Although Gay Myself, I have never understood the mentality of many gay guys around me. I know quite a few guys (not necessarily friends) who are real nasty pieces of work, yet they always have boyfriends/people hanging around them and here I am , I've never hurt a fly, always think positive and look for the good in everything & everyone yet seemingly eternally single. It's a funny old world.
Dan, it's refreshing to read of guys that are in the same position as me. I can't say that I've always seen the positive in everybody, but I also find my self in the unfortunate position of never finding the right person, or any for that matter. In years gone by, and I'm 47, I was very close to a few chosen friends who were straight, and I never really met anyone. We didn't go to gay bars or anywhere that was predominantly gay. And it's noteworthy that the friends I had knew that I was gay. It didn't really bother me those years because I was still young enough to meet the "right" person. But it never came to fruition. Now at this point it seems that I missed the boat so to speak. I became so used to being alone, but now it's seems that it's crunch time and I better get it together. But I believe it's because society would have us believe that. In any event, I've managed to accept it for what it is and to assume that it will happen if it's meant to happen, however I don't believe that everything happens for a reason. I hate that expression. I guess I'll have to hurry up and wait.
Dan I'm in the same boat as well, after ending my 11 year relationship, I left with the feeling that was it a waste of time, because I feel it takes two to make it work. And when you are giving and giving and your partner doesn't want change it's hard. So I say just love yourself at whatever you do and that right person will come when you least expect him too. Because when you start looking , you usually find what you don't need. Let it happen naturally, and that's the person who wil become UNFORGETABLE to you.
I'm also an introvert with a dependent mentality, but I also feel as social creatures, it's really nice to have some one you can lean on during the hardest times even just for emotional support. There's nothing better than feeling like some one is ready to risk it all for you. It really give you a sense of security specialy for a lot of us who grew up in families and communities that disowns us for who we are.
If you are truly complete you won't need friends either. The truth is we human beings are social creatures. We desire recognition, understanding, friendship and love. Without the aforementioned one can never truly feel complete. Among the aforementioned love can cover the other three. Love from within yourself and then applied to yourself is not love it's self-care, most creatures have that instinct. True love is total giving from a different body.
On a further point, not everyone has someone special in their lives, life doesn't always provide us with special people until we find that special someone as some people aren't that lucky. I doubt you have ever experienced true loneliness. Some people are born into unhealthy families with zero support and have no friends. Some parents walk away and their kids are left alone to learn how to grow up with no one special to care. Sometimes the relationships we find are the only special ones we have. My boyfriend is really the only person I have in my life who is truly there and that's important to me, there hasn't been anyone else, I want lucky to have parents who cared, or amazing friends. Everyone has different background in life and different perspectives on what makes theirs complete. We're all on our own journeys in life and we decide on what makes us feel complete.
Ive been single forever, nvr had a bf, been trying to find one but I guess im destined to be single. Some people say im single by choice but yeah im trying these hookup/dating apps. Btw Marc I love your video diaries/blog its really a reflection of the current challenges we modern gay guys face and its nice to find someone voice out these things. Your like my buddy that i never had.
I think it makes for a better relationship when you have to independently content people together to walk hand in hand thru life rather than using each other as a crutch
develop a hobby or interest, spend time with friends, do something to while away your idle time, do what you have to not feel lonely like read, travel, work, volunteer, the choice is your and should a special someone then it's icing on the cake, treat them with love, care and respect, constant communication is key and keep your feet on the ground, live each day as it is your last, establish quality time together.
You forgot, that we do not have a choice in the personality type, we belong to. You are LUCKY ! There are some people, who never FIND "that special someone" or tend to LOOSE it as soon as they THINK, they have found it. Live can be cruel for some people.
doing things alone and travelling alone and enjoying in my house alone makes me feel that i was given a gift of time to enjoy. but occasionally of course i spend time with my friends. but looking for partner to enjoy life is something that you should not expect to have instantly ... you need to wait when it comes. if not you still need to wait.
I don't think it has anything to do with completeness. It has to do with feeling loved intimately and passionately. All intelligent animals need love and affection. Humans are specifically different in that they need intimacy and passion as well. I think gay men make excuses for being single because it's so difficult to find a committed, long-term partner who is emotionally available and offers intimacy with passion. I don't look at being contently alone as a strength, but a weakness. A person cannot live to their greatest potential without sharing love with someone else. It adds a depth of courage and strength not attainable on your own. Let's not be afraid of that big "L" word guys. Vulnerability is healthy and so is mutual love.
Seth Ferreira I agree, wholeheartedly, with everything you wrote here. I do, however, believe in the importance of having a mindset of one's completeness. Some of us have walled ourselves off from love for various reasons, from the superficial to the deep. I loved how you brought up vulnerability, a KEY ingredient in connection with others.
God didn't make man to be with man in a sexual relationship. I don't need to be in a relationship with another "dude". I have a good relationship with another guy on a plutonic level that I am blessed to have. He is straight and single and we can be real and open with each other. He knows I struggle with SSA but by God's grace I am not living life hooking up left and right . Face facts guys. God didn't make man to be with man in a sexual union. That's why gay men and woman are not content. They know deep inside what they are involved in isn't right. Don't blame society for being "intolerant" of a way of life that is degrading and utterly self indulgent and completely selfish. There is such an obsession with self. That is our problem and that problem is PRIDE. I care about my soul and don't want to end up in the lake of fire. I know the attractions are real and I know the longings as I have been there a good chunk of my life. By God's grace I am celibate and am quite content to be in that position. JESUS saves from sin and death. REPENT AND BELIEVE THE GOSPEL! I may not be straight but I am also not degrading myself or another man sodomizing or being sodomized. Sperm can't produce life in a sewer pipe.
pat cola Thanks for sharing your personal insights. They’re much appreciated! I certainly understand how how you came to this conclusion. However, same-sex sexual & loving relationships do exist. It’s difficult today to create that intimacy in any relationship whether straight or gay due primarily to the porn industry’s exploitation of the male sex-drive. It’s human nature to focus on outcomes only while not seeing the source of the problem. A lack of innocent love is directly due to the exploitative nature of the sex industry’s success in monopolizing the male sex-drive for purely profit purposes. Love is the primary enemy to the profitability of the porn industry. Sadly, everywhere us men go, we are exploited sexually for massive profits. This should be a major topic of discussion but sadly it isn’t. Typically money is the root of major social problems and a lack of relationship strength is certainly a product of greed produced by the sexually exploitative nature of the porn industry. Open discourse is certainly important so I appreciate the openness, respect, and honesty in this feed.
As one gets older, this I what I've learned... The longer you go without something, the more comfortable one gets with it's absence... That goes across the board...
That was very articulate, Marc,and noone has explained exactly how I feel on the same issue as well. It,s a real blessing to be self contained. I was always scared off when a new partner kept applying the world "We" all the time. I travel alot around the world,and books and art and interests have certainly aided this self containment. At the end of the day, "we ourselves are the greatest creators of our own happiness".
Great metaphor. Really great. I'll have to use that one. It's so important to communicate how we feel about to people in our lives. I say that its the difference between independence,co-dependence, and interdependence. Interdependence is when two birds that fly alone fine then share some time flying together, sharing but not needing each other. Your video today was refreshing. Thanks
Wow. My whole life I thought I was incomplete and looking for the missing piece. Watching this video has made me realize that I am, and always have been, a complete person just trying to find someone special to share my life with. I think I was meant to find this video. Thank you. PS: I hope you do find that special someone meant for you :-)
Good for you Marc. Gays have been rejected so much they seem to think of another person as a fix....people are not fix unless they are a drug. You are a blessed child of God and have a right to be here!
Watching this was really interesting. Here's a piece of advice, the reason people feel complete when they find love is because they've opened themselves up to love. You have to open your heart to someone in order to feel true love and that means being vulnerable and in general especially nowadays many people don't want to seem vulnerable and instead want to appear strong, confident and independent. The whole basis of experiencing true love is being completely vulnerable to somebody you give your heart to, even if they hurt you. That isn't to say that people need someone else to feel complete but there is also nothing like truly being head over heels for someone and experiencing the emotions of true love. Life isn't just about enjoying yourself there is also much joy to be had in making someone else feel special and loved. If society wasn't so narcissistic these days and scared of commitment maybe we would all be willing to open our hearts up more. Good relationships are never easy, they have bad times and good, but that gives them more meaning. Going through difficult times can show two people how much they really care about one another. Why aren't people willing to walk a thousand miles for someone they love anymore, they'd rather walk 1000 miles in the opposite direction when things get a little tough. So instead of having up defensive walls and over protecting your heart, take chances, live openly and allow yourself to feel vulnerable.
Hi Marc, thanks for taking the time to share your life and point of view. I enjoy your perspective , you're a big encouragement. New to the gay life at 60, better late than never. Mike
Hi Dylan! I agree with you on enyoing being alone. I´ve been alone for a long time and finally I found somebody who is very nice, loving and treats me good. I think I found love already!!! saludos de Mexico!!! muak
Thank you so much for this wonderful video and excellent advice! We can be happy right now, even before our lover comes along to join us! Its how life should be enjoyable with yourself and with other people.
Marc You have really helped me a lot. Thank you for showing me another man can find contentment and acceptance about who he is; I have struggled with that all my life. You are a beautiful person (and man). Your advice is simple to understand but sometimes a person needs to hear it from someone else to help them relate it back into their life. Merry Christmas, I hope the New Year brings you joy. I will be watching your videos for your insight and how it could help me. You are helping a great deal of gay men, there is a special place in heaven for men like you. Thank you Kevin
I got tired of being single. I couldn't enjoy others. So I thought about who/what I want. I then thought about who I am and how to market those qualities to those I want. I realized the man i want not in my area. So, I figured out where my people are and moved there. Guess what? Now im happily married!
Just listening to you speak made you a more beautiful person in my eyes. I felt like I was sitting across a table having a great conversation. You're very pleasing to listen to, as well as look at. Thanks for sharing this, Dylan :)
Right on Marc. There are so many people who don't like themselves to begin with, thus, their need to always have people to make them happy. I'm one of the fortunate ones, very at peace and very happy with myself, and ADORE the beautiful people that are in my life, but the most important thing for happiness, is that it starts with ME first. I call the shots, and I'm responsible for my own happiness, and I share it with others. You're right on point.
Dear Marc, what you have stated in this tutorial makes a lot of sense and I couldn't have said it better myself. I too am introverted but gained status (or popularity if you will) at an early age. Too young I suppose. Through those years I have tried to find a special someone and thought I have but to no avail. Later on in life my friends would continuously ask me, "why don't you find someone?", describing the type of person that I am. My response was, "i'm not giving up on love because when the time is right, love will find me". I have experienced a lot in life more than I'd wish for anyone, but I'm pretty content. One has to come to the conclusion that being content with one's own self can he be happy with his own life and realize that having a romantic relationship doesn't necessarily make his life fulfilled. I commend you for sharing your life publicly. Much aloha, Oliver.
I can't agree with you more about not needing somebody else to complete yourself. Took the words right out my mouth. So wish more guys I dared felt this way.
I buy half of what he is saying… but not all. Denial or comforting ruts or both. But if he is as satisfied as he says..more power to him. It’s human nature to want to share life in a way you don’t with friends. I agree it’s not healthy to not feel whole unless u have a significant other. You have to be comfortable with yourself and live yourself first. Or no relationship will work. Be it friend or loved one. Just my opinion. To each their own……
Good analogies, Marc. I believe one needs to be whole in order to be a successful part of something, a relationship in this case. I think the saying "you're only as strong as the weakest link" applies here, as well as (something like) "being lost in a crowd." I like your videos, your insight. B
Like you say in the end of the video you get to share with someone and maybe grow in ways you don't when your single. The interesting thing is that goes both ways, when you are single you grow and learn in different ways. :-)
Omg this is my first time listening to your videos and i just want to say that i really your personality when you dive in the topic of loneliness. I also agree with your opnion as well, plz make more videos because i beleive for a fact that people can benefit from watching your videos. Your really an awesome and cool dude!!!1
I agree with you. I enjoy being alone. A this time in my life, my friends are not as accepting as I hope. I don't feel I can bring home a friend and have a good time. I wouldn't want to hurt someone with the way some people I know would act.
Lonliness is such a bitter thing. 7.1 billion people on earth, and I am one, in a simple wink of an eye, in my voice, or in a word, "hello". Phillip open up your heart to others, don't be afraid.
I think most people have problems with self-esteem. I know I use to feel I had to have approval from others to feel good about myself. If someone treats me good I'm okay. If someone treats me bad I'm a bad person. It is nice to have friends to talk to and do things with. I don't think one person can be your everything. It does put a burden on them. Who wants to hear I'm unhappy and it's your fault. "Marc you complete me." Just kidding.
I think we don't need someone or something outside ourselves to validate us. One should be happy within themselves first and share that with that "special someone "
I guess you're right. But I just wanna say thank you for doing all your videos...whatever the topics are...honest & well thought through...so THANKS! :)
Hey mark! Good lonely video u made. Am single but always looking for 1 or 2 special pals in my world or special person to date. Have a good weekend. Today is dec.9 2022
Sorry, completely disagree with your thoughts on this. I think people in North American society have become far too comfortable with their independence, so much so that it has fuelled personal greed and selfishness. I have dated people who are very independent and are really happy being single and they end up being terrible boyfriends because they don't want to share anything. They have this greed mentality of "I worked for all this, so all this is mine, and you get none", meanwhile I'm more than happy to share the things I have with that special someone. Here's a great quote: "According to Greek Mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs, and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate beings, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves." -Plato's "The Symposium"
Pistol Pete I couldn't agree more on this. People have become way too self loving to love one another. it's sad people can't open themselves up to love anymore.
It’s not an American thing it’s a capitalist thing . I actually found Americans to be more forthright in terms of emotions while I was in London people were cold and distant .
Not true - we just don't wear our hearts on our sleeves, but when we DO open up, it's genuine. American 'openness' come across to many British people as overbearing and false.
I think what Marc said was exactly what people need to hear. It is good to share experiences but you can be happy on your own. You shouldn't need someone to complete you as you are born a complete person. When you find someone that you are interested in then you can share experiences together.
I’ve never been in relationship. But I used to fall in love a guy ,he’s so sweet and kind but sadly he is a straight guy. We texted everyday , I confessed and he ignored, we stop talking for weeks, and then he said “Hi” to me when we were in school and I felt in love with him again and this keep repeating over and over again 😂😂😂 takes me three years just to move on ! Within this three years I have had enough! I tell myself I cannot let me loving someone again, those dramatic things are sooo annoying! But sometimes I open the door trying to let someone in but suddenly I feel like I’m not ready for relationship. And yeah I think it takes me forever to be ready lol .... And all of my besties are blaming me bout that.
Two quotes on this video: 1) If you don't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else?--RuPaul 2) Have your own life BEFORE trying to be some else's wife--Beyonce
Although Gay Myself, I have never understood the mentality of many gay guys around me. I know quite a few guys (not necessarily friends) who are real nasty pieces of work, yet they always have boyfriends/people hanging around them and here I am , I've never hurt a fly, always think positive and look for the good in everything & everyone yet seemingly eternally single. It's a funny old world.
Dan, it's refreshing to read of guys that are in the same position as me. I can't say that I've always seen the positive in everybody, but I also find my self in the unfortunate position of never finding the right person, or any for that matter. In years gone by, and I'm 47, I was very close to a few chosen friends who were straight, and I never really met anyone. We didn't go to gay bars or anywhere that was predominantly gay. And it's noteworthy that the friends I had knew that I was gay. It didn't really bother me those years because I was still young enough to meet the "right" person. But it never came to fruition. Now at this point it seems that I missed the boat so to speak. I became so used to being alone, but now it's seems that it's crunch time and I better get it together. But I believe it's because society would have us believe that. In any event, I've managed to accept it for what it is and to assume that it will happen if it's meant to happen, however I don't believe that everything happens for a reason. I hate that expression. I guess I'll have to hurry up and wait.
thought I was the only one.
Dan I'm in the same boat as well, after ending my 11 year relationship, I left with the feeling that was it a waste of time, because I feel it takes two to make it work. And when you are giving and giving and your partner doesn't want change it's hard. So I say just love yourself at whatever you do and that right person will come when you least expect him too. Because when you start looking , you usually find what you don't need. Let it happen naturally, and that's the person who wil become UNFORGETABLE to you.
I understand you
I rarely feel lonely because even when my family and friends are not in close proximity they are always close to my heart and soul.
Can I have ur contact number?
I really needed this. I'm a 21 year old gay guy who has anxiety and depression. I feel so lonely :(
Hey i would like to talk to you
It's been 5 years , u ok now ?
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With a name like Pepperoni Pizza, gosh, I would be depressed too!
I'm in the same boat. But I'm 24. Hopefully I'll meet someone some day. I'm focusing on my career right now, that has distracted me from it.
I'm also an introvert with a dependent mentality, but I also feel as social creatures, it's really nice to have some one you can lean on during the hardest times even just for emotional support. There's nothing better than feeling like some one is ready to risk it all for you. It really give you a sense of security specialy for a lot of us who grew up in families and communities that disowns us for who we are.
If you are truly complete you won't need friends either. The truth is we human beings are social creatures. We desire recognition, understanding, friendship and love. Without the aforementioned one can never truly feel complete. Among the aforementioned love can cover the other three. Love from within yourself and then applied to yourself is not love it's self-care, most creatures have that instinct. True love is total giving from a different body.
+Jonathan Li Wish I could give your comment more likes.
+Jonathan Li Wish I could give your comment more likes.
Do you play clash of clans? 😁
Agree!!
Exactly what I had in mind. You can be independent but as social creatures we truly need the feeling of support and love by others.
On a further point, not everyone has someone special in their lives, life doesn't always provide us with special people until we find that special someone as some people aren't that lucky. I doubt you have ever experienced true loneliness. Some people are born into unhealthy families with zero support and have no friends. Some parents walk away and their kids are left alone to learn how to grow up with no one special to care. Sometimes the relationships we find are the only special ones we have. My boyfriend is really the only person I have in my life who is truly there and that's important to me, there hasn't been anyone else, I want lucky to have parents who cared, or amazing friends. Everyone has different background in life and different perspectives on what makes theirs complete. We're all on our own journeys in life and we decide on what makes us feel complete.
Ive been single forever, nvr had a bf, been trying to find one but I guess im destined to be single. Some people say im single by choice but yeah im trying these hookup/dating apps. Btw Marc I love your video diaries/blog its really a reflection of the current challenges we modern gay guys face and its nice to find someone voice out these things. Your like my buddy that i never had.
Wow
+jadenhotguy Me three. Never had a bf. Its sad.
+jadenhotguy Me three. Never had a bf. Its sad.
+Burak Simsek your not missing out on much.
+jadenhotguy Grindr and Horny don't count. They're only for hooks ups :(
I think it makes for a better relationship when you have to independently content people together to walk hand in hand thru life rather than using each other as a crutch
Yes, but having support isn’t a bad thing. We’re social creatures . We need each other to help reinvigorate our purpose and experience.
Hey Marc how are you to Day and I'm Good and I'm gay and what is gay bolwjob?
Until you've loved someone so much you have literally ached to be with them, you've never truly loved.
Yaaaaaaaaaaaawn.
develop a hobby or interest, spend time with friends, do something to while away your idle time, do what you have to not feel lonely like read, travel, work, volunteer, the choice is your and should a special someone then it's icing on the cake, treat them with love, care and respect, constant communication is key and keep your feet on the ground, live each day as it is your last, establish quality time together.
You forgot, that we do not have a choice in the personality type, we belong to. You are LUCKY ! There are some people, who never FIND "that special someone" or tend to LOOSE it as soon as they THINK, they have found it. Live can be cruel for some people.
doing things alone and travelling alone and enjoying in my house alone makes me feel that i was given a gift of time to enjoy. but occasionally of course i spend time with my friends. but looking for partner to enjoy life is something that you should not expect to have instantly ... you need to wait when it comes. if not you still need to wait.
I don't think it has anything to do with completeness. It has to do with feeling loved intimately and passionately. All intelligent animals need love and affection. Humans are specifically different in that they need intimacy and passion as well. I think gay men make excuses for being single because it's so difficult to find a committed, long-term partner who is emotionally available and offers intimacy with passion. I don't look at being contently alone as a strength, but a weakness. A person cannot live to their greatest potential without sharing love with someone else. It adds a depth of courage and strength not attainable on your own. Let's not be afraid of that big "L" word guys. Vulnerability is healthy and so is mutual love.
Seth Ferreira I agree, wholeheartedly, with everything you wrote here. I do, however, believe in the importance of having a mindset of one's completeness.
Some of us have walled ourselves off from love for various reasons, from the superficial to the deep.
I loved how you brought up vulnerability, a KEY ingredient in connection with others.
Seth Ferreira I agree. We need to be vulnerable in order to experience love.
I agree Seth!
God didn't make man to be with man in a sexual relationship. I don't need to be in a relationship with another "dude".
I have a good relationship with another guy on a plutonic level that I am blessed to have.
He is straight and single and we can be real and open with each other. He knows I struggle with SSA but by God's grace I am not living life hooking up left and right .
Face facts guys. God didn't make man to be with man in a sexual union.
That's why gay men and woman are not content. They know deep inside what they are involved in isn't right.
Don't blame society for being "intolerant" of a way of life that is degrading and utterly self indulgent and completely selfish.
There is such an obsession with self. That is our problem and that problem is PRIDE.
I care about my soul and don't want to end up in the lake of fire.
I know the attractions are real and I know the longings as I have been there a good chunk of my life.
By God's grace I am celibate and am quite content to be in that position.
JESUS saves from sin and death. REPENT AND BELIEVE THE GOSPEL!
I may not be straight but I am also not degrading myself or another man sodomizing or being sodomized.
Sperm can't produce life in a sewer pipe.
pat cola Thanks for sharing your personal insights. They’re much appreciated! I certainly understand how how you came to this conclusion. However, same-sex sexual & loving relationships do exist. It’s difficult today to create that intimacy in any relationship whether straight or gay due primarily to the porn industry’s exploitation of the male sex-drive. It’s human nature to focus on outcomes only while not seeing the source of the problem. A lack of innocent love is directly due to the exploitative nature of the sex industry’s success in monopolizing the male sex-drive for purely profit purposes. Love is the primary enemy to the profitability of the porn industry. Sadly, everywhere us men go, we are exploited sexually for massive profits. This should be a major topic of discussion but sadly it isn’t. Typically money is the root of major social problems and a lack of relationship strength is certainly a product of greed produced by the sexually exploitative nature of the porn industry. Open discourse is certainly important so I appreciate the openness, respect, and honesty in this feed.
As one gets older, this I what I've learned...
The longer you go without something, the more comfortable one gets with it's absence... That goes across the board...
I could never be single again. I prefer to share life's experiences with someone who I care about. Yeah, there are problems, but we get over them.
That was very articulate, Marc,and noone has explained exactly how I feel on the same issue as well. It,s a real blessing to be self contained. I was always scared off when a new partner kept applying the world "We" all the time. I travel alot around the world,and books and art and interests have certainly aided this self containment. At the end of the day, "we ourselves are the greatest creators of our own happiness".
Great metaphor. Really great. I'll have to use that one. It's so important to communicate how we feel about to people in our lives. I say that its the difference between independence,co-dependence, and interdependence. Interdependence is when two birds that fly alone fine then share some time flying together, sharing but not needing each other. Your video today was refreshing. Thanks
Wow. My whole life I thought I was incomplete and looking for the missing piece. Watching this video has made me realize that I am, and always have been, a complete person just trying to find someone special to share my life with. I think I was meant to find this video. Thank you.
PS: I hope you do find that special someone meant for you :-)
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@@aaadit4131 I'm spoken for now.
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sound advice. romantic movies do this to us especially the 'you complete me' part.
Good for you Marc. Gays have been rejected so much they seem to think of another person as a fix....people are not fix unless they are a drug.
You are a blessed child of God and have a right to be here!
Watching this was really interesting. Here's a piece of advice, the reason people feel complete when they find love is because they've opened themselves up to love. You have to open your heart to someone in order to feel true love and that means being vulnerable and in general especially nowadays many people don't want to seem vulnerable and instead want to appear strong, confident and independent. The whole basis of experiencing true love is being completely vulnerable to somebody you give your heart to, even if they hurt you. That isn't to say that people need someone else to feel complete but there is also nothing like truly being head over heels for someone and experiencing the emotions of true love. Life isn't just about enjoying yourself there is also much joy to be had in making someone else feel special and loved. If society wasn't so narcissistic these days and scared of commitment maybe we would all be willing to open our hearts up more. Good relationships are never easy, they have bad times and good, but that gives them more meaning. Going through difficult times can show two people how much they really care about one another. Why aren't people willing to walk a thousand miles for someone they love anymore, they'd rather walk 1000 miles in the opposite direction when things get a little tough. So instead of having up defensive walls and over protecting your heart, take chances, live openly and allow yourself to feel vulnerable.
I subscribe to the philosophy that we are all complete, perfect and whole just as we are.
Glad to hear your message here. I'm single by choice also and love it. However, I keep my options open. I think your message here is valuable.
Same. Once a loner, always a loner. Never hold your breath waiting for someone else to take it, you’ll be disappointed.
Hi Marc, thanks for taking the time to share your life and point of view. I enjoy your perspective , you're a big encouragement. New to the gay life at 60, better late than never. Mike
You Have To Be Happy With Yourself Before You Can Be Happy In A Relationship!! 💜💜❤️❤️💙💙
Thank you , I really enjoy making these videos so i wish I had done them earlier as well
Hi Dylan! I agree with you on enyoing being alone. I´ve been alone for a long time and finally I found somebody who is very nice, loving and treats me good. I think I found love already!!! saludos de Mexico!!! muak
Thank you so much for this wonderful video and excellent advice! We can be happy right now, even before our lover comes along to join us! Its how life should be enjoyable with yourself and with other people.
Marc You have really helped me a lot. Thank you for showing me another man can find contentment and acceptance about who he is; I have struggled with that all my life. You are a beautiful person (and man). Your advice is simple to understand but sometimes a person needs to hear it from someone else to help them relate it back into their life. Merry Christmas, I hope the New Year brings you joy. I will be watching your videos for your insight and how it could help me. You are helping a great deal of gay men, there is a special place in heaven for men like you. Thank you Kevin
I got tired of being single. I couldn't enjoy others. So I thought about who/what I want. I then thought about who I am and how to market those qualities to those I want. I realized the man i want not in my area. So, I figured out where my people are and moved there. Guess what? Now im happily married!
Just listening to you speak made you a more beautiful person in my eyes. I felt like I was sitting across a table having a great conversation. You're very pleasing to listen to, as well as look at. Thanks for sharing this, Dylan :)
Great advice on loneliness and relationships.
Nicely worded!
Love yourself first before having someone, get yourself completed and not needing someone
My name is Phillip and I've been my own company for longer than I wanted to be. I miss conversation and connection with others.
You're very welcome , thank you for watching .
Right on Marc. There are so many people who don't like themselves to begin with, thus, their need to always have people to make them happy. I'm one of the fortunate ones, very at peace and very happy with myself, and ADORE the beautiful people that are in my life, but the most important thing for happiness, is that it starts with ME first. I call the shots, and I'm responsible for my own happiness, and I share it with others. You're right on point.
Dear Marc, what you have stated in this tutorial makes a lot of sense and I couldn't have said it better myself. I too am introverted but gained status (or popularity if you will) at an early age. Too young I suppose. Through those years I have tried to find a special someone and thought I have but to no avail. Later on in life my friends would continuously ask me, "why don't you find someone?", describing the type of person that I am. My response was, "i'm not giving up on love because when the time is right, love will find me". I have experienced a lot in life more than I'd wish for anyone, but I'm pretty content. One has to come to the conclusion that being content with one's own self can he be happy with his own life and realize that having a romantic relationship doesn't necessarily make his life fulfilled. I commend you for sharing your life publicly. Much aloha, Oliver.
I can't agree with you more about not needing somebody else to complete yourself. Took the words right out my mouth. So wish more guys I dared felt this way.
I just found your channel and i sooooo agree with U on everything. Love U !
Awe thank you mister !
Good video! I like your videos, Marc!!
‘I’m single by choice’ aren’t we all. 😉
Bravo, Mark! Well said! Wish I could play this video for a lot of guys I know. You are SO together!
It's great hearing you talk about loneliness, , it's a pleasure
I was glad to see this.I was beginning to believe people who say something is wrong with me.I chose to be single
That doesn't=a miserable life
Bravo! I agree with you. There are 2 kinds of loneless, 1 good that means finding yourself and the bad one that means abandon. I
a partner is a great bonus to an already full and happy life
I buy half of what he is saying… but not all. Denial or comforting ruts or both. But if he is as satisfied as he says..more power to him. It’s human nature to want to share life in a way you don’t with friends. I agree it’s not healthy to not feel whole unless u have a significant other. You have to be comfortable with yourself and live yourself first. Or no relationship will work. Be it friend or loved one. Just my opinion. To each their own……
100% Marc. We are all perfect whole and complete just as we are.
i just want to lose my virginity thats all but i dont want to lose it to some meaningless sex.
Me too I want to lose my virginity in a meaningful and memorable way
Going Through! 🥺 and, it's Difficult..... But, trying to convert my pain to make me strong!
But, it's really lonely!
Good analogies, Marc. I believe one needs to be whole in order to be a successful part of something, a relationship in this case. I think the saying "you're only as strong as the weakest link" applies here, as well as (something like) "being lost in a crowd." I like your videos, your insight. B
Great insight....so glad i took the time to watch this.
Just that loneliness really suck! :(
Like you say in the end of the video you get to share with someone and maybe grow in ways you don't when your single. The interesting thing is that goes both ways, when you are single you grow and learn in different ways. :-)
I'm so lonely I could just die
I could not have said it any better!!!!! Great video Marc
Quelle sagesse ! You are a wise man Marc.
u r so adorable....
I totally agree with your observation. I think you're very well grounded..
Omg this is my first time listening to your videos and i just want to say that i really your personality when you dive in the topic of loneliness. I also agree with your opnion as well, plz make more videos because i beleive for a fact that people can benefit from watching your videos. Your really an awesome and cool dude!!!1
So lonely atm. My relationship of 17 years ended awfully. No family or friends to turn to. Its hard to even carry on now.
Very thoughtful words. I more or less feel the same way you do.
WOW, spot on!!!!!
I LOVE IT . Both are very very true
Hey Brent , Thank you very much :)
Complete puttogether person. Agree. Because I am also like this.
Awesome! Very True! I watch this whenever I feel I need to reaffirm . Thankyou! :)
Its very interesting listening to u Marc. You're very insightful and knowledgeable
Agree with you totally,I thought it was only me who believes that!You are awesome,beautifull mind!
I agree with you. I enjoy being alone. A this time in my life, my friends are not as accepting as I hope. I don't feel I can bring home a friend and have a good time. I wouldn't want to hurt someone with the way some people I know would act.
Lonliness is such a bitter thing. 7.1 billion people on earth, and I am one,
in a simple wink of an eye, in my voice, or in a word, "hello".
Phillip open up your heart to others, don't be afraid.
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Prob your best monologue. Really inspiring and I do totally agree, which happens not that often to be honest :-)
Very well said :)
I think most people have problems with self-esteem. I know I use to feel I had to have approval from others to feel good about myself. If someone treats me good I'm okay. If someone treats me bad I'm a bad person. It is nice to have friends to talk to and do things with. I don't think one person can be your everything. It does put a burden on them. Who wants to hear I'm unhappy and it's your fault. "Marc you complete me." Just kidding.
Great talk. I will go to central park by myself more this summer.
AMAZING - You are truly so brilliant- B
I think we don't need someone or something outside ourselves to validate us. One should be happy within themselves first and share that with that "special someone "
I guess you're right. But I just wanna say thank you for doing all your videos...whatever the topics are...honest & well thought through...so THANKS! :)
Hi Marc, my circumstances are similar to yours; I don't feel incomplete without a significant other. Also my last romance was a disaster! But I do
Never get any love, tired of being single, but what should I do? I just stand alone and believe that loneliness will make me stronger
Mark Dylan thank you for your channel that contain good information.
Hey mark! Good lonely video u made. Am single but always looking for 1 or 2 special pals in my world or special person to date. Have a good weekend. Today is dec.9 2022
Thank you :)
Had my fair share of relationships,been happily single for the last 15 yrs.
I understand you, I wish have a opportunity to meet you ❤I love you ❤
I love the color behind your bed!!
Sorry, completely disagree with your thoughts on this. I think people in North American society have become far too comfortable with their independence, so much so that it has fuelled personal greed and selfishness. I have dated people who are very independent and are really happy being single and they end up being terrible boyfriends because they don't want to share anything. They have this greed mentality of "I worked for all this, so all this is mine, and you get none", meanwhile I'm more than happy to share the things I have with that special someone.
Here's a great quote:
"According to Greek Mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs, and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate beings, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves."
-Plato's "The Symposium"
Pistol Pete I couldn't agree more on this. People have become way too self loving to love one another. it's sad people can't open themselves up to love anymore.
It’s not an American thing it’s a capitalist thing . I actually found Americans to be more forthright in terms of emotions while I was in London people were cold and distant .
Not true - we just don't wear our hearts on our sleeves, but when we DO open up, it's genuine. American 'openness' come across to many British people as overbearing and false.
Davide Mazzetti We just want to love you. We LUUUVVV ya'll's accents.
Let us love you and hug you. We are AMERICAMS. 💪🏿
I think what Marc said was exactly what people need to hear. It is good to share experiences but you can be happy on your own. You shouldn't need someone to complete you as you are born a complete person. When you find someone that you are interested in then you can share experiences together.
I’ve never been in relationship. But I used to fall in love a guy ,he’s so sweet and kind but sadly he is a straight guy. We texted everyday , I confessed and he ignored, we stop talking for weeks, and then he said “Hi” to me when we were in school and I felt in love with him again and this keep repeating over and over again 😂😂😂 takes me three years just to move on ! Within this three years I have had enough! I tell myself I cannot let me loving someone again, those dramatic things are sooo annoying! But sometimes I open the door trying to let someone in but suddenly I feel like I’m not ready for relationship. And yeah I think it takes me forever to be ready lol .... And all of my besties are blaming me bout that.
thanks Marc, this really helped :D xo from australia
You really didn't answer the question.
i love HM vnecks lol
wonderful thought! Thank you so much! :)
Two quotes on this video:
1) If you don't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else?--RuPaul
2) Have your own life BEFORE trying to be some else's wife--Beyonce
Ur a very smart insightful guy Marc.
I don’t want a boyfriend but would consider you. I’m in London. Uk. You’re nice.
Someone as physically and spiritually beautiful as yourself has found moments of feeling lonely?
It does but I think there are different causes for loneliness.
Since I remember I have always been alone by choice, I enjoy being alone, but I have developed a problem.
I like the way you think, Marc.