Bride and Groom Disowned by Family for Adult-Only Wedding | What's The 411 | Relationships
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- Опубліковано 27 сер 2024
- Kizzy: Last week, we were talking about bridezillas and crazy stuff. So now we're, we're talking about weddings again. Now, this couple, for financial reasons, decided to host an adults-only wedding. And, so that meant no kids allowed, which eliminated 14 kids from their wedding. Thirteen from the groom’s side and one from the bride’s side. So, the result of this was there was a massive argument among the families. The bride’s stepmother ex-communicated her because she couldn't bring her one-year-old grandson, even though the bride offered to pay for a babysitter. So, my question is were the bride and groom, correct and sticking to their guns and insisting upon an adults-only wedding? What do you guys think?
Keisha: Well, there's a saying Kizzy and Onika, whoever carries the purse makes the rules?
So, the couple was paying for the wedding themselves and they decided what happens at their wedding. So, if they decided for financial reasons or even if they just didn't like kids, and didn't want them at the wedding, that is their choice. Right. And you abide by it or don't come. And if I'm not mistaken that the bride even offered to hire a babysitter so that the one-year-old grandbaby could go. Well, grandma didn't want that baby there that badly then.
Kizzy: It just made no sense. It made no sense. It's like why are you trying to control what people do for their wedding. You are not, like you said, not paying for it. They're paying for it all on their own. You don't know their pockets. That's all these kids, you got all this extra food, nine oh kids don't really eat everything. You know what I mean? So, it's kind of like a waste. You know what I mean, I get it, you know, in an ideal world, you want everybody to be there. You want the kids to be there and everything too. But if those people were getting married and it's...remember, it's about them and they cannot afford it, I think you should understand that. And I don't think you should make an issue.
Onika: I don't think that children should be at weddings. It’s an open bar. People are drinking, getting drunk, acting up, nobody's watching the doggone kids who are sliding… I don't think that that's the place. I feel like it's an adult event and I think the only children that should be at the wedding are the children that are in the wedding. That's what I think.
You see all those kids and stuff if I’m drinking. I don't want to be, you can't get in the bar. The children can't be in a bar. And you have an open bar, at a wedding or you know, alcohol, children shouldn’t be around adults drinking. Maybe if you’re at a home or house party or something like that, but for the most part…
Kizzy: But everybody's not going to be drinking though. And I think again if you're a parent, obviously, you're not going to be over-drinking…
Keisha: You hope, you hope.
Kizzy: Of course, of course, you hope because…
Keisha: Sometimes parents don't get out much. So, a wedding is a perfect occasion to let down their hair down and get loose, you got free food, free booze…
Kizzy: Keep the kid home if that's the case. But if you want your kid there, and again, this woman wanted her grandson there. I'm assuming you're not going to be drinking all that much anyway. But again, I think it’s their day, it's their money, they decide who can come. I think. Yeah.
You don't have a right to tell a couple who they can have at THEIR wedding.
I agree 100% with you ladies. If the bride and the groom do not want kids their for financial reasons or they don’t like kids it’s their business. They are paying for an event that is about them period. If you don’t wanna get a babysitter do not go. Also, a wedding is an adult event. If my kids weren’t aloud to attend I would look at it as a fun night out with me and my husband, free of the kids which is nice once in a while. The lady to the far right was spot on, people do get drunk at weddings. Even if you are not drinking around your kids other people are and we all know when people start getting drunk they can’t begin to act inappropriate which children should not be around.
Just don't go!!!!! Good Lort. It's a wedding, not the end of the world. I've been invited to adults only weddings and I respectfully declined the invitation. We still sent a gift but then went out as a family to a nice meal in honor of the wedding. Your wedding is more important to you than other peoples kids and that's fair, but do know that peoples kids will always be more important to them, than your wedding..........you just have to figure out what you value more. All your guests attending, or no kids.
No kids for mee. Children can be very unpredictable and parents will usually just let them be. It was so annoying. So no. Always " they just a kids blah blah blah..." Exactly!!! Don't bring them.
My future husband and I dont like kids and decided not to have any many years ago. I have two nieces 3 and 5 and my mother today told me that if i dont invite them my sister will not come. I cant begin to tell you how that makes me feel. I even considered canceling the whole event but you know what! This is about US and whomever does not get that should not be there anyway, related or not.
It's their wedding,not everyone else's.And most children are annoying af.
As long as the kids are not drinking sure kids can be near an open bar (oddly I don't believe kids should be at a normal bar but idk why) but it's the couples choice, but they could.
Host make a generous offer: "Would you like to enjoy food, drink, a good time at our expense?" And people are PISSED OFF instead of grateful? Someone offers to entertain you at their expense and your response is "How dare you! That's not good enough for me!" Sounds entitled.
Unpopular opinion here but I’m a mom to 2 kids and I disagree. In my culture, we bring money as wedding gifts, usually more than the couple would pay per plate, and I would be willing to pay for my kids in advance. Im sad my husband’s cousin is hosting an adults only wedding because our only source of child care (grandparents) will be at the wedding. So unfortunately my husband has to go to the wedding on his own while I stay home with our kids. (If you’re asking why I don’t hire a sitter, it will be Memorial Day weekend and I would have to hire someone multiple times to get used to my kids, which isn’t cost effective.)
The gift, money or not, does not let anyone decide the rules. They have as much say as the person who brought nothing.
If it's all about the bride and the groom the why invite anyone just get married with none .ppl have become so insecure about stuff .Every moment of their special day needs to be so perfect that nothing should go wrong.its not a rocket launch .it's a gathering of people .
Who should decide who attends a wedding? Should children be at events with an open bar?
It's the couple's special day , surely they would want to invite people who THEY want to be there with them on that special day , maybe they feel that they would not want kids at the wedding and that's totally cool.
I agree. Kid's should not be at weddings. They get bored and can cause trouble.
Plenty of adults cause trouble at weddings, more so than kids. People forget that, especially with an open bar. I've been thrown out of a wedding, so I know from personal experience. I've seen both families almost get into a fist fight. I've seen the drunk groom make his bride cry. Kids were the least of anyone's concern. But yes I agree it's the bride and grooms decision.
_YOUR_ wedding; _YOUR_ choice.
AMEN !