Keeping private conversations away from little ears is so important for any child, biological too. My daughter needs to see a speech therapist and i am very careful to not talk about her speech issues in her hearing. She's 4 and 100% able to understand what's going on. I dont want her to think she's broken. I always tell her "you're doing SUCH a good job at being a 4 year old!" At the end of every day. Even if she was naughty or had issues that day. Because it's still typical for a4yo.
Thank You!! That Actually Means So Much!! When I Was A Teenager, I Was Sent To Speech Therapy. Whenever Someone Would Test Me Or Make Me Practice Things And I Couldn't Do It, They Would Say Things Like: You CAN'T Do It?? That's So Simple. I'm Sure You've Done It A Million Times.... This Made Me Shut Down And Quit. Never Went Back To Speech Therapy Because They Kept On Trying To Force Me To Do "Homework" That I Couldn't Do Or Wasn't Comfortable Doing It. And Yes, I Tried. It Still Hurts. I Never Quit Anything. I Was Born With Many Physical Disabilities And That Had Affected My Speech. I'm 21 And Still Sound Like A Little 6 Year Old. Thankfully My Speech Has Improved A Little However I Now Stutter A Little. It Would Have Been Better If I Was Told It Was Okay And Moved On To Something Else Instead Of Being Sarcastically Belittled. Anyways, Thanks For Making Your Daughter Still Feel Special!! She's Got This!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
An adult who understands! See, I'm a kid/teen. My parents don't think I understand or hear anything, just totally oblivious. This makes me feel shut down and packed away from everyone. Your kid is really strong and you're a great parent.
@@yodelissosa7791 I’m sorry, they really should’ve taken both your speech AND your feelings into consideration. Being forced to do something you don’t like sucks. I wish you luck on your speech if you ever want to try to improve that, but don’t feel like you have to. My brothers struggle with speech as well, and I understand how that can be tough.
Personal preference I don't promise kids they won't be removed. Had a child that was working toward reunification we knew it would happen and then boom they went for a visit and didn't come back. The parents had gotten into a treatment facility that allowed kids to be present and ocs just moved them during their visit with no warning. They didn't even get to grab all their stuff from us. In 10 years it only happened once but after that it's hard to promise what we don't actually know.
What a horrible way for them to handle that. It's crazy that anyone would think it was OK to move a child like that for any reason other than serious danger. And this is the system that has power over already traumatised children? That's supposed to help them heal?
@LBGT destorying there own families you need to stop. You clearly are very jaded and have an ange da here that doesn’t align with the content creators purpose. Your title alone is really alarming.
This example is specifically when a social worker comes to the house. Things are more in control that way compared to the child going to visit their birth family.
Yay! Except I don’t take off work, esp since they come every 1-2 weeks. I learned to say, “This is when I’m available,” when scheduling *anything*. Best advice I ever got. It’s not a no, it protects your time.
I am a social worker, now working with adults but did my time in child protection. I absolutely love your channel, and it’s really interesting to see it from the other side. Fostering is something I’d love to do myself one day too, so it’s good to learn from the experts! What I would add to this is that it’s often the social workers role to provide updates to the child, which can often be upsetting or discuss topics that may be unsettling. I would advise foster carers to ask SWs prior to their visit if there is anything specific they need to talk to the child about so you can plan your day. For example, if there are updates that might be upsetting you can plan to do something enjoyable or calming afterwards.
I watch your videos even though I don't foster anymore. I did 2002-2004. Mostly it was a good experience. I had to quit when my husband and I divorced as then I was a single parent of my own biological daughter. We got medically fragile children because I am a nurse. It was challenging at times but it was also rewarding. I'm now a very proud Nana to 2 preschoolers. I love how you handle the different situations that could possibly arise and your tips! Keep sharing!
Excellent video! Way to hold your caseworker's feet to the fire! We have so much to keep track of so I always appreciate it when foster parents remind me and advocate for the children in their care! Love your videos!! I wish we had more foster caregivers like you!
Thank you so much for putting these you tube videos out there. This is so much needed. I was put into the system at 17 dcf was involved at age 16. I was having anger and behavioral problems at home due to my mothers dismissiveness and emotional neglect along with her mental illness. For six months I worked on an inpatient psych unit where we saw a lot of kids living with adopted parents or foster parents and the kids were having emotional difficulties or behavioral problems and these parents don’t know how to deal with these kids problems so sadly they give up on them and they get moved again and retraumatized. There are not enough resources at the state level to help these parents. We need more resources to help these kids who cannot be treated the same way as a child without trauma. Thank you so much for posting on you tube and sharing this necessary information. You do such a great job in these videos. I wish more people posted on this subject and this type of trauma. As an adult it is hard to find the right kind of help and to find someone who treats this type of trauma. It so important to treat the trauma when they are young it is much harder to do as an adult and the resources are limited and a lot of clinicians who treat trauma or bpd don’t take insurance making this treatment unaffordable and out of reach for so many who constantly struggling with triggers,
I wish my mom would have had such good foster homes unfortunately she grew up in the fifties and in foster homes that only expected good grades and good behavior which left my mom suffering and everything after that hairaising and terrible no child should have to grow up without a family it’s destructive ! I wish for every child to feel loved and complete because they deserve it!!!
Wow I showed my Sister in Saskatchewan and she said they need more people like U. She does the one who put these kids in forster home and she just the way U work . And she said she never seen how U are committed and she said wow if they people like U . Thankyou for sharing!
If you don’t have anyone else around, how do you have conversations about sensitive topics away from young children? Do you just go a bit away from them and let them play while you have the conversation?
I feel like it's tricky to say that someone is a "safe" person, as someone who's had "safe" people become unsafe, and then was not listened to when I tried to tell, because it was a "safe" person. It might help to just let them know that you'll be nearby or that they also have to follow your house rules of safe behavior. I'm curious if other people have ideas about this, as I'm not sure if there are better approaches. Just thought it was something worth considering.
I appreciate your videos so much. Have you ever had an experience where the children do not want to do visits and express safety concerns but are court ordered? This is our case right now. My fosters have been in the system multiple times with the abuse escalating and the plan is still for reunification. I just can not believe my state for still having this goal.
I just found your channel, this is such needed and important information I've always wanted to foster kids and this has been so informative!!! THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING YOU DO ♥️♥️♥️🇨🇦
My social workers never did a body check on me ever my entire time in care, or just a general foster home visit after dropping me off the first day. My social workers was more like a taxi that happen to come to my conference meetings. I do remember my very first social worker would spend a lot of time talking to my bio mom but when she dropped me off at my first foster home she spoke with the foster briefly before leaving. the sw never had a actually conversation with me, or asked me anything other than explain that the foster would show me the home and if I need anything to talk to my new foster mom and that she be in touch soon. I seen her again when I was reunited with my family after only 3 months and that lasted 1 weekend at home with my bio parents before I was put right bk in another foster home.
You have such amazing tips. You should think about creating an app for foster parents that could keep track of all the paperwork, visitor logs maybe even have a library of your videos as a resource.
We had workers that didnt call or show up for visits for 8 months straight. Called the office they said that doesnt happen. The nwxt worker came once and didnt show up for the next 3 months and didnt answer calls either. Most of the workers had no idea what they were suppose to do. I had one ask me if a 6 month old baby was walking and talking yet🤦♀️ If you go into being a foster parent just be aware that you will probably get zero support from cps workers.
@@zhaviyah84 if the child is placed in a family long term, it might be easier for them to refer to the foster parents as mom and dad Two of my friends were in a foster family for most of their childhood (4-15 and 7-17 or something like that), and in group home for the rest. Their bioparents only called like once or twice a year and they hadn't seen them in person since toddler age. Of course they'd call the only family they've known Mom and Dad
@@zhaviyah84 putting aside the difference between religion and cult, not all church leaders are crazy fundamentalists who abuse kids in the name of Jesus. Look at Mr. Rogers who was a pastor or Reverend Chris in the Jolly videos. They didn’t force their views and used their religion to do actual good.
It helps document any time the family has spent and who the child had contact with and when. If a neglectful parent starts becoming involved, it's verified by the book. Uncle So-so came by and Child was comfortable & happy, is he an option for family placement? Anything that can be documented should be, it may become evidence in Family Court or just helpful for Child moving forward.
Having a visitor’s log helps the foster parent keep track of anyone and everyone who has come by. It’s super important that anytime someone comes to see the foster kids that there’s at least a notation of it. It’s much easier to report if/when the social worker has made their visits and anyone else has come by if you have it in writing. If it’s in their handwriting when they sign in, all the better.
Ive got a question, a genuine one. I follow your channel for a while now as i love the work you do. However, i hear of more and more cases of foster children being mistreated and abused. Of all these checks are in place etc how is that possible?
To keep a record of who visits the home while she has a foster placement. You can have a easy reference without using mental space to remember everything.
Older kids too. They need to check for bruises, cuts, rashes, any significant changes in weight (is the child eating regularly) or other physical signs of harm. With older kids there may be signs of self-harm to look out for as well.
@@andiward7068 I wish thry would. I was in foster care from the age of 6 and they came once a year....no body checks. This channel is amazing! It's good to see that it can be different!
@@andiward7068 idk where your source is, but they absolutely do not from my experiences both growing up in care and having many younger siblings. Basically as soon as you can talk and/or dress yourself, the body checks stop. Even my little non-verbal brother stopped getting checks when he was like, 3.
I've heard about those, I think it's to make sure you don't bring any unapproved visitors to the house and you can keep track of visitations with the biofamily
I'm not having that problem with her shorts. Is it just her shorts that are small? Usually there should be a little box on the lower right when comments aren't opened to make it bigger in vertical mode. Maybe that might help?
@Sian Milne - so.... the day i found that out I screamed. Screen got bigger and it Scared the crap out of me. Thought something was wrong with my tablet. You can laugh but it definitely was not funny when it first happened. I was trying to exit. .... Definitely NOT the exit button.
I don't see how people could be social workers. I don't even do a body check on my own kids and never have. It is disgusting that the law allows complete strangers to look at other children's body parts under the guise of a body check. These kids have been traumatized enough if they go from foster home to foster home or even a group home..... We teach kids that it's not okay for *anyone* to look at their bodies... except for in the case when a social worker and perhaps a different social worker each time has to check if they've been abused or not, by looking at their body. No wonder these kids are messed up, especially if a kid got pulled out of their home because of abuse going on. These kids don't have mental issues; these kids just been through trauma! Use common sense people! Half these foster parents shouldn't be foster parents and half these social workers need to get a new career;......oh, I forgot, they'll be used to stop crime because the social workers will respond with talk therapy in mid episode instead of the police showing up to arrest law breakers 🙄
And half the people who are cops have no business being cops. By the way, teachers social workers and other caregivers have Crisis Prevention and Intervention training which yes includes de-escalation but also physical restraints and other physical interventions. So please don’t stereotype what you clearly don’t understand. Police have shot disabled people who are “not complying with their directions” because the person has cognitive or mental health impairments and are unable to comply. As a therapist, I’ve done plenty of restraints and been bitten, kicked, etc. ALSO used what you call talk therapy. Never shot anyone though.
They’re doing body checks to look for bruises, cuts, signs of abuse… they’re not doing something perverted. So many children are abused in foster care as well so if body checks can help catch even just some of the cases , I think it’s a good thing. As long as they’re not using body checks inappropriately, it seems like a good idea
@@bunnylacy2097 The problem with it is it assumes the consent of the child, not asks for consent. Just because there is a good reason doesn't mean the practice is wholly good. A small child or a traumatized child will see the case worker as an authority figure they "have to say yes" to even if they were genuinely asked. It's a power dynamic that makes given consent a shade over it. (If someone in authority over you asks you to do something, you will tend to feel like you have no choice but to do it...unless you have really good boundaries...which generally speaking even healthy and non traumatized children would have difficulty with.)
Sorry what kind of sentence is they don’t have mental issues, they just been through trauma? Trauma begets mental issues like PTSD, food insecurity, strong adversity to touch, etc. and there’s nothing taboo about having mental issues. They do body checks to make sure the kids aren’t being abused by their foster parents and considering the system is rampant with abuse, it’s not a bad idea.
Foster parenting or this foster parent APPEARS to care more about how she is seen by others rather than how she is probably seen right through by the foster kids
I think it's despicable to prevent the siblings from sleeping in the same room if they're bio brother and sister. Also, the "body check" is a little creepy. 🫢
Keeping private conversations away from little ears is so important for any child, biological too. My daughter needs to see a speech therapist and i am very careful to not talk about her speech issues in her hearing. She's 4 and 100% able to understand what's going on. I dont want her to think she's broken. I always tell her "you're doing SUCH a good job at being a 4 year old!" At the end of every day. Even if she was naughty or had issues that day. Because it's still typical for a4yo.
Thank You!! That Actually Means So Much!!
When I Was A Teenager, I Was Sent To Speech Therapy. Whenever Someone Would Test Me Or Make Me Practice Things And I Couldn't Do It, They Would Say Things Like: You CAN'T Do It?? That's So Simple. I'm Sure You've Done It A Million Times.... This Made Me Shut Down And Quit. Never Went Back To Speech Therapy Because They Kept On Trying To Force Me To Do "Homework" That I Couldn't Do Or Wasn't Comfortable Doing It. And Yes, I Tried. It Still Hurts. I Never Quit Anything. I Was Born With Many Physical Disabilities And That Had Affected My Speech. I'm 21 And Still Sound Like A Little 6 Year Old. Thankfully My Speech Has Improved A Little However I Now Stutter A Little. It Would Have Been Better If I Was Told It Was Okay And Moved On To Something Else Instead Of Being Sarcastically Belittled.
Anyways, Thanks For Making Your Daughter Still Feel Special!! She's Got This!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
An adult who understands! See, I'm a kid/teen. My parents don't think I understand or hear anything, just totally oblivious. This makes me feel shut down and packed away from everyone. Your kid is really strong and you're a great parent.
@@yodelissosa7791 I’m sorry, they really should’ve taken both your speech AND your feelings into consideration. Being forced to do something you don’t like sucks. I wish you luck on your speech if you ever want to try to improve that, but don’t feel like you have to. My brothers struggle with speech as well, and I understand how that can be tough.
@@arsonchild47 Thank You So Very Much!! This Just Made My Day Better!! Thanks A Million!! 🥰🥰💕💕
@@yodelissosa7791 I'm so glad to help! I hope you have a great weekend, as you also made my day! Thank you a trillion ☺
Personal preference I don't promise kids they won't be removed. Had a child that was working toward reunification we knew it would happen and then boom they went for a visit and didn't come back. The parents had gotten into a treatment facility that allowed kids to be present and ocs just moved them during their visit with no warning. They didn't even get to grab all their stuff from us. In 10 years it only happened once but after that it's hard to promise what we don't actually know.
What a horrible way for them to handle that. It's crazy that anyone would think it was OK to move a child like that for any reason other than serious danger. And this is the system that has power over already traumatised children? That's supposed to help them heal?
That’s not typical or an approved manner of handling things.
@LBGT destorying there own families you need to stop. You clearly are very jaded and have an ange da here that doesn’t align with the content creators purpose. Your title alone is really alarming.
@LBGT destorying there own families That's not at all what PsychGirl Raven was doing.
This example is specifically when a social worker comes to the house. Things are more in control that way compared to the child going to visit their birth family.
Yay! Except I don’t take off work, esp since they come every 1-2 weeks. I learned to say, “This is when I’m available,” when scheduling *anything*. Best advice I ever got. It’s not a no, it protects your time.
I am a social worker, now working with adults but did my time in child protection. I absolutely love your channel, and it’s really interesting to see it from the other side. Fostering is something I’d love to do myself one day too, so it’s good to learn from the experts!
What I would add to this is that it’s often the social workers role to provide updates to the child, which can often be upsetting or discuss topics that may be unsettling. I would advise foster carers to ask SWs prior to their visit if there is anything specific they need to talk to the child about so you can plan your day. For example, if there are updates that might be upsetting you can plan to do something enjoyable or calming afterwards.
I watch your videos even though I don't foster anymore. I did 2002-2004. Mostly it was a good experience. I had to quit when my husband and I divorced as then I was a single parent of my own biological daughter. We got medically fragile children because I am a nurse. It was challenging at times but it was also rewarding. I'm now a very proud Nana to 2 preschoolers. I love how you handle the different situations that could possibly arise and your tips! Keep sharing!
Excellent video! Way to hold your caseworker's feet to the fire! We have so much to keep track of so I always appreciate it when foster parents remind me and advocate for the children in their care! Love your videos!! I wish we had more foster caregivers like you!
Thank you so much for putting these you tube videos out there. This is so much needed. I was put into the system at 17 dcf was involved at age 16. I was having anger and behavioral problems at home due to my mothers dismissiveness and emotional neglect along with her mental illness. For six months I worked on an inpatient psych unit where we saw a lot of kids living with adopted parents or foster parents and the kids were having emotional difficulties or behavioral problems and these parents don’t know how to deal with these kids problems so sadly they give up on them and they get moved again and retraumatized. There are not enough resources at the state level to help these parents. We need more resources to help these kids who cannot be treated the same way as a child without trauma. Thank you so much for posting on you tube and sharing this necessary information. You do such a great job in these videos. I wish more people posted on this subject and this type of trauma. As an adult it is hard to find the right kind of help and to find someone who treats this type of trauma. It so important to treat the trauma when they are young it is much harder to do as an adult and the resources are limited and a lot of clinicians who treat trauma or bpd don’t take insurance making this treatment unaffordable and out of reach for so many who constantly struggling with triggers,
I wish my mom would have had such good foster homes unfortunately she grew up in the fifties and in foster homes that only expected good grades and good behavior which left my mom suffering and everything after that hairaising and terrible no child should have to grow up without a family it’s destructive ! I wish for every child to feel loved and complete because they deserve it!!!
Wow I showed my Sister in Saskatchewan and she said they need more people like U. She does the one who put these kids in forster home and she just the way U work . And she said she never seen how U are committed and she said wow if they people like U . Thankyou for sharing!
If you don’t have anyone else around, how do you have conversations about sensitive topics away from young children? Do you just go a bit away from them and let them play while you have the conversation?
Yes
I feel like it's tricky to say that someone is a "safe" person, as someone who's had "safe" people become unsafe, and then was not listened to when I tried to tell, because it was a "safe" person.
It might help to just let them know that you'll be nearby or that they also have to follow your house rules of safe behavior.
I'm curious if other people have ideas about this, as I'm not sure if there are better approaches. Just thought it was something worth considering.
Yea indeed. My loved one who was subjected to this system always told me “safe means the opposite”.
thank you so much for these! My parents fostered to adoption when I was a kid, and I wish they could have known so much of this information.
I appreciate your videos so much. Have you ever had an experience where the children do not want to do visits and express safety concerns but are court ordered? This is our case right now. My fosters have been in the system multiple times with the abuse escalating and the plan is still for reunification. I just can not believe my state for still having this goal.
Whew! That took me back in time to when me and my kiddos were doing this. Hard work that is so so worth it!😊
You are absolutely wonderful, for helping so many children in need and for sharing so much information ♥️
I just found your channel, this is such needed and important information
I've always wanted to foster kids and this has been so informative!!! THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING YOU DO ♥️♥️♥️🇨🇦
My social workers never did a body check on me ever my entire time in care, or just a general foster home visit after dropping me off the first day. My social workers was more like a taxi that happen to come to my conference meetings.
I do remember my very first social worker would spend a lot of time talking to my bio mom but when she dropped me off at my first foster home she spoke with the foster briefly before leaving. the sw never had a actually conversation with me, or asked me anything other than explain that the foster would show me the home and if I need anything to talk to my new foster mom and that she be in touch soon. I seen her again when I was reunited with my family after only 3 months and that lasted 1 weekend at home with my bio parents before I was put right bk in another foster home.
I am so sorry for what you were subjected to by the very people who should have cared for you.
Such a pro, by not showing the beautiful child on screen, bravo ! So inspiring to me, even though I never had children.
These are fictional scenarios. There isn't a child (or SW) present.
@@kelly1827
And that’s the point: she’s presenting fictionalised scenarios rather than showing actual foster children.
You have such amazing tips. You should think about creating an app for foster parents that could keep track of all the paperwork, visitor logs maybe even have a library of your videos as a resource.
Thx for this from an adopted kid
We had workers that didnt call or show up for visits for 8 months straight. Called the office they said that doesnt happen. The nwxt worker came once and didnt show up for the next 3 months and didnt answer calls either. Most of the workers had no idea what they were suppose to do. I had one ask me if a 6 month old baby was walking and talking yet🤦♀️ If you go into being a foster parent just be aware that you will probably get zero support from cps workers.
Can we just appreciate that handwriting real quick? Like wow!!
Wish this was around 18 months ago when our son was placed with us. It is scary and overwhelming.
Your son? Did you adopt him? If not he’s not your son … foster carers aren’t the parents. Their parents are their parents ….
@@zhaviyah84 if the child is placed in a family long term, it might be easier for them to refer to the foster parents as mom and dad
Two of my friends were in a foster family for most of their childhood (4-15 and 7-17 or something like that), and in group home for the rest. Their bioparents only called like once or twice a year and they hadn't seen them in person since toddler age. Of course they'd call the only family they've known Mom and Dad
@Zhaviyah - look up these words: Foster Mom, Foster Dad, Foster Child, Foster Son, Foster Daughter, .....
Adoption Mom, Adoption Dad, Adopted Child, Adopted Daughter, Adopted Son, ...
Biological Mom, Biological Dad, Biological Child, Biological Daughter, Biological Son, ...
Do you by chance see a trend here?
@@zhaviyah84
Guess what?
Foster PARENTS have foster CHILDREN. 🙄
I've learned so much from you and I'm not even part of the FS system.
My church minister just got her foster care license, I should definitely introduce her to your channel if she hasn’t already!
That’s terrifying. No cult leader should be any where near children.
@@zhaviyah84 putting aside the difference between religion and cult, not all church leaders are crazy fundamentalists who abuse kids in the name of Jesus. Look at Mr. Rogers who was a pastor or Reverend Chris in the Jolly videos. They didn’t force their views and used their religion to do actual good.
@@zhaviyah84 Settle down 🙄
Is there a video that explains the visitor's log? I've never heard of that before in a reference to foster care.
It helps document any time the family has spent and who the child had contact with and when. If a neglectful parent starts becoming involved, it's verified by the book. Uncle So-so came by and Child was comfortable & happy, is he an option for family placement? Anything that can be documented should be, it may become evidence in Family Court or just helpful for Child moving forward.
@@andiward7068 Thanks.
Yeah, first I’ve heard of it but makes sense.
Having a visitor’s log helps the foster parent keep track of anyone and everyone who has come by. It’s super important that anytime someone comes to see the foster kids that there’s at least a notation of it. It’s much easier to report if/when the social worker has made their visits and anyone else has come by if you have it in writing. If it’s in their handwriting when they sign in, all the better.
WOW. You are so impressive.
With the visitor log, is that for anyone who enters the home who doesn’t live there? Just curious, it’s such a good idea!
yes -- you keep a log of everyone who does not live in the home.
It’s really important to log visitors because kids in care are extremely vulnerable to being predated by abusers.
Ive got a question, a genuine one. I follow your channel for a while now as i love the work you do. However, i hear of more and more cases of foster children being mistreated and abused. Of all these checks are in place etc how is that possible?
youre a superhero!
I’m just curious why do you have a guest sign in book?
To keep a record of who visits the home while she has a foster placement. You can have a easy reference without using mental space to remember everything.
I’m trying to become a special needs teacher and I want to foster
Why do you have them sign in?
she keeps track of every adult who comes into the home.....this way if sometime in the future, there is a question, she has a log of it :-)
Why do you keep a visitor log?
to keep a record of who was in the home and when.... in case it is needed in the future
whats the body check
It's basically just checking for any bruises
Checking for any signs of physical abuse/neglect
do they do it on older kids our just babies
Older kids too. They need to check for bruises, cuts, rashes, any significant changes in weight (is the child eating regularly) or other physical signs of harm. With older kids there may be signs of self-harm to look out for as well.
@@andiward7068 I wish thry would. I was in foster care from the age of 6 and they came once a year....no body checks. This channel is amazing! It's good to see that it can be different!
@@andiward7068 idk where your source is, but they absolutely do not from my experiences both growing up in care and having many younger siblings.
Basically as soon as you can talk and/or dress yourself, the body checks stop. Even my little non-verbal brother stopped getting checks when he was like, 3.
@@NicknotNak makes sense. Rules of child care and fostering vary by state. Some states are really good with that sort of thing. Others are not.
Visitor log??
I've heard about those, I think it's to make sure you don't bring any unapproved visitors to the house and you can keep track of visitations with the biofamily
Omg....visitor sign in. Lol
Yes. It may be used for reference during court hearings.
All your shorts are small and I can see toy out or text is blurry
I'm not having that problem with her shorts. Is it just her shorts that are small? Usually there should be a little box on the lower right when comments aren't opened to make it bigger in vertical mode. Maybe that might help?
Have you tried pressing the full-screen button? Bottom right corner of the video screen 😂
@Sian Milne - so.... the day i found that out I screamed. Screen got bigger and it Scared the crap out of me. Thought something was wrong with my tablet.
You can laugh but it definitely was not funny when it first happened.
I was trying to exit. .... Definitely NOT the exit button.
I don't see how people could be social workers. I don't even do a body check on my own kids and never have. It is disgusting that the law allows complete strangers to look at other children's body parts under the guise of a body check.
These kids have been traumatized enough if they go from foster home to foster home or even a group home..... We teach kids that it's not okay for *anyone* to look at their bodies... except for in the case when a social worker and perhaps a different social worker each time has to check if they've been abused or not, by looking at their body.
No wonder these kids are messed up, especially if a kid got pulled out of their home because of abuse going on.
These kids don't have mental issues; these kids just been through trauma!
Use common sense people!
Half these foster parents shouldn't be foster parents and half these social workers need to get a new career;......oh, I forgot, they'll be used to stop crime because the social workers will respond with talk therapy in mid episode instead of the police showing up to arrest law breakers
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Ever bring your child to the dr? They do body checks.
And half the people who are cops have no business being cops. By the way, teachers social workers and other caregivers have Crisis Prevention and Intervention training which yes includes de-escalation but also physical restraints and other physical interventions. So please don’t stereotype what you clearly don’t understand. Police have shot disabled people who are “not complying with their directions” because the person has cognitive or mental health impairments and are unable to comply. As a therapist, I’ve done plenty of restraints and been bitten, kicked, etc. ALSO used what you call talk therapy. Never shot anyone though.
They’re doing body checks to look for bruises, cuts, signs of abuse… they’re not doing something perverted. So many children are abused in foster care as well so if body checks can help catch even just some of the cases , I think it’s a good thing. As long as they’re not using body checks inappropriately, it seems like a good idea
@@bunnylacy2097 The problem with it is it assumes the consent of the child, not asks for consent. Just because there is a good reason doesn't mean the practice is wholly good. A small child or a traumatized child will see the case worker as an authority figure they "have to say yes" to even if they were genuinely asked. It's a power dynamic that makes given consent a shade over it. (If someone in authority over you asks you to do something, you will tend to feel like you have no choice but to do it...unless you have really good boundaries...which generally speaking even healthy and non traumatized children would have difficulty with.)
Sorry what kind of sentence is they don’t have mental issues, they just been through trauma? Trauma begets mental issues like PTSD, food insecurity, strong adversity to touch, etc. and there’s nothing taboo about having mental issues. They do body checks to make sure the kids aren’t being abused by their foster parents and considering the system is rampant with abuse, it’s not a bad idea.
Foster parenting or this foster parent APPEARS to care more about how she is seen by others rather than how she is probably seen right through by the foster kids
You're judging someone based on a fictional scenario they made up for educational purposes? Wow
You do realize the premise of her channel is to educate others who want to potentially be foster PARENTS?
I think it's despicable to prevent the siblings from sleeping in the same room if they're bio brother and sister. Also, the "body check" is a little creepy. 🫢