Let's Talk Body Image | BBLs & Body Shapes
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- Опубліковано 30 січ 2021
- Back again with another video essay! I'm talking body image and alllllllllll the things wrong with basing our body goals off fleeting trends like BBLs and body shapes. I hope this has encouraged you.
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It’s actually funny how I used to get bullied or made fun of for being curvy/having a big rear and now it’s a trend and I get compliments and it makes me feel kinda bitter lol
This!!! And it’s kinda awkward admitting you used to be bullied for something that people kill themselves over for today 🥴 I can’t even gass myself because soon my body won’t be the standard 🤣
Yess lol it irritates me so much the same ppl who were saying I was weird for having a large bum in middle school now on social media crying about wanting that body?! I feel you😂
I feel this way but about my freckles! I was picked on and sneered at for the freckles all over my face and now everyone seems to be drawing them on and making it their trend. It makes me feel bitter sometimes, because I feel like something that I had naturally is being taken in a way and I had to deal with the hurt and negativity for being different. I know it's different, but I feel I can relate to you in a different way
Same, i got bullied for being a fatass in the 2000s and having big eyebrows and now it's trendy. I dont care that it's trendy and people copy it, i care that everyone was ok with the bullying back then.
@@emilyquinnie this is *sort of* irrelevant but i can definitely can relate to the freckles thing when it comes to my curly hair. so many people bashed me for it and called me nappy but those same white people turned around and got curly perms. and i guess you could say natural black features in general have been made into trends.
small waist, big lips, dark skin, curly hair... except no one actually wants to be ✨black✨
so basically stay yourself until your body becomes a trend haha. if you don't like something change it as long as it doesn't require hurting your body and as long that it's not for somebody else than yourself. Learn to be happy with the way you are as well because sometimes those changes are not the ticket to your happiness. 😍
what if it was in the last century lmaoo
@@thequeertelope7941 🤣🤣 it always comes back.
@@natlucci7802 loll i hope
@@natlucci7802 no lies told. back in 80s or 70s everyone wanted to be skinny now in 2021 people want to be skinny again
Fat stomach never gets in tho 😪 the only thing that goes in and out is curves
The black community is being killed by the BBL and the need to be curvy. I am an inverted triangle shape. Never had a butt and is still ridiculed for not having one. It really is an issue for my self esteem.
@ok zoomer omg I’m Indian and a inverted triangle this really hit home. I’m constantly only wearing wrap dresses and peplum tops to balance my body. I recently joined a gym and have been busting my ass trying to get thick.
I´m peruvian and the hour glass body shape is an statement here in the south. I´ve considered many times getting a surgery like a BBL o booty implants since I have the inverted triangle shape body tipe. I´m thin but still triangle inverted. Many times I´ve told my insecurities to my parents or close friends, and all they say is just "oh, go to the gym", "exercise your gluteus", and they don´t considere that the hour glass shape can not be reached only by working your gluteus and reducing fat body. This situation feels like a nightmare since I need to get and save money to "correct" my body shape.
@ok zoomer so ? love your body the way it is . fuck trends , there are plenty women with the “hour glass figure” who aren’t as confident as you think . you probably have a beautiful face btw . the inverted triangle look is sexy too
I'm an inverted triangle and one piece of advice I can give is to not just work your butt! I had a trainer who knew I was trying to grow my lower body and I kept quentioning why he was having me do all these pushups and bicep curls until, 8 months into training, I noticed the changes for myself in the mirror. The upper body work helped my posture and slimmed down my arms and back fat so that my upper body actually looked smaller coupled with all the squats and stuff I did too.
@ok zoomer aww you’re so welcome , i really hate to see young ladies/women not comfortable with their body cause we are ALL BEAUTIFUL just the way we are & you said you have red hair ? thats a huge plus , who doesn’t love a red head ❤️
The 2000's was more Paris Hilton body type. 2010's is the post surgery KK body
Lol I vividly remember that shift . I was a kid in the 2000’s with a normal amount of baby fat and I felt like I was too big compared to the body trends of that time. In 2010 I stretched out and had a Paris Hilton body (pre boob implants). And I was happy for a while till I experienced the ideal change from skinny to a KK body.
I’m kinda curious what the 20’s and 30’s are gonna be like
@@elbuki4547 I feel like there's gonna be more acceptance, but only for specific types. Like a wrong and right way to be fat, skinny, etc. Kinda is that way rn
@@saintsingh skinny or at least flat abs are always gonna be the standard
@@elbuki4547 I don’t think skinny is always going to be the standard (it’s only half of the the standard right now. The other half is people wanting to be slim-thick). What I’m sure of is that the standard will always he ‘not fat’
am I the only one it really irks when people describe thin women as “boyish” “adolescent” and “androgynous”? like... sir I’m a woman 😩
It's passive aggressive. And thin women dont look anything like boys lmao
they do that with coi leray a lot. i saw a guy on tik tok say that any guy attracted to coi leray is a pedophile.
@@ilianaxavier1587 yikes that’s not okay ☹️ I looked her up and she’s literally gorgeous wtf
Yes I've had a slight man say that to me😒
Mind you, I have an inverted triangle shape...It felt subtle with ridicule, and some insecurity on his part
I hate too, because it feels like the tearing down your femininity, just because of your bone structure, and a beauty standard, that not everyone was born with
Yeah I feel you.. it’s not right to try to put all women in one box we come at different shapes and sizes whoever think we all should look the same is ignorant
A game changer for me was saying fuck wanting to look as physically attractive as the girls that get praised online. I'm gonna hit the gym and fix my diet not because I wanna change myself, but because my body deserves that good treatment and ain't no one more beautiful than when they're mentally and physically healthy. Once your mentality around a healthy lifestyle changes from "I wanna lose weight and be skinny" to "I wanna be strong and thankful of the body that carries me through all my bs" life gets so much better lol
Same here =)
I'm going to (initially typed "trying to"-- gotta change errors when you see them, oops!) eat healthier and work out not because I want to be more "beautiful", but because I plan on having children in the future and I want to have the energy and physical capabilities to keep up with them as they grow. I don't wanna be that parent who's unable to play with them or play sports with them because they don't have the energy to do so. Along with seeing all the expensive health issues that occur as you age o_O
Well said Elie - also put less importance on how you look in terms of building confidence, and more on your intrinsic value as a human being - women obviously have more to offer the world than merely how we look 🤣
Girl yes
Exactly ! I’m going to the gym and eating healthy for me and my body and health I’m not trying to fit any beauty standards. Plus who cares if you don’t it doesn’t really matters I’m not just flesh and bones inside all of us is our soul and spirit that’s what really matters. Let’s stop making life difficult for ourselves and appreciate what we have while we have it ✨☘️
This is the way
"Heroin chic", what a term!
that reminds me of englang in the victorian times, when pretending to have tuberculosis (also known then as comsumption) was a trend for a while, people went as far as to make themselves extremely pale with powder and draw on fake veins on their chest/face, as well as red cheeks and noses and dark circles lol
@aya lamari red cheeks and noses made a comeback, they're pretty cute, being pale was seen as status and idk about the dark circles to be honest? But it has been a thing in history for from time to time people glorify the look of an illness, specially in women, bc when you're ill you're weaker and well, you can see why society would like that. A good example was the super small feet period in china, where having your foot tied down to a "moon" shape all your life was seen as the beauty standard bc the women would be unable to move and run away from men
Lol looking through the urban outfitters catalogs circa 2009, my mom and I always thought the models looked like starving drug addicts. 😄
That's what we all called it in the 90s!
@aya lamari Neuroses
I grew up when the popular body type was thin with thigh gaps, and very minuscule body and facial features. I saw it on insta, people hyping up these very thin girls with bone structures I didn't know could exist. Then I had a mom that always looked down upon my baby fat, i was only about 12 or 13 and she'd pinch at my stomach and telling me my body wasn't good. I starved myself at 16, then puberty really kicked in. I lost so much weight I could have died...and then big booties and curves became popular LOL. Closer to 18 all I could see is the kardashians and nicki, people wanting to be like them. I'm almost 21 now, and I love my body now more than ever even though it's not the current standard. It's still beautiful and loved. To sum things up, Adella is right yea. Don't overwork yourself for these standards, in a few years it's going to change for sure. You'll be truly happy once you accept and love yourself, and just work on bettering what you already have
I'm sorry your mom was such a bitch! Glad you're learning how to love yourself.
Ugh people can be harsh
Baby, you are still so so so young and your body will keep changing! Well done for this self awareness and self love you already have, but I know personally, my body didn't lose its baby fat until I was about 28, and until then I was athletic with baby fat, so chubby by IG standards. Now, I am frequently complimented for something that was the result of focusing on health and then having the "right" genetics (aka the pop culture phenotype), but, most importantly of all, I let my body develop! Our brains alone keep growing until we are 28!
I am flat and skinny and have the elusive thigh gap and I LOVE my body. And yes Confidence is a beauty all by itself!
There is no such thing as “a perfect body”. That’s why so many are dying trying to look like someone there not. Stop making life harder ladies.
It has nothing to do with people dying to look like somebody else like come on is their parents fault their parents should be monitoring what they’re looking at and what they’re watching
@@sheluvssmokedupeyes1 don’t be naive. A child acts of a child, a grown up should act like as a grown up. Stop blaming mommy and daddy for your childish decisions... I would believe you said to me social media, you really tried blaming parents. Are you six years old or something? Have a bless day. God bless.
are you a man? lol
@@RS-vn8ku God Bless
@@morsanjos negative. If your perfect, do you get old, does your skin get acne, blisters, wrinkles? We are humans, look up what happens to your body once your in a grave. All the plastic nonsense will be turned to dust. Hey to each there own. You want to be happy, be real with yourself first.
Have you ever noticed; most times we don't have a insecurity until someone else points it out. And I have come to learn most people just do that because they themselves are insecure!
@9:56 I can so relate! I feel because of that I have never fully enjoyed my slim body.
EXACTLY when i was younger i never had a problem with being skinny i was just fine but until a boy told me he wouldnt date me because i wasnt thick thats when my body issues started
I never thought I had “small” or “flat” boobs until my sister-in-law pointed it out. As if I don’t have enough insecurities 🙄
Wow wow wow. You’re so right... I think I’m having a break through lol.... There isn’t anything wrong with me
The only thing I ever started to hate without anyone mentioning is my nose, one day I took a photo and I noticed that what made it look ugly was the size of my nose and ever since it has been my biggest insecurity, I feel like people only don't see it bc of my glasses, so I never take them off close to anyone
Yeah, I remember my hating supervisor pointed out that I have a long waiste. Ol' heffa.
The perfect body type is what you feel most comfortable with (as long as it doesn’t affect your health)
it isn't even * just * about the surgery. it's the *PRESSURE* and utter *body shaming* if you don't have the physique. Like to the point where guys WILL NOT DATE YOU *unless* you are slim thicc in the " *right* " way. I went from anorexia to orthorexia to anorexia/bulimia orthorexia just for this body and REALLY jacked myself and my stomach up
Guys that will only date you if you have the One Acceptable Shape arent worth dating, consider it an easy way to filter out dickheads instead
@@verybarebones that’s a great way of thinking about it!
Whats orthorexia?
@@verybarebones Basically-- filter out guys that arent meant for you.
@@sixteen.candles.4644 it's similar to anorexia in that it's a restrictive eating disorder, but it's more focused on the idea of health. To really reduce it down, basically a 'health nut'. I'm not a professional so definitely look into it if you are curious but it's an obsession with eating right and usually working out. Sounds great but it can really negatively effect on suffers' lives and can be really damaging physically, emotionally, mentally and socially.
An example; an anorexic might eat half a pack of gummy bears for the day and that's it, but an orthorexic will eat 3 salads with no dressing for the day. The orthorexic sounds healthier but eating that way for more then a few days means your body is missing fat and protein and will still break down eventually, maybe even faster, as orthorexics are more prone to work out then an anorexic. This is a single example and by no means comprehensive.
Thank you so much for talking about skinny girls. People say skinny-shaming isn’t a thing because it’s the standard, but... it’s literally not? Being curvy or slim-thick is the standard right now, and making fun of “flat” women is so so so common. Why can’t we not have an ideal, why can’t we just all love ourselves and encourage others to be healthy, but nothing beyond that?
I'm thin too. I think all bodies are normal and healthy and there shouldn't be any beauty standards
Also I remember in the early 00s (up until around 2004 ish) when it was all about super skinny with big boobs but NO butt! I remember seeing stuff like '20 workouts to reduce your butt' in magazines back when and am still shocked how it's the opposite regarding butts these days.
@ok zoomer NOOO SAMMMEEE OMG CUS I WOULD FINALLY BE ACCEPTED IN THAT WORLD 💀💀
I remember rewatching Mean Girls a couple years ago and being confused for a moment at why a girl got offended after being told she had a fat ass, as I didn't immediately remember it didn't use to be a compliment like it's used as today. and that movie didn't feel like all that long ago! at the time that realisation really put things into perspective for me about ever changing beauty standards
Same!
The funny thing is Regina wasn’t even fat, but in the 2000s if you you weren’t malnourished looking you were considered “fat”. I’m not curvy/thick nor super skinny, I’m kinda in the middle. I wouldn’t survive the 2000s because I bloat a lot and I have fat on my thighs
What i have to remark is that when the Marilyn Monroe figure was in, she did not have the "kardashian" standard we strive for today. Her waist was not the size of her two arms. That figure was way more attainable and natural
Lmaoooo not.. The size of 2 arms LOL.
Probably cus plastic surgery wasn’t a thing,
@@nyakuothgatkuoth1016 ah yeah for sure. And then people claim they got that butt because of their special workout guide. lol
@@nyakuothgatkuoth1016 plastic surgery was definitely a thing back then w celebrities. Marilyn Monroe had many plastic surgery procedures done herself.
@@tikifreaky5204 it was on her face tho, I not sure if she did anything to her body but I heard that Marilyn was bulimic
I loved this video! I’d like to add that although the mortality rate is high, so are the chances of getting botched! So many of these doctors are shady, and girls are willing to do whatever to get a “affordable BBL,” usually the high profile BBL’s we know of like the kardashians, are a result of multiple rounds which the average woman probably cannot afford. Many girls end up getting botched and look wayyyy worse than they did before, and don’t have the resources to go back multiple times.
Honestly, in the black community being a size zero was never a thing. We always appreciated women with curvy bodies. The trends of white body standards dont really apply to the black community. I think the drastic rise of BBL surgery is because of instagram. I feel like black women always wanted to achieve a body where their waist was snatched and their booty was big and have used different techniques and ways to achieve this. But now surgery is readily available
Yeah for me it swung the other way. I’m black and I used to be EXTREMELY skinny and people said I wasn’t really black because of my body.
@@mirandatorres5038 I disagree. I'm mexican, I was an adolescent in the 90's and I was always called 'chubby', 'fatty' and even, more elegantly, 'rubenesque'. I was around a size 6 but everything in me is rounded: super round face, big bum, big thighs, big calves. Also, I should emphasize that the mean comments came mainly from women, 'wannabe' men (those who wanted to appear rich and fancy) and gay men.
Did 'heroin chic' aesthetic prevented me from getting attention from men? No. But it definitely gave a lot of body insecurities and mild eating disorders.
@@Dan_Chiron i am so sorry to hear that
same here in puerto rico, altho interestingly among the upper white classes the 'skinny' trend was a thing
I disagree How did you come to conclusion that black women always wanting a really small waist with big butt and huge breast 😑When most black men and black women saw the Nina longs , Gabrielle unions , Aaliyah , Halle Berry,Vivica fox, Tyra Banks , Beyoncé ( pre surgery) as beautiful, none of them have huge boob and ass. The only girls/women who wanted the Melissa Ford body was fast/thots who wanted male attention.
And I still believe to many women want a BBL for male attention
I feel like athletism is the next trend, as a push back to the overconsumption of curves. There is definitely a stigma associated with undergoing surgery for aesthetics, and so fitness would be the 'natural' alternative to attaining beauty.
I think surgery will be there but very Suttle hard to notice very natural, I'm starting to see it. Surgery to make you look "natural curvy/athletic curvy"
This is sooooo fascinating, I definitely agree
Omg imagine implants to get pecs, lean muscles, abs etc... yikes lol
@@zvezdoblyat they exist. They look awful
it upsets me greatly when women's bodies are treated as trends 😔 like please im just trying to deal with the stresses of life i don't want to add on another pressure when it comes to my body shape!!
Love it, great topic! I remember a time when I paid no attention to the size of my butt. Then as big butts became a trend, I found myself comparing and seeing just how little my behind is lol. I even thought about buying a cream that is supposed to enhance the shape smh. I'm glad I didn't, and decided to embrace my body the way it is
In the Hispanic community the size 0 wasn’t celebrated so even when I fit the “standard” back in high school in 2008-12 I hated my body I was compared to twiggy...my family said I needed to eat more if I ever wanted to fill out. The clothing especially jeans made my legs look even skinnier and emphasize my no bottom...I admired more hourglass women like Sofia Vergera, Thalia, Selena...I was never happy being so skinny and now I accept that I will always be a B cup and have a small butt...I shut out the noise it’s not worth being miserable. Life is too short.
Because 2008 was too late for the size 0 trend. 1995-2004 now those were size zero years, and trust me i suffered the standard in the hispanic community. Wide hips and big butts were seen as low class in my school amd i got so much bullying for my typical hispanic figure. But heroin chic was the 90s, way before IG.
Yea my older sister is a lot skinnier than me and everyone in my fam would always comment on her weight. But yet she’s modeling for Abercrombie and looks good in all her clothes. Hispanic families can be low key haters.
It wasn’t in the black community too. I think being size 0 was only the standard in the white and east/south-east asian communities.
@@verybarebones low class wtf! What a lie
I wish I had more hips
But rocking what I have
my friends is extremely skinny and small boobs and butt, she was literally bullied abt it. then i was always insecure over my body, and now it’s in trend? like b tf? now girls get dragged for being too skinny, bodies shouldn’t be trends it’s so harmful.
right
I remember those tumblr days when being model thin with a thigh gap & posting quotes like “nothing tastes as good as skinny feels” was IT.... whew the eating disorder and excessive exercise was ruining me.
I was only a young girl and I didn’t understand that being that size was NOT achievable or possible with my genetics especially while still maturing. I would have given anything to rid myself of my boobs, butt, and curves because my natural body type didn’t fit the “aesthetic” being pushed at the time. It caused me serious dysmorphia.
Now I’m here in my early 20’s still recovering from all the damage done to my physicality & psyche and am only just now accepting my body for what it is.
Yes, it’s cool that my natural body is seen as “attractive” & “acceptable” now but honestly these trends are all just so unsustainable... striving for any ideal that society dictates is extremely dangerous and it definitely stems from the western capitalist culture of “you’re not good enough, here’s a product we can sell you to make you hate yourself less!!”
No one should be feeling pressured to be anything other than HEALTHY for THEMSELVES! Body positivity should include ALL body types at ALL times.
No one should be shamed for their body nor should we box one up to put on a pedestal while simultaneously trashing everyone else. It hurts EVERYONE no matter what side the pendulum swings to. These standards are harmful in the long run. I don’t understand why we can’t all just be striving for inclusivity, balance, & overall well being....
I suppose this has to start on an individual level though because these ideas are so deeply embedded into us. Hope people can wake up.
Yes! I remember this trend on tumblr. No child/teen should be on that app
Agreed
My pediatrician told my sis and I that we can never achieve a thin body because of our genetics. My sister’s body is closer to what’s in, but she actually says she loves runway model type bodies. And mines more of like a fridge with very subtle curves. So of course my body has never been in. Although I look elsewhere to find inspiration for my body type.
True. The body type goal that I always envied (even now sometimes) is the extremely thin boyish figure. I think some of it also has to do with my gender identity and that having an androgynous build is the "aesthetic", but it really f*ucked me up seeing myself being extremely curvey and not fitting the perception of myself I had in my head or what I was supposed to look like.
Even though I have the body type that is currently in, and even when I was at a healthy weight and then underweight I still always saw myself as obese because I was too curvy (can't do anything about bone structure lol). I'm still learning to come to terms with this but I think just acknowledging the problem and the unrealistic standards is a really important first step.
Ty for this comment. You didn't tear down anyone and made many real points. Beauty is a business. Making people feel inadequate for the way they are brings in money for someone else.
This hair on youu 😍
I'm wondering where it's gone
no matter what the trend is growing up a black girl I was ridiculed by my FAMILY constantly for not being curvy when I was young asf. it has taken a TOLL on my self esteem and has caused a lot of young black girls a lot of body issues. so seeing this trend get popular and thinner black girls doing everything in their power to try to achieve the "widely desired curviness" while people in la are just getting surgery definitely doesn't help.
Bodies go in and out of style 🧐
i know its crazy like how is something u cant help a trend its sad really
i wonder what style this decade will be
@Cvetlana Schafer idk i heard most corsets werent the evil villains we make them out to be, and pregnancy corsets were for back support primarily
@Cvetlana Schafer yeah true about the standards tho
@@thequeertelope7941 that’s true! Corsets are just vilified in movies and series (showing that people cant breath in them/purposely giving the actresses corsets that are too tight) because for some feminism thing I guess, but corsets were perfectly normal and acted like a modern day bra, they wouldn’t damage your lungs or anything like that as long as you’re wearing an appropriate size
Totally agree with you Adella. I practice making my body goals= my own best body memories. Moments in time when I felt really good about my body and in my body. I will look back at pictures from when I felt very beautiful and remind myself that she is me, I am still her no matter how BLAH I feel in the present moment. Make your goals your best self because that goal is actually obtainable.
step 1 love your self
step 2 tailor your clothes
when did we start tailoring our bodies to fit our clothes, instead of tailoring our clothes to fit our bodies? cuz that's just backwards
Can hip dips become a trend already?? Waiting for my time to shine lol
Same I have a 29 inch waist and 37 inch hip but I was insecure about my hip dips for the longest period of my life. I didn’t know what they were until I saw videos about “getting rid of the them” (which you physically can’t even with exercise), but I’m slowing starting to embrace my body and just being thankful that I am healthy. ❤️
Also if you’re insecure about your hips look at Britney Spears, she has hip dips and a rectangular body type but she has so much confidence and carries herself like the woman she is 😻 and Naomi Campbell has them too
It would be the worsttt to have had those surgeries and then look dated af when the trend shifts again. That's like having permanent 90s sperm eyebrows.
I was watching that old bobby v slow down video the other day noticing the body types and the amazing fashion. Although I can not condone going back to low rise jeans.
The bushy unibrows of today ain't cute either. They make females look masculine. I hope this trend die out.
@@leilo330 what’s wrong with bushy eyebrows? What’s wrong with “ females “ looking masculine? Because you’re making it sound like that’s a bad thing. 🙄
It’s like when Kim K got her baby hairs lasered off and now that baby hairs are trendy she regrets it
@@Yvhannah288 Kim K is reason why these girls today be walkinf around with these chubaka eyebrows. But the thing is Kim K is armenian and they are hairy all over their bodies, she can not help it to have those monster eyebrows, and somehow this ish became a trend, and it 99% times looks awful and makes females look like dudes.
@@leilo330 if someone's able to grow bushy eyebrows, they can't help it either lol tf you going on about them being Armenian. I say if it ain't hurting anyone then let them be lol. Why you sound so pissed cause some girls don't fit your "feminine" expectations?
More interested in a body I feel comfortable in and with a decent/healthy relationship with food 😊.
It really hit home when you talked about how we’re now doing things to permanently alter our bodies to fit trends. Breast implants were seen as extreme, and then normalized, and now they seem to be a big regret for many people who had them. And BBLs will probably go through the same life cycle, but can’t just be reversed in the same way, and the cycle is probably going to be even faster now because of how much social media speeds up the cycles of trends. I know it wasn’t perfect even then, but I do feel like the early 2000s athletic, small chest, but slim look (Shakira, Britney Spears, Ashanti) was the peak “health” of this trend.
I agree with you for the most part however, personally, if you have a healthy body with a good waist to hip ratio I think it is generally most desirable no matter what the trend is.
I agree
not gonna lie, i do want my belly on flat flat so I'm hitting the gym (I have an hourglass naturally aside from that part). i don't wanna be walking around looking like an ant in 5 years.
I want a big butt too but I guess I will have to work out. But it will take forever for me to get the body I desire.
@@ariyonnathebeautifulariese4104 girl im not gonna lie to you, working out isn't going to give you the perfect bubble butt. It will definitely tone what you already have.., but working out results isnt surgery results. If you really want it, go for it. just make it tasteful and timeless. Not this big ole ginormous ass with a 20" waist.
@@rendallx I agree! i worked so hard in the gym for years, i had a great body but never the type of ass that the IG models promise in their workout plans. (hint: they all got BBLs too lol). now I just focus on keeping my whole body healthy and strong without soley focusing my workouts on my butt and lovin myself!
@@ariyonnathebeautifulariese4104 i feel you i actually like my butt size but i have cellulite and dents so it's not round like a 🍑 There's a non surgical procedure I'm saving up for (they inject collagen fillers into the butt) it's suppose to last up to 3 years. Makes your butt look round without enlarging it if that makes sense. I've found a clinic in Lagos Nigeria that do it once i have the money I'm doing it.
@@kinkykoils6176 oh that’s good. I would go to a non surgical one.
I wonder what the next body trend will be. Fuller figures, muscular...?
In my point of view, the trend will not change ! 🤔
@@anonyme3838 i don’t think it’ll change, but that there will be different versions of it.
We're due for skinny again in 5yrs i think. Oversized clothes are getting fashionable, and those tend to favor skinny figures because with a small body it looks even more oversized.
@@anonyme3838 I feel like it looks that way now, but things are always changing. I think it definitely will, but since we're in the middle of it, it seems never ending.
Tbh i think muscular more people are now going to gym men and women too and now muscles(on women too) are becoming more celebrated especially on legs. But i think that it would be like muscular but not too muscular like those professional lifters type slim with muscles ripped yknow
It's hard enough to just try to stay healthy during lockdowns and isolation. When we all finally emerge from this long winter, I hope we can just appreciate how we've made it through. Sending love and positive vibes to all ❤️
some ideals are just impossible. I'm underweight and naturally a size 0 and im far from having a perfect stomach. I'm human, my stomach bloats up after eating/drinking and I have rolls when I sit.
1:30 tbf it wasn't like this until the 2010s! Growing up in 00s it was still like the 90s, not as strict but 🤷🏾♀️ your point still stands that it has switched up over time
@V King yeahh defo!!
Absolutely. I have a big butt naturally, and I remember getting made fun of when I was in jr high in the mid-late 00s because it wasn't “trendy” outside of the black community yet. In the 00s, it was still considered an insult to call someone's butt big (at least in mainstream white media). Everyone wanted to look like little Paris Hilton’s. We didn't get the wannabe “Kim k’s” until 2010+ when I was well into high school.
“It was only great if you fit into that body goal.”
Loved this!! 💕
I was a teen in the 80’s and was tormented for having (what was then considered) a big butt. Fast forward to today and I see young women altering their photos and getting surgery to get that bubble butt and I just shake my head. As you so rightly pointed out, what happens when body fashion changes again.
Conversely, I had great 80’s hair. It was the first time my natural hair texture was fashionable. I loved it. Today, I can’t live without my flat iron.
Just look at eyebrow fashions 😂
At this point I’ve seen thick brows in style twice and figure we are about due for another super tweezed trend. I feel for the ladies that got their micro blade tattoos 😕
personally, I feel that the fitspo, toned body is now making it's way as the new 'body trend'. No longer the massive BBL body type, but now more focused on toned stomach, peachy butt and whatnot. Still pretty unattainable for the most part as I feel like they still photoshop their images and use certain angles to flatter their bodies. Hope to see a video on this soon.
P.S: I may be using this as research for my university dissertation!! Brill vid
What’s annoying af also, is actually having a “slim thick” body naturally as a black woman, and people questioning whether or not it’s real because of all this plastic surgery BS. Like sweetie, this plastic surgery trend mimics me and women like me. Not the other way around 😒
Btw I’m aware that there are BW without this stereotypical body type, just like there are Asian women who aren’t petite and white women who aren’t thin. But voluptuous well- endowed bodies are common in the black community (even when I’m underweight due to stress, I’m still shapely) and I personally don’t think it’s a problem to associate this body type with BW. Because tbh, it’s a positive stereotype and other races get to enjoy theirs (Like Asian ppl being smart; BM having bigger nether regions ; WW being feminine (when we know that’s often not the case) ect). We should stay on code a bit and maybe not reject it too much.
Lord help the millions of average intelligent Asians because very high IQ is an outlier. I don't see topics about the many who commit suicide because they can't achieve genius. To all the "keeping it real women" outhere not pretending to be ultra feminine because that shit is exhausting, unrealistic, and life is for living, we good.
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Asian people are "smart" bc our parents force us to to study and set impossible standards...not because we were born that way and gave 0 effort lol
It’s not a “positive stereotype”, it fetishizes black women and people view us a sex objects rather than just normal women. I’ve had so many random creepy men hit on my mother for having a slim thick body type and my mom has became embarrassed to show off her body in public without the fear of being laughed at or harassed by weirdos. Also I go to a predominately black school and all of the curvy black teens, including my classmate, have been sexually harassed relentlessly by the boys and the principal barely does anything about it. If you think that this “slim thick” trend is a positive thing for black women then you must be insecure and vain, because there is nothing positive about getting catcalled, stalked, and dehumanized over something we cannot control.
@@Pink_pr1ncess same goes with the big nether regions stereotype as BM. Terrible stereotype rooted in evil ideals that hurts more men than it helps
0:32 so strap in your fupas cos it’s gonna be a bumpy ride 😂❤️ loving your content!
Yes! Milk it! Dress for your body, embrace your nature, give your body the movement/fuel it needs/wants (not what your mind says), LISTEN TO YOUR BODY- it talks to you, do mirror work (stand naked in front of the mirror and talk to your body parts, thank them for what they do for you, tell them you love them!). It's all in our heads. We attract ENERGY which we create in the MIND, the body follows that. I just discovered your channel and am totally vibing with it. I love your voice, disposition, and I can tell you are wise, positive, intelligent, cool. Thank you for sharing!!!
Baby step for me was padding and corsetry. Proper historical style corsets, worn properly, no right lacing or waist clinchers. This is because my style is “history bounding”. I like wearing historical clothes. And the great thing about it is that standards through history were usually more about shape than size. So, I’ll never be a size zero, but I can wear a corset for bust and back support (far less painful for me than a bra), and a corset won’t make me smaller, but does define the waist that I have. I also add hip/bum padding, because I’m very too heavy. And then I put a nice late Victorian/Edwardian or even 18th century inspired outfit on top, and I like it.
That’s what makes me happy when I look in the mirror. And since I’ve shifted to wearing clothes that I like, over foundational garments that build out the shape that I like, rather than trying to change my body, I feel better about myself. That’s been really helpful to me. Also, because I’m disabled with a degenerative spinal condition, corsets lower my pain drastically, and that also makes a big difference in feeling better about myself as well as just generally. It’s a different solution that what others may come up with, but it works for me.
I have a 90s body, my friends used to tell me that in school.
Big boobs, straight figure.
I look like I had implants, I haven’t.
I was obsessed with “ whittling my middle” for years, sucking in my stomach, doing ab workouts twice daily.
Terrified of gaining an inch and loosing my screwing up my waist to hip ratio..
I like the body posi thing. I moved somewhere where most people are overweight, and I let myself breathe.
I don’t measure my waist anymore.
I don’t exist for make consumption.
And
You can’t orgasm if you’re holding in you stomach!
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So my thing about this body type being a “trend” is that it’s a trend for mainstream/Eurocentric standards of beauty.
Let’s be clear black women had curves and embraced them for years. A lot of black girls who were skinny af as kids were made fun of for being thin by family and peers before this “trend” started.Many of us wanted curves because THAT has been the standard of beauty in the black community, not a trend for us.
It’s important to take into consideration cultural upbringing, many of us inner city black Americans have seen this as beautiful and wanted these shapes because not only have we seen our elders with big butts but we’ve seen it in hip hop magazines and videos. This is not just a trend for us, you can’t throw black bodies away although that is what pop culture, police, or history has done historically; culturally speaking this is us before the bbl “trend” and after people forget about it.
The circle analogy is very spot on. Thank you.
I love seeing someone address the toxicity thats come out of the working women who can and should do everything trend/aesthetic
I'd say you missed one. The first part of the 2000s was all about being emaciated. People would have headlines of chest bones and collar bones. And larger breasts. 2010s is when the slim thick came in because black women became the main archetype
not black women... The Kardashian's pretending to be black women
Emm... having collarbones is not being “emaciated”... my sister is 5’0 and 160 lbs with prominent collarbones. I am 5’9 with prominent rib cage right now at 120 lbs and even when I was 200 lbs...
Don’t say such extreme words so casually
This is so true all of it!! I was a natural could eat anything I want size 0 at 16 . 18 size 2 etc - but being black I got teased and unwanted by most black men but other races loved me. Now since most black girls that were thick are now now thicker I’m complimented on how I look for my age in comparison . So yup u just gotta love yourself regardless and when ur time comes around accept it and when ur type is gone accept that too.
I like that you provided an actual solution, because I agree, clothes can be your friend if you understand what works and what is flattering for your body shape.
pro tip try photography and modeling for people. Helps you see your body the way others see it and that's gonna change a lot for you from my experience.
EDIT: I realize some of those things are 'in trend' but not in modern times, after the agricultural revolution.
but there are some things that no one has ever liked-- stomach rolls, large arms/flabs, thick calves, obvious disproportion, acne or disfigured skin complexion, thinning hair, etc.
these are permanent 'imperfections' that I feel insecure about. no matter how much trends change, etc., some things are not ever going to look aesthetically pleasing or perfect. not trying to send hate towards anyone, but just trying to share why I feel insecure and it's not necessarily trend-based.
@ok zoomer I think the problem to me is the idea we have to look “aesthetically pleasing” in the first place. Objective aesthetics are fine. The study of art and proportion and how it pleases us biologically isnt a bad thing. I think the problem is we place beauty on such a PEDESTAL that it feels we aren’t complete or worthy without. That’s how I feel. As a woman, and a human, I have a lot to give this world. Yet, part of me feels I will never give enough unless I am also beautiful.
thick calves are an undesired trait? small calf team all my life ive admired shapely calves,, ig u always want what u cant have
@@diamondedevil lol I don't think I'd call my calves 'shapely' theyre just fat
Let's talk about how beautiful you look 😍😍
Just about to say that. She is serving us looks today
Why do we make everything about how a woman looks
Simps
Another issue is the trends sometimes glamorise unhealthy habits such as obesity which is now termed as curvy or plus size negating away from the fact that it can be deadly, from short life spans to diabetes and heart disease. On the other side of the coin is skinny people turning to dangerous eating disorders and begin wasting away. I’m conflicted with the ideal that everybody should be displayed including grossly unhealthy ones because it creates acceptance of dangerous or life threatening looks, leading insecure people to fall for this “models” and make changes that are irreversible.
My main issue with people getting BBL, besides the mortality rate, is the fact that some persons say it's not because of low self esteem...🤡 It is because of low self esteem or body dysmorphia...just stop playing yow.
I don’t think getting plastic surgery is indicative of low self esteem for everyone. For instance, I had lipo down on my big bulging stomach. I had the money & didn’t want a fat stomach anymore so I got the lipo. I didn’t want to b a fatty so I decided to change myself for the better. That had nothing to do w my self esteem.
I agree
Ok but don’t shame then for having low self esteem 😬 everyone has insecurities about something whether it’s internal or external. Nobody is 100% confident all the time in their life otherwise you’re not human
It isn’t low self esteem. They are simply finicky women who want to perfect themselves. Nothing to do with low self esteem. The truth is, if every woman can afford it and we’re not so scared of being judged they will get it too. Quit playing 😂😂😴
@@gailainsley6939 All that means is the majority if not all of women are insecure deep down and don’t love themselves. Stop playing this comparison game. Love yourself
Guys please let me know if you agree wit me but.....
I feel like one day hip dips will become a desired trend.
I hope so, because I used to be so insecure about my hip dips, but now I ain't no more
I have an itch that it was worse/even more unsafe during the 90s/2000s than now even, yes permanent/semipermanent surgeries are super all over the place now, but they were p much as big then too, it was just way secretive and different surgeries. And yes the bbl is stupid dangerous holy shit, like i still remember the first time i learned about them causing embolisms and i was shocked af, but that heroin chic bs reeeally kicked the intensity and # of eating disorders into overdrive and i honestly think more women died or were permanently harmed during that aesthetic. It might just be that i was a teen then and im not now, but losing weight and being a size 0 seemed waaaay more shoved down your throat as the ONLY way to be pretty that i dont see as much now, almost like theres just enough "body positivity" that i dont see that one track beauty standard as much/as intensely as now? (But also maybe ive just personally been desensitized to it because of social media?) lol Does that sentiment make sense to anyone?
Also btw i am loving this baby step thing thats such a good idea??
EDIT* omg btw! Not trying to be all "it was worse back in my day" or any shit like that, i just noticed around mid video that a cosmetic surgery boom seemed like it was being talked about as more collectively dangerous than the amount of EDs that started in the 90s/2000s due to the heroin chic thing and wanted to bring that up as a perspective. I just realized i mightve come off as a dick there and wanted to fix it lol
Just came across your video, this morning. Was listening to it as a podcast, so far am liking your videos. We think similar on certain things. Can't wait to listen to your other videos 😊
So happy I saw this, it really made me feel better about just accepting things as they are. I've been sick in my stomach for a year now and I've lost so much weight, it's been a struggle not feeling comfortable in my own skin because I think my body needs to fit the current trend. It only triggers binge eating and my health to decline. Thinking about it as a trend really helps. Thank you! ❤️
The way she said "why can't we stop here" multiple times
So feeling it 😂🙃
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Subscribed after watching this vid!!! You are so honest. It is important to bring awareness of how we as a society can become toxic based on the desire to fit into a trending ‘aesthetic goal’.😭 We need to get to a point where we choose to be authentic and also work on our insecurities. We are perfectly unique beings and must embrace that.☝🏾❤️
i really enjoyed this video. you’re demeanor is honestly so sweet 😭❤️.
I have the exact same body type as you and totally get you!!! Working with what I think works for me is always what helps me!
Girrl you speak facts! I just found your channel and I'm so glad I did. Thanks for all the work you put into the videos 💛 it really puts my insecurities into perspective
Thank you for this! unfortuantely when it was a trend to be very slim I ended up developing an eating disorder, and I think now with all the surgeries it's the same drasticness but different in it's own way. I hope girls seeing all these sudden body types being glorified don't develop an unhealthy mentality. We need to self love more
Love this! So glad it showed up in my recommended, some really interesting insights. It's so important that we think critically about this stuff.
UA-cam algorithm did something right, finally! I'm so glad your video was suggested for me. You are so well-spoken and clearly have done your research for your videos. Keep up the good work honey!!
I remember being bullied by my best friend (ex) as a teen cos I have a big bum for my small frame. It's nice being in trend now but it still does not help from the insecurities built in those younger years. Most things I hated about myself have become a trend but I still can't see past alot of the old comments from before then.
Your energy is amazing!! So warm and kind, I subscribed :)
You are right it was the same. The problem with today is that it's giving people life threatening issues with plastic surgery... and the problem with the 2000's vixen look is that it gave a lot of people disordered eating (if not full blown EDs) that have led to a lot of women in my age range having permanent metabolic damage and or other organ issues. I was a teen during the 2000's vixen era and everyone of my friends then were doing wildly unhealthy things to get or keep that look. now that I'm approaching 40 my metabolism is wrecked and I'm having heart issues form nearly a decade of eating well under 1000 calories. A lot of women 30-40 that i know or have talked to are in that same boat and link it directly back to that peris hilton look that was popular then. I had friends hospitalized for it at the time and a few have lost their battle with the Eds they developed.
I really just wish bodies weren't a trend. it kills people. it really does. Bodies aren't fashion!
This shift between healthy to going to unhealthy is such an interesting and insightful thing you have pointed out
I love your vibe girl!
U have such a soothing and calm voice, I like listening to u :)
nah, i'm really enjoying these videos. love the content and your personality!
Adella ! Thanks for this video - so inspiring and I hope women can learn to embrace the differences in our body shapes. ❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾
Your hair, the golden glow, the truth in this video 🙌🏽🥰
I love listening to you Adella🔥. Always spitting facts
And please where did you get your wig from ?😍 Colour looks good on you
Thanks for sharing! Very informative. I am a Trainer and I also did a UA-cam video on the dangers of BBL's. I know that that's one area women love to enhance but there are exercises that can give you the same results.
It's interesting I have a 20s style body, I used to be made fun of for having no boobs and still kinda do. Seeing that women would bind their chest in the 1920's to look like me made me realize I'm beautiful as I am and I don't need to have big boobs. I've never really lived through a period where my body was "the fashion" but now that I love it I don't care anymore.
I love this channel! The comment section is so wholesome! Subbed!
I’m noticing a lot of ppl online now making fun of girls with BBL (even ones that look good) so I’m suspecting that it’s somewhat going out of style as a trend but not sure what’s actually replacing it. I haven’t figured out fully yet what’s truly trending for the 2020s.
What is BBL?
@@____Sunflower____ Brazillian Butt Lift, It's a surgery where you take fat from one part of your body and inject it into your ass
just stumbled across this video! adelia, your voice and energy is so comforting and you feel like my fun, confident cousin who i always wish that i can visit more often. subbing!!
for all of the girls in these comments talking about body image and body positivity, i really feel you. i hope that we can all learn to accept our bodies and not obsess over them. its such a hard thing to accomplish in this society, but i really want us to get there. we all deserve to feel comfortable in our bodies. trends only last for a few years. your body is for life. no one else has any authority to say that it isn't perfect the way it is
This video brought me SO MUCH PEACE, down to earth vibes 😍 definitely subscribed now ✨
Your consistency >>>>>>>>>
You are really eloquent, and this is such an important topic! just discovered your channel, thank you for sharing this! 🥰
Bodies and facial features SHOULD NOT be trends!
Your content is so helpful in my struggle with my own body & face
I haven’t felt even remotely cute in a long *ss time. It’s so important to talk about these standards nowadays.
Im really sad you feel that way, you’re actually really beautiful, you look slightly like Taylor Swift
Am a grown man and l listen to your channel cause l have a young daughter and l wanna understand her and what she watches, and things that affect her online and in life generally. But this really shocked me. After looking up BBL, l am in utter shock and misery what is happening to young people.
Thank you for sharing this vid... women we compare ourselves day in & out. Men have preferences and then there are trends too 💆🏽♀️
I have that 20’s, 60’s, 90’s body. I’m ok with that, I can wear a lot of styles and it’s fun for me.
Adella ur voice is so soothing
Before we get to the video, let me admire the hairrr!!!! You go, girl!😄😄
Love the video, love the hurrr also 😍😍
Kudos to you Sis, you’ve officially set the Stage… let’s see how this plays out!
Girl i love your videos sooo much ❤️❤️❤️
MA'AM I HAVE NEVER EVER SEEN SOMEONE W/ MY BODY TYPE UNTIL 0:08 THANK YOU FOR THAT
I've just discovered you.I wish more people could see this. Subscribed❤
My preferred body type is " Super HEALTHY!"
This video was a great way to start my day 💜