I’m done with games. Guys decide when or if a relationship starts and then guys decide when they’re over it and they end it. The only game women have to play is distancing herself and remaining a challenge and remaining “uninterested” in him. Women can’t even get their intimacy needs met. Once you have sex it’s over. I’m seeing a guy right now and I can’t even message him, I can’t have sex with him, I can’t call him or reach out to him.. I have to constantly wait for him. Relationships only work when the guy wants it more than the girl does and the only way to make them want you is to distance yourself and give him as little of yourself as possible. How the fuck is that even a relationship? There’s no such thing as relationships, just little boys getting tired with their toys and then wanting a new toy and a new toy and a new toy. They want a bigger and better toy than the next guy, and they want to damage all the toys so the other boys can’t have a nice toy. It’s all about him. Elliot is rambling on about investments and gambling; polling and debt, wtf?? this is how immature men are. Little babies wanting their toys. Commitment is a guys game, women have no power unless they give nothing to him and treat him like garbage. Women get none of their intimacy or emotional needs met, it’s all about playing these bullshit ‘I’m a challenge and uninterested’ games to make him want something he can’t have. What’s the fucking point?
Xx I completely agree with that! At least for most connections in the beginning, that's how it is and it won't get further where a real relationship will develop. In this time of dating apps and plethora of possibilities and women being more accessible, men really have the power. Not only are we largely more emotional and consequently less adept at games, but we also are ignorant of the games men play. Their bigger trick being the full on romance (from zero to 100) then they start to express doubts and pull back from the romance, now women are hooked and attached so they stick around, look for videos on male psychology, try to be content with the breadcrumbs he gives her. How sad! Especially when it happens again and again. I don't even see guys on dating apps that really want to date. They only seem to be looking for a hookup . I feel you when you say how frustrating it is to have to play a part and not having your needs for intimacy and connection met. I've also thought that maybe women need to find men that are less attractive than they are, men who will be more than happy to make the relationship work. If you look at some female celebrities, their men are often less attractive but probably they can be real partners. I also believe that beyond the whole seduction games, we need to share interests and values. Or it can't become a long term relationship. I'm also dealing with a guy who was very interested in me, said he wanted the same things. Gradually he started to pull back, and has acted very confusing since then. He's 42 so you'd think he should now what he wants. But no actually, I suppose if he can get attention and validation from female "friends", that's enough to meet his needs. While I don't get mine met. So I decided to disappear and not chase him like he must want me to. I refuse to chase someone who is not fully in, who is too confusing.
Listen, I hear you and understand where you're coming from. After 4 years of this kind of relationship of back and forth hoping he would change, I said Enough. I decided to focus on myself and in the process found better man who saw my value for what it was. Show him what happiness looks like on you without him. There are still good men out there, you can't find them while you are still chasing the wrong one. The one you want at the moment is obviously not the right one. Elliott is referring to men who love you, but are unsure of what they want. In a relationship, you can't give a man 100% of your time. If he knows he can always have you there is no rush, you will always be the one he will keep around just in case to fill his lonely nights. Ask yourself: Can I settle for that? Do I want to settle for that? The answer is No! You are worth more than that and there are tons of other guys waiting to give you everything your looking for!🤞
Damn! You really described my life s conclusion about guys! Really, what is the point of dating or having a relationship with a guy when a big majority of guys will give you this experience? / Bitter 30 year old swedish woman
Xx xX It’s not over when you have sex if sex is so good that he keeps coming back for more. A lot of people are trash in bed. STEP YOUR GAME UP. And think like a man. Cmon ladies, we’re the ones with the actual power here. All I see is a bunch of needy clingy men desperate for female attention. It’s always been that way, and always will be.
I will tell a man straight infront of their face bluntly if they don’t treat me right, never let anyone walk all over you. And walk away, bc YOU should value yourself and life in the 1st place.
Reject them! For some this is what they want and need to feel the space they need to feel their longing and desire. The problem with this is once you do return you can never fully rest of drop your guard fully because once you do they will emotionally run and check out again and then you’ve got to go through the whole cycle again. These types also get BORED easily and they like the chase and the competition that drives and compelled them to want you and they will be vulnerable in this state because they are hoping to capture you with this show of emotion and professed need, love and desire until you walk away from their competitors and succumb to their seduction.. if you can keep good game going indefinitely by all means do it! If your looking for safety, stability, commitment and true partnership...ForgettaBoutiT! Lol
Men with high self esteem will just walk away from rejection and find someone else...sounds like you've been dealing with weak men who don't love themselves. Your rejection confirms their inner feelings of unworthiness..
LADIES LETS BAND TOGETHER AND JUST STRAIGHT IGNORE ALL THESE DUDES! HAHAHHA I Swear im soooo tired of wasting my time, energy and money on tryin to get the guy that wont make up his mind. Last time l decided to give up on this particular guy that I always thought Id end up with I married the next guy i dated and moved 2.5k miles away.... a BIT dramatic indeed but somehow convinced myself that I loved the new guy despite all his red flags (found out much later he actually hooked up with men prior to our marriage and me MOVING ACROSS THE COUNTRY just bc the first guy I mentioned broke my heart and BAD with no reason as to why he didnt wanna be with me. Now present day, divorced from the guy that slept with a dude bc he slept with a dude 2years ago bc 1) I couldnt get past it it grossed me out too much not that i have any problem with the gay community just sayn not my cup of tea) 2) THE GUY I MENTIONED FIRST WANTED ME BACK! so i moved back home for this guy just to get dumped again then met another guy was happy with him til the first guy CAME BACK AGAIN and currently wants to take shit sloww rightttttt using me for sex. What an asshole
I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years. He bought us a house & me a car & we were working on making kids together. I started to work on myself & getting better (still working on myself & feeling great about me) .. We are currently in a trial separation & he didn't want me moving out. but he went to his moms & came back every now & again. every time he came back, i didn't push a conversation of "what's going on with us" & just stayed myself.. To put it bluntly; I’m lost & confused.
Are you still having sex, cooking cleaning etc for him? Because if he's still getting all the benefits of being in a normal relationship then things will continue to say that way and you will remain in a state of confusion.
Who wants a man who is needy? No way! He shouldn't want a needy woman either. If both aren't healthy, it's unhealthy. I have a motto I created that I live by. A person with problems will be a problem to you.
I love the business analogies and lingo (ROI etc.); it helps us remember that we are in a negotiation (is this guy worthy? If yes = relationship is the goal) and it helps us maintain our power vs giving everything away too fast and too soon without qualifying the guy first. Keep'em vids coming Elliott... you are EN FUEGO!! 😆 💥 😘
I didn’t give him a good morning text he messaged me and asked if he could bring me a morning cup of coffee at my work keep them guessing and you are right a man that chooses you instead of the other way around really wanted you
This is silly. You can’t accommodate a player. A non player man wants what he gets all the time. A player can be investing and still not playing for keeps.
I think there is some truth to hurting the guy. Act cold and he will chase - the need to make it feel better? My guy left. I told him I loved him so much over text! He came back but I haven't allowed him access to me. He keeps saying goodbye but he can't stay sway. I told him no free access and he wants to know the cost of re-entry. Guys don't like "no" especially if you're sweet.
IKR 💙... just start working out more and make sure to keep your smile "bright" as possible...they hate when we lose weight and smell delicious 😋...show them we are content and happy with it WITHOUT THEM!...THIS MAKES YOU MYSTERIOUSLY ATTRACTIVE!
My male bestie, is my happy thought and my husband, we're trying again, but he's been trying to chat up my next door neighbour when we were separated, cos he's not gonna be so sure about me. I'll NEVER give up my male bestie.
I know you said dating is a game, Elliot, and I get it. I just wish it weren't and that people could express their emotions authentically without trying to "play" one another.
I follow so many of these channels and the content is really intriguing yet I always smh at how many games are needed to just....date 😕. What did previous generations do without the books and UA-cam channels? It's mind boggling.
How did we do it without social media back in the 90s it’s simple we wrote a letter gave it to them or sent it if they replied great if not o well. We also told them to there face 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
Chuck Lol I’m thankful I’m an eighties baby. I had a chance to see the traditional values on what this country was built on and I snagged my bread winning husband before this new era of online illusionist and male female role reversal. I got a chance to witness the era of 30-40 year marriages. You’re absolutely correct in your comment in regards to reality, morals, roles, etc. with marriage two people work together and decide it’s us in this forever ♾ tackling life one day at a time in absolute support of each other and their children.
Men only had to choose from women in their social groups or out in public with a chance meet, where as now they can open their phone and lay in bed and scroll through thousands of women. Back then men would either marry the woman he wanted or she would leave him and marry someone else. That’s just as simple as it is
who the hell wants a needy guy? Even if that huge crush comes falling back a year later, who wants him stalking around looking to reenlist his old source slipped away to fulfill his narcissistic needs all over again? Launch!
What happens when u don't want to give "him" validation because u have had bad experiences with guys. If he's not needy then he isn't going to show care n respect.
Same girl. I'm looking at it this way, hes either interested or nah. Can tell by how much he reaches out or doesnt. My guy is starting to go hot and cold so I've already prepared to mentally jump ship.
If he's not paying you, hes playing you. Dont give your attention and energy freely to men. He should be providing and paying bills. It's bare minimum role of a real man.
Your videos are so helpful I just did what you're saying in this video the other day even before you released it. I thought it does keep him very attracted 😅
Hi Elliot,1 min into the video and I must admit I'm guilty of seeing things through rose colored glasses ugh,I'm getting better.Also the guy I'm interested in likes plenty of attention and validation from me.He likes to video chat me but hasn't had the courage to see me in person yet we live like 1 hr drive apart. Next time he wants to video chat I'm just going to ask him when he's available to meet up and avoid the video chat👌✌🍀
Patricia Earley don’t ask someone to see you if they don’t ask that themselves first. Why would you be more interested in someone who hasn’t shown interest? Stop wasting your time playing on the internet with time wasters! Just tell him you can’t facetime and if he doesn’t put two and two together, cut him off. He isn’t the only man on the planet.
LOL.. prevention and early detection... like a medical issue. He's right. One person explained it like this; giving is masculine and putting on a pedastel. (sp?). The feminine shouldbe on the pedastel and receiving. I never saw it like that until recently and it makes sense. When he does for you, you give positive affirmation (like for good behavior) but you don't return the behaviour. It has opened my eyes. It's not a game, it's keeping it in the way it should be for women to protect themselves.
I helped my male bestie have a better relationship with his partner, based on what I want from my husband, so at the end of the day I'm not needy nor impossible. She's happy with what I told him to do to make things better
Elliott could you tell us how long should a first date last? I’ve been going on dates lately and as a woman it takes awhile to get ready and look super hot, probably 2 hours. Then I go on dates with these men who only want to go out for and hour maybe 1.5 hours. Is this normal or are they wasting my time? How long should a first date or dates in general last?
So at the beginning stages..date 1 or date 2 let's say, the Man should be initiating texts correct? I can reply if I'm interested but not initiate? I'm still confused lol
Maria Suska yes I’ve been dating a guy for 2 months we text once or twice a week and see each other every 2 weeks , I follow his lead and little by little he’s chasing me
what if he doesn't know what he wants.... and doesn't want a relationship cos he got out of one 2/3 months ago... :/ bare in mind that im friends with benefits with this guy and i want him to realize that i'm here for him , should i give him time because i dont wan't to rush it? thank you if you answer :) & your videos are great.
I don’t understand if I should be cold or sweet and attentive to a guy cause every videos different. Or when I should be distant and when I should be nicer and seem interested to not make him lose interest. Guys are confusing to me…
You should be yourself and let the chips fall where they man, instead of "acting" in some way to get a reaction out of him. All your relationships will be flawed if you go about it this way.
@@mhill88ify that makes sense but I’ve seen a lot of relationships in my life fail. I also have trust issues because of trauma as well as other problems that make me withdraw from people, but also crave connection, so it makes me bipolar and confused on how I should interact with people to not make them hate me lol. I’ve seen girls that are really nice and the guys lose interest so I think there is a balance that some girls just naturally know that I’m still learning about tbh because of inexperience.
@@adotintheuniverse7174 Well hey good luck...if you keep listening to this clown (who makes these videos), you're sure to end up with a weak minded, low self-esteem dude. I've noticed a lot of his coaching tips will filter for those types. It also sounds like you're leaning heavily on a victimization mindset, because of a few failed relationships...which WE ALL have to deal with (well most of us). Good luck being genuine, I hope you figure it out.
MIRROR him. He text, you text. He stops, you stop. He pulls back, you pull back. He ignores, you ignore. He flakes, you flake. He rejects you, you reject him. He cancels, you cancel. And so on and so forth. Let him LEAD.
@@ak-47intelligence75 so at the start of dating (after 1st date) should he be the one always initiating texts? I get confused if I can text him as well although my intuition says no until we have at least more than 3 dates?
@@Fantasyisland25 That is correct. Let him initiate. Or else, how will you measure his level of interest in you ? If you text then YOURE interested. He isnt. Of course if he is your husband then that's different altogether , you can text first, you have status as his wife but the initial stages of dating, theres plenty of uncertainty and therefore, let him charm and put in effort. Let him define what you have with him. Let him show you that you can trust he wants a relationship with you. You just sit back and relax. If he doesnt step up, that's your answer. He is not interested.
What to do about an on and off relationship bc he is wishy washy and values his sisters opinion too much(she doesn't like me and hasnt even spent more than 5min with me so they are close)
i realse that i truly love him after he broke up with him my ignorance and attention to others guys made him change now im changed i want him back since one week we broke up blocked him in social media and whatsapp no contact rule followed - can i only unblock him on whatsapp but i will still follow no contact rule?
Step away for awhile in a positive manner emotionally detached, cool and get busy elsewhere. I’m sorry to say this but its true. Some men don’t see the value unless others are “Valueing” its not going to be easy to do becuz your heart is with this man your with now. But you have to force yourself out of it and into a new vibe becuz it’s that vibe that’s going to drive him towards you and propel him to make more of an effort. This is reset point. Don’t go back to the same dynamic it will take the wind out of his sales relatively quickly. He needs to see other Men on your tail and your energy being drawn away from him towards these other guys. Don’t rush back into the old situation though until he meets you half way and is making some kind of offer.
Elliot, I love him so much... I would like to give him a xmas present because I love him. BUT, he is a proud man, and won't appreciate it, methinks. What do you think??
Olivia solidcatink we can be generous. But we need to have boundaries. Over extending yourself will not make you attractive in a man’s eyes. Especially one that hasn’t offered you anything. You are the prize, not him. Take the love you have for him and invest it in yourself 💕
Olivia solidcatink if you will get him an Xmas present, you will regret giving it to him. He’s not your husband but just a boyfriend who doesn’t appreciate you or your gift. Please do yourself a favor. Get a gift for yourself. If he truly loved you he is the one who will get you the gift. You are the greatest gift. What’s between your legs is the gift he is getting everyday that he doesn’t deserve. Please stop spreading open your legs for him. If he truly loved you he will marry you. Wake up.
Even my husband or bf never got nothing from me.. I just feel it isn't lady like. It feels wrong for me.. and dont expect or demand anything either but if you get a gift from him except it with smile..
I think I ruined things with a guy with investing too much and seeming needy to him 🥺 should I just break off all contact and don’t talk to him? He doesn’t initiate at all so I’m kinda wasting my time. All he wants is sex and sometimes when I say do you even want to talk to me? He goes on and says yes you’re cool but why does he do that. It sounds like he’s just stringing me along and letting time pass. It’s not like I want to date him but I have invested myself so much that I fell for the idea for him and keep telling myself that I won’t catch feelings but I end up doing that. I can’t stop talking to this guy but also want attention from him. I can’t get out of this loop.
Elliot Scott I’ve tried to but always end up coming back. The worst part is I have a really good intuition and know that’s what I’m supposed to do and stop chasing but it is so hard too.
Hi Elliot ! LOL great to see you again... how's that twin bed? LOL i love teasing you... anyway, GET THIS : met with the ex today and he still loves me, and wants me back. I was reserved and mysterious... got to get him hooked!
My mom always said a relationship that will only last, is when a man loves you more. A man who is more needy than you? 🤷♀️
Yes I've heard that before. Maybe... a man who is not in the same league, older or more needy...
Sarah M Y’all putting these slime balls on pedal tools lmao
That's the only way.
Pedal tools 😂😂😂
Aude lol
I’m done with games. Guys decide when or if a relationship starts and then guys decide when they’re over it and they end it. The only game women have to play is distancing herself and remaining a challenge and remaining “uninterested” in him. Women can’t even get their intimacy needs met. Once you have sex it’s over. I’m seeing a guy right now and I can’t even message him, I can’t have sex with him, I can’t call him or reach out to him.. I have to constantly wait for him. Relationships only work when the guy wants it more than the girl does and the only way to make them want you is to distance yourself and give him as little of yourself as possible. How the fuck is that even a relationship? There’s no such thing as relationships, just little boys getting tired with their toys and then wanting a new toy and a new toy and a new toy. They want a bigger and better toy than the next guy, and they want to damage all the toys so the other boys can’t have a nice toy. It’s all about him. Elliot is rambling on about investments and gambling; polling and debt, wtf?? this is how immature men are. Little babies wanting their toys. Commitment is a guys game, women have no power unless they give nothing to him and treat him like garbage. Women get none of their intimacy or emotional needs met, it’s all about playing these bullshit ‘I’m a challenge and uninterested’ games to make him want something he can’t have. What’s the fucking point?
Xx I completely agree with that! At least for most connections in the beginning, that's how it is and it won't get further where a real relationship will develop. In this time of dating apps and plethora of possibilities and women being more accessible, men really have the power. Not only are we largely more emotional and consequently less adept at games, but we also are ignorant of the games men play. Their bigger trick being the full on romance (from zero to 100) then they start to express doubts and pull back from the romance, now women are hooked and attached so they stick around, look for videos on male psychology, try to be content with the breadcrumbs he gives her. How sad! Especially when it happens again and again. I don't even see guys on dating apps that really want to date. They only seem to be looking for a hookup .
I feel you when you say how frustrating it is to have to play a part and not having your needs for intimacy and connection met. I've also thought that maybe women need to find men that are less attractive than they are, men who will be more than happy to make the relationship work. If you look at some female celebrities, their men are often less attractive but probably they can be real partners.
I also believe that beyond the whole seduction games, we need to share interests and values. Or it can't become a long term relationship. I'm also dealing with a guy who was very interested in me, said he wanted the same things. Gradually he started to pull back, and has acted very confusing since then. He's 42 so you'd think he should now what he wants. But no actually, I suppose if he can get attention and validation from female "friends", that's enough to meet his needs. While I don't get mine met. So I decided to disappear and not chase him like he must want me to. I refuse to chase someone who is not fully in, who is too confusing.
Listen, I hear you and understand where you're coming from. After 4 years of this kind of relationship of back and forth hoping he would change, I said Enough. I decided to focus on myself and in the process found better man who saw my value for what it was. Show him what happiness looks like on you without him. There are still good men out there, you can't find them while you are still chasing the wrong one. The one you want at the moment is obviously not the right one. Elliott is referring to men who love you, but are unsure of what they want. In a relationship, you can't give a man 100% of your time. If he knows he can always have you there is no rush, you will always be the one he will keep around just in case to fill his lonely nights. Ask yourself: Can I settle for that? Do I want to settle for that? The answer is No! You are worth more than that and there are tons of other guys waiting to give you everything your looking for!🤞
Damn! You really described my life s conclusion about guys! Really, what is the point of dating or having a relationship with a guy when a big majority of guys will give you this experience? / Bitter 30 year old swedish woman
Xx xX It’s not over when you have sex if sex is so good that he keeps coming back for more. A lot of people are trash in bed. STEP YOUR GAME UP. And think like a man. Cmon ladies, we’re the ones with the actual power here. All I see is a bunch of needy clingy men desperate for female attention. It’s always been that way, and always will be.
Xx xX god bless you you said it all I’m feeling the same way
I will tell a man straight infront of their face bluntly if they don’t treat me right, never let anyone walk all over you. And walk away, bc YOU should value yourself and life in the 1st place.
I can get a man to be needy. Its so easy. You need to get him to fall in love first.
I'd rather play the piano or harmonica 🎶 than try to figure out a man...try it!🎼🎹💙
Ohhh. The harp.
Dates is a waste of time. Men do not love. Either date for money or just don’t bother. Men only date for sex or to find the next victim to abuse.
Correct
That is not true. Seek better men.
Elliot “I don’t think you should play games but you can use this to get power back”. Wow love that
Reject them! For some this is what they want and need to feel the space they need to feel their longing and desire. The problem with this is once you do return you can never fully rest of drop your guard fully because once you do they will emotionally run and check out again and then you’ve got to go through the whole cycle again. These types also get BORED easily and they like the chase and the competition that drives and compelled them to want you and they will be vulnerable in this state because they are hoping to capture you with this show of emotion and professed need, love and desire until you walk away from their competitors and succumb to their seduction.. if you can keep good game going indefinitely by all means do it! If your looking for safety, stability, commitment and true partnership...ForgettaBoutiT! Lol
Men with high self esteem will just walk away from rejection and find someone else...sounds like you've been dealing with weak men who don't love themselves. Your rejection confirms their inner feelings of unworthiness..
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That's why I have three 😅
A dogs love is true love.
Yick.. The last time I dated a "needy" man, I ignored red flags and ended up stuck with a narcissist.
LADIES LETS BAND TOGETHER AND JUST STRAIGHT IGNORE ALL THESE DUDES! HAHAHHA I Swear im soooo tired of wasting my time, energy and money on tryin to get the guy that wont make up his mind. Last time l decided to give up on this particular guy that I always thought Id end up with I married the next guy i dated and moved 2.5k miles away.... a BIT dramatic indeed but somehow convinced myself that I loved the new guy despite all his red flags (found out much later he actually hooked up with men prior to our marriage and me MOVING ACROSS THE COUNTRY just bc the first guy I mentioned broke my heart and BAD with no reason as to why he didnt wanna be with me. Now present day, divorced from the guy that slept with a dude bc he slept with a dude 2years ago bc 1) I couldnt get past it it grossed me out too much not that i have any problem with the gay community just sayn not my cup of tea)
2) THE GUY I MENTIONED FIRST WANTED ME BACK! so i moved back home for this guy just to get dumped again then met another guy was happy with him til the first guy CAME BACK AGAIN and currently wants to take shit sloww rightttttt using me for sex. What an asshole
I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years. He bought us a house & me a car & we were working on making kids together. I started to work on myself & getting better (still working on myself & feeling great about me) .. We are currently in a trial separation & he didn't want me moving out. but he went to his moms & came back every now & again. every time he came back, i didn't push a conversation of "what's going on with us" & just stayed myself.. To put it bluntly; I’m lost & confused.
Are you still having sex, cooking cleaning etc for him? Because if he's still getting all the benefits of being in a normal relationship then things will continue to say that way and you will remain in a state of confusion.
Who wants a man who is needy? No way! He shouldn't want a needy woman either. If both aren't healthy, it's unhealthy. I have a motto I created that I live by. A person with problems will be a problem to you.
I love the business analogies and lingo (ROI etc.); it helps us remember that we are in a negotiation (is this guy worthy? If yes = relationship is the goal) and it helps us maintain our power vs giving everything away too fast and too soon without qualifying the guy first. Keep'em vids coming Elliott... you are EN FUEGO!! 😆 💥 😘
I didn’t give him a good morning text he messaged me and asked if he could bring me a morning cup of coffee at my work keep them guessing and you are right a man that chooses you instead of the other way around really wanted you
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I miss the old days men. Did not play as many games.
The old days men are dead & gone hunty...
Same!!!!
This is silly. You can’t accommodate a player. A non player man wants what he gets all the time. A player can be investing and still not playing for keeps.
Why Bother female player pride
Exactly. There are many facets to this problem.
Well with a name like why bother, I'm not surprised you're feeling this way but you still gave him the view so congratulations.
I think there is some truth to hurting the guy. Act cold and he will chase - the need to make it feel better? My guy left. I told him I loved him so much over text! He came back but I haven't allowed him access to me. He keeps saying goodbye but he can't stay sway. I told him no free access and he wants to know the cost of re-entry. Guys don't like "no" especially if you're sweet.
So true!
If he left then why even respond
@@Sam-fg9lf It was my fault he left. Sometimes you have to shake things up to see where you stand.
IKR 💙... just start working out more and make sure to keep your smile "bright" as possible...they hate when we lose weight and smell delicious 😋...show them we are content and happy with it WITHOUT THEM!...THIS MAKES YOU MYSTERIOUSLY ATTRACTIVE!
My male bestie, is my happy thought and my husband, we're trying again, but he's been trying to chat up my next door neighbour when we were separated, cos he's not gonna be so sure about me. I'll NEVER give up my male bestie.
I know you said dating is a game, Elliot, and I get it. I just wish it weren't and that people could express their emotions authentically without trying to "play" one another.
I follow so many of these channels and the content is really intriguing yet I always smh at how many games are needed to just....date 😕.
What did previous generations do without the books and UA-cam channels? It's mind boggling.
I know.
Couldn’t agree more...
How did we do it without social media back in the 90s it’s simple we wrote a letter gave it to them or sent it if they replied great if not o well. We also told them to there face 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
Chuck Lol I’m thankful I’m an eighties baby. I had a chance to see the traditional values on what this country was built on and I snagged my bread winning husband before this new era of online illusionist and male female role reversal. I got a chance to witness the era of 30-40 year marriages. You’re absolutely correct in your comment in regards to reality, morals, roles, etc. with marriage two people work together and decide it’s us in this forever ♾ tackling life one day at a time in absolute support of each other and their children.
Men only had to choose from women in their social groups or out in public with a chance meet, where as now they can open their phone and lay in bed and scroll through thousands of women. Back then men would either marry the woman he wanted or she would leave him and marry someone else. That’s just as simple as it is
who the hell wants a needy guy? Even if that huge crush comes falling back a year later, who wants him stalking around looking to reenlist his old source slipped away to fulfill his narcissistic needs all over again? Launch!
Whats going on people! Merry Xmas to all of you!
What happens when u don't want to give "him" validation because u have had bad experiences with guys.
If he's not needy then he isn't going to show care n respect.
Claire Louise, you're so beautiful 💓💓💓💓❤
On point. Your insights are much appreciated. Elliot is the best ❤️
YOU BE SPEAKING FACTS!!!!
I'm in a long distance relationship and don't know if he is for real or just using me.
Same girl. I'm looking at it this way, hes either interested or nah. Can tell by how much he reaches out or doesnt. My guy is starting to go hot and cold so I've already prepared to mentally jump ship.
So ?? I wanna know what happened next
If he's not paying you, hes playing you. Dont give your attention and energy freely to men. He should be providing and paying bills. It's bare minimum role of a real man.
Always love your introduction Haha
Your videos are so helpful I just did what you're saying in this video the other day even before you released it. I thought it does keep him very attracted 😅
These videos helped me get my man back for real long term hes talking bout the future and everything. Now i get to relax again lol x
Cool
How’s you get him back?
Hi Elliot,1 min into the video and I must admit I'm guilty of seeing things through rose colored glasses ugh,I'm getting better.Also the guy I'm interested in likes plenty of attention and validation from me.He likes to video chat me but hasn't had the courage to see me in person yet we live like 1 hr drive apart.
Next time he wants to video chat I'm just going to ask him when he's available to meet up and avoid the video chat👌✌🍀
Patricia Earley don’t ask someone to see you if they don’t ask that themselves first. Why would you be more interested in someone who hasn’t shown interest? Stop wasting your time playing on the internet with time wasters! Just tell him you can’t facetime and if he doesn’t put two and two together, cut him off. He isn’t the only man on the planet.
Ignore the facetime and him for a few days, if he's eager he will want to come see you, just ignore him until he asks for a date.
@@orls9068 Thank you,I'm doing that now lol.It's like reverse psychology😉🙏👌
Tell him you are busy the next time... Make him wait at least an hour before chatting...
He is narcissist or avoidant and keeps you on the shelf??? Probably dating other girls, that's why he is not seing you. You are just a snack :)))
LOL.. prevention and early detection... like a medical issue. He's right. One person explained it like this; giving is masculine and putting on a pedastel. (sp?). The feminine shouldbe on the pedastel and receiving. I never saw it like that until recently and it makes sense. When he does for you, you give positive affirmation (like for good behavior) but you don't return the behaviour. It has opened my eyes. It's not a game, it's keeping it in the way it should be for women to protect themselves.
Early Detection ( he wants the 🍪 cookie./ prevention: DO NOT GIVE OUT THE COOKIE ' SOO SOON "" Got it 💪😂😂😂😂
Why would you want anyone to be needy? The fact that someone desires that reflects something is off internally.
I had fun hanging out
I’m so proud of you! Keep up the great work!
Prevention and early detectcion! Wise words.🤔 Thanks a million. Got me thinking...🙄🤨
Your videos are very good!!! Glad I found your channel!!
Elliot...you said you loved me. Does that mean we'll be together forever? 😉🤣
You’re so cute and helpful hearing from a guy’s perspective. ✌🏻💪🏼
You make this make so much sense. I love your videos
Love you Elliot Scott my favourite dating coach 😘 🔔 ✔️ now ❤️ me 4️⃣ ever! 😘
Glad I found you man !
Great advice !
I helped my male bestie have a better relationship with his partner, based on what I want from my husband, so at the end of the day I'm not needy nor impossible. She's happy with what I told him to do to make things better
I was here before anyone else commented. I was too busy to say I’m first though ... lol
Elliott could you tell us how long should a first date last? I’ve been going on dates lately and as a woman it takes awhile to get ready and look super hot, probably 2 hours. Then I go on dates with these men who only want to go out for and hour maybe 1.5 hours. Is this normal or are they wasting my time? How long should a first date or dates in general last?
The shorter the better. You want to a”cut it short”, or break his expectations in some way.
Elliot can you do a video on who should pay on dates? First/ second/ subsequent dates/ etc.
Thanks in advance!
You are adorable. And more importantly, I like to listen to you. Thanks ELL.
Trisha Mysliwski, you're absolutely gorgeous 💓💓💓💓💓💓❤❤❤and I will be glad to know you
Much needed advice' im subscribing already.
Thank you that means a lot
All is fair in love and war ✨✨✨
My favourite video yet👏👏
Awesome video ❤️
Thanks Elliot love your videos.
This is a good video.
Please give examples of validating a man.
So at the beginning stages..date 1 or date 2 let's say, the Man should be initiating texts correct? I can reply if I'm interested but not initiate? I'm still confused lol
Maria Suska yes I’ve been dating a guy for 2 months we text once or twice a week and see each other every 2 weeks , I follow his lead and little by little he’s chasing me
Im your follower since then.. 😍
what if he doesn't know what he wants.... and doesn't want a relationship cos he got out of one 2/3 months ago... :/
bare in mind that im friends with benefits with this guy and i want him to realize that i'm here for him , should i give him time because i dont wan't to rush it?
thank you if you answer :)
& your videos are great.
He does know, dont listen to his words. His actions say it all
emily prg Move on,you’re just his rebound girl.
@@h10134h10134 ah shit what do you mean tho ?
@@claudiaclaudia8599 ouchhh thank u thoo
He just wants to bang. Period.
Let’s just call it correcting the accidental wrong turn. Not games. :)
Give him that wap and walk away lol
Lmaooo
*perspective* indeed 😌
this is IMPORTANT SHIT.
I don’t understand if I should be cold or sweet and attentive to a guy cause every videos different. Or when I should be distant and when I should be nicer and seem interested to not make him lose interest. Guys are confusing to me…
You should be yourself and let the chips fall where they man, instead of "acting" in some way to get a reaction out of him. All your relationships will be flawed if you go about it this way.
@@mhill88ify that makes sense but I’ve seen a lot of relationships in my life fail. I also have trust issues because of trauma as well as other problems that make me withdraw from people, but also crave connection, so it makes me bipolar and confused on how I should interact with people to not make them hate me lol. I’ve seen girls that are really nice and the guys lose interest so I think there is a balance that some girls just naturally know that I’m still learning about tbh because of inexperience.
@@adotintheuniverse7174 Well hey good luck...if you keep listening to this clown (who makes these videos), you're sure to end up with a weak minded, low self-esteem dude. I've noticed a lot of his coaching tips will filter for those types. It also sounds like you're leaning heavily on a victimization mindset, because of a few failed relationships...which WE ALL have to deal with (well most of us). Good luck being genuine, I hope you figure it out.
So go slower than he is ?
MIRROR him.
He text, you text.
He stops, you stop.
He pulls back, you pull back.
He ignores, you ignore.
He flakes, you flake.
He rejects you, you reject him.
He cancels, you cancel.
And so on and so forth. Let him LEAD.
@@ak-47intelligence75 thank you :)
@@ak-47intelligence75 yep match his energy entirely!
@@ak-47intelligence75 so at the start of dating (after 1st date) should he be the one always initiating texts? I get confused if I can text him as well although my intuition says no until we have at least more than 3 dates?
@@Fantasyisland25 That is correct.
Let him initiate. Or else, how will you measure his level of interest in you ?
If you text then YOURE interested.
He isnt.
Of course if he is your husband then that's different altogether , you can text first, you have status as his wife but the initial stages of dating, theres plenty of uncertainty and therefore, let him charm and put in effort.
Let him define what you have with him.
Let him show you that you can trust he wants a relationship with you.
You just sit back and relax.
If he doesnt step up, that's your answer. He is not interested.
What to do about an on and off relationship bc he is wishy washy and values his sisters opinion too much(she doesn't like me and hasnt even spent more than 5min with me so they are close)
i realse that i truly love him after he broke up with him my ignorance and attention to others guys made him change now im changed i want him back since one week we broke up blocked him in social media and whatsapp no contact rule followed - can i only unblock him on whatsapp but i will still follow no contact rule?
This is great
Talked allot about a problem and still didn't give a solution.
Why would you want make a guy needy?
hello do you need help on how to get your ex back or restore someone you love
I can help you out
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How can I get my friend with benefits to commit through slow transition without him taking me for granted?
Stop giving him the benefits
Step away for awhile in a positive manner emotionally detached, cool and get busy elsewhere. I’m sorry to say this but its true. Some men don’t see the value unless others are “Valueing” its not going to be easy to do becuz your heart is with this man your with now. But you have to force yourself out of it and into a new vibe becuz it’s that vibe that’s going to drive him towards you and propel him to make more of an effort. This is reset point. Don’t go back to the same dynamic it will take the wind out of his sales relatively quickly. He needs to see other Men on your tail and your energy being drawn away from him towards these other guys. Don’t rush back into the old situation though until he meets you half way and is making some kind of offer.
@@madeinhisimage3447 That's when you continue to move on! Let him see you happy with someone else.
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I like man like you
Elliot, I love him so much... I would like to give him a xmas present because I love him. BUT, he is a proud man, and won't appreciate it, methinks. What do you think??
Olivia solidcatink no do not give him a gift if he is not your boyfriend or in a committed relationship !!!!!
@@SK-no2pp you are right. my problem is that i am a very generous person.
Olivia solidcatink we can be generous. But we need to have boundaries. Over extending yourself will not make you attractive in a man’s eyes. Especially one that hasn’t offered you anything. You are the prize, not him. Take the love you have for him and invest it in yourself 💕
Olivia solidcatink if you will get him an Xmas present, you will regret giving it to him. He’s not your husband but just a boyfriend who doesn’t appreciate you or your gift. Please do yourself a favor. Get a gift for yourself. If he truly loved you he is the one who will get you the gift. You are the greatest gift. What’s between your legs is the gift he is getting everyday that he doesn’t deserve. Please stop spreading open your legs for him. If he truly loved you he will marry you. Wake up.
Even my husband or bf never got nothing from me.. I just feel it isn't lady like. It feels wrong for me.. and dont expect or demand anything either but if you get a gift from him except it with smile..
I think I ruined things with a guy with investing too much and seeming needy to him 🥺 should I just break off all contact and don’t talk to him? He doesn’t initiate at all so I’m kinda wasting my time. All he wants is sex and sometimes when I say do you even want to talk to me? He goes on and says yes you’re cool but why does he do that. It sounds like he’s just stringing me along and letting time pass. It’s not like I want to date him but I have invested myself so much that I fell for the idea for him and keep telling myself that I won’t catch feelings but I end up doing that. I can’t stop talking to this guy but also want attention from him. I can’t get out of this loop.
yes break it off
go no contact. he will chase you in about 3 weeks
Elliot Scott I’ve tried to but always end up coming back. The worst part is I have a really good intuition and know that’s what I’m supposed to do and stop chasing but it is so hard too.
Olivia solidcatink I don’t think so. If he is interested in just getting physical. Plus he never initiates. I have gone two weeks before and nothing.
Nadya Reinhart Let him go! You will find someone who will reciprocate your emotions, don’t waste your energy on someone who isn’t!💛
I'm ready
Awesome thanks
Hi Elliot ! LOL great to see you again... how's that twin bed? LOL i love teasing you... anyway, GET THIS : met with the ex today and he still loves me, and wants me back. I was reserved and mysterious... got to get him hooked!
IT IS A QUEEN!!! lol
@@ElliotScottDating i believe you LOL
What you really need is grapes.
Good afternoon sweetheart 🥰
Ayy! First comment
you get a million dollars now!
🤣
Elliot Scott I wish 😂
congregs! for the milion, right? or it was a joke?
Will a guy stick with a girl even if she ignores his messages or just ignores him? If he truly likes her?
Depends on why you’re ignoring him
No he wont. I pushed a guy away because i wasnt giving enough attention and
He was extremely interested at least at the beginning.
Fk this shit, I'm gonna go get more cats!
Nah I'll pass, been stalked before, too old for games and bs
Cool.....
Love u
Lol it's crazy because now I'm done with the bullshit
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