Remarrying Someone You Had Previously Married? - Ask Pastor Tim
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- If a man and woman get divorced, the woman gets saved, and neither of them has remarried, would it be ok if they got married again? Or, does the Lord even recognize their divorce to begin with? Are they fornicating if they are intimate with each other prior to being remarried?
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My parents remarried each other. I believe it was an act of love. They were near their 60’s at the time.
Divorced because of adulterous affair on the part of dad. But, 17 yrs later and still in touch with each other on a daily bases remarried. I think love covers a multitude of sin. Mom forgave dad. Dad repented. God has to be in the relationship to start. They’re both gone but they loved each other well. Crazy but, true.
That's fantastic!! Praise God.
I should really stop watching all these vids. I'm still unfortunately holding on to the hope that my parents will get back together heheh
They are a perfect example of following the teachings of Christ, and his commands to forgive, and to remain unmarried or be reconciled.
Beautiful
@@Payfieman Never say never, with God all things are possible.
The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.”
Amen! There is a very simple answer. Only death ends a marriage!!!
Amen, A wife must not depart from her husband but if she does she must remained /single or be reconciled to her husband and the Husband must.not our way his Wife. This is what new commandment of the Lord Jesus Christ all other teaching is the doctrines of men
But is it necessary to remarry in this case? The lady is returning to her only first husband & he is returning to his first only wife?
@@gflyoung9935i agree
@@suzym.f.1927please answer, I have the same question. Are we still married in the eyes of God after a divorce? Or do we need to make it "legal" again??
Well this is a hard issue, I just thank God that He reconciled my wife to me, she is a jewel in my crown, I love that woman, and let me tell you she loves me! And yet it sometimes is the hardest thing I have to go through. Marriage is all about sacrifice and the two people becoming one. And the two people looking towards Christ to be closer to Him while becoming closer to each other.
Beautiful 🙏🙏
Actually, it can seem difficult. However they are not legally married. So no they cannot be intimate. This would be similar to the dating phase prior to their first marriage. Frankly, this would stall their restoration. Nothing will speed along Gods will than living in it!
The two has been joined as one flesh God sees them as one flesh and what God has joined together let no man put asunder. The one flesh union is never broken in God’s sight except by death.
God does NOT join every couple together. 3 Biblical reasons for divorce: adultery, abandonment, and chronic verbal/physical abuse. Remarried couples confess the sin and God forgives, no perpetual adultery He has sent spouses to many divorced chritians
Key word... what God joins together. Not every relationship/marriage is from God. If you're gonna use scripture, understand what it means.
@@pegc9889exactly!!!
I forgave my husband for committing adultery many times knowing that he was addicted to drugs & sex. We had 7 children together & i was standing on the promises of God for his deliverance. But after being drug thru the mud so many times i let go of my faith temporarily & then i committed adultery too. I have repented but my husband has moved on now that he has been delivered from drugs and is attending church . He ays it is Biblically legal because i committed adultery. I have four words to say to that . Bob and Audrey Meissner. . .look them up. God wants families whole even if the unthinkable occurs. Mercy triumphs over judgement. God desires mercy to prevail in our hearts It has been over 10 years and we are now grandparents. My husband has been thru a few women since then-- always going to church and calling her his wife. Im convinced that God wants our family to be whole and our legacy to be mercy & reconciliation.
Deut is out....because Jesus change the game....by saying....but I say, unto you...
Amen, that’s right, people conveniently forget that Jesus had the authority to do so
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32, and Matthew 19:9. However, the wife in Matthew 5:31-32 is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews that Jesus was speaking to were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39.
Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel.
The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7.
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death.
The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. But when Jesus died on the cross, he caused the Jews to be dead to the law of Moses so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the law of Moses over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the whole law is no longer possible for those in Israel and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15.
Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife.
Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned by the unbeliever, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way they word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "15But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not under bondage," which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, when this is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 has the Apostle Paul giving permission to remarry do not understand that the abandoned husband in 1 Corinthians 7:11 is expected to also remain unmarried, in order to be reconciled with his wife. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh in marriage puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, by implying that he has issued an opposing command.
Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16.
The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions.
The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24.
Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel, because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans and Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
@sumjor Amen! You must keep your focus on the Lord and his word.
@sumjor Amen! We are truly living out Matthew 7:13-14.
This was beautiful, this story is similar to mine. This video touched my heart made me cry. I loved it thank you.
I personally think only God can give her the answer. No discussion here can. If God has called her to remarry her spouse(and praise God). I would encourage you to pray for her and him in making this decision. God hates divorce and God is the God of reconcilliation.
this is no private club.....the answers have been given.....in something, called a Book....
@@philipbuckley759 can you please clarify?
Wise pastoral counsel Pst Tim, God bless you. In such cases the brother and sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. 1cor7:15, Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. 1pet4:7, ..give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Rom12:17b-18
not enslaved is not akin to not bound....
God ALWAYS calls you to remarry your first spouse. He called adulterous Israel back and had Hosea model this to Israel with Gomer. Is it sin to lay with your husband even after a divorce, in mans eyes they are unmarried but in God's eyes ALWAYS married. Considering Isaac merely took his wife into a tent and slept with her and scripture says they are married. However, we want to avoid the appearance of evil to those weaker in the faith so the best thing is to remarry in the world, this will strengthen your bonds.
We are supposed to have intimacy with God, He leads The way! We follow, We should only do what He says, we will answer for our own lives down here.
Marriage is a massive undertaking and responsibility and should never be taken lightly.
Born Again Christians should only marry when both are convinced that it’s God’s Will for them both!
This like many other posts these days only go to show how flippant lots of people are with their lives.
Instant gratification.
Lord give us More Of The Fruit Of Your Holy Spirit! 🙏🏼 Amen 🙏🏼
so what is your course, of action....
Get married again!! Seriously this is the easiest question ever. You got divorced according to mans law. Ask for forgiveness and repentance for the divorce. Take it to god pray on it and get the union blessed again by our father!! Simple as that! Praise the lord he reconciled them. Divorced or not - your spouse is your spouse until death do you part or you reconcile. Fast and pray!! He will let you know.
Is there a difference between civil marriage and holy matrimony? One is a legal contract with the state, the other is a covenant commitment before God. The Bible refers to Eve as Adam's WIFE, for example. Where did they go to get their government-issued marriage license?
if God never validated the divorce....then they are still married....
this should give some direction....1 Cor 7.10-11 10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
So should this:
Deuteronomy 24:3-4-
And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife;
4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the Lord: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the Lord thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.
And this:
1 Cor 7:15: But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
@@Thomas116-m2n which all leads to 1 Cor 7 10-11
Sometimes the best answer is..I dont know!
Only if you don't know..
Do you believe divorce is accepted if there is Domestic violence?
We married. He committed sexual immorality 2 years in. I stayed for 5 more years completely loyal. I couldn't forgive & divorced. I met someone new & dated for 9 months. After 1 year total of being divorced we have reconciled.
But I'm unsure how to make it last & submit to God's will. I come from a poor single mother household & so does he but we have chosen conservatism of our own free will. However, we are imperfect. We want that 60yr+ type of marriage. Raise healthy kids & have a beautiful family. Completely undue all the generational curses of our families. Need help
too much emotion, and too little Bible.....
1. She didn't mention 'why' they divorced.
2. Given the timing, she recently gave her life to the LORD, so could this be God bringing reconciliation, or Satan bringing a stumblingblock?
Marriage is for life soo divorce don’t end the covenant remarry the previous spouse is obeying the lord
@@antoniogutierrezjr7471 so what course of action, should they take...remarry, or just going on living as married individuals....even though the secular world would not acknowledge it...
The most High Yahweh our God is not an author of confusion, He gave a command through Paul in 1corinthians 7 under the new covenant, if you divorce, either you reconcile or you remain unmarried, but allowed divorce for the sake of infidelity that's why He said that a divorced man/woman who remarried is regarded as an adulterous being,let's not interpret the scripture with our opinion but only let the Holy Spirit interpret, teach and give understanding.
All those people pointing the finger on others, should be in their shoes first... Not everyone is so lucky to start with a normal marriage. After 17 yrs of hell I have run away from my "christian" narcissistic husband. (I found out about narcissism just recently). Now being divorced for 2 years, there's not one day that I would skip thanking the lord for getting me out of that!!
And it was the best thing for me being alone the last two years, going through a tremendous healing. But the nature of humans is that we don't want to be alone, we were created that way, and I know I don't want to spend the rest of my life lonely.
Someone said in the comments that only death can separate you from marriage. My Jesus DIED for everything! So we're not under the law anymore. Oh and anyways, what constitutes marriage? Is it the ceremony and the paper that God approves? No, I believe when two flesh become one, that's marriage - regardless of the circumstances. So in this case my ex husband had several girls before me (before he became the fakest ever "born-again christian") so he should be with the first girl of his life he slept with, or not? Because that first girl has already been with someone else before she met him... Hmmm
This morning I was just reading the next chapter of my Bible, which happens to be Acts 10, and it has nothing to do with marriage and divorce, but it made me think...
"As the heavenly realm opened up, he saw something resembling a large linen tablecloth that descended from above, being let down to the earth by its four corners. As it floated down he saw that it held many kinds of four-footed animals, reptiles, and wild birds. A voice said to him "Peter, go and prepare them to be eaten." Peter replied, "There's no way I could do that Lord, for I have never eaten anything forbidden or impure according to our Jewish laws. " The voice spoke again: "Nothing is unclean if God declares it to be clean."
Ali The Lord Jesus Christ told the woman caught in adultery, I do Not condemn you, go and sin no more!
( The Law Of Moses demanded stoning).
I got married as a new believer, but it wasn’t Gods will.
Eventually we divorced, as I left the court on my way home God chose that moment to Fully Baptise me in The Holy Spirit! 🕊
Speaking in tongues, then in English, I was worshipping The Father, Son and Holy Spirit and God called me “A” Son Of God!
So if He is for me! .....
Be blessed stay close to Him! The Wonderful Bridegroom
Do you forgive you ex? He sounds like a real sinner in need of Christ, I understand that many who come to Jesus saying Lord Lord will be cast into hell. By showing love all men will know, so love is the evidence and Christ is the key. Do you pray for your ex? I committed adultery against my wife, got lost down a rabbit hole of drugs, God has recently set me free from the yoke I put on my shoulders and though legally divorced we are living together reconciled to God and now me and her both know what marriage really is. Your 'husband' was wrong I believe because I have dealt and so has my wife with narcissistic people, some are family members. They need Christ. Anyway just sharing what I went through and also wanted to see if you truly forgive Him and if you do, do you desire him to be saved?
look lady,apparantly christianity is not for women,maybe you re better off being a non christian,do not try to justify your way by quoting any passages in the bible.because it makes you a hypocrite....it is not us people judging ,it the bible its self tells everything.PS: christianity ,judaism,islamic religion they are all patriachy religion..theyre meant to serve men ,not women,women are considered belongings..and my opinion about you,is that you are condamned to not remarry,if you did ,you are commiting adultary.thats it.
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32, and Matthew 19:9. However, the wife in Matthew 5:31-32 is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews that Jesus was speaking to were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39.
Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel.
The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7.
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death.
The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. But when Jesus died on the cross, he caused the Jews to be dead to the law of Moses so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the law of Moses over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the whole law is no longer possible for those in Israel and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15.
Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife.
Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned by the unbeliever, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way they word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "15But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not under bondage," which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, when this is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 has the Apostle Paul giving permission to remarry do not understand that the abandoned husband in 1 Corinthians 7:11 is expected to also remain unmarried, in order to be reconciled with his wife. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh in marriage puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, by implying that he has issued an opposing command.
Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16.
The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions.
The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24.
Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel, because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans and Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
I am sorry for your pain and suffering Ali. It seems the cult of "narcissistic abuse" has become rampant in the church and easy cause for women to leave their husbands. It is deception and I speak from experience. Many marriages end because women receive bad counsel and abandon what they promised to stand by for life. I urge you to pray and seek God and ask Him to show you TRUTH in His Word.
If they were dating others after divorce . And never married considered an affair..
Don’t make up the answer in your head to what sounds good! scripture clearly says if the two of them are first time married they are in a covenant. A divorce degree or remarriage which would be adultery is not is not legal in gods eyes therefore if they are two first time married they are still married in God’s eyes..
this is not an area, of contention....two unsaved and one becomes unsaved.....if the unsaved wishes to remain, in the marriage, let that one remain....
Romans 7:1-3 makes it clear, marriage is binding until death, (EVEN for the those married to non-believers). In the Mosaic law, Jews could not be married to non-believers and annulment would be fine (see Ezra 10). However, in the New Covenant, the unbeliever and believer are sanctified (1 Corinthians 7). Deuteronomy 24 is clarified by Jesus in Matthew 19:1-9) relates to pre-marital fornication (porneia) (NOT Adultery (post marriage) (moicheia)).
Therefore, Deuteronomy 24 or Matthew 19:9 cannot be used relating to remarrying, as it is dealing with fornication. And taking back the wife or husband, is only and abomination and relevant in relation to pre-marital unfaithfulness, not post-marital marriage.
Grace to you pastor Tim
After several decades of coming to an understanding of the different views on this issue, it really does boil down to the premise a specific view is starting from. You referenced this early in this video but it's an important distinction in how Christians start with their perception of divorce, particularly when interpreting Jesus' teaching on this matter.
For instance, if divorce is the premature termination of marriage, Christians will understand Jesus' teaching different than those who perceive divorce as still married "in God's eyes". Those are opposite meanings for interpreting divorce. In one view divorce is effective in the other it's ineffective. Thus divorce, particularly within Jesus' teaching on the matter is perceived from opposite realities.
Therefore Christians opinion and ensuing counsel about the ensuing adultery (Jesus spoke of) will be derive from one or the other perceptions of reality.
From one view you have adultery ensuing from a terminated marriage (option 1).
From the other you have adultery ensuing from a marriage that divorce fail to end (option 2).
So why the opposite perceptions of divorce?
A lot of Christians believe option 2 because they presume that option 1 can't be true. The reason Christians presume option 1 can't be true is simply because they start from the belief that adultery only occurs as "unfaithfulness while married". Because option 1 doesn't fit that definition their mind defaults to the belief that the divorce must somehow be illegitimate. If it was legitimate according to this line of reasoning, adultery wouldn't result. Thus the circular reasoning of the NO divorce, No Remarriage (NDNR) camp. This position produces the most strict and far reaching consequences for those divorced and/or remarried. Why?
Because their counsel to them is based in the opposite reality of divorce and remarriage being effective. In the NDNR camp (also referred to as Permanence view) the individuals are told and made to believe that they aren't actually married to their present spouse "in God's eyes" and not actually divorce from the former spouse "in God's eyes".
If this is true then their counsel for those "supposedly" remarried, to divorce their present spouse and return to their first spouse is correct. Christians should be able to determine that if divorce and remarriage is ineffective, then the most extreme position on this issue is interpreting Jesus correctly.
Conversely if option 1 is correct then the Permanence view has greatly exaggerated Jesus' teaching by inverting "divorce" and "marries another", causing sin instead of remedying it. If divorce and remarriage are effective events in God's Word then we actually have one spouse supplanting another. We actually have individuals married and obligated to their present spouse and not their former.
We can certainly argue if divorce or remarriage should have occurred within various situations, but not that they didn't occur. We then have an interpretation of Jesus and the writings of Moses (to which He referred) understood congruous, not in conflict as the Permanence view paradigm concludes.
In closing I should note that not all Permanence Pastors are as extreme as others, but Christians could clear up a lot of the confusion created by the Permanence view by realizing that Jesus didn't claim marriages can't end before death. He merely revealed what would transpire if it did. Blessings
the woman, at the well.....it is an argument, from silence, or ignorance....as no reason was given for the number of husbands....yet they were called husbands, that should shed some light, on it....
How about other women's husband's???!
But when John the Baptist went to Herod he said "it is not lawful that you have your brothers wife". John the Baptist did not call Herodias Herods wife. He said she was his brothers wife. That makes me believe the woman at the well had ligitimate husbands through death except for the last one.
reconcilliation is the name, of the game...
My question is when they had married the first time was it a first time for both?? If one had previously been married then no!!
how can you be sure that God recogonizes that the divorce is valid.....
clean slate passage....you may wish to develope this idea, and how you arrived at the concusion that you have....
this is a strange question.....is a non legitimate divorce....legitimate.....sounds irrational....
This man is in agreement with the pharisees. He is doing it due to sympathy for his members, but Paul clarifies in Romans 7, you are bound for life especially if you are both believers, even after you separate. Jesus clarified that the law in Deuteronomy was to passify hard hearted men, but he says... it wasnt supposed to be like.that at all. Jesus made it perfectly clear that people were still bound in marriage after illegal divorces because remarriage in Gods perspective is adultery. What is adultery? It is the sexual sin of a married person.
Pastors often take this line of reasoning because they are men pleasers, afraid of their congregants. When you love Jesus more than your job and impressing people, you love His words over your remarried congregants.
She is reborn by her concern to please God , that is a tough one ? She was not living for God during her first marriage so was she married in Gods eyes ?
since the marriage was not invalidated, by the divorce.....what would be the issue in remarring...
how is a christian marriage constituted? does it have to be legal or?
Moses allowed that not God 🤨 because of the hardness of their heart why would you want to practice what people were doing out of the hardness of their heart 🤦🏿♀️
Amen! The scriptures also say that the Israelites of the exodus, whom Moses had wrote his precept because of their hardness of heart, would not enter into God's rest.
Hebrews 3:7-11:
7Wherefore (as the Holy Ghost saith, To day if ye will hear his voice,
8Harden not your hearts, as in the provocation, in the day of temptation in the wilderness:
9When your fathers tempted me, proved me, and saw my works forty years.
10Wherefore I was grieved with that generation, and said, They do alway err in their heart; and they have not known my ways.
11So I sware in my wrath, They shall not enter into my rest.)
I think marriage is marriage when God is in it. A lot of marriages are just worldly marriages that are not recognized in Heaven. A Heavenly marriage should go by the WORD of God and not by what we think. The WORD is very loud and clear. Each one of us is going to answer for him/her self concerning how we lived. THE HOLY SPIRIT IS THE BEST TEACHER TO EACH ONE OF US.
Exactly, that's why it say "what God joins together ".
Deut is not the issue, in the case.....so why bring it up..
porneia....please do a study on this term and why it is translated ....sexual immorality, and not fornication....check on Erasmus on the one accused of doing this very thing....which would be a game changer, as it seems to have opened the door to divorce and remarriage....
What Jesus says in the New Testament overrules what is said in Deuteronomy. Jesus’s overrules Moses view of divorce and all other views on divorce.
the basic question is....does the Bible view them as still being married.....end of story....
too much drama....answer the question...eh...
The one I want to truly be with is divorced. And his wives are still living. Am I still committing an Adultery while we are both divorced couples.
Hi anyone this is random my mom was married in the past before she was married to my Dad my mom divorces my Dad and married her first husband again I read Deuteronomy 24 someone speak to me on this and someone pray for me in this situation I don’t know how to handle this.
I’m so sorry about the pain you feel in this situation, it’s normal to feel that way and I’m glad you shared it. My family had a similar situation with my sister, our mom divorced her dad and went back to her first husband my father. That’s called reconciliation, which is biblical-the other marriage was adultery, and you are not innocent although ignorant and unable to choose of course, plead the blood of Jesus over your birth, God forgives and your mom repented by going back to her first husband, hopefully in her heart as well. Seek Jesus for all you healing, He is faithful and good.
God recognizes second marriages, and no one should seek a divorce from them. Jesus, when speaking to the woman at the well, recognized all her marriages; He didn't call them boyfriends/adulterous partners, He called them husbands. Both my parents were previously married, and they stay married for 25 years, when my father passed. They adopted me and taught me about Jesus.
Why the long debate about this question?
What God has joined together, no man shall separate. Just because the world says it’s ok, doesn’t make it right in the eyes of God. One cannot pick and choose what they want to believe in the Bible.
Shame on you for not answering with God said…period!
the exception is porneia....translated, by Erasmus and promoted by Luther....as sexual immorality....
This is false. God recognizes the first marriage, because it is a covenant with each other and with God , until death do they part. Remarriages unless adultery or death are adultery. You saying that God doesn’t recognize the first marriage is evil. I will pray for you that God give you true wisdom. You misinterpret Deuteronomy 24. Outside of adultery or death all remarriages are adultery.
look lady,apparantly christianity is not for women,maybe you re better off being a non christian,do not try to justify your way by quoting any passages in the bible.because it makes you a hypocrite....it is not us people judging ,it the bible its self tells everything.PS: christianity ,judaism,islamic religion they are all patriachy religion..theyre meant to serve men ,not women,women are considered belongings..and my opinion about you,is that you are condamned to not remarry,if you did ,you are commiting adultary.thats it.
I have a hard one for you... my 1st husband and I were young and went through a lot including the loss of 2 babies. In the 5 years together he left several times. He cheated alot and was abusive. He left me when our 2 living children were 2 and 4. We both got remarried. He married the woman he cheated on me with. We both ended up divorced from the 2nd marriages. My reasoning with my 2nd divorce was he also was abusive and cheated constantly with over 60 women. I went through a 5 year divorce from him. My 1st husband tried to come back at the tail end of the divorce. I wouldn't let him though. He remarried again and is now not with her. Sounds like a divorce... For some reason I've been having dreams of reconciliation with him. And it is really laying heavy on my heart because I am trying to understand why. We have hardly spoken to eachother for several years. But we just spoke recently. And both agreed we need to sit down and talk. What do i do here? Why am i being pulled like this? Yes i am a Christian. He was supposed to have turned his life over to God when we were married. But the life after didn't look and hasn't looked like a Christian life. I didn't see this coming for 23 years now.
You need to remain single.
Would love to hear what happens
🎀 hard message.
Is it? Everyone here seems to love it. Like-dislike ratio is 26 to 1
this is an interesting question....since the Bible intimates that they were never divorced.....could they just carry on....and here is the rub....how much should the Biblical world match up with the secular one....should they just get....remarrried.....
You have had 5 husbands, and the man you are living with is not your husband.....this doesn't say her previous marriages were valid, nor does it say that she isn't widowed 5 times.
@donovanreed3236 Jesus spoke to people how they would understand His words. If He said l, "You've had 5 invalid husbands," she wouldn't understand Him.
But let's assume that she had 5 valid marriages... that would mean she was widowed at least 4 times. That can be true.
@donovanreed3236
Luke 16:18
“Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.
When we see clear statements from Jesus in Scripture, we have to assume all of the other Scripture on this topic aligns with the clear teaching. If another Scripture contradicts, then it is being interpreted incorrectly.
@PowersFamily2011 all marriages aren't of God and those people were never supposed to get married. That's why it says "what God has joined together ", not what you put together yourself.
@@MOG.1122 name a marriage that God hasn't put together. The Bible says for believers to remain with their unbelieving spouses.
@@donovanreed3236 was she widowed 4 times?
hi don't feel my marriage was good it was full of fraud and coercement when I was unable to speak out of shock... he married again what does that make him he knew what was going on
God says do not remarry the women whom married another . For it defiles the earth
This is the answer that Tim apparently can not give anyone, ugh do I really have to explain this? The reason why God allowed the ancient Israelites to divorce is because men were just sending their wives out for any reason without certification so when she would go out and marry a new man then she would commit the sin of bigamy and adultery with another man but once given an official certificate of divorce she was a free woman, If she remarried a new man and she was happy and her old husband saw her or if he just wanted her back so nobody else could have her or for other superficial reasons then yes that would be terrible, think about it marrying someone not because you love them but because of jealously while this person wants to be loved and instead of you just letting that person go to find someone who really does love her you only marry her so nobody else could have her wasting both your life and hers, or if you only want her back for one reason being her giving you physical contact until someone more attractive to you comes along of which you would divorce her again meaning she nor you would ever have any real stability.
Nowadays this is exactly the doctrine of the prosperity Gospel, is not what the Bible says, just what they think and what they feel
Rogelio, the big difference is the "prosperity Gospel" twists Scripture in order to come to their conclusions; but here Tim is seeking to wrestle with difficult passages and rightly interpret them. If you disagree, then please prove clearly from the verses Tim dealt with, what they are saying.
the question, you propose is not about honor, it is about a Biblical teaching.....what course, of action, is the more Biblical one...
once again....how do you validate the point that each marriage ended in divorce.....this is very bad teaching....
What constitutes a marriage?
Sex
God!
Many people are in their own life and own relationships and own choices! And God doesn’t enter in their lives.
@@swalideep no other wise there would be no....fornication.....
Please help me, I need answers that I will be committing an Adultery. When we both are divorced. And want to get married. My ex got remarried while I was married to him all he wanted was to use me for his green card.
Yes you can remarried, the pastor i listen to yesterday said if someone using you for money and not doing right in the marriage, you can divorce that person and be forgiven by God, so yes remarry.
@@anikacorbett7714 Sister...may GOD open your eyes and lets you read His words about this matter...it seems your advice is not helpful for this woman..do not let her commit a sin..instead pray for her that GOD will restore all the broken relationship being done by evil..I believe GOD is the only healer and restores all what has lost and broken..GOD BLESS YOU
John 4.....another tired argument.....because it is a classical fallacy....appeal, to ignorance....nothing is said of the outcome, of each relationship.....how they ended...and the one she was currently with, was not her husband....so much for going into a relationship, for the wrong reason and somehow it becomes legitimate.....
here is my question
both side they are not yet accept Jesus as personal saviour in their life during their marriage life
couple of years a woman recieve Jesus Christ already but the hasband not yet recieving Jesus
then the woman wan a Godly man.
Their is a possible way that a woman divorce his haband to marry a Godly man?
She forgave him since she slept with him any one else not to be unequally yoked it's a commitment accept abuse because of adultry then she can remarry unless she forgives him she's under the law I stand corrected
Can a man live with a woman even after he had divorced her ? Is this a sin ?
it is an interesting question.....because, Biblically speaking they would still be married....
Have you thought that the husbands the samaritan woman had were none hers?
What if they were someone else's husbands and she was living in adultery all her life?
It doesn't say that she married them.....
No, they are not married any longer.
God created marrige and is a covenant between HIM, the husband and wife and must be taken very seriously. The State "requires" licenses (which are all frauds) for marriages which are perpetuated under Maritime law so they can dicatate property distribution when "divorce" does occur.
Buenas tardes hermano me gustan sus predicaciones pero el problema es que no se hablar ingles no se si podría enviarlas en español por favor gracias que tengan buen día
creo que hay un opcion por espanol....
Hi everyone. I'm going thru a divorce right now. How do I get her back
Update? She back?
What did God say It does not matter what we say or think.
What the heck are you talking about you make a great politician
it seems that they got divorced....and that was not Biblical.....so it is just a formality.....to cover the legal terms.....because, according to God they were never divorced...
God says to obey the laws of the land. It would be fornication according to the law of the state and therefore fornication in Gods eyes.
We live in a secular society the American government doesn’t recognize fornication there are no laws against living together before marriage and in some states you are considered married after so many years of living together (common law marriage). Not to mention the government approves of two men getting married so the entire American marriage system Is corrupt. Personally I think Christian’s should just be going before there pastor and having a ceremony between them and the congregation. Relying on the state for the legitimacy of our marriages has gotten Christian marriage statistic almost identical to the unsaved.
from a Biblica standpoint they seem to be married....the issue would be their legal standing, in the community......
This question it a legit question, if u divorce your ex can u have sex with ur ex husband, would it be considered a sin. In a situation minus sexual, can u remarry ur ex-husband because I thought it said reconciliation
Having sexual relations with an ex-husband without remarrying is considered sexual immorality. In the meantime, they should abstain from sexual relations until they are reconciled and remarried.
@@illbehonest Thank you, 🙏
figure out your teaching, and get on with it.....
fornication, not sexual immorality......Erasmus made that change.....it is not what, but who is doing something.....
try getting the exception correct.....fornication....after all there is an example, can you say....Joseph and Mary...
This pastor is contradicting himself
Off top; Not possible. The Loving n Holy One Flesh Union [Marriage] COVENANT Is Established, Valid, Honorable, and Enduring as long as †he Head lives. Ahmein. The most Glorious, Bright Shadow/Picture of †he Glorious Gospel that We have, as It IS Written; and Adoption inside of this TRIUNE HOLY LOVING FAMILY, According to the Holy Scriptures. Period, Ahmein. Solí DÉO Gloría
Read Hosea.
You are running roughshod over very clear verses about the subject, e.g., Luke 16:18, Mark 10:11-12, Romans 7:1-4, in order to advance the Matthew-Pauline narrative. G-d clearly recognizes unbeliever's marriages. See Matthew 27:19.
@9:20, this man has obviously read Jeremiah 3
New King James Version:
“They say, ‘If a man divorces his wife,
And she goes from him
And becomes another man’s,
May he return to her again?’
Would not that land be greatly polluted?
But you have played the harlot with many lovers;
Yet return to Me,” says the Lord.
2
“Lift up your eyes to the desolate heights and see:
Where have you not [a]lain with men?
By the road you have sat for them
Like an Arabian in the wilderness;
And you have polluted the land
With your harlotries and your wickedness.
3
Therefore the showers have been withheld,
And there has been no latter rain.
You have had a harlot’s forehead;
You refuse to be ashamed.
4
Will you not from this time cry to Me,
‘My Father, You are the guide of my youth?
5
Will He remain angry forever?
Will He keep it to the end?’
Behold, you have spoken and done evil things,
As you were able.”
A Call to Repentance
6 The Lord said also to me in the days of Josiah the king: “Have you seen what backsliding Israel has done? She has gone up on every high mountain and under every green tree, and there played the harlot. 7 And I said, after she had done all these things, ‘Return to Me.’ But she did not return. And her treacherous sister Judah saw it. 8 Then I saw that for all the causes for which backsliding Israel had committed adultery, I had put her away and given her a certificate of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah did not fear, but went and played the harlot also. 9 So it came to pass, through her casual harlotry, that she defiled the land and committed adultery with stones and trees. 10 And yet for all this her treacherous sister Judah has not turned to Me with her whole heart, but in pretense,” says the Lord.
11 Then the Lord said to me, “Backsliding Israel has shown herself more righteous than treacherous Judah. 12 Go and proclaim these words toward the north, and say:
‘Return, backsliding Israel,’ says the Lord;
‘I will not cause My anger to fall on you.
For I am merciful,’ says the Lord;
‘I will not remain angry forever.
13
Only acknowledge your iniquity,
That you have transgressed against the Lord your God,
And have scattered your [b]charms
To alien deities under every green tree,
And you have not obeyed My voice,’ says the Lord.
14 “Return, O backsliding children,” says the Lord; “for I am married to you. I will take you, one from a city and two from a family, and I will bring you to Zion. 15 And I will give you shepherds according to My heart, who will feed you with knowledge and understanding.
16 “Then it shall come to pass, when you are multiplied and increased in the land in those days,” says the Lord, “that they will say no more, ‘The ark of the covenant of the Lord.’ It shall not come to mind, nor shall they remember it, nor shall they visit it, nor shall it be made anymore.
17 “At that time Jerusalem shall be called The Throne of the Lord, and all the nations shall be gathered to it, to the name of the Lord, to Jerusalem. No more shall they follow[c] the dictates of their evil hearts.
18 “In those days the house of Judah shall walk with the house of Israel, and they shall come together out of the land of the north to the land that I have given as an inheritance to your fathers.
19 “But I said:
‘How can I put you among the children
And give you a pleasant land,
A beautiful heritage of the hosts of nations?’
“And I said:
‘You shall call Me, “My Father,”
And not turn away from Me.’
20
Surely, as a wife treacherously departs from her [d]husband,
So have you dealt treacherously with Me,
O house of Israel,” says the Lord.
21
A voice was heard on the desolate heights,
Weeping and supplications of the children of Israel.
For they have perverted their way;
They have forgotten the Lord their God.
22
“Return, you backsliding children,
And I will heal your backslidings.”
“Indeed we do come to You,
For You are the Lord our God.
23
Truly, in vain is salvation hoped for from the hills,
And from the multitude of mountains;
Truly, in the Lord our God
Is the salvation of Israel.
24
For shame has devoured
The labor of our fathers from our youth-
Their flocks and their herds,
Their sons and their daughters.
25
We lie down in our shame,
And our [e]reproach covers us.
For we have sinned against the Lord our God,
We and our fathers,
From our youth even to this day,
And have not obeyed the voice of the Lord our God.”
I think Tim just let people do what they want
the woman, at the well....get with it....nothing is given to indicate anything about the spouses.....ergo an appeal to ignorance......thus marking this speaker as a false teacher...
This guy makes me sick! Another one of these false teachers , twisting the word of God to defend divorce & legalized adultery.🤮