self-love - ignorable, for sure, but never outright deniable.
I absolutely love that! I think we could all learn something from your quote.
Hey thanks for this video man. I just turned 28. I feel so lost in life right now. I really needed something like this. I'm hoping to make changes in my life soon. Might even go back to school next year. Keep up the great work man
I'm in the exact same position - same age, about to go back to uni. Good luck mate!
Me too and same age 🥺
Same man! Good luck!
aw keep going! i wish you all the best for going back to school, or finding your direction! ✨❤️
I felt this so deep in my soul. I'm turning 28 next month and just barely figuring out what I need to do (and sacrifice) in order to finally start my business and stop working for other people. Good luck on your journey. ✌
"Yeah, man you gonna die"
Now that's a motivational message, I can get behind. lol
"Not choosing a path, is choosing a path" resonated with me the most, I would even argue that's the path with the most regret at the end.
Great video as always, keep it up.
Not doing anything is the most expensive thing you can do in your life.
“If you aim at nothing you become plagued by everything.”
“The worst decision of all is none”
-JBP
@@duluvlad27too true.
I get why everyone’s just talking about the advice but THE PRODUCTION OF THIS VIDEO IS ON ANOTHER LEVEL MAN, I LOVE IT!
Dude
I am actually a constantly vaping music producer who works in IT and hasn't been to the gym in 8 years, I feel like you made this video specifically for me and I will now re-watch it from the start and actually do all the exercises. I feel personally attacked and I kinda love it
Thanks Cam ❤
😂
Hey Cam I just read your old comment here and wondered what happened in this year? Did your life change? I hope in a good direction! ❤
great songs dude
Changed my life a lot this year. Started taking UA-cam seriously. Got promoted. Got fired. Started a business.
Currently feeling depressed this time week so I’m gonna binge some of your videos again. Merry Christmas 🎄
Hey, you made CHANGES ! GOOD for you ! Changing is hard ! Keep going.
I hope you’re proud of yourself and these feelings won’t last forever!
Merry Christmas to you! Sending positive energies your way.
It's very important to find people who have same ambition as you.
Wish you well & all the success my guy!
I just lost my biggest relationship and my entire support system. I've been up all night trying to avoid hurting myself and this video being uploaded just grounded me enough to help me. Thank you.
Yes. I found it very grounding, too.
Hey, I hope you're feeling better. Life is so rich, you don't know yet all the people who will love you and support you X10
Take care ❤️
Hey, how are you doing?
Hey Campbell, I might be early enough for you to catch this, so I hope you get to read this. I was pretty depressed at the start of this year. Lockdown and the resulting remote work had me down in the dumps and my motivation hit rock bottom. Watching your videos has been the first stepping stone for getting out of that situation. Since then I've binged your content, read the book, did a lot of introspection and made changes in my life. This year I finally made the jump to running my own business part time, I'm currently 4 months sober and I'm in a totally different place mentally then a year ago. This has taken me a lot of work, and there have been rough patches for sure, but I couldn't be happier with how this year turned out and I want to thank you for being a big part of that change. You are truely changing lives for the better.
im not campbell 😂 but he helped me so much too so its really nice to see your comment. keep it up xx
Am so impressed by what you have achieved, you should be so proud of yourself, it’s phenomenal, I think struthless is brilliant but all of the people that make changes in their lives because of it are pretty incredible too xx
🙂
Congrats on your sobriety dude!! I found him during the lockdown too and he woke me up as well. Done a lot of self assessment and while I’m not perfect, he also helped me get unstuck. Happy to see this channel is like pushing everyone towards their goals and dreams!
Congrats dude!! That's amazing!
4 minutes in and this man tricks me into doing a 5 year plan. I fucking love it
As someone with similar old dreams I have another explanation. At least for myself. Daydreaming is safe. It's a fantasy that is at its most beautiful precisely because it is far away. Really going for it means you have to get closer and face reality, which has a very real chance of disappointing you.
Also, if you don't follow your dreams, you can then reason with yourself that you haven't really failed. Since you never actually tried.
I still have other dreams.
Time for some new years resolutions I guess. Which by the way, would be interesting for me to watch from your perspective. :)
Sometimes I am wondering of it's really better to try, work and fail or never trying. But I think...if you try and work, there is a chance you fail but learn from it, and maybe become better...and finally succed. 🤷
@@mianeculcea6789 you will always gain something from your attempts that will get you closer to success if you keep trying and failing… you’ll end up looking around and be like “wait a minute, I’ve come so far”
Great work! The “You”ll never be 100% satisfied w/the thing you do.” Really resonates with me. I honestly thought something was wrong with for never being satisfied with the thing I’m doing or pursuing. This video really helped.
yes, same! and reminds me of the other tidbit he have that resonated with me: when being creative, aim for 70% instead of 100%, and you can always go back. both help me get out of that perfection fear loop.
@@jsllspncr08 Wow. You just cleared up a lot of my frustrations and fears with myself. What a great message, thanks! 😊
Please explain why this is though why can’t we be 100% satisfied with our path?
@@georgerowell4958 nothing's perfect :)
I can’t imagine how many people’s lives you’ve changed for the better, i’m 20 this year and finding your channel has steered me in a much more positive direction than i could have ever imagined, i thank you with everything inside myself
Guess what, you’ll still fuck up. You’ll still have to learn to pick yourself up no matter what age you are.
I used to an aspiring software engineer back when I was 20. But I wasn't willing to put aside 60+ hours per week before the computer. Data structures and algorithms all bored me to the bone. Imposter syndrome was all on a rage and many times I questioned my own motives, my own "whys".
It wasn't easy to find an answer to such a big question, but now I do.
Often times it's because of the lifestyle it promises and the person that job would make me. Plus the insecurities of being an indie developer and the fact that you have to manage everything yourself.
Quitting it has been more or less a good decision.
im 19, i dropped out of school a month ago, don’t know what’s next for me, and just going day by day hoping i’m not alone. your videos are really helping me ease off my anxiety
Right with you there 🙂 i'm also 19 and dropped out. I've definitely been struggling with anxiety but doing my best
You can always go back to school in time, when or if you are ready ( i started uni at 40!). If you need time out then that's what you do, give yourself time to work out where your life goes next - the world is so fast with everyone rushing around trying to get so much done. Slowing on down is ok!. With anxiety I found things helped if I may share. 1 a quote: most of my worries in life were things that never happened. Thinking logically have all of your worries come true? Some may but not all of them. So breathe through it and try not to worry so much. 2 you are clever, you can problem solve - how many problems have you failed to solve? Maybe some because that's life but the majority of them you have dealt with. I dont know what you are anxious about but you are not powerless. Sometimes the solution just takes a little time to come. 3 think of yourself in 3 months time or 6 months time, just laughing at yourself because you were worried about that thing. It might make the thing feel smaller. I remind myself all the time of the science of anxiety - it kicks in fast and overrides the reasoning part of the brain so it's hard to argue with your anxiety. I mentally hit it with a baseball bat and give myself time to take a breath and think it through. I hope you are doing ok.
@@kyliemcartney4316 thank you, i have been really depressed for 4 months now not having done anything, life just seems so hard. i’m staying positive and will get a job soon to get out of the house. i just need to realize that i deserve a break and have a long life ahead
@@FilipKotula hope you're doing better than when you posted your comment 4 months ago, even a little.
I didnt go back to school until i was 21 after I graduated and I find the thing I've observed the most is that a lot of people would really benefit from a year or two away from a more rigid school environment to just let their soul breathe. Even now at 23 I ended up deferring for a year just because it felt like pushing myself to keep doing something, even art focused, wasn't going to be beneficial for being able to absorb whatever it is I wanted to learn because of my state of mind. I'm really glad I listened to that feeling because this year hasnt been amazing for me either, my cat died a few months ago super suddenly and there's been a lot of weird ups and downs of motivational energy and general outlook on things like, "things are fine" and "things suck real hard but what can you do". I guess this is where i've found myself like you and most others in the comments here to see what things i can try to steer myself in a more helpful direction
my main point thought with that whole block of text is that, if school is where you really want to go back to and finish and follow through, amazing, but don't rush yourself. if you dont feel ready or in the right state of mind, thats okay. take the time to sort out whats been in the back of the brain archives n just actually live life for a little bit.
Like you said, you deserve a break and the time to just gather your thoughts and put the foundations for a healthier and more pleasant state of being. be patient and kind to yourself, theres a lot to learn and relearn when it comes to thought patterns and learned response but you'll get to where you wanna be in time :) School will be there when you're ready, take care of yourself first.
I don’t think dropping out without a plan is a good thing. But you do you buddy, i dropped out in 2020 bc of Covid, and had to move countries. Online school wasn’t for me. Was 15 and now i’m 17, so far things are going pretty good for me, i still plan on going back to school. or GED cuz i wanna go to college, but let’s see how life works out. Good luck
FYI… I DID just pause and write my answer down. I think this is great! I appreciate your humility each time you talk.
Same ! ;)
I can’t say enough how much I appreciate your videos. I’m probably one of your older viewers…I’m 42 but after dealing with abuse, bad jobs, and health problems for many years, my world has been turned upside down and I’m still struggling to find my purpose, even this late in life. Thank you for offering this real advice and solutions to get back on track.
OH MY GOD!!!! I can't stop thinking about the amount of work that went into producing this video... It's Amazing! The shots, animations, information given, script, editing, colors, audio, pacing... just everything was right on point! Your videos just keep getting better and better 😱
The high paced motivational music in the background was what I appreciated the most
I am the musician who quit her job two years ago to "pursue my passion" and I totally resonated with what you said about it being "much harder than expected and how we thought it would be easy cause we love it."
There are parts of the job that are difficult (finding the money + social media for me) and parts of the job that are fulfilling (creating music + connecting with people around the thing you create). And I didn't realize how much work it would take. I put in the work but it's leaving me tired and wondering, can I carry on like this? Is this sustainable in the long run??? Hence, the timing of this video is impeccable. Did the first exercise but the bosses analogy is soo gooood!
Calling out inevitable compromise is wise. Reminds me of something Mark Manson said. Everything is shit sometimes so what shit sandwich are you willing to eat.
Thanks for creating such awesome videos and a cool community!
Thanks struthless. Im 21 in a month and have just decided I want to at least try being a full time artist because I dont see anything else brining me as much satisfaction in life. Even though being a creative is the most challenging, up and down, and scary thing you can do in my opinion.
I started an office job doing admin at a law firm less than 2 weeks after my final uni exam in order to avoid bad MH over summer/post-graduation from not having anything to do, but I recently realised I'm wasting the creative talents I cultivated when I was younger. The notes I took from this have helped me see and understand what drives me and what I want to aim for, and I'm feeling so much better about the things that lie before me.
The "not choosing a path is choosing a path" part really resonated with me. Retreating into your comfort zone during a difficult few years is only a temporary solution, and I think this video is one of a few new things in my life to help me start to come out of that shell and really go after what I want and live a purposeful life. Thank you.
My daughter (she’s 10) was told yesterday that she needs to start thinking about her career which made me flip out. I think I’ll watch this video with her while emphasizing her job right now and for the next couple years is exploration.
I don't why people think a child has to decide 'right now' what their career is going to be. It's ridiculous. Let them just be a child and use their imagination and play. She doesn't need to watch this video. She just needs to be kid. How else do you find out who you want to be?
I mean, are you upper middle class? Because if not, she’s right
I'm 23, hav stayed home for 2yrs directionless & unsure of what to do in life. I hope that I'll find out smth abt myself upon watching ur vid, & doin the journaling exercises. I feel like I'm at a turning pt in life whr I now finally hav control. Lately I've been struggling, dealing w fears I'm gonna die. It wasn't until I watched this vid, that I now k it's my mind pushing me to do smth w my life, & that it's normal & healthy to be thinking abt this fear. Thx, I really needed this vid.
I don’t usually write commends, but I wanted to thank you for taking the time and effort to inspire young and old creatives around the world to guide them towards a goal and direction which is so hard to find in a world with so many different opinions. This video helped me become more aware and concrete of what I want out of my live and to write it down on paper. This video didn’t change my life but it did give me a good idea of what I want out of life to look like and what I need to work on to make it happen. I appreciate all the work you put in these videos to make them entertaining and helpful for many creatives such as myself! ☀️
I’m 20 and sometimes feel weird about EVERYTHING (like lost but also not lost. It’s something I can’t really describe). I think some of you may feel the same. So thanks for your videos, you really do help me a lot.
Happy new year!
Dude, first of all, I friggen love you. Every single video you do just hits home.
This video feels so aligned with my current journey at the moment. I deffo relate to the impending finite timeline. I'm 33 and feel like I missed out on time in my 20s to actually do something, I also have health anxiety and am always afraid of dying at every friggen moment, but this 'fear of death' thing is actually super motivating and I've done more in this past year than I ever have in my creative career, and got to admit, I'm super excited. No idea where it's heading, but I've got a direction and curiosity is leading the way.
Keep making awesome vids dude.
"you're probably not gonna do this, I know how these things work"
well now I feel like I've been issued a challenge! :'D
(turns out the one consistency through all those exercises is I want to write a book. I should get on that)
been lurking in this little corner of youtube for a while, and it's been really helping me this year to keep both hope and focus towards improving my life.
I still have far to go, but looking back I've clawed myself out of a deep pit, and I want to keep climbing, gathering more tools (like an ADHD diagnosis, medication, coaching, and support from loved ones) along the way.
Thank you for these videos.
Dude, love your videos. I’m 25 and a bit lost right now, too. Exploring new avenues, and stopping the habit of giving up when something doesn’t go how i want it 🙂🙃
wow.
I've actually taken the time to do this exercises - my usual self would only watch the video and be like "yeah cool, I'll do it later". But I did them and daaaaaaaaamn... when I was typing down what I would do in my last 6 months and then 5/10/20 years, I had tears in my eyes lol
I am feeling rejuvenated. I will do it. I will have that life. I want to work hard to achieve it.
thank you, thank you, thank you!
And for all of you watching and reading this random comment, take the time and write those answers down... it's gonna help a little. And then the work is up to us. But it's gonna be worth it!
Solid advice! I love the one about self-belief. You just have to pick a direction and run with it AND GIVE IT TIME. That’s where the self-belief needs to kick in - in order to keep you going through the initial hurdles you might face. Great video! 🙌
I found the part of your book where you asked where the opinions you think are yours have actually come from. Found a few 'well meaning' folks in some of my core beliefs. Slowly directing those beliefs to the door.
I think also looking at good friends helps here. Not the friends who you know only from their highlights reel on social media, but people you've shared the ups and downs with. An old school friend of mine has just begun a compromise job in her dream city, and the location makes the job compromise worth it. She's having such a good time. I'm stoked for her and want the same for myself. Kicked me into action I can tell you
"All life is suffering"... Sad but liberating
Thank you for this! I'm 41 and I struggle with finding direction and this was a reflection of why. Have a fab Christmas and keep doing your thing 😊😊😊😊
Yeah Way ! The principals for all true belief systems ARE essentially the same Good Orderly Directions
a.k.a. GOD
Wow --- far out !
And down to earth .
Now everything makes more perfect sense !
Thanks for thee head's-up yawl !
however
Talk about corruption !
The blood of Jesus is not a blank check to do nothing or be like 'whatever'.
Don't just sit there neutralized by blissful ignorance !
"Beware of the genetic-molesting 'leaven' (artificial sugar-coated lie bull HOOKS) of the so-called 'authorities' and scribes trying to sell us all out to the highest bidders."
Actually jesus flipped out on the diabolical barbaric practice of selling innocent critters to be kosher slaughtered on the altar in the temple --- as a bogus way for schmuck human-cattle to have their 'sins' forgiven. the original sin was being schmuck enough to eat the forbidden fruit eggs and flesh of innocent critters like snakes do .
(suffering causes suffering)
Eating innocent critters is very bad karma indeed . thank goodness jesus stuck his own neck out to remind us that forgiveness depends on how we treat even the least of our bretheren ...
(How would you like it if nobody cared enough to help you get out of the death-trap pits and snares ?)
Man wouldn't it be great if someone else would die so that nobody would ever be held accountable for any sins anymore ? --- sure looks like spreading the other cheek further for the pedophile preistclass to rape everything more easily is backfiring big time ... Too bad --- Easy believers make it way too easy for the great deceivers...
The last thing jesus wants to see when he returns with a serious vengence is a another death worshipping meat-cult double-cross...
B-Less schmuckered yawl !
we best not let anyone try to scare the friggin Be-jesus outta any of us !
even Greater works than these kinda ones like our prince of peace performs super naturally through us
faithfull free radical followers ---
shall become the new normal ...
Become the type of light worker you want to see in this world ...
Like the good shepherd likes to say : "my joke is sweet --- and my burden is LIGHT !"
for every step in the right direction we take --- the sun of god takes ten more for us ...
get ready for G--ZEUS
to return outta the clouds with a batta-Lion of starships (and sun dragons) armed to the teeth --- while the vast army of murdalized martyrs and resurrected saints go marching in with a seriously hilarious vengeance ! --- Leaving No ( peace, happiness, and freedom loving ) stoner left unturned into a hero of sorts ...
Thank goodness for thee Divine down to earth
Principals of :
Peace --- kindness
Purity --- integrity
Ballance --- mindfullness
Patience --- trust
Strength --- will power
Generosity --- forgiveness
Encouragement --- joy
Wonder --- insight
and Enlightenment --- upliftment ...
Anyhow ---
Less B-Less-ing
and More Best-owing
to all yawl !
in all ways remember
to stay thankfull
and Ask
thee GREAT spirit
And THEE MOST HIGH
intelligent designer located in the heart
of all creation
for guidance on how we can redeem ourselves most effectively --- rather than merely sit around aimlessly waiting for great pumpkin pie lies in the sky to save us ...
So take heed ---
and hold fast
because
the cosmic-director
don't take too kindly
to procrastinating
i - do - laters
who delay
helping themselves
realize how to
instruct those that oppose themselves from being
more brilliantly redeemed and grateful than ever before ...
Muchos Grassyass !
And Goddesspeed !
(Schumann resonance has been off the charts lately)
Sure Looks to me
Like Empirical evidence of the thee Most High --- blasting out brilliant freedom rock riffs on rainbow coloured guitar strings !
(Guess we'll just have to wait until it dawns on ALL of us !)
Lighten up !
And stay positive
yet vigilant...
And again yawl --- thanks for helping to keep the ideal --- real !
Check out this other stellar alternative cosmic solar weather report :
this awesome looking nasa footage of what appears to be a giant black space serpent getting blasted by the sun :
ua-cam.com/video/t0jgkoA3Ywc/v-deo.html
interesting --- how NASA stands for never a solid answer . the spooks are actively blocking huge chunks of their own data and it's making all the independent space watchers wonder what the heck they are trying so hard to hide ...
Be aware of the new age pedophile preistclass deceptacon hex-nut Luciferian transhumanist one world religion however.
5D --- or 5G ?
if you think the wages for schmucking the whole world into going to war against everything pure and natural and good are astronomically enormous --- yer darn friggin right !
Watch out for them multidimensional illegal-alien shapeshifter demons trying to use celebutard mouthpieces like meat-puppets to sell us all out on the fantasy 5D
Deceptacon hex-nut deception --- of trading in our original divine organic living body soul vehicles --- for Crystalline bodies sure sounds more like more transhumanist hogwash motherschmuckery
(to this here proud grateful indigenous earthling)
Anyhow --- We best not let ANYBODY try to scare or finagle the friggin Be-jesus outta any of US !
So yeah --- ( i know )
good luck with THAT !
Thee Light of god is written in our hearts . . .
so Hold FAST
and Goddesspeed yawl !
I'm 40 and feeling similar.
I feel like discovering this chanel and ACTUALLY understanding it at 17 is a huge advantage
Here's what I wrote down for my 5 bullet points at 4:49. I'll be back here in 6 months on the dot to see how I've done:
1) Lose weight - Im not obese, but definitely got some Pandemic Pounds on me, and I want to be healthier. Goal is to lose 25 pounds.
2) Study and produce art more consistently - this is something I'm already doing, just I wanna ramp it up more. For the first time I've signed up for online art classes through CGMA which I hope will bring my art from intermediate and start putting me on that path towards professional art.
3) Start working on *that* comic - I have had this idea for a self contained comic I've wanted to make for months now, and I've designed a lot of the characters, but just haven't started it yet. Havent pulled the trigger on it.
4) Reconnect with those I have lost, and disconnect from those I know aren't good for me - I've fallen out of touch from certain people in my life who we never really had any ill will towards each other, just, life happens. And on the flipside, there are certain people in my life I want to back off from and get away from their toxic relationships.
5) Land a job that is fulfilling and pays okay enough. Recently been applying like crazy to a bunch of education and nonprofit based positions (the one thing i have them most experience in aside from retail bullshit). I've done 90 applications, only landed 2 interviews, but I gotta keep on trucking along if I wanna move forward professionally.
The timing on this is perfect, literally quit my corporate job two weeks ago and I'm struggling with my non-corporate life, I know what I don't want to do anymore, but what is it that I really do want to pursue. I'll be working through these exercises over the Holidays and hopefully get a good sense of my direction. Love your videos, they've been so helpful and inspiring during this challenging year 💜
Hey Mindy, I quit my corporate job this time 2 years ago and it has been challenging, fun, rewarding, and something about what you said really spoke to me. Just wanted to say you're not alone!!
right in time, my 3rd year dead end engineering finals start this saturday and the quarter life crises have been extra spicey
Dude… im literally that 20 y/o day dreaming right now. Thank you omg
Oh, man. Just for once the UA-cam algorithm didn't fail me. This vid is exactly what I sought. My main problem was I didn't know where to start seeking for the answers concerning my life direction and all that stuff, but here I found the start line. Thank you for all the tips.
I find it extremely amazing how good the bosses part is. Just insane how accurate this is, at least for me! The example about the office life, wow, that's me right now. Graduated 2 years ago (25 now), got a job as an Industrial Engineer at the world leading semi-conductor company. So, title yeah cool, very good income, decent people but I make other people proud, BUT holy Luka the Liver is so angry with me right now! This because I'm such a dreamer and since first year of university I promised myself to go after my dreams and this office life is just not for me at all, and look at me now... And as you said, everyone is calibrated differently and some bosses way heavier than others. I have a huge passion for skiing and surfing, and recently year also in photo and video. I am just imagining a life where I can combine being active and do my passions daily while for example make content for pro athletes and/or companies within this industry. Wauw man, watched this video twice already and saved it to watch it more times. Much much love from the Netherlands man, Subscribed!!
Same with me!!!
As an older person, the suggestion to play with the timeline on the question at 4:21 was really helpful. If I only had six months left I don't honestly think I would change very much. If I knew for sure that I'd still be here in 10 years, what would I want to have done with the time? That question totally changes how I think about caring for my body, relationships, and living space. Six months feels like an almost disposable timeline.
Thank you for making content that doesn't feel forced. I feel like every self-improvement youtube out there is all about the "alpha male grindset" or something of the sort. You feel real. Thank you for that.
I'll never be able to thank you enough, you chaged my life.
I'll never get tired of saying this but I feel like you live in my head, take all the questions/thoughts, lay them out and help me understand myself better. Thank you, Cam! I also really like this video format!
Broooooo I’ll be 31 in September and I swear this is one of the most helpful videos I’ve watched! THANK YOU
Finally a someone who don't just randomly starts to give motivation and actually tells steps and stuff . Thanks for the videos man
I'm at a point where i watched so many struthless videos that i'm now happy in life and am now watching them all from newest to oldest in the background of me doing the healthy life things he told me to do 😂😃
Thank you. I stopped as you suggested and answered all the questions (3 pages on word doc) and realised that 1. the important things are the same in all time frames: people, nature, creativity and wonderful life experiences 2. none of the important things has anything to do with success, money or fame 3. I am on the right path to having all the experiences I want to have.
I rarely drop comments, but this time I really wanted to thank you, after analyzing the 5 bosses, I realize what I'm doing has 0 interest from all 5!! what a surprise, no wonder I have low motivation to do the work. I'm crying after I found out about this, now I'm working to make things better
I am actually amazed by this video. The animations, the editing, everything is perfect. But most importantly I think this video single-handedly made me understand that I shouldn't really care about what I thought I wanted to do, but what I want to do with my life now. For the last couple months I'm battling with myself in what direction I wanna follow. I like so many things, but none of them are connected with the others. As a 21 y.o. I have a bit of time in front of me but it's not infinite as he said. That was an awesome video!
How is it possible that your videos make SO MUCH sense to me? I feel like I can relate to almost each and every thing that you say. Watching any of your videos always leaves me feeling positive and motivated to take action to improve myself.
immediately pulled out the notes app on my phone and write down every step in this video. no more procrastinating and waiting for life to happen TO me.
Love you, dude! :* This musician story is me almost to a tee. I was in many bands, though, but none of them were commercially viable. I actually felt really fulfilled, but 30's came and I understood that people my age have carriers now and I just have good times to think back on. This video and exercises presentes are worth at least 3 sessions with a good therapist.
here's the thing i learned when i were a few years younger than i am now...
when someone comes up to you, excited about- y'know... whatever it is, positivity costs nothing.
kinds words are free.
in regards to the uncle laughing at the kids ambitions, it cost nothing for him to just turn it into encouragement.
heck, the kid could have even made it, and made it worthwhile.. that kindness, could have turned into pride, if this kid actually built a rollercoaster to the moon.
i know it's kinda cliche by now, but it's still so true.
i lived a LONG angry, hateful life and i'm turning 30 in like 3 weeks, and i hate feeling just so emotionally constipated and angry.. so i do my best to go against how i was raised, in hate, spite and etc.
it's a slow process, but i'm getting there.
thank you for this video, and thank whomever may have taken the time to read this as well!
You’re saving a lot of people’s life with your work. That’s amazing
It's actually crazy how accurate you are man, your videos are better than any therapy it genuinely feels like you 100% understand what's going through my head without the slightest clue of who I am! Thank you for putting these out, much love brother
I really hope you keep making these videos because every single one has at least 1 thing in it that makes me go "oh, yeah, that's a really good idea" and then I do it and it helps me.
Awesome new set!✨
I’ve had this topic on my mind a lot, especially being 25, in grad school and unemployed after quitting my full time job last year. Now, I’m trying to take my art career more seriously and really move forward with it.
Very thankful for your content :)
Are you me but in female form? (Sorry that I asumed you are female, but Jana Ebers does sound female^^)
@@But_WhatIf Lol yeah, I’m female~ ^^
Hey do you have an art account? I wanna follow you. I'm in the same situation rn but my parent aren't supportive of me to take art seriously.
The five bosses is such a good example of the thought patterns you have behind decisions as well as the convent that some may be louder than others because of the experiences you've had. Just found your channel and will definitely give you a sub! Great content and you're very easy to listen to
love the way you structure your videos, the examples you give, the extra doodles/b-roll. such a great way of presenting this type of content. thank you!!
Love what you contribute to society. Wish there were more genuine, down to earth people out there sharing honest content the way you do. Bought your book for my sister for xmas & she loved it. Makes me proud to be an Aussie :)
This is amazing. I love the style, I love the delivery, I love the visual aids, I love how accessible and down to earth it is. I love that it feels light hearted and not overly edited. I can tell there was some hesitancy, but I can also tell you chose to stay true to yourself. I like that. Thanks for sharing and remaining the cool friend who gives you advice!
I appreciate and relate to your content so much! I'm 29 and have been paying closer attention to my behavioral patters over the past couple years and damn...there's been lots to unpack lol.
One thing I've struggled with over the past few years is laziness and procrastination. I love tricking myself with busyness that doesn't actually move me towards my goals, and then I end up overworking myself and slip into months of feeling unmotivated while doing absolutely nothing.
I'm looking forward to practicing starting tasks and staying focused enough to complete tasks and projects I set out to do. Your videos help put words to experiences I didn't understand! Cheers to everyone finding their way in this life, we got this!
Thanks for being so real in a totally unreal world. It's a breathe of fresh air. Love your work struthless!! The world needs more of this kind of content 💚
You are such a gem! Love who you are as a person and thank you for doing what you do on this channel!
honestly you're my favorite person to check whenever i need help / advice, you're so GREAT and not boring
I'm 30 and my whole life I thought I was meant to do art. Now I know that it's still what I want, but I have to narrow/reduce my scope significantly. Thank you for always providing such excellent insight. I plan to pick up your book when I have the money. I hope your 2022 is wonderful and fulfilling.
I've watched so many videos on this topic, and all of them have been cliche, unrealistic, or largely unhelpful. This is the first video I've seen that clicked so much that I ended up feeling confident in a career change. "The 5 personalities" was quite helpful. Thank you for making this.
hi struthless, thank you so much for these videos! as an aussie 17 year old who's very lost this is so helpful!! I loved your book and I've been watching your channel for a while now, it's amazing to see your videos increase in quality, structure and aesthetic over the months... awesome job!! :)
Now I know why I'm returning to your channel more and more and you're never boring/overwhelming to me :D You're talking about serious things, but with a very positive energy and it def makes it not that serious :) I love that and will recommend your channel to more and more people!
That’s honestly the best channel about creativity / self improvement. Lots of non cliche content and practical exercises!
I love your down-to-earth way of teaching and inspiring. Motivational speakers (life coachs, etc.) usually drag out their talks without giving truly actionable advice. Your videos help me take steps I need.
I love your videos among the other self-help ytbers I've watched! So straightforward, never boring, realistic because you make it relatable. No wonder most in the comments say your videos always resonate to us.
The editing in this is 😍😍😍 (also loved the content of the video, really helpful. The idea of having 5 bosses in your head should be taught in schools, it’s such a clear way of communicating what goes on in your brain!)
Best video I‘ve watched in my entire life (20). Even if I already knew some stuff I definitely needed a reminder! Thank you so much. All the best and much love!
I really love the journalling aspect of your videos. I was never into journalling before, but I found I really love having that structure since watching your videos. Writing out my thoughts is very helpful as someone who ruminates too much. “Don’t overthink it” indeed.
This video is just what I needed, and somehow all year long you've been delivering just the video I need at the right time! I'm halfway through your book, and I just love how real and grounded your ideas are. Thank you for making videos. It's not an exaggeration at all to say, you were one of the things that helped me weather 2021.
Saved this to my playlist and it always pops up at the right time. So daunting to pick a direction in life especially for paths that you can’t back out of for a long time
Hey Struthless. You're really good at breaking down complex advice into accessible, fun and easy to follow exercises.
When Naval said find the thing in the world that you can be the best at, I think he was talking about people like you. Keep doing your thing man.
This actually helped me in realizing that I *thankfully* am already headed in a good direction in my life, just gotta keep improving the self belief and compromise. Thank you for you insightful videos as always!
Your talent for gaining insight from your experience and then communicating it to a large audience is truly remarkable.
Why did I not find you sooner! I LOVE your videos - they are so refreshingly different and certainly very eye opening. Love them thank you!
i am so glad i have found this channel. binging all these videos from your channel has given me the courage to tackle the question that has been scaring me for i don't even know how long: who even am i? i feel like i don't have a feel anymore for who i am, who i want to be or how i want to present myself to others. maybe i just haven't thought about it before. is this what a developing brain causes? this channel is a godsend, i just love how content you seem to be with life and the inner peace you have with yourself and the universe. that is what i want to radiate to those around me. now i need to continue developing these thoughts circling through my head. thank you for this.
I really enjoyed how you simplified it and put it in perspective.
Thank you for all of the great content you share! You are changing and helping lives!! I have always been into self help videos but sadly without much of doing the self help myself. It helps so much that you make these little exercises. I enjoy journaling but have struggled what to journal about. And well all of these questions that i had to face through this video brought out tears of realization, joy, and some feeling of purpose that I hadn’t been able to previously recognize.
Love the 5 bosses analogy and the art of them! I tried watching this when it first came out, but the thinking about "how long you have left to live" is too stressful for me - I've lost family over the years and I'm now physically disabled and chronically ill while living in an area full of anti-maskers and anti-vaxxers. Enjoyed your How to Change Your Life in 2022 video and it reminded me to give this one another go. The pinned comment is great for pasting the exercises into a journal. Thanks!
Hey struthless, you can't even begin to understand how much your videos mean to me. I had a quarter life crisis and your videos helped me realize that I wanted to change my life. Most importantly, you helped me realize that I COULD change my life. Now I watch them to stay motivated and to stay on the new path, since so many things are trying to tempt back into my corporate jobs and comfortable, predictable life. Keep up the good work!
Just finished your book and it's incredible!! So, so good 🙌 I know I'm gonna keep coming back to it over and over again.
Thanks man, 34 and in a tough spot with a lot of negative thoughts. Finally have the money to make some positive changes in my life. Your videos are really helping reinforce my plans to get to a better place. Props to you and keep up the good work 🤙
Honestly one of my favourite channels, I benefit so much from your videos, thank you. Planning to rewatch them all at some point
This is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen on the internet and I am not lyin, I am jaw drop impressed with the compression and versatile amount of information that you were able to put in one video to make people not only question their life and the direction but set them up with an idea, step ladder and general idea and direction someone can actually take to start the building blocks of moving forward. That’s more than what I’ve ever got from any social worker or anybody I’ve tried to get from society around me as has miserably failed. This makes one question their trauma and beliefs and I just respect how well it cuts deep and does what others don’t do well as society is as I see it overall falling apart around me and people are ridiculous and wild 👀.It’s videos like this that put a bit of hope back in my life. So thank you, video accomplished correctly, well done sir 👌🏻👍🏻
i feel real cozy and warm knowing I'm your kind of people! I have a notion journal page for each of your videos I've watched! but also have a irl notebook for when things flow better by hand.
Bro this is awesome, being stuck in doors all the time really just cuts off your perspective on life to your own head and the people you live with. Very easy to fall into an insecure and resentful vicious cycle. People need to hear the thoughts of other people to break that cycle. That's what this video is, I appreciate you. 🔥
Thanks buddy. Always get a mental refresh with your videos. Cheers for all the time you put in to this for us. Till next time ☕
Wow, thank you 😍 this was so helpful. I’m 23 and have been experiencing so much anxiety cuz I’ve felt so lost in life. But, the way that you labeled each boss that live in our brain really helped me to understand myself and my human needs. Thanks this was so crazy helpful, I’m excited to try out the exercises. Blesss youuu 💓💝💕✨
actually opened my notes app and started writing for this one. thanks man, I really appreciate your videos. also hats off to the editing, it's incredible👏
Thank you Struthless for another great informational and motivational video. I'm currently decluttering everything that no longer serves me. It feels so good to let go of the old to make room for new. I'm gradually getting better at focusing on my goals and dreams and using my time wisely. I'm aiming to get my first book finished by the end of next year if not sometime before. Thank you again! Keep up the good work!
You just gave me so much motivation to start off my morning. You have no idea🤟🏽 inspirational for real
humanity needs more people like u. Thank you so much for all the work dude!