spend the weekend with me because i'm sad

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 455

  • @oliwia1140
    @oliwia1140 Рік тому +1380

    sometimes I just feel sad for absolutely no reason and it's like??? excuse me for what

  • @luciaaxoxo
    @luciaaxoxo Рік тому +1022

    Listening to my tears ricochet when you feel horrible is the most real thing I’ve seen

  • @hellothere8358
    @hellothere8358 Рік тому +1032

    We all have our bad days and you are so real for showing us this

  • @iasmim1283
    @iasmim1283 Рік тому +363

    Listening to my tears ricochet, crying, reading and cleaning to feel better.. she's SO REAL for this.

  • @looney_lovegood7776
    @looney_lovegood7776 Рік тому +482

    wtf? i just thinking about the fact that how i wasted a whole weekend being depressed and did nothing for my upcoming exams, i was soo sad and then i took a break from my binge netflix watch and came across this video. To
    think that i was not the only one, made me feel much better. Thank u steph

    • @Audriavbruna
      @Audriavbruna Рік тому +13

      ahhh i hear you!!!!! so much sadness this weekend and i have final exams next week. good luck friend!! stay compassionate towards yourself xo

  • @booksandwine6245
    @booksandwine6245 Рік тому +121

    It's really comforting to hear you talk about friendship standards, because I always feel like a bitch when I think about what I want out of a friendship, when in reality it's not too much to ask for respect, being able to talk about everything and supporting each other. But in every friendship I have ever had, I feel like I was more committed than the other person, which doesn't feel great. On the other hand, I tend to distance myself from my friends when I don't feel good about myself or something in my life, because I don't want to bother anyone (because in past "friendships" people made me feel like I was), but to my friends, me distancing myself always looks like I'm abandoning them... Friendships in general are just really hard to figure out and once you have been through bad friendship breakups, it's harder to let people in

  • @supriyayaya9291
    @supriyayaya9291 8 місяців тому +4

    rewatched this video today and it feels so good steph finally finding her people

  • @lihaec
    @lihaec 5 місяців тому +6

    Watching this back one year later is so heartwarming

  • @camryenmitchell-marr3205
    @camryenmitchell-marr3205 Рік тому +146

    Girly, you are not alone. I have been in a funk too, due to the semester being over and other things. I hope you feel better soon and love you!!!

  • @gabifurbino4417
    @gabifurbino4417 Рік тому +163

    dear steph, thank u for always being so truthful and honest with ur fans. these past few months have been very difficult for me, and seeing u express yourself in such a genuine way makes me feel less alone.
    u are an AMAZING person, gorgeous inside and out; you inspire me every single day! even though we’ve never met, ur videos have helped me deal with a whole lot of things, and i couldn’t thank you enough for that.
    hope u know that u help lots of people all around the world with ur kind, fun vibe, and we love you so much for it. you’re not alone, u can count on us, no matter what! love you, hope ur ok!! keep well soon, sending u so much love & positivity 💘💘

  • @mayisunreal
    @mayisunreal Рік тому +77

    The friendship conversation was the ted talk I needed but didn’t know I needed🫶🏻

  • @poppylth
    @poppylth Рік тому +67

    I've been in such a flunk recently about friendships and watching this video has actually given me a peace of mind. watching your videos is like having a talk with a big sister and I love it!

  • @elizabethgordon1515
    @elizabethgordon1515 Рік тому +123

    I honestly needed to hear this. I've been struggling with long term friends and how I've been feeling about them a lot recently. Thank you so much for your thoughts. It helped to hear someone else's perspective on this so I wasn't so bogged down.

  • @possiblyme14
    @possiblyme14 Рік тому +40

    I’ve never related to anything more than I did when Steph was talking about friendships 😭 I need to find my people

  • @keirajackson4319
    @keirajackson4319 Рік тому +57

    Hearing other people’s stories and their every day struggles makes me realise I’m not alone, there’s so many strangers out there who feel the exact same. We just need to keep reminding ourselves that, you help so many people Steph and we’re forever grateful
    Love from England 🤍

  • @skk75000
    @skk75000 Рік тому +75

    thank you for being so real and making many people feel less alone with this

  • @cheyenneclenney
    @cheyenneclenney Рік тому +20

    idk if its weird to say that these kinda vlogs are my favorite. something about seeing someone go through the same things as me and learning to deal with loneliness is helpful. thank u for being real steph!

  • @sophieems
    @sophieems Рік тому +32

    i just went through a difficult situation with friends. as upsetting as it is, it makes me feel so better to see someone I look up to going through the same thing being hopeful and honest. you are so inspiring and help me on my most difficult days!! thank you, love you

  • @Cassieee14
    @Cassieee14 Рік тому +30

    I'm literally going through the same type of situation with a best friend and i feel like im putting in all the effort. It's exhausting and heartbreaking. We all deserve better than that! This video is so real and relatable. Thank You Steph

  • @johnd.20
    @johnd.20 Рік тому +6

    I love how Steph doesn't tell us why she's crying. most people crying on UA-cam just want all the drama and the attention but she's just being sincere. kudos to you for that Steph

  • @gianna_rose
    @gianna_rose Рік тому +2

    rewatching this video because I went through something similar recently, friendship breakups are SO difficult and upsetting. I'm so happy you documented this because it's helping me so much

  • @katherinelheureux8337
    @katherinelheureux8337 Рік тому +6

    I used to feel a lot like you do when it came to friendship. That if someone did not put in the time and effort to see me, then they were not worth all the time I gave them in return. But after talking to some of my friends about this, I realized that a lot of the time the friend who has not reached out in a while, is the friend that needs the most support. You never know what someone is going through. I have learned that sometimes it is worth putting in more effort up front, as long as they are open with you as to why they have become distant. Communication is key when it comes to your close life long friendships!

  • @eduardagonzaga7187
    @eduardagonzaga7187 Рік тому +10

    literally had a huge disappointment regarding a friendship yesterday, thank u so much for posting this and being human with us

  • @dsbfock
    @dsbfock Рік тому +6

    everything you said about friendship and relationships in general is so freaking true and i’m absolutely agree. in my 25 years a learned to think just like that and remind myself i deserve the same energy and love i’m giving. there’s billions ppl on the world and i deserve good ppl around you who see my worth and love me as i do love them. cause honestly? i think i’m amazing person with great personality, who supports ppl around me, i’m kind, smart and care so much about my ppl and i constantly try to be better version of myself. And to have someone toxic in my life ? fuck no. now i have high standards for ppl in my life to let me close to me and if you can’t meet those standards, you will always be just someone i know, not someone i love

  • @rfanaccount
    @rfanaccount Рік тому +8

    steph’s videos are like sitting by the fireplace, drinking hot cocoa and feeling the laughter around you💗💗💓💞💞💞 sending you the biggest hug my love

  • @edaav9215
    @edaav9215 Рік тому +3

    Thanks for showing the not just the highlights of your life, but also the sad and normal side. Hope you feel better soon ❤

  • @offtheJinx
    @offtheJinx Рік тому +2

    omg this is sad. legit cried yesterday 4 times regarding a friendship. i needed this. this also does not end, well into your 30s its still hard to make and keep friends.

  • @emmaeaton8418
    @emmaeaton8418 Рік тому +3

    Probably my favorite video you’ve made. Thank you for making me feel less alone.

  • @nataliedube1665
    @nataliedube1665 Рік тому +3

    Also side note: for girls who are looking to make new or more friends, some advice that actually has worked for me,
    -Branch out to people you know already and try to get to know them more, they could be closer friends then you know
    -try working on a passion project or fun activities, you will meet people with similar values and goals!
    -don’t let age, distance, or gender influence your decision for friends because I honestly have some old ladies who are friends and also some friends I don’t even see in person that often but they are still close friends
    -be vulnerable (people who like you the way you are, they are keepers)
    -reach out to family members, some of my friends are siblings or cousins or acquaintances
    -I know it’s cheesy but try new things, you never know where or to who it could take you!
    Also this community is so relatable and wholesome, support to all!!

  • @plastictr33z
    @plastictr33z Рік тому +1

    anytime I’m sad I watch ur vids bc you cheer me up, and seeing as we were both having off days, it was really comforting :)

  • @perrytheplatypus5373
    @perrytheplatypus5373 Рік тому +2

    I really needed this advice rn because I’ve finally gotten out of a toxic friendship. I realised I had been doing too much, paying for stuff, always giving gifts and over sharing, just hoping they’d love me back and I realised that person never really cared. It’s lonely but also peaceful because now I’m not always guessing whether they still like me or not. I’m so done with going above and beyond for people just so they’d like me.

  • @amandanovoa8768
    @amandanovoa8768 Рік тому +4

    it helps to see that it’s normal to have bad days bc it feel so isolating and alone but we aren’t alone in it. ur not alone in it :,)

  • @juriha1185
    @juriha1185 Рік тому +2

    It’s so comforting when you’re not the only one who’s going through stuff, it’s sad that we all going through stuff but it’s comforting to know you’re not the only one ;)

  • @JessHadji
    @JessHadji Рік тому

    i just rewatched this while i was feeling down and its like a warm hug, steph is so my comfort person

  • @kaitlynalena7361
    @kaitlynalena7361 Рік тому

    needed this. the friendship talk part when you were doing ur makeup said everything i felt and needed to hear from someone else too. u get me so much ily steph

  • @alliifaithh
    @alliifaithh Рік тому +4

    thank you for posting this. i’ve been feeling the same way the past few weeks and it’s been intense, watching this made me feel like i wasn’t alone.. also i love you so much thank you for being one of my comfort people

  • @christellemurugan
    @christellemurugan Рік тому

    Silver lining is listening to music and feeling it to your core❤️
    GOD BLESS YOU ✝️

  • @lucia7919
    @lucia7919 Рік тому +7

    I understand you a lot. You couldn't imagine how many times i've felt that. It's so sad but it make us stronger and stronger. Your reflection about friendship is simply brilliant! I'd never stopped to think about it. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to listen to you and to get to know you better. I wish I could meet you someday. I appreciate you a lot. And remember, you can handle this and more. You deserve the world. xxxx

  • @brieaunnastewart6558
    @brieaunnastewart6558 Рік тому

    Can you do an updated makeup routine? I’m curious about the bronzer and concealer you use😊

  • @kathleenfromwiller982
    @kathleenfromwiller982 Рік тому +3

    We all have these days - there are times when I cry all day and I can't stop. We're here for you, Steph ♡

  • @abbym7851
    @abbym7851 Рік тому +1

    this video gave me such comfort bc I feel the same way and its been hard for me to confront my emotions recently

  • @Lucylu1u
    @Lucylu1u Рік тому +12

    Hope you feel better soon Steph! We are all supporting you through EVERYTHING. ❤️ you deserve the world xx

  • @chloelw1217
    @chloelw1217 Рік тому +3

    I can't explain how much comfort these video bring to me, love u steph

  • @meghanamadhavaram7491
    @meghanamadhavaram7491 Рік тому +1

    You have this calm and soothing aura. It makes people feel so understood and less lonely. Thank you for that! Sending you lots of hugs

  • @NadaAlawadhi
    @NadaAlawadhi Рік тому

    Your friendship talk was very reassuring, there is a lot of content about friendships but they always revolve around extreme toxicity, but they don’t cover the regular usual friends who are actually really good but then they do something that is a shocker where they’re not consistently doing something bad but then they do something that’s a slap to the face, this is more common and it hurts really bad, and when you have compassionate, it’s easy to fault yourself wrongly that to admit that they’re the problem and let them go.

  • @jackysaurusr3x
    @jackysaurusr3x Рік тому +1

    I'm totally with you on the whole friendship discussion & the feeling of caring more than the other person. I myself am in a semi-toxic friendship for almost 20 years. There are phases where it works great and phases where it's getting toxic, but up to now the "good times" overpower the bad. (This friendship was formed when I was 3 years old, so we went through all the stuff together, so she does feel like a sister.) Mostly mentioning this to say: I get it.
    Anyway, when you talked about you always being the one to ask, and therefore concluding that the other person just doesn't care as much, my thoughts instantly went to neurodivergent people. I myself have ADHD, and I severely struggle with keeping contacts upright. When I read a message and for some reason don't have time to immediately respond, I forget - for days, sometimes weeks. I personally try to communicate this in advance, so the person doesn't feel neglected. I also request them to just tell me, when they feel like I don't care enough. But I am one of the most caring people I know (if I might say so myself) - I'll literally jump if someone needs me - but I struggle with the whole regular texting & regular meet-up thing.
    Thought I'd just add this to the whole discussion, because while I agree that if you're the only one that cares, you definitely should cut them out, I also think it's important to remember that some people might struggle with the concept of remembering to text (back). But communication is key here - if they just cut you off randomly, there's nothing to justify.

  • @fabiaxo
    @fabiaxo Рік тому +14

    oh steph :( i cannot thank you enough for posting this and being so real with us. i’ve also had a few rough weeks with being sick and then the seasonal depression just hitting me :,)) watching u makes me feel not alone and gives me a distraction and ur just so comforting i hope u always know that

  • @ar3845
    @ar3845 Рік тому +2

    hope you feel better soon, this vlog was honestly so calming to me and helped me a lot just seeing you for half an hour so thanks for that

  • @zoe-hd1si
    @zoe-hd1si Рік тому

    never ever stop posting videos like this, they help me as much as they help you. Its so comforting to watch and brings me so much happiness, so never stop Steph!

  • @Hannah_Lynch
    @Hannah_Lynch Рік тому

    wow thank you for being so vulnerable on here, your talk about friends and holding people to a higher standard and not selling yourself like a product to make them care about you really stuck a chord with me. hope you’re feeling better, you are amazing and deserve the best 🖤

  • @naomi6348
    @naomi6348 Рік тому

    these vlogs are my favorite thing ever. its 11:02pm, end of the semester, finals season. to know i am not alone, this video was a huge comfort. thank you thank you thank you. i so wish we could hug and talk and spend the day together. you are beautiful inside and out steph

  • @sarahcampbell3898
    @sarahcampbell3898 Рік тому

    omg, literally maybe my favorite vlog from you because you put my friendship experiences into words like so accurately.

  • @sophie_0104
    @sophie_0104 Рік тому +2

    3 months ago 3 people broke my heart. I realised the things that you talked about. I was always giving and giving but they never really cared about me and my problems. It was like they were the sun and I was a planet moving around them.

  • @crawfordjennifer2015
    @crawfordjennifer2015 Рік тому +1

    I’m so proud of you for not putting up with other individuals that don’t show respect or boundaries! You’re right no one needs to put up with that no matter how long there was a relationship. 🌸🤗

  • @amxranthine2766
    @amxranthine2766 Рік тому

    i love the little sheet cake tangent and the fact that she got the vannilla one she wanted

  • @troirutherford8353
    @troirutherford8353 Рік тому +2

    My personal therapy is venting in a video on my phone and just leaving it. I thought I was fine until you started talking about how you were sad, then I quickly had to pause and just go cry it out for a sec. Hope you're okay

  • @J.alexandra-3
    @J.alexandra-3 Рік тому +2

    The cure for anything is salt water; sweat, tears, or the sea. 🌊 we got you girl…we’ll always be here to listen, support and encourage. 💛

  • @litsiegs
    @litsiegs Рік тому

    I've never thought that way about friendships with guys, and that difference between girlfriends and guys friends. Now I will see thing differently. 🥺 I really lobe this kind of vlogs.

  • @plastichearts3
    @plastichearts3 Рік тому

    you are the most precious angel, steph

  • @asaveraj
    @asaveraj Рік тому

    I literally relate to all the friendship things you said in the vlog and this vlog was so comforting. hope you feel better!!

  • @melissakrimmel1384
    @melissakrimmel1384 Рік тому +2

    The friendship issues…I feel this stuff so hard and I’m 31. Unfortunately as you leave school and friends get careers, kids, spouses, this stuff only gets harder. Love seeing the realness

  • @l1na20
    @l1na20 Рік тому +2

    “So now i’m going to look for everything i don’t need” was really accurate 😂

  • @amberfirexx9
    @amberfirexx9 Рік тому +1

    im so sorry for whatever happened, i feel so bad that someone made you so sad. but thank you for vlogging this was so nice to watch and definitely reminded me we're never alone an d we all have bad days. glad youre doing better now

  • @Sarah-ty5ev
    @Sarah-ty5ev Рік тому +1

    Hey Steph. This morning I got a call that my grandmother died and I’m so far from home. I’m going home later this week, but I just feel so alone. This made me feel less alone, so thank you so much. Hope things are brighter for you now ❤

  • @claudiaaaaaaar
    @claudiaaaaaaar Рік тому

    I love this type of vlogs so so much, they are so comforting. Thanks you for be so real with us. I love you🤍🤍

  • @avacorinne9472
    @avacorinne9472 Рік тому +1

    i love these videos the most theyre legit therapeutic like it makes me feel less lonely

  • @abbym7851
    @abbym7851 Рік тому

    that rant while doing ur makeup reallllyyyy helped me bro thank u

  • @noos4425
    @noos4425 Рік тому +2

    im sorry u feel this way and i hope it gets better soon, i also support ur decision of not sharing what’s going on completely on here if u r not 100% comfortable with it ! sending love to everyone in the comments going through a tough time, u got this

  • @keyaranichole2964
    @keyaranichole2964 Рік тому

    I feel like so many of us went through friendship breakups this year! I can relate to you so much Steph! Everything you said about friends was spot on.

  • @giaxalyse
    @giaxalyse Рік тому

    okay i know im commenting a lot but this video is literally a mirror to a T, i see so much of myself (and im sure lots of others here do too) in what you're saying, especially the sit down section discussing friendships/putting in so much effort and realizing im overcompensating and trying to keep ppl around. but yes, NEW YEAR NEW BOUNDARIES! we got this! and look at how many ppl are commenting about how they relate, we'll all definitely find people we resonate with better (also moving to a new place after graduating is gonna be such a great opportunity to meet new people!!) and because we exist there's definitely other people who are like us

  • @sarahweiss9047
    @sarahweiss9047 Рік тому +1

    I love these vlog week videos so so much. If for some reason you ever want a free Uber to Target & Barnes & Noble I’m graduating from ASU in May too 💛

  • @angieannerose
    @angieannerose Рік тому

    Steph don’t feel alone we love uu xx. Don’t stop doing these vlogs they’re so comforting and show the real uu!! 🫶🏽🫶🏽

  • @geenakayla
    @geenakayla Рік тому

    you feel like a friend and i genuinely mean that steph. you get me and i’m truly so thankful for you. sending so much love and healing energy to you♥️

  • @aislinn5280
    @aislinn5280 Рік тому +1

    i literally have been so depressed lately, i lost my dad in april & i had a bad relationship w him so losing him has rlly made me so sad and to watch this video rlly rlly made me feel better. and made me feel less alone for being sad weeks or even months later.

  • @priyanshiagarwal
    @priyanshiagarwal Рік тому

    I am going through the time where every day feels like a decade to spend but the time will pass and happy days will come for sure

  • @sweetpotato2288
    @sweetpotato2288 Рік тому

    just got the worst news and checked yt to watch something and this video pops up. It helped me get my mind off of things. I love you for being so real

  • @alexisrose09
    @alexisrose09 Рік тому

    this is video just helped so much i haven’t been feeling the best lately but you are literally my comfort person and i love you!!

  • @Navigatingmotherhood
    @Navigatingmotherhood Рік тому +1

    Such a helpful conversation about friendships

  • @meganmicha_
    @meganmicha_ Рік тому +1

    I just can’t get enough of your videos, especially the ones that show all sides of reality. Thank you Steph

  • @pratikbhaumik2748
    @pratikbhaumik2748 Рік тому +1

    I wish steph never changes and she always stays this sweet forever

  • @shegogreen
    @shegogreen Рік тому +1

    this vlog is everything and more. currently feeling numb after crying my eyes out and this is just what i need. thank u, steph

  • @alisashaw6407
    @alisashaw6407 Рік тому

    Watching you go through your feelings and start to feel better honestly makes me feel better so thank you!❤ your videos are always therapeutic

  • @m4nini
    @m4nini Рік тому

    8:55 casually references 2 tswift songs, love u

  • @RobertaChannel1
    @RobertaChannel1 Рік тому +1

    I enjoy watching your vlogs, they are really comforting. I’m filled with joy when I see the notification 🤗
    It is difficult making friends after 20, people come and go and it’s hard to actually connect with someone on a deeper level.
    I also relate so much to you. Living alone is great and lonely at the same time. Plus anxiety doesn’t always make it easier

  • @shruti_sinha
    @shruti_sinha Рік тому

    15:40 Sunshine vibes and the best New Year's resolution ever 💜🌟🤞🏻

  • @amelyf
    @amelyf Рік тому

    I love these vlogs they bring me some kind of peace. Like knowing I’m not the only one struggling rn

  • @melxnielong
    @melxnielong Рік тому

    I love Steph vlogs sm 🤍🤍🤍 glad making these videos makes you feel better as much as it does for us!

  • @libertykent6284
    @libertykent6284 Рік тому +1

    Everything you said about friendship is definitely true and I’m feeling the same

  • @dorsarose
    @dorsarose Рік тому +1

    babes this is my fav types of videos from you, just know your anazing and we love u

  • @alyssamk07
    @alyssamk07 Рік тому

    the way i was feeling down today and you uploaded this. thank you for this and for making me feel less alone.

  • @ipeksar5322
    @ipeksar5322 Рік тому

    i literally have the same exact black sweatshirt from h&m you're wearing the entire video and seeing you wearing it made me feel much more closer to you despite the fact that we are thousands of miles away from each other. Small things man... small things.

  • @danaalbezreh2971
    @danaalbezreh2971 Рік тому

    Thank you for this video, you addressed so many things that I'm going through right now too. I really enjoyed watching someone talk about feelings and thoughts I'm processing. Love you Steph

  • @cst758
    @cst758 Рік тому +2

    ok but can we just talk about how amazing your makeup still looks while having a breakdown???

  • @Al2SO4
    @Al2SO4 Рік тому

    please keep vlogging, they're so comforting

  • @emilienasrallah1395
    @emilienasrallah1395 Рік тому +1

    Steph! I felt you on an entire new level (well all throughout the video but especially around 12:22 to 13:40)

  • @manicpixiebooknerd
    @manicpixiebooknerd Рік тому

    I do the same thing, buying things and putting in more effort in hopes that others start caring again

  • @pri.618
    @pri.618 Рік тому +1

    getting a notif that you posted literally made my day.

  • @gracynarnold
    @gracynarnold Рік тому

    youre literally my comfort person

  • @debchaffin
    @debchaffin Рік тому

    my tears ricochet also my number 1 song for sad days

  • @ilyanaandbooks6769
    @ilyanaandbooks6769 Рік тому

    The fact that i can relate to every single thing you said about friendships is so sad to acknowledge