I already try to show gratitude especially when times are tough so I don’t get too down because I have more positives in my life than negatives. I also always listen to music because it really relaxes me. I am really bad with my phone, constantly checking it or looking things up on it, and I am aware of it and does drive me nuts! I am going to work on this because it’s not necessary to check your phone every 10 minutes! Ty Vera for these great tips! 🌸
One of my favourite things to do to feel calm and also uplifted is first thing in the morning and last thing at night, is to open the sliding glass door and take a few deep breaths. I love inhaling the fresh air, especially after rain or after the grass has been mown.....its so invigorating :)
Vera, I’m a 73 year old lady and your wisdom always amazes me! I’ve lived long enough to know the truth about most of the things you mentioned but it impresses me when a young person has this all figured too! I appreciate your insight and your willingness to share with others. Thank you!
Yes , I totally agree ! Vera , always so pretty and neat and willing to share her special knowledge , is a huge blessing . I'm 72 . And you do look lovely in that green top !
Yes, I have hugged myself. At my darkest moment where I no longer would wonder" Is there anyone there for me?" That burned, yet as the smoke began to clear I realized that I was there for me so I kissed my shoulders , held myself and saw the road I was to take next.
Watching this as I eat dinner. Fish sticks,Brussels and brown rice. I'm 64 and I really need to do alot more self care. I work 20 hours a week at a hotel. Already love this channel.
I lost my taste and most of my (previously hyper-acute) smell for months with COVID and I cannot believe the emotional, mental, and physical cost of losing it permanently. My heart goes out to you.
We do take ourselves for granted... I , for one , am definitely going to appreciate my body and mind on a daily basis .... on a recent visit to the cemetery , I resolved to be glad I'm still here !
@@MsAdaCat I suffered a head injury 🤕 I’m told it will never come back.
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Hi. Although I've been watching your videos for years, I've never commented because I simply don't comment on anything online. I consume very little internet, but today I took a few minutes to tell you that I love your videos. I watch many of them in a row. They are calming videos. I take this opportunity to tell you that I love lotus. I ate it for the first time in England. Then I returned to Portugal 2 years ago, and I couldn't find it anywhere and my mom, who lives in France, brought it to me at Xmas and summer. Now I can find it in Portugal, both the cookies and the cream. But I am trying your rule, no junk food at the house. ;)
Aw thank you so much for commenting Daniela! So happy to hear you're enjoying my videos :) And yes, the lotus cookies are so nice! I haven't gotten them anymore since filming this video hahaha, because I'll eat them all hihi
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@@SimpleHappyZen When I buy a package, I eat it in one go :D thank you for your kind reply
My morning routine lately has been waking up slowly, spending a few minutes petting my cat who is usually pressed up against my body. It's a lovely way to start the day.
I enjoy watching aquarium or ocean videos with soothing music. My three year old does as well. It’s so relaxing to watch the colorful fish swim around and the music helps me breath deeper and slower. I liked all your tips and I don’t think there is anything embarrassing about enjoying your skin. It’s the largest organ humans have and it has so many nerve endings. People need touch, it makes us feel so good.
I have hugged myself, rocking slowly back and forth. My somatic therapist suggests embracing yourself, crossing both arms across the body as a way of activating the vagus nerve.
this morning, I wrote in my journal how I am grateful for the cold winter weather. I am happy for that fact that I can sit and drink my coffee, tea or cocoa. Binge holiday movies, make homemade soups and stews, enjoy crafting because I don't have to tend to outdoor chores, etc. My husband and I had to do our monthly run around last Friday. I drove this day and I love Christmas music, so I had it on the radio. About the last stop we had to make, he reached over and turned it off saying "can we just turn this s@#$ off now?" It really hurt me that he had to do it like that. He knows I love this time of year, I get emotional very easy because I am so full of joy. I am crying now just thinking of it. I am not a religious person, but I do try to live a more grateful life now. It takes so much energy to get angry over stupid drivers, rude humans, etc. Sorry I went off track, I just connected right away when you said you liked the rainy cold weather. Stay well Vera. ❤
Hi Vera. Thanks for this video. Many years ago, a yoga teacher started adding a self-hug to our routine, and it definitely felt physically good. But that's all I felt, because it was quick and my mood was already fine. More recently, I have been going through some pretty intense personal stuff, and one day I was simply bawling and there was no one I could turn to for a hug, and so I tried hugging myself. I immediately felt a bit comforted, so I hugged my self tighter and allowed myself to just keep crying, and I comforted myself emotionally the way I would for my children or someone else I deeply care about. It was so helpful!! It really DID comfort me. ♥
I know I need self care when I hear you in my mind saying “maybe make a nice cup of tea...” I know it’s time to slow down, check in with myself to gain the sense of presence and feeling safe. I do this as often as I need everyday, it’s even the first thing I do when I wake up. I appreciate all you share with us (smelling for comfort is not weird at all) we all have differing 🎉comforts, and the power of the senses is essential to tune into- this how we all learned about our world as newborns- this is an innate desire and practice ❤
I start my day by writing in my gratitude diary 10 things I'm grateful for (it does get repetitious, but heck). Then I read a bit, or watch some of my favourite videos. Yours are one of them. I dress, make my bed, and do some light exercise, then start the day. I do this about 95% of the time.
I no longer need to show off “collectable figurines” in display cases. I try not to collect useless souvenirs from vacations. My exception is Christmas Tree Ornaments. I write on the back (or on a sticker) where I was and who I was with. Often, I’d buy two - say one I like + one my husband would like. Now that we are preparing to divorce, I’ve sorted the travel tree ornaments into a hers pile and a his pile. This is a wonderful channel 😊
I am like you, I NEED to take time in the morning, something that puzzles my husband ;-) I need to meditate, journal, stretch, exercise, drink water, tea and then I am ready to have a great day. Although I am much older than you, your experience helps me understand better and accept my "needs" so thank you for your openness.
It’s good to hear these. As Iranians we are going through a lot these days. My only peaceful moment away from horrific news were when I watched your video. Great suggestions for people going through revolutions or wars these days. Life can be surreal sometimes. Thanks Vera 🦋 #womanlifefreedom
So sorry you have to go through this worry and sad times. Be sure to take time during your day to focus on simple, good things. Sometimes we forget how many wonderful people, places and things are in the world.
These are some great tips. I practice most of them. Regarding a technology break: I leave my phone at home when I go on my morning walk (part of my morning routine before returning home to make a mug of green tea or matcha tea latte) and turn it off for the day about an hour before going to bed. I leave it downstairs in my desk drawer. I have a no electronics rule in the bedroom.
I didn't know hugging yourself was a thing that other people did. A few years ago I discovered that hugging myself as I'm drifting off to sleep was very comforting. A good nights sleep is important to me so I developed a few habits that work for me. Thank you for the reminders and new ideas as well for self care.
Vera your not weird. I like feel of soft skin, especially holding my grandchild and his skin is so soft and he has the “baby” smell, it’s so relaxing. I have been very stressed lately and I was given permission from my therapist to shut my phone off for two days why my wife and I had a weekend away. We had a room at a hotel and did absolutely nothing! It was very relaxing. I also have “smart hearing aides that my phone notifications can go through so I hear my text messages. I shut all that off as well and it helps, especially when being part of a group chat and everyone responds over and over, very distracting and now I don’t pay attention any more! Check it a few times a day is all! Thank you!
Sounds like a wonderful weekend away!! :) So happy you found it helpful. I can imagine getting notifications like that can be a lot. Take care and wishing you and your wife all the best for 2023!! Wishing you a wonderful 2023!! 🤗🌺✨🍵
Today I cried at the mall because an old man was playing a beautiful Christmas song on the piano and it touched my heart. I love these tips. I already put my face to my shoulder I do that too lol. Yes I give myself a hug sometimes too lol although I prefer my husbands bear hugs. Yes I want to implement a morning routine as well as evening routine that would be similar but tailored for morning or evening. Such as change the type of tea to a bedtime tea, a meditation, a night time book, stretch or night time qi gong as well as journaling. Maybe not all those everyday but that is the goal. Because of you I've had the courage to not sleep by my phone. And more and more courage to say no to the phone stress. Your videos always reduce stress for me and make me feel happy and calm 😄
Vera I completely agree with your morning routine thoughts 💚 I wake up slow & put on a positive show on Netflix that makes me smile (usually involving animals or nature!), rather than looking at the news straight away.
Hi, Vera, It's Kaede here. Yesterday I suffered from period pain, so I didn't do anything yesterday. I wake up this morning and feel better, so I do my homework (writing case study report) right after waking up. It's very effective to do it in the morning. I finished it within an hour. Then, I prepared myself, changing clothes, and eating breakfast, and planning my coming studio setup. After a while, I have a rest, and here I am, watching your video. It's 10am in the morning here. After this, I will continue planning for necessary things to buy for my studio. After few years practicing minimalism, I was strict to my morning routine, but it changed to a more flexible routine with a general rule which is to slow down and enjoy every moment in the morning. I might do yoga today, doing meditation tomorrow, writing report or reading the other day. It might vary everyday, but I make sure I am mindful and enjoy every moment.
Great video! I love putting away the phone, spending the morning drinking coffee while watching my dogs play. I love the 5,4,3,2,1 exercise. Beautiful!
I’m beginning to wait before checking my phone each morning and it’s so much more peaceful this way. I also just purchased The 6-Minute Journal you recommended in a different video for practicing Gratitude. Another tip you offered in a different video was to be aware of multitasking. I’m finding it amazing how often I am watching a movie or a UA-cam video while scrolling through my phone or sitting down to read while being distracted by having a text conversation. I’m now only doing one thing at the time. It’s a little bit hard to put into practice (breaking the old habit) but it is bringing me a lot of peace and reducing a lot of stress. Thank you so much for the great content! I enjoy learning and putting into practice all of your wise advice 💛
You are so right about not watching news right at waking ( or before bed) I like to play my piano in the morning, with a cup of English Breakfast or Earl Grey tea . Starting my day with the sweetest most beautiful sounding musical instrument sets me up for a beautiful day
The most powerful tip, breathe, smile, hug yourself, and love yourself, then allow the tears of joy. Once you master this practice, everything else falls into place 👍
I had a plan of sitting down with my son every night to talk about, and write down, 3 good things from the day. That turned out to be difficult to do in the long run, so what we ended up doing was doing it at dinner time since we always eat dinner as a family. So every day at dinner time, we take turn around the table and say 3 things we are thankful for. Sometimes it’s something we did together, sometimes it’s something that’s happened during the day, sometimes it’s just that we are thankful for our family, sometimes it is that we are thankful for a warm and safe house or a comfortable bed to sleep in. I’m thankful for this tradition that we started because it makes us focus on good things in our lives. ❤
Hello Vera I just found you and subscribed of course because all of these things are wonderful and it’s 72 I need to remember self-care. I love what she said about anticipatory anxiety. I suffered from anxiety in my entire life and agoraphobia.Writing things down saved my life. I still have my anxious moments but your video made me feel so calm. Thank you. Sending warm aloha praises your way
Great video. I actually do hug/hold myself to go to sleep at night. Along with listening to some of my favorite calm music playlists. It's my way of kinda cuddling myself within the sound. Music is POWERFUL man I'm really glad you included focused music listening as one of your talking points as well 🙏
Simple technology is good, but real life is even better. Get outside and play. Walk in the sun. Smile at others. Breathe deeply and enjoy the sights and sounds. Beautiful and helpful video!
This is so true about the first hour of the day! My husband and I used to wake up early, get coffee going, cozy up on the couch together and .... !!!! discuss a war in Ukraine, a sharp interest rate increase and Toronto rental market. No wonder we were stressed all day! Now, I start my day with your channel!
Thanks for this video! It confirms that self care is important in our life right now especially with all that's going on around us. Started stretching and meditating when I wake up, taking 15 minutes walks at work, listening to jazz music on my drive home to clear my mind and gratitude meditation before I sleep. Will continue to do this the best that I can. Thank you so much!!!
This was wonderful, Vera. Love all of these ideas. I do several of them. Lotion, pajamas...going to see my 2 little grand babies today and hug them. Like medicine for the soul. Have a great week.
Hi Vera, this video was just what I needed today ! I’m feeling a bit low and stuck these days, I’m weirdly relieved to know I’m not the only one… I’ll try to get more fresh air and less screen time ! As soon as I post this comment, I’ll turn off my iPad and go for a walk :) Thank you for all your video, have a nice day !
listening to my CD'S more, reading a book instead of watching so much T.V. not making myself always available for people. love your down to earth tips & taking CARE of myself more instead of others, being kind to myself & take time to. see the world around me & breath in its beauty
You have such a soothing presence. I like your reminders for achieving personal peace. Also, totally off topic, you have such beautiful skin. Luminous is a word thrown around but it really applies to you. I am now 70 and luckily long before it was fashionable my mother warned against too much sun exposure. I never had the patience to lay in the sun, but I was an avid bicyclist and cross country skier and wear sun screen. For age 70, my fair skin is in pretty good shape. Take care of your gift.
I gave myself a hug while you were talking about it and it felt soooo goood. Its something Ive been practising lately. Thank you for the reminder. I love every tip you mentioned and realise I am practisng a lot of them. It has been challenging being a HSP in a healing journey. Learning to love myself has been the greatest gift...I'm still learning. I have only just discovered your videos and very glad I did.
Love my morning routine 😊it’s very important!!! I actually use most of your suggestions! Thank you for reminding me I’m on the right track! Happy weekend!
Vera, it felt great to just have a cup of tea with you. It is always good to be reminded of the simple things. Recently, I realized how much taking a walk can improve my mood but I don’t do it that often or besides when I’m commuting. Or something as simple as looking at the sky! Loved your video. Have a lovely day, full of inspiration (and tea!)
Love your tips ... One I do is I get up and move around for 5 mins each hour... Love that my fitbit buzzs at 10 mins to the hour if I have not walked 250 steps... this helps me take a minute and I feel that it also makes me much more productive at work... 11. Move your body :).
I'm practicing most of these tips, I've been working on creating and improving a morning routine, and I started drinking matcha again in the morning thanks to you reminding me that I enjoyed it. It's a little act of self care everyday that makes me feel calmer.
Watching your videos is part of my morning routine- or at least, that's how it is for today as I'm getting some light chores done. I appreciate that I can access your channel and get value from your content at any time I want! 😊❤️
Fabulous tips Vera and a wonderful reminder of the importance of slowing down and getting into the present moment. I've cut down on commitments to make sure I have space and time to just be during what is a frenetic commercialised season out there and get in touch with what's important to me. Lovely video and so calming. Thank you xx
Hello from Athens Greece. Thanks for the amazing video. By the way, i have noticed that the worst time to watch the news, is the first hour after you wake up, and even worse, a couple of hours before tou go to sleep. Just to keep me up to date, i just hear the most important news from the radio in the middle of the day, and that s it.
Awesome tips! I never watch the news anymore and I do take breaks from the technology everyday. I feel like technology makes me more stressed. I am going to try out the 5-4-3-2-1 tip for myself and also for my students. I work with students with autism and I think this might help them know how to connect and understand their feelings more. Thanks for sharing😊
Watching this after a very relaxing shower ❤ this just was recommended and the timing couldn’t be more perfect. I appreciate you talking about personal and challenging things like comfort eating. I’m 23 and I’ve been struggling with comfort eating/over eating for more than 10 years now. You mentioned that you stopped doing it and you’re doing really well which is great news, I’m so glad you mentioned it. I appreciate it because it makes me feel like one day I can get better as well ❤ Thanks for sharing these tips, it means more than I can ever express with words ❤
Hi Vera! I needed this video today. These last few days have been hard, and I am taking it slow this weekend. I am journaling every morning already but today I took extra care to make a cup of coffee and journal. I am also reading a book that gives advice on simple living and am enjoying it a lot, read quite a chunk of it today as well. I am taking a technology break after this video and will continue reading without any devices nearby. Thank you for this lovely video! :)
Meditation can take us away from the oftentimes chaotic world . . . and with practice we can become better and better at retreating into our inner, peaceful world.
Thank you, im so close to burn out again! You have given me so much and deliverd in such a genuine way, you really do make a difference in this world xx
Thank you Vera. This is great information. I know a few things you mentioned. But it's great to be reminded about the other things. You help us to feel more relaxed suggesting all these things. It is good to hear other people doing self care as well. X Take care!
I'm still at the very beginning of the video, but wanted to tell you that I really like the babysitting example! It made me laugh a bit, because imagining this is quite absurd, but truth is that's what we do to ourselves! Thank you for sharing this example, Vera! 😘 Now continuing to watch. Pretty sure the rest of the video will be great, too❣♻️
Heart of Kentucky. SIMPLE HAPPY ZEN. Good morning beautiful VERA in the NETHERLANDS. I eagerly await your new videos on Saturday mornings. Today's is extra special. I feel blessed and have gratitude too. I pray for you and yours. I pray for the people in AMERICA to be blessed and have gratitude. I hope your day is full of joy. Katie.
This morning I put on my favorite shower sing-along Playlist from 8 years ago and it was the first morning in a long time our toddler hasn't demanded a device - music for the win!
Hi Vera, Yes there are several I do already. ☺️ I wake up with The intent of remembering the details of my night dreams and I record them in a journal. Writing helps wake me up. I also like to focus on my senses, especially my hearing, when I am going to sleep at night. It helps me get out of my head and into my body and it calms everything down for sleep. (I actually recorded a podcast episode called Sensory Power this year about this very subject. So, this deeply resonated with me.) I also like to look out the window at the birds and squirrels and butterflies and ladybugs that show up on or fly by my window at the kitchen table. They always make me laugh. I also do Tai Chi which is very body focused including with breath. I always love your suggestions for a calmer life. ❤️🙌 Thank you Vera!
Hi, Vera! 😊I loved the hug yourself habit!!! Loooved it! I am single (by choice) and that sounded wonderful. I must confess that I tried it and it was really, really satisfying and relaxing. Thank you so much for sharing that🙏💙 I love to wake up early and the first thing I love to do is open the windows. Being summer or winter, I have to feel the morning air even if it’s just for an hour in wintertime. Social media in the morning only Instagram because I ONLY follow artists, so it’s a wonderful way to start the day with lots of shared inspiration. I don’t check my iPad all the time and I watch very little tv. I also loved that tip related to music. I actually listened to the song you referred to and it’s so beautiful. I love sad songs, they actually relax me. And my favourite are Celtic songs. Loved all your other tips. Great video. Thanks for sharing. Love from Portugal 💙💜❤️💚💛🧡💗🖤♥️
I'm presently enjoying all my old favourites of the Sixties or thereabouts , in instrumental form ... Old Guitar Monkey , Dave Monk , is one of my favourites !
First video I watched from you. I already do almost all of these habits (which made me quite happy!) but the couting thing (5,4,3,2,1) is new. I'll try it! Thanks for sharing it!
So beautiful, I will be teaching my students how to give themselves a hug. What a perfect solution for those that don't have someone or a pet to hug. I listened to your advice and hugged my sister, it ended in lots of giggles but well worth it as a mood lifter 😁🤣🥰🤣. Love your videos you are wonderful. 🐨🦘🦘🐨
I do check my posture. I like the idea of putting alarms. My favorite 💖 suggestion is connecting with your body. I hope & pray that you are feeling better!!I love you videos! 😍 Keep up the good work!!
Great video Vera. So lovely. As a Christian I normally stop and say a prayer before I eat, thinking God for the food. Do really liked your point on pausing to be grateful before eating food.
May God always bless you Àngel. Self care is everything and I always do what makes me happy. Building up small habits daily makes such a difference. Everyone matters and everyone is important. 🙏🏽❤️✨
This video has really, really helped me this morning. Very relevant. Very practical. Kept my attention throughout (which I usually struggle with) You presented everything so well. Thank you. Lisa, in London
Always love your helpful tips. Every afternoon for a short break I take my plant therapy roll on called worry free and rub it on my wrists and inhale a few times. Then I take two deep breaths and do my tapping for 5 to 10 minutes. Afterwards I inhale the roll on again and I feel so much calmer. I love it!❤ This blend is amazing and I use it when I am anxious about an appointment or I know something will stress me out. Have a blessed day!
Wonderful scents are under rated. Sweet blooming flowers & freshly-cut grass, cedar and pine, clean linens, warm baked bread . . Lilacs evocative of my grandmother's garden . . .
Which one do you already do, and which one would you like to start doing from now on? 🤗💕
That 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 is not something I've ever thought about doing. Hmmm. 🤔
@@Robert-qm1ld Give it a try! 😄
Heart of Kentucky. VERA, I'm going to watch your video again! Katie.
I already try to show gratitude especially when times are tough so I don’t get too down because I have more positives in my life than negatives. I also always listen to music because it really relaxes me. I am really bad with my phone, constantly checking it or looking things up on it, and I am aware of it and does drive me nuts! I am going to work on this because it’s not necessary to check your phone every 10 minutes! Ty Vera for these great tips! 🌸
One of my favourite things to do to feel calm and also uplifted is first thing in the morning and last thing at night, is to open the sliding glass door and take a few deep breaths. I love inhaling the fresh air, especially after rain or after the grass has been mown.....its so invigorating :)
Vera, I’m a 73 year old lady and your wisdom always amazes me! I’ve lived long enough to know the truth about most of the things you mentioned but it impresses me when a young person has this all figured too! I appreciate your insight and your willingness to share with others. Thank you!
Same! 💕 star 🌟 🙏
Aw thank you so much Myrna, that's so nice of you to say 🤗💕🌱🍵
I agree, I am 70, just found this channel
Hi, I’m also a 70 year old woman!! I love listening to Vera for all the same reasons you’ve mentioned. I find her inspiring!
Yes , I totally agree ! Vera , always so pretty and neat and willing to share her special knowledge , is a huge blessing . I'm 72 .
And you do look lovely in that green top !
You have such a beautiful, comforting voice.
Aw thanks Donna :)
Your presence is so soothing and beautiful. I love your braid. 🤎
When my husband died I would fall asleep thinking of things I was thankful for in my life. It really helped me get through the pain.
Yes, I have hugged myself. At my darkest moment where I no longer would wonder" Is there anyone there for me?" That burned, yet as the smoke began to clear I realized that I was there for me so I kissed my shoulders , held myself and saw the road I was to take next.
I just discovered you today:) You are such a breath of fresh air! Thank you for reminding us how we can improve the quality of our lives!
Watching this as I eat dinner. Fish sticks,Brussels and brown rice.
I'm 64 and I really need to do alot more self care. I work 20 hours a week at a hotel.
Already love this channel.
I lost my smell and taste 4 years ago. And I appreciate you reminding people to appreciate that, because most people take those senses for granted. ❤
I lost my taste and most of my (previously hyper-acute) smell for months with COVID and I cannot believe the emotional, mental, and physical cost of losing it permanently. My heart goes out to you.
@@AFluidRealiTea thank you! That’s so very kind of you to comment! It’s been one tough journey!
We do take ourselves for granted... I , for one , am definitely going to appreciate my body and mind on a daily basis .... on a recent visit to the cemetery , I resolved to be glad I'm still here !
I'm so sorry for your loss! Losing smell and taste during COVID was dreadful. What happened to you? Can it be healed?
@@MsAdaCat I suffered a head injury 🤕 I’m told it will never come back.
Hi.
Although I've been watching your videos for years, I've never commented because I simply don't comment on anything online. I consume very little internet, but today I took a few minutes to tell you that I love your videos. I watch many of them in a row. They are calming videos.
I take this opportunity to tell you that I love lotus. I ate it for the first time in England. Then I returned to Portugal 2 years ago, and I couldn't find it anywhere and my mom, who lives in France, brought it to me at Xmas and summer. Now I can find it in Portugal, both the cookies and the cream. But I am trying your rule, no junk food at the house. ;)
Aw thank you so much for commenting Daniela! So happy to hear you're enjoying my videos :) And yes, the lotus cookies are so nice! I haven't gotten them anymore since filming this video hahaha, because I'll eat them all hihi
@@SimpleHappyZen When I buy a package, I eat it in one go :D thank you for your kind reply
I enjoy taking some time to read a good book 😊
My morning routine lately has been waking up slowly, spending a few minutes petting my cat who is usually pressed up against my body. It's a lovely way to start the day.
Aw so cute.....
It's me...only petting my little dog 😀
As I don’t have a cat or a dog or a partner, I pet myself in form of a self massage with some body lotion
I enjoy watching aquarium or ocean videos with soothing music. My three year old does as well. It’s so relaxing to watch the colorful fish swim around and the music helps me breath deeper and slower.
I liked all your tips and I don’t think there is anything embarrassing about enjoying your skin. It’s the largest organ humans have and it has so many nerve endings. People need touch, it makes us feel so good.
I have hugged myself, rocking slowly back and forth. My somatic therapist suggests embracing yourself, crossing both arms across the body as a way of activating the vagus nerve.
Have a wonderful day
Thank you, you too!
this morning, I wrote in my journal how I am grateful for the cold winter weather. I am happy for that fact that I can sit and drink my coffee, tea or cocoa. Binge holiday movies, make homemade soups and stews, enjoy crafting because I don't have to tend to outdoor chores, etc. My husband and I had to do our monthly run around last Friday. I drove this day and I love Christmas music, so I had it on the radio. About the last stop we had to make, he reached over and turned it off saying "can we just turn this s@#$ off now?" It really hurt me that he had to do it like that. He knows I love this time of year, I get emotional very easy because I am so full of joy. I am crying now just thinking of it. I am not a religious person, but I do try to live a more grateful life now. It takes so much energy to get angry over stupid drivers, rude humans, etc. Sorry I went off track, I just connected right away when you said you liked the rainy cold weather. Stay well Vera. ❤
Touching your face to your shoulder feels like a hug
I never gave myself hug before today, but yes!!!! it feels great
Awesome, way to go!! 😄
I have tried almost all of these and it works. I appreciate your willingness to share these tips. Thank you!🥰
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Hi Vera. Thanks for this video. Many years ago, a yoga teacher started adding a self-hug to our routine, and it definitely felt physically good. But that's all I felt, because it was quick and my mood was already fine. More recently, I have been going through some pretty intense personal stuff, and one day I was simply bawling and there was no one I could turn to for a hug, and so I tried hugging myself. I immediately felt a bit comforted, so I hugged my self tighter and allowed myself to just keep crying, and I comforted myself emotionally the way I would for my children or someone else I deeply care about. It was so helpful!! It really DID comfort me. ♥
Lovely. 😥
That’s awesome. Thanks for sharing ❤️❤️
Yes even I do it really works 😃
Hope whatever brought on your tears is past or dealt with.
❤ What a wonderful addition to a routine! ❤
Peaceful start in the morning and gratitude make for a beautiful life.❤
Yes, so very true. 💕
I know I need self care when I hear you in my mind saying “maybe make a nice cup of tea...” I know it’s time to slow down, check in with myself to gain the sense of presence and feeling safe. I do this as often as I need everyday, it’s even the first thing I do when I wake up. I appreciate all you share with us (smelling for comfort is not weird at all) we all have differing 🎉comforts, and the power of the senses is essential to tune into- this how we all learned about our world as newborns- this is an innate desire and practice ❤
I start my day by writing in my gratitude diary 10 things I'm grateful for (it does get repetitious, but heck). Then I read a bit, or watch some of my favourite videos. Yours are one of them. I dress, make my bed, and do some light exercise, then start the day. I do this about 95% of the time.
Wow, sounds wonderful!!!
My parents are Dutch as well. I actually do these very same things throughout the day. It’s nice to see that I’m not alone in my routines!
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I no longer need to show off “collectable figurines” in display cases. I try not to collect useless souvenirs from vacations. My exception is Christmas Tree Ornaments. I write on the back (or on a sticker) where I was and who I was with. Often, I’d buy two - say one I like + one my husband would like. Now that we are preparing to divorce, I’ve sorted the travel tree ornaments into a hers pile and a his pile. This is a wonderful channel 😊
I am like you, I NEED to take time in the morning, something that puzzles my husband ;-) I need to meditate, journal, stretch, exercise, drink water, tea and then I am ready to have a great day. Although I am much older than you, your experience helps me understand better and accept my "needs" so thank you for your openness.
So happy to hear my videos have been helping you like that! :) Thanks Renée, have a happy Monday!
Same here
Agree!
I have given myself hugs, while in the washroom at work when I'm having an overwhelming day. It helps to ground me and create instant calm.
Lovely :)
As long as you keep those hugs above the waist....management isn't too fond of that ;)
It’s good to hear these. As Iranians we are going through a lot these days. My only peaceful moment away from horrific news were when I watched your video. Great suggestions for people going through revolutions or wars these days. Life can be surreal sometimes. Thanks Vera 🦋 #womanlifefreedom
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Hello from Israel
So sorry you have to go through this worry and sad times. Be sure to take time during your day to focus on simple, good things. Sometimes we forget how many wonderful people, places and things are in the world.
I did hug myself for 20 seconds. It feels great. Will do it more often. Thank you.
Yay!! 🥰
These are some great tips. I practice most of them. Regarding a technology break: I leave my phone at home when I go on my morning walk (part of my morning routine before returning home to make a mug of green tea or matcha tea latte) and turn it off for the day about an hour before going to bed. I leave it downstairs in my desk drawer. I have a no electronics rule in the bedroom.
Wonderful!!! :)
My phone goes into a drawer at 5.30pm every evening.. I don’t need to be available 24/7. A gratitude journal also works for me.
YES!! Love that :)
I didn't know hugging yourself was a thing that other people did. A few years ago I discovered that hugging myself as I'm drifting off to sleep was very comforting. A good nights sleep is important to me so I developed a few habits that work for me. Thank you for the reminders and new ideas as well for self care.
Vera your not weird. I like feel of soft skin, especially holding my grandchild and his skin is so soft and he has the “baby” smell, it’s so relaxing. I have been very stressed lately and I was given permission from my therapist to shut my phone off for two days why my wife and I had a weekend away. We had a room at a hotel and did absolutely nothing! It was very relaxing. I also have “smart hearing aides that my phone notifications can go through so I hear my text messages. I shut all that off as well and it helps, especially when being part of a group chat and everyone responds over and over, very distracting and now I don’t pay attention any more! Check it a few times a day is all! Thank you!
Sounds like a wonderful weekend away!! :) So happy you found it helpful. I can imagine getting notifications like that can be a lot. Take care and wishing you and your wife all the best for 2023!! Wishing you a wonderful 2023!! 🤗🌺✨🍵
1. Morning routine
2. Gratitude
3. Use senses to focus on here & now
54,3,2,1
4. Having a moment alone w / ur body
I love hugging myself. It makes me feel at peace. ❤️
Today I cried at the mall because an old man was playing a beautiful Christmas song on the piano and it touched my heart. I love these tips. I already put my face to my shoulder I do that too lol. Yes I give myself a hug sometimes too lol although I prefer my husbands bear hugs. Yes I want to implement a morning routine as well as evening routine that would be similar but tailored for morning or evening. Such as change the type of tea to a bedtime tea, a meditation, a night time book, stretch or night time qi gong as well as journaling. Maybe not all those everyday but that is the goal. Because of you I've had the courage to not sleep by my phone. And more and more courage to say no to the phone stress. Your videos always reduce stress for me and make me feel happy and calm 😄
Lovely, thank you so much for sharing Amy!! :) I can relate to crying because of a beautiful piano song hihi
Vera I completely agree with your morning routine thoughts 💚 I wake up slow & put on a positive show on Netflix that makes me smile (usually involving animals or nature!), rather than looking at the news straight away.
Lovely! :)
Who else wants one of Vera's special "Bounty" cookies right now? 💯😊❤️
Hi, Vera, It's Kaede here. Yesterday I suffered from period pain, so I didn't do anything yesterday. I wake up this morning and feel better, so I do my homework (writing case study report) right after waking up. It's very effective to do it in the morning. I finished it within an hour. Then, I prepared myself, changing clothes, and eating breakfast, and planning my coming studio setup. After a while, I have a rest, and here I am, watching your video. It's 10am in the morning here. After this, I will continue planning for necessary things to buy for my studio. After few years practicing minimalism, I was strict to my morning routine, but it changed to a more flexible routine with a general rule which is to slow down and enjoy every moment in the morning. I might do yoga today, doing meditation tomorrow, writing report or reading the other day. It might vary everyday, but I make sure I am mindful and enjoy every moment.
Sounds like an absolutely wonderful morning routine Kaede! :) Glad to hear you're feeling better after your period pain. That's always rough :)
Great video! I love putting away the phone, spending the morning drinking coffee while watching my dogs play. I love the 5,4,3,2,1 exercise. Beautiful!
Aw so cute! Sounds like a wonderful morning routine :)
Thank you so much. Your video helped me this morning with my anxiety. The 5,4,3,2,1 exercise is great.
thanks for another lovely message Vera! Happy Weekend yo you
Thanks so much Rhonda, you have a great weekend too! 🤗💐🌷
I’m beginning to wait before checking my phone each morning and it’s so much more peaceful this way. I also just purchased The 6-Minute Journal you recommended in a different video for practicing Gratitude. Another tip you offered in a different video was to be aware of multitasking. I’m finding it amazing how often I am watching a movie or a UA-cam video while scrolling through my phone or sitting down to read while being distracted by having a text conversation. I’m now only doing one thing at the time. It’s a little bit hard to put into practice (breaking the old habit) but it is bringing me a lot of peace and reducing a lot of stress. Thank you so much for the great content! I enjoy learning and putting into practice all of your wise advice 💛
Allah says in quran : “ the more you are grateful, the more i give you “ ❤️
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That's a beautiful and graceful saying.
Masha Allah Allah bless you
Beshak ♥️
Especially if you are a 9 year old prepubescent girl. Allah likes little girls who obey their Masters. Yuk.
You are so right about not watching news right at waking ( or before bed) I like to play my piano in the morning, with a cup of English Breakfast or Earl Grey tea . Starting my day with the sweetest most beautiful sounding musical instrument sets me up for a beautiful day
So wonderful! :)
The most powerful tip, breathe, smile, hug yourself, and love yourself, then allow the tears of joy. Once you master this practice, everything else falls into place 👍
I love these ideas- it's a reminder of looking after ourselves as we forget as we our overwhelmed with life situations 💜
Thanks so much! :) Very important stuff :)
Your videos are always so authentic and I always learn something new, thanks Vera :)
Yay, thank you so much Lynby 🤗❤❤
Knew these all but wasn't doing most of them. Thanks for reminder. I agree that we are smart people, so we don't need smart stuff.
I had a plan of sitting down with my son every night to talk about, and write down, 3 good things from the day. That turned out to be difficult to do in the long run, so what we ended up doing was doing it at dinner time since we always eat dinner as a family. So every day at dinner time, we take turn around the table and say 3 things we are thankful for. Sometimes it’s something we did together, sometimes it’s something that’s happened during the day, sometimes it’s just that we are thankful for our family, sometimes it is that we are thankful for a warm and safe house or a comfortable bed to sleep in. I’m thankful for this tradition that we started because it makes us focus on good things in our lives. ❤
Sounds wonderful!! :)
What a lovely tradition ! Thanks for sharing it with us !
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Hugging myself right now. This stuff is a miracle. Bless you 🥰
Wonderful! :)
Hello Vera I just found you and subscribed of course because all of these things are wonderful and it’s 72 I need to remember self-care. I love what she said about anticipatory anxiety. I suffered from anxiety in my entire life and agoraphobia.Writing things down saved my life. I still have my anxious moments but your video made me feel so calm. Thank you. Sending warm aloha praises your way
Never thought about hugging myself. I'll do this. Florida, USA. Thank you for all your tips.💆💘❤
You're so welcome, enjoy the hugs!! :)
Great video. I actually do hug/hold myself to go to sleep at night. Along with listening to some of my favorite calm music playlists. It's my way of kinda cuddling myself within the sound. Music is POWERFUL man I'm really glad you included focused music listening as one of your talking points as well 🙏
Haha thanks David, glad it's helpful for you too!
Thank you Vera, your gentle reminders are always appreciated. ❤️ 🤗
Gratitude is the most soothing and powerful for my my inner-balance.
Thank you so much!! :)
Simple technology is good, but real life is even better. Get outside and play. Walk in the sun. Smile at others. Breathe deeply and enjoy the sights and sounds. Beautiful and helpful video!
Wonderful! :)
This is so true about the first hour of the day! My husband and I used to wake up early, get coffee going, cozy up on the couch together and .... !!!! discuss a war in Ukraine, a sharp interest rate increase and Toronto rental market. No wonder we were stressed all day!
Now, I start my day with your channel!
Thanks for this video! It confirms that self care is important in our life right now especially with all that's going on around us. Started stretching and meditating when I wake up, taking 15 minutes walks at work, listening to jazz music on my drive home to clear my mind and gratitude meditation before I sleep. Will continue to do this the best that I can. Thank you so much!!!
That all sounds wonderful Maria, really inspiring! Have a happy 2023! 🤗✨🥂🍵
Not weird at all. Most Ppl depend on things outside and apart from them to feel peace. Youve just given me a great idea!!❤❤❤
This was wonderful, Vera. Love all of these ideas. I do several of them. Lotion, pajamas...going to see my 2 little grand babies today and hug them. Like medicine for the soul. Have a great week.
Wonderful :) Thanks for sharing and have a happy Monday!
Hi Vera, this video was just what I needed today ! I’m feeling a bit low and stuck these days, I’m weirdly relieved to know I’m not the only one…
I’ll try to get more fresh air and less screen time ! As soon as I post this comment, I’ll turn off my iPad and go for a walk :)
Thank you for all your video, have a nice day !
You're definitely not the only one!! :) So happy the video inspired you to go for a walk, hope it was lovely :)
listening to my CD'S more, reading a book instead of watching so much T.V. not making myself always available for people. love your down to earth tips & taking CARE of myself more instead of others, being kind to myself & take time to. see the world around me & breath in its beauty
You have such a soothing presence. I like your reminders for achieving personal peace. Also, totally off topic, you have such beautiful skin. Luminous is a word thrown around but it really applies to you. I am now 70 and luckily long before it was fashionable my mother warned against too much sun exposure. I never had the patience to lay in the sun, but I was an avid bicyclist and cross country skier and wear sun screen. For age 70, my fair skin is in pretty good shape. Take care of your gift.
I gave myself a hug while you were talking about it and it felt soooo goood. Its something Ive been practising lately. Thank you for the reminder. I love every tip you mentioned and realise I am practisng a lot of them. It has been challenging being a HSP in a healing journey. Learning to love myself has been the greatest gift...I'm still learning. I have only just discovered your videos and very glad I did.
Love my morning routine 😊it’s very important!!! I actually use most of your suggestions! Thank you for reminding me I’m on the right track! Happy weekend!
Vera, it felt great to just have a cup of tea with you. It is always good to be reminded of the simple things. Recently, I realized how much taking a walk can improve my mood but I don’t do it that often or besides when I’m commuting. Or something as simple as looking at the sky! Loved your video. Have a lovely day, full of inspiration (and tea!)
So happy you loved it!! 🤗❤️🥰 Have a wonderful day!
Love your tips ... One I do is I get up and move around for 5 mins each hour... Love that my fitbit buzzs at 10 mins to the hour if I have not walked 250 steps... this helps me take a minute and I feel that it also makes me much more productive at work... 11. Move your body :).
Oh that's great!!! :)
I'm practicing most of these tips, I've been working on creating and improving a morning routine, and I started drinking matcha again in the morning thanks to you reminding me that I enjoyed it. It's a little act of self care everyday that makes me feel calmer.
Aw that's so nice!! Always happy to hear when people are enjoying matcha :)
Watching your videos is part of my morning routine- or at least, that's how it is for today as I'm getting some light chores done. I appreciate that I can access your channel and get value from your content at any time I want! 😊❤️
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Fabulous tips Vera and a wonderful reminder of the importance of slowing down and getting into the present moment. I've cut down on commitments to make sure I have space and time to just be during what is a frenetic commercialised season out there and get in touch with what's important to me.
Lovely video and so calming. Thank you xx
Lovely! :) Thanks for sharing Helen, have a great day!
Frenetic and commercialized are perfect words to describe . . .
Hello from Athens Greece. Thanks for the amazing video. By the way, i have noticed that the worst time to watch the news, is the first hour after you wake up, and even worse, a couple of hours before tou go to sleep. Just to keep me up to date, i just hear the most important news from the radio in the middle of the day, and that s it.
Very smart!! Thanks for sharing :)
Oh I have given myself hugs Yes 🙌
I have been through some pretty hard things and I talk MYSELF through hard times.
Thank you, I needed to be reminded all the things you talked about. Definitely I need a electronic break.
Awesome tips! I never watch the news anymore and I do take breaks from the technology everyday. I feel like technology makes me more stressed. I am going to try out the 5-4-3-2-1 tip for myself and also for my students. I work with students with autism and I think this might help them know how to connect and understand their feelings more. Thanks for sharing😊
Nice weekend all lovely people here
Watching this after a very relaxing shower ❤ this just was recommended and the timing couldn’t be more perfect.
I appreciate you talking about personal and challenging things like comfort eating.
I’m 23 and I’ve been struggling with comfort eating/over eating for more than 10 years now. You mentioned that you stopped doing it and you’re doing really well which is great news, I’m so glad you mentioned it. I appreciate it because it makes me feel like one day I can get better as well ❤
Thanks for sharing these tips, it means more than I can ever express with words ❤
I love the feel of my own skin. It's super soft and silky❤️
Haha yes! Exactly :)
Hi Vera! I needed this video today. These last few days have been hard, and I am taking it slow this weekend. I am journaling every morning already but today I took extra care to make a cup of coffee and journal. I am also reading a book that gives advice on simple living and am enjoying it a lot, read quite a chunk of it today as well. I am taking a technology break after this video and will continue reading without any devices nearby. Thank you for this lovely video! :)
Sounds lovely 🤗 Sorry to hear you've had a tough couple of days, feel better and take care! 🍵❤
What book are you reading? 📚 ☺️
@@christinawahlmuller1142 hi, I've already finished it, it was a book by Shunmyo Masuno called The Art of Simple Living ☺️👍 enjoyed it a lot
@@MariJadeWrites thank you😘
Meditation can take us away from the oftentimes chaotic world . . . and with practice we can become better and better at retreating into our inner, peaceful world.
Thank you, im so close to burn out again! You have given me so much and deliverd in such a genuine way, you really do make a difference in this world xx
Thank you Vera. This is great information. I know a few things you mentioned. But it's great to be reminded about the other things. You help us to feel more relaxed suggesting all these things. It is good to hear other people doing self care as well. X Take care!
I'm still at the very beginning of the video, but wanted to tell you that I really like the babysitting example! It made me laugh a bit, because imagining this is quite absurd, but truth is that's what we do to ourselves! Thank you for sharing this example, Vera! 😘 Now continuing to watch. Pretty sure the rest of the video will be great, too❣♻️
Haha glad you enjoyed that example! :D
This video is really extra special ! Thanks, Vera ... you've done a fabulous job !
Any thing ...to do with nature ...makes you feel happy...😊
Heart of Kentucky. SIMPLE HAPPY ZEN. Good morning beautiful VERA in the NETHERLANDS. I eagerly await your new videos on Saturday mornings. Today's is extra special. I feel blessed and have gratitude too. I pray for you and yours. I pray for the people in AMERICA to be blessed and have gratitude. I hope your day is full of joy. Katie.
Thank you so much Katie, for your kind thoughts 🤗❤ Take care and have a lovely weekend!!
This morning I put on my favorite shower sing-along Playlist from 8 years ago and it was the first morning in a long time our toddler hasn't demanded a device - music for the win!
Awesome! :)
Hi Vera,
Yes there are several I do already. ☺️ I wake up with The intent of remembering the details of my night dreams and I record them in a journal. Writing helps wake me up. I also like to focus on my senses, especially my hearing, when I am going to sleep at night. It helps me get out of my head and into my body and it calms everything down for sleep. (I actually recorded a podcast episode called Sensory Power this year about this very subject. So, this deeply resonated with me.) I also like to look out the window at the birds and squirrels and butterflies and ladybugs that show up on or fly by my window at the kitchen table. They always make me laugh. I also do Tai Chi which is very body focused including with breath.
I always love your suggestions for a calmer life. ❤️🙌
Thank you Vera!
Actually , that's a huge blessing , to be able to look out at a bit of Nature
Hard to do some of these things with financial issues and pain issues. I’m really glad you have a good life. I would like that for every being.
I was taught the butterfly hug to self soothe. It so works!
Yes! Lovely :)
I love watching the sunrise and drinking tea! Even if it's a busy morning that is calming and nurturing. Love the gratittude also it produces JOY.
Wonderful! :)
Hi, Vera! 😊I loved the hug yourself habit!!! Loooved it! I am single (by choice) and that sounded wonderful. I must confess that I tried it and it was really, really satisfying and relaxing. Thank you so much for sharing that🙏💙
I love to wake up early and the first thing I love to do is open the windows. Being summer or winter, I have to feel the morning air even if it’s just for an hour in wintertime. Social media in the morning only Instagram because I ONLY follow artists, so it’s a wonderful way to start the day with lots of shared inspiration. I don’t check my iPad all the time and I watch very little tv.
I also loved that tip related to music. I actually listened to the song you referred to and it’s so beautiful. I love sad songs, they actually relax me. And my favourite are Celtic songs.
Loved all your other tips. Great video. Thanks for sharing. Love from Portugal 💙💜❤️💚💛🧡💗🖤♥️
Aw thank you so much for your kind comment Alexandra!! Sending lots of love back
I'm presently enjoying all my old favourites of the Sixties or thereabouts , in instrumental form ... Old Guitar Monkey , Dave Monk , is one of my favourites !
First video I watched from you. I already do almost all of these habits (which made me quite happy!) but the couting thing (5,4,3,2,1) is new. I'll try it! Thanks for sharing it!
Happy to hear it! :) Hope you'll enjoy the counting exercise as well :)
So beautiful, I will be teaching my students how to give themselves a hug. What a perfect solution for those that don't have someone or a pet to hug. I listened to your advice and hugged my sister, it ended in lots of giggles but well worth it as a mood lifter 😁🤣🥰🤣. Love your videos you are wonderful. 🐨🦘🦘🐨
Delightful video! I enjoy using a UA-cam fireplace video running in the background of my home.
Ah I know those! :)
I do check my posture. I like the idea of putting alarms. My favorite 💖 suggestion is connecting with your body. I hope & pray that you are feeling better!!I love you videos! 😍 Keep up the good work!!
Thank you so much for your kind comment Constance! Wishing you a wonderful day
Great video Vera. So lovely. As a Christian I normally stop and say a prayer before I eat, thinking God for the food. Do really liked your point on pausing to be grateful before eating food.
May God always bless you Àngel. Self care is everything and I always do what makes me happy. Building up small habits daily makes such a difference. Everyone matters and everyone is important. 🙏🏽❤️✨
This video has really, really helped me this morning. Very relevant. Very practical. Kept my attention throughout (which I usually struggle with) You presented everything so well. Thank you. Lisa, in London
Aw thank you Lisa, that's so nice to hear :)
What a wonderful find! Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful thoughts!
Thank you so much Karen :)
Always love your helpful tips. Every afternoon for a short break I take my plant therapy roll on called worry free and rub it on my wrists and inhale a few times. Then I take two deep breaths and do my tapping for 5 to 10 minutes. Afterwards I inhale the roll on again and I feel so much calmer. I love it!❤ This blend is amazing and I use it when I am anxious about an appointment or I know something will stress me out. Have a blessed day!
So nice that that helps you like that! :)
Wonderful scents are under rated. Sweet blooming flowers & freshly-cut grass, cedar and pine, clean linens, warm baked bread . .
Lilacs evocative of my grandmother's garden .
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Yes I hug myself and it feels so good 😇
My sense of smell is high on my list. Like you, I love my lotions and the scent on me in the a.m. as it lingers on my pj’s