m20, i have a stable job with a good income. im no body builder but also im not out of shape. i constantly find myself looking for someone to spend my life with, someone to spoil and call my own. no matter how many girls i try to give my attention and tell them how much i love them and spend money on spoiling them, they always get bored. I dont think ive had a relationship last longer the 6 months without the girl i gave everything ghosting me. Im beginning to feel truly alone, like everyone who ever says they care about me dont really mean it and they will just move on in a month. maybe im ment to be alone, but i dont want to be.
You're giving too much. Relationships (of any kind) are based on mutual interest. You need to moderate your investment, so the other person has space to take the initiative of talking to you. If you don't, then she's going to take your attention for granted and that's when it's all over. Something you don't need to make an effort to attain is boring. Maybe what I'm saying is harsh, but I think it will help you.
@lostinlordran1121 not harsh at all, any advice is helpful at this point. I just wish people would say how they feel rather then bottling emotions then ghosting
@@Fazbreaker It could be three things: 1. Low intrapersonal intelligence. According to the multiples inteligences theory, its the capability of understanding your own emotions. Someone who lacks it can't verbalize their feelings. Its the main indicator. 2. Honesty is hard to be consistent at. There are some things you just can't get yourself to say. It's the "words stuck in the throat" type thing. 3. Egoism. Why would someone make an effort to get in an uncomfortable situation with you when they can just evade it? You decide which of the scenarios resonate more with you, but no matter what it is, when someone ghosts you just let go. It's not worth it.
it's been 5 years for me without a relationship or intimacy, but for a couple of hugs. It's been rough, but it's worth it, and im grateful. learn to be okay alone. if you can, dont wait til you're 30. im 35 coming out of some crazy cycles of dysfuntion, and without doing the inner work, I'd be unalive. dont give up. find the courage to be disliked. remember who you are. you'll find her as she finds you 💜🔥
Listening to this right after finding out my only friend gets bored of me whenever i try to hang out with them, and now i dont even know what to do. I'm just another friendless loser. Is this feeling temporary or is it just how its always going to be.
Everything is temporary good feelings or bad ones good friends or bad ones Life feels better when you learn to let go and realize you have everything you need to be happy within yourself
this is beautiful!
m20, i have a stable job with a good income. im no body builder but also im not out of shape. i constantly find myself looking for someone to spend my life with, someone to spoil and call my own. no matter how many girls i try to give my attention and tell them how much i love them and spend money on spoiling them, they always get bored. I dont think ive had a relationship last longer the 6 months without the girl i gave everything ghosting me. Im beginning to feel truly alone, like everyone who ever says they care about me dont really mean it and they will just move on in a month. maybe im ment to be alone, but i dont want to be.
You're giving too much. Relationships (of any kind) are based on mutual interest. You need to moderate your investment, so the other person has space to take the initiative of talking to you. If you don't, then she's going to take your attention for granted and that's when it's all over. Something you don't need to make an effort to attain is boring. Maybe what I'm saying is harsh, but I think it will help you.
@@lostinlordran1121 not harsh at all, any advise is welcome
@lostinlordran1121 not harsh at all, any advice is helpful at this point. I just wish people would say how they feel rather then bottling emotions then ghosting
@@Fazbreaker It could be three things:
1. Low intrapersonal intelligence. According to the multiples inteligences theory, its the capability of understanding your own emotions. Someone who lacks it can't verbalize their feelings. Its the main indicator.
2. Honesty is hard to be consistent at. There are some things you just can't get yourself to say. It's the "words stuck in the throat" type thing.
3. Egoism. Why would someone make an effort to get in an uncomfortable situation with you when they can just evade it?
You decide which of the scenarios resonate more with you, but no matter what it is, when someone ghosts you just let go. It's not worth it.
it's been 5 years for me without a relationship or intimacy, but for a couple of hugs. It's been rough, but it's worth it, and im grateful. learn to be okay alone. if you can, dont wait til you're 30. im 35 coming out of some crazy cycles of dysfuntion, and without doing the inner work, I'd be unalive. dont give up. find the courage to be disliked. remember who you are. you'll find her as she finds you 💜🔥
The character is Nanase Haruka from "Free! Iwatobi swim club" in case anyone's wondering =D
I'm just at a moment of my life where I feel that school stops me from being the best I can. You might not get it.
Listening to this right after finding out my only friend gets bored of me whenever i try to hang out with them, and now i dont even know what to do. I'm just another friendless loser. Is this feeling temporary or is it just how its always going to be.
Everything is temporary
good feelings or bad ones
good friends or bad ones
Life feels better when you learn to let go and realize you have everything you need to be happy within yourself
I knew better not to get so attached
im with you brother